I work with a women that I've know for a couple of years. So I've been in the friend zone from the start.i have developed feelings for her more than friends. I have asked her out and she was not interested. I really don't know how to get out of the friend zone. I can accept her feelings, but i can't get rid of my feelings .the real problem is i work with her and spend the entire day 30 feet away from her. I am friendly with her, but it is painful being around her. She does not know the extent of how strongly I feel for her. Some days she acts like my best friend, while other times she is aloof . I would love to get out of the friend zone and take it to the next level. But i pretty much know it is not gonna happen. How do i stop feeling for her.
Hey apollonia hope you are doing great.😄 Well I am in relationship but she put me into friendzone & it's been 1 year I know her she doesn't have any friends coz she never go out of home n she is married 6 years elder than me and her in laws and husband bother her alot ... this happened 5 days ago that she put me into friendzone suddenly till thn it was going smooth it's we are in LDR and because of her situation like her husband n all, it's been 3 years since we met and we had a conversation gap of 2 years & now we started talking again it's been 9 months we are talking and came back to relationship... what shall I do now?🙂
@Apolllonia ponti when you said touch her , how can i do that at work when she is in my presence, but works behind the cafe bar with other cafe staff and customers around us both? Also how can i offer to get her a drink or food when she can easily get it herself by working in that cafe area , wouldn't if come of wierd if i was to try buy / get her food or drink from cafe at work when she already works in the cafe area? What do you reccomend .
Every time I've been "friended" I struggled only to find that I always got over it, even though it sucked at the time. I have found that some have come back to me later and said they regret not dating me. I never ended up dating them because I realised that they only wanted me after I made improvements. This just shows that these women wanted the final product but weren't willing to work with throughout, they just wanted the final prize without the effort. Best girlfriend I ever had accepted my faults and this gave me drive to want to be better, and I became better as a result.
Actually this mindset you have is the nice guy that finished last. I'll give you an example so you don't think I'm just trying to insult you. Sometimes when we meet a women maybe we don't have goals then, maybe we weren't exercising or eating healthy then ect. As a guy I understand why you find that upsetting they didn't just accept you for who you are at that time and all of a sudden wish they dated you.i would take it personal also but I would forgive them. Your a beta Male when it comes to this and you just judge them because they hurt you. You think I don't get it, but I do.
Mi Feke look they did not return cause you improved they came back later and said they should of dated you cause every guy they did give up everything they love /pussy\he ended up being a peace of shit and treating them like they had less value then his dog. Or got fucked and dumped or like most bad boys the bum came out of them sooner or later. Now you matured and they are regreting there decisions cause BELEAVE it or not if your a humble person then your still the same guy. Imagine how woman are she new you liked her alot you were a good dud and no matter how much you were feeling for her she said no with no care or remorse in the world selfish impathetic bitch never looked @ it like he really likes me so thats enough for me not she had better choices so she chose not you and didn't care what it did to you inside. It whent sour with her choosings and now look @ her
It is normal they want the new and improved you and not the old you, we men are the same. If you were fat in high school and hot now, I want to bang you now but not back then. She did you a service by rejecting you to give you the motivation to step up your game. You should be somewhat grateful for her since she may have allowed you to attract better females going forward. I’ve lived it 3 times bro, I know the feelings. Keep Leveling up. Peace
Al Agena so would you say someone who calls you a friend but is willing to go out their way for you is friend zoning you? (Most of our chats are through text btw.)
No contact. Limit medsaged responses to brief replies. Drop all your fronts and be yourself. Treat her like one of the guys. This will get her attention like taking away a child's toy. This is the reset button.
Al Agena so would you say someone who calls you a friend but is willing to go out their way for you is friend zoning you? (Most of our chats are through text btw.)
Every video I have seen Appoliona do, says the truth. Listen to her. She knows what she is talking about. I am in the friend zone now. It was my fault. But, I have a hunch it would have happened anyway because the circumstances were different
@@boss4330 Absolutely true...girls never want or may be very rarely want a nice guy (cos for some benefits)... otherwise most of the nice guys thrown into the friendzone garbage.... Be or quit option is yours.... Many nice guys think that being in friendzone for sometime would give them a chance to get close to them....trust me it never happens....or may be a kiss on your cheek..... 😭 😂
Yesterday I texted her again after a week off. She was like “I have been thinking about you a lot recently.” Which is a great sign. Limited texts, make yourself busy even it’s quarantine. Slow things down. Chill out and good things will happen 😊
Your videos really are therapeutic. What I mean by that is, I was feeling very blue today but after seeing some of your videos I dont feel like such a sad sack but instead feel motivated to better myself and my situation. Thank you :)
6:43 - Then after touching her hand and saying you're welcome, you can walk down to the HR department where you can discuss the sexual harassment complaint.
work is off limits to make a move.....i work for multiple employers....and we have to do anti-harassment courses for all of them.....even saying "you look nice" can cause a problem.....
What you said at the end is what I needed to hear. I was in that same situation with my ex. I pushed and it got nowhere. I needed to hear it. I needed this. I have moved on now but that happened to me recently and hearing what you said reminded me of it. I am alright now. It's hard to move on because men have strong feelings for women but we act too macho to openly admit it. It's time to start over and do it better the next time around.
