That reminds me about how proud my little cousin was to announce that "homosexual" was a popular insult at school (not knowing what it meant) Aaaaah kids. (My aunt immediatly went into educating mode don't worry)
While I am taught religiously in the Christian way about sexualities and I do follow and believe in them, I also believe in the fact of showing love to all who are different from my own lifestyle. Do to others as they will do to you. I always hate the fact my religion has this thing of condemning the lgbtq+ community where I still think that they themselves aren’t righteously doing so or even perfect themselves to criticize them. What I am saying is, I show respect to you amazing people! I don’t give a single complaint on your orientation, your attraction etc. You are human beings too! 💙
YES!!! This makes me so happy to see because I have the same point of view and the only things I usually see online are either "All Christians are homophobic aholes" or "I'm Christian and gay people are absolute idiots"
For me almost all my friends were LGBTQ+ so it wasn’t a big thing when I came out to my friends and it wasn’t a big thing in general but I know for a lot of people coming out can be tough and hard Thanks to my friends for being nice like that :).
I guess it can be different for everyone, but it's nice when people can treat it as a regular occurence. My friend told me that she grew up in a pretty open minded area, so when she came out of the closet everyone she knew was like, "oh ok that's cool."
I'm currently lurking through your back catalog of videos, partly to encourage a friend of mine looking to get back into art, and of course for myself because I find your content to be very human and down to earth. Thanks for being so open and honest with your story, I look forward to lurking much more ^_^
Both of my coming outs was kind of anti climatic. I came out as bi to my mum when I was 12 or 13. I was doing homework and she was making dinner. I worked up the courage and just told her and her response was "That's nice sweetie." without batting an eye. Then telling my parents I'm transgender in my early 30s my mom just went "Oh, that's just a relief. I thought you were depressed!" I mean, yeah? Kinda but... My mum is weird in a good way.
Ahh, really good story time. Also, is really good that your parents still loves you for what you are. Half parents have problem with that, but the other half parents don't have that problem at all!
I’m so happy you made this video! Currently with myself I’m just stuck in confusion wondering what my sexuality is. There’s a also a fear that if I am queer (is that how you use it?) I would be seen as a outcast by my parents
Thank you 💚 and that’s understandable, it can take a long time to figure out and even longer to accept, even if you just end up realising ur straight. But so long as you're kind to yourself and stay safe, things will work out ^^
How I came out: Me: hey mooom... I have a gf :) Mom: you're lesbian? Me: No :\ Mom: bi? Me: yes. Mom: **goes on to tell me how supportive she is and her sad voice** Me: ight can we get food now? Mom: sure. - this is how it went down. After school. In a car. -
I’m bi and I’ve liked girls and guys since I was little however I never excepted it and I always pushed that thought away. especially with the fact I have a very religious political family. I’ve lived out the fact of me liking girls through my ocs by having bi female characters to relate to. My dad told me that if I did come out as bi that he would send me to a mental hospital. So I’ve been hiding it other then my current partner who is very kind to me about it and we will talk about personality’s we like in girls and I’ll tell him I adore him and his personality. He’s so amazing and I thought being bi was something I thought I should be guilty about because before I got with my current partner. I had a girl I loved a lot and she loved me to but I never dated her cause I was scared.
I wish there was a word or emoji to depict the feeling that developed in my chest throughout this video. Just, the only way I can describe it is *'Happy Queer Noises'* I love finding really good LGBT content creators, especially in a time when I'm trying to simultaneously come out as a transbian, and I just wish that you had more subs
Honestly I’m pretty confused about myself, I decided a long time ago that I wasn’t going to date and I grew up in a very conservative state so I was also burying any feelings I had my whole childhood. So I guess I have this ingrained thought that because I’m not going to date, it doesn’t matter anyways. But it actually does, whether I tell anyone or not, it’s good to be aware and have self acceptance. Currently 24 and never been on a date, but that doesn’t mean I don’t regret not dating in my teens. because it actually does eat at me that I haven’t experienced those kinds of feelings, beyond having a crush. My parents used to think Im gay but I told them when I was 16 that I was not because I liked girls in the past, but having liked a gender doesn’t really mean much when your confused about your best friend, who is the same gender as you, and other people of the same gender. I wasn’t educated on LGBTQ+ community until I was 21, I thought it was a just either your gay or your not, and your either male or female. I had no idea there were grey areas, but that’s because I grew up in a very reserved community.
