1. Create some substance within your own life, i.e., accomplishments, goals and aspirations 2. Have ambition and happiness 3. Don't be needy or feel like you have to be in a relationship to be complete 4. Pace yourself and don't attach early on 5. Voice your standards 6. Be clear on the idea of the woman you want 7. Make sure you both have the same goals 8. Be upfront and voice the outcome you're looking for with women Sounds solid to me.
"If you cannot accept me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." Men are entitled to use that too. She has to work and build a life with you, not wait for a winner at the finish line.
Yes, but consider this. Actually, women's behaviour doesn't usually contradict this. So long as you're passionate and have a powerful vision and a healthy outlook in life, even if at the moment things aren't going your way you're still going to be extremely attractive to women. But if you're just miserable, whyever would anyone want that in their life?
1- distinct substance and self integrity 2- be ambitious and happy 3- dont be needy, she's just an investment 4- dont attach, pace yourself 5- voice your standards, self respect 6- be clear of 'your type' 7- both should have the same goals 8- being direct, dont let your insecurities take over you
You just contradicted yourself. You say 2 “complete people” but then the last part you said “help each other grow.” If you are complete, you don’t need to grow. It’s like saying adding something to an infinite. You’ll never find a complete person nor will you ever be a complete person yourself. A real relationship is two imperfect individuals who learn to fit each other. After all, to love is to love unconditionally.
Great info! I find women are more attracted to me when I talk about things I have a passion for. I lost weight going from 284lbs to 186lbs in two years and when i shared my passion for fitness and grinding hard in the gym, i found women were much more attracted to me verses when i stopped working out, while dating a toxic woman, and started to not feel as good emotionally.
Number 3 describes me. That's the mentality I am trying to fix right now. Since I started watching your videos I became more confident about myself. This particular video is sooo helpful, thank you! I am grateful that you are doing everything you are doing and for me, hearing everything you say from a woman rather than a man is an added bonus because I don't have the suspicion that you are saying what you are saying because it works for you.
Awesome information, the part that stuck out to me was “ you have to constantly check in on the relationship because Goals can change for you or your partner “ eye opener....
First off...that hair is slayed something serious. Secondly...the impassioned energy from which you speak significantly empowers the tools you give in this and other videos as well. That's how I know it's real. Thirdly...thank you again for even undertaking this work, and for the wisdom you've shared in this latest video.
I'm gonna master these tools. A lot of what is said this this video is what this girl told me after I showed her indecision and she said she'll let me prove myself to her. I don't know why I termed it that way but she said yes. TH-cam and coaches like Apollania are teaching me so much that I never was gonna learn from my teen years
I know i ve been here and there on comments in different video's. But thank u once again Apollonia. These quides refreshes my though's that i already have. As like training muscles. This world needs u and women like u.
On point Apollonia Ponti ..... I'm have really enjoyed your content and I have never for second regretted subscribing to your channel since last year . Thank you being so authentic .😍
YOU SPEAK WITH SUCH CLARITY. IT'S LIKE YOU ARE A CAPTAIN OF A SHIP, GUIDING US SAFELY THROUGH THE PERFECT STORM. AYE AYE CAPTAIN APOLLONIA PONTI. STAY ALIVE.
This is a great subject. I'm a very upfront person in general and when dating. I've always been aware that it will turn off some of the less self-aware women, who will lose interest without realizing why - i'd prefer they lose interest. But still this gives me some things to think about to make sure I'm communicating effectively.
Great video. To bad I didn’t see it at the right moment. Girl told me to stop texting her too much or she will block me. I basically killed her attraction by texting or calling to much. Hope I can applied these tools to get her back. Guys don’t make that mistake. I take full blame for it but we learn from errors/mistakes.
Thank you so much Apollonia for your knowledge and expertise. This is my favorite video, and I even downloaded it. Why? I am a strong person yet sensitive and passionate when it comes to a certain woman that I met. With all honesty and humility, I’m a 5X champion boxer that is a very dedicated athlete. First and foremost, I am a Christian man. The conclusion of this video for me is that a relationship with a woman is definitely NOT a need especially if I am just getting to know her. Thank you and God bless you. 🥊🥊🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💖✝️
This information is so true, just for the simply fact that Im going to continue to grow as an individual, pursue personal goals and ultimately creating the posture of a lion.
