Hi, Firstly, I’m stepping back from TH-cam to focus on my mental health from today. My social anxiety, in particular blushing, is the worst it’s ever been. I must do everything I can to help myself now. But I want you to know you’re not alone. No-one understands the curse of blushing unless you’ve endured it. I constantly want to tell people “IT’S NOTHING PERSONAL! IT’S NOT YOU, IT’S ME!!” Instead, I’m constantly shrinking/sinking into myself deeper and deeper. Enough is enough. I hope to report back with a positive update in the future, because as always, I want to show you “It Gets Brighter”. Sending you strength. Be kind to yourself. Remember, you’re just human x x
I hope you read this at some point Jonny.. It wasn't fair what your friend said when he gave his opinion on talking to children, knowing that you're a sensitive guy and would take his opinion to heart. I know because I'm the same, and I would latch onto others negative opinions. I wish I had been there in his place to tell you how sweet and open hearted you are -and that's why you should continue to talk to children and talk to anyone for that matter - because they will be the ones to benefit from your lovely nature. One little piece of advice/experience with the blushing thing I could give is to do whatever you can that gives you happiness. Happiness leads to confidence. When you believe in yourself you care less about what others think. This also comes with age. I truly believe these things will come to you. You are lovely and it radiates from you, I wish I could give you a hug and make you know that you don't have to care even if you do blush. Never run away from it if you feel it coming, go with it, even if you feel the fear and burn in your face (I understand, I've been there). Breathe, let it pass. Another thing is, if it helps, let the person you're speaking to know that you have it (hyperhydrosis). If people understand that stuttering or other similar issues are things to be aware and understanding of, then so is blushing. Bless you and please look after yourself, you're loved.
@@mrjonnybenjamin aww that's brilliant! I totally understand how painful it can be as I have it too (I think it's getting better over time.. ) but never change your kind nature, always be who you want to be and it'll reflect onto others. Believe in yourself :)
Hi Ben how are you getting on mate? I've had this blushing since I was 14 I'm now 42. Are you on any medication? I had an operation called ETS in my 20s didn't touch it. It definitely effects your mental well being mate I completely understand your pain. There's a new drug on the market called clonidine which I might ask the doc for. I hope your ok X
same..(ok every1 will probably judge me by my age but anyways) going to a new school this year , starting 8th grade which means sexual education. I blush for the smallest thing. If my "body gets to hot" or if im just feeeling warm it's like waves through my body and thinking about blushing makes me blush. not just the cheeks, my whole face. been depressed just because this and l've been told by my mum that it's my skintype. but the weird thing is, that l blush im periods, depressed periods as l calls it. periods when l feels down and blushes for everything. had a couple of thoughts about suicide during this period and l'm so jealous by everyone else..
+Melvin Ankas oh My god everything you said is accurateee and I can relate to all of that :( I had millions if not zillions of suicidal thoughts because of my social anxiety and my extreme facing blushing especially this year because i had to deal with massive enormous amount of bullying about my shyness and redness like every single day !!! it s killing me and it s depriving me from having a normal life ! i just hate that i have to deal with this issue and it s not even my fault :( but we have to be courageous and not give up , we have to prove ourselves in.other fields (. life is not only abt the social skills ) and we're dealing this together so dont worry ;)
+yosra mcguiness sorry to hear :'(. seeing people who never turns red, who can talk to everyone and do everything kills me. l'm terrified of "haha why are yoy so red" and comments like that because it makes you blush even more. l searched for it and everyone was like "you have to do things that makes you blush, just because it shows your body it's nothing wrong" but that would make you sink even deeper into the fear of blushing
It's okeyI got used to it i guess :) ..yeaah me too im soooo jealous of those people they're just super lucky , they get to do whtvr they want without being jusged :'( .. me tooo I get so emotional when i hear those bad comments they just made me feel even worse , imagine 2 hrs ago i went outside and some random stranger started teasing me and saying " look at that red face etc.." and i dont even know the damn guy !!! i just hate hearing these comments :((( yesss me too , i dnt agree with that saying , because when i blush i dnt feel comfortable at all..
+yosra mcguiness yeah omg.. everyone's like "it's not a big deal just ignore it. none will notice". please. a red face in a sea of "normal people". just saw a video of a guy comitting suicide just because of this and his parents didn't find out about his depression earlier..
I've suffered from extreme blushing for a long time and it is absolutely horrible. No one understands how bad it makes you feel and when people draw attention to it, it makes you blush more and feel even worse :( I have the same thing in that I blush in front of certain people and once it starts, I dread every time I see that person because I worry about blushing in front of them. I've contemplated ending my life before because my blushing gets so bad that I can't even leave the house sometimes but it's comforting in a way to know that I'm not the only person who suffers from it.
@@jamesbra4410 I feel the same way I have suffered severely from it from 10 years old to now (24). All this time my life was terrible because of the blushing and I thought it was getting less but its getting worse again😭
I turn red for the dumbest things. It’s not a cute blush….I think I turn purple and I hate how people point it out. What makes me so uncomfortable is the way people look at me and ask if I’m ok. I HATE IT!!! I have avoided so many situations because of the fear of turning red. As soon as I feel a slight feeling of turning red I immediately avoid the situation.
Ah i hear you. It's so horrible. I've found therapy/support groups helpful. And meditation useful. There's a meditation on the app Insight Timer specifically for blushing. It's really helped me. Please check it out. It might help you too!
I have struggled with this since I was about 12 years old. I’m now 29. 😭 it affects literally every aspect of my life! Work, dating, family things, friend things. People don’t understand it. They’re literally like- it’s just blushing, relax! I also relate to the same feeling of people thinking you are some way because you are going red.. money went missing at a job of mine and they interrogated people and even tho I would never steal i blushed during the interrogation and it makes you just feel and look so guilty! Stay strong love! Wish there were small communities in every town/country who suffer with this would make socialising so much easier!
you're so courageous for working regardless of your issue. Stay strong! Women have an advantage over men where you can wear makeup to mitigate its effects. I used to tan so much so that my skin would turn super red and peel off, in order to go to social gatherings and trick my brain that im already red so, ppl would think it's normal since it's just the sun. What a mega idiotic mental disease. No one will understand us unfortunately...oh yeah, you have another advantage, since you're a woman, when i was in HS and saw women blush, i thought it was cute and part of their feminine beauty to be shy and reserved. I mean it's a silver lining if you think about it hard enough :)
I know exactly what you are saying about blushing. I struggle with this so much. The smallest things will trigger me and I can't stop blushing. It's extremely uncomfortable and I wish I could stop. Thank you for opening up about this, I felt so alone
I'm a 63 year old man it started at age 11 I've never had a minutes peace from it I wake up dreading it go to bed dreading next day. Its been cruel just being alive and il brave it now as I'm coming to the end years of my life. But I know now I should have ended my life as soon as I was able to do so being alive has been cruel.
You are not alone in this. I struggled with severe blushing for 5+ years and it lead to my depression, anxiety, OCD behaviors and obsessive overthinking. I still have it from time to time but no where near the extent that I used to. I'm about to share my struggle with it on TH-cam too and how i overcame it because there are not enough people sharing their struggle with this. Thank you for this video.
I have the same problem. It makes my life a living hell. It's worse than having acne because you never know when it will show up and can happen and go away multiple times in one day. It makes me so ashamed to be around people
Annika Taylor I have this too, and it's called erythrophobia and it's the fear of blushing it's just so uncomfortable and embarrassing, I hate when this happens to me, it can happen at literally any time just thinking about it now is making me blush ah😪there's a really good channel on TH-cam I can't remember the name of it but it's something like anxiety training/ help and this guy with blonde hair trains you it's worked for me, and I only found him yesterday!! I'm still blushing so much and it' really gets to me :(( but we can all pull through this, support to all going through this xxxxx
So I always blushed super bad until one day I saw another person at a school blushing really bad and you could tell he felt really embarrassed. It was really cool to se my same circumstance from third person, and i realized no one even really cares that much about it even if they notice it. When I’m blushing myself, it seems way worse that it actually is. So even if you blush everyday, people will still like you the same.
Johnny, one thing you need to understand is that you don't have to be embarrassed about you mental health condition. Hearing what you are saying is so courageous
I blush even when I talk to my friends. It makes my cheeks and bridge of my nose super red and it heads up and like doesn't go away the rest of the day
Blushing is my mind is related to caring what other people think you. This part of the brain develops when we are in our mid teenage years, so it's part our development. I know what you mean and it can happen around people that you consider to be superior in one way or another and/or you want to impress and thus you care what they think of you. It can also happen around your peers assuming something has triggered you to be uncomfortable. The worst part is that it can be spontaneous as we meet new people all the time. When the blush comes, don't break eye contact or start fidgeting , just own it and keep conversing. In other words remain in control. The other person will see that you have gone red but if you maintain eye contact and strong body language, these will be more dominating. If you focus on the conversation, the redness will disappear as quick as it first appeared. Also you will feel much better afterwards and you will approach the next interaction with much more confidence. I will also suggest traveling if you can to experience other cultures. There are cultures that are less politically correct than others. In Southern Europe, people there exert a sense of freedom because they speak their mind as they do not care what others think. Mind you those around them do the same. It's the way they have been brought up. Everything is out in the open, no secrets. Everyone is so confident and in turn, since you are around them, you become the same. Our potential to adapt is quite incredible as we tend to behave according to our environment. Finally don't think about your blushing when you are alone. In fact do not overthink when you are alone period, especially if this is something that is getting you down. This is how we can create our own fears. Always remember to occupy the mind and set daily goals. Thanks for sharing
It feels horrible I know. It happens to me especially if I feel everyone is looking at me at a family gathering. Your friend had no right to say that as it was his perception of the situation which is negative. You are a great bloke. I can see that.
Let me tell you something... Y´all. I was dealing with extreme blushing for 4 years, so I can really relate to this video. I had been looking for sooo many solutions how to get rid of it. I was so upset that i could not say my opinion without turning red, i was unable to say anything. It effected me in everything. I hated my life at that time. I really did. But I realized one thing. That the more i thought about the fact i was blushing, the more my face turned red. So i stopped doing it. Honestly, it is easier than you think. From then, every time when someone asked me something or i had to say something and felt that sense of blushing on my face, i just ignored it. Sure, im blushing.. and? For sure, there were times when someone had to point it out. But don´t be sad about it. They don´t even know what you have to deal with every single day. One thing you have to do is to make fun of it. Why not? Don´t be serious and pretend it is not happening. Trust me, these are the only ways what will help you to deal with your blushing. It may sound weird, but when you start to do that, you realize yourself not doing it anymore. It may take some time, it is a slow process of building up on your self-confidence, but it DOES work. JUST STOP THINING ABOUT IT. that is the key point. love yourself.
