I found shera last year during my 1yr internship. All I did was dress cute everyday, nice make up, smile and laugh. Men (mostly white even black) form every department swooped to help me do ANYYTHING!!!!! I had the CFO of a ftse 100 company stutter over me. I played dumb so well and the men didn't care. They'd do my work for me and i allowed myself to be comfortable like that. My boss didn't want me to leave, but i didn't want to stay even though he allowed me to work from home 2 days a week!! I am not skinny I'm a us size 10/12 and pecan brown. You can do it too ladies.
@Sabrina Just a full baked face of makeup (youtube learnt) no eyeshadow, matte red lipstick or any other lipstick. For clothes, sexy work wear, white shirts and tight skirts, dresses, AlWAYS! wear classy heels in the office.
I have a very soft feminine voice, When I went to the restaurant to get my food, all the men looked when I spoke, and 2 was arguing about who was going to pay for my food!🤯🤣🤸🏾♀️💁🏽♀️
Before you leave your house: - Speaking in a polite feminine voice - Smile - Look your best - Dont exploit yourself - Wear feminine colours, even in gym clothes - Wear sandals, flats, ... - Clothes that enhances your curves - Wear perfume
I meant touch and taste but taste is later on. Smell means you need to smell good, hear means you need to sound sweet and feminine, see means you need to look soft and feminine and touch means you need to feel smooth when he touches you (It can just be your hand).
Young lady, focus on your studies, pray/ meditate, eat healthy, exercise and don't date until you're 18 (graduated high school) have good clean fun, discover a hobby u love and when u do start dating never let a guy treat u less than a lady.
Lol same way at 19 someone offered me a construction job im like shit these ppl crazy or what i cant even lift up my king size mattress properly😂😂😂. Next
I use my feminine charm today there was some young teenager I guess young men in their 20s hanging out in congregating around my car one of the young males was sitting on the hood of the car I was coming out of my door and walking towards it. at first I was annoyed but I decided to take a different approach being that I'm not in the best neighborhood or whatever. So I thought to myself suppose I tried to just use my Feminine voice to sway them from being around my car.. so as I got closer I smiled and I told the guy in my softest sexiest voice "excuse meee can you please get off my car?" And he looked at me calmy and just got up and they said "awwww she said is so sweet my bad Queen I apologize and I told him it's ok guys have a nice day, they was like you too. I know it's not no big deal but it ended better than I thought. had I had used my masculine energy you know being in the hood for so long if I had use my typical reaction it would have been a huge fight or standoff between me and 3 guys I didn't want that..I can take them lil scrawny asses but why would I wanna do that ya know. They're just kids compared to me. but I understand how using your feminine charm can get your way without a hassle even on the smallest scale even in that little situation. I suppose that is a sweetness that they are not used too in this neighborhood and it kind of threw them off in good way. Needless to say I definitely need to get out of this neighborhood and I am working on it. Thank you Shera!!!
I've always been feminine till 3yrs ago when some girl told me "oh you know your so soft and weak you cant do anything" I felt bad and started tapping into the "independent strong woman who doesn't need a man" I regret it all now
@@mika-nc2pc no I naturally had a feminine personality it's just that I changed it to please people now I appreciate my nature well cause not everyone will ever understand why God made someone in a certain way
There's a woman from Nigeria I personally know she's 38 with 4 kids divorced yet she managed to get herself MARRIED to a Multi-millionaire in USA...So ladies let's do the work. That same woman ,I noticed she had only been in relationship with millionnaires only!!!
