“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” - Robin Williams
@@omganotherun You're comment made laugh but it's true some men go through hell with women which i most likely won't because i don't plan on ever getting in a serious relationship.
@@melchiorlise2466 Totally true. Now examine the data. The divorce rate, who files for divorce, the results on men in Family Court, the % of couples who are simply miserable together "cheaper to keep her". Would you buy a car that has a well over 50% chance of exploding? Honestly, most men would probably prefer the exploding car to the exploding family and the demographic data proves it. The soon to be majority of men are not dodging happiness, they are dodging misery. Less of one, more of the other. It is a rational decision.
@@marathonog8849 What is a woman supposed to pay a man for might I ask? And what will a man offer a woman to put her life on the line to have his child?
Wayyyy more to it than that. Social media, for one has destroyed our minds. Truly. But yeah, that's the core of it. In reality, all developed societies seem to have their numbers decline. Births, sex etc.
@@jonny-b4954 That, and certain trade agreements, globalization, and gross levels of immigration disrupt industry and stagnate wages, which ultimately harms the host population.
I'd absolutely love to have a partner, but I'm not going to give up who I am in order to have it. I have a steady career, a home of my own and nice cars. I'm stable. However, if I invite someone in my life I'm not doing it at the cost of that stability.
But having a partner (if that's what you want) is better. I swear I've seen this exact comment on every video I've seen talking about loneliness. We don't gotta focus on what's worse, but more on what's better.
I'm not against having a partner but I'd rather be sure I've made the right choice. I'm not about to gamble away my peace again without knowing if I can trust them when I'm not around. Maybe one day, maybe never.
Why is everybody so seemingly terrified about being alone? Are you really that weak, that fearful of venturing forth by yourself? If you have friends who are there for you when you need them, if you have family who love you, what else do you need? WHY do we buy into the scenario presented to us by billionaires and to which we in this filthy rotting capitalist society are brainwashed practically from birth onward that we MUST do this, we MUST do that, we MUST "marry" (even though 50% of American marriages end in divorce) and we MUST reproduce even when we can't afford kids and government does practically ZERO to help those who DO have kids, and so they're now trying to FORCE WOMEN TO HAVE KIDS THEY DON'T WANT. Those people don't give a damn about you or me, they only want more workers to produce more money for them so they can sell their junky products to them, they want them to have tons of babies and make yet more poor people for future generations so they can continue backwards to the time of slavery - and not just for Black people, folks. If you meet somebody and you both fall in love, then go for it. Leave the rest of us alone. It's not a FLAW to be single and not have kids, for pete's sake!
Scott Galloway totally nailed this argument. Maybe 5% of the people posting her, give a damn what Scott Galloway said. Everyone else was bitching about everything else and nothing will get done. Scott is correct. We will become Italy or Japan.
No such thing as a incel just low sexual value dudes who dont like there options. We all want a Ferrari but most of us will have to setttle on a honda. Just settle on what you can realistically get if you keep getting shot down your shoping out of your league. Just like cars houses and life in general you have to be realistic and get what you can get. Take what you can get beggers cant be choosers and dont be a bitter ass hole about it. As bad as you got it some one else has it worse.
@@nevergiveupbaby1720 nobody has to be with an average woman either. Even though most men would be happy with average. The fact that more and more men are deciding to not bother says a lot.
@@Rnankn It's basically saying that you need to be careful, because some people that try dating you won't do so because they love you, but rather that they want something from you. In other words, it's a relationship set up for failure as soon as you stop providing what they want. Obviously genuine love is a lot more forgiving than that.
You said a mouth full, but the problem is in order for women ( or people in general) in order for them to be truly appreciative they need to have it bad and I mean great depression bad and those days are coming and going to happen but worse. A great trial is coming to the whole world. Revelation 3:10
To all the single dudes out there that are struggling, I am 30 years old with a 6 figure income, I'm in good shape physically, live a fun lifestyle and have my shit together, and I still never had any luck with dating or relationships. So don't believe in the lie that all you have to do is improve yourself to be successful with dating. It is hard for just about everyone. Improve yourself for you, not for a woman.
Social media is to women what porn is to men. Men get the sexual release from porn, and women get their emotional fulfillment from instagram and only fans.
an ex said to me "Why don't you post pictures of us on social media?". I said "why?". Her reply. "So people can see how happy we are". That was the beginning of the end for her and i.
I am stepping out here but was it St. Paul who was quoted in the Bible for saying a Chaste Life is a Perfect Life? If you are ever bored read The Wanting Seed written by Anthony Burgess, Burgess also wrote A Clock Work Orange. I wonder if Galloway read The Wanting Seed.
@@GuacamoleyNacho the reason St. Paul said this is because our relationship to God is the most important relationship we can cultivate in our lives. Those who are called to take up a spouse typically have sexual desires they want fulfilled and therefore, taking on a husband/wife in the sacrament of matrimony will allow said person an outlet for this disposition that is pleasing to the Lord. Those who remain unmarried and abstain from sex are able to focus more clearly on scripture and the presence of God in their lives and mortify themselves in this way. You don't even have to be a layman to take on this practice. Though it seems there's a war on marriage during this time, it is true that marriage is not the only way and there are those called to live in abstinence/chastity but, it is something that must be prayed about. Being alone doesn't have to be ostracizing it could just be in the sense of intimate relationship but, you can still be socially involved with loved ones and friends. unless of course, you choose to live as a hermit which is also not wrong. All this to say, there are varying lifestyles you can take on that can be pleasing to the Lord, it is just a matter of how you use your circumstances to glorify and grow closer to Him whether it be through marriage, singleness, or even being a hermit.
It does suck to be alone, I won't argue that. I'm 40, and I have been happily married 12 years. The point is that sometimes in the haste to "not be alone" we end up in relationships that make us miserable.
Reading some of these replies...Its like all we did (in my case during early 90s) and older Gen X 80s was hang out, go to malls, movies, downtown, etc. and meet girls like all the time half the time they made the first move and talked to us. I generally wasnt the most outgoing teen either its just thats how it was done. I noticed the world had departed from that and I been bringing those simpler times to today.
Feminism has killed respect for important jobs held by men. Example: I used to work in water purification plants and sewage. I've left, feeling like I'd never find a relationship if I stayed there. Now the field as a whole is 40% understaffed and infrastructure is crumbling. Trans-activism and feminism sucked the air out of the room, when demographics showed us that had we not listened to mor0ns who weaponize their ignorance, we should have instead double-downed on infrastructure to make sure we're ready for what is to come. Why should an individual man do the right thing, when feminism teaches women to do the exact opposite? I once saw journalists run from my explanations to automate risk management for water systems, shouting : "OH! THERE! A WOMAN ENTREPRENEUR!". That "woman entrepreneur" was selling another crappy yoga-pants-by-mail dead business model. I'm 36yo. I'm watching the world burn.
It's amazing that none of these reporters ACTUALLY interview any young men to see why they're not dating. 🤔 They don't REALLY want to hear the REAL reason why it's not worth dating nowadays!
@@P.90.603 Do want to talk about the average/ugly women next? Because the vast majority of women, like the vast majority of men, are ugly/average as well. And no, makeup doesn't count. A good coat of makeup could make a pumpkin beautiful.
It sounds like you all gave up on life. And in the prime of your life. There are 8 billion people out there and you are saying to me. None of them matches your expectations. Maybe you're too spoiled or privileged to make a real effort. Maybe that's for the best that your lineage will go the way of the dodo 🦤.
and when you put God and His son Jesus Christ first in your life there is no loneliness, just bliss. repent, convert and sin no more. Jesus Christ loves you.
Idk about that xD Men seem happy not being married. Problem is not many guys aren't willing to go out for friends as they used to because of social media and games. Anything that prevents any social interaction pretty much. Another thing is that women culture has changed, and many males are not used to it or don't accept it because it is obviously one-sided. Nothing will change my mind about that, and if you think it isn't, you're insane.
@@yourfriend4104 "Another thing is that women culture has changed, and many males are not used to it or don't accept it" What has changed about women is that they have turned into men. But why should men accept women that have the mindset of a man when, according to their core identity, they are repelled by such mindset in a prospective partner? Surely women are going to realize how unsustainable it is for a society to be composed of predominately masculine women rather than predominately feminine women. Consider the following from one of the greatest living geniuses, professor Sam Vaknin, in his video called "Men’s Last Stand (Women: Listen up! and Taylor Swift)". “Women had come to identify themselves more and more in masculine terms. This is very evident in studies over the last 40 years. Women are becoming, have become, men, actually, for all intents and purposes. And so, by doing so, women have invaded the psycho-social turf, the territory of men. Not in order to obtain equity and equality but in order to challenge and supplant and replace and to substitute for men.” The fundamental problem at the root of all this is the Hegelian master slave dialectic and this problem can only be addressed at this level.
@@Geno-xj9vtBest advice is to be the best version of yourself financially, physically and mentally then get the hell out of the US. Women abroad are far superior and actually women.
I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. Robin Williams
After a terrible marriage with a abusive woman i can say i do not want to waste time in a relationship she sucked all my money, energy and mental health. It was a nightmare. Being single is the best thing that ever happened to me.
Stop hearing those bs label, shaming argument, cherry picking facts, mislead information and we just realize how simple life is. Even with a basic life can make us satisfied.
I want to congratulate all of the single men with no divorce, no kids, and no drama that they invited into their lives. You are champions that didn't fall for societies gimmick and whether you know it or not, your on the green side of life. Hope I meet some of you in my travels.
Problem is whose going to take care of us when we get old and alone? Id rather at least try and get a woman, child and if it doesn't work out then at least I can tend to my child. Idk, just living life alone sounds depressing
@@jponz85 everyone dies alone and the fantasy of passing away at your death bed surrounded by your wife and kids is just that - a fantasy. Make enough money to exit on your own terms. Many married men leave this earth under assisted living care
I stopped looking for dating simply because alot of women (not all of them) nowadays are simply not relationship material. They come in with these unrealistic expectations and standards while having a bunch of baggage or trauma from their past that you're supposed to just accept with open arms. It doesn't help that we've also made it the norm where a man simply glancing at a woman is now considered "creepy".
I'm with you - there was only a couple girls I thought about marrying when I was younger - but even then they were still flighty enough that I could not see myself with them The politicians and MSM have all been pushing the narrative that men are the problem in our society - when they are guilty of tearing down our society. I have no interest in any woman that debts. diseases, or a child/children from a previous relationship unless she was widowed - the poor choices she made in the past are her responsibility - not mine
Millennial girls were extremely fearful and Gen Z even moreso, so I never even glance at them. I think a lot of guys are the same way, we just immediately look away because we don’t want them to “catch” us. The ironic thing is they are looking while we’re looking away to check where we’re looking. It’s not that we’re intimidated, it’s that we sense how fearful they are and want to reassure them.
But they can take everything you work for and everything you create, and consume and desrity it, along with society. They couldn't care less. Women have always been no sighted when it comes to the future. This is because it is always men who make sacrifices. All women got is their shaming language.
As a young man, dating is rough. You have to meet standards. You have to be a certain height, financial level, attractiveness, if not good luck. When you hear” Men ain’t shit!” Well what are we supposed to do 🤷🏾♂️. I’d rather focus on myself and be happy.
As a man we should meet standards, much like we should have standards for women. You have been alive long enough to understand what those standards are for men and to have found a way to achieve them. It seems like men are mad that they can't find a woman for themselves. As far as "men ain't shit", as a man I feel that way about the younger generation men nowadays. They completely lack masculinity and the baseline skills that men should have.
Maybe lower your standards. I see young people both 3's themselves and both are wanting 7's and higher. Back when I was young you knew your dating pool. Nerdy girls and guys dated. The unattractive people dated and the good looking people dated. Women are just as bad. I see young 200 lb women with a face of makeup thinking they are a 10 😂. Cheer up and lower your standards if you yourself are not that great looks or financially
Also do not be afraid to approach a women. It's better when she is not in a group of friends and don't be afraid of rejection you will never see them again
that disconnect already existed, que the demo reel of the 90's and 80's newsfeeds of the social and political trends that created the modern era. Social media just gave that mad world one big social pot instead of the tiny little ones in your local community. Now everyone has to deal with the nutcases in every corner of the planet and must have an opinion of what they ate for breakfast! :D
Boxer Sugar Shane Moseley fought in the ring, took punches to the face, yet divorce court decided he had to give his championship belts to his ex wife who never did anything. Dr. Dre produced all the hits, spent hours in the studio yet divorce court tore up the prenup and gave his ex wife money even though she didn’t even sing back up.
I've been married for over a decade. Choose the wrong one and you'll wish you single. A good marriage is better than a good single life but a bad marriage is worse than a bad single life.
@@RandJ1996 I fell off that cliff. Sex is destroying the selection process. Attraction is important but people need to know dating is a series of job interviews and a marriage is basically a joint business venture, not a group vacation.
@@Gunshinzero agreed, but I'm not sure if I would go as far as saying business venture. BUT I put VERY little value (if any at all) on my materialistic possessions or money etc. Relationships and experiences are far more important (to me).
@@RandJ1996 You know that saying, "mind your business". Now it's your (plural) business if you get married. Enjoying a person is great but there is utility in a marriage. Starting a family is basically creating and organization. So you have personnel, facilities, income, expenses, goals, etc. All of those have to be managed by you and if you don't have a good management system of the day to day life quality tasks your enjoyment if each other will almost never carry the relationship. It's like being roommates with your best friend but he skips rent due to poor money management. Sooner or later that friendly love will cook down, at least until they move out and your business isn't mixed.
Men are done. When Tom Brady, who is in the top 1% of the top 1% of men can’t keep a modern woman happy, what chance do the rest of us have?!?!? Men are done, and we are now focusing on ourselves for the first time in human history. Here endeth the lesson.
@@P.90.603 Says who? Gisele herself said the reason was "they grew apart" so maybe it more likely that she got bored because he was on the road so much? So maybe, it was, yet again, the woman's fault and you just maybe don't want to accept that?
I’m 36 years old, just ended a 9 year relationship two months ago. I have met some women and gone on some dates, I’ve noticed that a lot of these girls are highly influenced by feminist youtubers or tiktokers whose material is based on making women feel entitled just because! During a date, a girl said she wanted this and that and be treated like a queen and she went as far as asking me how much money I made, all on that one first date! I asked her why she was talking about all of that and she said “because I know my worth”, I asked “what do you bring to the table?” She started talking gibberish, a whole lot of nothing. i got up and said good night!