Kika I agree with you on not to care and make fun of it. When ppl would point it out I would say that I packed it with the blush cuz the foundation made me look too plain and they laughed and that made me feel comfortable. Also I would say dumb things like, “its cuz I love tomatoes and ketchup so it reflects through my skin”. Honestly this is a fear we learned. We all blush as kids and don’t care but not until you see someone’s negative reaction, either they make fun of you or just pointing it out, makes you think that they are judging you and disapproving you. That’s why we accrued this fear, but just like any fear can be overcomed with a change on your point of view on this it can also be overcomed. I actually am thankful I had this issue cuz it stopped me from doing things that probably would of taken me in a wrong direction. So not everything about it had to be bad. Guys CBT is what will help change your view on it and accept it, and you’ll learn it was the best thing to do.
@@mire1390 like you and everyone else I’m paranoid about all the same things but I’ve never heard anyone comment about the not doing certain things and those could have taken you down a bad road. I think and believe the same thing. Damn. Really nice to hear someone say this. Thanks. On the negative side though. There’s so many things I know I would have done that definitely would have had a positive outcome but didn’t because of this curse. I hope all is well. Maybe one day soon they’ll be something that can cure this without crazy side effects.
I blush for anything, whether it’s a compliment or a negative comment or just by being and suddenly I feel the heat crawl through and out onto the surface of my skin. Then I have “good days” when nothing seems to phase me. Its like I have to be this emotionless person in order to not blush. I think the core of the problem is the obsessive thoughts of what people think of us. The need of being accepted by society and the fear of rejection . I learned in my bio psychology class that blushing comes from the Amygdala, “fight or flight” portion of the brain. When we feel threatened that portion fires. Those who suffer from any type of anxiety disorder, that part is hypersensitive due to a burnt out hypothalamus (control the release of stress hormones). Anyways, I don’t know about everyone else but if you’re like me, I realized that I sometimes act in a way that suppresses the real me in a way that it will be more liked or pleasant for society. For instance today In a lab class I had become impatient with one of my group members when he was trying to be funny but all he was doing was delaying us from finishing the activity. I was becoming agitated. He then asks me what grade I got on my previous lab reports and I quickly became even more agitated. So I answered and continued to ask more questions. Next thing you know I was becoming even more and more agitated thats when my face began to turn red. I don’t say anything but I see in his and my other group members face that they are looking at me turn redder and redder. I go from suppression, agitation, to humiliation. Just like you I’m yet to learn how to fix the problem but from making observations about my past experiences I can learn more and more about myself and why I react the way I do. However, it is important to NOT ridicule yourself for having these episodes. Doing that WILL NOT help you. I think start by being kind to yourself. Do it purposefully every day! Until you learn to love and accept yourself. Now to think of it, I think that might be the core problem; Not truly loving or accepting yourself. To anyone that reads this, You are not alone, I am not alone, We are not alone.
Thank you for sharing this, I too suffer with this...daily. It’s in every aspect of my life and is all consuming. After 20 years of this, I can’t even separate my thoughts anymore..I used to be able to compartmentalise my problem, now...it’s consuming me. I dint feel I can break free 😢
Yeah, I blush around exactly one person in my class. I'm a boy and he's a boy and I'm not gay. I don't know why it happens but it makes things really akward between us.
same. i used to only get when i used to do presentations or talk to people, but my senior year in highschool it got worse. i was just sitting in the bus and all of a sudden i start to feel my face get hot and i was getting red. it happened in class too where i would just sit and get so red. i didn't know why. i was always a quiet person and l didn't want to go to places and stuff because i didn't want to interact with people. this also happens when i go to stores or when someone looks at me or even compliments me. i need someone to be with me so that i dont get red. now i already missed 2 years of college because i don't want to get red infront of people. well I was like this already where i would get dizzy, rapid heart palpitations, abd the urge to escape whenever im in a place where there's alot of people. i read that it's something to do with social anxiety or anxiety. i really hate it. i can't control it
I'm 18. turning 19 next month and i honestly want it to go away so that i could enjoy life and interact with people.i hope that one day we'll find a solution to avoid it
I have had similar experiences. This blushing has taken over my life and I can't control it. I have had many occurrences where I blushed in front of everyone in my class at the university I'm currently studying in and now I feel like almost everyone in the university knows about my blushing since even when I am not blushing, I often see people staring at me or hearing giggling and silent laughter not only from classmates but from teaching assistants, lecturers, and people whom I don't even know as well, which makes me start blushing, attracting more attention, hence making me blush even more.
im 16 and suffer with this, didnt know anyone else would ever understand this struggle. From my short years of experience of having this, the only thing you can do is embrace it. Theres people dying in hospital beds that would do anything to be healthy. Be thankful your alive find god and embrace being yourself
When you recorded this video and people in the comments were in the same situation as you, i was 9 years old and living my happy life, could not imagine i would feel better after reading these comments. I am glad that i am not alone. My anxiety came probably when i was 10 after changing a school (horrible classmates), but i should have been happy, at least i was not blushing. Now i am a university student and blush everyday, yes, even with my parents. "university life is so cool" not for me, cause i have to run and run from people
I'm sorry :(. Not sure which university you're at but there should be support on offer for you..try student support services perhaps. If you're in the UK, Student Minds is great too. Talking everything through makes such a difference :)
Mate. first of all youre half way there having the courage to make this video. Instead of getting caught up in the rabbit hole of thoughts and going through that whirl wind, you just have to put it out there...the more you fight it the stronger it will be. The only way to beat it is stop fighting it. Tell people what it is, Erythrophobia, you're struggling with it. You hate it. It ruins lives and ends lives. People will take it as they will depending on the kind of oerson they are. But.....i can tell you.....almost 100%, give it time, you will realize one day that you havent thought of blushing in ages!!!!!!! Whats the cause of it? I dont know but suspect youre a very sensitive lovely human and there is a great value there. I see the pain in you and wish you the best. Yes i have gone through this. Yes it has ....changed my life. But im still here. It will happen every once in a while but i barely ever even think about it now. Thinking back to horrible it was....yeah.....its torture.
I have it 24/7 it's so so upsetting because we're aware of it, and talking to others knowing we're blushing makes it 10 times harder. I'm very pale like paper white so my skin is literally red and people point it out :(
unfortunately I suffer the same. It has happened most of my life now and I am 39. I find it something I have not been able to change. I have heard that you just have to not care that you blush and try and blush more and point it out. It hurts still to do this but I do the best i can. People can be quite mean about it and tease about it.
Sorry, just come across this video. I 100% understand what you are going through. I'm 15 years old, and before a few years ago, I never blushed, ever. I was very confident and not very self conscious, no matter how much people made fun of me for whatever reason. But just as you said, it's something you just can't hide. It's not like things like anxiety which are physical things, blushing is something that everyone can see, especially for someone like me who has very pale skin. And I understand exactly what you mean about it happening around some people. There some old friends I had, especially girls, who currently I can't speak to whatsoever without blushing. The one thing you always have to remember is that it will eventually end, and it's something that all of us who suffer with blushing have to remember
@@Agiuopert Wow, looking back at this is honestly crazy, I'd forgot I'd ever left this comment, so thank you so much for replying to it haha. I still suffer to an extent with the issue, but more so with anxiety in general and not so much with blushing. I still stand by what I originally said: anyone going through something simular, it will eventually end, or at least improve. The less I thought about it, gradually the smaller of a problem it became in my life. I just turned 20, so again looking back at this comment has just shown me how much life has changed haha
Came across this video by accident. However this resonates with me as I am a facial blusher. It doesn't help that when I exercise or am in hot weather my face is super hot. But somehow, as of late, I have stopped blushing as much and I am not sure why. I still get the neck flush from time to time but I tell myself its ok! There are others out there just like us. :)
So there's no way that you would remember this at all but I used to speak with you on the daily when I was 15 (6 years ago now) when I was struggling with identity and depression. Just recently found your account and thought to say thank you for all those times as you really helped me deal with a lot of problems I was facing. Thank you so much for your continued vlogging, you pave the way for a lot of people with similar issues and we/I am forever grateful for that.
most important is what you think of yourself, you know you are a good person so put this thought higher than what other people could possibly think of you, you dont know what other people think of you anyway!!! I believe that the fear of blushing is a fear of being vulnerable, but being vulnerable is being honest and authentic and being authentically you is the greatest gift you can give the world.
Hi, just wanted to say don't be too hard on yourself, everybody that is struggling with mental health problems are survivors and it takes real courage and strength to deal with the problems they have to cope with. Stay strong and always remember there will be good days and bad ones but never let go of hope, Best Wishes Andy
Don’t be afraid, I’ve had severe blushing for about 12 years now. It started with crippling social anxiety and turned into blushing, you can hide anxiety and depression but you can’t hide turning red. It’s not even a little red it’s starts with the thought of being red and than the next thing you know your entire face is on fire. It destroyed my life only because I let it get this bad, if I can give you any advice it’s to stop caring about turning red and just accept it as it is. Humans come in all colors, just accept the fact that you’re red and try to accept the fact that it’s ok to be red and hiding it will only make it worse. I can give you all the advice in the world but if you don’t try it, it will never work. I wish you the best of luck and it’s a huge relief to hear other people have the same problem as me, stay strong everyone and keep trying to find a way through blushing!
Hey bro just wanna say am with you 100% totally understand what you're going through. Struggling w it atm and it makes you scared to run into ppl etc and not go. Can't let it win tho. Am hoping that just by embracing it as part of my personality I'll learn to love it!
Your friend's negative take on an innocent situation has clearly planted a seed of doubt in a mind that's already prone to such things and I really feel for you. The truth is that people rarely give more than a passing thought to other people's intentions on such a brief interaction. This goes for nervousness and blushing too. The sooner you can see the blushing as being irrelevant to those around you the less importance you'll then place on it yourself. I'm sure it's hard to see this now but you seem cursed with being overly thoughtful about other peoples feelings when they're probably too busy being self conscious themselves to notice what's going on physically or emotionally with you. Sorry if any of this sounds harsh or preachy, but you seem like such a painfully nice guy I just want to give you a massive hug and tell you everything will be fine. x
Number one thing to stop blushing is to not care what people think. Even if your face is exploding and people are staring at you, it doesn't matter what people think.
