@@michelleb6395 sorry Michelle, I’ve gotten so many comments lately, I missed this! My certificate did expire, so the site was down for 2 days, but it’s working again now. 😊
"...like calling to make a dentist appt or driving to the post office..." you are 100% right, sometimes things that take a few minutes are over whelming until they are done. Not sure why, just is. Thank you for validating this.
One thing that stops me is i fear something will go wrong and upset me, like going to DMV and they say i don't have the right forms and that completely upsets me. I like your timer. I broke my old one :(
The worst part of procrastination is not that something remains undone, but that it is on your mind constantly until it is done. Best to do it asap and clear your mind of the negative things you tell yourself when it is not complete.
No my friends this is what we call an Oprah aha moment done is better than perfect and I'll take it a step further any progress is actually success we're going for progress not perfection people God's not done with me praise the Lord here's all the stuff I should have been taught when I was younger but nope I have other skills
Are you able to respond and action if someone else asks you? I send texts or emails asking others to call me so that I can respond to them. This makes it more urgent so I do it.
Thank you for being the most down to earth realistic woman I've come across on here. I hate watching women "clean" their perfect kitchens and picking up a few things and calling it cleaning a messy house and motivation. Your channel is REAL and you're so right about the longer you put off doing a chore the bigger it gets in our head. GUILTY!! I did it a hundred times. Just do it! 👍 I am subscribing to your great uplifiting channel today. Love from Montreal, Canada 💛
amen amen, did the 1st 2 things in the 1st 2 min, such a blessing this recommendation....., love that she's almost crying explaining this, the unclean anxiety is REAL, the garden, the ferment, the tinctures, the chickens, weedeating, the prettygrowingflowers wannabe...., it's all just too much want and vanity!!! God bless you all, love from BC, Canada
Finally a realistic woman and channel. So many pixi perfect women claiming they are cleaners when aren't and don't have any understanding of anxiety depression and real life. I battle daily
Procrastinated over 4 days to tackle the dishes among all other areas of my home. 😒 Didn’t know where to start. Then i said I may not cook every day but I use my kitchen at least 3 times a day. Morning for coffee, evening after work to put away leftovers from work and go back for water and a snack. I haven’t put away the dishes as they’re drying but the sink is shining!!! On to tackle the rest of the house. Thank you.
I’ve worked 2 jobs for 18 years. When I get home from the first job I make our bed, dishes in the dishwasher and take out the trash before I go to job number 2. Those seem vital to me
I am absolutely certain that God put your video in my feed! Been immobilized by bipolar depression for years, and the to do list just keeps growing. Overwhelm is a gross understatement. Have been working with my shrink on getting motivated to do something, anything. So funny that you mentioned making an appointment with the dentist - I finally called three days ago after putting it off for more than a year. Your advice is logical, succinct, and encouraging. Thanks! So glad I watched; have subscribed!
Hi Beverly. I never feel motivated until I literally force myself to do something .. THEN I start to feel motivated . It becomes catching . That good feeling after I do something motivates me to do something else.. maybe this will help
Bless you, Beverly. Bipolar disorder can be crippling, most especially the depression side of it. Remember a walk of 10,000 miles starts with the first step. Give yourself permission to take baby steps. If you can't clean the entire house in one day, then just do one room. If one room is too much just do the tidying in that room, or the floors, or the dusting. Small things that only take a few minutes, once done, give you a great sense of accomplishment. This will motivate you to do a bit more. Best wishes to you. I too know how debilitating depression can be.
Great video. We have a bare minimum when the day has been just too much. 1. Laundry (1 load), 2. Trash and 3. Dishes. If we can at least do that daily then the next day will at least be no more overwhelming than the previous one.
Of all the de-cluttering videos and gurus, you do it best for me. You really got me there as if you know me personally, with the points you raised and your solutions provided.wow! Thank you so much!
Thank you … currently watching this at 4:15 am. Sleepless bc I am overwhelmed about where to get started reclaiming my home after a year of depression. 😢These tips are 💯 spot on! Everything you spoke on was speaking to directly to my soul. Anyone else reading this I pray you find a place to start & reclaim your home too. … I have also had nearly a week off yet here I am with 2 days left & almost nothing accomplished.
Starting can be the most difficult part - sometimes it's easiest to just start with one thing right in front of you, even if that's throwing something obvious in the trash. Then it's a start and you can give yourself a high five! ❤️
As the list grows longer my dread and fear increase exponentially until I am frozen with inaction. Thanks I needed this today. I have found that as my living space decreases the clutter and feeling of messiness has increased. You really have to declutter when you live in a tiny space.
I read somewhere online (sorry I don't recall to give proper credit) that doing that thing you don't want to do is a gift to your future self, which made so much sense and really motivates me!!! ...sometimes : /
It took years to learn this, but a lived-in house is leagues more comfortable and welcoming that a perfectly kept house. Visitors are not fully comfortable in a perfect setting, they are more comfortable when things are not so perfect (which is different than disaster). Example: my sofa once was perfect - smoothed, arranged, plumped, oh so AD tasteful, but no one ever sat on it. Once I started to be less fussy, my visitors sat on the sofa and enjoyed the evening.
I totally dread making appts.! It's so hard to get the right mindset, keep everyone quiet during the phone call, gather insurance Info, get out my planner...etc. I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one who finds this daunting!🙂
My Mom always had her housework done every day. We didn't have a dishwasher, we were a family of 7 people. Home cooked meals 3 times a day, every day. She would be the first one to say that she didn't have time to think about it, she just knew it had to be done. Some how, with 5 children, she always found the time to sew clothes, teach Sunday school, throw birthday parties, gave us amazing holidays...the list goes on and on. I think home makers back then knew their job, and just did it. I follow the same, its my job, especially as a widowed Mom of 2. Thanks for sharing. 🥰💐🌷🌵🌱🌿🌞🍃🏜️💗🥰💐🌷🌵🌱🌿🌞🍃🏜️💗
I see myself in this. Especially with the pandemic I have really become overwhelmed. Thank you so much for these insights. Just knowing that I am not the only one this happens to goes a long way to easing the negative self talk.
I like to fold my laundry while I watch TH-cam. I was done folding before your video even ended and it was only 7 minutes long! It’s my most hated task, no idea why, so this helps me enjoy it a bit more and also always makes me realise how little time it takes. I hardly have to talk myself into it anymore
I always dreaded piles of laundry to fold. My husband always felt like he did his share to wash and dry and pile it up for me to fold and put away. But, I didn’t like dealing with wrinkly items. In 2013 - I created a new process. I fold clothes straight from the dryer. And put it all away. It usually takes about 10 minutes each load. If necessary I can rewarm or freshen the load for a few minutes to reduce wrinkles before folding. I do a load a day as needed. Sometimes none and sometimes more - depending on the day and my plans. I’m not opposed to hanging laundry to dry and I do that for small loads. 🔲 Laundry this week 1. Bed Linens 2. Towels & Bath Rugs 3. Darks 4. Lights 5. Extra item: Kitchen rugs
Thank you for putting out this video. I am an older lady who has raised her children, been married to a good man for thirty years. I have had demanding careers with keeping my house in order for my whole adult life. Then I got sick this past year. I lost my job, due to my missing five days in six months. I had gotten asthma from covid-19 and was having difficulties getting flare ups under control. I have been out of the work force for three months. My ambition is returning, but it's not near where it used to be. I was feeling guilty and embarrassed for feeling depression. Your perspective was very helpful for me.
