When your drunk friend turns to you to rave about how beautiful his new girlfriend looks while SHE IS STANDING RIGHT NEXT TO YOU, you say 'Yes, she does.' That's what you do as a friend. That's what you do if you have a single ounce of common sense and respect in your brain.
@@whateverwhatever2267 you can just say the general “yeah” which doesn’t necessarily mean you agree as much is it means you’re acknowledging what they’re saying. You don’t have to be rude
Yeah. I mean, what if she lost weight and suddenly became skinny? Would he just stop being in love with her?... Oh well...I guess if they're both happy the way they are then we still have nothing to say :)
oblama is here Ummm are you for real? :P Pefect body image was changing throughout the years. It's not like thin people were always attractive lol. For example this is the perfect body in Italian Renaissance (c. 1400 - 1700): img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2015-01/27/14/enhanced/webdr06/enhanced-20964-1422387059-1.jpg So yeah
+oblama is here that's your opinion. Even over the last millenium body preferences fluctuated a lot : to voluptious curves to stick thin, a focus on tiny waists to big booties... on the bigger picture, egyptian liked slim women, greeks very chubby. etc etc. I even remember a book from flaubert where he said a young girl was thin and unattractive and got rounder, fuller and heavier and was now so jolly and attractive. So your point of view is purely subjective
I can't get the point of this video.. her boyfriend only likes her because she is fat? Let's imagine she was skinny at the time they met.. so he would never notice her? I don't understand
matterhorn27 But he did like her. That's the point! She was insecure when she THOUGHT he was going to say he liked thin girls. Then he said he usually preferred bigger girls. So her insecurities did a 180. "He only likes me because I'm fat" No. He liked her even when she didn't fit into his "typical type". He liked her for her personality. All the insecurities she had were hers. He didn't cause them, she already had them. She just had to figure that out herself and find a way to accept that he liked her for who she was, and found her to be very attractive. Something she wasn't used to.
Well weak got our preferences, don’t we? And when it comes to the person we date, it’s important (for most people at least) to be physically attracted to them too. And certain people prefer certain body types. That’s not to say that they cannot fall in love with someone who has another body type and be attracted to that person as well, just that they are more likely to be attracted to people who have their preffered body type. The idea in this video is that the girl couldn’t accept her body as it was (fat, and there’s nothing wrong with that), but her boyfriend actually really liked that feature about her. No one ever said that her body was the thing he loved the most about her, on the contrary, he said “I love your body because you live in it”
I don't get why anyone would find this acceptable. If a guy said that women with large breasts where his type and he encourages women to wear low cut shirts, he'd be run out of town. To use the same analogy, when this lady says she's wearing a bikini to please her boyfriend, it's like a women having breast augmentation to please her boyfriend who's into large breasts. I know that somewhere in the vid there's a message about loving who you are, which I agree with, but the guy isn't encouraging her merely for her own well being. He's doing it because he gets off on it.
I thought the same thing. People are even praising this guy and encouraging this girl to be this way. One point I didn't understand is how he is the negative influence he has on her very life. Being chubby is one thing, but close to obese is threatening her health?! Why continue to support that kind of lifestyle when you're only ruining it by eating yourself to death or suffering from some sort of aortic aneurism because your heart can't support your abnormally large body. Its nothing to do with being proud of who you are, its about being healthy and treating yourself, including your body with respect. You only have one life to live!! What if her boyfriend dumps her? What would she do then? There doesn't seem to be a happy ending anytime for her if that ends up happening..
truegirl2anna I'm currently 275lbs. I'm technically obese for my 5'7 frame, but I'm also healthy. I don't have diabetes, (just got tested and I'm totally in the clear,) I don't have high blood pressure or difficulty doing things at this weight. Please understand that being fat does not automatically equal being unhealthy. Fat, by the by, isn't a useless by-product of eating too much. It's a naturally occurring *energy source* for your body. That's why weight lifters are often fatter than body builders, but also twice as strong. Sure, a flat six pack may look more attractive, but it's gonna be the fat power lifter that kicks his ass every time because his muscles, actually have fuel to burn. Why don't you actually educate yourself instead of just accepting whatever society tells you?
David Shultz this is just one girl's personal account. She's isn't saying it's perfect, but she's found happiness and works with it. Most likely a lot of overweight women can relate to her and they can use this video to think about their own life.
This guy sees fat women as a fetish. That's fine if you're okay with it, but it doesn't seem like you really understand the concept. Staying big only to please him isn't the way to go. As long as you're happy and healthy, stay at whatever weight you like... but don't do it for someone else. Yes he likes fat girls, but he likes them more than he truly likes you. He likes you because you will do what he wants to please him.
***** Bottom feeders? Lol... nice insult. Due to you using "giant poo" as an insult, I'm going to assume you're either a child or extremely immature, so you win. Everyone has standards...
Yeah, this made me uncomfortable because I think everyone should be totally happy in their own skin, and I think Kristin is beautiful. But anyone who is only/primarily attracted to someone because of the way they look, is a fetishizer and an objectifier. I know you could say that about anyone a sense, because we all have things we're attracted to, but it's shallow to only date or consider people because they have the body type you're into. In some instances it's even considered predatorial, for example guys with "yellow fever" who seek out Asian women only because of their features, not their individual personality. If they're both happy and consenting, that's great. But to feel like someone only likes me for, say, the color of my hair or skin, that would be weird and a dealbreaker for me personally.
I like how the guy is chubby, has a double chin etc, but no one even notices that-- like the chubby woman has to praise the gods that a guy looked her way, but of course it doesn't matter how much fat he has on him! You know, no double standard or anything.
It's kinda ignorant to say theres a double standard here. She was attracted to him she made a move and it worked out. Turned out chubby him didn't bother her.
Why? Most guys pick girls because they’re skinny...it’s Not ok to do the opposite? Everyone harping on the weight thing is forgetting those of us who like bigger women are just those who like thin. We aren’t gonna go out with someone without liking their personality. It’s just even better when that person happens to conform the the body type that most attracts you. Same for guys who like skinny girls.
I'm a chubby gay man and had encounters with a few others who are really into fat guys, seeing how turned on that makes them is soul destroying and chips away even more at my already fragile self-esteem and confidence.
This is really beautiful. I met my boyfriend online and although he didn't know what I looked like, he said he fell in love with my voice and who I am as a person. I was the heaviest I'd ever been but I got up the courage to show him pictures of myself. He said I was beautiful and it was amazing how lucky he was. I had never felt beautiful before, or worthy of love. His love and affection helped me love myself, and because of that I started losing weight. Partly because I wanted to look even better for him, but mostly because it was something I wanted for myself for my whole life and I was finally realizing that it was something I had the strength to do, and that I'm worth putting in the effort. Every day he tells me how beautiful I am, and if I ever mention that I'm self-conscious about part of my body he won't just tell me right then that he loves that part, he'll make a point to compliment me on it frequently afterwards. A year after meeting him and 7 months after starting my weight loss, I'm down almost 50 pounds. And I feel amazing, not because I weigh less, but because I'm in love with the most amazing, wonderful guy in the world and, even better, he's in love with me.
I have a friend and her husband is the same, he's thin and he likes bigger girls. Well when she was looking into surgery to aid weight loss, he did try and talk her out of it with all the "I love the way you are lines" she knew from get go, she was going to do this. She is now down to a size 10ish and he still loves her for her. Just because some one likes something about your appearance doesn't mean it cant change and become a deeper love. What about women who get into a relationship slim but then after settling down or kids, they gain some weight and yet the man in their life (more often than not) stay because he loves her for her. Just because something attracts you to some one doesn't mean the love doesn't go deeper than that one thing.
Weight loss surgery is a slow death. Everyone I know that had it only lasted around 15 years in sure misery. Do not destroy a beautiful body just for someone's else desires !
Awww this touched my heart ‼ As a large woman , I'm comfortable with my body UNTIL I see a body that I want 💁 lol that might sound crazy but as soon as I see my ideal figure then that's when I start to really see my body different.
+Kai Epps OK IK THIS IS REALLY OFF TOPIC AND STUFF BUT CAN WE PLEASE JUST TALK ABOUT HOW AMAZING SHE LOOKED IN THAT BIKINI. LIKE DUDE SHE GIVES ME HOPE.
Not trying to brag but heh...I got the real first comment before after a video was uploaded *1 SECOND AGO* On WWE Channel and Jacksfilms and many many more....proves I am better than you
i love how guys say it never happens the other way around, but like... do you not watch TV shows? Family Guy? Simpsons? King of Queens? According to Jim? Flintstones? That '70s Show? The Sopranos? Modern Family? The list goes on and on from old TV to newer.
***** I agree, the heart wants what the heart wants. Like i love all those shows, except for Family Guy for my own personal reasons. I never said it was bad, I just said it's all over media for a guy bigger to be with the skinny girl. It's not like it isn't there to be a "role model," if you would. Women don't have those kinds of "role models." Either way, love is love. No matter what. Despite the size/weight
That's a horrible example.Whether it be cartoon, sitcom, soap opera, etc... they get paid or drawn to love someone on the show. Do you think WWE is real? Lol
Anonymous2051 I shall say what I said before, it's still a role model example. It still shows men that you can get someone hot despite your size. All i was saying is that this video is giving it to girls of bigger sizes since TV doesn't. Please understand
Fetish? That’s just what he likes. His personal taste. Some people like men who have abs, who are tall or even buff. You don’t go ahead and call that a fetish. 🤔
Thats there but we call it a fetish when thats what atttacts them most like thats what they are looking for the first thing. Like i only date guys who have abs kind of thing is a fetish but if i just like it its diff na. And fat is not healthy and usully humans do not tend to love unhealthy for being that way.
@@helenb1853 If the only the thing we cared about subconsciously was health then we would logically choose big strong men and moderately large women. Because health for a woman would be child barring. There is little reason to be found in sexual preferences.
Im attracted to smart, beautiful, charismatic, sweet women...though I dont think Im ready for another relationship yet, Im bettering myself for my future bride to be, I wont be perfect but at least she will have less to deal with...
Im_a_cat_meow If u don't, ur wasting ur time. U might want to stretch that out at least till ur 22-23. It's not like once u hit 30 u can decide to continue to focus on partying and getting laid.......unless ur really lucky. Maybe it takes an extra year or 2 to get through college....so what. Plenty of time to be a working stiff later.
Cosmo Vedder you know just because your 30 doesnt mean you cant do lots but hey do you got any tips im not good with keep a conversation with girls and i dont know what to do when i go party any tips
I'm a big girl who's been small and loved myself at all sizes. But you're dating a fetish guy. This is the same guy who, if you ever choose to lose weight, will not want to be with you anymore. I've seen guys like him. I wish yall the best but, a relationship where you're keeping yourself heavy to please him isn't healthy.
Bas van de Kleut there's nothing wrong with having a preference, but he really seems like a fetish guy based on what she said. Those guys are the worst.
