Hmhmhm 😊 Can I just say that this is so sweet and now watching the 2nd vid of yours about this is... Healing. Like, really. (I'm tearful) I remembered watching Gabe's little channel at the point where he was still single! I was tryna attend the breakout rooms as well. Those were my church-hunting days... I couldn't find a single place in this heretic country that had that same.... Spirit in practice which I knew I've obtained. I did finally find a logical, growing and maturing community of believers though and for that I'm very grateful. Like an oasis in the middle of *absolutely* just nowhere in the equivalent of hell. It was September 22 last year and my birthday was on the third. I had really been struggling. Pornography, lust and everything. Even personally... I was super, super lost in life. I didn't even know what I was feeling, I'm telling you the level of brokenness even as Christian was absolutely insane. The reason was I was undiagnosed AUDHD at the time. (Autism and ADHD and probably OCD as well - after salvation) It was then that randomly and out of desperation I cried to God that I don't want to be addicted and lost... But I'd like to give context, since I kinda just want to make sure I get full understanding. (Years before this) Due to neurodivergent burnout and bullying and meltdowns as a result I had dropped out of highschool early... That ruined my life but so would destroying my health by pushing through burnout with not enough rest for being chronically ill.. I had come to realize I've hardly been nurtured as a kid. Conceived out of wedlock, fatherless, kept alive (I refuse to say 'raised') by three women, my mother and aunt and grandmother. I was abused by my mother and stepdad through my adolescence in which I'm pretty sure I was suffering from manic depression (I couldn't read my Bible for 2 minutes without breaking down sobbing) - the reason was the way I hyperfixed on Christ due to how my brain works... They absolutely detested that, and I was naive and unskilled in pretty much everything. I was also isolated from everything and everyone, being out of school and very naturally unemployed and uh too broken to even think about work 😅 (Guys I didn't even understand how to cast my burdens on God or how to apply that and I was confused as heck when I randomly pulled it off... A prophetess I met helped me with the validation I needed to begin doing that effectively like 3 days ago!!) Against all odds, I think I'm starting to make it. So anyways on September 22 of 2023 I was approached by an old classmate back from Highschool and it turned out she was Christian. It was on Facebook. Long story short we caught up and started a romantic relationship in the end. This was after I had cried to God for help with my issues, so I actually believed it to be a Godsend for real. And she's surely Christian.... But she was also kinda lawless. I couldn't figure out what's up with her but I decided to stick it out and figure how I can help, encourage, explain... You know. She took my first kiss. We spoke openly about sex pretty soon even though I was slightly uncomfortable with the topic. I could see it's something she wanted and I tried thinking about why that was. I was tolerating a lot because I'm a particularly rigid person. Back then at her and her parent's place we had a moment which I thought was alright. Hahaha.... She was the one with her head on my lap and I was causing her to sleep, scratching her head. It seemed to me that it was affection, so I welcomed us being able to do that. Now against all my better judgement we ended up making out cuz her friends left the room. It was awkward for me because I hadn't even felt about her like that. However I refused sex even being literally and instant from being able to have it. I assumed she was just a girl in love... Looking back now I regret even that. I realized that she's not someone I'd be able to marry anytime soon... She's miraculously picked up something a lot like toxic masculinity and I figured she's probably got unmanaged BPD 😕 Even though something happened and I felt I had to promise that I would - and I promised Christ that I would since we did get intimate slightly. I'm thinking that might've been unnecessary now though. But my main point is I know how to turn to God for strength to cope with daily things now. She came along hours after that time I cried out to God and I still don't quite understand it... But anyways she my ex now. ...... I've just been touched by all this. I really want to get back to this place of purity. I've made SO many mistakes. And I do absolutely stupid things when I have meltdowns (involuntary responses to overwhelm) which can be seen as like a seizure but mentally. Over the last few years I've grown. I've understood my combine neurodivergence and found a community of people like me - I'm no longer alone. I've grown wise. It's the only thing I've been able to do - personal growth and pursuing truth and healing. I now have this "it's lonely at the top" kind of situation where I've grown to be more self aware than even non-disabled (neurotypical) people... I can clearly see how society's priority is materialism and success in the system and how it's no wonder the world is in such a dire state - over here people's hearts don't matter and the churches are bound to the system and the faithful and the chosen are far between. I've been suicidal, even. And that was mere days ago again. Until God intervened... Again. He stops me every.single.time. Reeeeeeeeeee But now I now how to cope 😁😁 Man... Yeah. Sorry about this, I just wrote a book. Nobody's gonna read this, and... I figured out I'm naturally and developmentally genderqueer. Meaning I have a feminine nature and internal gender expression and I'm a biological male. Such twistedness. But it's better to understand than be in the dark and stumble all over. I understand God's plan now. I'm to be the light in the coming Neurodivergent Society. They are unable to blend in with the system of the world, it's a genius plan - they the disabled and oppressed and cast out and hated are perfect - biologically set apart. A group of ND Christians will be like nothing this world has seen before, I'm convinced of it. We have a permanent outsider's perspective from the inside, it's bloody excellent! As of right now I'm trying to rebuild my life and gain independence. By the grace of God and Love Himself I see that I've caught up in maturity and now I can truely begin to grow. I think my ASD special interest which encompasses anything under the topic of life, reality and people served me well too. .... But in all honesty I'm lusty. And that's gotta go. I see that now. Like OF COURSE I was damaged by my sin 🤦🏻♂️💥 and it needs to change asap. All I've truely been wanting in my heart was this which you have. I wish I can share all my feelings... But they're deep and high and far and wide, like nothing I see other men have. And as I look at you two I wonder how I came to fall so far. This is not right... And my beloved group of believers I'm a part or don't meet often enough yet and for the hope that's materialized in front of me I still feel like a severed limb in the body of Christ on Earth. I've been yearning for a partner, I wish to marry and set things right just like you said. I have so, so much I could teach the son or especially the little girl I wanted ever since I was 19. I could be intentional, everything could be planned - I could hold a newborn child in my arms and say "welcome to the world, and the place we've prepared for you and all the things we have for you, wisdom and boundless love and all the care you will need" Gathering wisdom has been my non-stop pursuit for years now. I just hope it's not too late.. I'm turning 22 in a few days you know. Is everyone's story something like this? Doesn't seem like it. But I felt happy to share it here in the hopes that it'll be read 😂😂😂 😅so sorry about this. But yeah.... Guess I'ma stick around after all. Let's just see where this goes, and thank you 💖
@@bonaventureayi1418 Oh hey well thanks for reading that 😅 Honestly, a lot has changed, I started a small business already. I make and sell handcrafted things. I also know that my only and main happiness come from Christ and serving Him first. Out of that happiness grows my desire for a partner, really and I realised that how things currently operate in society is absolutely not something I should therefore be a part of. It may just be me but it's absolutely mentally, emotionally and very much spiritually detrimental to me. I need a permanent break from society and all its materialism... I need to live close to the earth, God and truth and close to my people. To be very honest... The only thing that will truely make me happy is if I can travel, learn and talk about Christ and God. I finally acknowledged it. I'm not looking for a workaround, I'm not going to stick around with a 9-5 or even 4-11 job, work myself to death for nothing in the end while I remain soulfully unhappy and never fulfilling my calling and purpose. I hate how society works, but I love people. Ever since I became Christian I knew I have found the power to make a difference, change people and live better, myself. I refuse to give even the slightest fraction that away and do precisely what Jesus said to not do... And He referenced us, the Gentiles! No matter what it can't be denied that this mainstream society lives as though God does not exist and I refuse to have any part in it. Not only will it rob me of the joy of my life, but in one foul swoop also my life's purpose. I can't believe people just live with this, I can't.
That line "satan will do everything he can to get you into bed BEFORE marriage. he will also do everything he can to keep you out of bed IN marriage such wisdom from the pre marriage counselor!