I have panic attacks and anxiety thinking of calling up people for appointments and enquiry. When I heard you say that it looks llike a huge task, I was relieved, it felt like I am not alone. I thought I was going nuts
I’m sitting here stunned. This is the first video I’ve come across that just nailed it and I didn’t even know I was trying to hammer anything LOL. I’m so focused on my inner healing to be the healer I am here to be, or the entertainer/hostess since moving onto a boat (with NO dishwasher) and just getting through a 3 day Memorial Day weekend and coordinating a wedding. This stuff is supposed to be fun yet I’m depleted overwhelmed and mentally exhausted with a list of important things that I actually have to get done just sitting here. Like make my doctors appointment, call about unmailed prescriptions, fill out the form for my passport expiring in September, box up and mail mom’s packages. On top of juicing every morning, eating healthy choices working from home (Not always easy with hubby’s chocolate drawer and Carb cabinet) and forcing myself onto my stationary bike that is supposed to make my life easier and healthier but because its so LOUD and outside on the front of the boat, it feels like I’m screaming on the top of a mountain when I get on it. There are so many blessings in those statement and I feel so blessed but want to cry at the same time. Just to see you on point with how we are overwhelmed, how to adjust it AND you have six kids - my LORD Bless you beautiful lady! Am I doing this to myself? How do I slow it down? I’m really struggling right now with a few remaining subconscious emotions that debilitate and stop me building my business and staying focus on THAT healing that absolutely needs to be done is exhausting in itself. I don’t even have any children and it feel embarrassing I can’t get it together just taking care of myself. I have so much to give and I am here to serve with my gifts, I - we as women just have to get out of our own way. Honestly the quicker I can lock in and clear this specific subconscious block of “Messing it up”’ or “Not getting it right” “Doing it wrong” it would stop the overwhelming cycle. Well It’s 8 am and I’m going to see how much of it I can get done as I work today. Just seeing you share this cycle that seems to be “normal” LOL has me shaking my head and laughing. I was looking for Borax videos since I just bathed in it last night and your video popped up next! Thank you for being here and being so authentic. We need more of this!
Great tips! I'm 72 and have a mild form of MS but was told by an occupational therapist that I need to do everything like housework and cleaning in increments so we have to go by the same principles as you do! When the summer heat/humidity gets bad, our energy depletes quickly! So we have to do anything we can to conserve energy since it's an energy depleting auto-immune disease! If you want to know how it feels when it's hot/humid, it's like walking around with your feet encased in cinder blocks and dragging one's feet and walking in those humongous super-sized super markets is like climbing Mt. Everest! I call it the slow motion disease! So keeping everything simple and easy is paramount same with comfort! Thanks and blessed be~
I don't have kids, I don't have half the challenges of a big home. But that hit home, do it , get up do a bit at a time. And wow it works. Is off your mind. And be happy with it. Totally on mark , thank you.
This is so true! I used to try to be perfect and then my health hit the floor. We are Not perfect so we have to stop trying to pretend. No one is. It’s just not worth it. Make a list of what you needs to be done other than a load of dishes or a load of laundry. Pick one thing that’s most pressing and work on that until you finish it. Then pick a new one. Orrrr work on it for 30 minutes a day. Whatever works!!!
I have no idea why your video ended up in my TH-cam suggestions, but thank you. I have been overwhelmed since my husband passed unexpectedly four years ago. I have a big rambling house, land, horses, dogs, chickens. I look after the animals, their areas are spotless, but I put off doing anything about my house and garden, and the more I put it off, the more it seems a problem to do the simplest thing like clean dead flies off the windowsill. I have compressed my life into living in the kitchen/dining room, which is large, but I seem to ignore the rest of the house. Until my husband went on that next journey, I was always, lively, sparkly, energetic, now I feel like zombie woman from outer space. I seem to have channelled Scarlett O'Hara (I'll think about it tomorrow, after all, tomorrow is another day!) I want Scarlett to go and would like to channel Doris Day in one of her 1950's efficient, housewife, movie personas. I am going to try your 54321, right now, not tomorrow to cook something for dinner and do the dishes. I look forward to more inspiration from you and thank you for creating your channel, while dinner is cooking I will check out the Clutter-Free Army.
I just found your channel and have been binge-watching all your videos. You are so relatable to me; everything you say about yourself I'm like "Yep, me too!" and your information and tips are so helpful. Thank you. ❤
Really enjoyed your delivery- not loud in your face trying to be a celeb style but - genuine and sincere! I feel encouraged and inspired to tackle my mess! Thank you.
Not sure why your video popped up, but glad it did. My house is worse than a disaster, I havw ptsd, chronic anxiety, panic attacks, and depression I also have arthritis in my spine. I am older kids are grown and moved away. I am single, so its all on me to get whatever done. I was laid up for over 2 months after a bad fall, I broke my left arm in 3 places had to have metal pins put in to hold everything together, I also fractured a vertabrae. I was in bed for over 2 months, now i have the problem of I can only stand for about 15 mins at a time before my back goes into muscle spasms. Honestly right now there are dishes piled in the sink, I have to move things off my stove to cook, and you cant see my counters due to dishes piled up, I even have some dirty roasting pans sitting on the floor, The rest of my house is not much better off. I feel like I am in such a deep hole with it all that I cant even organize my thoughts about where to begin and then how to get it done..I dont have a dishwasher, and my washing machine is on the blitz so I am hand washing the minimum just to get by. I am disabled and money is very limited, repairs have to be saved up for If anyone has any suggestions or ideas for me please send them, trust me I will read each one. By the way I subscribed to your channel, and I am so sorry this is so long, I did not mean it to be a novel. thanks in advance, I will probably binge watch yur videos now.
So sorry Jeaniej! I would just focus on the dishes first. Just aim for 5 minutes at a time, that way you can get a few washed and relax before your back starts acting up. Let yourself relax for 45 minutes and then do another 5 minute sprint. If you can manage 4 of those today, you'll get 20 minutes of dishes done and it will make a dent! Then I would call a local church or adult resource organization and just explain how you could use some help. Maybe they will have some people who would be willing to come and do some dishes and laundry for you. I'm sorry, washing clothes by hand is hard work too!
@@Nourishingminimalism Thanks for your response, its funny while we are in the mess we cant think of simple helps ugh..I like your 5 mins at a time suggestion, I will do that, that actually feels like mentally and physically something I could accomplish and just the feeling that its doable is in some way a success for me it seems..I will call and see if I can get a little help.. Your kindness has touched me deeply, I am sitting here in tears at the moment, but they are good tears. Bless you kind lady.
This might help you my daughter and I felt like we were hoarders too so we decided to take one box every week to Goodwill or Salvation Army and bless them. I have boxed up stuff and two or three weeks later I cannot tell you what’s in the box so that’s the way to do it give it away
LOVE this. You struck on something that sticks me up a lot. I'm a nurse, and used to "pristine", but I'm older now, and I can't do things the way I once did. So my clutter was starting to get ahead of me when the hubs got sick. I hired a housekeeper t help every 2 wks, but it's not "perfect".....and I have to understand I can do a little at a time all the time, OR I can continue to be bitchy and unhappy because it's not this massive perfection.
Rachel, so nice to hear somebody else telling how challenging making a dentist appointment can be!!!! It makes me feel more normal. I've been searching for videos like this one for very long: where the difficulties behind the scenes are adressed. Because often times it's not so much about not knowing how to do it, but more about what blocks us from doing it. Looking forward to more videos on dealing with those sneaky toxic patterns.
Love - clear a counter. I've been working on my house - it's a slow go. I have chronic fatigue. Once I get everything down to minimalistic - I am NEVER going back. Not having clutter is a real feeling of freedom to me.
I just came back to this video, as it was suggested and I need it again! I am here to report that I actually paused the video and made THREE dentist/referral/annual appointment calls that I've been avoiding making for weeks! I feel better already. I'll move on to the dishes next. I consider myself a minimalist-on-hiatus due to moving last year and a massive renovation that has us all living in 1/4 of our house right now. It gets overwhelming quickly!
You can always do a partial declutter of an area and "bookmark" your place. It's most important to be kind to yourself and others, no matter what happens. Compassion is key💙🌞💙
I finally got some paperwork in the mail yesterday..I ALSO don't know why some stupid thing seems like a mountain... I REALLY felt such relief all night... I realized I COULD have done it a week ago but this thime I did not beat myself up..I ENJOYED FEELING that relief..and this morning decided to start doing that everyday for 6 weeks...and enjoy each days accomplishments...and before summer is over I think I will work out the problem..( which I know comes from severe child abuse where at 14 I had to do everything to hold the house together) Thank you...you came along at the perfect time for my new life❤️
I wish I could finally get rid of my 'fantasy person'. The one saving toilet paper rolls to start seedlings for the spring veg gardens and the embroidery I want to do for the grandchildren or the old pillows I'm going to redo for my bed. All the fantasy projects I won't or can't do.
Wow. I happened upon this video and you addressed almost ALL my can't-keep-up-what's-wrong-with-me feelings about trying to stay on top of everything! The result? Step back and make peace with your expectations. Life's too short to wallow in anxiety. Thank you!!
