‘Alcohol wants you alone, it wants you sick and then it wants to kill you’. I have borne witness to this line since I was a small child. Prayers to all those struggling with addictions.
crazy about the doctor's prescription as an infant.... i bet his body was waiting for that NEXT addictive thing & when he got that first sip of alcohol....as he said "heaven" - so sad. but IT WAS HIS PURPOSE TO HELP OTHERS GOD BLESS HIM & RIP
I’m a retired paramedic and I have seen addicts in all shapes, sizes colors, age groups, etc. etc. Addiction does not discriminate. He is very lucky that he could afford to go to all the treatment centers he went to. Some people aren’t so lucky. I read this book and it was fantastic. I wish him nothing but the best and it is my hope that we take addiction a lot more seriously in this country and have a better facilities for people to get well in.
I wish he'd get more political and help with the decriminalization of drugs as a first step. In my province our conservative government is building a new prison that everybody says we don't need, but as the homeless keep growing, thats the kind of housing he's thinking of. Way too many people still unbelievably think addiction is a 'choice'.
Agreed. Hes very wealthy from one mildly funny TV show and has like most addicts taken a lifetime to start dealing with their addiction. I've loved and married addicts and have a son that's an addict too. I have a very jaded view on addiction sadly. I find them all similar and self loathing and at the same time selfish. As we all know they have to get better alone and start to grow up as they never mature until they get and stay sober. This guy does sound medicated but who knows? But by saying I didn't want this says a lot. He's still in victim mode and has much work to still. And BTW blaming colic for your addiction is ridiculous. I had 2 kids with it and one is an addiction. He needs to continue to grow up and become a really good human.
@@londonwright173 Thats kind of unfair. What we know about addiction is that it affects the brain in very particular ways. Soem people can take drug a and it has no affect, others become addicts. Of couse its self - ish, when you get hit by a bus you go to the hospital. Your process of getting better is 'about you'. If you are implying addicts can never be selfless then I have a wealth of samples saying thats very wrong, in fact many addicts are fighting for legislation because of OTHER addicts. Addiction is a disease, and there is no evidence that ONLY can they get better alone, in fact thats found to be very untrue. Most addicts, unlike most of hte public, already live in a social culture of other addicts and dealers. Nothing ANYBODY does do they do alone. Addiction is now described as a disease, same with alcoholism, and thats why they have AA, which isn't great, but its supportive. Like ANYTHING in life it ultimately rests on an individual, but they certainly don't have to 'do it alone', in fact there is no reason for them to do so. I didn't listen to him talk, its the issue I'm interested in and criminalization is problem one. After that then like alcoholics we can try to deal with it in other ways. But his position is irrelevant, good luck to him, its addiction services and public policy that are the issue. As you say, INDIVIDUALLY its not like I can adopt an addict and 'turn them around', its just too much. It takes a social stance. And sadly we live in a celebrity world, so he does have a platform, and I say it because he's already DONE debates in europe on decriminalization.
In Canada we have free residential treatment centres. I’ve been 4 times. Treatment centres aren’t the solution. It gives you sometime to clear the fog but it’s recovery groups “AA, NA, CA” that saves lives. 3 years clean myself. I’ve seen countless people come in to these rooms while at treatment centres and then once the rehab stint is done, not come around anymore and then end up dead or back in prison or rehab again. AA is the only thing that works and has worked for almost 100 years. Mathew knows this well and addicts and alcoholics know this very well. It’s the ignorant public who for some reason think it’s a cult that deters sick people from walking through a door and asking for help. All AA is is 1 alcoholic helping another. There is no forced religion, no forced anything. I sat beside an atheist today, nobody cares. Once we can stop stigmatizing groups then we can really help people. But we can’t even stop stigmatizing the sick, let alone the solution. It’s obviously an anonymous program but as someone who attends meetings I can tell you that everything he is saying about addiction and the solution is coming from a place of AA. We speak a language and he is speaking it and I love it.
People really nailed it when they said losing Matthew Perry felt like losing an actual friend. I feel like I knew him, even though I didn’t. He’s the only celebrity who I’ve ever felt connected to even though we never met. RIP friend. You were loved.
Matthew seemed sincere and loveable. The others, not so much. They seem like they're out for publicity now on Matthew's sad death. I love his honesty. RIP good man 😢
"When I die I don't want Friends to be the first thing that's mentioned." - Matthew Perry He wants to be remembered for his impact on helping people struggling with addiction and alcoholism. Rest easy Matthew.
and yet that's exactly what's happening( I know people have good intentions but i still feel sorry for him because there was so much more to him than Chandler
His friends co-star failed him to be a true friend when he was alive. RIP Mathew Perry. Your book will inspire more people in real life than your so so co stars in reel
Lol. Yeah… come on. Sad that he killed himself over years despite having all the chances and resources in the world, but he did. Another Hollywood punk in the end. And no… chandler didn’t change the world… Recent generations have no perspective and overdramatize everything.
@@datacipher No matter what people's opinions of the man, I'll even agree the changing the world stuff is a bit strong - he had people that liked him and ones he didn't. But there's no doubt that you're a sad fella. And if you're not, you're lucky that you're too naive to have a real look at yourself.
@@datacipher My Grandfather smoked his whole life. I was about 10 years old when my mother said to him, 'If you ever want to see your grandchildren graduate, you have to stop immediately.'. Tears welled up in his eyes when he realized what exactly was at stake. He gave it up immediately. Three years later he died of lung cancer. It was really sad and destroyed me. My mother said to me- 'Don't ever smoke. Please don't put your family through what your Grandfather put us through." I agreed. At 28, I have never touched a cigarette. I must say, I feel a very slight sense of regret for never having done it, because your post gave me cancer anyway.
From an Irish family, full of drinking, arguments, death, I am so desperately sorry that MP has come to an early end. My son is recovering, I have sent this to him. Thank you. RIP Matthew Perry.
I celebrated 17 years clean and sober back in August but around this time last year I almost went back out, was going through a horrible time. I read Matt's book cover to cover and I credit that experience for helping to keep me sober. Rip Matt and THANK YOU
I am so very saddened that the "rest of his life" was only 11 months. He struggled so much in his life, but brought so much joy to many, myself included. He was brave to share his story. I pray it helps many people like he wanted it to. RIP Matthew. I pray God has brought you peace and comfort. Thank you for all the laughs, and I am so sorry that your life ended too soon.
I didn't follow Friends at all in the 90s but after he died I started watching videos of him talking about addiction and his struggles with it. And I found that very illuminating and revealing. I guess we should now all know why he talked with such directness and gravity in his voice about his matter - he clearly knew he was near death. And the world's lost a voice that was badly needed to shine light on this vital issue. Not one human being, not one soul, has gained anything from this person's death. We've lost, we've all lost.
Other babies may have been given this too for colic. (Phenobarbital) Not sure. Maybe this was given in the olden days before 1970. Hope it did not have long term affects on him though. May never know
This is one of the most honest interviews I've ever seen - he was so open, relaxed, didn't try to play Chandler or be funny, and so vulnerable. It is such a great discovery of this beautiful person who suffered much but still stayed so deeply human. Rest in peace Matthew, we will remember you like this.
Hate to say it but he’s probably high. The way he’s talking sounds like it too… slightly slurring. This isn’t a criticism of him or his character… but I’ve been around people on opiates and this is exactly how they talk when they’ve taken a LOT.
Many people talk like this without being "high", and he wasn't young anymore, things change. And I think he was under specific doctor medication nevertheless, exactly because of his addictions etc
He had several surgeries a few of which resulted in comas. Basically he sounds like a person recovering from a stroke. My gramma had several diabetes related strokes back in the day and it caused slurred speech and even some facial paralysis
When Matthew speaks about feeling better after a drink, I knew what he meant. This life is so harsh and it's difficult to fit in. I think he was a sensitive soul who struggled with this life. I hope his Legacy will help others with addiction. Rest in Peace Matthew, you will be missed.
@@tankthearc9875 Yeah but mental illness and addiction don't care if you're rich, famous, have people who love you. Mental illness and addiction can and will still take you
He was very sensitive. In friends interview Lisa made it sound like they all keep in contact. But when James corden asked "who doesn't pick-up" he said no one calls me then breaks down in tears. He was very lonely too i feel and missed his "friends" cast.
Anyone else watching this just days after his passing? This should be required reading (watching) for addicts or anyone. He helped many just by telling his story. Farewell friend.
Everyone in the comments supports Matthew (understandably), but I also would like to pay my respect to the interviewer. Witty, funny, polite an on point, awesome job!
Tom Power is a class act - best male radio host in Western culture in my humble opinion big claim, but I'm making it). He's just so authentic and thoughtful. Check him out on Q on CBC!
@@trashleigh87 never seen him before but yes Integrity humour intelligence all the things that as tr important to me plus darling chandler of course lovely lovely man
Haven’t watched yet, just picked this up. Looking forward to it. I sooooo hope this helps him conquer (or at least keep it under control) that horrible disease!
I felt the same thing. Seemed like he knew he was dealing with someone very likely high as a kite at the moment, talking about helping others with addiction.
I do. I've been drinking for 43 years. How I survived, I don't know. If Matthew had admitted to using, instead of saying he could help his fellow addicts, he would have found a world of support~the "penguins," as he described his friends, especially. But you can't help an addict until you are 100% clean and sober, and he never was.
@@perryolsen1370 There was no ethanol in his system when he died, so they say. Authorities are still searching for the sources of the ketamine he took off-label. I am convinced that the autopsy was incomplete and sloppy. What bothers me is that the coroner claimed Perry drowned, but there was no foaming around his mouth, which is typical of drowning, and there was no water in his lungs.
As an early intervention therapist, an attachment and trauma specialist for more than 40 yrs, it is upsetting to hear what Matthew's parents were told to do. I heard laughter in the audience because they do not understand what he is saying. But it is SO IMPORTANT for the public to learn and hear the impact of a Dr's prescription of phenobarbital to a 30 day old infant, for 30 days. I think what he doesn't realize even to this day is that his infant self became accustomed to this substance: it is not genetic, it is not a "disease" as such, but a result of early exposure to a highly addictive substance, ie phenobarbital. This is an early adaptation for need of a substance, fed to this baby Matthew. This is not ok, it is tragic - and the effect on Matthew's life has been profound. But he is strong, intact and here to make a statement. Please read Gabor Mate's books, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, and his recent book The Myth of Normal to gain greater understanding of addictions. Thank you, Matthew Perry, for being brave and determined to share your personal history.
the sad part is that he had to go through withdrawal as a baby!! can you imagine the pain, helplessness and confusion??!! this surely must've damaged him and set him up for addiction later on. anything intense like that gets seared into one's subconscious and must be dealt with eventually.
I can't believe you don't know how genetic alcoholism is. I mean the stuff his parents gave him may have exacerbated it. I do agree there. But for alcoholics with that gene, they all, every one, have that exact same 1st time experience with alcohol that people without the genes don't experience. Our body metabolizes alcohol differently than normal people from the get go. We experience the insane cravings from the 1st time because of that metabolizing. For many of us that had nothing as a child, we experience the exact same thing he experienced. My buddy drank 2 wine coolers, I drank 10 until it was all gone. That was my first time at 16 years old. But numbers have proven that the chance of being alcoholic is largely determined by the family history. For people like us, we are alcoholic long before we ever take the 1st drink. We don't drink ourselves into alcoholism.
My mother was an alcoholic and eventually died from her addiction. I found her passed away at her home. Reading about Matthew’s addiction has given me a different point of view . It’s like he’s explaining exactly how she felt , why it was so hard for her to stop. It is a massively misunderstood disease that deserves far more understanding and respect. I hope he found some peace ❤
I was touched by your message❤ after a life time of alcohol abuse I am finally 2 years sober at the age of 70. Its a miracle, and compassionate friends and family and trained support workers , are the reason I have been able to achieve my aim . To own my alcoholism was the beginning of recovery . Matthew Perry helped me a lot , witnessing some of his struggle and , in later years his path to recovery . The honesty of people like Matthew is so very brave , and helps break down the myths about addiction . Matthew brought joy and honesty as a person and I miss him even though I didn't know him. R.I.P. dear soul 🙏🙏🙏
@@frannyyamuna I have so much respect for anyone who manages to beat addiction . Even the people who try and fail , at least they tried . I grew up with addiction. It took my childhood from me . I lost my father to cancer , so I couldn’t understand why she was choosing to destroy her health . It took me a long time to realise it wasn’t her choice . It is a disease . Well done for overcoming this illness and please continue to fight on ❤️
Omg! Its like you reading my mind. My father was an alcoholic and it killed him. I have never forgave him till i read Matthews book. Its eye opening isnt it!
