40 years as a preschool teacher, each decade we lost the ability to discipline more. Supervisors would not allow the children to have consequences. You are so correct !
When my kids were little (in the 90s) I was talking to my coworkers and I said that the most important thing that children can learn is disappointment. They laughed and thought that I was kidding, but I told them that when kids can handle disappointment, the rest will fall in line. When my kids would say "Daddy! That's not fair!'. I would reply, "I know. If you look in the "Brochure of Life", on the very first page it says, "It ain't fair." They grew up to be sound individuals.
Sounds a bit authoritarian (not to mention negative and cynical) I mean just because life in general/a lot isn't fair doesn't mean you can't be fair towards other people. Kids can grow up to be good people without being treated with condescension and unfairness. Strict morals and discipline is one thing, being unfair and restricting is another.
@@Cacowninja You misread my intention. I raised my children to be absolutely fair with everyone and to not judge people on their looks, economic status, abilities, etc. I taught them to help those in need. I taught them if they are with someone and they had a sandwich and the other person did not, then they should give half of that sandwich to the other person. I never treated them with condescension or unfairness. My morality is based upon humanism (I don't subscribe to - and never have -any belief in a mythicall-based system built around worshiping omniscient/ omnipotent temperamental uber-beings). My approach to child-rearing was the opposite of "strict morals and discipline... being unfair and restrictive"", it was one of absolute fairness and freedom (within acceptable limits). My goal was to teach my children to not expect that everything is always going to go their way, and that not everyone is going to be fair with you. Although my children were raised during the rise of the "soccer mom / helicopter parent" era, they were not raised that way (they did get to go to play soccer if that was what they chose to do). It is due to the the "soccer mom" approach to child raising that there are a plethora of "Karen's" and "Kens" who believe that the world revolves around them and that they can do whatever they please and to hell with everyone else. I am happy to say that my children grew up to become well-adjusted, level-headed, courteous, compassionate adults.
I grew up in extreme violence with two criminal parents but the library saved me. I read the stories of how greatness comes from adversity and it allowed me to reframe the horror I was living in. Then… I entered the world and could not fathom how my peers in college were so unhappy with their lives. In too many ways they were living more difficult lives than myself. Love has to include teaching how to manage life’s ups and downs.
So too have I. Both breeders (I will not call them parents) were drug addicted losers and constantly had shouting matches, sometimes with physical violence.
Jen. As a librarian that has worked in all four types of libraries; school, public, special & academic, I thank you & praise you for telling the world the library “saved” you. When I recall all of my school kids & summer readers I wonder now how many we “saved” too with books, reading & a safe, neutral sanctuary to come to, the library. God Bless you now & always. Mary Z. Walker Certified School Librarian MLIS📚🙋🏻♀️
Your comment took me back; I had a similar childhood experience and also spent most of my free time in the library. Reading biographies of well known and not so well known historical figures gave me perspective and expanded my internal life immensely. I grew up to be pretty well-balanced adult having learned some critical life skills such as discernment, managing disappointment, setting and achieving goals and most of all, how to be content with my life.
Mrs Lindberg (a famous family whose baby was kidnapped and killed) said that adversity makes us stronger but not inherently. If that were so the world would be a much better place. It takes things like reflection to learn from that adversity and thats what makes us better people
My youngest son had failure after failure after failure in his young adulthood. I kept telling him “keep your head up because you are paying your dues and it will all pay off in spades”. When he hit 37 it did. Great job (helicopter pilot) good wife (an RN) beautiful home, and custody of his daughter that CPS took away from his worthless first wife. And his daughter calls his new wife, bonus Mom!
Sounds like me hahahaha! I was in the military and i thought that would open doors for me in the civilian world so i got out. I got with a woman that started doing drugs i didnt know and i got her pregnant. CPS took him away from us bc of her drug usage. I was scared and confused I had no one in my corner. I was fighting for my son and i requested a dna test and he wasnt mine. I got him into a safe loving family and i went to find myself. Today own my own trucking company. I met my beautiful soon to be wife 3 years ago we are leaving tomorrow for the Philippines where she is from to get married. She is an RN life was hard but then it all came together.
@@benedwards4466 Atta boy. Thank you for your service. Time in the military surely taught you a thing or two ;-) Good on you for protecting the child. I have no idea who you are, but that made me proud. You should be too.
I’m 68 years old. My dad told me growing up that we learn from our mistakes. He also told me I’m probably going to get a masters degree from the School of hard Knox.
Life is hard: My father had a friend that had lost his legs in Normandy during WWII. The first time I know I met him, he was kneeling to load his pickup truck with fence posts. I use his experience to determine if I have had a bad day. Legs shot off. Stumps laying in a puddle of burning fuel. A German officer walked up and shot him just above the ear and he survived. I have had poor days but not bad days. I walk with a cane however my father’s friend would have liked having my knees.
An acquaintance interviewed POWs from WWII, Korea, and Vietnam (including Bud Day). Her summary comment was about her surprise that these were among the happiest people she'd ever met. It takes bad days to appreciate the rest.
I saw this happen in the 1990s when self-esteem became more important than academic achievement. I left public education after 14 years of locking horns with lazy students, privileged parents, frightened administrators, and the academic fraud known as No Child Left Behind(Interpretation: every student will receive a high school diploma whether they attend class or do any assignments at all).
I was cut from the high school ice hockey team in grade 12; I then found that the school had a scuba diving course I could take after class. I got my ticket that winter. That licence gave me the opportunity to dive in New Zealand and many other places. Looking back, it’s much more valuable than the 25 games of hockey I missed. Happy birthday Buddy 🎉. God bless!
I was cut from my baseball tryouts for the all-star little league when I was ten years old. And I was considered a good player. I played two positions. Pitcher and 1st base. After getting over the initial shock of being cut, I was happy to just play with my regular teammates and friends. Not once did I lash out or think of hurting anyone. That was in 1975. This is how we learn. It's part of life.
I shattered my hip and had my hip replaced at 23. I had the military and wanting to become a game warden taken away. I enjoyed life and kept fishing. Now I am a plumber making good money and have a great wife. I wouldn't have her if the other things happened. Life happens. You have to accept it and move on. I promise if you look hard you will see where God has blessed you.
That is awesome! I didn't make the baseball team my senior year in high school because the new coach had this malarkey idea that if you missed a year playing, you weren't meant to be picked for the team that year. No matter how good you did in the tryouts. Well, I missed a year because I was grounded from playing baseball because of bad school grades. But that's OK, because I then joined the track and field team, and had fun doing that too and enjoyed my time with all the folks who were on the team as well.
A close cousin (if not a sibling) to the above saying is "We learn more from failure than we do from success." Both statements would fall under the category of "words to live by."
My mother had a high school education but she was a very wise woman. She taught me many things but probably the most important were "you need to learn how to handle disappointment when you are young'" and "if you expect life to be fair, you are going to be mighty disappointed."
I'd say most people are better off with no college. Some of the dadgummest dumbest people I've ever met have college degrees. Wisdom comes from experience over years. No school can provide that. God Bless Your Mom!
That’s the problem with all these 20 year olds. Everything has to be fair. My family is all Democrats, it’s exhausting. All of them r white collar btw. They have no idea how real people, whom do real physical work for living, barely making the bills, actually r. Everyday Americans that get it done. Talk about entitlement.
My Grandparents raised us because our parents were working multiple jobs. Whenever things didn't go our way or we didn't get a good grade or didn't make the team or we didn't get things we wanted, my Grandparents used to say, "You have 30 mins to stew on it & then you need to find a solution so you can get it right next time." They didn't want to hear any complaints. One time I complained, my Grandma's slippers flew right by me missing my head by an inch! 😆 That was the last time she heard me complain! OH, our Grandparents were tough on us and that's what made us tougher. And I'm the same with my children.
It's a damn shame that these kids aren't raised right, or at all! People need to STOP babying and lying to these kids and let them live and learn! They need structure and discipline and love and common sense, but sadly they're barely getting that if no at all. Keep preaching brother. ABSOLUTELY love your podcast and your overall content!!
I'm a martial arts instructor and the thing I tell my parents the most is how important it is to learn to lose. You won't win everything, and what you do after a loss defines your character.
MIKE, THAT'S SO TRUE AS MARTIAL ARTS IS ONE OF THE BEST TOOLS TO LEARN TO HUMBLE, RESPECT, AND HONOR OTHERS, ONESELF, AND YOUR SPIRITUAL LEADER. IT'S NOT ABOUT LEARNING HOW TO HURT OTHERS YET TO KNOW HOW IF NECESSARY IN DEFENSE. I USED TO STUDY SHOTOKAN KARATE MYSELF IN MY YOUTH! WELL SAID SENSEI! BLESSINGS SIR.
Right, in competition, accepting a win is easy. Being a gracious winner is learned after knowing how to correctly deal with not winning. A selfish winner celebrates alone just like a sore loser…wouldn’t it be great if we all could or would take the time to reach down and lift someone else up? 😉
Best thing my parents did for me as a kid was put me in Karate and Jiu Jitsu- I quickly went from a weak, angry victim mentality to being confident and having a sense of humor and humility
As a married 40 years old young guy living in the Nevada desert with almost bare minimum, although, a good quality life in my own terms. I have many faults and failure of my own, however, those very few victories are worth it in my book. "The more you try in life, the luckier you get."
My dad coached our little league baseball team growing up and he told us if we don't know how to lose we will never know how to win! Very important life lesson!
@@ananda_miaoyin I GET TIRED OF WINNING CHESS GAMES RECENTLY, YET, I GET TIRED OF LOSING TOO! LOL! I THINK WE ALL NEED BOTH TO DEVELOP CHARACTER. (I'M NOT YELLING, USE CAPITALS FOR MY FAILING EYESITE)
You nailed it! It's a generation that has been raised to believe they can do no wrong. Wake up kids... you live in a reality that requires discipline and personal effort. Love this!!!!
"a generation that has been raised to believe they can do no wrong" Just went to a family reunion. The hyper-christian branch had that same attitude you're talking about. Most of them were at least forty, but most were in their sixties. You sure it isn't the boomers who think they can do no wrong? Isn't it the boomers who are banning books like mad all while claiming they are being censored?
I used to work in a high school and I had a student who I told he needed to do something good for himself. He had told me all the negative stuff in a his file. I told him that on paper, he is looking like a loser. Several students told me they thought this was harsh. I told them, that he didn't need someone to sugar coat stuff for him, he needed someone to be honest with him. That kid from that point on came by and told me how he was applying himself more, making better grades. We need to tell kids the truth more often!
When I was 17 my grandmother asked me what I going to do with my life. I told her I just want to be happy. she told me that it would be wiser to shoot for contentment. Ittook me years to understand my grandma was right.I couldn't get it in my thick and arrogant head the good and bad things in life are what makes you "you" and contentment is being grateful for your life.
I was eleven when my wise Grandma gave me the same advice. She actually told me to get up everyday and take what God gives me and make the best of it. ie Her definition of contentedness. I later found out that that is in the Bible. It took me 40yrs, but I have figured it out. Thank God for wise grandma's!