You guys are lucky.. You should thank God.. I wanted to stay a virgin until marriage but lost it at 27..Being a virgin as man comes with so much pressure but God should the only we should fear.. Right now am 29 am to live a pure life by keeping my thoughts pure while I pray to God for godly wife as I fix myself through the power Jesus Christ .. Pray for me guys
Hey, I need some help. Im a teenager living in a family that is not religious. I have decided to get into Christianity because I believe that god exists and the rules in Christianity are so good, I also celebrate Christmas. But since I don’t know anyone religious I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to pray. I only know about a few of the sins. I also don’t really know much about god and Jesus. I have tried reading the Bible but to be honest I don’t understand anything. When I pray I just improvise. I do it every night and it usually goes something like “for my daily prayer today I want to ask for a happy life and happiness for those around me. I ask for your presence in my life and your guidance to help me become a religious person. As always I want to thank you for everything you do. Sun, rain, happiness and pain. It is all thanks to you. Amen. I need all tips I can get on what to do to learn about gos and Jesus and how to pray properly.
It’s great that you are seeking God and wanting to learn more about him :) Don’t get discouraged, you will become more knowledgeable the more you study God’s word, I would suggest reading the gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John), the gospel broadcasting network has some good videos and explanations of different Christian topics if you want to check them out. Best wishes!
Here for you! Gabe made the perfect vid, explaining how to read the Bible right here: th-cam.com/video/NTtUgIUB6aA/w-d-xo.htmlsi=9QzDvcbeLjXbJkW1 Jesus wants to be your best friend, and you are not alone. Also, here is a vid for how to pray and talk to God: m.th-cam.com/video/6Jfib5o4ryM/w-d-xo.html Feel free to comment any other questions you have on the vid I will be sure to get back to you!
Hey, it's great that you have the courage to go on this journey with god. My advice for you: Look in your churches around for a youth group, often you don't have to go to this church particularly. I moved from my parents house and in the last year, I experienced how important it is to have people in your age who believe in the same things. Also (if you're the type for this) look for a tutor, someone you like talking to who is a little older. It helped me a lot with my spiritual questions. And one last thing, it's not about what you do (going to church, good things...), it's about what Jesus did for you. This will result in love for others. I wish you all the best! Stay curious.
@leobyrod8307 God loves you SO MUch and wants to have a RELATIONSHIP with you. (Not so much about rules, as a relationship.) .. His Word (the Bible) definitely helps us know how to live our lives. But the biggest thing is becoming His child. He wants you in His family!!! (God created us all, but we are not all His children. He gives us that choice.) .. Ask Him to show you the way. Jesus said, "I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Nobody comes to the Father except through me." .. Sin is something that comes between us and God. The Bible says, "If you confess your sins (to God), He is faithful to forgive us our sins and to CLEANSE us from all unrighteousness." 🥰
And then, you know John 3:16, probably, "For God so loved the world that He gave the only son born to Him (as a sacrifice) that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life." And "Unless a person is born AGAIN (become a new person), they cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven." .. So we must believe and ask God to make us new and put our trust in the faithfulness of Jesus. 🥰
10:21 This hit me hard because my parents recently got divorced and I was afraid that I’ll be stuck in that negative pattern. I want a happy marriage more than anything and you said this. Thank you. Thank you so much. I feel hopeful and made me want to educate myself more ❤
As a high schooler who has recently decided to wait until marriage and devote myself more to god, I can only say thank you for helping me with all these stories and making me feel like I’m not alone with my struggles.
I know there are other young people that live pure lives, but your testimony is a real breath of fresh air !! I appreciate you both for waiting until the proper time !! God bless you both as you live your lives together !!
this is so pure and beautiful, i loved that you both prayed before --- i have 2 children with my husband and 1 was with during fornication but if i were not mom yet i would say : "i'd give anything to be a virgin until marriage" theirs one thing i know for sure! my children will be virgins on their wed night! its set in stone cuz I have GOD on my side! halleluyah Praise God for your ministry!
Your communication interaction is extraordinary as if you have married for 50 years. Beautiful! You really listen to each other! You are both blessed beyond measure! Mazel Tov!
I failed in this badly so I was absolutely adamant when I had kids I didn't want them making my mistakes. I got to walk my virgin daughter down the aisle to a Virginia boy last month. They were married at 21. Do not give in to your flesh.
@@hein228 when Jesus said you must be born again and Paul saying put on the new self in Eph 4:24 it makes sense to see it in away that ur new and should wait till marriage pretty much a born again virgin it sucks u don't care to support him through his turning to wait till marriage
now granted i havent watched a ton of these wedding night videos, but this feels like the best one i have seen! The convo feels and sounds so natural. Like not awkward at all or overly "quirky/comical" if that makes sense. wow thank u guys !!
Might I just say, I'm struggling with same sex attraction. I know it's wrong and I haven't done anything with such feelings. I'm praying that I can get over it and if I can't come to love a woman, at the very least live a life of celibacy. Please pray for me so I can overcome this temptation and I know God can help me get over this 🙏
@@ganyu2935 the flesh is deceiving and that's something I learned the hard way. I once found one of cousins attractive and if that isn't objectively wrong idk what is. I never did anything because I prayed for forgiveness and for help. It's so wierd how the soul is in the body yet they desire such different things. Lust is probably one of the worst things to exist because it's so easy to disguise itself as something fine just because you want to.
I couldn’t stop smiling while watching the video. I am waiting for marriage and have never struggled with pornography (Thank GOD). I mostly just watched kissing scenes from k drama and Chinese dramas, but I don’t anymore, because I know it’s wrong. I’m waiting until marriage, I am 19 and I hope to meet someone who I will always love and for that someone to always love me as well. I’m always home so I know that’s not going to happen anytime soon, but it will in GOD’s time.
@@katherinejoy9048 Thank you. My parents had set the example for me and taught me that the right way is to wait until marriage, even for my first kiss. Heavenly Father’s time is the right time.
Anyone can learn "the moves", and I also choose abstinence as a single person. I think what's most important in a Christian romantic relationship is the mutual commitment to God and each other, that you love the other person selflessly, and that you want to make both of you happy. I think you two are spot on and I feel blinding spiritual brightness in the room as a result. God bless!
Thanks for this! This was very reassuring as a 14-year-old who has been growing up in a secular landscape and family. I have been thinking recently that I want to get married early, but that’s something that many of the people around me would judge me for. Through prayer, I’ve talked with the Lord and He has made it clear that marriage is something I should pursue in whatever relationship I enter; that I should only enter a relationship with marital intent. This video appearing was a nail in the coffin. Thank you. I am praying for you two and your future children 🙏.
Praise the Lord! We are so glad to is video helped you! God loves you so dearly. He so cherishes the way you seek His will about your life and decisions. He honors the way you honor Him. You are a light to those around you. We are praying for you and your God-given future family 🙏
@@andrewpatton5114 Oh, yeah? I faced that 63 years ago by my immediate family. My husband was 5 years older than me, and ready for marriage. I'm very glad I saved myself for marriage. No regrets. 🕊️🌈
You’re so wise and you made such an important decision at such a young age. May you be granted a wonderful, loving wife who you’ll be so in love with. ❤
This is something than a few people know about me, but I promised to God to be a virgin until marry since I was an adolescent. But I struggled with masturbation and p0r4 like 8 years, and a year ago I started to feel disconnected to God even going to church. So I have sex for the first time being a 33 years old when I knew this guy, and we became boyfriend and girlfriend because he promised things that at that time I believed, and because I trusted in him I agreed to give him my body, my heart, and my inner part of myself. Then, after we broke up, I understood that I was a slave of that life. I came back to church, and suddenly, having time with God and working with myself, I can say I’m free. Every day is a challenge, but I know God is with me and I feel freed since one day.
"Every sinner a future, every Saint a past" -St Augustine. If you want guidance on this Augustines book confessions is a good start. Considering it was made almost 2000 years ago the feelings and actions are just as relevant and even inspiring.