@@dianahalili1658 the trouble with my mother was she never admitted she had a problem . She ‘ just liked a drink ‘ so she never sought out help or even tried to detox, not once … she even turned up to my wedding drunk and made a scene . I was forced to care for her and I hated what she was doing to our family … but she was ill . I wish I knew then what I know now ! Matthews book helped me forgive and to make peace with the past . He was a wonderful human being
It's only misunderstood by those who either consciously choose not to study the massive amounts of available data on it, or who don't have the IQ to do so. He's so ridiculously far from the first addict to describe EVERY word of this. My Mom (68), and younger brother (43) both died from addiction (alcohol as the primary for both). It's a cruel, awful, heartbreaking disease. It's deeply frustrating and profoundly painful for those who love an addict. RIP to Matthew AND anyone/everyone else whose life was cut short by this tragic illness. Including your Mom... I relate. I'm so grateful he was an outspoken advocate for addicts and that this book was released prior to the end of his life. His fight is over.... may he rest easy at last.
I hope & pray this is not received in any way other than what I mean to convey: An acquaintance of mine is an E.R. doctor who opened up an addiction recovery clinic a few yrs ago. (Still works in E.R. he's a very busy & generous, helpful servant of Christ Jesus). Anyway- after telling him how glad I am that I dont have an addictions, he laughed at me. Full- throated LAUGHED AT ME!! & he said, "EVERYONE..and I mean EVERYONE has ATLEAST 3 addictions". My decision to test him on that backfired MASSIVELY. It was shocking how fast & far I surpassed #3. Well atleast MY addictions arent mind- altering... Is what I told myself AS I descended appx halfway down/ off my high-horse...AAND, simultaneously, gulped down more of my highly caffenated coffee- topped off with 1/4 cup of whatever my creamer has in it. Smh. Im such a wretch!! Lord forgive me. I learned that Given just one of MANY conditions & circumstances, my caffeine (& other several addictions) could have just as easily been alcohol, or ftnl, ...or whatever else. (Or BEEEEE,...Im 57yo now- so Im FAR FAR more cautious & far less easily influenced, but Im not dead yet, & have definitely not bn in the shoes of many others in this fallen world. For the grace of God goes me. May God continue to bless, guide, & comfort you. 😊. Ior sharpens iorn.
I know he wants to be remembered for helping people first and foremost, not as a character in a sitcom, but I think he perhaps didn’t realise the extent of people he helped ‘just’ by playing a character on Friends. A safe escape and antidote to a sometimes overwhelming world, a restbite from the pressures of daily life. He’s left a lasting legacy in the sharing of his story, I’m sure his parents, friends and loved ones will be so incredibly proud of him.
Your comment just blew me away , I agree completely , I subscribed to your contentless channel just for this :P , so make some content and share your thoughts with the world , it truly needs it right now.
I totally agree with what you said. He was that safe escape for so many even if he couldn't be for himself. Friends, The Whole Nine Yards, and all his other work is what may have stopped some people from taking that drink or pill. Shows with that much humor soothed the soul in the healthiest of ways making life a little easier to take. I'm eternally grateful that he shared his story with the world. He really covered all his bases when it came to helping people, and I hope he sees the amazing impact he has made on so many.
Yeah he will be remembered as Chandler.I will be comforted by watching him on ‘Friends’. It is a responsibility to have children and not neglect them. Felt bad about his mother. He felt the loss
My sister was a heavily alcoholic. My family tried everything we possibly could to try and help her. For 8 years she just got worse, wrapped up with the wrong crowd. Meeting a guy with the same alcoholism addiction and drugs, who murdered her in 2020. I'm currently listening to MP book, and watching this has made me understand my sister's mindset at her time of alcohol and drug use. It breaks my heart. RIP Matthew Perry ❤
But he didn’t tell the truth.He led us to believe in his sobriety.How sad his legacy will be drug addict instead of great actor.He could have been honest.Those of us that have struggled would have stood by him.
Wow the thing he said about wanting his mother's attention is powerful..we parents have no idea how our small gestures are huge for our kids. I will always try to remember this for my little one..
...yes, it is really important, and it's also a huge reason as to why the addiction takes over. Parents' love is so important to a child, and has a lifelong impact.
As a parent thankful for the advice like this given to me, to intentionally get on your chill speed around them and NOTICE them. Miracles occurred when I did that around my little one. They feel seen and that love sinks deep in them.
this interview helped me make peace with him passing. he, obviously, finally had a goal, had forgiven himself, and despite of his health issues he still was witty and still a beautiful person who helped a lot of us. Thank you Matthew
His honesty & courage defined him, not his addiction. I feel that his self-deprecation was, as well as a coping mechanism, an enduring sign of his humility & his humanity, no arrogance whatsoever. So, thank you, Matthew, for being a Friend, to struggling addicts everywhere. You are so adored, greatly missed already & your dazzling light of love will shine forever more. Amen.
Parry was a bum who attempted to pay his way out of addiction thru getting pi55ed and spending millions on FrAudian shrinks (todays equivalent of confession). A55hole gave false hope to weak & vulnerable pi55heads everywhere. Prolly rotting in hell for it right now
His opening story brought back a memory. When I was 8, I saw my aunt giving my 3 year old cousin sips of beer at a family gathering. I was shocked and questioned her doing that. She chastised me, saying, "Oh it's good for him". He drank himself to death by the time he was 30. I guess at 8, I was wise beyond my years.
Rest in peace to the man who shaped my personality and childhood. While Friends wasn’t the greatest show of all time it was a form of comfort when I didn’t have it. Forever never meant forever, it’s just remembering our yesterday with every single day after. May he rest knowing that he was not only just an actor, but as an icon of an era.
FRIENDS has been my warm security blanket whenever I have been in dark places. It has and will be my therapy in deep distressing times. RIP Mathew, you are and will always be my favorite. 😫😫😫😫😩😩😩😩
His book is incredibly powerful to other addicts. It feels like he was given one last mission to help as many people as possible, whilst sober, before he had to go. The book, and these interviews that he did to publicise them, will absolutely save lives.
@@sharonmorine5407 I hope you do still read it Sharon - I don't know if I read it as the legacy he wanted to leave when I read it before he passed away, but it certainly feels like that's what it is now. It deserves to be read by many, for years to come.
And I am thinking more & more about Jim Carey how he has been so frank about depression & struggling at various stages. People heed icons & when it's a person who steps up to help people. Oh, he's after mentioning Jim Carey...rest in Peace Matthew Perry.
I believe when you make it through the hell he did, he was incredibly grateful and it was important to him to help others.I also think it was helpful for him. Despite his addiction illness, he truly seemed like a pretty wonderful guy.
The bravest man I'll ever know. This man is bearing his soul to the world. I've been in recovery for 30 years, and it's not easy. This one hit hard. It's like I lost my best friend. You will be missed beyond measure Mattew Perry 😢
Matthew Perry made huge wholesome deeds by opening up in his memoire, interviews to help people with addiction. This will go a long way even after his passing. He has a good and big heart. RIP Chandler/Matthew.
I was a full blown addict/junkie for 13 years and i know exactly the struggle he went through and addiction doesnt care what your age is or what race you are, addiction has one purpose in the end and that is to ultimately take your life in every sense of the word. I lost everything and everyone and then i was reborn the day my daughter was born, she saved my life. I will never use again cause my baby girl needs her daddy in her life forever. To all the addicts out there, i feel your pain, but believe me, there is hope and there is a way out of that life, please dont let yourself be just another statistic. Your life means something, believe in yourselves like i chose to believe in myself.
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I am so happy for you! Our oldest struggled for years, but is currently doing extremely well. One day at a time is what they always say, but she used to say that and end up back to rock bottom. Now she says never again. I'll always worry, but I try to spend more time being grateful for how well she's doing right now.
@@adriantrusca1245 This comment is extremely rude. I don't understand why you felt the need to make it. It's also strange that you included a winky face.
Fly high 🕊 Matthew Langford Perry (August 19, 1969 - October 28, 2023). You brought millions of people such joy with your talent and saved millions more by sharing your story. Rest easy friend. 💔 You'll never be forgotten.
As a woman who has struggled with depression and anxiety for most of my life, I had the EXACT same experience when I got tipsy for the first time at 20. I literally thought "This is how normal people must feel". I've since gone through periods where I drink way too heavily but I'm trying to stop because I could easily picture myself spiraling in a similar manner as Matty. Mental health problems and addiction are no joke. RIP Matty. 🥺 Gone too soon 🪽❤️
my wife and I are so saddened by Matthew’s death and we weren’t even avid watchers of the friends series when it was on. But there’s something about his honesty and vulnerability that is touching and inspiring.
Matthew, may not have realised at the time, that he was helping people that watched friends. He entered into so many homes, DV homes, Abusive homes, poor homes, people battling an illness, grieving home, etc and for just that 20min some people/children were able to have escapism, peace, hope or whatever friends episodes did to the individual. His life impacted so many and sometimes you don’t always know how . Rest peacefully Matthew 🫶🏼🌟🕊️💫🙏🏼
This is so true. I was bleeding and cramping whole pregnant from a high stress situation, and I intuitively knew to relax instead of think about it and go to a doctor. I laid down and said to my husband, “Just put on friends and don’t talk to me.” I had the series on DVD, just put one disc in after another until it stopped. As my son was growing up, we continued to utilize that that show for stress relief.
Mathew seemed to have reached a good place before his passing. He seemed happy and had a focus for what was important to him so I’m glad he made it there. His acting work will be remembered and celebrated. His advocacy will be appreciated and his openness and honesty will continue to help people. Condolences to all his loved ones. Rest in Peace Mathew, you will be greatly missed.
This man knew he was going to make a difference in people's lives after his passing. I'm happy they got Matthew Perry House foundation going. This will be a conversation starter and could help others for years to come. He knew what he was doing. He truly wanted to help people. He's very honest and funny. I listen to the audio and find myself chuckle. I can relate to alot of what he's saying. Rest easy Matthew. You're work here on earth is not done. It's not going unnoticed.
He hardly made a difference in anyone's life except to show how you can pull the wool over people's eyes, Matthew was a drunk and a druggie and never got sober
Rest in peace Matthew. I grew up watching Friends. There was never a dull moment. You brought so much life to Friends. Thank you for your humor and quirky personality. You will be missed.😥
There are some celebrity deaths that just hit you so strongly. You’re attached to their characters and then their actual personalities. You bind with moments in your life and their shows or movies or even their true personalities. Matthew and Chandler are both incredibly special and important for so many moments of our lives. This one hurts and it hurts bad. Poor man suffered so deeply. I truly hope he’s resting somewhere filled with love.
So very true. His death bothers me so much. There are not enough words. Matthew was so very special. I think that none of us except his close family and friends knew all of his struggles. Such a tragedy, that this wonderful man lost the battle.
I'm feeling the same. This is the first death since River Phoenix, that has really hit home. Matthew Perry and his character, Chandler, represent my generation. I see so many of my friends in him. He is only a few years older than me, and I think that is part of why this hurts so much. We are getting older, and we are not invincible. Those of us who partied hard or maybe haven't taken the best care of our bodies are finding that it eventually catches up to you. RIP dear Matthew Perry. You will be missed more than you could ever imagine ❤
Drugs and alcohol sure didn't help with Matt's long term health, but he also took that damned shot and promoted it with t-shirts on his Instagram. People are in total denial about it. There are a ton of people young and old prematurely dying, or, they had successfully battled health issues and then after taking the shot, their cancer in remission, etc went wild, like Jimmy Buffett's and Suzanne Somers. Teens dropping dead all over the country from heart attacks. It's insane, and yet all of you zombies just believe all the liars in mass media who get tons of money from Big Pharma. A war crime has been committed by Big Pharma, the govt and mass media and none of you care or will even look into it. Sad.......
