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I think the best advice that this channel has shown me is to get out of the head and into the gut. I cant even explain what it is or how it works, but it does. Just the simple enjoyment of somebody's company with no fear of outcome, living in the moment. What a gift, I guess that's why it's called the "present". Thanks for all the free content man.
Great video! I think many nice guys have grown up with really bad male role models and try to compensate this in their adulthood by being the opposite. The hardest question for me is: If i'm not a nice guy? Then who am I? That's the tough part. There are so many men out there who are real A-holes and I just don't want to be like them. 😂 Keep up the good work!
Brian, such a powerful talk. I’ve been a ‘nice guy’ my whole life. Very inspiring. You explain it in a way that is only from one who’s walked the path. 💡💡moments, especially about the interacting and then withdrawing into isolation. I never saw that pattern until now. Thanks.
0:13 This sentence changed my outlook on my upbringing. I recognize that I’ve been taking accountability for others through having false guilt and false responsibility. It wasn’t my responsibility to raise my parents. Them being inept at life and relationships isn’t my fault. What people reject says more about them than it does about what they reject. They rejected their children because they couldn’t face the responsibility. It’s not my fault they drank themselves to death. Even if I still feel guilty, I can sit with that emotion instead of running from it. I’ll be sending this video to my siblings even if it’s just for them to hear that one line.
Taking accountability for myself and only myself alone, it’s freeing in a way I’ve never experienced outside of a few brief and fleeting moments. Thank you.
Unmasking the Nice Guy: A Journey to Authenticity and Power **Summary:** This video explores the detrimental impact of the "Nice Guy Syndrome" on relationships and personal growth. The speaker shares personal experiences and insights, emphasizing the importance of breaking free from the need for external validation. The key points covered include: **1. Nice Guy Vampiric Energy:** - Nice guys derive their happiness from pleasing others, creating a vampiric dynamic. - The pursuit of external validation leads to burnout and a cycle of seeking approval. **2. Lack of Authenticity in Dating:** - Nice guys struggle to express their true desires, resulting in unfulfilling relationships. - The inability to create tension and challenge leads to bland interactions and uninteresting dates. **3. Absence of Masculine Leadership:** - Nice guys often fail to take the lead, leaving women to adopt masculine roles. - The reluctance to set boundaries and make decisions frustrates women, impacting intimacy. **4. Inability to Provide Safety:** - Nice guys, averse to tension, struggle to handle challenging situations, making women feel unsafe. - Trust is compromised when a man cannot step into his masculine energy and create a secure environment. **5. Impact on Intimacy:** - The Nice Guy's inability to surrender to authenticity hinders deep connections and passionate intimacy. - Sex becomes a chore as authenticity and polarity between masculine and feminine energies are absent. **6. Purport:** - True happiness lies in self-discovery and authenticity. - Breaking free from the Nice Guy persona involves embracing tension, setting boundaries, and pursuing one's passions. - A transformation into a "Nice Guy by Choice" involves being nice out of genuine love, not seeking external validation. **Conclusion:** The video encourages viewers to embark on a journey of self-discovery, breaking free from the limitations of the Nice Guy Syndrome. By embracing authenticity, navigating tension, and pursuing individual passions, one can foster genuine connections and lead a more fulfilling life.
I like nice guys. I've been programmed by 90s teen movies to beware the "bad boy" and choose the nice guy. (I have avoided men who looked like or sounded Ross, though. Whiny and wimpy.)