I agree with much of that. I also think a lot of men just want a woman who believes in them, which is really hard to find these days. A lot of women seem 'self-absorbed' in this day and age. I once had that, but my wife died of cervical cancer. So guess I shouldn't complain, at least I had it once, something some men never see. My problem is I've never met another woman like that since then, do they even exist anymore? :-) Most gfs I've had since then think that if they give me good sex, that's enough. But someone like me needs more (I have no problem finding women who will sleep with me, just can't find any that believe in me).
The crazy thing is we all know this through intuition. Now ofcourse with the brought up of technology most people are not connected with their internal and therefore live externally which as we know only leads to be miserable and lost if we haven't first taken awareness in knowing how to take care of ourselves. everyone talks a big game but the hardest thing to do is actually applying it to our very own lives. You're amazing by the way Apollonia!
Wow. This is mind opening. Truly made me realize a lot of things I was doing from a scarcity mindset. I’m currently in a relationship and I was acring very insecure and jealous because I subconsciously felt I wasn’t good enough. Realizing they are all fears/ insecure mindset. Thanks for your words today. It fed my soul.
Apollonia, you nailed it on the head with this video. Taking the time to really reflect on what you need in a partner is incredibly important. Especially on mutual goals. Thank you for sharing this!
Thanks for your teaching Apollonia and wisdom. Love your energy and amazing craft. I enjoy watching you nighty falling asleep to your soothing voice appreciate you!
This is my first TH-cam comment ever. Honestly this was a awesome video and very much appreciate the advice and for the great explanations. Just so damn believable and practical! Love this. Thanks !
Apollonia, 1. This video shows your natural good looks, similar to how you appear in person. 2. This video also details criteria that support a mans emotional, mental and physical alignment (focus). 3. Tangible exercises that separate lack/scarcity from power and balance. Thanks Apollonia!!!
Funny this video came out. I'm courting someone and after our second date she rejected me saying that while I was insta boyfriend material she thought that I wanted a serious relationship right then and there. I told her that she's wrong about wanting to be serious right at that spot. I let her know that I liked her a lot and might want to be serious with her but it was to early to come to that conclusion. Next thing I know 4 days later she called and wanted to know when's the next time we're going out. Type weird how you're explaining this now.
I love your videos Apollonia, I watched lots of them already. You're so beautiful and inteligent. You were born to teach and help others. I must say, the truth hurts and I have so much to work on to be a better man women can desire. I've been single for a while, and I'm growing to like it or perhaps accept it. I had several relationships in the past including a marriage, and failed. I may stay single for the rest of my life, who knows. I'm 43. But at least your teachings give men like me hope to grow if we aspire to pursue a great woman to spend the rest of our lifes with. You rock!
Good advice, and in the heat of combat, mirror her actions...If she leans back in her chair, you lean back in yours...If she leans in, you lean in...If she looks around at other guys, leave it for a few minutes, then catch the eye of a good looking girl in the room, and she will hate it. And remember, you are not buying her time, your time is just as valuable.
I've been listening to your advise and sound wisdom. And it's been instrumental to a T..gentlemen, listen and apply not only will you see result, but it's going to built self awareness and confidence..I guarentee you.
This really helped me out a lot. If we don't have standards character values common decency then its all a lie. And not just hang out with them because they are attractive and you want intimacy but a good personality and character is more important .. 🙏☮️
I'm gonna master them. Precious, dense video. Saved for evening 'evolving' work. I need to work on some points others are not so bad already. By the way the courses on your website are very good.
So profound! Thank you... So you told me to walk away and I did. Guess what hapoened? Also, I was focused on an outcome with her and realized that's not what I'm supposed to do. Amazing things change... However, she blew me off this weekend because she was exhausted and didn't want to get together on Saturday night. I didn't text or call her yesterday and gave her space.
I feel im in the same spot as you. I focused on an outcome with her, after 2 months..now 3 months casual dating. it pushed her away (emotionally unavailable). Still seems interested in me tho. I'm not waiting around but if the opportunity comes I know I need to be patient in my communication. Haven't talked for 4 days now. These points opened my eyes. Any advice for me? Thanks
Connor, I've been there. You just have to live your life and focus on your purpose. She will text or csll you unexpectedly. That's when you ask her out. Don't chase her! Also don't wait around for a call or text looking at your phone. I did that and it's agonizing. Find a hobby or go out and do something. You'll be surprised when you hear from her.