Being overweight in the first place isn't healthy, THAT'S the reason she should lose weight, and she shouldn't of put it on for her boyfriend you're right
+saoluver25 Fetishists aren't horrible by default, you know. They're often normal in pretty much every other avenue of life, but they fly their kink flag high. There's nothing automatically wrong with having a fetish. If this guy makes her feel bad about herself, that's where a problem starts to develop.
I get why some people are concerned. But it also made me think that I called my boyfriend's attention because I was wearing a band t-shirt and my glasses. I wouldn't have payed attention to him if he wasn't tall. We all feel attracted to different things. If he didn't love Kristen, he would't be with her, just as he isn't with his chubby ex-girlfriends.
I think she's a beautiful woman. But I hate the selfishness of his fetish.... she is comfortable in her own skin. Good for her. But at the same time I cannot imagine having a partner wanting to see me at my unhealthiest so he could get off to it. I mean she did say she was putting on weight, and she didn't particularly feel great about it.
Melisha P exactly!! I totally agree. I don't see why no one else can realize how toxic Brian is. I can't believe she doesn't see this, Yikes. They're getting married soon, and this just feels like an unresolved issue
But remember, we don't see their lives behind closed doors. She seems like a smart woman, therefore she knows who truly loves her for her. And judging my how he said "I love your body because Kristin lives in it", shows that there is more to their relationship than fetishism.
All he said was that chubbier people were his type. That would be just like someone saying skinnier people were their type. He didn't say anything inherently lytishising or unhealthy, she just took it in an unhealthy way.
I can't imagine if someone said skinny people are my type or muscular people are my type, they would be accused of having an "unhealthy fetish," even if their partner was unhealthily losing weight or gaining muscle.
If you're naturally big that's fine, but don't encourage being fat. It's not about appearance, it's not healthy. Not everyone can lose weight, and not everyone can gain weight. Everyone is different, but seriously, gaining weight to be more attractive to your spouse, that's not healthy.
Especially to your spouse, man.. It's still not loving someone for who they actually are. The guy in this video's only focusing on Kristen's (I think that's her name) physical appearence. At least.. that's what I got from this video. Maybe some personality, but.. Ugh. Either way, it's only focusing on physical appearance.
Moe Lester It goes the other way around too, wth are you talking about. It would be just as bad if the guy was attracted to her because she was thin, but wanted her to get skinnier. You're ruining the focus of the video.
I understand how it feels "fetishy", but honestly if beauty is subjective then I feel like that puts Brian in the same position as people who like thin girls. Just because his definition of abnormal shouldn't make it fetishy. Although I do hope Kristen doesn't try to put on more weight just to please him, especially to an unhealthy point.
I don't know if you read the comments, but I love how brave you are. Not because of your size, but how you expose your way to acceptance. Thank you very much Kristin.
I get how people have ideal types, but that is just the beginning. A relationship is based on something to start it, but then both people enjoy each other's company. If she loses weight will he still love her? People will change throughout their lives. Everyone will get old.
sad thing is, she's dating a man who only loves her because of a fetish.. instead of finding someone who just loves her for herself, not because she's big.
Oh for gods sake DiaKitty get over yourself. There are a thousand dimensions to every relationship and I am sure he is into her because she is delightful,witty,sexy and fun!
So if you like a heavy body type and date a girl who looks like that it's a fetish and you only do it because of that. But if you date a standard 'hot' girl you find attractive you are not doing it for the looks? You can find someone sexy AND love them for their personality
He said "I love your body because Kristin lives inside you".It means he does love her for who she is.You can always be that attracted to someone as well as being in love with them for who they are.
It's not always about a fetish. I'm into bigger ladies and even I'm whiling to settle down into a relationship with a woman not matter her shape or size. I've never been the relationship type during my school life so when I meet my now bride I was greatful to find someones who I can hangout with and still love and care about. And she only weighs 132.
Story of my life. No bragging but it really annoys be when gfs have said in the past why are you with me,I'm fat , you could get better etc and also when you talk to women and they immediately think you're a fetishest. I am mentally and physically attracted to plus size women. They are usually funnier, more interesting , nicer, clothes look better on them than "hot girls " (supposedly) When you are with a confident plus size woman there is nothing better!
Seriously! People are attracted to all kinds of physical things (and of course non-physical things too)! Hair color, fashion style, boob size, etc. Being into big girls is just another of those things. It's totally normal! Not a fetish, not a 'nice' thing, just a regular thing that exists in the world and is normal
Him being attracted to Kristen for her body type is like some girls being attracted to dudes with abs, or some girls to girls with short hair. Everyone has a type.
Ashton being blonde or white is not an option. Being fat is. Which is why it makes the whole situation a whole lot creepier because he's attracted to someone that can't care for her own body.
Supreeta Sagere maybe it’s not the best preference, but people are also attracted to abs and muscles which having is a choice. Doesn’t matter if it’s a choice or not and maybe it’s weird but it’s just a preference
Ashton But abs and muscles are actually a positive thing, where it doesn't have increased chances of heart failure, whilst the same can't be said for being fat
It's so much nicer to live in America rather than Asia I'm 5'2 and 117lbs and at one point 120.5lbs, I would always get bullied by all the Asian people I knew especially my relatives. Once even a friends grandmother called me obese and 'fugly', and yes I still hate her to this day. I'm still not considered but I can call myself normal and ppl here are much less rude about your weight.
taiga ninenineseven Most Asian girls my height are around 96-108lbs. And they can be that way without exercise. I have a little bit of stomach flab even when I exercise regularly. Even worse when my best friend is 5'6 and 111.5lbs.
+precious Ehiemere You know what u can go screw your self she is amazing and gorgeous who wouldn't like her even if she's a little chubby she is still gorgeous inside and out
Oh no! I'm uncomfortable with the idea fat people don't hate themselves!!! I'm so ignorant I'm going to call it unhealthy even though I'm NOT a doctor. #sarcasm
But it is unhealthy and you don't have to be a doctor to figure it out. It's a simple fact of life that if you are overweight or obese you will be less healthy than someone of normal healthy weight. It's true that you should be comfortable in your own body but you should also understand the repercussions and consequences of your lifestyle
Namazzi that's not true, people that are over weight yes are unhealthy, but people of the right weight, aren't necessarily always healthier than those overweight, they could be smokers, they could be damaging their body with carcinogens and drugs. People are too quick to judge people with these body types, and compare them to "healthy weight" plus, some people may not care if they are overweight, you enjoy life how you shoes to live it really. If somebody is going to point out that an overweight person "shouldn't be doing" something because of their weight, I believe it discrimination. If an overweight person can't wear a bikini? Ok then, but that would hypothetically mean that smokers cannot, and drug takers cannot, you've just got to look at it out of context and what we say to people who are overweight, is quite ridiculous.
jazzie maxwell Why do you feel that someone has to be a physician to tell fat people that they're unhealthy? It doesn't take years of medical school to realize that someone smoking is unhealthy, someone addicted to drugs is unhealthy, someone who is obese/overweight is also unhealthy. Granted, laymen don't know the pathology behind it since they don't have proper education on the physiology of the body. Still, that is not needed to label someone unhealthy. So your use of the term "ignorant" is not appropriate. It is you who are ignorant about its complications. Fat people can love themselves all they want. I am against bullying and unnecessary name calling; however, I feel many fat people are triggered by simple, hard facts... which is not bullying. I feel they should love themselves enough to get to a healthy weight.
Namazzi Challenger That's not true. Technically I'm overweight and I can almost guarantee that I am healthier than you. I had children, gained some weight, but I am very active and I eat well. I instruct several Zumba Fitness classes per week and I bet you could barely keep up with me! What are the parameters by which you judge 'health'? Health means that your blood pressure is good, that your cholesterol levels are great and that your heart is in good shape. I am overweight for someone who is 5'2" but all of my vitals are PERFECT and I do plenty of cardio. Thin people aren't necessarily healthy either or do you not know that?
The only thing that bugs me is she said she gained weight after being with him...its like saying you lost weight for a man, like, him liking fat chicks is fine, and him accepting and loving a girl is great, but to pretend he didn't stop her from going further into her fitness goals is silly. I think all people are beautiful no matter what size, but that one comment just bugged me
I think she gained weight cause she got diagnosed with this thing that makes you gain a bunch of weight at once, I don't remember what it's called but it's in a couple vids
Maria Breniz But I'm fat.. and it slows me down and I can't run as fast and lose my breath and feel like I can't breathe if I sprint.. oh well guess I'm healthy!
she inspires me so much. as a bigger girl that is really inspiring. I'm not huge but definitely big. I think anyways. I've always hated my body but as off recent I'm liking it more, I like how curvy I am and even though I'm bigger it makes me feel sexy and cute but sometimes like crap.
being confident and enjoying how your body looks is good, even if you are fat. accepting being fat is different, because it means you wont change your lifestyle.
I watched this video when I was younger and I loved it. I thought it was cute, sweet and a little weird but romantic in it's own way. But now that I've grown up and become an adult this video is kinda off putting and cringey... To think I would watch fat fetish and think it was cute.... Well to each their own i suppose... . . . She looks much happier here.
"I will let him enjoy the thing he loves" - the sad thing is that she isn't referring to herself but her body fat. And she uses words like "Love"? he doesn't love your fat, he is sexually gratified by it. He should "love" you not your physicality. The video concludes with her deciding to "let him enjoy" her body fat. How can buzzfeed spread such backward and foolish rhetoric. She has settled to become his object for sexual gratification. He might love her as her person but she has clearly shown what is mainly motivating her choices in the closing scene with the bikini. Accepting fatness is great but this is a terrible reason to accept it.
She meant that he should enjoy her not her body fat, it’s just that she come with that body fat and he loves that as well. Enjoying a person isn’t a bad thing, and even enjoying her body would still not have been a bad thing to be honest.
Im attracted to heavy smokers... pretty much anything speeds up death. It think its cute. You should make a cute video about how my attraction to heavy smokers helps heavy smokers feel good about their smoking and encourages them to smoke more
Next time you want to say something rude about someone's weight, be it skinny or obese, think about your darkest shame, the thing you would never want anyone to know. Now imagine that everyone who looks at you can see it and feels the need, nay "social obligation" to judge and lecture you on it. What's unfair about weightest comments and judging someone out loud for being too fat or too skinny is that almost everyone has something about themselves that is unhealthy either mentally or physically, some kind of secret shame, but with weight you wear that particular vice like a sign around your neck for the world to see--you don't have the luxury of keeping it a secret. People who cut themselves, who self harm, pull their hair out, etc, these are disturbing, gut wrenchingly sad stories of physically expressing internal pain. What do you think eating when you're depressed is? I'm not saying it doesn't need to be an issue that is openly talked about, childhood obesity is a tragic problem of great concern in the U.S. especially when coupled with the rate of childhood obesity and amount of deaths related to obesity each year. It needs to be in the narrative, but never about a specific person, and never in a cruel or shameful way, and always treated with the same respect other mental health issues receive. No one is telling you that you're wrong or to jump on the 'real women have curves' BS bandwagon, I'm literally just asking you to not be an asshole. If that's hard for you, talk to somebody about your own issues, please.