God bless you Buddy for putting into words what I have been thinking all along. All of these "participation" trophies and such are ruining our kids. I am 72 years old (73 a week after your birthday) and a disabled veteran. I grew up in a cotton mill town in an extended family that believed in working for rewards. Kids today would be in the corner crying if they had to go through what I did. Much love from North Carolina. Keep telling it like it is!!!
@@ArmandoLopez-fp6kl Respect and recognition must be earned. My generation the so-called baby boomers knew this. My daughter played soccer and earned a letter in it for being an outstanding mid-fielder. She was also a cheerleader in middle school and worked part-time jobs to pay for her education. She is now a respected Nurse Practicioner who earned her way and she is proud of what she did with minimal help from us although we offered it. You can look around and blame society or your surroundings for whatever but YOU make the choice, you can be a victim or a victor. My child chose victor.
@@williamstyers4264 Try working a 40hr/week job and affording a degree to become a nurse practitioner. Impossible unless you are making $80k while going to college. College is unaffordable because of boomers. Must have been nice paying $50/semester when you can't even buy 1 book from the campus bookstore for $50 today. Thanks for ruining our money and keeping it all for yourself boomers. All the good paying jobs with pensions and cheap Healthcare are gone because they all wanted them for themselves and didn't care about the future costs because you got yours right?
Very good Buddy !! I was unpopular in high school. I have failed at most of my attempts at success. I settled for doing what paid a living. I dug myself out of the hole I was in. Not without help but I kept my head down and pushed forward. I am 76 and life is good. I lived and got over the challenges as we all should. Is my life perfect? NO ! I am happy and deal with the challenges that come..
I once heard someone say how commercials & such lead us to believe that we need fancy things and excitement to make us have a good day/time. BUT, in reality if you woke up and nothing bad happens you actually had a good day! People are being programmed to expect a lot from little investment and to not feel uncomfortable. If you are not uncomfortable you are not growing and learning!
I know how you feel! A total up hill climb my entire life and life is finally getting better thanks to God and my wonderful wife! I thank God daily and let Him handle it! So never give up and always be thankful for getting where you are now and where here takes you! To God be the Glory!
I'm a Tennessee country boy who has worked hard on the farm growing up and I've experienced plenty of disappointment. That along with my dad's strong discipline and guidance made me a great man. Ive never been arrested or even had a speeding ticket. I'm overly courteous to everyone. I'm 45 years old now and it breaks my heart to watch the world slip away from God and basic morality. God said the next cleansing would be with fire and I think it's coming soon.
I was born and grew up in the city, there has always been a level of tension whenever you have people living on top of eachother but with MSM focusing heavily on topics that only further instigate the tension, it becomes a recipe for disaster. So I moved down to T or C, NM for a month to help out with renovations on a small apartment complex and let me tell you, I have never felt so calm before. Everyone was friendly, always had the time of day to engage in a conversation and would stick their neck out for you even if they hardly knew you. Unfortunately I’m back in the city now but after getting a taste of that type of living, I’m going back.
I often think that these kids being raised on TikTok need to be jerked out to a farm somewhere and made to work for their food and shelter. They probably don't even know how their food gets on the table.
Life is disappointment, it's triumph and tragedy. I'm 67 and have certainly had my share of all of it, good and bad. You , sir, are 100% right- the younger generations have not been exposed to a lot of things, they have been spoiled and coddled, sheltered from reality. When they lose it the result is either suicide or worse- they kill others and then commit suicide. A lot of things are going to have to change in our society, this country will not survive if something doesn't drastically change.
I'm so thankful my parents are raising me to work hard for what I want, and not just handing it to me. Great video, couldn't agree more. Keep up the good work
Your parents are wise, and all that hard work pays off in the end. If it’s worth having, then it’s worth fighting for. Hard work teaches us valuable life lessons, and so does our failures. Remember, a smart person learns from their mistakes, but a wise person learns from OTHER PEOPLE’S MISTAKES. My daddy taught me that, and he was a very wise man. God bless you.😊
Everybody gets a Trophy!!! Years ago, you didn't make a team in High School, all your friends made fun of you and life went on! Good Luck with your Album Buddy!!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
This is definitely a substantial part of the problem. When you lose, get rejected, or get disappointed, you have 2 choices: get bitter or get better. Learning to lose with grace builds character. If you never lose, you never learn.
Losing and winning is what capitalism teaches. Nothing really matters but more profit children are taught to compete be the best in lieu of helping each other. See how corporations are destroying the world in every way possible and devouring the earth as a serpent. We have been warned of the false prophets yet we accept the shining toys. Profits are the false prophets.
Happy Birthday Buddy🎉. Keep up the great job!!!You are exactly 💯 percent RIGHT!!! When I was a kid I had RESPECT for my parents they taught me RIGHT from WRONG and I had chores to do when I got home from school WORK ETHICS start at home it makes you feel good and when you can get a job you will work for what you get.Hard work is GOOD for you.The Government we have now say FREE ...FREE....FREE....they don't want people to work they want to GIVE HANDOUTS so they can have CONTROL in the END just like China, Russia and Iran and the SADDEST thing is American's are too BLIND to SEE it they like FREE too much to WORK!So SAD but TRUE!!!
Sometimes learning also makes you bitter calous and detached because of complex trauma and codependency. Learning human nature deeply and integrating def dosent make you feel safer after coming out of a chaotic family
Quite literally had this conversation an hour ago with both my boys. Let's not forget the damage that social media does by painting a world that is perfect and the desire for our children to be validated. As well as learning to allow disappointment to be mentoring moment, teach them how to stand on their own. When they accept themselves for who they are, understand there things they need to fix, only then will they start to understand their place in this great country.
I blame the internet one hundred percent. These crazies sit in front of a computer screen until they’re brain washed and sick in the head. The world was a much better place before the internet.
I completely agree. Social media paints a picture that the world is supposed to be all fun and games all the time. It has become finely tuned to keep you addicted by giving you what you want all the time.
This guy is spot on! As a Pastor that works with young people on a daily basis, I have seen the same trend over the past 30 years of Ministry. Absentee parents and cell phone raised kids couldn't possibly end well. So ... here we are.
Just curious as a pastor have you ever remotely considered the effect endocrine disrupting chemicals (mimic estrogen) are having on the population? You know decreasing male testosterone rates, sperm counts, sexual orientation and identity issues, mental illness, sex specific cancers and other cancers in men and women? How do you reconcile that with God and not blame the victims and let the real evil (greed and a comfortable life we weren't meant to live) get a free pass?
This old boomer grew up from the 50s-70s. You are wise beyond years. Preach it. These kids today need to hear and know this message. If anyone watching is in a place to convey this message to the younger folks, (or anyone...) you need to being doing so.
I graduated 10th in my senior class in high school,I was nominated for national honor society 2 times,but they wouldn't accept me in. My folks told me not to be upset about it,they knew I was smart and we just didn't fit in with the snobs high society. And life went on...
33 year old here, often I feel myself getting frustrated with everyday life and need a good reminder. Thanks for being that kick in the butt to keep us straight.
My daughter and I were just talking about this last night. She had a bout with depression because we had to rehome “her” rooster, then my amazing dog died, then our hens became food for a weasel. She’s a deep feeler and LOVES animals. We talked about how she tried numbing out, then experiencing the feelings, then talking about it. She’s doing well now because she knows that life is painful and when you love, you risk losing. I think it’s been called “The Human Condition” for a long time for good reason.
Thank you for saying this! My wife and I have discussed this many times. We are not our children's friends. Parent them and show them how life really is!
@@JoshMaxPower I call my son buddy. He's 9. We, go hunting, fishing, camping and to car shows. We build thing together like boys clubs, roof racks for my truck. We work on the cars and small engines together. We sit and read books together. We walk and train the dogs together. He's used saws, welders, hammers and many other tools. He's shot guns. He's a favorite of all his teachers. He's the first to volunteer to help. He will speak up for other kids if being bullied. He will come to me with anything that he has in his mind. Because I treat him like a young man. I value his ideals and opinions, even when it's the best a kid can come up with. I do all this parenting while calling him buddy a lot. I call him that because he is my buddy. At 9 years old his behavior at home, church, and school and public is far beyond the development of most kids his age. We also live in the inner city. Calling a child buddy isn't a sign of bad parenting.
@JoshMaxPower - I was on a walk at the dog park the other day and heard a dad call his son buddy. And I thought, a lot of people here call their dogs buddy...
There can be no success without failure. If everyone succeeded, then nobody would truly be successful. ...and if nobody can be successful, then everybody by default fails. Thanks, Buddy, for saying it out loud.
I started working in daycare to pay for college, and I LOVED it. The last time I taught in a preschool, I was told that I couldn’t say or do anything that might jeopardize their self-esteem. No sitting down for time out or anything disciplinary. The director’s little boy was a biter, and the other children were scared of him, but I couldn’t do anything about it. My classroom wasn’t chaos, because I am a good teacher, but I became so frustrated with the situation that I finally quit. There have to be consequences for doing unacceptable things, and children need to know that. That was twenty years ago, and we’re seeing the results of that little social experiment now.
I work in childcare now and get told off when I use the word "naughty" even if I don't label the child but their behaviour. Totally agree. How are children going to learn unless you teach them?
I quit teaching over 20 years ago because there was no discipline allowed, just sympathy for kids no matter how horrific their behaviour. It taught them nothing and left no air time for anything much to be taught. I left. Poor kids who had that experiment as their fate.
Glad to see someone else is calling this out. I've been saying it for years. We stopped teaching kids how to fail. Biggest mistake we've ever made as a society.
@@deborahparrish2201 , I thought that was a given. You cant take God out of everything, then complain about people doing Godless things. My main point on teaching kids to fail came about when I was trying to figure out what was different today than when I was in school in the 80's. We brought guns to school all the time. It wasn't a big deal. No one was a victim of s shooting. So, what was different. For starters, not everyone got a trophy. Not everyone made the team. Not everyone passed their class.
I am a new subscriber! This Buddy Brown is on "target" with everything I've seen and heard him say. Keep it going Buddy...you are awesome. Happy early Birthday!
Well put Mr. Brown. My son is a millennial boy did I have my challenges with him but he was raised with a Bible in one hand and a belt in the other. He was raised to work hard if you want something, give back to the community, contribute to society and learn to accept criticism be it your boss, teacher and your parents doesn't matter. My proudest moment as a parent when my kid came around when he got older, and said "mom, I'm glad you and dad were hard on me even when I hated you but you were right, life is not easy and you prepared me". I thanked God when I heard that.😊
That's SO FRICKEN TRUE FACTS FACTS ACT UPON THEIR EMOTIONS YOU'RE SPEAKING TRUTHFULLY SHARING THAT'S SO TRUE YES EXACTLY BUDDY THANK YOU I'M GLAD I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE FEELS OR THINKS EXACTLY THE SAME WAY😊
As a member of Gen Z (20 years old) just finished my sophomore year of college, it’s really hard seeing the state of most of my peers. They are either angry at the world or just kind of numb and nihilistic to most of it, it’s sad cause there are so many bright and great people in my generation that I know are capable of greatness but for one reason or another they become way to discouraged way to quick. People nowadays are literally too afraid to live life
I feel you fam. Im also Gen Z (22). Some of us were raised right. I think there are a good amount of us normal youngins, we just forget that the majority of us arent vocal about it.
