So true! Most of the time, it's all in our head. The way that we personally view our stuttering will usually decide whether or not we choose to talk sometimes! Negative thoughts will hold me back too, and we have to learn how to overcome them, I'm still learning at times during certain situations!
I have been stuttering since I was 5 y/o and I've had quite some disabling experiences. I admire the way you have changed your perspective towards your stutter, which has helped you be more confident, but I think the experiences also differ, and "overcoming" is a subjective experience. As for me, since childhood, I have been told that my stutter doesn't exist. It was invisibilized yet when I stuttered, it was more than apparent and would invoke responses (often unwelcome) from the interlocutor. The invisibilization of my stutter has led me to think that it is me who is holding myself back, some weird magical stutter illusion, but in college, I began to embrace the fact that I do have a stutter and also recognized that it has been disabling for me, and that recognition gave me a sense of reconciliation. I think it also kickstarted my journey towards healing. I loved to listen to your experience. I have been looking for more content on stuttering. After all these years when I've finally been able to drive away the shame associated with stuttering, I want to write more on it and maybe put it out for people to read about. For so long, the media in my country has used stuttering as a comic device. I think if people are made aware, there will be more understanding. Thank you for this video!
Thanks for sharing your insight! I agree completely. Stuttering plays such a unique role in everyone's lives in a totally different way, and especially the way we view it and treat it is unique to each individual. Our lived experiences sort of make us who we are, and the battle to overcome the adversity that comes with stuttering is such a powerful journey for anyone to go through. I heavily encourage you to write about your experiences and share your story! That's interesting to hear how stuttering is treated where you are, what country do you live in?
I love this! My dream is that people will view my stutter in the same way that they view my accent. They might notice it’s there, but they’ll still listen to what I’m actually saying. The most important thing I ever did was decide to talk, even if I wasn’t sure that people were going to listen. Now, I know that if someone doesn’t listen, then the issue isn’t with me. I’m talking, and hopefully people will hear me. Great message ❤️
Exactly!! I love your viewpoint on that. Stuttering isn't a problem with us, it's how people react to our stuttering that is the problem. The world just needs to have a little bit more patience and kindness, and we have a great opportunity to help other people learn about that!
(Hey Lynne) That's what happens at the exchanges, if I am around pws for long enough I don't even notice it anymore and I just see it as their language. Makes me more comfortable as well!
@@WiWillemijn Hello back! When you used my name, I got confused, and then I realised, haha 😆😅 Definitely! Being around other PWS has really helped me to realise that fluency isn’t the most important thing. I’m happy to wait for my friends who stutter. Why should my friends who don’t stutter not be the same for me? And yes! The exchanges were so valuable for me!
@@stutteringslp Definitely! I know that not everyone knows about stuttering, but if they treat me poorly once they know, then that’s a massive red flag. Patience and kindness is so underrated!
absolutely the best stuttering influence in my life! thank you so much for sharing with us your experiences and knowledge. you have no idea how helpful and inspiring it is to a fellow stutterer!
Yes! Thank you so much for this insight. I had no idea how I would be able to communicate with my stutter but through time and patience I was able to see that it isn’t a disability. It will just take me a bit longer. Great video!
For me it comes and it goes I sometimes speak clearly and I sometimes lose my flow im my words. Overtime I sometimes managed to speak clearly my advice just meditation and reading books.
I do agree with you. The way we think results an impact depending on how you perceive it. Me as having a stutter, tired of being taking over by this stutter my entire life and decided to control it rather than be controlled by it. So now, I decided to apply in a Customer service representative job and surprisingly passed my initial interview which was a big step for me. Hoping to pass the final interview though.😄😀 Even so pass or fail, I will still be proud at least , I have faced my fear and turning it upside down to chase my dreams not holding it back. Guys. As they say, We are unique so stop holding your self down from achieving your goals in life.😎🤩
That's a HUGE step and that is incredible!! I hope the final interview goes FANTASTIC for you! You got this!!! People who stutter can do anything, you have a very positive and energetic mindset about this I love it!
Hey man, i am really enjoying your content. I stutter myself and enjoy listening to your positive thoughts on it. I would love to hear about your experience creating videos as someone who stutters. Was it hard to see at first? How did you experience the video creation process as a stutterer? Thanks!
