Feel like every black person who grew up with a lot of white friends go through that growth at some point. When you realise they’re not laughing WITH you but they’re just laughing AT you
the fact that they subjected a literal CHILD to being harassed and mocked by a bunch of kids and called the N word just for "content" makes me sick. what the hell. i can't imagine how it feels to be bullied by a group both because of your race AND on national TV. that's awful. like. at that point it's not even "omg cringe", it's disgusting.
As a black girl who has kind of been in this situation it was so terrible I had to skip a few times. My stomach still feels weird. Why did the make this show??? Unrelated, love your pfp
It's seems like he internalized the narrative Bruno (and other assholes) push where if you just "don't react" than bigotry won't affect you. Which is so false, but it's really easy to fall into for a lot of marginalized people since it gives a false sense of control (if I can just learn the right mental state, this won't hurt anymore). It's so sad to see it happening to a young kid.
@@yambone635 plus kids that age inherently want to fit in. Hence the social and self esteem issues that come with being the only black friend, or going to a predominantly white school. There’s a whole spectrum of awful experiences one may go through.
@@Imxel21 ik, I'm not saying this was long ago, I'm just saying slavery in western countries was an extremely long era, slavery is still a big thing in a lot of other countries today, and racism obviously still persists
Lol.. this is why they need shows like this so when morons like Bruno speak that racist ideas can get corrected. Maybe someone watching will learn something or feel stupid when they hear stupidity like Brunos rant there.
He talked about it the way my parents talked about "The art thing" to minimalize it and make it seem stupid, it's very patronizing and feels gaslight-y
@@Magst3r1 however, current white people (not JUST white people, but white people are the oppressors) _should_ be held accountable for their racist actions. That includes microagressions, and being passive when someone else is being racist.
@@zetjet9901 shouldn't all people, not just white people, be held accountable for their racist actions. Even if white people are the majority, at least in North America, almost even group has racist people who should held accountable for their actions
When the kid(s) said _"you're_ the one who told us it's okay" to Nick is so manipulative and cruel. This is bullying _and_ racism _and_ victim-blaming. I felt genuinely sick watching that. Also, if someone says they don't care about something but then they come back saying they thought about it again, and they actually aren't okay with it then just _respect_ that. It's the same thing with consent for sexual stuff - you may feel okay with something at first but then later you realise are uncomfortable, and it's okay to communicate that and say no. And the other party should respect your change in consent, especially with something related to _your own_ life, body or identity.
The worst part is he was basically peer pressured into being ok with it the first time. It's not even that he thought about it and changed his mind. He was clearly not ok with it in the first place
the word you are looking for my man is gaslighting, it's crazy that kids can use that shit, when I was a kid I guess I was super lucky as I never met malicious people like that. I was so sheltered it honestly was a shock becoming an adult and learning that people like this exist. Shitty stuff.
Plus u can see that his wife and daughter look at him really badly whenever he's like "I'm a good husband and father unlike u n words" and the wife and daughter is like "no you aren't, sit down"
Brian is honestly the father we all deserve to have. Parents play a HUGE role in childhood development, and having seen his kids on TV, he's a DAMN amazing father.
Holy hell… those two kids yelling the n-word over and over… Hits *way* too close to home. Too many kids back in high school who thought it was just being “edgy” to be racist.
I used to be that. I like to spend my time attempting to educate the edgelords now, because it's a sad life for a kid, and some of us don't grow out of it
I guess it's like how when you're in elementary school and first learn about curse words, you think it's hilarious to just keep yelling "ASS! BITCH! DAMN!" at everyone all the time, so then you learn about the n-word and you think it's extra hilarious to shout it all the time, but since you're older you know WHY it's bad to say so it's extra hilarious to keep saying it. I mean it's dumb as hell, but that's the logic I'm assuming goes into people saying it over and over again as teens.
The etiquette class kids were already a bunch of twats, but I was NOT prepared for what Nick had to go through. I also want to condemn the showrunners for making him go to an etiquette class (which is NOT a normal thing for the vast majority of American white kids), because it introduced him to so much derision and denigrating from the get-go. Like Jordan said, it's basically a class to say "No, the way you normally act is WRONG and needs to CHANGE!"
No fr cuz of all the predominantly white spaces you could go to, they pick the one deeply rooted in deep southern antebellum culture. It's hard not to think that's deliberate
When you send a black kid to a "act like a civilized white person" class (let's not kid ourselves, that's pretty much all those establishments have ever been about), it HAS to be a deliberate way to stir shit. But of course, it's not reality TV if the showrunners aren't constantly shitstirring for content.
Yeah I had to take etiquette classes as a really poor southern person and it’s not normal dude. They put him through it specifically to humiliate him. I remember the classes as a white person humiliated me because I was clearly from a different socioeconomic and cultural background. The people who attend these normally are whack as fuck. I only did it because my great grandmother paid for it and wanted me to have a better chance for university and scientific fields of study.
for real. he would absolutely deserve it. he's being intentionally racist like he just wants to make the Black family feel uncomfortable on purpose. what a piece of shit
Ignorance and blatant racism is not the same. He went on the show to learn, he certainly did not hold back. I am sure on reflection, he learned a lot about himself and his questionable word choices...
@@michelleroselilley4637 They are indeed not the same. However he is not trying to learn, he is trying to justify his own personal biases towards certain issues with race and while there isn't necessarily a problem with giving your own opinion on a topic he will completely disregard all other points or arguments given to him. He may say he wants to learn but whether intentionally or not it is clear he isn't.
I'm not even black and I feel traumatized. That was some of the absolute worst second-hand embarrassment I've ever felt. I really wish I could unwatch this.
I rememeber they went om Oprah & talked about the show. I'm now wondering why Oprah didn't call them out but now knowing how Oprah is it doesn't surprise me
I really respect Nick’s parents trying to tell the kids genuinely why the word is hurtful and educating them effectively, even though some of the kids are talking over them. That’s a sign of a wonderful parent. Good on them, they seem lovely
Nick: "it doesn't bother me" *spends the entire scene doing self soothing gestures and making the face I make when I'm upset and my dad is yelling/being mean* God, this poor kid.
And I think the way they tried to talk to him afterwards was too aggressive. Instead of blaming him and getting mad at him for letting the kids say it, they should have explained it more and given him comfort. Because that “I don’t care” attitude is obviously a defense mechanism and you can tell that he is upset. By getting mad at him, it’ll make him more defensive instead of having that good teachable moment.
yeah i thought the mom losing her shit at her daughter in the other episode hurt but jeeeeeesus this one is like, i am actively attempting to melt into the floor just looking at it
that and his whole posture changed too. he was facing away from them, gritting his teeth and was overall stiff and highly uncomfortable looking. Obviously nick isn't a confrontational person despite the fact that those kids immediately thought he was after they'd found out that he's black, just everything about watching nicks part made me feel so bad for him
Bruno knew his rap was offensive and he literally prepared arguments to say that he isn't racist and that he's the victim. He was actively trying to offend the black family and get a reaction. But, they all just refused to give him what he wanted.
Rose, you can tell that she’s actively trying to unlearn 17 years of bullshit. The wife, you can tell she’s trying, she’s just failing by being overenthusiastic. Bruno, he’s a racist.
@@urmom-bb8fb Dad or Mom should’ve yelled at him for trying to put the blame on their son. The parents should’ve been shown the tapes too to see how all the kids basically made fun of him, his room, and what he likes, plus his culture. That kid just loves to talk too he wouldn’t let the parents correct him.
@@stacyh7528 i think Just like american psycho joker wouldn't work as black, because the character at this point is The "entitled White person getting revenge" trope
It never fails to astonish me that this is an actual show that’s been looked over by multiple and the still somehow ended up getting produced and published
The scene with Nick was so incredibly heartbreaking. Oh my God. Holy shit that almost made me cry. It brought back so many flashbacks to moments in high school where people thought they were "edgy" or "cool" for being openly racist or trying to explain to me that I should "stop being so sensitive" after explaining to them that they can't say the n-word because they're white or sing it in a song just because the artist did it. The pain in Nick's eyes cut right into my soul. It reminded me of so many moments where people treated me like I was a zoo exhibit and just touched my hair and I didn't know what to say or how to go about a situation like that so I didn't say anything but it deeply bothered me. God, I hope that he's okay. Being on that show sure must've done a number on his mental health.
i feel bad for the kids too. you know those behaviors are learned and not innate, they learn that shit from their parents and friends and don’t have enough people straightening them out. they just have other white people around them enabling them and black kids who act like it doesn’t offend them because that’s all they can do without sounding “sensitive” or “aggressive.” it’s a lose-lose. like someone just needs to smack the dogshit out of that one kid and boom!!! he probably will never say that word again no matter WHAT “environment” he’s in, whatever the fuck that means. the dad warned him that would happen too. i know they are just kids and kids do not understand the implications and long term effects of their actions but that does not mean they shouldn’t be held accountable (or slapped so hard the racism leaves their body). this whole series just sucks to watch. i hope nick and rose are okay and doing well as adults
Dude... Right. I gotta ask, what kind of state is the US in for this to be normal? I'm a white man living in South Africa, my family has lived here for at least 200 years now and I grew up living in a majority black society all my life. While there is a fair bit of racial tensions and some major cultural divides, we at least treat each other like people. Like damn dude. How can Americans possibly look at a black person and be so fascinated by your appearance that they want to pet you like an animal? I mean really, what kind of degenerate behaviour is that? Is it so foreign an idea there to just not mind people that look different or come from different cultures? Do they feel the need to explore some exotic obsession with anything that isn't the bland Caucasian culture or look they're used to? The way racism here differs from racism in the US fascinates and disturbs me. While we have plenty of resentments and paranoias going and forth here, it doesn't seem nearly as dehumanizing as the kind of racism over there.
@@knightmareza9478 honestly this is way more passive racism. Frankly it’s in almost any predominantly white neighborhood.(minus the extremely racist ones.)
One of my friends in middle school told me I was really smart for a black kid and that his dad was invited to the KKK. I don’t know how we stayed friends because he made me so uncomfortable.
shocking that the kids in a literal ETIQUETTE class are being this despicable. like do they not learn basic respect or even manners in their class?? wow
The way bruno doesn't even hear his hypocrisy in saying black dads are more likely to be out of the picture when rose is Carmen's daughter, not his. He wasn't even married to Carmen. Where's Rose's father, huh? The audacity. (Don't mean to imply an absentee father makes you lesser, just that it's ridiculous that he would imply that about black families when he's helping raise someone with an absentee father as well)
Right? Like, Bruno is living with Nick who's father is very present in his life and trying to teach him lessons about this whole thing. Meanwhile Rose is getting more out of this than Bruno ever could, no thanks to Bruno!!