They know it, they just don't admit it. Dating app data shows less than 5% of men on dating apps get matches, yet most women get matches. Women would rather share a man than have one they perceive to be of low status.
I'm calling BS, because I'm hearing and seeing the exact opposite in practice, AND despite the repeal of Roe v Wade, birth rates are still dropping. Which is 100% a good thing.
Yep. Born in 1973, and being a kid in the 80s, to high school in the 90s was awesome. Gen X used up the last of everything good, and left the backwash for the following generations. sorry.
The comments are so funny. When men end relationships, it's because they realize they don't need anyone and have inner peace. When women end relationships, it's because they just found the next best thing. Women are never single. They are always in a relationship, situationship, "just dating", "just talking", or my personal favorite.... "We're just friends". My message to men: Pursue your own interests, pursue your own hobbies, and stay off social media. If you have inner peace being single, cultivate it. Because it's much better than chasing the cheese running on the hamster wheel. Let the others exhaust themselves on the wheel. It's better to not get on. I see beautiful, pretty, and average women all the time. Coffee shops, bars, shopping centers. Just stand back and admire them. And admire the fact that you're not the one putting up with their B.S.
according to Pew, 62% of single women are not looking to date while only 37% of single men are not looking to date. Why do you form opinions around assumptions that you could easily just fact check?
@Mr.Anti-Hero I hope you aren't talking about harming yourself in any way, that would end your life. If you are, please don't do that, it's not worth it. Give Jesus a try if you haven't yet. I know life can be hard sometimes, God Bless. 🕊️
Women can be very quick to decry “hatred” when you calmly/neutrally state facts/data/observations that potentially paint women in a bad light, even if it’s indirectly or by implication.
I'm 63, and ran around chasing and dating women up until 9-10 years ago. I am much happier now, hanging out with cats and dogs. No people, no drama. I socialize at work only. People suck, these days.
I know what you mean, this is the day and age where animals have never been this loved till now. I might be making my German Shepherd a little to timid. Well at least his very happy and well loved after all he is my best mate. Love the way he comes racing out to see me when I get up and make a Macchiato.
I have a cat, a dog and a ferret. They were all raised up from lil babies together. It's non-stop comedy when I get home from work. Critters flying everywhere. @@adriansumner1412
At least you had the chance to date and chase, boomer. God you’re so blind to how good you had it. Literally the best possible American experience, seriously f you
As an almost 20 year old male, I think I can speak for other men in saying that I don’t have time to be in a committed relationship as I’m just trying to get by financially.
I'm 20 and have only had one girlfriend, but it wasn't really a real relationship, just a dumb middle school thing. But yeah I've gotten rejected by pretty much every girl I've ever been interested relationship-wise (probably around several dozen). At this point in my life I'm focusing more on school, hobbies, and developing my professional career.
As a woman I will tell you dear you’re doing the right thing. Focus and build yourself. Build the best life you can think of for yourself. Workout, take care of your body. The women will come. Build the life and yourself fully. Find your happiness and create a great life. The women will come. ❤
@@TruthesekerWomen aren’t just going to SHOW UP. Your giving him the worst advice possible- to just wait, which is literally advice you’d give a woman. He should either accept he’ll be alone, or radically change his personality.
@@aidanmurray7319 I am saying he should become his best self. Women are very attracted to men who are strong in themselves and are self aware. Women notice the intangibles about men. He is young and has time to live a good life and meet women. He won’t be alone the rest of his life geez. They won’t magically appear but he definitely has a better chance at finding a healthy relationship once he knows himself and builds himself. Him being strong in himself will definitely attract the right kind of woman. Let him take what he needs and discard what he doesn’t from my comment.
@@aidanmurray7319Personalities don’t radically change unless there are drugs or mental illness involved. Behaviors can be modified through pinpointing maladaptive schemas. Those would be thinking that you have to be alone because you were rejected once. Or that porn is what real sex should be like. These are dysfunctional thoughts that can be unlearned.
I had a date with a girl who said her parents were so special because when they met the dad had no money and nothing to his name. And she said her mom was special because her mom stayed with the dad through thick and thin. The same girl also mocked me for being a college student with no money to go out to fancy restaurants A lot of women cannot see their own hypocrisy and i think it is because they have the illusion of infinite options. .
Yup. There's not a single man alive who does not know a father, brother, uncle, nephew, friend or acquaintance who have not been shafted in and by the 'Family' Court. Forewarned is forearmed.
@@blueteopadsnice5486race, height, and wealth preference is soooo apparent among young women now. Now men have to be 6’0, born into wealth, white (yes after blm women have been fetishizing white men more), and bend over for women.
Fr. Simply complimenting or asking a woman a question is already a coin toss if you’re gonna be accused of harassment. Dating and flirting these days is like a minefield or defusing a bomb where one wrong move and it’s over. Only stress comes out of it
I’m 43 and I’ve noticed this shift gradually over the last 20 years. Social media has filled the gap of social needs of many rather than actually going out and having meaningful relationships, either romantically and platonically. There is a reason we have an anxiety and depression problem in this country. A lot of people have become shut ins and some (not all of them) haven’t developed the social skills to function in a public setting and that brings a lot of anxiety to some.
@@P.90.603 I never go on social media to meet people because I’m not very trusting of people, so it’s important for me to always have a face to face conversation for the beginning.
@@felixrodriguez-rivera1787 please don’t get offended by my reply. I’m just trying to help. I’m not trying to be mean. But I’m not sure if you understood the guest and what he was saying. 75 years ago there were none of these problems. And the internet is NOT the cause of these problems today. It’s not that men need to be held accountable to be socially and emotionally competent. It’s because the government and all our institutions have begun to eradicate the middle class. That begins with taxation and allocation of resources. With the current trickle down economics only the elite, top 10% are seen by women as having enough resources to be a viable mate. And most men don’t have the education and career that makes them attractive to females because we, the country, the government, have not given them the economic opportunity to do so.
No. The cost of marriage is too high. If you cannot afford kids, don't get married. When society takes the child rearing income and uses it for rent, then making babies is economically impossible. Unless you are so poor, you are on welfare and just don't connect to raising them outside of gangs.
You know it. When fake news CNN starts talking about the effects of liberal toxic feminism and governments contributing to the handouts and breakdown of the traditional family…..you know the left is in trouble 😂
@@mackayladavis4021 I was more so talking about the loneliness and isolation aspect 70% of men 18-35 choosing to not participate in society can not end well
@Mackayla Davis i don't believe anyone has said that. What we are saying is it gets lonely. I'm assuming u a female. U don't and will never understand struggles of a man
Factors not mentioned in this video. 1 When a man approaches a woman for a date and gets turned down because he does not meet her standards, he's going to stop approaching women. 2 Look at the divorce rate. She'll accept him until she finds someone better, then in the divorce, he loses everything he's worked for. By not getting married, he loses nothing, and that translates into, no point in dating. 3 Not all men are on drugs or stupid. They see where others have made mistakes and they will avoid making the same mistakes, ei, don't bother with women. It's simply not worth it.
Not only that women have unrealistic standards wanting a man thats over 6 feet tall, also making six figures, and attractive. Yet when men have realistic standards like not wanting single moms, not wanting obese women, or not wanting a promiscuous woman (women can reasonably control these) men get shamed for it. And dont get me started on false accusations and how easy it is for a woman to ruin a mans life and reputation. Being single for a guy = more money, more freedom, less stress, drama, etc...
@@cdow5769 Do you ever go outside? I see countless couples and most men are not 6 foot at all and just average looking as well as the women they are with. It's everywhere and these are young people in their 20s and 30's.
I'm shocked CNN covered this. This guy is absolutely right; some how, talking about men's issues is mistakenly seen as anti-woman misogynistic. It is not. That attitude is exactly what has gotten our entire western society to where it is.
Yea, he is dancing around the problem that he doesn't want to actually say, FEMINISM/WOKE/MARXIST/LEFTIST all add up to rejection by both sexes. Thanks to your DEMOCRAT PARTY! MAGA = everything changing direction for the better for young people. Men don't want 30+ year OLD combative females and nobody cares what 30+ combative females want except them!
As a guy married for twenty one years, I never cheated, never hung out in the bars with the guys, never once hit her, made good money and provided a beautiful home, and helped produced two beautiful and successful children. But it was never good enough. She chose to cheat on me, divorce me, and to finally marry a city sewer worker, who was an alcoholic and beat her up. She is now divorced from him too. After having another girlfriend for 13 years who could never commit to anything, I give up. I'd rather put my efforts into something that provides benefits.
Same story here but when she cried to me that here high new husband beat her I laughed and hung up the phone If you lye with dogs you shall rise with flees
Yeah I thought man we’re bluffing when they mention this until I saw the numbers. It’s really a small percentage of men that are creating the generation
This. What's funny is those pool of men the women are dating aren't even necessarily high value males either, most of them are average brokies who don't even look special but they're just very good with bullshitting and attracting women. Most aesthetic, educated and wealthy guys I know aren't actually getting any pussy at all and don't have the confidence to approach women hence they remain invisible to women even if they're much higher value than she is. We live in a upside-down world.
Young men don't have a lot to look forward to. Universities are horrifyingly expensive, Amazon has made it nearly impossible to compete as a small business owner, and computers have replaced so many types of jobs that just about all that's left is security guard or Amazon warehouse worker. The world has become a playground for billionaires and the rest of us have been left to eat scraps.
If you aren’t given a silver spoon, trades, logistics and security/LEO are pretty much all you can choose from as a peasant. Maybe if you work hard and stay competitive you might break $100k by your 50’s, but your back would have given out, your shoulders fragile and knees shattered. Retirement will consist of medical bills, doctor visits, discomfort and diminishing benefits. Office jobs are a luxury we can’t get to until age starts to chip away at our ability, and that’s assuming we aren’t just dropped as a liability.
All the problems you described do also apply to young women. University and housing is equally expensive for women as it is for men. And career opportunities are worse for women than for men - due to (real or implicitly expected) childbearing. That manifest in gender pay gap - men do generally earn more than women.
@@samuela-aegisdottir - women don’t date broke men & men don’t care if a woman is broke - That study on men being payed more was not done properly (fact) - way More is expected of men in terms of being qualified for dating when bare minimum is expected of woman. - men are competing with women in the job market but a man still expected to provide and out earn her to be considered worthy of respect. - quotas exist to hire women just because they’re woman and reject men bc they are men. - men still make up majority of dangerous “dirty” jobs that maintain infrastructure of civilization but these jobs are not considered “sexy” compared to a corporate job bc women overwhelmingly go into desk jobs that require college degrees. - More women are going to college than men now and they want a man to also have a college degree bc hypergamy.
Marriage pros and cons? Cons: Getting cheated on, losing 50% of everything, paying alimony, paying child support for 18 years, toxicity, stress, depression, getting blamed for everything.
I mean when you slowly remove all the places to meet other people that aren't purely for drinking alcohol and replace that with social media this tends to happen
Agreed, and worse. Every traditional mate-meeting spot (schools, colleges, work, church, etc.) has been eliminated by peer pressures, policies, or harassment laws. Women can literally destroy a man with an allegation no matter how absurd, triggering armed police agents to arrest him and a myriad of state weapons to use (red-flats, domestic violence, sex assault, etc.) ranging from loss of assets, lawyers fees, loss of gun rights, and often PRISON.... Women are naturally vindictive and have huge $$$ incentives if there is marital property involved.
Yeah but you guys could still go to parks or whatever like why are you guys all freaks as soon as they remove the socialization place you guys just gave up on the concept almost like it was all routine anyway
I’ve never had a girlfriend and probably will go my entire life without one too. It’s sad but I’ve accepted reality for what it is and just thank god for being alive and healthy
@@ameripharmalaboratorio4427 No disrespect but, sex with love and bond is way more overrated. At least when your pay, you both know what to expect and do
That's kinda true, I think some of us were taught about having a bond to have sex and some not, both things are right, but the main problem here is that women standards to have sex have skyrocketed and we cant keep the rate of natality with the rate of deaths and they can put the blame on us like it´s always been, but women decide who have sex or have children, they didnt have that power before the pill or those methods to avoid getting pregnant @@777kiya
That may be my reality. Now I've had relationships in the past with girls but nothing ever stuck and they were way older than me. There are girls I'm interested in but they do not want a relationship and I can respect that, I completely understand.
I have never had a girlfriend either. Go to Latin America or maybe somewhere in south east Asia like the Philippines. And I am sure it will be much easier. I got zero matches on dating site in the US. But if I change my location it is 100 times easier.
Why is it such a problem when men decide to stop dating and stop getting married? Society has been telling women for 50 years that they don't need no man. I think the men are finally getting the message.
Because some of us aren’t doing it out of a decision. Im 22 and would love to have a good woman by my side. The unfortunate reality is they are far and few in between. The only thing I can bank on is snagging one when I’m older.
Many of us guys are giving up on America and getting passports and plane tickets to the Philippines. Lots of sweet, traditional, housewife and mommy types over here.
@@Parzzyval the only problem with that strategy is she'll probably have about two or three kids for two or three different dads, about a fifty body count, 50k in student loans and be working at starbucks. This is when she will reach her epiphany and declare, "I've had my fun and am ready to settle down with a good man" lol. AND THATS YOU!
Having been brought up in Mexico of an American mother and Mexican father and exposed equally to both cultures, I have always noticed that emotional bonds between people in the US are much, much weaker. People don’t have wide social circles. Their nonchalant attitude toward people they should feel close to and just how they greet them, the lack of interest in their lives, is astounding.
We have several Mexican families in my neighborhood and I have noticed this one right off the bat. Americans stay in their back yards, behind a fence and the Mexican families have their Barbeque out front on the lawn and that's where they have their parties and family gatherings. I also have noticed in Europe that people go out. At night the cafes are full of people dining on the sidewalk and younger people hang out in the squares or plazzas...depends on the countries. Americans hide in their houses or fenced in back yards. It's not healthy IMHO.
It's not just young men. I'm in my 40's and have not sought out a date in 7-8 years. I've been burned so horribly bad in the past that I would rather be a little sad and lonely than be emotionally traumatized by false promises and unfaithfulness.
This makes no sense to me ... I'd rather accept unfaithfulness as a fact of life than to die alone... But i judge not... If this works for you, I'm truly happy for you.