I started seeing this happen in the early 90's(i'm gen x) to kids.. school indoctrination,families broken and most these kids put on ridlin and everything under the sun,its been a long time coming.
The problem is you guys know you’re good people. As soon as you speak the truth, that other half that ain’t will try to silence you at all cost. No one wants a smart, critical thinker. They want a controllable bandwagon jumper. There are leaders of this world and followers. Currently we have way too many followers.
I grew up in a steelworker's home with an Irish Father and an immigrant Polish Mom. I was an only child and was required to work for everything I got. My Father would lecture me about not bringing dishonor on the family name. My father once told me not to do anything to cause him to raise a hand to me, because he would do it with intent; break bones, draw blood, and cause severe bruising. He was an honorable man and his word was his bond. He is long gone, but not forgotten. I'm 73 years old, first college graduate in our family, retired 30 year Army veteran, married for 54 years to the same woman, and raised 2 children, my son is retired/disabled USMC, and my grandson just came home from his 3d overseas deployment with the USAF. My Dad and Mom knew what they were doing.
How about that! I was born Polonia, Gary Indiana, Polish father, Irish mother. Living in Utah, building back the Utah Territories!😅 About to reach 62.😮
Everything that he just said is the Truth... My Father always told me that "Winners have to learn how to Lose first because Losing is the only way to learn from your Mistakes in order to make yourself better"... But now days Everybody is a Winner and our Society is showing the Miserable Results from that Mindset.
Michael Jordan wasn't a huge success at first, nor was Kobe Bryant! They failed early on in their athletic careers. They only became successful and famous because they learned from their mistakes / failures and worked hard every day to reach that level of success. The success they (Jordan & Bryant) had wasn't handed to them, they earned it through hard work and learning from their mistakes. Michael Jordan was cut from his High School Basketball Team! Kobe had a rough early childhood. Buddy Brown is 100% accurate.
Yes, anyone can be a WINNER!! Your Dad was spot on. It takes a little bit of CLASS to have a stiff upper lip and to CONGRATULATE the WINNER!!! Somebody beats you, Shake his hand and congratulate him and mean it!!
Thank you for this! My kids’ soccer team this year did not keep score so they wouldn’t be disappointed when they lose. Even my six year old thought that was the silliest thing. I thought, how are they ever going to know to push themselves to try harder next time or experience the reward of working hard for something, or how to handle the frustration of a loss after working so hard, etc. Those are some weird mind games they’re playing with kids. Of course the kids kept score themselves, it was natural to them.
"Did not keep score" is so far away from reality. "Keeping score" is human nature to the point that there's an old saying "whenever two boats pass, there's always a race going on, in at least one of the cockpits".
Even as infants, we need to begin learning how to “self-soothe”. I’m constantly amazed and discouraged by all the people who need twice weekly sessions with a therapist in order to cope with any and all of life’s disappointments. LEARN TO SELF-SOOTHE! Praying is a good place to start.
It's so strange to me that people go to therapists for nothing, basically. When I was raised, needing therapy was for pretty severe issues. But now, I just inwardly rolled my eyes when asked who my therapist is and try to keep my voice neutral when saying I don't have one. At least I've learned not to react with shock at the very idea. That sure got me jumped on the first time someone asked me that. I blurted out something like, why in the world would I want a therapist? Bwaahaahaa - Southern country girl that I am, I had to get used to these northerners and their addiction to 'therapy'.
Your right Buddy. The ambition to improve and succeed makes people grow up positive and responsible. That mindset was lost when they decided that competition was unfare. Competition drives improvement. It's hugely important. It teaches us to succeed and lose. You are an astute man and are on the same page as me. Cause I'm really old school. I'm 80 yrs old. Stay strong and live free. Keep it coming. Dandahermit
As a 23 year old man going through a very depressive time (isn't the first but for a while I haven't felt this level of disappointment in a good while) your words actually perked me up a little when I needed it. Thank you!
Hang in there everyone experiences highs and lows in they're life, when you reach that high and you will you'll look back and think dang that low was nothing .
Zackary, I know it's not easy going through those times when nothing seems to go right. For me, trying to find something that I like, to take my mind off of the troubles of this world has helped. I truly wish you the best in whatever you do. May GOD bless.
Absolutely, Anger & Hatred everywhere. Even when you communicate in a loving manner, hatred sticks its angry head out. Stay Heart-centered and have a wonder-filled day❤
As an African American Pastor/Retired Police Officer, this is one of the most important and impressive comments I have ever heard. Life is full of disappointments, each one has to be addressed honestly, sincerely, and respectfully without preconceived bias. Thank you Buddy, teach your children well, and God bless your family. Brother Will
This is 1000% true. Thank you for stating it so clearly. I’m 62 and have been saying for several years now that I’m glad I’m not any younger. I think of my childhood and college years and the struggles of my 20s and all the other decades…we have become hopelessly soft as a society.
I turn 62 next Saturday, and I totally agree with you. The younger people get upset over the smallest things. I guess the participation trophy generation might not make it.
AMEN 🙏🏼 Buddy!!! ❤ Mine are grown and doing their careers. Thank God they was taught to work you want a new truck or whatever you got to work for it!!! Preach it brother!!! ❤💯
Buddy, I'm 15 years old and you have taught me so much about life that no one else has been willing to tell me. Thank you, really, thank you Buddy. God bless you! Can't wait for this new album on Friday!!!
Jessie, I’m from Australia and this man has real words of wisdom. Life is great, but sometimes is disappoints, sometimes it kicks you in the guts. But’s that all ok. Listen to Buddy’s real world and sure as hell don’t get caught up is the rubbish the so called influencers like Andrew Tate spew. Buddy is a man you can respect and lean from at what ever age. Have a good life. 👍
Your daddy should be your go to for life advice. I urge you to not seek information about life from strangers off the internet. Uncle or grandfather is your best bet.
Subbed for five years. Taught in different states: AZ, FL, CO, NC. I've seen it get worse and worse. As consequences are removed for students, teachers get more and more accountability-even for things we have no control over. Administration not only does not support the teachers, but throws them under the bus. Suspensions are counted as excused absences, so a student who gets suspended is actually being rewarded. Admin sides with parents and students. School districts adopt insane programs to supposedly better discipline, but in fact these are just techniques for admin to pass the buck to teachers and look like they care. teachers are told to manage their classes and build relationships, but how is that possible when you are undermined, your authority is eliminated, and students do whatever they want without consequences. Students get sent to the office and return with little to no consequences. If you send kids to the office, you get written up for "poor classroom management". Example: a kid who has been sent to the office repeatedly for disrupting the class, seat moved, multiple parent contacts... then walking around the room with an object in his pants as if it is an erection, and then asking out loud ""Anyone want to touch my balls?" Consequences? ZERO. I am not joking. NOTHING was done, and he continues to disrupt the class. This year I was unable to teach-really just baby sat. The rulers we bought at the beginning of the year were totally destroyed by Christmas break. Everything trashed: glue wasted, brushes deliberately left in paint, thrown around, pens and pencils broken and on the floor, paper wasted... and a lot more issues. I've had good kids tell me they feel ignored and marginalized, while the bad ones get all the attention and perks. Then we got an email saying not to send kids to the office: to handle it in the classroom, because they have to deal with "important" issues like those skipping class. To use our lunch time to have these kids in for detention. And then they announced a switch to yet another "program", the "positive reinforcement" nonsense. So that was it. I am leaving teaching. It is a farce and a crime what has been "allowed" to happen. Not wasting my time anymore.
Do a series of videos on this. Put it on TH-cam, Rumble, and Twitter. What you say is too important to be buried in a comment. Parents don’t know what is happening. The pandemic brought awareness about perverted sex indoctrination at school.
Thanks for another GREAT video Buddy. No matter how bad I feel or hurt when I go into a store I have a smile on my face and I try to make whoever is working there or those surrounding me smile!!! God Bless you Buddy!
Right?! I've been on the cash register side of the checkout. I'm always polite and respectful to hard working clerks, even if they are short with me. (If they are, I just thank them and move along). But, about 10 times out of 10, you see them perk up instead - and appreciate being appreciated.
I have 3 teenage boys and we don’t watch tv, I watch TH-cam videos. I homeschool my 2 youngest, my oldest is 19 and 2 years graduated from HS. No university for him as I do not want him indoctrinated. Thank you for your timely message Buddy. I really love you Man.
There is nothing wrong by not going to college some times they do more damage that they do good, consider studying a trade (plumbing, HVAC, Electrician, Auto Mechanic, carpenter (framer).
Some of the best words my dad ever told me was to not forget where I came from. If you learned your boy right, I don’t think you got any problems letting him loose into the world. But, the decision is yours, and yours only. The Lord bless you and your family!
University is ok when it's a profession based program. Law, medicine, dentistry, nursing, engineering, accounting etc. Danger lurks in arts and choosing g a vague major of gender studies and political science. So don't throw the baby out with the bathwater, purpose driven education leads to a career. Going for the experience is a waste of money. We need our professions to take care of society.
This is interesting.. seeing this vid now. My daughter was really bummed she didn't get this job she wanted today and she was upset and crying. She has had to work hard for everything she has. I just told her.. there have been times in her life that things didnt work out the way she wanted but she can be thankful for the things she does have. A good paying job, a nice place that we rent with a nice pasture, pond and neighborhood. A cute 2nd hand Toy Rav4 that she is building excellent credit on. 2 cats, a nice boyfriend and a mom that really loves her and is very proud of the woman she has become. God has always come though and blessed us even in the worst of times. Disappointment is part of life and as long as you keep putting one foot in front of the other it makes you a better person. Thanks for your vids.
I stumbled across your post and was amazed. You are absoluteley right. I see it here in Germany and the reactions of young people here are very similar to the way you describe in the USA. An upbringing that doesn't involve disappointment is well intentioned but badly done.
As a 16 year old who was homeschoold and just got my GED this is so true most people my age don't know how to handle disappointment homeschoolers aren't that bad most of the time in my experience but every time I meet a public schooler they don't know how to be disappointed and handle the consequences
My daughter fell off the beam at State tournament and missed regionals as a result. She was super sad but do you know what she did while most of her teammates were away at regionals? She crushed a new skill. She used that disappointment and turned it into a roundoff back handspring. KInd of happy for that fall. You're spot on.
@@sanction7627 I won't lie, it stung, but you scrape yourself off the ground and move forward. Thankfully, I have a like-minded friend who always reminds me that this is how we build mental strength and character.
What you say is so true. There is another piece to this. Young people who can not handle disappointed and process these feelings are often prescribed medication to help them deal with these feelings artificially. They are left feeling indifferent about hurting others. Most Children should not be prescribed antidepressants. Parents need to parent and not look for an easy way to deal with their children.
As a 53 year old, my life certainly didn't go the way I thought it might. I once had my dream job, but after 6 years I had to give it up. I bounced from job to job since. Last year I got a job that is even better than my dream job. A job I am proud of and helps people, and not just to earn a paycheck. Disappointment can lead to much better things.
