Why the political worldviews of young men and women are increasingly diverging | DW Analysis
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- Young men are more likely than women to drop out of college, commit suicide, and support far-right parties. But while misogynistic influencers like Andrew Tate are correctly blamed for fueling the incel manosphere's backlash against feminism, there is a lot more to this story than incels, culture wars and wokeness. From stagnant economies and unaffordable housing to fears of cultural obsolescence, young men are grappling with a myriad of challenges that seldom enter the public discourse. So what is really behind the growing political rift between Gen Z Boys and Girls?
In the video we talk to Richard Reeves, Senior Fellow at the Brookings Institution and author of the book "Of Boys and Men" where he explores all the ways in which the modern male is struggling. Alice Evans, visiting scholar at Stanford University, who is travelling around the world to study this divide and makes the point that lagging economies, corporate algorhythms, and patriarchal mentality can explain this backlash. And Neil Shyminsky, Professor at Cambrian College and famous on TikTok as @professorneil, who sees in Influencers like Andrew Tate as a main threat.
Video by Christian Caurla
00:00 - Intro
02:02 - What's going on
03:58 - Ignored issues
11:35 - Crisis of masculinity
22:42 - Online radicalization
28:54 - Solutions
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Men don't like toxic feminism, just as women don't like toxic masculinity. Equality is not the problem here, toxicity is.
@Thoughtflux Daaamn, that was rlly deep and very well put. Wholeheartedly agree.
@@declupthe generalization that men should be doing this or women should be doing that is incredibly toxic. It creates societal expectations that should no longer exist given how vastly different the world is economically and culturally. Instead the focus should be on men and women finding out what works for them individually and in their relationships and ignore everyone else.
The rich provoking a gender war so we ignore the class war
We can safely ignore toxic feminism.
You never hear the term "toxic femininity", because it doesn't exist in progressive circles. Toxic masculinity is term that has been normalized due to progressives, and now that it has created a massive social disruption they don't want to take responsibility for it. Feminism has made gains for the better, but unfortunately it has over-corrected and the issues created will take decades to fix, if ever.
Men, for example in Poland have to work longer until they can receive pension than women, at the same time life expectancy of men is lower, how is that equal?
Same in Brazil.
Not to mention that everything that is either physical or dangerous is a man's job, like construction and military.
Because women often stop working to look after their young children...
@@declupno, we should tax the billionaires to cover for both.
Well... It'd be equal if "men in Poland have to work longer and the same goes for the women without children".
But something tells me that something like that would be far too equal for you to be considered equal (reminds me of the random generators where we have to lower the amount of randomness to make people believe that it's random as true randomness gives people the feeling of being unfair)
@@quinncreel6091 If they stop working, they won't get any sensible pension. They have to work to 60 in my country. But men... can only retire after 65. Which is far higher than the average male's life expectancy.
I can't help but notice that among all of the "experts" interviewed, not a single one is an actual Gen Z male. Maybe if you want to know what someone is thinking, you should actually talk to them.
being an expert takes years of knowledge, and, well, expertise, that nearly all gen z men do not have because they've literally not lived long enough to become a peer-considered "expert." they're literally too young, and maybe not educated enough.
Blaming man-fluencers for this crisis is like blaming the symptoms not the underlying diseases. They only make it worse, but they don't come to be in a vacuum
in a vacuum there are virtual particles that come in and out of existence. As a metaphor you can think of these events as "funny" memes that come and go inside a political group you're not a fan of that are a little over the top. Or a single tweet from someone who might not even be part of that group saying something over the top. These memes are not what people in that political group actually think, and the tweet is not representative of the actual sentiment of that political group.
This is the vacuum energy that reactionary people feed off of
Blaming the Tates is the laziest form of discourse on this topic. Lazy and pandering research.
That's true, but a) ignoring (not addressing) them would mean ignoring an essential part of the disease and b) addressing the symptoms is the first step to treating the disease.
Symptoms contribute to a disease and if you don't address them, you're not reating the disease. Blaming them (or anything for that matter) usually doesn't help in general, though, if you don't follow up with solutions.
@Red80008 you are right, they probably do need to be get "rid of" if there is a truly to be a change of mind. But if we say we're to magical do such they would just be replaced. Because they aren't the reason certain men are attracted to this ideology they are just filling the market. We would need to address the underlying problems first and then they would probably fade into obscurity anyways
but tate is a massive catalysator for such ideology
That Cambridge professor has no knowledge of the world. Saying young men aren't confronted with discomfort or fear for their personal safety is wild.
fr lol. How out of touch do you have to be to say something like that? Shameful.
I'm sorry he's absolutely correct. compared to what young women go through it not even a thing.
@@TheReferrer72sure thing, rich guy 🤣
@@TheReferrer72being called up in military, to die in war. or being beaten up on regular basis in all times of day with or without people around, with people seeing it as normal everyday occurance cause well, that is what man do, they fight, is not feeling fear of ones personal safety?
I think he is talking about how men are less worried about personal safety. Despite being more likely to be a victim of violence etc. And woman being more worried, but less likely to be a victim of violence (unless it's sexual violence).
In Ukraine men are literally prohibited from leaving the country while woman are living their best lives in Europe
It's easy being an immigrant and caring for soldier's children far from home.
@@TheRealBlueValhalla childless woman also able to move freely and enjoy all the benefits (as all people should be able to, that is the point), so talking about children here is pure manipulation
Yeah exactly,
we see no one talk about that men are dying alone in a fairly equal country in Europe. But we see all the world focus on women's mandatory hijab in Afghanistan and Iran.
Fleeing from war with your husband staying behind getting mained or killed by Russia is "living ones best life"? What kind of braindead take is that?
@@artemkoval4584Many women work and use that money so their men and soldiers can buy equipment. Some women have their children with them, so they don't die in the war. It's better for the women to survive than to die from the bombs. Because you can't repopulate, if there's nobody left.
I can summarize the whole issue right here: The problem is that people keep thinking it's men versus women, boys versus girls, when in reality it's society versus apathy.
Now this is an interesting take ..
working class against ruling class
agreed we are all being apathetic and it really hampers our world views
@@adornoarendt ???
No, it's the ruling bloodlines and their little lackeys versus everyone else.
I don't agree when they say that "boys should cry", because if we do they ignore us. When I was in third/forth grade my mother had health issues and I believed she would die. I was in the playground in a corner crying all the time and isolated and panicking about it, and guess what, not ONE worker or teacher in the school asked if everything was fine and tried to help me calm down. A few months later, my teacher found my mother and asked if everything was fine with her and pressured her to talk about the illness. In other words, she was more worried about gossipping the illness than taking care of one of her students when he was clearly suffering. I was also victim of bullying some time later and again, most people just disregarded it as "kids being kids" and I was exagerating. So when they say "boys should cry", I add "others should care" ,it works both ways.
So the second half of that sentiment is actually what you're saying. Boys should be allowed to cry And be supported emotionally by the adults around them. The reason why it's called 'toxic' masculinity is not that all masculinity is toxic- it's because it really is toxic to socially pressure half of the population to never feel sad/vulnerable for fear of being seen as weak. Someone should have been there for you and it's bad that they weren't. That's the point
Its not really stating that boys should literally be crying, rather it is stating that men should be more emotionally developed.
@@SleepyMatt-zzz Semantic and missing the point.
"boys should cry" implies more than just the sole act of boys crying, it implies that society needs to shift away from the toxic masculinity value that stigmatize against crying boys. What should have changed in your experience was not you crying - what should have changed was how everyone around you treated you in response to your crying. What's wrong is making boys and men feel like they aren't allowed to cry - not the act of crying
If that's true that's very sad... but I want to add that I kind of don't believe that a 9-10 year old crying was ignored. Usually people ask what's wrong. And if you were really ignored then maybe you're the outlier. I've had issues when I was a kid and usually people definitely bothered to check what's going on.
Why is "Women getting more liberal" passively mentioned.. but "Men getting more conservative" is attributed to "radicalization"? lol
I think you know why. Notice the structure of the opening sentences to convey a worrying feeling. "There's something strange with men .... bad thing #1, bad thing #2, and ... they're becoming more conservative!!"
Yep. It's very loaded and biased. They think, and want you to think that conservative = bad, and liberal = good.
Because there are still 50% liberal young men like me (not as loud as other 50% conservative men) who can see the injustice of rich people (mostly men) luring young men to be like them (a rich lifestyle which I shamelessly envy tho) while such promise was never made to women and people of colour. In that way, they can win elections by your votes and pay less taxes even tho that 1% of rich people owns 50% of world's wealth. I don't hate you or the women who wants to be wife of a rich man and do not work as promised by conservative pundits or some misadrist women or even the rich people. I hate the game (capitalism), not the players. Conservativism is not inherently bad. We will become conservatives once equality has achieved in a measureble way (not something like women don't like money, power etc). For example I am more conservative in Nordic countries compare to USA where abortion is banned. I feel if we young men were more united like young women (who are mostly liberal), we could have a better chance convincing government and other institution to help us more (even tho we need it less than women) but instead we fight and nothing gets done.
exactly
They are working from the fact that women are prejudiced against in society today(a fact that we know to be true, we have historical and current evidence to prove it). A class of people deprived of human rights will, naturally, be drawn towards the politics of gaining and keeping human rights (liberalism). In plain terms, it's a no-brainer.
It’s because men issues are ignored by the media and the government. Look at the huge push for women to get into STEM fields but very little to no push for men to get into HELP fields.
I have been asking what men need help with and this is great. First genuine answer I have seen. Thank you
Good idea in theory. But men most men are not interested in help fields. Men in average are more interested in working with things, women in average are more interested in working with people.
@@stompysnake8233 then the same thing could be said about women and STEM.
Yeah the fact that men's mental health is so heavily ignored is really sick.
Why is the feminist shouting?
I do not think figures like Andrew Tate are positive for the world at all. But what people need to understand is HOW people like Tate gain so much popularity in the first place. And the reason is because men, especially younger men, do not feel heard or like their very real issues are taken seriously. Every time there is a discussion about men, it always feels like it gets commandeered into a discussion about women, politics, or is unproductively intended to tell men to "be better". When men try to argue that men's issues are real and worthy of discussion, it tends to be met with a lot of public shaming (especially paired with accusations of being an incel, angry virgin, etc).
When you remove all possibility of outlets for men to deal with men's issues, you end up with unapologetic villains filling the vacuum. And the most frustrating part is that the people who caused and perpetuate this problem are not self-aware and don't seem to be willing to budge on this. Some of those people are in this video.
Every serious feminist (i.e. have read a book of feminist philosophy, not just twitter outrages) recognizes there are serious problems for men as well and most of them want policies that address those issues. The problem has been that the most popular social movements that claim to address problems faced by men eventually attract the seething misogynist men who blame women for their issues rather than the true structural & systemic causes, who seem to take over those movements. There was a brief moment at the start of the MRA movement where they did actually talk about men's issues without bringing misogyny into it which I found fascinating and compelling, but it took mere months for the misogynists to take over the movement.