@@tok1879 WHAT You'd rather accept unfaithfulness???? or you'd accept the risk of such a thing. Risk is okay, but accepting being crapped on is NOT IMO.
@@Cocoisagordonsetter the worst after accepting the risk is what we refer to as "unfaithfulness"...i don't know, but looking from a POV that's not solely American with its unrelenting and uncompromising desire to have someone only for you and have it purely to yourself... Personally, rather than die by myself, I'd share. Yeah, it doesn't sound as romantic as your feel-good movies and romance novels but IMO dying by myself sounds even less romantic. Unfortunately life is not like Disney movies for everyone.
@@tok1879 Interesting point of view and I came to a similar conclusion (although I took sex out of the equation, and I'm just happy having good friends). I found that Disney ideals don't live up to our expectations irl: either you feel trapped, or your partner feels trapped. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ But maybe I just didn't meet the right guy. Not that it matters. I'm convinced people can find happiness outside the Disney model. And it's damaging to tell them otherwise.
No, they just want to marry a man that isn't abusive, can hold a job (like many of the women), take care of their children regardless if still romantically involved with the child's mother, and not have an arrest record longer than the Mississippi.
Watch Kevin Samuels or Kendra G… or any red pill podcast… they all want 6 figures, 6 feet, Alpha… and most of them are bottom of the barrel women looking for this… unrealistic expectations 😢
Yeah, most of those positive men groups just want to be left alone. From what I've seen, the men would prefer to be with women. But since the majority of women are entitled, demanding and harshly dump the average guy, they just get turned off. Don't know why the marketing prof. was given so much air time on here. Marriage and dating is an ever-changing atmosphere since the industrial revolution. You can't go backwards in things and certainly not with government programs. People will come up with new, better systems that they prefer. Western people have only married primarily for love for about 125 years or so. We don't have it figured out or even know if that's the best way.
doesn't matter who is to blame; no one is going to do anything for you if you are a man. Your only choice is to figure it out for yourself. (your odds of finding a 'sugar mommy' (that is, the male equivalent of sugar daddies women have) are slim to none, and slim just left town).
I think a lot of them don't even care any more. The number of women I have seen describing themselves as being in "situationships" or "it's complicated" have sky-rocketed.
Larger amount of women dating other women compared to men in a relationship with other men A substantial amount of 24-29 year old women, especially 26-29 year old women have male partners old enough they fall out of the equivalent 18-29 age group Female scarcity is real up until 50s & late 40s - this is when men start dying off. 103-105 boys are born every year for every 100 girls. So teen boys, twenty something men & thirty something men always outnumber age matched women.
Don't give up young man. I didn't find the right partner until I was 40 years old, but we've been married for 20 years now. When you give up, your chances go to zero.
Find a social group of people that do things you like. But stay away from women. They just want your paycheck and home. And the police and judges almost always side with them
I'm 50 years old. I can tell younger people this. Everything changed upside down from the year 2000, and it ain't getting any better. People have become Androids without realising it. When life had no apps and socials, society was the opposite of what it is today. It's truly depressing.
This is true, but it got exponentially worse in the 2010s. You could still run in-person game on girls back in the 2000s, and most girls were friendly and receptive to it. MySpace and FB were around in that decade, but it didn't stop people from communicating face-to-face, as compared to today. Now, after TikTok, IG, Tinder, Bumble, Only Fans, etc. took over, society is done.
As a 50yo man I agree it's gotten much much worse since the launch of the web! I believe this gave women too many choices and too much free attention that they used to have to earn from the few men they saw in real life. I still remember when lots of guys were dating women above them in looks but this seems much more rare now. As a single father I figured I would probably die alone as I don't get much attention and when I do they usually are not good people. I even find women my age set in ways and expecting something they shouldn't! This extreme pickiness is killing society! It's causing social problems men are Not meant to be alone. I mean God created women just for us men to keep us company and help us in life but since so many girls don't believe in God today they sleep with each other and have a higher body count than I do at age 50! We men who want a family which is very good for society must find a willing partner in order to build this family and unfortunately they usually leave you after a few years from "I'm just not happy anymore" or "it's not you it's me". We need to get back to reality average women need to love average men again please for the future of society! 💯 🙏
Dating is exhausting and soul crushing. Better to be alone than with someone who makes you miserable. And who wants to bring kids into this mess of a world ? I watched my parents divorce and it was traumatic. No way. Not worth it.
Crazy as it sounds, I'm at the point where I'd almost rather date a single mother than try to have biological kids of my own. In this climate, it's better to help take care of kids that already exist, instead of bringing new ones into this nightmare world.
@@Zalis116 I was nodding my head the entire time reading your post. It's not being pessimistic. Things are really bad out there. I couldn't have children with the amount of narcissism and violence. It's very sad how things are going
@@sudo3870 and if you marry her and get divorced there’s a high probability you will have to pay child support for kids that aren’t even yours. Stay away from single moms. Most of them just want you for your resources.
The important thing to note here is that young men aren't just failing to find romantic relationships, they're failing at finding any sort of relationship. 1 in 7 young men don't have any close friends. It was 1 in 33 for the previous generation. Human beings have lost their sense of community, and it's effecting young men the most because women do have some built-in solidarity through political and social movements. Young men don't.
It has to do with social media, the internet, and video games. A large percentage of guys in these younger generations get their social needs fulfilled through these outlets which leads to them spending a lot more time alone at home and becoming less and less socialized. When (or if) at some point they do want to find a relationship, they struggle because they don't have experience and because they've become socially awkward as a result of the stranglehold that technology has had on them.
Takes money to maintain friendships(going out to eat, birthdays etc etc), same as it takes money to have a decent dating life. The low wages relative to cost of living are the real reason behind the majority of these social issues.
If young men are not capable of forming and maintaining friendships would you consider them mentally healthy and fit to form a romantic relationship with your daughter?
I wouldn’t say women have it built in through political movements. Most women I know are not super political. I think it’s cultural. Women are encouraged to open up emotionally with each other, whereas I’ve heard from men that if they open up with another man they get made fun of or it gets brushed off: “you’ll figure it out bro.” So it’s up to men individually, and dominant culture through media to start changing that narrative.
85% of all divorces are the women’s idea. Why would any man work hard and try to be successful knowing that if he gets married he’ll become a part time dad, lose half of everything and pay these 85% ters a monthly check for years? Dating is the best example how modern women objectify men………”does it have a good job?, does it drive a nice car?, does it live in a nice place?, does it have money? No thanks.
As long as 80% of the women are chasing 20% of the men, we are going to have a LOT of men withdraw from the market, other men capitalize on their position to run through as many women as possible without commitment, and a ton of women wondering where all of the “good men” have gone while 20-30 walk past them unseen every day.
@@GrowMasterGeneral Your argument is correct and incorrect. You are correct in saying that women will be more attracted to the more stable individuals who've built their lives up. It is also correct to not necessarily blame the women for this. However it is incredibly stupid to undermine men by saying "they need to learn how to be real men", still trying to shift the blame on men as much as possible and ignoring any amount of necessary context. Some people aren't capable of getting fit, some aren't capable of attaining financial security, some aren't capable of owning a house or resources, ect. Your argument is an unfair and idealistic view of what men should be. Again, not wrong to seek high standards. But stating that those high standards should be baseline is ridiculous. The other problem is that society does have a double standard and will not hold women to the same degree. And if you do then you will be vilified.
@koreyardoin3695 Yeah, so the point I'm making is that men can do things to make themselves more attractive to women and also that women have delusional standards. Two things can be true at once. Go figure. Men are no longer taught how to do the things that make them attractive to women. The key here is doing the things that make you a "provider" and "protector". As advanced as a species that we are.. we are still running on caveman software. Millions of years of evolution won't be undone by a few decades of wokeness (for lack of a better term). I'm not shifting the blame on men.. which is why I said "it only paints half the picture".. "it" being the fact that 80% of women are chasing the top 20% of men. Half the blame lays squarely on women's delusional standards... (and the other on men lacking drive and ambition). Those standards are based in evolutionary psychology. Women, in general, are not going to be attracted to low-income (provider) men who are physically weak (protector). You say some men are incapable of these things (true), and these men will remain single. The good new is, most men are capable of attaining these things. It's not easy, but it is possible. If it was easy, then everyone would do it, and it would lose it's value. "But stating that those high standards should be baseline is ridiculous.".... I never stated what "should be" only what "is". Millions of years of evolution has made it so. Women are attracted to providers (i.e. high-income earners) and protectors (i.e. physically fit). And if you want to attract a women, then you have to attain these things to the best of your ability. Sorry, but women are not attracted to their pudgy Uber drivers. I'm simply a messenger of what "is", not stating what "should be". So, in short, men can do things to make themselves more attractive to women. And women have delusional standards that won't go away because it's based in evolutionary psychology. Which is why we (men) have to do the things that woman are attracted to, if you want to attract a woman. Don't expect woman to drop their standards. It's deeply instinctive. You can tell women all you want that they have unrealistic and delusional standards, but it won't change their mind on who they're attracted to.
He kind of glosses over it here, but that "Loss of the 3rd Place" thing is actually a huge goddamn deal, not only for dating but society in general. There are a few people and books who go more into depth about this topic (like NotJustBikes, Charles McMohan etc.) but basically the idea of the "3rd Place" - a place (or places) where you can regularly, easily, casually and reliably be around other people has almost been completely wiped out in the US. Or just the concept of regularly being around people who aren't your coworkers or family in general. The two leading factors of this decline are economic - working harder, longer hours for less pay and less time off, travelling more for work etc. - but also physical; we physically destroyed the concept of the "3rd Place" by designing everything around the personal automobile which is the anti-thesis of the "3rd Place" because of the physical separation it creates and space it demands. If you want to create a society of lonely, friendless, loveless people (and probably a bit sociopathic) then you really can't do any better than not only working them to the bone but also making it damn near physically impossible to casually be around people without effort.
well women are not ready for a lasting relationship why do you think Americans move to other countries and stay there its not like you cant get the same health care elswhere for better and cheaper
Social media is to blame. I’m 37 years old and haven’t had sex in over two years. It’s because no one wants to take the time to get to know each other or women expect you to be what they want you to be as opposed to getting to know who you are as a person. Our society is failing men in general not just young men.
Men have lost all ability of the art of communication. I lose interest fast when a guy starts texting stupid stuff like “hey” and “wyd” and every interaction is either one word or abbreviation or he just resorts to sending pics or videos instead of asking questions trying to get to know me, or telling me anything about himself. It is like they have no freaking clue of how to even carry on a conversation or anything. This is one reason I usually try to meet people in the real world - in hopes that they aren’t so backwards socially. I just feel like these types are just trying to waste my time online because they are just bored and want to annoy someone. No communication is an absolute dealbreaker for me and I am not that hard to talk to. I just refuse to be carrying the entire conversation and only getting one word responses from an uninterested individual. If I cannot get to know you, then don’t be wasting my time. Plain and simple.
And to be honest, too many men seem to only be interested in having sex instead of actually getting to know somebody. This is another reason why I don’t bother with men who don’t communicate properly. I am not looking for sex, I am looking for a relationship.
I’m 49. Had relationships with Women. Been married and divorced. I’ve been single 5 years apart from a relationship I had recently which lasted 2 months. I ended it because I realised I’m happier, more content living alone. No drama. No pointless arguments. I value my peace of mind.
Marriage was a necessary union when women were reliant on men giving them shelter, and providing for them, these days they simply DON'T NEED MAN. Humanity shot itself in the foot with the Feminist Movement which has now morphed into the LGBTFQ.
@@danielbroomhall8882 I have an 18 year old daughter. She comes to stay for a week every month or so. She was always a great kid when she was growing up. Was lucky that way. Never had one bit of bother with her.
How is living alone equivalent to no relationships? I know many people who always lived along and always had relationships. There is no mutual exclusion. maybe some of the stress is a matter of defining what relationships are. My wife's relationships before I knew her have stayed intact. Each of them has its own definition.
@@JimMork Most women want a relationship to progress into something more than I actually want. Move in together etc. I would be happy with a casual fuck buddy but there are very few women want that. I can live without sex or a relationship. I don’t need other people to make me feel happy or content. I’m not really a people person. Can only take company for small periods of time.
@@JimMork You're a guy, guys are mostly able to cope with loneliness. Not women. This article/news like many others with liberal/feminist agendas is deliberately pointed at the wrong direction to give everyone the wrong impression.
Google this: 70% of divorces are initiated by women and 90% plus if they've been to college! And WHO comes out the loser financially and in other ways, including losing their kids, after a divorce most of the time? THERE'S YOUR ANSWER AS TO WHY MEN ARE NO LONGER LOOKING IN THE US, EUROPE AND ARE MOVING OVERSEAS INSTEAD!
@@UlrichW-mm8yzTHANK YOU for pointing that out! Women with AWESOME dads, are less likely to deal with a low count, no count dude. Hell, her dad (granddad & uncles) won’t allow it. If over 30, sometimes wedding money gets flipped to her first house money.
@@Captain_Insano_nomercyAMAZING lightbulb moment - that’s the POV of fatherless daughters or abused daughters. Statistically, men have done much more mis-deeds as awful dads compared to awful moms (who fly under the radar IMO). Had there been tougher accountability, we’d have fewer bad parents.
@wegotthis247 that's because women don't do obvious and visceral things like beat you, my dad definitely hit us a lot and I was afraid of him for most of my childhood, but women abuse you psychologically and emotionally; there are no bruises or scars from that
I like how Americans love to blame "the media" for everything, without realizing it makes them seem like children. Like they re completely impotent, and at the whim of outside forces. "The MEDIA," is actually a series of companies that compete with each other, and give people what they want so they can make money. If your issue is ever with t"the media," your problem is really with yourself. America is a country whose greatest fear is taking responsibility for it's own actions.
The National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) and Mundt- Smith Act 2013 legalized propaganda on the American public and foreign enemies. WhitEU The "patriot act" from 2001 was the official start of spying on american people. The two you mention are its' natural evolution because the stupid muricans never demanded it be repelled and its creators hanged for high treason. Once that "act" passed and esisted the opposition, which was small because of all the lies and propaganda about the "externl terrorist threat" after the 9/11, the two following , and there are a few more just cannot remember their official names right now, had the door opened for them to march in, fanfares 'n ll.