I love the value of the content you bring Apollonia. I feel dignified and empowered by simply listening to and hearing the wisdom. I have done and continue to do work on myself in a very extensive way in all areas of my life, including significant relationships. No doubt, single, as I have begun the process of elimination of everything and everyone that is not true in my life and replacing it with what and who is. Much to say about healing and growth... I am aware of some dysfunction of my own when it comes to significant relationships in my behavioral patterns. No doubt in my mind and heart that this is codependency and narcissism. I just downloaded your free ebooks. You're absolutely beautiful, keep up the great work, thank you! Know thyself; to thine own self be true.
13:15 Absolutely! Lack/scarcity seems from low self value/esteem. I've just thought scarc-ity makes me think of the word scare-d a vibration of fear/apathy.
I am with a woman who has 5 kids, I dated her 12 years before I finally married her on November 27, 2015. She is a strong woman and keep working never sat on her ass. She’s proven to be a Wonder Woman. Today her kids are grown and away from home and we are still together enjoying life. Always seeking quality time for each other.
Good videos and coaching from the perspective of a great woman Appolonia. I wonder though, will it apply towards single women who are “on the market”, which your listeners have to deal with? I am talking about 30+ audience.
1. Create some substance within your own life, i.e., accomplishments, goals and aspirations
2. Have ambition and happiness
3. Don't be needy or feel like you have to be in a relationship to be complete
4. Pace yourself and don't attach early on
5. Voice your standards
6. Be clear on the idea of the woman you want
7. Make sure you both have the same goals
8. Be upfront and voice the outcome you're looking for with women
Sounds solid to me.
Good cook for starting a relationship...
Thank you.
basically work alot 70 hours a week plus
Thank you!
🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑
"If you cannot accept me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." Men are entitled to use that too. She has to work and build a life with you, not wait for a winner at the finish line.
So true
Yes, but consider this. Actually, women's behaviour doesn't usually contradict this. So long as you're passionate and have a powerful vision and a healthy outlook in life, even if at the moment things aren't going your way you're still going to be extremely attractive to women. But if you're just miserable, whyever would anyone want that in their life?
Amen
PREACH
Very true
1- distinct substance and self integrity
2- be ambitious and happy
3- dont be needy, she's just an investment
4- dont attach, pace yourself
5- voice your standards, self respect
6- be clear of 'your type'
7- both should have the same goals
8- being direct, dont let your insecurities take over you
I totally agree. The word "need" in an intimate relationship, is a recipe for codependency.
A relationship is between 2 complete people coming together to help each other grow.
a relationship is 2 people asking each other what they want to eat until one of them dies
✨🙏🏾✨
Lol
Even if you have to up root an replant the same flower in new soil..
You just contradicted yourself. You say 2 “complete people” but then the last part you said “help each other grow.” If you are complete, you don’t need to grow. It’s like saying adding something to an infinite. You’ll never find a complete person nor will you ever be a complete person yourself. A real relationship is two imperfect individuals who learn to fit each other. After all, to love is to love unconditionally.
Great info! I find women are more attracted to me when I talk about things I have a passion for. I lost weight going from 284lbs to 186lbs in two years and when i shared my passion for fitness and grinding hard in the gym, i found women were much more attracted to me verses when i stopped working out, while dating a toxic woman, and started to not feel as good emotionally.
Great job on all your progress! 🔥
Keep it up dude!💪
Your presentation has improved, thanks for getting straight to business. I think your fan base will appreciate getting what they came for earlier on.
Number 3 describes me. That's the mentality I am trying to fix right now. Since I started watching your videos I became more confident about myself. This particular video is sooo helpful, thank you!
I am grateful that you are doing everything you are doing and for me, hearing everything you say from a woman rather than a man is an added bonus because I don't have the suspicion that you are saying what you are saying because it works for you.
Right on the money.! "Don't go thru life blindfolded" & "life won't work for you unless you work for it"..! I love you Apolinia.!
