DO's and DON'Ts of DEPLOYMENT COMMUNICATION

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  • Communicating while on deployment is tough. We must learn how to communicate properly. Learn things we should and should not say. And learn how to talk if a confrontation arises. Here are some tips for deployment communication. I also added in OPSEC rules!
    One thing I didn't mention is play some sort of game while writing letters or emailing to stay connected! those are fun and will having you EVEN MORE excited for when the next letter comes(:
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  • @vladamirnotmyname1828
    @vladamirnotmyname1828 6 ปีที่แล้ว +203

    Pro-tip: Don't say you're starting to feel distant. This will cause him to think you don't want to be with him anymore. That is my 2 cents. Take it for what it's worth.

  • @peepeepoopoo7182
    @peepeepoopoo7182 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    i’m scared for my boyfriends deployment but I support him and what he does, i know it gets lonely a lot but remembering that your spouse loves you more than anything is really important and don’t let them being gone set you back

  • @lexiebernal5713
    @lexiebernal5713 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    going on my 3rd deployment and I didn't even think about the geo-location on pictures! good tip!!!

  • @brib9015
    @brib9015 6 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    My boyfriend is deploying for a year and this is my first deployment and I can't express how scared I am but this video actually helped a lot in trying to prepare for this! Thank you!

    • @brittany136
      @brittany136 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bri B Just dropped my boyfriend off this morning for a 400 day deployment. How are you doing?

    • @helenagutierrez2306
      @helenagutierrez2306 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bri B when does he leave? I’m so glad this is a somewhat recent comment. My boyfriend just left this August and he’s leaving for 13 months...

    • @brittany136
      @brittany136 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@helenagutierrez2306 My boyfriend is over seas right now. I'm doing okay I suppose. Everyone is still adjusting.
      How are you?

    • @natishascott2041
      @natishascott2041 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Jesus I would die if he leaves longer than 6-8 month

    • @pride-8009
      @pride-8009 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@brittany136 How did things end up going?

  • @von-marieoliva4827
    @von-marieoliva4827 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Regarding feelings: I totally needed confirmation about being able to talk about how I feel right now! I've been so fearful about opening up and thought telling him was showing him I couldn't be strong enough to endure this..so thanks for explaining that

  • @jessishaw2500
    @jessishaw2500 6 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    This channel is exactly what iv been looking for

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yay! Glad you found it!💛

  • @mariahap7306
    @mariahap7306 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is my 2nd deployment with my husband. All the stuff you have said is so accurate. Thank you for making this video for everyone else ❤

  • @jeffburnham6611
    @jeffburnham6611 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    There is a reason why OPSEC is so important. It may seem like harmless info, but little bits of info from numerous sources often will give enemy agents of foreign countries the name of the unit, the length of deployment, the strength of the unit, the destination of the unit, and the reason for deployment. Also, its considered a violation of the UCMJ to discuss anything regarding unit deployments.

  • @aienjamir89
    @aienjamir89 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I very much needed this one about the feelings... thanks..

  • @chistinekamler210
    @chistinekamler210 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thankyou for sharing your videos on commuications opsec rules and the recalation for being careful with leave messages on his phone

  • @Alexys808
    @Alexys808 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was so helpful! My bf is currently away for work and I’ve never had this conversation with him yet. Thank you!

  • @Lashedwithanna
    @Lashedwithanna 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Omg I had no idea that you had to be so private with the info . I’m happy I haven’t said anything but you affirming it saved me the possibilities!

  • @oliviahartman4281
    @oliviahartman4281 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    All your videos are very helpful! I just found out about my boyfriends deployment and it really hit me hard! These videos gave me faith that everything will be okay!

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yay! Glad these are helping. Don't think about it until time gets closer. Enjoy your time together and you can do it!💕

  • @corinnemast13
    @corinnemast13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    These videos have been super helpful my boyfriend has just started his training for the military and it’s all really new to me and has caused a lot of emotional turmoil over the last two weeks trying to adjust, that you for sharing the part about feeling too because that’s always what I’m most worried about I’m really verbal about how I feel but I didn’t want to feel like I’m piling stuff on him. He will go on deployment next year and I want to make sure we’re ready.