Brittney Lynn You've got some krill stuck in your teeth, love. Me commenting about the obesity epidemic is perfectly fair. Being fat isn't something you're born with. It's something you do to yourself. I hold people accountable for their actions. People with depression actually have a problem that they can't control without the help of medication and behavioral therapy. The girl in this video doesn't look depressed does she? Tess Holliday isn't depressed either so don't you dare say that people are obese because of depression. Obesity is a choice, a terrible one. If you don't want to be obese just exercise (Heh, see what I did there?) some goddamn self control. It's really that simple. If that's too hard for you maybe you should be the one seeking some help. Oh, and as for my biggest shame, my biggest shame doesn't make up 21% of annual health care costs does it? My biggest shame isn't contributing to a nationwide epidemic. In the next two decades it's predicted by economists that obesity related health costs will exceed 500 billion dollars. I don't want my kids to grow up in a world where obesity is the norm and unhealthy behavior is celebrated. I want them to be healthy and active. I've got all the right in the world to give opinion on this topic. Just because I'm not part of the HAES bullshit doesn't mean I can't call it out vehemently. It's a vile movement that deserves verbal degradation. By that logic I can't call out fascism because I'm not a facist. Becoming obese is like vandalizing your own body. You don't celebrate vandals do you? The people in the video are contributing to the growing HAES movement, their contributing to the widespread disregard for basic medical facts and just as you called me out I have the right to call them out. If anything I'm helping bring facts to video marred by stupidity. Sure, I may be blunt and insult people but that's what individuals who are part of and catalyzing this wide spread stupidity deserve. Open your eyes.
Firstly, I'm not your 'love' and saying that to me is patronizing and sexist, I don't expect you to care but I will let you know I do not appreciate it. Secondly, I wasn't referring to any comment you may have made, as I had never read your comment, and still have not. Thirdly, and most importantly, you entirely missed my point. Shame, which you continued to do in this comment by comparing overweight people to vandals which by the way, I'm completely fine with expressive graffiti in most cases so actually I do celebrate vandals I suppose. You aren't helping anyone and you know it, you're on a mission to show your intelligence on a subject probably largely because of a superiority complex. The fact of the matter is, shame is not a healthy motivator, it is a psychologically dangerous one and I feel very bad for you if it is something you're okay with or has been done to you in the past to make you think it is fine to do to others. If you have a friend who has a problem, you try to get to the root of the issue that is the causation, you try to find out what is keeping them from correcting their problem and you help them and encourage them in any way that you can. You don't tell them "you're fucking up stop fucking up" and leave it at that. You don't shame your friend into correcting their problems, it only makes you an asshole and pushes them deeper into their problem. Being obese or overweight is an epidemic especially in America, but I'm not saying to hop on the 'only real women have curves' bullcrap and I also do not like severely obese plus size models touting self acceptance only and not trying to better yourself get healthier. It makes me angry when I see obese celebrities preaching self acceptance and not encouraging others to go on a healthier lifestyle journey with them. It encourages people who are in denial or have grown complacent with their obesity to continue to be that way. The thing is, every obese adult knows they are unhealthy. I don't know why other grown adults have to constantly preach to others about 'don't you know about heart disease' There is denial, but it isn't ignorance. You're just telling someone something they already know. I would love to know why people don't shame cigarette smokers, a habit that does effect the people immediately around you twice as much as yourself, aren't shamed more than the overweight in our society, so don't act like your beliefs are perfect and your preaching is flawless, it isn't. Know I won't be reading any replies to this after this comment, because I honestly don't give a shit. Just know, there are studies you can quickly Google that prove that fat shaming not only doesn't work, it backfires. Maybe read some of that before continuing on your tirade.
Quickly googled this topic like you suggested and was proven right. Fat shaming works, love (Oh, that's sexist isn't it? Despite it being a gender neutral term of endearment that's been around for centuries.) meloukhia.net/2015/04/fat_shaming_works_just_fine/ Do you really think smoking affects the average person more than obesity? $51,100 of taxpayer money has been going to the Manzur family since 2006 who claim that they're "too fat to work". The government doesn't hand out a year's worth of money to people for being "too alcoholic to work" now does it? This only just one case there's, so many more like it it's disgusting. You acknowledge that fat acceptance is bad yet still don't hold people accountable for their actions; "Oh, it's got to be a narrative" you spew. The narrative so far is that people have been getting fatter in America for the past 20 years. Hell, there's even plus sized "models" (what a fucking oxymoron). We need to fight this epidemic. You say fat people are aware of that they're on a unhealthy life style. If they're so aware of it why don't they change? Because in this society we're cultivating people are indifferent to obesity, it's becoming more and more accepted by the day. But you won't listen to me will you? Oh no, you're on such a high horse (poor horse) that you won't accept what attitudes need to be implemented because they're too blunt. You're so adamant (incredibly misguided, but admirable in a sad way), you're not gonna listen to me. I hope you wallow in your non-exist action on the obesity epidemic. I hope you relish the health-indifferent societal attitudes you're nursing. Enjoy the broken scales and burden on the taxpayers that you've earned so barbarously. Until we start to change our indifference and growing acceptance of obesity I'll use phrases like "butter beast", "land whale", "ham planet", and "beef goblin" liberally. Whew! All done. Think I'm gonna go for a run now (You do know what running is right?).
I agree with both of you in certain ways. The more minor cases of overweight - and by minor i mean people with negligible health issues who are just as functional a member of society as people who are considered to be at healthy weight - should not be made fun of for their weight. For some people it's harder to keep the weight off. I myself am with 6 feet and 108 pounds considered to be underweight, and i can't make it change, even though i eat more that an average person of my height and i hardly excersize. For some people staying at a healthy weight is harder than for others, which is something commonly ignored by the majority of society. However there is most certainly a degree of self control involved, and when your weight gets past a certain point there should certainly be some alarm bells going off. When this isn't the case, outside input is one of few ways to help such an individual out. More hostile input may seem immoral and cruel, but it gets the point across. A simple "Don't get me wrong, but don't you think a diet might be a good idea?" to a 400 pound person is most likely not going to do the trick, whereas "Get your fat ass some excersize." gets the point across. If someone is constanly given kind, supporting words, all they have to fear is mild disappointment when they give up. If someone is made fun of, they'll be motivated by a feeling of "I'll show them!". And they also have more to fear, because when they give up they prove the attackers (by lack of a better word) right. Of course, this is all very idealistic and this "I'll show them" feeling doesn't come up in everybody, but i suppose that just helps discover the weaker members of society. To move on to the "sexist" use of the word love: That is complete and utter bullshit. You know why? Because it is a gender neutral term. I use it on other men all the time. And even if it wasn't, if Raghav Gaur turned out to be female, all your offense would vanish. It just seems like you want to be offended.
+Helen C ...he was slim to her, because he was not as overweight as she was used to being. It was her perception, not "America's", so get over yourself. LOL
gosh I teared up. my hubby tells me that more men hould admit to liking a bigger girl. I was at my smallest when I met him ( a size 16) and I am working my way back to it. no matter my size he has always made me feel beautiful.
Same here. When I met my boyfriend I was a size 14. We later on went our separate ways, in which he continued to date big girls, really really big girls. Then when we got back together, I was double the size. He said he still liked me, but it was hard for me to believe, since he met me when I was a size 14. Sure he dated girls at upwards of 400lbs, but that wasn't the point. I felt that deep down inside, he was only with me and all the fat girls because that's all he could financially obtain. I started to think, why hasn't he ever been with a slim woman ( size 0 to 8). He kept insuring me that it was because he didn't like slim girls. I still wasn't convinced. I started to think, maybe he was rejected by slim girls, so he leaned towards girls who he could obtain, and accepted that big girls would give him a chance. I had to remind myself that I wasn't always super big girl, he was able to capture me when I was curvy. Therefore, how can it be true that women of a certain weight didn't want him? Maybe because I was the skinniest of all the girls, even though I wasn't truly slim. I started to wonder, would he still date big girls if he looked differently, or had the financial means to date the most desirable women that money can buy.
Fat isn't a bad word, neither is skinny. Both can be unhealthy and both can be healthy, it just depends. We aren't all made the same, and you can be fat and be beautiful , fat isn't a dirty word. You can be skinny and be beautiful as well. Yes Kristen is bigger, but she is also beautiful, quirky, smart, and has a great style.
Exactly! both can be unhealthy and there is a higher chance of someone being unhealthy if they are at either end of the spectrum but just like you said it doesn't mean they are unhealthy. Generally speaking we can't tell from appearance whether they are healthy or not, based on their size alone.
honestly ?? as long as he isn't pressuring her to gain weight and he does actually care about her health it's not the problem of course, if she and him are both happy matters also
Work out. It's good for you. With less fat, you likely live longer to see your children have families too. But if you are happy being fat then more power to you. Work hard, play by the rules and you shall succeed.
To be honest, I find fat fetishes disgusting. you're not supposed to only love a woman for her body weight, but for her personality, for her traits, and for her capability to love. skinny fetishes, fat fetishes, and any other body image fetishes, are disgusting.
+Jacelyn Castillo People can't control their fetishes. Men with "fat fetishes" are also capable of loving women, as well as men with foot/hair/hand fetishes. Your assumptions are kind of ridiculous.
Being attracted to a specific type of body image does not mean you cannot treat that significant other with respect and affection. There are many different people in this world with many different mindsets. Get used to it.
If I see a girl with a pig tail I go crazy. However when a girl has normal hair it doesn't detract from her. I'm not your boyfriend but I'm assuming he's the same way. (Ponytail = + however no ponytail (does not equal) /= -
Jessie Burgess I know everyone is saying to curl your hair. But i personally, think that if he loves you and find's you beautiful regardless if he find's girls with curly hair attractive or not you should be the ultimate stand out in his eyes straight hair, curly hair. If a guy said to me i prefer curly hair, i wouldn't curl my hair. Because he should find me beautiful, i shouldn't have to try be beautiful for him. My boyfriend liked/likes girls who wear eye liner. I am a girl who doesn't wear makeup besdies the face powder and bold lip. I told him one day "I'll wear some eyeliner, when you do." And his never bugged me again, just because he likes that doesn't mean you have to be that. If you weren't beautful above all else why is he with you? why should he be with you? Dont let it hurt you, rock you. And when you rock that confidence that you have for your natrual hair texture you might be the girl who changes his taste. My boyfriend, now find's it annoying when i wear eyeliner "your eyes are to dark, it doesn't look good. I dont like it as much" and his slowly become more and more attractive to me without the eye makeup that he will ask for that now. Confidence can make anything attractive, to a man. Be confident my lovely
Jessie Burgess I don't think that's a big enough issue for him to have a problem with you. It's like guys who say they like blondes and date a brunette - it's such a simple change and it really doesn't make a difference as to how much they care about you, it's just an ideal
Jessie Burgess you don't have to be pressured into curling your hair just to please other people. Im sure your boyfriend loves u for who you are and still loves u regardless if u have curly her or not. Do what makes u feel better, you do you.