Apollonia this is one of the best videos I've seen involving relationships! Boundaries and integrity is important. Great job!
In my opinion.... This is probably her best video yet
This video helps us {as men} to know ourselves better!
Awesome information, the part that stuck out to me was “ you have to constantly check in on the relationship because Goals can change for you or your partner “ eye opener....
Yes. You need to be on your purpose. She wants to feel your strength and determination.
First off...that hair is slayed something serious.
Secondly...the impassioned energy from which you speak significantly empowers the tools you give in this and other videos as well. That's how I know it's real.
Thirdly...thank you again for even undertaking this work, and for the wisdom you've shared in this latest video.
"Life does not work for you if you are not willing to work for it ".very inspiring❤️Apollonia Ponti
Apollonia , your speeches r getting better day by day 🤗🤗
That's real talk being upfront that's me💯
I'm gonna master these tools.
A lot of what is said this this video is what this girl told me after I showed her indecision and she said she'll let me prove myself to her. I don't know why I termed it that way but she said yes. TH-cam and coaches like Apollania are teaching me so much that I never was gonna learn from my teen years
Yes I too remember this being the last yo mama joke
Lmao
LOL
xD
Lmfao
I know i ve been here and there on comments in different video's. But thank u once again Apollonia. These quides refreshes my though's that i already have. As like training muscles. This world needs u and women like u.
I work the graveyard shift @ a hospital and thank u! When I get my down time is when I can focus on your therapy 😊
I will master these tools..Apollonia this video came at a perfect time
Yet another great video and advice from the lovely Apollonia
Thank you Nicholas. Glad you enjoyed it! :)
@@ApolloniaPonti I want to donate without booking a session
I am mastering the tools you are teaching. It seems to come naturally these days, like 2nd nature 🙏🏼
On point Apollonia Ponti ..... I'm have really enjoyed your content and I have never for second regretted subscribing to your channel since last year . Thank you being so authentic .😍
YOU SPEAK WITH SUCH CLARITY. IT'S LIKE YOU ARE A CAPTAIN OF A SHIP, GUIDING US SAFELY THROUGH THE PERFECT STORM. AYE AYE CAPTAIN APOLLONIA PONTI. STAY ALIVE.
I have mastered a few of these and will master the rest. This coaching stuff works.
I’m going to master these tools! Thank you Apollonia! You Rock! 🎸
Excellent video. This is not just about cultivating attraction with women, but even more so about maintaining a healthy attitude in life.
This is a great subject. I'm a very upfront person in general and when dating. I've always been aware that it will turn off some of the less self-aware women, who will lose interest without realizing why - i'd prefer they lose interest. But still this gives me some things to think about to make sure I'm communicating effectively.
You’re real and honest. A huge thank you!!
I'm gonna master these points. They make lots of sense. Great work Apollonia
Another Classic Let's Go Ms Ponti👏🏿👏🏿
Hey Apollonia ponti thanks for your wonderful guidance presented in the video.Im gonna master these 8 keys shared by you for sure.
you are really helping me out here.. good points
Great video. To bad I didn’t see it at the right moment. Girl told me to stop texting her too much or she will block me. I basically killed her attraction by texting or calling to much. Hope I can applied these tools to get her back. Guys don’t make that mistake. I take full blame for it but we learn from errors/mistakes.
Thank you so much Apollonia for your knowledge and expertise. This is my favorite video, and I even downloaded it. Why? I am a strong person yet sensitive and passionate when it comes to a certain woman that I met. With all honesty and humility, I’m a 5X champion boxer that is a very dedicated athlete. First and foremost, I am a Christian man. The conclusion of this video for me is that a relationship with a woman is definitely NOT a need especially if I am just getting to know her. Thank you and God bless you.
🥊🥊🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💖✝️
been learning so much from this channel. Thanks Appolonia for all the advice
This information is so true, just for the simply fact that Im going to continue to grow as an individual, pursue personal goals and ultimately creating the posture of a lion.
👏👏 👏 She knocked it out of the park with this one.
I agree with much of that.
I also think a lot of men just want a woman who believes in them, which is really hard to find these days. A lot of women seem 'self-absorbed' in this day and age.
I once had that, but my wife died of cervical cancer. So guess I shouldn't complain, at least I had it once, something some men never see.
