The Narcissist moves on so easily because for them it is simply switching out all the old masks for a new closet full of masks and off they go on the prowl for new prey...
I have a question about such, is it common for narcissists to have any type of mask type decoration or actual masks hanging on their walls where they live or sleep? What about family photos and photos of themselves or lack there of?
@@Thisfirstthatthen Liking masks is not Narcissist specific....I love masks and have a few hanging on my walls...Pictures are of themselves and their accomplishments.....
There was a time where I couldn't imagine not having the narcissist in my life. That was when I was trauma bonded and in the narcissistic fog. Now, almost one year since I last saw him, 8 months since I last spoke him, I am thriving and doing so much better. This year I am 'leveling up". Doing more at my job, volunteering at a local museum, taking trips to see my family, living a life where I am not crying every day, being stolen from, manipulated. To the newbies.....there IS life after the narcissist. A better life. Things do get better.
You are so right. It takes time and a lot of effort . Don't question the confusion . Just try and put it in a box and throw it far away. The more time you give yourself. The more you understand the faults, flaws and the red flags that you chose to ignore and make excuses for. In the end..you. or we are the winners in all this . Indulge yourself in happiness and make everyday a new beginning .
@@andeebee6355 , bottom line is like Andrew has mentioned, if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. Gotta keep those narc antennas up and be able to try and recognize when you're being played. Not such an easy task...
I’m having a similar experience-he was my world (he subtly made it that way over time) and I felt like I’d die without him. I’m doing so much better since I left him for good. Focusing on work and volunteering and spending quality time with myself. 🙏🏻
I married the narcissist (son of a pastor of a mega church) The day I left his eyes turned black as he was choking me close to death. I am now blind in one eye and have a metal plate in my neck. Members of the church were forbidden to contact me. He was well protected. If you are in a narcissistic relationship don't walk but run and never look back. I wish I had left before my body was damaged. Save yourself.
@@MrSamadolfothinking the same thing. That's a clinical psychopath. But tbh, all of these personality disorder types do damage to people regardless, physical, psychological etc.
I watched my dad for years work 50 hours a week to provide for his family. After he got home he had to do all of her jobs too. My dad would have given her the moon. Nothing was ever good enough. There was constant chaos and triangulation in my home growing up and never stopped when I moved out. She did not shed one tear for my dad when he passed away, and if she did...Andrew is correct. She would be crying over what he no longer provides, not missing him 😔
My attachment to the Narcissist post discard was like my morning sickness during my pregnancy- one day I woke up and it was gone. Be patient - and even if you can’t relate to the pregnancy analogy- just hang in there and you too will feel better.
Notes from a post discard ( well over 10 years ago): That "Void" equaled vulnerability that I couldn't see other than in hindsight. I tried to fill that void with flaky people, being intensely workaholic and mini-vacations with booze. Dating was a waste of time, I wasn't there as a "real" person. The best thing that led me on a healing path was stopping booze and returning to full on exercise and a sport I always loved. That may have led me eventually to Narcdaily. Thanks, Andrew! I hold you responsible for the 3rd version of myself and most gratefully so. Namaste.👍🙌🙏👁
They never cared , it was planned all along. Once we broke - we were of no use to them. Thank Goodness he underestimated me and I had already filed for divorce. It didn’t hurt any less. I truly loved him and it was so painful, confusing, and difficult. I felt myself dying in the relationship. He would have gladly seen to it. They are empty yet evil vessels. Thank God it doesn’t matter anymore. You will come through this! You will be stronger than ever. It just takes time . Sending love and prayers to everyone. ❤🙏 Be patient and kind to yourself. Andrew is so correct and knowledgeable, you will never get closure. One day you won’t care.
My father is a narcissist and abused me throughout my childhood. My mom loved him and could never divorce him. She died from cancer on December 16 2023 before her 70th birthday. She would have never found true peace if she stayed with him. The cause of her cancer was environmental and I've always known it was because of him. He nearly killed me and the only reason I'm still alive is because I got out of the house. To have to live with no justice, to have to live holding onto his secrets because no one in my family ever believed me - it sometimes feels like I've already been in Hell on Earth. They were together since she was 19 years old. Rest in Peace mom.
To those healing, like Andrew said, you can & you will put yourself back together. You will get through this. It takes a lot of time. I, like Andrew, have healed. You will too. Take everything to God in prayer. Stay strong
I do not like to think about how little I/we meant to the narc. It makes me sad and scared to think there are people on earth with so little concern for others. Regardless of anyone's shortcomings, no person should treat another with such cruelty. Thank God for the healing knowledge and the courage and strength given. Blessings to all! ❤❤
@@RaoulDukeSr I hope you have support of someone who would listen and understand what you are experiencing. Is critical to have someone hear your "whole" story in order to fully heal. Sending love and prayers!
I totally understand how you feel. But at the end of the day we all have to understand what things we are able to control and what things we cannot. There are many cruel people and they don’t care. That’s ok. I don’t envy them. They are empty people.
2023 was the worst year of my life, not only going through Cancer treatment but being ill treated and discarded by the narc. It was a mountain of work to heal from this tornado of emotions. I still watch these videos which strengthens my resolve to steer clear of ever having anyone like that in my life ever again, or anyone that is associated with the narc. 2024 is a clean slate, the year to smile more and enjoy like minded people knowing that they are genuine.
He moved on so there would be no accountability for what he and his new supply put me through. Out of sight out of mind. Meanwhile I went through therapy and lost 30 lbs because I everything but quit eating. Make no mistake I now have health issues because of that hypoglycemia manifested itself. I passed out twice at work. It’s a wonder I even function. I hit my head really bad twice on the tile falling straight back all because I quit eating and my blood sugar drops so low I passed out. I thank him for that so I have to be on guard all the time even though I don’t feel like eating,
🙂 you need to start eating again, find some really yummy dishes that will really open your appetite, keep trying different dishes to u find those that really hit the spot, Cooking and Eating and Food is really good for the Soul and its very Therapuetic. Another tip is to find someone to come over and help you cook or hire a chef or housekeeper for a few hours to motivate you. Godspeed.
I just broke up with a narcissist. I was very knowledgeable about them, however, this one knew that and was aware of the 'key words' such as 'projection', 'gaslighting' and was a master manipulator who even cried over his alleged last ex being a narcissist. I've studied them for 6 years and it took me 4 months to figure it out. Refusal to respect even the most reasonable boundaries. Deflecting, gaslighting, and then the attempt at a future fake. It happens. I think more narcissists are learning that people are getting the education, so they try to use it to their advantage. Thanks for all that you do. It does bother them when people have this information.
This is interesting, I too, have experienced a lot of narcissism in different non-romantic situations & thought I was armed & would see through it. But no, like you, I embarked on a relationship & it took me 5 months to work out what was going on. I don’t feel like I have been ‘had’ - I am just grateful for more experience. I feel it in my heart, for those that have financial & other ties, preventing them to leave.
I felt pressure to go near a few narcs over holidays! Had to do no contact! They almost took me down for the count but I now realize I MUST keep my boundaries and keep no contact! This is teaching me SO much Andrew! I’m learning to love myself and say NO!! I need these teachings& wisdom so much! Everything you say is exactly correct!! Yes they know exactly what they are doing! Don’t give them a second chance! God will give me the strength to say-“NO thanks- just stay away from me”!!🎉🙏
They ABSOLUTELY move on easily because there’s no deep connection there and they’re trying to collect as many people for supply as they can as quickly as they can! Hope you’re having a WONDERFUL day Andrew and friends! Love y’all!!! ❤❤❤🤗🥰☺️☀️🌹
From my experience, narcs move on quickly but the new relationship does not last for long. So they keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again and they are very unhappy people. They hurt a lot of people in the process. Have a beautiful afternoon Andrew ❤❤😊
Yes, it's really difficult to process after knowing someone I've trusted for 32 years. Emotionally it's shocking and confusing but, logically it clearly makes sense. SO creepy to realize I've known and trusted someone like this blinded by not being aware that souless beings exist and that I'd actually been involved with one for so long. I almost relocated out of state to be with him. Thank God my intuition stopped me from rushing into the abyss.