Women are so socially trained to be masculine we don’t know when we are displaying masculine behavior. It can be the simplest things; For example, I was in the checkout line at the grocery, when it was time to bag my groceries the male cashier started reaching to bag my groceries. But Ah Ha!, I beat him to it and started bagging myself. When I realized what I had done it was too late. I stopped so he could finish but he turned to the next customer and left me standing there to bag my own groceries. 😖 The next time I didn’t move, the same male cashier didn’t budge but a female employee jumped in and started bagging for me. lol When you are in your feminine all the masculine people will jump to help. Male and female. lol
TruthFan yes so true. One day I was leaving an interview, looking my best and headed back to my car. I opened my driver side door to get in, when this huge bag w/all of my hair supplies came falling out everywhere, onto the ground. I quickly raced to the ground to avoid the embarrassment of being seen when a seemingly, nice handsome, businessman walked over and asked did I need any help and what did my dumb self say? “Oh no, I’m okay thank you”. No sooner had those words left my mouth, I was angry with myself inside. As I just realized that man could have been my potential “target” and how condition I was of being “independent” that it may be causing me to miss out on my own life changing opportunities....😢
Omg truuuu. I’m naturally a feminine woman like 9 times out of 10 but I notice I also adapt to people easily so I was with this straight man who was so feminine that I catch myself mothering him and I’m like wtf lol he does pay for my stuff though but other than that, he’s really feminine. Like both of us are attractive and don’t do the masculine stuff emotionally and physically 😂 it’s a mess
I use ugliness as protection but I gotta stop that... I work in retail & I don’t like attention / I have a lot of masculine women co workers & very feminine males who all are dusty + make their wives work while they stand around working for pennies ~ when I go to work cute my manager gives me MORE work... it’s annoying 😐 but I know why it’s happening...I’m going to wear NOTHING but dresses as soon as it turns spring...
@@BK-tp6jf thank you for your suggestion- I didn’t even remember leaving this message- I didn’t go for it … ugliness continues to be a shield but elevated with self care in private … more of internal upkeep than exterior- the world at large scares me- no one is who they pretend to be. I try to avoid social interaction as much as possible- I can feel the lack of soul breathing beneath of flesh & it’s not worth my time to try to connect ..🧟♂️🧟🧟♀️thriller season is upon us …💀
I always like when Shera makes these videos. Years and years ago parents used to send their little girls to etiquette school for things like this. How to carry yourself with elegance and class. How to dress and present yourself as a lady. Manners and acceptable behavior. Now we just run around acting all loud and ratchet in public. At the mall wearing a bonnet and house shoes. At work trying to out do the men. He doesn't want to compete with you. How can you expect to attract a man when you're acting like you've got bigger balls than him? Some of y'all are doing too much...
Holy Shit Toni Smith you might be the smartest one on here you will find a great man if you havnt already. I am very sure of that yes no man wants to compete with you period just remember what you just said cus if hes competing with you it doesn't matter how beautiful you are and you are very beautiful. He will only see you as another guy. If aman wanted a man he would just get one but no he wants a reall woman to the core now that doesn't mean you cant do some things that guys do ofcourse but just dot compete with him ever
Ain't told not one lie... Men will literally use that "I been used and abused" bs as nothing more than an excuse to try to give and do the bare minimum...
Today was my first time visiting your channel .... it randomly popped up in my recommendation and I’m happy it did because I learnt plenty of lessons and starting now I’m focusing on being less masculine and more feminine I owe it to myself so thank you for delivering this message to me I felt it was heaven sent By the sprinkles
This video was needed so many black women in California providing for dusty black men it’s SICK be more feminine as possible and get the bag from the right man
You always look so beautiful ❤❤ Thanks for helping us ladies become more feminine so we can attract a masculine man. Where I live (San Francisco, Ca.) I always see a lot of plain and masculine women. I dress up everyday and look feminine and I can see how men look at me and notice me more.
@@Yahshija That's so true. Women in these major cities are independent, want to work and want to build their men. But like you said we can be an example for masculine women.
Lol, I wrote the same comment somewhere in her videos, my name is also like you. I thought: when did I change my username? I’m also spiritual and into enlightenment path, scary lol. Greetings from another Claudia from Eastern Europe.
I am following you since a year and a half,I will never ever believe that the lady in your old videos is you! You're a whole new person.and you get younger and prettier in every single video.
That is so true what you said about how women will rush to help feminine women. I've witnessed first hand. It kind of catches me off guard, but it's nice. You have your haters of course, as well, but I guess that comes with the territory
SheRa!! You are so right about literally everything you’ve been saying. I’m 1000% intentional about me femininity. I say about 467 “thank you’s” but that’s a small price to pay because I hardly ever lift a finger. Men rush to ask what I need without me even realizing what I need. All I do is be feminine and let a man be a man! 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 you are amazing for sharing these truths.