Seeing Nick fold to the kids bulling him for being black reminds me of when I was in high school, I was a popular guy on the Football team. I'm first generation American my parents are from Mexico and I have tan skin, brown eyes, and black hair. I fell in love with a beautiful cheerleader she was white blonde, blue eyes, and had freckles. She very clearly liked me, she held my hand, kissed me, called me babe all the stuff couples do, but then I asked her out to the movies and she said "oh I can't like you like that. My parents would never let me, you know because you're so dark, but I like you. You're cool." I remember just feeling sick to my stomach. It hurt worse than if she had just told me she didn't like me, because she liked me, except for my skin, no matter what I did or changed about myself she would never love me. I broke up with her on the spot and she spread a rumor that I dumped her because I was gay, I guess she wanted to get ahead of me outing that she was a racist or something. I started dating other girls almost immediately and just tried to ignore what happened, but part of me is always cautious around white women like I'm disarming a bomb or something now. It sucks knowing that there's always a chance that people won't like me just because of the color of my skin, or that one of the first things I think about when a woman turns me down is maybe it's just my skin. Race is one of those things you just try to ignore until you just bump into it. I used to try "being more white" and just ignore my roots as a Mexican, but I've grown to realize that some people are just going to hate you and that's okay, because at the end of the day we live our lives to be around people we love not to lose ourselves to the people that hate us.
The whole bullying session with nick was literally heart wrenching to watch. He seems like such a nice, genuine kid. Im so sad for him. Also the Bruno scene was so painful to watch. The musician guy’s face was PRICELESS though, lol, he totally knew
Yeah, I already felt bad for him in the previous videos, and then this one was legit hard to get through. The way he just "wanted to be himself" but then once he came forward they were all racist or condescending. Hope he's doing alright nowadays.
Bruno never ceases to go up to a black person say "Hey I want to learn" then when he hears something he doesn't like he interupts and dismisses them. I've said this before but Bruno really is the personification of all white conservatives views on black people and it's so infuriating to watch. He even does the whole "Oh did I trigger you?" with the rap he showed them. It's says a lot about Bruno that he will show a rap video he did (basically demonizing the black community) to black people, knowing they wouldn't like it, with the express purpose of trying to get a reaction out of them to further cement his view that black people are too sensitive and have a victim complex (which even if they did get mad it wouldn't prove his view) AND THEN when people are like "Why are you demonizing black people." he uses the "Well I never said black." just to show that he NEVER wanted to have discussions in good faith with ANYONE around him. Bruno really does make me sick.
incredible, this was really well writen! i agree wholeheartedly! i wanted to add that its very manipulative to say or do things on purpose to get a rise out of people, especially if you're then gonna use that "outburst" against them in the future. wonderful post! ❤️
“That voice doesn’t match that face” BECAUSE HE’S CODE-SWITCHING???? I get these kids probably don’t know about that phenomenon bc most White American people speak English _only_ so I sympathize but...like I sit here knowing why they said that and when you know _they sound different because they’re modifying themselves to commodify you,_ it is just *painfully* clear why this is happening
@@spagetter I also love how Scots, which is essentially just English with a Scottish accent is violently defended as a separate language or a dialect but AAVE is just considered "an accent" or "talking wrong/ignorant"
@@CircusFoxxo I don't know about both of these debates, but I really do hate when people say "accent" with the implication of "talking wrong", like you said. It's very much "well, my way is clearly the right one". The utter refusal to see one's self from outside.
@spagetter I have a southern accent and talk with southern dialect IRL. I constantly leave mics in games muted and almost refuse to talk due to the number of redneck jokes or Deliverance references people make when I talk or "slow talk/southern accent = is dumb"... It just be how we tend to talk down here y'know? Like Bush's "nukulur" people make fun of is just how people talk in Texas lmao
@@CircusFoxxo Scots would be considered a patois which is its own genre of language. Technically making itself its own language while also being directly derivative and sharing a common base with a more popular form of the language. Essentially, makes it both its base language and its own separate language. There are several examples of this from all over the world, all types of Creole, AAVE, regional dialects, ect. These are all their own languages with unique sounds, words, and structures, just with a base language of something else.
You guys, black people, forcing me, a black person, to watch Bruno's rap video is the true definition of black on black crime. It's burned into my brain forever.
One of the worst (and most real) parts of the scenes with Nick and the white kids is that, when he first reveals he’s black, you can tell that they’re trying reeally hard to not seem awkward or offensive. But then as it goes on, even for just ONE DAY, they get more and more comfortable being racist around him, til they’re straight up throwing the n word around. Once they realize Nick is powerless to stand up for himself, they completely drop their fake acceptance.
i feel like the fake acceptance started to go when nick made the mistake of saying that they could say the word, and that he wasn't uncomfortable with it. i feel really bad for him there, as it felt like he trusted them enough to say something like that, only to have it backfire on him so bad. i hope that wherever nick is now, i hope he's doing better.
It really hurt to see Nick sit there surrounded by everyone saying that. Saying you don't care is a defense mechanism to avoid conflict. If you say you do care, they'll just hound you and ask why until you take it back so it stops
It's honestly changed my perspective on white people saying the n-word around me. I personally haven't had a seriously racist experience yet nor has any non-black person said the nword around me, but I used to say that I wouldn't mind them using it as long as it's not purposefully used to upset/dehumanize me. but, after seeing the discomfort on Nick's face after those car and dress up scenes, i kinda saw myself in him and realized it'd still make me uncomfortable regardless of if I give "permission" or not. no white person should use that as an excuse to start making light of the word.
@@choco_L8 honestly I thought like you but I never said it out loud to any of my white friends. Then one time by white friend said it while rapping Young Jeezy and I looked at him. He said “I’m just singing the song you know I would never…” and I responded with “I know you aren’t racist. But don’t say it. Just do not” and he looked me in my eyes, dapped me up and said “my bad” and I never heard him say it again. Even went to a concert with him and he still never repeated the nword.
@@macedaking it's great that your friend respected that boundary; I've never seen any non-black person who used that word react that with that maturity. at my work about a year ago, there was this white girl who used the n-word in front of a black shift manager in convo with her hispanic boyfriend. she pulled basically pulled the "I have black friends" card by using her boyfriend's race and her "background" (someone who lives in her area confirmed the neighborhood was not rough at all) as an excuse. she got fired 💀
this is spot on - being a minority literally surrounding by the majority as they “other” you is not the place most kids would feel safe confronting those issues. Also, Nick’s *trapped on a bus* for that entire clip so it’s not like he had an out to deescalate the situation
I’m not gonna say they’re super guilty yet, cause their brains aren’t fully formed. But they are easily old enough to understand it’s wrong, so they still deserve a verbal whooping
so apparently Carmen manages to be tolerable enough to make 1 black friend, but Bruno walked into this man's house and immediately made him uncomfortable.
Despite Nick saying it was OK, it definitely wasn't OK for those kids to say that word. I felt so bad for Nick here because he genuinely looked so uncomfortable the whole time. Those kids were so horrible to him... like with trying on his hats like it was a costume... not cool. How would they feel if someone invaded their personal space and impersonated them like a character? We can acknowledge differences and embrace who we are while still being respectful to ourselves and others.
Yeah that was honestly very painful to watch. He's only acting like he doesn't care because he wants to fit in, and he wants people to feel comfortable around him, and it just backfires on him horribly. I hate this show so much.
I KNOOWWWWW. he was so pure in his intentions and didn't even realize that he was walking into a lions den. The brunette girl and the blonde girl from the white family seemed to be his only allies there but even they weren't good at doing it.
@@queerios1077 I know but the blonde girl was technically trying to be nicer to him despite her silence so I kind of count her efforts even if they weren't very much.
"The middle aged person should have an opportunity to speak his or her mind as well." Bruno, when are you NOT speaking your fucking mind? All you've done is talk over everyone, constantly. If he's been reserved until now, I hate to see what a nightmare he is when he really says what he thinks.
And I would hate to see what he’s like when he’s mad. The other man was right that he’s probably insufferable to his wife or really anyone else close enough to him to see his worst side. Scary
I think Rose deserves more credit for ending up being as self aware as she is being raised by her 2 absolutely clueless out of touch parents. I’m team rose for life
I don't think they are her parents, thankfully; or at the very least, Bruno isn't related to her. From what I remember, Carmen and Bruno were dating before the show started. Idk where Rose was in that tho
This episode brought back memories of me (the only black kid in my class) enabling racist behaviour in an attempt to make the racially hostile environment more comfortable but that totally backfired within minutes just like a wildfire
Same and nobody should ever fault you for that. It's a survival tactic. Being the only black person makes you an easy target. People will try it with you when you're alone. It's pretty toxic.
I was homies with the one black kid in my school. I said something derogatory cause I heard kids say it all the time(when I was sleeping over at his house) and he broke down. Told me something along the lines of "I'm not suppose to hear that from you, you're supposed to be my friend" that shit stuck with me so hard. I always thought everyone was in the joke ya know? I'm sorry Ian much love man.
Yup, I went to a school with mostly white kids from second grade to college. And it wasn’t until I was in my late 20s and I was out of those situations that I realized how much internalized racism I had in myself. Situations like nick was in was almost the norm for me so that scene was realllly tough to watch.
I was reading the episode description on Wikipedia about this episode and they mischaracterized it so hard, it painted it genuinely as if Nick didn’t care when in reality he’s just trying to survive with this happening out of his control
It also looked like even if he was saying it was ok and such, he was very, very anxious/stressed looking, it's a matter of self preservation fueled anxiety, it reminds me of how often I'd say "No it's ok" when people would be bigoted related to me because I didn't want to be ostracized or worse.
Yeah. I used to be like that in high school before I knew any better. I remember uncomfortably laughing along when people made jokes about my religion and ethnicity.
Exactly it’s scary edit: also some black people are scared to retaliate especially since a lot of stereotypes of of them being angry or aggressive even if they're in the right
Honestly, no joke, this is really educating for me as a white girl. Cuz Jordan and Jarvis sometimes highlight things people have done to them that I dont usually think of. Like in one episode they said that kids touched their hair and said it ”feels like a sheep”. And they both had that experience. I dont go think of that everyday and it really sets things into perspective.
That whole scene with Nick deadass almost made me cry. As a black person (woman) it's just... it was hard to watch because this is GENUINELY how it feels being in a room full of white people. They just ask you questions, make fun of you and treat you like a fucking exhibit. Like you aren't a person. I will never NOT get mad at people who have a problem with Black people not being comfortable in a space where they're the only black person in a room or when they seek out other black people to be safe. It's just heartbreaking because he was so uncomfortable and basically begging them to stop and they thought it was FUNNY. It hurt. It hurt so fucking bad. I know how it feels to be the only black kid and being so uncomfortable in a situation where you just let them say the word and act like it doesn't bother you because you have no clue how to go about it. I know how it feels and it fucking hurts and to watch someone else go through it? It makes me wanna cry.
I'm sorry that you had to go through that. I absolutely despise the way people invalidate safe spaces. It's not special treatment. It's a necessity and everyone has the right to feel safe.
I agree, the scene with Nick was very hard to watch. I am white, so I won't even begin to imagine what it must be like for you, but noone deserves this. It is also just shocking to me that only one kid in the van said that the n word made her uncomfortable. It is very sad to see how the other kids ignored two people who were very clearly upset about this (even if one of them, ie Nick, hasn't fully processed what is going on or how he feels about it). This entire show just makes me feel icky. I also don't understand why Bruno and the mom feel like they need to be "black" to go to an African American community or to experience their culture. I personally love learning about the culture of others. I won't pretend like I am a part of their culture or that I am an expert about it, I just think its neat, and am always glad when someone corrects me about something that I did not know about.
its fucking horrible. im white and haven’t experienced this firsthand but you can see how uncomfortable he is. kids who act like that and they think theyre smarter and funnier than everyone around them
Do you want a hug? Or to vent? Or just someone to talk to? I can somewhat understand your pain. I'm transgender so there's a unique set of obstacles but some of my obstacles are very similar to yours, if not the exact same.