@debbier9555 yes, I feel you. He wanted me to quit my job as it is very stressful and he suggested supporting me financially. Thank God I realized it's a strategic move to make me dependent on him. So creepy
Yes they got off Scott Free,,where we had many trying days,But we got on the healing path,,learned ,healed ,and grew,,at least we're Responsible,,and have so much to contribute to the World,,t.y. ANDREW for your continued teaching,,🦅🤗❤️✨🌺
I've seen many tuff guys in my lifetime, some came apart and their masks fell off. But you, flowerpower ( handle not withstanding) are the "real stuff of tuff." 👍💪💪💪
They move on so easily because they have zero feelings for anyone, including their own children. It's cruel beyond words. Out of it now, healing and grateful for this wisdom and education im getting here. Yes, they go back to their old life before you....and leave a trail of destruction behind them.
Thats so true. My ex husband admitted it. He cant even love our children, he is not capable of love. But guess what? He felt pitty about HIMSELF for not be a loving individual. Not for our children, and certainly not for me. Its always and always All about himself.
When you really think about it, The narcissist needs to move on quickly because they can’t handle being alone, it’s dangerous to themselves to be alone. Their ego is extremely fragile. Healing, moving on with our lives with peace and God. Become the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and I promise you the right person will come into your life. That positive energy will bring the right people in your life. The narcissist needs to win and that is why it hurts their ego to the core when we move on with grace and happiness and honestly all this can be done without posting about it.
Love your background & the tree behind you 🙂. I completely agree with your video. What you said at the very end, "how they can move on so quickly or so easily? Because they just don't care". That is truth. This is crystal clear when you are healed. The narcissist does not value people for who they are. To them, people & things are meant to be used then thrown away. No shame. No remorse. Empty shells. No love. No introspection. They are users & liars. Great insight when you said one reason they move on quickly is because they don't have to heal. Great video Andrew 🙂. Truth. Have a good night 🙂. God bless ☀️☀️☀️
My Ex Wife/Narc’s mask slipped the night before the wedding! I almost didn’t go through with it! She saw it too! She manipulated me and my family and hers to get me to agree to marry her after I said no twice to her marriage proposals! And she manipulated me to go through with the wedding! Within a month the devaluation started. I tried to work on the marriage with couples counseling and individual counseling! It didn’t work! I lasted 2 years! I asked for a divorce in January of 2021, she moved out in June after my daughter exposed her on social media for the world to see! She moved into the new supplies home when she left. Supposedly it was just a roommate situation. Yeah, she manipulated him into a relationship. I’m actually grateful because she won’t bother me anymore! I wish him the best of luck! He’s gonna need it!
😏 dam broh, this is textbook Red Pill 101: She wanted the Wedding but not the Marriage. Then later on she Monkey Branched from you to the next dude from day one which means she was already seeing this dude behind ur back when she was still with you. Glad you got out. Just don't do it again, and if you do it again then you deserve everything thats coming to you. Godspeed Broh.
Its because they never grew up, its Arrested Development, as long as the Parents are Alive they have a Parachute to fall back on, which means they can go crazy and destroy everything and they dont care because they have a Parachute. But eventually both their Parents will Pass Away and then u will see them all humbled and panicking about whos going to take care of me now and whos going to pay all my bills.
@@MrSamadolfo Good to know for my healing, what he did to me is undescribable and it's been a horrendous five months coming to terms with the farce but thanks to the online community I don't feel so alone. I've never learned so much as I have these past few months and am becoming powerful in my knowledge and acceptance.
@@MuzzyWuzzy really sorry for ur loss, yes many of the testimonies sound like something out of a movie, mines wasnt so horrible compared to this community but it was still enuf to take the red pill and never go back.
These narcissistic people are sometimes sad, when they move on, only becasue they are not getting THEIR needs met any longer. My narcissistic girlfriend, did cry a lot & looked devasted, when I ended the relationship & told her that it wasn’t going anywhere. Although I did have compassion for her, because I am a human being, I could absolutely recognise her insecurity of not knowing herself. Her performance was pitiful, which I found both upsetting, and, confirming, that I made the right decision for both her & myself. When you can release someone from your life, with love & gratitude, it is much easier & quicker for both parties to move on. Try not to focus on the negative, as this will keep you stuck there, but learn the lesons also. Namaste 🙏
I wrote a poem today. Expressing my situation. The poem goes to my illustrious landlord: I know you are a lost soul, parading around with your faux peacock feather...turning out a baby in the coldest weather; singing your songs about world peace, all the while playing the prince(Lord of the Manor), will you ever cease? Take those checks and drop them in the bank...its ALL you have, so remove that plank(out of your eye)...I'll keep my splinter! I have the good part anyway...you only have a dream...you'll ALWAYS live in winter...
He moved on way before it was “over”. He only wanted to stay married so he could have the outward appearance of being a respectable married family man. Behind closed doors he was staying out late, sometimes not coming home and messing around with his new supply. 😕 Now she’s being beat down like I was. If she makes it out intact maybe she’ll think twice before starting a romance with a married man with two young kids. And yes he’s tried to Hoover me multiple times and heck NO. I hope he chokes on the word NO because that’s all he’s going to hear from me.
My narc ex husband done exactly the same and left myself and our 3 young children. Your head is spinning and you can't understand who they can move on with someone after building a life and family but once you get the wisdom on narcissism, you can see how they do it - they are empty and have as much emotion as a log of wood. As for these other woman/supply who get involved with married men, they were either manipulated and told lies or simply just have no moral compass in life.
Wow, 30 freakin yrs! They set the trap long before I showed up and stupidly or rather trustingly ignored the signs never realizing how treacherous their ugly plan was. I just kept trying to say the world while actually seriously damaging my own body, mind, and heart. He and his mother worked together in unison to emotionally as well as physically drive me into the ground. Who would believe this now!! Only someone who has truly and truthfully been through it. It's sad and infuriating all at the same time.
Its like I just read my own story, just down to 27 vs. 30 and my story has sibilings and side pieces in addition to mothers etc . A normal human being doesnt USE others, doesnt set traps, doesnt create false realities and LIES around the clock while going to church and taking communion on Sundays. These people are mentally ill. There are Families out there , literally planning to take a person down while smiling at them. Narcs are no more than Enablers and Addicts. Step away, go no contact, block in every way you can. Get thru the darknes and remember, the sun will rise tomorrow and you will be stronger every single day. Keep moving forward. Only way to break the spell for Life.
The more one watches the more the message is embedded in the brain. can spot those narcs in a couple of minutes now, except the coverts!! takes a little longer but still can be done and nipped in the bud! Thx Andrew!!
I love your videos so simple but profound. 🙏🏿 my ex was a narcissist I put him out and cut all contacts for almost six years now. It’s a very hard thing to deal with being taken advantage of. However, I am grateful for the grace to move on 🙏🏿keep up the good work
It’s hard to just fill the time. I never realized how much time they took up in everyday. I’m also sleeping better so I have more energy but just not sure what to do with myself.
It takes time. Get lots of rest and drink lots of fresh cold water. If ur sleeping better thats actually very positive. Next try doing all the basic stuff around the home such as cleaning the home, wash fold clothes, and do lots and lots of cooking dishes and cleaning the kitchen. Eating is good for the soul. Godspeed.
What I find disturbing about these behaviors is lack of empathy and or compassion. Although life is not pretty at times, a lack of concern for someone who has shown others love, light and understanding is not a weakness. Love is an enduring strength. What also scares me about these kind of toxic behaviors are how they could care less if you cry externally or internally. I try to not let a narcissist or toxic person see me cry…Paying it forward in my humble opinion, is trying to practice good humanity regardless to or if it is reciprocated. I hope this helps someone today.🤔❤🇺🇸
It's called a discard because of how its done. *It's very deliberate and very brazen!* It's as though they were telling you, you should've seen this coming because you signed up for it.