Because we are living a feminine opinionated sensitive time. Women are seen as innocent and harmless humans that never do any evil and if they do the males are at fault. This is the feminist liberal baphoment culture we're living in. And if you say something about them that's the truth their simps will come after you to protect their queen bee. Men and children are to be accountable for their actions but women are to be excused because of their emotions and feelings even if they kill a innocent male or kids. If you all start treating females like little kids, because that is what most of them are little kids with titties, then she will follow or get going. If a woman don't respect you you shouldn't running and being with her unless family court is the destination you want to end up at.
I have to strongly disagree with Apollonia on continuing to be friends with her. I can count on one hand how many women have introduced me to other women. My advice just walk away and meet a woman who desires you. A lot of women just want the attention and have no desire to set you up with their girlfriends and don't want to lose you as a shoulder to cry on. Forget that! Have some self respect.
Yea by walking away you clearly know your worth,cause it's true that women who don't want you have this tendency of wanting other women around her to not want you too.She just wants to always that guy who doesn't value that much who's always there for her.So I prefer to walk away brothers!
The friend zone is the worst, Apollonia! Having been married now for almost 10 years, I am so GLAD I don't have to navigate this. But, if I did, I would definitely follow this advice :)
I often look at the comments first before watching in this way, it's saves my time and data. The reviews here let me know I'm not gonna waste my time and data watching this video, Apollonia.
As soon as the woman tells you : " you're gonna make a great catchsomeday!"....I think that's the time to move on. Because she basically is saying that she likes a lot about you...but it's just not you! Why? because I think the older we get as men, the more more women who are single that we meet have been in relationships that are toxic ,disrespectful they were cheated on and I think that they think that's the norm or they look for continue to look for traits,looks,habits,styles,etc that they are attracted to because that's all they know! Then they meet a guy who finally is a gentleman, respectful..... then they shy away!Their loss!
Friendzone aka the Fiendzone or Fanzone 😁. To get out the friendzone, you have to pullback and let her see you with another chick who is of equal or greater beauty than her and let her see that new lady so into you that it makes her see herself missing the boat on an opportunity that she coulda been with you instead of the new girl. Gotta tap into her jealousy basically. Lol
@@TheDestroyer73 Jelousy can be used as a strong motivating tool to persuade someone into "fear of loss". If that isn't working, that person that you're trying to persuade might just not be that into you and it might be better to move on than to try to convince your ego that you must be with them. People miss out on great opportunities all the time and in your case, you might've been the one that got away and they don't even realize it.
I did that, I friend zone her right away coz she has a LDR but she end up banging my flatmate that lives in a room besides me. I can even hear her moaning while she gets pounded. I'm like wtf, if I only know she's up to secret hook up's friends with benefits shit, I could have banged her while she's showing some signs. It's just I respect her relationship and don't want to be a scumbag or something. Now my flatmate is banging her girlfriend at weekend and her everyother night on weekdays, while me ended up jerking every week nights. lol
So what I got from this is... Be yourself and the rest will follow. Just because she drop dead gorgeous, shouldn't change who you were when y'all first met.
I appreciate the softening effect of your advice on what I get from all the male coaches on TH-cam. They're not wrong in what they say but... I just wasn't born to be a ruthless player who NEXTs a girl without a thought if we've spent lots of time together. (Not to say that I can't NEXT one if she's useless.)
Here's the thing. Women friend zone nice guys when they go out of their way to show interest, be available, do things and help out. Guys do these things because they truly care, are clearly interested and want to make her happy and have the relationship progress, but women don't see it for what it is or appreciate it. They perceive it as desperate and lacking confidence when it actually has nothing to do with either. Putting a guy in the friend zone is a way to save him for later if something better doesn't work out first. Then, after a few years [and a couple kids] she thinks of you and wants to get together more seriously because her prospects have dried up. 1) Being put in the friend zone is an insult to who and what you are. Friend zoning is just a "polite" way to tell you that she thinks you suck. See it for what it is. She thinks you're not good enough the way you are when in fact, you're as much of a catch as she is. If you're a nice guy, you're probably more of a catch than someone who friend zones you because they can't see you for what you are and she deserves whatever she gets later from the "bad boys" and 'players". Her loss. 2) You are not even really a friend. The minute she's off with another dude, there's little if any contact [and certainly not alone together like a true regular friend off camping and fishing for the weekend] So, there's really no such thing as a friend zone. Just walk away and ghost her. 3) If she doesn't think you are good enough for her, she probably doesn't think you are good enough for her friends either, so, there will not likely be any introductions. Would you introduce some chick to one of your buddies that you thought was sub-par? If her friends are like her, they probably won't think much of you either 4) If for some bizarre reason you have maintained contact, or she wants to try again more seriously, remember, she didn't think you were good enough before, so, what changed? Your bank account got bigger? Her attractiveness got worse? Just tell her, "Sorry, not interested. You didn't want me in your prime and I don't want you in your decline." Dodge the bullet and be done with it.
Disagree with her (where appropriate) so that you showcase who you are and what you're about. I've heard you say this so many times and I'm finally getting it!!!
Honestly it is bullshit that there is no way out of the friendzone, this highly depends on the situation because not ever friendzone is the same, there are tons of different reasons and circumstances that may lead to friendzone. For example some girls friendzone 'nicer" guys to have them around for later on when they want a more serious relation and kids and stuff or a guy that the girl initially saw as potential partner was to shy to make his moves and than she meet some other guy. There are tons of different situation that can lead to friendzone and not all of them necessarily mean that the girl does not feel any attraction at all to the guy. The better question is if it is even worth to try to get out of the friendzone when you could or it is better to just move on and this also depends on a lot of different circumstances.