They literally say the same thing you straight people can't be in relationships because of therapy. You think that caring for someone else is some act of labor that has to be paid for in compensated and be done by a professional. When in actuality throughout human history this has been what people did for each other. Therapy has ruined all of you
I'm a man that divorced at 34. I have a child with my ex-wife and I'm forever grateful for that. I dated for over 6 years after the divorce with no rush in mind doing the online thing and just naturally meeting woman through daily routines. What i have realized as i got older (40ish now) is that I'm happy single and my need for a life partner has diminished. I'm more than fine alone, I'm happy and content as a single person in this life with no regrets or gripe.
Same exact situation barring no children in tow, but same age as you. Dated some here and there. The women I've dated in their 30s are just leftovers from nobody wanting to deal with them in their 20s. They do end up getting married to some simp. The zest to find romance is gone. Looking forward to getting older and further away from the dating scene.
I'm over 50 and if you're like me, you'll grow into that even more. I would never be in a live-in relationship of any kind, I cherish my space and time. I spend money on young women to take care of my desires, and it's the best option I could ever have. Also have a substantial social circle. A woman would just be a burden, and most men know that.
"Men are sexless and lonely." Just because men aren't dating these "new age" women doesn't mean that they are lonely. They are just smart. It's not worth it being cheated on or left when she gets "bored".
Women actually cheat themselves from having a great time and potentially being with someone who is more mature articulate and humorous and someone you can have proper adult conversations with. But instead they go for guys they know will only provide a temporary thrill due to maximum sex appeal a lot of guys that get turned down are well built and work out and also work hard but its still not good enough for them. This is why I'll be moving to bali to see my large bum girlfriend 😊
Ever notice so many mass killers are single white males? check it out- living in their parents' basement? not getting laid- if they are hanging with a babe - they are not thinking about MANIFESTOS. Dudes -rejections are a major part of life- sometimes it not u and she will never share with u -if it is her. Most of the time it is U- BUT SO WHAT? GROW SOME!
I'm 40 and I gave up on dating and relationships because I spent the past 20 years of my life trying to find love and realized that none of those women truly loved me. I kept at it for 20 years because women would say "pick better" or "you haven't found the right one" The hard truth is there are no unicorns. The only woman that truly loved me for me was my mother may her soul rest in peace. Now I'm in a loving relationship with myself. All the love and energy I used to give to women now I give it to myself.
At least you had a mother who loved you. God bless her. But when I was 13 my own mother threw me out the house after she came home from going out. I’m 23 now. Haven’t talked to her since.
Several years ago, after my divorce, I started online dating. I was in my mid 50s, with a professional career and middle class lifestyle. The number of lonely women I met who were in their mid 40s to mid 50s was staggering. Most of them used me as their therapist. Many were emotional wrecks, still angry with their ex husbands. Some of them had unrealistic expectations in wanting a man who would “take care” of them. The constant refrain I heard from them was how difficult it was for them to find any decent men.
You have my sympathy. You must be a man of fortitude. Leave all the emotional basket cases with their kitty-cats and find yourself a dreamy, young honey down in the tropical south. You've earned it and they'll keep you happy.
Spent my entire 20s being depressed and thinking I needed a girl in my life. But once I realized happiness comes from with-in, I stopped looking for someone else to make me happy. You also become stronger and more attractive, and feel a sense of self worth. Don't worry about what women want, care about what YOU want! and let women do what they do. You just might discover how great Life can be and people will flock towards that energy :) men, women and everything in between alike.
@@Waterdiver3900 We live in a world of very powerful and hypnotizing false Gods, like celebrities, politicians, social justice warriors, and social media amplifications of these false idols.
“ lost the abillity to love “ I have sort thought that too, but i also think that people dont DARE to love. Its rare that people actually dare to love to the extend where you dare to invest yourself into the relationship. Im talking about an emotional investment.
Honestly the biggest problem with dating is that the majority of woman all feel as though they deserve/entitled to a top 10% man and that’s it. The other 90% are so beneath them that it isn’t even a consideration. I don’t know if this was social media or society that have propped them up on these fragile pedestals.
To be fair, I know a lot of men who feel the same way. Some of my mates wouldn't even look at a woman with the wrong body type. I'm not even talking unhealthy weight either. Just the wrong genetics.
I am a woman and not looking for a top 10% man. I don't need man of any specific appearance or of high income. I need a man who has similar values and compatible lifestyle. Who wants to share housework and childcare equaly. Who takes my feeling seriously and is able to comunicate about his emotions.
Female hypergamy combined with social and economic success. Its that simple. Women date across and up the social spectrum. The more successful they become, increasing amounts of men become invisible to them. Women can increase the amount of available men by focusing on building families first and then pursuing career interests later in life.
After losing everything I owned and becoming in debt from the aftermath of a brutal separation, I don’t think I can bear another loss like that at my age. If I lose everything again, I may end up homeless.
“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” - Robin Williams
Robin Williams was the best...
@@melchiorlise2466 Took 3 wives for him to finally decide that death was preferable.
@@omganotherun You're comment made laugh but it's true some men go through hell with women which i most likely won't because i don't plan on ever getting in a serious relationship.
@@omganotherun You do realize some men are happy with their wives though right ?
@@melchiorlise2466 Totally true. Now examine the data. The divorce rate, who files for divorce, the results on men in Family Court, the % of couples who are simply miserable together "cheaper to keep her". Would you buy a car that has a well over 50% chance of exploding? Honestly, most men would probably prefer the exploding car to the exploding family and the demographic data proves it. The soon to be majority of men are not dodging happiness, they are dodging misery. Less of one, more of the other. It is a rational decision.
Dating for men is like paying for a job interview.
so..... I quit 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well said. It feels eerily similar.
For a job that you would have to pay them instead of them paying you.
Why waste your time and money applying for jobs you don't really want then?
@@marathonog8849 What is a woman supposed to pay a man for might I ask? And what will a man offer a woman to put her life on the line to have his child?
I gave up on dating because I was tired of being made to feel both like an ATM and a therapist.
Lol, men are mostly the ones that are treated like ATMs.
welcome to the club.
Don't forget a "r@pist"
Maybe some of them were just seeking understanding?
So true
Keep charging 2000 a month for apartments and jobs pay 12 an hour and this is what u get. This society has lost its mind
Wayyyy more to it than that. Social media, for one has destroyed our minds. Truly. But yeah, that's the core of it. In reality, all developed societies seem to have their numbers decline. Births, sex etc.
Yup, inequalities are mainly driven by real estate accumulation by rich
40 hours × $12 = $480
Minus taxes you get $380 weekly
$1,634 per month
@@jonny-b4954 That, and certain trade agreements, globalization, and gross levels of immigration disrupt industry and stagnate wages, which ultimately harms the host population.
Low value people should not mate
Being alone isn't the worst. Being with someone who doesn't love you is worse.
Being alone is the best thing in life
I'd absolutely love to have a partner, but I'm not going to give up who I am in order to have it. I have a steady career, a home of my own and nice cars. I'm stable. However, if I invite someone in my life I'm not doing it at the cost of that stability.
I'm 64 and have been married 40 years... your comment is right on the money!
But having a partner (if that's what you want) is better. I swear I've seen this exact comment on every video I've seen talking about loneliness. We don't gotta focus on what's worse, but more on what's better.
I'm not against having a partner but I'd rather be sure I've made the right choice. I'm not about to gamble away my peace again without knowing if I can trust them when I'm not around. Maybe one day, maybe never.
My grandmother had a great saying "Its better to be alone than to wish you were". Best advice I ever got.
Why is everybody so seemingly terrified about being alone? Are you really that weak, that fearful of venturing forth by yourself? If you have friends who are there for you when you need them, if you have family who love you, what else do you need? WHY do we buy into the scenario presented to us by billionaires and to which we in this filthy rotting capitalist society are brainwashed practically from birth onward that we MUST do this, we MUST do that, we MUST "marry" (even though 50% of American marriages end in divorce) and we MUST reproduce even when we can't afford kids and government does practically ZERO to help those who DO have kids, and so they're now trying to FORCE WOMEN TO HAVE KIDS THEY DON'T WANT. Those people don't give a damn about you or me, they only want more workers to produce more money for them so they can sell their junky products to them, they want them to have tons of babies and make yet more poor people for future generations so they can continue backwards to the time of slavery - and not just for Black people, folks. If you meet somebody and you both fall in love, then go for it. Leave the rest of us alone. It's not a FLAW to be single and not have kids, for pete's sake!
No Money No Honey🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨
Was grandam married? I bet grandma wasn't alone
Put that on a T shirt
Scott Galloway totally nailed this argument. Maybe 5% of the people posting her, give a damn what Scott Galloway said. Everyone else was bitching about everything else and nothing will get done. Scott is correct. We will become Italy or Japan.
If even CNN is covering this, you know it's gotta be bad.
CNN be like : "Girls are picky ?"
Haha
No such thing as a incel just low sexual value dudes who dont like there options. We all want a Ferrari but most of us will have to setttle on a honda. Just settle on what you can realistically get if you keep getting shot down your shoping out of your league. Just like cars houses and life in general you have to be realistic and get what you can get. Take what you can get beggers cant be choosers and dont be a bitter ass hole about it. As bad as you got it some one else has it worse.
If CNN is covering this then it’s actually far worse than it really is
@@praetorian3902 yup they have the right to....we can b picky too if we improve ourselves. Self improvement.
Most women would rather share a top 10% man rather than have an average man all to themselves.
In other words: inc*ls are right, but they still run their mouth too much and say horrible things about women.
They all share a few men.
Stop trying to speak for women. Also no one has to be with an average man
@@nevergiveupbaby1720 nobody has to be with an average woman either. Even though most men would be happy with average. The fact that more and more men are deciding to not bother says a lot.
@@Paul-cu9lu ok? Never said they did but men in general have no problem being with an average woman and that’s reality 🤷♀️
"Be careful who you start dating. A lot of people ain't looking for love, they're looking for help" - Johnny Bravo
Are they mutually exclusive? I would say beware anyone who isn’t flawed or damaged in some way. Everyone is helpless without others.
@@Rnankn It's basically saying that you need to be careful, because some people that try dating you won't do so because they love you, but rather that they want something from you.
In other words, it's a relationship set up for failure as soon as you stop providing what they want. Obviously genuine love is a lot more forgiving than that.
Boom exactly
@@joev3783 they're looking for help with love
Not always a bad thing
the most lonely I've ever felt is sharing my home and resources with someone who doesn't appreciate it. Never again.
Amen bro 😎
I'm right there with you, bro.
Absolutely bro
And ungrateful.
You said a mouth full, but the problem is in order for women ( or people in general) in order for them to be truly appreciative they need to have it bad and I mean great depression bad and those days are coming and going to happen but worse. A great trial is coming to the whole world. Revelation 3:10
To all the single dudes out there that are struggling, I am 30 years old with a 6 figure income, I'm in good shape physically, live a fun lifestyle and have my shit together, and I still never had any luck with dating or relationships. So don't believe in the lie that all you have to do is improve yourself to be successful with dating. It is hard for just about everyone. Improve yourself for you, not for a woman.
Stop fighting it and join the other team.......😅
My ass hurts 🤕@@will7its
it's over
B.S
Improving yourself will make YOU feel good, and that's what counts.
You killed love by downgrading everything men stood for and empowered women to do whatever they want.
Nailed it.
They invested in women and divested in men. And I’m not saying some women don’t need the investment but it’s gotten out of hand.
Love was always a con sold to women. The men weren’t.
Plainly stated.
*_All part of the plan!_*
I truly believe our society's obsession with social media has ruined modern relationships, both romantic and simply friends.
Yeah, dating apps and the pandemic has screwed up dating for all genders.
Social media is to women what porn is to men. Men get the sexual release from porn, and women get their emotional fulfillment from instagram and only fans.
I agree
Absolutely. Social media has destroyed our society and our values as a whole.
an ex said to me "Why don't you post pictures of us on social media?". I said "why?". Her reply. "So people can see how happy we are". That was the beginning of the end for her and i.
My mother always told me "there are worse things in life than your own company". She was right.
I am stepping out here but was it St. Paul who was quoted in the Bible for saying a Chaste Life is a Perfect Life? If you are ever bored read The Wanting Seed written by Anthony Burgess, Burgess also wrote A Clock Work Orange. I wonder if Galloway read The Wanting Seed.
@@GuacamoleyNacho the reason St. Paul said this is because our relationship to God is the most important relationship we can cultivate in our lives. Those who are called to take up a spouse typically have sexual desires they want fulfilled and therefore, taking on a husband/wife in the sacrament of matrimony will allow said person an outlet for this disposition that is pleasing to the Lord. Those who remain unmarried and abstain from sex are able to focus more clearly on scripture and the presence of God in their lives and mortify themselves in this way. You don't even have to be a layman to take on this practice. Though it seems there's a war on marriage during this time, it is true that marriage is not the only way and there are those called to live in abstinence/chastity but, it is something that must be prayed about. Being alone doesn't have to be ostracizing it could just be in the sense of intimate relationship but, you can still be socially involved with loved ones and friends. unless of course, you choose to live as a hermit which is also not wrong. All this to say, there are varying lifestyles you can take on that can be pleasing to the Lord, it is just a matter of how you use your circumstances to glorify and grow closer to Him whether it be through marriage, singleness, or even being a hermit.
I spent my life alone, it suck’s dude, no friends no sex, I’m soon 38… keep thinking it’s fun for a couple years
It does suck to be alone, I won't argue that. I'm 40, and I have been happily married 12 years. The point is that sometimes in the haste to "not be alone" we end up in relationships that make us miserable.
No friends, no girlfriend, and the government still taxes the shit out of you while paying six-figure salaries for local cops.
As a Gen X, I honestly feel we were the last generation to get any enjoyment out of society and jobs. What a mess things are today.
Reading some of these replies...Its like all we did (in my case during early 90s) and older Gen X 80s was hang out, go to malls, movies, downtown, etc. and meet girls like all the time half the time they made the first move and talked to us. I generally wasnt the most outgoing teen either its just thats how it was done. I noticed the world had departed from that and I been bringing those simpler times to today.
Feminism has killed respect for important jobs held by men.
Example: I used to work in water purification plants and sewage. I've left, feeling like I'd never find a relationship if I stayed there. Now the field as a whole is 40% understaffed and infrastructure is crumbling.
Trans-activism and feminism sucked the air out of the room, when demographics showed us that had we not listened to mor0ns who weaponize their ignorance, we should have instead double-downed on infrastructure to make sure we're ready for what is to come.