Blocking my narcissistic ex husband has been challenging, but I'm 5 months no contact with him now. On the other hand blocking my own narcissistic son aged 39, has been the bravest thing I've ever done. We've been no contact since 1/09/2023.
Couple of things i need to add to my other comment and recent experience.... My ex went back home to her family in the end. Which was 100% because i exposed her lies in my town, but also because the mother enables her and believes her lies. Also because her brother and his family are such horrible people that she feels good around them. She's 46, and back home. 🤦🏻♂️ And as far as "revealing ourselves in the end"... i reveal who i am from day one. There's no surprises with me because I'm always honest and wear my heart on my sleeve. That's the difference between us and them. 😇 / 😈
yeah broh, alot of them never grew up, they have arrested development, as long as their parents are alive they think they are all that. Just you wait and see once both Parents have passed away she no longer will have a Parachute and all Hell will break loose cause all the bills will keep rolling in, just u wait and see
If i could only give one piece of advice about how to aviod a narcissist, it would be listen very carefully what they tell you at the beginning of the relationship. They tell you everything you need to know about them. Unfortunately, i had a crazy busy life at the time, didnt know what narcissism was, and if inam honest, i wasnt as humble as i now am...i thought i was invincible. So, please listen very carefully, and also consider their words, it may just be your " get out of jail card " Much love for 2024 everyone ❤️
Learn and move forward with the knowledge. Love yourself and fight for yourself. Fight for yourself the way you would fight for someone you care about.
I just laughed when I found out he had a new girlfriend after two months. Narcs are predictable and pathetic. I told him to give his new girlfriend my number because when the mask slips, she will need someone to talk to. They are empty and jealous that we have the capacity to love.
I have had to ask - am I narcissistic? And evaluate my own self .. a therapist said “if you are asking that you are not Narcissistic!” We all have some Narcissistic tendencies- is that fair .. but if you have any love ❤️ in your heart … do you relish in hurting another. … the answer for the empath is no .. we need to learn boundaries and boundaries is not cruel - they are for our protection
@@Light_1966I believe the therapist is correct, if you’re asking yourself that question, then the answer is probably “no”, and that’s because narcissists do not introspect and would not ask themselves that question nor would they care if the answer was even SLIGHTLY “yes”. They just do what they want when they want why they want where they want and with WHOM they want. Such labels would mean nothing to them. So take the reasons that made you ask yourself that and do your best to improve 😉👍 a narc CERTAINLY would NOT do THAT!
Mine moved on so quickly because he was sleeping with her for 7 weeks before my discard in November. And she's 10 yrs youth and me-17 younger than him,inherited ALOT of money and property from her dead husband so he hit the jackpot.
This has been a blessing to listen to daily. My mother left my dad a few months ago after 32 years of marriage . I can relate in so many ways.. word for word . Listening to this has been therapeutic. I can now understand why my dad acted the way he did and why he hurt us all, my mama the most. To a New Year! 2024 ❤ Hello from Woodruff, SC
Lots of priceless wisdom dropped in this video Andrew, excellent👌 My favourite "People in a relationship who don't care have nothing to lose, everything to gain" - This is spot on❤
Just want to say thank you so much for this, I’ve watched a million videos during my 3 year post ‘relationship’ and healing process as I’ve learnt what he is, (which included many hoovers) but this video encapsulates everything so concisely, wish I’d seen it a long time ago!
My daughter divorced her narcissist husband and now he has a new supply and is presently destroying my daughters relationship with her daughter. The narcissist removed my granddaughter from her mom now she is dealing with the court system trying to get her back. It’s been a nightmare.
This is hard to hear. Truth but so hard. It’s also hard to see how my ex knew what he’s doing. Known him since we were children… but the more I look back and listen to yourself and others, I can not refute it’s truth.
While she was setting up, exploiting and manipulating me she was getting information from her next supply to help towards the set up. That next supply was giving her all she needed for the set up (unknowingly of course as the narcissist had her mask on and was being kind and supportive). The narcissist wanted information for my set up so she could use the set up circumstances to blame, fleece and abuse the very same next supply. They certainly don't care about anyone at all....all she thought about was plotting ways to exploit money out of people and the different ways to abuse people. All so very very calculated and manipulative. A very very vile human being. 😛😝🥴😢
I’m currently healing from a narcissistic relationship that lasted 3 years. It was the worst time of my life, I am pretty young and I saw everything that I planned for my future fade away during the relationship. The bravest thing I ever did was picking myself up and getting out of the relationship without even realizing that he was a narcissist. I’m extremely proud of myself for that. As soon as I left, I started seeing my future plans flash through my mind again. The lightbulb moment really changed my perspective and I’m still healing. I wish I’d found this channel sooner. But I am here now. And I have never felt more blessed. The grass is greener on the other side after all.
The true narcissist has a personality disorder it's who they are and any signs of them changing is only temporary. They have a fixed cycle of idealize, devalue and discard and quite often at least one hoover attempt. Narcissist's get worse as they age and whoever the unlucky new supply is will soon realize they can't have Jekyll without Hyde. There will be trouble in the camp it's just a matter of time.
I have seen a change in my personality. Separating from those people was healthy and I see a real change in who I am today. In many ways, not the same person at all. Those people would be shocked at how much I've changed. I'm even amazed. I feel like Neo on the Matrix. I took the red pill. I see them for who they are. I am no longer colorblind. I don't see all people in shades of grey.
Bingo! It's interesting too bc the 3 woman I know to definitely be narcissist always make the comment about they love their person/supply because of all of the things they DO for them.
Thanks to you I healed to years watched your videos and no one was on point like you beeing a survivor of a narcissistic relationship only the one had been know. Now I have found somebody who loves me and I love her too. Thanks a lot
How can they feel so heartless how come they don't have any love? Breaking people's hearts is not a game. Surely they are human and have feelings and emotions like human beings? I'm still in the entrapment stage .These videos are awakening me up and helping me as what you saying I can relate to some of these things you are saying it's like oh my gosh!!! This is my first narcissistic relationship .But I'm finding wisdom in these videos .Thankyou and it's helping me to be empowered and he senses I'm getting stronger .like I'm not afraid to lose him.But I want what Was taken restored God help me .Also reading others comments make me go Hummm!!!
It’s easy because they have disorganized attachment. They attach to the benefit, when the benefit varies, they attach to another source but can’t detach from the former supply completely, just in case there’s more supply to be gotten. It’s all strategic and purely logical for them.
I often think, everytime you bring up "having to go thru it", just how many people rose up against the narc, and my relationship. Classmates didnt understand it, teachers and even the army recruiter who was trying to recruit me, the sheriff's dept, and especially my parents, were all against my relationship with him. Even my sisters. What did they see, that I didnt? For my own life? Thats what I dont get. Am I just too caring, or stupid? And that the narcs keep finding me daily. Wth!!?? 🤷🏼 The strangers these days are weirdos! 😂
I just had a run-in with another one. 🤦🏻♂️ This one thought she was the bees knees, above everyone, a guru, and then i looked at her social media.... Oh my word! She's a walking contradiction. A hypocrite. Loves male attention. Claims to be healed whilst being an addict and an alco. Partying at raves at 50 years of age. 😬 She started offering me money and some supplements that she sells. I've been wise to this tactic previously. Another woman offered me $2k after knowing her for a day. Don't ever accept it. I didn't. Note - I'm only intending on making friends. Absolutely nothing else. God help this world. Best part was.... i ignored her immense beauty, and was onto it straight away, and ACTED straight away. Freedom feels better than any narc does or ever could. ❤
BONJOUR ANDREW😊🇫🇷🙏Thank you again for your wise & confirning to all of us ,,,the pain & DISTRUST I & MY family went through with a DISHONEST person... Who still only lies & controls & ISOLATES my 101 yr. Mother to her advantages!! I am STRONGER & STRONGER TO RISE ABOVE THIS !!! 🇫🇷🙏😊🫶⭐️😊
My narc parents destroyed my relationship with my sibling... and I think she's a carbon copy of both of them (golden child)... you can guess what that makes me, the observant kid that told the truth. But you know what... given the choice, I'd take being the scapegoat any day.