We just moved from an RV (living in it for almost three years, all possessions in storage) to a 2200' log cabin, moved all our stuff in this Feb. I SO needed this, thank you! We had downsized quite a bit before storing everything, but there's still a lot as we've raised seven kids (most are adults). Still so overwhelming since I'm having trouble adjusting to the new lifestyle and chores. We have 2.5 acres my husband is learning to take care of too... Yikes
Thank you I'm feeling really overwhelmed right now. I'm a hoarder who's totally given up. I live alone and can't find motivation. I have depression and anxiety. I will try this tomorrow..bless you
When my Mom passed away, I had her stuff on top of going through a divorce and being evicted, on top of taking custody of my granddaughter. Parts of my home is piled up. To get rid of stuff in my area is expensive let alone working two low paying jobs to support my granddaughter. Life sucks but at least I’m rid of an abusive control freak husband.
I always enjoy your videos. Even when I feel like doing nothing, you remind me that just a few minutes of doing something can change the rest of the day.
My mom would tackle a project a little at a time. Rest in between. Go back and tackle some more. Rest. Before long a big project was done. Always a little at a time. Things always looked neat.
Excellent video. I just discovered your channel and just subscribed. Thank you! Also, thanks for NOT having annoying background music that a lot of TH-camrs have..
You are an answer to prayer. This morning I had just had it, too much to do and not enough time to do it. I just decided to give up but my anxiety is worsened by clutter. I prayed for the Lord to help me figure it out and BAM there was your video to help. Thanks so much. I have hope now. God bless you!
So needed to hear this! I feel overwhelmed at times! You literally speak how I feel! I have struggled immensely trying to motivate myself. The more i leave it the more it feels huge in my head!
Enjoyed this "well grounded" and realistic video. A few years ago I figured out that I procrastinate on a lot of little tasks that take less than a minute. For example,: putting a book back on a shelf, putting dirty clothes in a hamper instead of tossing them on a chair, throwing out the junk mail as soon as it is collected from the mail box instead of setting it on a pile on a counter, putting my shoes on a shoe rack instead of kicking them off in the middle of the floor. If I make myself do the little 30 second tasks consistently I don't get overwhelmed and fed up with eventual hours of house work.
Good tips. It drives me crazy to have something on every surface, but somehow bare surfaces exert a gravitational pull on surrounding objects and before you know it, there's stuff all over them again. I've been fighting this battle for 30 years. I have a motto that comes in handy when I"m procrastinating. I tell myself, "Energy begets energy." In other words, once I actually _start_ moving, I get the motivation to _keep_ moving. If only I didn't wait so long to actually start moving. 😄
i heard it's the start-up energy that is most repulsive, once we overcome the initial inertia tasks get done. Example was a fellow who wanted to learn guitar. Guitar sat in it's case, guy was overwhelmed w mental step of taking instrument out to pluck tho that step took 10 sec, once he realized this he simply left guitar propped up beside his chair, taught himself to play. God bless. Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Thank you so much for this, like many on here I have depression and anxiety. When I try to do everything perfectly I literally feel like my cleaning feels like a war...I love the way you explain things calmly, already feeling more optimistic ❤❤
New subscriber! You are SPOT ON with these suggestions!!!!!! Procrastination/avoidance doesn’t make that task go away. It actually increases the stress and anxiety even more. I look forward to going through your other videos!
I’ve looked after a family of 4 for over 40 years, I’m on my own now and I just don’t want to do housework any more. I can’t motivate myself and the house is dusty and I feel like I don’t care, what can I do? The lady next door said when you’ve done housework for 40 years you just don’t want to do it any more, so I’m glad it’s not just me that feels this way.
I don't blame you! It comes down to if you have preferences on how it looks. If you like it to look a certain way, then do it as self-care for yourself. If you honestly don't care if there is dust, as in, it doesn't annoy you in anyway, then don't stress it. And if it does annoy you, then either work little tasks into your daily life so they don't seem so time-consuming, or hire someone. ❤️
@@Nourishingminimalism Good advice thank you. I must admit I have been house proud in the past. A friend of mine told me once that I did too much housework. I was at her house once having coffee and her mother was coming in the afternoon and she got a tissue and just dusted the sideboard with it! I thought that was dreadful! I don’t like to see dust, but at the same time I don’t seem to care about it any more!
@@gailcrowe727 Your friend is my kind of gal! LOL An older mom was telling a similar story once about a baby wipe cleaning the toilet and how horrified she was, and I got so excited - I could use a baby wipe and throw it away!! Housework is something I've had to learn to do and doing those things partially meant they actually got done. It was the "waiting to do it perfectly" that prevented me from ever doing anything. ❤️
My daughter used to work full time and I used to go and do some housework for her. There used to be dust on the top of the door frames and pelmets and everywhere you couldn’t see. On the places you could see she used spray polish and just rubbed it over with a duster, even the TV screen! I had to clean it all off with sqeezy and warm water. She said what’s the point of wasting time and energy on what you can’t see? So all my diligent work when she was growing up didn’t rub off on her did it?😅
So funny! Haven't watched your channel before, but turned it on just to see. I watched about 5 minutes and got up to start my load of dishes in the dish washer. There! Done! Now back to watch the rest of your video
One thing that has really helped me is ‘touch everything once’. If you pick something up then deal with it. eg laundry, I now never put it on the bed, I put it all away straight away. Same with the mail, read it, deal with it, it’s done
Your Speaking Was So Inspiring ! Thank you So Much ! After having to take early medical disability retirement from as an employee of 17yrs for a Co.with Wonderful benefits, I slipped into the next 3 yrs battling depression & anxiety, along with chronic pain and new diagnosis. Always feeling overwhelmed , and never knowing, or being able to make plans , or commitment and always ashamed for people stopping by, or having a get- together with family. I understood the process of how BADLY I NEEDED to eliminate, and started the process by hiring neighbor to help with cleaning out She'Shed, it was a start & 2 dump loads , and some donations. Your Video reminds me I've been stuck once again 🙃. I look forward to future videos & your words of Encouragement, God bless 🙏, Penney C. ( Sorry To Have Taken Up So Much Spilling my life stopping)....You'll have to bill me , lol.....
I get distracted so easily and interruptions are an all day happening. If I let the answering machine take the call, then the caller (usually hubby or kids) starts getting panicky because they couldn't reach me, but when I'm in the garden or trying to bake, I don't want to talk on the phone! This is the first video of yours I have seen, but I subscribed in hopes there will be helpful information for me to use.
I have struggled the last 16 months to keep my home clean & organized. Thank you for your video that popped up when I wasn't even looking for encouragement. I got my dishes done & started laundry. I am taking all your advice & tips. Can't thank you enough. New sub!!
When u go upstairs take something that belongs upstairs and then when you come downstairs then take something with you that belongs down there. We had a wardrobe we didn't open for 2 years n the bedroom in which this wardrobe was in was filled with things in boxes n bags within bags so I gave myself a target to sort out 1/2 bag each day- gave me confidense and I began to feel much better n the room looked better each day so I started to do 3 bags then 6. Everything became easier, started hoovering spiders webs cleaning windows then draws 1 at a time. had the whole room redone from floor to ceiling n these days we have filled 3 bags of clothes shoes n books to give away because clearing the home = clearing the mind
Wow! This video spoke to me. I get overwhelmed by my cluttered house all the time and think ugh I need like 5 days off to get it clean and organized. I also put off small tasks and then stress over them. All your advice makes so much since. Thank you.
I know all that you say is true ! I have told myself this for months ! Another side of me says I don’t care yet I do care ! I am ashamed my house has gotten in the mess it is I don’t have children my daughter is 65 and doses all the out side work ! I am 84 and tell myself it’s because I am old and lazy ! But I am going to do as you suggest and I know it works because that’s what did when I younger ! So this isn’t getting things done ,thanks for sharing your ideas !👍❤️😇👵🏻🙋♀️🐶😺
Such a great reminder, Rachel! I was reminded to do the dishes, to do the laundry, clear the dining table, and call the dentist! I liked seeing that dusting mitt you were using!! Wow! Got me going out of a bit of a funk!! Thanks!
I appreciate the content, as an aspiring minimalist. Subbed. It does cross my mind that -- OUCH! Lol hope hubby doesn't hear this -- but speaking of which, crosses my mind that if housework already gets on your nerves, the fact that the work comes with no financial reward nor appreciative acknowledgement, but rather presents itself as undone the following week, can be disheartening. Either consider hiring a maid or, ideally, transform capitalism.