Though I do agree the inteviewees here weren't the best. e.g. "toxic masculinity" discussion was not good at all, toxic masculinity was not a term saying that masculinity is toxic, it was a term attempting to separate the toxic and beneficial aspects/values of masculinity. However, it has been warped by those who are invested in the toxic aspects of masculinity to undermine it.
Exactly, 26:24
Give men an outlet where they can share and express without being judged, I agree, but the people who shame men are (usually not always) other people with conservative views and beliefs or the misandrists. So I fail to see why men go more conservative when they're largely a main contributor to how isolated they feel.
@zugetzuzu I know your comment is made genuinely, because I've made it myself before. As I've been paying more attention to these things though...I've found that progressive groups tend to judge men just as much as conservative. What they judge about is a bit different, but many of the conservative judgements remain. It's not surprising, really. We've all been endoctronated from a young age with society's standard. Most of the feminist women I know still have anxiety about going into public without makeup, even though they believe that women don't owe the world beauty; believing that men should be more open about our emotions while also not feeling that men should be self-reliant and figure those emotions out on their own...is the contradictions being consistent.
@@zugetzuzu Conservative males are demonized by liberals since 2008, you are either living under a rock or just plain disingenuous .
0:20 what even are those graphs. Let's look at them for a second. In the US, Gen Z men seem to barely reach centrism, still slightly lib leaning, while women are having an exponential drift upwards (left politically). Germany is pretty much the same. Men have barely crossed the center line while women are flying off the chart. And UK? Men are actually getting more liberal, only not as insanely fast as women. The only graph supporting the "men are going far right" argument is the South Korea one, where the societal norms are way different than in Europe and US.
There's also Sweden.
I'm a Swedish man, and I've seen the change both in the statistics and in the men around me, as well as in myself.
Men are getting a lot more conservative here, but that needs to be taken in the context that Sweden and Swedish men are some of the most liberal people in the world. Swedish women haven't changed their (extremely liberal) political stance much over the last two decades, which I've also seen both in the statistics and in the women around me.
they are talking in relative terms here, which is bad journalism. If both groups lean left, but one much faster than the other, then relatively the slower group is going to be labeled right-leaning and the faster left-leaning. In the eyes of ultra-progressive-women the progressive men aren't progressive enough, no surprise really. Where are the women content with what they have and content about the men around them - there aren't many women like that, if at all.
This is about young people, there's been a historic trend where young people begin life very leftwing and then trend to the right as they get older. The zero line on that graph I believe is meant to imply this is where the general population is, "their parents" as the presenters say, it is unusual and worth investigating this new development
I think in the UK, the political parties are moving to the right, but the people are not moving with them. Keir Starmer for example is probably about the same or slightly to the right of John Major.
The graphs do support the thesis though, which is that the difference between the groups is increasing
"Men care about their relative status towards other men" Right, and the reason they care about that is because women look at social status when selecting partners.
Would you, as a man, pick a poor girl over a rich one, every other thing being equal? It's not a woman thing is a human thing.
@@samsphaneron I can only partially agree.
In our household I'm still (unfortunately) the one that brings more money to the table. The unfortunate part is there because it's tiresome...
On the other hand even though we have two daughters and my wife is a teacher, I'm the one forcing the education far beyond what school at the same age provides.
Now the reason why we haven't divorced is not her motherhood or maternal instincts... It's because we've managed to agree that she has to suppress them when staying at home or going out of the house for a walk when she can't.
So as far as I'm concerned motherhood and maternal instincts just get in the way of producing anything more than a mere human bimbo.
But when it comes to the partial agreement I do agree that both parents are needed for balanced and quality nurturing of the kids - a specially now that the village that is supposed to be needed to raise a child is more often than not a bunch of bimbos who you'd not be willing to give even your father's brother's nephew's cousin's former roommate's dog for training.
So in the end I don't see the lowering of the attractiveness of men... Just natural selection where we as fathers no longer have to be the only ones using rifles filled with boar hair and salt to hush away the losers pretending to be useful (since now our daughters if they are not accidentally raised as bimbos already do the first filtering without our help).
If the women around you only care about societal status then my advice is they are teaching you a valuable lesson which is you don’t need that kind of woman in your life. Focus on what makes you happy and enjoy your life. Never forget you don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy.
@@MrEmafon4 I did. I took a risk, but I picked well. You only find out decades later. Rich girls come with different problems, if you want a relaxed life don't approach women at all.
@@xxxxMonkeyGirlxxxxsooner or later you have to grow up and accept that there are no unicorns. if your experience is trying to teach you something, listen to it instead of experts on the internet. the experts have no interest in your life whatsoever.
My high school in the early 2000s had multiple womens self help groups aimed at getting them through issues at school and home. Men tried to start one and it was forcibly disbanded by the school system....men have issues too.
Your school was wrong to do that. Support is needed for all of us.
@@MeltedPearlsit is what it is
@@Mystic879As men we can't (and shouldn't) rely on women to enact change on our behalf. It's our job to do it ourselves.
@@Mystic879 I would like to, I don’t really have much hope that it will end up being the case though, I have to live my life as if I was stranded on an island and help isn’t coming. It would be nice if help was coming but I’ve gotta survive
@@iss2075 Do you think women were able to bring about change without men's help?
Reading these comments disheartens me to hear how men struggle to be heard by women. As a woman myself, ive always made it clear to the men in my life that if they need someone to talk to or vent to im here to lend an ear. Its only been the past couple years a few of them started taking up that offer and while there are of course differences between any group, most of the time the problems and headaches they have are the same or similar issues i have gone through/am going through. We are all human, yes we are all different and have different problems due to it, but we all also have very similar issues and feelings. At the end of the day, we have more in common than not, and people tend to forget that.
If you are a woman, hear out the men in your life. Everyone is just trying to get by and survive. And same vice versa.
Very true, thanks for caring :)
Going from what i've been hearing from men: it sounds like most of the women who've asked this either didn't mean it, didn't realize what they were getting into, or even used what they said against them so they were burned or shamed into being silent again.
That being said: it's probably the worst cases that tend to get the most attention, and hopefully there'll be more like yourself that are willing to hear them out as time goes on.
Nobody needs your pity
Fundamental misunderstanding.
Men don't want your understanding or coddling. We want success and power.
>Property Ownership
>Marriage with the position of patriarch
>Children
>A functional way to grow more wealthy
The above points are what we want. We don't want to talk to women about our feefees, we don't want to be "validated" or "seen".
For a lot of men it's not even easy to have very many normal close relationships with women to care for them to begin with. The entire social construct makes it not exactly unlikely that a man will only really know the women who are the wives and girlfriends of their friends. They're afraid to want to get to know them closer, because it could be interpreted as competing for that woman. Social media popularizing content and terms that antagonizes some men is shockingly effective at making all men feel more insecure, even just about normal interactions. For instance a man might just want to get to know a woman, but feels like any way he can think of might easily be misinterpreted as them being a 'creep'. This insecurity may go as far as making them believe that getting to know a woman with the idea of potentially finding a partner is straight up wrong, even though it really shouldn't be. So instead they would go to a dating platform, where the idea of finding a partner is mutual, but then most likely not be met with much success, because most dating platforms have a significant gender imbalance, which makes it really hard for men to find a match and very easy for them to have their self esteem shattered.
Weird how shitting on one group and giving handouts to the other group causes a political divide...
When one group deserves the shitting on and the other group deserves the handouts, the group deserving of shitting on has no right to fkn complain how about that? As a man I don't go around crying about feminism and men struggles.
@@joelmiller3218 I cry when anyone struggles. In western society there seems to be a push to ignore the times when men struggle. That can be really alienating.
@@joelmiller3218 How about your "good boy points"? Being a good feminist man, never complaining about any of your problems just like those good old patriarchal oppressors.
@@DAndyLord men's struggle is not gender oppression. It's working class oppression. And the solutions presented to men is to be good capitalism slaves and to not complain. That's what causes the alienation, not women having equal wages and reproductive freedom. That and also their mental health that western society ignores. Which is something feminism advocates for and tries to push as the main aspect of men's wellbeing.
@@cletus223 I don't live in the west. I live in a deeply patriarchal society, one that would be a dream to most men who hate feminism. It's not good. I advocate for women's rights and for feminism in any way I can, not for "good boy points" but because people like me really do care about political freedoms of other groups and individuals. Just a reminder, this isn't 2016 anymore.
I am 25 yo, I have to deal with everything ALONE. I cannot openly talk about my problems, I cannot say anything otherwise labelled as a loser.
Young man's burden. Speak to your father
It's strange, I see some version of this comment a lot.
I work in construction we talk about our problems and deal with issues all the time.
I'm sorry to hear that you're dealing with this.
You're not asking for advice but I would say to follow Jesus and find people that are Builders instead of Destroyers
@@uFFFO I don't have a father since I was 4 yo...
@@zachds1986 I work in a hangar and the same with some colleague, I feel alone because I don't see anyone in politics taking care about people like me...
I also work in construction we talk about issues all the time... just after a 14hr shift and 10 beers so we don't really remember the solutions when we get up at 5:30am the next day to get ready to do it all again. Huge part of the industry are destroyers, a lot of bosses taking advantage is a big part of the problem. And dealing with these issues, not being home for the family creates half the problems that need dealing with in the first place, definition of toxic workplaces and toxic masculinity. If you don't work through your problems and emotions you won't be able to chase your dreams, then you'll end up a real loser, get help, talk to your real friends, they probably have the same issues just don't whinge; identify the root and act, hope things get better for you m8 🙏
I don't need a man or a woman to define for me what I should be. Women should... Men are supposed to... Women are... Men are... That's all BS. Find your own way.
Finding your own way is exactly what the feminists can't tolerate.
@@montezuma6962 that is literally what feminism is about 😭😭equality for everyone
@@tungstenogamign Very debatable. Reading a lot of feminist literature, including early works, strongly suggest that women who wish to stay at home are oppressed and brainwashed. I'm not saying all of it is like this or that all feminists believe it's a fundamental part of feminist literature to say: "Women should...."
@@tungstenogamign thought feminism is about being feminine
I was born into a world that does not want me, does not need me, and I am expected to keep my mouth shut and become another cog in the machine. I struggle every day, and I'm told that I am not; that I have the easiest life compared to everyone else. I have my dwindling family and a few good friends across the country. It's hard to see it now but I still will do my best to become a good, honest man, and give my best attempt at raising a family.
That's the ideal way to look at it. Lead by example.
I feel you brother.. hang in there, we're all gonna make it
You give them too much.
They don't deserve your progeny.
This struggle is common to all the generation: men, women - we all feel this way. You are definitely not alone. And as we are all in that, Instead of fighting each other, we would need to have a look on the system we live in. It was established in different historical, technical development contexts, without our influence, but we can influence it now to fix it, as it is something which is our responsibility.