@@livestotravel7589 I didn't want to believe it either for the longest time... but yes. HELL would be an under-statement to describe my late childhood and early teens!
Honestly, been listening for around a year. You've helped so much. What a guidance you have been. I can't thank you enough, for knowing I was not going insane.... For just knowing that they make you feel that way. Stepped back, almost a year, blocked from the beginning and not looked back. Concentrating on our lives. I haven't felt happier or this free in years. Thank you. Love and Light 🕯️
Jo Andrew jeg er kommet ovenpå igen da jeg befandt mig I tågen det var et rent helvede at være i, jeg har været der lige som dig, så gå tilbage nej tak. Og ha en fantastisk weekend Andrew 🙂👍
Thank you Andrew! I am so glad I came across your content. You have helped me heal. DO NOT STOP! This is just a start, there are more victims out there than Narcs. Keep educating pls. Your messages are NEEDED! NAMASTE!
You’re so on point Andrew. After discard she went right back to her toxic family. Then I realized they created her 😂 I’m so glad I can laugh now. It’s actually all VERY laughable, because it’s all so delusional. 😵💫😵💫😅
yup, as long as they have family alive that support them they are power tripping cause they have a parachute with a home and food and finances. Their tune changes once all the family has passed away and there no one that will take them in.
This is another really good one!!! While watching & listening iam saying yes, yeah,yes to myself throughout the whole video!!! Great One Again!!! Job well done!! You're so right why couldn't this be taught in school, instead of teaching stuff in school that you already know, & stuff you will never really need ,throughout life...
Andrew its been a year since narc left me and i listened to you since. The amount of change i have seen in myself is massive.you have been such a blessing.everyday i try to live my best no more pining over the lost cause
This is something that still truly hurts me even after 3 years later. But I have not “moved on” I have been single for the 3 years following. There was personally no way I could have started something new. But I think I might be ready to explore the idea of dating again.
Andrew you are right on everything you say is right on. The 3 A’s of narcissism ABUSE, ADDICTION & ADULTRY . Married one & for 37 yrs of abuse. She drained me dry-thank God for 3 beautiful children who I love dearly. Intercepted texts messages from her ‘Back Door Man’ salacious in manner. Been over 5 years & still not over it. Been watching you ever since you started your utube gig & again you have been right on 90 percent of time. Now I want revenge. Keep up the good fight! Thank you Jerry Kilduff Boston Ma.
Same same here 35 years I caught mine bare butts at all three different times three different men come to find out later she had been doing it since 2008, but I didn’t find out until 2017 when I reached the end of my rope
If we seek revenge we continue to stay sick and suffer from the relationship...Instead..Choose your Healing Path and run in that direction..Turning your pain into a powerful new you is your revenge..God Bless
Is ur divorce final, did u get stuck with alimony and child support and loss of the home? Try to forget about revenge cause your still in the red pill rage phase. Try to relax and calm down. Divorce is brutal for Husbands especially in a no fault state where adultery doesnt help u with the calculations and percentages of the divorce. They basically are getting rewarded for cheating. Thats why more and more guys are waking up and opting out to this wealth transfer scam. Plus its not cool they get the house and all their lovers get to come over now and use your house. Stay strong broh. Also checkout the various Divorce channels and Guy channels out there to help get ur mind off of this hustle. Godspeed.
Thank you so much Andrew. Always a blessing. Would love to speak to that void for those just from discard phase. That’s a difficult place to be when you’ve been constantly in service to the narc and their kingdom…so anything you can do to light up your days and bring yourself to try new things or interests you had to put on hold for the narc time. It’s all your time now and it is NOT selfish. Sending love ✨❤️🙏
My first discard was from my parents ,then siblings if I didn't give them what they needed 🙃 repeated again as a adult ! A very painful 💔 life on repeat !!!!!! Im still here ,a stronger me ,wiser !! These people are like any addiction !!!,you can't be in there company ever !!! You cant control them ! Being clean from narcs Takes truth clarity & commitment ,wisdom no denial of what they are or the damage they cause ! I'm sober ,staying this way!
This video is full of helpful contents which resonates with me in many aspects‼️Thank you, Andrew for all of the empowering education you provide us❤️❤️❤️
The Narcissist moves on so easily because for them it is simply switching out all the old masks for a new closet full of masks and off they go on the prowl for new prey...
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Yes , you are so right. When you have no feelings of real love it’s easy to just move on.
I have a question about such, is it common for narcissists to have any type of mask type decoration or actual masks hanging on their walls where they live or sleep? What about family photos and photos of themselves or lack there of?
@@Thisfirstthatthen Liking masks is not Narcissist specific....I love masks and have a few hanging on my walls...Pictures are of themselves and their accomplishments.....
I caught my ex making facial expressions in the mirror,😂they also like role play,,that's they're tool box,👿
There was a time where I couldn't imagine not having the narcissist in my life. That was when I was trauma bonded and in the narcissistic fog. Now, almost one year since I last saw him, 8 months since I last spoke him, I am thriving and doing so much better. This year I am 'leveling up". Doing more at my job, volunteering at a local museum, taking trips to see my family, living a life where I am not crying every day, being stolen from, manipulated. To the newbies.....there IS life after the narcissist. A better life. Things do get better.
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You are so right. It takes time and a lot of effort . Don't question the confusion . Just try and put it in a box and throw it far away. The more time you give yourself. The more you understand the faults, flaws and the red flags that you chose to ignore and make excuses for. In the end..you. or we are the winners in all this . Indulge yourself in happiness and make everyday a new beginning .
@@andeebee6355 , bottom line is like Andrew has mentioned, if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. Gotta keep those narc antennas up and be able to try and recognize when you're being played. Not such an easy task...
I’m having a similar experience-he was my world (he subtly made it that way over time) and I felt like I’d die without him. I’m doing so much better since I left him for good. Focusing on work and volunteering and spending quality time with myself. 🙏🏻
Me too but now I don’t know how I ever wanted to come back life is so much calmer and slower
Let them move on - we don't need them for anything unless we want to create stress for ourselves. Thanks Andrew.
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I married the narcissist (son of a pastor of a mega church) The day I left his eyes turned black as he was choking me close to death. I am now blind in one eye and have a metal plate in my neck. Members of the church were forbidden to contact me. He was well protected. If you are in a narcissistic relationship don't walk but run and never look back. I wish I had left before my body was damaged. Save yourself.
Im really sorry to hear that. That sounds like more of a bona fide Psychopath. He needs to get locked up in an Asylum. ASAP.
@@MrSamadolfothinking the same thing. That's a clinical psychopath. But tbh, all of these personality disorder types do damage to people regardless, physical, psychological etc.
I watched my dad for years work 50 hours a week to provide for his family. After he got home he had to do all of her jobs too. My dad would have given her the moon. Nothing was ever good enough. There was constant chaos and triangulation in my home growing up and never stopped when I moved out. She did not shed one tear for my dad when he passed away, and if she did...Andrew is correct. She would be crying over what he no longer provides, not missing him 😔
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I walked away from a family inheritance going No Contact! Keep your damn money!
@@01968hope you are in a better space!! Stay strong and much love!!
That's brutal..I feel u
I'm sorry to hear about your dad hope things are improving for you.
My attachment to the Narcissist post discard was like my morning sickness during my pregnancy- one day I woke up and it was gone.