OMG!! This is exactly the experience in my relationship. I am a gay man and am overweight dating an in shape guy who loves me including the fact that I am overweight. I constantly turn his compliments into put downs in my head just the way you described. Thank you. This was very on point for me.
Norah Miriam Chehab But its kinda the same to skinnier girls... Only girls with a hourglass shape are "Perfect"... Fat people are accepted and skinny people are shamed vice versa... I think society is cruel to everyone... Skinny people have higher metabolism's which make it harder to gain weight some people are born chubbier which makes it hard to lose weight
Really? because one of the biggest fears of online dating in men is if a date is fat. Of course, some women are ruthless for fat men, but there is also an equal amount of men that do that.
Isabella Lee How many obese men do you see with hot women.? If they are rich, yes. Otherwise its rare. Its much more common to see thin men with fat women than the other way around.
+Meade Skelton ummm I just pointed out that not all women hate fat dudes. There were social experiments too. I never said there were no such thing as women gold diggers. Also, I pointed out that men could be the same way.
Kristen, I think this is the most powerful video you've ever been apart of. Your figure may not be everyone's cup of tea, but wouldn't you rather be Brian's double shot of vodka anyway?? You're gorgeous and wise.
Jenna Marie you can like any size you want, but can tend to be attracted to one more often. I love brunette guys, I'm really into them. but that won't stop me from liking a ginger and been crazy over him
TheDnyCarrera exactly, being attracted to someone is something you cant help however just because you have a type doesnt mean you will only love that kind of person
@@simplythebestgirl watch the video she published on her channel 3 weeks ago, she openly speaks about how it was for her to figure it out and how she’s still in love with her despite the difficulties
Kristin Chirico is amazing. She always makes me think. She comes across as so confident and happy and she always looks great. She's obviously intelligent and clever and has a great sense of humor, she's brave and curious and so very full of life and she's got one of those really great smiles; the kind that makes you feel like everything really WILL be okay. I always think that she's probably a great friend, and how I wish she were my friend. Watching this video made me cry, and the tears burn. Because I've never seen this side of her, serious and so open and showing us where she hurts, it made me so sad to see her that vulnerable. I never imagined she felt like that, or was going through this. I'm sorry she's dealing with this. Kristin, you are awesome. I meant every single thing I wrote up there, and I hope that it all works out, because you seem like a really good person and I want you to always be happy, as happy as possible. Good luck, and take care!
I was sad because I thought she got divorced and remarried, but I was wrong. It's the same couple, but now one is a she, and the other is a she/they. I'm trying to understand it. I'm a progressive person, but I find it a bit confusing.
I dont like at all this video!! It feels like Kirsten love to be loved by his boyfriend, now husband, but at the same time she hates herself for being fat... If Kristen likes her body and likes to be fat, this relationship is completely fine. But is Kristen only likes her body because he likes it that way this is wrong.
*Your husband*
Congrats, Kristen!
And now her wife
but she did look lovely in that dress :(
I know, and those friends are jerks
+Lemon Ste I agree!
+Lemon Ste Right?? She always looks great using those cute clothings. She is very fashionable.
+Lemon Ste yeah she looked adorable!!!!!!
Yea, she actually looked very lovely!
"his jeans torn in all the right places" LOLOLOLOLOL IDK why I laughed so hard
sounds like a fanfiction
Haha I was just looking for this comment😂
bwahahahhaha
penel25 lmfaaoo i laughed too... they look terrible
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When your drunk friend turns to you to rave about how beautiful his new girlfriend looks while SHE IS STANDING RIGHT NEXT TO YOU, you say 'Yes, she does.' That's what you do as a friend. That's what you do if you have a single ounce of common sense and respect in your brain.
Where's the respect in dishonEsty?
im not a lier but im not rude so silence would be the right response
for real!
@@whateverwhatever2267 you can just say the general “yeah” which doesn’t necessarily mean you agree as much is it means you’re acknowledging what they’re saying. You don’t have to be rude
It's not about agreeing, it's about validating your friend.
Where in heavens did she get that cherry dress!?
IK RIGHT? I feel like it's from forever 21, they have styles like that.
They sell it on ModCloth.com! They have lots of dresses similar to it too! :D
Kaitlyn Ly It's from ModCloth. I've seen it on their website.
Kaitlyn Ly I was just about to reply the same thing as Christina and Cat. It's ModCloth's "Pull Up a Cherry Dress in White" - $64.99 and adorable!
From Mendochino!
Am I the only one very uncomfortable with this ? I don't know if he is really in love or just living his fetish :/
Yeah. I mean, what if she lost weight and suddenly became skinny? Would he just stop being in love with her?...
Oh well...I guess if they're both happy the way they are then we still have nothing to say :)
what about men have " a thin fetish " if she gain weight he in love her anymore ??? so yep,. be the opposite !!!
"thin fetish", like are you even for real? humans are naturally thin so it is NORMAL to feel attracted to thin people
oblama is here Ummm are you for real? :P Pefect body image was changing throughout the years. It's not like thin people were always attractive lol. For example this is the perfect body in Italian Renaissance (c. 1400 - 1700): img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2015-01/27/14/enhanced/webdr06/enhanced-20964-1422387059-1.jpg So yeah
+oblama is here that's your opinion. Even over the last millenium body preferences fluctuated a lot : to voluptious curves to stick thin, a focus on tiny waists to big booties... on the bigger picture, egyptian liked slim women, greeks very chubby. etc etc. I even remember a book from flaubert where he said a young girl was thin and unattractive and got rounder, fuller and heavier and was now so jolly and attractive. So your point of view is purely subjective
She actually looked reaaaally pretty in that bikini
why are you lying? there's nothing pretty about an unhealthy body
why are you lying? there's nothing pretty about an unhealthy body
I can't get the point of this video.. her boyfriend only likes her because she is fat? Let's imagine she was skinny at the time they met.. so he would never notice her? I don't understand
I don't understand how that "fat/skinny" things works.. like why people so attached to the body types? maybe I'm too naive ...
matterhorn27 But he did like her. That's the point! She was insecure when she THOUGHT he was going to say he liked thin girls. Then he said he usually preferred bigger girls. So her insecurities did a 180. "He only likes me because I'm fat" No. He liked her even when she didn't fit into his "typical type". He liked her for her personality. All the insecurities she had were hers. He didn't cause them, she already had them. She just had to figure that out herself and find a way to accept that he liked her for who she was, and found her to be very attractive. Something she wasn't used to.
Tabi Hawley great point!! I like it
@@tabihawley6624 So true. Her insecurities is what made him seem like he had "Fetishize" her. But he never did.
Well weak got our preferences, don’t we? And when it comes to the person we date, it’s important (for most people at least) to be physically attracted to them too. And certain people prefer certain body types. That’s not to say that they cannot fall in love with someone who has another body type and be attracted to that person as well, just that they are more likely to be attracted to people who have their preffered body type. The idea in this video is that the girl couldn’t accept her body as it was (fat, and there’s nothing wrong with that), but her boyfriend actually really liked that feature about her. No one ever said that her body was the thing he loved the most about her, on the contrary, he said “I love your body because you live in it”
I don't get why anyone would find this acceptable. If a guy said that women with large breasts where his type and he encourages women to wear low cut shirts, he'd be run out of town. To use the same analogy, when this lady says she's wearing a bikini to please her boyfriend, it's like a women having breast augmentation to please her boyfriend who's into large breasts. I know that somewhere in the vid there's a message about loving who you are, which I agree with, but the guy isn't encouraging her merely for her own well being. He's doing it because he gets off on it.
Amen.
I thought the same thing. People are even praising this guy and encouraging this girl to be this way. One point I didn't understand is how he is the negative influence he has on her very life. Being chubby is one thing, but close to obese is threatening her health?! Why continue to support that kind of lifestyle when you're only ruining it by eating yourself to death or suffering from some sort of aortic aneurism because your heart can't support your abnormally large body. Its nothing to do with being proud of who you are, its about being healthy and treating yourself, including your body with respect. You only have one life to live!! What if her boyfriend dumps her? What would she do then? There doesn't seem to be a happy ending anytime for her if that ends up happening..
David Shultz didn't you hear her say it's because she got "comfortable" in her own skin?
truegirl2anna I'm currently 275lbs. I'm technically obese for my 5'7 frame, but I'm also healthy. I don't have diabetes, (just got tested and I'm totally in the clear,) I don't have high blood pressure or difficulty doing things at this weight.
Please understand that being fat does not automatically equal being unhealthy. Fat, by the by, isn't a useless by-product of eating too much. It's a naturally occurring *energy source* for your body. That's why weight lifters are often fatter than body builders, but also twice as strong.
Sure, a flat six pack may look more attractive, but it's gonna be the fat power lifter that kicks his ass every time because his muscles, actually have fuel to burn.
Why don't you actually educate yourself instead of just accepting whatever society tells you?
David Shultz this is just one girl's personal account. She's isn't saying it's perfect, but she's found happiness and works with it. Most likely a lot of overweight women can relate to her and they can use this video to think about their own life.
This guy sees fat women as a fetish. That's fine if you're okay with it, but it doesn't seem like you really understand the concept. Staying big only to please him isn't the way to go. As long as you're happy and healthy, stay at whatever weight you like... but don't do it for someone else. Yes he likes fat girls, but he likes them more than he truly likes you. He likes you because you will do what he wants to please him.
+NoStep I bet you've never been laid.
Coffee Lol. Anybody who makes the kind of statement he did probably truly hasn't gotten laid.
No thinking that standards only mean having a woman/man who is skinny and attractive means not getting laid cause no one is perfect including you.
***** Bottom feeders? Lol... nice insult. Due to you using "giant poo" as an insult, I'm going to assume you're either a child or extremely immature, so you win. Everyone has standards...
Yeah, this made me uncomfortable because I think everyone should be totally happy in their own skin, and I think Kristin is beautiful.
But anyone who is only/primarily attracted to someone because of the way they look, is a fetishizer and an objectifier. I know you could say that about anyone a sense, because we all have things we're attracted to, but it's shallow to only date or consider people because they have the body type you're into. In some instances it's even considered predatorial, for example guys with "yellow fever" who seek out Asian women only because of their features, not their individual personality.
If they're both happy and consenting, that's great. But to feel like someone only likes me for, say, the color of my hair or skin, that would be weird and a dealbreaker for me personally.
I like how the guy is chubby, has a double chin etc, but no one even notices that-- like the chubby woman has to praise the gods that a guy looked her way, but of course it doesn't matter how much fat he has on him! You know, no double standard or anything.