Oh my goodness! BLESS YOU!!! Thank you for your video & thank you to the commenters! I, truly, thought I was the only one struggling inside my house for almost a year! All these “worries” & “overwhelm” take a toll on mental health, especially, as we age. You helped me to shift my paradigm & view on completing my housekeeping task! Looking forward to to “freeing” my mind of the “housekeeping worry”!
Just found your channel. From feeling like I need to take a week off work to do simple tasks, to the husband and the yard, this is literally my life. The clutter and tasks in my house are just filling up my brain and I feel like I can never catch a break. This video makes me feel like it’s not as big of a mountain to climb that I’m making it out to be. Thank you for your practical, relatable advice 😊
Yes! There are evn 5-10 min exercise videos. Sometimes, I start with one of those. I usually get energized enough to do one or two more. it's starting that's hard.
Letting go of perfection was key for me. I had an idea of a proper cleaning process. If I didn’t have time to do it... I didn’t do anything. Now, I’m okay with occasionally mopping a bathroom without sweeping or vacuuming it first. 😱. And, I’ll vacuum without first dusting the furniture. 😱 I do a daily reset routine in the morning. Beds, dishes, bathrooms, laundry. In the evening - I do a quick walk-thru to set things right. I reset the house in the evenings to prep for tomorrow.
I just found your video. 😍 I feel so relieved to know I’m not alone in feeling overwhelmed and like a deer in headlights! I know it is a very common feeling, but I still feel that “it is just me..I’m the failure”. Not rational, but it is MY feeling non the less. Thank you, this has calmed me down.😓
"There's "stuff" on every surface"....this is EXACTLY! how I feel:-/ I literally spend HOURS each day just "shuffling and organizing" household items from one location in the house to another. It has to stop:-/
I really needed to see ur channel today. I am soooo overwhelmed by things to do that it has affected my health. I am alone, very depressed and it helped a little to see that I am not the only person with this struggle. Thankyou.
The first thing I do in the morning when I get up,is to let the light in. It wakes up your senses,your brain starts really waking up and I start the day.
I clean the kitchen, the bathroom and wash laundry regularly and thoroughly. The rest is pretty much a " luck and a promise" when I get "around tuit"! And "round tuits" are hard to go find! 😁🤗😘
1. Do the dishes 2. Clear the surface 3. DO ONE THING YOU HAVE BEEN PROCASTINATING ON. 4. Use 5 second rule. 5. Embrace imperfection. 6. Lower your standards.
This is exactly my thoughts and issues all the way to putting off making a simple phone call. I don't let anyone help me because I want it done a certain way then I get overwhelmed by everything and nothing gets done. Everything seems to be just as important so I start in several things but nothing ever really gets finished. I'm too hard on myself for not being up to par for my family....I'm glad I found this, thank you.
Am 70, grew up in my Granny's a terrible hoarded place, left at 16. Never expected in the later years to have same 😥😡 Was never like that, been struggling with it, not accomplished, for several years. Sucks time from me for .. something not traumatic, feel basically imprisoned. Sad, frustrated, OVERWHELMED, surely describes it. Hoarders program, I used to watch, says it's a mental disorder, tied in with some kind of loss ..have had several losses, but the tipping point was my beloved husband, who left after 17 years, with dementia.. I can align with some You say...the perfection thing, which is really non action bc one some how has set too high of standards, feels unreachable, so, throws up their hands. Not sure if this is a place where I might fit, or not. Just wish I could find a way to get out of this, before...I'm gone. Others(children, one) frustrated with me, bc they say Just throw it Out !!! What is so simplistic for them(thank God !!!), is agony for me...No doubt, your shares are helping some...one another. Just wish it could be me. I haven't given up, but is getting harder and harder ~God Bless. Was good to come across your site, will keep looking...
I love your video and I don't have any children at home but I've been saying I'm going to do the laundry for the last probably week and in all reality I need to declutter my place is always been neat but I won't lie against messy because the more you have the more there is to take up spaces and I'm in a studio apartment and so this is a great video and it's helping me right now!!!!❤️❤️❤️
THANK YOU!!! I SO relate to this. I also have the same 'lawn care' deal with my husband, who doesn't care about it....And I have more than enough to do, so there is no sense in fighting, fussing or fuming. I'm so glad you said it though. Everyone around me manicures their front yard, and probably wishes we'd move!
I love your realistic attitude to housekeeping...you are so right to say ditch perfectionism and live a happy life! Vacuuming once a week? That's really GOOD!
Thank you so much for this video & tips, they have helped me so much. I’m single & live alone, so I’m responsible for everything in my house, especially the mess.😀 I’m definitely not into cooking from scratch - there’s nothing wrong with fish fingers, beans & chips etc.
When I was young I never stopped cleaning had kids same thing now their grown I dont really care my health is my wealth I dont care if things are out of place until I'm in a happy mood i do dishes in the sink never had a dish washer and wash clothes and dry them in the clothes horse i have tried but i get run down at 57 now have to eat so all that young full of energy is gone now,i watch videos to forget putting pressure on myself and see how the other half live,stress must be so bad in those show homes a house is a home it wont ever be done
Thank you for reminding me that perfection is a process and not the result... smell the flowers along the way. Bright Blessing, (thinking positive energy ), for you and your family.
That’s so true..I have amplified painting my kitchen cabinets...so far in 3 days I’ve deglossed two and the front of two cabinet doors...ugh...and I am that way...if I can’t paint these right the first time I don’t want to waste that energy also I’ve been soaking in the tub the last two hours.
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Hi, I tried to visit your website, but my phone blocks it, saying your certificate is expired.
You described me to a T
I will try the 5 minute rule Monday morning.....and each day this week. Tee
Last few days lift a heavy burden off my shoulders after sorting out bedroom. Cleaning oven today and vacuuming all cobwebs in dinning room.
@@michelleb6395 sorry Michelle, I’ve gotten so many comments lately, I missed this! My certificate did expire, so the site was down for 2 days, but it’s working again now. 😊
1. Dishes 2. Clear a surface 3. Pick one thing you've put off 4. Use 5 second rule (15 minutes timed) 5. Done is better than perfect.
Thank you!
Thanks 😊
Thank you! This synopsis is motivation to watch, I'm busy now, but I saved it for later. I'm new to this channel, it was in my recommended.
"...like calling to make a dentist appt or driving to the post office..." you are 100% right, sometimes things that take a few minutes are over whelming until they are done. Not sure why, just is. Thank you for validating this.
Yup, me too!
One thing that stops me is i fear something will go wrong and upset me, like going to DMV and they say i don't have the right forms and that completely upsets me. I like your timer. I broke my old one :(
Even mentioning an appointment gets me crazy
These are all symptoms of having ADHD. What you are saying resonates so much and I have ADHD.
@@mainemade73 could also be anxiety imo
The worst part of procrastination is not that something remains undone, but that it is on your mind constantly until it is done. Best to do it asap and clear your mind of the negative things you tell yourself when it is not complete.
That's so true Shirley. ❤️
that philosophy is stated in the road less traveled, excellent book, do the worst thing first, give a break to yourself,
I like your phrase "Done is better than perfect". G Ire
Yes, helped me tremendously! 🧡
No my friends this is what we call an Oprah aha moment done is better than perfect and I'll take it a step further any progress is actually success we're going for progress not perfection people God's not done with me praise the Lord here's all the stuff I should have been taught when I was younger but nope I have other skills
@@shanderela oh that's awesome! ❤️
Thank you. I totally relate to this. I’m frozen by my depression. I will try the 12345 and move . Phone calls are the worst.
Counting down is really helpful for me. You are strong. ❤️
@@Nourishingminimalism
..and you are so kind, Rachel.
Are you able to respond and action if someone else asks you?
I send texts or emails asking others to call me so that I can respond to them. This makes it more urgent so I do it.