I don't agree with you. Everything has a way out. You just need to figure it out... of course you might require a better quality of life and reputation when you cross her again in future, may be better than her quality of life.
Know what "Friend Zone" really means? It's a code word that simply means women are not romantically interested in you AND they don't want to be your FRIEND, either!!!
I don't fully agree with everything you said. I've had a few situations where the girl flat out rejected me, I said ok no problem and backed off, then later we ended up dating. Mainly because the rejection didn't affect me much
What happened to you ending up with these women you mention was exception to the rule but her way is better and will give you higher success rate. Even a broken clock is right twice a day.
What's wrong with being in the friend zone? Isn't friendship a great thing? Or men just can't conceive being friends with women unless they want to go to the next level with her (which is sex)?
Started with your advice on breakups and how to get over her, gotta say you have definitely changed my perspective and attitude about how I'm going about my relationships, thank you. Not saying I'm going to succeed 100% of the time but the tips you're giving are actually very insightful and things that I was blind to before.
How does this even happen to anyone? If a woman is working out with you and going anywhere with you. She knows damn well a man doesn't want to be friends. She knows at the very least we want to do the nasty with them. I do have platonic women friends they are married with someone or I do business with them. Damn it must be awful to spend all that time with a woman doing things with her to find out she wants to be friends. These women know these guys wanna hit. But some women like playing with guys like a yo- yo
thats just how it is though and some girls love to do that only for the guy to be pissed off and her to move on to the next guy who is going to be nice to her
@@TheDestroyer73 you know what the meaning of nice is right? Word History Five hundred years ago, when nice was first used in English, it meant "foolish or stupid." So I agree with you based off the true meaning of the word.
Hi Apollonia, Glass have full... I like the concept in other words you are saying to keep my options open to other women. I hope that is not the case here but you are right always be open to other women. Thank you I will study and learn your tips to improve myself.
No one can friend zone you without your consent. If someone is not sexual attracted to you, you always know that from early on, and that is your cue to move on. If you continue to pursue the object of your desire, you can't blame the other person.
Do you know the difference between courting and dating? Courting is going in with the intention of marrying the woman, dating is just getting to know the other person and having fun.
I have already been placed in the friend zone and I believe I will never get of it with this woman because she says that I like a "brother" to her her and when I asked that defines to she replied with a "special one, special friend".
I am happy to be in the friend zone. I take it as a good sign that she is not able to perceive within. And if you enjoy women's company, like I do, it's no problem. I meet women all the time and when it clicks, it clicks. One rock doesn't make a boulder.
The best tip I can give guys on here is this...If you're dating a woman and she's losing interest or you like someone who's friend zoned you, cut contact and disappear. No contact is like a reset button and it will display many qualities in you such as strength, mystery but also it will give you the power which will make her interested in you again potentially. Plus it will activate the fear of loss in her mind which is extremely powerful and if she realizes your value and misses you enough, she will miss you. This wont always work but I think it is the most effective strategy for turning the tables and rebuilding attraction again. Whilst away, work on yourself and enjoy your life and remember this... If she likes you enough and is meant to be in your life she'll reach out. If she doesn't, then move on.
I wish I had seen this video a few weeks ago. I have been in this situation for the last couple of years with someone. Over the summer I finally realized that it wasn't a healthy relationship for me to be in. A few weeks ago I talked to her about it, and told her that I at least needed some time away from her. I'm not sure that was the right way to handle it, but I doubt I could have changed it to something more.
With all due respect Apollonia, I disagree with you on the part of remaining friends. First of all, most women wouldn't want to introduce a guy to their female friends simply because they love the attention they get from the guy which would take a back seat to a any possible relationship he could have with one of her female friends if it clicks. Secondly, there is this stigma that comes with rejection. The female friends of the lady is more likely to also the reject the guy in question. I mean, why would a lady want to date a man her friend rejected. That creates a default unattractive feel in the friend's eye.
She's the one who controles the flow of my relationship I've wanted more but it's all in her favor, so last week I told her I need to budget my finances an start saving money, it's seems she just double her spending habits, she said things will get better now kids are in school, she said she will give me more time,🤔 I'll give her one more week 🙂
Joe Trueblood you don't need 2 giv her + time. That's a trick. If she hasn't had a positive or cooperative attitude to this far, she's not gonna change now. Don't fall into that game.
Hey Apollonia, I absolutely love you're video's!! You have great insights and put already lots of advice into practice. A woman can be so confusing sometimes giving you mixed signals. Thanks a lot and if she decides to remain friends I know it's important to keep my dignity and keep loving myself and enjoy everything a great friendship is offering. Thanks again🙏🏻 and keep doing the good work 😉
Great tips Apollonia, you explain everything so well..it's so easy to digest. I'm going to share this with some of my single male friends. I think they could do with this advice! :-)
Andy Galbiati Can u do a video on how to politely tell your Lady- FRIEND (who’s put u in her friend zone) that since she’s made that decision, that you are no longer “her’s”, and so not to cock-block u, when you’re around her friends?? (Seriously). And, if she truly has made up her mind, what’s a playful way to let her know that since she doesn’t fully appreciate what u have to offer, that she doesn’t deserve you, and so, she’s DISQUALIFIED! ?
stop hanging out with her full stop, Its not a Hollywood movie were the guy was friends with her for years suddenly becomes her partner, If you were friends with her but haven't seen her for a few years that could happen. I have had a women stop me from hooking uo with her friends because i had fun with her. its not worth it , If she stopping you from seeing her friends, then stop being friends with her,
most women will say , lets be friends cuz they think I dont want to hurt your feelings by telling you I don't want to be your friend, so what happens is ,they ignore you thinking you will go away and never call them , its a BS line, most men only have a handful of true women friends that actually meant it and they do call and spend time with them as friends....
