What Should I Do if My Spouse is an Unbeliever?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 พ.ค. 2020
- What if your spouse is an unbeliever? How do you stay in a marriage and thrive in a marriage where your spouse is an unbeliever? Many people find themselves in that situation and it is very difficult to say the least. In this video I share with you first and foremost what the word of God says and then I follow that up with 7 of my best tips for how to handle this situation.
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Hey family, I should have titled this, "What to do if You're in an Unequally Yoked Marriage" because that seems to be more of the situation than being married to an unbeliever. I think I'll do a follow-up video at some point in the near future addressing that SPECIFIC situation. Let me know if you'd like to see that one. Thanks family and my heart and prayers go out to those dealing with this difficult situation.
THE BEAT by Allen Parr yeah that’s more appropriate
Yes pleaseee I have been waiting for a video from you on this haha so happy your talking about this
Yes please 🙏🏼
Please please do, this video was actually amazing, I often find myself pushing my faith on to my JW and Muslim friends because it seems so obvious to me that Jesus is Lord and no other religion comes close to the love of Jesus so I truly don’t get it when they don’t believe what I believe and I’m needing a lot of Grace and patience especially when dealing with JW’s so again thank you for your video and I look forward to seeing your video on being unequally yoked. God bless you sir ☺️
Thank you for this message. This applies to me. My.unbelieving husband does not want to leave even though I would like to. My marriage is basically being unequally yoked. I look forward to your message about this. Thank you.
To all who believes there is no hope for your spouse, I was right there with you. It sucks. I thought I would have to wait a lifetime for my wife to accept Jesus. It only took 3 years. My wife had to be broken and put in the lowest point of her life with anxiety and depression. Don't give up praying, be joyful, light up the house with joy and love. Be strong and forgiving during fights. Be Jesus. Be radical. Blast Maverick City and all kinds of worship music in the house. Your spouse will see the difference of what life could be when you belong to Jesus. Be patient. God changed my wife's life when I least expected and it was all him and not from my effort, she's getting baptized this fall and has stronger faith than I do. :)
What a beautiful testimony. Ive been praying for husband for 2 years. Only the Lord knows the day 🙏
This is encouraging and great advice! Thank you!
Hi! You mentioned a lot of things that you did, but you also mentioned it was not your efforts? Can you explain that further?
@@pandascoopsMy efforts were a constant reminder to her that I had a deep love and a strength that she did not have.
BUT, even with those efforts, I'd probably still be waiting if the Lord didn't step in and allow her to go through a very dark season. The dark season is what woke her up. Terrible anxiety. After medicine and therapy, she had no where else to go. So she picked up a Bible. She ended up making the decision on her own. Because deep deep down she knew that it was the truth. I think everyone does.
@@pandascoops Just be careful of the arguments, that will drive the person away. Just walk through life filled with strength and love, and always tell them where you get it. They will take notice and the Lord will snatch them up one day.
I got saved a few years into my marriage and things became different between us it was a hard time but eventually we got over the rough patch and I’ve been praying for years for my husbands salvation early this year God have me a dream of my husband being saved to let me know He hasn’t forgotten me and my husband will be saved.
I am in the same situation. I will pray for him, whats his name?
Wife submit to your husband 😩
Believer or not the man is still the head.
Wow my sister atlist he promised you, I am still waiting too
If the man is not under authority what the lord says about submitting does not apply! He is not like Christ so these principles do not apply!
@@micha_slots9138 1 Peter 3:1 , we are all to obey those who are above us weather they are believers or not weather they treat us good or not
Hey Allen, I am 17 years old and for the past 5 days i have been binge watching all of your videos. My whole life i have considered myself a christian but i never truly had a relationship with god. After watching your videos it inspired me for once to actually start building my relationship with him and reading his word. Now i feel as if i am closer than ever to him and my faith. I just want to say thankyou for opening my eyes to what i need to do in order to bring myself closer to god and my salvation. 🙏
Amen! I was in a similar circumstance for the majority of my life thinking I was a Christian if I went to church, followed God's basic commands (from my perspective and little knowledge of the Bible at the time) and believed in Jesus. However, it wasn't until I realized the weight of my sins, which lead to death (Romans 6:23), as well as God's intolerance of sin till I saw the immediate need to get right with God through repentance and truly trusting in Jesus' sacrifice. I just wanna encourage you to keep seeking Him with all your heart and might! You won't regret it!! Be blessed Nick!!
You still don't have a "relationship" with a god.
@@TheJimtanker You have 13 comments on this channel... Are you sure you're not trying to have a relationship?
@@Romans8-9 I don't have a spiritual walk. First provide credible evidence that a spirit exists.
@@TheJimtanker I misread. Nevermind.
Also, when you're dating, make sure someone is a true believer rather than someone who just says it. Many people says it but don't seek the Heavenly Father.
Amen very true
Yes; I thought I was marrying a Christian and discovered years into the marriage that wasn't the case
Are you sure his take on religion was insincere? Remember there are thousands of versions of Christianity alone, and every denomination will insist you got it wrong, and they got it right.
@Magalli De Leon yes, true. But is drinking wine a sin? If you're not getting drunk. Why did Jesus turn the water to wine if drinking it is a sin? 🤷🏾♂️
@Magalli De Leon I hear you. I have not heard the argument that wine may have been just grape juice. Thanks for pointing that out.