Yes man, you are not alone, it's paked with people with this kind of issue. Much respect for speaking up, you are my hero, I wish I'll be as brave as you are soon enough.
Yep I get that too Jonny. Always become very red in social situations and it's become a bit of a joke for some people so I learnt to accept and kind of giggle at it myself..
Thank you for sharing this , I have the same problem and I feel your pain.. I hate blushing for small things like paying at the grocery store or even talking to my loved ones ...
I have it too and I saw that basically you have to change your habits that are your response to blushing (hiding,not talking, covering your face, looking away) and for me it’s not talking so I started by saying hello awkwardly explaining my name and it was less embarrassing and I know if I were to blush I would have someone I could explain myself to about having Erythrophobia (fear of blushing) and in a single day my blushing has gone way down. Now the worse the trauma that caused those defensive habits that more you’ll have to change your habits. Another things is you could say you got sunburned
We as humans can only think about ONE thought at a time. Now when I am finding myself thinking something that I'd rather avoid I think how we can only think about one thought at a time. I keep thinking about it until I've passed the intrusive thought.
I know you filmed this years ago but I've just came across it and totally relate especially in how someone might say something and it sticks in your mind, like if someone asks me something I instantly turn red like my body is assuming I'm going to be pointed out and made fun of, but because I am red I then panic more that people will think I have somthing to hide or I'm lieing because I so obviously look awkward and embarrassed when I'm actually just panicked....
I feel for you it's horrible I can't even watch the telly with anyone it makes me go red if someone else's in room when I go out I've got to get really drunk to overcome this then I'm just horrible with loads of confidence coronavirus has really helped me with these masks I've been considering getting a full face tattoo
You ain't alone brother i dont even like to be around more than a couple people. Im always afraid i will flush and its just humilating and degrading. But actually its only bad to ourselves.. The ego doesn't like it because we can be ridiculed for it. But i like it when i see someone blush they seem very.. Human and more pure to me.. Makes me also not feel so alone, its very hard getting over this.. I feel much better outdoors but inside when i feel like i cant escape the situation i get way to in my own head and i start flushing.. Got to try to stay in the present moment and not think about it. We are only human!!
Johnny you are beautiful and that's probably why you get on with children so well who don't judge and just accept you as you are. I have always found children totally un-conditional with their love however you are feeling. Not sure about blushing but I always feel so self conscious but that's just with adults who we know are so judge mental and whose love is so conditional at times.. With children it's so much easier to be yourself!
All the time. Too many times to count. The worst was my son graduated from college in 2021 and I left early after the ceremony. We were supposed to meet up and have dinner and I left before that. It was horribly hot and humid that day and I was on fire and didn’t want everyone to just stare at me. I hope my son will forgive me one day. Of course I didn’t tell him or anyone this. It’s a damn curse.
I feel you 200% bro, this is what I have. I believe the only option is ETS surgery on your T1. I am getting this done on Thursday and I will let you know the results..
@@mrjonnybenjamin sorry T2 not T1 thoracic, I’ve just had this surgery done I’m still recovering one of my lungs where stuck to my chest from prior trauma, bronchitis I guess. So I’ve got tube in my chest for the next 2 days. Have not felt random embarrassments yet, your face can still go red like if you are coughing for ages etc, but not like we have it.
It happens to me and it's ruining my life. I'm 18... I was confident growing up and I started blushing I would say around 11 or 12. I have anxiety aswell. I try to get drunk to boost my confidence in situations but I can't do it forever. This is a real problem that needs to be treated. I probably have over a hundred situations where I have blushed I have avoided a couple hundred situations to avoid embarrassing myself aswell I can't even explain how it feels. I'm just glad to know I'm not the only one.
Hi Jonny. Unfortunately I don't have any advice on the blushing to offer you, but after watching your video I felt like I had to comment, if only to show my support and to thank you for your honesty. It's clear from reading the comments on your previous videos that your words really do help so many other people, and I hope that there are others who are able to make suggestions which might help you in return. x
Jonny i live in england and could use a friend like you i have exactly and i mean the identical problem its not ruining my life its completely ruined it we could help each other im trying psilocibin soon if i can get hold of any mushrooms please reply.
Sorry i've only just seen this. There's a lot going on for me at the moment but i would recommend joining a group like Mental Health Mates. They are all over the country. Or there is your local Mind or local Rethink. My local Rethink helped me through some really difficult periods. Check them out: www.rethink.org/help-in-your-area/groups-in-your-area/
@mrjonnybenjamin thanks Johnny hope your doing well mate. Thanks so much I'm going to have a look at these groups I will let you know how I get on. Thanks Johnny
OMG I feel the same. Exactly the same. It's funny how we think we are always the only ones feeling the way we do... But then I realize we're all only humans. And other humans feel the human things you feel. Anyways... We're in this together xx
Hi Johnny I have just started with my phycologist I have had about 4 sessions which were hard after hiding alll my shame and my personnel feelings of abuse which happened to me ... I get blushing when I have anxiety and when I dont feel in control or I am agitated and I could be in front of noone I find a really cold flannel works just lay it on your face just carry one in your bag just excuse yourself and go to the bathroom .. mine burns my face its horrible its like a gush of heat rises from my feet to my brain lol ...... as for your thoughts that have been put into your head about talking to children , it is just a thought that your friend said , dont get paraniod about be ing some monster you didnt offer them sweets its just a thought that is all a frightening one but just a thought I totally understand where you are coming from .. you are a good man and have help lots of people dont let one person with a couple of words make you think you are something your not ..... dont avoid children because of this .. if you cant get over it then spk to your pyscologist .... I am a little bit worried for you at the moment stay strong my love I will if you will xxxxx
I totally relate to you, I hope you’re doing okay. I’ve been suffering with this since 2013, I finally pushed myself to get help at the end of last year and I’m waiting on cbt. I hope it helps.
Omg I thought I was the only person that blushed really bad!! Everytime I talk to my parents or even people from my school I can't help blushing and my extreme blushing started happening after my anxiety and depression and now I'm stuck with it but I've learned a lot from it and it has made me feel bad about my self that people can see through it but ThankYou for sharing !!x
Medications to help (blushing/flushing) Medications to help treat facial blushing can include: * Beta-blockers are drugs that can help manage some of the symptoms of anxiety, such as blushing and heart palpitations. * Clonidine is a medication that is sometimes used to treat uncontrollable facial blushing. It works by changing the body’s response to naturally occurring chemicals, such as noradrenaline, that control the dilation and constriction of blood vessels. Also Lasers can help In particular, vascular lasers can remove the small surface blood vessels that contribute to the red appearance. Hope this helps
I spent thousands of dollars in 2003-2004 getting laser treatments from two different Drs. It didn’t work. Tragically I started taking benzodiazepines after a consultation with a dr that performed ETS surgery. Once I did enough research and spoke to many people to realize ETS is a horrible surgery. I spent 15 years dependent on Xanax. It ruined my life. I finally went to rehab 8 months ago and I’ve been clean but nothing ever helped my facial blushing. It’s a curse and some days I just say screw what others think and I get by just fine. Most days I’m just tired and worn out worrying about this. But it is what is. My circle of friends is very very small. I feel like most people don’t wanna be around my red face anyways. It’s certainly one of the reasons my ex wife left me. She told me that. That really messed me. That’s why I started abusing Benzos. I’ll never forgive her for that. My kids mom so she’ll always be in my life somehow. Her friends hated me from day one all because she could have someone better looking than me. Pretty damn shallow of people. Hell strangers would get done right angry. Like what is she doing with you comments all the time. Been divorced from here since 2005 and I’ve never been in a relationship since. All because my face gets red. What a curse.
Yes. I’m 45 and it started when I was 18. My face has never not been red. Everything triggers it. Everything. Random thoughts and I’m burning up and look like a tomato. I’ve tried everything just short of ETS surgery and I’m not going there. It really really sucks. I’d give my right hand to make this go away without crazy side effects. What a damn curse this is. It truly is a curse.
@@megsbix can you tell me more? I’m seriously reconsidering.
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@@a-a-ron4679 hey I am about to get ETS surgery for facial blushing done at the end of january, one side and then the second side in march. I ll let you know after. I talked with many people who had ETS surgery and it saved their life
A lot more people go through this than you'd think, the best way to combat it is not to avoid situations where you may blush, and when you are in those situations, not to try and stop blushing otherwise you're just reinforcing the behaviour. It may sound really hard but the best way to stop it is simply embracing it and being at peace with it
Please tell me it gets better .Im 17 right now and in my classroom I turn randomly so red when the teacher talks to me or calls on me and it’s happening around my friends too it’s exhausting .
I know you feels,we same.I am a chinese boy.when I was 14(2005),one day my face so hot,and I cant stop it. Before I was a very sunshine boy,but when it happen,my life all things change.😭😡blushing make me so painful.😳
Hi I'm similar to everyone in the comments blushing is bad it makes you feel transparent but it shows all your emotions and it is an ambarrasement its uncontrollable and it affects being around people. I've heard about ets the surgery and thats my only hope if anyone here has gotten it done it would be helpful to hear after the surgery if it improved anyone's life
Chronic blushing seems like such a stupid thing unless you're living it. It's so incredibly debilitating and seemingly hopeless. There's nothing like trying to converse with someone (or even just do daily tasks in public) and seeing them shut down and become judgmental when you start to turn red and rashy from your chest to your forehead.
Sophie Sanborn Yes exactly! People ask me why I can't control it?? and when you do turn red people point it out which makes it worse, making you not reach your potential because of how many people point it out and ask about it.