Why should an individual man do the right thing, when feminism teaches women to do the exact opposite?
I once saw journalists run from my explanations to automate risk management for water systems, shouting : "OH! THERE! A WOMAN ENTREPRENEUR!". That "woman entrepreneur" was selling another crappy yoga-pants-by-mail dead business model.
I'm 36yo. I'm watching the world burn.
yep when college degree mint you could land a stem job.
it's because everything was so much easier
@@sacareapyro6326 Boomer time was the easiest.
It's amazing that none of these reporters ACTUALLY interview any young men to see why they're not dating. 🤔 They don't REALLY want to hear the REAL reason why it's not worth dating nowadays!
@@P.90.603 Do want to talk about the average/ugly women next? Because the vast majority of women, like the vast majority of men, are ugly/average as well. And no, makeup doesn't count. A good coat of makeup could make a pumpkin beautiful.
@@YourHineynesswrong. The majority of women like the top 10 percent of men
Most of which either won't marry or will choose someone younger than these highly accomplished 30+ year old women. @BloodBornShadowWalker
@@BloodBornShadowWalker You're absolutely right.
90% of women for the top 10% of men.
They're "5s", but think they deserve Elon Musk.
Honestly putting up with loneliness is better than putting up with some people.
Too aware now
Agreed. Never ever trust a b*tch.
Amen, brother.
It sounds like you all gave up on life. And in the prime of your life. There are 8 billion people out there and you are saying to me. None of them matches your expectations.
Maybe you're too spoiled or privileged to make a real effort. Maybe that's for the best that your lineage will go the way of the dodo 🦤.
and when you put God and His son Jesus Christ first in your life there is no loneliness, just bliss. repent, convert and sin no more. Jesus Christ loves you.
men single: bad, awfull, the worst
woman single: empowering, amazing, cool
@thebigljare u dumb?
@thebiglj aww, you poor poor thing. too bad nobody cares. life is unfair, stfu and get over it.
Idk about that xD
Men seem happy not being married. Problem is not many guys aren't willing to go out for friends as they used to because of social media and games. Anything that prevents any social interaction pretty much.
Another thing is that women culture has changed, and many males are not used to it or don't accept it because it is obviously one-sided. Nothing will change my mind about that, and if you think it isn't, you're insane.
@@yourfriend4104 "Another thing is that women culture has changed, and many males are not used to it or don't accept it" What has changed about women is that they have turned into men. But why should men accept women that have the mindset of a man when, according to their core identity, they are repelled by such mindset in a prospective partner? Surely women are going to realize how unsustainable it is for a society to be composed of predominately masculine women rather than predominately feminine women. Consider the following from one of the greatest living geniuses, professor Sam Vaknin, in his video called "Men’s Last Stand (Women: Listen up! and Taylor Swift)". “Women had come to identify themselves more and more in masculine terms. This is very evident in studies over the last 40 years. Women are becoming, have become, men, actually, for all intents and purposes. And so, by doing so, women have invaded the psycho-social turf, the territory of men. Not in order to obtain equity and equality but in order to challenge and supplant and replace and to substitute for men.” The fundamental problem at the root of all this is the Hegelian master slave dialectic and this problem can only be addressed at this level.
@@meltingintoair7581You're being emotional. Calm down.
Young men have no interest in women that hate them.
Gillette would agree.
It's simply better to move abroad. Women in Latin America, Asia, Africa and some parts of europe are better
@@D402SI'm Portuguese (Europe). Its terrible here.
Ouch
Women do not have interest in abusers or adults who's brains did not develop
Your point is?
"It's men's fault." That's what I expect to hear from this lol.
You did, between the lines. Us men just need to "Do better" I guess. 😂
@@Geno-xj9vtBest advice is to be the best version of yourself financially, physically and mentally then get the hell out of the US. Women abroad are far superior and actually women.
I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.
Robin Williams
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That's a good quote but look what he did...unfortunately
@vibora 👏💯
@@spittingame4241 That’s why he did what he did. Stay alone!!!
Well said
After a terrible marriage with a abusive woman i can say i do not want to waste time in a relationship she sucked all my money, energy and mental health. It was a nightmare. Being single is the best thing that ever happened to me.
Sounds like she had a mental illness. I've been there too. Glad I'm single and have peace.
wish the best of luck to you in your healing journey.
people from usa, very very Dangerous
@@pelesaudavel7655 thank you 😊
They only want your MEAT. Money Energy Attention and Time. Then move on to the next sucker. The end.
Dating as a men is like making an investment that has a 99% chance of failing I literally almost went broke dating last year .
"A men"?
I have no money but I'm sure if I did, I'd have things I'd rather spend it on than dates.
An attitude like that - Yoda would posit, "That is why you failed."
You're not ready for a family if you can't even afford to go out and meet people.
@@JC-jk3kl nah
Sounds weird coming from someone who isn't American. Sounds brutal there
Social disconnect is a blessing. Life has never been better
Stop hearing those bs label, shaming argument, cherry picking facts, mislead information and we just realize how simple life is. Even with a basic life can make us satisfied.
I want to congratulate all of the single men with no divorce, no kids, and no drama that they invited into their lives. You are champions that didn't fall for societies gimmick and whether you know it or not, your on the green side of life. Hope I meet some of you in my travels.
Me too bro. Women ain't shit in the west.
Problem is whose going to take care of us when we get old and alone? Id rather at least try and get a woman, child and if it doesn't work out then at least I can tend to my child. Idk, just living life alone sounds depressing
@@jponz85 You care more about yourself than your children. Do not reproduce. The world has had enough worthless parents to last a millennium.
I'm 63 and never married. I can highly recommend it.
@@jponz85 everyone dies alone and the fantasy of passing away at your death bed surrounded by your wife and kids is just that - a fantasy. Make enough money to exit on your own terms. Many married men leave this earth under assisted living care
I stopped looking for dating simply because alot of women (not all of them) nowadays are simply not relationship material. They come in with these unrealistic expectations and standards while having a bunch of baggage or trauma from their past that you're supposed to just accept with open arms.
It doesn't help that we've also made it the norm where a man simply glancing at a woman is now considered "creepy".
But they won't accept YOU with open arms. There's the irony.
I'm with you - there was only a couple girls I thought about marrying when I was younger - but even then they were still flighty enough that I could not see myself with them
The politicians and MSM have all been pushing the narrative that men are the problem in our society - when they are guilty of tearing down our society.
I have no interest in any woman that debts. diseases, or a child/children from a previous relationship unless she was widowed - the poor choices she made in the past are her responsibility - not mine
If you’re gross and/or poor, anything you do is creepy.
I never make any eye contact with females at all for that reason
Millennial girls were extremely fearful and Gen Z even moreso, so I never even glance at them. I think a lot of guys are the same way, we just immediately look away because we don’t want them to “catch” us. The ironic thing is they are looking while we’re looking away to check where we’re looking. It’s not that we’re intimidated, it’s that we sense how fearful they are and want to reassure them.
modern women have nothing to offer
You have nothing to offer
@@nonamewillbegiven7228And you're wasting away crying on CNN. Femcel.
Yep. Just ran through pootang and a headache.
But they can take everything you work for and everything you create, and consume and desrity it, along with society. They couldn't care less. Women have always been no sighted when it comes to the future. This is because it is always men who make sacrifices. All women got is their shaming language.
America has the worst women in the world. It's impossible to unsee it after traveling the world and seeing what women in other cultures are like.
As a young man, dating is rough. You have to meet standards. You have to be a certain height, financial level, attractiveness, if not good luck. When you hear” Men ain’t shit!” Well what are we supposed to do 🤷🏾♂️. I’d rather focus on myself and be happy.
As a man we should meet standards, much like we should have standards for women. You have been alive long enough to understand what those standards are for men and to have found a way to achieve them. It seems like men are mad that they can't find a woman for themselves. As far as "men ain't shit", as a man I feel that way about the younger generation men nowadays. They completely lack masculinity and the baseline skills that men should have.
Today women only care how men look.
Maybe lower your standards. I see young people both 3's themselves and both are wanting 7's and higher. Back when I was young you knew your dating pool. Nerdy girls and guys dated. The unattractive people dated and the good looking people dated. Women are just as bad. I see young 200 lb women with a face of makeup thinking they are a 10 😂. Cheer up and lower your standards if you yourself are not that great looks or financially
Also do not be afraid to approach a women. It's better when she is not in a group of friends and don't be afraid of rejection you will never see them again
Its why I don't approach women I realise I'm nowhere near good enough lol
I’m stunned that this information has been presented by CNN.
Same
Same, about time though…
(2:54) He used the keywords to apear in CNN, "conspiracy theory", "misogynistic content", "climate change".
These guys are going to get canceled. They should know better than to engage in wrongthink.
Yet ...it was. Now , will you remain stunned for life ;))))?
Dont yall love how social media connects us virtually and yet, disconnects us in reality? Ah, you gotta love it 👍🏾
Deep 💯
that disconnect already existed, que the demo reel of the 90's and 80's newsfeeds of the social and political trends that created the modern era. Social media just gave that mad world one big social pot instead of the tiny little ones in your local community. Now everyone has to deal with the nutcases in every corner of the planet and must have an opinion of what they ate for breakfast! :D
🎯 will only get worse too
especially with meta, neuralink, starlink…
no lies detected in that statement.
Well Said!
Most women don't like most men, period.
Yes, we don't😂
It depends, but i myself i decided to be single because i hate lies from men
CHEERS!! To the single men with no kids and not divorced. We made it. 🎉🎉
Based
Boxer Sugar Shane Moseley fought in the ring, took punches to the face, yet divorce court decided he had to give his championship belts to his ex wife who never did anything. Dr. Dre produced all the hits, spent hours in the studio yet divorce court tore up the prenup and gave his ex wife money even though she didn’t even sing back up.
Single life is best. No worries, no drama, no expenses
@@gulfstream0079 Agreed
Money and freedom 👌
I've been married for over a decade. Choose the wrong one and you'll wish you single. A good marriage is better than a good single life but a bad marriage is worse than a bad single life.
That's the issue, people are not taking time, being patient, searching hard enough and getting intimate WAY too fast in order to find the right one.
@@RandJ1996 I fell off that cliff. Sex is destroying the selection process. Attraction is important but people need to know dating is a series of job interviews and a marriage is basically a joint business venture, not a group vacation.
@@Gunshinzero agreed, but I'm not sure if I would go as far as saying business venture. BUT I put VERY little value (if any at all) on my materialistic possessions or money etc. Relationships and experiences are far more important (to me).
@@RandJ1996 You know that saying, "mind your business". Now it's your (plural) business if you get married.
Enjoying a person is great but there is utility in a marriage. Starting a family is basically creating and organization. So you have personnel, facilities, income, expenses, goals, etc. All of those have to be managed by you and if you don't have a good management system of the day to day life quality tasks your enjoyment if each other will almost never carry the relationship.
It's like being roommates with your best friend but he skips rent due to poor money management. Sooner or later that friendly love will cook down, at least until they move out and your business isn't mixed.
@@Gunshinzero - Perfect, that's what marriage is about. You become ONE.
Men are done. When Tom Brady, who is in the top 1% of the top 1% of men can’t keep a modern woman happy, what chance do the rest of us have?!?!? Men are done, and we are now focusing on ourselves for the first time in human history. Here endeth the lesson.
@@P.90.603 It's not Tom's fault. Victim blame more.
Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos: both divorced. If they can’t manage it with all the money in the world, what hope do ordinary men have?
I think you mean Western women? Traditional women still exist but they're mostly outside of the Western hemisphere
@@P.90.603 Says who? Gisele herself said the reason was "they grew apart" so maybe it more likely that she got bored because he was on the road so much? So maybe, it was, yet again, the woman's fault and you just maybe don't want to accept that?
We are giving free to women now what our ancestors trade with women.
Yea I’m a guy society has made relationships completely one sided and the approaching of women basically impossible.
I’m 36 years old, just ended a 9 year relationship two months ago. I have met some women and gone on some dates, I’ve noticed that a lot of these girls are highly influenced by feminist youtubers or tiktokers whose material is based on making women feel entitled just because! During a date, a girl said she wanted this and that and be treated like a queen and she went as far as asking me how much money I made, all on that one first date! I asked her why she was talking about all of that and she said “because I know my worth”, I asked “what do you bring to the table?” She started talking gibberish, a whole lot of nothing. i got up and said good night!
Well done. That is precisely how one needs to deal with someone like that, male or female.
More Men need to do this!! "What do you bring to the table??" It would weed out the crazy Disney Programmed Princesses
LMAOOO the girls are crazy bro the game is fucked up nowadays 😂
Good for you, well done!
Being treated like a queen isnt feminism its entitlement. They asked how much money you make because they want a family, with you as the dad
Women being in relationships more than men is basically telling you that women are out here sharing without even knowing it.
They know it, they just don't admit it.
Dating app data shows less than 5% of men on dating apps get matches, yet most women get matches.
Women would rather share a man than have one they perceive to be of low status.
They know and don't care. It's Chad, Brad, Pookie, Ray Ray, Caramello or NUFFIN!
I'm calling BS, because I'm hearing and seeing the exact opposite in practice, AND despite the repeal of Roe v Wade, birth rates are still dropping. Which is 100% a good thing.
Also more are lesbo now than before
this is the biggest awakening for men in HISTORY. period.
The 90’s were the best time growing up. I honestly feel bad for millennials and gen z because they have no idea of what a normal society is
Modern Wohmen are pure evil users, and get what they deserve, they will burn in hell.
Yep. Born in 1973, and being a kid in the 80s, to high school in the 90s was awesome.
Gen X used up the last of everything good, and left the backwash for the following generations.
sorry.
Its really bad nowadays,just look at today's kids and the violence nowadays.
80s better than the 90s
Millennials were born in the early/mid 80s 😂
The comments are so funny.
When men end relationships, it's because they realize they don't need anyone and have inner peace. When women end relationships, it's because they just found the next best thing. Women are never single. They are always in a relationship, situationship, "just dating", "just talking", or my personal favorite.... "We're just friends".
My message to men: Pursue your own interests, pursue your own hobbies, and stay off social media. If you have inner peace being single, cultivate it. Because it's much better than chasing the cheese running on the hamster wheel. Let the others exhaust themselves on the wheel. It's better to not get on.