Thank you for the video! I really appreciate your insights on fearlessness and letting go, and I want to express my gratitude for your work. However, there's something I find concerning: the recurring use of PUA/Red Pill stereotypes that rely on generalizations when discussing fears and insecurities, particularly concerning women. I'm uncertain whether this is intentional to gain algorithmic advantage through clickbait, if it's based on an assumption that people prefer simpler, polarizing labels due to being perceived as simple-minded, or if it might simply be a lack of awareness. While I assume you don't hold a degree in psychology, it would be beneficial to explore more sophisticated terminology when addressing these topics. If you aim to distance yourself from the aforementioned movement, it's advisable to steer clear of terms like "Nice Guy" or "Bad Guy" and other oversimplified generalizations. These stereotypes are fundamentally flawed in reality. Generalizing personality traits, such as being a "nice guy" or a "bad boy," or making broad categorizations of people, oversimplifies the multifaceted nature of human personality. Labeling someone as a "nice guy" or a "bad boy" overlooks the intricacies of human character and behavior. It's crucial to recognize that no individual fits into the narrow-minded concept of a "nice guy." In the realm of masculine personal development, serious authorities do not employ these terms to explain fundamental phenomena like fear, insecurity, trauma, and imprinting. We all, including you, grapple with insecurities in life, and addressing them is an individual journey. Similarly, categorizing individuals as "bad guys," supposedly representing the path to becoming a "real" alpha male, is fundamentally flawed. This notion lacks validity. I previously shared a similar comment on one of your other videos, but unfortunately, it went unanswered. Engaging with your subscribers provides valuable interaction, and it's a missed opportunity not to do so. I believe in providing honest feedback, both in terms of what I appreciate and what I find concerning, and I typically take the time to explain my perspectives. I hope your lack of response isn't due to a fear of being labeled a "nice guy." ;-)
What happens if you realize that you did all these things to a girl you were dating but you are now on your path to recovery. Do you apologize to her and admit what happened honestly? Or is that a nice guy thing to do?
I feel like im a bad boy who plays a nice guy. How do i embrace my inner rebel whilst getting ahead? "Hey sweetie, im going to paint gaffiti on a coal train. You coming?" 😂 Seriously tho, another good video.
Comment below and let me know if you have any Nice Guy challenges or more about your journey letting go of the Nice Guy so we can all learn from our experiences together?
I love how sentence one already conflates nice with tension avoidance. No, women don't avoid nice guys, women avoid weak guys. Strength and being nice are not mutually conflicting. And a woman certainly knows the difference between someone who is strong and someone who is nice out of weakness.. In the human primate, being nice aka being community minded and taking care of your tribe is actually a survival trait. Women (and men) home in on this trait once they recognize it. For a woman weak is useless unless she is able to take care of herself and has experience with a bad strong man, in which case a weak man can be a preferable (controllable) asset. For a woman, strong is useful, because he can protect her and her kids. Whether this is out of a sense of "don't touch my property". Or out of a sense of community. "This is my people and I do not want you to hurt them" both are really more useful than a weak man. Strong and nice will always come out on top and will win the long game as a charismatic leader, or pillar of the community. Women do not reject nice guys. I'd be shunned by all if that was the case. Instead I'm respected by friends and at work and as a polyamorous person I have enough women in my harem to last me a life time. If you want women to come to you. Develop personal strength resilience and the willingness to protect the psychological safety in your group. Don't develop being a fragile ego that is constantly over compensating.
Agreed, this is basically what the video talks about in depth. There is a difference between nice by default and nice out of choice and power. The "Nice Guy" is a term form of codependence and a man that chooses to be Nice out of personal power is a a very different thing.
That's right. The stereotype of a 'Nice Guy' is oversimplified and flawed, and has no psychological basis. It was a buzzword established on the street and oversimplifies (black and white) a much more complex phenomenon, and tries to label individuals instead of establishing a real understanding of the underlying root cause. It also leads to the fantasy that there is a a loser (aka 'Nice Guy') on one side, and a superman (aka 'Bad Guy') on the other side. Again, that movie-driven reality doesn't exist, and as humans in the real world, things are quite different. That said, women appreciate a man with a set of traits we need on our path to mature.
@@TheFearlessMan Sorry, but I disagree. In a case of codependency, the what you call a 'Nice Guy' would not be rejected, because both partners would be dependent on each other. The deeper root cause is defined by their attachment styles. He would only be rejected by women with an attachment style that doesn’t allow for codependency. Again, the flawed concept of being a 'Nice Guy' should not be used either as a substitute for understanding and addressing codependency traits in individuals. Codependency involves much deeper emotional and relational dynamics that go beyond simply being 'nice' and it requires a more comprehensive approach for intervention and support. There are certainly overlaps with what you try to describe as an approval-seeking, pleasing individual, but it is a much wider, more complex topic that involves other dynamics.