I’m 53 years old and been through the sham that made me who I am. Have a son and daughter at 16 and seventeen. Hearing your speech gives me hope for our country and children! Godbless you and thank you for fighting the good fight!
Same age as you are, no kids though. We will get through this!! We have to, can't let our grandparents down, so many died for our country and the scum will not take it from us!
I’m nearly fifty, and I went off down at the hardware store the other day when I ran into people my age. I told them that we must pass our knowledge, skills, and wisdom to the kids for THEIR sake, never mind our vain “legacy.” I may have ruffled a feather when I said, “I’ll be a SOB if any kid of mine is going to walk around with blue hair!”
Enjoy so much listening to you Buddy. Thank you for what you do and hopefully our younger generation will listen to and HEAR some of your shows. I feel thru God’s blessings you are wise beyond your years. You go Buddy 💥💥💥 🐾🐾 😎 - Texas
I totally agree Buddy!! I also think that part of the problem is that kids don't get disciplined anymore either. They need to learn that there are consequences to making bad decisions. This so prevalent, even in our government; no accountability anymore!
I have always said, having kids doesn't make you a parent. And yes, people don't discipline their kids at all. They don't ask anything of their kids. The kids can't even cut the grass, or pull weeds, everything is beneath them, so they stand around all day long , looking bored and depressed. They have no goals in life, none. And this lack of respect for authority is ridiculous.
The reason they don’t discipline their children is they don’t have the morals that Christianity brings to a family so they don’t know what is morally right.
The most terrifying sound I heard at 10 to 15 years of age is the sound of my dad's belt being pulled thru those 6 belt loops on his pants. It means that - very shortly - my a** was getting a new complexion - for something I did, after I was told specificaly to NOT DO THAT. I got several such sessions growing up, and it was always explained to me why my poor a** was going to be "warm" for several hours. I never felt abused - still don't ! I never hated that man, still don;t, and never will. When I went into the Military, I knew how to take direction, and also laughed at the (boys) who didn't. Total lack of taking responsibility on their dad's part.
Thank you Buddy! I always told my kids that losing helps you to appreciate winning even more. Also that nothing in life is free. And that trust is earned, not given. They turned out to be pretty cool adults! 😊🇺🇸
I bumped in your Instagran a few weeks ago, watching reels, so amazing. I totally agre 100% with you are saying. Not just in USA, its happening all over the world, here in Brazil is the same. Luckly we don't have mass shootings (its difficult and really expensive to buy a gun here), however the criminals have a lot of guns!!! Kids and teenagers don't have respect anymore, everything is supposed to be free, or easy to gain, without any effort. I'm in my 50s, and it's really difficult to see these changes, for the worst most of the times. Lets keep fighting!!!! At least my kid is not woke or whatever!!!
I'm a lifelong Democrat but I don't think you will be that surprised to hear that we are totally on the same page on this issue. Common sense is not the domain of any political party but instead it is at home among all people of good will and good intentions. I very much enjoyed your video and thank you for your efforts.
You should rethink being a democrat. But then, republicans are only barely better. But at least the Republican Party pretends to care about morality which is infinitely better than a party that actively promotes the destruction of the family, truth, morals and principles.
Same here. And I'm actually to the left of most of the Democratic Party, in the sense that I don't like how it's sold out to corporate interests. Helicopter parenting is a disservice to kids and society. And I suspect I share a lot of the values of a guy like Buddy Brown.
Common sense is extremely rare in the Democratic Party, virtually nonexistent. Why not just take a look at our “president” and just come to terms that it’s a party that is becoming the undoing of our once great nation.
Yeah, it's incredibly frustrating that most people working aren't paid enough for one income to support a household and we are often required to work multiple jobs, even households with dual incomes. Paying people so little is the downfall of our society. I honestly believe that ending the monetary system entirely and permanently is our only answer. Not just for things like this, for ALL things. Not to usher in some kind of utopia. Personally, i feel like that would make us all miserable. To bring back some personal responsibility and autonomy. To feel a valuable part of our communities. As an added benefit, we would also reduce our resource requirements, our energy consumption and all waste. We gain incentive to produce products that are as long lasting as possible, we rid ourselves of the incentive to exploit our health for pharma profits. Same with our food supply. Same with everything in this world today. Anyway, if you're interested in learning more about how and why we could/should end money, please check out Peter Joseph's TH-cam channels, revolution now or culture in decline. He's an excellent place to start learning about this. Ending money is the most rational thing that the human race could do.
My son is 36. He grew up facing disappointment all the time AND YET everything is a tragedy. 1 to 1000 in 3 seconds flat. The world told him all through school his feelings were all that mattered. He got participation ribbons and was told he was exempt from the tough tests. Didn't matter we raised him with tough love and told him the world didn't care about his disabilities. The school told him he was special because he had learning problems. Well, the world doesn't care that he has disabilities and he has surely found that out. We tried to raise him to understand this. We raised him that chores had to be done rather he liked it or not. We raised him that he was responsible for his own actions. When he meets his maker God isn't going to want to hear how badly he was treated, and he was, God is going to only care about how he reacted and dealt with the problems. Don't always blame the parents.
I have aspergers. Am female. There was NO diagnosis anything when I grew up. I only found out about it around 2008. There were kids with ADHD symptoms when I was in school, but again, no DX, special treatment, or anything. We all just did what we could to make it. I have my issues, yes, but I am also self employed. I rely on my parents for a lot of things. But I am not at all entitled. I even have shame over using public funding to help me. I learned to be frugal and respectful as a kid, and it has gone a long way. I also have some "country" life skills like hunting and butchering, and trapping and hide tanning, and sewing furs and leather. I was NOT made to feel special in school or at home when growing up. I shudder at what may have happened had I been DX'd at age 5 or whatever and been in today's schools. Like my topic obsessions were "something is wrong, but oh let's coddle her since she sooo special". I was obnoxious for sure, but got no special anything. I'm an only child though, so my parents did indulge me some, but if I was being bad, those things like going to all those merry go rounds would get canceled.
I believe this is a huge part of it. I also believe that people getting in serious trouble for defending themselves at school breeds a lot of pent-up anger that never has a release until it blows up. We used to go outback and duke it out. Win or lose, you were able to release that energy.
When you cant even fight back something feels unfair… now they want to punish everyone. Stack that with daily bullying and a bit of mental disability and what do you get?
I recently had this conversation with my 12 year old granddaughter. She was complaining about some kids talking about her. I told her that whether she complained or not, those kids will talk. Best thing to do is ignore them and do not give them any of her time or effort.
40 years as a preschool teacher, each decade we lost the ability to discipline more. Supervisors would not allow the children to have consequences. You are so correct !
Thanks for Buddy 😂❤
God bless you Buddy
This is why I do not teach anymore.
Buddy you are one of the best I am a swamped in the Okefenokee we need a President with your views God Be with our families and Country
@@dennyalvarez8580 Waycross all day !
When my kids were little (in the 90s) I was talking to my coworkers and I said that the most important thing that children can learn is disappointment. They laughed and thought that I was kidding, but I told them that when kids can handle disappointment, the rest will fall in line. When my kids would say "Daddy! That's not fair!'. I would reply, "I know. If you look in the "Brochure of Life", on the very first page it says, "It ain't fair." They grew up to be sound individuals.
This is the same thing (so to speak) my dear mother of blessed memory would say to me. Circa 1970’s
When I said "That's not fair!" the response from my parents was "Since when was Life fair?".
@@catherinecurtis2865 my dad would tell me "the fair isn't until August"😎
Sounds a bit authoritarian (not to mention negative and cynical) I mean just because life in general/a lot isn't fair doesn't mean you can't be fair towards other people.
Kids can grow up to be good people without being treated with condescension and unfairness. Strict morals and discipline is one thing, being unfair and restricting is another.
@@Cacowninja You misread my intention. I raised my children to be absolutely fair with everyone and to not judge people on their looks, economic status, abilities, etc. I taught them to help those in need. I taught them if they are with someone and they had a sandwich and the other person did not, then they should give half of that sandwich to the other person. I never treated them with condescension or unfairness. My morality is based upon humanism (I don't subscribe to - and never have -any belief in a mythicall-based system built around worshiping omniscient/ omnipotent temperamental uber-beings). My approach to child-rearing was the opposite of "strict morals and discipline... being unfair and restrictive"", it was one of absolute fairness and freedom (within acceptable limits). My goal was to teach my children to not expect that everything is always going to go their way, and that not everyone is going to be fair with you. Although my children were raised during the rise of the "soccer mom / helicopter parent" era, they were not raised that way (they did get to go to play soccer if that was what they chose to do). It is due to the the "soccer mom" approach to child raising that there are a plethora of "Karen's" and "Kens" who believe that the world revolves around them and that they can do whatever they please and to hell with everyone else. I am happy to say that my children grew up to become well-adjusted, level-headed, courteous, compassionate adults.
I grew up in extreme violence with two criminal parents but the library saved me. I read the stories of how greatness comes from adversity and it allowed me to reframe the horror I was living in. Then… I entered the world and could not fathom how my peers in college were so unhappy with their lives. In too many ways they were living more difficult lives than myself.
Love has to include teaching how to manage life’s ups and downs.
@John Foley The Count of Monte Cristo
So too have I. Both breeders (I will not call them parents) were drug addicted losers and constantly had shouting matches, sometimes with physical violence.
Jen. As a librarian that has worked in all four types of libraries; school, public, special & academic, I thank you & praise you for telling the world the library “saved” you. When I recall all of my school kids & summer readers I wonder now how many we “saved” too with books, reading & a safe, neutral sanctuary to come to, the library. God Bless you now & always. Mary Z. Walker Certified School Librarian MLIS📚🙋🏻♀️
Your comment took me back; I had a similar childhood experience and also spent most of my free time in the library. Reading biographies of well known and not so well known historical figures gave me perspective and expanded my internal life immensely. I grew up to be pretty well-balanced adult having learned some critical life skills such as discernment, managing disappointment, setting and achieving goals and most of all, how to be content with my life.
Mrs Lindberg (a famous family whose baby was kidnapped and killed) said that adversity makes us stronger but not inherently. If that were so the world would be a much better place. It takes things like reflection to learn from that adversity and thats what makes us better people
You are absolutely right about disappointment but nothing satisfies like a relationship with Jesus.
My youngest son had failure after failure after failure in his young adulthood. I kept telling him “keep your head up because you are paying your dues and it will all pay off in spades”. When he hit 37 it did. Great job (helicopter pilot) good wife (an RN) beautiful home, and custody of his daughter that CPS took away from his worthless first wife. And his daughter calls his new wife, bonus Mom!
Awesome 😂
Sounds like me hahahaha! I was in the military and i thought that would open doors for me in the civilian world so i got out. I got with a woman that started doing drugs i didnt know and i got her pregnant. CPS took him away from us bc of her drug usage. I was scared and confused I had no one in my corner. I was fighting for my son and i requested a dna test and he wasnt mine. I got him into a safe loving family and i went to find myself. Today own my own trucking company. I met my beautiful soon to be wife 3 years ago we are leaving tomorrow for the Philippines where she is from to get married. She is an RN life was hard but then it all came together.