Also roasting. My family gatherings are all about roasting and heavy drinking. I used to feel like the odd lady out but I am only growing for the BETTER!💜👑💖💖💖
If they ask you why do you wear so much makeup tell them and it's a fact that makeup protects your skin from the elements such as dirt and all all of those unhealthy things in the environment. I'm a Mary Kay beauty and Image consultant and we teach this in our business.
NOT a YT Guru ! Bad makeup can do that. If you get makeup made with good ingredients, and remove it properly, you shouldn’t break out from it. Also, pores don’t open or close so the “clogged” pores thing is hardly ever from things that are topically applied - like makeup.
NOT a YT Guru ! Get makeup that has 100% natural and organic ingredients, i started using the bert's bees make up brand and I haven't had clogged pores ever since.
Some Russian and east Europe women in general are a good example of women using their feminine voice. They have that little girl voice so even tough their accent is thick they sound extremely feminine. I had that russian skinny girl who was working as a hotel maid, whenever she was talking she sounded more fragile than me and i was her boss. Mind you she was strong and was actually among the best maids in the hotel but she was hiding her strength cause she was skinny. I personally have a sensual voice but i am yet to achieve that childlike intonation. Shera is right, i can’t even imagine what that voice can do to a man’s mind... That russian maid got married shortly afterwards. I never saw her again.
My mum is so feminine but my Dad is a dusty, she is the bread winner. It ruined my perception of how relationships should be. I've cut them out of my life
I learned to embrace my femininity by simply studying and copying Asian women. Asian women are considered the most feminine women on the planet. Asian women know how to play with femininity. Asian women taught me to: 1. Stay slim. Maintain a nice figure. 2. Speak softly. 3. Don't be afraid to play around with the innocent look. 4. Dress cute. 5. Don't be afraid to use stereotypes to your advantage.
This was a great live as always, had tons of fun! Thanks babe💋❤️😍 side note: the more masculine a man is the more it brings out a woman’s feminine side ( she can be comfortable in it with him) which is why masculine women repel masculine men (bc she is the man) and vice versa a feminine woman brings out the masculine in men even more and feminine men just become your friends or will bring out masculine energy in you, that’s why a lot of women are masculine these days bc a lot of men they’ve been dealing with are in their feminine energy! Being feminine is a luxury and a must for us to get what we desire and deserve easily! Let no one rob you of your god given power💋
So that’s no fault of ours if they are feminine or become feminine over the course of a relationship. If a woman his constantly left to her own devices what’s the expectation?
Same. It stops with you. I wear skirts and dresses around them. I speak soft around them too. My mom had the nerve to ask me to open something she couldn’t open herself when I visited her one day, when my little BIG brother still lives at home...I was like is Darnell here? Looking really confused...🙄
We have to be feminine but not a doormat because some men who are operating from a place of toxic masculinity take advantage and I think that’s why some women act so masculine because they don’t want to take advantage of and then again sometimes we were raised that to always be rough, circumstances also affect us when you been through a lot it’s hard to always be feminine but I agree it’s just easier to get along with a feminine woman
Doreece definitely I try to balance it also because I’ve seen a lot of men take advantage of feminine women who don’t have a voice for themselves definitely feminine but not gonna tolerate any foolishness
I have to say I am just now discovering your channel and while I completely agree with your content I can’t help but notice a pretty strong feeling of resistance to this philosophy. Maybe it goes back to my childhood and my relationship with my own Mother lacking femininity so not having anyone around to model this very important behavior. Any drop of femininity I do have now as an adult in my 30s was either self taught or picked up from other strong women role models over the years. Some of the behavior I am painfully aware of now is: I cuss like a sailor, have control issues, can be quite loud/funny/boisterous at times, don’t commit to always looking and feeling sexy or feminine, etc. It’s no wonder that although I am happily single and raising a daughter myself, I have always struggled attracting a good quality man. Looking forward to brushing up on your content and implementing these philosophies myself. Thank you 🙏🏻
Omg yes! Can you please address the issue w/women and the usage of the word B**** to be exact? For example, they’ll say hi b****, bye b****, or “b****, did you see what she had on?!”, when talking amongst their girlfriends, coworkers and/or colleagues in reference to the word “girl”. It’s not cute. I thought we are leveling up AND acquiring femininity along the way. Yet some don’t see anything wrong. Sprinkle✨sprinkle✨!