I've never had a desire to declare to the world that I'm asexual, but if it comes up in conversation, then I'm generally happy to talk about it. Within the past year, I read something about how coming out can be a benefit to people around you who are invisibly struggling with their own orientation. Because of that, this past October, during Asexual Awareness Week, I intended to post something on Facebook about "this is what asexuality is, and I'm ace," but I ended up being too busy that week to put a graphic together. Lately, I've been thinking: my online friend group is small enough that I could easily be the only person on the ace spectrum. Maybe I'm cowarding-out a little here, but maybe I'll just worry about the people who see me IRL. On the other hand, sometimes I think I'm too comfortable with allowing people to just assume I'm strait.
As someone who is straight but have several friends who are LGBTQ, I very quickly realised I do not even remotely understand the anxiety associated with coming out, but my mindset is simple: if a friend is LGBTQ, then that is an intrinsic part of who they are and so, as their friend, I like who they are and will like them just the same either way, so I tend to follow your Dad’s policy of ‘as long as you’re happy’ and I treat them the same as I always did; for example if we banter and laugh a lot, I keep doing that. To me, the best help I can be is to try normalise being LGBTQ, and so treating those people normally seems like the best way to do that.
I hate coming out, so I’m not going to. The only person I actually came out to was my mom and my aunt (who had come out not too long beforehand). I’m just doing things like wearing a pride pin at family events or bringing a gay coffee cup, and just hoping everyone gets the message
If I'm gonna be honest I've had quite a bit of trouble when it comes to people in my life coming out. The first person who did it was me, and because my family is almost the pinnacle of a perfect family in our Church of Christ we go to my mom didn't take too kindly to the fact I told my best friend "hey, I think I'm bi." I remember telling my sister in a coffee shop after school sometime before then, and the sheer anxiety made me almost collapse. She was super chill and was like "okay cool" and we left it at that. A few months later, my best friend came out of a super rough relationship and his world was rocked so much that he didn't believe in love anymore and was basically shouting from the rooftops that he was ace. I tried to call him out because of both my knowledge of him and my beliefs in life, and it was falling on deaf ears. He kept hitting on other girls and actually got with one for a week, and I felt almost happy that he wasn't part of the "alphabet mafia." The third big one was recently, happening just yesterday. There's a girl at my public school that was my first major crush, and by major I mean "I-was-still-talking-about-her-to-my-girfriend" kind of major. We didn't really talk for the rest of high school and partly because the guy who I was getting feelings for was someone she was so close to it was obvious that she was gonna get with him in the end. This week he was out due to honor band and she didn't have a ton of people to talk to, so I became her lab partner for Biology to help cheer her up. We were dissecting a kind of tape worm and our first thing we had to do was find out if it was a male or female. Typically the males were a lot smaller from the females, and since her's was gigantic in comparison to mine, we just assumed it was female. When we asked the teacher he said that it was a male because of the hook on one end, and to that she replied, "good thing I'm bi!" She's always been a trickster which is why I've enjoyed having her around, but this seemed genuine and considering how she's off the grid and only talks to people in school I felt no other way to communicate with her about it other than not be disgusted. I could tell that one of her cheerleader friends was a bit weirded out after she heard that, and I had no idea how to respond. This video helped me to understand that it's not just me who's had anxiety over coming out and it's not pretty when someone does, so I appreciate having someone to help me understand what it's like for others. Sorry for the 10-page essay, I just felt like this was an appropriate place to let out my experiences
I knew my parent's were fully LGBTQ+ supportive before i even i was bi and i always figured that if i was in fact lgbt, it wouldn't be a bug deal to come out to them because we were already pretty close anyway an they would be supportive of me regardless. Then when i figured out thag was bi, suddenly coming out to my mom became anxiety inducing out of nowhere, so instead of just saying it to her face i was more subtle about it. That night, she was searching on amazon for LGBTQ+ stickers to show support and she couldn't decide on one so she asked me for help. I found the perfect sticker, a bi flag (to show that it was specifically bisexual instead of just LGBTQ+ in general) inside a D20 (to specifiy me since I'm a huge D&D nerd.) She figured it out pretty quick. I felt pretty smart for that Side note: I also had my mom tell my dad for me. He didn't even bring it up though lol, it just didn't change anything
Thanks for making this video, I'm glad I watched it. I have a hard time balancing my belief in the traditional system of sexuality with my desire to treat everyone with love & kindness. While I might be strait, having trouble expresisng romantic/sexual feelings is something I can realy relate with. I just hope that when I'm a dad I can handle it if my kids come out to me as well as your parents did.