In public situations i'm really awkward and blush a lot especially if i feel like what i'm saying is stupid so i think it's quite a common thing to feel. However if i've been with my partner or a friend when it's happened and i've asked them about it they rarely even notice it and it's only cause we're thinking about it we think it's a million times worse. I know nothing will magically change it but just know that your not alone, you don't look silly and the person your talking to probably hasn't even took much notice or thought about it so take a deep breath and think about something positive. As for the children issue it's a horrible thing and nower days quite complicated cause like you said the media fuels things. However you are not, you haven't done anything wrong or inappropriate so don't worry. Many people will smile at a baby or a child because it's a nice thing to do, far better than looking shitty at them and freaking them out. As a mother if i saw a man smile at my child i would not assume the worst and i think a lot of people see it that way too. As always much love x
Hey ! I listened to this and could hear and see how much this disturbs you and I totally understand. Firstly- don't feel embarrassed sharing your thoughts on this platform. You are sincere and not in the slightest bit malicious so please try and stop yourself from thinking blushing is a shameful, malicious thing. Blushing is something that happens when you feel a sense of anxiety- you're on the road to recovery out of serious mental illness and you are probably experiencing anxiety through anyone, doesn't matter what age they are or what relation to you. What I would do, is find a bracelet with beads on it and ask yourself why you find blushing so shameful, on each bead ask why? (I.e I think blushing means I have bad thoughts -on the next bead: why do I think blushing means bad thoughts) do this until you rid yourself of this omen. Let yourself be free Johnny xxxx
I had this throughout school, it's the most debilitating thing you can have, I remember just seeing someone I know in the street used to make it happen, which is crazy because I wasn't embarrassed or self conscious at all. Getting a suntan helps but obviously I wouldn't encourage people to use sunbeds as they can be dangerous if overused
i always think about that! it sucks for men who are genuine and just love kids. There was a situation at the mall where a little girl was lost and crying and i could see a man deliberating whether to go and help because HE would look like he was going to steal her or that he was a creep( he didn't end up he kind of watched and waited for a woman to go over).Its just a sad society I'm afraid... keep your chin up. your amazing xx
This was filmed years ago . It sucks I stopped eating with my family cause it happens constantly. My brother noticed it and he thinks when I blush I'm mad and he gets happy and he triggers it evry day and once a little redness shows he points and laughs it out so I blush more.so now I can't go out to sit with my family because of him. And I can't control that it's an every day thing it sucks so much. I'm so tired of it nothing helps idk what to do it's a constant problem it's much more severe with my family but lately it started happening even outside it's so much
hey bro, i have the same issue. Unfortunately, in my case, i took some acne pills years ago, ruined my skin and developed severe social anxiety and have other health issues. I suffered a lot from this and keep suffering from this. Human beings don't understand you and never will sadly. They're just sitting there and unjustly judge you... They look at you in a very weird way. I used to walk in -30C for hours to avoid public transportation, which lead me to develop premature arthritis...etc. I hope you're doing better bro!!!
Thank you for sharing your story. I don't think you understand the positive impact this video has on other suffererd because you are a handsome man. You're not hideous, your not ugly, but you suffer just like the rest of us regarding something that effects all facets of your life.
Yep it’s me! Blushing in front of certain people. No reason. A lot of guys in my previous jobs were probably thinking that I was in love with them, because I blushed every time we spoke. Blushing even when talking on the phone with person from the bank or smt. Everything you said it’s like you are talking about me.
I have the same issue with the blushing for many decades. Mine seems to become worse when I am in a depressive phase and with anxiety. It happens with family, strangers and at work constantly. I understand what you are feeling Jonny
***** Mine is out of control lately and it makes me feel so awkward and makes me feel as if I am drawing attention to myself esp. at work and even when I am driving it happens and by the time I get to work I am blotchy and red all over my face neck and chest
Had it. This is due to a stomach problem. try medecines for this. The counterflow of stomach energy causes this. Also, from a Chinese perspective, treating Yin will calm the heat. Yes, one blushes for the craziest things.
Don't worry. I sadly deal with the same thing, its hard it really is. I'm shy and when I talk I vlush or when the teacher call me a question I get red. I feel people don't really understand. But I don't hate my life I am 13 years old and in grade 8. I try to joy life. but, I feel people think its weird. I blush like 5 times a day, my face just turns red like its burning up, I just keep breathing. Some of my friend don't care if my face turn red but, some day "tomato bomb", I just hate it. But don't hate your life, just be happy who u are. like my friend told me I said I want to be more confident like you and your cool but he said I'm not cool your cool Kevin and your perfect the way you are and I I also think Emily thinks the same way (Emily is the girl I like but I can't talk to her without getting red.) :)
Thank god!! I’m not the only one! I hate that it happens when around people or when you are feeling shy, it really shows! I wish we didn’t have this problem 🤦🏻♀️
Thank you and sorry to read your experience. I have found both mindfulness and therapy helpful. It doesn't cure the blushing but makes me feel better about it which is something at least!
I am also struggling with blushing and low Self esteem i had this for 5 years and it Makes Life a living hell people dont understand how frustrating it is to always blush or blush harder i think i have chronic blushing now since i dont remember a day that i didn’t. Not blush it gave me anxiety from people and socializing so much i also have no Friends and Never had a girlfriend i hate when people laugh at me or are staring at me just off the fact that i am blushing i wish i one day can be the Social Person i was years back at the end off the day i am aware people dont really care and mind their OWN business it is a Battle inside the Head of negativity and low Self esteem which i carry i just want to be a HUMAN and Not be ashamed just because of my existence… ❤
Johnny, don't beat yourself up just because of what your friend told you! Your friend has a completely different perspective of things and you don't see the world the same way she sees it. Don't listen to her. Nobody thinks that about you. About the blushing.... I don't know if you're willing to use a little bit of make up. I don't know just some foundation or something little, maybe if they find you an exact match for your skin tone you can wear a little bit so it looks natural as if you're not wearing any, I know it will not cover the blushing completely, but it will tame it a little. You're doing so well keep trucking! I hope this helps. xx
I hate when people think just cause you got red you like them and they make fun of you and then the fear of blushing gets worse. Especially at school. Does this happen to anyone else
i was at a low point in life and blushing played a big factor in it and i realised one day im not worrying about being embarrassed im worried about being red i overcame this a while back simply because whenever i felt my self go red i didn't try to fight it i embraced it which for some reason completely got rid of my issue. ps nobody cares if you turn red its actually a quite attractive trate for 90 persent of people
That video might as well be me , can't believe what I'm watching. I'd love to chat to those fellas some time and see how he's going. I'm after been using that CBD but it's very expensive and it can't be the long term answer ...
Hi mate. I'm a 49 year old Irish guy and I suffer from this condition. It's ruined my life and my confidence is shattered. I've taken loads of pill's and currently take propranolol which helps a little. How are you now?
ye bad thing about blushing for anxiety is that you start thinking on what people will see awkward, or what if you blush on certain moment so you get related to that... XD that happens to me a lot , It sucks because it's a reaction thinking regards the rest, to no disturb them, to be "normal" but people that don't have anxiety blushing they'll just keep associating that to you; like you are actually thinking that.. It just sucks... and it's mentally exhausting It gets to you to the point of skiping things and then feel bad about it all. :/
I'm the exact same. it's horrible. i'm afraid of going out with friends encase i start blushing. i can talk to certain people fine, but as you said with some people i just start blushing as soon as they talk to me. i dont know why
Hi,
Firstly, I’m stepping back from TH-cam to focus on my mental health from today.
My social anxiety, in particular blushing, is the worst it’s ever been.
I must do everything I can to help myself now.
But I want you to know you’re not alone.
No-one understands the curse of blushing unless you’ve endured it.
I constantly want to tell people “IT’S NOTHING PERSONAL! IT’S NOT YOU, IT’S ME!!”
Instead, I’m constantly shrinking/sinking into myself deeper and deeper.
Enough is enough.
I hope to report back with a positive update in the future, because as always, I want to show you “It Gets Brighter”.
Sending you strength.
Be kind to yourself.
Remember, you’re just human x x
Your Not Alone!!!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I hope you read this at some point Jonny..
It wasn't fair what your friend said when he gave his opinion on talking to children, knowing that you're a sensitive guy and would take his opinion to heart.
I know because I'm the same, and I would latch onto others negative opinions.
I wish I had been there in his place to tell you how sweet and open hearted you are -and that's why you should continue to talk to children and talk to anyone for that matter - because they will be the ones to benefit from your lovely nature.
One little piece of advice/experience with the blushing thing I could give is to do whatever you can that gives you happiness. Happiness leads to confidence. When you believe in yourself you care less about what others think. This also comes with age. I truly believe these things will come to you.
You are lovely and it radiates from you, I wish I could give you a hug and make you know that you don't have to care even if you do blush. Never run away from it if you feel it coming, go with it, even if you feel the fear and burn in your face (I understand, I've been there). Breathe, let it pass.
Another thing is, if it helps, let the person you're speaking to know that you have it (hyperhydrosis). If people understand that stuttering or other similar issues are things to be aware and understanding of, then so is blushing. Bless you and please look after yourself, you're loved.
@@leoniesnow Ah thnks a million. I' took a screenshot of your message and will read it from time to time. It helps more than you know :)))
@@mrjonnybenjamin aww that's brilliant! I totally understand how painful it can be as I have it too (I think it's getting better over time.. ) but never change your kind nature, always be who you want to be and it'll reflect onto others. Believe in yourself :)
Hi Ben how are you getting on mate? I've had this blushing since I was 14 I'm now 42. Are you on any medication? I had an operation called ETS
in my 20s didn't touch it. It definitely effects your mental well being mate I completely understand your pain. There's a new drug on the market called clonidine which I might ask the doc for. I hope your ok X
i deal with extreme blushing and it's making me hate ly life
same..(ok every1 will probably judge me by my age but anyways) going to a new school this year , starting 8th grade which means sexual education. I blush for the smallest thing. If my "body gets to hot" or if im just feeeling warm it's like waves through my body and thinking about blushing makes me blush. not just the cheeks, my whole face. been depressed just because this and l've been told by my mum that it's my skintype. but the weird thing is, that l blush im periods, depressed periods as l calls it. periods when l feels down and blushes for everything. had a couple of thoughts about suicide during this period and l'm so jealous by everyone else..