That was a very smart move to edit it to shorter key points...but also keep the longer versions.. sometimes I like the Q&A. Sometimes I just want to hear the game/key points only. Good concept! I am amazed but not surprised by all u are doing! U have inspired me & many others! U have no idea how you have positively changed my 🌏.. u deserve all the greatness you have & have to come 😘
What brow pencil do you like to use? The eyebrow shape on your left eye is so flattering on you 😍 I like how curved/slanted it looks in the front! This is a good look
What do I do when his friends are over ten years older than me and very smart and outspoken, even his friend's wives. I am very feminine, girly and soft spoken, I wear pinks, smell amazing and know how to play it up when necessary. But it can come off as shy in comparison to them, they speak politics and can be quite loud. They all have multiple degrees and I only have a college diploma. HELP.
S get acquainted with current affairs so you can chip in from time to time, read books so you can sound smart too or just read articles. Do not ever be loud with them though
OMG - she's killing it. (Damn) the realization that so many women don't know ANY OF THIS... Well... that explains black men's complaints The whole community is WAY off balance. Smh
Sometimes its curse to be feminine then all men like you and look at you even if you are genuinely trying to be friendly then they harass you it's weird and scary
Instead of asking about their job like an interview, ask what industry are you in? Tell me about (the industry). How are you improving your industry? That’s so interesting! How do you relax after being so important at work? The influential talk about industry not specific jobs.
Ladies is it masculine to be single and want to become a homeowner? Afraid that if I'm taking care of everything around my home I'll lose sight of still wanting to be provided for (if this makes sense)
I would say yes. Also depends on your age, do you also bn have kids? If you're still young find a man who would want to buy you a house. Tell him you've always wanted to be a home owner
Good question, cuz u cant really play these games if ur doing that. Guess you can own rental property ($$$) and have an apt and maybe act like u need help with rent. Lol smh just sayin
If your hands are rougher than his! He’s gonna want you to pay 💰 some bills 😅😂🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣😂😂😂😂🤣giiiiiiirl’ you ain’t neva lied! I use sugar scrubs ‘ everyday! And keeps’ my nails. 💅🏿immaculate
Its interesting what you said about Jasmine Guy and her "HYPERFEMININE" voice. As I have discussed Dark skin men have been "HYPERMASCULINIZED" - what I find interesting is, that show and MOST SHOWS, have always had the LIGHT SKIN WOMAN playing that "HYPERFEMININE" role, while most dark skin women get to be PAM on Martin, and NOT the feminine woman. This DOES play into how many dark skin men see light skin women, and how many black women, both light and dark, see dark skin black men as more masculine as light skin men due to media promotion or the lack their of for light skin men in the masculine light. Very interesting point that you brought up.
Of course it's masculine but I'm not sure why you would feel the need to tell them about it. That falls under "talking too much" category. Be mysterious and NEVER let a man know you can kick his butt 😘
Shera! Someday we gotta see your closet! 😜 I know you don't have a fashion channel but WE WANT YOUR CLOTHES TOO!😜👍 I definitely screwed up throughout these years. The worse natured bf I had tried to bring it to my attention. Sometimes I come off as a dude because I was a tomboy for so long. Most of the time I was SUPER feminine. 😆 Went racing dirtbikes and then showered and got ready and put a dress on! Hahahaha
Yooh my hands are hard I need to soften them lol,I once dated a guy ,he once told me that he felt like he was chatting to a man when I texted him cause I called him dude
Georgina Vorm we give them what they want in exchange for what we want, it's a fair trade. How does that make us pickmeshas? A pickmesha would give men EVERYTHING they want and expect NOTHING in return.
I think I messed up! My man wanted me to let my hair go natural and ease up on my makeup but I dyed it anyway and don't know how to do my makeup more natural. I like how I am...
I found shera last year during my 1yr internship. All I did was dress cute everyday, nice make up, smile and laugh. Men (mostly white even black) form every department swooped to help me do ANYYTHING!!!!! I had the CFO of a ftse 100 company stutter over me. I played dumb so well and the men didn't care. They'd do my work for me and i allowed myself to be comfortable like that. My boss didn't want me to leave, but i didn't want to stay even though he allowed me to work from home 2 days a week!! I am not skinny I'm a us size 10/12 and pecan brown. You can do it too ladies.