I see beautiful, pretty, and average women all the time. Coffee shops, bars, shopping centers.
Just stand back and admire them.
And admire the fact that you're not the one putting up with their B.S.
according to Pew, 62% of single women are not looking to date while only 37% of single men are not looking to date.
Why do you form opinions around assumptions that you could easily just fact check?
If society doesn't want you, instead of trying to prove your worth, just say "Adios Amigos" and leave.
Self improvement is masturbstion
@Mr.Anti-Hero I hope you aren't talking about harming yourself in any way, that would end your life. If you are, please don't do that, it's not worth it. Give Jesus a try if you haven't yet.
I know life can be hard sometimes, God Bless. 🕊️
Leave what? No. Find your own purpose.
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3:54 Being "Pro-Men" does not mean being "Anti-Women." I'm glad this interview guest said that.
Lol incel
Being feminist is supposed to be pro men.
"why"
Being pro men is misogynistic
Women can be very quick to decry “hatred” when you calmly/neutrally state facts/data/observations that potentially paint women in a bad light, even if it’s indirectly or by implication.
I'm 63, and ran around chasing and dating women up until 9-10 years ago. I am much happier now, hanging out with cats and dogs. No people, no drama. I socialize at work only. People suck, these days.
I know what you mean, this is the day and age where animals have never been this loved till now. I might be making my German Shepherd a little to timid. Well at least his very happy and well loved after all he is my best mate. Love the way he comes racing out to see me when I get up and make a Macchiato.
I have a cat, a dog and a ferret. They were all raised up from lil babies together. It's non-stop comedy when I get home from work. Critters flying everywhere. @@adriansumner1412
Amen
At least you had the chance to date and chase, boomer. God you’re so blind to how good you had it. Literally the best possible American experience, seriously f you
Feel you bro
Combination of hypergamy and Instagram have spelled the doom of the core family.
That's the real truth they don't wanna admit too! Social Media influence!!
As an almost 20 year old male, I think I can speak for other men in saying that I don’t have time to be in a committed relationship as I’m just trying to get by financially.
Me too. I am 27 and life keeps getting more expensive. Even if I craved romantic relationships, I just can't afford it.
I’m 35 and feel the same way.
Seems to be true of a lot of young people these days. Also why younger people are having less kids..
Dude you're 20. You should be hitting the skins and setting a foundation for your life. Dating wasn't in my vocab at 20.
Do NOT get into a relationship in your 20s. Big waste of time.
I'm 20 and have only had one girlfriend, but it wasn't really a real relationship, just a dumb middle school thing. But yeah I've gotten rejected by pretty much every girl I've ever been interested relationship-wise (probably around several dozen). At this point in my life I'm focusing more on school, hobbies, and developing my professional career.
As a woman I will tell you dear you’re doing the right thing. Focus and build yourself. Build the best life you can think of for yourself. Workout, take care of your body. The women will come. Build the life and yourself fully. Find your happiness and create a great life. The women will come. ❤
@@TruthesekerWomen aren’t just going to SHOW UP. Your giving him the worst advice possible- to just wait, which is literally advice you’d give a woman. He should either accept he’ll be alone, or radically change his personality.
@@aidanmurray7319 I am saying he should become his best self. Women are very attracted to men who are strong in themselves and are self aware. Women notice the intangibles about men. He is young and has time to live a good life and meet women. He won’t be alone the rest of his life geez. They won’t magically appear but he definitely has a better chance at finding a healthy relationship once he knows himself and builds himself. Him being strong in himself will definitely attract the right kind of woman. Let him take what he needs and discard what he doesn’t from my comment.
@@aidanmurray7319Personalities don’t radically change unless there are drugs or mental illness involved. Behaviors can be modified through pinpointing maladaptive schemas. Those would be thinking that you have to be alone because you were rejected once. Or that porn is what real sex should be like. These are dysfunctional thoughts that can be unlearned.
smart young man.. continue to strive.. trust me you aint missing a damn thing out here lol...
I had a date with a girl who said her parents were so special because when they met the dad had no money and nothing to his name. And she said her mom was special because her mom stayed with the dad through thick and thin. The same girl also mocked me for being a college student with no money to go out to fancy restaurants
A lot of women cannot see their own hypocrisy and i think it is because they have the illusion of infinite options. .
Maybe her parents just lied about 'the great love story' to the little princess.
This is why they find ‘The One’ and end up divorced. Females initiate divorces first and most of the time look for the Bigger better deal. 😂
They do in their 20s and early to mid 30s if they haven't had kids yet.
The only infinite options they have is on their backs for a night.
When woman can say anything and have little to no repercussions hypocrisy is but a symptom of the root problem.
Check into the gynocentric unfair divorce laws and you might start understanding this decline.
Yup. There's not a single man alive who does not know a father, brother, uncle, nephew, friend or acquaintance who have not been shafted in and by the 'Family' Court. Forewarned is forearmed.
As a 22 year old guy, it’s more rough than you may think
Being in the dating field is rough for a guy
@@blueteopadsnice5486race, height, and wealth preference is soooo apparent among young women now. Now men have to be 6’0, born into wealth, white (yes after blm women have been fetishizing white men more), and bend over for women.
As a 20 year old, I feel you. Years pass in between each “fling” or little relationship, gets lonely a lot of the time.
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Fr. Simply complimenting or asking a woman a question is already a coin toss if you’re gonna be accused of harassment. Dating and flirting these days is like a minefield or defusing a bomb where one wrong move and it’s over. Only stress comes out of it
I’m 43 and I’ve noticed this shift gradually over the last 20 years. Social media has filled the gap of social needs of many rather than actually going out and having meaningful relationships, either romantically and platonically. There is a reason we have an anxiety and depression problem in this country. A lot of people have become shut ins and some (not all of them) haven’t developed the social skills to function in a public setting and that brings a lot of anxiety to some.
@@felixrodriguez-rivera1787 You go girl!
@@P.90.603 And a lot of people go on social media today and meet the worse kind of people.
@@P.90.603 I never go on social media to meet people because I’m not very trusting of people, so it’s important for me to always have a face to face conversation for the beginning.
@@felixrodriguez-rivera1787 please don’t get offended by my reply. I’m just trying to help. I’m not trying to be mean. But I’m not sure if you understood the guest and what he was saying. 75 years ago there were none of these problems. And the internet is NOT the cause of these problems today. It’s not that men need to be held accountable to be socially and emotionally competent. It’s because the government and all our institutions have begun to eradicate the middle class. That begins with taxation and allocation of resources. With the current trickle down economics only the elite, top 10% are seen by women as having enough resources to be a viable mate. And most men don’t have the education and career that makes them attractive to females because we, the country, the government, have not given them the economic opportunity to do so.
No. The cost of marriage is too high. If you cannot afford kids, don't get married. When society takes the child rearing income and uses it for rent, then making babies is economically impossible. Unless you are so poor, you are on welfare and just don't connect to raising them outside of gangs.
It's definitely getting bad if CNN is discussing men's problems
You know it. When fake news CNN starts talking about the effects of liberal toxic feminism and governments contributing to the handouts and breakdown of the traditional family…..you know the left is in trouble 😂
Men's problems?Just because no one wants to date you doesn't mean you're oppressed. People have the right to not date you.
@@mackayladavis4021 I'm not impressed, Mackayla.
@@mackayladavis4021 I was more so talking about the loneliness and isolation aspect 70% of men 18-35 choosing to not participate in society can not end well
@Mackayla Davis i don't believe anyone has said that. What we are saying is it gets lonely. I'm assuming u a female. U don't and will never understand struggles of a man
Factors not mentioned in this video.
1 When a man approaches a woman for a date and gets turned down because he does not meet her standards, he's going to stop approaching women.
2 Look at the divorce rate. She'll accept him until she finds someone better, then in the divorce, he loses everything he's worked for. By not getting married, he loses nothing, and that translates into, no point in dating.
3 Not all men are on drugs or stupid. They see where others have made mistakes and they will avoid making the same mistakes, ei, don't bother with women. It's simply not worth it.
Not only that women have unrealistic standards wanting a man thats over 6 feet tall, also making six figures, and attractive. Yet when men have realistic standards like not wanting single moms, not wanting obese women, or not wanting a promiscuous woman (women can reasonably control these) men get shamed for it. And dont get me started on false accusations and how easy it is for a woman to ruin a mans life and reputation. Being single for a guy = more money, more freedom, less stress, drama, etc...
@@cdow5769 Do you ever go outside? I see countless couples and most men are not 6 foot at all and just average looking as well as the women they are with. It's everywhere and these are young people in their 20s and 30's.
@@tungstenanderson5991Which are still outliers
@@jmo1375 That's not what outliers mean, but you don't leave the house and just make excuses for not doing so or else you would notice.
@@tungstenanderson5991 "Outlier
"In statistics, an outlier is a data point that differs significantly from other observations."---Wikipedia
I'm shocked CNN covered this. This guy is absolutely right; some how, talking about men's issues is mistakenly seen as anti-woman misogynistic. It is not. That attitude is exactly what has gotten our entire western society to where it is.
Yea, he is dancing around the problem that he doesn't want to actually say, FEMINISM/WOKE/MARXIST/LEFTIST all add up to rejection by both sexes. Thanks to your DEMOCRAT PARTY! MAGA = everything changing direction for the better for young people. Men don't want 30+ year OLD combative females and nobody cares what 30+ combative females want except them!
This problem must be super bad if even CNN is covering it. Normally you'd only hear something like this talked about on more conservative outlets.
It’s not seen as misogynistic.
@@NexusKin very shocking. I guess you american degenerates really are making progress, good job CNN.
@@eenchantress5113 No, but it is seen as an excuse to indulge in misandry.
As a guy married for twenty one years, I never cheated, never hung out in the bars with the guys, never once hit her, made good money and provided a beautiful home, and helped produced two beautiful and successful children. But it was never good enough. She chose to cheat on me, divorce me, and to finally marry a city sewer worker, who was an alcoholic and beat her up. She is now divorced from him too. After having another girlfriend for 13 years who could never commit to anything, I give up. I'd rather put my efforts into something that provides benefits.
Yourself,forget these BIATCHES
Sorry to hear that bro I feel you
Same story here but when she cried to me that here high new husband beat her I laughed and hung up the phone
If you lye with dogs you shall rise with flees
sorry to hear you didn't yet find your soul partner
Try men!
Women are also dating the same pool of men, there's a lot of side chicks that don't know they are side chicks. it's really sad lol
Finally, someone with a brain.
Exactly. In fact vvomen don't even care that they're getting passed around by the same men because they only want seggs these days, not relationships.
Yeah I thought man we’re bluffing when they mention this until I saw the numbers. It’s really a small percentage of men that are creating the generation
Exactly. Women are sharing the Alpha Chads, that's what no one is talking about.
This. What's funny is those pool of men the women are dating aren't even necessarily high value males either, most of them are average brokies who don't even look special but they're just very good with bullshitting and attracting women. Most aesthetic, educated and wealthy guys I know aren't actually getting any pussy at all and don't have the confidence to approach women hence they remain invisible to women even if they're much higher value than she is. We live in a upside-down world.
Young men don't have a lot to look forward to. Universities are horrifyingly expensive, Amazon has made it nearly impossible to compete as a small business owner, and computers have replaced so many types of jobs that just about all that's left is security guard or Amazon warehouse worker. The world has become a playground for billionaires and the rest of us have been left to eat scraps.
True that.
If you aren’t given a silver spoon, trades, logistics and security/LEO are pretty much all you can choose from as a peasant. Maybe if you work hard and stay competitive you might break $100k by your 50’s, but your back would have given out, your shoulders fragile and knees shattered. Retirement will consist of medical bills, doctor visits, discomfort and diminishing benefits. Office jobs are a luxury we can’t get to until age starts to chip away at our ability, and that’s assuming we aren’t just dropped as a liability.
All the problems you described do also apply to young women. University and housing is equally expensive for women as it is for men. And career opportunities are worse for women than for men - due to (real or implicitly expected) childbearing. That manifest in gender pay gap - men do generally earn more than women.
Young men do experience problems you described, but not because they are men, but because they are young. All young people have these problems.
@@samuela-aegisdottir - women don’t date broke men & men don’t care if a woman is broke
- That study on men being payed more was not done properly (fact)
- way More is expected of men in terms of being qualified for dating when bare minimum is expected of woman.
- men are competing with women in the job market but a man still expected to provide and out earn her to be considered worthy of respect.
- quotas exist to hire women just because they’re woman and reject men bc they are men.
- men still make up majority of dangerous “dirty” jobs that maintain infrastructure of civilization but these jobs are not considered “sexy” compared to a corporate job bc women overwhelmingly go into desk jobs that require college degrees.
- More women are going to college than men now and they want a man to also have a college degree bc hypergamy.
Marriage pros and cons?
Cons: Getting cheated on, losing 50% of everything, paying alimony, paying child support for 18 years, toxicity, stress, depression, getting blamed for everything.
There is also a negative side.
I mean when you slowly remove all the places to meet other people that aren't purely for drinking alcohol and replace that with social media this tends to happen
so true
Deep.
Agreed, and worse. Every traditional mate-meeting spot (schools, colleges, work, church, etc.) has been eliminated by peer pressures, policies, or harassment laws. Women can literally destroy a man with an allegation no matter how absurd, triggering armed police agents to arrest him and a myriad of state weapons to use (red-flats, domestic violence, sex assault, etc.) ranging from loss of assets, lawyers fees, loss of gun rights, and often PRISON.... Women are naturally vindictive and have huge $$$ incentives if there is marital property involved.
Yeah true
Yeah but you guys could still go to parks or whatever like why are you guys all freaks as soon as they remove the socialization place you guys just gave up on the concept almost like it was all routine anyway
You do the math. There’s a lot of women thinking they’re in an exclusive relationship, but the data says absolutely not.
Trust me they know, they'll make exception for those guys
There are going to be a lot of women suing for alimony and child support then.
@@TomikaKellyYou can’t sue broke people
Women would rather be with Chad in a situationship than exclusively with an average guy.
@@TomikaKellyYes, that is the truth!😢 There are lot of abusive wives and girlfriends in courthouses did the evil deed to abused victims.