It is not all about what she thinks about you when she is with you it's more about what does she think about you when you're not there! also always leave her wanting more
I agree with just about all of it except don't try to subtly "touch" people at work. I don't care if it's brushing a hand when you give someone coffee or whatever because it will likely cause more issues (even innocently) then that subconscious "I'm here" that they likely won't notice. My opinion. Feel free to post a counter argument. I'm happy to discuss my opinion
I've noticed that woman resist being placed into the friend's zone but once in there they share all their secrets. I never wanted to date a friend zone friend after hearing about their relationships.
6:34 be cautious, men, if you seek romance with a co-worker. A simple compliment, like:"Wow, you look beautiful today..." can land you in the HR office, or unemployment line. Use tac.
I H A T E the term "friend zone".. Can we please stop pretending that human relationships are games or possessions you need to win? If it happens, it happens. if not, hey you could have a great friend! If you can't accept that; your loss and move on.. BUT the tip of keep your own opinion and be yourself; 100 procent on board with that!
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Mam, I don't have any real partner in my life so when she will meet me and how I make in my life a good wife permanently I am still single
I work with a women that I've know for a couple of years. So I've been in the friend zone from the start.i have developed feelings for her more than friends. I have asked her out and she was not interested. I really don't know how to get out of the friend zone. I can accept her feelings, but i can't get rid of my feelings .the real problem is i work with her and spend the entire day 30 feet away from her. I am friendly with her, but it is painful being around her. She does not know the extent of how strongly I feel for her. Some days she acts like my best friend, while other times she is aloof . I would love to get out of the friend zone and take it to the next level. But i pretty much know it is not gonna happen. How do i stop feeling for her.
To Jim Molloy below... Move on.. get another job.. forget about her... Life is way too short
and there are way too many good women out there.
Hey apollonia hope you are doing great.😄
Well I am in relationship but she put me into friendzone & it's been 1 year I know her she doesn't have any friends coz she never go out of home n she is married 6 years elder than me and her in laws and husband bother her alot ... this happened 5 days ago that she put me into friendzone suddenly till thn it was going smooth it's we are in LDR and because of her situation like her husband n all, it's been 3 years since we met and we had a conversation gap of 2 years & now we started talking again it's been 9 months we are talking and came back to relationship... what shall I do now?🙂
@Apolllonia ponti when you said touch her , how can i do that at work when she is in my presence, but works behind the cafe bar with other cafe staff and customers around us both?
Also how can i offer to get her a drink or food when she can easily get it herself by working in that cafe area , wouldn't if come of wierd if i was to try buy / get her food or drink from cafe at work when she already works in the cafe area?
What do you reccomend .
I escaped from the friendzone... Now I'm in the strangerzone
Bat MikiPig yess that’s pretty much how it goes
much healthier place to be
Better than the danger zone I suppose.
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😂😂😂😂... Danger Zone!!!!??? 😂😂😂😂... That's some crazy shit
Every time I've been "friended" I struggled only to find that I always got over it, even though it sucked at the time. I have found that some have come back to me later and said they regret not dating me. I never ended up dating them because I realised that they only wanted me after I made improvements. This just shows that these women wanted the final product but weren't willing to work with throughout, they just wanted the final prize without the effort. Best girlfriend I ever had accepted my faults and this gave me drive to want to be better, and I became better as a result.
Actually this mindset you have is the nice guy that finished last. I'll give you an example so you don't think I'm just trying to insult you. Sometimes when we meet a women maybe we don't have goals then, maybe we weren't exercising or eating healthy then ect. As a guy I understand why you find that upsetting they didn't just accept you for who you are at that time and all of a sudden wish they dated you.i would take it personal also but I would forgive them. Your a beta Male when it comes to this and you just judge them because they hurt you. You think I don't get it, but I do.
Mi Feke look they did not return cause you improved they came back later and said they should of dated you cause every guy they did give up everything they love /pussy\he ended up being a peace of shit and treating them like they had less value then his dog. Or got fucked and dumped or like most bad boys the bum came out of them sooner or later. Now you matured and they are regreting there decisions cause BELEAVE it or not if your a humble person then your still the same guy. Imagine how woman are she new you liked her alot you were a good dud and no matter how much you were feeling for her she said no with no care or remorse in the world selfish impathetic bitch never looked @ it like he really likes me so thats enough for me not she had better choices so she chose not you and didn't care what it did to you inside. It whent sour with her choosings and now look @ her
It is normal they want the new and improved you and not the old you, we men are the same. If you were fat in high school and hot now, I want to bang you now but not back then. She did you a service by rejecting you to give you the motivation to step up your game. You should be somewhat grateful for her since she may have allowed you to attract better females going forward. I’ve lived it 3 times bro, I know the feelings. Keep Leveling up. Peace
Al Agena so would you say someone who calls you a friend but is willing to go out their way for you is friend zoning you?