@@kkumar3867 faith and a connection to God can make one strong... Make sure not to judge others in their connection. Or your faith may becomes a hindrance.
What if you realize you pushed the woman you were dating away with these kinds of behaviors. Do you apologize to her once you realize it? How do you approach it?
Who cares about the thumbnail, ever heard don't judge a book by its cover??? Love the thumbnail and super appreciative of the video! 🙂Brian you are doing revolutionary things to make (Men's and Women's lives better) for the good. Making the world a better place. It's just a shame that you're High value content doesn't reach the masses and is very underrated because it can transform so many lives.....🙌🏼Brian you have truly woke by body up, how to deal with tension, letting go and being grounded.....But really I wanted to thank your teacher Caro/Karo?, who taught you this before he passed away.🌊Otherwise none of what you know now and preach could have been possibly been passed on to all of us👍
This video attracts guys who struggle with themselves, and they look for ways to make themselves feel higher value, by bringing others down. Once they realize that ego is a young man’s nemisis, they are on the way to recovery.
@@jochem1986 Interesting opinion. Did you watch the video? Non of my videos ever teach men to bring others down so I'm curious how you got that opinion. Is that an assumption or did you see something in the video that made you feel that way?
@@TheFearlessMan We completely misunderstand each other Brian, I am completely in line with your insights, and it's helping me blossom. What I was referring to is people who criticize your thumbnails. It's such a non-issue, because your content is extremely powerful. So, I was trying to explain the psyche behind those sad souls. You don't teach them to bring others down, it's merely a natural response to feeling low value. In some men. Not all. But your videos do attract men who struggle to let go of needing results. And this is how they can behave.
This is a deep question and constantly changes. As you grow your presence you will know yourself more and more. But to knowing yourself starts with accepting everything about yourself. This is includes the positive and the negative. That's the beginning of change. From there you can truly grow.
You know my response? Vitriol, anger, rage, I have no way to change my nice Guy behavior and if I do not address it before 35 then I will take my own life, because there’s no reason to live if this is all life has to offer.
These thumbnails have been doing better than my older ones actually. I’ve had better click thru rates in other words. I’m open to feedback. Do you have experience in this areas? If you do then write them here.
Thank you for your comment. At this point these thumbnails are doing better than the older ones but I will keep that in my mind as we move forward. We are currently testing different ideas to find the TH-cam Channels look.
Yeah for example, if I had seen in the thumbnail that the video was about you giving a talk in a room to a bunch of guys, I would have clicked earlier. Basically because I like seeing Brian work with different people in the video, breaking down and explaining things, doing demos or whatever. The thumbnail suggested to me that the video was about you speaking to the camera and it didn't seem as interesting.
As a recovering nice guy, I can tell you that nice guys have no clue what it feels like to be a man. Some of them know how to act like a man. Nice guys have been conditioned to think that they need a shield. They don’t know that they are built to take any number of hits. They have a sense that something is wrong, but they don’t realize that the shield that they carry for protection, is also blocking any worthwhile life experiences. What Brian does, when he tells guys to start feeling their guts when they approach a beautiful woman, is showing the guys what it feels like to have no armor. Turns out, they don’t feel vulnerable without their armor. They feel stupid for carrying it around for all of these years. Nice guys, throw your armor in the trash, and start living your life.
@@BrianKbegin Thanks. I guess it's an armor consisting of two materials: faking a persona, that you hope she will find cool, and checking her responses because the nice guy secretly doesn't buy his own crap. That's part of why he can't convince her: he can't convince himself.
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I think the best advice that this channel has shown me is to get out of the head and into the gut. I cant even explain what it is or how it works, but it does. Just the simple enjoyment of somebody's company with no fear of outcome, living in the moment. What a gift, I guess that's why it's called the "present".
Thanks for all the free content man.
Great information. I believe the key to manhood is being a kind person who is always willing to walk away gracefully - in summary. Love the work
This video hit me like a sledgehammer to the chest.. I’ve slid into this more and more since I’ve progressed through my 30s.