I’ve never had a girlfriend and probably will go my entire life without one too. It’s sad but I’ve accepted reality for what it is and just thank god for being alive and healthy
Keep fighting, you can pay for sex but sex without a bond or feelings is overrated
@@ameripharmalaboratorio4427 No disrespect but, sex with love and bond is way more overrated. At least when your pay, you both know what to expect and do
That's kinda true, I think some of us were taught about having a bond to have sex and some not, both things are right, but the main problem here is that women standards to have sex have skyrocketed and we cant keep the rate of natality with the rate of deaths and they can put the blame on us like it´s always been, but women decide who have sex or have children, they didnt have that power before the pill or those methods to avoid getting pregnant @@777kiya
That may be my reality. Now I've had relationships in the past with girls but nothing ever stuck and they were way older than me. There are girls I'm interested in but they do not want a relationship and I can respect that, I completely understand.
I have never had a girlfriend either. Go to Latin America or maybe somewhere in south east Asia like the Philippines.
And I am sure it will be much easier. I got zero matches on dating site in the US. But if I change my location it is 100 times easier.
I foresee a future of rich men with harems and poor men in the military.
We are going back to the times of kings and slaves.
Why is it such a problem when men decide to stop dating and stop getting married? Society has been telling women for 50 years that they don't need no man. I think the men are finally getting the message.
Because some of us aren’t doing it out of a decision. Im 22 and would love to have a good woman by my side. The unfortunate reality is they are far and few in between. The only thing I can bank on is snagging one when I’m older.
Many of us guys are giving up on America and getting passports and plane tickets to the Philippines. Lots of sweet, traditional, housewife and mommy types over here.
@@Parzzyval the only problem with that strategy is she'll probably have about two or three kids for two or three different dads, about a fifty body count, 50k in student loans and be working at starbucks. This is when she will reach her epiphany and declare, "I've had my fun and am ready to settle down with a good man" lol. AND THATS YOU!
@@MichaelBrown-zp1sf he meant his future wife isnt born yet
@@Parzzyval
"Bank" might well be the key word there..
Having been brought up in Mexico of an American mother and Mexican father and exposed equally to both cultures, I have always noticed that emotional bonds between people in the US are much, much weaker. People don’t have wide social circles. Their nonchalant attitude toward people they should feel close to and just how they greet them, the lack of interest in their lives, is astounding.
Thank you Asian Guy for telling me how emotional bonds are in Mexico. You’re completely right, but it’s ironic.
Absolutely!
It's sickening. I'm a Mexican living here & just have seen things tumble to toxic sludge overtime 🙃
I heartedly agree. I'm Latin American and the difference between U.S. and Latin American societies is strikingly different socially.
We have several Mexican families in my neighborhood and I have noticed this one right off the bat. Americans stay in their back yards, behind a fence and the Mexican families have their Barbeque out front on the lawn and that's where they have their parties and family gatherings. I also have noticed in Europe that people go out. At night the cafes are full of people dining on the sidewalk and younger people hang out in the squares or plazzas...depends on the countries. Americans hide in their houses or fenced in back yards. It's not healthy IMHO.
It's not just young men. I'm in my 40's and have not sought out a date in 7-8 years. I've been burned so horribly bad in the past that I would rather be a little sad and lonely than be emotionally traumatized by false promises and unfaithfulness.
This makes no sense to me ... I'd rather accept unfaithfulness as a fact of life than to die alone...
But i judge not... If this works for you, I'm truly happy for you.
@@tok1879 WHAT You'd rather accept unfaithfulness???? or you'd accept the risk of such a thing. Risk is okay, but accepting being crapped on is NOT IMO.
@@Cocoisagordonsetter the worst after accepting the risk is what we refer to as "unfaithfulness"...i don't know, but looking from a POV that's not solely American with its unrelenting and uncompromising desire to have someone only for you and have it purely to yourself... Personally, rather than die by myself, I'd share. Yeah, it doesn't sound as romantic as your feel-good movies and romance novels but IMO dying by myself sounds even less romantic. Unfortunately life is not like Disney movies for everyone.
@@tok1879 Interesting point of view and I came to a similar conclusion (although I took sex out of the equation, and I'm just happy having good friends). I found that Disney ideals don't live up to our expectations irl: either you feel trapped, or your partner feels trapped. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ But maybe I just didn't meet the right guy. Not that it matters. I'm convinced people can find happiness outside the Disney model. And it's damaging to tell them otherwise.
Dude I’m 45 and I’ve always been successful with women. But the modern American woman just isn’t worth the energy.
We are more than an ATM.
True
All these woman think they’re going to marry millionaires.
No, they just want to marry a man that isn't abusive, can hold a job (like many of the women), take care of their children regardless if still romantically involved with the child's mother, and not have an arrest record longer than the Mississippi.
@@ajjulien1812yes
@@UlrichW-mm8yzyou really think so?
Watch Kevin Samuels or Kendra G… or any red pill podcast… they all want 6 figures, 6 feet, Alpha… and most of them are bottom of the barrel women looking for this… unrealistic expectations 😢
@@UlrichW-mm8yzYou're full of sнit and you know you are
They won’t ever blame the women behavior it’s always a man’s problem 😂
Logic
Yeah, most of those positive men groups just want to be left alone. From what I've seen, the men would prefer to be with women. But since the majority of women are entitled, demanding and harshly dump the average guy, they just get turned off.
Don't know why the marketing prof. was given so much air time on here. Marriage and dating is an ever-changing atmosphere since the industrial revolution. You can't go backwards in things and certainly not with government programs. People will come up with new, better systems that they prefer. Western people have only married primarily for love for about 125 years or so. We don't have it figured out or even know if that's the best way.
So true and so fucked up. There will be no admissions about the role of uncontrolled Feminisim in all of this
doesn't matter who is to blame; no one is going to do anything for you if you are a man. Your only choice is to figure it out for yourself. (your odds of finding a 'sugar mommy' (that is, the male equivalent of sugar daddies women have) are slim to none, and slim just left town).
Uh maybe cause it IS a man’s problem? Lowkey I don’t feel bad for yall 😂
Marriage has gone down in flames and now dating is on the way out.
taking humanity with it. I'm happy for the animals.
A soulless society chasing after the vain fleeting things of this world.
Why do you have nato profile lmao
@@supdude1476 A question is not an opinion.
@@Bob31415 you are dumb
Most women are looking for help and don’t want a relationship and I rather protect my heart and my wallet
The girls that are “In relationships” are sharing the few high value men. They’ve just deluded themselves to believe that they are “The One”
@TH-camUser2k cold world
All avarage dudes can get nowdays is chads leftovers
I think a lot of them don't even care any more. The number of women I have seen describing themselves as being in "situationships" or "it's complicated" have sky-rocketed.
A lot of them are dating other women.
Larger amount of women dating other women compared to men in a relationship with other men
A substantial amount of 24-29 year old women, especially 26-29 year old women have male partners old enough they fall out of the equivalent 18-29 age group
Female scarcity is real up until 50s & late 40s - this is when men start dying off. 103-105 boys are born every year for every 100 girls. So teen boys, twenty something men & thirty something men always outnumber age matched women.
Yep I'm a trucker and I'm 24 and feel so alone sometimes. I cry and I feel better but it never goes away. No one cares
I care. Your not alone
Go hit the gym brother you got this.
While you have the most thankless underrated and important job in America, it is also one of the most lonely.
Don't give up young man. I didn't find the right partner until I was 40 years old, but we've been married for 20 years now. When you give up, your chances go to zero.
Find a social group of people that do things you like. But stay away from women. They just want your paycheck and home. And the police and judges almost always side with them
Wages have been stagnant on this planet for 30 years and you wonder why people are not wanting kids?!lol
only in the USA though. I live in Poland. Average salary in 1980: 20usd a month. Average salary today: about 2000usd a month.
@@paulb7207 hmmmm interesting
It's a no-brainer. You would think.
@@paulb7207 you cannot compare communist wages with capitalist wages..
@@DINO5551000 why not?
They compleyely ignore the normal reaction men have towards promiscious women.
A complete, 100% turnoff.
I'm 50 years old. I can tell younger people this. Everything changed upside down from the year 2000, and it ain't getting any better. People have become Androids without realising it.
When life had no apps and socials, society was the opposite of what it is today. It's truly depressing.
Let it burn
This is true, but it got exponentially worse in the 2010s. You could still run in-person game on girls back in the 2000s, and most girls were friendly and receptive to it. MySpace and FB were around in that decade, but it didn't stop people from communicating face-to-face, as compared to today. Now, after TikTok, IG, Tinder, Bumble, Only Fans, etc. took over, society is done.
"people have become androids"
Facts. It's very difficult to humanoid robots, it's very easy to make robotic humans. We've been programmed.
As a 50yo man I agree it's gotten much much worse since the launch of the web! I believe this gave women too many choices and too much free attention that they used to have to earn from the few men they saw in real life. I still remember when lots of guys were dating women above them in looks but this seems much more rare now. As a single father I figured I would probably die alone as I don't get much attention and when I do they usually are not good people. I even find women my age set in ways and expecting something they shouldn't! This extreme pickiness is killing society! It's causing social problems men are Not meant to be alone. I mean God created women just for us men to keep us company and help us in life but since so many girls don't believe in God today they sleep with each other and have a higher body count than I do at age 50! We men who want a family which is very good for society must find a willing partner in order to build this family and unfortunately they usually leave you after a few years from "I'm just not happy anymore" or "it's not you it's me". We need to get back to reality average women need to love average men again please for the future of society! 💯 🙏
My dating life was a lot better in the 2000s, it has gotten worse for me in the past 10 years or so.
Dating is exhausting and soul crushing. Better to be alone than with someone who makes you miserable. And who wants to bring kids into this mess of a world ? I watched my parents divorce and it was traumatic. No way. Not worth it.
Crazy as it sounds, I'm at the point where I'd almost rather date a single mother than try to have biological kids of my own. In this climate, it's better to help take care of kids that already exist, instead of bringing new ones into this nightmare world.
@@Zalis116 I was nodding my head the entire time reading your post. It's not being pessimistic. Things are really bad out there. I couldn't have children with the amount of narcissism and violence. It's very sad how things are going
@@Zalis116 LMAO CUCK
@@sudo3870 and if you marry her and get divorced there’s a high probability you will have to pay child support for kids that aren’t even yours. Stay away from single moms. Most of them just want you for your resources.
@@Zalis116 Nahh bro, rising someone else kids dosen't worth it let her sttrugle because of her poor choices
The important thing to note here is that young men aren't just failing to find romantic relationships, they're failing at finding any sort of relationship. 1 in 7 young men don't have any close friends. It was 1 in 33 for the previous generation. Human beings have lost their sense of community, and it's effecting young men the most because women do have some built-in solidarity through political and social movements. Young men don't.
It has to do with social media, the internet, and video games. A large percentage of guys in these younger generations get their social needs fulfilled through these outlets which leads to them spending a lot more time alone at home and becoming less and less socialized. When (or if) at some point they do want to find a relationship, they struggle because they don't have experience and because they've become socially awkward as a result of the stranglehold that technology has had on them.
Takes money to maintain friendships(going out to eat, birthdays etc etc), same as it takes money to have a decent dating life. The low wages relative to cost of living are the real reason behind the majority of these social issues.
Solo dolo
If young men are not capable of forming and maintaining friendships would you consider them mentally healthy and fit to form a romantic relationship with your daughter?
I wouldn’t say women have it built in through political movements. Most women I know are not super political. I think it’s cultural. Women are encouraged to open up emotionally with each other, whereas I’ve heard from men that if they open up with another man they get made fun of or it gets brushed off: “you’ll figure it out bro.” So it’s up to men individually, and dominant culture through media to start changing that narrative.
85% of all divorces are the women’s idea. Why would any man work hard and try to be successful knowing that if he gets married he’ll become a part time dad, lose half of everything and pay these 85% ters a monthly check for years? Dating is the best example how modern women objectify men………”does it have a good job?, does it drive a nice car?, does it live in a nice place?, does it have money? No thanks.
As long as 80% of the women are chasing 20% of the men, we are going to have a LOT of men withdraw from the market, other men capitalize on their position to run through as many women as possible without commitment, and a ton of women wondering where all of the “good men” have gone while 20-30 walk past them unseen every day.
Equality has the nasty side effect it turns from pareto 80/20 into 90/10 making half of men invisible to women.
@@GrowMasterGeneral Your argument is correct and incorrect. You are correct in saying that women will be more attracted to the more stable individuals who've built their lives up. It is also correct to not necessarily blame the women for this. However it is incredibly stupid to undermine men by saying "they need to learn how to be real men", still trying to shift the blame on men as much as possible and ignoring any amount of necessary context. Some people aren't capable of getting fit, some aren't capable of attaining financial security, some aren't capable of owning a house or resources, ect. Your argument is an unfair and idealistic view of what men should be.
Again, not wrong to seek high standards. But stating that those high standards should be baseline is ridiculous. The other problem is that society does have a double standard and will not hold women to the same degree. And if you do then you will be vilified.
@koreyardoin3695 Yeah, so the point I'm making is that men can do things to make themselves more attractive to women and also that women have delusional standards. Two things can be true at once. Go figure. Men are no longer taught how to do the things that make them attractive to women. The key here is doing the things that make you a "provider" and "protector". As advanced as a species that we are.. we are still running on caveman software. Millions of years of evolution won't be undone by a few decades of wokeness (for lack of a better term). I'm not shifting the blame on men.. which is why I said "it only paints half the picture".. "it" being the fact that 80% of women are chasing the top 20% of men. Half the blame lays squarely on women's delusional standards... (and the other on men lacking drive and ambition). Those standards are based in evolutionary psychology. Women, in general, are not going to be attracted to low-income (provider) men who are physically weak (protector). You say some men are incapable of these things (true), and these men will remain single. The good new is, most men are capable of attaining these things. It's not easy, but it is possible. If it was easy, then everyone would do it, and it would lose it's value.
"But stating that those high standards should be baseline is ridiculous.".... I never stated what "should be" only what "is". Millions of years of evolution has made it so. Women are attracted to providers (i.e. high-income earners) and protectors (i.e. physically fit). And if you want to attract a women, then you have to attain these things to the best of your ability. Sorry, but women are not attracted to their pudgy Uber drivers. I'm simply a messenger of what "is", not stating what "should be".
So, in short, men can do things to make themselves more attractive to women. And women have delusional standards that won't go away because it's based in evolutionary psychology. Which is why we (men) have to do the things that woman are attracted to, if you want to attract a woman. Don't expect woman to drop their standards. It's deeply instinctive. You can tell women all you want that they have unrealistic and delusional standards, but it won't change their mind on who they're attracted to.