    • @yeliflores565
      @yeliflores565 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      corinne mast I feel mine just left for training a couple days ago. It’s super hard. Prayers/good wishes that all goes well for you guys!

  • @Theredheadguru
    @Theredheadguru 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This really helped especially the part about lack of communication and arguments! Thanks for the tips 😊

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      No problem! Glad it helped(:

  • @Theredheadguru
    @Theredheadguru 7 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Yay she did my request 😊

    • @linzsweezy3204
      @linzsweezy3204 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you it has been so helpful i have been with my boyfriend for a month

  • @viancanunez2483
    @viancanunez2483 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This video helped put my mind at ease. My boyfriend is also in the Navy and is getting deployed and it’s going to be our first one as a couple so we don’t know what that’s going to be like. Thank you so much for the tips!

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad I could help. You've got this💕

  • @alineirakoze-dior
    @alineirakoze-dior 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow idk if this is a coincidence or not but the way these kind of videos keep popping up on my recommendations is wild bc I kind of know this guy - my friends brother who is deployed and I love these tips💕

  • @jennifermelendez3446
    @jennifermelendez3446 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This helps a lot thank you

  • @crazykitten4845
    @crazykitten4845 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My love is deployed for the next 3 years but I can't wait to see him 🖤 hopefully I will actually be able to go visit him before then but we will see 🥰 either way I pray that he stays safe and comfortable

  • @nicoleivy8356
    @nicoleivy8356 5 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    We’re you ever nervous or scared that one or both of you would be different when they came back?

    • @exmrsnowwomanscorned8369
      @exmrsnowwomanscorned8369 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I needed an answer to this..help..😭

    • @jazs2300
      @jazs2300 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Did you ever find out through personal experience (since it’s a year later after this comment was made)?

    • @braedenfaust8779
      @braedenfaust8779 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      No my brother just went overseas and I’m really nervous that we will be completely different when he comes home

    • @jazs2300
      @jazs2300 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@braedenfaust8779 did he change after boot camp?

    • @nicoleivy8356
      @nicoleivy8356 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I found through personal experience since this comment! He got back and dumped me for his step sister!

  • @rosshaslett362
    @rosshaslett362 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    you are so right

  • @mimisvida6264
    @mimisvida6264 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great info. My bae is scheduled to come back until October 2017. Which is forever to me.

  • @justmerosie1349
    @justmerosie1349 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Britt! Thank you for making these videos.
    I Think you're Awesome 💞💝

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you! 😊Glad you like my videos!

    • @justmerosie1349
      @justmerosie1349 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      My name is Rosie! I Will be writing to you soon. Ty 💞

  • @emilyspencer5738
    @emilyspencer5738 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is really helpful thank you for posting this and the other videos they are so helpful

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      No problem! Glad they help(:

  • @magalyquinones3424
    @magalyquinones3424 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Brit I love your video cause it has educational for me

  • @marthaarlenesanchez3316
    @marthaarlenesanchez3316 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    missing my husband a little extra today :( thank you for your tips! 🤍

  • @lanettacoppins685
    @lanettacoppins685 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for the info

  • @A02army
    @A02army 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    you absolutely need to talk about death if your husband is going to somewhere that death is an actual concern. He should have a will and maybe a list of things you need from him I.E my wife does not want my clothes washed after I die that is in my will. Because if your significant other dies they wash all of his stuff. And my wife wants something that “smells” like me. I don’t know why but I respect that. I stumbled upon this and I get the vibe this is your first deployment?

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I think maybe this was misinterpreted. And I should have been more clear. Wills, etc. definitely need to be discussed before deployment. I was mainly talking about the death of family members, other bad news. The point was to go through the red cross/the chain of command for anything relating to death that isn't about you or him. Thanks for making this clear in the comments though for others who may have this question!

    • @A02army
      @A02army 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ok I gotcha sorry if I came off a little overzealous. Keep having fun blogging away!

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No problem! Thanks!

  • @emilycochran2297
    @emilycochran2297 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you so much for making this. I’m so nervous for my boyfriend’s first deployment 😬

    • @mimicuadra1604
      @mimicuadra1604 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I ask if the Deployment duty can't video call him?thnks

    • @maryloudaria3007
      @maryloudaria3007 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I ask same question cant video call?