We playing on dark souls mode bro
"Equality feels like a loss to the people who were unfairly ahead."
That doesn't hold water, it's the youth who weren't alive during this unfairly ahead period that are most upset.
Exactly. If it was my grandfather complaining that would be one thing. But these are the younger men. They have never lived in a society that prioritized them. They grew up in a time after women had already surpassed men in college attainment, where women are more likely to be taking professional roles (just not the ones that require 100 hour weeks).
That quote makes no sense.
Bingo. Also, I would add that we actually live in a zero-sum reality, at least in the short term. The person that got unemployed when factories started offshoring in the eighties is not the same person who is a comfortable college professor today. Young men getting pushed out of fields like STEM are going to likely going to have a tenuous relationship with the job market for the rest of their lives. It becomes less zero-sum over time, but it takes generations.
when you hear the term most men , its mostly refers to rich western men .... rest dont even count.
we should have a new term "the droids" no feelings only follow orders and stay of of there way ..... and it can be surprisingly refreshing.
Lol. You're ignoring what their Dad's may have taught them as they were growing up.
Ironically, that same statement can be flipped back around at fəminists but you'll never hear that from progrəssivəs or libərals.
Interviewing three liberals about why men are becoming more conservative
Ain't that wild?
This deserves to be the top comment. It's absurd.
He's looking for intellectual discourse, not misogyny
The good old everyone I disagree with is a pejorative.
@@michaelmcclain6899Gee i wonder why people are flipping. Your ilk is incapable of intellectual discourse, all you can do is gaslight and use labels to demonize and deflect.
saying men that are angry and depressed because who they perceive ''as lower then them'' are being successful is down right psychotic
That point felt very insulting and completely out of touch to me as a man. That was the worst part of the video. That some extremist and hateful take and should have no place in a video like this imo.
@@spaceowl5957 It is true though. As soon as minority groups (women, gay people etc) started to slowly achieve equality, men got angry.
@@d818581dd Women aren't really a minority. More importantly, correlation doesn't mean causation.
When everything is reduced to petty motives it alters the conversation from dialogue to condemnation. Of course men are often coarsely petty, is this a reasonable response to the real challenges some men face? But this is the message, your personal problems are yours alone, while others are institutional and require your full cooperation.
@@d818581dd Being given a scholarship and a job just because you are a woman or minority is not equality.
Being a male in their 20's, a lot of the comments on this video make good points one way or another. To me, it's not about men being upset about losing advantages. It's the constant reinforcement of lifting others up without feeling like there is any attention for your own issues (especially as a white male). I do see the irony in a white male feeling put down and marginalized. I am all for the empowerment of women and minorities, but it is difficult to have all of your own problems dismissed due to your identity. "You're a privileged white male, you don't have real problems, or they can't even hold a candle to ours". We do realize our adversity is different, but it feels entirely ignored, and we should be ashamed for even mentioning it.
As a gay man it annoys me when I see comments like these. Completely out of touch with the experience of minorities, even today.
@@d818581dd We don't live each other's lives, so we cannot speak truth to what the other person feels. I respect your opinion, but we'll agree to disagree.
I see your point and agree with what you are saying. A Buddhist would say we are all in a state of suffering and instead of pointing fingers we should be reaching for personal enlightenment.
ignore all the BS, powerful interests have good reasons for men in the West to feel emasculated and weak. Screw that, don't be overly concerned what society think, work to your own standards.
This is what Men do. I assume your a decent human being so trust your own moral compass and don't let them gaslight you into being weak and going with the flow. Because as you can see in this vid, the trend for men especially is downwards, more unhappy, broke and lost.
Train, get strong, learn valuable skills, make money and soon you'll be a man who has value to add to others and you'll feel good in the process
@@d818581ddAs a straight white man with multiple handicaps my struggles are completely invisible to everyone except people that really know me. I look just like anyone else. You may say, the world will open doors for me that won’t open for other people. Well, I can’t walk through those doors. Everyone these days tries to play victim. White men have struggles. Straight men have struggles. Everyone hurts. We all just need to have empathy and stop acting like one group has it worst than another group. We are individuals. You can’t look at someone and have any idea what’s actually going on with them. Someone could look completely normal but actually be thinking of ending it. Empathy is the answer.
In Australia about 60% of university graduates are female.
I found a site listing scholarships. Around 120 of these were available to only one gender. That gender was ALWAYS female.
This is incredibly common in developed countries worldwide, but rarely does anyone actually collect the numbers to show just how big the discrepancy is.
How many scholarships are there in total though? Also, isn't the solution to make university free instead of making women (so our sisters and female friends) miserable?
Could be, but this is probably a way to boost women presence (eventually) in high position jobs, knowing that women drop out from these high position jobs often due to maternity. Is it fair to men no, but does the policy in a way make some sort of sense from a demographic point of view: maybe it does. I am a man myself btw.
well you do as some athletes do, tell them you identify as a woman!!! apparently this is quite acceptable these days
@@tycondero1647 Even if you can't bring yourself to acknowledge that men being discriminated against is a bad thing, maybe you can at least see why other men feel that way.
Women are movin to the left, men are moving to the right.
The video starts with "What's going on with boys".
So automatic presumtion is the men are in the wrong?
Are you really supprised why men are pissed?
yep, maybe he consumes too much of that soy!
you missed the point - it's unusual because historically, young people of both genders are left/progressive and become conservative with age.
Well yeah they are in the wrong because why are they adapting attitudes of hate? We're supposed to be progressing, not regressing.
@@user-jt3dw6vv4x except that is a major misnomer and progressives are just the weak people in "easy times create weak people" part of that one saying. well weak people create difficult times, so brace yourself. next few decades are going to suck
@@AZ2PM the thing is that people think that what is declared as progressive is actually progressive.
These “experts” are horrifically out of touch. I get it now, I have to solve the problems I face completely alone. The help isn’t coming anytime soon and that terrifies me. I feel more and more alone as every day passes. 24 is tough.
Guys if you don’t have someone that you can reach out to and talk about the HEAVY stuff that weighs you down. I beg you to find one. Those people are the only reason I’m still here today.
Start with 1 push up, 1 page of a book, 1 interaction, whatever it is that will help you comfortably grow out of wherever you're stuck. I don't believe that when we are down anyone will actually face our issues with us, but I do think people feel they have no choice when you build yourself up to be something greater than yourself.
A sad reality, people are only out to really support the men that will help them gain something as in men who've already figured things out for the most part, those who don't outwardly show whatever that value potential for society is, are not given the time. Just gotta figure it out for yourself first.
Almost everyone has to solve their own problems. Welcome to adulthood. Men or woman, adults are out there solving their own problems and taking care of themselves. Sounds like the real world was a shock to you, maybe you were coddled too much as a child
I'm right there with you, my friend. God is our only ally, and He will give us justice. They nailed him to a cross for it, but He defeated death. You can too, boy. You can too. Success will be our revenge. God will be our justice. Trump will help, though he is only a man.
Most importantly, keep faith. Without faith all of it is hopeless.
@@Lightspectre1 People like you being wholesome with each other scares them.
I would agree. The only one that seemed to know what he’s talking about was Richard Reeves. But you are not alone and nothing in life can be done alone. Just remember no matter how hopeless it seems everything will be alright and there are people that want to help you and care for you
I just went to lunch with my ex girlfriend a few days ago and we had to bow out of a buffet when I found out it was $18 apiece and go somewhere else.
She says, "Are you on a budget or something?" And yes I definitely am. But the tone of disgust in her voice was unmistakeable.
Its weird how men, especially white men are expected to simply be loaded and free with their money, but at the same time we want to make sure everyone in society gets boosted over them, and celebrate whenever that happens.
Sucks for some of us!
Hope she's your ex because of her behavior at the restaurant and not that you were going to see someone who was already your ex to begin with.
To me, it just feels like I live in a society that doesn't want me. Working hard and earning a lot is contributing to the wage gap. Approaching women romantically is at best annoying and at worst harassment. Going and getting a STEM degree is contributing to the engineering education gap.
If I'm in a society that doesn't want me economically, romantically, or academically, what am I supposed to do? Obviously, being in this society makes me depressed. That's why I spend most of my time biking, hiking, and camping, just trying to put a little distance between me and society.
Bear with me, but I think that you are doing the right thing in your situation. By doing activities that you enjoy and that connect you to the natural world, you are helping yourself to cope and remain healthy in a difficult time.
In addition, people who object to your work ethic or choice of academic field have the zero-sum mindset the video mentioned. Your achievements needn't keep others from succeeding. You can encourage and help fellow students/coworkers.
As for romance, I don't know much, but I think that a person who likes outdoor activities, works hard, and is thoughtful about the world would be and become very interesting, which IMO is more important than other factors in attracting a date.
TL;DR: take care, don't give up
@@sfisher89101Sorry, but the "Zero Sum Mindset" is justified. Just look at how real wages developped during the last 2~3 generations. How easy it was for boomers to buy property. A car. Feed a family.
You telling me giving the workforce a 50~75% boost (which is a conservative estimate, as the real number nowadays is more like 90~100% at job entry) didn't cause this?
Buddy…
Aw... I'm going to assume you are a white male? As an Asian female, I have the opposite impression; it feels like this society adores you (white males) and is merely also trying to like everyone else as much as it already likes white males. I feel like white males have won the biological lottery just by having been born a white male. And if you have a stem degree in engineering, meaning you have $$$, you likely would not even need to approach women; they would flock to you. The vast majority of the Chinese girls in my parents' (Chinese) church are marrying... white males. Not other Chinese guys, but white males. I myself have a boyfriend who is a white male. I also tell him all this; that he's won the biological lottery. He agrees too.
@@SophieLaF0ntaine Wow. Reading your comment, it feels like we're living in two completely different worlds. I don't know what country you live in, but I've experienced nothing but criticism and condemnation for being a white man in the last 10 years. I can't do anything about my skin color or my sex, so it's really infuriating to hear people tell me that I am an oppressor or a colonizer.
"Show me the incentives, I'll show you the outcome" - famous investor said that, but it is true in this case, too.
Mr. Charlie Munger's wisdoms are insanely powerful.
@@viktorberta4953 We lost a legend when he passed.
@@Melior_Traiano Truly. God bless Him.
Beliefs can alter this as well. Roman Catholics would support policies that hurt themselves if it means helping a marginalized group. Most Protestants and other religions would do the opposite.
@@robertwilsoniii2048 The Roman Catholic Church is one of the wealthiest organization in the world. The church has vast assets, including billions in real estate and some priceless art, not to mention the Vatican Bank. But its finances are largely secret. Tallying that immense wealth is pretty much impossible, according to experts.
*"Let's gather a group of feminist experts to tell us why young men dislike them"*
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I don't understand how you could have this takeaway if you watched the video. One of the interviewees was the head of an advocacy group for helping men and boys with thier struggles and I think he seemed to really care.