You have THE POWER to achieve anything
Christina. I havent heard frozen by my depression but that is me. My major symptom is exhaustion. I also isolate. I too will try counting. 🍀🍀
Thank you for being the most down to earth realistic woman I've come across on here. I hate watching women "clean" their perfect kitchens and picking up a few things and calling it cleaning a messy house and motivation. Your channel is REAL and you're so right about the longer you put off doing a chore the bigger it gets in our head. GUILTY!! I did it a hundred times. Just do it! 👍
I am subscribing to your great uplifiting channel today. Love from Montreal, Canada 💛
That means so much to me! Thank you ❤️
amen amen, did the 1st 2 things in the 1st 2 min, such a blessing this recommendation....., love that she's almost crying explaining this, the unclean anxiety is REAL, the garden, the ferment, the tinctures, the chickens, weedeating, the prettygrowingflowers wannabe...., it's all just too much want and vanity!!! God bless you all, love from BC, Canada
Working on it
Yes those videos picking up few random toys saying "oh what a mess!" Duuh 😂
@@Nourishingminimalism watching from Chile,😊
Finally a realistic woman and channel. So many pixi perfect women claiming they are cleaners when aren't and don't have any understanding of anxiety depression and real life. I battle daily
"Things are better done imperfect, then not at all" thank you for that, I needed to hear that.
Procrastinated over 4 days to tackle the dishes among all other areas of my home. 😒 Didn’t know where to start. Then i said I may not cook every day but I use my kitchen at least 3 times a day. Morning for coffee, evening after work to put away leftovers from work and go back for water and a snack. I haven’t put away the dishes as they’re drying but the sink is shining!!! On to tackle the rest of the house. Thank you.
Lower your standards. This is good advice, simply because many people have standards that are unreasonable, and therefore unattainable.
I’ve worked 2 jobs for 18 years. When I get home from the first job I make our bed, dishes in the dishwasher and take out the trash before I go to job number 2. Those seem vital to me
Wow super woman 💪🏻 I admire that!
I am absolutely certain that God put your video in my feed! Been immobilized by bipolar depression for years, and the to do list just keeps growing. Overwhelm is a gross understatement. Have been working with my shrink on getting motivated to do something, anything. So funny that you mentioned making an appointment with the dentist - I finally called three days ago after putting it off for more than a year. Your advice is logical, succinct, and encouraging. Thanks! So glad I watched; have subscribed!
Thank you Beverly! That's so great that you called and made an appointment! One step at a time. ❤️
Hi Beverly. I never feel motivated until I literally force myself to do something .. THEN I start to feel motivated . It becomes catching . That good feeling after I do something motivates me to do something else.. maybe this will help
Bless you, Beverly. Bipolar disorder can be crippling, most especially the depression side of it. Remember a walk of 10,000 miles starts with the first step. Give yourself permission to take baby steps. If you can't clean the entire house in one day, then just do one room. If one room is too much just do the tidying in that room, or the floors, or the dusting. Small things that only take a few minutes, once done, give you a great sense of accomplishment. This will motivate you to do a bit more. Best wishes to you. I too know how debilitating depression can be.
Yep another thing I must do dentist appointment!!!
@@smitheric6038 hey... are you the guy that works on oil rigs?
Great video. We have a bare minimum when the day has been just too much. 1. Laundry (1 load), 2. Trash and 3. Dishes. If we can at least do that daily then the next day will at least be no more overwhelming than the previous one.
This is exactly what I was needing to read. To set up my bare minimum and by doing so creating conditions for less overwhelm! Thanks for your comment.
Of all the de-cluttering videos and gurus, you do it best for me. You really got me there as if you know me personally, with the points you raised and your solutions provided.wow! Thank you so much!
“Lower your standards” resonates with me. Sometimes you have to do that in order to accept help
Thank you … currently watching this at 4:15 am. Sleepless bc I am overwhelmed about where to get started reclaiming my home after a year of depression. 😢These tips are 💯 spot on! Everything you spoke on was speaking to directly to my soul. Anyone else reading this I pray you find a place to start & reclaim your home too.
… I have also had nearly a week off yet here I am with 2 days left & almost nothing accomplished.
Starting can be the most difficult part - sometimes it's easiest to just start with one thing right in front of you, even if that's throwing something obvious in the trash. Then it's a start and you can give yourself a high five! ❤️
I learned this and taught my kids, if it is something you don't want to do, do it first then the rest of the day goes a lot smoother.
As the list grows longer my dread and fear increase exponentially until I am frozen with inaction. Thanks I needed this today. I have found that as my living space decreases the clutter and feeling of messiness has increased. You really have to declutter when you live in a tiny space.
I read somewhere online (sorry I don't recall to give proper credit) that doing that thing you don't want to do is a gift to your future self, which made so much sense and really motivates me!!! ...sometimes : /
It took years to learn this, but a lived-in house is leagues more comfortable and welcoming that a perfectly kept house. Visitors are not fully comfortable in a perfect setting, they are more comfortable when things are not so perfect (which is different than disaster). Example: my sofa once was perfect - smoothed, arranged, plumped, oh so AD tasteful, but no one ever sat on it. Once I started to be less fussy, my visitors sat on the sofa and enjoyed the evening.
Good to know. I avoid visitors :) especially recently.
I totally dread making appts.! It's so hard to get the right mindset, keep everyone quiet during the phone call, gather insurance Info, get out my planner...etc. I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one who finds this daunting!🙂
Definitely a depression-inducing task along with paying bills over the phone.
Im the same way, and I really don't know why the 3 minute phone call freaks me out so much. I know how to do it, but I just put it off, so much.
Make appointments in your car
Oh I hate doing stuff like that.
I always wait until everyone is in bed to pay bills on the phone, I think better late of a night.
My Mom always had her housework done every day. We didn't have a dishwasher, we were a family of 7 people. Home cooked meals 3 times a day, every day. She would be the first one to say that she didn't have time to think about it, she just knew it had to be done. Some how, with 5 children, she always found the time to sew clothes, teach Sunday school, throw birthday parties, gave us amazing holidays...the list goes on and on. I think home makers back then knew their job, and just did it. I follow the same, its my job, especially as a widowed Mom of 2. Thanks for sharing. 🥰💐🌷🌵🌱🌿🌞🍃🏜️💗🥰💐🌷🌵🌱🌿🌞🍃🏜️💗
I see myself in this. Especially with the pandemic I have really become overwhelmed. Thank you so much for these insights. Just knowing that I am not the only one this happens to goes a long way to easing the negative self talk.
Wow. You spoke every single one of my truths
I like to fold my laundry while I watch TH-cam. I was done folding before your video even ended and it was only 7 minutes long! It’s my most hated task, no idea why, so this helps me enjoy it a bit more and also always makes me realise how little time it takes. I hardly have to talk myself into it anymore
I love that Sharon!
I always dreaded piles of laundry to fold. My husband always felt like he did his share to wash and dry and pile it up for me to fold and put away. But, I didn’t like dealing with wrinkly items. In 2013 - I created a new process. I fold clothes straight from the dryer. And put it all away. It usually takes about 10 minutes each load. If necessary I can rewarm or freshen the load for a few minutes to reduce wrinkles before folding. I do a load a day as needed. Sometimes none and sometimes more - depending on the day and my plans. I’m not opposed to hanging laundry to dry and I do that for small loads.
🔲 Laundry this week
1. Bed Linens
2. Towels & Bath Rugs
3. Darks
4. Lights
5. Extra item: Kitchen rugs
@@grogers511 I also like to put all my washing/laundry away as soon as the tumble dryer has finished. I hang all my jumpers etc straight away.
I don't fold anything. Everything gets a hanger slipped on it and hung up.
@@wildflowerwind6941 That is as simple as it is wise.
Thank you for putting out this video. I am an older lady who has raised her children, been married to a good man for thirty years. I have had demanding careers with keeping my house in order for my whole adult life. Then I got sick this past year. I lost my job, due to my missing five days in six months. I had gotten asthma from covid-19 and was having difficulties getting flare ups under control. I have been out of the work force for three months. My ambition is returning, but it's not near where it used to be. I was feeling guilty and embarrassed for feeling depression. Your perspective was very helpful for me.
I have panic attacks and anxiety thinking of calling up people for appointments and enquiry. When I heard you say that it looks llike a huge task, I was relieved, it felt like I am not alone. I thought I was going nuts
My new favorite slogan is “Done doesn’t have to be perfect.” Thanks for that and the new feeling of relief that goes with it.
I set mine for 20. I have been doing this for over 30 years. I work for 20 minutes and am amazed at how much I get done.