(Most of our chats are through text btw.)
Borrow money from her and never pay it back. You won't be in her friend zone, but you will be on her shit list. Wait✋, that's not good either.
No contact. Limit medsaged responses to brief replies. Drop all your fronts and be yourself. Treat her like one of the guys. This will get her attention like taking away a child's toy. This is the reset button.
Forreal?
@@DjR3aper don't always work because some females are more alpha and won't budge if you use that method
Al Agena so would you say someone who calls you a friend but is willing to go out their way for you is friend zoning you?
(Most of our chats are through text btw.)
How can this even work???
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The last tip about dating her friends!! Savage 😂😂 great tip ✌️
This woman speaks the truth. You can listen to her or learn the hard way.
Every video I have seen Appoliona do, says the truth. Listen to her. She knows what she is talking about. I am in the friend zone now. It was my fault. But, I have a hunch it would have happened anyway because the circumstances were different
@@richardwhite2344 No, it was not your fault dude. The girl is just not interested in a decent guy...too many f**kboys she's salivating after.
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@@boss4330 Absolutely true...girls never want or may be very rarely want a nice guy (cos for some benefits)... otherwise most of the nice guys thrown into the friendzone garbage.... Be or quit option is yours.... Many nice guys think that being in friendzone for sometime would give them a chance to get close to them....trust me it never happens....or may be a kiss on your cheek..... 😭 😂
Yes she does speak the truth
This is so important! Guys keep falling for the friendzone all the time! Authenticity and a voice of your own. Great advice!
"Free at last, free at last, thank God almighty, I'm FREE...at last! "
Yesterday I texted her again after a week off. She was like “I have been thinking about you a lot recently.” Which is a great sign. Limited texts, make yourself busy even it’s quarantine. Slow things down. Chill out and good things will happen 😊
Not too much cause that leaves the door open for another
Your videos really are therapeutic. What I mean by that is, I was feeling very blue today but after seeing some of your videos I dont feel like such a sad sack but instead feel motivated to better myself and my situation. Thank you :)
6:43 - Then after touching her hand and saying you're welcome, you can walk down to the HR department where you can discuss the sexual harassment complaint.
work is off limits to make a move.....i work for multiple employers....and we have to do anti-harassment courses for all of them.....even saying "you look nice" can cause a problem.....
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@@williamsmith752 Waaaaay too many people are soft!
What you said at the end is what I needed to hear. I was in that same situation with my ex. I pushed and it got nowhere. I needed to hear it. I needed this. I have moved on now but that happened to me recently and hearing what you said reminded me of it. I am alright now. It's hard to move on because men have strong feelings for women but we act too macho to openly admit it. It's time to start over and do it better the next time around.
That is a fact
Why do women never get reprimanded for using vasts array of men, yet men get shamed all the time for doing the same thing?
Good question
Because we are living a feminine opinionated sensitive time. Women are seen as innocent and harmless humans that never do any evil and if they do the males are at fault. This is the feminist liberal baphoment culture we're living in. And if you say something about them that's the truth their simps will come after you to protect their queen bee. Men and children are to be accountable for their actions but women are to be excused because of their emotions and feelings even if they kill a innocent male or kids. If you all start treating females like little kids, because that is what most of them are little kids with titties, then she will follow or get going. If a woman don't respect you you shouldn't running and being with her unless family court is the destination you want to end up at.
Because men use women for sex.
Joe Joe well said
Amethyst Farah very little this is just the facts
Love your point about voicing your own opinion. Be authentic and true to yourself no matter what! Cheers!
Im definitely doing own my opinion
I have to strongly disagree with Apollonia on continuing to be friends with her. I can count on one hand how many women have introduced me to other women. My advice just walk away and meet a woman who desires you. A lot of women just want the attention and have no desire to set you up with their girlfriends and don't want to lose you as a shoulder to cry on. Forget that! Have some self respect.
She is a woman she would know.
Yea by walking away you clearly know your worth,cause it's true that women who don't want you have this tendency of wanting other women around her to not want you too.She just wants to always that guy who doesn't value that much who's always there for her.So I prefer to walk away brothers!
@@babykevinxoxo That's not always true don't go by what women say go by what they do females give bad dating advice.
If a woman introduced me to other women it means they might be single bro
the power of your indifference speaks volumes.
The friend zone is the worst, Apollonia! Having been married now for almost 10 years, I am so GLAD I don't have to navigate this. But, if I did, I would definitely follow this advice :)
I was prepared to roll my eyes at this but you actually have some good points 👍🏾
This woman is the real deal listen to her gentleman
It would help if women didn't see every imperfection as insecurity.
Facts
I often look at the comments first before watching in this way, it's saves my time and data. The reviews here let me know I'm not gonna waste my time and data watching this video, Apollonia.
As soon as the woman tells you : " you're gonna make a great catchsomeday!"....I think that's the time to move on. Because she basically is saying that she likes a lot about you...but it's just not you! Why? because I think the older we get as men, the more more women who are single that we meet have been in relationships that are toxic ,disrespectful they were cheated on and I think that they think that's the norm or they look for continue to look for traits,looks,habits,styles,etc that they are attracted to because that's all they know! Then they meet a guy who finally is a gentleman, respectful..... then they shy away!Their loss!
