I, too, have these types of days with my 4 y/o ASD boy. I have no one to turn to during the rough days so I turn to channels like yours. I very much appreciate your positive videos as they help me recuperate my emotions so I can think more clearly in the present moment. Thank you for posting such an authentic video of your hardships while sharing what you've learned in the process. All of your videos help me which help my child have a mentally healthier and happier mother. I hope these rough days become fewer and far between for the lot of us as our children become older. ♥
I’m so sorry you had a hard day! Do not listen to that voice telling you that you’re not doing enough. You don’t have to have all the answers all the time. Dexter is managing being a toddler and navigating building communication skills and it’s a learning process for the both of you. I think you are doing such an amazing job. Thank you for showing the realistic journey that not everything is rainbows and sunshine all the time but what matters is growth and positivity that comes from those situations. You are totally entitled to feel your emotions and i I admire how you’ve acknowledged them, felt them, and then moved on from it! You are truly an inspiration. Thank you as always for sharing ❤️
Came across your videos looking to help a friend. My son is on the spectrum he is 8 years old. He was also nonverbal until he was 4 years old. We live in South Africa Thank you for sharing your life and emotions. I remember those hard days and how I lived in overwhelm trying my best to also be positive and understand my son. This video even made me cry a bit. You’re amazing. These are so great to look back on for your own memories and at the great future you creating together.
You're a great mom. It is hard and it is sad seeing them going through life like they do. Keep your head up and just be there for Dexter. We all have bad days. This is just a bump in the road. Things will get better. He will have better days. We are out here for your support just like you are out there trying to educate us. You are not alone. Stay Strong and be proud of yourself for everything you do.
So many of us in different boats navigating different regions of the same ocean. There are truly no tools to help... only time will tell where we end up and it is truly almost UNBEARABLE at times. Strength, patience and forgiveness. Stay strong and get back up when the waves knock you about. Be patient with yourself first and foremost, and with your child. Forgive yourself. These are the lessons I am learning during my autism journey in my son and my 3rd year. Maybe it sounds selfish. Maybe it is. I am his primary caregiver and I need to be at my best to give him my best. I am so sorry to see you hurting. You are not alone.
I love you.. your channel change my mind about autism and the diagnosis, we all are going through these days with our kids.. don't blame yourself STAY STRONG.. we can't be a "normal family" I accepted that.
We have recently noticed our son (3, prediagnosis) is getting frustrated more and more when we don't immediately understand his non-verbal communication (he's a hand-leader/physical communication type). I so understand your tears and frustration and sadness - and Dexter's too. I see it in my son, and I see your words in myself as well. It can be incredibly overwhelming to attempt to communicate with our children when they don't use the forms of communications that we are used to. And for them, as well - it must be so incredibly difficult and frustrating trying to communicate when people don't understand you. Sending hugs your way - we all have those days. x
My 2.5 year old daughter is the same as your son. What did you do about the diagnosing process? We are in very early stages of inveatigation MRI's, EEG's, and hearing tests. All since December. Xx
I love your channel so much. My almost 4 year old is a lot like Dexter and I just relate a lot to what you say. We had our son diagnosed at 3 as well. It’s so nice to hear you put much of my experience into words. You’re doing a wonderful job! Meltdown days are the worst but as you said they are isolated! So much joy to be had on this journey.