Got him to a safe loving family and he wasn’t yours?
That’s good character right there.
“Bonus Mom.” Love it.
@@benedwards4466 Atta boy. Thank you for your service. Time in the military surely taught you a thing or two ;-) Good on you for protecting the child. I have no idea who you are, but that made me proud. You should be too.
I’m 68 years old. My dad told me growing up that we learn from our mistakes. He also told me I’m probably going to get a masters degree from the School of hard Knox.
I have a doctorate
Life is hard: My father had a friend that had lost his legs in Normandy during WWII. The first time I know I met him, he was kneeling to load his pickup truck with fence posts. I use his experience to determine if I have had a bad day.
Legs shot off.
Stumps laying in a puddle of burning fuel.
A German officer walked up and shot him just above the ear and he survived.
I have had poor days but not bad days. I walk with a cane however my father’s friend would have liked having my knees.
An acquaintance interviewed POWs from WWII, Korea, and Vietnam (including Bud Day). Her summary comment was about her surprise that these were among the happiest people she'd ever met. It takes bad days to appreciate the rest.
Never forget ✌️
As a nurse, I do something similar. When I am having a bad day, I consider all the kids out there fighting leukemia and it resets my perspective.
Your standards are very low.
I saw this happen in the 1990s when self-esteem became more important than academic achievement. I left public education after 14 years of locking horns with lazy students, privileged parents, frightened administrators, and the academic fraud known as No Child Left Behind(Interpretation: every student will receive a high school diploma whether they attend class or do any assignments at all).
Me too 1993-2000.
Me too 1994 - 2009. And worse - I was at a university. In Africa. It's an international tragedy.
We have mass shootings because conservatism is a mental disorder
I was cut from the high school ice hockey team in grade 12; I then found that the school had a scuba diving course I could take after class. I got my ticket that winter. That licence gave me the opportunity to dive in New Zealand and many other places. Looking back, it’s much more valuable than the 25 games of hockey I missed.
Happy birthday Buddy 🎉. God bless!
I was cut from my baseball tryouts for the all-star little league when I was ten years old. And I was considered a good player. I played two positions. Pitcher and 1st base.
After getting over the initial shock of being cut, I was happy to just play with my regular teammates and friends. Not once did I lash out or think of hurting anyone. That was in 1975.
This is how we learn. It's part of life.
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I shattered my hip and had my hip replaced at 23. I had the military and wanting to become a game warden taken away. I enjoyed life and kept fishing. Now I am a plumber making good money and have a great wife. I wouldn't have her if the other things happened. Life happens. You have to accept it and move on. I promise if you look hard you will see where God has blessed you.
Oh yeah , what a peaceful feeling
Dive on....
That is awesome! I didn't make the baseball team my senior year in high school because the new coach had this malarkey idea that if you missed a year playing, you weren't meant to be picked for the team that year. No matter how good you did in the tryouts. Well, I missed a year because I was grounded from playing baseball because of bad school grades. But that's OK, because I then joined the track and field team, and had fun doing that too and enjoyed my time with all the folks who were on the team as well.
"You need to have disappointment sometimes to really appreciate success." Needs to be put on billboards all over the country.
Like how 50 cent said “some days wouldn’t be special, if it wasn’t for rain”
They are anti gun people trying to be martyrs. They want you unarmed and they will shoot random people to get it.
Yes, but they gotta feel it first
A close cousin (if not a sibling) to the above saying is "We learn more from failure than we do from success." Both statements would fall under the category of "words to live by."
My mother had a high school education but she was a very wise woman. She taught me many things but probably the most important were "you need to learn how to handle disappointment when you are young'" and "if you expect life to be fair, you are going to be mighty disappointed."
I'd say most people are better off with no college. Some of the dadgummest dumbest people I've ever met have college degrees. Wisdom comes from experience over years. No school can provide that. God Bless Your Mom!
Another phrase for it is; "Learn to control your emotions." There are actually classes for anger management.
And the old: "If you don't stop crying,... I'll give you something to cry about!" 😅 The older generations didn't tolerate pity-parties!!
That’s the problem with all these 20 year olds. Everything has to be fair. My family is all Democrats, it’s exhausting. All of them r white collar btw. They have no idea how real people, whom do real physical work for living, barely making the bills, actually r. Everyday Americans that get it done. Talk about entitlement.
Remember the song by the Eagles: "Get Over It"? Not many do. It wasn't a popular sentiment.
You’re a wise soul, Buddy! Keep these videos & songs coming coz your voice is reaching people. God bless you!
My Grandparents raised us because our parents were working multiple jobs. Whenever things didn't go our way or we didn't get a good grade or didn't make the team or we didn't get things we wanted, my Grandparents used to say, "You have 30 mins to stew on it & then you need to find a solution so you can get it right next time."
They didn't want to hear any complaints. One time I complained, my Grandma's slippers flew right by me missing my head by an inch! 😆 That was the last time she heard me complain!
OH, our Grandparents were tough on us and that's what made us tougher. And I'm the same with my children.
did you ever get em back yeet a slipper at her wheel chair if she needs an attitude adjustment?
It's a damn shame that these kids aren't raised right, or at all! People need to STOP babying and lying to these kids and let them live and learn! They need structure and discipline and love and common sense, but sadly they're barely getting that if no at all. Keep preaching brother. ABSOLUTELY love your podcast and your overall content!!
shit flows downhill as do Bidens "values" ..its not about 1500 year old Chinese gunpowder technology
Yes, sir, I have to totally agree 💯 with you.
@@thomashoy4547 thank you! I just hope people FINALLY wake the hell up!!!!
Pharma DRUGS!
@@thomashoy4547 it took only 2 words to let me know I had screwed up……ASS WHOOPING!!!
Amen! You speak the truth. Our youth are clueless.
I'm a martial arts instructor and the thing I tell my parents the most is how important it is to learn to lose. You won't win everything, and what you do after a loss defines your character.
MIKE, THAT'S SO TRUE AS MARTIAL ARTS IS ONE OF THE BEST TOOLS TO LEARN TO HUMBLE, RESPECT, AND HONOR OTHERS, ONESELF, AND YOUR SPIRITUAL LEADER. IT'S NOT ABOUT LEARNING HOW TO HURT OTHERS YET TO KNOW HOW IF NECESSARY IN DEFENSE. I USED TO STUDY SHOTOKAN KARATE MYSELF IN MY YOUTH! WELL SAID SENSEI! BLESSINGS SIR.
Right, in competition, accepting a win is easy. Being a gracious winner is learned after knowing how to correctly deal with not winning. A selfish winner celebrates alone just like a sore loser…wouldn’t it be great if we all could or would take the time to reach down and lift someone else up? 😉
Best thing my parents did for me as a kid was put me in Karate and Jiu Jitsu- I quickly went from a weak, angry victim mentality to being confident and having a sense of humor and humility
As a married 40 years old young guy living in the Nevada desert with almost bare minimum, although, a good quality life in my own terms. I have many faults and failure of my own, however, those very few victories are worth it in my book.
"The more you try in life, the luckier you get."
@@j.l.salayao8055 WELL SAID!
My dad coached our little league baseball team growing up and he told us if we don't know how to lose we will never know how to win! Very important life lesson!
USA turn ti lose
I'm an old guy now. I have never in my life gotten better while winning, but losing losing got me up and working harder. You hit the nail on the head.
My guy, I'm right there with you. I know it sounds cliche, but, "Quitters don't win, and winners don't quit."
Amen to that brother We certainly learn more from our struggles and mistakes, and pain is a great motivator unfortunately
@@jackstecker5796 YES SIR! LOSERS WILL FADE AWAY OR IN THIS WORLD DIE!
I never learned a thing about chess by winning a game.
All my kids learned how to play around 5 or 6 years old. I like to think it served them.
@@ananda_miaoyin I GET TIRED OF WINNING CHESS GAMES RECENTLY, YET, I GET TIRED OF LOSING TOO! LOL! I THINK WE ALL NEED BOTH TO DEVELOP CHARACTER. (I'M NOT YELLING, USE CAPITALS FOR MY FAILING EYESITE)
You nailed it! It's a generation that has been raised to believe they can do no wrong. Wake up kids... you live in a reality that requires discipline and personal effort. Love this!!!!
"a generation that has been raised to believe they can do no wrong"
Just went to a family reunion. The hyper-christian branch had that same attitude you're talking about. Most of them were at least forty, but most were in their sixties. You sure it isn't the boomers who think they can do no wrong? Isn't it the boomers who are banning books like mad all while claiming they are being censored?
Agreed 100% ...self esteem can't be simply given. It must be earned through achievement.
shit flows downhill as do Bidens "values" ..its not about 1500 year old Chinese gunpowder technology
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I am a Italian-Sicilian /southerner and I double
I used to work in a high school and I had a student who I told he needed to do something good for himself. He had told me all the negative stuff in a his file. I told him that on paper, he is looking like a loser. Several students told me they thought this was harsh. I told them, that he didn't need someone to sugar coat stuff for him, he needed someone to be honest with him. That kid from that point on came by and told me how he was applying himself more, making better grades. We need to tell kids the truth more often!
When I was 17 my grandmother asked me what I going to do with my life. I told her I just want to be happy. she told me that it would be wiser to shoot for contentment. Ittook me years to understand my grandma was right.I couldn't get it in my thick and arrogant head the good and bad things in life are what makes you "you" and contentment is being grateful for your life.
I was eleven when my wise Grandma gave me the same advice. She actually told me to get up everyday and take what God gives me and make the best of it. ie Her definition of contentedness. I later found out that that is in the Bible. It took me 40yrs, but I have figured it out. Thank God for wise grandma's!
God bless you Buddy for putting into words what I have been thinking all along. All of these "participation" trophies and such are ruining our kids. I am 72 years old (73 a week after your birthday) and a disabled veteran. I grew up in a cotton mill town in an extended family that believed in working for rewards. Kids today would be in the corner crying if they had to go through what I did. Much love from North Carolina. Keep telling it like it is!!!
Amen , I grew up in the hills of north carolina born and raised for 71 years
Digital gadgetry occupies the total spectrum of a majority of youth.
@@ArmandoLopez-fp6kl Respect and recognition must be earned. My generation the so-called baby boomers knew this. My daughter played soccer and earned a letter in it for being an outstanding mid-fielder. She was also a cheerleader in middle school and worked part-time jobs to pay for her education. She is now a respected Nurse Practicioner who earned her way and she is proud of what she did with minimal help from us although we offered it. You can look around and blame society or your surroundings for whatever but YOU make the choice, you can be a victim or a victor. My child chose victor.
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I think you misunderstood everything the guy said.
Typical of today's youth. 😅
@@williamstyers4264 Try working a 40hr/week job and affording a degree to become a nurse practitioner. Impossible unless you are making $80k while going to college. College is unaffordable because of boomers. Must have been nice paying $50/semester when you can't even buy 1 book from the campus bookstore for $50 today. Thanks for ruining our money and keeping it all for yourself boomers. All the good paying jobs with pensions and cheap Healthcare are gone because they all wanted them for themselves and didn't care about the future costs because you got yours right?