@@spaceowl5957 I watched the entire documentary. Like said in my comment, my criticism was directed to the feminist experts. To no one else.
They have a god-complex. They believe that anything a misandrist disguised as a feminist says is 100% correct by default. And anything a conservative man says is 100% wrong by default.
The education section is so silly. You don't think that maybe the reason most men are behind in education has something to do with women getting preferential treatment in all modern education systems?
“There are just a few too many wagging fingers and not quite enough helping hands”
This is by far the best comment in this comment section.
seriously underrated comment
20:58 fyi
@@prodazzda ty, i thought this was a quote from an outside source lol
meaning this comment isnt underrated
Yes!! I think helping men is better than blaming woman for the issues, blaming doesn’t do anything but actually helping men by creating support groups,making pensions and ptm equal would do so much more than blaming woman for something they couldn’t have caused ever would.
To be fair about the not being able to fix a car thing: Cars today are deliberately overengineered so that the owner CANNOT fix them.
That much I know from experience. I had a 1990 Mitsubishi Mirage. Very easy to work on. Then I had a 1995 Nissan Sentra. Also very easy to work on. Today's cars are practically engineered to death and even simple maintenance procedures like changing the air filter or changing spark plugs require more steps than what is typical for the same procedures carried out on pre-2000 cars.
You also don't NEED to fix them that often like your father was constantly doing. It was a cost saving measure to not have to take it to the mechanic all the time. You know what this generation does have expertise on? They can fix their computers (software and hardware) and build one from scratch with off the shelf parts. You're dad couldn't do that with a car.
@@sor3999 lmao Modern cars break down WAY more than cars from the 80s and 90s. Also, being able to connect a few components and wires like legos with the help of a youtube tutorial does not mean you "built" anything. And even then we're in a tiny minority being able to do even that. Most zoomies don't even know how to view file extensions.
@@sor3999 My dad needed to fix the car and the tractor etc because he was a farmer and they got far harder use than almost any other vehicle on the road.
And no, this generation does NOT have expertise in computer software/hardware. Very few people have the ability to build a computer from off-the shelf-parts or write software code. These are very specialised skills that only a very small proportion of youung adults have. Whereas most men in my father's generation were competent at domestic plumbing, electronics, carpentry and car maintenance.
@@poika22 Agreed!! Manual competence is not something that most Zoomers shine in. Bolting together a few bits of electronics is not making a computer. And scratching together a few lines of code does not make you a programmer. Most men in my father's generation were able to do basic car repair and maintenance, and were also able to do home plumbing, home electrics and carpentry. It was expected of them - just as our grandmothers were expected to be able to cook from basic ingredients, make and repair clothes from basic fabrics etc. It was taught to them in school and by their parents. And the best car I ever had was pure 1980s design - Nissan Micra. It was literally indestructible and stunningly simple.
These charts shown at the beginning clearly show the Women are becoming way more liberal than the men are becoming conservative (except South Korea) so why is the premise not the opposite...
Because this is a heavily left leaning channel, so they are very deep into the pit of that particular ideology. Same reason why you can find equally dumb things in a right leaning channel. They are just so focused on how they think the world works that they literally can't see the evidence in front of their eyes that disproves their assumptions.
@@liarwithagun The other problem is that the evidence itself is infiltrated by left-leaning ideology. So if try to do a study that favors right-leaning views, it will never be published or even get off the ground.
Because it is normal for younger people to be more liberal. If you subtract out the normal leftwards drift of every generation since records began, you will find that it is men who are bucking the trend - not women.
@@ichigo_nyanko Nope, it's both. If you what you stated is true, then the graphs for women would follow a linear path, but it follows an exponential one. By around 2010 nearly all women skewed upward for every chart. Men did skew from the liberal path to conservative, but not that much (except SK).
Yeah but extremes aren't a bad thing, only one extreme is bad.
*Have you seen the clownworld memes?*
No real empathy, no real desire for helping, just a fear of consequences and a desire to GAME men to avoid that.
whats weird is ive yet to see any women acknowledge this reality, do they genuinely not see this? If so, yikes.
@@johnfisher8401 why would they see it? they literally are not men.
@@SnakeSalmon8izback Now here is something ive always wondered why its never happened,
trans women are some of the few women who have litteraly experienced the issues that men have in their lives, now as women they still have a stronger understanding of this then alot of cis women would have, in a similar way to how cis women have a stronger understanding on period / pregnancy stuff then trans women would.
Yet why don't trans women and men work to removing these struggles that affect both?
Something has to be different because from what I have seen trans men and women are very good at supporting eachother and helping promote each others issues
"How do we close the gap?"
"Men need to feel less comfortable"
bruh
"How do we close the gap?"
"Restrict content"
bruh
@@wazzpqazzza They will never listen. They will never be there for us. We have to be there for ourselves.
@@twelvecatsinatrenchcoatIN Psychology there is something called confirmation bias. Be carefull about your core believes . If you dont question them from time to time then they will confirm by default. Im not telling you to throw them away but to think logically about them, as those are core believes that have a strong influence on your actions. ANd if i may be provocative, it just feels like you are telling you those words to soothe yourself.
@@Rithmy I do not care. The possibilities of our lives shrank while theirs grew. I don't need any biases to figure out how I need to react to that. I'm realizing I'm playing competitive multiplayer, I was dumb enough to believe them when they told us we were playing co-op.
@@twelvecatsinatrenchcoat
Dont you think that in a proper competetiv multiplayer everyone should have similar starting possibilities? Noone likes spawn killing for example. There was a time in which offspring was killed if they were not male. How would you like to distribute the possibilities?
What is the goal of this multiplayer?
I have survived an armed robbery and attempted murder but according to the professor at Cambridge, who can’t even change his own oil, I am too comfortable
well women are also victims of robbery and murder. He isn't saying all men live comfortable lives, he's making a generalization
😂😂😂
@@martinkarkossa4714 If we look at the stats on murder, women are more likely to be comfortable.
@@christianoronaldo9162what are you talking about about? Who is doing all the murder??
@@shwah8299 the root of all your problems is yourself
The Andrew Tate crowd is only a portion of this. I’m a Gen Z conservative in America and I find that crowd rather distasteful and reactionary. These graphs mostly show women getting further left, men are trending conservative only in comparison. The real story is the radicalization of young women and the erosion of the values of western civilization. The radicalization of a smaller number of young men could be significantly dangerous, but far more detrimental to society is the erosion of western civilization’s values among young women. These radical young men are reactionary, a symptom of a problem. A progressive problem.
wtf literally every type of conservatism is reactionary. Also, it's true that young women are slightly shifting left, but actually everyone should be radicalizing far left. Apart from the few rich capitalists who can take huge profits from other people's work, all these other people should be uniting against the capital, everything else, all conservatism is just dumb.
If discussing men's problem is seen as problematic before even discussing what those problems are, then clearly there's a big problem.
There’s no empathy
My first job in a school in 2000....I am the only male staff member in a school and young boys need positive male role models....24 years of no change...why do young men have no positive role models?
Very true. But I think it would also be good for us men to look at what we ourselves can do, instead of just complaining about society or the government
For example, in the home, I've seen many men who tend to abandon their families and kids (or be non-commital), which only worsens the problem of the lack of role models. So I think it would be good to not ignore such things which are in our own locus of control
good for you for being in the education field, men are very underrepresented and no one talks about it
Which is why men like Andrew Tate are so popular. Particularly for those boys who grew up in single mother families.
Thank you for your service, we need men in education. I would never have the courage to work in schools and live under the constant threat of a trumped up sexual harassment claim.
I tried to become a teacher and they kicked me out of the program because they said I would be a "toxic influence", which translates to "you're a real man so you shouldn't teach kids"
I'm a young adult man from Finland and completely on the side of empowerment of women. I was told throughout my time in school that I was privileged, while surrounded by support, empowerment and help groups for women and told the world is ruled by men and I as a man was part of the problem. I think the issue for young men is we are made to answer for the sins of earlier generations of men. And absolutely nobody talks to or helps young men growing up. Finland also has conscription and male suicides dominate suicide statistics.
It's worse. You are being made to answer not for the sins, but for the achievements of those earlier generations. Every piece of technological and societal advancement of the past has benefited women, too. It's just that we came from a historical place where physical strength was an essential qualification to produce essential goods and services, so that is where the compensation went. Now that we have moved into a knowlegde-based, machinized economy, that just naturally stops, and men for the most part are not gatekeeping, quite the contrary.
But to also be fair: male suicide is just a hormonal preference. Female depression, while statistically less correlated with self-harm, is not fun either. Personally I think being driven to kill yourself is almost preferrable to wasting away because you cannot get yourself to function. At least this way the amount of suffering gets limited, and it's not like any of us was going to live forever.
Another Finn here! I get what you mean by the guilt and shaming due to factors you have personally not contributed to, and it's a difficult realisation. I have personally learned about it also through examples of racism, because that is another area where the wrongdoings of past are sometimes directed towards wrong people. My take on this is, that I don't take it personally. Neither gender or racial inequality have vanished, so while some people continue suffering from them, I will seem/be privileged in those areas compared to them. It's just something to acknowledge, and maybe support marginalised groups when possible, but not to take it personally. In regards to our conscription, ironically women and women politicians have been increasingly vocal about extending it to women as well, but the resistance comes from male politicians.. So there the issue comes within the house
same in Sweden. Several support groups and study prizes handed out to women when I was in school. We even had a career coach to help women get jobs or go to University. Maybe later in life its unequal in mens favour but why and how would a young man see that when he's growing up he only see so much support and help for women everywhere around him
@@mattlenn100there are so many scholarships in Sweden only for men. The issue is also that men don’t participate in programs at the same rates as women. You need to lead them to water. It’s not the lack of opportunities
@@Volkbrechtyou are so wrong it’s laughable. Physical strength the progress of society? That was briefly the case in the industrial age, and even then machines were build for male bodies. You know that for the majority of human history male professions were about war not actually building society up. And women were working physically and mentally as well always. Men who have contributed and “built” were educated or born into wealth. Like your take on humanity is a fantasy. Not even talking solely about gender views. You need to learn about history for real
When ever I hear “educated men”
I automatically think “indoctrinated men”
Conservative: Logic. Liberal: Emotion.
I once attended a women empowerment event within tech.
I was one out of 4 men and there were around 80+ women.
Somebody asked why are these events mostly attended only be women and not men?
I anonymously replied saying: read the title "Girls in Tech". Then followed up with: men typically arent given a voice in these events. If they speak up, they'll be dismissed or accused of being sexist even if they aren't. There's no basis of discussion. So they don't even bother.
The look of anger and confusion by the hosts for saying the most obvious answer was hilarious. I'm convinced they were angry especially because I was anonymous
There are so many of those women in tech events, When they're advertised at work always support them. When I bring up events that support men (Which are extremely rare) I usually get eye roll emojis or messages telling me its discriminatory or unnecessary.