Technically doesn't gay mean happy? I mean doesn't the three musketeers song say "three gay musketeers" didn't they say that??? Sorry if it's wrong -///-
That is the most literal meaning of the word, yes! However, it became slang for homosexual individuals later on, and that's how most people recognize it today. You can still hear the word gay used in it's original context in the Flintstones theme song interestingly enough, but it's fallen out of that meaning over time
Remember Gay being a big insult at school in the 00's. Also had a really horrible reaction when I first tried experimenting with my gender when I first came out.
I’m out to my parents but neither of them use my correct name or my correct pronouns, my sister tries at least. They’re not outwardly transphobic but sometimes it feels like they just can’t accept the fact that I’m not cis. My dad won’t even let me legally change my name. They don’t care that I’m not straight but my mum has a habit of telling people I barely know about my gender and sexuality, I’ve told her to stop but she hasn’t.
I have a question! Whats a good way to come out? Most of my family support it but im quite young(Between the age 10-13) so I'm afraid they will say I'm too young(as I have had a so called boyfriend before in elementary/primary
Beautiful video. I hope I can come out irl someday. Pretty much everyone I know is queerphobic and that's only getting worse thanks to how American politics are now
That reminds me about how proud my little cousin was to announce that "homosexual" was a popular insult at school (not knowing what it meant) Aaaaah kids. (My aunt immediatly went into educating mode don't worry)
In the perfect world it should be something like "I'm gay" - "and I am lactose intolerant".
YOUR DAD IS THE BEST DAD IN THE WORLD, CHERISH EVERY MOMENT WITH HIM.
While I am taught religiously in the Christian way about sexualities and I do follow and believe in them, I also believe in the fact of showing love to all who are different from my own lifestyle. Do to others as they will do to you.
I always hate the fact my religion has this thing of condemning the lgbtq+ community where I still think that they themselves aren’t righteously doing so or even perfect themselves to criticize them.
What I am saying is, I show respect to you amazing people! I don’t give a single complaint on your orientation, your attraction etc. You are human beings too! 💙
YES!!! This makes me so happy to see because I have the same point of view and the only things I usually see online are either "All Christians are homophobic aholes" or "I'm Christian and gay people are absolute idiots"
For me almost all my friends were LGBTQ+ so it wasn’t a big thing when I came out to my friends and it wasn’t a big thing in general but I know for a lot of people coming out can be tough and hard
Thanks to my friends for being nice like that :).
I guess it can be different for everyone, but it's nice when people can treat it as a regular occurence. My friend told me that she grew up in a pretty open minded area, so when she came out of the closet everyone she knew was like, "oh ok that's cool."
We stand supportive parents
I am an asexual and my family supports me, thank god.. I’m so glad yours did too :)
I'm currently lurking through your back catalog of videos, partly to encourage a friend of mine looking to get back into art, and of course for myself because I find your content to be very human and down to earth. Thanks for being so open and honest with your story, I look forward to lurking much more ^_^
Both of my coming outs was kind of anti climatic. I came out as bi to my mum when I was 12 or 13. I was doing homework and she was making dinner. I worked up the courage and just told her and her response was "That's nice sweetie." without batting an eye.
Then telling my parents I'm transgender in my early 30s my mom just went "Oh, that's just a relief. I thought you were depressed!"
I mean, yeah? Kinda but... My mum is weird in a good way.
Ahh, really good story time. Also, is really good that your parents still loves you for what you are. Half parents have problem with that, but the other half parents don't have that problem at all!
I’m so happy you made this video! Currently with myself I’m just stuck in confusion wondering what my sexuality is. There’s a also a fear that if I am queer (is that how you use it?) I would be seen as a outcast by my parents
Thank you 💚 and that’s understandable, it can take a long time to figure out and even longer to accept, even if you just end up realising ur straight. But so long as you're kind to yourself and stay safe, things will work out ^^
How I came out:
Me: hey mooom... I have a gf :)
Mom: you're lesbian?
Me: No :\
Mom: bi?
Me: yes.
Mom: **goes on to tell me how supportive she is and her sad voice**
Me: ight can we get food now?
Mom: sure.
- this is how it went down. After school. In a car. -
I came out in the closet while playing a board game and my mom had the same reaction
Your story really meant a lot to me. Thank you for sharing.