My daughter has aspergers these outbursts happen frequently for us. The worst thing about it can be the reactions you get from members of the public, in that moment you can feel alone in your struggles but your not alone stay strong x
Everybody has a hard day even so called normal people. Your approach is correct do not be hard on yourself. That moment will pass yes do not dwell over it a d end with a happy treat ...well done!!! Reflecting on happy times is the best advice
Thank you so much for sharing this! So many of us can relate to these types of days with our kids, especially if they have a hard time communicating. You are an amazing mother and you are doing a phenomenal job with Dexter! I personally love that you have a positive approach towards what he will be able to achieve. I was recently given the advice that I should not put limitations on what my son (who is autistic and non verbal) will be able to accomplish because there is no way of really knowing what the future will bring. I do not think there is anything wrong with being both realistic and hopeful:)
So helpful knowing that there are difficult days even for the best of parents but to keep it in perspective...things are always ongoing and changing as our children are growing and meeting new challenges...but they are so worth it and you are an Inspiration! 💛
Stay strong and positive!! It’s hard but we as moms need to figure out what works best with our son and sometime it’s very challenging and tough on us as parents
You are a fantastic mum ! You inspire me so much and bring me out of my bad place. My son is in the limbo stage and I struggle more often than not on a daily basis but we will all get through this together - thank you for these videos and for being so real and raw - it must be so difficult for you to do ❤️
I understand you, please don’t give up you don’t know but your videos give the strength to keep going with my daughter I was really bad and your videos encourage me so much !! 💕
Ignore all judgmental comments, unless they are in this situation themselves they can't comment. Your doing a great job. My 3 year old is still yet to be diagnosed but we struggle with communication daily and it's frustrating for us and for them but we try and do our best for them. Don't ever think of yourself as a failure your doing an amazing job xx
Thank you so very much for your transparency with this my three year old just recieved a diagnosis and I'm struggling immensely and trying to find out everything I can and this is so helpful. ❤
*BIG HUGS* to you and Dexter. I can totally relate to your hard day. Each day is different and unpredictable. Chin up as you are an incredible Mum to Dexter. I can't thank you enough for sharing your daily life with us. It makes me feel like I am not alone as some days are really tough with my 7yrs old severely autistic son who displays very very similar traits to your son. Your clips give me hope. Lots of ♥️, Isa from Sydney, Australia 🙂
You don't know how much I needed this video. This is what exactly what happened with me last night...and I totally understand your situation. It is hard. It is hard. I can just say one thing, stay strong, very strong.
I really understand how that could be although my son could communicate more. The behaviour I used to be up against and he was strong and he would pull out my hair and punch me. Don’t listen to people that don’t help you or are negative towards you . Remember there are other people out there that care which Is why most people follow you. Some days they just reach the limit and it’s wise to let them watch tv 📺. The challenges are difficult but some are just amazing . Take care X
U made me break down tears because I totally feel wat ur feeling it’s very hard as a mom of 4 kiddos all under 5 years and my oldest was diagnosed with Trisomy18 wich affects her speech and overall development still does not walk and my 4 year old who was diagnosed with Austim as to seeing other family members with kids her age they talk and play with other they interact as a typical 4 year and hear I am at Bday parties taking my daughter out of the party before they start singing the happy bday song because she will start cryin her head off the looks of ppl who don’t understand her all eyes on us it’s very hard specially wen we feel so isolated as mamas and now I think my almost 2year is getting evaluated for autism aswell because she still does not say one word no mom or dad or bottle so it’s tough bt as long as we do all that we can and focus on the great and thrivin things our kiddos do we got this mama !!
Wow, I think your approach and attitude towards autism is amazing. This is my first time watching your channel, but I really love your honest, but insightful perspective!
Just want to say I think you're amazing and so constructive. Dexter is as lucky to have you as you are to have him. We have bad days too but you have helped changed my mindset enormously - forever grateful to you : )
Sending you all the love in the world and thanks for sharing the good, the hard and the in between. My daughter is almost three and we’ve referred for a final autism assessment to access services on the NDIS to help our daughter and us to support and nurture her. While every child is different, so much of you share about dexter is copy and paste with Eve. Thank you so much for sharing 😊
Thank you for this one as well! As hard as things can be some days, parents should always want their kids to hear them say good things about their kids.