Hey! Thanks so much for the comment! At first, it was a BIG step for me, I made my first TH-cam video talking about stuttering when I was a sophomore in college. At that time, I was just starting to come to terms with stuttering openly in front of people, so I thought that stuttering openly in front of camera for anyone to see would be a huge confidence booster for me. It was hard listening to myself stutter for 7-10 minutes in a video, but I slowly became used to it. Back then, I recorded all my videos in one-take, so I feel like it was a very accurate representation of an actual conversation with me. But I definitely rambled a lot on camera during that one take, so I had to learn how to stick to a message and not over-explain it. Nowadays, I actually write a script for each video and cut scenes together more, for purposes of time and quality of content! Most of the takes that get deleted are usually from me forgetting certain things to say, or just not wording stuff in the way I'd like. I try to keep my stuttering very natural and open on camera, meaning I won't delete certain takes just because I stutter more on it, I try to give a very real and accurate representation of who I am.
I’ve hated stuttering for the whole time I’ve had it because most of the time when I try to start a conversation with someone and if the word doesn’t come out I never say it and just be quiet and that has led me not to speak to friends and even my family sometimes and its just really bad
I feel like this video represents an example of internalized ableism. While I do understand where you are coming from, you present disability as a negative throughout this entire video. As a proud disabled woman, I see some problems with that. Viewing one's self as disabled doesn't mean they are viewing themselves as less or holding themselves back. I am a wheelchair user. Part of my disability is that sometimes it takes me longer to do something, therefore people have to be patient with me. Stuttering is no different. It can take you longer to speak than someone without a disability. A disability is a difference in ability (i.e. you do not have the ability to speak fluently). Obviously there is nothing wrong with that. I totally agree that stuttering is a difference that should be celebrated. Just like all disabilities. I really encourage you to reach out to the disability community (especially since it is now disability pride month) and learn about concepts such as internalized ableism and how disability is not a dirty word. My Instagram is @itsrileylyn if you want to talk. Best wishes!
Thank you so much for your input and comment! I appreciate your point of view and I think it's an incredibly important topic to talk more about. With you being a proud disabled woman, I fully respect everything you said, and it makes me happy to see you be very active in wanting to have your voice heard about disabilities! See my reply on your other post for further info :)
Also, in light of this important conversation being brought up, I changed the title of the video to stuttering in "my" life, instead of generalizing my ideas to everyone who stutters (which I talked about in my updated video).
Whenever I tell someone that I stutter they say “ Oh so you are disabled?” and I hate it. I went to the doctor and the nurse asked me my date of birth and I was stuttering under the mask so she couldn’t see my mouth moving and she goes “You forgot your date of birth?”. I stutter on my name too so people think I forget my name. My first day of school in a new country is on Monday and I’m terrified. Do you have any advice for me to make friends. I don’t like making friends or meeting new people but I don’t really have a choice and I’m so nervous.
You will rock it with the right attitude! Smile! And remember that just because others might not stutter, they may carry anxieties that are hidden. YOU may be the friend that someone ELSE needs, so don't make yourself inaccessible. A smile and wave say hello even if the words don't come out right away. It's ok to tell people you stutter, and don't be ashamed! If you are comfortable with it, it will help others be comfortable as well. Friendships take time, but being friendly is immediate. All the best for Monday, and I'd love to hear how your day goes!
Hey! I've had a similar experience too recently where someone at a barber shop asked if I forgot my name. As a response, I said "no I didn't, I stutter, it's a neurological speech disorder." She then said "Oh, that's okay! No worries." and I responded with "I'm not apologizing, I'm just letting you know and I actually love talking about it." Sometimes we get scared when people say those things, but I always like to remember that we can use it as an opportunity to teach other people about stuttering and have them learn a little more about us. The same goes for when you're making friends in school! The people you 'should' be friends with are the ones who will accept you as you are. It helps talking about stuttering openly around new people and use it as an icebreaker! So many people are SO interested in learning about stuttering, and I've made SO many friends that way! You got this!! Remember to stay true to yourself and let people see the real you. You are BRAVE, CONFIDENT, and have SO MUCH to share with the world, and people are just waiting to have the incredible chance to be friends with you!