I grew up in a home with two alcoholic parents and also struggled with addiction myself and everything he says resonates so strongly. Going to miss this man ❤ RIP
Be encouraged. I pray the best for you. I found someone who completely set me free , from all my problems. Jesus. Not advising religion but seek Jesus , the Son of God, God incarnate who truly sets people free.
I always got this sense that he didn’t ever feel like he was good enough & that makes me so sad bc he was good enough. He was and will always be an inspiration. He went through hell and back & the fact he stood up every day & was able to bring Chandler Bing to life & create this iconic character that helped millions of us around the world deal with anxiety and depression. Thank you, Matthew for helping so many addicts & thank you for helping us deal with our mental health through Chandler Bing. You will never ever be forgotten. RIP.
Matthew Perry has made me understand my alcoholic brother for the first time in decades. After years of being angry at him for his alcoholism. In tears that he’s now gone. RIP you beautiful man.
Same here but with sleeping pills. I have tried every drug never got addicted and never smoke a cig in my life. Since Xmas of 2009 till now every night I take (8-15 per night) 50mg of those sleep gel pills. There were a few times where I took 20-25 in one night.
The stories of his infancy, youth and how he was raised show just how much it was responsible for his addiction.... its so sad. it shows just how unbelievably important childhood is to creating a content, healthy adult.
This may be true, and I’m sure it didn’t help him any, but tons of addicts are raised in solid homes and still have the disease. I think that’s his point with emphasizing it being a disease, sometimes it just happens because of genetics.
Very sad to be watching this after his passing. He was not like most celebrities, he seemed like such a genuine person with a good soul. I'm sure we will all be forever grateful for what he brought to this world, whether it was laughter, smiles, or help for those with addiction. Rest in peace Matthew Perry.
Thats the thing, people have a pre conceived notion that addicts aren't good people. When in fact they are the best people because they have so much empathy and understanding of others. I just wish the stigma of addicts was understood more by non addicts
@@sarahcashmore6736But that doesn't apply to all addicts is the thing. There are those who are some of the worst people to begin with and addiction makes them worse.
When he teared up and said "it’s not fair" that crushed me. It really is not fair. He deserved to live the rest of his life in peace. Maybe find true love? Idk but I’m heartbroken. I truly hope he’s at peace on the other side, he’s been through enough he certainly deserves it❤
As a therapist I find his analysis and message so powerful. You are helping and will help so many people, I am deeply sad for this world to miss your beautiful presence. But you're also bringing a lot of resources for people who don't feel aware or resourced enough to understand how complex and hard is do deal with addictions. Sending you a big hug from here. ❤
This makes me just want to hug him. Hug him to thank him for his bravery, his honesty, his heart, and his talent that he shared with us all. Growing up with an alcoholic teaches you it isn’t a choice. It is a disease and like he said, it doesn’t mean you’re weak by any means. My heart break for his family and friends, because I know the pain of losing a recovering alcoholic once they are getting their life back on the right path, are repairing relationships and have a vision to accomplish so much more. His words will live on and continue to heal more lives long after we are gone.
He will not only be remembered for Friends, he will be remembered for his beautiful heart and his ability to make others smile and laugh even though he was suffering. Such a beautiful soul. He will be so missed. We love you Matthew, rest in peace. Still can’t believe he is gone.
I too am an addict/alcoholic with 19 years sobriety this month and I can relate to everything he has talked about. I am so proud of Matthew and I wish him a lifetime of health and peace.
YOU are a true hero. Regular folks, battling and surviving, inspire us ALL. The rest is just a different vocation. Thank you for sharing. Truly, really...hero. You saved your life and many family and "friends" lives. :) Bless you!!
Me too.. It's true though it's a daily fight even being clean for years it never goes away.. Sober and clean is a daily fight no matter how many years clean people have Some will have 10 yrs clean and relapse. Mental illness and addiction go hand In hand is usually self medicating for mental illness pain and trauma. x
I have a daughter who has struggled with addiction issues. She's clean and sober now, but I'll always worry. I hope you are able to beat it and live a great life.
After watching this, I have a new respect for Matthew. I've been through a lot of the same addictions especially alcohol. And also came close to death at one point. But after recovering from an aortic aneurysm dissection I went clean but relapsed. Then finally quit drinking and am now 4 years totally clean. But it's a real disease that haunted me for 25 years. I'm 53 now and still struggling with my health but doing much better. Rip Matthew Perry 😢
Oh how I wish that my son could of heard this interview.....my son passed away in May this year, he was 44. He had kidney failure. Now Matthew has passed.....my heart is broken. May our God's peace surround you always😢😢😢😢
It's crazy how shortly after his book released he passed away. One last project which will help out some struggling folks out there. Sad day. Rest well, Matthew.
Actors have died right before their film is released. It is creepy. But, we must understand we all have a check out date, already determined. And it doesn't matter what is going on in our life. When are date death arrives, we die.
Its almost as if he could sense his time was near but he wasn't gonna let that stop him and still lived life to the full and wrote a wonderful book. The man is amazing... He's definitely left his mark on the world. RIP Matt
Oh boy, Matthew is actually self-aware. That bid with his mom and him wanting to turn around, that is extremely vulnerable to say. I can't wait to read his book.
@@kathybastow7469 Yes, I wish more parents knew how many things can impact a child. But he is aware, and hopefully he knows that he deserves people that do turn around.
Im 31, i struggle with alcohol. Im a functioning alcoholic and i dont want to be. Its a Wednesday night and im currently drunk - i have to work at 830 am tomorrow. My dad gave me my first drink when i was 13 while i was going through my parents divorce. He didnt do it in malicious, it was your typical give a child a sip and they wont like it. But i liked it, it made me feel good, it taught me problems can be solved by getting drunk but as an adult i know this isnt true. I didnt want this or this problem. I still struggle with my addiction but i can feel your pain
This is the most touching interview I have ever seen! Matthew Perry was evidently not only a brilliant actor - he is such a real person! Such honesty, such humility, such goodness-of -heart! The world has lost a very special person! Yes Matthew - you will never be forgotten for your Friends moments; but I know that even though you are no longer in our presence - you will continue to help many in their struggles to live as normal a life as they are able with this terrible disease! Thank you for all those special words you have left behind! IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!
This interview is one of the best I have ever watched in my entire life. The host asked the right questions and gave the guest the time to share the details that led to the main answer. Kuddos. I love how Matthew Perry presented himself as a common, normal human being who had a "disease," made a mistake, didn't understand what he's doing, or what's happening, and correcting those mistakes, and on top of that, offering help who are having the same journey as him. I watch F.R.I.E.N.D.S. whenever I'm depressed and anxious. I always adored/hated how Chandler Bing is using sarcasm and timely jokes as a defense mechanism and JANICE! And I never knew MATTHEW PERRY aside from being Chandler Bing. Now, knowing a bit of your personal story, I'd remember you as the MATTHEW PERRY, also a human who has his own ghosts and struggles despite of, like you said, "achieving your dreams." Rest in peace, and thank you for being a part of my life simply by sharing the lessons you've learned in this journey called life and FRIENDS.
I somewhat disagree, like ok the interviewer asked good questions but every conversation just felt like Matthew chucking an interesting topic down a black hole. Like there was no back and forth, just a one sided volley of questions. Like "so in the book you mentioned doing blah blah.." "Yeah " "So anyway in the book you also mentioned ... " Like bro just make some interesting remark about what Matthew just said lmao.
@@Adi-mj3cb It's his "the best interview" in life what he have ever watched, not everyone is smart/knowledgeble, don't worry he might've talked out of emotion,..
@@j_vinsmoke2576 I have no idea what you just said. All I'm saying is that the interviewer could have engaged in actual conversation rather than just asking questions.
Rewatching this after learning that he's gone. We never truly know someone's struggle but Matthew decided to share his in his book. His pain was indescribable but I hope he can rest now. I'm speechless and so sad for his suffering when he brought so much laughter and light to other people. He reached true enlightenment and self-awareness here and I'm glad of that. He came full circle but I'm also dismayed that his story ended like this. He truly made it his mission to understand his disease and the affliction he was so tortured by.
Wow, phenobarbital at 30 days old... No wonder that first night of drinking at 14 felt like "this is how good normal people must feel." His cellular memory was, no doubt, responding to something he knew as an infant. I truly appreciate his honesty about all of this. I have a new-found respect for Matthew, and I wish him well!
Lets get something strait. The phenobarb did not make him an addict by any stretch. But it did feed that inner desire at such an early age and might have had profound effects later on.
Mmmmm...... no not really. There were millions of babies given the same medication and they didn't grow up to be addicts. Also the whole "this must be how normal people feel" would simply have been the removal of inhibition, social awkwardness and anxiety due to being drunk.
My wife and I struggle with alcoholism. It’s getting to the point where we are very aware of how our 2 sons perceive our actions and we’re battling the urge night after night. They don’t deserve drunk parents. Thats my motivation. Im looking for additional reinforcements all the time. Glad I found Matthew’s interview.
I hope you and your wife are doing well today. Please know that there are people who can help you. One way to start getting help is online AA meetings. Wishing you two all good things.
I know alcoholism is hard, my mother was an addict, and I have been addicted to several substances. Please, for the sake of your children, be strong for them if not yourself. Both of my parents were drug addicts and it rubbed off on me and my siblings, and now we struggle with the same issues. There is no shame or blame here, but while you still can, be the parents they need you to be. It's already amazing you are trying to get better. Good luck and stay strong.
I’ve always questioned whether addiction is a substance issue or trauma that isn’t dealt with. If you’re experiencing or living with past trauma trying to fight the uphill battle of addiction is almost impossible. If we deal with the problems first then the addiction is easier to tame imho.
@@mgm579nope YOU are the one without a clue. This toxic bullshit has no place in this world. Who the hell are you to dictate how someone else finds sobriety?
@@mischaraine1645phone addiction is somewhat relevant but yes you can still be highly functional with phone addiction. But depression can still increase because of phones
Imagine you have a severe panic attack, and severe case of the flu everytime you put your phone down, or don't eat sugar, lasts for 30-60 days and that's what opiate addiction is like.
@@Julia-nl3gqi mean.. eberyone is addicted to something, conditioned to something, clings to something. if that was taken away you'd lose your mind, lose yourself, and spend your life trying to get it back. everyone is striving to find meaning. going to drugs is the worst of it but going to other things that mentally and physically harm you can destroy your brain and your livelihood too. some people don't have access to drugs or money for alcohol. they find something else or take it out a different way. drugs and alcohol are the RESULT of depression and trauma and loneliness. they a way of punishing & rewarding yourself for feeling like you're not normal and don't fit in.
Matthew Perry was my middle school and high school celebrity crush. My mom and I never missed an episode of Friends. Chandler could always make me belly laugh out loud. Matthew could convey so much with just his face and body. He made being a comedic actor looks effortless. In interviews, he always seemed like such a smart, kind, warm and giving person. I’m shocked and heartbroken. Like when Robin Williams died, I feel like a small part of my youth has disappeared. Thank you, Matthew Perry, for the light you brought to the world. Your talent with live on forever.
Matthew should do podcasts. He handles himself in a smart, funny, humble, honest way. His story is definitely touching and inspiring and can help so many people
His point about the guy in rehab saying "It's not your fault" making such a huge difference for him is gold! It's the first step toward ridding oneself of the self-hatred and disgust that come with one's addictive behavior. I'm so sorry Perry has died and won't be able to continue helping others.
yes, the guilt we live with makes it so much more painful to stop the behavior that caused it it in the first place. That's why we are insane, locked in an endless cycle of destruction
I feel like I lost a good friend. He will be missed. What a life he lived. He walked through the fire and lived to talk about it. I wish his family and friends comfort and peace. Much Love.
