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Ok, first can we talk about your t-shirt? LOVE IT! I can’t imagine the mindset of “not my problem, I’ll let the people I claim to care about deal with my sh*t.” And I love that you are appealing to what people WILL have to deal with for themselves. Self-interest can be a powerful thing.
@RobinsonKris Yes! Self-interest can be highly motivating. About the t-shirt...my sister and I were discussing how we wake up with bruises we didn't have when we went to bed. So I searched Amazon and found us shirts. 😂😂😂
Thank you again, Vicki. I find the best way to keep from being overwhelmed with paperwork is to not allow it to accumulate in the first place. Obvious I know but not always easy when you’re helping someone else.
You are kind and compassionate, and it shows in your videos. For those of your viewers who are like me, i.e., more direct (but also compassionate), I'll just say -- directly -- that it's completely selfish to expect your family to clean up your stuff after you die. If you have the wherewithal to do it now, it's a gift of love for those who will be stuck with the job. Even if it's strangers hired to clean out your place and throw it all away -- do THEM a favor and be an adult about it.
Thank you for your comment. 💕 People like you get it. Just because a person had to do it for a loved one in the past doesn't mean it's a tradition that should be passed down. It's time to break the cycle and do better for ourselves and future generations. ❤️
I suggested this method to my mom and even sent her a couple of YT videos. She won’t get rid of her stuff and won’t let me get rid of her stuff that she doesn’t use. Luckily, she’s not a hoarder but she’s definitely living in excess and I’m going to be left to go through her stuff while grieving when she passes. I do hope she changes her mind but elders can be very stubborn.
@Esscapades Keep trying to convince her. For us, it was two issues. 1) The way they were raised to not throw things away. Then, 2) Cognitive Decline had started so they no longer had the mental ability to determine what should be thrown away.
If I sent my mother a video about Swedish Death Cleaning, she would think I was trying to curse her….I’ve had the experience of cleaning out a friends house after his death, and it’s no easy task. Since then, I try to be aware not to accumulate too much “stuff” and purge twice a year.
Do not try to convince her, as she will see this as an attack. Ask her to where her paperwork is, if it is ever needed and what are her most cherished items are that bring her the most joy. If the day comes, you can easyly dispose what has not been too relevant for her and be done with it. Most people do not want to be confronted with their own death and telling her, that dealing with her stuff after passing is a burden for you will not be taken as an expression of love.
I'm loving this series Vicki! It does feel SO MUCH better when I clear the clutter, I'm like FIL and MIL were (not to that extreme), but the closets are definitely where the clutter creeps in!! I think reframing it to think of ourselves is helpful too😊💕
@starchyshauna it's so easy to let the clutter accumulate, especially when it's hidden behind closed doors. My hope in sharing the stories is that no one's closets will look like FIL's & MIL's 🤞🏾🙏🏾
I recently went through this with my Dads house. It was a nightmare! But now my son and I are clearing out our house so that my son doesn't have to face the same problem when I go. And things that I cant part with now, I'm able to tell him what to do with it when I'm gone. Better for everyone.
My mother and my aunt live next door to each other and have connected their houses. When I talk to my mom about decluttering, she says because her clutter isn’t as bad as her sisters, it’s really not an issue for her 🤦🏽♀️ (my aunt still has all my deceased grandparents things in her house) but it frightens me because I’m going to be the one to have to deal with it at some point in the future….and I’ll do the same thing with it then that I’d do now, just she won’t be able to watch me do it. 😂 Good video, I AM going to ask her for the important documents though. Thank you for the suggestion! 😊🙏❤️
@@raisingmyvoices I blame it on how they were raised...in an era where you do not throw things away. Keep trying to convince them. You might break through one of these days. 🤞🏾🙏🏾
I had the same issue with my mom. She wouldn't part with anything, and she had mountains of things to sort through. It took us years. We're going through the same thing with my mother-in-law. Having learned from my mother's experience, I'm being more ruthless with my mother-in-law's belongings and throwing out things she hasn't used in decades, like clothes. I'm doing a Swedish death cleaning for myself. I don't want my kids to have to sort through all my stuff.
@Lifeinthewyldewest It says 'Team Mysterious Leg Bruise' . Making fun of how I can go to bed fine and wake up a bruise. 🙄 Thank you for the kind comment 💕
Starting early to Declutter…..I always declutter because I don’t like a mess and now we are moving I will be more strict with my husband who loves to Keep things
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Ok, first can we talk about your t-shirt? LOVE IT!
I can’t imagine the mindset of “not my problem, I’ll let the people I claim to care about deal with my sh*t.” And I love that you are appealing to what people WILL have to deal with for themselves. Self-interest can be a powerful thing.
@RobinsonKris Yes! Self-interest can be highly motivating.