I’m sitting here stunned. This is the first video I’ve come across that just nailed it and I didn’t even know I was trying to hammer anything LOL. I’m so focused on my inner healing to be the healer I am here to be, or the entertainer/hostess since moving onto a boat (with NO dishwasher) and just getting through a 3 day Memorial Day weekend and coordinating a wedding. This stuff is supposed to be fun yet I’m depleted overwhelmed and mentally exhausted with a list of important things that I actually have to get done just sitting here. Like make my doctors appointment, call about unmailed prescriptions, fill out the form for my passport expiring in September, box up and mail mom’s packages. On top of juicing every morning, eating healthy choices working from home (Not always easy with hubby’s chocolate drawer and Carb cabinet) and forcing myself onto my stationary bike that is supposed to make my life easier and healthier but because its so LOUD and outside on the front of the boat, it feels like I’m screaming on the top of a mountain when I get on it. There are so many blessings in those statement and I feel so blessed but want to cry at the same time. Just to see you on point with how we are overwhelmed, how to adjust it AND you have six kids - my LORD Bless you beautiful lady! Am I doing this to myself? How do I slow it down? I’m really struggling right now with a few remaining subconscious emotions that debilitate and stop me building my business and staying focus on THAT healing that absolutely needs to be done is exhausting in itself. I don’t even have any children and it feel embarrassing I can’t get it together just taking care of myself. I have so much to give and I am here to serve with my gifts, I - we as women just have to get out of our own way. Honestly the quicker I can lock in and clear this specific subconscious block of “Messing it up”’ or “Not getting it right” “Doing it wrong” it would stop the overwhelming cycle. Well It’s 8 am and I’m going to see how much of it I can get done as I work today. Just seeing you share this cycle that seems to be “normal” LOL has me shaking my head and laughing. I was looking for Borax videos since I just bathed in it last night and your video popped up next! Thank you for being here and being so authentic. We need more of this!
We do get in our own way! ❤️ One step at a time Wendy, we'll make it through. 😊
Great tips! I'm 72 and have a mild form of MS but was told by an occupational therapist that I need to do everything like housework and cleaning in increments so we have to go by the same principles as you do! When the summer heat/humidity gets bad, our energy depletes quickly! So we have to do anything we can to conserve energy since it's an energy depleting auto-immune disease! If you want to know how it feels when it's hot/humid, it's like walking around with your feet encased in cinder blocks and dragging one's feet and walking in those humongous super-sized super markets is like climbing Mt. Everest! I call it the slow motion disease! So keeping everything simple and easy is paramount same with comfort! Thanks and blessed be~
Your reminder to embrace imperfection and lower my standards was exactly what I needed to hear today!
I don't have kids, I don't have half the challenges of a big home. But that hit home, do it , get up do a bit at a time. And wow it works. Is off your mind. And be happy with it. Totally on mark , thank you.
This is so true! I used to try to be perfect and then my health hit the floor. We are Not perfect so we have to stop trying to pretend. No one is. It’s just not worth it. Make a list of what you needs to be done other than a load of dishes or a load of laundry. Pick one thing that’s most pressing and work on that until you finish it. Then pick a new one. Orrrr work on it for 30 minutes a day. Whatever works!!!
I have no idea why your video ended up in my TH-cam suggestions, but thank you. I have been overwhelmed since my husband passed unexpectedly four years ago. I have a big rambling house, land, horses, dogs, chickens. I look after the animals, their areas are spotless, but I put off doing anything about my house and garden, and the more I put it off, the more it seems a problem to do the simplest thing like clean dead flies off the windowsill. I have compressed my life into living in the kitchen/dining room, which is large, but I seem to ignore the rest of the house. Until my husband went on that next journey, I was always, lively, sparkly, energetic, now I feel like zombie woman from outer space. I seem to have channelled Scarlett O'Hara (I'll think about it tomorrow, after all, tomorrow is another day!) I want Scarlett to go and would like to channel Doris Day in one of her 1950's efficient, housewife, movie personas. I am going to try your 54321, right now, not tomorrow to cook something for dinner and do the dishes. I look forward to more inspiration from you and thank you for creating your channel, while dinner is cooking I will check out the Clutter-Free Army.
I just found your channel and have been binge-watching all your videos. You are so relatable to me; everything you say about yourself I'm like "Yep, me too!" and your information and tips are so helpful. Thank you. ❤
Really enjoyed your delivery- not loud in your face trying to be a celeb style but - genuine and sincere! I feel encouraged and inspired to tackle my mess! Thank you.
This popped into my recommendations.
Dear GOD, I needed this. I really really REEAAAALLLLYYY needed to hear this.
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Not sure why your video popped up, but glad it did. My house is worse than a disaster, I havw ptsd, chronic anxiety, panic attacks, and depression I also have arthritis in my spine. I am older kids are grown and moved away. I am single, so its all on me to get whatever done. I was laid up for over 2 months after a bad fall, I broke my left arm in 3 places had to have metal pins put in to hold everything together, I also fractured a vertabrae. I was in bed for over 2 months, now i have the problem of I can only stand for about 15 mins at a time before my back goes into muscle spasms. Honestly right now there are dishes piled in the sink, I have to move things off my stove to cook, and you cant see my counters due to dishes piled up, I even have some dirty roasting pans sitting on the floor, The rest of my house is not much better off.
I feel like I am in such a deep hole with it all that I cant even organize my thoughts about where to begin and then how to get it done..I dont have a dishwasher, and my washing machine is on the blitz so I am hand washing the minimum just to get by. I am disabled and money is very limited, repairs have to be saved up for
If anyone has any suggestions or ideas for me please send them, trust me I will read each one. By the way I subscribed to your channel, and I am so sorry this is so long, I did not mean it to be a novel. thanks in advance, I will probably binge watch yur videos now.
So sorry Jeaniej! I would just focus on the dishes first. Just aim for 5 minutes at a time, that way you can get a few washed and relax before your back starts acting up. Let yourself relax for 45 minutes and then do another 5 minute sprint. If you can manage 4 of those today, you'll get 20 minutes of dishes done and it will make a dent!
Then I would call a local church or adult resource organization and just explain how you could use some help. Maybe they will have some people who would be willing to come and do some dishes and laundry for you. I'm sorry, washing clothes by hand is hard work too!
@@Nourishingminimalism Thanks for your response, its funny while we are in the mess we cant think of simple helps ugh..I like your 5 mins at a time suggestion, I will do that, that actually feels like mentally and physically something I could accomplish and just the feeling that its doable is in some way a success for me it seems..I will call and see if I can get a little help..
Your kindness has touched me deeply, I am sitting here in tears at the moment, but they are good tears. Bless you kind lady.
Wow! This really helped me! I don’t even have kids but I feel like a hoarder and I am a procrastinator. Thanks you for this!
This might help you my daughter and I felt like we were hoarders too so we decided to take one box every week to Goodwill or Salvation Army and bless them. I have boxed up stuff and two or three weeks later I cannot tell you what’s in the box so that’s the way to do it give it away
LOVE this. You struck on something that sticks me up a lot. I'm a nurse, and used to "pristine", but I'm older now, and I can't do things the way I once did. So my clutter was starting to get ahead of me when the hubs got sick. I hired a housekeeper t help every 2 wks, but it's not "perfect".....and I have to understand I can do a little at a time all the time, OR I can continue to be bitchy and unhappy because it's not this massive perfection.
Rachel, so nice to hear somebody else telling how challenging making a dentist appointment can be!!!! It makes me feel more normal. I've been searching for videos like this one for very long: where the difficulties behind the scenes are adressed. Because often times it's not so much about not knowing how to do it, but more about what blocks us from doing it. Looking forward to more videos on dealing with those sneaky toxic patterns.
Love - clear a counter. I've been working on my house - it's a slow go. I have chronic fatigue. Once I get everything down to minimalistic - I am NEVER going back. Not having clutter is a real feeling of freedom to me.
I just came back to this video, as it was suggested and I need it again! I am here to report that I actually paused the video and made THREE dentist/referral/annual appointment calls that I've been avoiding making for weeks! I feel better already. I'll move on to the dishes next. I consider myself a minimalist-on-hiatus due to moving last year and a massive renovation that has us all living in 1/4 of our house right now. It gets overwhelming quickly!
You can always do a partial declutter of an area and "bookmark" your place. It's most important to be kind to yourself and others, no matter what happens. Compassion is key💙🌞💙
I finally got some paperwork in the mail yesterday..I ALSO don't know why some stupid thing seems like a mountain...
I REALLY felt such relief all night...