Matthew Perry is a survivor...I am a recovering addict...I was addicted to crack cocaine for 18 months....My husband introduced me to it at 51 years old...I am responsible for the decision.I quit cold turkey. No relapses !!3.5 years clean...I got this book because I relate to Matthew Perry...I cried all through..started binge watching Friends...cannot tell you how much Matthew Perry helped me understand my addiction and share his hell and back story..I pray every day for Matthew and I hope he knows that God is the one that saved him!!?
Congratz on that that. I never saw how cocaine could be addictive. I always found it rather boring. The same with opioids. I could never get it. But when it comes to alcohol and going through withdrawl I took it all in, I saw throwing up blood as the norm, the shakes and worse were just something to deal with, alcohol is life was my attitude. Now I only have at most 40 drinks a week. This is after over 30 years of abuse save for some sober breaks forced and some on my own. We all have our own weaknesses. Stay strong, I wont.
Wait a minute...you were "addicted" (as you said) for year and a half and you relating yourself to MP experience! Cold turkey on cocaine?! After 18 months?! 😆😆😆! More likely you were going "cold turkey" from ammonia or baking soda 😆. The only problem you have is you did it at 51! That should be your real concerns! You're just an attention seeker who's living her 20's in her 50's! OMG 🤦🤦🤦
I'm glad you are making that choice and stand strong to such a difficult fight! It inspires me I honestly seek advice, i'm not an addict fortunately, but currently i'm having problems with binge drinking, I started doing it 4 years ago. 2022 I was doing better with it, My boyfriend even was proud, because he became the target of My binging, he lived through it and had to deal with me, so obviously he would bacome upset when I lost control, and very understandable, cause he had to deal with My Bad decisions. So, he was happy that I was being able to control it better during 2022. Now 2023 started and i've already binged multiple times. The change of year always gets me, because i become more vulnerable and tired. And noticed that when I binge I stopped targeting My boyfriend, so he doesn't realise when I loose control anymore, it's like i'm trying to fool him, and I think that's scary. This year I want to stop it, for once and for all, because I feel like if I don't stop it now, it could develop in to something much worse. What advice do you have for when I feel like i'm about to binge?
"This is what normal people feel like all the time "..... such an incredibly true statement. This pill is what I've been missing my entire life. Thats what so many addicts assume. A part is missing and that substance is what you needed to be the "better " you. Sadly, it's the complete opposite...
Matthew suffered from abandonment issues which left him feeling “less than, never enough “ which propelled him to find something to fill that void in his life.
This is heartbreaking. He still had so much life to live and good to do. I hope he left this world knowing that his legacy will live on and he will continue to help so many people through his book and by being so open and honest about his struggles. Rest in Peace, Matthew Perry. You were a good person, and so funny. You will be greatly missed.
31:20 is a beautiful moment. After being so honest and raw, it's wonderful he was able to hear that we still love him. And despite being in the middle of a heavy topic, he was still able to make a joke. This man was truly talented and we are forever honored to share the world with him. ❤
He was truly an amazing man. One of my idols now, especially with myself being an alcoholic. Matthew's openness about everything has truly helped me and I am sure countless others. Amazing man in and out
I just started listening to his book again last week, it has already helped me so many times. His life and the way he talks about everything he’s gone through is beyond incredible. Chandler made me laugh, but Matthew Perry saved my life. You’ve shared your life, love and laughter with us, there’s no way I can thank you enough. ❤
I'm 55 and just lost one of my longest, dearest friends to alcohol. Her brother died within that very same week from the same disease. She went from being the most charming, beautiful young 15 yr. old to looking like she was 20 yrs. older than she was and out of her mind. She actually had a house that caught fire this past winter and was still living in it so she could still drink. The last time I saw her there, she was outside, in her underwear, cursing her neighbors. It wasn't long after that she was removed by the city. She left behind 3 beautiful daughters. Please pray for her mother and her children, and me. I miss her.
@@marynywarriormom Thank you. It was awful but at the same time, she was ready to go and said so many times. I still miss that beautiful vibrant girl who was my friend. I appreciate your kindness.
@@joannewebb9278 Thank you so much. It's difficult and some days it's a relief. She was out of her mind in the end. She fell off a porch onto a concrete landing. She landed on her head and never woke up. I expected she wasn't going to be with us much longer, but that was a shock. I do really appreciate your kindness.
Read the Audiobook. It was shocking all he went through in the hospital with 16 surgeries and in a coma for 5 months. Love his authenticity. Will miss him.
Where can I find his audio- book??? I am not tech savie, so would you mind guiding me on how to find Matthews book! (I'm so sorry for all of "Matthews suffering"!! He had such "great, great parents. His mom and Step-father, "Keith Morrison" (from Dateline).
Watching this a little over a year from Matthews passing, you can see he was so perfect for the part in Friends. Such a shame, I hope he's in a better place now.
I am with you. How is it that he comes out on the other side of addiction only to pass away. It’s sickeningly unfair as he had so much more to give to those struggling with addiction. Hard to understand ….
You can only keep it by giving it away. Matthew helped give his sobriety to every person who read his book. To every person he "shared" with at a meeting. To every new comer that sits in our rooms. His work continues through the people that he has helped. Rest easy, Matt. Thank you for the laughs, Chandler.
‘Alcohol wants you alone, it wants you sick and then it wants to kill you’. I have borne witness to this line since I was a small child. Prayers to all those struggling with addictions.
I pray for you. I see you.
Alcohol not only kill people, it also kills families. It killed my childhood and killed my marriage. I’m the first non alcoholic in my family.
Thank you 😔
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Alcohol wants nothing, if a person has a hole in their life they will try and fill it with something
Crazy how his death, just now, brought a lot of us to this beautiful interview. RIP 🙏🏽
crazy about the doctor's prescription as an infant.... i bet his body was waiting for that NEXT addictive thing & when he got that first sip of alcohol....as he said "heaven" - so sad. but IT WAS HIS PURPOSE TO HELP OTHERS GOD BLESS HIM & RIP
Absolutely right!
Matthew is such a role model fir us to Wake up to the addictions that are so easy to acquire and so hard to quit. God Bless him. RIP Matthew ❤❤🙏🙏
So true.I learned things wonderful things didn't know. RIO
He made a difference.❤❤❤❤
Not so crazy. We just don't want to say goodbye. 😢🙏
I’m a retired paramedic and I have seen addicts in all shapes, sizes colors, age groups, etc. etc. Addiction does not discriminate. He is very lucky that he could afford to go to all the treatment centers he went to. Some people aren’t so lucky. I read this book and it was fantastic. I wish him nothing but the best and it is my hope that we take addiction a lot more seriously in this country and have a better facilities for people to get well in.
I wish he'd get more political and help with the decriminalization of drugs as a first step. In my province our conservative government is building a new prison that everybody says we don't need, but as the homeless keep growing, thats the kind of housing he's thinking of.
Way too many people still unbelievably think addiction is a 'choice'.
Yes yes yes yes yes.
Agreed. Hes very wealthy from one mildly funny TV show and has like most addicts taken a lifetime to start dealing with their addiction. I've loved and married addicts and have a son that's an addict too. I have a very jaded view on addiction sadly. I find them all similar and self loathing and at the same time selfish. As we all know they have to get better alone and start to grow up as they never mature until they get and stay sober. This guy does sound medicated but who knows? But by saying I didn't want this says a lot. He's still in victim mode and has much work to still. And BTW blaming colic for your addiction is ridiculous. I had 2 kids with it and one is an addiction. He needs to continue to grow up and become a really good human.
@@londonwright173 Thats kind of unfair. What we know about addiction is that it affects the brain in very particular ways. Soem people can take drug a and it has no affect, others become addicts. Of couse its self - ish, when you get hit by a bus you go to the hospital. Your process of getting better is 'about you'. If you are implying addicts can never be selfless then I have a wealth of samples saying thats very wrong, in fact many addicts are fighting for legislation because of OTHER addicts.
Addiction is a disease, and there is no evidence that ONLY can they get better alone, in fact thats found to be very untrue. Most addicts, unlike most of hte public, already live in a social culture of other addicts and dealers. Nothing ANYBODY does do they do alone. Addiction is now described as a disease, same with alcoholism, and thats why they have AA, which isn't great, but its supportive. Like ANYTHING in life it ultimately rests on an individual, but they certainly don't have to 'do it alone', in fact there is no reason for them to do so.
I didn't listen to him talk, its the issue I'm interested in and criminalization is problem one. After that then like alcoholics we can try to deal with it in other ways. But his position is irrelevant, good luck to him, its addiction services and public policy that are the issue. As you say, INDIVIDUALLY its not like I can adopt an addict and 'turn them around', its just too much. It takes a social stance. And sadly we live in a celebrity world, so he does have a platform, and I say it because he's already DONE debates in europe on decriminalization.
In Canada we have free residential treatment centres. I’ve been 4 times. Treatment centres aren’t the solution. It gives you sometime to clear the fog but it’s recovery groups “AA, NA, CA” that saves lives. 3 years clean myself. I’ve seen countless people come in to these rooms while at treatment centres and then once the rehab stint is done, not come around anymore and then end up dead or back in prison or rehab again. AA is the only thing that works and has worked for almost 100 years. Mathew knows this well and addicts and alcoholics know this very well. It’s the ignorant public who for some reason think it’s a cult that deters sick people from walking through a door and asking for help. All AA is is 1 alcoholic helping another. There is no forced religion, no forced anything. I sat beside an atheist today, nobody cares. Once we can stop stigmatizing groups then we can really help people. But we can’t even stop stigmatizing the sick, let alone the solution. It’s obviously an anonymous program but as someone who attends meetings I can tell you that everything he is saying about addiction and the solution is coming from a place of AA. We speak a language and he is speaking it and I love it.
People really nailed it when they said losing Matthew Perry felt like losing an actual friend. I feel like I knew him, even though I didn’t. He’s the only celebrity who I’ve ever felt connected to even though we never met. RIP friend. You were loved.
I've been seeing people saying it's like losing one of the Beatles, friends has been iconic world wide for decades :(
Matthew seemed sincere and loveable. The others, not so much. They seem like they're out for publicity now on Matthew's sad death. I love his honesty. RIP good man 😢
@@JisooTurtleRabbitt. Yea I remember on December 8th 1980 when John Lennon was killed. Bummer man
I agree with you
I agree with you
"When I die I don't want Friends to be the first thing that's mentioned." - Matthew Perry
He wants to be remembered for his impact on helping people struggling with addiction and alcoholism. Rest easy Matthew.
and yet that's exactly what's happening( I know people have good intentions but i still feel sorry for him because there was so much more to him than Chandler
Agreed. Good on ya, Mr Perry, I hope you will.
His friends co-star failed him to be a true friend when he was alive. RIP Mathew Perry. Your book will inspire more people in real life than your so so co stars in reel
@@bdkB134why are you saying that? They were all loving and supportive to him.
@@bdkB134 Huh? Jennifer Anniston was one of the best support systems during his struggles. She was there for him and it’s written in his book.
Rest easy Matthew, your impact on a generation can't be understated 😢🕊
Sad sad day… RIP
Lol. Yeah… come on. Sad that he killed himself over years despite having all the chances and resources in the world, but he did. Another Hollywood punk in the end. And no… chandler didn’t change the world…
Recent generations have no perspective and overdramatize everything.
@@datacipher No matter what people's opinions of the man, I'll even agree the changing the world stuff is a bit strong - he had people that liked him and ones he didn't. But there's no doubt that you're a sad fella. And if you're not, you're lucky that you're too naive to have a real look at yourself.
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@@datacipher My Grandfather smoked his whole life. I was about 10 years old when my mother said to him, 'If you ever want to see your grandchildren graduate, you have to stop immediately.'. Tears welled up in his eyes when he realized what exactly was at stake. He gave it up immediately. Three years later he died of lung cancer. It was really sad and destroyed me. My mother said to me- 'Don't ever smoke. Please don't put your family through what your Grandfather put us through." I agreed. At 28, I have never touched a cigarette. I must say, I feel a very slight sense of regret for never having done it, because your post gave me cancer anyway.