Very good Buddy !! I was unpopular in high school. I have failed at most of my attempts at success. I settled for doing what paid a living. I dug myself out of the hole I was in. Not without help but I kept my head down and pushed forward. I am 76 and life is good. I lived and got over the challenges as we all should. Is my life perfect? NO ! I am happy and deal with the challenges that come..
You’re not alone, not now, not before, and not soon. The Lord Almighty looks after all of us.
I once heard someone say how commercials & such lead us to believe that we need fancy things and excitement to make us have a good day/time. BUT, in reality if you woke up and nothing bad happens you actually had a good day! People are being programmed to expect a lot from little investment and to not feel uncomfortable. If you are not uncomfortable you are not growing and learning!
@@chriskourliourod1651 He takes care of them who truly love Him as He teaches, many claim they do but do not, see Matthew 7:21-23.
I know how you feel! A total up hill climb my entire life and life is finally getting better thanks to God and my wonderful wife! I thank God daily and let Him handle it! So never give up and always be thankful for getting where you are now and where here takes you! To God be the Glory!
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I'm a Tennessee country boy who has worked hard on the farm growing up and I've experienced plenty of disappointment. That along with my dad's strong discipline and guidance made me a great man. Ive never been arrested or even had a speeding ticket. I'm overly courteous to everyone. I'm 45 years old now and it breaks my heart to watch the world slip away from God and basic morality. God said the next cleansing would be with fire and I think it's coming soon.
God bless you and your great parents.
Amen brother!
Amen brother Tn country boy here to. I second that
I was born and grew up in the city, there has always been a level of tension whenever you have people living on top of eachother but with MSM focusing heavily on topics that only further instigate the tension, it becomes a recipe for disaster. So I moved down to T or C, NM for a month to help out with renovations on a small apartment complex and let me tell you, I have never felt so calm before. Everyone was friendly, always had the time of day to engage in a conversation and would stick their neck out for you even if they hardly knew you. Unfortunately I’m back in the city now but after getting a taste of that type of living, I’m going back.
I often think that these kids being raised on TikTok need to be jerked out to a farm somewhere and made to work for their food and shelter. They probably don't even know how their food gets on the table.
This world extremely needs more empathy, and respect!!
The golden rule, treat everyone like you want to be treated!
And here I thought that the golden rule was " He who has the gold makes the rule "
Nailed it
@@donaldmaxie5264 yep
God bless America thanks Buddy for telling the truth !
Life is disappointment, it's triumph and tragedy. I'm 67 and have certainly had my share of all of it, good and bad.
You , sir, are 100% right- the younger generations have not been exposed to a lot of things, they have been spoiled and coddled, sheltered from reality.
When they lose it the result is either suicide or worse- they kill others and then commit suicide.
A lot of things are going to have to change in our society, this country will not survive if something doesn't drastically change.
I'm so thankful my parents are raising me to work hard for what I want, and not just handing it to me. Great video, couldn't agree more. Keep up the good work
Sounds like you're a great kid with great parents! 👍
Your parents are wise, and all that hard work pays off in the end. If it’s worth having, then it’s worth fighting for. Hard work teaches us valuable life lessons, and so does our failures. Remember, a smart person learns from their mistakes, but a wise person learns from OTHER PEOPLE’S MISTAKES. My daddy taught me that, and he was a very wise man. God bless you.😊
@@rlin2648 thanks, it's All from my parents.
@@Redeemed.of.YHVH.thru.Christ exactly, thanks appreciate that
Everybody gets a Trophy!!! Years ago, you didn't make a team in High School, all your friends made fun of you and life went on! Good Luck with your Album Buddy!!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
"Vengeance is mine," says the Lord!
This is definitely a substantial part of the problem. When you lose, get rejected, or get disappointed, you have 2 choices: get bitter or get better. Learning to lose with grace builds character. If you never lose, you never learn.
Losing and winning is what capitalism teaches. Nothing really matters but more profit children are taught to compete be the best in lieu of helping each other. See how corporations are destroying the world in every way possible and devouring the earth as a serpent. We have been warned of the false prophets yet we accept the shining toys. Profits are the false prophets.
Happy Birthday Buddy🎉. Keep up the great job!!!You are exactly 💯 percent RIGHT!!! When I was a kid I had RESPECT for my parents they taught me RIGHT from WRONG and I had chores to do when I got home from school WORK ETHICS start at home it makes you feel good and when you can get a job you will work for what you get.Hard work is GOOD for you.The Government we have now say FREE ...FREE....FREE....they don't want people to work they want to GIVE HANDOUTS so they can have CONTROL in the END just like China, Russia and Iran and the SADDEST thing is American's are too BLIND to SEE it they like FREE too much to WORK!So SAD but TRUE!!!
100% agreed.
If you never lose, winning is not so good. That's Life in a nutshell.
Sometimes learning also makes you bitter calous and detached because of complex trauma and codependency. Learning human nature deeply and integrating def dosent make you feel safer after coming out of a chaotic family
Quite literally had this conversation an hour ago with both my boys. Let's not forget the damage that social media does by painting a world that is perfect and the desire for our children to be validated. As well as learning to allow disappointment to be mentoring moment, teach them how to stand on their own. When they accept themselves for who they are, understand there things they need to fix, only then will they start to understand their place in this great country.
Don't forget the glowies and their false flags
I blame the internet one hundred percent. These crazies sit in front of a computer screen until they’re brain washed and sick in the head. The world was a much better place before the internet.
I completely agree. Social media paints a picture that the world is supposed to be all fun and games all the time. It has become finely tuned to keep you addicted by giving you what you want all the time.
This guy is spot on! As a Pastor that works with young people on a daily basis, I have seen the same trend over the past 30 years of Ministry. Absentee parents and cell phone raised kids couldn't possibly end well. So ... here we are.
Just curious as a pastor have you ever remotely considered the effect endocrine disrupting chemicals (mimic estrogen) are having on the population? You know decreasing male testosterone rates, sperm counts, sexual orientation and identity issues, mental illness, sex specific cancers and other cancers in men and women? How do you reconcile that with God and not blame the victims and let the real evil (greed and a comfortable life we weren't meant to live) get a free pass?
This old boomer grew up from the 50s-70s. You are wise beyond years.
Preach it. These kids today need to hear and know this message.
If anyone watching is in a place to convey this message to the younger folks, (or anyone...) you need to being doing so.
Amen Buddy! Say it loud and proud and OFTEN!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
I graduated 10th in my senior class in high school,I was nominated for national honor society 2 times,but they wouldn't accept me in. My folks told me not to be upset about it,they knew I was smart and we just didn't fit in with the snobs high society. And life went on...
God Bless Buddy Brown. And Happy Bday Patriot.
Worked for me when I played a sport. Losing 22-0 really hurts but it motivated me to do something about it
"Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind, always." -- Robin Williams
33 year old here, often I feel myself getting frustrated with everyday life and need a good reminder. Thanks for being that kick in the butt to keep us straight.
Frustration is a good thing, it shows you still have a drive to push yourself. Losers are never frustrated.
My daughter and I were just talking about this last night. She had a bout with depression because we had to rehome “her” rooster, then my amazing dog died, then our hens became food for a weasel. She’s a deep feeler and LOVES animals. We talked about how she tried numbing out, then experiencing the feelings, then talking about it. She’s doing well now because she knows that life is painful and when you love, you risk losing. I think it’s been called “The Human Condition” for a long time for good reason.
@clintonm2357…….absolutely correct. If you heap pity on sadness you make a collapsed mind.
My neighbor lost 28 chickens 3 days ago. He is already improvising ways to increase his flock. Smart Guy. Tough guy.
I’m totally embarrassed and disgusted by the lack of caring for everyone, rudeness and disrespect. Even towards their kids.
Thank you for saying this! My wife and I have discussed this many times. We are not our children's friends. Parent them and show them how life really is!
@@JoshMaxPower I call my son buddy. He's 9. We, go hunting, fishing, camping and to car shows. We build thing together like boys clubs, roof racks for my truck. We work on the cars and small engines together. We sit and read books together. We walk and train the dogs together. He's used saws, welders, hammers and many other tools. He's shot guns. He's a favorite of all his teachers. He's the first to volunteer to help. He will speak up for other kids if being bullied. He will come to me with anything that he has in his mind. Because I treat him like a young man. I value his ideals and opinions, even when it's the best a kid can come up with. I do all this parenting while calling him buddy a lot. I call him that because he is my buddy. At 9 years old his behavior at home, church, and school and public is far beyond the development of most kids his age. We also live in the inner city. Calling a child buddy isn't a sign of bad parenting.
@JoshMaxPower - I was on a walk at the dog park the other day and heard a dad call his son buddy. And I thought, a lot of people here call their dogs buddy...
So throw them out when they turn 18 and make them pull themselves up by their bootstraps.
There is a parenting problem. I love your comment. Parent asked my wife when will my child learn to blow their nose. The response when you teach them.
Amen 🙏
There can be no success without failure. If everyone succeeded, then nobody would truly be successful. ...and if nobody can be successful, then everybody by default fails. Thanks, Buddy, for saying it out loud.
I started working in daycare to pay for college, and I LOVED it. The last time I taught in a preschool, I was told that I couldn’t say or do anything that might jeopardize their self-esteem. No sitting down for time out or anything disciplinary. The director’s little boy was a biter, and the other children were scared of him, but I couldn’t do anything about it. My classroom wasn’t chaos, because I am a good teacher, but I became so frustrated with the situation that I finally quit. There have to be consequences for doing unacceptable things, and children need to know that. That was twenty years ago, and we’re seeing the results of that little social experiment now.
I work in childcare now and get told off when I use the word "naughty" even if I don't label the child but their behaviour. Totally agree. How are children going to learn unless you teach them?
I quit teaching over 20 years ago because there was no discipline allowed, just sympathy for kids no matter how horrific their behaviour. It taught them nothing and left no air time for anything much to be taught. I left. Poor kids who had that experiment as their fate.
I read that all serial killers have an inflated sense of self esteem and entitlement. Makes sense
AMEN!
Glad to see someone else is calling this out. I've been saying it for years. We stopped teaching kids how to fail. Biggest mistake we've ever made as a society.
The biggest mistake we made as a society is kicking God out of society. Period.
@@deborahparrish2201 , I thought that was a given. You cant take God out of everything, then complain about people doing Godless things. My main point on teaching kids to fail came about when I was trying to figure out what was different today than when I was in school in the 80's. We brought guns to school all the time. It wasn't a big deal. No one was a victim of s shooting. So, what was different. For starters, not everyone got a trophy. Not everyone made the team. Not everyone passed their class.
Amen. I’m 38 and have experienced disappointment, but I need to hear this message now, too. Everyone needs to hear it!
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I am a new subscriber! This Buddy Brown is on "target" with everything I've seen and heard him say. Keep it going Buddy...you are awesome.
Happy early Birthday!