@sewer~rat I never said I could relate to everything. I just said some things. I know being Black and being trans are two different things, thus with their own forms of being discriminated against. There are still similarities from what I've heard from Black people (both trans and cis), but I know it's not a one-to-one comparison. Thanks for informing me and others, though. :3
I could have all the time in the world and I would never truly understand how an adult man wrote a racist “rap,” *filmed it*, and had the balls not only to show it to black people, but to allow it to be broadcast on *television*. Bruno is quite literally every problem with white America rolled up into one bald body.
If you need to explain victim blaming to someone, show them the clip of white kids explaining why Nick's at fault for giving them the n-word pass and, also, they refuse to stop saying it
I saw someone trying to defend the other Kids because "they are just kid how can you expect them to know better" and literally say its nik's fault as if he's not a kid too
@@ilpensatore1462 That argument is bunk. It's VERY EASY to not say slurs or derogatory language, even as a kid. The girls were even uncomfortable and refusing to say it when Nick (I believe that's his spelling) first said "It's okay".
It kind of feels like Nick was just 16 and trying to get through hell's busride and didn't really have the emotional maturity to really process how disgusting what happened to him was. He just felt like he needed to tuck his head in and survive and then needed to find a way to emotionally explain his inaction to himself. I feel like that need to justify it to himself could push him in the wrong direction, but that was brutal. It was revealing how little time it took that whole class to go from polite discomfort to full 4chan.
i think when he said he didn't care he really thought that was the truth. sometimes when you're the "other" in a group you don't think it's going to bother you until people start to pick on you "as a joke". when i was a kid i always told people that i liked being "the weird kid" and that i didn't mind not being able to understand or relate to most kids, but looking back on it i can see that i was just trying to convince myself that it was fine. i just wanted to believe that if i didn't get visibly upset than maybe people would accept me more and not spend so much time trying to other me. of course it didn't work but i was just a kid desperate to feel accepted obviously my experiences as a white person part of other marginalized groups aren't the same as the experiences of poc and shouldn't be seen as such but watching the kids gang up on nick like that while he just accepted it just really reminded me of what it was like in school letting people completely attack my existence because standing up for myself was dangerous and i just wanted people to like me and see me as normal and not an angry stereotype
Bruno is saying “Nick, you might in particular like this” in the tone an anime villain has when they’re taunting the protagonists I fucking can’t this man is a freak 😭
i hope nick is okay now. my heart is breaking for this kid - you can see him pushing his reactions/emotions down, and these white kids are just pushing them deeper. the way they immediately turned it around on him the next day, too... nick didn't encourage them to say the N word, he was pressured into acting like he was okay with it because he was in an extremely uncomfortable situation as the outcast. it's self-preservation. and the next day the same kids are simultaneously saying they didn't do anything wrong AND pushing blame onto nick. if saying it is okay, why did you need to find someone to blame? i need a 2022 update on all these people. i don't have hope for bruno but i'm curious and afraid for the kids in this show.
The fact those kids couldn't feel or see, hell even hear, he was uncomfortable and repressing it makes me sick. Like, they had no sympathy or empathy towards him. They really treated him like "The Black Friend" and "My N-Word Pass".
The way Bruno perfectly steers himself into mentioning as many stereotypes as possible and does it so casually amazes me. He brought the “dad if he’s around” thing out of fucking nowhere.
LITERALLY plus the fact that he brought up the “dad if he’s around” thing to a dad who is clearly extremely present in his kid’s life. like it was so ridiculous and unnecessary and just straight up racist lmao
The whole scene with Nick really hit hard for me. Sometimes when I'm with my family I put up with and enable transphobia and homophobia because I'm scared to see what happens if I try to stop it, so I can relate to feeling like you need to enable harmful bullshit to fit in or to be safe. And he looked so uncomfortable the whole time, I really hope he was okay after that.
i know this comment is more than like a year old but i can totally relate im a minor and im in a very religious family, so i have to like just sit there and listen to a lot of that shit and it takes the life out of me especially because i know i cant do anything about it and afterwards i have to sometimes like. take a couple hours to emotionally recover having to hide who i am and what i want is so taxing on me and i dont want to have to do it anymore
@@zoesusername I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. Sounds awful and exhausting. I hope you have someone in your life who knows and supports the real you!! 💛💚💙💜🧡
12:03 it stopped being funny real fast 😰 too real. And it REALLY explifies the stark difference of treatment. As soon as he revealed he was black, he gets cross examined and othered. His regular everyday items arent normal anymore, they're foreign cultural artifacts. 😔 Theyre just kids but holy fuck they picked this up from somebody.
Bruno is basically like, "I'm tired of being judged by the color of my skin. You wouldn't understand. I never owned a slave, so you can't experience racism."
oh god i just wanted to give nick a hug, the poor guy he was so uncomfortable with the awful racist bullying he was subjected to, but it took him a while to consciously realize that it was racist? im not sure but i feel like he was subjected to the idea of "black people overreacting to racism and making a big deal about it for no reason", so he distanced himself from it, told himself and others that "it's just a word" and that he doesn't mind. it was a coping mechanism he developed from living in the US as a black person, and it was good to see the barber do such a great job at opening his eyes
I have, no idea how y'all keep watching this. I'm not black myself and this literally is making me implode every second so for y'all to watch this, I can't even imagine how bad it feels, but thank you guys for also taking the time to tackle this show regardless. man, how the hell did this AIR ON TV
@@anjaxtv 🤣 yeah I laugh at their jokes too but the show just keeps getting worse and worse. I am so glad that we’re watching it through Jarvis and Jordan or else it would be completely unbearable.
@@yoitwasntme Bella!! Wtf am I watching 😱 the show has gone to a whole other lvl.. im watching Bruno rap as I write this.. Im shook 😂🤯. U r right without jarvis ang Jordan no way.
"doing a blaccent for white people is like a parlor trick for middleschoolers" i feel this 1000% coming from a Caribbean family. The second anyone would find out I was Jamaican it would be "do the voice!!" like I was some minstrel act.
Watching what happened to Nick reminds me of my mom saying part of the reason she home-schooled me and my siblings was due to racism. She wanted us to be less exposed. It helped, I think. Also, LOVED Nick's parents at 26:17, and that they stood up for him.
this episode was actually disgusting and it made me want to cry… I noticed all of Nick’s signs that signaled that he wasn’t okay, it’s the exact same signs I show when i’m having a panic attack. It makes me SICK that the kids just kept going too.
it's like as soon as they know you aren't white, immediately they'll treat you and your stuff like a joke or a costume or some other bs, it's cringey for sure but like these are things you like or things you hold close to you and having it just be held to oh it's how you dress *black* or these things are *black* or how you talk *black* its gross and disheartening and just disgusting I hated that scene
I’d like to personally thank Jarvis & Jordan for adding the commentary because there is quite literally no way I could ever stomach this show by itself
Nick is the only person in the show that isn’t shitty to everyone else. Seeing everyone making fun of him breaks my heart. He seems like such a nice person so to see that happen is just really sad
i really appreciate this youtube series bringing earnest discussion of racism trauma to the commentary space. im sure there are younger people watching who feel less alone because of it
THIS! I’ve lived a pretty insulated life as a yt person and have found it difficult to find discussions of racial trauma in a candid manner. i appreciate this series because i’m learning a lot about myself and the frankly problematic things i have carried with me.
The scene with Nick is genuinely heartbreaking. Clearly believing that he needs to be okay with people othering him in order to be liked. Seeing his parents confront those kids was incredibly relieving. I’m glad we got to see that.
The way these teens act while saying a deeply harmful slur, knowing that They Shouldn't Be Saying It reminds me of how proud I was when I learned how to say parasaurolophus when I was a kid. They derive so much pleasure from it, it's scary.
In all fairness, they ARE kids. Older kids, but still. They're still fully in the mindset of stretching any possible boundary and feeling really accomplished when saying "bad words", just like how most little kids are ridiculously happy when they say shit or fuck and somehow manage to get away with it even though their parents told them they can't say that. The more forbidden something is, the more enticing it is to a kid. So I don't think there's any actual racist attitude behind it, it's just "woha, I found a loophole (by getting permission from my black friend) and now get to say the bad word!"
@@sleepyseraWhen I was a kid I wouldn't have ever been joyful about saying the n-word. Yes, they're kids but also not 6 years old. They're old enough to know how awful the word is
It's especially funny to me cuz I feel like you can't accurately use makeup to look like another race. Skin tone isn't the only difference, it's also the shape, size, or placement of different features like eyes, noses, ears, teeth, etc. I'm not saying that a lot of stereotypes like that are right, obviously there's different people, but generally there are other differences besides skin tone so it just wouldn't work if all you did was put on different makeup.
For perspective, it's really hitting me that Nick, Rose, those racist boys etc. ARE OUR GENERATION. They are all millennials. I was 14 in 2006. So they are all only a year or two older than me, we are all almost or in our early 30s. And what else was happening in 2006? Michael Richards getting blacklisted for a hot moment for saying the n word in a standup bit. I remember that so much because my mom was pissed cuz she liked his character on Seinfeld. We were disgusted. For anyone who might try to "it was a different time" this still.
I’ve learned that some people have no idea about how things were “back in the day” (even if “back in the day” was recently) and/or have very short memories. For instance, you might see someone online post something stupid like, “I remember back when you could sneeze on someone and them not think it was a big deal!” and think, “Um…that time never existed. Even back in medieval times sneezing on someone was still considered a big deal, and that never changed. There was never a time when sneezing on someone was socially acceptable. The ‘Ew, gross, somebody sneezed on me!’ mentality is not a new thing.” Edit- I apologize if I’m straying too far from the topic. I can delete this post if it’s a distraction.
But it WAS a different time. It being a time we lived through doesn't change that. The fact that things were considered acceptable or just a bit controversial in 2006 are things we don't consider acceptable in 2023 anymore just shows that our values adapted as the world around us changed. It's a sign of growth imo, and a good thing, but we don't need to act as if that previous era didn't happen. At least where I live, in 2006 no one even knew that there was anything wrong with the n-word, the concept of trans people didn't exist at all, and while homosexuality was familiar to most, anyone claiming to be bi was just considered unwilling to fully admit their gayness yet. Heck, it had only just been a few years since women had been granted full equal rights and there were still plenty of very loud voices about how that is deteriorating the very fabric of society. It was really only thanks to the advent of the internet (which became popular and widespread around 2005-2008) that people learnt about the context of so many things and started going "oh, maybe we shouldn't do that anymore" or "wow, that is an actual thing, huh?". So I don't really blame these kids for their behaviour, but I certainly would if now, at 30, they still act or think the same as they did back then.
@@sleepyseraas someone who was also alive then. You’re kinda wrong dude. The n-word was never acceptable for other races to say even in the 90s or even the 80s when my parents where kids. Trans people also existed in 2006. Just bc you weren’t aware of something doesn’t mean it didn’t exist.