That’s how I felt the first time I read No More Mr Nice Guy.
Do you have any courses that deep dive into this issue?
Great video! I think many nice guys have grown up with really bad male role models and try to compensate this in their adulthood by being the opposite. The hardest question for me is: If i'm not a nice guy? Then who am I? That's the tough part. There are so many men out there who are real A-holes and I just don't want to be like them. 😂 Keep up the good work!
This is a damn beautiful video, man. Thanks for the great stuff!
Brian, such a powerful talk. I’ve been a ‘nice guy’ my whole life. Very inspiring.
You explain it in a way that is only from one who’s walked the path. 💡💡moments, especially about the interacting and then withdrawing into isolation.
I never saw that pattern until now. Thanks.
0:13 This sentence changed my outlook on my upbringing. I recognize that I’ve been taking accountability for others through having false guilt and false responsibility. It wasn’t my responsibility to raise my parents. Them being inept at life and relationships isn’t my fault. What people reject says more about them than it does about what they reject. They rejected their children because they couldn’t face the responsibility. It’s not my fault they drank themselves to death. Even if I still feel guilty, I can sit with that emotion instead of running from it. I’ll be sending this video to my siblings even if it’s just for them to hear that one line.
Taking accountability for myself and only myself alone, it’s freeing in a way I’ve never experienced outside of a few brief and fleeting moments.
Thank you.
Unmasking the Nice Guy: A Journey to Authenticity and Power
**Summary:**
This video explores the detrimental impact of the "Nice Guy Syndrome" on relationships and personal growth. The speaker shares personal experiences and insights, emphasizing the importance of breaking free from the need for external validation. The key points covered include:
**1. Nice Guy Vampiric Energy:**
- Nice guys derive their happiness from pleasing others, creating a vampiric dynamic.
- The pursuit of external validation leads to burnout and a cycle of seeking approval.
**2. Lack of Authenticity in Dating:**
- Nice guys struggle to express their true desires, resulting in unfulfilling relationships.
- The inability to create tension and challenge leads to bland interactions and uninteresting dates.
**3. Absence of Masculine Leadership:**
- Nice guys often fail to take the lead, leaving women to adopt masculine roles.
- The reluctance to set boundaries and make decisions frustrates women, impacting intimacy.
**4. Inability to Provide Safety:**
- Nice guys, averse to tension, struggle to handle challenging situations, making women feel unsafe.
- Trust is compromised when a man cannot step into his masculine energy and create a secure environment.
**5. Impact on Intimacy:**
- The Nice Guy's inability to surrender to authenticity hinders deep connections and passionate intimacy.
- Sex becomes a chore as authenticity and polarity between masculine and feminine energies are absent.
**6. Purport:**
- True happiness lies in self-discovery and authenticity.
- Breaking free from the Nice Guy persona involves embracing tension, setting boundaries, and pursuing one's passions.
- A transformation into a "Nice Guy by Choice" involves being nice out of genuine love, not seeking external validation.
**Conclusion:**
The video encourages viewers to embark on a journey of self-discovery, breaking free from the limitations of the Nice Guy Syndrome. By embracing authenticity, navigating tension, and pursuing individual passions, one can foster genuine connections and lead a more fulfilling life.
I feel numb to anger how do I develop the ability to feel anger ? Thanks
I like nice guys. I've been programmed by 90s teen movies to beware the "bad boy" and choose the nice guy.
(I have avoided men who looked like or sounded Ross, though. Whiny and wimpy.)
Powerful Stuff in this video, thank you!
Thank you for the video! I really appreciate your insights on fearlessness and letting go, and I want to express my gratitude for your work. However, there's something I find concerning: the recurring use of PUA/Red Pill stereotypes that rely on generalizations when discussing fears and insecurities, particularly concerning women.
I'm uncertain whether this is intentional to gain algorithmic advantage through clickbait, if it's based on an assumption that people prefer simpler, polarizing labels due to being perceived as simple-minded, or if it might simply be a lack of awareness. While I assume you don't hold a degree in psychology, it would be beneficial to explore more sophisticated terminology when addressing these topics.