When my work celebrates woman's day I join in the celebration, When my work forgets to celebrate men's day and I bring it up I get eye rolls again or comments like "Every day is mens day".
This is a very bizzarre carrier sector to be complaining about men not having enough of a voice in. The tech sector is overwhelmingly male. Like, embarrassingly so. I would suggest allowing women to have their event in this situation.
If this were an industry that was predominantly female or even just *roughly* equal, then I would say you have a point. But you picked maybe the very worst example possible to play the "men aren't represented" card.
"Men don't get a voice in events focused on women, waaaah"
@@KenikoB They don't, enjoy crying by yourself in the corner. You don't have to agree with it for it to be true.
@@Cha4k Weird that these communists never want to analyze why women don't elect difficult productive careers in stem or the trades despite receiving 3 out of every 5 degrees along with considerable discrimination in their favor at every step of the way. It's almost as if women prefer to pick a fun easy career and leech off of a man compared to actually supporting themselves. We certainly wouldn't want to campaign about how women need to do their part and step up.
I dont like that Alice Evans basicly reduces mens problems to their intersexual relationship to women and their fear in not being able to compete in the race for one. Because i as a gay person still feel and see these problems. The problems men have today is that while men who see women as inferior cant say that, women who do the same with men can freely spread their opinions. For example, there was a young woman in my class (it was 11th the grade), and this women always trash talked men and on principle closed the door right infront of us boys when leaving class and so on and no teacher ever said anything against it since its treated like a crime for a man to openly feel disadvantaged because of their gender. Another problem is, that while boys mature indeed later, they are also way more active and need this activity. We see less and less sports in school. I myself had many long days in school but never, literally NEVER more then 1x2h + 1x1h and later only 1x2h of sports per week while sitting for 7-8 hours on my butt daily... I was definitely not too dumb for school but i remember fairly well that after hour 4 or 5 (depending on the subjects) there was no mental energy left in me to concentrate while most female students did just fine. There needs to be a systematic change in schools to give especially boys more time and to encourage them more to participate in physical activities. Another thing that needs to change is the social perception that men arent allowed to openly feel weak, sad or left behind. There is indeed a HUGE gender gap in favor of women. The only two reasons why you cant see it yet in terms of average wages are that first, it will take another one or two generations to replace men from their top positions and second, women are more likely to prefer jobs that take empathy and are more human related which are at the same time also the jobs with some of the lowest wages.
It is indeed a systematic problem and it needs to be solved before we lost another and another generation of boys to it.
It sounds like that young woman was probably a victim of sexual violence
Men always think that women speak too much even when women speak less than the men, it's been tested several times. Your anecdotes aren't reality.
Kids shouldnt spend 8 hrs in schools. especially under 16
Really well articulated argument! It seems to me that particularly in schools that male associated traits such as boisterousness are demonised in the classroom, but the root cause is not being addressed, if we were able to expel this energy with physical activity like you mentioned the levels of focus among boys would be drastically improved
@@sir.mistable1496so what about schools a hundred years ago? Much much more boys compared to girls and more male success as well, school techniques haven’t changed very much in the last 100years, if anything school has gotten easier and less tense and strict. This issue is not school, this issue is how boys are raised and I’m not trying to throw men under the bus, this is a parenting and societal problem. Men can be anything a girl is and vice versa, men don’t need to be masculine, men need to be kind, respectful, patient, smart, clean, a good person in general just as girls are raised to be.
Writes book about men's issues. Gets interviewed with the question "When did you first start hating women?"
How does it for you as a feminist make sense to say supporting men means hating women, when all you do is support women? It just screams "I hate men".
Given how prevalent these aggressively dehumanizing statements about men at large are, It really feels to me at this point like women are intrinsically more valuable than men to the point that the same argument for one sex doesn't hold for the other no matter the circumstances.
Just reading my last sentence again with 'men' and 'women' reversed instantly gives me an emotional response that makes it feel like women are oppressed victims and we need urgent changes, but keep the sentence as it is and in a day you'll have forgotten about it.
Because nobody cares.
But let me ask you, the feminist, a question: When did you first start hating men?
Richard Reeves is the only person in this video talking about the real problem and offering real solutions.
I like how their solutions are to appear to care about problems that men face rather than making the living conditions any better for men.
Why would you want to improve living conditions for the "men"?
Natural selection... It's not like all of us have issues with adapting to current world.
@@DerDoMeN Its not natural selection, theres no level playing field.
@@TheLovescream Makes me wonder how I managed to get a wife, two daughters, a house etc. etc. etc. then...
While my "more manly" (read with more muscles and taller than me) cousins weren't so lucky...
So yeah... If "a person who can build a gun and use it is worth more than a biffed up manly man who can protect with muscles" is considered not a level playing field, then you're right.
But from where I sit the playing field is finally getting leveled enough to mop of the artifacts from the playing board.
So I'll stay with natural selection part.
(And don't get me wrong... I'm only 164 height with average muscles... So far smaller and weaker than my relatives... But far more dangerous if need be... And that control in a small dangerous bottle is the manly part that's missing from most "men" that I met throughout the years)
@@DerDoMeN
You do realize that your personal experience is not representative of the social conditions we’re talking about and literally nobody asked how you compare to your relatives, right?
Ok so back to the topic at hand:
Men are disproportionately forced into military service.
Men have access fewer social and financial resources (such as government assistance, shelters, etc.)
It is widely socially acceptable for a woman to commit domestic violence against a man.
Men face an increasing burden of affirmative action where they are made to be punished on the basis of their gender.
@@declup
End the forced military conscription.
Have an equal opportunity for government assistance and humanitarian aid like shelters.
Mandate equal opportunity for child custody after divorce.
Condemn the social acceptance of domestic violence against men.
It's simple. Men are flowing towards movements that value and respect them and take their issues seriously. The same reason young women have been flowing towards liberalism as these movements started getting more female focused than ever.
@@starsiegeRokswell Japan has one of the highest suicide rates and yet is more conservative than countries with lower rates. So exactly does becoming more conservative reduce suicide?
@@David-bi6lfArab is also very conservative and has less suicides rate than progressive European countries
@@declup The "movement" is more of a "praxeology" and its called the Manosphere...Men helping men figure out all the problems listed here pretty much
@@David-bi6lf The problem of suicide isn't wether the country is liberal or conservative. It's male loneliness and lack of purpose. Japan has an epidemic of loneliness and social isolation which is followed by western countries. Other conservative and traditional countries on the other hand like Arab, African countries or India are very community and family oriented. So men in these cultures are never really alone and their purposes are defined within their family and community.
@@declup Male suicides, male depression and loneliness, boys being behind at school, the increase of fatherless homes, family court biases against fathers, false s*xual assaults allegations, etc. All these issues were either ignored, mocked or downplayed by the liberal movements in general. Conservatives were the first ones to address them as a real problem. The left is barely just starting to seriously address these issues.
Plus, everywhere on the left, young men kept hearing they're the oppressor, they are toxic, their gender has had its run so now they should just step aside and support women, etc. Imagine being a young man with no experience, who lack self confidence and is still in the process of discovering himself, hearing all this. Then that man turns around and see people like Jordan Peterson or Andrew Tate telling him that there is nothing wrong with being a man, that he should be proud of his masculinity, he should strive to improve himself and become a stronger and wiser individual, etc. The same way the left and the feminist movement focuses on women issues and push the strong independent women message.
Great topic, but there is an issue with this video:
I think it is really important - espacially when you talk about a topic as sensitive as this one - to base every argument on empirical evidence. From my perspective the experts is those videos talk a lot about what they see in their lives, or what they feel is the reason for something, but thats just anecdotal "evidence", so there is no real worth to those arguments/statements.
I would love to see more data concerning those observations!
Thanks for making those videos!
The main bulk of the data is seen at the start which helped identify the problem. There is less useful data when it comes to examine the causes therefore it is harder to find solutions grounded on that data.
Hopefully more research will be performed in the education field, so that we can address these issues as early as they are present in young boys & men.
As a highschool teacher i can say that one of the biggest issues is that boys struggle more to emotionally regulate and CRUMBLE when it comes to frustration. I dont mean that to be mean, its genuine. The moment of confrontation with something that takes concentration causes them too much panic or shame and they refuse to do it and make it seem like they dont want to do it. A lot of my job is helping people face frustration to be able to do the process.
have you ever thought of programs in education where only girls get scholarships and encouragement but not boys? The emotions might be a seperate issue but i fail to understand why only that is talked about and the other issues are ignored purposely.
Who teaches spelling to high school teachers?
@@aaaab384 you should or refrain from trolling comments in the future. You can keep those missing '...
@@amitjose3739 yes, I have. now what? your comment isn't contributing or helping. we all know those things exist. we don't need more examples of unfairness and anecdotes, we need solutions how to stop them from keeping happening.
thank you for your contribution and keep up the good work! young men need support facing controvercy and a growing opposition to their gender. teaching them how to deal with frustration is a very good start and very valuable lesson. please don't forget to teach young women as well, because they will face them too and not knowing how to deal with them is what started this whole mess in the first place (as well as many other things).
If we want to stop it, we need men AND women to know how to have a peaceful or at least non-violent conversation and knowing that you will be inevitably frustrated and not get what you want right away (and especially not through force/violence/power) but through process and agreements is one of many if not the most important necessity.
There was a case here in Bulgaria just a couple months ago, where a young father in his 30s has been fighting in the courts to be allowed to see his kids. Not to take custody, but simply actually see the children - no restraining order or past transgressions, just his wife unilaterally deciding to kick him out and not allow him to do so anymore. His wife and her mother lured him to meet, and together strangled him in his own car. Little did they know that was right in view of some CCTVs... Then they drove off with his corpse and reportedly tried to burn it in the woods. And guess what? The court promptly ruled that the killer should be put on house arrest only, reasoning that she is a woman and should be allowed to stay with her kids. Only after some public outcry were the children temporarily taken to their father's parents, and the killers put into actual jail. Although now the court is about to let them go under house arrest again, as they are complaining about bedbugs in their cells. And this is happening in a small Eastern European country, a place that is generally viewed as "extremely backwards, conservative and patriarchal".
As an extremely backwards, conservative and patriarchal place, it thinks children need to be raised by their mother. That fits an extremely backwards, conservative and patriarchal mindset.
@@leftgrrl it seems we have a vastly different interpretation of what a "patriarchy" is, if you are even entertaining the thought of attempting to blame said court ruling on such a perceived mindset.
@@leftgrrl As somebody coming from "an extremely backwards, conservative and patriarchal place" I can tell you my country is topping the charts for gender equality by the standards feminists use, and I've yet to be treated as good as women in anything. But yeah, preach us from your ivory tower about how you've actually got it worse.
@@leftgrrlFor a patriarchy, women tend to benefit a lot from it.
@@ryeguy7941 Patriarchy hurts both men and women. The moment you people realize that you'll be free from your ideology.
"bridge the divide" "enter new spaces"
Yeah thanks mate, that will sort everything out.