I wanna hug nick he didn’t even understand that he was being disrespected 💗 he keeps dissociating when they talk down on his race and the power it holds saying that word it’s so sad he looked so brain washed from this experience
yeah up until this ep nick seemed like he was mostly not getting too much shit directly, like it was bruno and the mom being racist to adults in a way that was like. pretty fucking bad but didn't feel like you were watching a kid get fucking scarred
13:06 This story reminds me so much of "sorry to bother you" Where they were at the business party and pressured Cash to rap. Jarvis even said it felt like a parlor trick and he was so right
Jesus effing Christ. This show boils my blood. Thank you for bringing this travesty to my attention. Hug your puppers tight, Jarvis! Also! Whenever Bruno goes on his stupid tirades I keep thinking about the first episode of Community when Pierce is hitting on Shirley and the group gets angry at him s_xually harassing Shirley. And Pierce says "How can I be harassing someone who turns me on?" and Troy slams his hands on the desk and shouts "Telling someone they turn you on IS the harassment!"
damn that scene with the kids in the black kid's room did hit the most. I remember moving to a more white percentage school in elementary school, and they would always say stuff like "can you rap?" and then try to start beatboxing for me to rap. Or look at my hair and say "you should grow an afro, or get cornrows" when i just got a normal cut trying to get waves
Yeah I remember all my white friend in elementary touching up on my hair I had one girl in my middle school say I didn’t act black enough and other person question why my palms where white and it black like the rest of me plus another girl said that she hated the way black people did their hair even did a “tribal” dance to mock me
The early aughts were a weird time. A combination of "don't be afraid to say anything or you're a punk/fake" and "don't show that something bothers you or you're weak." I know people complain a lot about "PC culture" now, but I'm glad kids today care more about how what they say effects others.
Exactly, plus I hate the whole woke/pc thing constantly being used as an insult by conservatives. All woke really means is being compassionate towards others. That definitely isn't a bad thing.
@@nunpho They've always done this and rope naive kids into thinking they, the people who were so triggered by Black people existing near them they created separate everything, are pro-free speech and "logic". Out here trying to ban the gays from schools and getting mad at the green M&M not being sexy.
Bruno just has this “you guys do it to yourselves” attitude and no one/no amount of reality is going to change his mind. He’s going to die on the hill of “just be/act/speak/think exactly like me and there wouldn’t be a problem, like ever.”
The emotional toll this show causes when watching is so freaking taxing. I couldn’t imagine being the actual family in this show. I had a similar situation happen to me that Nick experienced except I was in college. At that point, I was fearing more for my safety than I was for being ostracized. I just know the trauma from this show must have really been a lot for him. Also Bruno is literal garbage. Not even that just pure caca
The way I fast forward and/or mute every Bruno scene because I can’t handle just how fucking racist he is. It’s painfully impossible to not have a visceral reaction to some of the things he says.
Is it just me, or does Bruno not look convincing AT ALL. Dude literally just looks like a white dude with brown face paint all over him. Meanwhile, Nick actually looks pretty convincing as a different race. I remember this show being kinda interesting, because I can see how they’re trying to make a social statement and create a learning experience for some people, but they should have handled this more delicately with people who actually WANTED to learn something from a different perspective.
The trouble is that when you make a Venn Diagram of "white people who want to learn what it's like to be black in America" and "white people who want to do blackface", you end up with two separate circles.
The etiquette class is too real. People are so weird even in normal settings, they say some of the craziest shit like it's funny. 23:30 he didn't really think it was cool. He just said it didn't phase him. He was obviously uncomfortable and annoyed but I don't think he ever claimed it was cool to do. I like the character growth too.
This episode is really hard to watch because usually the “White” sections of the show are more tame to counteract the Bruno parts but now there’s insensitivity on ALL fronts so there’s no break from the awfulness that is the racial divide in the show. Edit: I can’t even count the amount of times i’ve paused the vid just to recuperate myself
Gotta love how the 16 year old had more character growth in a 5 minute talk to a barber than Bruno had in this whole series
barber convos do that to you.
Feel like every black person who grew up with a lot of white friends go through that growth at some point. When you realise they’re not laughing WITH you but they’re just laughing AT you
@@Hammywastaken yeah. I don’t like talking to people I don’t know too well, but man I really appreciate barbers who give me all of the gossip.
Bruno did have character development, but it was hellishly worse than at the start, which even then was bad
That barber was cool as hell tbh
the fact that they subjected a literal CHILD to being harassed and mocked by a bunch of kids and called the N word just for "content" makes me sick. what the hell. i can't imagine how it feels to be bullied by a group both because of your race AND on national TV. that's awful.
like. at that point it's not even "omg cringe", it's disgusting.
it's also "omg cringe" though
That's a point. Remember they are voluntarily participating in an experiment and it's showing up some shocking results
I’m pretty sure they’re all actors, so don’t worry
@@Goobiusgoober They’re still making kids say the n-word though. That’s not ok.
As a black girl who has kind of been in this situation it was so terrible I had to skip a few times. My stomach still feels weird. Why did the make this show???
Unrelated, love your pfp
The white dad saying “I don’t blame the man for my problems” is so funny cause he is literally “the man”
"What problems?" is my question.
@@kimifw58 It’s a real mystery, I guess…….. 🫠
Couldn't have said it better.
@@kimifw58 "yea i dont blame society for The racial issues i dont face"
@@ilpensatore1462 Society is responsible for issues beyond racially based ones, but yeah
Watching Nick be bullied by those kids and him just absorbing it for his own safety is absolutely heartbreaking.
It was wrong on so many levels!!!!
It's seems like he internalized the narrative Bruno (and other assholes) push where if you just "don't react" than bigotry won't affect you. Which is so false, but it's really easy to fall into for a lot of marginalized people since it gives a false sense of control (if I can just learn the right mental state, this won't hurt anymore).
It's so sad to see it happening to a young kid.
Honestly it is so hard to watch ☹️😢
HONESTLY MAN!!!
@@yambone635 plus kids that age inherently want to fit in. Hence the social and self esteem issues that come with being the only black friend, or going to a predominantly white school. There’s a whole spectrum of awful experiences one may go through.
Bruno did not just call it "the whole slavery thing" as if it's some minor workplace incident
The slavery thing circa several hundred/thousand years
@@gremlinwc8996 yeah because jim crow laws and lynching wasn’t happening in the 60s and 70s
@@Imxel21 ik, I'm not saying this was long ago, I'm just saying slavery in western countries was an extremely long era, slavery is still a big thing in a lot of other countries today, and racism obviously still persists
Lol.. this is why they need shows like this so when morons like Bruno speak that racist ideas can get corrected. Maybe someone watching will learn something or feel stupid when they hear stupidity like Brunos rant there.
He talked about it the way my parents talked about "The art thing" to minimalize it and make it seem stupid, it's very patronizing and feels gaslight-y
Bruno trying so hard to prove that racism isn’t real whilst actively being the most racist person in every room is truly astounding
how can someone be so hypocritical...
Bruno IN BLACKFACE saying that white people shouldn’t be blamed for slavery TO AN ACTUAL Black Man. That was so gross and uncomfortable.
But hes right.
Blaming all (current) white people for slavery is like blaming (current) germans for ww2.
@@Magst3r1 however, current white people (not JUST white people, but white people are the oppressors) _should_ be held accountable for their racist actions. That includes microagressions, and being passive when someone else is being racist.
@@zetjet9901 shouldn't all people, not just white people, be held accountable for their racist actions. Even if white people are the majority, at least in North America, almost even group has racist people who should held accountable for their actions
@@shipkipsamazingchannel3248 that's why he said "not JUST white people"
Bruno somehow manages to just always be worst without even trying
We don't talk about bruno
@@chloehendry9371 dang it i was going to say that
Silenzio, Bruno!
its because he's actually racist
We don't talk about Bruno 🤢
When the kid(s) said _"you're_ the one who told us it's okay" to Nick is so manipulative and cruel. This is bullying _and_ racism _and_ victim-blaming. I felt genuinely sick watching that.
Also, if someone says they don't care about something but then they come back saying they thought about it again, and they actually aren't okay with it then just _respect_ that. It's the same thing with consent for sexual stuff - you may feel okay with something at first but then later you realise are uncomfortable, and it's okay to communicate that and say no. And the other party should respect your change in consent, especially with something related to _your own_ life, body or identity.
The worst part is he was basically peer pressured into being ok with it the first time. It's not even that he thought about it and changed his mind. He was clearly not ok with it in the first place
@@jayedgar1384 :( yeah
“u said it was okay!” yeah cuz y’all would freak out abt some sort of reverse racism if he is expressed his discomfort
the word you are looking for my man is gaslighting, it's crazy that kids can use that shit, when I was a kid I guess I was super lucky as I never met malicious people like that. I was so sheltered it honestly was a shock becoming an adult and learning that people like this exist. Shitty stuff.
Bruno keeps talking about absentee fathers. He doesn’t seem to have noticed that Brian is a present father.
Plus u can see that his wife and daughter look at him really badly whenever he's like "I'm a good husband and father unlike u n words" and the wife and daughter is like "no you aren't, sit down"
This is why we don’t talk about Bruno
That’s because he doesn’t want to see him.
Brian is honestly the father we all deserve to have. Parents play a HUGE role in childhood development, and having seen his kids on TV, he's a DAMN amazing father.
@@selalewis9189 just like the racism!
Holy hell… those two kids yelling the n-word over and over… Hits *way* too close to home. Too many kids back in high school who thought it was just being “edgy” to be racist.
As someone in high school as of right now this still happens sadly
Sorry you went thru that
I used to be that. I like to spend my time attempting to educate the edgelords now, because it's a sad life for a kid, and some of us don't grow out of it
I guess it's like how when you're in elementary school and first learn about curse words, you think it's hilarious to just keep yelling "ASS! BITCH! DAMN!" at everyone all the time, so then you learn about the n-word and you think it's extra hilarious to shout it all the time, but since you're older you know WHY it's bad to say so it's extra hilarious to keep saying it.
I mean it's dumb as hell, but that's the logic I'm assuming goes into people saying it over and over again as teens.
nothing has changed
they better have had "therapy for nick" in the budget for this show
Watching Nick’s parents confronting those kids is SO cathartic
but hearing that stupid kid respond was maddening
And that guy that talked to bruno too
Yes, like all throughout the show the white people were being so illogical and dismissive.
Omg I'm not at tht exact part but I'm at the dinner scene IM SOOO GLAD THEY DO THAT
The etiquette class kids were already a bunch of twats, but I was NOT prepared for what Nick had to go through.
I also want to condemn the showrunners for making him go to an etiquette class (which is NOT a normal thing for the vast majority of American white kids), because it introduced him to so much derision and denigrating from the get-go. Like Jordan said, it's basically a class to say "No, the way you normally act is WRONG and needs to CHANGE!"
No fr cuz of all the predominantly white spaces you could go to, they pick the one deeply rooted in deep southern antebellum culture. It's hard not to think that's deliberate
I had no clue etiquette classes were still a thing, what time travel accident trapped the entire southern US in the 1890s lol
Brother this is everyday reality for black kids in this trash ass country.
When you send a black kid to a "act like a civilized white person" class (let's not kid ourselves, that's pretty much all those establishments have ever been about), it HAS to be a deliberate way to stir shit.
But of course, it's not reality TV if the showrunners aren't constantly shitstirring for content.