I realized I COULD have done it a week ago but this thime I did not beat myself up..I ENJOYED FEELING that relief..and this morning decided to start doing that everyday for 6 weeks...and enjoy each days accomplishments...and before summer is over I think I will work out the problem..( which I know comes from severe child abuse where at 14 I had to do everything to hold the house together)
Thank you...you came along at the perfect time for my new life❤️
I wish I could finally get rid of my 'fantasy person'. The one saving toilet paper rolls to start seedlings for the spring veg gardens and the embroidery I want to do for the grandchildren or the old pillows I'm going to redo for my bed. All the fantasy projects I won't or can't do.
Wow. I happened upon this video and you addressed almost ALL my can't-keep-up-what's-wrong-with-me feelings about trying to stay on top of everything! The result? Step back and make peace with your expectations. Life's too short to wallow in anxiety. Thank you!!
We just moved from an RV (living in it for almost three years, all possessions in storage) to a 2200' log cabin, moved all our stuff in this Feb. I SO needed this, thank you! We had downsized quite a bit before storing everything, but there's still a lot as we've raised seven kids (most are adults). Still so overwhelming since I'm having trouble adjusting to the new lifestyle and chores. We have 2.5 acres my husband is learning to take care of too... Yikes
Thank you I'm feeling really overwhelmed right now. I'm a hoarder who's totally given up. I live alone and can't find motivation. I have depression and anxiety. I will try this tomorrow..bless you
When my Mom passed away, I had her stuff on top of going through a divorce and being evicted, on top of taking custody of my granddaughter. Parts of my home is piled up. To get rid of stuff in my area is expensive let alone working two low paying jobs to support my granddaughter. Life sucks but at least I’m rid of an abusive control freak husband.
I always enjoy your videos. Even when I feel like doing nothing, you remind me that just a few minutes of doing something can change the rest of the day.
I'm so glad! 💕
Amen to that.
My mom would tackle a project a little at a time. Rest in between. Go back and tackle some more. Rest. Before long a big project was done. Always a little at a time. Things always looked neat.
Excellent video. I just discovered your channel and just subscribed. Thank you! Also, thanks for NOT having annoying background music that a lot of TH-camrs have..
You are an answer to prayer. This morning I had just had it, too much to do and not enough time to do it. I just decided to give up but my anxiety is worsened by clutter. I prayed for the Lord to help me figure it out and BAM there was your video to help. Thanks so much. I have hope now. God bless you!
So needed to hear this! I feel overwhelmed at times! You literally speak how I feel! I have struggled immensely trying to motivate myself. The more i leave it the more it feels huge in my head!
❤️ So sorry you've struggled! We'll make it through, one step at a time. 😊
Enjoyed this "well grounded" and realistic video. A few years ago I figured out that I procrastinate on a lot of little tasks that take less than a minute. For example,: putting a book back on a shelf, putting dirty clothes in a hamper instead of tossing them on a chair, throwing out the junk mail as soon as it is collected from the mail box instead of setting it on a pile on a counter, putting my shoes on a shoe rack instead of kicking them off in the middle of the floor. If I make myself do the little 30 second tasks consistently I don't get overwhelmed and fed up with eventual hours of house work.
Good tips. It drives me crazy to have something on every surface, but somehow bare surfaces exert a gravitational pull on surrounding objects and before you know it, there's stuff all over them again. I've been fighting this battle for 30 years.
I have a motto that comes in handy when I"m procrastinating. I tell myself, "Energy begets energy." In other words, once I actually _start_ moving, I get the motivation to _keep_ moving. If only I didn't wait so long to actually start moving. 😄
i heard it's the start-up energy that is most repulsive, once we overcome the initial inertia tasks get done. Example was a fellow who wanted to learn guitar. Guitar sat in it's case, guy was overwhelmed w mental step of taking instrument out to pluck tho that step took 10 sec, once he realized this he simply left guitar propped up beside his chair, taught himself to play. God bless.
Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Thank you so much for this, like many on here I have depression and anxiety. When I try to do everything perfectly I literally feel like my cleaning feels like a war...I love the way you explain things calmly, already feeling more optimistic ❤❤
A bout of depression and overwhelm undoes any regular home tasks AND MOST self-care -- shower? Really? You are an inspiration!!
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You are SPOT ON with these suggestions!!!!!! Procrastination/avoidance doesn’t make that task go away. It actually increases the stress and anxiety even more.
I look forward to going through your other videos!
Thanks Jody! I'm so glad you've joined me!
you are 100% relatable
I’ve looked after a family of 4 for over 40 years, I’m on my own now and I just don’t want to do housework any
more. I can’t motivate myself and the house is dusty and I feel like I don’t care, what can I do? The lady next
door said when you’ve done housework for 40 years you just don’t want to do it any more, so I’m glad it’s not
just me that feels this way.
I don't blame you! It comes down to if you have preferences on how it looks. If you like it to look a certain way, then do it as self-care for yourself. If you honestly don't care if there is dust, as in, it doesn't annoy you in anyway, then don't stress it. And if it does annoy you, then either work little tasks into your daily life so they don't seem so time-consuming, or hire someone. ❤️
@@Nourishingminimalism Good advice thank you. I must admit I have been house proud in the past.
A friend of mine told me once that I did too much housework. I was at her house once having coffee and
her mother was coming in the afternoon and she got a tissue and just dusted the sideboard with it! I
thought that was dreadful! I don’t like to see dust, but at the same time I don’t seem to care about it any
more!
@@gailcrowe727 Your friend is my kind of gal! LOL An older mom was telling a similar story once about a baby wipe cleaning the toilet and how horrified she was, and I got so excited - I could use a baby wipe and throw it away!! Housework is something I've had to learn to do and doing those things partially meant they actually got done. It was the "waiting to do it perfectly" that prevented me from ever doing anything. ❤️
My daughter used to work full time and I used to go and do some housework for her. There used to be dust
on the top of the door frames and pelmets and everywhere you couldn’t see. On the places you could see
she used spray polish and just rubbed it over with a duster, even the TV screen! I had to clean it all off with
sqeezy and warm water. She said what’s the point of wasting time and energy on what you can’t see? So all
my diligent work when she was growing up didn’t rub off on her did it?😅
Big thank you! No famous physiologists. Just your simple, very encouraging words. Thank you
So funny! Haven't watched your channel before, but turned it on just to see. I watched about 5 minutes and got up to start my load of dishes in the dish washer. There! Done! Now back to watch the rest of your video
Good work! 😁
One thing that has really helped me is ‘touch everything once’. If you pick something up then deal with it. eg laundry, I now never put it on the bed, I put it all away straight away. Same with the mail, read it, deal with it, it’s done
Your Speaking Was So Inspiring ! Thank you So Much ! After having to take early medical disability retirement from as an employee of 17yrs for a Co.with Wonderful benefits, I slipped into the next 3 yrs battling depression & anxiety, along with chronic pain and new diagnosis. Always feeling overwhelmed , and never knowing, or being able to make plans , or commitment and always ashamed for people stopping by, or having a get- together with family. I understood the process of how BADLY I NEEDED to eliminate, and started the process by hiring neighbor to help with cleaning out She'Shed, it was a start & 2 dump loads , and some donations. Your Video reminds me I've been stuck once again 🙃. I look forward to future videos & your words of Encouragement, God bless 🙏, Penney C. ( Sorry To Have Taken Up So Much Spilling my life stopping)....You'll have to bill me , lol.....
Hi your tips are awesome, and I am a single father with 2 kids 17 and 21 years old
Thanks Jerry! So glad it's helpful!
I get distracted so easily and interruptions are an all day happening. If I let the answering machine take the call, then the caller (usually hubby or kids) starts getting panicky because they couldn't reach me, but when I'm in the garden or trying to bake, I don't want to talk on the phone! This is the first video of yours I have seen, but I subscribed in hopes there will be helpful information for me to use.
I'm the same way! I just want to focus on this one thing! LOL Thanks for joining me! 😊
I have struggled the last 16 months to keep my home clean & organized.
Thank you for your video that popped up when I wasn't even looking for encouragement. I got my dishes done & started laundry. I am taking all your advice & tips. Can't thank you enough. New sub!!