I m Basker from India,
I am the only person who saved in my entire family from a Hindu background.
Please pray for my FAMILY SALVATION,
Dad: Kondal Raj,
Mum: Dhana Lakshmi,
Sister : Bharathi,
Sister's husband: Thirukumarasamy,
Child: Sai Shamanth.
I have just brought your family before the Lord. Keep trusting friend. Blessings
Praying salvation in Jesus name!
I bless you and your family. May the goodness of God take a hold of your case
My wife and I will/have prayed for you and your family! Thank you for asking....
In jesus nothing in impossible
I have a unbelieving wife, we have children now. we dated a few years but we got married (trough the courthouse), and I came to christ late in my life, I honestly asked a pastor if I should leave her and he said no but we did talk about my relationship, I would search for relationship advice in the bible and from other pastors to see what they had to say. Oh boy, at first I was trying to convince her, she would go to church with me sometimes, read the bible together but very little, go to church meetings before we got married, I even took her to Noah's Ark in Kentucky which she liked but once she found out that we went because It was mainly for her she wasn't too happy but she enjoyed it, I spent a lot of time after church and on Wednesday's I had men's group, I take my daughter and son as well. Last year I got baptized and she was there, This year before covid I went to a mission trip that she really didn't want me to go. We actually watch Christian movies and I've seen her cry because of them. I used to get frustrated, angry, sad, emotional because I just wish we shared the same faith. I finally came to the conclusion that my job isn't to change her, it's GOD. She loves me even though she know's I love Jesus. This September will be together 8 years, she loves me and I love her. I pray for her, I read children bible to my children and she doesn't mind, she doesn't mind that I want to raise my children in the faith. She does know some of the scriptures you mentioned because I told her about them. Sometimes I still can't believe we're 2 different people together. Only GOD knows but I'm gonna keep praying for her and my family. Thank you for this video.
This is beautiful. Long-suffering is a fruit of the Spirit. I know it's not easy. I believe that as she sees your peace & enjoyment of Christ, she will turn.
Stay strong my brother I’m in the same situation ❤
I am praying for you and your beautiful family, for your wife especially. May God open her eyes and heart to the truth of His love for her and she accepts Jesus as her Lord and Savior.
Brother, I feel your story to my bones… thank you for sharing your story. I pray for my marriage the same way, for our children (when they come) and my entire household. It’s exhausting and frustrating sometimes, I’m not gonna lie. I am inspired by your story when you say your wife is understanding of your faith and doesn’t oppose you to teach your children
more about faith in God. You are blessed to have that.
My husband has been very understanding of me serving in church and volunteering, but sometimes we have our moments, so I need to work on tip #7 😅. I pray I balance things well and also my husband gets this understanding too when the time comes. In Gods timing. In His way, not mine. Through other people, not only me and for that I always try to remember this passage that talks about salvation:
”Looking at them, Jesus said, “With people [as far as it depends on them] it is impossible, but not with God; for all things are possible with God.” - Mark 10:27 AMP
So long as there is still time, let’s Continue shedding His light over our spouses, for all things are possible with God. Thank you again for sharing your story🙏
This was made for me. I was literally just crying because of this
@Fair-Rose Louverture Its a hard road to walk sister, but God is faithful and Im not going to give up. Neither should you. Blessings sweetheart
Im in same situation ! Its so hard!
Me too! My husband is an Atheist. It is hard. But our Lord is faithful. We must pray and trust that our husbands will be saved some day.
My spouse is the type, that speaks it but his Actions show All about attitude.. What should I do? FYI: hes in denial about being so angry ( which he blames me)*.Counseling isn't helping Us! As in we( he, hence head of household); as written in the WORD.
@@victoriaalvin2446 What is triggering the anger, when is he getting angry?
Great tips, Allen! I was married to an unbeliever for 20 years - last year at the beginning of COVID he surrendered his life to Christ! I think I had to use all of these tips at some point … I remember when I first got saved I was so excited and I kept pressuring my husband to read the Bible and listen to the Christian radio station when we were driving. I am surprised he didn’t divorce ME! Praise God for His goodness and grace and mercy.
She's converting in christianity or still unbelievable
I am a Christian and my husband is a hindu. He is not serious about his religion, but my mother in law who also lives with us is a hardcore hindu. Its a spiritual battle at home every single day. My two boys are also Autistic. Life is surely not easy living with a non-believing family. There are many times I cannot breathe and feel suffocated. But, as I look to Christ daily, and seek His Word, He gives me perfect peace and rest.
Thank you brother Allen for this video, I believe the Lord has led me to this particular one. A lot of the things you mentioned that we shouldn't do to distant ourselves away from our unbelieving family, I am guilty of. I must not give up and continue to intercede for my husband and family. I praise God for opening my eyes to this. 🙌
My aunt remarried after her first died , her new husband was a total drunk and very disrespectful to her and her 2 daughters. She believed , she would change him over time , after 30 years he turned 60 throw out my 63 year old aunt and got himself a 30 year old girlfriend. You can make all the assumptions you want and pray for someone but the reality is some people don’t want God because they love their sin more . Take care everyone and God bless
Job Gon Very true.