I’ll be 42 years old next month and I must say that this warms my heart with pure joy to hear that younger generations are following Christ. I always struggled but for the first time I am genuinely ready. I’m not saying that I’m not struggling but I am fighting with my all. This is a blessing to come across your videos. May God continue to bless your beautiful family and union!
You guys are a huge breath of fresh air. Two very wise young people! There are many videos on TH-cam on this topic, and I have to say your words, comments, and perspective regarding this is the best I’ve seen. From a woman who is older than you and still waiting for marriage someday, I thank you for this video!
Watching this video is hard. I will never have this experience, I didn't have sex before marriage, but now that I am married my wife and I have struggled with a health issue that has prevented us from having sex at all. We've been married almost 4 years now, and we've made progress. My wife is in physical therapy, and I've been patient, but the 1st night was not the beautiful experience we were expecting. I wish I could turn back time or return to the "honeymoon" stage of the first time, but it will forever be tarnished by pain and discomfort caused by my wife's vaginismus. Now that we've become familiar and comfortable around each other, I'm afraid when we can finally have sex it won't be quite what it could have been if things had gone differently our first night. Either way, I take comfort in knowing that I'm married to the love of my life and she is mine, and I am hers. We saved ourselves for each other and someday, we will share the closeness that sex brings that we both desperately want with each other, and I'm happy to wait however long that takes. I believe in eternal marriage, which is a controversial belief in Christianity, but I'm overjoyed by the hope that I'll be with my wife for forever, and that in the resurrection she will be healed and we won't have this pain with us for any longer. The sorrow I have felt because of this trial is far outweighed by the joy that comes from my Savior Jesus Christ. His atonement makes healing and forgiveness possible, so no matter what circumstances may or may not stand in the way of what your ideal "first time" was, you can find peace and wholeness in spite of the FOMO or pain caused by missing out on the "perfect" situation.
This is so tough for you both! I'm so sorry, and praying for peace and continued healing. If you haven't already, 'the great sex rescue' is a book which has some really helpful breakdowns of lies about sex which contribute to vaginismus, and has been a lot of help to people. All the best 💝🫂
I can appreciate you two sharing these videos. My wife and I saved ourselves for marriage but no one really prepared us for sex either. There wasn't anything outside of, "Have fun, explore and use lube" Nothing about expectations, drives, accelerators & brakes, what to do for pain etc. Sex shouldn't be painful. There may be discomfort because those muscles aren't typically being used when you're saving yourself for marriage. My wife and roughly 23% of Christian women experience some form of sexual pain whether that's vaginismus or something else. No one warned us about that. There is so much more to sex in marriage than just waiting. Education and communication are vital for this area of marriage. Sex is also more than just PIV. For those of us who can't have it as of right now (Pelvic Floor PT, dilators & at-home exercises have made a huge difference) the idea that "we're not married" because we haven't had penetrative sex isn't truly helpful. My wife and I completely agree with waiting for marriage. It is absolutely the right thing to do. And we wanted to save ourselves for marriage, but not having any sort of biblical education behind what sex will be like in marriage and how to prepare for it was not helpful. There are so many great podcasts and books that my wife and I recommend to others and we are currently helping to change our old church's premarital counseling list of resources including our own Bible Study Plan. Thank you for all that you two do! God bless you two!
I waited for marriage. My husband was older and a "biker." He is living for Jesus now and has been delivered of so much!!! We've been married 31 years now and have 4 grown children. .. GOD is faithful. .. If I ever am faced with having to date and get married again, I will once again wait (with better boundaries).
Y'all are awesome.Thank y'all so much for doing this video. It's beautiful. I was actually a teen mom twice but the LORD has restored to me all the years the locust have eaten up plus some.. so thank yall for what your doing to encourage our youth etc.
Our culture “trains” us to believe we have to be sexually “proficient” before marriage. My question is - where is it written that romance and sex have to be like it is portrayed in films or television? These influences affect us by giving us unrealistic expectations which can lead to disappointment if those expectations are not met. I taught a class about this once, and I shared with the group that these scenes that are filmed for TV and movies are written and directed to APPEAR spontaneous, but they’re not! - and there are other people in the room filming them, and the actors may be passionately kissing with a camera inches from their faces. It’s called ACTING - and we shouldn’t allow ourselves to embrace these fantasies and expect our reality to match them. I could go on and on about this. Thanks so much for being so open and candid.
God bless you yall. We need more videos of you two teaching on the word of God and relationships..yall are amazing. Love yall ❤💪 Yall are the very definition of a power couple 💍
I never understood when people would say things like "you have to learn how to give good sex" or "you have to learn whether your spouse is good in bed," stuff like that. Are these not things you can learn with your beloved?
I’m still praying and waiting for my godly virgin wife. God willing I get on the right track and find her soon because life has tormented me greatly and a loving wife would make it all worth the pain. God bless and I’m glad it turned out for you both.
God makes life worth it not a wife. Don’t put your ultimate hope for satisfaction in a wife because no woman is perfect and you will be let down. Put your ultimate hope for satisfaction in Jesus and you will find so much more joy in life and in your wife if you get married.
@@danielcurtis1288 It’s not that I want to replace God with a wife but rather that I’m “burning with passion” and stuck in a cycle of sin because I don’t see any way forward if God is trying to lead me. I know that God and our purpose fulfills us but I need a the wife God has for me so I can be free of sin and find the purpose God has for me. I’m just lost in life waiting for God to help me get free from pron. You are right but I don’t know how to have God satisfy me like you say. God bless! :)
OH MY GOD! THANK YOU! "God has sent you this video " that's EXACTLY what I needed to hear. I was thinking it in my head, but to have such a sign ❤ THANK YOU BOTH SO MUCH! GOD BLESS!
As a menber if the LDS church, I completely agree with this. Even if you do fall into lust and sexual sins, god is always there for you, he loves you, and he will forgive you if you sincerely repent
thank you so much for making this video. this really made me feel strengthened in the Lord. i have been told how crazy it is to pray together on that night and many other things as if my expectations are insane. the people around me really do not understand this line of thinking. and i was starting to feel strange about it. this really boosted my hope in God for better. thank you thank you.
Thank you for this @Ally Poirot it made me realise that so many other people have gone through this as well and stepping out of your comfort zone to talk about your struggles is admirable . God bless you ❤
I live in Spain and people here don't wait until marriage but I want to and I want to find a man of God who will wait with me but I'm scared I won't find one here and I won't ever marry and have a family. I'm still young (18) but it's a huge concern for me when I think about the future
This video was just so good to watch! It really gave a positive picture of sex. Trust me, it is important how you talk about sex to virgins, cause we can only build our thoughts and impressions about it on what we hear from other people, not own experience. You managed to put it in an attractive way. I love how you could talk about it as something good and attractive without getting into grafic details.
I remember being so grateful there was no one else and sharing ths experience was only with my husband. And falling asleep next to my husband. Waiting was definitely worth it.
😊 it’s great to see many people do this. Sex is marriage and holding on to the faith by working it out in obedience is top notch. 😊I’ve got a lot to take home. Thank you ❤
I’m a new sub! I’m definitely going to go to your channel for wisdom and advice. I’d consider last year/my past kind of rough. I’ve lost my virginity to a girl and definitely kissed a lot of people. I want to start over because i don’t want to be identified from that. Can i start clean and reset that all?