From an Irish family, full of drinking, arguments, death, I am so desperately sorry that MP has come to an early end. My son is recovering, I have sent this to him. Thank you. RIP Matthew Perry.
Death is not a bad thing, he was ready, and that’s why he left. Great people sometimes chose a short stay.
@@enchiladasqueretanasthere’s no choice in addiction.
Do u think the irish have more addiction than others.
@@sharonsparks900 There is a choice. You just choose not to do it. Simple. If you can't, you're weak, and you're not a man.
Oh do I KNOW THE LIFE STYLE FOR MY BROTHERS, NEPHEWS UNCLES, AND I AM ALSO IRISH BLESS YOU HON AND MP
8,148 days clean for me. There is hope. ❤
Woohoo!!
Amazing! That’s inspiring!
Keep going, you're strong!
Amen, brother
i Hope the best for you,
1 Corinthians 3:16-17& 6:16-20,
Ephesians 5:18,
Galatians 5:19-23,
I celebrated 17 years clean and sober back in August but around this time last year I almost went back out, was going through a horrible time. I read Matt's book cover to cover and I credit that experience for helping to keep me sober. Rip Matt and THANK YOU
Sending healing streams of grace to your every cell
Hang in there Shaun. I'm rooting for you!
Me too, I am rooting for you!!
I wish you generous things from life Shaun
Incredible job 💪👍🌟
I am so very saddened that the "rest of his life" was only 11 months. He struggled so much in his life, but brought so much joy to many, myself included. He was brave to share his story. I pray it helps many people like he wanted it to. RIP Matthew. I pray God has brought you peace and comfort. Thank you for all the laughs, and I am so sorry that your life ended too soon.
I can't stop thinking about that, too. Yes, heartbreaking, to say the least.
RIP dear mathew
I didn't follow Friends at all in the 90s but after he died I started watching videos of him talking about addiction and his struggles with it. And I found that very illuminating and revealing. I guess we should now all know why he talked with such directness and gravity in his voice about his matter - he clearly knew he was near death. And the world's lost a voice that was badly needed to shine light on this vital issue. Not one human being, not one soul, has gained anything from this person's death. We've lost, we've all lost.
Other babies may have been given this too for colic. (Phenobarbital) Not sure. Maybe this was given in the olden days before 1970. Hope it did not have long term affects on him though. May never know
What were the autopsy results? Anyone know?
This is one of the most honest interviews I've ever seen - he was so open, relaxed, didn't try to play Chandler or be funny, and so vulnerable. It is such a great discovery of this beautiful person who suffered much but still stayed so deeply human. Rest in peace Matthew, we will remember you like this.
Hate to say it but he’s probably high. The way he’s talking sounds like it too… slightly slurring. This isn’t a criticism of him or his character… but I’ve been around people on opiates and this is exactly how they talk when they’ve taken a LOT.
@@neomacchio4692I did notice that also and he looked a tad rough... no offence...
Many people talk like this without being "high", and he wasn't young anymore, things change. And I think he was under specific doctor medication nevertheless, exactly because of his addictions etc
He had several surgeries a few of which resulted in comas. Basically he sounds like a person recovering from a stroke. My gramma had several diabetes related strokes back in the day and it caused slurred speech and even some facial paralysis
Complete human interview ❤❤
When Matthew speaks about feeling better after a drink, I knew what he meant. This life is so harsh and it's difficult to fit in. I think he was a sensitive soul who struggled with this life. I hope his Legacy will help others with addiction. Rest in Peace Matthew, you will be missed.
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Yea I completely understand.
I feel more at ease with life.
his life wasnt harsh , but he just couldnt get a hold of this addiction.
@@tankthearc9875 Yeah but mental illness and addiction don't care if you're rich, famous, have people who love you. Mental illness and addiction can and will still take you
He was very sensitive. In friends interview Lisa made it sound like they all keep in contact. But when James corden asked "who doesn't pick-up" he said no one calls me then breaks down in tears.
He was very lonely too i feel and missed his "friends" cast.
Anyone else watching this just days after his passing? This should be required reading (watching) for addicts or anyone. He helped many just by telling his story. Farewell friend.
WAKE UP!!!!!! HE WAS ON ZEE PLANE!!!!
Yes ma’am. I don’t wanna die.
Here here
@lynnholler3599 then why wasn't he in prison!?
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Everyone in the comments supports Matthew (understandably), but I also would like to pay my respect to the interviewer. Witty, funny, polite an on point, awesome job!
Tom Power is a class act - best male radio host in Western culture in my humble opinion big claim, but I'm making it). He's just so authentic and thoughtful. Check him out on Q on CBC!
@@trashleigh87 never seen him before but yes Integrity humour intelligence all the things that as tr important to me plus darling chandler of course lovely lovely man
He’s a fellow Newfoundlander! We have love and kindness and an ease for making others comfortable that’s naturally embedded in our souls ❤❤❤❤
Haven’t watched yet, just picked this up.
Looking forward to it.
I sooooo hope this helps him conquer (or at least keep it under control) that horrible disease!
@@OMGAnotherday enjoy it's an amazing book
The interviewer is a very sensitive, empathic and sensible person, and now that Mr. Perry has sadly passed, I am very grateful to him for that.
He’s the wonderful Tom Power, a Newfoundland musician and longtime host of CBC Radio One’s Q. Love his warmth and approachability. ❤
I felt the same thing. Seemed like he knew he was dealing with someone very likely high as a kite at the moment, talking about helping others with addiction.
Can you be anymore honest?
The world is better because you lived in it.
Love you,
Rest In Peace.
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My heart breaks for this beautiful man. No one knows how hard he struggled.
I do. I've been drinking for 43 years. How I survived, I don't know. If Matthew had admitted to using, instead of saying he could help his fellow addicts, he would have found a world of support~the "penguins," as he described his friends, especially. But you can't help an addict until you are 100% clean and sober, and he never was.
Poor baby
@@perryolsen1370 There was no ethanol in his system when he died, so they say. Authorities are still searching for the sources of the ketamine he took off-label. I am convinced that the autopsy was incomplete and sloppy. What bothers me is that the coroner claimed Perry drowned, but there was no foaming around his mouth, which is typical of drowning, and there was no water in his lungs.
Self inflicted. Millions of people go through worse, through no fault of their own
@@Bert-lw1othe suffered. He was human. He deserved support and compassion like anyone else.
Let’s celebrate the interviewer - engaged his guest with grace, wit, charm and support.
Yes, he is great.
Tom Power is fantastic!!
Agreed! This interviewer is very talented.
Yes…truly fantastic. No fawning and no gotchas
Ha ha ha. The interviewer can’t stand not being the focus.
As an early intervention therapist, an attachment and trauma specialist for more than 40 yrs, it is upsetting to hear what Matthew's parents were told to do. I heard laughter in the audience because they do not understand what he is saying. But it is SO IMPORTANT for the public to learn and hear the impact of a Dr's prescription of phenobarbital to a 30 day old infant, for 30 days. I think what he doesn't realize even to this day is that his infant self became accustomed to this substance: it is not genetic, it is not a "disease" as such, but a result of early exposure to a highly addictive substance, ie phenobarbital. This is an early adaptation for need of a substance, fed to this baby Matthew. This is not ok, it is tragic - and the effect on Matthew's life has been profound. But he is strong, intact and here to make a statement. Please read Gabor Mate's books, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, and his recent book The Myth of Normal to gain greater understanding of addictions. Thank you, Matthew Perry, for being brave and determined to share your personal history.
TY for sharing. I totally agree with you.
the sad part is that he had to go through withdrawal as a baby!! can you imagine the pain, helplessness and confusion??!! this surely must've damaged him and set him up for addiction later on. anything intense like that gets seared into one's subconscious and must be dealt with eventually.
Yes to Dr. Gabor Mate, his depth of understanding is amazing 👍
I can't believe you don't know how genetic alcoholism is. I mean the stuff his parents gave him may have exacerbated it. I do agree there. But for alcoholics with that gene, they all, every one, have that exact same 1st time experience with alcohol that people without the genes don't experience. Our body metabolizes alcohol differently than normal people from the get go. We experience the insane cravings from the 1st time because of that metabolizing. For many of us that had nothing as a child, we experience the exact same thing he experienced. My buddy drank 2 wine coolers, I drank 10 until it was all gone. That was my first time at 16 years old. But numbers have proven that the chance of being alcoholic is largely determined by the family history. For people like us, we are alcoholic long before we ever take the 1st drink. We don't drink ourselves into alcoholism.
Your reply is interesting. Was that drug prescribed to babies/children routinely at one time?
My mother was an alcoholic and eventually died from her addiction. I found her passed away at her home. Reading about Matthew’s addiction has given me a different point of view . It’s like he’s explaining exactly how she felt , why it was so hard for her to stop. It is a massively misunderstood disease that deserves far more understanding and respect.
I hope he found some peace ❤
I was touched by your message❤ after a life time of alcohol abuse I am finally 2 years sober at the age of 70. Its a miracle, and compassionate friends and family and trained support workers , are the reason I have been able to achieve my aim . To own my alcoholism was the beginning of recovery . Matthew Perry helped me a lot , witnessing some of his struggle and , in later years his path to recovery . The honesty of people like Matthew is so very brave , and helps break down the myths about addiction . Matthew brought joy and honesty as a person and I miss him even though I didn't know him. R.I.P. dear soul 🙏🙏🙏
@@frannyyamuna I have so much respect for anyone who manages to beat addiction . Even the people who try and fail , at least they tried . I grew up with addiction. It took my childhood from me . I lost my father to cancer , so I couldn’t understand why she was choosing to destroy her health . It took me a long time to realise it wasn’t her choice . It is a disease .
Well done for overcoming this illness and please continue to fight on ❤️
Omg! Its like you reading my mind. My father was an alcoholic and it killed him. I have never forgave him till i read Matthews book. Its eye opening isnt it!
@@dianahalili1658 the trouble with my mother was she never admitted she had a problem . She ‘ just liked a drink ‘ so she never sought out help or even tried to detox, not once … she even turned up to my wedding drunk and made a scene . I was forced to care for her and I hated what she was doing to our family … but she was ill . I wish I knew then what I know now !
Matthews book helped me forgive and to make peace with the past . He was a wonderful human being
It's only misunderstood by those who either consciously choose not to study the massive amounts of available data on it, or who don't have the IQ to do so. He's so ridiculously far from the first addict to describe EVERY word of this. My Mom (68), and younger brother (43) both died from addiction (alcohol as the primary for both). It's a cruel, awful, heartbreaking disease. It's deeply frustrating and profoundly painful for those who love an addict. RIP to Matthew AND anyone/everyone else whose life was cut short by this tragic illness. Including your Mom... I relate. I'm so grateful he was an outspoken advocate for addicts and that this book was released prior to the end of his life. His fight is over.... may he rest easy at last.
Feels like going to a funeral of someone who is still able to communicate. You achieved everything you asked for here. Rest well my friend
So true! 👌👏👏👏
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Amen 🙏
That is a crazy way to put it but it does feel like that 😢❤
As a fellow addict I truly hope your brutal honesty and bravery in sharing will be your legacy
Rest now 🙏
He understood what it's like. I just wish he didn't go the Michael Jackson route with his dealers
I hope & pray this is not received in any way other than what I mean to convey:
An acquaintance of mine is an E.R. doctor who opened up an addiction recovery clinic a few yrs ago. (Still works in E.R. he's a very busy & generous, helpful servant of Christ Jesus). Anyway- after telling him how glad I am that I dont have an addictions, he laughed at me. Full- throated LAUGHED AT ME!! & he said, "EVERYONE..and I mean EVERYONE has ATLEAST 3 addictions".
My decision to test him on that backfired MASSIVELY. It was shocking how fast & far I surpassed #3.
Well atleast MY addictions arent mind- altering...
Is what I told myself AS I descended appx halfway down/ off my high-horse...AAND, simultaneously, gulped down more of my highly caffenated coffee- topped off with 1/4 cup of whatever my creamer has in it.