It’s true and you can’t push those people but as long as your aunt keeps her faith and stays Christlike, God sees what goes on in her life and will give her the salvation she deserves in the afterlife
Yeah its the unfortunate truth
Very true... thanks for SHARING!
This man sounds abusive. Not every unbeliever is abusive. This man has severe issues. Not every one has severe issues before they come to Christ
I am a Christian woman married to an amazing muslim man who respect me and my beliefs because he understands that my God and my beliefs go before him. We love and respect each other, I have an online ministry and his friends love and respect me because they know where I stand and even over the years they have come to respect me more because my relationship with my husband is strong and so is my love for God. You cant change your spouse only God can but you need to live with love, compassion and conviction and dont be a wishy washy Christian. Pray for your spouse and respect each other always. My husband is and amazing man who will one day be a Christian because I can see how God is molding him while he continues to mold me. Trust God and dont be pushy or wishy washy. Bendiciones
You need to repent or you will be rewarded for your wicked deeds.
1 Corinthians 7:39
“The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.”
In the Lord...
Joshua Ambassador of Christ I think that’s a little hash, it doesn’t mean that she’s lukewarm she’s clearly expressed her deep faith in Christ through her ministry, she just decided to marry a man who doesn’t know Christ which clearly happened in bible times hence the instructions given by Paul and in no way did he condemn anyone for marrying an unbeliever so you shouldn’t either
Joshua Ambassador of Christ she cannot bring her husband to Jesus, Jesus has to bring her husband to him
Joshua Ambassador of Christ and @sandragraves Joshua Ambassador of Christ let’s all lift up her husband in prayer so he can know the true Christ. Dear Sandra I would suggest getting your husband to look at some amazing apologist like David Wood and Jay Smith, if he is a little sensitive about his faith then maybe start with Jay Smith he breaks down Islam and a Christianity and everyday there are amazing testimonies of Muslims finding Christ. Good luck and let’s us know when he gets saved x
@@jumokeonifade85 Thank you Benjamin for your words and support. One thing I learned is to put my faith in God and not men. Joshua have is opinion as most judgmental Christians do, and that is okay. God is in control yesterday, today and always. I send both of you my love and blessings.
If you are a woman married to a muslin or none believer please don't pay attention to Joshua. Put your faith in God and pray for your husband, while you ask God for strength and love. Remember: you will give account to God, so work on your relationship with God. Let Joshua and loveless Christians worry about their own salvation instead, and pray for them.
This was so helpful. I've been married for 7 years and my wife has stopped believing in the Bible. She always questions all my beliefs and it has been difficult because I don't feel like we are equally yoked. Please pray for us. Thanks for the Word. 👍
I came to Christ a little before my wife. Us both being raised Jehovah’s witnesses, it was difficult for her to “see the light” and understand the trinity and the gospel of Jesus Christ. I had to persevere in prayer for her, and in time, it all clicked for her. We have to be patient with our unbelieving spouses. It’s a work of the Holy Spirit that helps people receive Christ, not our own doing.
I was born jw and he was born catholic but somehow we are both baptized as Christian so praise God for that
@Eloise Elmore Amen! So happy the Lord pulled you both out! 🙏🏾
I’m currently dating the perfect guys and would honestly love to spend the rest of my life with him but he studied with the JW for 5 years and the indoctrination is deep. He struggles with the trinity and I struggle to explain it even with all my research and most importantly o struggle with him not understanding what seems so basic and clear to me. He is willing to research outside of the JW .org, his downloaded a non NWT and even started to watch the gospel of John which are all great but when we get into hardcore doctrine I’m finding I’m loosing my patience and I wonder if this something I should be even pursuing in the first but I just don’t want to give up on him because his growth is not quick enough. What was it that got you to see the ‘light’
@Benjamin Roze First off, I would refer you to 1 Corinthians 7:39 which says to marry “Only in the Lord.” I understand that you feel like your in love with this man, but you will be “unevenly yoked” in your marriage to begin with, which is just a recipe for disaster. The Bible says that no man can come to Jesus unless the Father draws him. I have a testimony on my TH-cam that really explains how I came to the Lord, but it’s different for everyone. Romans 10:17 says “So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.”
My advice would be to read the Bible with him and if his heart is ready to receive truth it will just happen without force. After he’s heard the truth of scripture, leave it to Holy Spirit....PRAY, PRAY, PRAY. I was baffled that my wife wasn’t understanding when I was showing her scriptural proof that the JW religion was false. But my testimony was strong as far as the changes that Christ was doing in my life, that I’m sure that made her see that something “divine” was going on in my life. I continued to pray for my wife and feeding her truth, trying my best to not get frustrated, and eventually she got it. Not because I delivered the truth to her in “the right way” but I believe Holy Spirit was working on her heart, and in time she was “ready to receive truth.” The good thing for you is you are not married to this person, so you are free to go elsewhere and marry someone in Christ. God bless!