Yeah I had to take etiquette classes as a really poor southern person and it’s not normal dude. They put him through it specifically to humiliate him. I remember the classes as a white person humiliated me because I was clearly from a different socioeconomic and cultural background. The people who attend these normally are whack as fuck. I only did it because my great grandmother paid for it and wanted me to have a better chance for university and scientific fields of study.
how is bruno NOT getting his ass beat like 95% of this show???? the blatant racism and disrespect is absolutely horrifying
The cameras I think
33:46 why does he feel the need to do this
for real. he would absolutely deserve it. he's being intentionally racist like he just wants to make the Black family feel uncomfortable on purpose. what a piece of shit
Ignorance and blatant racism is not the same. He went on the show to learn, he certainly did not hold back. I am sure on reflection, he learned a lot about himself and his questionable word choices...
@@michelleroselilley4637 They are indeed not the same. However he is not trying to learn, he is trying to justify his own personal biases towards certain issues with race and while there isn't necessarily a problem with giving your own opinion on a topic he will completely disregard all other points or arguments given to him.
He may say he wants to learn but whether intentionally or not it is clear he isn't.
Im so fucking shook that they put actual black people through these extra traumas just for a fucking show
I'm not even black and I feel traumatized. That was some of the absolute worst second-hand embarrassment I've ever felt. I really wish I could unwatch this.
just say black people.
@@thisisyouralterlife3785 i think in case yes, black people. Hopefully no other poc was put through this
I rememeber they went om Oprah & talked about the show. I'm now wondering why Oprah didn't call them out but now knowing how Oprah is it doesn't surprise me
i refuse to believe anyone responsible for this show wasnt white
Bruno literally outed himself by saying "Somehow WE'RE responsible for..."
RIGHT he literally admitted to being a white person who believes all of these things. He’s making it so obvious lmaooo
I really respect Nick’s parents trying to tell the kids genuinely why the word is hurtful and educating them effectively, even though some of the kids are talking over them. That’s a sign of a wonderful parent. Good on them, they seem lovely
Nick: "it doesn't bother me" *spends the entire scene doing self soothing gestures and making the face I make when I'm upset and my dad is yelling/being mean*
God, this poor kid.
And I think the way they tried to talk to him afterwards was too aggressive. Instead of blaming him and getting mad at him for letting the kids say it, they should have explained it more and given him comfort. Because that “I don’t care” attitude is obviously a defense mechanism and you can tell that he is upset. By getting mad at him, it’ll make him more defensive instead of having that good teachable moment.
@@annapruitt5546 well the barber did say it this way but you have to understand parents don’t want their kids to be walked all over.
yeah i thought the mom losing her shit at her daughter in the other episode hurt but jeeeeeesus this one is like, i am actively attempting to melt into the floor just looking at it
that and his whole posture changed too. he was facing away from them, gritting his teeth and was overall stiff and highly uncomfortable looking.
Obviously nick isn't a confrontational person despite the fact that those kids immediately thought he was after they'd found out that he's black, just everything about watching nicks part made me feel so bad for him
@@meilee8554 For real, though. I feel bad for both Nick and rose, but nick really suffered this episode and it sucks to see.
Bruno knew his rap was offensive and he literally prepared arguments to say that he isn't racist and that he's the victim. He was actively trying to offend the black family and get a reaction. But, they all just refused to give him what he wanted.
Exactly what I was thinking! It was definitely a set up
Might be in his system tho as he’s probably heard he’s racist a lot
@@ThisIsLikeM because he is racist.
Omg exactly what I was thinking, "I didn't say the rapper was black, btw" he's literally an Internet troll irl
@@marvandthe4topzno doubts
Rose, you can tell that she’s actively trying to unlearn 17 years of bullshit.
The wife, you can tell she’s trying, she’s just failing by being overenthusiastic.
Bruno, he’s a racist.
Rose fully about to fight her own dad and I will help her
I think Carmen is pretty fuckin racist too. Like Get Out style and doesn't actually want rights for us, but wants us as accessories
so glad they're actors. let's hope none of these three were or are like this in their real lives
The wife is practicing horseshoe theory here trying so hard to not be racist that she’s racist
No the wife is definitely racist too lmao. Also verbally abusive towards her daughter
the way the little racist is gaslighting nick is nick's villain origin story. he's the joker nowadays
Exactly, like it's pure manipulation.
"I wouldn't say it if YOU hadn't made me say it"
@@urmom-bb8fb Dad or Mom should’ve yelled at him for trying to put the blame on their son. The parents should’ve been shown the tapes too to see how all the kids basically made fun of him, his room, and what he likes, plus his culture. That kid just loves to talk too he wouldn’t let the parents correct him.
The only diference is that the Joker isn't racist XD the guy can be proud, he is worse than the clown Prince of crime.
@@stacyh7528 i think Just like american psycho joker wouldn't work as black, because the character at this point is The "entitled White person getting revenge" trope
That wasnt even funny. Why cant he take that rage and become batman ??? Damn racist and dont even know it lmao.
It never fails to astonish me that this is an actual show that’s been looked over by multiple and the still somehow ended up getting produced and published
:)
@@cctproductions6976 is that a smiley face
I think it also won awards so
And Emmy nominated
It's the Crash of television
The scene with Nick was so incredibly heartbreaking. Oh my God. Holy shit that almost made me cry. It brought back so many flashbacks to moments in high school where people thought they were "edgy" or "cool" for being openly racist or trying to explain to me that I should "stop being so sensitive" after explaining to them that they can't say the n-word because they're white or sing it in a song just because the artist did it. The pain in Nick's eyes cut right into my soul. It reminded me of so many moments where people treated me like I was a zoo exhibit and just touched my hair and I didn't know what to say or how to go about a situation like that so I didn't say anything but it deeply bothered me. God, I hope that he's okay. Being on that show sure must've done a number on his mental health.
i feel bad for the kids too. you know those behaviors are learned and not innate, they learn that shit from their parents and friends and don’t have enough people straightening them out. they just have other white people around them enabling them and black kids who act like it doesn’t offend them because that’s all they can do without sounding “sensitive” or “aggressive.” it’s a lose-lose. like someone just needs to smack the dogshit out of that one kid and boom!!! he probably will never say that word again no matter WHAT “environment” he’s in, whatever the fuck that means. the dad warned him that would happen too. i know they are just kids and kids do not understand the implications and long term effects of their actions but that does not mean they shouldn’t be held accountable (or slapped so hard the racism leaves their body).
this whole series just sucks to watch. i hope nick and rose are okay and doing well as adults
God bless you ❤
Dude... Right. I gotta ask, what kind of state is the US in for this to be normal? I'm a white man living in South Africa, my family has lived here for at least 200 years now and I grew up living in a majority black society all my life. While there is a fair bit of racial tensions and some major cultural divides, we at least treat each other like people. Like damn dude. How can Americans possibly look at a black person and be so fascinated by your appearance that they want to pet you like an animal? I mean really, what kind of degenerate behaviour is that? Is it so foreign an idea there to just not mind people that look different or come from different cultures? Do they feel the need to explore some exotic obsession with anything that isn't the bland Caucasian culture or look they're used to? The way racism here differs from racism in the US fascinates and disturbs me. While we have plenty of resentments and paranoias going and forth here, it doesn't seem nearly as dehumanizing as the kind of racism over there.
@@knightmareza9478 honestly this is way more passive racism. Frankly it’s in almost any predominantly white neighborhood.(minus the extremely racist ones.)
One of my friends in middle school told me I was really smart for a black kid and that his dad was invited to the KKK. I don’t know how we stayed friends because he made me so uncomfortable.
shocking that the kids in a literal ETIQUETTE class are being this despicable. like do they not learn basic respect or even manners in their class?? wow
What do you think the concept of "etiquette" is rooted in?
@@QWERTYCommander very fair point, i concede 😼
Pfffft, nothing about etiquette is about being good, it's about APPEARING good. Big difference
Well also, they clearly needed the class for a reason, though it's not working very well.
just the way they were acting IN CLASS was too much
The way bruno doesn't even hear his hypocrisy in saying black dads are more likely to be out of the picture when rose is Carmen's daughter, not his. He wasn't even married to Carmen. Where's Rose's father, huh? The audacity. (Don't mean to imply an absentee father makes you lesser, just that it's ridiculous that he would imply that about black families when he's helping raise someone with an absentee father as well)
He sees himself as her saviour father figure tho. He directly implied that black people turn out 'wrong' bc of a lack of a father figure.
ASH?
Right? Like, Bruno is living with Nick who's father is very present in his life and trying to teach him lessons about this whole thing. Meanwhile Rose is getting more out of this than Bruno ever could, no thanks to Bruno!!
right.... """""helping"""""... (not really haha)
Her real dad could be dead you know
Seeing Nick fold to the kids bulling him for being black reminds me of when I was in high school, I was a popular guy on the Football team. I'm first generation American my parents are from Mexico and I have tan skin, brown eyes, and black hair. I fell in love with a beautiful cheerleader she was white blonde, blue eyes, and had freckles. She very clearly liked me, she held my hand, kissed me, called me babe all the stuff couples do, but then I asked her out to the movies and she said "oh I can't like you like that. My parents would never let me, you know because you're so dark, but I like you. You're cool." I remember just feeling sick to my stomach. It hurt worse than if she had just told me she didn't like me, because she liked me, except for my skin, no matter what I did or changed about myself she would never love me. I broke up with her on the spot and she spread a rumor that I dumped her because I was gay, I guess she wanted to get ahead of me outing that she was a racist or something. I started dating other girls almost immediately and just tried to ignore what happened, but part of me is always cautious around white women like I'm disarming a bomb or something now. It sucks knowing that there's always a chance that people won't like me just because of the color of my skin, or that one of the first things I think about when a woman turns me down is maybe it's just my skin. Race is one of those things you just try to ignore until you just bump into it. I used to try "being more white" and just ignore my roots as a Mexican, but I've grown to realize that some people are just going to hate you and that's okay, because at the end of the day we live our lives to be around people we love not to lose ourselves to the people that hate us.
Sorry you went through this 😢
I can't imagine how bad that was to experience, good luck on future relationships.
The whole bullying session with nick was literally heart wrenching to watch. He seems like such a nice, genuine kid. Im so sad for him.
Also the Bruno scene was so painful to watch. The musician guy’s face was PRICELESS though, lol, he totally knew
Yeah, I already felt bad for him in the previous videos, and then this one was legit hard to get through. The way he just "wanted to be himself" but then once he came forward they were all racist or condescending. Hope he's doing alright nowadays.
My jaw absolutely dropped during that bus scene. I mean my fucking god. It didn't fucking stop.
Bruno never ceases to go up to a black person say "Hey I want to learn" then when he hears something he doesn't like he interupts and dismisses them. I've said this before but Bruno really is the personification of all white conservatives views on black people and it's so infuriating to watch. He even does the whole "Oh did I trigger you?" with the rap he showed them. It's says a lot about Bruno that he will show a rap video he did (basically demonizing the black community) to black people, knowing they wouldn't like it, with the express purpose of trying to get a reaction out of them to further cement his view that black people are too sensitive and have a victim complex (which even if they did get mad it wouldn't prove his view) AND THEN when people are like "Why are you demonizing black people." he uses the "Well I never said black." just to show that he NEVER wanted to have discussions in good faith with ANYONE around him. Bruno really does make me sick.