It's kinda ignorant to say theres a double standard here. She was attracted to him she made a move and it worked out. Turned out chubby him didn't bother her.
there really is no double standerd bc we also see 95% girls believe they deserve channing tatum even when they r no where near as "visually appealing"
She is talking about herself not the guy that's why. Nothing else.
I don't know ... if your weight is the thing your partner "loves most" about you, that's suspicious to me.
That was never said in the video, just that he loves her body, not that he loves her body the most of everything about her.
Why? Most guys pick girls because they’re skinny...it’s
Not ok to do the opposite? Everyone harping on the weight thing is forgetting those of us who like bigger women are just those who like thin. We aren’t gonna go out with someone without liking their personality. It’s just even better when that person happens to conform the the body type that most attracts you. Same for guys who like skinny girls.
I'm a chubby gay man and had encounters with a few others who are really into fat guys, seeing how turned on that makes them is soul destroying and chips away even more at my already fragile self-esteem and confidence.
Then I should be suspicious of girls attracted to toned or muscular guys by your logic.
@@PeteS_1994 if a girl loves a guy's muscles the most... yep there is something wrong
Am I the only one who thinks that her swimsuit looks cute asf on her?
I agree 110%!!!! She has curves in ALL the right places!! 💗
Gurl u ain’t the only one
this made me cry. im obviously getting my period soon.
Nachelle Swinford I know your comment is old. but what does your period have to do anything with this video?
Nachelle Swinford why dis ww have to know that
This is one of my fav comments on this thread lol
YES! I know I'm getting my period when I'm drawn to buzzfeed/boldly videos
I don't get a period but it made me cry!
This is really beautiful. I met my boyfriend online and although he didn't know what I looked like, he said he fell in love with my voice and who I am as a person. I was the heaviest I'd ever been but I got up the courage to show him pictures of myself. He said I was beautiful and it was amazing how lucky he was. I had never felt beautiful before, or worthy of love. His love and affection helped me love myself, and because of that I started losing weight. Partly because I wanted to look even better for him, but mostly because it was something I wanted for myself for my whole life and I was finally realizing that it was something I had the strength to do, and that I'm worth putting in the effort. Every day he tells me how beautiful I am, and if I ever mention that I'm self-conscious about part of my body he won't just tell me right then that he loves that part, he'll make a point to compliment me on it frequently afterwards. A year after meeting him and 7 months after starting my weight loss, I'm down almost 50 pounds. And I feel amazing, not because I weigh less, but because I'm in love with the most amazing, wonderful guy in the world and, even better, he's in love with me.
This brought tears to my eyes. Your story is even more beautiful than the video! :)
Awwwwwwww that's so sweet
Lorna Bird what's ur IG name ?
I might cry that's so cute and romantic
I don't think 💭
I have a friend and her husband is the same, he's thin and he likes bigger girls. Well when she was looking into surgery to aid weight loss, he did try and talk her out of it with all the "I love the way you are lines" she knew from get go, she was going to do this. She is now down to a size 10ish and he still loves her for her. Just because some one likes something about your appearance doesn't mean it cant change and become a deeper love. What about women who get into a relationship slim but then after settling down or kids, they gain some weight and yet the man in their life (more often than not) stay because he loves her for her. Just because something attracts you to some one doesn't mean the love doesn't go deeper than that one thing.
Weight loss surgery is a slow death. Everyone I know that had it only lasted around 15 years in sure misery. Do not destroy a beautiful body just for someone's else desires !
Awww this touched my heart ‼ As a large woman , I'm comfortable with my body UNTIL I see a body that I want 💁 lol that might sound crazy but as soon as I see my ideal figure then that's when I start to really see my body different.
I FEEL YOU GIRL😫
Same
Jack Stevens lol ok ...
+Kai Epps OK IK THIS IS REALLY OFF TOPIC AND STUFF BUT CAN WE PLEASE JUST TALK ABOUT HOW AMAZING SHE LOOKED IN THAT BIKINI. LIKE DUDE SHE GIVES ME HOPE.
+Leah Levin OMG I KNOW RIGHT!?
But she really looks amazing in that dress D:
Barbbie exactly
i was stalking this page and is said "17 seconds ago" and I screamed
Alyers Cool man...
Alyers Brah,it's "it" come on m8.
Not trying to brag but heh...I got the real first comment before after a video was uploaded *1 SECOND AGO* On WWE Channel and
Jacksfilms and many many more....proves I am better than you
Xtreme FireWolf No it just proves how your so thirsty even Niagara Falls couldnt quench that thirst...
Xtreme FireWolf Are you being sarcastic..? Or do you really think that just because you comment first on a video proves you're better than someone..?
*his jeans tore at the right places*
i love how guys say it never happens the other way around, but like... do you not watch TV shows? Family Guy? Simpsons? King of Queens? According to Jim? Flintstones? That '70s Show? The Sopranos? Modern Family? The list goes on and on from old TV to newer.
Right! Totally I know plenty of ppl that it's the other way around :)
***** you do know alota shows are based off of rl ppl
***** I agree, the heart wants what the heart wants. Like i love all those shows, except for Family Guy for my own personal reasons. I never said it was bad, I just said it's all over media for a guy bigger to be with the skinny girl. It's not like it isn't there to be a "role model," if you would. Women don't have those kinds of "role models." Either way, love is love. No matter what. Despite the size/weight
That's a horrible example.Whether it be cartoon, sitcom, soap opera, etc... they get paid or drawn to love someone on the show. Do you think WWE is real? Lol
Anonymous2051 I shall say what I said before, it's still a role model example. It still shows men that you can get someone hot despite your size. All i was saying is that this video is giving it to girls of bigger sizes since TV doesn't. Please understand
I THOUGHT SHE LOOKED GREAT IN THAT DRESS WHAT THE HECK
I aint got no type
CLIFFOCONDA Bad bitches are the only thing that I like~ >Shot
Nycrosis you aint got no life'
CLIFFOCONDA Cups with the ice and we do this every night.
***** i aint check the price
CLIFFOCONDA I got it,
Fetish? That’s just what he likes. His personal taste. Some people like men who have abs, who are tall or even buff. You don’t go ahead and call that a fetish. 🤔
Hey! Agree, I am attracted to fat girls just like some guys are attracted to skinny girls.
Thats there but we call it a fetish when thats what atttacts them most like thats what they are looking for the first thing. Like i only date guys who have abs kind of thing is a fetish but if i just like it its diff na. And fat is not healthy and usully humans do not tend to love unhealthy for being that way.
because those things are associated with being at a healthy weight. Which they both are not
@@helenb1853 If the only the thing we cared about subconsciously was health then we would logically choose big strong men and moderately large women. Because health for a woman would be child barring. There is little reason to be found in sexual preferences.
Well it is a fetish cuz fat isn't really a thing to get horny over so yeah
Im attracted to smart, beautiful, charismatic, sweet women...though I dont think Im ready for another relationship yet, Im bettering myself for my future bride to be, I wont be perfect but at least she will have less to deal with...
Hey John
Caleb Dickerson If ur under 30, don't rush it. Live to regret what u have done, not what u haven't done.
Cosmo Vedder i want to go party and get laid before im out of high school
Im_a_cat_meow If u don't, ur wasting ur time. U might want to stretch that out at least till ur 22-23. It's not like once u hit 30 u can decide to continue to focus on partying and getting laid.......unless ur really lucky. Maybe it takes an extra year or 2 to get through college....so what. Plenty of time to be a working stiff later.
Cosmo Vedder you know just because your 30 doesnt mean you cant do lots but hey do you got any tips im not good with keep a conversation with girls and i dont know what to do when i go party any tips
She called him slim and I was confused lol
Exactly.
Haha, same
same lol
@@helenb1853 i think ur fat
I actually kinda thought they look in the same league lol
I'm a big girl who's been small and loved myself at all sizes. But you're dating a fetish guy. This is the same guy who, if you ever choose to lose weight, will not want to be with you anymore. I've seen guys like him. I wish yall the best but, a relationship where you're keeping yourself heavy to please him isn't healthy.
saoluver25 I myself am into larger women too, but i hate that kind of guy. They disgust me.
Bas van de Kleut there's nothing wrong with having a preference, but he really seems like a fetish guy based on what she said. Those guys are the worst.
Being overweight in the first place isn't healthy, THAT'S the reason she should lose weight, and she shouldn't of put it on for her boyfriend you're right
+saoluver25 Fetishists aren't horrible by default, you know. They're often normal in pretty much every other avenue of life, but they fly their kink flag high. There's nothing automatically wrong with having a fetish.
If this guy makes her feel bad about herself, that's where a problem starts to develop.
+AAlphaءG
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I get why some people are concerned. But it also made me think that I called my boyfriend's attention because I was wearing a band t-shirt and my glasses. I wouldn't have payed attention to him if he wasn't tall. We all feel attracted to different things. If he didn't love Kristen, he would't be with her, just as he isn't with his chubby ex-girlfriends.
Bonjour
Lol she talkin about this dweeb like he's so out of her league or something like girl what made you think you couldn't approach him
Ash A my thoughts exactly haha... she talks about him like he's a 10 not a weak 4 lol
RsLeonardo1 if thats you in your picture you aint no catch either luv.. Lookin like some balloon animal
Asmr Foodie ouch
Asmr Foodie 😂😂
RsLeonardo1 And men who are way too big with muscles are not attractive either
I think she's a beautiful woman. But I hate the selfishness of his fetish.... she is comfortable in her own skin. Good for her. But at the same time I cannot imagine having a partner wanting to see me at my unhealthiest so he could get off to it. I mean she did say she was putting on weight, and she didn't particularly feel great about it.
Melisha P exactly!! I totally agree. I don't see why no one else can realize how toxic Brian is. I can't believe she doesn't see this, Yikes. They're getting married soon, and this just feels like an unresolved issue
But remember, we don't see their lives behind closed doors. She seems like a smart woman, therefore she knows who truly loves her for her. And judging my how he said "I love your body because Kristin lives in it", shows that there is more to their relationship than fetishism.
All he said was that chubbier people were his type. That would be just like someone saying skinnier people were their type. He didn't say anything inherently lytishising or unhealthy, she just took it in an unhealthy way.
I can't imagine if someone said skinny people are my type or muscular people are my type, they would be accused of having an "unhealthy fetish," even if their partner was unhealthily losing weight or gaining muscle.
ikr im liKE YIKES
If you're naturally big that's fine, but don't encourage being fat. It's not about appearance, it's not healthy. Not everyone can lose weight, and not everyone can gain weight. Everyone is different, but seriously, gaining weight to be more attractive to your spouse, that's not healthy.
when you need a leg to lean on because you're not comfortable with other people's bodies
Especially to your spouse, man.. It's still not loving someone for who they actually are. The guy in this video's only focusing on Kristen's (I think that's her name) physical appearence. At least.. that's what I got from this video. Maybe some personality, but.. Ugh. Either way, it's only focusing on physical appearance.