If you aim to distance yourself from the aforementioned movement, it's advisable to steer clear of terms like "Nice Guy" or "Bad Guy" and other oversimplified generalizations. These stereotypes are fundamentally flawed in reality. Generalizing personality traits, such as being a "nice guy" or a "bad boy," or making broad categorizations of people, oversimplifies the multifaceted nature of human personality. Labeling someone as a "nice guy" or a "bad boy" overlooks the intricacies of human character and behavior.
It's crucial to recognize that no individual fits into the narrow-minded concept of a "nice guy." In the realm of masculine personal development, serious authorities do not employ these terms to explain fundamental phenomena like fear, insecurity, trauma, and imprinting. We all, including you, grapple with insecurities in life, and addressing them is an individual journey.
Similarly, categorizing individuals as "bad guys," supposedly representing the path to becoming a "real" alpha male, is fundamentally flawed. This notion lacks validity. I previously shared a similar comment on one of your other videos, but unfortunately, it went unanswered. Engaging with your subscribers provides valuable interaction, and it's a missed opportunity not to do so. I believe in providing honest feedback, both in terms of what I appreciate and what I find concerning, and I typically take the time to explain my perspectives. I hope your lack of response isn't due to a fear of being labeled a "nice guy." ;-)
What happens if you realize that you did all these things to a girl you were dating but you are now on your path to recovery. Do you apologize to her and admit what happened honestly? Or is that a nice guy thing to do?
I feel like im a bad boy who plays a nice guy. How do i embrace my inner rebel whilst getting ahead?
"Hey sweetie, im going to paint gaffiti on a coal train. You coming?" 😂
Seriously tho, another good video.
Comment below and let me know if you have any Nice Guy challenges or more about your journey letting go of the Nice Guy so we can all learn from our experiences together?
I love how sentence one already conflates nice with tension avoidance.
No, women don't avoid nice guys, women avoid weak guys. Strength and being nice are not mutually conflicting. And a woman certainly knows the difference between someone who is strong and someone who is nice out of weakness..
In the human primate, being nice aka being community minded and taking care of your tribe is actually a survival trait. Women (and men) home in on this trait once they recognize it.
For a woman weak is useless unless she is able to take care of herself and has experience with a bad strong man, in which case a weak man can be a preferable (controllable) asset. For a woman, strong is useful, because he can protect her and her kids. Whether this is out of a sense of "don't touch my property". Or out of a sense of community. "This is my people and I do not want you to hurt them" both are really more useful than a weak man.
Strong and nice will always come out on top and will win the long game as a charismatic leader, or pillar of the community.
Women do not reject nice guys. I'd be shunned by all if that was the case. Instead I'm respected by friends and at work and as a polyamorous person I have enough women in my harem to last me a life time.
If you want women to come to you. Develop personal strength resilience and the willingness to protect the psychological safety in your group. Don't develop being a fragile ego that is constantly over compensating.
Agreed, this is basically what the video talks about in depth. There is a difference between nice by default and nice out of choice and power. The "Nice Guy" is a term form of codependence and a man that chooses to be Nice out of personal power is a a very different thing.
That's right. The stereotype of a 'Nice Guy' is oversimplified and flawed, and has no psychological basis. It was a buzzword established on the street and oversimplifies (black and white) a much more complex phenomenon, and tries to label individuals instead of establishing a real understanding of the underlying root cause. It also leads to the fantasy that there is a a loser (aka 'Nice Guy') on one side, and a superman (aka 'Bad Guy') on the other side. Again, that movie-driven reality doesn't exist, and as humans in the real world, things are quite different. That said, women appreciate a man with a set of traits we need on our path to mature.
@@TheFearlessMan Sorry, but I disagree. In a case of codependency, the what you call a 'Nice Guy' would not be rejected, because both partners would be dependent on each other. The deeper root cause is defined by their attachment styles. He would only be rejected by women with an attachment style that doesn’t allow for codependency.
Again, the flawed concept of being a 'Nice Guy' should not be used either as a substitute for understanding and addressing codependency traits in individuals. Codependency involves much deeper emotional and relational dynamics that go beyond simply being 'nice' and it requires a more comprehensive approach for intervention and support. There are certainly overlaps with what you try to describe as an approval-seeking, pleasing individual, but it is a much wider, more complex topic that involves other dynamics.