Caleb Goodman wow thank you for responding! We do read scriptures together even more so now and he is willing to learn Since I’ve met him I’ve worked harder in my Christian life to make sure that I set s good example for him, learning scriptures deeply, watching every single video on JW video doctrine to understand what he’s been taught and of course making sure I don’t miss a beat with my own relationship with God and sometimes I feel so drained that I can’t sleep because I’m thinking of ways I can get him to see the truth. JW’s are very different from any group of people I’ve ever come across and I find myself doing constant mental gymnastics 🤸🏿♂️ with their doctrine. But I’ll keep praying about it and I’ll do my best not to shove it down his throat 😬
A really tough situation to be in, for sure, and in so many ways. I thought I married a believer, but her belief, as it turns out, is very much on her own terms, rather than His...and so our marriage has been similar. I've seen her heart change when I've been willing to humble myself and pray for her, but I've also found that I often won't sincerely pray for her because of offense.
God is calling all of us to a level of maturity that can only come through the power and gifts of His Spirit. I am grateful, but O how I wish my wife was more of a helper to me, spiritually, rather than a hindrance.
thepsalmsman I can definitely see how that is a hindrance, spiritually. I was in the same situation and ultimately found a that of praying for someone is more draining to my own spirit because there is no change then that in itself is my answer. I don’t see how it’s possible to have a relationship with someone that isn’t equally yoked.
@@renaed5015 thanks. It is possible to have relationship, but it's minimal, and nothing like actually sharing life together like what I long for and what I see in most Christian couples in the church.
I can relate to this, except reversed as it’s my husband. I feel held back, instead of growing together.
@@danielleo_ so sorry.
2 Corinthians 12:9 comes to mind, so may this be an encouragement to us both:
"But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me."
@@renaed5015 that’s all I’ve been saying I’m drained just by observing it in the Kingdom. Generations are affected by this
Thank you brother. This info is so crucial. I have a unbelieving wife. I love her so much and I want her to know christ. Thank you for posting this.
You have no idea how badly I needed this. Praise the Lord!
I cannot begin to tell you how impeccable your timing is with this video. Thank you so much for your insights, you answered every question I've been struggling with.
Thanks Allen! This was good for me to hear and I'm gonna save this video for future reference. This is something I struggle with every day sometime just mentioning my faith will set a argument off. So I just keep going to church and leading my children in faith, preying for my spouse daily is something I need to work on. You are truly a great teacher thank you!
These videos really help me Pastor. I’m 22 years old and it’s really difficult to navigate through life and be a true believer but with your help I’m finding balance and you seem to have a video available for everything! I really am grateful for your platform.
My wife and I have been married 47 years. She is a Catholic and I am not. I been saved for many years. I love the Lord with all my soul, mind and heart. and I love my wife. I pray for her everyday. She does not attend Church with me. She attends a Catholic Church. Please pray that she will focus on Jesus Christ instead of worshiping Mary.
Thank you so much, I needed this video. I've been praying for my husband for 20 years & still & will continue to pray. My spouse definately is my test of faith everyday. It's been really hard but I continue to trust God & live out my faith
Hi, im almost 10 years married..same problem, i left my huaband feq months ago but still we have an on/off communication..tok hard to decide on wether to still hope for us or leave him for good..ive a friend who always advice me to divorce my husband and aays its ok to do it..my husbanda worst trait is that he abuse me verbally,, but that only happens when we argue..im ao confused
@@rizlav4407 I heard someone once say that God would not want you to be in abusive relationship. I would seek God and ask for him to show me what to do in this situation. I left a husband because I realised I made a mistake and didn't want him anymore. I fell in love with someone else. This "someone else" didn't work out for me. I have been married twice not. Both for the wrong reasons. The first time was pressure from the church the second time coercion 😒 now I'm just living my life for the Lord. Hoping he will send the right person.......but now that I serve him and even though I am not young anymore I'm in no hurry to make a third mistake. This time it will be Christ leading. I'm happy in my singledom and serving the lord 🙏🏽❤️ ( it's lonely but I'm not alone , Christ loves me)
@@rizlav4407 What's to be confused> The bible teaches what one should do as a godly wife and woman, and through seeing your reverence to Gods word might have believed but you talk to your friend about the internal workings under your household which he was the head of, This is not showing reverence to your husband! Once you learn what God said , Its going to become apparent where you went wrong and if you went wrong.
I wish I could like this video a million times 😂
3 name changes allowed every 90 days. Only praise god
So helpful. So important. This guy is the best, most practical, clear, loving and biblical advice going around. God is working through you, keep it up, Al!
This was such a good message. Thank you so much. It seriously spoke to me and showed me how I need to change some of my actions in my relationship. My husband knows the truth but has never been saved. I felt like you were speaking right to me!
Allen coming in clutch with the TOUGH topics. Well done. 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥
Gods word always comes right on time! Thank You God for always speaking to me and comforting me in ways I don’t even expect to happen
Thank you so much for this message and all your other videos which I have been binge watching these last few days. I am married to an unbeliever so this was very encouraging ❤️ I appreciate the honesty, biblical truth, support and love you display through Christ! Thank the Lord for your ministry & may he continue to bless you ❤️ 🙏
I wanted to request this video for a while, it’s like the Lord read my mind and delivered it to me through Allen Parr. Amazing work to keep giving us the word during these tough times.