+Melvin Ankas oh My god everything you said is accurateee and I can relate to all of that :( I had millions if not zillions of suicidal thoughts because
of my social anxiety and my extreme facing blushing especially this year because i had to deal with massive enormous amount of bullying about my shyness and redness like every single day !!! it s killing me and it s depriving me from having a normal life ! i just hate that i have to deal with this issue and it s not even my fault :(
but we have to be courageous and not give up , we have to prove ourselves in.other fields (.
life is not only abt the social skills )
and we're dealing this together so dont worry ;)
+yosra mcguiness sorry to hear :'(. seeing people who never turns red, who can talk to everyone and do everything kills me. l'm terrified of "haha why are yoy so red" and comments like that because it makes you blush even more. l searched for it and everyone was like "you have to do things that makes you blush, just because it shows your body it's nothing wrong" but that would make you sink even deeper into the fear of blushing
It's okeyI got used to it i guess :) ..yeaah me too im soooo jealous of those people they're just super lucky , they get to do whtvr they want without being jusged :'( ..
me tooo I get so emotional when i hear those bad comments they just made me feel even worse , imagine 2 hrs ago i went outside and some random stranger started teasing me and saying " look at that red face etc.." and i dont even know the damn guy !!! i just hate hearing these comments :(((
yesss me too , i dnt agree with that saying , because when i blush i dnt feel comfortable at all..
+yosra mcguiness yeah omg..
everyone's like "it's not a big deal just ignore it. none will notice". please. a red face in a sea of "normal people". just saw a video of a guy comitting suicide just because of this and his parents didn't find out about his depression earlier..
All of us blushers need to band together and start our own society. lol
AGREED!!!!!!1
Fr lol
One small win of COVID days having to wear masks 😷 😅 And in my case I get to hide behind one at work
Agree
I've suffered from extreme blushing for a long time and it is absolutely horrible. No one understands how bad it makes you feel and when people draw attention to it, it makes you blush more and feel even worse :( I have the same thing in that I blush in front of certain people and once it starts, I dread every time I see that person because I worry about blushing in front of them. I've contemplated ending my life before because my blushing gets so bad that I can't even leave the house sometimes but it's comforting in a way to know that I'm not the only person who suffers from it.
Sophie Johnston same
Has it gotten better for you?
@@rm4502 hi, it's horrible. I have had it years now and it's getting me depressed
@@jamesbra4410 I feel the same way I have suffered severely from it from 10 years old to now (24). All this time my life was terrible because of the blushing and I thought it was getting less but its getting worse again😭
i cured my problem with acupuncture, the acupuncturist said my nervous system needed to be adjusted..its been gone now for maybe 15 years
yesterday i litteraly canceled my dentist appointment and left because of it
Your honesty is very refreshing. You're a very brave man
I turn red for the dumbest things. It’s not a cute blush….I think I turn purple and I hate how people point it out. What makes me so uncomfortable is the way people look at me and ask if I’m ok. I HATE IT!!! I have avoided so many situations because of the fear of turning red. As soon as I feel a slight feeling of turning red I immediately avoid the situation.
Ah i hear you. It's so horrible. I've found therapy/support groups helpful. And meditation useful. There's a meditation on the app Insight Timer specifically for blushing. It's really helped me. Please check it out. It might help you too!
Mate you’re not alone, I blush at pretty much anything in front of anyone, you’re honesty is very refreshing.
I would run across the whole of America if I could stop blushing
how is it now? how old r u?
I just blush alone in my room watching this video :/ this is so hard I can't deal with it
@@jesusblan7162 how old r u? what do u do for livings?
@@ganbatte1260 why do you need that info for?
I have struggled with this since I was about 12 years old. I’m now 29. 😭 it affects literally every aspect of my life! Work, dating, family things, friend things. People don’t understand it. They’re literally like- it’s just blushing, relax! I also relate to the same feeling of people thinking you are some way because you are going red.. money went missing at a job of mine and they interrogated people and even tho I would never steal i blushed during the interrogation and it makes you just feel and look so guilty! Stay strong love! Wish there were small communities in every town/country who suffer with this would make socialising so much easier!
Everything you said is the truth about it,I know the feeling of this blushing crap.
you're so courageous for working regardless of your issue. Stay strong! Women have an advantage over men where you can wear makeup to mitigate its effects. I used to tan so much so that my skin would turn super red and peel off, in order to go to social gatherings and trick my brain that im already red so, ppl would think it's normal since it's just the sun. What a mega idiotic mental disease. No one will understand us unfortunately...oh yeah, you have another advantage, since you're a woman, when i was in HS and saw women blush, i thought it was cute and part of their feminine beauty to be shy and reserved. I mean it's a silver lining if you think about it hard enough :)
I've never related to anything more in my entire life and that is not an exaggeration by any means. You spoke my mind.
Wow he spoke my mind to I never thought this awfully affliction would affect a woman
I know exactly what you are saying about blushing. I struggle with this so much. The smallest things will trigger me and I can't stop blushing. It's extremely uncomfortable and I wish I could stop. Thank you for opening up about this, I felt so alone
i cured my problem with acupuncture, the acupuncturist said my nervous system needed to be adjusted..its been gone now for maybe 15 years
@@cheeesefunnel are you serious? Wow I hope that will work for me and others. Considering ETS but really worried
I'm a 63 year old man it started at age 11 I've never had a minutes peace from it I wake up dreading it go to bed dreading next day. Its been cruel just being alive and il brave it now as I'm coming to the end years of my life. But I know now I should have ended my life as soon as I was able to do so being alive has been cruel.
I’m 60 - man- and also blushed constantly since the age of 11. I’ve had and have the exact same feelings. Just wanted to say you’re not alone!
Yeah you're truly not alone. I feel you. Unless you go through it people simply dont understand!
You are not alone in this. I struggled with severe blushing for 5+ years and it lead to my depression, anxiety, OCD behaviors and obsessive overthinking. I still have it from time to time but no where near the extent that I used to. I'm about to share my struggle with it on TH-cam too and how i overcame it because there are not enough people sharing their struggle with this. Thank you for this video.
Please tell me how to stop it
What solution do you have to overcome blushing.?
I have the same problem. It makes my life a living hell. It's worse than having acne because you never know when it will show up and can happen and go away multiple times in one day. It makes me so ashamed to be around people
Is it better now
I suffer the same the only time I can feel relaxed around people is on drugs and booze
I know exactly how you feel. I always blush randomly, and just thinking about it makes me blush more. It's so annoying, I always try to hide my face.
Annika Taylor I have this too, and it's called erythrophobia and it's the fear of blushing it's just so uncomfortable and embarrassing, I hate when this happens to me, it can happen at literally any time just thinking about it now is making me blush ah😪there's a really good channel on TH-cam I can't remember the name of it but it's something like anxiety training/ help and this guy with blonde hair trains you it's worked for me, and I only found him yesterday!! I'm still blushing so much and it' really gets to me :(( but we can all pull through this, support to all going through this xxxxx
The name of the yt channel is paul wood anxiety therapist, he's really helpful! Xx
hi did u cure it?
I've been studying best natural remedy for blushing and found a great website at Fergs Rosy Resource (google it if you are interested)
@@PjvlogsBeauty in have it too. I have had sooooo many awful experiences it gets me so depressed. Just want it to stop
So I always blushed super bad until one day I saw another person at a school blushing really bad and you could tell he felt really embarrassed. It was really cool to se my same circumstance from third person, and i realized no one even really cares that much about it even if they notice it. When I’m blushing myself, it seems way worse that it actually is. So even if you blush everyday, people will still like you the same.
Nearly 40 and still going through this. Thanks for being brave enough to make a vid.
i cured my problem with acupuncture, the acupuncturist said my nervous system needed to be adjusted..its been gone now for maybe 15 years
@@cheeesefunnel what was the procedure you got to remove it?
Johnny, one thing you need to understand is that you don't have to be embarrassed about you mental health condition. Hearing what you are saying is so courageous
I blush even when I talk to my friends. It makes my cheeks and bridge of my nose super red and it heads up and like doesn't go away the rest of the day
Blushing is my mind is related to caring what other people think you. This part of the brain develops when we are in our mid teenage years, so it's part our development.
I know what you mean and it can happen around people that you consider to be superior in one way or another and/or you want to impress and thus you care what they think of you. It can also happen around your peers assuming something has triggered you to be uncomfortable. The worst part is that it can be spontaneous as we meet new people all the time.
When the blush comes, don't break eye contact or start fidgeting , just own it and keep conversing. In other words remain in control. The other person will see that you have gone red but if you maintain eye contact and strong body language, these will be more dominating. If you focus on the conversation, the redness will disappear as quick as it first appeared. Also you will feel much better afterwards and you will approach the next interaction with much more confidence.
I will also suggest traveling if you can to experience other cultures. There are cultures that are less politically correct than others. In Southern Europe, people there exert a sense of freedom because they speak their mind as they do not care what others think. Mind you those around them do the same. It's the way they have been brought up. Everything is out in the open, no secrets. Everyone is so confident and in turn, since you are around them, you become the same. Our potential to adapt is quite incredible as we tend to behave according to our environment.
Finally don't think about your blushing when you are alone. In fact do not overthink when you are alone period, especially if this is something that is getting you down. This is how we can create our own fears. Always remember to occupy the mind and set daily goals.
Thanks for sharing
Ik exactly how u feel it ruins my life I don’t even wanna go out it even happens around my family
Sorry to hear it. I totally get it. It's so hard :(
It feels horrible I know. It happens to me especially if I feel everyone is looking at me at a family gathering. Your friend had no right to say that as it was his perception of the situation which is negative. You are a great bloke. I can see that.
And you are a great man too. We are just extremely sensitive. Go easy on yourself! Have a great 2024 :)
Think that your going to turn blue instead of thinking you are going to turn red I tried this and my face felt a bit hot but my face looked normal.
Let me tell you something... Y´all. I was dealing with extreme blushing for 4 years, so I can really relate to this video. I had been looking for sooo many solutions how to get rid of it. I was so upset that i could not say my opinion without turning red, i was unable to say anything. It effected me in everything. I hated my life at that time. I really did. But I realized one thing. That the more i thought about the fact i was blushing, the more my face turned red. So i stopped doing it. Honestly, it is easier than you think. From then, every time when someone asked me something or i had to say something and felt that sense of blushing on my face, i just ignored it. Sure, im blushing.. and? For sure, there were times when someone had to point it out. But don´t be sad about it. They don´t even know what you have to deal with every single day. One thing you have to do is to make fun of it. Why not? Don´t be serious and pretend it is not happening. Trust me, these are the only ways what will help you to deal with your blushing. It may sound weird, but when you start to do that, you realize yourself not doing it anymore. It may take some time, it is a slow process of building up on your self-confidence, but it DOES work. JUST STOP THINING ABOUT IT. that is the key point. love yourself.