Thoughts and prayers 😂
the issue is men and women are taking sides pitted against each other which only furthers the gap.. they need to work collectively as humans..they need to stop focusing on whos side theyre on and collectively focus on the issue at hand the problem was never each other but the problem itself...we learn teamwork in kindergarten yet it seems like every adult is so far from it
Just be yourself, bro
@unnecessaryapostrophe4047 also remember to cry a lot, if men just start crying more all our issues will go away 😂
@@parker9012 Exactly! Men really need to be more comfortable with showing their [socially acceptable] emotions!
Nobody wants to participate in the activity where you are held accountable for everything, while the only thing expected from another party is to voice their goals and make the decisions, that will be implemented by you. This IS a zero-sum game, ackhually.
13:50
If something's changed and "it's going on with boys" - how come women changed more according to all the graphs?
Because young people becoming more liberal is a natural thing that has been happening in the last 100 years.
The problem with masculinity is that changes are not happening at the same rate across all aspects. Men are still expected to provide for their families even if it is no longer possible for them to do so. Women tend to still prefer men of higher social status than them. Men still pay for dates, even if they make less. Men still are the ones who tend to lose custody of their kids in divorce court. You want to be a stay at home dad? Sure it's possible now but the vast majority of families do not want that. It seems like the modern family is just 2 working parents who use their income to send their kids to daycare so they can keep working.
And that’s it, that’s the problem, you’re spot on, women being able to participate in the work force was supposed to be getting more prosperity for the family and individual agency, and it should’ve been, but in the past 40 years of austerity things have gotten more and more expensive and there’s been rapidly decreasing opportunities to get out of poverty.
In the US, the child tax credit that was passed in 2021 reduced child poverty by 50%, but then it skyrocketed right back up to where it was once that policy-which has initially been implemented only temporarily-was allowed to expire. We know how to fix poverty, we know what we need to do, but we’re not doing it.
Find Christ.
@@ex7229 How would that actually help?
Just to clarify that men do not lose custody battles to court as they hardly battle it at all. Most of the time when a man asks for custody, he is awarded it. Why most women end up with majority of custodies, is because the men willingly opted out, not because the women tried to keep the kids away. Sure, it happens but far less than you might want to imply.
@@leslieariane3696 nationwide, father custody time is 35%. There’s not a single state where it’s more than 50% and some where it’s as low as 22%.
If men are falling behind most in skandinavian countries, why do we call these countries "equal".?
their possibilities are equal
@@thinktwice-me7ie HAHA, You can not be from Scandinavia.
@@thinktwice-me7ie equality of outcome, not equality of opportunities.
Women call equality one upping men in everything.
In Norway the working class woman earns more than the working class man, even though feminism here still tell the narrative that women earn less than men.
How you may ask? If you exclude the top 10% male and female earners and look at the middle class. You will see women out-earn men, which also explains why so many women here complain about there not being any good men to marry.
While men have changed in society and are open to marry women who earns both less and more than them, women on the other hand have been reluctant to changed, so its not men that need to change, we already have, its women who needs to change. But news and society still blame it on men. Now I'm taking about marriage here but when it comes to hookups and fwb the situation is not like this, women here don't really care much how much you earn as a man when it comes to short term fun.
I would be feminist, but I still don't understand what equality is. For example, is it equality that men are allowed to carry heavier stuff at work? or should we let women to carry heavier stuff too, even tho it will hurt them? The reality is we are not the same, ganders, races, and even genetics makes everyone different, it's like giving the same treatment to Pandas, Grizzly bears and Polar bears, both females and males. Pandas definitly can't survive on polar pole and grizzlys and polars can't survive on bamboo.
Summary of video is rich political elites telling young destitute men they're privileged and just to get over it.
But they are literally telling that it is not mens fault and they should not be blamed about it?
@@SuperCoolSunglasses They are. Who are you
@@hellitsabouttime8487 This is not true at all. Did you even watch?
@@spaceowl5957 unfortunately yes. Truth hurts doesn't it. You fear the oppressed starting to break the chains?
@@hellitsabouttime8487 What, who's oppressed? I'm a man too btw, I thought most of the perspectives in the video were very empathetic of mens struggles and encouraging.
This liberal guy just blames men in the "solutions" section lmao. "Men need to enter spaces to have more empathy for other people.."
how is that blaming?
@@dogukan127 That won't help men. He's basically just saying these young men need to "check their privilege" and have empathy for others, when in reality society really needs to have more empathy for these last young men.
I agree. The opinion of Neil Shyminsky is pretty consistent to what has been told to us men in the past by feminism, and does not offer any particular solutions. His own "solution" is also part of the concept of toxic masculinity, defined by himself, by him telling us men "how all of us men should be, and remind ourselves how privileged we actually are as men." No, sir, what you offer is not a solution. It will not solve anything, just cover the problem, turning us back to where we are, again. On the other hand, Richard Reeves provides an insightful analysis, with a refreshing conclusion for us men, with actions that can be taken at the government level and as policies. I liked his opinion profoundly. It seems that he has thoroughly thought about solutions for this new problem and how we can close the gap between men and women and create more equality, by taking actions.
@@dogukan127 the same way "pull yourself up by the bootstrings!" isn't helpful but more blaming poor people for supposetly being unwilling to just become wealthy
His "solution" is just a very roundabout way of saying, "I don't care, haha sucks to suck."
In my opinion, Richard Reeves was the most reasonable guest of the three.
Agree. That guy really presents well, I am going to find him and follow him.
The other two guests were there to placate the feminists.
Found, subscribed, enjoying.
I dont know who the Feminist guy in box stripe shirt is but never listen to him. He is on team delusion.
What did the others said that was unreasonable? I feel like they all had somewhat balanced opinions.
Ive never met a man who cared how much a woman has accomplished but ive met many women who have accomplished a lot with the main goal being to show all the men she can do what he can. The irony is that men dont actually care about these things when women do it.
this "study" starts off with the wrong foot. women being increasingly liberal is not a problem. But men being increasingly conservative is a product of radicalization? Also video description casually referring to a portion of men as "incel", but referring to women in any derrogative term is strictly forbidden. THIS is why men are diverging. Becoming aware of double standards
This is so ham-handedly edited it is impossible to not to notice that this isn't an interview , or a conversation , but a constructed narrative . I can't even focus on the intended message .
Totally agreed, i would like to be able to listen to the raw interviews.
It’s DW, what do you expect
Yeah, although it's interesting, I must agree with your point. A 4 way discussion might have been more interesting, where all 4 could have fully participated.
@@editorrbr2107What's wrong with DW?
@@zlinos139 nothing, they've always been woke
The young men see liberal content creators laughing at male suicide rates, depression, and so on. They see them claiming “you run the world, you don’t get to be depressed” while they struggle to make ends meet and the content creator is living in luxury. They see women on the left screaming that all men are horrible. They see liberal women shouting at rallies, telling men “you have to get fixed to date me” and say “I’m not dealing with that”.
Young men, especially straight men, are being FORCED out of the liberal camp, and you know it. It isn’t the appeal of conservatism, it’s the repulsion of liberalism.
or it's people like you that choose to only listen to the worst groups and make no attempt to find others, then declare everything as wrong.
Should I judge a whole religion based on Westboro baptists too?
@@oatmiser3110 You're comment is repulsive and insulting. Basically, you just proved his point.
@@edwardcamp3376 You're insulted by me calling a certain mindset childish and useless? Either prove that it isn't, or find a better mindset informed by actual facts.
I haven't seen the things that you're talking about in real life, and I know many very left-leaning people. If you only see these things on social media or in a news source, be aware that these are outrage machines that make money from your attention. They want you angry and watching so that they keep making money off of you. Social media in particular is cancer for society.
@@oatmiser3110 It is a mainstream liberal belief that men are privileged and so they actively ignore or fight against those who care about our issues
"young men feel entitled to feeling comfortable and save"
bro everyone is entitled to that
I disagree on everyone feeling comfortable. Everyone should have the right to seek comfort, but what that means varies massively from person to person.
I do agree that everyone should have the right to safety.
@@LeafMaltieze eh everyone has the right to comfort if anyone has the right to comfort and just because it varies from person to person doesn't mean it can't be quantified it just changes and that's entirely human.
Safety and comfortable feeling are desires not human rights. It's your own duty to ensure that you're living comfortable and in safe.
@@Tespri As a egalitarian I disagree. Comfort shouldn't only be there for the rich or well off but forever to rest after a long day. To assume that some are not worth comfort is to say no one is worth comfort because what it takes to acquire comfort can change.
@@superdudehello Should a cave man thousands of years ago have same comfort as an average man right now? Was their human rights broke by the nature when their life wasn't as comfortable as modern humans have?
This is how easy it's to break your flawed reasoning. Also what is comfort is highly subjective. For some it's comfortable that no one ever talks back at them. For psychopaths it's comfortable that you never report to cops on their actions.
Sexism is bad for all. As bad for men as for women. The men and women against equality will tell you otherwise and try to avoid the elephant in the room, sexism, by going into semantics, e.g., feminism is extreme.
I’m 26yo white male from a middle class upbringing. From my point of view, I don’t fit anyone’s “progressive” agenda. Despite that, I’m living very poorly month to month trying to advance myself in my own free time when I don’t work full time. I feel like I have to work much harder than other people because there are only so many “white guy” positions available at any given company while they are still understaffed or have people that are underperforming regularly. We all see it. It’s not about having the right identity doing the job. It’s about having the person most qualified to do the job. Not all white guys are “rich/high status” as these talking points would suggest. Even in our president’s own speech in which he says “the white upper/middle class”. I feel like a victim of politics in a world were I was supposed to be able to work hard and get ahead for doing a good job. Now it’s only about making sure certain race/gender land certain jobs. Absolutely ridiculous and I think educational institutions should be ashamed and realllllly think about how their “solutions” to non problems affect people.
29:25 patriarchy, but women get all the scholarships and all the affirmative actions.
Sure mr expert
When my grandfather was a young man, women could not get employment without consent of their husband, they could not have a bank account without his consent and "abuse" within the marriage was practically considered non-existent.
THAT I call "patriarchy"...
@@martinfiedler4317 Please go watch the 1895 short film by Lumière "workers leaving the factory", avaliable here on this site. You will notice that it's an overwhelming amount of women and just a few men. So much for THAT "not allowed to get employment" fairytale...
@@martinfiedler4317yeah you just said when your grandfather was young. That's not today.
@@spindle7397That's the point. It's a thing of the past. At least in the so-called "developed" West.
But I guess young men today need to be punished for what is now considered the "sins" of their ancestors... 😒
@@martinfiedler4317 My female ancestors were attending university in the 1920s. You must be 150 years old.
I don't think the poorer women of that time were wishing they could spend 12 hours a day in the coal mines along with their men. But poor men don't count, apparently.
This is like rich people saying to poor people; stop being poor. Neil Shyminsky is one of those sociopaths who profit from this hurdle.