Friendzone aka the Fiendzone or Fanzone 😁. To get out the friendzone, you have to pullback and let her see you with another chick who is of equal or greater beauty than her and let her see that new lady so into you that it makes her see herself missing the boat on an opportunity that she coulda been with you instead of the new girl. Gotta tap into her jealousy basically. Lol
lol its what i been trying and she does get jealous but thats about it though
@@TheDestroyer73 Jelousy can be used as a strong motivating tool to persuade someone into "fear of loss". If that isn't working, that person that you're trying to persuade might just not be that into you and it might be better to move on than to try to convince your ego that you must be with them. People miss out on great opportunities all the time and in your case, you might've been the one that got away and they don't even realize it.
Na my female friend who friendzoned me tries to find wome for me when we are out
I did that, I friend zone her right away coz she has a LDR but she end up banging my flatmate that lives in a room besides me. I can even hear her moaning while she gets pounded. I'm like wtf, if I only know she's up to secret hook up's friends with benefits shit, I could have banged her while she's showing some signs. It's just I respect her relationship and don't want to be a scumbag or something. Now my flatmate is banging her girlfriend at weekend and her everyother night on weekdays, while me ended up jerking every week nights. lol
Tim Dane RIP 🙏🏻🙏🏻. That hurts man
It's a power play in relationships on a whole...only a leader can adjust the sails.💯
At least you made the right choice in cars 👍
I love it when someone articulates a point in just the right way. Thanks Apollonia.
Defiantly
So what I got from this is... Be yourself and the rest will follow. Just because she drop dead gorgeous, shouldn't change who you were when y'all first met.
I appreciate the softening effect of your advice on what I get from all the male coaches on TH-cam. They're not wrong in what they say but... I just wasn't born to be a ruthless player who NEXTs a girl without a thought if we've spent lots of time together. (Not to say that I can't NEXT one if she's useless.)
Here's the thing. Women friend zone nice guys when they go out of their way to show interest, be available, do things and help out. Guys do these things because they truly care, are clearly interested and want to make her happy and have the relationship progress, but women don't see it for what it is or appreciate it. They perceive it as desperate and lacking confidence when it actually has nothing to do with either. Putting a guy in the friend zone is a way to save him for later if something better doesn't work out first. Then, after a few years [and a couple kids] she thinks of you and wants to get together more seriously because her prospects have dried up. 1) Being put in the friend zone is an insult to who and what you are. Friend zoning is just a "polite" way to tell you that she thinks you suck. See it for what it is. She thinks you're not good enough the way you are when in fact, you're as much of a catch as she is. If you're a nice guy, you're probably more of a catch than someone who friend zones you because they can't see you for what you are and she deserves whatever she gets later from the "bad boys" and 'players". Her loss. 2) You are not even really a friend. The minute she's off with another dude, there's little if any contact [and certainly not alone together like a true regular friend off camping and fishing for the weekend] So, there's really no such thing as a friend zone. Just walk away and ghost her. 3) If she doesn't think you are good enough for her, she probably doesn't think you are good enough for her friends either, so, there will not likely be any introductions. Would you introduce some chick to one of your buddies that you thought was sub-par? If her friends are like her, they probably won't think much of you either 4) If for some bizarre reason you have maintained contact, or she wants to try again more seriously, remember, she didn't think you were good enough before, so, what changed? Your bank account got bigger? Her attractiveness got worse? Just tell her, "Sorry, not interested. You didn't want me in your prime and I don't want you in your decline." Dodge the bullet and be done with it.
Being too available.
Disagree with her (where appropriate) so that you showcase who you are and what you're about. I've heard you say this so many times and I'm finally getting it!!!
Friend zone the girl who friend zone you
Loose your interest in that girl who herself isn't interested in you.
My formula 😉😉
Once you start to focus on yourself you will get the desired results!!
The minute you start hitting it off with her friend, is the moment she's going to want you and throw salt in your game... Lol
You not only have great advice but you are also Beautiful….
Thank you!!
You never get out of the friend zone !!!!
Your there for life !!!
😂 you never have plenty of people have
You give some great advice, I wish I had seen this video earlier.
As a fairly introverted male am finding your advice very helpful.
Thank u:)
the banter and switching the vibe slowly overtime...Yes. The compliemnts of her being beautoful and validating...yeah idk lol thats when they RUN
There's No such thing as Getting out of the Friend Zone! Once you get there, you'll Stay there. True Facts!
Honestly it is bullshit that there is no way out of the friendzone, this highly depends on the situation because not ever friendzone is the same, there are tons of different reasons and circumstances that may lead to friendzone. For example some girls friendzone 'nicer" guys to have them around for later on when they want a more serious relation and kids and stuff or a guy that the girl initially saw as potential partner was to shy to make his moves and than she meet some other guy. There are tons of different situation that can lead to friendzone and not all of them necessarily mean that the girl does not feel any attraction at all to the guy. The better question is if it is even worth to try to get out of the friendzone when you could or it is better to just move on and this also depends on a lot of different circumstances.
J24777 and I been there
I don't agree with you. Everything has a way out. You just need to figure it out... of course you might require a better quality of life and reputation when you cross her again in future, may be better than her quality of life.