Smh. Im such a wretch!! Lord forgive me.
I learned that Given just one of MANY conditions & circumstances, my caffeine (& other several addictions) could have just as easily been alcohol, or ftnl, ...or whatever else.
(Or BEEEEE,...Im 57yo now- so Im FAR FAR more cautious & far less easily influenced, but Im not dead yet, & have definitely not bn in the shoes of many others in this fallen world. For the grace of God goes me.
May God continue to bless, guide, & comfort you. 😊.
Ior sharpens iorn.
I know he wants to be remembered for helping people first and foremost, not as a character in a sitcom, but I think he perhaps didn’t realise the extent of people he helped ‘just’ by playing a character on Friends.
A safe escape and antidote to a sometimes overwhelming world, a restbite from the pressures of daily life.
He’s left a lasting legacy in the sharing of his story, I’m sure his parents, friends and loved ones will be so incredibly proud of him.
Your comment just blew me away , I agree completely , I subscribed to your contentless channel just for this :P , so make some content and share your thoughts with the world , it truly needs it right now.
Absolutely, he gave us some humour to lighten up our day and was a gifted actor, but most definitely a brilliant man. R.I.P Matthew Perry
Yes!
I totally agree with what you said. He was that safe escape for so many even if he couldn't be for himself. Friends, The Whole Nine Yards, and all his other work is what may have stopped some people from taking that drink or pill. Shows with that much humor soothed the soul in the healthiest of ways making life a little easier to take. I'm eternally grateful that he shared his story with the world. He really covered all his bases when it came to helping people, and I hope he sees the amazing impact he has made on so many.
Yeah he will be remembered as Chandler.I will be comforted by watching him on ‘Friends’. It is a responsibility to have children and not neglect them. Felt bad about his mother. He felt the loss
My sister was a heavily alcoholic. My family tried everything we possibly could to try and help her. For 8 years she just got worse, wrapped up with the wrong crowd. Meeting a guy with the same alcoholism addiction and drugs, who murdered her in 2020.
I'm currently listening to MP book, and watching this has made me understand my sister's mindset at her time of alcohol and drug use. It breaks my heart.
RIP Matthew Perry ❤
I’m so so sorry ❤
Sorry for your loss I’m sure she was an amazing person
I'm so sorry...❤
That's so hard 😢
Alcoholism isn't a disease, google it
Rest well, Matt. You are deeply loved. You left a monumental legacy by speaking your truth.
Calm down. He just left a mediocre show behind. That's it.
But he didn’t tell the truth.He led us to believe in his sobriety.How sad his legacy will be drug addict instead of great actor.He could have been honest.Those of us that have struggled would have stood by him.
@@adriantrusca1245 Shut up.
Wow the thing he said about wanting his mother's attention is powerful..we parents have no idea how our small gestures are huge for our kids. I will always try to remember this for my little one..
This part BROKE MY HEART!!! 😭😭😭💔💔💔
@@sharinmythoughts2510me too!
...yes, it is really important, and it's also a huge reason as to why the addiction takes over. Parents' love is so important to a child, and has a lifelong impact.
As a parent thankful for the advice like this given to me, to intentionally get on your chill speed around them and NOTICE them. Miracles occurred when I did that around my little one. They feel seen and that love sinks deep in them.
Yes!
this interview helped me make peace with him passing. he, obviously, finally had a goal, had forgiven himself, and despite of his health issues he still was witty and still a beautiful person who helped a lot of us. Thank you Matthew
A cautionary tale for all of us. He went to get help and his helpers killed him
His honesty & courage defined him, not his addiction. I feel that his self-deprecation was, as well as a coping mechanism, an enduring sign of his humility & his humanity, no arrogance whatsoever. So, thank you, Matthew, for being a Friend, to struggling addicts everywhere. You are so adored, greatly missed already & your dazzling light of love will shine forever more. Amen.
Very well said! Every word is so true.
I agree so well said. Rest peacefully matthew prayers to his family
I so agree.
❤
Parry was a bum who attempted to pay his way out of addiction thru getting pi55ed and spending millions on FrAudian shrinks (todays equivalent of confession). A55hole gave false hope to weak & vulnerable pi55heads everywhere. Prolly rotting in hell for it right now
His opening story brought back a memory. When I was 8, I saw my aunt giving my 3 year old cousin sips of beer at a family gathering. I was shocked and questioned her doing that. She chastised me, saying, "Oh it's good for him". He drank himself to death by the time he was 30. I guess at 8, I was wise beyond my years.
Damn.....
Oh that's so sad, I'm sorry for him😢
My dad would give us beer at dinner as kids
Rest in peace to the man who shaped my personality and childhood. While Friends wasn’t the greatest show of all time it was a form of comfort when I didn’t have it. Forever never meant forever, it’s just remembering our yesterday with every single day after. May he rest knowing that he was not only just an actor, but as an icon of an era.
It was and is and will be the greatest show of all time
@@shay3783Amen. I know of no show that people have watched over and over again.
Of all time...lol...do you think in 100 - 200+ years, they'll know the TV show friends?
@@edwardr5084 if the earth would be having human presence...sure
@@edwardr5084People still watch it almost 30 years later so the possibility is there.
His transparency and harsh honesty here about his addiction will stick with me forever. It's not easy. RIP brother.
FRIENDS has been my warm security blanket whenever I have been in dark places. It has and will be my therapy in deep distressing times. RIP Mathew, you are and will always be my favorite. 😫😫😫😫😩😩😩😩
I feel the same, over the years friends has given so much comfort
💔💔💔 me too
So true ❤
His book is incredibly powerful to other addicts. It feels like he was given one last mission to help as many people as possible, whilst sober, before he had to go. The book, and these interviews that he did to publicise them, will absolutely save lives.
I agree!
Well said ... only just in time before he died. Sad.
@@sharonmorine5407 There is a free audio book of it on TH-cam.
@@sharonmorine5407 I hope you do still read it Sharon - I don't know if I read it as the legacy he wanted to leave when I read it before he passed away, but it certainly feels like that's what it is now. It deserves to be read by many, for years to come.
He was never sober, he was a liar and a drunk/druggie. He had everyone fooled
What a courageous man to speak so openly on his personal pain and struggles, all in an effort to help others.
And I am thinking more & more about Jim Carey how he has been so frank about depression & struggling at various stages. People heed icons & when it's a person who steps up to help people. Oh, he's after mentioning Jim Carey...rest in Peace Matthew Perry.
I believe when you make it through the hell he did, he was incredibly grateful and it was important to him to help others.I also think it was helpful for him. Despite his addiction illness, he truly seemed like a pretty wonderful guy.
The bravest man I'll ever know. This man is bearing his soul to the world. I've been in recovery for 30 years, and it's not easy. This one hit hard. It's like I lost my best friend. You will be missed beyond measure Mattew Perry 😢
Completely agree with you😢
Matthew Perry made huge wholesome deeds by opening up in his memoire, interviews to help people with addiction. This will go a long way even after his passing. He has a good and big heart. RIP Chandler/Matthew.
Miss mathew all ready, 😢😢🇬🇧🙏🏿
God Bless His Soul! ✝️🙏😥📿🕊
Depression made him choose that path...cause he did not feel better like normal people.
I was a full blown addict/junkie for 13 years and i know exactly the struggle he went through and addiction doesnt care what your age is or what race you are, addiction has one purpose in the end and that is to ultimately take your life in every sense of the word. I lost everything and everyone and then i was reborn the day my daughter was born, she saved my life. I will never use again cause my baby girl needs her daddy in her life forever. To all the addicts out there, i feel your pain, but believe me, there is hope and there is a way out of that life, please dont let yourself be just another statistic. Your life means something, believe in yourselves like i chose to believe in myself.
Now THIS IS BEAUTIFUL! ❤ LOVE SAVED YOUR LIFE 💓 I LOVE THIS!! People like you should SHARE THIS STORY. Celebrities aren't the ONLY ONES who make a difference. Souls like you!!! And thank you and God Bless and thank you for THIS BEAUTIFUL Share and TESTAMENT that turned your life around 💕💖 👏 BRAVO! PLEASE GET OUT ON LINE and share this. BLESSINGS 💞🙏
I am so happy for you! Our oldest struggled for years, but is currently doing extremely well. One day at a time is what they always say, but she used to say that and end up back to rock bottom. Now she says never again. I'll always worry, but I try to spend more time being grateful for how well she's doing right now.
Keep fighting . Congratulations on sobriety
I don't care about you at all. :)
@@adriantrusca1245 This comment is extremely rude. I don't understand why you felt the need to make it. It's also strange that you included a winky face.
RIP Matthew! You helped so many of us addicts find help and ourselves. We will miss your comedy but more than anything your beautiful heart!
💜
Bye buddy
Fly high 🕊 Matthew Langford Perry (August 19, 1969 - October 28, 2023). You brought millions of people such joy with your talent and saved millions more by sharing your story. Rest easy friend. 💔 You'll never be forgotten.
He was on epsteins plane wake up!!! Got his nasty neck snapped at GITMO
As a woman who has struggled with depression and anxiety for most of my life, I had the EXACT same experience when I got tipsy for the first time at 20. I literally thought "This is how normal people must feel". I've since gone through periods where I drink way too heavily but I'm trying to stop because I could easily picture myself spiraling in a similar manner as Matty. Mental health problems and addiction are no joke. RIP Matty. 🥺 Gone too soon 🪽❤️
I hear you loud and clear. May you win this battle. Sending you love for this journey.
I am so sorry to hear that, keep going with your sobriety, you’re strong ❤ Wish you all the health and happiness
May God bless you. ❤
Best wishes & positive affirmations to you as the journey to sobriety, healing & health.
Same with me. Turned on the right switch, turned off the ones I didn't want on. Normal
my wife and I are so saddened by Matthew’s death and we weren’t even avid watchers of the friends series when it was on. But there’s something about his honesty and vulnerability that is touching and inspiring.
Well said. Agree. He pretty much bore his soul
So true...such inner strength to do so...
Matthew, may not have realised at the time, that he was helping people that watched friends. He entered into so many homes, DV homes, Abusive homes, poor homes, people battling an illness, grieving home, etc and for just that 20min some people/children were able to have escapism, peace, hope or whatever friends episodes did to the individual. His life impacted so many and sometimes you don’t always know how . Rest peacefully Matthew 🫶🏼🌟🕊️💫🙏🏼
This is so true. I was bleeding and cramping whole pregnant from a high stress situation, and I intuitively knew to relax instead of think about it and go to a doctor. I laid down and said to my husband, “Just put on friends and don’t talk to me.” I had the series on DVD, just put one disc in after another until it stopped. As my son was growing up, we continued to utilize that that show for stress relief.
@@RachelAnn27same with me. All the sleepless nights ,friends was thr only thing which got me through
Rest in peace Matthew Perry 💔 You will be very missed!
Mathew seemed to have reached a good place before his passing. He seemed happy and had a focus for what was important to him so I’m glad he made it there. His acting work will be remembered and celebrated. His advocacy will be appreciated and his openness and honesty will continue to help people. Condolences to all his loved ones. Rest in Peace Mathew, you will be greatly missed.
This man knew he was going to make a difference in people's lives after his passing. I'm happy they got Matthew Perry House foundation going. This will be a conversation starter and could help others for years to come. He knew what he was doing. He truly wanted to help people. He's very honest and funny. I listen to the audio and find myself chuckle. I can relate to alot of what he's saying. Rest easy Matthew. You're work here on earth is not done. It's not going unnoticed.
The only difference matthew made was the scam he pulled over Americans eyes and claiming he was sober
He hardly made a difference in anyone's life except to show how you can pull the wool over people's eyes, Matthew was a drunk and a druggie and never got sober
Rest in peace Matthew. I grew up watching Friends. There was never a dull moment. You brought so much life to Friends. Thank you for your humor and quirky personality. You will be missed.😥
There are some celebrity deaths that just hit you so strongly. You’re attached to their characters and then their actual personalities. You bind with moments in your life and their shows or movies or even their true personalities. Matthew and Chandler are both incredibly special and important for so many moments of our lives. This one hurts and it hurts bad. Poor man suffered so deeply. I truly hope he’s resting somewhere filled with love.