If anyone has followed your journey like I have they will know how real you and your family are. Thanks for an amazing video. I feel this all the time and makes me feel like I don't want to go out with the kids just in case my daughter has a meltdown. You have given some great advice that I will definitely try 👍
Hi I'm autistic too and watching this video helped me offer dealing mechanisms to my partner when I'm having a meltdown and what do do after. I would have been easily if you summarised your points at the end so I could have seen them together, I had to go back through the video and pause it to write each thing down that you wrote on your video. It's just a thought if anyone else would have liked to write them down too. I don't have a great memory so if I write them down I can reread until hopefully they will sink in. Thank you I really liked the video I think your methods are transferable to adults with autism too.
I have a 2 year old and we have days like that all the time! My son was non verbal until 21 months and I took away all the screen time. It was very hard for him and me for about a week, but he started to communicate and be interested in his surroundings and other people within a couple of weeks, he also stopped the hand movements, we still have a long way to go but he’s in speech therapy now. But taking away ipad made a world of difference for him. I’m always trying to read research articles about what can help. Hugs and prayers your way! You are such a great mom!
Sorry you are struggling! I feel the same way sometimes. Given that Dexter spells and reads so well, could he eventually learn to write his thoughts to you? That would be wonderful.
This sounds like my whole life daily tbh. I’m now wondering what I’m doing wrong as to why this isn’t just a bad day but ‘normal’ for us. And my son is verbal too. Not brilliant, most echolalia but can talk. But he’s a very angry little boy and I get beaten daily 😔
thank you for sharing your story! my son was recently diagnosed he is 5! I always knew things were different for him but like you did not understand some eraly signs! I can relate to those bad day feelings and hope the best for you and your family!
Better diet, gut healing and detoxing "things" which supposedly help prevent disease have been helping bring my 2 year old back slowly. Its never too late
I'm just curious, how do you know that your son is reading since he is nonverbal? My son is nonverbal and I see him flip through pages in a book but because he does not say words how would I know if he is actually reading?
Idk, but I'm the full time caregiver for my 3 yo autistic grandson & he likes to watch Blippi. We were walking and out of the blue, he said b l i p p i. I was shocked that he had spelled these letters out of the blue. But was curious if he understood the relation of those letters so I said, B L I P P I? Who's that? And he said Blippi in a sing songy voice! I was really shocked & surprised. Now he will say letters he knows (only if he wants to), he'll count forward & backwards (only when he wants to) and other than that is very nonverbal. He tells me what he wants by staring at something. Sometimes I wonder if he thinks he ended up with a defective, nontelepathic grammie cuz I get this feeling things would be much smoother between us if I had that skill. It seems like he has the skill & I dont. (edited to remove accidental underscrore)
I have The Nemechek Protocol book and my 3 YO non verbal son has been on NP for 6 months now (very diligently)...still waiting to hear first word. I'm giving it a year 🤞
I, too, have these types of days with my 4 y/o ASD boy. I have no one to turn to during the rough days so I turn to channels like yours. I very much appreciate your positive videos as they help me recuperate my emotions so I can think more clearly in the present moment. Thank you for posting such an authentic video of your hardships while sharing what you've learned in the process. All of your videos help me which help my child have a mentally healthier and happier mother. I hope these rough days become fewer and far between for the lot of us as our children become older. ♥
I’m so sorry you had a hard day! Do not listen to that voice telling you that you’re not doing enough. You don’t have to have all the answers all the time. Dexter is managing being a toddler and navigating building communication skills and it’s a learning process for the both of you. I think you are doing such an amazing job. Thank you for showing the realistic journey that not everything is rainbows and sunshine all the time but what matters is growth and positivity that comes from those situations. You are totally entitled to feel your emotions and i I admire how you’ve acknowledged them, felt them, and then moved on from it! You are truly an inspiration. Thank you as always for sharing ❤️
Came across your videos looking to help a friend. My son is on the spectrum he is 8 years old. He was also nonverbal until he was 4 years old. We live in South Africa Thank you for sharing your life and emotions. I remember those hard days and how I lived in overwhelm trying my best to also be positive and understand my son. This video even made me cry a bit. You’re amazing.
These are so great to look back on for your own memories and at the great future you creating together.