@@katecrain4809 Hey Kate! My first day went great. I met 2 new friends and I introduced myself to everyone. One of my teachers asked me my name and I was stuttering and he said “you forgot?” It didn’t really bother me because I’m used to it and he couldn’t see me stuttering under the mask. Overall it went really well. Thanks so much for your advice!
Hi ♥️ can you make a video about the way you deal with présentation I'm a new architecture school student and i'm kind of scarred Btw i love your videos so much ♥️♥️♥️
It is ableist to say that stuttering is not a disability THEREFORE you are worth listening to. Disabled people are worth listening to. I'd really rethink this video if I were you.
Hi Riley. I agree with you that people with disabilities are worth listening to! I was not implying that they are not. The point I was making in this video was focused on the aspects of stuttering being a "disabling" factor in one's life and holding them back from achieving their full potential. I am a huge advocate for people with disabilities of all kinds, and I respect someone's choice to classify stuttering as a disability in their life. I personally don't classify it as a disability for my personal life, but other people have every right to do so for theirs. I made an updated video talking about responses I received from the stuttering community on this topic, you should check it out if you haven't yet! :)
Hey there! After posting this video I uploaded an updated version shortly after based on feedback I received from the stuttering community. I address that in there as well. Here's the link! th-cam.com/video/-fbvDxLoVg8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=gmCu5DgSCBm-t-zf
I always remind myself that stuttering itself isn't holding me back, only the negative thoughts are.
Good video!
So true! Most of the time, it's all in our head. The way that we personally view our stuttering will usually decide whether or not we choose to talk sometimes! Negative thoughts will hold me back too, and we have to learn how to overcome them, I'm still learning at times during certain situations!
I have been stuttering since I was 5 y/o and I've had quite some disabling experiences. I admire the way you have changed your perspective towards your stutter, which has helped you be more confident, but I think the experiences also differ, and "overcoming" is a subjective experience. As for me, since childhood, I have been told that my stutter doesn't exist. It was invisibilized yet when I stuttered, it was more than apparent and would invoke responses (often unwelcome) from the interlocutor. The invisibilization of my stutter has led me to think that it is me who is holding myself back, some weird magical stutter illusion, but in college, I began to embrace the fact that I do have a stutter and also recognized that it has been disabling for me, and that recognition gave me a sense of reconciliation. I think it also kickstarted my journey towards healing. I loved to listen to your experience. I have been looking for more content on stuttering. After all these years when I've finally been able to drive away the shame associated with stuttering, I want to write more on it and maybe put it out for people to read about. For so long, the media in my country has used stuttering as a comic device. I think if people are made aware, there will be more understanding.
Thank you for this video!
Thanks for sharing your insight! I agree completely. Stuttering plays such a unique role in everyone's lives in a totally different way, and especially the way we view it and treat it is unique to each individual. Our lived experiences sort of make us who we are, and the battle to overcome the adversity that comes with stuttering is such a powerful journey for anyone to go through. I heavily encourage you to write about your experiences and share your story! That's interesting to hear how stuttering is treated where you are, what country do you live in?
it is a thing that MAKES YOU UNIQUE AND I LOOVEE YOUR VOICE...I hope some people watch this and think about it
Thank you!! We ARE unique!! :)
I love this! My dream is that people will view my stutter in the same way that they view my accent. They might notice it’s there, but they’ll still listen to what I’m actually saying. The most important thing I ever did was decide to talk, even if I wasn’t sure that people were going to listen. Now, I know that if someone doesn’t listen, then the issue isn’t with me. I’m talking, and hopefully people will hear me. Great message ❤️
Exactly!! I love your viewpoint on that. Stuttering isn't a problem with us, it's how people react to our stuttering that is the problem. The world just needs to have a little bit more patience and kindness, and we have a great opportunity to help other people learn about that!
(Hey Lynne) That's what happens at the exchanges, if I am around pws for long enough I don't even notice it anymore and I just see it as their language. Makes me more comfortable as well!