Well put Mr. Brown. My son is a millennial boy did I have my challenges with him but he was raised with a Bible in one hand and a belt in the other. He was raised to work hard if you want something, give back to the community, contribute to society and learn to accept criticism be it your boss, teacher and your parents doesn't matter. My proudest moment as a parent when my kid came around when he got older, and said "mom, I'm glad you and dad were hard on me even when I hated you but you were right, life is not easy and you prepared me". I thanked God when I heard that.😊
That's SO FRICKEN TRUE FACTS FACTS ACT UPON THEIR EMOTIONS YOU'RE SPEAKING TRUTHFULLY SHARING THAT'S SO TRUE YES EXACTLY BUDDY THANK YOU I'M GLAD I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE FEELS OR THINKS EXACTLY THE SAME WAY😊
As a member of Gen Z (20 years old) just finished my sophomore year of college, it’s really hard seeing the state of most of my peers. They are either angry at the world or just kind of numb and nihilistic to most of it, it’s sad cause there are so many bright and great people in my generation that I know are capable of greatness but for one reason or another they become way to discouraged way to quick. People nowadays are literally too afraid to live life
I feel you fam. Im also Gen Z (22). Some of us were raised right. I think there are a good amount of us normal youngins, we just forget that the majority of us arent vocal about it.
I started seeing this happen in the early 90's(i'm gen x) to kids.. school indoctrination,families broken and most these kids put on ridlin and everything under the sun,its been a long time coming.
The problem is you guys know you’re good people. As soon as you speak the truth, that other half that ain’t will try to silence you at all cost. No one wants a smart, critical thinker. They want a controllable bandwagon jumper. There are leaders of this world and followers. Currently we have way too many followers.
Brother your words just restored faith in me for the future of this country 🙏🙏🙏 thanks you!
Get off the internet and enjoy life. And watch out for k ommi ism in your college.
I grew up in a steelworker's home with an Irish Father and an immigrant Polish Mom. I was an only child and was required to work for everything I got. My Father would lecture me about not bringing dishonor on the family name. My father once told me not to do anything to cause him to raise a hand to me, because he would do it with intent; break bones, draw blood, and cause severe bruising. He was an honorable man and his word was his bond. He is long gone, but not forgotten. I'm 73 years old, first college graduate in our family, retired 30 year Army veteran, married for 54 years to the same woman, and raised 2 children, my son is retired/disabled USMC, and my grandson just came home from his 3d overseas deployment with the USAF. My Dad and Mom knew what they were doing.
How about that! I was born Polonia, Gary Indiana, Polish father, Irish mother. Living in Utah, building back the Utah Territories!😅 About to reach 62.😮
Sounds like a family of people who do as they're told or else. That's what the country and its government needs.
Thank you for serving. I retired after 20 years, 4 months, 21 days, 19 hours, and 45 minutes.
Sounds like a incredible family. Thank you and your children for their Service. God bless and I love you and know God loves you more! ❤~ Texas
@@daveurban1018 Thank you for your service. ❤️ ~ Texas
Everything that he just said is the Truth... My Father always told me that "Winners have to learn how to Lose first because Losing is the only way to learn from your Mistakes in order to make yourself better"... But now days Everybody is a Winner and our Society is showing the Miserable Results from that Mindset.
Michael Jordan wasn't a huge success at first, nor was Kobe Bryant! They failed early on in their athletic careers. They only became successful and famous because they learned from their mistakes / failures and worked hard every day to reach that level of success. The success they (Jordan & Bryant) had wasn't handed to them, they earned it through hard work and learning from their mistakes. Michael Jordan was cut from his High School Basketball Team! Kobe had a rough early childhood. Buddy Brown is 100% accurate.
Conservatives these days just plan on losing. I guess this is good attitude to have, if you don't plan on trying.
Yes, anyone can be a WINNER!! Your Dad was spot on. It takes a little bit of CLASS to have a stiff upper lip and to CONGRATULATE the WINNER!!! Somebody beats you, Shake his hand and congratulate him and mean it!!
Whoever coined (and anyone who uses) the phrase "participation trophy" should be fired from any education position.
Thank you for this! My kids’ soccer team this year did not keep score so they wouldn’t be disappointed when they lose. Even my six year old thought that was the silliest thing. I thought, how are they ever going to know to push themselves to try harder next time or experience the reward of working hard for something, or how to handle the frustration of a loss after working so hard, etc. Those are some weird mind games they’re playing with kids. Of course the kids kept score themselves, it was natural to them.
"Did not keep score" is so far away from reality. "Keeping score" is human nature to the point that there's an old saying "whenever two boats pass, there's always a race going on, in at least one of the cockpits".
Even as infants, we need to begin learning how to “self-soothe”. I’m constantly amazed and discouraged by all the people who need twice weekly sessions with a therapist in order to cope with any and all of life’s disappointments.
LEARN TO SELF-SOOTHE!
Praying is a good place to start.
It's so strange to me that people go to therapists for nothing, basically. When I was raised, needing therapy was for pretty severe issues. But now, I just inwardly rolled my eyes when asked who my therapist is and try to keep my voice neutral when saying I don't have one. At least I've learned not to react with shock at the very idea. That sure got me jumped on the first time someone asked me that. I blurted out something like, why in the world would I want a therapist? Bwaahaahaa - Southern country girl that I am, I had to get used to these northerners and their addiction to 'therapy'.
@@WhiteTiger333 Lol. Same here: Southern country girl. GRITS 🌻
Your right Buddy. The ambition to improve and succeed makes people grow up positive and responsible. That mindset was lost when they decided that competition was unfare. Competition drives improvement. It's hugely important. It teaches us to succeed and lose. You are an astute man and are on the same page as me. Cause I'm really old school. I'm 80 yrs old. Stay strong and live free. Keep it coming. Dandahermit
As a 23 year old man going through a very depressive time (isn't the first but for a while I haven't felt this level of disappointment in a good while) your words actually perked me up a little when I needed it. Thank you!
Hang in there everyone experiences highs and lows in they're life, when you reach that high and you will you'll look back and think dang that low was nothing .
@@sailawaybob True!!!
Zackary, I know it's not easy going through those times when nothing seems to go right. For me, trying to find something that I like, to take my mind off of the troubles of this world has helped. I truly wish you the best in whatever you do. May GOD bless.
I think it helps to know that no one is always happy and blissful. That's just not life. But every hard time is followed by good or better times.
It gets better my man.
Absolutely, Anger & Hatred everywhere. Even when you communicate in a loving manner, hatred sticks its angry head out. Stay Heart-centered and have a wonder-filled day❤
As an African American Pastor/Retired Police Officer, this is one of the most important and impressive comments I have ever heard. Life is full of disappointments, each one has to be addressed honestly, sincerely, and respectfully without preconceived bias. Thank you Buddy, teach your children well, and God bless your family.
Brother Will
You are an American not African American stop identifying yourself wrong
Uh oh! Looks like the Identity police have arrived!
@@AnnabellaSusan News Flash: As an American, he has the freedom to identify any way he chooses.
You're a man of the Most High...a nation of tribes who you are from
@@AnnabellaSusan do you know this dude’s origins? Maybe he moved here from Ghana when he was 19.
This is 1000% true. Thank you for stating it so clearly. I’m 62 and have been saying for several years now that I’m glad I’m not any younger. I think of my childhood and college years and the struggles of my 20s and all the other decades…we have become hopelessly soft as a society.
Nothing is hopeless …. Keep on trying ! Stay the fight of life & treat others well !
I turn 62 next Saturday, and I totally agree with you. The younger people get upset over the smallest things. I guess the participation trophy generation might not make it.
Buddy….you hit the nail right square on the head….once again. We need more Americans like you who will have the courage to speak the truth!
Speaking reality here .
Home-spun, country philosophy should be a required subject in all schools at all levels.Thank you, Mr. Brown.
Nope
AMEN 🙏🏼 Buddy!!! ❤ Mine are grown and doing their careers. Thank God they was taught to work you want a new truck or whatever you got to work for it!!! Preach it brother!!! ❤💯
Buddy, I'm 15 years old and you have taught me so much about life that no one else has been willing to tell me. Thank you, really, thank you Buddy. God bless you! Can't wait for this new album on Friday!!!
Keep searching for the truth young man. Stay in the word & u will not be deceived or lead down the wrong path.
Jessie, I’m from Australia and this man has real words of wisdom. Life is great, but sometimes is disappoints, sometimes it kicks you in the guts. But’s that all ok. Listen to Buddy’s real world and sure as hell don’t get caught up is the rubbish the so called influencers like Andrew Tate spew. Buddy is a man you can respect and lean from at what ever age. Have a good life. 👍
Sad that this internet guy taught you that and not your parents
@@ACommenterOnTH-cam you learn from your parents and the village. Just step around the village idiots.
Your daddy should be your go to for life advice. I urge you to not seek information about life from strangers off the internet.
Uncle or grandfather is your best bet.
You said it to a T Buddy. The kids of today, nearly all over the world actually including here in Africa, can’t handle disappointment.
Subbed for five years. Taught in different states: AZ, FL, CO, NC. I've seen it get worse and worse. As consequences are removed for students, teachers get more and more accountability-even for things we have no control over. Administration not only does not support the teachers, but throws them under the bus. Suspensions are counted as excused absences, so a student who gets suspended is actually being rewarded.
Admin sides with parents and students. School districts adopt insane programs to supposedly better discipline, but in fact these are just techniques for admin to pass the buck to teachers and look like they care. teachers are told to manage their classes and build relationships, but how is that possible when you are undermined, your authority is eliminated, and students do whatever they want without consequences. Students get sent to the office and return with little to no consequences. If you send kids to the office, you get written up for "poor classroom management".
Example: a kid who has been sent to the office repeatedly for disrupting the class, seat moved, multiple parent contacts... then walking around the room with an object in his pants as if it is an erection, and then asking out loud ""Anyone want to touch my balls?" Consequences? ZERO. I am not joking. NOTHING was done, and he continues to disrupt the class.
This year I was unable to teach-really just baby sat. The rulers we bought at the beginning of the year were totally destroyed by Christmas break. Everything trashed: glue wasted, brushes deliberately left in paint, thrown around, pens and pencils broken and on the floor, paper wasted... and a lot more issues.
I've had good kids tell me they feel ignored and marginalized, while the bad ones get all the attention and perks.
Then we got an email saying not to send kids to the office: to handle it in the classroom, because they have to deal with "important" issues like those skipping class. To use our lunch time to have these kids in for detention. And then they announced a switch to yet another "program", the "positive reinforcement" nonsense. So that was it. I am leaving teaching. It is a farce and a crime what has been "allowed" to happen. Not wasting my time anymore.
Do a series of videos on this. Put it on TH-cam, Rumble, and Twitter. What you say is too important to be buried in a comment. Parents don’t know what is happening. The pandemic brought awareness about perverted sex indoctrination at school.
It's not just the 5 states where you worked. I left teaching for similar reasons.
@@tomtoss2463 I may post a video sometime. Thanks.
Success can be defined as repeatedly failing with no loss of enthusiasm.....😅
You hit the nail on the head. PARENTS NEED TO TEACH THEIR KIDS HOW TO COPE WITH ALL EMOTIONS!!!!!!
"Nothing Could Be Truer...!" Well Said!
Thanks for another GREAT video Buddy. No matter how bad I feel or hurt when I go into a store I have a smile on my face and I try to make whoever is working there or those surrounding me smile!!! God Bless you Buddy!