Omar Java Theres no such thing as being naturally fat unless you have a disorder.
***** I was talking about being fat not skinny
Moe Lester It goes the other way around too, wth are you talking about. It would be just as bad if the guy was attracted to her because she was thin, but wanted her to get skinnier. You're ruining the focus of the video.
I understand how it feels "fetishy", but honestly if beauty is subjective then I feel like that puts Brian in the same position as people who like thin girls. Just because his definition of abnormal shouldn't make it fetishy. Although I do hope Kristen doesn't try to put on more weight just to please him, especially to an unhealthy point.
But the dress DID look nice on her...
I really does..
Yoy could see all the fat rolls on her back?
Yeah, but who cares? I guess not everyone as time/cares to work out.
ikr
They were cute fat rolls though
I don't know if you read the comments, but I love how brave you are. Not because of your size, but how you expose your way to acceptance. Thank you very much Kristin.
Brave would be eating a respectable diet while engaging in intensive activity. She clearly doesn't do this.
Caoimhin it would be if you impose your way to experience the world and your personal history. We can't judge her without knowing Kristin.
+Caoimhin truth
I get how people have ideal types, but that is just the beginning. A relationship is based on something to start it, but then both people enjoy each other's company. If she loses weight will he still love her?
People will change throughout their lives. Everyone will get old.
Alpha Bat He'll replace her with a fatter, older lady
A similar question applies to people who prefer a thinner partner.
redbulljones they got married.
Damn turns out he actually wanted to BE her
They look exactly alike now
Autogynephila
I couldn’t even imagine being the poor therapist that has to unpack this situation.
"I love your body because Kristin lives in your body." BRB, crying
and now he's skinwalking her and they're blowing up even more
sad thing is, she's dating a man who only loves her because of a fetish.. instead of finding someone who just loves her for herself, not because she's big.
Oh for gods sake DiaKitty get over yourself. There are a thousand dimensions to every relationship and I am sure he is into her because she is delightful,witty,sexy and fun!
Not happening. most people are severely turned off by obesity
So if you like a heavy body type and date a girl who looks like that it's a fetish and you only do it because of that. But if you date a standard 'hot' girl you find attractive you are not doing it for the looks?
You can find someone sexy AND love them for their personality
He said "I love your body because Kristin lives inside you".It means he does love her for who she is.You can always be that attracted to someone as well as being in love with them for who they are.
It's not always about a fetish. I'm into bigger ladies and even I'm whiling to settle down into a relationship with a woman not matter her shape or size. I've never been the relationship type during my school life so when I meet my now bride I was greatful to find someones who I can hangout with and still love and care about. And she only weighs 132.
Ok, so when guys are into smaller girls it’s okay but when they aren’t it’s a fetish? I can’t with these comments lmfao.
Both are fetishes in the end
Story of my life. No bragging but it really annoys be when gfs have said in the past why are you with me,I'm fat , you could get better etc and also when you talk to women and they immediately think you're a fetishest. I am mentally and physically attracted to plus size women. They are usually funnier, more interesting , nicer, clothes look better on them than "hot girls " (supposedly)
When you are with a confident plus size woman there is nothing better!
@@isabellablu1240 that doesn't even make sense.
Seriously! People are attracted to all kinds of physical things (and of course non-physical things too)! Hair color, fashion style, boob size, etc. Being into big girls is just another of those things. It's totally normal! Not a fetish, not a 'nice' thing, just a regular thing that exists in the world and is normal
i was thinking the same thing!
I love how you actually consider yourself 'fat' instead of 'curvy'! Thumbs up! :)
Yeah, exactly.
In the end, did she say:"I will fart as hard as I can"? I know I've got hearing problems😂
+LTH Servers Flirt.
this is what i heard too. i'm deaf and have a hearing aid.
She said I will flirt not fart 😂
LTH Servers 😂
Probably, that boy has another fetish, look out.
but what is the title
it sounds like one of those 'I'm addicted to eating mattresses' videos
💀
You are with a narcissist who values his fetishes more than you. I wish women like this would understand their worth. 😔
Right. The wild thing is, what if she lost like 100 pounds. Would Brie still love Kristen the same? Or be repulsed?
I have no idea why but I'm somewhat cringing at this video tbh but in the end I was surpised she finally realized she will be happy for once
A man liking someone's body is objectification, a man disliking someone's body is discrimination.
There is no winning.
+MaroonThief Why does this comment only have 8 thumbs-up??
+Vpprofフプロフ because reasons :3
i know.
he only want the massive booty burguer of she.
he only want her body.
You could, you know... deal with someone as a *person*, rather than just a body. It's how properly socialized people interact.
HeadHunter That goes without saying, but the whole SJW Feminist crowd demonizes male sexuality. Hence my original point.
I FREAKING LOVE Kristin she's so funny and cute!😍😍😍
I know right?!
this is weird and fetish-y
Honestly isn’t it just a preference? Like being attracted to white guys or blonde girls?
Him being attracted to Kristen for her body type is like some girls being attracted to dudes with abs, or some girls to girls with short hair. Everyone has a type.
Ashton being blonde or white is not an option. Being fat is. Which is why it makes the whole situation a whole lot creepier because he's attracted to someone that can't care for her own body.
Supreeta Sagere maybe it’s not the best preference, but people are also attracted to abs and muscles which having is a choice. Doesn’t matter if it’s a choice or not and maybe it’s weird but it’s just a preference
Ashton But abs and muscles are actually a positive thing, where it doesn't have increased chances of heart failure, whilst the same can't be said for being fat
It's so much nicer to live in America rather than Asia I'm 5'2 and 117lbs and at one point 120.5lbs, I would always get bullied by all the Asian people I knew especially my relatives. Once even a friends grandmother called me obese and 'fugly', and yes I still hate her to this day. I'm still not considered but I can call myself normal and ppl here are much less rude about your weight.
The other girls must be sickly skinny then.
taiga ninenineseven Most Asian girls my height are around 96-108lbs. And they can be that way without exercise. I have a little bit of stomach flab even when I exercise regularly. Even worse when my best friend is 5'6 and 111.5lbs.
What matters is if you love yourself which is an extremely hard thing to do but either way be proud of yourself
I'm 5'5 and 120 pounds but I'm skinny. That sucks for u
mollerbt Lucky you then.
I love Kristen so much. She's my spirit animal.
Same
Same
Me too
eww
+precious Ehiemere You know what u can go screw your self she is amazing and gorgeous who wouldn't like her even if she's a little chubby she is still gorgeous inside and out
Oh no! I'm uncomfortable with the idea fat people don't hate themselves!!! I'm so ignorant I'm going to call it unhealthy even though I'm NOT a doctor. #sarcasm
But it is unhealthy and you don't have to be a doctor to figure it out. It's a simple fact of life that if you are overweight or obese you will be less healthy than someone of normal healthy weight. It's true that you should be comfortable in your own body but you should also understand the repercussions and consequences of your lifestyle
Namazzi that's not true, people that are over weight yes are unhealthy, but people of the right weight, aren't necessarily always healthier than those overweight, they could be smokers, they could be damaging their body with carcinogens and drugs. People are too quick to judge people with these body types, and compare them to "healthy weight" plus, some people may not care if they are overweight, you enjoy life how you shoes to live it really. If somebody is going to point out that an overweight person "shouldn't be doing" something because of their weight, I believe it discrimination. If an overweight person can't wear a bikini? Ok then, but that would hypothetically mean that smokers cannot, and drug takers cannot, you've just got to look at it out of context and what we say to people who are overweight, is quite ridiculous.
jazzie maxwell Why do you feel that someone has to be a physician to tell fat people that they're unhealthy? It doesn't take years of medical school to realize that someone smoking is unhealthy, someone addicted to drugs is unhealthy, someone who is obese/overweight is also unhealthy. Granted, laymen don't know the pathology behind it since they don't have proper education on the physiology of the body. Still, that is not needed to label someone unhealthy.
So your use of the term "ignorant" is not appropriate. It is you who are ignorant about its complications. Fat people can love themselves all they want. I am against bullying and unnecessary name calling; however, I feel many fat people are triggered by simple, hard facts... which is not bullying. I feel they should love themselves enough to get to a healthy weight.
Namazzi Challenger That's not true. Technically I'm overweight and I can almost guarantee that I am healthier than you. I had children, gained some weight, but I am very active and I eat well. I instruct several Zumba Fitness classes per week and I bet you could barely keep up with me! What are the parameters by which you judge 'health'? Health means that your blood pressure is good, that your cholesterol levels are great and that your heart is in good shape. I am overweight for someone who is 5'2" but all of my vitals are PERFECT and I do plenty of cardio. Thin people aren't necessarily healthy either or do you not know that?
jazzie maxwell You should be ashamed of yourself
Smoking
Drinking
Drugs are bad for you not being who you are.
The only thing that bugs me is she said she gained weight after being with him...its like saying you lost weight for a man, like, him liking fat chicks is fine, and him accepting and loving a girl is great, but to pretend he didn't stop her from going further into her fitness goals is silly. I think all people are beautiful no matter what size, but that one comment just bugged me
I think she gained weight cause she got diagnosed with this thing that makes you gain a bunch of weight at once, I don't remember what it's called but it's in a couple vids
Perhaps she wasn't even trying and just happened to be at her low when they met. Most people gain a little as they age BTW
She didnt gain weight for him, she has pcos
@@ironman_546 if she has PCOS shes had it all along. You're born with it. The symptoms worsen because of weight gain they aren't the actual cause
jellopuddingful that’s an actual lie. It causes hormonal related weight gain.
Kristen seems happier in this video than she does in her newer ones.
I completely disagree
Lol you haven't watched enough videos of former employees talking about their experiences if you think they're genuinely happy in these
Her life just got more sad and more desperate. I hope she finds her voice again.
I don't think she's happy in either
Skinny does not mean healthy and fat does not mean unhealthy...
Words by my DOCTOR thanks Mrs. Goldberg
Maria Breniz But I'm fat.. and it slows me down and I can't run as fast and lose my breath and feel like I can't breathe if I sprint.. oh well guess I'm healthy!
There's a difference between being fat and morbidly obese or obese in general.
being fat is still unhealthy, the fat surrounding your organs is especially damaging and most fat people have that.
Maria Breniz being fat is always unhealthy
You can be a bit heavier or lighter and still healthy, but no, if you're morbidly obese or extremely underweight, you're not healthy.
she inspires me so much. as a bigger girl that is really inspiring. I'm not huge but definitely big. I think anyways. I've always hated my body but as off recent I'm liking it more, I like how curvy I am and even though I'm bigger it makes me feel sexy and cute but sometimes like crap.
It's not about looks it's about health. Women can handle fat on thighs and butt etc it's belly fat that is more dangerous
+ojideagu Stop being concerned about a strangers health, maintain your own health.
being confident and enjoying how your body looks is good, even if you are fat. accepting being fat is different, because it means you wont change your lifestyle.
that was in repy to ojideagu
Savannah Chism you do realize that if you don't like your size you can change that at anytime right?