About the t-shirt...my sister and I were discussing how we wake up with bruises we didn't have when we went to bed. So I searched Amazon and found us shirts. 😂😂😂
Thank you again, Vicki. I find the best way to keep from being overwhelmed with paperwork is to not allow it to accumulate in the first place. Obvious I know but not always easy when you’re helping someone else.
@PinkandPossible Thank you for sharing that tip. Yes. It's always easier said than done. That's why reminders are so helpful. ❤️
You are kind and compassionate, and it shows in your videos. For those of your viewers who are like me, i.e., more direct (but also compassionate), I'll just say -- directly -- that it's completely selfish to expect your family to clean up your stuff after you die. If you have the wherewithal to do it now, it's a gift of love for those who will be stuck with the job. Even if it's strangers hired to clean out your place and throw it all away -- do THEM a favor and be an adult about it.
Thank you for your comment. 💕 People like you get it. Just because a person had to do it for a loved one in the past doesn't mean it's a tradition that should be passed down. It's time to break the cycle and do better for ourselves and future generations. ❤️
I suggested this method to my mom and even sent her a couple of YT videos. She won’t get rid of her stuff and won’t let me get rid of her stuff that she doesn’t use. Luckily, she’s not a hoarder but she’s definitely living in excess and I’m going to be left to go through her stuff while grieving when she passes. I do hope she changes her mind but elders can be very stubborn.
@Esscapades Keep trying to convince her. For us, it was two issues. 1) The way they were raised to not throw things away. Then, 2) Cognitive Decline had started so they no longer had the mental ability to determine what should be thrown away.
If I sent my mother a video about Swedish Death Cleaning, she would think I was trying to curse her….I’ve had the experience of cleaning out a friends house after his death, and it’s no easy task. Since then, I try to be aware not to accumulate too much “stuff” and purge twice a year.
@@raisingmyvoices Bless you for sharing. It is not always easy to convince people to do what's best for them. 🥺
Do not try to convince her, as she will see this as an attack. Ask her to where her paperwork is, if it is ever needed and what are her most cherished items are that bring her the most joy. If the day comes, you can easyly dispose what has not been too relevant for her and be done with it. Most people do not want to be confronted with their own death and telling her, that dealing with her stuff after passing is a burden for you will not be taken as an expression of love.
@hmsmile1225 Thank you for your comment. All very good points! ❤️
I'm loving this series Vicki! It does feel SO MUCH better when I clear the clutter, I'm like FIL and MIL were (not to that extreme), but the closets are definitely where the clutter creeps in!! I think reframing it to think of ourselves is helpful too😊💕
@starchyshauna it's so easy to let the clutter accumulate, especially when it's hidden behind closed doors. My hope in sharing the stories is that no one's closets will look like FIL's & MIL's 🤞🏾🙏🏾
I recently went through this with my Dads house. It was a nightmare! But now my son and I are clearing out our house so that my son doesn't have to face the same problem when I go. And things that I cant part with now, I'm able to tell him what to do with it when I'm gone. Better for everyone.
@AthomewithKaren Those of us who have been through it with a loved one understand the toll it takes. Bless you for putting your son first. ❤️
My mother and my aunt live next door to each other and have connected their houses. When I talk to my mom about decluttering, she says because her clutter isn’t as bad as her sisters, it’s really not an issue for her 🤦🏽♀️ (my aunt still has all my deceased grandparents things in her house) but it frightens me because I’m going to be the one to have to deal with it at some point in the future….and I’ll do the same thing with it then that I’d do now, just she won’t be able to watch me do it. 😂
Good video, I AM going to ask her for the important documents though. Thank you for the suggestion! 😊🙏❤️
@@raisingmyvoices I blame it on how they were raised...in an era where you do not throw things away. Keep trying to convince them. You might break through one of these days. 🤞🏾🙏🏾
I had the same issue with my mom. She wouldn't part with anything, and she had mountains of things to sort through. It took us years. We're going through the same thing with my mother-in-law. Having learned from my mother's experience, I'm being more ruthless with my mother-in-law's belongings and throwing out things she hasn't used in decades, like clothes. I'm doing a Swedish death cleaning for myself. I don't want my kids to have to sort through all my stuff.
Once you go through it, it's easier to see the toll it takes on a person. MIL was so mad at me for throwing out 3 broken coffee pots.
Another great video Thanks❤
Thank you. 💕
I’m curious about your T shirt? Does it mean something?
I always love your advice. I also love how it comes from a place of experience.
@Lifeinthewyldewest It says 'Team Mysterious Leg Bruise' . Making fun of how I can go to bed fine and wake up a bruise. 🙄
Thank you for the kind comment 💕
@@AgingOnYourTermsit reminds me of the fairytale Princess and the Pea
Starting early to Declutter…..I always declutter because I don’t like a mess and now we are moving I will be more strict with my husband who loves to
Keep things
@@kimberlygibson3 Yes. You do not want to move unnecessary stuff.