You're a great mom. It is hard and it is sad seeing them going through life like they do. Keep your head up and just be there for Dexter. We all have bad days. This is just a bump in the road. Things will get better. He will have better days. We are out here for your support just like you are out there trying to educate us. You are not alone. Stay Strong and be proud of yourself for everything you do.
I send You happyness vibes and stenght! Thank You, for Your videos! They are so helpful and You are so precious human being!
Keep it up. People dont know the positive energy we need to produce for an autistic child. Thanks for your videos.
So many of us in different boats navigating different regions of the same ocean. There are truly no tools to help... only time will tell where we end up and it is truly almost UNBEARABLE at times. Strength, patience and forgiveness. Stay strong and get back up when the waves knock you about. Be patient with yourself first and foremost, and with your child. Forgive yourself. These are the lessons I am learning during my autism journey in my son and my 3rd year. Maybe it sounds selfish. Maybe it is. I am his primary caregiver and I need to be at my best to give him my best. I am so sorry to see you hurting. You are not alone.
I love you.. your channel change my mind about autism and the diagnosis, we all are going through these days with our kids.. don't blame yourself STAY STRONG.. we can't be a "normal family" I accepted that.
smart apple maaaan I’m tryna except this !
We have recently noticed our son (3, prediagnosis) is getting frustrated more and more when we don't immediately understand his non-verbal communication (he's a hand-leader/physical communication type). I so understand your tears and frustration and sadness - and Dexter's too. I see it in my son, and I see your words in myself as well. It can be incredibly overwhelming to attempt to communicate with our children when they don't use the forms of communications that we are used to. And for them, as well - it must be so incredibly difficult and frustrating trying to communicate when people don't understand you.
Sending hugs your way - we all have those days. x
My 2.5 year old daughter is the same as your son. What did you do about the diagnosing process? We are in very early stages of inveatigation MRI's, EEG's, and hearing tests. All since December. Xx
I love your channel so much. My almost 4 year old is a lot like Dexter and I just relate a lot to what you say. We had our son diagnosed at 3 as well. It’s so nice to hear you put much of my experience into words. You’re doing a wonderful job! Meltdown days are the worst but as you said they are isolated! So much joy to be had on this journey.
My daughter has aspergers these outbursts happen frequently for us. The worst thing about it can be the reactions you get from members of the public, in that moment you can feel alone in your struggles but your not alone stay strong x
Belly Mama ...never alone xxx
Everybody has a hard day even so called normal people. Your approach is correct do not be hard on yourself. That moment will pass yes do not dwell over it a d end with a happy treat ...well done!!! Reflecting on happy times is the best advice
Thank you so much for sharing this! So many of us can relate to these types of days with our kids, especially if they have a hard time communicating. You are an amazing mother and you are doing a phenomenal job with Dexter! I personally love that you have a positive approach towards what he will be able to achieve. I was recently given the advice that I should not put limitations on what my son (who is autistic and non verbal) will be able to accomplish because there is no way of really knowing what the future will bring. I do not think there is anything wrong with being both realistic and hopeful:)
I really understand your feeling as I am going through exactly the same in my life... let’s be strong! Hug
So helpful knowing that there are difficult days even for the best of parents but to keep it in perspective...things are always ongoing and changing as our children are growing and meeting new challenges...but they are so worth it and you are an Inspiration! 💛
Stay strong and positive!! It’s hard but we as moms need to figure out what works best with our son and sometime it’s very challenging and tough on us as parents
You are a fantastic mum ! You inspire me so much and bring me out of my bad place. My son is in the limbo stage and I struggle more often than not on a daily basis but we will all get through this together - thank you for these videos and for being so real and raw - it must be so difficult for you to do ❤️
I understand you, please don’t give up you don’t know but your videos give the strength to keep going with my daughter I was really bad and your videos encourage me so much !! 💕
Ignore all judgmental comments, unless they are in this situation themselves they can't comment. Your doing a great job. My 3 year old is still yet to be diagnosed but we struggle with communication daily and it's frustrating for us and for them but we try and do our best for them. Don't ever think of yourself as a failure your doing an amazing job xx
Thank you so very much for your transparency with this my three year old just recieved a diagnosis and I'm struggling immensely and trying to find out everything I can and this is so helpful. ❤
*BIG HUGS* to you and Dexter. I can totally relate to your hard day. Each day is different and unpredictable. Chin up as you are an incredible Mum to Dexter. I can't thank you enough for sharing your daily life with us. It makes me feel like I am not alone as some days are really tough with my 7yrs old severely autistic son who displays very very similar traits to your son. Your clips give me hope. Lots of ♥️, Isa from Sydney, Australia 🙂
Stay strong. You are an amazing mum.