Kika it feels like a A-10 warthog is blasting it's powerful gau rounds at you the poor tank
Kika I agree with you on not to care and make fun of it. When ppl would point it out I would say that I packed it with the blush cuz the foundation made me look too plain and they laughed and that made me feel comfortable. Also I would say dumb things like, “its cuz I love tomatoes and ketchup so it reflects through my skin”. Honestly this is a fear we learned. We all blush as kids and don’t care but not until you see someone’s negative reaction, either they make fun of you or just pointing it out, makes you think that they are judging you and disapproving you. That’s why we accrued this fear, but just like any fear can be overcomed with a change on your point of view on this it can also be overcomed. I actually am thankful I had this issue cuz it stopped me from doing things that probably would of taken me in a wrong direction. So not everything about it had to be bad. Guys CBT is what will help change your view on it and accept it, and you’ll learn it was the best thing to do.
@@mire1390 like you and everyone else I’m paranoid about all the same things but I’ve never heard anyone comment about the not doing certain things and those could have taken you down a bad road. I think and believe the same thing. Damn. Really nice to hear someone say this. Thanks. On the negative side though. There’s so many things I know I would have done that definitely would have had a positive outcome but didn’t because of this curse. I hope all is well. Maybe one day soon they’ll be something that can cure this without crazy side effects.
@@a-a-ron4679 Is there something now with very bad side effects? can you explain me that please?
@@jesusblan7162 are you asking about the side effects of ETS surgery?
I’m bawling and blushing and feel your pain
I blush for anything, whether it’s a compliment or a negative comment or just by being and suddenly I feel the heat crawl through and out onto the surface of my skin. Then I have “good days” when nothing seems to phase me. Its like I have to be this emotionless person in order to not blush.
I think the core of the problem is the obsessive thoughts of what people think of us. The need of being accepted by society and the fear of rejection . I learned in my bio psychology class that blushing comes from the Amygdala, “fight or flight” portion of the brain. When we feel threatened that portion fires. Those who suffer from any type of anxiety disorder, that part is hypersensitive due to a burnt out hypothalamus (control the release of stress hormones).
Anyways, I don’t know about everyone else but if you’re like me, I realized that I sometimes act in a way that suppresses the real me in a way that it will be more liked or pleasant for society.
For instance today In a lab class I had become impatient with one of my group members when he was trying to be funny but all he was doing was delaying us from finishing the activity. I was becoming agitated. He then asks me what grade I got on my previous lab reports and I quickly became even more agitated. So I answered and continued to ask more questions. Next thing you know I was becoming even more and more agitated thats when my face began to turn red. I don’t say anything but I see in his and my other group members face that they are looking at me turn redder and redder.
I go from suppression, agitation, to humiliation.
Just like you I’m yet to learn how to fix the problem but from making observations about my past experiences I can learn more and more about myself and why I react the way I do. However, it is important to NOT ridicule yourself for having these episodes. Doing that WILL NOT help you.
I think start by being kind to yourself. Do it purposefully every day! Until you learn to love and accept yourself. Now to think of it, I think that might be the core problem; Not truly loving or accepting yourself.
To anyone that reads this, You are not alone, I am not alone, We are not alone.
Thank you for sharing this, I too suffer with this...daily. It’s in every aspect of my life and is all consuming. After 20 years of this, I can’t even separate my thoughts anymore..I used to be able to compartmentalise my problem, now...it’s consuming me. I dint feel I can break free 😢
This is the most relatable thing I ve ever found on the internet
Have you ever found a cure for blushing
This is the best thing I've ever read about blushing , thanks your words are really comforting ❤❤❤
Yeah, I blush around exactly one person in my class. I'm a boy and he's a boy and I'm not gay. I don't know why it happens but it makes things really akward between us.
Yoo Fr bro
same. i used to only get when i used to do presentations or talk to people, but my senior year in highschool it got worse. i was just sitting in the bus and all of a sudden i start to feel my face get hot and i was getting red. it happened in class too where i would just sit and get so red. i didn't know why. i was always a quiet person and l didn't want to go to places and stuff because i didn't want to interact with people. this also happens when i go to stores or when someone looks at me or even compliments me. i need someone to be with me so that i dont get red. now i already missed 2 years of college because i don't want to get red infront of people. well I was like this already where i would get dizzy, rapid heart palpitations, abd the urge to escape whenever im in a place where there's alot of people. i read that it's something to do with social anxiety or anxiety. i really hate it. i can't control it
I'm 18. turning 19 next month and i honestly want it to go away so that i could enjoy life and interact with people.i hope that one day we'll find a solution to avoid it
I totally feel your pain, and I hope you're doing well considering what you're going through. All we can do is continue on.
I have had similar experiences. This blushing has taken over my life and I can't control it. I have had many occurrences where I blushed in front of everyone in my class at the university I'm currently studying in and now I feel like almost everyone in the university knows about my blushing since even when I am not blushing, I often see people staring at me or hearing giggling and silent laughter not only from classmates but from teaching assistants, lecturers, and people whom I don't even know as well, which makes me start blushing, attracting more attention, hence making me blush even more.
Same
wyw wert totally same with me :(
im 16 and suffer with this, didnt know anyone else would ever understand this struggle. From my short years of experience of having this, the only thing you can do is embrace it. Theres people dying in hospital beds that would do anything to be healthy. Be thankful your alive find god and embrace being yourself
When you recorded this video and people in the comments were in the same situation as you, i was 9 years old and living my happy life, could not imagine i would feel better after reading these comments. I am glad that i am not alone. My anxiety came probably when i was 10 after changing a school (horrible classmates), but i should have been happy, at least i was not blushing. Now i am a university student and blush everyday, yes, even with my parents. "university life is so cool" not for me, cause i have to run and run from people
I'm sorry :(. Not sure which university you're at but there should be support on offer for you..try student support services perhaps. If you're in the UK, Student Minds is great too. Talking everything through makes such a difference :)
@mrjonnybenjamin thank you. unfortunately, we have not such service...
Mate. first of all youre half way there having the courage to make this video. Instead of getting caught up in the rabbit hole of thoughts and going through that whirl wind, you just have to put it out there...the more you fight it the stronger it will be. The only way to beat it is stop fighting it. Tell people what it is, Erythrophobia, you're struggling with it. You hate it. It ruins lives and ends lives. People will take it as they will depending on the kind of oerson they are. But.....i can tell you.....almost 100%, give it time, you will realize one day that you havent thought of blushing in ages!!!!!!!
Whats the cause of it? I dont know but suspect youre a very sensitive lovely human and there is a great value there. I see the pain in you and wish you the best. Yes i have gone through this. Yes it has ....changed my life. But im still here. It will happen every once in a while but i barely ever even think about it now. Thinking back to horrible it was....yeah.....its torture.
Ahh thank you for taking the time to write such an empowering message. It really means a lot to me :)))
I have it 24/7 it's so so upsetting because we're aware of it, and talking to others knowing we're blushing makes it 10 times harder. I'm very pale like paper white so my skin is literally red and people point it out :(
Don’t worry you can get through it just acknowledge it is there and accept it just laugh it out and think positive
unfortunately I suffer the same. It has happened most of my life now and I am 39. I find it something I have not been able to change. I have heard that you just have to not care that you blush and try and blush more and point it out. It hurts still to do this but I do the best i can. People can be quite mean about it and tease about it.
Sorry, just come across this video. I 100% understand what you are going through. I'm 15 years old, and before a few years ago, I never blushed, ever. I was very confident and not very self conscious, no matter how much people made fun of me for whatever reason. But just as you said, it's something you just can't hide. It's not like things like anxiety which are physical things, blushing is something that everyone can see, especially for someone like me who has very pale skin. And I understand exactly what you mean about it happening around some people. There some old friends I had, especially girls, who currently I can't speak to whatsoever without blushing. The one thing you always have to remember is that it will eventually end, and it's something that all of us who suffer with blushing have to remember
Luke Voller so you stopped blushing forever
It’s not going to end. How can it? I’m 40 now, blushing since I’m about 16 and I can’t see it ending. It’s just something you have to live with.
Hi how is your life after 4 years?I have the same problem
@@Agiuopert Wow, looking back at this is honestly crazy, I'd forgot I'd ever left this comment, so thank you so much for replying to it haha. I still suffer to an extent with the issue, but more so with anxiety in general and not so much with blushing. I still stand by what I originally said: anyone going through something simular, it will eventually end, or at least improve. The less I thought about it, gradually the smaller of a problem it became in my life. I just turned 20, so again looking back at this comment has just shown me how much life has changed haha
@@lukevoller3037 Thats nice to hear:)Thank you for you reply:)
Came across this video by accident. However this resonates with me as I am a facial blusher. It doesn't help that when I exercise or am in hot weather my face is super hot. But somehow, as of late, I have stopped blushing as much and I am not sure why. I still get the neck flush from time to time but I tell myself its ok! There are others out there just like us. :)
So there's no way that you would remember this at all but I used to speak with you on the daily when I was 15 (6 years ago now) when I was struggling with identity and depression. Just recently found your account and thought to say thank you for all those times as you really helped me deal with a lot of problems I was facing. Thank you so much for your continued vlogging, you pave the way for a lot of people with similar issues and we/I am forever grateful for that.
most important is what you think of yourself, you know you are a good person so put this thought higher than what other people could possibly think of you, you dont know what other people think of you anyway!!!
I believe that the fear of blushing is a fear of being vulnerable, but being vulnerable is being honest and authentic and
being authentically you is the greatest gift you can give the world.
Hi, just wanted to say don't be too hard on yourself, everybody that is struggling with mental health problems are survivors and it takes real courage and strength to deal with the problems they have to cope with. Stay strong and always remember there will be good days and bad ones but never let go of hope, Best Wishes Andy
Don’t be afraid, I’ve had severe blushing for about 12 years now. It started with crippling social anxiety and turned into blushing, you can hide anxiety and depression but you can’t hide turning red. It’s not even a little red it’s starts with the thought of being red and than the next thing you know your entire face is on fire. It destroyed my life only because I let it get this bad, if I can give you any advice it’s to stop caring about turning red and just accept it as it is. Humans come in all colors, just accept the fact that you’re red and try to accept the fact that it’s ok to be red and hiding it will only make it worse. I can give you all the advice in the world but if you don’t try it, it will never work. I wish you the best of luck and it’s a huge relief to hear other people have the same problem as me, stay strong everyone and keep trying to find a way through blushing!