Know what "Friend Zone" really means? It's a code word that simply means women are not romantically interested in you AND they don't want to be your FRIEND, either!!!
How do you know?
Don't tell me this. That lunch lady that served me mashed potatoes when I was six never went out with me and now I know why. I was in the friend zone.
ECO473 pretty much ur in the closet with the rest of the skeletons
Means they don't want your D.
Actually it means she doesn't see you as a sexual being.....just one of her girl pals
I don't fully agree with everything you said. I've had a few situations where the girl flat out rejected me, I said ok no problem and backed off, then later we ended up dating. Mainly because the rejection didn't affect me much
What happened to you ending up with these women you mention was exception to the rule but her way is better and will give you higher success rate. Even a broken clock is right twice a day.
that was great and timely delivered. i appreciate the antidote
When I'm sent into the zone I say okay. No text or calls, straight cut off and they get the point on my end.
fullmetal25 yep 👍 that’s hi you gotta do it. Don’t play no games with these chicks!
What's wrong with being in the friend zone? Isn't friendship a great thing? Or men just can't conceive being friends with women unless they want to go to the next level with her (which is sex)?
@@MariaMedina-lj4kt that's being the nice guy
@@MariaMedina-lj4kt depends where both stand on the foundation of relationships.. 🤔
@MariaMedina gotta eat the booty
I really like your style and perspective. It's quite refreshing.
Thank You!:)
Started with your advice on breakups and how to get over her, gotta say you have definitely changed my perspective and attitude about how I'm going about my relationships, thank you. Not saying I'm going to succeed 100% of the time but the tips you're giving are actually very insightful and things that I was blind to before.
I'm glad that my videos are helping you change your perspective and attitude about your relationship. Thank you for your support.
Apollonia
You can’t get out of the friend zone if there’s no attraction, that’s why you are there !!!’
How does this even happen to anyone? If a woman is working out with you and going anywhere with you.
She knows damn well a man doesn't want to be friends. She knows at the very least we want to do the nasty with them. I do have platonic women friends they are married with someone or I do business with them. Damn it must be awful to spend all that time with a woman doing things with her to find out she wants to be friends. These women know these guys wanna hit. But some women like playing with guys like a yo- yo
Str8 Facts
thats just how it is though and some girls love to do that only for the guy to be pissed off and her to move on to the next guy who is going to be nice to her
@@TheDestroyer73 you know what the meaning of nice is right? Word History Five hundred years ago, when nice was first used in English, it meant "foolish or stupid." So I agree with you based off the true meaning of the word.
So what your saying is that you don't work out with women because they share their Gatorade?
Women legitimately believe men and women can be just friends. Even some dudes believe this bullshit
Yes to the point. I like the ending summarise it all. Thanks..
one of the most useful videos on youtube. thank you.
Wow!!! Nice advice, Appolonia.
Hi Apollonia,
Glass have full... I like the concept in other words you are saying to keep my options open to other women. I hope that is not the case here but you are right always be open to other women. Thank you I will study and learn your tips to improve myself.
You give great advice and I appreciate watching your episodes
No one can friend zone you without your consent. If someone is not sexual attracted to you, you always know that from early on, and that is your cue to move on. If you continue to pursue the object of your desire, you can't blame the other person.
I always act like I'm into her female friends more. She gets jealous and she start trying to be extra and compete for my attention. Lol!
Do you know the difference between courting and dating? Courting is going in with the intention of marrying the woman, dating is just getting to know the other person and having fun.
Really though! Some of us like myself use the Dating process as Courting.
I like you. Like a brother. Great...
Time to BFF zone a bunch of ladies until they fight for me.
Great advice again appollonia👍keep up the great work 👏💐
Friend zone is like a black hole once you enter its gravity its almost impossible to get out of it
The only way out is if you become rich lol
I have already been placed in the friend zone and I believe I will never get of it with this woman because she says that I like a "brother" to her her and when I asked that defines to she replied with a "special one, special friend".
You're screwed..its over my dude. Just walk away
I've watched dozens of Apollonia's videos, wish i would have started with this one
this was so helpful. THANKS SO MUCH.
I am happy to be in the friend zone. I take it as a good sign that she is not able to perceive within. And if you enjoy women's company, like I do, it's no problem. I meet women all the time and when it clicks, it clicks. One rock doesn't make a boulder.
Im a doormat. For this reason i have been bro-zoned since i felt consciousness. Still a doormat.
I appreciate your advice and you look amazing with your hair up.
The best tip I can give guys on here is this...If you're dating a woman and she's losing interest or you like someone who's friend zoned you, cut contact and disappear.
No contact is like a reset button and it will display many qualities in you such as strength, mystery but also it will give you the power which will make her interested in you again potentially.
Plus it will activate the fear of loss in her mind which is extremely powerful and if she realizes your value and misses you enough, she will miss you.
This wont always work but I think it is the most effective strategy for turning the tables and rebuilding attraction again.
Whilst away, work on yourself and enjoy your life and remember this...
If she likes you enough and is meant to be in your life she'll reach out. If she doesn't, then move on.
Appolonia your the best.....LATELY i have been feeling myself and i wanna say thank you Apolonia...... YOU R THE BEST
13:00 this is so massively hurtful yet very very real. ty
Thank you YET AGAIN Apollonia !