@@WiWillemijn Hello back! When you used my name, I got confused, and then I realised, haha 😆😅
Definitely! Being around other PWS has really helped me to realise that fluency isn’t the most important thing. I’m happy to wait for my friends who stutter. Why should my friends who don’t stutter not be the same for me? And yes! The exchanges were so valuable for me!
@@stutteringslp Definitely! I know that not everyone knows about stuttering, but if they treat me poorly once they know, then that’s a massive red flag. Patience and kindness is so underrated!
absolutely the best stuttering influence in my life! thank you so much for sharing with us your experiences and knowledge. you have no idea how helpful and inspiring it is to a fellow stutterer!
You're so welcome!! :) I hope that you can keep sharing your positive attitude with others and be an inspiration for other people!
Yes! Thank you so much for this insight. I had no idea how I would be able to communicate with my stutter but through time and patience I was able to see that it isn’t a disability. It will just take me a bit longer. Great video!
I love that!! You have SUCH a strong positive attitude about it. Thanks for sharing!
For me it comes and it goes I sometimes speak clearly and I sometimes lose my flow im my words. Overtime I sometimes managed to speak clearly my advice just meditation and reading books.
I do agree with you. The way we think results an impact depending on how you perceive it. Me as having a stutter, tired of being taking over by this stutter my entire life and decided to control it rather than be controlled by it. So now, I decided to apply in a Customer service representative job and surprisingly passed my initial interview which was a big step for me. Hoping to pass the final interview though.😄😀
Even so pass or fail, I will still be proud at least , I have faced my fear and turning it upside down to chase my dreams not holding it back.
Guys. As they say, We are unique so stop holding your self down from achieving your goals in life.😎🤩
That's a HUGE step and that is incredible!! I hope the final interview goes FANTASTIC for you! You got this!!! People who stutter can do anything, you have a very positive and energetic mindset about this I love it!
Thanks man! Really appreciate your support😄 You have a great communication skills which inspire us. Keep it up. We are here supporting you too.😉
Hey man, i am really enjoying your content. I stutter myself and enjoy listening to your positive thoughts on it. I would love to hear about your experience creating videos as someone who stutters. Was it hard to see at first? How did you experience the video creation process as a stutterer? Thanks!
Hey! Thanks so much for the comment! At first, it was a BIG step for me, I made my first TH-cam video talking about stuttering when I was a sophomore in college. At that time, I was just starting to come to terms with stuttering openly in front of people, so I thought that stuttering openly in front of camera for anyone to see would be a huge confidence booster for me. It was hard listening to myself stutter for 7-10 minutes in a video, but I slowly became used to it. Back then, I recorded all my videos in one-take, so I feel like it was a very accurate representation of an actual conversation with me. But I definitely rambled a lot on camera during that one take, so I had to learn how to stick to a message and not over-explain it. Nowadays, I actually write a script for each video and cut scenes together more, for purposes of time and quality of content! Most of the takes that get deleted are usually from me forgetting certain things to say, or just not wording stuff in the way I'd like. I try to keep my stuttering very natural and open on camera, meaning I won't delete certain takes just because I stutter more on it, I try to give a very real and accurate representation of who I am.
I'm 22,i am a stutter... My stuttering start in when I was 12 ..
I’ve hated stuttering for the whole time I’ve had it because most of the time when I try to start a conversation with someone and if the word doesn’t come out I never say it and just be quiet and that has led me not to speak to friends and even my family sometimes and its just really bad
Courtland I’m soooo proud of you!!!!
Dude, you are my inspiration!!!
I'm honored to hear that man!! Glad you enjoy it!!
keep going 👍🏼💕
I feel like this video represents an example of internalized ableism. While I do understand where you are coming from, you present disability as a negative throughout this entire video. As a proud disabled woman, I see some problems with that. Viewing one's self as disabled doesn't mean they are viewing themselves as less or holding themselves back. I am a wheelchair user. Part of my disability is that sometimes it takes me longer to do something, therefore people have to be patient with me. Stuttering is no different. It can take you longer to speak than someone without a disability. A disability is a difference in ability (i.e. you do not have the ability to speak fluently). Obviously there is nothing wrong with that. I totally agree that stuttering is a difference that should be celebrated. Just like all disabilities. I really encourage you to reach out to the disability community (especially since it is now disability pride month) and learn about concepts such as internalized ableism and how disability is not a dirty word. My Instagram is @itsrileylyn if you want to talk. Best wishes!
