HOW TO BEAT ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING | OMG Planners with Laurel Denise
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ค. 2024
- Ever hear of all-or-nothing thinking? Oh, you have? Oh, it affects you everyday? SAME GIRL SAME. So then you know that it can be debilitating, a SUPER way to make sure that your self esteem stays low and that your reality stays skewed. It's the worst, thinking that just because you uploaded that one TH-cam 4 hours later than you intended, that your whole day is ruined!
Obviously, we also struggle from all-or-nothing thinking, some of us are in therapy, and we spend a lot of time thinking about how we can use our planners. Thus, this TH-cam was born! Watch along for some fun tips/lists/strategies that can help you stop thinking in black or white terms, and maybe let a little more forgiveness and appreciation into your life!
Note: We are not professionals! But, as said above, some of these techniques have helped us, so we wanted to share!
00:12 - Intro
00:51 - What is All-or-Nothing Thinking?
02:47 - How do we experience All-or-Nothing?
05:34 - 1. Have realistic expectations for yourself
07:07 - 2. Set a daily priority
08:38 - 3. Done list
09:03 - 4. Weekly to-do list
11:08 - 5. Establish self-care baseline
13:52 - 6. Realistic habit tracking
16:43 - 7. Mantras!
17:05 - 8. Daily list to challenge all-or-nothing thoughts
18:53 - 9. Visually break up your day
21:34 - 10. Challenge your distorted thoughts
22:21 - 11. “Only Compliments” list
23:25 - 12. Mantra list
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Love how you bring psychology into your planning strategies! A good book I just started that has some really cool takeaways: Feel Good Productivity: How to Do More of What Matters to You by Ali Abdaal.
Adding this to our book list!
Mantra: "Good Enough is Great." Highly recommend "How to Keep House While Drowning" by KC Davis. It has helped me reframe my thinking on keeping a home.
"Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 'I will try again tomorrow.'" ~ Mary Anne Radmacher
This is the quote I put in my planner for the week! Good reminder.
Love this quote!!
I now have 6 of your planners. Have sold many of your planners to my subscribers as well as know multiple people have emailed you and raved about my videos and how I have gotten them to buy your planners. And how I need to have a sponsorship from you.
I actually don’t think I suffer from perfectionism (maybe all or nothing mentality….MAYBE) but my issue is KNOWING I can be better and do better. As mentioned at the very beginning from Lolly…I used to get up at 4 something and be amongst the first few folks at my gym by 5. Granted it was pre-husband, pre-children BUT since enough years have went by and the children are not infants and not toddlers…they are pre-pre-tweens…I have the schedule to go workout for 5am. The issue now is the MENTALITY. Being a wife/mom/worker/volunteer-er my mind in the morning that early won’t let me be great bc I am either mentally exhausted from the night before or I wake up thinking I need my full brain and body to do allllll the things throughout the day. So I have moved my workouts to midday but I would LOVE to do it first thing bc I want to be great again.
What other people may see as overachieving for me it is more of “Jessica, you ARE better than this. You KNOW you can make better choices. WHERE is the you that you used to be?”
I actually think that the one big thing, or the get this done today may help me bc I can get 13 things done but if I don’t get the 14th one I am angry at myself….and the world, frankly.
What Mabby said about self care was spot on. I am slowly but surely learning to tell myself (especially on Thursday and Friday nights) that I have completed MANY things at work and I am done for the day and things CAN wait until Monday. I’m learning that’s okay.
Thats interesting Lolly doesn’t use the goal tracking of her own planner and what’s more interesting is that I don’t either for that same reason. I didn’t want to be reminded of my daily failures but I see now the habits aren’t necessarily meant to be everyday-ers.
I don’t have any advice or anything BUT I will say I am LOVING my planner. I bought it for my 41st bday in November and I thought I would hit the ground running come January. LOL. I have not and I have changed what I write and track in it every month and every few weeks I change the weekly layout and the process of learning to use this planner in its CAPACITY is pretty darn awesome.
Thanks for being hard workers! LOVED the video 🫶🏾
Friend, I say this with love: this sounds like perfectionism. Your kiddos are still probably really "needy" because kids have a lot going on as Tweens. You will get more sleep and have more time to do better/ be better in a few years. I am sure you are already doing great.
@@sarahschaeffer7025 Thank you. From a stranger I can appreciate this since you don’t know me and therefore will take it as you said it and begin to correct it as such.
I love a DONE list. Because sometimes I'm doing so many small tasks but at the end of the day feel like I haven't completed much. The done list helps me see that I did! I just jot things down as I do them. Because ADHD brain is trying to do ALLLL the things and they might not have even been on my to do list!
Thank you!!!
I love watching your videos!! ❤️💕
You always give us so many creative ways to use our planners.
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