So very true. His death bothers me so much. There are not enough words. Matthew was so very special. I think that none of us except his close family and friends knew all of his struggles. Such a tragedy, that this wonderful man lost the battle.
I'm feeling the same. This is the first death since River Phoenix, that has really hit home. Matthew Perry and his character, Chandler, represent my generation. I see so many of my friends in him. He is only a few years older than me, and I think that is part of why this hurts so much. We are getting older, and we are not invincible. Those of us who partied hard or maybe haven't taken the best care of our bodies are finding that it eventually catches up to you.
RIP dear Matthew Perry. You will be missed more than you could ever imagine ❤
His death really did seem to hit a lot of people hard.
Drugs and alcohol sure didn't help with Matt's long term health, but he also took that damned shot and promoted it with t-shirts on his Instagram. People are in total denial about it. There are a ton of people young and old prematurely dying, or, they had successfully battled health issues and then after taking the shot, their cancer in remission, etc went wild, like Jimmy Buffett's and Suzanne Somers. Teens dropping dead all over the country from heart attacks. It's insane, and yet all of you zombies just believe all the liars in mass media who get tons of money from Big Pharma. A war crime has been committed by Big Pharma, the govt and mass media and none of you care or will even look into it. Sad.......
@@MiriamAppelbaum+5
I grew up in a home with two alcoholic parents and also struggled with addiction myself and everything he says resonates so strongly. Going to miss this man ❤ RIP
Be encouraged. I pray the best for you. I found someone who completely set me free , from all my problems. Jesus. Not advising religion but seek Jesus , the Son of God, God incarnate who truly sets people free.
@@lizcutajar9352stop foisting religion on people, it's so fuckkn rude.
@@lizcutajar9352lol. Ah yes. The imaginary man
@@lizcutajar9352 Amen!
🙏🏾 ❤RIP Marty
I always got this sense that he didn’t ever feel like he was good enough & that makes me so sad bc he was good enough. He was and will always be an inspiration. He went through hell and back & the fact he stood up every day & was able to bring Chandler Bing to life & create this iconic character that helped millions of us around the world deal with anxiety and depression. Thank you, Matthew for helping so many addicts & thank you for helping us deal with our mental health through Chandler Bing. You will never ever be forgotten. RIP.
Matthew Perry has made me understand my alcoholic brother for the first time in decades. After years of being angry at him for his alcoholism. In tears that he’s now gone. RIP you beautiful man.
Have you tried Al-Anon?
@@MusicMatters1983sadly unlikely to help until his Brother wants that help.
@@alliejones9864 Al-Anon is help for people who are affected by someone else’s drinking. It’s not for the alcoholic.
I've struggled myself for years from addiction. This breaks my heart man. I was always pulling for Matthew. Rip Matthew Perry🙏
stay strong my friend
Brother same. Pick up a phone and call.
Same here but with sleeping pills. I have tried every drug never got addicted and never smoke a cig in my life. Since Xmas of 2009 till now every night I take (8-15 per night) 50mg of those sleep gel pills. There were a few times where I took 20-25 in one night.
Please continue trying. He left this world clean, he was trying.
As a fellow addict, I’m sending you a huge virtual hug ❤️❤️ I’ll pray for you
What a brave man, to bare his soul so honestly to others, so sorry he had to fight that terrible fight for so long, RIP Matthew, Godspeed.
The stories of his infancy, youth and how he was raised show just how much it was responsible for his addiction.... its so sad. it shows just how unbelievably important childhood is to creating a content, healthy adult.
This may be true, and I’m sure it didn’t help him any, but tons of addicts are raised in solid homes and still have the disease. I think that’s his point with emphasizing it being a disease, sometimes it just happens because of genetics.
hard to believe doctor's could give barbiturate to a baby! 70's....
Very sad to be watching this after his passing. He was not like most celebrities, he seemed like such a genuine person with a good soul. I'm sure we will all be forever grateful for what he brought to this world, whether it was laughter, smiles, or help for those with addiction. Rest in peace Matthew Perry.
Thats the thing, people have a pre conceived notion that addicts aren't good people. When in fact they are the best people because they have so much empathy and understanding of others. I just wish the stigma of addicts was understood more by non addicts
Same
@@sarahcashmore6736But that doesn't apply to all addicts is the thing. There are those who are some of the worst people to begin with and addiction makes them worse.
He’s dead? Wow that passed me by
@@Nina5144You been under a rock? Pretty odd to have missed this.
Rest in Peace, Friend. You were a big part of my life...every Thursday...for years. You did good, Matt. May God keep You and Bless You.
When he teared up and said "it’s not fair" that crushed me. It really is not fair. He deserved to live the rest of his life in peace. Maybe find true love? Idk but I’m heartbroken. I truly hope he’s at peace on the other side, he’s been through enough he certainly deserves it❤
I admire Matthew's vulnerability and that he opened up in the way he had about something so personal. Rest easy💔
As a therapist I find his analysis and message so powerful. You are helping and will help so many people, I am deeply sad for this world to miss your beautiful presence. But you're also bringing a lot of resources for people who don't feel aware or resourced enough to understand how complex and hard is do deal with addictions. Sending you a big hug from here. ❤
His story always makes me cry... What this poor man had to live through and stuff he had to endure .. RIP Mathew Perry.... ❤❤❤❤
Agree, my prayer is he is in heaven, at peace
This makes me just want to hug him. Hug him to thank him for his bravery, his honesty, his heart, and his talent that he shared with us all. Growing up with an alcoholic teaches you it isn’t a choice. It is a disease and like he said, it doesn’t mean you’re weak by any means. My heart break for his family and friends, because I know the pain of losing a recovering alcoholic once they are getting their life back on the right path, are repairing relationships and have a vision to accomplish so much more. His words will live on and continue to heal more lives long after we are gone.
He will not only be remembered for Friends, he will be remembered for his beautiful heart and his ability to make others smile and laugh even though he was suffering. Such a beautiful soul. He will be so missed. We love you Matthew, rest in peace.
Still can’t believe he is gone.
The lives he touched with his book and personal help are A THOUSAND times more important than any movie/show he's done :)
What a pleasure it is listening to a naturally funny person.
I too am an addict/alcoholic with 19 years sobriety this month and I can relate to everything he has talked about. I am so proud of Matthew
and I wish him a lifetime of health and peace.
Be proud of yourself too.
I'm so proud of you. God bless you Holly!
YOU are a true hero. Regular folks, battling and surviving, inspire us ALL. The rest is just a different vocation. Thank you for sharing. Truly, really...hero. You saved your life and many family and "friends" lives. :) Bless you!!
Me too.. It's true though it's a daily fight even being clean for years it never goes away.. Sober and clean is a daily fight no matter how many years clean people have
Some will have 10 yrs clean and relapse. Mental illness and addiction go hand In hand is usually self medicating for mental illness pain and trauma. x
I wish you a lovely lifetime of health and peace too. You are inspiring.
As a guy with substance abuse problems, im gonna miss him. Straight up watching Friends rn. His interviews lately have touched my heart. RIP friend:)
I have a daughter who has struggled with addiction issues. She's clean and sober now, but I'll always worry. I hope you are able to beat it and live a great life.
Praying for you, my friend. I suffered much of my life as well.
After watching this, I have a new respect for Matthew. I've been through a lot of the same addictions especially alcohol. And also came close to death at one point. But after recovering from an aortic aneurysm dissection I went clean but relapsed. Then finally quit drinking and am now 4 years totally clean. But it's a real disease that haunted me for 25 years. I'm 53 now and still struggling with my health but doing much better. Rip Matthew Perry 😢
@mercygrace7347 I do. Congratulations and thank you.
Excellent effort Littleman. Maybe the wrong words but well done. Keep going ❤
Never give up.
@@mercygrace7347 Amen
Keep going...
Oh how I wish that my son could of heard this interview.....my son passed away in May this year, he was 44. He had kidney failure. Now Matthew has passed.....my heart is broken. May our God's peace surround you always😢😢😢😢
So sorry for your loss 🙏🏽
It's crazy how shortly after his book released he passed away. One last project which will help out some struggling folks out there. Sad day. Rest well, Matthew.
So true, his book was released 11/1/2022, almost a year ago. Matthew, may your soul be at peace now🙏🏽.
Actors have died right before their film is released. It is creepy. But, we must understand we all have a check out date, already determined.
And it doesn't matter what is going on in our life. When are date death arrives, we die.
I hate that he is gone, but my feeling in him leaving...mission here accomplished.
@@TheAislynnRose We all gave a check out date. And when that day arrives, we check out.
Its almost as if he could sense his time was near but he wasn't gonna let that stop him and still lived life to the full and wrote a wonderful book. The man is amazing... He's definitely left his mark on the world. RIP Matt
Oh boy, Matthew is actually self-aware. That bid with his mom and him wanting to turn around, that is extremely vulnerable to say. I can't wait to read his book.
She didn't turn around..heartbreaking for a little kid, and it has stayed with him all his life. So sad.
@@kathybastow7469 Yes, I wish more parents knew how many things can impact a child. But he is aware, and hopefully he knows that he deserves people that do turn around.
Agreed, and so many of us can relate to the damage 💔 and impact those things can have on our psyche 😢 he is right as an adult you find it continues.
Me too, I cannot wait to read but unfortunately I am poor.
@@المجنونخوردابس- get the audio book from the library.
Im 31, i struggle with alcohol. Im a functioning alcoholic and i dont want to be. Its a Wednesday night and im currently drunk - i have to work at 830 am tomorrow. My dad gave me my first drink when i was 13 while i was going through my parents divorce. He didnt do it in malicious, it was your typical give a child a sip and they wont like it. But i liked it, it made me feel good, it taught me problems can be solved by getting drunk but as an adult i know this isnt true. I didnt want this or this problem. I still struggle with my addiction but i can feel your pain
Prayers for u
How are you doing? Hope you're OK.
Did you look for AA meeting near where you live?
I think that would be the first step
This is the most touching interview I have ever seen! Matthew Perry was evidently not only a brilliant actor - he is such a real person! Such honesty, such humility, such goodness-of -heart! The world has lost a very special person! Yes Matthew - you will never be forgotten for your Friends moments; but I know that even though you are no longer in our presence - you will continue to help many in their struggles to live as normal a life as they are able with this terrible disease! Thank you for all those special words you have left behind!
IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!
This interview is one of the best I have ever watched in my entire life. The host asked the right questions and gave the guest the time to share the details that led to the main answer. Kuddos.
I love how Matthew Perry presented himself as a common, normal human being who had a "disease," made a mistake, didn't understand what he's doing, or what's happening, and correcting those mistakes, and on top of that, offering help who are having the same journey as him.
I watch F.R.I.E.N.D.S. whenever I'm depressed and anxious. I always adored/hated how Chandler Bing is using sarcasm and timely jokes as a defense mechanism and JANICE! And I never knew MATTHEW PERRY aside from being Chandler Bing.
Now, knowing a bit of your personal story, I'd remember you as the MATTHEW PERRY, also a human who has his own ghosts and struggles despite of, like you said, "achieving your dreams."
Rest in peace, and thank you for being a part of my life simply by sharing the lessons you've learned in this journey called life and FRIENDS.
I feel you...
I somewhat disagree, like ok the interviewer asked good questions but every conversation just felt like Matthew chucking an interesting topic down a black hole. Like there was no back and forth, just a one sided volley of questions. Like "so in the book you mentioned doing blah blah.." "Yeah " "So anyway in the book you also mentioned ... " Like bro just make some interesting remark about what Matthew just said lmao.
@@Adi-mj3cb It's his "the best interview" in life what he have ever watched, not everyone is smart/knowledgeble, don't worry he might've talked out of emotion,..
@@j_vinsmoke2576 I have no idea what you just said. All I'm saying is that the interviewer could have engaged in actual conversation rather than just asking questions.