I understand what you are telling man. It is difficult to live with.
Hey bro just wanna say am with you 100% totally understand what you're going through. Struggling w it atm and it makes you scared to run into ppl etc and not go. Can't let it win tho. Am hoping that just by embracing it as part of my personality I'll learn to love it!
Your friend's negative take on an innocent situation has clearly planted a seed of doubt in a mind that's already prone to such things and I really feel for you. The truth is that people rarely give more than a passing thought to other people's intentions on such a brief interaction. This goes for nervousness and blushing too. The sooner you can see the blushing as being irrelevant to those around you the less importance you'll then place on it yourself. I'm sure it's hard to see this now but you seem cursed with being overly thoughtful about other peoples feelings when they're probably too busy being self conscious themselves to notice what's going on physically or emotionally with you. Sorry if any of this sounds harsh or preachy, but you seem like such a painfully nice guy I just want to give you a massive hug and tell you everything will be fine. x
Number one thing to stop blushing is to not care what people think. Even if your face is exploding and people are staring at you, it doesn't matter what people think.
Angelo Ray Gomez thats the point,thats why we blush and thats why we cant stop it
I’ve tried so many times over the past 30 or so years to think that way I’m 45 now and sometimes it’s successful. Most times it’s not though.
Yes man, you are not alone, it's paked with people with this kind of issue. Much respect for speaking up, you are my hero, I wish I'll be as brave as you are soon enough.
Yep I get that too Jonny. Always become very red in social situations and it's become a bit of a joke for some people so I learnt to accept and kind of giggle at it myself..
Samee literally :( my friends call me a tomato
Thank you for sharing this , I have the same problem and I feel your pain.. I hate blushing for small things like paying at the grocery store or even talking to my loved ones ...
Is it better now
I ended up on this video by accident but I kept watching and I ended up empathising so much with the guy. The last part is esp saddening.
You’re so very brave !!! Hats off to you
You have a great soul
I have it too and I saw that basically you have to change your habits that are your response to blushing (hiding,not talking, covering your face, looking away) and for me it’s not talking so I started by saying hello awkwardly explaining my name and it was less embarrassing and I know if I were to blush I would have someone I could explain myself to about having Erythrophobia (fear of blushing) and in a single day my blushing has gone way down. Now the worse the trauma that caused those defensive habits that more you’ll have to change your habits. Another things is you could say you got sunburned
We as humans can only think about ONE thought at a time. Now when I am finding myself thinking something that I'd rather avoid I think how we can only think about one thought at a time. I keep thinking about it until I've passed the intrusive thought.
I know you filmed this years ago but I've just came across it and totally relate especially in how someone might say something and it sticks in your mind, like if someone asks me something I instantly turn red like my body is assuming I'm going to be pointed out and made fun of, but because I am red I then panic more that people will think I have somthing to hide or I'm lieing because I so obviously look awkward and embarrassed when I'm actually just panicked....
I feel for you it's horrible I can't even watch the telly with anyone it makes me go red if someone else's in room when I go out I've got to get really drunk to overcome this then I'm just horrible with loads of confidence coronavirus has really helped me with these masks I've been considering getting a full face tattoo
You ain't alone brother i dont even like to be around more than a couple people. Im always afraid i will flush and its just humilating and degrading. But actually its only bad to ourselves.. The ego doesn't like it because we can be ridiculed for it. But i like it when i see someone blush they seem very.. Human and more pure to me.. Makes me also not feel so alone, its very hard getting over this.. I feel much better outdoors but inside when i feel like i cant escape the situation i get way to in my own head and i start flushing.. Got to try to stay in the present moment and not think about it. We are only human!!
Johnny you are beautiful and that's probably why you get on with children so well who don't judge and just accept you as you are. I have always found children totally un-conditional with their love however you are feeling. Not sure about blushing but I always feel so self conscious but that's just with adults who we know are so judge mental and whose love is so conditional at times.. With children it's so much easier to be yourself!
Anyone else cancelled plans just to avoid blushing in front of others? 😬
Yep it sucks so much this condition 😢
Yea then my friends r like why didn’t u come I be like my parents didn’t let me but it was actually bc of my blushing. It really sucks :(
All the time. Too many times to count. The worst was my son graduated from college in 2021 and I left early after the ceremony. We were supposed to meet up and have dinner and I left before that. It was horribly hot and humid that day and I was on fire and didn’t want everyone to just stare at me. I hope my son will forgive me one day. Of course I didn’t tell him or anyone this. It’s a damn curse.
I feel you 200% bro, this is what I have. I believe the only option is ETS surgery on your T1. I am getting this done on Thursday and I will let you know the results..
Oh wow. That's a huge step. Please let us know...
@@mrjonnybenjamin sorry T2 not T1 thoracic, I’ve just had this surgery done I’m still recovering one of my lungs where stuck to my chest from prior trauma, bronchitis I guess. So I’ve got tube in my chest for the next 2 days. Have not felt random embarrassments yet, your face can still go red like if you are coughing for ages etc, but not like we have it.
@@ctrxbro hey just wanted to check up on if you feel a big difference now?
The more I think about it the more it happens, thank you for sharing. The same facial flushing happens to me when I am anxious, nervous, etc.
I get it. Truly. It's not fun at all :(
It happens to me and it's ruining my life. I'm 18... I was confident growing up and I started blushing I would say around 11 or 12. I have anxiety aswell. I try to get drunk to boost my confidence in situations but I can't do it forever. This is a real problem that needs to be treated. I probably have over a hundred situations where I have blushed I have avoided a couple hundred situations to avoid embarrassing myself aswell I can't even explain how it feels. I'm just glad to know I'm not the only one.
Hi Jonny. Unfortunately I don't have any advice on the blushing to offer you, but after watching your video I felt like I had to comment, if only to show my support and to thank you for your honesty. It's clear from reading the comments on your previous videos that your words really do help so many other people, and I hope that there are others who are able to make suggestions which might help you in return. x
Jonny i live in england and could use a friend like you i have exactly and i mean the identical problem its not ruining my life its completely ruined it we could help each other im trying psilocibin soon if i can get hold of any mushrooms please reply.
Sorry i've only just seen this. There's a lot going on for me at the moment but i would recommend joining a group like Mental Health Mates. They are all over the country. Or there is your local Mind or local Rethink. My local Rethink helped me through some really difficult periods. Check them out: www.rethink.org/help-in-your-area/groups-in-your-area/
@mrjonnybenjamin thanks Johnny hope your doing well mate. Thanks so much I'm going to have a look at these groups I will let you know how I get on. Thanks Johnny
OMG
I feel the same. Exactly the same.
It's funny how we think we are always the only ones feeling the way we do... But then I realize we're all only humans.
And other humans feel the human things you feel.
Anyways... We're in this together xx
Hi Johnny I have just started with my phycologist I have had about 4 sessions which were hard after hiding alll my shame and my personnel feelings of abuse which happened to me ... I get blushing when I have anxiety and when I dont feel in control or I am agitated and I could be in front of noone I find a really cold flannel works just lay it on your face just carry one in your bag just excuse yourself and go to the bathroom .. mine burns my face its horrible its like a gush of heat rises from my feet to my brain lol ...... as for your thoughts that have been put into your head about talking to children , it is just a thought that your friend said , dont get paraniod about be ing some monster you didnt offer them sweets its just a thought that is all a frightening one but just a thought I totally understand where you are coming from .. you are a good man and have help lots of people dont let one person with a couple of words make you think you are something your not ..... dont avoid children because of this .. if you cant get over it then spk to your pyscologist .... I am a little bit worried for you at the moment stay strong my love I will if you will xxxxx
I totally relate to you, I hope you’re doing okay. I’ve been suffering with this since 2013, I finally pushed myself to get help at the end of last year and I’m waiting on cbt. I hope it helps.
What is yhe cbt?
Omg I thought I was the only person that blushed really bad!! Everytime I talk to my parents or even people from my school I can't help blushing and my extreme blushing started happening after my anxiety and depression and now I'm stuck with it but I've learned a lot from it and it has made me feel bad about my self that people can see through it but ThankYou for sharing !!x
Thank you for making this video, I am exactly the same. I understand what you're going through, it's so debilitating
Medications to help (blushing/flushing)
Medications to help treat facial blushing can include:
* Beta-blockers are drugs that can help manage some of the symptoms of anxiety, such as blushing and heart palpitations.
* Clonidine is a medication that is sometimes used to treat uncontrollable facial blushing. It works by changing the body’s response to naturally occurring chemicals, such as noradrenaline, that control the dilation and constriction of blood vessels.
Also Lasers can help In particular, vascular lasers can remove the small surface blood vessels that contribute to the red appearance.
Hope this helps
I spent thousands of dollars in 2003-2004 getting laser treatments from two different Drs. It didn’t work. Tragically I started taking benzodiazepines after a consultation with a dr that performed ETS surgery. Once I did enough research and spoke to many people to realize ETS is a horrible surgery. I spent 15 years dependent on Xanax. It ruined my life. I finally went to rehab 8 months ago and I’ve been clean but nothing ever helped my facial blushing. It’s a curse and some days I just say screw what others think and I get by just fine. Most days I’m just tired and worn out worrying about this. But it is what is. My circle of friends is very very small. I feel like most people don’t wanna be around my red face anyways. It’s certainly one of the reasons my ex wife left me. She told me that. That really messed me. That’s why I started abusing Benzos. I’ll never forgive her for that. My kids mom so she’ll always be in my life somehow. Her friends hated me from day one all because she could have someone better looking than me. Pretty damn shallow of people. Hell strangers would get done right angry. Like what is she doing with you comments all the time. Been divorced from here since 2005 and I’ve never been in a relationship since. All because my face gets red. What a curse.
Wim Hof breathing helps me tremendously, give it a try
Thanks for the tip :)
Yes. I’m 45 and it started when I was 18. My face has never not been red. Everything triggers it. Everything. Random thoughts and I’m burning up and look like a tomato. I’ve tried everything just short of ETS surgery and I’m not going there. It really really sucks. I’d give my right hand to make this go away without crazy side effects. What a damn curse this is. It truly is a curse.
I hear you. You are most definitely not alone!
Yup….I can relate 😩
ETS saved my life…
@@megsbix can you tell me more? I’m seriously reconsidering.