Thank you so much for this video, I really needed this. I also struggled with pornography when I was younger and it totally deprived me of my innocence and will be something I'll always regret. But I also have a similar story where God delivered me from it and the temptation pretty much left me altogether. Years later I felt the conviction to tell my parents what had happened to me, even though I wasn't in that place anymore, and I can relate in saying that it was one of the most freeing experiences of my life, even though it was also one of the scariest. Not too long ago I had a dream where I was sexually immoral before marriage and I woke up in a state of self-righteousness because I realized that I was still saving myself. But the Lord revealed to me that I had been sexually immoral in the things I had watched and that I wasn't any better than anyone else; that was convicting. Maybe it was the culture I grew up in or maybe it just wasn't explained to me well enough in the Church, but I have always sort of viewed sex as bad and something that I had no interest in. It sounded scary and I discovered recently that I have a fear of my husband just wanting my body and not me. I have been trying to shake this mindset for a while but have been finding it difficult. This video completely changed my perspective. I now see why it's important for us as Believers to save ourselves for marriage, and I see why sex within marriage is a beautiful and selfless thing that joins two people together in a way that reflects how God wants to love us. I also love that you prayed before your wedding night, I think that's something that I want to do too. Thank you again for the video and for sharing what God revealed to you through your marriage. God bless!
you are both so adorable and beautiful couple, ❤❤❤ this generation needs such a good example like you. Thank you for your courage. God bless you both!!
me and my girlfriend save our selves for marriage and it helps alot one time i tested her and asked what she would do if i tried and she said id say no i said why and she said because i love you and that ment alot to me when she said that thanks for making this video its full of truth and can help alot
I’m Muslim and I don’t know how this video seem to me, but I appreciate your opinions , you say truth. Also in İslam having sex before marriage is banned from God (Allah). Because God knows what is better for us or not. God protects us from having disappointments and paints from forbidden intercourse .I hope you will guide people
I’m 28 and moving slowly with a godly woman. Marriage is still in the distance but this will be my first godly relationship after being saved from my heathen lifestyle. I LOVE the mission to wait until marriage. To be one with God and each other. But I am not a fan of potentially impregnating her in the first few times of sex. I have thoughts about iy already but significant planning needs to take place before bringing children into this world. A wonderful gift from God. But then there are questions of using protection to embrace without the fear of having a unplanned child. Very curious what the premarital counsel will say about that. But appreciate your honest transparency on this matter. I’m sure it calmed a lot of nerves.
This is something than a few people know about me, but I promised to God to be a virgin until marry since I was an adolescent. But I struggled with masturbation and p0r4 like 8 years, and a year ago I started to feel disconnected to God even going to church. So I have sex for the first time being a 33 years old woman when I knew this guy. We became boyfriend and girlfriend because he promised things that at that time I believed, and because I trusted in him thinking that he was the one even when he didn’t go to any church at the time, I agreed to give him my body, my heart, and my inner part of myself. Then, after we broke up, I understood that I was a slave of that life. I came back to church, and suddenly, having time with God and working with myself, I can say I’m free. Every day is a challenge, but I know God is with me and I feel freed since one day. So, I am feeling myself like a virgin again even when I know I’m not, because I feel like I was not myself at that time, like I was another person, and I’m rewaiting until marriage.
Do not withhold yourself from your spouse unless for an agreed time of prayer.....this is talking about natural family planning....look into it. God gave the woman's body times to achieve pregnancy and times to not achieve pregnancy. That's the beauty of NFP....constant communication with one another.....during fertile times the couple must communicate and pray if they are ready for children. NOone ever feels objectified. Builds better marriages. Healthier for the woman Just some thoughts
so what does the bible say about protection? i know it talks about not wasting your seed, which i comepletly in agreement with, however, you never really know when you can or cannot get pregnant, that is just up to your body, and God of course.
@@idk7251Actually, women have set periods when they can get pregnant. The uterus is a hostile environment for sperm and will kill them outside of these times. Most christians don’t believe in contraception.
I overcame pornography by myself, and I never was brave enough to ask for help, but I trusted in thLordrd and helped me. It's been a month and 20 days since I don't watch that kind of content even tho sexuality is everywhere I try not to look at.
We waited I’m glad we did and firsts are always awkward but it’s no big deal because you will be together forever you love each other and it’s just a new experience and can be fun and funny 😅 you just work on it together and it just gets better.
❤ Blessed, we need to teach the incoming Generation, Great Preaching, especially when TWO become ONE, theres no better DESCRIPTION. @ 63m & widowed, Ird say; Many Prayers & the Bible verse: Proverbs; 19:14, A house & wealth are inherited from fathers, but a Prudent Wife is from Lord. Keep Preaching, because you both have 1 ❤, 1 SPIRIT , 1 SOUL & 1 truly Beautiful BODY. muchlove marianbros Pt, Jsm & Jn.❤
Marriage doesn’t mean that a person won’t leave, or hurt you, or change, or disregard your heart. There are plenty of Christians who get divorced, who have loveless, careless, and meaningless marriages. Which highlights that marriage really isn’t the thing that makes the relationship good. What we actually care about-what actually makes the marriage relationship strong is the continual investing, vulnerability, and coming back. Sure, marriage is meant to sort of self enforce that, but you do not need marriage itself to have that approach and mentality to a relationship.
Thanks for having me on the channel Ally, you always carry such wisdom
So thankful to have you on here love! Your wisdom is always appreciated❤
Hmhmhm 😊 Can I just say that this is so sweet and now watching the 2nd vid of yours about this is... Healing. Like, really. (I'm tearful)
I remembered watching Gabe's little channel at the point where he was still single! I was tryna attend the breakout rooms as well. Those were my church-hunting days... I couldn't find a single place in this heretic country that had that same.... Spirit in practice which I knew I've obtained. I did finally find a logical, growing and maturing community of believers though and for that I'm very grateful. Like an oasis in the middle of *absolutely* just nowhere in the equivalent of hell.
It was September 22 last year and my birthday was on the third. I had really been struggling. Pornography, lust and everything. Even personally... I was super, super lost in life. I didn't even know what I was feeling, I'm telling you the level of brokenness even as Christian was absolutely insane. The reason was I was undiagnosed AUDHD at the time. (Autism and ADHD and probably OCD as well - after salvation)
It was then that randomly and out of desperation I cried to God that I don't want to be addicted and lost... But I'd like to give context, since I kinda just want to make sure I get full understanding.
(Years before this)
Due to neurodivergent burnout and bullying and meltdowns as a result I had dropped out of highschool early... That ruined my life but so would destroying my health by pushing through burnout with not enough rest for being chronically ill..
I had come to realize I've hardly been nurtured as a kid. Conceived out of wedlock, fatherless, kept alive (I refuse to say 'raised') by three women, my mother and aunt and grandmother. I was abused by my mother and stepdad through my adolescence in which I'm pretty sure I was suffering from manic depression (I couldn't read my Bible for 2 minutes without breaking down sobbing) - the reason was the way I hyperfixed on Christ due to how my brain works... They absolutely detested that, and I was naive and unskilled in pretty much everything. I was also isolated from everything and everyone, being out of school and very naturally unemployed and uh too broken to even think about work 😅 (Guys I didn't even understand how to cast my burdens on God or how to apply that and I was confused as heck when I randomly pulled it off... A prophetess I met helped me with the validation I needed to begin doing that effectively like 3 days ago!!)
Against all odds, I think I'm starting to make it.
So anyways on September 22 of 2023 I was approached by an old classmate back from Highschool and it turned out she was Christian. It was on Facebook. Long story short we caught up and started a romantic relationship in the end. This was after I had cried to God for help with my issues, so I actually believed it to be a Godsend for real. And she's surely Christian.... But she was also kinda lawless. I couldn't figure out what's up with her but I decided to stick it out and figure how I can help, encourage, explain... You know. She took my first kiss. We spoke openly about sex pretty soon even though I was slightly uncomfortable with the topic. I could see it's something she wanted and I tried thinking about why that was. I was tolerating a lot because I'm a particularly rigid person. Back then at her and her parent's place we had a moment which I thought was alright. Hahaha.... She was the one with her head on my lap and I was causing her to sleep, scratching her head. It seemed to me that it was affection, so I welcomed us being able to do that. Now against all my better judgement we ended up making out cuz her friends left the room. It was awkward for me because I hadn't even felt about her like that. However I refused sex even being literally and instant from being able to have it. I assumed she was just a girl in love... Looking back now I regret even that. I realized that she's not someone I'd be able to marry anytime soon... She's miraculously picked up something a lot like toxic masculinity and I figured she's probably got unmanaged BPD 😕 Even though something happened and I felt I had to promise that I would - and I promised Christ that I would since we did get intimate slightly. I'm thinking that might've been unnecessary now though.