Be patient - and even if you can’t relate to the pregnancy analogy- just hang in there and you too will feel better.
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Yiu described it as exactly like that
I will say again:
Understand it.
Accept it.
Stay out of it.
NO CONTACT. Do not just block them. Change your number.
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This is the BEST ever explanation. I am writing this down.
Thank you!!!!
I don’t know the details that brought you to this level of understanding- but I have to tell you that You are amazing!!!!!
Notes from a post discard ( well over 10 years ago): That "Void" equaled vulnerability that I couldn't see other than in hindsight. I tried to fill that void with flaky people, being intensely workaholic and mini-vacations with booze. Dating was a waste of time, I wasn't there as a "real" person. The best thing that led me on a healing path was stopping booze and returning to full on exercise and a sport I always loved.
That may have led me eventually to Narcdaily. Thanks, Andrew! I hold you responsible for the 3rd version
of myself and most gratefully so. Namaste.👍🙌🙏👁
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They never cared , it was planned all along. Once we broke - we were of no use to them. Thank Goodness he underestimated me and I had already filed for divorce. It didn’t hurt any less. I truly loved him and it was so painful, confusing, and difficult. I felt myself dying in the relationship. He would have gladly seen to it. They are empty yet evil vessels. Thank God it doesn’t matter anymore. You will come through this! You will be stronger than ever. It just takes time . Sending love and prayers to everyone. ❤🙏 Be patient and kind to yourself. Andrew is so correct and knowledgeable, you will never get closure.
One day you won’t care.
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Yes, they move on quickly. It's because we never had them in the first place. We were pawns in their games.
My father is a narcissist and abused me throughout my childhood. My mom loved him and could never divorce him. She died from cancer on December 16 2023 before her 70th birthday. She would have never found true peace if she stayed with him. The cause of her cancer was environmental and I've always known it was because of him. He nearly killed me and the only reason I'm still alive is because I got out of the house. To have to live with no justice, to have to live holding onto his secrets because no one in my family ever believed me - it sometimes feels like I've already been in Hell on Earth. They were together since she was 19 years old. Rest in Peace mom.
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Appreciate your share. Very sorry for your loss. Wishing you brightness and peace in each coming day.
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My life is going to be a best seller.
To those healing, like Andrew said, you can & you will put yourself back together. You will get through this. It takes a lot of time. I, like Andrew, have healed. You will too. Take everything to God in prayer. Stay strong
I do not like to think about how little I/we meant to the narc. It makes me sad and scared to think there are people on earth with so little concern for others. Regardless of anyone's shortcomings, no person should treat another with such cruelty. Thank God for the healing knowledge and the courage and strength given. Blessings to all! ❤❤
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Precisely what is occurring with me.
@@RaoulDukeSr I hope you have support of someone who would listen and understand what you are experiencing. Is critical to have someone hear your "whole" story in order to fully heal. Sending love and prayers!
I totally understand how you feel. But at the end of the day we all have to understand what things we are able to control and what things we cannot.
There are many cruel people and they don’t care.
That’s ok. I don’t envy them. They are empty people.
Your were complete before u met them. Your still complete after they left. They are irelevant. Repeat it to urself until u see it. Godspeed.
2023 was the worst year of my life, not only going through Cancer treatment but being ill treated and discarded by the narc.
It was a mountain of work to heal from this tornado of emotions.
I still watch these videos which strengthens my resolve to steer clear of ever having anyone like that in my life ever again, or anyone that is associated with the narc.
2024 is a clean slate, the year to smile more and enjoy like minded people knowing that they are genuine.
He moved on so there would be no accountability for what he and his new supply put me through. Out of sight out of mind. Meanwhile I went through therapy and lost 30 lbs because I everything but quit eating. Make no mistake I now have health issues because of that hypoglycemia manifested itself. I passed out twice at work. It’s a wonder I even function. I hit my head really bad twice on the tile falling straight back all because I quit eating and my blood sugar drops so low I passed out. I thank him for that so I have to be on guard all the time even though I don’t feel like eating,
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🙂 you need to start eating again, find some really yummy dishes that will really open your appetite, keep trying different dishes to u find those that really hit the spot, Cooking and Eating and Food is really good for the Soul and its very Therapuetic. Another tip is to find someone to come over and help you cook or hire a chef or housekeeper for a few hours to motivate you. Godspeed.
I just broke up with a narcissist. I was very knowledgeable about them, however, this one knew that and was aware of the 'key words' such as 'projection', 'gaslighting' and was a master manipulator who even cried over his alleged last ex being a narcissist. I've studied them for 6 years and it took me 4 months to figure it out. Refusal to respect even the most reasonable boundaries. Deflecting, gaslighting, and then the attempt at a future fake. It happens. I think more narcissists are learning that people are getting the education, so they try to use it to their advantage. Thanks for all that you do. It does bother them when people have this information.
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Yes the evolve their techniques through our empathy and education, also about consciousness, they use it in their advantage
Don't make excuses for rotten behavior.❣️
This is interesting, I too, have experienced a lot of narcissism in different non-romantic situations & thought I was armed & would see through it. But no, like you, I embarked on a relationship & it took me 5 months to work out what was going on. I don’t feel like I have been ‘had’ - I am just grateful for more experience. I feel it in my heart, for those that have financial & other ties, preventing them to leave.
I felt pressure to go near a few narcs over holidays!
Had to do no contact!
They almost took me down for the count but I now realize I MUST keep my boundaries and keep no contact!
This is teaching me SO much Andrew!
I’m learning to love myself and say NO!!
I need these teachings& wisdom so much!
Everything you say is exactly correct!!
Yes they know exactly what they are doing!
Don’t give them a second chance!
God will give me the strength to say-“NO thanks- just stay away from me”!!🎉🙏
They ABSOLUTELY move on easily because there’s no deep connection there and they’re trying to collect as many people for supply as they can as quickly as they can!
Hope you’re having a WONDERFUL day Andrew and friends! Love y’all!!! ❤❤❤🤗🥰☺️☀️🌹
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From my experience, narcs move on quickly but the new relationship does not last for long. So they keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again and they are very unhappy people. They hurt a lot of people in the process. Have a beautiful afternoon Andrew ❤❤😊
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I still have a hard time getting my head around that, that they don't care, it really hurts.
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Give yourself time to heal. Later it wont hurt as much. Trust the process.
Yes, it's really difficult to process after knowing someone I've trusted for 32 years. Emotionally it's shocking and confusing but, logically it clearly makes sense. SO creepy to realize I've known and trusted someone like this blinded by not being aware that souless beings exist and that I'd actually been involved with one for so long. I almost relocated out of state to be with him. Thank God my intuition stopped me from rushing into the abyss.
Yes, this is the worst part for me. This realization hurts like hell
@debbier9555 yes, I feel you. He wanted me to quit my job as it is very stressful and he suggested supporting me financially. Thank God I realized it's a strategic move to make me dependent on him. So creepy
Yes they got off Scott Free,,where we had many trying days,But we got on the healing path,,learned ,healed ,and grew,,at least we're Responsible,,and have so much to contribute to the World,,t.y. ANDREW for your continued teaching,,🦅🤗❤️✨🌺
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Yes.. so true.
Yes, that's what it's all about.
May God bless us a!!!
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I've seen many tuff guys in my lifetime, some came apart and their masks fell off.
But you, flowerpower ( handle not withstanding) are the "real stuff of tuff." 👍💪💪💪
Eyes swell up like beach ⛱️ balls 😆 🤣 i do like how you describe them, takes the power from the evil memories they left us with
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You are a good, empathetic and cool guy💯‼️🍀🙋🏻♂️Thx for all the work and support ☀️😊
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They move on so easily because they have zero feelings for anyone, including their own children. It's cruel beyond words. Out of it now, healing and grateful for this wisdom and education im getting here. Yes, they go back to their old life before you....and leave a trail of destruction behind them.