I'm so glad it's helpful! ❤️
When u go upstairs take something that belongs upstairs and then when you come downstairs then take something with you that belongs down there. We had a wardrobe we didn't open for 2 years n the bedroom in which this wardrobe was in was filled with things in boxes n bags within bags so I gave myself a target to sort out 1/2 bag each day- gave me confidense and I began to feel much better n the room looked better each day so I started to do 3 bags then 6. Everything became easier, started hoovering spiders webs cleaning windows then draws 1 at a time.
had the whole room redone from floor to ceiling n these days we have filled 3 bags of clothes shoes n books to give away because clearing the home = clearing the mind
Wow! This video spoke to me. I get overwhelmed by my cluttered house all the time and think ugh I need like 5 days off to get it clean and organized. I also put off small tasks and then stress over them. All your advice makes so much since. Thank you.
I know all that you say is true ! I have told myself this for months ! Another side of me says I don’t care yet I do care ! I am ashamed my house has gotten in the mess it is I don’t have children my daughter is 65 and doses all the out side work ! I am 84 and tell myself it’s because I am old and lazy ! But I am going to do as you suggest and I know it works because
that’s what did when I younger ! So this isn’t getting things done ,thanks for sharing your ideas !👍❤️😇👵🏻🙋♀️🐶😺
Such a great reminder, Rachel! I was reminded to do the dishes, to do the laundry, clear the dining table, and call the dentist! I liked seeing that dusting mitt you were using!! Wow! Got me going out of a bit of a funk!! Thanks!
Oh good! Thanks Vicky! ❤️
Everything counts . Well Done.
The reminder about procrastination is really timely 😀
I appreciate the content, as an aspiring minimalist. Subbed.
It does cross my mind that -- OUCH! Lol hope hubby doesn't hear this -- but speaking of which, crosses my mind that if housework already gets on your nerves, the fact that the work comes with no financial reward nor appreciative acknowledgement, but rather presents itself as undone the following week, can be disheartening.
Either consider hiring a maid or, ideally, transform capitalism.
Oh my goodness! BLESS YOU!!! Thank you for your video & thank you to the commenters! I, truly, thought I was the only one struggling inside my house for almost a year! All these “worries” & “overwhelm” take a toll on mental health, especially, as we age. You helped me to shift my paradigm & view on completing my housekeeping task! Looking forward to to “freeing” my mind of the “housekeeping worry”!
Thank you Tia! You are definitely not alone in this! ❤️
Just found your channel. From feeling like I need to take a week off work to do simple tasks, to the husband and the yard, this is literally my life. The clutter and tasks in my house are just filling up my brain and I feel like I can never catch a break. This video makes me feel like it’s not as big of a mountain to climb that I’m making it out to be. Thank you for your practical, relatable advice 😊
Thanks for joining me! ❤️Even the little steps make a big difference.
Wow, this helped me start exercising again. My house is ok, but need to work on the ole bod:)
Yes! There are evn 5-10 min exercise videos. Sometimes, I start with one of those. I usually get energized enough to do one or two more. it's starting that's hard.
First and foremost!
Letting go of perfection was key for me. I had an idea of a proper cleaning process. If I didn’t have time to do it... I didn’t do anything. Now, I’m okay with occasionally mopping a bathroom without sweeping or vacuuming it first. 😱. And, I’ll vacuum without first dusting the furniture. 😱
I do a daily reset routine in the morning. Beds, dishes, bathrooms, laundry. In the evening - I do a quick walk-thru to set things right. I reset the house in the evenings to prep for tomorrow.
That's wonderful Ginger!
I just found your video. 😍 I feel so relieved to know I’m not alone in feeling overwhelmed and like a deer in headlights! I know it is a very common feeling, but I still feel that “it is just me..I’m the failure”. Not rational, but it is MY feeling non the less. Thank you, this has calmed me down.😓
I used to have an immaculate home. Now it’s to the point. I don’t look forward to coming home I am getting rid of a lot of stuff .
"There's "stuff" on every surface"....this is EXACTLY! how I feel:-/ I literally spend HOURS each day just "shuffling and organizing" household items from one location in the house to another. It has to stop:-/
I really needed to see ur channel today. I am soooo overwhelmed by things to do that it has affected my health. I am alone, very depressed and it helped a little to see that I am not the only person with this struggle. Thankyou.
You are definitely not alone Elaine ❤️ So glad you are joining me here.
Just found your video and i’m so grateful for your honesty and encouragement. Your tips are so helpful.
The first thing I do in the morning when I get up,is to let the light in. It wakes up your senses,your brain starts really waking up and I start the day.
This video just happened to start playing. It hit me like a bullseye. The words in this video felt like a documentary of me. I am subscribing asap!
There is something soothing listening to you. I am decluttering home now and just put your videos just to listen to your voice. It calms me down lol
I clean the kitchen, the bathroom and wash laundry regularly and thoroughly. The rest is pretty much a " luck and a promise" when I get "around tuit"! And "round tuits" are hard to go find! 😁🤗😘
1. Do the dishes
2. Clear the surface
3. DO ONE THING YOU HAVE BEEN PROCASTINATING ON.
4. Use 5 second rule.
5. Embrace imperfection.
6. Lower your standards.
This is exactly my thoughts and issues all the way to putting off making a simple phone call. I don't let anyone help me because I want it done a certain way then I get overwhelmed by everything and nothing gets done. Everything seems to be just as important so I start in several things but nothing ever really gets finished. I'm too hard on myself for not being up to par for my family....I'm glad I found this, thank you.
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Am 70, grew up in my Granny's
a terrible hoarded place, left at 16.
Never expected in the later years to have same 😥😡
Was never like that, been struggling with it, not accomplished, for several years.
Sucks time from me for ..
something not traumatic, feel basically imprisoned.
Sad, frustrated, OVERWHELMED,
surely describes it.
Hoarders program, I used to watch, says it's a mental disorder, tied in with some kind of loss ..have had several losses, but the tipping point was my beloved husband, who left after 17 years, with dementia..
I can align with some You say...the perfection thing, which is really non action bc one some how has set too high of standards, feels unreachable, so, throws up their hands.
Not sure if this is a place where I might fit, or not.
Just wish I could find a way to get out of this, before...I'm gone.
Others(children, one) frustrated with me, bc they say Just throw it Out !!! What is so simplistic for them(thank God !!!), is agony for me...No doubt, your shares are helping some...one another.
Just wish it could be me.
I haven't given up, but is getting harder and harder ~God Bless.
Was good to come across your site, will keep looking...
I hope you reach out to a counselor Roxy, they may be able to help you process your decisions. ❤️
I love your video and I don't have any children at home but I've been saying I'm going to do the laundry for the last probably week and in all reality I need to declutter my place is always been neat but I won't lie against messy because the more you have the more there is to take up spaces and I'm in a studio apartment and so this is a great video and it's helping me right now!!!!❤️❤️❤️
THANK YOU!!! I SO relate to this. I also have the same 'lawn care' deal with my husband, who doesn't care about it....And I have more than enough to do, so there is no sense in fighting, fussing or fuming. I'm so glad you said it though. Everyone around me manicures their front yard, and probably wishes we'd move!
Yes! I knew I was in trouble the first year we moved here and the neighbor was vacuuming the leaves off her lawn with a shop vac. 🙈 😂
I love your realistic attitude to housekeeping...you are so right to say ditch perfectionism and live a happy life! Vacuuming once a week? That's really GOOD!
Thank you so much for this video & tips, they have helped me so much.
I’m single & live alone, so I’m responsible for everything in my house, especially the mess.😀
I’m definitely not into cooking from scratch - there’s nothing wrong with fish fingers, beans & chips etc.
When I was young I never stopped cleaning had kids same thing now their grown I dont really care my health is my wealth I dont care if things are out of place until I'm in a happy mood i do dishes in the sink never had a dish washer and wash clothes and dry them in the clothes horse i have tried but i get run down at 57 now have to eat so all that young full of energy is gone now,i watch videos to forget putting pressure on myself and see how the other half live,stress must be so bad in those show homes a house is a home it wont ever be done
Thank you for reminding me that perfection is a process and not the result... smell the flowers along the way. Bright Blessing, (thinking positive energy ), for you and your family.
That’s so true..I have amplified painting my kitchen cabinets...so far in 3 days I’ve deglossed two and the front of two cabinet doors...ugh...and I am that way...if I can’t paint these right the first time I don’t want to waste that energy also I’ve been soaking in the tub the last two hours.
very very realistic