You missed the speakers whole point, pal.
20%? more like the top 5% pal
He kind of glosses over it here, but that "Loss of the 3rd Place" thing is actually a huge goddamn deal, not only for dating but society in general. There are a few people and books who go more into depth about this topic (like NotJustBikes, Charles McMohan etc.) but basically the idea of the "3rd Place" - a place (or places) where you can regularly, easily, casually and reliably be around other people has almost been completely wiped out in the US. Or just the concept of regularly being around people who aren't your coworkers or family in general.
The two leading factors of this decline are economic - working harder, longer hours for less pay and less time off, travelling more for work etc. - but also physical; we physically destroyed the concept of the "3rd Place" by designing everything around the personal automobile which is the anti-thesis of the "3rd Place" because of the physical separation it creates and space it demands.
If you want to create a society of lonely, friendless, loveless people (and probably a bit sociopathic) then you really can't do any better than not only working them to the bone but also making it damn near physically impossible to casually be around people without effort.
It's huge, you didn't overstate it at all.
Very interesting comment thank you for sharing
well women are not ready for a lasting relationship why do you think Americans move to other countries and stay there its not like you cant get the same health care elswhere for better and cheaper
I don't think the forced lockdowns helped either. The result is paranoia and mistrust of others. It's bleak out there.
Lies again? Mental Health Design Technology
I am 35, alone for 6 years now. No friends too. Got my weed, dog, music and no women will disturb my peace no more.
You won't get a dime from me.
Social media is to blame. I’m 37 years old and haven’t had sex in over two years. It’s because no one wants to take the time to get to know each other or women expect you to be what they want you to be as opposed to getting to know who you are as a person. Our society is failing men in general not just young men.
True, but social media is just part of the reason, not the only reason.
@@integrityborn6156 What are you getting at, homey?
Get a passport and get up out the US. Travel abroad you’ll find more traditional productive women.
Men have lost all ability of the art of communication. I lose interest fast when a guy starts texting stupid stuff like “hey” and “wyd” and every interaction is either one word or abbreviation or he just resorts to sending pics or videos instead of asking questions trying to get to know me, or telling me anything about himself. It is like they have no freaking clue of how to even carry on a conversation or anything. This is one reason I usually try to meet people in the real world - in hopes that they aren’t so backwards socially. I just feel like these types are just trying to waste my time online because they are just bored and want to annoy someone.
No communication is an absolute dealbreaker for me and I am not that hard to talk to. I just refuse to be carrying the entire conversation and only getting one word responses from an uninterested individual.
If I cannot get to know you, then don’t be wasting my time. Plain and simple.
And to be honest, too many men seem to only be interested in having sex instead of actually getting to know somebody. This is another reason why I don’t bother with men who don’t communicate properly. I am not looking for sex, I am looking for a relationship.
I’m 49. Had relationships with Women. Been married and divorced. I’ve been single 5 years apart from a relationship I had recently which lasted 2 months. I ended it because I realised I’m happier, more content living alone. No drama. No pointless arguments. I value my peace of mind.
Marriage was a necessary union when women were reliant on men giving them shelter, and providing for them, these days they simply DON'T NEED MAN. Humanity shot itself in the foot with the Feminist Movement which has now morphed into the LGBTFQ.
@@danielbroomhall8882 I have an 18 year old daughter. She comes to stay for a week every month or so. She was always a great kid when she was growing up. Was lucky that way. Never had one bit of bother with her.
How is living alone equivalent to no relationships? I know many people who always lived along and always had relationships. There is no mutual exclusion. maybe some of the stress is a matter of defining what relationships are. My wife's relationships before I knew her have stayed intact. Each of them has its own definition.
@@JimMork Most women want a relationship to progress into something more than I actually want. Move in together etc. I would be happy with a casual fuck buddy but there are very few women want that. I can live without sex or a relationship. I don’t need other people to make me feel happy or content. I’m not really a people person. Can only take company for small periods of time.
@@JimMork You're a guy, guys are mostly able to cope with loneliness. Not women. This article/news like many others with liberal/feminist agendas is deliberately pointed at the wrong direction to give everyone the wrong impression.
I'm actively avoiding women and life has never been better.
Men and women are sold a BS narrative about love and marriage that is 100% outdated and outmoded. Good for you!
Agreed
exactly. they wanted us gone. so we went.
Nobody needs marriage, live your life and spend your resources (including your time) on yourself. It's too expensive anyway, no-one can sustain it.
Google this: 70% of divorces are initiated by women and 90% plus if they've been to college! And WHO comes out the loser financially and in other ways, including losing their kids, after a divorce most of the time? THERE'S YOUR ANSWER AS TO WHY MEN ARE NO LONGER LOOKING IN THE US, EUROPE AND ARE MOVING OVERSEAS INSTEAD!
Shut down all social media and watch the world return to normal. It would be like floodwaters receding back into the ocean.
My mom is the only woman that truly loves me she gave me everything 😢
Now imagine having an awful mother, like myself and many other men do
Same bro
@@UlrichW-mm8yzTHANK YOU for pointing that out! Women with AWESOME dads, are less likely to deal with a low count, no count dude. Hell, her dad (granddad & uncles) won’t allow it. If over 30, sometimes wedding money gets flipped to her first house money.
@@Captain_Insano_nomercyAMAZING lightbulb moment - that’s the POV of fatherless daughters or abused daughters. Statistically, men have done much more mis-deeds as awful dads compared to awful moms (who fly under the radar IMO). Had there been tougher accountability, we’d have fewer bad parents.
@wegotthis247 that's because women don't do obvious and visceral things like beat you, my dad definitely hit us a lot and I was afraid of him for most of my childhood, but women abuse you psychologically and emotionally; there are no bruises or scars from that
I love how the media doesnt look in the mirror and hold itself accountable for the majority of problems in this country.
I like how Americans love to blame "the media" for everything, without realizing it makes them seem like children. Like they re completely impotent, and at the whim of outside forces.
"The MEDIA," is actually a series of companies that compete with each other, and give people what they want so they can make money. If your issue is ever with t"the media," your problem is really with yourself.
America is a country whose greatest fear is taking responsibility for it's own actions.
SOCIAL media
ITS CALLED LObbyist master media oy vey
The National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) and Mundt- Smith Act 2013 legalized propaganda on the American public and foreign enemies.
WhitEU
The "patriot act" from 2001 was the official start of spying on american people. The two you mention are its' natural evolution because the stupid muricans never demanded it be repelled and its creators hanged for high treason. Once that "act" passed and esisted the opposition, which was small because of all the lies and propaganda about the "externl terrorist threat" after the 9/11, the two following , and there are a few more just cannot remember their official names right now, had the door opened for them to march in, fanfares 'n ll.
*MEDIA*
I’m 26, and dating is just b.s. I go to the gym, work hard and have my peace of mind😌
I feel like the girls out there are looking for therapist and not men. I got tired of listening to them whining about everything
And then when we proceed to express our feelings, we are suddenly "incels" 😂
They literally say the same thing you straight people can't be in relationships because of therapy. You think that caring for someone else is some act of labor that has to be paid for in compensated and be done by a professional. When in actuality throughout human history this has been what people did for each other. Therapy has ruined all of you
I'm a man that divorced at 34. I have a child with my ex-wife and I'm forever grateful for that. I dated for over 6 years after the divorce with no rush in mind doing the online thing and just naturally meeting woman through daily routines. What i have realized as i got older (40ish now) is that I'm happy single and my need for a life partner has diminished. I'm more than fine alone, I'm happy and content as a single person in this life with no regrets or gripe.
Same exact situation barring no children in tow, but same age as you. Dated some here and there. The women I've dated in their 30s are just leftovers from nobody wanting to deal with them in their 20s. They do end up getting married to some simp. The zest to find romance is gone. Looking forward to getting older and further away from the dating scene.
People can convince themselves of anything.
Do you still have to deal with the bitch? Or was u able to write this thing off once and for all?
I'm over 50 and if you're like me, you'll grow into that even more. I would never be in a live-in relationship of any kind, I cherish my space and time. I spend money on young women to take care of my desires, and it's the best option I could ever have. Also have a substantial social circle. A woman would just be a burden, and most men know that.
You are going to commit suicide you just don’t know it yet
I'm 49, and I feel very sorry for the younger generations. I think mine was the last that had genuine fun and community.
AGREED
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Also, economically, you guys had the best time in history. Now we are in a new age of insane inequality and declining social mobility.
I'm 56 this yr. And a single parent never was married.
I'm in your generation and the risks were too high even then
"Men are sexless and lonely." Just because men aren't dating these "new age" women doesn't mean that they are lonely. They are just smart. It's not worth it being cheated on or left when she gets "bored".
You mean how women had to live for all of history 😂😂😂
Women actually cheat themselves from having a great time and potentially being with someone who is more mature articulate and humorous and someone you can have proper adult conversations with. But instead they go for guys they know will only provide a temporary thrill due to maximum sex appeal a lot of guys that get turned down are well built and work out and also work hard but its still not good enough for them. This is why I'll be moving to bali to see my large bum girlfriend 😊
@@angiedoe597 WRONG. Low hanging fruit, but nice attempt. All you did was try to flip it around. It's not the same on both sides.
@@Nick-tj8ek 9 years ago, COSTA RICA!!
Cope more
Whats changed is women becoming more shallow. You win feminists.
I can’t imagine dating in the digital age. It must be a nightmare.
If you are a horrible person. However it’s easy to find a mate by simply not being a wanker.
@@NegativeSpacesPositiveEntropy yeah Your comment is a red flag
Elle told u , now u know all
It actually makes it easier to meet people with similar likes and interests. CNN misses the mark again💯✔️
@@24james The guy that spoke wasn't CNN
It's happening all over the world... not only in America.
NO,only in every first world country
North korea, middle east country Africa, all third world countries have high population rate
Ever notice so many mass killers are single white males? check it out- living in their parents' basement? not getting laid- if they are hanging with a babe - they are not thinking about MANIFESTOS. Dudes -rejections are a major part of life- sometimes it not u and she will never share with u -if it is her. Most of the time it is U- BUT SO WHAT? GROW SOME!
@@pierrerochon7271Then why are a majority of criminals black? Most mass shootings are committed by black men. Look at downtown Chicago.
True that.
@@user-FUCKYOU18high birthrates don't mean that everyone is getting laid.
I'm 40 and I gave up on dating and relationships because I spent the past 20 years of my life trying to find love and realized that none of those women truly loved me. I kept at it for 20 years because women would say "pick better" or "you haven't found the right one" The hard truth is there are no unicorns. The only woman that truly loved me for me was my mother may her soul rest in peace. Now I'm in a loving relationship with myself. All the love and energy I used to give to women now I give it to myself.
Only person who truly loves you as a man is your mother, mother's are the best we have as men.
At least you had a mother who loved you. God bless her. But when I was 13 my own mother threw me out the house after she came home from going out. I’m 23 now. Haven’t talked to her since.
@Inquisitor117 some people just aren't suppose to be mothers, your is still alive who knows maybe down the road yall can forgive
@@realname4898 Maybe so
@@realname4898 please don't ever date
Several years ago, after my divorce, I started online dating. I was in my mid 50s, with a professional career and middle class lifestyle. The number of lonely women I met who were in their mid 40s to mid 50s was staggering. Most of them used me as their therapist. Many were emotional wrecks, still angry with their ex husbands. Some of them had unrealistic expectations in wanting a man who would “take care” of them. The constant refrain I heard from them was how difficult it was for them to find any decent men.
You have my sympathy. You must be a man of fortitude. Leave all the emotional basket cases with their kitty-cats and find yourself a dreamy, young honey down in the tropical south. You've earned it and they'll keep you happy.
Spent my entire 20s being depressed and thinking I needed a girl in my life. But once I realized happiness comes from with-in, I stopped looking for someone else to make me happy. You also become stronger and more attractive, and feel a sense of self worth. Don't worry about what women want, care about what YOU want! and let women do what they do. You just might discover how great Life can be and people will flock towards that energy :) men, women and everything in between alike.
amen brother!
I like your thinking. 😉
Underrated comment. I'm just realizing this.
So, so true, self worth sets you on a road to freedom, you feel liberated.
Sucks you had to waste 10 years
The worst truth: many of us have lost our ability to love another person. And even worse, we now can find so many reasons to hate each other.
Lean more on Jehovah in these times because it’s very wicked!
@@Waterdiver3900 We live in a world of very powerful and hypnotizing false Gods, like celebrities, politicians, social justice warriors, and social media amplifications of these false idols.
Some truth to this.
“ lost the abillity to love “
I have sort thought that too, but i also think that people dont DARE to love.
Its rare that people actually dare to love to the extend where you dare to invest yourself into the relationship.
Im talking about an emotional investment.
@Shaggy Rogers It's shaking out as "toxic humans" (de-facto Satanists) versus God
Honestly the biggest problem with dating is that the majority of woman all feel as though they deserve/entitled to a top 10% man and that’s it. The other 90% are so beneath them that it isn’t even a consideration. I don’t know if this was social media or society that have propped them up on these fragile pedestals.
Dating apps, social media and reality TV dating shows skewed their perspectives on what an average man is.
To be fair, I know a lot of men who feel the same way. Some of my mates wouldn't even look at a woman with the wrong body type. I'm not even talking unhealthy weight either. Just the wrong genetics.
I am a woman and not looking for a top 10% man. I don't need man of any specific appearance or of high income. I need a man who has similar values and compatible lifestyle. Who wants to share housework and childcare equaly. Who takes my feeling seriously and is able to comunicate about his emotions.
Female hypergamy combined with social and economic success. Its that simple. Women date across and up the social spectrum. The more successful they become, increasing amounts of men become invisible to them. Women can increase the amount of available men by focusing on building families first and then pursuing career interests later in life.
@@samuela-aegisdottir Are you a liberal? Stop being that and your problems will be solved.
Because we dont want to be falsely accused of SA or any other nonsense! Hell has no fury like a woman’s scorn, No woman is worth your Freedom
After losing everything I owned and becoming in debt from the aftermath of a brutal separation, I don’t think I can bear another loss like that at my age. If I lose everything again, I may end up homeless.
Hey, I hope you get back on your feet. Don't give up.
How old are you?
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@@utuberme1 Old enough to know better.
I have court next month 😢