I’m bi and I’ve liked girls and guys since I was little however I never excepted it and I always pushed that thought away. especially with the fact I have a very religious political family. I’ve lived out the fact of me liking girls through my ocs by having bi female characters to relate to. My dad told me that if I did come out as bi that he would send me to a mental hospital. So I’ve been hiding it other then my current partner who is very kind to me about it and we will talk about personality’s we like in girls and I’ll tell him I adore him and his personality. He’s so amazing and I thought being bi was something I thought I should be guilty about because before I got with my current partner. I had a girl I loved a lot and she loved me to but I never dated her cause I was scared.
Your parents are incredibly weird and strange
@@5spec my parents can be amazing sometimes but I truly wish I was able to tell them about the fact I’m bi without being thought of as a black sheep
I love your art and your storytelling abilities!
I actually cried while hearing about coming out to your dad
I wish there was a word or emoji to depict the feeling that developed in my chest throughout this video. Just, the only way I can describe it is *'Happy Queer Noises'* I love finding really good LGBT content creators, especially in a time when I'm trying to simultaneously come out as a transbian, and I just wish that you had more subs
Honestly I’m pretty confused about myself, I decided a long time ago that I wasn’t going to date and I grew up in a very conservative state so I was also burying any feelings I had my whole childhood. So I guess I have this ingrained thought that because I’m not going to date, it doesn’t matter anyways. But it actually does, whether I tell anyone or not, it’s good to be aware and have self acceptance. Currently 24 and never been on a date, but that doesn’t mean I don’t regret not dating in my teens. because it actually does eat at me that I haven’t experienced those kinds of feelings, beyond having a crush. My parents used to think Im gay but I told them when I was 16 that I was not because I liked girls in the past, but having liked a gender doesn’t really mean much when your confused about your best friend, who is the same gender as you, and other people of the same gender. I wasn’t educated on LGBTQ+ community until I was 21, I thought it was a just either your gay or your not, and your either male or female. I had no idea there were grey areas, but that’s because I grew up in a very reserved community.
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I've never had a desire to declare to the world that I'm asexual, but if it comes up in conversation, then I'm generally happy to talk about it.
Within the past year, I read something about how coming out can be a benefit to people around you who are invisibly struggling with their own orientation. Because of that, this past October, during Asexual Awareness Week, I intended to post something on Facebook about "this is what asexuality is, and I'm ace," but I ended up being too busy that week to put a graphic together. Lately, I've been thinking: my online friend group is small enough that I could easily be the only person on the ace spectrum. Maybe I'm cowarding-out a little here, but maybe I'll just worry about the people who see me IRL.
On the other hand, sometimes I think I'm too comfortable with allowing people to just assume I'm strait.
As someone who is straight but have several friends who are LGBTQ, I very quickly realised I do not even remotely understand the anxiety associated with coming out, but my mindset is simple: if a friend is LGBTQ, then that is an intrinsic part of who they are and so, as their friend, I like who they are and will like them just the same either way, so I tend to follow your Dad’s policy of ‘as long as you’re happy’ and I treat them the same as I always did; for example if we banter and laugh a lot, I keep doing that.
To me, the best help I can be is to try normalise being LGBTQ, and so treating those people normally seems like the best way to do that.
A+ video simply for the best dad description ive ever heard in my life
I hate coming out, so I’m not going to. The only person I actually came out to was my mom and my aunt (who had come out not too long beforehand). I’m just doing things like wearing a pride pin at family events or bringing a gay coffee cup, and just hoping everyone gets the message
If I'm gonna be honest I've had quite a bit of trouble when it comes to people in my life coming out. The first person who did it was me, and because my family is almost the pinnacle of a perfect family in our Church of Christ we go to my mom didn't take too kindly to the fact I told my best friend "hey, I think I'm bi." I remember telling my sister in a coffee shop after school sometime before then, and the sheer anxiety made me almost collapse. She was super chill and was like "okay cool" and we left it at that.
A few months later, my best friend came out of a super rough relationship and his world was rocked so much that he didn't believe in love anymore and was basically shouting from the rooftops that he was ace. I tried to call him out because of both my knowledge of him and my beliefs in life, and it was falling on deaf ears. He kept hitting on other girls and actually got with one for a week, and I felt almost happy that he wasn't part of the "alphabet mafia."