I watched this video when I was younger and I loved it. I thought it was cute, sweet and a little weird but romantic in it's own way. But now that I've grown up and become an adult this video is kinda off putting and cringey...
To think I would watch fat fetish and think it was cute....
Well to each their own i suppose...
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She looks much happier here.
Please tell me this is the man she's getting married to?
it is
Amy Carter they're married
My type is Jimin in ripped jeans
this should be everyone's type
YESSSSS
my type is a sandwich with mayo.
or a sport girl and smart.
Kookie that Chic Magnet We cannot be stopped. We're the strongest Army in the world. :3
Same😂
oh god, please tell me this isn't the guy Kristen married..
she deserves so much better than this.
He is and why?
Buttsy Bobcat i mean... it kind of feels like he only likes her because of her body...
TheBlackMexican90 you’re really rude
TheBlackMexican90 she actually beautiful and has an amazing personality. Not that the same could be said about you.
He loves her. What is so bad about it?
She looks amazing in that dress and the bikini
She is a 3 at most
@@seandaly4815 Why are you so rude?
She does. It makes me a little sad though that I can find other women that are bigger attractive but give myself such a hard time ...
no she doesnt
She doesn’t look good in either, but better in the sun dress than the swim suit.
my type is hayden christensen
same tbh
anakin
Sameeee
+Andrea H I'm in
SAAAMMEEEE
"I will let him enjoy the thing he loves" - the sad thing is that she isn't referring to herself but her body fat. And she uses words like "Love"? he doesn't love your fat, he is sexually gratified by it. He should "love" you not your physicality. The video concludes with her deciding to "let him enjoy" her body fat. How can buzzfeed spread such backward and foolish rhetoric. She has settled to become his object for sexual gratification. He might love her as her person but she has clearly shown what is mainly motivating her choices in the closing scene with the bikini. Accepting fatness is great but this is a terrible reason to accept it.
Exactly.
She meant that he should enjoy her not her body fat, it’s just that she come with that body fat and he loves that as well. Enjoying a person isn’t a bad thing, and even enjoying her body would still not have been a bad thing to be honest.
Its ok to be American.
Im American and this is funny af xD Im saying this before the butthurt americans come in.
xD
Ikr us Americans are awesome
No, most of us (80 %)hate fat people, it's just trendy to stick up for them I guess. Same with gays.
It's okay to eat a tub of ice cream ladies ;
"A slim guy like Brian" where?
Queen Pebbles slimmer than "her
Queen Pebbles exactly my thoughts
@Queen Pebbles - Yeah, I couldn't see him through all her rolls of fat.
Lewis C. Stop being so rude. She’s not that big.
Well he's not fat
Im attracted to heavy smokers... pretty much anything speeds up death. It think its cute. You should make a cute video about how my attraction to heavy smokers helps heavy smokers feel good about their smoking and encourages them to smoke more
Dizzy Guy HAHAHAH omg
Lmfao spot on
Dizzy Guy That is a perfect analogy, I don't see how that opinion is any different from obesity.
I love you guys
Oh god XD...I honestly have nothing against overweight people but this is hilarious
Aged poorly 😂
And now her boyfriend has lost his mind and thinks he's a woman and has turned into Kristin's freaky twin sister.
And they've both gained like 150lbs
oh NO I was soo confused when she talked about how slim and handsome he was at the beginning when he actually definitely looks below average LOL
She's engaged to him now:)
Next time you want to say something rude about someone's weight, be it skinny or obese, think about your darkest shame, the thing you would never want anyone to know. Now imagine that everyone who looks at you can see it and feels the need, nay "social obligation" to judge and lecture you on it. What's unfair about weightest comments and judging someone out loud for being too fat or too skinny is that almost everyone has something about themselves that is unhealthy either mentally or physically, some kind of secret shame, but with weight you wear that particular vice like a sign around your neck for the world to see--you don't have the luxury of keeping it a secret.
People who cut themselves, who self harm, pull their hair out, etc, these are disturbing, gut wrenchingly sad stories of physically expressing internal pain. What do you think eating when you're depressed is?
I'm not saying it doesn't need to be an issue that is openly talked about, childhood obesity is a tragic problem of great concern in the U.S. especially when coupled with the rate of childhood obesity and amount of deaths related to obesity each year. It needs to be in the narrative, but never about a specific person, and never in a cruel or shameful way, and always treated with the same respect other mental health issues receive. No one is telling you that you're wrong or to jump on the 'real women have curves' BS bandwagon, I'm literally just asking you to not be an asshole. If that's hard for you, talk to somebody about your own issues, please.
Brittney Lynn You've got some krill stuck in your teeth, love. Me commenting about the obesity epidemic is perfectly fair. Being fat isn't something you're born with. It's something you do to yourself. I hold people accountable for their actions. People with depression actually have a problem that they can't control without the help of medication and behavioral therapy. The girl in this video doesn't look depressed does she? Tess Holliday isn't depressed either so don't you dare say that people are obese because of depression. Obesity is a choice, a terrible one. If you don't want to be obese just exercise (Heh, see what I did there?) some goddamn self control. It's really that simple. If that's too hard for you maybe you should be the one seeking some help. Oh, and as for my biggest shame, my biggest shame doesn't make up 21% of annual health care costs does it? My biggest shame isn't contributing to a nationwide epidemic. In the next two decades it's predicted by economists that obesity related health costs will exceed 500 billion dollars. I don't want my kids to grow up in a world where obesity is the norm and unhealthy behavior is celebrated. I want them to be healthy and active. I've got all the right in the world to give opinion on this topic. Just because I'm not part of the HAES bullshit doesn't mean I can't call it out vehemently. It's a vile movement that deserves verbal degradation. By that logic I can't call out fascism because I'm not a facist. Becoming obese is like vandalizing your own body. You don't celebrate vandals do you? The people in the video are contributing to the growing HAES movement, their contributing to the widespread disregard for basic medical facts and just as you called me out I have the right to call them out. If anything I'm helping bring facts to video marred by stupidity. Sure, I may be blunt and insult people but that's what individuals who are part of and catalyzing this wide spread stupidity deserve. Open your eyes.
Firstly, I'm not your 'love' and saying that to me is patronizing and sexist, I don't expect you to care but I will let you know I do not appreciate it. Secondly, I wasn't referring to any comment you may have made, as I had never read your comment, and still have not. Thirdly, and most importantly, you entirely missed my point. Shame, which you continued to do in this comment by comparing overweight people to vandals which by the way, I'm completely fine with expressive graffiti in most cases so actually I do celebrate vandals I suppose. You aren't helping anyone and you know it, you're on a mission to show your intelligence on a subject probably largely because of a superiority complex. The fact of the matter is, shame is not a healthy motivator, it is a psychologically dangerous one and I feel very bad for you if it is something you're okay with or has been done to you in the past to make you think it is fine to do to others. If you have a friend who has a problem, you try to get to the root of the issue that is the causation, you try to find out what is keeping them from correcting their problem and you help them and encourage them in any way that you can. You don't tell them "you're fucking up stop fucking up" and leave it at that. You don't shame your friend into correcting their problems, it only makes you an asshole and pushes them deeper into their problem. Being obese or overweight is an epidemic especially in America, but I'm not saying to hop on the 'only real women have curves' bullcrap and I also do not like severely obese plus size models touting self acceptance only and not trying to better yourself get healthier. It makes me angry when I see obese celebrities preaching self acceptance and not encouraging others to go on a healthier lifestyle journey with them. It encourages people who are in denial or have grown complacent with their obesity to continue to be that way. The thing is, every obese adult knows they are unhealthy. I don't know why other grown adults have to constantly preach to others about 'don't you know about heart disease' There is denial, but it isn't ignorance. You're just telling someone something they already know. I would love to know why people don't shame cigarette smokers, a habit that does effect the people immediately around you twice as much as yourself, aren't shamed more than the overweight in our society, so don't act like your beliefs are perfect and your preaching is flawless, it isn't. Know I won't be reading any replies to this after this comment, because I honestly don't give a shit. Just know, there are studies you can quickly Google that prove that fat shaming not only doesn't work, it backfires. Maybe read some of that before continuing on your tirade.
Quickly googled this topic like you suggested and was proven right. Fat shaming works, love (Oh, that's sexist isn't it? Despite it being a gender neutral term of endearment that's been around for centuries.) meloukhia.net/2015/04/fat_shaming_works_just_fine/
Do you really think smoking affects the average person more than obesity? $51,100 of taxpayer money has been going to the Manzur family since 2006 who claim that they're "too fat to work". The government doesn't hand out a year's worth of money to people for being "too alcoholic to work" now does it? This only just one case there's, so many more like it it's disgusting. You acknowledge that fat acceptance is bad yet still don't hold people accountable for their actions; "Oh, it's got to be a narrative" you spew. The narrative so far is that people have been getting fatter in America for the past 20 years. Hell, there's even plus sized "models" (what a fucking oxymoron). We need to fight this epidemic. You say fat people are aware of that they're on a unhealthy life style. If they're so aware of it why don't they change? Because in this society we're cultivating people are indifferent to obesity, it's becoming more and more accepted by the day. But you won't listen to me will you? Oh no, you're on such a high horse (poor horse) that you won't accept what attitudes need to be implemented because they're too blunt. You're so adamant (incredibly misguided, but admirable in a sad way), you're not gonna listen to me. I hope you wallow in your non-exist action on the obesity epidemic. I hope you relish the health-indifferent societal attitudes you're nursing. Enjoy the broken scales and burden on the taxpayers that you've earned so barbarously. Until we start to change our indifference and growing acceptance of obesity I'll use phrases like "butter beast", "land whale", "ham planet", and "beef goblin" liberally. Whew! All done. Think I'm gonna go for a run now (You do know what running is right?).
I agree with both of you in certain ways. The more minor cases of overweight - and by minor i mean people with negligible health issues who are just as functional a member of society as people who are considered to be at healthy weight - should not be made fun of for their weight. For some people it's harder to keep the weight off. I myself am with 6 feet and 108 pounds considered to be underweight, and i can't make it change, even though i eat more that an average person of my height and i hardly excersize. For some people staying at a healthy weight is harder than for others, which is something commonly ignored by the majority of society. However there is most certainly a degree of self control involved, and when your weight gets past a certain point there should certainly be some alarm bells going off. When this isn't the case, outside input is one of few ways to help such an individual out. More hostile input may seem immoral and cruel, but it gets the point across. A simple "Don't get me wrong, but don't you think a diet might be a good idea?" to a 400 pound person is most likely not going to do the trick, whereas "Get your fat ass some excersize." gets the point across. If someone is constanly given kind, supporting words, all they have to fear is mild disappointment when they give up. If someone is made fun of, they'll be motivated by a feeling of "I'll show them!". And they also have more to fear, because when they give up they prove the attackers (by lack of a better word) right. Of course, this is all very idealistic and this "I'll show them" feeling doesn't come up in everybody, but i suppose that just helps discover the weaker members of society.