@@kkumar3867 faith and a connection to God can make one strong...
Make sure not to judge others in their connection. Or your faith may becomes a hindrance.
What if you realize you pushed the woman you were dating away with these kinds of behaviors. Do you apologize to her once you realize it? How do you approach it?
Who cares about the thumbnail, ever heard don't judge a book by its cover???
Love the thumbnail and super appreciative of the video! 🙂Brian you are doing revolutionary things to make (Men's and Women's lives better) for the good. Making the world a better place. It's just a shame that you're High value content doesn't reach the masses and is very underrated because it can transform so many lives.....🙌🏼Brian you have truly woke by body up, how to deal with tension, letting go and being grounded.....But really I wanted to thank your teacher Caro/Karo?, who taught you this before he passed away.🌊Otherwise none of what you know now and preach could have been possibly been passed on to all of us👍
This video attracts guys who struggle with themselves, and they look for ways to make themselves feel higher value, by bringing others down. Once they realize that ego is a young man’s nemisis, they are on the way to recovery.
@@jochem1986 Interesting opinion. Did you watch the video? Non of my videos ever teach men to bring others down so I'm curious how you got that opinion. Is that an assumption or did you see something in the video that made you feel that way?
@@TheFearlessMan We completely misunderstand each other Brian, I am completely in line with your insights, and it's helping me blossom. What I was referring to is people who criticize your thumbnails. It's such a non-issue, because your content is extremely powerful. So, I was trying to explain the psyche behind those sad souls. You don't teach them to bring others down, it's merely a natural response to feeling low value. In some men. Not all. But your videos do attract men who struggle to let go of needing results. And this is how they can behave.
Hello Brian. How to know oneself?
This is a deep question and constantly changes. As you grow your presence you will know yourself more and more. But to knowing yourself starts with accepting everything about yourself. This is includes the positive and the negative. That's the beginning of change. From there you can truly grow.
You know my response? Vitriol, anger, rage, I have no way to change my nice Guy behavior and if I do not address it before 35 then I will take my own life, because there’s no reason to live if this is all life has to offer.
On the flip side woman go for assholes that treat them like shit then cry that they are victims, um you chose that guy
Help me fix my bugs guy behavior before I explode, before I go full Joker.
I'ts like knowing about myself from your mouth man.❤
Love your videos Brian but these thumbnails feel needy
These thumbnails have been doing better than my older ones actually. I’ve had better click thru rates in other words. I’m open to feedback. Do you have experience in this areas? If you do then write them here.
The Sigma male.
Bro, you really need to up your thumbnails game. That ain't it, chief.
Thank you for your comment. At this point these thumbnails are doing better than the older ones but I will keep that in my mind as we move forward. We are currently testing different ideas to find the TH-cam Channels look.
Yeah for example, if I had seen in the thumbnail that the video was about you giving a talk in a room to a bunch of guys, I would have clicked earlier. Basically because I like seeing Brian work with different people in the video, breaking down and explaining things, doing demos or whatever.
The thumbnail suggested to me that the video was about you speaking to the camera and it didn't seem as interesting.
As a recovering nice guy, I can tell you that nice guys have no clue what it feels like to be a man. Some of them know how to act like a man.
Nice guys have been conditioned to think that they need a shield. They don’t know that they are built to take any number of hits. They have a sense that something is wrong, but they don’t realize that the shield that they carry for protection, is also blocking any worthwhile life experiences.
What Brian does, when he tells guys to start feeling their guts when they approach a beautiful woman, is showing the guys what it feels like to have no armor. Turns out, they don’t feel vulnerable without their armor. They feel stupid for carrying it around for all of these years. Nice guys, throw your armor in the trash, and start living your life.
I love the way you put the part about removing your armor.
@@BrianKbegin Thanks. I guess it's an armor consisting of two materials: faking a persona, that you hope she will find cool, and checking her responses because the nice guy secretly doesn't buy his own crap. That's part of why he can't convince her: he can't convince himself.