The third big one was recently, happening just yesterday. There's a girl at my public school that was my first major crush, and by major I mean "I-was-still-talking-about-her-to-my-girfriend" kind of major. We didn't really talk for the rest of high school and partly because the guy who I was getting feelings for was someone she was so close to it was obvious that she was gonna get with him in the end. This week he was out due to honor band and she didn't have a ton of people to talk to, so I became her lab partner for Biology to help cheer her up. We were dissecting a kind of tape worm and our first thing we had to do was find out if it was a male or female. Typically the males were a lot smaller from the females, and since her's was gigantic in comparison to mine, we just assumed it was female. When we asked the teacher he said that it was a male because of the hook on one end, and to that she replied, "good thing I'm bi!" She's always been a trickster which is why I've enjoyed having her around, but this seemed genuine and considering how she's off the grid and only talks to people in school I felt no other way to communicate with her about it other than not be disgusted. I could tell that one of her cheerleader friends was a bit weirded out after she heard that, and I had no idea how to respond.
This video helped me to understand that it's not just me who's had anxiety over coming out and it's not pretty when someone does, so I appreciate having someone to help me understand what it's like for others. Sorry for the 10-page essay, I just felt like this was an appropriate place to let out my experiences
I knew my parent's were fully LGBTQ+ supportive before i even i was bi and i always figured that if i was in fact lgbt, it wouldn't be a bug deal to come out to them because we were already pretty close anyway an they would be supportive of me regardless.
Then when i figured out thag was bi, suddenly coming out to my mom became anxiety inducing out of nowhere, so instead of just saying it to her face i was more subtle about it.
That night, she was searching on amazon for LGBTQ+ stickers to show support and she couldn't decide on one so she asked me for help.
I found the perfect sticker, a bi flag (to show that it was specifically bisexual instead of just LGBTQ+ in general) inside a D20 (to specifiy me since I'm a huge D&D nerd.)
She figured it out pretty quick. I felt pretty smart for that
Side note: I also had my mom tell my dad for me. He didn't even bring it up though lol, it just didn't change anything
Thanks for making this video, I'm glad I watched it. I have a hard time balancing my belief in the traditional system of sexuality with my desire to treat everyone with love & kindness. While I might be strait, having trouble expresisng romantic/sexual feelings is something I can realy relate with. I just hope that when I'm a dad I can handle it if my kids come out to me as well as your parents did.
Really wish I had seen this before I came out
Technically doesn't gay mean happy? I mean doesn't the three musketeers song say "three gay musketeers" didn't they say that??? Sorry if it's wrong -///-
That is the most literal meaning of the word, yes! However, it became slang for homosexual individuals later on, and that's how most people recognize it today. You can still hear the word gay used in it's original context in the Flintstones theme song interestingly enough, but it's fallen out of that meaning over time
The word gay being used in that context is from around early 1900's (I think this is right, correct me if I'm wrong)
Remember Gay being a big insult at school in the 00's.
Also had a really horrible reaction when I first tried experimenting with my gender when I first came out.
I’m out to my parents but neither of them use my correct name or my correct pronouns, my sister tries at least. They’re not outwardly transphobic but sometimes it feels like they just can’t accept the fact that I’m not cis. My dad won’t even let me legally change my name. They don’t care that I’m not straight but my mum has a habit of telling people I barely know about my gender and sexuality, I’ve told her to stop but she hasn’t.
this is rlly sweet :(
Watching the video from beginning to end I assume you’re an asexual lesbian?
That's right ^.^
Me: Eh heh... no... *Hides back in the closet*
Why did this video make my cry so hard 😭😭😭😭
I have a question! Whats a good way to come out? Most of my family support it but im quite young(Between the age 10-13) so I'm afraid they will say I'm too young(as I have had a so called boyfriend before in elementary/primary
I'd say until you're older a lot of things can change but wait until you're fully sure.
I wish my parents were like yours...mine pretend my feelings don't exist, like I don't know what I want, I'm glad your parents support you! 💖
I never came out, I just live my life, ho want to see will see, ho doesn’t will not.
Hey.
Ur gay.
❤
(Amazing video love, proud of you. ❤)
I’m so happy for you sry that I’m late ✨🌺🤩 your Parents are so nice (:
This gives me second hand stress
Take care of yourself. Your really awesome & kawaii. :)
🔥🔥🔥🔥
Beautiful video. I hope I can come out irl someday. Pretty much everyone I know is queerphobic and that's only getting worse thanks to how American politics are now
Is the art on display have anything to do with this story because if it does then we the viewer know what you are
They're her OCs. :)
Cute
Your mom was accepting?🥲
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N-Not all of them are🥲 (DEFINITELY not referring to mine)