Define rich ?. How much money do you have to have to be 'rich'.
@@penguingobrrbrr353 By that question you are telling us you missed his point completely. Read again. It wasn't about money.
They only suddenly "care" now, because they will bodies in uniform when war becomes inevitable. Don't do it, men !
@immoralwombat6843 I am struggling to understand your point. Is it that we tell men to suck it up, but the systemic issues they’re facing are material? Is a cultural hegemony of misogyny going to fix that?
Perhaps we need material solutions to those issues which as this documentary suggests those are issues we’re all facing. I think spotlighting the plight of men is important for the cultural component.
Shyminsky, you say? No way!
@32:05 "Frankly, it's never too early to start teaching feminism to children."
God help us.
The problem, as Alice Evans demonstrates in the video is that it has become mainstream to stereotype men. And men, especially young liberal men to whom those outdated stereotypes don't apply at all, are pushing back.
though arent alot of these male influencers also promoting stereotypes?
sigma males and alpha males are just modern stereotypes
When Ms Evans was referring to "the crisis of masculinity" she alleges that men view women as a lower status so if they are unemployed or don't have a nice house and get rejected, THAT is why... Because they view women as lower status.
I think that's condescending bollocks!
The problem is literally in what she said:
First off, "their advances"... First problem is guys are always expected to have to make the first move, its stressful, puts us in an exposed position and NOBODY ever asks US out in return.
Secondly, she's already characterising them as low status because of their employment status or because of their house etc. In relationships, women judge men on these things, but women don't typically get judged in return. If women insist on tieing men's worth to things like their jobs, is it any wonder that there is friction when men are struggling to get ahead?
Men don't look down on women because of their jobs, but she is literally proving the point that women absolutely do that to men.
To be honest, this video, most likely unintentionally, has acted as a fantastic case study as to why male attendance at Universities is dropping. As someone with a degree, I have nothing but utter contempt for the vast majority of career academics who dare to lecture working men and women on reality that they themselves wouldn't know if they tripped over it. To embellish an excellent quote, "Some academics and journalists might stumble over the truth, but the overwhelming majority pick themselves up and hurry along as if nothing has happened".
omg this shifted my whole perspective of the video. I've been reading the comments and there are a lot of valid points raised such as why is this video only focused on men as if they are the problem and they need to change. Whether it was intentional or not there is a huge bias playing a role here and your comment introduced the whole class thing. At the end of the day it's just a bunch of upper-middle-class ppl telling the working class how to live and what they are doing wrong without understanding the problem or ever experiencing it themselves firsthand.
all politics is classism
I loathe academia. They live in a bubble and echo chamber and really don't understand how the real world works.
@@LuckyCl0ver I find these types of people always tend to go on about "social media echochambers" especially as a way to downplay conclusions others have come to that they disagree with, as if they are immune to the same effect and their arguments and opinions are unassailable, as if their sources are always the most truthful correct ones.
the argument holds no water for me.
@@DaglessMc am not sure classism can still be a contributing factor as well as gender and race etc. also I feel like it's always good to question the things ppl are telling you even if the stats come from reliable sources they can still be presented and used in a biased way .I agree that downplaying others research isn't right. But since everyone else was talking about gender this comment did shift my perspective as in opened another possible outcome.
Overall rather than one person being right I think there are multiple ppl that are correct simultaneously. I don't think the researchers are wrong but some of them do seem biased. Plus the researcher do have stats to back them up where as the comments are more so observations. Which are speculation that we are presuming to be true but may not be. again I think this whole thing is very gray-scale. So it difficult to agree with just one side. (Sorry for the long comment 😔 I really liked Ur comments that's why I had so much to say)
If female hypergamy is real, women doing better IS actually worse for men due to higher standards.
Part of the problem is people seldom draw any distinction between masculinity and toxic masculinity and toxic masculinity is so pervasive many men don't know what masculinity is without the toxic part. Since people fail to draw this distinction and conversations sound like; "Toxic, toxic, toxic, toxic...." it probably feels to men, like, "attack, attack, attack, attack." At the same time, men have never stopped to ask women what women think healthy masculinity is. The same is true for feminity.
There's always a gap between men and women. Just ask people about conscription, divorce, abortion, child support, and discrimination.
I've never been discriminated against. At least in any of the things people generally think about when they think about discrimination. Perhaps you mean something in particular by the word "discrimination", @FireOccator?
Regarding consription - typically women take care of the children while men fight. I suppose it could also be the other way round also but someone has to stay at home with the children. As a man I would prefer it is me who does the fighting and I would question what kind of a man is someone who wants to stay at home with the kids and send the mother of his children to do the fighting?
@@anssiluomaranta34 Your view of men is disturbing.
@@anssiluomaranta34 and couples who don't have children ?
looking at the birth rates, not really an argument@@anssiluomaranta34
Young men don't eat up "gender equality" because it's not hard to see that it's not about "equality"
Nobody has ever done anything for us aside from family.
correct. Third wave feminism is nothing about equality. We know it. They know it. It's part of the overarching radical lefts movement to sow division between groups.
You also forget about the demonization of men in the press, for instance in Argentina, a man wanted divorce then the woman accused him of rape, and the press labeled him a rapist, in all news papers headlines, then the cops finished the investigation and found a text from the exwife to her friend saying "I'm suing him to destroy him" and the police immediately had the proof it was a false accusation. No major news paper reported the reason he was liberated and she was put in jail for false accusations, only they said "They let the rapist go and put her in jail" then the feminists march to protest against the injustice and her family went during the night and light up his house burning him with 3rd degree burns all over his skin.
I was wondering why the comment section was so conservative, but then realized there are no women on the internet.
BAHAHAHBSBNJFDBB my thoughts exactly 😭
I keep finding comments that are like "I had to stop the video after a minute because I couldn't handle how liberal it is" Like bro, these are experts, it doesn't matter if you think they are or not, they are, and you literally just admitted to not even watching the video..? So like... how do you even know that they are so liberal when you didn't even watch the video..?
experts in gaslighting men. yes
@@exoskeleton5660 Feminist experts. Surely You realized that after watching the video. Reeves even admitted the fact. They simply cannot go against the dogma of feminism- Which is; always put women first. How is one supposed to tackle the problems of men with that mindset.? Impossible.
@@exoskeleton5660 They did have to watch a good portion of it to come to the conclusion of this video being "pro liberal". This video's thumbnail and title especially attracts this type "conservative" men, aswell.
"Men are no longer the main bread winner." True. But we are still judged by that ability. What's the first question asked after a woman mentions a new man in her life? "What does he do?" In other words, how much money does he make? Men are keenly aware that their ability to find a mate is linked to their income. It's a patriarchal attitude, and yet it is perpetuated as much or more by women then men. Is it any wonder a pay gap exists, when men are under so much more pressure to earn?
There is no pay gap. The winner of the economic Nobel prize last year pretty much debunked a lot of that. And the winner was a woman.
That's not universal - it's VERY much an American thing. Outside a professional context you usually got quite deep into a conversation before anyone asks what someone else did in Australia up until the last 15-20 years. It's a social construct, not a natural way humans are. Sure we tend to try to seek our position in any social hierarchy, but not all hierarchies are as rigid or as one dimensional as the dominant U.S. culture is.
Yes women reproduce patriarchy too. It's definitely not all women though, especially ones that can take care of themselves and aren't trash.
Have a think about who really benefits from this crab fight over who gets paid more. It's not really the women who then get used to reduce the pay of men. It's the people who don't have to pay as much salary any more.
"What does he do?" doesn't translate to "how much money does he make?" in my book, it is more like "what are his interests/ skills?" in an effort to learn about a person socially or to be able to fit someone into a network of people who can be helpful to one another. Neither my husband nor I have ever been asked how much $ we make, nor do we feel the need to earn $ to impress others, it is just what is needed to survive. I have never asked a date how much $ they earned, I expect to and ask to pay my own way when I go out, and when I ask about what work they do, it is out of curiosity about what interests them and what their typical day is like. I've never had $ goals for myself or my household, I assume that I need to be thrifty to get by, and to work hard my whole life. I'm sorry if you feel women put economic pressure on you, but it is not all women who do that. In one of my earliest weekends visiting the guy I eventually married, I think he was testing me to see whether I was a needy princess; he made plans for us to work on expanding his garden beds by hauling several loads of manure and manually layering that over layers of cardboard. When I pitched in and worked as hard as he did and seemed to enjoy the work, I think he felt a lot more trusting of me. If you find a mutual charity that you and your date would like to support, spending a day together volunteering side by side can let you know whether she is only interested in being coddled, or whether she wants to give back to the world.
Here in America there was a boy that was "gR@ped" by an adult woman, and she found him after he turn 18, and sued him for back child support. She was never punished for what she did to a child.
Let me guess that child who is now barely above 18 has to pay child support? When he was himself a child just years ago. Welcome to America!!
And in my country a young girl (15 years old) was raped by 7 men (20 and older). She was left unconscious and severely injured and in the end froze to death as she laid more or less naked on cold ground. All rapists got a conditional discharge...
What do we learn of that? That both sexes suffer from an unjust system.
@ducklingscap897 That is why I specified where I lived and mentioned issues that happened here in my country. The video is mainly talking about develped western countries, so I mentioned the western country I live in.
Source please?
Cry about it
13:34 higher rates of divorce, suicide, and children growing up without Fathers. Bravo.
why are we talking about men, when the graph shows that they're about as conservative as they were in the 90's and not how women are becoming extremely radical?
There's often an unspoken expectation that a man's worth is closely tied to his finances, especially in the eyes of the opposite sex. This can add an extra layer of complexity to dating and relationships in these modern times when many women are making as much as men. Many women still hold onto the traditional belief that a man should out-earn them to be considered valuable and worthwhile pursuits as potential partners, and many believe that men should still take up much of the financial responsibility in dating and the relationship. Now, you have to be a high earner as a man to, well, be a real man.
There was a video from Alice Cappell that talked about this some, that feminism has failed because its original goals have actually be discarded for this "consumer capitalism" version of feminism where traditional feminine values were actually not done away with. That means that hypergamy is still VERY MUCH a part of women's value set, which is anathema toward equality.
Exactly...That's the main problem. Money makes the man when it comes to women. A criminal with a benz and all the flashy stuff gets more women they say...uh a man working in some lab trying to come up with a cure for cancer.
But at least we now get he funny Videos of Woman hitting the "Wall" and cry in social media about that@@Jo_876
Maybe men need to start bringing more to the table, like household duties, like being faithful, like childrearing...