To move on to the "sexist" use of the word love: That is complete and utter bullshit. You know why? Because it is a gender neutral term. I use it on other men all the time. And even if it wasn't, if Raghav Gaur turned out to be female, all your offense would vanish. It just seems like you want to be offended.
She described Brian as slim, lmao. This is how you know America's fat perception goggles are screwed.
+Helen C Maybe he was slimmer when they met, like how she said she was at her lightest back then.
This is a recreation....
+Helen C I was so shocked when she said he was 'slim'...he's almost overweight, too :/
#amen to that
+Helen C ...he was slim to her, because he was not as overweight as she was used to being.
It was her perception, not "America's", so get over yourself. LOL
gosh I teared up. my hubby tells me that more men hould admit to liking a bigger girl. I was at my smallest when I met him ( a size 16) and I am working my way back to it. no matter my size he has always made me feel beautiful.
@1 ignorant arse.
Same here. When I met my boyfriend I was a size 14. We later on went our separate ways, in which he continued to date big girls, really really big girls. Then when we got back together, I was double the size. He said he still liked me, but it was hard for me to believe, since he met me when I was a size 14. Sure he dated girls at upwards of 400lbs, but that wasn't the point. I felt that deep down inside, he was only with me and all the fat girls because that's all he could financially obtain.
I started to think, why hasn't he ever been with a slim woman ( size 0 to 8). He kept insuring me that it was because he didn't like slim girls. I still wasn't convinced. I started to think, maybe he was rejected by slim girls, so he leaned towards girls who he could obtain, and accepted that big girls would give him a chance.
I had to remind myself that I wasn't always super big girl, he was able to capture me when I was curvy. Therefore, how can it be true that women of a certain weight didn't want him? Maybe because I was the skinniest of all the girls, even though I wasn't truly slim. I started to wonder, would he still date big girls if he looked differently, or had the financial means to date the most desirable women that money can buy.
@@artemis2016 size 14 is kind of small.
Does it ever happen that the genders are reversed? Are skinny women ever attracted to big men?
Lmfao
mochalex yeah it happens
If their wallets are fat, too.
Yea times but she does look beautiful
mochalex My husband is heavy.
Fat isn't a bad word, neither is skinny. Both can be unhealthy and both can be healthy, it just depends. We aren't all made the same, and you can be fat and be beautiful , fat isn't a dirty word. You can be skinny and be beautiful as well. Yes Kristen is bigger, but she is also beautiful, quirky, smart, and has a great style.
Exactly! both can be unhealthy and there is a higher chance of someone being unhealthy if they are at either end of the spectrum but just like you said it doesn't mean they are unhealthy. Generally speaking we can't tell from appearance whether they are healthy or not, based on their size alone.
That guy isn't exactly the pick of the litter.
laxmitty21 was just going to say that
He's the best she could do. A beggar cannot be picky.
Same applies to her.
@@7620313 lmao so true
hislord1 you guys are so rude..
why was this made into a video? why? do they think this is okay?
Awe this is so cute! Btw I love her swimsuit at the end of this video 😍👌🏻👏🏻
honestly ?? as long as he isn't pressuring her to gain weight and he does actually care about her health
it's not the problem
of course, if she and him are both happy matters also
And she is engaged to him now :)
really? that's so awesome ♡♡
Married now lol She looked amaaaaazing
Nerd_Charmed she's married now;)
Marrrrrriiiiiiieeeeeed
“I love your body because Kristin lives in there” 🥺
She looks amazing in her bikini😩😍
Ikr
Work out. It's good for you. With less fat, you likely live longer to see your children have families too. But if you are happy being fat then more power to you. Work hard, play by the rules and you shall succeed.
no
炙茶 ツKHEMツ Yeah
Still Just-Me positive thinking
To be honest, I find fat fetishes disgusting.
you're not supposed to only love a woman for her body weight, but for her personality, for her traits, and for her capability to love.
skinny fetishes, fat fetishes, and any other body image fetishes, are disgusting.
Very true...
+Jacelyn Castillo People can't control their fetishes. Men with "fat fetishes" are also capable of loving women, as well as men with foot/hair/hand fetishes. Your assumptions are kind of ridiculous.
+Jacelyn Castillo Well thats the thing about a fetish. You can't choose a fetish, it just happens
Being attracted to a specific type of body image does not mean you cannot treat that significant other with respect and affection. There are many different people in this world with many different mindsets. Get used to it.
Cami marie if hes a gentleman he'd support her losing weight, but it would inevitably destroy their relationship. As he wouldnt be attracted to her
I love her. Ugh. She's so amazing!!! :)
It’s kinda heartbreaking to think that they’re married
oh god poor woman
7620313 uh, put down?
Why!? If they're happy together that's all that matters
SparkleCakez the way he said it makes it seem like he was only with her bc she was fat
@Mikisu Ransu She doesn't care about that because she felt fat, which is illogical.
My boyfriend is attracted to women with curly hair.... I have hair so straight it hurts
Jessie Burgess I think your boyfriend would be pleased if you curled it.
If I see a girl with a pig tail I go crazy. However when a girl has normal hair it doesn't detract from her. I'm not your boyfriend but I'm assuming he's the same way. (Ponytail = + however no ponytail (does not equal) /= -
Jessie Burgess I know everyone is saying to curl your hair. But i personally, think that if he loves you and find's you beautiful regardless if he find's girls with curly hair attractive or not you should be the ultimate stand out in his eyes straight hair, curly hair. If a guy said to me i prefer curly hair, i wouldn't curl my hair. Because he should find me beautiful, i shouldn't have to try be beautiful for him. My boyfriend liked/likes girls who wear eye liner. I am a girl who doesn't wear makeup besdies the face powder and bold lip. I told him one day "I'll wear some eyeliner, when you do." And his never bugged me again, just because he likes that doesn't mean you have to be that. If you weren't beautful above all else why is he with you? why should he be with you? Dont let it hurt you, rock you. And when you rock that confidence that you have for your natrual hair texture you might be the girl who changes his taste. My boyfriend, now find's it annoying when i wear eyeliner "your eyes are to dark, it doesn't look good. I dont like it as much" and his slowly become more and more attractive to me without the eye makeup that he will ask for that now. Confidence can make anything attractive, to a man. Be confident my lovely
Jessie Burgess I don't think that's a big enough issue for him to have a problem with you. It's like guys who say they like blondes and date a brunette - it's such a simple change and it really doesn't make a difference as to how much they care about you, it's just an ideal
Jessie Burgess you don't have to be pressured into curling your hair just to please other people. Im sure your boyfriend loves u for who you are and still loves u regardless if u have curly her or not. Do what makes u feel better, you do you.
OMG!! This is exactly the experience in my relationship. I am a gay man and am overweight dating an in shape guy who loves me including the fact that I am overweight. I constantly turn his compliments into put downs in my head just the way you described. Thank you. This was very on point for me.
I think her and Brian are married now :) which makes this even cuter
He is not slim.
Society is so cruel to fat women, it is not wrong to be fat. It can be unhealthy but losing weight is hard and some people gain weight so easily.
Norah Miriam Chehab But its kinda the same to skinnier girls... Only girls with a hourglass shape are "Perfect"... Fat people are accepted and skinny people are shamed vice versa... I think society is cruel to everyone... Skinny people have higher metabolism's which make it harder to gain weight some people are born chubbier which makes it hard to lose weight
If He loves it, you love it. I am Happy for you.
Sun dress was nice
More men are accepting of large women, but very few women want fat men.
+Ame :P the girl in the video is not chubby, she is overweight.
Really? because one of the biggest fears of online dating in men is if a date is fat. Of course, some women are ruthless for fat men, but there is also an equal amount of men that do that.
Isabella Lee
How many obese men do you see with hot women.? If they are rich, yes. Otherwise its rare. Its much more common to see thin men with fat women than the other way around.
+Meade Skelton ummm I just pointed out that not all women hate fat dudes. There were social experiments too. I never said there were no such thing as women gold diggers. Also, I pointed out that men could be the same way.
Isabella Lee
OK
Kristen, I think this is the most powerful video you've ever been apart of. Your figure may not be everyone's cup of tea, but wouldn't you rather be Brian's double shot of vodka anyway?? You're gorgeous and wise.
OH MY GOSH KRISTEN LOOKS AMAZING IN A BIKINI. 😍😍😍😍😍😍
But she doesn't tho
mdhcccc yeah she does. Just because it's not your image of beauty doesn't mean it's not beauty.
I totally agree
you must be like her boyfriend.
shes a beautiful woman
I hate how people say they are attracted to fat girls or attracted to skinny girls. Like why not both???
Jenna Marie because you cant help who youre attracted to
Jenna Marie you can like any size you want, but can tend to be attracted to one more often. I love brunette guys, I'm really into them. but that won't stop me from liking a ginger and been crazy over him
TheDnyCarrera exactly, being attracted to someone is something you cant help however just because you have a type doesnt mean you will only love that kind of person
Jenna Marie Do you hate how girls are into taller guys but not slightly shorter ones??
Jenna Marie men don't like fat women get over it.
She looks beautiful 💟confidence is key for any body type
Watching this in 2022 and it's so nice to know that Kristen and Brie are still together and in love
But now she's forced to love someone who's not who she married 💔.
@@simplythebestgirl watch the video she published on her channel 3 weeks ago, she openly speaks about how it was for her to figure it out and how she’s still in love with her despite the difficulties
@@Francesca-ov2tb Awesome, thanks! 💕
Kristin Chirico is amazing. She always makes me think. She comes across as so confident and happy and she always looks great. She's obviously intelligent and clever and has a great sense of humor, she's brave and curious and so very full of life and she's got one of those really great smiles; the kind that makes you feel like everything really WILL be okay. I always think that she's probably a great friend, and how I wish she were my friend.
Watching this video made me cry, and the tears burn. Because I've never seen this side of her, serious and so open and showing us where she hurts, it made me so sad to see her that vulnerable. I never imagined she felt like that, or was going through this. I'm sorry she's dealing with this.
Kristin, you are awesome. I meant every single thing I wrote up there, and I hope that it all works out, because you seem like a really good person and I want you to always be happy, as happy as possible. Good luck, and take care!
Who's here after the Kitchen and Jorn video where Brian now identifies as Brie??
I was sad because I thought she got divorced and remarried, but I was wrong. It's the same couple, but now one is a she, and the other is a she/they. I'm trying to understand it. I'm a progressive person, but I find it a bit confusing.
"I love your body because Kristen lives in your body"
I dont like at all this video!! It feels like Kirsten love to be loved by his boyfriend, now husband, but at the same time she hates herself for being fat... If Kristen likes her body and likes to be fat, this relationship is completely fine. But is Kristen only likes her body because he likes it that way this is wrong.