@Sabrina Just a full baked face of makeup (youtube learnt) no eyeshadow, matte red lipstick or any other lipstick. For clothes, sexy work wear, white shirts and tight skirts, dresses, AlWAYS! wear classy heels in the office.
woww gurll
@nika4507 Aww thank you hun xx
Yes Girl, Sprinkle.. Sprinkle!
GIRL..U CANT EVEN WRITE .U WERENT PRETENDING TOO HARD TO BE DUMB
"Masculine women rush to help feminine women, too" . lol hahahaha --- i LOVE you, Shera!!!
@Doreece This is a really good one for moms th-cam.com/video/Jblnd19Ghe8/w-d-xo.html
She is just too funny 😂
😂😂😂😂
Lmao
The models in classic movies always got the rich men. They wore vintage classic hair, make-up & wardrobe. They could go anywhere, & look good.
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So true! Being classy never goes out of style.
Movie ideas
I have a very soft feminine voice, When I went to the restaurant to get my food, all the men looked when I spoke, and 2 was arguing about who was going to pay for my food!🤯🤣🤸🏾♀️💁🏽♀️
yess girl! get em with the sweetness
Before you leave your house:
- Speaking in a polite feminine voice
- Smile
- Look your best
- Dont exploit yourself
- Wear feminine colours, even in gym clothes
- Wear sandals, flats, ...
- Clothes that enhances your curves
- Wear perfume
Miss Hypergamous that’s me all the way
THAT BABY VOICE IS A DEAD GIVEAWAY
Thank you, lovely summary and breakdown
😂😂 not a funeral museum
You have to satisfy men in all 5 senses. Smell, Hear, See, Touch, and Feel.
Touch and feel?
Smell Touch Feel can go away unless they want to go to jail!
I meant touch and taste but taste is later on. Smell means you need to smell good, hear means you need to sound sweet and feminine, see means you need to look soft and feminine and touch means you need to feel smooth when he touches you (It can just be your hand).
@@Jaz-px5pr Ah ok ❤ I was like is this a new sense lol
The women in this comment section don't satisfy common sense!
“Everyone has been used , the toilet has been used . Did you stop going to the toilet ?” 😂😂😂😂😂 TRUE
I'll be 16 next month i'm learning early.
Remember: Your body is not for sale young lady. Take care.
Hell no these are very toxic and dangerous behavior! Focus on your education/dreams and stay a virgin now go to sleep
Focus on your education. Men aren't going anywhere.
Young lady, focus on your studies, pray/ meditate, eat healthy, exercise and don't date until you're 18 (graduated high school) have good clean fun, discover a hobby u love and when u do start dating never let a guy treat u less than a lady.
Step one don’t listen to the people in the comments listen to Shera 😭
If your hands are rougher than his he will want you to pay bills 😂😂😂
Chocolate Chick 😂💀💀 stopppp oml
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Girl I HOLLERED WHEN SHE SAID THAT!!!!🤣🤣🤣
Lol same way at 19 someone offered me a construction job im like shit these ppl crazy or what i cant even lift up my king size mattress properly😂😂😂. Next
Yes to wearing sexy under clothes and sexy clothes at home. Keep your energy feminine all day, I promise this works!
I use my feminine charm today there was some young teenager I guess young men in their 20s hanging out in congregating around my car one of the young males was sitting on the hood of the car I was coming out of my door and walking towards it. at first I was annoyed but I decided to take a different approach being that I'm not in the best neighborhood or whatever. So I thought to myself suppose I tried to just use my Feminine voice to sway them from being around my car.. so as I got closer I smiled and I told the guy in my softest sexiest voice "excuse meee can you please get off my car?"
And he looked at me calmy and just got up and they said "awwww she said is so sweet my bad Queen I apologize and I told him it's ok guys have a nice day, they was like you too. I know it's not no big deal but it ended better than I thought. had I had used my masculine energy you know being in the hood for so long if I had use my typical reaction it would have been a huge fight or standoff between me and 3 guys I didn't want that..I can take them lil scrawny asses but why would I wanna do that ya know. They're just kids compared to me. but I understand how using your feminine charm can get your way without a hassle even on the smallest scale even in that little situation. I suppose that is a sweetness that they are not used too in this neighborhood and it kind of threw them off in good way. Needless to say I definitely need to get out of this neighborhood and I am working on it. Thank you Shera!!!