I really needed this. I am married to someone who grew up in the church but was badly molested by a pastor as a young person. He will go to church with me but he just says he can't believe anymore. I pray for him all the time. God isn't done with him. Thank you Allen
Thanks Allen! My husband & I were unbelievers when we got married. Then I became a Christian. From the beginning God made a promise to me thru the Word that he would become a Christian. He used the story in Acts where, I think Peter & Paul were in jail & there was an earthquake. But they didn't leave. When the guard found out he ask "what must I do to be saved?" They said believe on the Lord Jesus Christ & you will be saved, you & YOUR HOUSEHOLD. I claimed that as a promise. Also I took Peter's words to heart & never suggested, or gave him Scriptures. I did invite him to church every once in a while. He did come to our daughters baptism. I prayed 35 yrs.!! Never once did I doubt although I did wonder at times what was taking so long. 4 yrs. Ago he gave his life to Christ! This makes me look like I was perfect. I maid mistakes. One was I got to involved in church. Caused a lot of problems..but God worked it out 😉
Thank you brother for your message. I watch this video of yours again and again. It just revives my faith whenever I feel hopeless. Please keep me and people like me in your prayers
This is the most balanced teaching on this topic I have found. I will be sharing this widely. I wish this had more views!
Thank you sir, good timing for your video as I will be fasting God willing for the first time on Sunday. My Husband and father are unbelievers and so I have asked God to lead me in prayer and supplication for their salvation. Blessings
Wow.....you have helped me so much I was literally going through this "the affair with Jesus" thank you for this I believe God put this in your spirit for me I literally subscribed to you yesterday.....
Everything except this in this video was sound teaching, but I'm not sure about this part.
Where were you with this message 33 years ago. Practical teaching in volumes. Thank you for your message.
I needed this as confirmation for my situation. Appreciate it and Praise God for your service in His word. God bless 🙏
Perfect. A very solid, generous and kind explanation of how to deal with this issue. I am in a mismatched marriage and I found this very helpful! ❤️
EXACTLY
SAME mismatched with the unbelief in christ....
I love jesus & I know he loves both me & unbelieving spouse, but it's so hard & physically exhausting!!!
@@createdwithL0VE Physically and mentally.
I'm the well believer in the relationship with my girlfriend of 2.5 years and she believes God but doesn't really do what a true Christian dose bc she is stuck in sin I'm happy their is hope God bless you I'm planning on becoming a pastor so I can spread the word of God I'm so excited man
Amazing God 💖
He answered me through this video. Struggling with my unbelieving husband. But now I am enlightened and have more courage in my marriage. Thank you so much Pastor Allen 😇
Glory to GOD 💫
P.S. more of this please 🙂
Very much needed word especially in our time. Every thing you mentioned there was spot on.
I've witnessed many believers mistreat their unbelieving spouse in such a way that pushed their spouse to totally neglect God all together.
The greatest testimony that we have is how we live in christ likeness in the midst of our unbelieving spouse and loved ones.
You mentioned that many believing spouses invest much of their selves into church/ministry and in the process neglect their primary duty as a husband or wife; we must understand that Our ministry starts with the family, everything else falls by the wayside once we begin to neglect the ones that are closest to us.
Thank you for this brother!
Yep. Definitely better to wait!! And avoid the complicated scenario. Don’t get married when you’re backslidden either thinking you’ll be there forever. Love my spouse but man, I wish I waited for what God had planned rather than getting sick of waiting and falling away.
I wish I would have waited to
Thanks Allen for sharing. It's good how you explain things. Very on point. I've notice you have a sense of humor as well lol...
Brother I needed this!! I’ve been waiting for this one for a year now! Thank you so much for your insight.
This video was extremely helpful, encouraging, and comforting, Brother Allen. Though we are not married, I am going through something like this almost exactly. Thank you for reminding me to stay strong in the faith.
Thank you so much 🙏🙏I will never give up praying for my husband 🧎♀️🙏
The Lord has me click on the right videos at the right time. This was well needed! Thank you.
Thank you brother, I hope many young Christians can watch this video. So great. God bless you and your family. 👍
Thank you so much brother. I will keep praying for my wife's salvation and may our Lord give me wisdom, strength and joy to be a true witness to her. It's been almost 3 years of pain for me but His grace is still sufficient, He saved me almost three years ago and I have really seeing His beauty during this painful part of my life, my new life in Christ.
Allen, thank you! This is exactly what i needed, I've been in such turmoil recently about being married to an unbelievabler and you just gave me what i needed. Thank you so much!
Thank you brother , I love my husband so much he’s my dream guy and I’m praying everyday he gets saved I am encouraged by the testimony of the woman who prayed for 20years . I have been praying 10. I hope and pray it’s soon I am encouraged and sometimes I cry but I will leave it in Gods hands and do my best to serve as I should Jesus first and submit to my husband . God bless you!
This is such an encouragement. Ive been praying for my husband for almost 2 years and it feels so hard already 🙏😢
also be very loving and show what true fearless love is, instead of trying to chang ethe other person we can also chang eourselves and they can see it and be inspired
@@JesusisLord-jw7ch Go and read in the scriptures what a woman of God should do and be like in accordance with her husband and in daily life, and live that and then through your obedience and reverence to God's "word" then through that he might see.