Right?! I've been on the cash register side of the checkout. I'm always polite and respectful to hard working clerks, even if they are short with me. (If they are, I just thank them and move along). But, about 10 times out of 10, you see them perk up instead - and appreciate being appreciated.
I have 3 teenage boys and we don’t watch tv, I watch TH-cam videos. I homeschool my 2 youngest, my oldest is 19 and 2 years graduated from HS. No university for him as I do not want him indoctrinated. Thank you for your timely message Buddy. I really love you Man.
There is nothing wrong by not going to college some times they do more damage that they do good, consider studying a trade (plumbing, HVAC, Electrician, Auto Mechanic, carpenter (framer).
Some of the best words my dad ever told me was to not forget where I came from. If you learned your boy right, I don’t think you got any problems letting him loose into the world. But, the decision is yours, and yours only. The Lord bless you and your family!
University is ok when it's a profession based program. Law, medicine, dentistry, nursing, engineering, accounting etc. Danger lurks in arts and choosing g a vague major of gender studies and political science. So don't throw the baby out with the bathwater, purpose driven education leads to a career. Going for the experience is a waste of money. We need our professions to take care of society.
Colleges tried to indoctrinate me over 30 years ago. It's gotten much worse. I feel the same way as you.
@Priscilla Browning I'm 15 this is my plan after High School. I'm joining my local union.
This is interesting.. seeing this vid now. My daughter was really bummed she didn't get this job she wanted today and she was upset and crying. She has had to work hard for everything she has. I just told her.. there have been times in her life that things didnt work out the way she wanted but she can be thankful for the things she does have. A good paying job, a nice place that we rent with a nice pasture, pond and neighborhood. A cute 2nd hand Toy Rav4 that she is building excellent credit on. 2 cats, a nice boyfriend and a mom that really loves her and is very proud of the woman she has become. God has always come though and blessed us even in the worst of times. Disappointment is part of life and as long as you keep putting one foot in front of the other it makes you a better person. Thanks for your vids.
I stumbled across your post and was amazed. You are absoluteley right. I see it here in Germany and the reactions of young people here are very similar to the way you describe in the USA. An upbringing that doesn't involve disappointment is well intentioned but badly done.
As a 16 year old who was homeschoold and just got my GED this is so true most people my age don't know how to handle disappointment homeschoolers aren't that bad most of the time in my experience but every time I meet a public schooler they don't know how to be disappointed and handle the consequences
My daughter fell off the beam at State tournament and missed regionals as a result. She was super sad but do you know what she did while most of her teammates were away at regionals? She crushed a new skill. She used that disappointment and turned it into a roundoff back handspring. KInd of happy for that fall. You're spot on.
That is what resiliency looks like. Good for both of you.
Hope you slept good.
@@sanction7627 I won't lie, it stung, but you scrape yourself off the ground and move forward. Thankfully, I have a like-minded friend who always reminds me that this is how we build mental strength and character.
What you say is so true. There is another piece to this. Young people who can not handle disappointed and process these feelings are often prescribed medication to help them deal with these feelings artificially. They are left feeling indifferent about hurting others. Most Children should not be prescribed antidepressants. Parents need to parent and not look for an easy way to deal with their children.
how about not letting them buy guns ?
@@direwolf6234 How about not letting anyone have a cell phone since texting while driving kills so many every year ?
Thats very true to
Sooooo......do we really want kids who can’t handle disappointment and are jacked up on antidepressants to have access to assault weapons?
@@chrismaurer2075 how about disabling phones in cars ..
Thank you Buddy👍 A lot of parents need to see this video🙏❤️
As a 53 year old, my life certainly didn't go the way I thought it might. I once had my dream job, but after 6 years I had to give it up. I bounced from job to job since. Last year I got a job that is even better than my dream job. A job I am proud of and helps people, and not just to earn a paycheck. Disappointment can lead to much better things.
I’m 53 years old and been through the sham that made me who I am. Have a son and daughter at 16 and seventeen. Hearing your speech gives me hope for our country and children! Godbless you and thank you for fighting the good fight!
Same age as you are, no kids though. We will get through this!! We have to, can't let our grandparents down, so many died for our country and the scum will not take it from us!
I’m nearly fifty, and I went off down at the hardware store the other day when I ran into people my age. I told them that we must pass our knowledge, skills, and wisdom to the kids for THEIR sake, never mind our vain “legacy.” I may have ruffled a feather when I said, “I’ll be a SOB if any kid of mine is going to walk around with blue hair!”
Speaker of wise words. Love that you are releasing a new album
Spot on buddy I always said teach kids disappointment early in life it makes life easier when they get older
Enjoy so much listening to you Buddy. Thank you for what you do and hopefully our younger generation will listen to and HEAR some of your shows. I feel thru God’s blessings you are wise beyond your years. You go Buddy 💥💥💥
🐾🐾 😎 - Texas
You nailed it! This should be watched by every parent and every teacher.
100% Agree. One piece to add…the Fathers need to be the ones having those talks with our children. Keep posting. God Bless.
Exceptionally well said , So true . thank you Buddy , Bless you kind sir.
I totally agree Buddy!! I also think that part of the problem is that kids don't get disciplined anymore either. They need to learn that there are consequences to making bad decisions. This so prevalent, even in our government; no accountability anymore!
I have always said, having kids doesn't make you a parent. And yes, people don't discipline their kids at all. They don't ask anything of their kids. The kids can't even cut the grass, or pull weeds, everything is beneath them, so they stand around all day long , looking bored and depressed. They have no goals in life, none. And this lack of respect for authority is ridiculous.
The reason they don’t discipline their children is they don’t have the morals that Christianity brings to a family so they don’t know what is morally right.
The most terrifying sound I heard at 10 to 15 years of age is the sound of my dad's belt being pulled thru those 6 belt loops on his pants. It means that - very shortly - my a** was getting a new complexion - for something I did, after I was told specificaly to NOT DO THAT. I got several such sessions growing up, and it was always explained to me why my poor a** was going to be "warm" for several hours. I never felt abused - still don't ! I never hated that man, still don;t, and never will. When I went into the Military, I knew how to take direction, and also laughed at the (boys) who didn't. Total lack of taking responsibility on their dad's part.
Thank you Buddy! I always told my kids that losing helps you to appreciate winning even more. Also that nothing in life is free. And that trust is earned, not given. They turned out to be pretty cool adults! 😊🇺🇸
Keep speaking the truth Buddy Brown👍
I bumped in your Instagran a few weeks ago, watching reels, so amazing. I totally agre 100% with you are saying. Not just in USA, its happening all over the world, here in Brazil is the same. Luckly we don't have mass shootings (its difficult and really expensive to buy a gun here), however the criminals have a lot of guns!!! Kids and teenagers don't have respect anymore, everything is supposed to be free, or easy to gain, without any effort. I'm in my 50s, and it's really difficult to see these changes, for the worst most of the times. Lets keep fighting!!!! At least my kid is not woke or whatever!!!
The lesson we learn isnt from the success we gain but from the failures we endured on the way to our success.
Keep it up Buddy. This world needs people like you. I like the new intro format. 🇺🇸
Please let’s all go and share this video Pat every school board meeting !!!
Wake up AMERICA !
Thank you Buddy
I'm a lifelong Democrat but I don't think you will be that surprised to hear that we are totally on the same page on this issue. Common sense is not the domain of any political party but instead it is at home among all people of good will and good intentions. I very much enjoyed your video and thank you for your efforts.
You should rethink being a democrat. But then, republicans are only barely better. But at least the Republican Party pretends to care about morality which is infinitely better than a party that actively promotes the destruction of the family, truth, morals and principles.
Same here. And I'm actually to the left of most of the Democratic Party, in the sense that I don't like how it's sold out to corporate interests. Helicopter parenting is a disservice to kids and society. And I suspect I share a lot of the values of a guy like Buddy Brown.
@@newenglandgreenman, yeah I am actually a far leftist but more in agreement with the revolutionaries of the early 20th century.
Common sense is extremely rare in the Democratic Party, virtually nonexistent. Why not just take a look at our “president” and just come to terms that it’s a party that is becoming the undoing of our once great nation.
Yeah, it's incredibly frustrating that most people working aren't paid enough for one income to support a household and we are often required to work multiple jobs, even households with dual incomes.
Paying people so little is the downfall of our society.
I honestly believe that ending the monetary system entirely and permanently is our only answer.
Not just for things like this, for ALL things.
Not to usher in some kind of utopia. Personally, i feel like that would make us all miserable.
To bring back some personal responsibility and autonomy. To feel a valuable part of our communities.
As an added benefit, we would also reduce our resource requirements, our energy consumption and all waste. We gain incentive to produce products that are as long lasting as possible, we rid ourselves of the incentive to exploit our health for pharma profits. Same with our food supply. Same with everything in this world today.
Anyway, if you're interested in learning more about how and why we could/should end money, please check out Peter Joseph's TH-cam channels, revolution now or culture in decline. He's an excellent place to start learning about this.
Ending money is the most rational thing that the human race could do.
My son is 36. He grew up facing disappointment all the time AND YET everything is a tragedy. 1 to 1000 in 3 seconds flat. The world told him all through school his feelings were all that mattered. He got participation ribbons and was told he was exempt from the tough tests. Didn't matter we raised him with tough love and told him the world didn't care about his disabilities. The school told him he was special because he had learning problems. Well, the world doesn't care that he has disabilities and he has surely found that out. We tried to raise him to understand this. We raised him that chores had to be done rather he liked it or not. We raised him that he was responsible for his own actions. When he meets his maker God isn't going to want to hear how badly he was treated, and he was, God is going to only care about how he reacted and dealt with the problems. Don't always blame the parents.
I have aspergers. Am female. There was NO diagnosis anything when I grew up. I only found out about it around 2008. There were kids with ADHD symptoms when I was in school, but again, no DX, special treatment, or anything. We all just did what we could to make it. I have my issues, yes, but I am also self employed. I rely on my parents for a lot of things. But I am not at all entitled. I even have shame over using public funding to help me. I learned to be frugal and respectful as a kid, and it has gone a long way. I also have some "country" life skills like hunting and butchering, and trapping and hide tanning, and sewing furs and leather. I was NOT made to feel special in school or at home when growing up. I shudder at what may have happened had I been DX'd at age 5 or whatever and been in today's schools. Like my topic obsessions were "something is wrong, but oh let's coddle her since she sooo special". I was obnoxious for sure, but got no special anything. I'm an only child though, so my parents did indulge me some, but if I was being bad, those things like going to all those merry go rounds would get canceled.
I believe this is a huge part of it. I also believe that people getting in serious trouble for defending themselves at school breeds a lot of pent-up anger that never has a release until it blows up. We used to go outback and duke it out. Win or lose, you were able to release that energy.
When you cant even fight back something feels unfair… now they want to punish everyone. Stack that with daily bullying and a bit of mental disability and what do you get?
I recently had this conversation with my 12 year old granddaughter. She was complaining about some kids talking about her. I told her that whether she complained or not, those kids will talk. Best thing to do is ignore them and do not give them any of her time or effort.
Good old fashioned values. Truer words were never spoken. God bless you my friend. Keep up the great work.