Thank you so much for your input and comment! I appreciate your point of view and I think it's an incredibly important topic to talk more about. With you being a proud disabled woman, I fully respect everything you said, and it makes me happy to see you be very active in wanting to have your voice heard about disabilities! See my reply on your other post for further info :)
Also, in light of this important conversation being brought up, I changed the title of the video to stuttering in "my" life, instead of generalizing my ideas to everyone who stutters (which I talked about in my updated video).
So good... Way to go Courtland :)
Whenever I tell someone that I stutter they say “ Oh so you are disabled?” and I hate it. I went to the doctor and the nurse asked me my date of birth and I was stuttering under the mask so she couldn’t see my mouth moving and she goes “You forgot your date of birth?”. I stutter on my name too so people think I forget my name. My first day of school in a new country is on Monday and I’m terrified. Do you have any advice for me to make friends. I don’t like making friends or meeting new people but I don’t really have a choice and I’m so nervous.
You will rock it with the right attitude! Smile! And remember that just because others might not stutter, they may carry anxieties that are hidden. YOU may be the friend that someone ELSE needs, so don't make yourself inaccessible. A smile and wave say hello even if the words don't come out right away. It's ok to tell people you stutter, and don't be ashamed! If you are comfortable with it, it will help others be comfortable as well. Friendships take time, but being friendly is immediate. All the best for Monday, and I'd love to hear how your day goes!
Hey! I've had a similar experience too recently where someone at a barber shop asked if I forgot my name. As a response, I said "no I didn't, I stutter, it's a neurological speech disorder." She then said "Oh, that's okay! No worries." and I responded with "I'm not apologizing, I'm just letting you know and I actually love talking about it." Sometimes we get scared when people say those things, but I always like to remember that we can use it as an opportunity to teach other people about stuttering and have them learn a little more about us. The same goes for when you're making friends in school! The people you 'should' be friends with are the ones who will accept you as you are. It helps talking about stuttering openly around new people and use it as an icebreaker! So many people are SO interested in learning about stuttering, and I've made SO many friends that way! You got this!! Remember to stay true to yourself and let people see the real you. You are BRAVE, CONFIDENT, and have SO MUCH to share with the world, and people are just waiting to have the incredible chance to be friends with you!
@@stutteringslp Thank you so much. This made my day 😊
@@katecrain4809 Thank you. That’s so sweet. It really put a smile on my face. 😊
@@katecrain4809 Hey Kate! My first day went great. I met 2 new friends and I introduced myself to everyone. One of my teachers asked me my name and I was stuttering and he said “you forgot?” It didn’t really bother me because I’m used to it and he couldn’t see me stuttering under the mask. Overall it went really well. Thanks so much for your advice!
Hi ♥️ can you make a video about the way you deal with présentation
I'm a new architecture school student and i'm kind of scarred
Btw i love your videos so much ♥️♥️♥️
That's a great suggestion!! I'll definitely consider that soon, thanks for bringing it up!
It is ableist to say that stuttering is not a disability THEREFORE you are worth listening to. Disabled people are worth listening to. I'd really rethink this video if I were you.
Hi Riley. I agree with you that people with disabilities are worth listening to! I was not implying that they are not. The point I was making in this video was focused on the aspects of stuttering being a "disabling" factor in one's life and holding them back from achieving their full potential. I am a huge advocate for people with disabilities of all kinds, and I respect someone's choice to classify stuttering as a disability in their life. I personally don't classify it as a disability for my personal life, but other people have every right to do so for theirs. I made an updated video talking about responses I received from the stuttering community on this topic, you should check it out if you haven't yet! :)
You know disability isn't a bad word, right?
Hey there! After posting this video I uploaded an updated version shortly after based on feedback I received from the stuttering community. I address that in there as well. Here's the link! th-cam.com/video/-fbvDxLoVg8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=gmCu5DgSCBm-t-zf
Why do you have to be so cute