Rewatching this after learning that he's gone. We never truly know someone's struggle but Matthew decided to share his in his book. His pain was indescribable but I hope he can rest now. I'm speechless and so sad for his suffering when he brought so much laughter and light to other people. He reached true enlightenment and self-awareness here and I'm glad of that. He came full circle but I'm also dismayed that his story ended like this. He truly made it his mission to understand his disease and the affliction he was so tortured by.
Beautiful!!! My daughter is 5 years sober, I am so grateful. I hope this video gets out to everyone, especially those it will help.❤
Wow, phenobarbital at 30 days old... No wonder that first night of drinking at 14 felt like "this is how good normal people must feel." His cellular memory was, no doubt, responding to something he knew as an infant. I truly appreciate his honesty about all of this. I have a new-found respect for Matthew, and I wish him well!
You have literally no clue what you’re talking about.
And he’s not sober here
Lets get something strait. The phenobarb did not make him an addict by any stretch. But it did feed that inner desire at such an early age and might have had profound effects later on.
@@EnDependance123 let's get another thing straight. You're trying to refute the claim just to basically support it in your very next sentence lol
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Mmmmm...... no not really. There were millions of babies given the same medication and they didn't grow up to be addicts.
Also the whole "this must be how normal people feel" would simply have been the removal of inhibition, social awkwardness and anxiety due to being drunk.
What a thoughtful, well spoken gentleman. His sudden death is so bloody tragic. 😢
My wife and I struggle with alcoholism. It’s getting to the point where we are very aware of how our 2 sons perceive our actions and we’re battling the urge night after night. They don’t deserve drunk parents. Thats my motivation. Im looking for additional reinforcements all the time. Glad I found Matthew’s interview.
I hope you and your wife are doing well today. Please know that there are people who can help you. One way to start getting help is online AA meetings. Wishing you two all good things.
Thank you for sharing, this shows your heart is in the right place. Be strong because you know you are! Sending you love 💕
I know alcoholism is hard, my mother was an addict, and I have been addicted to several substances. Please, for the sake of your children, be strong for them if not yourself. Both of my parents were drug addicts and it rubbed off on me and my siblings, and now we struggle with the same issues. There is no shame or blame here, but while you still can, be the parents they need you to be. It's already amazing you are trying to get better. Good luck and stay strong.
Look away from Hollywood idiots and ONLY look to your children for inspiration. Your children are innocent. Celebs are tainted.
I’ve always questioned whether addiction is a substance issue or trauma that isn’t dealt with. If you’re experiencing or living with past trauma trying to fight the uphill battle of addiction is almost impossible. If we deal with the problems first then the addiction is easier to tame imho.
We all struggle to some extent from addiction. And it's by design. Phones, drama, sugar, endorphins, etc. Thank you Matthew.
You have no clue what he is talking about… if you compare his addictions to the ones you listed.
@@mgm579nope YOU are the one without a clue. This toxic bullshit has no place in this world. Who the hell are you to dictate how someone else finds sobriety?
@@mischaraine1645phone addiction is somewhat relevant but yes you can still be highly functional with phone addiction. But depression can still increase because of phones
Imagine you have a severe panic attack, and severe case of the flu everytime you put your phone down, or don't eat sugar, lasts for 30-60 days and that's what opiate addiction is like.
@@Julia-nl3gqi mean.. eberyone is addicted to something, conditioned to something, clings to something. if that was taken away you'd lose your mind, lose yourself, and spend your life trying to get it back. everyone is striving to find meaning. going to drugs is the worst of it but going to other things that mentally and physically harm you can destroy your brain and your livelihood too. some people don't have access to drugs or money for alcohol. they find something else or take it out a different way. drugs and alcohol are the RESULT of depression and trauma and loneliness. they a way of punishing & rewarding yourself for feeling like you're not normal and don't fit in.
Matthew Perry was my middle school and high school celebrity crush. My mom and I never missed an episode of Friends. Chandler could always make me belly laugh out loud. Matthew could convey so much with just his face and body. He made being a comedic actor looks effortless. In interviews, he always seemed like such a smart, kind, warm and giving person. I’m shocked and heartbroken. Like when Robin Williams died, I feel like a small part of my youth has disappeared. Thank you, Matthew Perry, for the light you brought to the world. Your talent with live on forever.
What a beautiful soul. So honest and vulnerable, compassionate and funny at the same time. He will be deeply deeply missed. 😢❤ Rest In Peace Matthew
Matthew should do podcasts. He handles himself in a smart, funny, humble, honest way. His story is definitely touching and inspiring and can help so many people
Fantastic idea 💡 ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
What an inspiration. So glad he wrote this book before his untimely death. He indeed will be helping people, long after his life here on Earth.
Matthew is not helping anyone, he was a liar, he had everyone fooled thinking he was sober
His point about the guy in rehab saying "It's not your fault" making such a huge difference for him is gold! It's the first step toward ridding oneself of the self-hatred and disgust that come with one's addictive behavior. I'm so sorry Perry has died and won't be able to continue helping others.
yes, the guilt we live with makes it so much more painful to stop the behavior that caused it it in the first place. That's why we are insane, locked in an endless cycle of destruction
I have a feeling his passing will help hundreds of others who didn’t know about this part of him that are also struggling
This is just the beginning
It is very sad but I think this has had such an impact he will continue to help people.
In my 20s a psychologist said those words to me and they changed my whole life
I feel like I lost a good friend. He will be missed. What a life he lived. He walked through the fire and lived to talk about it. I wish his family and friends comfort and peace. Much Love.
Matthew Perry is a survivor...I am a recovering addict...I was addicted to crack cocaine for 18 months....My husband introduced me to it at 51 years old...I am responsible for the decision.I quit cold turkey. No relapses !!3.5 years clean...I got this book because I relate to Matthew Perry...I cried all through..started binge watching Friends...cannot tell you how much Matthew Perry helped me understand my addiction and share his hell and back story..I pray every day for Matthew and I hope he knows that God is the one that saved him!!?
Congratz on that that. I never saw how cocaine could be addictive. I always found it rather boring. The same with opioids. I could never get it. But when it comes to alcohol and going through withdrawl I took it all in, I saw throwing up blood as the norm, the shakes and worse were just something to deal with, alcohol is life was my attitude. Now I only have at most 40 drinks a week. This is after over 30 years of abuse save for some sober breaks forced and some on my own. We all have our own weaknesses. Stay strong, I wont.
Wait a minute...you were "addicted" (as you said) for year and a half and you relating yourself to MP experience! Cold turkey on cocaine?! After 18 months?! 😆😆😆! More likely you were going "cold turkey" from ammonia or baking soda 😆. The only problem you have is you did it at 51! That should be your real concerns! You're just an attention seeker who's living her 20's in her 50's! OMG 🤦🤦🤦
Ann, may I ask why you said Yes to crack cocaine please?
I'm studying Nursing so have a professional interest in people's lifestyle choices.
I'm glad you are making that choice and stand strong to such a difficult fight! It inspires me
I honestly seek advice, i'm not an addict fortunately, but currently i'm having problems with binge drinking, I started doing it 4 years ago. 2022 I was doing better with it, My boyfriend even was proud, because he became the target of My binging, he lived through it and had to deal with me, so obviously he would bacome upset when I lost control, and very understandable, cause he had to deal with My Bad decisions. So, he was happy that I was being able to control it better during 2022. Now 2023 started and i've already binged multiple times. The change of year always gets me, because i become more vulnerable and tired. And noticed that when I binge I stopped targeting My boyfriend, so he doesn't realise when I loose control anymore, it's like i'm trying to fool him, and I think that's scary. This year I want to stop it, for once and for all, because I feel like if I don't stop it now, it could develop in to something much worse.
What advice do you have for when I feel like i'm about to binge?
Stay strong 👉
"This is what normal people feel like all the time "..... such an incredibly true statement. This pill is what I've been missing my entire life. Thats what so many addicts assume. A part is missing and that substance is what you needed to be the "better " you. Sadly, it's the complete opposite...
RIP Matthew Perry. Feel no more pain
Matthew suffered from abandonment issues which left him feeling “less than, never enough “ which propelled him to find something to fill that void in his life.
This is heartbreaking. He still had so much life to live and good to do. I hope he left this world knowing that his legacy will live on and he will continue to help so many people through his book and by being so open and honest about his struggles. Rest in Peace, Matthew Perry. You were a good person, and so funny. You will be greatly missed.
31:20 is a beautiful moment. After being so honest and raw, it's wonderful he was able to hear that we still love him. And despite being in the middle of a heavy topic, he was still able to make a joke. This man was truly talented and we are forever honored to share the world with him. ❤
He was truly an amazing man. One of my idols now, especially with myself being an alcoholic. Matthew's openness about everything has truly helped me and I am sure countless others. Amazing man in and out
@@dylanyoung5490 you got this!! Don't give up!
@dylanyoung5490 Make no man your idol.
I just started listening to his book again last week, it has already helped me so many times. His life and the way he talks about everything he’s gone through is beyond incredible.
Chandler made me laugh, but Matthew Perry saved my life.
You’ve shared your life, love and laughter with us, there’s no way I can thank you enough. ❤
Thank you Tom Power and the remarkable interview with Mathew Perry. It’s worth the rewatch. We love him so much. This hits hard 😢
I love this interviewer. Not intrusive and asks good questions.
I'm so glad I stumbled on this interview. What a lovely man. Rest In Peace
His energy was simply golden in so many ways.
I'm 55 and just lost one of my longest, dearest friends to alcohol. Her brother died within that very same week from the same disease. She went from being the most charming, beautiful young 15 yr. old to looking like she was 20 yrs. older than she was and out of her mind. She actually had a house that caught fire this past winter and was still living in it so she could still drink. The last time I saw her there, she was outside, in her underwear, cursing her neighbors. It wasn't long after that she was removed by the city. She left behind 3 beautiful daughters. Please pray for her mother and her children, and me. I miss her.
How aweful I’m so sorry
@@marynywarriormom Thank you. It was awful but at the same time, she was ready to go and said so many times. I still miss that beautiful vibrant girl who was my friend. I appreciate your kindness.
Thanks for sharing, must be difficult for you. Sorry for your loss x
@@joannewebb9278 Thank you so much. It's difficult and some days it's a relief. She was out of her mind in the end. She fell off a porch onto a concrete landing. She landed on her head and never woke up. I expected she wasn't going to be with us much longer, but that was a shock. I do really appreciate your kindness.
@@tammieparrishmiller3669 I think for you to see the essense of who she is despite what happened in her life shows a true friend. Take care Tammie x
Read the Audiobook. It was shocking all he went through in the hospital with 16 surgeries and in a coma for 5 months. Love his authenticity. Will miss him.
Where can I find his audio- book??? I am not tech savie, so would you mind guiding me on how to find Matthews book!
(I'm so sorry for all of "Matthews suffering"!! He had such "great, great parents. His mom and Step-father, "Keith Morrison" (from Dateline).
So moving beyond words highly recommended
@@Rebeccanotprovided
Is Matthews book online somewhere?🤔
You can’t read an audiobook
@@mmmaaattt000😂😂
Watching this a little over a year from Matthews passing, you can see he was so perfect for the part in Friends. Such a shame, I hope he's in a better place now.
I cannot believe that this is how the story ends… after everything he’s been through… truly heartbreaking 😢
Right? So heart wrenching
I wish this was just an awful prank by Chandler and we could see Matthew again 😭
His story will live on in the recovery of all the people he's helped and the laughter he gave to many generations.
I am with you. How is it that he comes out on the other side of addiction only to pass away. It’s sickeningly unfair as he had so much more to give to those struggling with addiction. Hard to understand ….
He expressed so well the felling of depending. You will we really miss Mr Matthew
May he rest in peace. I thank him for using his experience and platform to shed light on this horrible disease.
Very sad news, I can’t believe it
RIP Matthew
You would be remembered forever all around the world in our hearts
You can only keep it by giving it away. Matthew helped give his sobriety to every person who read his book. To every person he "shared" with at a meeting. To every new comer that sits in our rooms. His work continues through the people that he has helped. Rest easy, Matt. Thank you for the laughs, Chandler.