Thank you for this video. You gave me a lot to think about. I needed the reminder to pray for my husband DAILY. My husband is a weak believer at best. He does not stand in my way of going to church or taking our children to church. We send our children to a Christian school which was initially my idea, but if I suggested public school at this point he would say no. I have considered divorce, but I believe that when we spoke our marriage vows, it is, as one of my sons said, "a promise to stick with each other through thick and thin." So, I will continue to pray for him and love him.
I found your video in suggested videos and really enjoyed it! Love how you incorporate biblical principles to real life situations. I just started my own channel so this is helpful. Just subscribed.
Thank you a Brother Allen for this video 🙏. My mom converted to Christianity during her marriage with my dad (who says he believes in Christ, but after years of church hurt from the Catholic Church and many other things it seems like he’s not very solid). I always asked my mom “why did u stay with him?” and she mentioned the same exact verses you said. Both my mom and I keep praying for him and my sister as well to find Jesus Christ, and I do my best to be a good example of a Christian. I’m starting to see our prayers being fulfilled, but I know that God will have to work with him a bit more. I hope that one day my dad will be a spiritual leader to my mother and our family.
‘What should I do if my spouse is an unbeliever?’??? Erm...Love them?!? Simple!!
"Simple" It's not simple. I know fellow Christians who married non Christians and their marriage has been rocky.
Brandie Medved I said simple... not easy. But he asked the question. That is the answer.
My son lives at home. There’s just him and me. He’s not saved and he gets irritated. It’s not just spouses. Everyone has a relationship that is unequally yoked to a certain degree.
Bully’s always find something on which to focus their comments and anger towards their victim.
Every blessing to you.
ZiOR MiNT VLOGS I said simple. Not easy.
If they were Christians when they married them then I’m sorry but its their own faults.
It says not to be unequally yoked. I think God knew what he was talking about.
Marriage takes work. Any marriage can be rocky. Secular or Christian. Even two married Christians can be unequally yoked... if they don’t believe the same things about the word of God.
But hey. We all want the easy road. The instant blessed marriage. No. It takes work!!
Brandie Medved Nothing worth having is easy. But the rewards Christ has for those that ‘fight the fight and finish the course’ are immeasurable. Blessings.
@@sanjon2778 yes that's what i go through!
I can not thank you enough, i am speechless this cleared up so many things for me. I cannot tell you how amazing you are and thank you enough for your videos, they have helped me a lot, God bless.
i keep watching your video brother! And I watched your testimony. It was so inspiring, its the same I experienced that God change my desire and to follow His path. At first, it's really hard but at the end of the day its worth it and victorious. Keep posting brother and continually used by God. God bless and keep safe!
From Philippines!
I have been painfully struggling with this for years. I have always known who I am in Christ. I cannot even express it because it's supernatural and brings me to tears. My husband told me he was a Christian before we were married and I know to never question anyone's degree of faith...because who am I to gauge any personal relationship? soon after we were married I realized he is a nominal Christian...just by name...doubts the Bible is even a thing. I needed to see this today. Sometimes it's unbearable. Thank you!
Sonia, My life mirrors yours to a tee.... My husband professed faith, and I too didn't want to question it, mainly from mistakes I had already made in the past. He renounced his faith earlybin marriage, and it has been a struggle and hard cross to bear. I will pray for your marriage and husband's salvation. Remember God is with you in this struggle.
@Angela Allen my husband’s demons make me question my faith because he has so much influence over me and I want to submit. It’s so hard so stay faithful both to Jesus and my husband’s
It’s difficult to not be deceived sometimes. That’s why it’s so important to let the spirit lead you while looking for a Godly spouse. We can’t rush it because they claim they are Christian. The fruit of their faith should be evident in the way that they act and speak. If they love God, they won’t be able to hide it. But, there is hope if you’ve entered into an unequally yoked relationship. The power of Christ changes hearts, it’s not if, it’s when. Just stay persistent and keep spreading his love. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain because you have the grace of Jesus, the greatest gift.
“Be ye not unequally yoked”.....
Thats where I get concerned. Would God even accept acknowledge a marriage of a couple unequally yolked? What does God concerned married?
@@ashleighleggett6886 did you watch the video
@@frame3139 yes. Still learning and growing.
Thank you for this video Brother Allen. I was struggling to understand a few things before this now I have some clarity. Please do the follow up to this. You have no idea on how much this has had a huge impact on how I interpreted certain topics. Praying for wisdom and revelation is always is always best. Thanks again. You are a huge blessing!
Thank you for this biblically based message. It is filled with truth, wisdom, and love. Well done!
Thanks. Shared it with two people: one who's doing it right with her unsaved spouse (the video should encourage her) and another who has lots to learn about her conduct while married to an unsaved spouse (I hope she'll watch it and humble herself before God).
Being unequally yolked is very difficult. I became saved after getting married. It's hard and sad raising children with a unsaved spouse, because his/her ideas and yours will not match. I have become an "enemy " to him and the grandkids living with us because of it.
I love the scriptural backing to all the teaching in this video
Thank you for this video. I've seen you touch on this subject a few times. I've been hoping over the years you would make a whole video on this. I hope you do make a follow up. Thank you again!!
I am married to an unbeliever. Recently, G-d told me to speak life into my husband. I woke up morning, looked at him, and saw him as a church man. I was told to call him a man of G-d. I view him as such now and he is changing in miraculous ways.