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Thats so true. My ex husband admitted it. He cant even love our children, he is not capable of love. But guess what? He felt pitty about HIMSELF for not be a loving individual. Not for our children, and certainly not for me. Its always and always All about himself.
When you really think about it, The narcissist needs to move on quickly because they can’t handle being alone, it’s dangerous to themselves to be alone. Their ego is extremely fragile. Healing, moving on with our lives with peace and God. Become the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and I promise you the right person will come into your life. That positive energy will bring the right people in your life. The narcissist needs to win and that is why it hurts their ego to the core when we move on with grace and happiness and honestly all this can be done without posting about it.
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Love your background & the tree behind you 🙂. I completely agree with your video. What you said at the very end, "how they can move on so quickly or so easily? Because they just don't care". That is truth. This is crystal clear when you are healed. The narcissist does not value people for who they are. To them, people & things are meant to be used then thrown away. No shame. No remorse. Empty shells. No love. No introspection. They are users & liars. Great insight when you said one reason they move on quickly is because they don't have to heal. Great video Andrew 🙂. Truth. Have a good night 🙂. God bless ☀️☀️☀️
My Ex Wife/Narc’s mask slipped the night before the wedding! I almost didn’t go through with it! She saw it too! She manipulated me and my family and hers to get me to agree to marry her after I said no twice to her marriage proposals! And she manipulated me to go through with the wedding! Within a month the devaluation started. I tried to work on the marriage with couples counseling and individual counseling! It didn’t work! I lasted 2 years! I asked for a divorce in January of 2021, she moved out in June after my daughter exposed her on social media for the world to see! She moved into the new supplies home when she left. Supposedly it was just a roommate situation. Yeah, she manipulated him into a relationship. I’m actually grateful because she won’t bother me anymore! I wish him the best of luck! He’s gonna need it!
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😏 dam broh, this is textbook Red Pill 101: She wanted the Wedding but not the Marriage. Then later on she Monkey Branched from you to the next dude from day one which means she was already seeing this dude behind ur back when she was still with you. Glad you got out. Just don't do it again, and if you do it again then you deserve everything thats coming to you. Godspeed Broh.
@@MrSamadolfo Bra, That was my second marriage. You know what I learned about marriage, it's not for me! There won't be a third time Bro!
@@michaelhuling9040 😅 Run Forest! Run!
I wasn’t so lucky mine lasted 26 years and then thrown away like trash
I love the way you break down these topics that not many people are brave enough to speak out about 🎉
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They go back to mum ... OMG ... this is the first time I've heard this and it fills a piece in my narcissistic hell puzzle 🤔
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Its because they never grew up, its Arrested Development, as long as the Parents are Alive they have a Parachute to fall back on, which means they can go crazy and destroy everything and they dont care because they have a Parachute. But eventually both their Parents will Pass Away and then u will see them all humbled and panicking about whos going to take care of me now and whos going to pay all my bills.
@@MrSamadolfo Good to know for my healing, what he did to me is undescribable and it's been a horrendous five months coming to terms with the farce but thanks to the online community I don't feel so alone. I've never learned so much as I have these past few months and am becoming powerful in my knowledge and acceptance.
@@MuzzyWuzzy really sorry for ur loss, yes many of the testimonies sound like something out of a movie, mines wasnt so horrible compared to this community but it was still enuf to take the red pill and never go back.
These narcissistic people are sometimes sad, when they move on, only becasue they are not getting THEIR needs met any longer.
My narcissistic girlfriend, did cry a lot & looked devasted, when I ended the relationship & told her that it wasn’t going anywhere. Although I did have compassion for her, because I am a human being, I could absolutely recognise her insecurity of not knowing herself. Her performance was pitiful, which I found both upsetting, and, confirming, that I made the right decision for both her & myself. When you can release someone from your life, with love & gratitude, it is much easier & quicker for both parties to move on. Try not to focus on the negative, as this will keep you stuck there, but learn the lesons also. Namaste 🙏
She sounds like a Bordeline to me (BPD). It's more common in women and they can behave similar to narcissists. Just my unprofessional opinion.
I wrote a poem today. Expressing my situation. The poem goes to my illustrious landlord: I know you are a lost soul, parading around with your faux peacock feather...turning out a baby in the coldest weather; singing your songs about world peace, all the while playing the prince(Lord of the Manor), will you ever cease? Take those checks and drop them in the bank...its ALL you have, so remove that plank(out of your eye)...I'll keep my splinter! I have the good part anyway...you only have a dream...you'll ALWAYS live in winter...
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He moved on way before it was “over”. He only wanted to stay married so he could have the outward appearance of being a respectable married family man. Behind closed doors he was staying out late, sometimes not coming home and messing around with his new supply. 😕 Now she’s being beat down like I was. If she makes it out intact maybe she’ll think twice before starting a romance with a married man with two young kids. And yes he’s tried to Hoover me multiple times and heck NO. I hope he chokes on the word NO because that’s all he’s going to hear from me.
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My narc ex husband done exactly the same and left myself and our 3 young children. Your head is spinning and you can't understand who they can move on with someone after building a life and family but once you get the wisdom on narcissism, you can see how they do it - they are empty and have as much emotion as a log of wood. As for these other woman/supply who get involved with married men, they were either manipulated and told lies or simply just have no moral compass in life.
Wow, 30 freakin yrs! They set the trap long before I showed up and stupidly or rather trustingly ignored the signs never realizing how treacherous their ugly plan was.
I just kept trying to say the world while actually seriously damaging my own body, mind, and heart.
He and his mother worked together in unison to emotionally as well as physically
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Who would believe this now!!
Only someone who has truly and truthfully been through it.
It's sad and infuriating all at the same time.
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Its like I just read my own story, just down to 27 vs. 30 and my story has sibilings and side pieces in addition to mothers etc . A normal human being doesnt USE others, doesnt set traps, doesnt create false realities and LIES around the clock while going to church and taking communion on Sundays. These people are mentally ill. There are Families out there , literally planning to take a person down while smiling at them. Narcs are no more than Enablers and Addicts. Step away, go no contact, block in every way you can. Get thru the darknes and remember, the sun will rise tomorrow and you will be stronger every single day. Keep moving forward. Only way to break the spell for Life.
The only video you ever produced I didn't care about
The moment SHE moves on I'm no longer being stalked and having my privacy invaded
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone love you brother!
The more one watches the more the message is embedded in the brain. can spot those narcs in a couple of minutes now, except the coverts!! takes a little longer but still can be done and nipped in the bud! Thx Andrew!!
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The coverts can be unveiled with a few simple questions about their past. Try it on for size. 😂
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I love your videos so simple but profound. 🙏🏿 my ex was a narcissist I put him out and cut all contacts for almost six years now. It’s a very hard thing to deal with being taken advantage of. However, I am grateful for the grace to move on 🙏🏿keep up the good work
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It’s hard to just fill the time. I never realized how much time they took up in everyday. I’m also sleeping better so I have more energy but just not sure what to do with myself.
It takes time. Get lots of rest and drink lots of fresh cold water. If ur sleeping better thats actually very positive. Next try doing all the basic stuff around the home such as cleaning the home, wash fold clothes, and do lots and lots of cooking dishes and cleaning the kitchen. Eating is good for the soul. Godspeed.
Have you thought of taking up a musical instrument? It can be very healing and can take a lot of time up.
They didn't care. That's so hard. Trying to accept...
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Don't worry, its ok, you were you before them and after them. God Bless.