You don't know how much I needed this video. This is what exactly what happened with me last night...and I totally understand your situation. It is hard. It is hard. I can just say one thing, stay strong, very strong.
I really understand how that could be although my son could communicate more. The behaviour I used to be up against and he was strong and he would pull out my hair and punch me. Don’t listen to people that don’t help you or are negative towards you . Remember there are other people out there that care which Is why most people follow you. Some days they just reach the limit and it’s wise to let them watch tv 📺. The challenges are difficult but some are just amazing . Take care X
U made me break down tears because I totally feel wat ur feeling it’s very hard as a mom of 4 kiddos all under 5 years and my oldest was diagnosed with Trisomy18 wich affects her speech and overall development still does not walk and my 4 year old who was diagnosed with Austim as to seeing other family members with kids her age they talk and play with other they interact as a typical 4 year and hear I am at Bday parties taking my daughter out of the party before they start singing the happy bday song because she will start cryin her head off the looks of ppl who don’t understand her all eyes on us it’s very hard specially wen we feel so isolated as mamas and now I think my almost 2year is getting evaluated for autism aswell because she still does not say one word no mom or dad or bottle so it’s tough bt as long as we do all that we can and focus on the great and thrivin things our kiddos do we got this mama !!
Sending you love 🙏🙏🙏.
Wow, I think your approach and attitude towards autism is amazing.
This is my first time watching your channel, but I really love your honest, but insightful perspective!
Xoxo hang in there love. Many hard days here I also cry a lot. I think it’s very normal for it to hit us in waves especially on those hard days.
Just want to say I think you're amazing and so constructive. Dexter is as lucky to have you as you are to have him. We have bad days too but you have helped changed my mindset enormously - forever grateful to you : )
I feel you. I also felt helpless whatever I do any sort of connect with my boy and he isnt responding at all. Stay strong you are not alone 🫶
You're a great mom.
Sending you all the love in the world and thanks for sharing the good, the hard and the in between. My daughter is almost three and we’ve referred for a final autism assessment to access services on the NDIS to help our daughter and us to support and nurture her. While every child is different, so much of you share about dexter is copy and paste with Eve. Thank you so much for sharing 😊
Your daughter is very lucky to have you. Thank you so much for your support x
Thank you for this one as well! As hard as things can be some days, parents should always want their kids to hear them say good things about their kids.
Please dont give up trying . You are a loving caring moma, do the best you can and know that is enough❤
I understand ur feeling...even my kid with mild austic....its great challenge for my life too....be bold....god will always be with u....
Smitha S what would you describe mild?
My son hasn’t been diagnosed yet but I’m pretty sure he’s on the spectrum
I felt everything you said so deeply. Things have been really tough lately with my little girl. I needed this video, thank you. Stay strong! 💕
If anyone has followed your journey like I have they will know how real you and your family are. Thanks for an amazing video. I feel this all the time and makes me feel like I don't want to go out with the kids just in case my daughter has a meltdown. You have given some great advice that I will definitely try 👍
Thank you for making this video. We had a rough day today too and it’s so nice to not feel alone.
Such a wonderful and important video to make, thank you x
Hey, you inspired all of us, don’t give up know. It’s Going to be fine.