My problem is I've never met another woman like that since then, do they even exist anymore? :-)
Most gfs I've had since then think that if they give me good sex, that's enough. But someone like me needs more (I have no problem finding women who will sleep with me, just can't find any that believe in me).
You are on point all the time. Thanks for the timely advise. You are simply awesome.
The crazy thing is we all know this through intuition. Now ofcourse with the brought up of technology most people are not connected with their internal and therefore live externally which as we know only leads to be miserable and lost if we haven't first taken awareness in knowing how to take care of ourselves.
everyone talks a big game but the hardest thing to do is actually applying it to our very own lives.
You're amazing by the way Apollonia!
Appalonia, Love your content has helped me tremendously. I hope to see you.at one of you coaching seminars in LA.
Wow. This is mind opening. Truly made me realize a lot of things I was doing from a scarcity mindset. I’m currently in a relationship and I was acring very insecure and jealous because I subconsciously felt I wasn’t good enough. Realizing they are all fears/ insecure mindset. Thanks for your words today. It fed my soul.
Life is such a catch 22.
Got to already have it to get it.
Apollonia, you nailed it on the head with this video. Taking the time to really reflect on what you need in a partner is incredibly important. Especially on mutual goals. Thank you for sharing this!
Thanks for your teaching Apollonia and wisdom. Love your energy and amazing craft. I enjoy watching you nighty falling asleep to your soothing voice appreciate you!
This is my first TH-cam comment ever. Honestly this was a awesome video and very much appreciate the advice and for the great explanations. Just so damn believable and practical! Love this. Thanks !
your Brilliant, I forgot all these intuitive tools, making my girl my entire world has zero balance. thank you!
Apollonia,
1. This video shows your natural good looks, similar to how you appear in person.
2. This video also details criteria that support a mans emotional, mental and physical alignment (focus).
3. Tangible exercises that separate lack/scarcity from power and balance.
Thanks Apollonia!!!
Hey A, I have learned some things bout myself w/ur videos some good n some not so good
Hi Hugo,
Thanks for your comment! I hope the video can help with the not so good :-)
-Apollonia
Funny this video came out. I'm courting someone and after our second date she rejected me saying that while I was insta boyfriend material she thought that I wanted a serious relationship right then and there. I told her that she's wrong about wanting to be serious right at that spot. I let her know that I liked her a lot and might want to be serious with her but it was to early to come to that conclusion. Next thing I know 4 days later she called and wanted to know when's the next time we're going out. Type weird how you're explaining this now.
on point. Loads of love have a good weekend.
Great video,thanks for the insight and advice.Everything you do is always appreciated.Thanks again.
Been enjoying your videos . I've been doing things right now and it works. Thanks Ms Apollonia
I love your videos Apollonia, I watched lots of them already. You're so beautiful and inteligent. You were born to teach and help others. I must say, the truth hurts and I have so much to work on to be a better man women can desire. I've been single for a while, and I'm growing to like it or perhaps accept it. I had several relationships in the past including a marriage, and failed. I may stay single for the rest of my life, who knows. I'm 43. But at least your teachings give men like me hope to grow if we aspire to pursue a great woman to spend the rest of our lifes with. You rock!
I’m going to master these tools and be a better version of ME everyday day!
Thank you for your amazing inspiring videos!
Thankyou sister for your time and videos.
Love your vids! PLEASE come to Jersey!
Loved the video. You are extremely passionate about this subject. Thank you.
You are an amazing woman Apollonia. I love your videos! Thank you for your great work!
This video is just what men need to know thank you and like I always say God bless 😌🙏🏼😊☺️
My substance is video games and my metal/punk music to deafen my ears in the morning
Ur clearly a champion..high fives🤘
Mrs Ponti your amazing and i'm going to master these tools.
Good advice, and in the heat of combat, mirror her actions...If she leans back in her chair, you lean back in yours...If she leans in, you lean in...If she looks around at other guys, leave it for a few minutes, then catch the eye of a good looking girl in the room, and she will hate it. And remember, you are not buying her time, your time is just as valuable.
Great advice, I'm sharing it with several people
THank you!
I've been listening to your advise and sound wisdom. And it's been instrumental to a T..gentlemen, listen and apply not only will you see result, but it's going to built self awareness and confidence..I guarentee you.