What I find disturbing about these behaviors is lack of empathy and or compassion. Although life is not pretty at times, a lack of concern for someone who has shown others love, light and understanding is not a weakness. Love is an enduring strength. What also scares me about these kind of toxic behaviors are how they could care less if you cry externally or internally. I try to not let a narcissist or toxic person see me cry…Paying it forward in my humble opinion, is trying to practice good humanity regardless to or if it is reciprocated. I hope this helps someone today.🤔❤🇺🇸
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P.S, Andrew is Absolutely 💯 correct,,play this again,so much Truths Here,,,I'm still getting 💡💡moments,T.Y. ANDREW ❤️✨🦅🦋
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It's called a discard because of how its done. *It's very deliberate and very brazen!* It's as though they were telling you, you should've seen this coming because you signed up for it.
What an educational video. All so true. Looking forward to putting myself back together. You're doing very important work. Thank you.
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Blocking my narcissistic ex husband has been challenging, but I'm 5 months no contact with him now.
On the other hand blocking my own narcissistic son aged 39, has been the bravest thing I've ever done. We've been no contact since 1/09/2023.
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Couple of things i need to add to my other comment and recent experience....
My ex went back home to her family in the end. Which was 100% because i exposed her lies in my town, but also because the mother enables her and believes her lies.
Also because her brother and his family are such horrible people that she feels good around them.
She's 46, and back home. 🤦🏻♂️
And as far as "revealing ourselves in the end"... i reveal who i am from day one. There's no surprises with me because I'm always honest and wear my heart on my sleeve.
That's the difference between us and them.
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I took my heart off my sleeve and put it back where it belonged to protect it and help it heal...Too many 'takers' were abusing it...
@@annamariehewitt3173 a great way to be. 🤍
I have done the same.
Never again will i be how i was. But I'll always be honest.
yeah broh, alot of them never grew up, they have arrested development, as long as their parents are alive they think they are all that. Just you wait and see once both Parents have passed away she no longer will have a Parachute and all Hell will break loose cause all the bills will keep rolling in, just u wait and see
@@MrSamadolfo i believe you brother. 100% 🤍
@@annamariehewitt3173 yeah I'll never wear it how i used to. No way. And good on you. 🤍
It really is incredible how fast they move on.
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If i could only give one piece of advice about how to aviod a narcissist, it would be listen very carefully what they tell you at the beginning of the relationship. They tell you everything you need to know about them.
Unfortunately, i had a crazy busy life at the time, didnt know what narcissism was, and if inam honest, i wasnt as humble as i now am...i thought i was invincible.
So, please listen very carefully, and also consider their words, it may just be your " get out of jail card "
Much love for 2024 everyone ❤️
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Learn and move forward with the knowledge. Love yourself and fight for yourself. Fight for yourself the way you would fight for someone you care about.
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I will forever be grateful for finding you Andrew.
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So grateful Andrew. The wisdom you provide is priceless. Never felt alone ❤
I just laughed when I found out he had a new girlfriend after two months. Narcs are predictable and pathetic. I told him to give his new girlfriend my number because when the mask slips, she will need someone to talk to. They are empty and jealous that we have the capacity to love.
Another great. Video - the Narcissistic person never loved me ! Even if it was my
Mom
Liberating but painful
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I have had to ask - am I narcissistic? And evaluate my own self .. a therapist said “if you are asking that you are not Narcissistic!” We all have some Narcissistic tendencies- is that fair .. but if you have any love ❤️ in your heart … do you relish in hurting another. … the answer for the empath is no .. we need to learn boundaries and boundaries is not cruel - they are for our protection
@@Light_1966I believe the therapist is correct, if you’re asking yourself that question, then the answer is probably “no”, and that’s because narcissists do not introspect and would not ask themselves that question nor would they care if the answer was even SLIGHTLY “yes”. They just do what they want when they want why they want where they want and with WHOM they want. Such labels would mean nothing to them. So take the reasons that made you ask yourself that and do your best to improve 😉👍 a narc CERTAINLY would NOT do THAT!
We are always evolving and learning….
Thank you Andrew and community, love you all ❤🙏
This hurts to hear. Thank you for this video. You’re helping so many.
Mine moved on so quickly because he was sleeping with her for 7 weeks before my discard in November. And she's 10 yrs youth and me-17 younger than him,inherited ALOT of money and property from her dead husband so he hit the jackpot.
**10 yrs younger than me, 17 yrs younger than him. He's 68yrs old
This has been a blessing to listen to daily. My mother left my dad a few months ago after 32 years of marriage . I can relate in so many ways.. word for word . Listening to this has been therapeutic. I can now understand why my dad acted the way he did and why he hurt us all, my mama the most.
To a New Year! 2024 ❤
Hello from Woodruff, SC
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Edisto SC here 👋
Thank you, Andrew, for always educating us with the TRUTH, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth! NAMASTE
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Wow! This one really struck a nerve with me...
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Lots of priceless wisdom dropped in this video Andrew, excellent👌 My favourite "People in a relationship who don't care have nothing to lose, everything to gain" - This is spot on❤
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Just want to say thank you so much for this, I’ve watched a million videos during my 3 year post ‘relationship’ and healing process as I’ve learnt what he is, (which included many hoovers) but this video encapsulates everything so concisely, wish I’d seen it a long time ago!
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Great video Andrew!
Wishing everyone clarity and peace.....
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Happy New Year Andrew!!! God Bless you. You are saving so many people throughout the world.
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To the narc it's like trading in the old, well warn car...and simply getting what they can for it towards the new 'vehicle'.
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My daughter divorced her narcissist husband and now he has a new supply and is presently destroying my daughters relationship with her daughter. The narcissist removed my granddaughter from her mom now she is dealing with the court system trying to get her back. It’s been a nightmare.
coparenting is a nightmare, I know it too well
This is hard to hear. Truth but so hard. It’s also hard to see how my ex knew what he’s doing. Known him since we were children… but the more I look back and listen to yourself and others, I can not refute it’s truth.
While she was setting up, exploiting and manipulating me she was getting information from her next supply to help towards the set up. That next supply was giving her all she needed for the set up (unknowingly of course as the narcissist had her mask on and was being kind and supportive). The narcissist wanted information for my set up so she could use the set up circumstances to blame, fleece and abuse the very same next supply. They certainly don't care about anyone at all....all she thought about was plotting ways to exploit money out of people and the different ways to abuse people. All so very very calculated and manipulative. A very very vile human being. 😛😝🥴😢
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Wow, it's still blowing my mind how we've been through such similar experiences with these people.
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Wow ….well said. I’ve watched a lot of narcissistic wisdom channels and your is the best. Great content. You are well spoken.
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I’m currently healing from a narcissistic relationship that lasted 3 years. It was the worst time of my life, I am pretty young and I saw everything that I planned for my future fade away during the relationship. The bravest thing I ever did was picking myself up and getting out of the relationship without even realizing that he was a narcissist. I’m extremely proud of myself for that. As soon as I left, I started seeing my future plans flash through my mind again. The lightbulb moment really changed my perspective and I’m still healing. I wish I’d found this channel sooner. But I am here now. And I have never felt more blessed. The grass is greener on the other side after all.
The true narcissist has a personality disorder it's who they are and any signs of them changing is only temporary. They have a fixed cycle of idealize, devalue and discard and quite often at least one hoover attempt. Narcissist's get worse as they age and whoever the unlucky new supply is will soon realize they can't have Jekyll without Hyde. There will be trouble in the camp it's just a matter of time.
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I have seen a change in my personality. Separating from those people was healthy and I see a real change in who I am today. In many ways, not the same person at all. Those people would be shocked at how much I've changed. I'm even amazed. I feel like Neo on the Matrix. I took the red pill. I see them for who they are. I am no longer colorblind. I don't see all people in shades of grey.
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Bingo!
It's interesting too bc the 3 woman I know to definitely be narcissist always make the comment about they love their person/supply because of all of the things they DO for them.