Agreed Bruno sucks
incredible, this was really well writen! i agree wholeheartedly! i wanted to add that its very manipulative to say or do things on purpose to get a rise out of people, especially if you're then gonna use that "outburst" against them in the future. wonderful post! ❤️
I understand the argument and agree with what you are trying to say, but saying the views of ALL white conservatives seems a little dismissive to me.
@@mrmacadamia295 are you really listening to them?
@@amuffity no I’m just saying
“That voice doesn’t match that face” BECAUSE HE’S CODE-SWITCHING???? I get these kids probably don’t know about that phenomenon bc most White American people speak English _only_ so I sympathize but...like I sit here knowing why they said that and when you know _they sound different because they’re modifying themselves to commodify you,_ it is just *painfully* clear why this is happening
Well it's also "wow, crazy that you are able to talk like we do, almost like you're a human" and not understanding that *they* also have an accent.
@@spagetter I also love how Scots, which is essentially just English with a Scottish accent is violently defended as a separate language or a dialect but AAVE is just considered "an accent" or "talking wrong/ignorant"
@@CircusFoxxo I don't know about both of these debates, but I really do hate when people say "accent" with the implication of "talking wrong", like you said. It's very much "well, my way is clearly the right one". The utter refusal to see one's self from outside.
@spagetter I have a southern accent and talk with southern dialect IRL. I constantly leave mics in games muted and almost refuse to talk due to the number of redneck jokes or Deliverance references people make when I talk or "slow talk/southern accent = is dumb"...
It just be how we tend to talk down here y'know? Like Bush's "nukulur" people make fun of is just how people talk in Texas lmao
@@CircusFoxxo Scots would be considered a patois which is its own genre of language. Technically making itself its own language while also being directly derivative and sharing a common base with a more popular form of the language. Essentially, makes it both its base language and its own separate language. There are several examples of this from all over the world, all types of Creole, AAVE, regional dialects, ect. These are all their own languages with unique sounds, words, and structures, just with a base language of something else.
"My dog's here, my apologies."
Jarvis it is an HONOR to see him.
He’s so cute and active. Chasing his tail and running around lol
His dog is a 12/10
YES HE SHOULD NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR DIPPER CAMEOS
Sooooooo cute!!!!
The floof cameos got me through the video. Not sure I would have managed otherwise. Too painful.
You guys, black people, forcing me, a black person, to watch Bruno's rap video is the true definition of black on black crime. It's burned into my brain forever.
LMAOO THIS IS THE BEST COMMENT ON HERE 💀
As a black person I concur: I feel hate crimed /j
I haven't watched the video yet and now im scared
Edit: I'm watching it now and this is genuinely so awful in every way
@@Nebulousart black on black crime 😔😂
@@Nebulousart You and me both 🥲
One of the worst (and most real) parts of the scenes with Nick and the white kids is that, when he first reveals he’s black, you can tell that they’re trying reeally hard to not seem awkward or offensive. But then as it goes on, even for just ONE DAY, they get more and more comfortable being racist around him, til they’re straight up throwing the n word around. Once they realize Nick is powerless to stand up for himself, they completely drop their fake acceptance.
i feel like the fake acceptance started to go when nick made the mistake of saying that they could say the word, and that he wasn't uncomfortable with it. i feel really bad for him there, as it felt like he trusted them enough to say something like that, only to have it backfire on him so bad. i hope that wherever nick is now, i hope he's doing better.
It really hurt to see Nick sit there surrounded by everyone saying that. Saying you don't care is a defense mechanism to avoid conflict. If you say you do care, they'll just hound you and ask why until you take it back so it stops
It's honestly changed my perspective on white people saying the n-word around me. I personally haven't had a seriously racist experience yet nor has any non-black person said the nword around me, but I used to say that I wouldn't mind them using it as long as it's not purposefully used to upset/dehumanize me. but, after seeing the discomfort on Nick's face after those car and dress up scenes, i kinda saw myself in him and realized it'd still make me uncomfortable regardless of if I give "permission" or not. no white person should use that as an excuse to start making light of the word.
@@choco_L8 exactly. because using the n word in of itself is dehumanizing black people
@@choco_L8 honestly I thought like you but I never said it out loud to any of my white friends. Then one time by white friend said it while rapping Young Jeezy and I looked at him. He said “I’m just singing the song you know I would never…” and I responded with “I know you aren’t racist. But don’t say it. Just do not” and he looked me in my eyes, dapped me up and said “my bad” and I never heard him say it again. Even went to a concert with him and he still never repeated the nword.
@@macedaking it's great that your friend respected that boundary; I've never seen any non-black person who used that word react that with that maturity.
at my work about a year ago, there was this white girl who used the n-word in front of a black shift manager in convo with her hispanic boyfriend. she pulled basically pulled the "I have black friends" card by using her boyfriend's race and her "background" (someone who lives in her area confirmed the neighborhood was not rough at all) as an excuse.
she got fired 💀
this is spot on - being a minority literally surrounding by the majority as they “other” you is not the place most kids would feel safe confronting those issues. Also, Nick’s *trapped on a bus* for that entire clip so it’s not like he had an out to deescalate the situation
Didn't like watching those kids bully Nick, nope hated that.
It's sad, they were just completely oblivious to him, you could see that he was upset.
Hated it, the Bruno scene wasn’t much better
I’m not gonna say they’re super guilty yet, cause their brains aren’t fully formed. But they are easily old enough to understand it’s wrong, so they still deserve a verbal whooping
Same
so apparently Carmen manages to be tolerable enough to make 1 black friend, but Bruno walked into this man's house and immediately made him uncomfortable.
you say that like bruno being in your house alone wouldnt make you uncomfortable
Carmen is just as prejudiced, and immature too; she'd rather blow up at a child, than apologise for her behavior like a grown-ass woman...😠
the double wammy of seeing nick go through racial trauma and bruno being one step away from commiting a hate crime was just... rough all around
one step away in the sense that he committed a hate crime then kept going for another step
My soul just left my body- all too much
I feel like that rap video crossed that line by more than a step, though.
Despite Nick saying it was OK, it definitely wasn't OK for those kids to say that word. I felt so bad for Nick here because he genuinely looked so uncomfortable the whole time. Those kids were so horrible to him... like with trying on his hats like it was a costume... not cool. How would they feel if someone invaded their personal space and impersonated them like a character? We can acknowledge differences and embrace who we are while still being respectful to ourselves and others.
Right? That would have been wrong regardless of his colour imo.
They really said be black like it was a character
But Nick is keeping it real, homie g
Yeah that was honestly very painful to watch. He's only acting like he doesn't care because he wants to fit in, and he wants people to feel comfortable around him, and it just backfires on him horribly. I hate this show so much.
@@starchaser1437 at least there was that one girl that was legitimately begging them to stop saying it... that was nice.
nick is just such a nice kid, the way the class was treating him was absolutely horrendous.
God. Nick's plan of "these kids are bullying me, I'm going to be my true self and then it'll stop" goes so wrong it's heartbreaking. Poor kid 😢
The sad thing is if he were to defend himself they would probably twist it to make him look like the bad guy
That was so fucking hard to watch. I feel so bad that Nick had to endure that just for a show
I KNOOWWWWW. he was so pure in his intentions and didn't even realize that he was walking into a lions den.
The brunette girl and the blonde girl from the white family seemed to be his only allies there but even they weren't good at doing it.
@@meilee8554 actually only rose seemed to be the only one who stood up for him because she's the only one who told them to knock it off
@@queerios1077 I know but the blonde girl was technically trying to be nicer to him despite her silence so I kind of count her efforts even if they weren't very much.
"The middle aged person should have an opportunity to speak his or her mind as well."
Bruno, when are you NOT speaking your fucking mind? All you've done is talk over everyone, constantly. If he's been reserved until now, I hate to see what a nightmare he is when he really says what he thinks.
"Middle aged person" is a strange stand-in for "white man" but I guess you do you, Bruno..
And I would hate to see what he’s like when he’s mad. The other man was right that he’s probably insufferable to his wife or really anyone else close enough to him to see his worst side. Scary
I think Rose deserves more credit for ending up being as self aware as she is being raised by her 2 absolutely clueless out of touch parents. I’m team rose for life
I don't think they are her parents, thankfully; or at the very least, Bruno isn't related to her. From what I remember, Carmen and Bruno were dating before the show started. Idk where Rose was in that tho
@@frankisnot1148 oh. That’s wacky
i feel like bruno went from "racist fox news uncle" to "literal klansman" this episode
What’s a klansman?
@@xXxM0nzt3r_V0m1TxXx a member of the KKK. You know, the guys in white pointed hoods who have a long history of burning crosses and l*nchings
@@xXxM0nzt3r_V0m1TxXx KKK member
@@xXxM0nzt3r_V0m1TxXx The Ku Klux Klan?
@@xXxM0nzt3r_V0m1TxXx kkk man
This episode brought back memories of me (the only black kid in my class) enabling racist behaviour in an attempt to make the racially hostile environment more comfortable but that totally backfired within minutes just like a wildfire
Same and nobody should ever fault you for that. It's a survival tactic. Being the only black person makes you an easy target. People will try it with you when you're alone. It's pretty toxic.
@@prettynpetty8342 yepp and it can reallty be frustrating too
Yep, did the same thing and then lived in the forest fire for six years.
That bus scene was hard to watch.
I was homies with the one black kid in my school. I said something derogatory cause I heard kids say it all the time(when I was sleeping over at his house) and he broke down. Told me something along the lines of "I'm not suppose to hear that from you, you're supposed to be my friend" that shit stuck with me so hard. I always thought everyone was in the joke ya know? I'm sorry Ian much love man.
Yup, I went to a school with mostly white kids from second grade to college. And it wasn’t until I was in my late 20s and I was out of those situations that I realized how much internalized racism I had in myself. Situations like nick was in was almost the norm for me so that scene was realllly tough to watch.
I was reading the episode description on Wikipedia about this episode and they mischaracterized it so hard, it painted it genuinely as if Nick didn’t care when in reality he’s just trying to survive with this happening out of his control
It also looked like even if he was saying it was ok and such, he was very, very anxious/stressed looking, it's a matter of self preservation fueled anxiety, it reminds me of how often I'd say "No it's ok" when people would be bigoted related to me because I didn't want to be ostracized or worse.
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Yeah. I used to be like that in high school before I knew any better. I remember uncomfortably laughing along when people made jokes about my religion and ethnicity.
I think it had something to do with peer pressure also
Exactly it’s scary
edit: also some black people are scared to retaliate especially since a lot of stereotypes of of them being angry or aggressive even if they're in the right
That's totally fair. He ain't need to tell her to say it tho lmao
damn nice shirt is that available for pre order
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Hmm... is it 👀👀
I love when it does the does happen
Aww friends hyping friends. We love to see it
Jordan... I'm so sorry, but it isn't. it was actually limited edition merch and is already sold out.
Honestly, no joke, this is really educating for me as a white girl. Cuz Jordan and Jarvis sometimes highlight things people have done to them that I dont usually think of. Like in one episode they said that kids touched their hair and said it ”feels like a sheep”. And they both had that experience. I dont go think of that everyday and it really sets things into perspective.