  • @sumandalal2175
    @sumandalal2175 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    i love ur vedios helped me a lot

  • @tashacook2451
    @tashacook2451 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks so much

  • @MikeandJess
    @MikeandJess 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks for the vid! Going on our first deployment with my fiancé

  • @Shae6utter
    @Shae6utter 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    It sucks im pregnant every time my husband deploys it’s so hard 😭.

    • @meganrasey4377
      @meganrasey4377 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I had our 3rd baby by myself this deployment. So hard. Praying for you!

  • @michellekabiling5369
    @michellekabiling5369 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you

  • @HeyLisaKay
    @HeyLisaKay 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This helped so much! My husband is deployed & the communication has been awful & we still got 6ish more months to go 😥

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh no! Hope things get better! Glad I could help!

    • @elledove6031
      @elledove6031 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      😔 aww how long do you usually wait in order to communicate with him again?

  • @popeyethesailorboy8905
    @popeyethesailorboy8905 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Her intro pumps me up and makes me laugh so much lmao

  • @shirleyc9122
    @shirleyc9122 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What if I screenshot the photo would that change the location to where I screenshot it?

  • @kayleenestrada3836
    @kayleenestrada3836 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Sarah_1123.
    @Sarah_1123. 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What kind of code? We had an idea but I think it’s kinda basic so any suggestions would be very helpful!

  • @devorahfriedlander9139
    @devorahfriedlander9139 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Brit, love your videos! Quick question, how does your husband tell you he is coming home? Is it through a phone conversation or do you use a code? Thanks

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Devorah Friedlander Yes! He tells me in code! It can be phone or email but it always has to be in code.

    • @devorahfriedlander9139
      @devorahfriedlander9139 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Brit+Con So interesting! I never knew that.

  • @The_don_barbie
    @The_don_barbie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    It hasn’t been a week yet and it’s crazy bcs I’m not clingy but omg this is hard😭😭😭

    • @babyblinkrose8938
      @babyblinkrose8938 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amoré Baskin same here 😭😭been a month without hearing and seeing my partner

  • @wilbertriceboduo6572
    @wilbertriceboduo6572 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Do you have a business or “fan email” we can reach you at for advice?

  • @sha9269
    @sha9269 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    As a newbie, this does jack for me. No location... GOT IT! NEXT

  • @samthomas8801
    @samthomas8801 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I'm seeing my boyfriend next weekend to see him graduate from navy basic training. What should I expect and prepare for when he leaves for advanced training?

    • @shadysound6456
      @shadysound6456 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Sam Thomas My soldier just got done with basic this past weekend. He is in the ARMY so I am unsure if things are necessarily the same. What I do know, however, is that they'll have access to their technology. This means phonecalls, video calls, and emails. Don't expect to get one every single day. They are studying, working out, etc. in order to prepare themselves to both graduate and deploy. It'll be super tough not being able to touch them or go on date nights but the communication you get is so much better than you got at basic. Keep your chin up and make sure you ask plenty of questions to engage a conversation talking about him and your feelings.

    • @shadysound6456
      @shadysound6456 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Oh, and don't text them all the time. I usually send him a cute good morning but leaving him 20 messages a day is a little much. Believe me, I want to send him everything so I understand. And, unlike basic, you can send them small packages. Make sure they meet the guidelines (look up dos and don'ts). In general, I send him my favorite books with little notes inside. He tells me when he's done and I'll send him another. We also send each other cool songs we found so the other person can listen. You can make it fun just keep in mind how busy and dedicated they are. :)

    • @samthomas8801
      @samthomas8801 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you so much this was incredibly helpful!!! :)

    • @shadysound6456
      @shadysound6456 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm so glad I could help!! It'll be tough but so worth it for the one you love!

    • @samthomas8801
      @samthomas8801 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yeah it's hard but then I remind myself that it'll be worth it!!

  • @courtneyg.6485
    @courtneyg.6485 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    So does it depend on where they go if they can have phones right? First time deployment and dating a military guy. I'm nervous.

  • @aprilmurzo1149
    @aprilmurzo1149 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    When they are deployed, do they use GMAIL emails when sending business email to their family or loved ones?