Hi I'm autistic too and watching this video helped me offer dealing mechanisms to my partner when I'm having a meltdown and what do do after. I would have been easily if you summarised your points at the end so I could have seen them together, I had to go back through the video and pause it to write each thing down that you wrote on your video. It's just a thought if anyone else would have liked to write them down too. I don't have a great memory so if I write them down I can reread until hopefully they will sink in.
Thank you I really liked the video I think your methods are transferable to adults with autism too.
You’re doing great and only natural you have difficult days...come on girl you’re brilliant!!!!! X😊
You are a beautiful family! !
Ja das ist Hard sometimes I cry with my daughter
Been there. I keep telling myself there is an answer.
I have a 2 year old and we have days like that all the time! My son was non verbal until 21 months and I took away all the screen time. It was very hard for him and me for about a week, but he started to communicate and be interested in his surroundings and other people within a couple of weeks, he also stopped the hand movements, we still have a long way to go but he’s in speech therapy now. But taking away ipad made a world of difference for him. I’m always trying to read research articles about what can help. Hugs and prayers your way! You are such a great mom!
❤️❤️ from an aspie mom with aspie kids .
Sorry you are struggling! I feel the same way sometimes. Given that Dexter spells and reads so well, could he eventually learn to write his thoughts to you? That would be wonderful.
This sounds like my whole life daily tbh. I’m now wondering what I’m doing wrong as to why this isn’t just a bad day but ‘normal’ for us. And my son is verbal too. Not brilliant, most echolalia but can talk. But he’s a very angry little boy and I get beaten daily 😔
I can feel you I cry every time that I see my son his behaviour 😭😭😭
be strong God bless you family ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this.
how is he now? hopefully much better
thank you for sharing your story! my son was recently diagnosed he is 5! I always knew things were different for him but like you did not understand some eraly signs! I can relate to those bad day feelings and hope the best for you and your family!
I can understand your feeling...my 21 month old daughter have autism
STAY STRONG
I needed to hear this
Questions what kind of theraphy do u do so they can engage in eye contact
Did you change his diet when I change his diet I feel some deference in 3months
What dietary changes please? Is diet an issue?
Thank you🙏🏻
Tonotil.n works for us
..maybe you should try it! Carnitine n acetyl also.
I discovered your channel through one of my TH-camrs I watch everyday. @ourlandingcrew
Don't worry sister please you try nemechek protocol
I just had the same day yesterday 😑
I feel you. I'm struggling with my autistic 6 year old right now. I cry in my bathroom a lot. Lol
You are not alone mama. Hugs x
Better diet, gut healing and detoxing "things" which supposedly help prevent disease have been helping bring my 2 year old back slowly. Its never too late
And some person are not good not hunderstand my situation und asking why cry my daughter all looked me I make stress
😘😘😘 you mothers do so well!!!!!
I'm just curious, how do you know that your son is reading since he is nonverbal? My son is nonverbal and I see him flip through pages in a book but because he does not say words how would I know if he is actually reading?
Good question. My 3 year old son is the same way! He loves books, and will sit on the floor and flip through book after book..
Idk, but I'm the full time caregiver for my 3 yo autistic grandson & he likes to watch Blippi. We were walking and out of the blue, he said b l i p p i. I was shocked that he had spelled these letters out of the blue. But was curious if he understood the relation of those letters so I said, B L I P P I? Who's that? And he said Blippi in a sing songy voice! I was really shocked & surprised.
Now he will say letters he knows (only if he wants to), he'll count forward & backwards (only when he wants to) and other than that is very nonverbal. He tells me what he wants by staring at something. Sometimes I wonder if he thinks he ended up with a defective, nontelepathic grammie cuz I get this feeling things would be much smoother between us if I had that skill. It seems like he has the skill & I dont. (edited to remove accidental underscrore)
Some days? Oh no for us is every single day
Many children non verbal after nemechek protocol sure speak and communicate
I have The Nemechek Protocol book and my 3 YO non verbal son has been on NP for 6 months now (very diligently)...still waiting to hear first word. I'm giving it a year 🤞