But my main point is I know how to turn to God for strength to cope with daily things now. She came along hours after that time I cried out to God and I still don't quite understand it... But anyways she my ex now.
...... I've just been touched by all this. I really want to get back to this place of purity. I've made SO many mistakes. And I do absolutely stupid things when I have meltdowns (involuntary responses to overwhelm) which can be seen as like a seizure but mentally.
Over the last few years I've grown. I've understood my combine neurodivergence and found a community of people like me - I'm no longer alone. I've grown wise. It's the only thing I've been able to do - personal growth and pursuing truth and healing. I now have this "it's lonely at the top" kind of situation where I've grown to be more self aware than even non-disabled (neurotypical) people... I can clearly see how society's priority is materialism and success in the system and how it's no wonder the world is in such a dire state - over here people's hearts don't matter and the churches are bound to the system and the faithful and the chosen are far between. I've been suicidal, even. And that was mere days ago again. Until God intervened... Again. He stops me every.single.time.
Reeeeeeeeeee
But now I now how to cope 😁😁
Man... Yeah. Sorry about this, I just wrote a book. Nobody's gonna read this, and... I figured out I'm naturally and developmentally genderqueer. Meaning I have a feminine nature and internal gender expression and I'm a biological male. Such twistedness. But it's better to understand than be in the dark and stumble all over.
I understand God's plan now. I'm to be the light in the coming Neurodivergent Society. They are unable to blend in with the system of the world, it's a genius plan - they the disabled and oppressed and cast out and hated are perfect - biologically set apart. A group of ND Christians will be like nothing this world has seen before, I'm convinced of it. We have a permanent outsider's perspective from the inside, it's bloody excellent!
As of right now I'm trying to rebuild my life and gain independence. By the grace of God and Love Himself I see that I've caught up in maturity and now I can truely begin to grow. I think my ASD special interest which encompasses anything under the topic of life, reality and people served me well too.
.... But in all honesty I'm lusty. And that's gotta go. I see that now. Like OF COURSE I was damaged by my sin 🤦🏻♂️💥 and it needs to change asap.
All I've truely been wanting in my heart was this which you have. I wish I can share all my feelings... But they're deep and high and far and wide, like nothing I see other men have.
And as I look at you two I wonder how I came to fall so far. This is not right... And my beloved group of believers I'm a part or don't meet often enough yet and for the hope that's materialized in front of me I still feel like a severed limb in the body of Christ on Earth.
I've been yearning for a partner, I wish to marry and set things right just like you said. I have so, so much I could teach the son or especially the little girl I wanted ever since I was 19. I could be intentional, everything could be planned - I could hold a newborn child in my arms and say "welcome to the world, and the place we've prepared for you and all the things we have for you, wisdom and boundless love and all the care you will need"
Gathering wisdom has been my non-stop pursuit for years now.
I just hope it's not too late.. I'm turning 22 in a few days you know. Is everyone's story something like this? Doesn't seem like it. But I felt happy to share it here in the hopes that it'll be read 😂😂😂
😅so sorry about this. But yeah.... Guess I'ma stick around after all. Let's just see where this goes, and thank you 💖
@@Giggle.wolf_12.7 it's a lot 😂 so where are you at now?
What's your progress
@@bonaventureayi1418 Oh hey well thanks for reading that 😅
Honestly, a lot has changed, I started a small business already. I make and sell handcrafted things. I also know that my only and main happiness come from Christ and serving Him first. Out of that happiness grows my desire for a partner, really and I realised that how things currently operate in society is absolutely not something I should therefore be a part of. It may just be me but it's absolutely mentally, emotionally and very much spiritually detrimental to me. I need a permanent break from society and all its materialism... I need to live close to the earth, God and truth and close to my people. To be very honest... The only thing that will truely make me happy is if I can travel, learn and talk about Christ and God. I finally acknowledged it. I'm not looking for a workaround, I'm not going to stick around with a 9-5 or even 4-11 job, work myself to death for nothing in the end while I remain soulfully unhappy and never fulfilling my calling and purpose. I hate how society works, but I love people. Ever since I became Christian I knew I have found the power to make a difference, change people and live better, myself. I refuse to give even the slightest fraction that away and do precisely what Jesus said to not do... And He referenced us, the Gentiles! No matter what it can't be denied that this mainstream society lives as though God does not exist and I refuse to have any part in it. Not only will it rob me of the joy of my life, but in one foul swoop also my life's purpose. I can't believe people just live with this, I can't.
That line "satan will do everything he can to get you into bed BEFORE marriage. he will also do everything he can to keep you out of bed IN marriage such wisdom from the pre marriage counselor!
Or to pollute your marriage bed with perversions.
@@taylorrobinson249 Satan kept my wife out of bed on our honeymoon. That's why I left her there and flew home!!
Read the book called Love & respect by Emerson love she deserves and respect he deserves is a great book
everyone’s first time is awkward
but having your first time w someone you love and will spend the rest of your life matters more than anything
People do think it will be awkward for virgins but when you love someone it’s not gonna be that way
That’s what I’m saying. I think people just say that to shame virgins that wait for marriage
@@vibeamv859True. I think its cause people are actually jealous of the virgin for having enough self discipline and trust in Christ
I believe that too.
You guys are lucky.. You should thank God.. I wanted to stay a virgin until marriage but lost it at 27..Being a virgin as man comes with so much pressure but God should the only we should fear.. Right now am 29 am to live a pure life by keeping my thoughts pure while I pray to God for godly wife as I fix myself through the power Jesus Christ .. Pray for me guys
Praying the Rosary makes miracles happen and has personally saved me from impurity 💗 God loves you, don't give up!
@madziaw5766 you should pray directly to Jesus.. There is nowhere in the bible where we have praying with the rosary.. That is some form of idolatry
Hey, I need some help. Im a teenager living in a family that is not religious. I have decided to get into Christianity because I believe that god exists and the rules in Christianity are so good, I also celebrate Christmas. But since I don’t know anyone religious I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to pray. I only know about a few of the sins. I also don’t really know much about god and Jesus. I have tried reading the Bible but to be honest I don’t understand anything. When I pray I just improvise. I do it every night and it usually goes something like “for my daily prayer today I want to ask for a happy life and happiness for those around me. I ask for your presence in my life and your guidance to help me become a religious person. As always I want to thank you for everything you do. Sun, rain, happiness and pain. It is all thanks to you. Amen. I need all tips I can get on what to do to learn about gos and Jesus and how to pray properly.
It’s great that you are seeking God and wanting to learn more about him :) Don’t get discouraged, you will become more knowledgeable the more you study God’s word, I would suggest reading the gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John), the gospel broadcasting network has some good videos and explanations of different Christian topics if you want to check them out. Best wishes!
Here for you! Gabe made the perfect vid, explaining how to read the Bible right here:
th-cam.com/video/NTtUgIUB6aA/w-d-xo.htmlsi=9QzDvcbeLjXbJkW1
Jesus wants to be your best friend, and you are not alone.
Also, here is a vid for how to pray and talk to God: m.th-cam.com/video/6Jfib5o4ryM/w-d-xo.html
Feel free to comment any other questions you have on the vid I will be sure to get back to you!
Hey, it's great that you have the courage to go on this journey with god. My advice for you: Look in your churches around for a youth group, often you don't have to go to this church particularly. I moved from my parents house and in the last year, I experienced how important it is to have people in your age who believe in the same things. Also (if you're the type for this) look for a tutor, someone you like talking to who is a little older. It helped me a lot with my spiritual questions. And one last thing, it's not about what you do (going to church, good things...), it's about what Jesus did for you. This will result in love for others. I wish you all the best! Stay curious.
@leobyrod8307
God loves you SO MUch and wants to have a RELATIONSHIP with you. (Not so much about rules, as a relationship.) .. His Word (the Bible) definitely helps us know how to live our lives. But the biggest thing is becoming His child. He wants you in His family!!!