This really helped me out a lot. If we don't have standards character values common decency then its all a lie. And not just hang out with them because they are attractive and you want intimacy but a good personality and character is more important .. 🙏☮️
Apollonia - Thank you as you always help me to a better man and centered with your talks.
Thank you Apollonia, you are amazing, I can’t wait to start sessions with you, I can tell your advices come from the heart. Muchas gracias!
Worth mastering indeed. Incredible insight.
I am going to master these tools, thanks for all the great videos your an amazing teacher.
This is really kind, sincere and sage advice. I see I've made rather a lot of bloopers ... Well, maybe next time I'll do better. Thanks for this.
New video.. New learning.. Thanks..
Million times thanks. u just saved my time by giving the right advice. I need u to be my mentors.
I'm gonna master them. Precious, dense video. Saved for evening 'evolving' work.
I need to work on some points others are not so bad already.
By the way the courses on your website are very good.
Thank you so much!
Very helpful, thanks Ponti.
Havnt watched a video more deserving of a like keep up the good work :)
Great vid with great advice.
Great look, Apollonia!) 😊💜🦅
Thank you! 😊
So profound! Thank you... So you told me to walk away and I did. Guess what hapoened? Also, I was focused on an outcome with her and realized that's not what I'm supposed to do. Amazing things change... However, she blew me off this weekend because she was exhausted and didn't want to get together on Saturday night. I didn't text or call her yesterday and gave her space.
I feel im in the same spot as you. I focused on an outcome with her, after 2 months..now 3 months casual dating. it pushed her away (emotionally unavailable). Still seems interested in me tho. I'm not waiting around but if the opportunity comes I know I need to be patient in my communication. Haven't talked for 4 days now. These points opened my eyes. Any advice for me? Thanks
Connor, I've been there. You just have to live your life and focus on your purpose. She will text or csll you unexpectedly. That's when you ask her out. Don't chase her! Also don't wait around for a call or text looking at your phone. I did that and it's agonizing. Find a hobby or go out and do something. You'll be surprised when you hear from her.
If she turned down a date with you, it's up to her to come up with a counter proposal. If she's not cooperating with you, she's not interested.
The best as always
Good morning Apollonia ty for great advice as always 😏
She knows all of the most important thing is to t, ;g
Your so truthful 😀!
I love the value of the content you bring Apollonia. I feel dignified and empowered by simply listening to and hearing the wisdom. I have done and continue to do work on myself in a very extensive way in all areas of my life, including significant relationships. No doubt, single, as I have begun the process of elimination of everything and everyone that is not true in my life and replacing it with what and who is. Much to say about healing and growth... I am aware of some dysfunction of my own when it comes to significant relationships in my behavioral patterns. No doubt in my mind and heart that this is codependency and narcissism. I just downloaded your free ebooks. You're absolutely beautiful, keep up the great work, thank you!
Know thyself; to thine own self be true.
excellent message!
Thank you Apollina Ponti, Your Great😘
Wow this is such a great video. I need to watch it several times so all the advice really sinks in. Thanks you.
excellent video, thank you
Another awesome video. 👍
Great Video Apollonia!, catching up on some of these congrats on channel growth. love the perspective from the women advice 👍
Wow thanks for advice i think you are really helping me out💕
13:15 Absolutely! Lack/scarcity seems from low self value/esteem. I've just thought scarc-ity makes me think of the word scare-d a vibration of fear/apathy.
I am with a woman who has 5 kids, I dated her 12 years before I finally married her on November 27, 2015. She is a strong woman and keep working never sat on her ass. She’s proven to be a Wonder Woman. Today her kids are grown and away from home and we are still together enjoying life. Always seeking quality time for each other.
Good videos and coaching from the perspective of a great woman Appolonia. I wonder though, will it apply towards single women who are “on the market”, which your listeners have to deal with? I am talking about 30+ audience.
Love it, great advice.
you are very inspirational, and i'm thankful for your advise you understand relationships baby.
Great advice this is 100 percent true. Thank you. Your easy on the eyes too so it helped pay attention lol
Like your advice 🌞 write down things , what you want, and your
Standard are......Works !!!🎨🖌️😀❤️💙🤓😃👌