@@a-a-ron4679 hey I am about to get ETS surgery for facial blushing done at the end of january, one side and then the second side in march. I ll let you know after. I talked with many people who had ETS surgery and it saved their life
A lot more people go through this than you'd think, the best way to combat it is not to avoid situations where you may blush, and when you are in those situations, not to try and stop blushing otherwise you're just reinforcing the behaviour. It may sound really hard but the best way to stop it is simply embracing it and being at peace with it
Please tell me it gets better .Im 17 right now and in my classroom I turn randomly so red when the teacher talks to me or calls on me and it’s happening around my friends too it’s exhausting .
I'm sorry. Have you talked to anyone about it. I find therapy does help for sure
You're such a beautiful soul! 😍
It's nice hearing that I'm not alone
I know you feels,we same.I am a chinese boy.when I was 14(2005),one
day my face so hot,and I cant stop it. Before I was a very sunshine boy,but when it happen,my life all things change.😭😡blushing make me so painful.😳
I couldn't agree more man. You brought up everything that i myself are trying to solve.
Hi I'm similar to everyone in the comments blushing is bad it makes you feel transparent but it shows all your emotions and it is an ambarrasement its uncontrollable and it affects being around people. I've heard about ets the surgery and thats my only hope if anyone here has gotten it done it would be helpful to hear after the surgery if it improved anyone's life
I'm with you. You're not alone.
Chronic blushing seems like such a stupid thing unless you're living it. It's so incredibly debilitating and seemingly hopeless. There's nothing like trying to converse with someone (or even just do daily tasks in public) and seeing them shut down and become judgmental when you start to turn red and rashy from your chest to your forehead.
Sophie Sanborn Yes exactly! People ask me why I can't control it?? and when you do turn red people point it out which makes it worse, making you not reach your potential because of how many people point it out and ask about it.
In public situations i'm really awkward and blush a lot especially if i feel like what i'm saying is stupid so i think it's quite a common thing to feel. However if i've been with my partner or a friend when it's happened and i've asked them about it they rarely even notice it and it's only cause we're thinking about it we think it's a million times worse. I know nothing will magically change it but just know that your not alone, you don't look silly and the person your talking to probably hasn't even took much notice or thought about it so take a deep breath and think about something positive.
As for the children issue it's a horrible thing and nower days quite complicated cause like you said the media fuels things. However you are not, you haven't done anything wrong or inappropriate so don't worry. Many people will smile at a baby or a child because it's a nice thing to do, far better than looking shitty at them and freaking them out. As a mother if i saw a man smile at my child i would not assume the worst and i think a lot of people see it that way too. As always much love x
You have a tan which helps. Im pale with red cheeks so i blush terrible and it stands out way more. But I know exactly how you feel.
Hey !
I listened to this and could hear and see how much this disturbs you and I totally understand.
Firstly- don't feel embarrassed sharing your thoughts on this platform. You are sincere and not in the slightest bit malicious so please try and stop yourself from thinking blushing is a shameful, malicious thing.
Blushing is something that happens when you feel a sense of anxiety- you're on the road to recovery out of serious mental illness and you are probably experiencing anxiety through anyone, doesn't matter what age they are or what relation to you.
What I would do, is find a bracelet with beads on it and ask yourself why you find blushing so shameful, on each bead ask why? (I.e I think blushing means I have bad thoughts -on the next bead: why do I think blushing means bad thoughts) do this until you rid yourself of this omen. Let yourself be free Johnny xxxx
I had this throughout school, it's the most debilitating thing you can have, I remember just seeing someone I know in the street used to make it happen, which is crazy because I wasn't embarrassed or self conscious at all. Getting a suntan helps but obviously I wouldn't encourage people to use sunbeds as they can be dangerous if overused
i always think about that! it sucks for men who are genuine and just love kids. There was a situation at the mall where a little girl was lost and crying and i could see a man deliberating whether to go and help because HE would look like he was going to steal her or that he was a creep( he didn't end up he kind of watched and waited for a woman to go over).Its just a sad society I'm afraid... keep your chin up. your amazing xx
This was filmed years ago . It sucks I stopped eating with my family cause it happens constantly. My brother noticed it and he thinks when I blush I'm mad and he gets happy and he triggers it evry day and once a little redness shows he points and laughs it out so I blush more.so now I can't go out to sit with my family because of him. And I can't control that it's an every day thing it sucks so much. I'm so tired of it nothing helps idk what to do it's a constant problem it's much more severe with my family but lately it started happening even outside it's so much
hey bro, i have the same issue. Unfortunately, in my case, i took some acne pills years ago, ruined my skin and developed severe social anxiety and have other health issues. I suffered a lot from this and keep suffering from this. Human beings don't understand you and never will sadly. They're just sitting there and unjustly judge you... They look at you in a very weird way. I used to walk in -30C for hours to avoid public transportation, which lead me to develop premature arthritis...etc. I hope you're doing better bro!!!
I'm sorry. I feel you. It's so tough. You're not alone my friend
Thank you for sharing your story. I don't think you understand the positive impact this video has on other suffererd because you are a handsome man. You're not hideous, your not ugly, but you suffer just like the rest of us regarding something that effects all facets of your life.
I had it , but E.T.S. surgery stopped my blushing but bad side effects followed.
Yep it’s me! Blushing in front of certain people. No reason. A lot of guys in my previous jobs were probably thinking that I was in love with them, because I blushed every time we spoke. Blushing even when talking on the phone with person from the bank or smt. Everything you said it’s like you are talking about me.
I have the same issue with the blushing for many decades. Mine seems to become worse when I am in a depressive phase and with anxiety. It happens with family, strangers and at work constantly. I understand what you are feeling Jonny
***** Mine is out of control lately and it makes me feel so awkward and makes me feel as if I am drawing attention to myself esp. at work and even when I am driving it happens and by the time I get to work I am blotchy and red all over my face neck and chest
Had it. This is due to a stomach problem. try medecines for this. The counterflow of stomach energy causes this. Also, from a Chinese perspective, treating Yin will calm the heat. Yes, one blushes for the craziest things.
Don't worry. I sadly deal with the same thing, its hard it really is. I'm shy and when I talk I vlush or when the teacher call me a question I get red. I feel people don't really understand. But I don't hate my life I am 13 years old and in grade 8. I try to joy life. but, I feel people think its weird. I blush like 5 times a day, my face just turns red like its burning up, I just keep breathing. Some of my friend don't care if my face turn red but, some day "tomato bomb", I just hate it. But don't hate your life, just be happy who u are. like my friend told me I said I want to be more confident like you and your cool but he said I'm not cool your cool Kevin and your perfect the way you are and I I also think Emily thinks the same way (Emily is the girl I like but I can't talk to her without getting red.) :)
Thank god!! I’m not the only one! I hate that it happens when around people or when you are feeling shy, it really shows! I wish we didn’t have this problem 🤦🏻♀️
Thank you and sorry to read your experience. I have found both mindfulness and therapy helpful. It doesn't cure the blushing but makes me feel better about it which is something at least!
It okay it only a part of anixety no worrys ..hope things get better ♡
That's the silliest comment I've read, anxiety is a mental health problem that can snowball quite seriously. Please educate yourself.
my anxiety almost makes me want to kill myself. fuck off
I am also struggling with blushing and low Self esteem i had this for 5 years and it Makes Life a living hell people dont understand how frustrating it is to always blush or blush harder i think i have chronic blushing now since i dont remember a day that i didn’t. Not blush it gave me anxiety from people and socializing so much i also have no Friends and Never had a girlfriend i hate when people laugh at me or are staring at me just off the fact that i am blushing i wish i one day can be the Social Person i was years back at the end off the day i am aware people dont really care and mind their OWN business it is a Battle inside the Head of negativity and low Self esteem which i carry i just want to be a HUMAN and Not be ashamed just because of my existence… ❤
I’m so sorry. I really do hear you. It’s extremely tough. You are not alone my friend
Johnny, don't beat yourself up just because of what your friend told you! Your friend has a completely different perspective of things and you don't see the world the same way she sees it. Don't listen to her. Nobody thinks that about you.
About the blushing.... I don't know if you're willing to use a little bit of make up. I don't know just some foundation or something little, maybe if they find you an exact match for your skin tone you can wear a little bit so it looks natural as if you're not wearing any, I know it will not cover the blushing completely, but it will tame it a little. You're doing so well keep trucking! I hope this helps.
xx
I hate when people think just cause you got red you like them and they make fun of you and then the fear of blushing gets worse. Especially at school. Does this happen to anyone else
yes ..
i was at a low point in life and blushing played a big factor in it and i realised one day im not worrying about being embarrassed im worried about being red i overcame this a while back simply because whenever i felt my self go red i didn't try to fight it i embraced it which for some reason completely got rid of my issue. ps nobody cares if you turn red its actually a quite attractive trate for 90 persent of people
But for me whenever I blush at school I get the piss taken out of me
It’s not that easy when I try to embrace people point it out and I get laughed at. Which makes me feel more insecure and I will hide more
i've found a solution, i drink cbd tea sometimes and it keeps face blushing away for some time
What’s cbd tea
i tried so many things..eft...cbt...and nothing had helped to me. sometimes i realized that maybe there is no hope for me ....please help me
That video might as well be me , can't believe what I'm watching.
I'd love to chat to those fellas some time and see how he's going.
I'm after been using that CBD but it's very expensive and it can't be the long term answer ...
Hi mate. I'm a 49 year old Irish guy and I suffer from this condition. It's ruined my life and my confidence is shattered. I've taken loads of pill's and currently take propranolol which helps a little. How are you now?
it comes and goes. Mindfulness/meditation/self compassion all helps. But I go through bad phases and it drives me crazy. I feel you
ye bad thing about blushing for anxiety is that you start thinking on what people will see awkward, or what if you blush on certain moment so you get related to that... XD that happens to me a lot , It sucks because it's a reaction thinking regards the rest, to no disturb them, to be "normal" but people that don't have anxiety blushing they'll just keep associating that to you; like you are actually thinking that.. It just sucks... and it's mentally exhausting It gets to you to the point of skiping things and then feel bad about it all. :/
I'm the exact same. it's horrible. i'm afraid of going out with friends encase i start blushing. i can talk to certain people fine, but as you said with some people i just start blushing as soon as they talk to me. i dont know why