(God created us all, but we are not all His children. He gives us that choice.) .. Ask Him to show you the way.
Jesus said, "I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Nobody comes to the Father except through me."
.. Sin is something that comes between us and God. The Bible says, "If you confess your sins (to God), He is faithful to forgive us our sins and to CLEANSE us from all unrighteousness." 🥰
And then, you know John 3:16, probably, "For God so loved the world that He gave the only son born to Him (as a sacrifice) that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life."
And "Unless a person is born AGAIN (become a new person), they cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven." .. So we must believe and ask God to make us new and put our trust in the faithfulness of Jesus. 🥰
As a single Christian man, thank you both for sharing your story! Encourages me that someone is out there for me!
10:21 This hit me hard because my parents recently got divorced and I was afraid that I’ll be stuck in that negative pattern. I want a happy marriage more than anything and you said this. Thank you. Thank you so much. I feel hopeful and made me want to educate myself more ❤
Never seen someone even talk of guard himself for marriage in my life outside of the church.
Well these two are part of the Church. A man of God and a Woman of God is who we should strive to be
You did the right thing! Well done. God must be so happy with you two.
Thank you for sharing about this.
As a high schooler who has recently decided to wait until marriage and devote myself more to god, I can only say thank you for helping me with all these stories and making me feel like I’m not alone with my struggles.
Devote yourself completely
Devote yourself completely
I know there are other young people that live pure lives, but your testimony is a real breath of fresh air !! I appreciate you both for waiting until the proper time !! God bless you both as you live your lives together !!
At least you guys held out, many don't. Love you two!
this is so pure and beautiful, i loved that you both prayed before --- i have 2 children with my husband and 1 was with during fornication but if i were not mom yet i would say : "i'd give anything to be a virgin until marriage"
theirs one thing i know for sure! my children will be virgins on their wed night!
its set in stone cuz I have GOD on my side! halleluyah
Praise God for your ministry!
Your communication interaction is extraordinary as if you have married for 50 years. Beautiful!
You really listen to each other!
You are both blessed beyond measure! Mazel Tov!
I failed in this badly so I was absolutely adamant when I had kids I didn't want them making my mistakes. I got to walk my virgin daughter down the aisle to a Virginia boy last month. They were married at 21. Do not give in to your flesh.
Wow, that's beautiful!
Amen ❤
I call myself a born again virgin, it's been over 5 years since I slept around, this video is super encouraging thank you guys!
That’s not a thing bro lol
@@hein228 when Jesus said you must be born again and Paul saying put on the new self in Eph 4:24 it makes sense to see it in away that ur new and should wait till marriage pretty much a born again virgin it sucks u don't care to support him through his turning to wait till marriage
i agree ive been in the same boat its been 8 years im waiting for marriage it doesn't look like its changing soon but God's way is better!
@@hein228 Praying for you my friend
@@rockit7535 Not physically born again, spiritually
now granted i havent watched a ton of these wedding night videos, but this feels like the best one i have seen! The convo feels and sounds so natural. Like not awkward at all or overly "quirky/comical" if that makes sense. wow thank u guys !!
Might I just say, I'm struggling with same sex attraction. I know it's wrong and I haven't done anything with such feelings. I'm praying that I can get over it and if I can't come to love a woman, at the very least live a life of celibacy. Please pray for me so I can overcome this temptation and I know God can help me get over this 🙏
man, i'm sorry about that. i hope you never feel unworthy of God's love just because of temptation
If you like men you like men it's not wrong
it’s something i struggle with to..? or idk at this point, it feels wrong that it doesn’t feel wrong and it’s all so confusing.
@@ganyu2935 the flesh is deceiving and that's something I learned the hard way. I once found one of cousins attractive and if that isn't objectively wrong idk what is. I never did anything because I prayed for forgiveness and for help. It's so wierd how the soul is in the body yet they desire such different things. Lust is probably one of the worst things to exist because it's so easy to disguise itself as something fine just because you want to.
@@fyrex7797 how does loving one person be okay and loving another not?
“Do not withhold yourself from your spouse” 😭😭😭😭 that’s got some crazy subtext
I couldn’t stop smiling while watching the video. I am waiting for marriage and have never struggled with pornography (Thank GOD). I mostly just watched kissing scenes from k drama and Chinese dramas, but I don’t anymore, because I know it’s wrong. I’m waiting until marriage, I am 19 and I hope to meet someone who I will always love and for that someone to always love me as well. I’m always home so I know that’s not going to happen anytime soon, but it will in GOD’s time.
I'm getting married in a week and we've waited. God's right timing and best is worth the wait!! You do NOT "need practice" first. Stoked for you!
@@katherinejoy9048 Thank you. My parents had set the example for me and taught me that the right way is to wait until marriage, even for my first kiss. Heavenly Father’s time is the right time.
Shouldn't be "awkward." It should be the NORMAL.
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YES👏🥰
Anyone can learn "the moves", and I also choose abstinence as a single person. I think what's most important in a Christian romantic relationship is the mutual commitment to God and each other, that you love the other person selflessly, and that you want to make both of you happy. I think you two are spot on and I feel blinding spiritual brightness in the room as a result. God bless!
Thanks for this! This was very reassuring as a 14-year-old who has been growing up in a secular landscape and family. I have been thinking recently that I want to get married early, but that’s something that many of the people around me would judge me for. Through prayer, I’ve talked with the Lord and He has made it clear that marriage is something I should pursue in whatever relationship I enter; that I should only enter a relationship with marital intent. This video appearing was a nail in the coffin. Thank you. I am praying for you two and your future children 🙏.
Praise the Lord! We are so glad to is video helped you! God loves you so dearly. He so cherishes the way you seek His will about your life and decisions. He honors the way you honor Him. You are a light to those around you. We are praying for you and your God-given future family 🙏
@@allyandgabe That means a lot. I wish you all the best.
No one has the right to judge you for wanting to marry young.
@@andrewpatton5114 Oh, yeah? I faced that 63 years ago by my immediate family. My husband was 5 years older than me, and ready for marriage. I'm very glad I saved myself for marriage. No regrets. 🕊️🌈
You’re so wise and you made such an important decision at such a young age. May you be granted a wonderful, loving wife who you’ll be so in love with. ❤
This is something than a few people know about me, but I promised to God to be a virgin until marry since I was an adolescent. But I struggled with masturbation and p0r4 like 8 years, and a year ago I started to feel disconnected to God even going to church. So I have sex for the first time being a 33 years old when I knew this guy, and we became boyfriend and girlfriend because he promised things that at that time I believed, and because I trusted in him I agreed to give him my body, my heart, and my inner part of myself. Then, after we broke up, I understood that I was a slave of that life. I came back to church, and suddenly, having time with God and working with myself, I can say I’m free. Every day is a challenge, but I know God is with me and I feel freed since one day.
"Every sinner a future, every Saint a past" -St Augustine. If you want guidance on this Augustines book confessions is a good start. Considering it was made almost 2000 years ago the feelings and actions are just as relevant and even inspiring.
You are two incredible young people, and I wish you the best of luck and the rest of your life!!
I’ll be 42 years old next month and I must say that this warms my heart with pure joy to hear that younger generations are following Christ. I always struggled but for the first time I am genuinely ready. I’m not saying that I’m not struggling but I am fighting with my all. This is a blessing to come across your videos. May God continue to bless your beautiful family and union!
Y’all are legendary. People out there definitely need to hear this
You guys are a huge breath of fresh air. Two very wise young people! There are many videos on TH-cam on this topic, and I have to say your words, comments, and perspective regarding this is the best I’ve seen. From a woman who is older than you and still waiting for marriage someday, I thank you for this video!
I was a virgin until marriage, although my wife had been previously married. I thought I would feel guilty, but I never did! Way to go!
Previously married as in widowed, or previously married as in divorced?
Why would you feel guilty?