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They can, but usually it’s a military email!

    • @aprilmurzo1149
      @aprilmurzo1149 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Brit+Con Thank you! :)

  • @tymiracle4093
    @tymiracle4093 ปีที่แล้ว

    What's the song in the intro called? It's catchy

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I believe it’s Higher by Unspoken!

  • @jordangalloway6605
    @jordangalloway6605 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Who thumbed down this video!?

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Right! 😒

  • @charasmarieplans5889
    @charasmarieplans5889 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m getting couple red flags first he wants me to send him money I m trying so hard to avoid it and 2nd I ask him if I could send him a care package and he said oh I have everything I need like ok buddy I also meant him online...
    He also told me this will be his last deployment and he’s done...
    I already told him I will be waiting for him to come back to see if there’s anything there who knows with him... he also said his wife died and his mom is taking care of his kid I’m so confused 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @Amy-fg6in
      @Amy-fg6in 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Charasmarie Plans do you know him in real life? It sounds like a scammer. They don't need money, at all. My husband is deploying soon and they get paid, their food there is free. Sometimes people from different countries will scam women for money claiming they're "deployed" and they're not, at all. Feel free to message me on Instagram if you have one. Mine is xo.AmySarah.xo

    • @Amy-fg6in
      @Amy-fg6in 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Also these men are not in the military or American. It's just a scam for money. Don't ever send money please!

    • @deshongray
      @deshongray 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Amy-fg6in help!!

    • @shortnik11
      @shortnik11 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I met one online. Never asked me for money but I can’t call her only messages.

    • @maryhemz671
      @maryhemz671 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shortnik11 Yes me too what does that mean? It's a scam help lol.

  • @Kaylae864
    @Kaylae864 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just watch it I grow up in the Military from my dad in the Air Force and now my husband in the Army

  • @taylorodell7444
    @taylorodell7444 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I will be a military wife in the next year or so.
    I just want to know how do you find out when they come back from deployment? Does your spouse tell you or?

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes, my husband told me. Usually, within a month he will know and also the FRG will have a meeting to tell everyone when they come home.

    • @taylorodell7444
      @taylorodell7444 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Brit+Con awesome! Your videos are really helping me with what to expect and how to prepare for my loved one being away!

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good! Glad I can help 😃

  • @brittany136
    @brittany136 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I just dropped my boyfriend off this morning for a 400 day deployment. This is our first deployment 🙁

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You got this! Really encourage you to go through my deployment series. You are not alone ❤️

    • @meganrasey4377
      @meganrasey4377 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Our 400 days is finally on down slope. It's hard but you're amazing. Grace on grace with grace sauce for yourself, every day, every minute!

  • @cenexes12
    @cenexes12 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    if your man is overseas fighting in a combat zone the best thing you can do is bottle that shit up and keep it to yourself and not cause him to be stressed out about your shit cause a fucked up cluttered mind in a combat area will lead to him getting injured or killed due to you stressing him out and taking him off his focus. Ladies if you have a problem and are angry then get into a fight with you family or friends but due not put your loved one in harms way by making them mentally unstable and unfocused because they are worried about your problems

  • @rochebingco8159
    @rochebingco8159 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    hi guys.. I'm just want to ask.. I meet only him on dating site..and he told if he want me to meet him. I should apply a form for his deployment,but said I need to pay for his form..someone can say if it is true or not..please guys thanks

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      th-cam.com/video/SjuSVfTNgRE/w-d-xo.html watch this video and read some of the comments. Bottom line. Service members will never ask for money if they are real. They are lying to get money.

    • @rochebingco8159
      @rochebingco8159 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Brit+Con hi its me again..its means he was a fake USA army,coz he said I need to pay his form for deployment,so I don't need to believe him,but he really said he was not a fake

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Roche Bingco I would just end communication with him. He's not a good guy.

    • @rochebingco8159
      @rochebingco8159 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Brit+Con OK thanks

    • @jeahbrings1300
      @jeahbrings1300 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      can i ask bout transit form girl needed pay wroth of 200 dollars for deployment

  • @MakaykayLAMB
    @MakaykayLAMB 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wish I'd of watched this video before. Lmao.