He can't be a man of God if he hasn't repented and been given a new Spirit filled heart.
I don't know who is telling you things, but we depend on the finished "word" of God in the Bible for all knowledge. It was already completed nearly 2000 years ago. There is no new revelation. depend on the scripture only, The "word" of God.
We lost one of the greatest apologist Ravi Zacharias. RIP 😭🙏
Yikes, this comment did not age well 😅
Thank you soooo much Rev. Allen Parr. This is helpful for I have met alot of Sisters in this situation. Now I might be able to share what you have just tought me.
This was the most helpful video I’ve ever watched, thank you so much 🙌
Allen thank you much so this my husband is so confused he believes in God when things are going well for him .
his a gambler so when he lose his game he curse God in a way that it pains me a lot .
A month ago we fought for 2 days because of the way he talks about God and the believers so I decided to let it be but pray for him .
At times I'm so angry at him that I don't even have the straight to pray for him .
May God help me to never give up praying for him. God bless u brother
Thank you Lord Jesus I was just thinking about this this morning 🙏 thank you Allen for being willing! This is exactly what he keeps telling me let man not separate what I have brought together. Marriage isn't easy especially to an unbeliever but it's a canvas for his grace
Right!!! My walk with faith has increased to another level and he his still stuck. I wasnt in my faith and understanding the result of bei mg married to a non-believer when I was engaged and dating. What if you as the Christian want out of the marriage? 😔 and just hope one day that he just up and leaves you? The things I've been through with him is very unbearable and All I hoped to find was some form of adultery from him but never did.
Esp, if you could marry a believer that loves the Lord and knows they have to loves you the same way. Referencing bible verses is like talking to a wall.
Then I have to submit to him too. Very hard to do when he isnt being a man of God.
@@mybestlifefortherestofmyli7137 good things don't come easy any relationship you have your going to have to work for.. if you look closely in the scriptures God always loved us even when we were an enemy of him Jesus loved the Pharisees and the teachers of law. . he doesn't just call us to love when it's convenient for us.. but to always love
@@mybestlifefortherestofmyli7137 amen sister it isn't always easy submitting to an unbelieving husband..
@silenceOf TheUnspoken thank you for your reply. I understand. And who's to say that a Christian man wont be the same way as the unbeliever. But like I said, he's not even trying to give his life to Christ. I don't understand why He wont bow down to the Lord and completely give up his old man and be reborn again. Pple just arent ready.
Please understand though, he wants and chooses to remain the same bc he doesnt see a need to change his ways to get closer to the Lord, which causes marital problems. I love him, just from a distance.
When the city and state opens back up, he will be back to his ways, going out partying, in the bars, drinking excessively and dealing with the women.
Funny he just told me yesterday that he gets women. But this is a married man.
Ok
@@mybestlifefortherestofmyli7137 before I came to Christ I knew nothing about being reborn sister nor did I ever really think about it not understand religion you can sew seeds but God has to bring the increase his love is what brings us to repentance showing his love to others is also what brings them to repentance pray for the patience he will give it to you... My husband is an amazing husband but he isn't saved I can't put my happiness in him being saved you have to leave it in our fathers hands because it's not our burden to bear all we can do as wife's of God is submit God knows what's in your heart I know the pain sister he calls us to be long suffering he did it for us we through him have the strength you can do this I believe in you I will be praying for you and your marriage sister much love 🤗
This is couldn’t come at a better time. I have been praying about this very recently.
Excellent Word Allen! Thank you!
This is awesome! When I first got saved I was having an affair with Jesus. I went through trying to force my God on my spouse then I stopped and would just ask or invite him to things and pray for his salvation. I was neglecting my spousal duties bc I was turned off from him not following Christ, then I began to fall in love with my spouse bc of my love for Jesus. Overall, I'm doing my best to pray him into the kingdom while modeling what a Christ follower looks like in my relationships, my parenting and overall life. When he starts to argue I pick my battles and most of the time they get no reaction from me bc i know the enemy is trying to distract us and keep us unequally yoked. Also, I give my husband spiritual advise in situations he doesn't know how to react to. I see he applies them which is amazing bc God is changing him little by little but sometimes there's setbacks and I feel like giving up which is not what God wants so I keep fighting the good fight. I believe prayer is key, powerful and will change any circumstance.
Thank you for this video. I have recently been opened up to Christ's love after almost two decades of being an atheist. I have been praying everyday for Him to help lead me through my life and for God's will to be done. My wife does not know this as she is an unbeliever. I also pray everyday that God will soften her heart to allow his grace to encompass her.
Against all reasoning and logic I now believe. Though my faith is still weak, I can feel it getting stronger and my trust in Jesus to help me bear my cross grows.
I really don't know what happened either. I've seen many movies about Jesus. I've read the New Testament numerous times as well as parts of the Old Testament, but my logical mind never would allow me to believe. It was all magic tricks to me.
I thank the series The Choosen for helping me come to Christ. For some reason the series opened up my heart a few weeks ago and the series isn't even finished yet.
This message has helped me out a lot thank you for helping me understand the word brother!
Love your videos! This one is so so helpful!!! God bless you :)
😱 Oh My GOSH ! This. Is. Timely!