Watching this video is hard. I will never have this experience, I didn't have sex before marriage, but now that I am married my wife and I have struggled with a health issue that has prevented us from having sex at all.
We've been married almost 4 years now, and we've made progress. My wife is in physical therapy, and I've been patient, but the 1st night was not the beautiful experience we were expecting.
I wish I could turn back time or return to the "honeymoon" stage of the first time, but it will forever be tarnished by pain and discomfort caused by my wife's vaginismus. Now that we've become familiar and comfortable around each other, I'm afraid when we can finally have sex it won't be quite what it could have been if things had gone differently our first night.
Either way, I take comfort in knowing that I'm married to the love of my life and she is mine, and I am hers. We saved ourselves for each other and someday, we will share the closeness that sex brings that we both desperately want with each other, and I'm happy to wait however long that takes.
I believe in eternal marriage, which is a controversial belief in Christianity, but I'm overjoyed by the hope that I'll be with my wife for forever, and that in the resurrection she will be healed and we won't have this pain with us for any longer.
The sorrow I have felt because of this trial is far outweighed by the joy that comes from my Savior Jesus Christ. His atonement makes healing and forgiveness possible, so no matter what circumstances may or may not stand in the way of what your ideal "first time" was, you can find peace and wholeness in spite of the FOMO or pain caused by missing out on the "perfect" situation.
Thank you for sharing your experience. God bless you and your beautiful wife! Praying that she will be healed, in Jesus mighty name 🙏🏼
Are you LDS?
This is so tough for you both! I'm so sorry, and praying for peace and continued healing. If you haven't already, 'the great sex rescue' is a book which has some really helpful breakdowns of lies about sex which contribute to vaginismus, and has been a lot of help to people. All the best 💝🫂
@@fuzzykilla8841he’s gotta be right?
I can appreciate you two sharing these videos. My wife and I saved ourselves for marriage but no one really prepared us for sex either. There wasn't anything outside of, "Have fun, explore and use lube" Nothing about expectations, drives, accelerators & brakes, what to do for pain etc. Sex shouldn't be painful. There may be discomfort because those muscles aren't typically being used when you're saving yourself for marriage. My wife and roughly 23% of Christian women experience some form of sexual pain whether that's vaginismus or something else. No one warned us about that. There is so much more to sex in marriage than just waiting. Education and communication are vital for this area of marriage. Sex is also more than just PIV. For those of us who can't have it as of right now (Pelvic Floor PT, dilators & at-home exercises have made a huge difference) the idea that "we're not married" because we haven't had penetrative sex isn't truly helpful. My wife and I completely agree with waiting for marriage. It is absolutely the right thing to do. And we wanted to save ourselves for marriage, but not having any sort of biblical education behind what sex will be like in marriage and how to prepare for it was not helpful. There are so many great podcasts and books that my wife and I recommend to others and we are currently helping to change our old church's premarital counseling list of resources including our own Bible Study Plan. Thank you for all that you two do! God bless you two!
0:19 immediately subscribed. God bless you both. I hope you guys have a beautiful life together of love happiness and success in Jesus name❤
I waited for marriage. My husband was older and a "biker." He is living for Jesus now and has been delivered of so much!!! We've been married 31 years now and have 4 grown children.
.. GOD is faithful. .. If I ever am faced with having to date and get married again, I will once again wait (with better boundaries).
Y'all are awesome.Thank y'all so much for doing this video. It's beautiful. I was actually a teen mom twice but the LORD has restored to me all the years the locust have eaten up plus some.. so thank yall for what your doing to encourage our youth etc.
Our culture “trains” us to believe we have to be sexually “proficient” before marriage. My question is - where is it written that romance and sex have to be like it is portrayed in films or television? These influences affect us by giving us unrealistic expectations which can lead to disappointment if those expectations are not met. I taught a class about this once, and I shared with the group that these scenes that are filmed for TV and movies are written and directed to APPEAR spontaneous, but they’re not! - and there are other people in the room filming them, and the actors may be passionately kissing with a camera inches from their faces. It’s called ACTING - and we shouldn’t allow ourselves to embrace these fantasies and expect our reality to match them. I could go on and on about this. Thanks so much for being so open and candid.
What a refreshing video , God bless those two
Such a wonderful video!! So helpful especially as a young Christian :) thank you!
Can I convert into Christian
I keep all my love for my future husband
@@FATHIMANizar-gv3uxyes you can dear
You guys are so passionate about the truth,
God bless you😊
The truth has set us free🙌 God bless you🙏
I hope bro knows how lucky he is. Even in the church it is hard to find women like this
Look at his smile. I’m pretty sure he does lol
They are such a perfect couple, so in tune, you can feel their spiritual connection.
God bless you yall. We need more videos of you two teaching on the word of God and relationships..yall are amazing. Love yall ❤💪 Yall are the very definition of a power couple 💍
How beautiful are you two!? I so wish my husband and I were virgins. He was married before and I had had relationships before.
Thank you for setting an example that contrasts to most things I've heard.
I never understood when people would say things like "you have to learn how to give good sex" or "you have to learn whether your spouse is good in bed," stuff like that. Are these not things you can learn with your beloved?
As a Muslim woman after watching this video I really respect you guys and your devotion to your faith, it’s really beautiful and rare to see today 💗
Hello!
Thank you for the kind words!
Can you tell us why do you believe in Mohammed`s word rather than the Bible`s?
I love Gabe's smile when Ally is talking!!!
I’m still praying and waiting for my godly virgin wife. God willing I get on the right track and find her soon because life has tormented me greatly and a loving wife would make it all worth the pain. God bless and I’m glad it turned out for you both.
Hey Josh how are you doing today....I am Mavis from Ghana. Can we be friends please ?
😂😂good luck
God makes life worth it not a wife. Don’t put your ultimate hope for satisfaction in a wife because no woman is perfect and you will be let down. Put your ultimate hope for satisfaction in Jesus and you will find so much more joy in life and in your wife if you get married.
@@danielcurtis1288 It’s not that I want to replace God with a wife but rather that I’m “burning with passion” and stuck in a cycle of sin because I don’t see any way forward if God is trying to lead me. I know that God and our purpose fulfills us but I need a the wife God has for me so I can be free of sin and find the purpose God has for me. I’m just lost in life waiting for God to help me get free from pron. You are right but I don’t know how to have God satisfy me like you say. God bless! :)
@@joshthesmith77Let go
Thank you! How our world needs young couples like you to help our youth become Christ-centered in life's important decisions!
5:27 is when they start talking about the topic that the video is called.
OH MY GOD! THANK YOU! "God has sent you this video " that's EXACTLY what I needed to hear. I was thinking it in my head, but to have such a sign ❤ THANK YOU BOTH SO MUCH! GOD BLESS!
As a menber if the LDS church, I completely agree with this. Even if you do fall into lust and sexual sins, god is always there for you, he loves you, and he will forgive you if you sincerely repent
Did yall wear protection and is that a sin?
I also wondered about this
@@rs37_ haha I know I thought it was a sin but I searched it up and apparently its not
@@ICEDMANEsex is sex.. protected or not..
so yes It's a sin
Depends on your specific religion
It's a sin, because you don't want to have kids and it's just not giving place for god in your sexual life.
thank you so much for making this video. this really made me feel strengthened in the Lord. i have been told how crazy it is to pray together on that night and many other things as if my expectations are insane. the people around me really do not understand this line of thinking. and i was starting to feel strange about it. this really boosted my hope in God for better. thank you thank you.
Great video, thanks for your humanity and kindness!!! God bless you! Greetings from an Argentine Roman Catholic
FINALLY I found a true devoted Christian. appreciated to both of you.
Thank you for this @Ally Poirot it made me realise that so many other people have gone through this as well and stepping out of your comfort zone to talk about your struggles is admirable . God bless you ❤
Wow. Very inspiring. The world needs more ppl like you guys!!! You keep the world normal!