That whole scene with Nick deadass almost made me cry. As a black person (woman) it's just... it was hard to watch because this is GENUINELY how it feels being in a room full of white people. They just ask you questions, make fun of you and treat you like a fucking exhibit. Like you aren't a person. I will never NOT get mad at people who have a problem with Black people not being comfortable in a space where they're the only black person in a room or when they seek out other black people to be safe. It's just heartbreaking because he was so uncomfortable and basically begging them to stop and they thought it was FUNNY. It hurt. It hurt so fucking bad. I know how it feels to be the only black kid and being so uncomfortable in a situation where you just let them say the word and act like it doesn't bother you because you have no clue how to go about it. I know how it feels and it fucking hurts and to watch someone else go through it? It makes me wanna cry.
I'm sorry that you had to go through that. I absolutely despise the way people invalidate safe spaces. It's not special treatment. It's a necessity and everyone has the right to feel safe.
I agree, the scene with Nick was very hard to watch. I am white, so I won't even begin to imagine what it must be like for you, but noone deserves this.
It is also just shocking to me that only one kid in the van said that the n word made her uncomfortable. It is very sad to see how the other kids ignored two people who were very clearly upset about this (even if one of them, ie Nick, hasn't fully processed what is going on or how he feels about it).
This entire show just makes me feel icky. I also don't understand why Bruno and the mom feel like they need to be "black" to go to an African American community or to experience their culture. I personally love learning about the culture of others. I won't pretend like I am a part of their culture or that I am an expert about it, I just think its neat, and am always glad when someone corrects me about something that I did not know about.
its fucking horrible. im white and haven’t experienced this firsthand but you can see how uncomfortable he is. kids who act like that and they think theyre smarter and funnier than everyone around them
Do you want a hug? Or to vent? Or just someone to talk to?
I can somewhat understand your pain. I'm transgender so there's a unique set of obstacles but some of my obstacles are very similar to yours, if not the exact same.
@sewer~rat I never said I could relate to everything. I just said some things. I know being Black and being trans are two different things, thus with their own forms of being discriminated against. There are still similarities from what I've heard from Black people (both trans and cis), but I know it's not a one-to-one comparison.
Thanks for informing me and others, though. :3
"articulate your words and don't talk like a black person" made me audibly scream
"speak like a normal person"
@@elllieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee literally like??? what does that even mean
They prefer to focus on articulating the words so that when they say the n word, they can make sure to lean into the hard r like proper white people.
I could have all the time in the world and I would never truly understand how an adult man wrote a racist “rap,” *filmed it*, and had the balls not only to show it to black people, but to allow it to be broadcast on *television*.
Bruno is quite literally every problem with white America rolled up into one bald body.
Privilege
If you need to explain victim blaming to someone, show them the clip of white kids explaining why Nick's at fault for giving them the n-word pass and, also, they refuse to stop saying it
Dude yes, it was genuinely so hard to watch
I saw someone trying to defend the other Kids because "they are just kid how can you expect them to know better" and literally say its nik's fault as if he's not a kid too
@@ilpensatore1462 bro if you older then 12 you should understand racism = bad
@@ilpensatore1462 That argument is bunk. It's VERY EASY to not say slurs or derogatory language, even as a kid. The girls were even uncomfortable and refusing to say it when Nick (I believe that's his spelling) first said "It's okay".
@@ilpensatore1462 especially when the day before they JUST sad the N word bothers them. So they know better period b
That girl who was arguing with them on the bus was fighting a losing battle that night but I respect her. Hope she's doing amazing 16 years later
My heart broke for Nick. That poor baby. This is disgusting that they subjected a child to that
It kind of feels like Nick was just 16 and trying to get through hell's busride and didn't really have the emotional maturity to really process how disgusting what happened to him was. He just felt like he needed to tuck his head in and survive and then needed to find a way to emotionally explain his inaction to himself. I feel like that need to justify it to himself could push him in the wrong direction, but that was brutal. It was revealing how little time it took that whole class to go from polite discomfort to full 4chan.
his mom being mad about it like you put him in that situation
Nick broke my heart bro. He sat there saying he didn’t care when he was very clearly upset. I feel like he just thought he wasn’t allowed to be upset
i think when he said he didn't care he really thought that was the truth. sometimes when you're the "other" in a group you don't think it's going to bother you until people start to pick on you "as a joke". when i was a kid i always told people that i liked being "the weird kid" and that i didn't mind not being able to understand or relate to most kids, but looking back on it i can see that i was just trying to convince myself that it was fine. i just wanted to believe that if i didn't get visibly upset than maybe people would accept me more and not spend so much time trying to other me. of course it didn't work but i was just a kid desperate to feel accepted
obviously my experiences as a white person part of other marginalized groups aren't the same as the experiences of poc and shouldn't be seen as such but watching the kids gang up on nick like that while he just accepted it just really reminded me of what it was like in school letting people completely attack my existence because standing up for myself was dangerous and i just wanted people to like me and see me as normal and not an angry stereotype
Bruno is saying “Nick, you might in particular like this” in the tone an anime villain has when they’re taunting the protagonists I fucking can’t this man is a freak 😭
i hope nick is okay now. my heart is breaking for this kid - you can see him pushing his reactions/emotions down, and these white kids are just pushing them deeper.
the way they immediately turned it around on him the next day, too... nick didn't encourage them to say the N word, he was pressured into acting like he was okay with it because he was in an extremely uncomfortable situation as the outcast. it's self-preservation. and the next day the same kids are simultaneously saying they didn't do anything wrong AND pushing blame onto nick. if saying it is okay, why did you need to find someone to blame?
i need a 2022 update on all these people. i don't have hope for bruno but i'm curious and afraid for the kids in this show.
In an interview, Brian Sparks did give an update on Nick: he went to a military academy and graduated.
The fact those kids couldn't feel or see, hell even hear, he was uncomfortable and repressing it makes me sick. Like, they had no sympathy or empathy towards him.
They really treated him like "The Black Friend" and "My N-Word Pass".
Holy crap, it looks like all the white family were actors and not a family at all. Just wow.
@@kadebrockhausen That's amazing! I hope he's doing good.
they rly chose the worst group of kids man
The way Bruno perfectly steers himself into mentioning as many stereotypes as possible and does it so casually amazes me. He brought the “dad if he’s around” thing out of fucking nowhere.
LITERALLY plus the fact that he brought up the “dad if he’s around” thing to a dad who is clearly extremely present in his kid’s life. like it was so ridiculous and unnecessary and just straight up racist lmao
Oh but that cant possibly be HIS kid, she probably has six kids with six different men, duh
The whole scene with Nick really hit hard for me. Sometimes when I'm with my family I put up with and enable transphobia and homophobia because I'm scared to see what happens if I try to stop it, so I can relate to feeling like you need to enable harmful bullshit to fit in or to be safe. And he looked so uncomfortable the whole time, I really hope he was okay after that.
I hope you're okay, too. That sounds so messed up and hard!
i know this comment is more than like a year old but i can totally relate
im a minor and im in a very religious family, so i have to like just sit there and listen to a lot of that shit and it takes the life out of me especially because i know i cant do anything about it
and afterwards i have to sometimes like. take a couple hours to emotionally recover
having to hide who i am and what i want is so taxing on me and i dont want to have to do it anymore
@@zoesusername I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. Sounds awful and exhausting. I hope you have someone in your life who knows and supports the real you!! 💛💚💙💜🧡
@@peskycritter79 thank you so muchfgd!! :))
i do thankfully have a really amazing friendgroup they help a lot
@@zoesusername Aw I'm so glad to hear that!! Take care of yourself. I wish you all the best
12:03 it stopped being funny real fast 😰 too real. And it REALLY explifies the stark difference of treatment. As soon as he revealed he was black, he gets cross examined and othered. His regular everyday items arent normal anymore, they're foreign cultural artifacts. 😔 Theyre just kids but holy fuck they picked this up from somebody.
Bruno is basically like, "I'm tired of being judged by the color of my skin. You wouldn't understand. I never owned a slave, so you can't experience racism."
oh god i just wanted to give nick a hug, the poor guy he was so uncomfortable with the awful racist bullying he was subjected to, but it took him a while to consciously realize that it was racist? im not sure but i feel like he was subjected to the idea of "black people overreacting to racism and making a big deal about it for no reason", so he distanced himself from it, told himself and others that "it's just a word" and that he doesn't mind. it was a coping mechanism he developed from living in the US as a black person, and it was good to see the barber do such a great job at opening his eyes
When the girls were bullying Nick in his room one of them pushed him in front of the mirror and said “be black!”, i can’t describe my disgust rn
I have, no idea how y'all keep watching this. I'm not black myself and this literally is making me implode every second so for y'all to watch this, I can't even imagine how bad it feels, but thank you guys for also taking the time to tackle this show regardless. man, how the hell did this AIR ON TV
I feel the same way. I have to constantly pause it because it’s too much to handle
@Bella LeForce as a mixed black woman i laugh.. not at the show, but at Jarvis and Jordans jokes and comments.
I take it back the last 5 minutes have been shocking.... quite upsetting actually. Wtf?! And im only on minute 21 😱🤯
@@anjaxtv 🤣 yeah I laugh at their jokes too but the show just keeps getting worse and worse. I am so glad that we’re watching it through Jarvis and Jordan or else it would be completely unbearable.
@@yoitwasntme Bella!! Wtf am I watching 😱 the show has gone to a whole other lvl.. im watching Bruno rap as I write this.. Im shook 😂🤯. U r right without jarvis ang Jordan no way.
The “articulate your words and dont talk like a black person” part made me cringe so hard I curled up like a fucking pillbug
The bullying scenes with Nick were heart wrenching. He seemed so genuinely miserable… God that was horrifying
It was really upsetting to watch
Jarvis’s dog is adorable. Him having such a bad case of the zoomies is so sweet & you can really see just how much he loves Jarvis.
He’s so adorable
Yessss I would like a video of just Jarvis interacting with his dog. Jarvis please your puppy makes me happy
The dog keeps us alive through this mess
Jarvis' dog really helped to get through this video 😅
Seriously, Dipper was the highlight here
“Your logic is illogical” was beautiful.
Bruno: I can't be racist if I'm black.
Music Teacher Guy: You're racist and full of crap.
and you're not black.
"doing a blaccent for white people is like a parlor trick for middleschoolers" i feel this 1000% coming from a Caribbean family. The second anyone would find out I was Jamaican it would be "do the voice!!" like I was some minstrel act.
okay fr
its like they thinkwe have it in our back pocket or smth
@@paperjamsans8010 black pocket
Sameeee
But I used it to teach my white friend slang and when they used it it was hilarious
Watching what happened to Nick reminds me of my mom saying part of the reason she home-schooled me and my siblings was due to racism. She wanted us to be less exposed. It helped, I think. Also, LOVED Nick's parents at 26:17, and that they stood up for him.