Attitude stand your ground dont get walk on take advantage of kiss your teeth walk away build sexual tension be bread winner they will come👀
Thanks so much for your time and I look forward to go with good intentions like to get it know.
Thank you so much for your help.
I wish I had seen this video a few weeks ago. I have been in this situation for the last couple of years with someone. Over the summer I finally realized that it wasn't a healthy relationship for me to be in. A few weeks ago I talked to her about it, and told her that I at least needed some time away from her. I'm not sure that was the right way to handle it, but I doubt I could have changed it to something more.
How did it go?
Funny thing is, so many married couples express happiness about marrying their best friends. And I actually think it's touching. I just don't know.
With all due respect Apollonia, I disagree with you on the part of remaining friends.
First of all, most women wouldn't want to introduce a guy to their female friends simply because they love the attention they get from the guy which would take a back seat to a any possible relationship he could have with one of her female friends if it clicks.
Secondly, there is this stigma that comes with rejection. The female friends of the lady is more likely to also the reject the guy in question. I mean, why would a lady want to date a man her friend rejected. That creates a default unattractive feel in the friend's eye.
She's the one who controles the flow of my relationship I've wanted more but it's all in her favor, so last week I told her I need to budget my finances an start saving money, it's seems she just double her spending habits, she said things will get better now kids are in school, she said she will give me more time,🤔 I'll give her one more week 🙂
Joe,
In this situation I think its best to back away so she can see the value in the relationship.
Best,
Apollonia
Have to agree.women DONT want "yes" men
Joe Trueblood you don't need 2 giv her + time. That's a trick. If she hasn't had a positive or cooperative attitude to this far, she's not gonna change now. Don't fall into that game.
Apollonia Ponti excellent point!👍
Hey Apollonia, I absolutely love you're video's!! You have great insights and put already lots of advice into practice. A woman can be so confusing sometimes giving you mixed signals. Thanks a lot and if she decides to remain friends I know it's important to keep my dignity and keep loving myself and enjoy everything a great friendship is offering. Thanks again🙏🏻 and keep doing the good work 😉
I like her videos too
Really like the knowledge here.
Knowledge is power.
Another brilliant video Apollina
I have been in the Friendzone for
3 years. 😕
Thanks anyhow Apollonia.
You help me out so much! Thank you!
You are so welcome!
Absolutely love your channel
I learn all about relationships wow god bless you
Great tips Apollonia, you explain everything so well..it's so easy to digest. I'm going to share this with some of my single male friends. I think they could do with this advice! :-)
Dal Dhaliwal
Yep and how many of those Single Male Friends did you put in the zone?
They will try on u🤣🤣
“I love that outfit you left on my bedroom floor. Would love to see it there again soon.”
Andy Galbiati
Can u do a video on how to politely tell your Lady- FRIEND (who’s put u in her friend zone) that since she’s made that decision, that you are no longer “her’s”, and so not to cock-block u, when you’re around her friends?? (Seriously).
And, if she truly has made up her mind, what’s a playful way to let her know that since she doesn’t fully appreciate what u have to offer, that she doesn’t deserve you, and so, she’s DISQUALIFIED! ?
stop hanging out with her full stop, Its not a Hollywood movie were the guy was friends with her for years suddenly becomes her partner, If you were friends with her but haven't seen her for a few years that could happen. I have had a women stop me from hooking uo with her friends because i had fun with her. its not worth it , If she stopping you from seeing her friends, then stop being friends with her,
most women will say , lets be friends cuz they think I dont want to hurt your feelings by telling you I don't want to be your friend, so what happens is ,they ignore you thinking you will go away and never call them , its a BS line, most men only have a handful of true women friends that actually meant it and they do call and spend time with them as friends....
I love apollonia! She is so knowledgeable.
thanks for this channel its the best on youtube
It is not all about what she thinks about you when she is with you it's more about what does she think about you when you're not there! also always leave her wanting more
Thanks. Wish me luck 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞
Best of luck!
I agree with just about all of it except don't try to subtly "touch" people at work. I don't care if it's brushing a hand when you give someone coffee or whatever because it will likely cause more issues (even innocently) then that subconscious "I'm here" that they likely won't notice. My opinion. Feel free to post a counter argument. I'm happy to discuss my opinion
Great tips and advice Apollonia. You explained everything so well. Keep it up.
Super helpful! Thank you!!!!
Glad it was helpful!
This is Gold!
It's better to be single 😂😂😂 otherwise you have to do lot of hardwork.
Łazy like crazy 😂
I've noticed that woman resist being placed into the friend's zone but once in there they share all their secrets. I never wanted to date a friend zone friend after hearing about their relationships.
6:34 be cautious, men, if you seek romance with a co-worker. A simple compliment, like:"Wow, you look beautiful today..." can land you in the HR office, or unemployment line. Use tac.
Thanks for ur advice
Okay I take it you just want to be friends and that's how it will be I still respect you and thank you very fabulous lady
I H A T E the term "friend zone"..
Can we please stop pretending that human relationships are games
or possessions you need to win? If it happens, it happens. if not, hey you could have a great friend!
If you can't accept that; your loss and move on.. BUT the tip of keep your own opinion and be yourself; 100 procent on board with that!
Me: "Wear that dress you wore last month."
Her: "Thanks, Bestie. I think I'll wear it Friday night when I go out with Kyle!"
GARBAGE ADVICE!!
Lmao