Thank you Andrew, I appreciate you! ♥
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Thanks to you I healed to years watched your videos and no one was on point like you beeing a survivor of a narcissistic relationship only the one had been know. Now I have found somebody who loves me and I love her too. Thanks a lot
This is one of my favorite of your videos ❤
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How can they feel so heartless how come they don't have any love? Breaking people's hearts is not a game. Surely they are human and have feelings and emotions like human beings? I'm still in the entrapment stage .These videos are awakening me up and helping me as what you saying I can relate to some of these things you are saying it's like oh my gosh!!! This is my first narcissistic relationship .But I'm finding wisdom in these videos .Thankyou and it's helping me to be empowered and he senses I'm getting stronger .like I'm not afraid to lose him.But I want what Was taken restored God help me .Also reading others comments make me go Hummm!!!
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You are my reminder and saviour when the dark past rears it head
You remind me to keep moving forward .Many Thanks
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It’s easy because they have disorganized attachment. They attach to the benefit, when the benefit varies, they attach to another source but can’t detach from the former supply completely, just in case there’s more supply to be gotten. It’s all strategic and purely logical for them.
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So correct. As a former Yoyo, I concur.
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I often think, everytime you bring up "having to go thru it", just how many people rose up against the narc, and my relationship. Classmates didnt understand it, teachers and even the army recruiter who was trying to recruit me, the sheriff's dept, and especially my parents, were all against my relationship with him. Even my sisters. What did they see, that I didnt? For my own life?
Thats what I dont get. Am I just too caring, or stupid?
And that the narcs keep finding me daily. Wth!!??
🤷🏼 The strangers these days are weirdos! 😂
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I just had a run-in with another one. 🤦🏻♂️
This one thought she was the bees knees, above everyone, a guru, and then i looked at her social media....
Oh my word!
She's a walking contradiction.
A hypocrite.
Loves male attention.
Claims to be healed whilst being an addict and an alco.
Partying at raves at 50 years of age. 😬
She started offering me money and some supplements that she sells. I've been wise to this tactic previously. Another woman offered me $2k after knowing her for a day.
Don't ever accept it.
I didn't.
Note - I'm only intending on making friends. Absolutely nothing else.
God help this world.
Best part was.... i ignored her immense beauty, and was onto it straight away, and ACTED straight away.
Freedom feels better than any narc does or ever could. ❤
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The comments are Gold today. 👍
@@hydrostatic8048 gotta love everyone sharing their stories hey ❤️
I really am starting to feel not alone - eventhough i am.
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BONJOUR ANDREW😊🇫🇷🙏Thank you again for your wise & confirning to all of us ,,,the pain & DISTRUST I & MY family went through with a DISHONEST person...
Who still only lies & controls & ISOLATES my 101 yr. Mother to her advantages!! I am STRONGER & STRONGER TO RISE ABOVE THIS !!! 🇫🇷🙏😊🫶⭐️😊
Hun? Wonder why they'd need to
do that? 🤔 Truly a mystery! 🙆
Bon weekend from French Canada 🇨🇦 everyone, we're getting more snow, yay🎉!
My narc parents destroyed my relationship with my sibling... and I think she's a carbon copy of both of them (golden child)... you can guess what that makes me, the observant kid that told the truth. But you know what... given the choice, I'd take being the scapegoat any day.
I keep asking this.. can 2 narcissists be together? We’re both parents narcissists?
@@livestotravel7589 I didn't want to believe it either for the longest time... but yes. HELL would be an under-statement to describe my late childhood and early teens!
Thank you Andrew. I love the light in this video. It's beautiful. The content's great too. Have a great day! 🍀👍🏾🙏💖🎶
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Thank You Andrew❤🙏
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Great video & teaching Andrew! You are very appreciated!
I really needed to hear this today!
Happy New year everyone& prayers!🙏🎉🎉🙏🙏
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Honestly, been listening for around a year. You've helped so much. What a guidance you have been. I can't thank you enough, for knowing I was not going insane.... For just knowing that they make you feel that way. Stepped back, almost a year, blocked from the beginning and not looked back. Concentrating on our lives. I haven't felt happier or this free in years. Thank you. Love and Light 🕯️
Jo Andrew jeg er kommet ovenpå igen da jeg befandt mig I tågen det var et rent helvede at være i, jeg har været der lige som dig, så gå tilbage nej tak. Og ha en fantastisk weekend Andrew 🙂👍
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Thank you Andrew! I am so glad I came across your content. You have helped me heal. DO NOT STOP! This is just a start, there are more victims out there than Narcs. Keep educating pls. Your messages are NEEDED! NAMASTE!
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You’re so on point Andrew. After discard she went right back to her toxic family. Then I realized they created her 😂 I’m so glad I can laugh now. It’s actually all VERY laughable, because it’s all so delusional. 😵💫😵💫😅
yup, as long as they have family alive that support them they are power tripping cause they have a parachute with a home and food and finances. Their tune changes once all the family has passed away and there no one that will take them in.
This is another really good one!!! While watching & listening iam saying yes, yeah,yes to myself throughout the whole video!!!
Great One Again!!! Job well done!!
You're so right why couldn't this be taught in school, instead of teaching stuff in school that you already know, & stuff you will never really need ,throughout life...
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Forgot all the people around the Queen caz… even if you thought they were your friend…. They are Not!!!
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This was a powerful video. One of your best that I've seen.
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Andrew its been a year since narc left me and i listened to you since. The amount of change i have seen in myself is massive.you have been such a blessing.everyday i try to live my best no more pining over the lost cause
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This is something that still truly hurts me even after 3 years later. But I have not “moved on” I have been single for the 3 years following. There was personally no way I could have started something new. But I think I might be ready to explore the idea of dating again.
Andrew you are right on everything you say is right on. The 3 A’s of narcissism ABUSE, ADDICTION & ADULTRY . Married one & for 37 yrs of abuse. She drained me dry-thank God for 3 beautiful children who I love dearly. Intercepted texts messages from her ‘Back Door Man’ salacious in manner. Been over 5 years & still not over it. Been watching you ever since you started your utube gig & again you have been right on 90 percent of time. Now I want revenge. Keep up the good fight! Thank you Jerry Kilduff Boston Ma.
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Same same here 35 years I caught mine bare butts at all three different times three different men come to find out later she had been doing it since 2008, but I didn’t find out until 2017 when I reached the end of my rope
If we seek revenge we continue to stay sick and suffer from the relationship...Instead..Choose your Healing Path and run in that direction..Turning your pain into a powerful new you is your revenge..God Bless
Is ur divorce final, did u get stuck with alimony and child support and loss of the home? Try to forget about revenge cause your still in the red pill rage phase. Try to relax and calm down. Divorce is brutal for Husbands especially in a no fault state where adultery doesnt help u with the calculations and percentages of the divorce. They basically are getting rewarded for cheating. Thats why more and more guys are waking up and opting out to this wealth transfer scam. Plus its not cool they get the house and all their lovers get to come over now and use your house. Stay strong broh. Also checkout the various Divorce channels and Guy channels out there to help get ur mind off of this hustle. Godspeed.
The move on because they already devalued you.
They can devalue people. This explains it all. This can help you heal. (At least helped me move on. )
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Thank you so much Andrew. Always a blessing. Would love to speak to that void for those just from discard phase. That’s a difficult place to be when you’ve been constantly in service to the narc and their kingdom…so anything you can do to light up your days and bring yourself to try new things or interests you had to put on hold for the narc time. It’s all your time now and it is NOT selfish. Sending love ✨❤️🙏
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Great advice, Grateful!❤
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My first discard was from my parents ,then siblings if I didn't give them what they needed 🙃 repeated again as a adult !
A very painful 💔 life on repeat !!!!!! Im still here ,a stronger me ,wiser !! These people are like any addiction !!!,you can't be in there company ever !!!
You cant control them !
Being clean from narcs
Takes truth clarity & commitment ,wisdom no denial of what they are or the damage they cause !
I'm sober ,staying this way!
This video is full of helpful contents which resonates with me in many aspects‼️Thank you, Andrew for all of the empowering education you provide us❤️❤️❤️