Dipper was simply reacting to all of Bruno's dog whistles.
underrated comment
10/10
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this genuinely made me laugh holy shit
🤣🤣
"If dad is around" straight up a line they would write for Michael Scott in the office
this episode was actually disgusting and it made me want to cry… I noticed all of Nick’s signs that signaled that he wasn’t okay, it’s the exact same signs I show when i’m having a panic attack. It makes me SICK that the kids just kept going too.
it's like as soon as they know you aren't white, immediately they'll treat you and your stuff like a joke or a costume or some other bs, it's cringey for sure but like these are things you like or things you hold close to you and having it just be held to oh it's how you dress *black* or these things are *black* or how you talk *black* its gross and disheartening and just disgusting I hated that scene
I’d like to personally thank Jarvis & Jordan for adding the commentary because there is quite literally no way I could ever stomach this show by itself
Yeah we need those breaks of commentary to relieve the pressure of how god damn anxiety inducing bruno and these kids are
Nick is the only person in the show that isn’t shitty to everyone else. Seeing everyone making fun of him breaks my heart. He seems like such a nice person so to see that happen is just really sad
the fact that bruno had "oh but i never said black" just at the ready shows he KNOWS what he was doing
That was the world's most disingenuous sentence in all of humanity.
i really appreciate this youtube series bringing earnest discussion of racism trauma to the commentary space. im sure there are younger people watching who feel less alone because of it
THIS! I’ve lived a pretty insulated life as a yt person and have found it difficult to find discussions of racial trauma in a candid manner. i appreciate this series because i’m learning a lot about myself and the frankly problematic things i have carried with me.
The scene with Nick is genuinely heartbreaking. Clearly believing that he needs to be okay with people othering him in order to be liked. Seeing his parents confront those kids was incredibly relieving. I’m glad we got to see that.
the lack of social awareness it takes to *confidently* say racial slurs on TV is astonishing
People were too bold before social media. They had a comfort of anonymity that they shouldn’t have
Maybe they used those emmy award winning makeup skills to make the camera look like another person
I miss those days 😔
@@Starkid_hanners Yeah, thank god we have Hannahs and Emilys who save BIPOCs by commenting death threats on cancelled people ❤️
@@_blank-_ are you literally on drugs
The way these teens act while saying a deeply harmful slur, knowing that They Shouldn't Be Saying It reminds me of how proud I was when I learned how to say parasaurolophus when I was a kid. They derive so much pleasure from it, it's scary.
Like... who just needs to get it "out of their system"? No non-racist person is just waiting for a chance to say a word like that
Especially when the R word is so much more powerful and applicable to way more people.
@@nettack and another word you should not be using because it's disgusting and ableist
In all fairness, they ARE kids. Older kids, but still. They're still fully in the mindset of stretching any possible boundary and feeling really accomplished when saying "bad words", just like how most little kids are ridiculously happy when they say shit or fuck and somehow manage to get away with it even though their parents told them they can't say that. The more forbidden something is, the more enticing it is to a kid. So I don't think there's any actual racist attitude behind it, it's just "woha, I found a loophole (by getting permission from my black friend) and now get to say the bad word!"
@@sleepyseraWhen I was a kid I wouldn't have ever been joyful about saying the n-word. Yes, they're kids but also not 6 years old. They're old enough to know how awful the word is
Jordan watching white people doing the blackccent while he himself has the most posh butler voice I’ve ever seen is honestly a mood
He could easily play Alfred in any batman media ong
Reminder that this show won an EMMY. For makeup, no less. Fucking wild.
Oh my god
was nothing else airing at the time?
please tell me the people who decided that was held at gun point and that is why they made that terrible decision
Did they see Bruno? How did this even win for makeup?
It's especially funny to me cuz I feel like you can't accurately use makeup to look like another race. Skin tone isn't the only difference, it's also the shape, size, or placement of different features like eyes, noses, ears, teeth, etc. I'm not saying that a lot of stereotypes like that are right, obviously there's different people, but generally there are other differences besides skin tone so it just wouldn't work if all you did was put on different makeup.
For perspective, it's really hitting me that Nick, Rose, those racist boys etc.
ARE OUR GENERATION. They are all millennials.
I was 14 in 2006. So they are all only a year or two older than me, we are all almost or in our early 30s.
And what else was happening in 2006? Michael Richards getting blacklisted for a hot moment for saying the n word in a standup bit. I remember that so much because my mom was pissed cuz she liked his character on Seinfeld. We were disgusted.
For anyone who might try to "it was a different time" this still.
Fr people defend the 2010-ecc as if we weren't alive back then, or even pulling then "oh back then" card for literally 4 years ago
I’ve learned that some people have no idea about how things were “back in the day” (even if “back in the day” was recently) and/or have very short memories. For instance, you might see someone online post something stupid like, “I remember back when you could sneeze on someone and them not think it was a big deal!” and think, “Um…that time never existed. Even back in medieval times sneezing on someone was still considered a big deal, and that never changed. There was never a time when sneezing on someone was socially acceptable. The ‘Ew, gross, somebody sneezed on me!’ mentality is not a new thing.”
Edit- I apologize if I’m straying too far from the topic. I can delete this post if it’s a distraction.
But it WAS a different time. It being a time we lived through doesn't change that.
The fact that things were considered acceptable or just a bit controversial in 2006 are things we don't consider acceptable in 2023 anymore just shows that our values adapted as the world around us changed. It's a sign of growth imo, and a good thing, but we don't need to act as if that previous era didn't happen.
At least where I live, in 2006 no one even knew that there was anything wrong with the n-word, the concept of trans people didn't exist at all, and while homosexuality was familiar to most, anyone claiming to be bi was just considered unwilling to fully admit their gayness yet. Heck, it had only just been a few years since women had been granted full equal rights and there were still plenty of very loud voices about how that is deteriorating the very fabric of society.
It was really only thanks to the advent of the internet (which became popular and widespread around 2005-2008) that people learnt about the context of so many things and started going "oh, maybe we shouldn't do that anymore" or "wow, that is an actual thing, huh?".
So I don't really blame these kids for their behaviour, but I certainly would if now, at 30, they still act or think the same as they did back then.
@@sleepyseraas someone who was also alive then. You’re kinda wrong dude. The n-word was never acceptable for other races to say even in the 90s or even the 80s when my parents where kids. Trans people also existed in 2006. Just bc you weren’t aware of something doesn’t mean it didn’t exist.
It was a different time because we chose to be uneducated and not listen to people’s experience.
21:30 that’s the face of someone who opened Pandora’s box and doesn’t like what they found inside
bruno ascends to ungodly levels of outright evil goblin power to a point that physically gives me diseases
Don't say that about him, goblins are fucking awesome and they don't deserve that scar on their reputation
I wanna hug nick he didn’t even understand that he was being disrespected 💗 he keeps dissociating when they talk down on his race and the power it holds saying that word it’s so sad he looked so brain washed from this experience
yeah up until this ep nick seemed like he was mostly not getting too much shit directly, like it was bruno and the mom being racist to adults in a way that was like. pretty fucking bad but didn't feel like you were watching a kid get fucking scarred
13:06
This story reminds me so much of "sorry to bother you"
Where they were at the business party and pressured Cash to rap. Jarvis even said it felt like a parlor trick and he was so right
Jesus effing Christ. This show boils my blood. Thank you for bringing this travesty to my attention. Hug your puppers tight, Jarvis!
Also! Whenever Bruno goes on his stupid tirades I keep thinking about the first episode of Community when Pierce is hitting on Shirley and the group gets angry at him s_xually harassing Shirley. And Pierce says "How can I be harassing someone who turns me on?" and Troy slams his hands on the desk and shouts "Telling someone they turn you on IS the harassment!"
Omg the community reference is spot on!
You’re so right, he has such big Pierce energy
Omg thank you I agree and LOVE community for that reason exactly!!!
Dude, you're streets ahead with this reference
god community is such a good show
damn that scene with the kids in the black kid's room did hit the most. I remember moving to a more white percentage school in elementary school, and they would always say stuff like "can you rap?" and then try to start beatboxing for me to rap. Or look at my hair and say "you should grow an afro, or get cornrows" when i just got a normal cut trying to get waves
Yeah I remember all my white friend in elementary touching up on my hair I had one girl in my middle school say I didn’t act black enough and other person question why my palms where white and it black like the rest of me plus another girl said that she hated the way black people did their hair even did a “tribal” dance to mock me
@@umaruchan6900 oof
Watching Nick being bullied by those kids made me feel sick, I can’t imagine how terrible he would have felt in that moment
The early aughts were a weird time. A combination of "don't be afraid to say anything or you're a punk/fake" and "don't show that something bothers you or you're weak." I know people complain a lot about "PC culture" now, but I'm glad kids today care more about how what they say effects others.
Exactly, plus I hate the whole woke/pc thing constantly being used as an insult by conservatives. All woke really means is being compassionate towards others. That definitely isn't a bad thing.
Just want to say, for any of the zoomers in here. The 2000s sucked.
@@Blakbox92 and yes it did. They only good thing from that era was the music and sometimes the fashion
That’s such a good way to frame the early aughts!
@@nunpho They've always done this and rope naive kids into thinking they, the people who were so triggered by Black people existing near them they created separate everything, are pro-free speech and "logic".
Out here trying to ban the gays from schools and getting mad at the green M&M not being sexy.
Bruno just has this “you guys do it to yourselves” attitude and no one/no amount of reality is going to change his mind. He’s going to die on the hill of “just be/act/speak/think exactly like me and there wouldn’t be a problem, like ever.”
Nick literally just sat down and started eating and immediately the other boys were like "so hey about the n-word"
The emotional toll this show causes when watching is so freaking taxing. I couldn’t imagine being the actual family in this show. I had a similar situation happen to me that Nick experienced except I was in college. At that point, I was fearing more for my safety than I was for being ostracized. I just know the trauma from this show must have really been a lot for him.
Also Bruno is literal garbage.
Not even that just pure caca
The way I fast forward and/or mute every Bruno scene because I can’t handle just how fucking racist he is. It’s painfully impossible to not have a visceral reaction to some of the things he says.
So sorry you had a similar situations, can’t imagine how bad that must’ve been
Is it just me, or does Bruno not look convincing AT ALL. Dude literally just looks like a white dude with brown face paint all over him. Meanwhile, Nick actually looks pretty convincing as a different race.
I remember this show being kinda interesting, because I can see how they’re trying to make a social statement and create a learning experience for some people, but they should have handled this more delicately with people who actually WANTED to learn something from a different perspective.
frrr bruno’s makeup looks so bad. he just looks like a white guy who’s addicted to tanning lmao
I think its the lip shape and chin, he still looks the same but like he spent too much time under the sun and now has a skin issue more than anything
The trouble is that when you make a Venn Diagram of "white people who want to learn what it's like to be black in America" and "white people who want to do blackface", you end up with two separate circles.
He looks like a white man who spent too much time at a tanning salon..I can't understand how he could convince anyone.
they both look ridiculous honestly
The etiquette class is too real. People are so weird even in normal settings, they say some of the craziest shit like it's funny.
23:30 he didn't really think it was cool. He just said it didn't phase him. He was obviously uncomfortable and annoyed but I don't think he ever claimed it was cool to do. I like the character growth too.
This episode is really hard to watch because usually the “White” sections of the show are more tame to counteract the Bruno parts but now there’s insensitivity on ALL fronts so there’s no break from the awfulness that is the racial divide in the show.
Edit: I can’t even count the amount of times i’ve paused the vid just to recuperate myself
fr I had to take whole breaks
I had to stop this video and come back the next day. I literally watched a horror movie (Scream 4) instead bc it was easier