The book, Way of Agape, is a great resource for those struggling in unequally yoked marriages. It shows how to let Christ love through you even in difficult relationships. God bless!
Great, clear, concise advise!!! Thank you so much!!!
Another good Godly verse by verse teaching. Thank you Pastor Allen Parr
I am in that situation,my husband does not love jesus and does not like our kids and myself going to church.still today is our 10 year aniversary and i thank the lord for my marriage.thank you for this video.
It says in the Bible, for wives to submit to your husband in all things, I guess you should've chosen someone that you were willing to submit to him in all things. Am I wrong?
I would rather marry a believer than a nonbeliever but I would make sure if it was a believer first before I would start dating the person.
I had backslid from God for years and have recently returned to him and come to know Jesus. I’m currently in situation #2 and have been thinking and doing exactly what you outlined in your tips. I feel blessed knowing that my choices, thoughts, prayers, and actions about the situation are in line with God’s word ❤🙏🏻 thank you for sharing!
Tip # 4 was so helpful for me, thank you!
please keep me lifted in prayer as my wife isn’t a believer anymore,..
Incredible thank you Allen! My Faith keeps growing with Jesus despite my gf being an atheist.
i fell in love with a catholic girl and it brought me closer to God than ever, i realized i cant run from love, i have to face it, God can work miracles, if its meant to be he can save her too but first i gotta change
@@tonycruise unfortunately I just called off the relationship after dating for 6 years. She never found the Lord and I was worried raising the kids without faith would cause them lots of confusion and we would be diametrically opposed with her science belief vs my Christian belief.
Thank you so much for this. I especially appreciate the testimony from the lady that was married for years .. Pray, pray, pray 🙏
All on point and your references to verses and subsequent 7 points to follow are what I have been doing. God hears my prayers and is Blessing my family. My husband’s heart has been softening, Praise the Lord, through these 30+ years of marriage. My husband has even referred a couple of friends to me so I could pray for them and lead them to Christ or minister to them. Although I do falter at times and am tempted to lash out sometimes when my “buttons” are pushed, I repent and He saves me from faltering and gives me wisdom to recognize when those buttons will be attempted to be pushed, and not react so that I remain walking the path of the saved.
Through prayer and faith, God is working on him and shows me every single day. I Thank and Praise the Lord for His Goodness, Favor, Grace, and Mercy in my life. I could have chosen a better person to marry, and avoided this whole thing, but maybe I had to go through this to see the power of God in my life, as I pray over him and never lose faith!!! Perhaps this is a testimony to someone.
Thank you BrotherAllen for your willingness to let the Lord speak through you to reach myself and others. It is His encouragement and verification speaking to me. God Bless you and your ministry.🙏🏾✝️❤️
Well brother I'm in that situation for 24 yrs now and I don't want it anymore I want to find a true christian woman who will stand loyal to me by reading and praying with me and mostly sharing the gospel to the Lost Jesus is my life for long time now idk thank u great message
You are not alone, how has it gone?
You covered it all but forgot the most important one “the children” what if your unbelieving significant other is influencing your children to believe in what she believes in. And discouraging your kids from believing in Christ!
I've got the same problem over here, bro 😞
No way, Really you have the same problem
Yea I have the same problem brother! But we have to trust in God to protect them! The only weapon to that is pray pray pray!!
Great points! Thank you for this insight.
My heart is breaking because my daughter just got engaged on Valentines Day (2023). She got engaged to a young man who says "I am a Christian", but on the practical side can NOT articulate what it even means to be a Christian or to get saved. If you are a prayer warrior and you see this post please pray for her- God knows who she is!!
ALLEN! Can you do a video explaining why if Christians are forgiven we will still be held accountable on judgement Day 🤷♀️
There isn't ANY condemnation for those who are IN Christ. Simple.
Any Judgement is on the issue of burning away any wood, hay, stubble in contrast to being refined for goods works done in faith.
Thank you for this video! I have been struggling to understand what to do. I have been married to my husband for 15 years, both as non-Christians. Now, I am a Christian, (along with our daughter 👏) My husband believes in God but currently is not interested in giving up his sins. So, I’ve been praying for him & trying not to be pushy. I invite him to church sometimes & try to be a good example. I’m thankful he does not reject me & my new lifestyle. It is just frustrating & sad to see him living without Jesus.
I think you did a great job with clarifying the neglecting marriage thing. It makes sense being that the marriage is in fact a Christian vocation thus engaging in marital duties being actions that serve God as the driving force of that is love.
Thank you! I feel like God is speaking through you to me. Very happy you made this video! Please pray for my wife to come to Christ 🙏 Also, some prayers of patience for myself wouldn't hurt...
I never really realized just how big a difference there is between Protestant and Roman Catholics until after I married a Catholic. I would not recommend it to my worst enemy.
Why?
@@Anteater23 they have no faith. It's like believe the same. They have no conviction of the holy spirit
"Don t have an affair with Jesus." That was a good one😅
Sometimes, I watch your videos and I move to the next one because I understand. Some times you do videos where the ibformation is new so I have to listen to it multiple times and thennnnnnnnnn you do vidoes like these that get me all the way together and I have to listen to it 4 times. Lolo so thank you