I live in Spain and people here don't wait until marriage but I want to and I want to find a man of God who will wait with me but I'm scared I won't find one here and I won't ever marry and have a family. I'm still young (18) but it's a huge concern for me when I think about the future
Look into the LDS church, plenty of young men who want to wait. ❤
WOW, very eye opening message!
As a Muslim I can relate and I’m 28. Good on you guys 👏🏼
I think everyone has been caught up in curiosity of sex because we’re not taught enough growing up about the godly part of sexuality
And that is the fault of parents, not taking their responsibility for their children seriously.
This video was just so good to watch! It really gave a positive picture of sex. Trust me, it is important how you talk about sex to virgins, cause we can only build our thoughts and impressions about it on what we hear from other people, not own experience. You managed to put it in an attractive way. I love how you could talk about it as something good and attractive without getting into grafic details.
God bless you! You are dealing with most needed subject for young people at this age. Thank you. May God use you to reach many many young people.
I am so glad I found you guys! This is so encouraging and insightful. Thank you so much!
Praise God for your decision, God bless you both!!!! ❤️
Thank you for really being genuine about y’all’s experience. I’m so happy for you guys! 😁💙
Beautiful testimony Gabe and Ally, thank you for sharing! God bless you and your marriage 🙏🏼🩷
This is so beautiful, thank you for sharing!!!
I remember being so grateful there was no one else and sharing ths experience was only with my husband. And falling asleep next to my husband. Waiting was definitely worth it.
This is so beautiful!
Waiting for marriage
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Amazing video. May for bless both of you…
God bless you🙏
😊 it’s great to see many people do this. Sex is marriage and holding on to the faith by working it out in obedience is top notch. 😊I’ve got a lot to take home. Thank you ❤
I think God is trying to tell me something cause this video has showed up 10 times on my fyp
I’m a new sub! I’m definitely going to go to your channel for wisdom and advice. I’d consider last year/my past kind of rough. I’ve lost my virginity to a girl and definitely kissed a lot of people. I want to start over because i don’t want to be identified from that. Can i start clean and reset that all?
Thank you so much for this video, I really needed this.
I also struggled with pornography when I was younger and it totally deprived me of my innocence and will be something I'll always regret. But I also have a similar story where God delivered me from it and the temptation pretty much left me altogether. Years later I felt the conviction to tell my parents what had happened to me, even though I wasn't in that place anymore, and I can relate in saying that it was one of the most freeing experiences of my life, even though it was also one of the scariest.
Not too long ago I had a dream where I was sexually immoral before marriage and I woke up in a state of self-righteousness because I realized that I was still saving myself. But the Lord revealed to me that I had been sexually immoral in the things I had watched and that I wasn't any better than anyone else; that was convicting.
Maybe it was the culture I grew up in or maybe it just wasn't explained to me well enough in the Church, but I have always sort of viewed sex as bad and something that I had no interest in. It sounded scary and I discovered recently that I have a fear of my husband just wanting my body and not me. I have been trying to shake this mindset for a while but have been finding it difficult.
This video completely changed my perspective. I now see why it's important for us as Believers to save ourselves for marriage, and I see why sex within marriage is a beautiful and selfless thing that joins two people together in a way that reflects how God wants to love us. I also love that you prayed before your wedding night, I think that's something that I want to do too.
Thank you again for the video and for sharing what God revealed to you through your marriage. God bless!
Danke!
Thank you so much for this it really did help me and change the way I think.
Hardest part is finding a partner with the same goal in mind.
We need more people like you guys ❤
you are both so adorable and beautiful couple, ❤❤❤ this generation needs such a good example like you. Thank you for your courage. God bless you both!!
me and my girlfriend save our selves for marriage and it helps alot one time i tested her and asked what she would do if i tried and she said id say no i said why and she said because i love you and that ment alot to me when she said that thanks for making this video its full of truth and can help alot
You are so inspiring! Thank you for sharing!😊
I love your message about deciding to follow Jesus Christ including keeping his commandments today. ❤
I'm a religious Jew and I 100% agree with all u said at the beginning of the video!
Congrats Brock Purdy🔥🔥
I’m Muslim and I don’t know how this video seem to me, but I appreciate your opinions , you say truth. Also in İslam having sex before marriage is banned from God (Allah). Because God knows what is better for us or not. God protects us from having disappointments and paints from forbidden intercourse .I hope you will guide people
I’m 28 and moving slowly with a godly woman. Marriage is still in the distance but this will be my first godly relationship after being saved from my heathen lifestyle. I LOVE the mission to wait until marriage. To be one with God and each other. But I am not a fan of potentially impregnating her in the first few times of sex. I have thoughts about iy already but significant planning needs to take place before bringing children into this world. A wonderful gift from God. But then there are questions of using protection to embrace without the fear of having a unplanned child. Very curious what the premarital counsel will say about that. But appreciate your honest transparency on this matter. I’m sure it calmed a lot of nerves.
This is something than a few people know about me, but I promised to God to be a virgin until marry since I was an adolescent. But I struggled with masturbation and p0r4 like 8 years, and a year ago I started to feel disconnected to God even going to church. So I have sex for the first time being a 33 years old woman when I knew this guy. We became boyfriend and girlfriend because he promised things that at that time I believed, and because I trusted in him thinking that he was the one even when he didn’t go to any church at the time, I agreed to give him my body, my heart, and my inner part of myself. Then, after we broke up, I understood that I was a slave of that life. I came back to church, and suddenly, having time with God and working with myself, I can say I’m free. Every day is a challenge, but I know God is with me and I feel freed since one day. So, I am feeling myself like a virgin again even when I know I’m not, because I feel like I was not myself at that time, like I was another person, and I’m rewaiting until marriage.
Do not withhold yourself from your spouse unless for an agreed time of prayer.....this is talking about natural family planning....look into it. God gave the woman's body times to achieve pregnancy and times to not achieve pregnancy. That's the beauty of NFP....constant communication with one another.....during fertile times the couple must communicate and pray if they are ready for children. NOone ever feels objectified. Builds better marriages. Healthier for the woman Just some thoughts
so what does the bible say about protection? i know it talks about not wasting your seed, which i comepletly in agreement with, however, you never really know when you can or cannot get pregnant, that is just up to your body, and God of course.
@@idk7251Actually, women have set periods when they can get pregnant. The uterus is a hostile environment for sperm and will kill them outside of these times.
Most christians don’t believe in contraception.
I overcame pornography by myself, and I never was brave enough to ask for help, but I trusted in thLordrd and helped me. It's been a month and 20 days since I don't watch that kind of content even tho sexuality is everywhere I try not to look at.
Continue to keep your guard up friend. The devil attacks when you least expect it
We waited I’m glad we did and firsts are always awkward but it’s no big deal because you will be together forever you love each other and it’s just a new experience and can be fun and funny 😅 you just work on it together and it just gets better.
Another great video❤
It should be noted that being one is not exactly the same as being equal, equality is a part of oneness.
Thanks for sharing your experience!
❤ Blessed, we need to teach the incoming Generation, Great Preaching, especially when TWO become ONE, theres no better DESCRIPTION. @ 63m & widowed, Ird say; Many Prayers & the Bible verse: Proverbs; 19:14, A house & wealth are inherited from fathers, but a Prudent Wife is from Lord.
Keep Preaching, because you both have 1 ❤, 1 SPIRIT , 1 SOUL & 1 truly Beautiful BODY.
muchlove marianbros Pt, Jsm & Jn.❤
A yoke is a wooden staff that binds two oxen together. A man's "wood" is what literally binds a woman to be his wife.
This is amazing 😍
Marriage doesn’t mean that a person won’t leave, or hurt you, or change, or disregard your heart. There are plenty of Christians who get divorced, who have loveless, careless, and meaningless marriages. Which highlights that marriage really isn’t the thing that makes the relationship good. What we actually care about-what actually makes the marriage relationship strong is the continual investing, vulnerability, and coming back. Sure, marriage is meant to sort of self enforce that, but you do not need marriage itself to have that approach and mentality to a relationship.
3:13 same curiosity that got Adam and eve