@@qibriti3220they already do
A big part is the assumption that everyone should go to university, which is demoralizing in many ways. For many people, men and women, it just doesn't fit, and at 18yo it's too early to decide anyway. It costs a lot of money, puts people in debt and if there's no job at the end it kills your self confidence. Trades and other pathways to a job should be seen as excellent choice, a degree can always come later. Having a trade, the ability to build, create and actually do stuff is far more valuable degree. Governments around the world need to put in place policies (not just words) that put trades on equal or better footing as a degree
It used to be a lot cheaper to go to university in America, for a long time in California they were totally tuition free, so as the costs changed the choice you’re referring to becomes harder
I dropped out of college after a year. No one took college seriously everyone got drunk and a lot the staff just talked about their ideology. It was not a welcoming environment for socially for me. It was a very good life decision. I make a good wage and support my wife and children.I went into IT and got certifications and real work experience.
You can easily say the trades aren't meant for everyone else as well. There is no one size fits all solution. Just like a lot of degrees offered by colleges aren't worth it, you can say the same for some of the trades as well.
Trades is a good option. This year in Ontario, they implemented a mandatory grade 9 trade course for everyone- 6 weeks about construction (wood shop) and 6 weeks in auto body shop. My son cannot wait, and as a carpenter who got into it as a second career, I couldn’t be happier.
@@miguelgarcia6493 Yeah but there's massive cultural pressure in the Western world for young people to go to college. And in many cases that leads to people applying for some bs degree that teaches no real skills "just to go to college" because learning something like mathematics or engineering is really hard. There isn't much cultural pressure if any for people to go learn a trade unless they're interested in one.
It's not men vs women. It's pure economics. Due constantly rising cost of living, men can no longer support their whole families and women are forced to enter the job market. Instead of pointing out the issue, it's being rebranded as something positive. And how many women choose to pick skilled blue collar career (like plumber, electrician etc)? Women simply don't want to do it, hence they pick higher education path. This ultimately leads to less and less time available for their partners / families. You would think that ANY available family time would be very precious and appreciated, but in reality it's being wasted on watching TV or our phones for this quick dopamine rush, where we're constantly bombarded with "promise of better life" ... and we all fall for it. All of this results in rapid, demographic decline. We're literally working ourselves to extinction. Look no further than Japan or South Korea. If, where you live, is not that bad, it soon will be.
Exactly, this
I am 47 and a gay male and I have pondered many times on the topic of masculinity vs femininity. I grew up on a farm in a religious community with very defined roles for men and women. I got married to a woman, had 3 daughters and a son then came out at 35 years old. People have found it interesting that I have a gift for fixing things such as cars or I can build you a house or chop down a tree but I also play the piano and have a gift for decorating and clothing style and I am a very nurturing parent. Who determines which of these characteristics are feminine and which are masculine traits? I have come to realize that we all have feminine and masculine traits and I have finally embraced them both within myself. I have come to find it very beautiful and very powerful. I think there is a lack of both women and men who embrace both the feminine and masculine energy (however those are defined) within themselves to become their true authentic selves without the worry of what societal norms have historically been.
true words, true words.
Society shoves words like masculine or feminine like these things mean anything in the modern world.
I've come to the belief that unless its a medical situation where a doctor needs to know, things like gender or masculine/feminine whatever are completely useless in the modern day
There is a scientific definition of masculine and feminine energy. They have already analyzed the effects on testosterone vs estrogen on human psychology and behavior. More estrogen makes a person more nurturing, caring, loving. More testosterone makes a person purpose oriented, logical, less emotional, firmer boundaries etc.. The ideas of masculinity and femininity is not just something made up by society there are scientific observations behind it aswell.
@@reezis1619 the author of the original comment is right. intragender differences become a more important predicate for the development of society and the elimination of its shortcomings. each of us is an individual with a unique set of abilities, hormonal levels, physical abilities from person to person, regardless of gender. down with gender slavery, which enslaved women, destroyed so much lives for truly animal purposes, and which now provokes radical feminists and male conservatists into misandrist/misogynistic statements.
@@reezis1619 Source? This does not sound accurate to any research I have read.
Estrogen and testosterone has no affect on psychology in that sense. The only thing I know that does change between them is that emotions are more inhibited with testosterone - those with lesser testosterone / more estrogen (not always, but overall) are more able to express emotion.
Not to say those with testosterone do not have emotion, just that it is harder to express it. E.g how many men can be extremely upset but still find it hard to cry even if they want to.
Descrimination against men is not gender equility.
And equality for woman is not discrimination against men.
@@trickslies844 In what ways are women not equal?
@@FungalBunghole In what way are men discriminated?
@@trickslies844 Women-exclusive tax exemptions.
@@trickslies844 Legally, women almost always get lesser sentences and more lenient conditions in family court as well.
I see all the wonderful examples in the comments and I want to raise mine : In France, bunch of new laws were passed to enforce parity in public positions.
The city of Sarcelles had its municipal elections cancelled because the ballots had too many women. Of course, a lot of people cried misogyny and "applying the letter of the law instead of its spirit"
The city of Paris was hit with a 90 thousand euros fine for having 69% of women as directors, a long way from the 40% parity requirement (=40-60% range for each gender). Everyone cried misogyny again, and the minister for gender equality (yes, it's a real thing) cancelled the fine. The mayor then said that, since the fine was not owed anymore, she'd give those 90k to... a women's rights group.
Rules for thee, not for me.
As a lifelong liberal whose voted for one Republican candidate in my entire life, reading stuff like this makes me want to vote for the Orange Man.
Europe is a lot different than the US.
@@user-te3qm5mv6rAnd the video says that this is a worldwide phenomenon, so what's your point ?
@@givrally7634Worldwide doesn't mean its the same everywhere.
@@chingo9002 "Worldwide phenomenon" means it happens (close to) everywhere. Again, what point are you guys trying to make ? That France doesn't count because it's not in the four countries mentioned in the video?
The problem was never about the diverging world view of men and women , it was always about the wealth disparity between the upper elite and the working class beneath. Talking about toxic masculinity or feminine , misses the point and is a useful distraction so that the root of the problem isn't tackled.
@ 20 seconds. the narrators claims boys are becoming more conservative all while showing graphs that pretty clearly show that its the Women that are becoming woke (except in korea)
Media and social media. Elites thrive on a polarised society
exactly, how are people so blind that social media has rotted peoples minds and they all live in echo chambers
elites, non-elites, and everyone else thrives on polarization. also every other genus in the primate phyllum.
I think younger people are less well equipped than more mature people in trying to avoid a place where different legitimate views are expressed in a non confrontational manner. I think quite often young people are sucked into echo chambers, where their own views are reinforced, only because of groupings online, whereas genuine debating skills are dying on the vine, because there are no platforms that provide serious discussion between serious people who genuinely wish to explore the landscape of an issue or area of thought. However to a degree even older people can be sucked into that context all too often, and find themselves in a cage with trolls who aren't interested in serious discussions, rather they wish to hurl rocks, and nothing more.
working as intended
Absolutely! In the corporations are very fond of women's liberation and empowerment as they are the bigger shoppers and more easily influenced by emotional shopping experiences
For all of us, everything always comes down to economic security.
Economic security is just a fancy way of saying survival. No money = no housing no transport no food no family no life
No. That is an extremely feminine perspective shared by 80% of women and 20% of men which is the entire point.
The masculine perspective is liberty and freedom above all else which is a view shared by 80% of men and 20% of women.
Such are the choking tendrils of the feminine socialist movement we are no longer free to explain why on yt without censorship removing it.
No. men are not animlas, they are not only driven by the amount of food in their bucket
@@reuvenpolonskiy2544 have that bucket be empty for 3 days if you want to see mans animal side
@@kimpeater1 True, the man have a beast inside him. But he has not only the beast inside him, and therfore a full bucket will not sufice.
~30:00 We don't "feel entitled to being comfortable and safe" we just aren't afraid, whether that's rational or not, we believe we can deal with what happens. Modern women, which there is a strong argument are the safest beings to ever walk this earth, are terrified. Patriarchy isn't to blame for that. Also, blaming men for not being afraid is grade A toxic behavior.
This was a good and fairly balanced discussion. As a Man that has spent the last 50 years being vocally in favour of women's equality I find myself frustrated as a certain segment of society focuses on hostile buzzwords like toxic masculinity and lose the main plot of making a world where women and men are simply equal and nobody thinks differently. Most young people I know don't think of women as less then them and the young women don't think of themselves as less then, this is a great starting point for true equality. Yes most young men are struggling financially but so are young couples and young women, it's hard for the young right now. But we are making it worse by using terms like toxic masculinity, men even I hear "Males and anything distinctly male is by definition toxic.". I know that is not the intent but that is the reality. To be distinctly male is not toxic, the same as being distinctly female is not negative in any way, and nobody is a stereotype. We need to celebrate and utilize each other's strengths, because we are always strongest together
preach
You’ve done a tremendous amount of damage in your naivety
32:04 "Because frankly, it's never too early to start teach feminism to children", balanced discussion?
THAT is the intent
Another problem that may not be centered around the whole gender-topic outright, but still is very influential and important to everyoney are social media echochambers. We need to ENFORCE dislikes back to youtube. We need to allow negative feedback to exist on the internet and we need to emphasize Pluralism of Opinions. These echochambers do not only radicalize many people, they also spread outright lies for political agendas. This is in my humble opinion one of; if not the most important issue of our time, for every current generation.
I willing to bet an echo chamber algorithm lead everyone to this video
Today's Communism using Cultural Marxism via 4th Wave Feminism is to blame for messing with Men's Rights and by extent messing with Society
lol I wrote a comment about how you should be more worried about internet censorship instead of seeking another means via which to seek to shame and censor people, and TH-cam immediately censored it. Which only proves my point.
lol I wrote a comment about how you should be more worried about internet censorship instead of seeking another means via which to seek to shame and censor people, and TH-cam immediately censored it. Which only proves my point.
Posted twice, perhaps that'll get through the censorship algo
yes, yes we do!
Because when you are 20 years old broke student hearing about some mystical privileges and insults because of patriarchy is a bit frustrating. You endlessly tell young men that they are the problem and then you are surprised that those men go opposite direction to you?
I think what they are talking about is that you have the ability to be at college and be a broke student in contrast to having to start working minimum wage at 16 and having to partly support your siblings with that, too. That`s the mystical privilege people are talking about.
It maybe doesn`t feel like it when you have to eat noodles with cheese for a week at the end of the month, but it actually is privilege.
I feel like everyone claims that the opposite gender has privilege when in reality I’m seeing that everyone of suffering..oh it’s getting bad..
@@anthill1510 my college is free and I work wage job to have food, so it's pretty much the same x)
@@anthill1510 i mean the majority of college students are women though? so through your own logic they would have more of said privilege? Like boys can't also deal with absent parents and taking care of their younger siblings.
In my n0eighborhood you can find a park bench on which "Take place against violence... against women and girls" Why the second part? Why not just the first part? That´s a perfect example, what the problem is with the modern feminism. It divides and makes men to citizen of second class whos issues are not as important as the women´s problems...
I think men also are struggling with companies/governments hiring or prioritizing women being hired just to meet a quota vs actually hiring based on skills/education.
"but its illegal and goes against my narrative so it couldn't be happening"