I've always been feminine till 3yrs ago when some girl told me "oh you know your so soft and weak you cant do anything" I felt bad and started tapping into the "independent strong woman who doesn't need a man" I regret it all now
why?
@@mika-nc2pc cause I let go of good men thinking I will never be married one day
@@matinajazmine so u changed ur entire personality from masculine to feminine bc u want to find a good man? A good man will love u for whoever u are.
@@mika-nc2pc no I naturally had a feminine personality it's just that I changed it to please people now I appreciate my nature well cause not everyone will ever understand why God made someone in a certain way
@@matinajazmine ahhh good to know that u already had that personality, in that case, good for u for finding the courage to be who u originally r :)
Damn... Shera where have you been when I was 18 ? 😓😩😩😩
Now I'm 28...sitting here learning from you... thank you ❤
I'd like to know too
At 28 you are a baby.Get the bag
I'm 28 too, I feel behind. But, I know what a 45 year old feminine women can do the same thing. So that puts me back into perspective.
There's a woman from Nigeria I personally know she's 38 with 4 kids divorced yet she managed to get herself MARRIED to a Multi-millionaire in USA...So ladies let's do the work. That same woman ,I noticed she had only been in relationship with millionnaires only!!!
Same, well 29 and well behind just getting this knowledge
This is a chess game. Its exhausting but you have to learn.
Girllll too much! Im exhausted just by listening
@@shinysnewworld no foreal😂😂😂😂
She has grown into her beauty as she gets older
Women are so socially trained to be masculine we don’t know when we are displaying masculine behavior.
It can be the simplest things; For example, I was in the checkout line at the grocery, when it was time to bag my groceries the male cashier started reaching to bag my groceries. But Ah Ha!, I beat him to it and started bagging myself. When I realized what I had done it was too late. I stopped so he could finish but he turned to the next customer and left me standing there to bag my own groceries. 😖 The next time I didn’t move, the same male cashier didn’t budge but a female employee jumped in and started bagging for me. lol
When you are in your feminine all the masculine people will jump to help. Male and female. lol
TruthFan yes so true. One day I was leaving an interview, looking my best and headed back to my car. I opened my driver side door to get in, when this huge bag w/all of my hair supplies came falling out everywhere, onto the ground.
I quickly raced to the ground to avoid the embarrassment of being seen when a seemingly, nice handsome, businessman walked over and asked did I need any help and what did my dumb self say? “Oh no, I’m okay thank you”. No sooner had those words left my mouth, I was angry with myself inside. As I just realized that man could have been my potential “target” and how condition I was of being “independent” that it may be causing me to miss out on my own life changing opportunities....😢
Omg truuuu. I’m naturally a feminine woman like 9 times out of 10 but I notice I also adapt to people easily so I was with this straight man who was so feminine that I catch myself mothering him and I’m like wtf lol he does pay for my stuff though but other than that, he’s really feminine. Like both of us are attractive and don’t do the masculine stuff emotionally and physically 😂 it’s a mess
Agreed I have a bad habit of doing this 🤦🏽♀️ I’m a work in progress
No shit it's her job 🤣🤣🤣
@@RavenUntamed right smh
I use ugliness as protection but I gotta stop that... I work in retail & I don’t like attention / I have a lot of masculine women co workers & very feminine males who all are dusty + make their wives work while they stand around working for pennies ~ when I go to work cute my manager gives me MORE work... it’s annoying 😐 but I know why it’s happening...I’m going to wear NOTHING but dresses as soon as it turns spring...
@@BK-tp6jf thank you for your suggestion- I didn’t even remember leaving this message- I didn’t go for it … ugliness continues to be a shield but elevated with self care in private … more of internal upkeep than exterior- the world at large scares me- no one is who they pretend to be. I try to avoid social interaction as much as possible- I can feel the lack of soul breathing beneath of flesh & it’s not worth my time to try to connect
..🧟♂️🧟🧟♀️thriller season is upon us …💀
i had a lady touch my hands and tell me i NEED to get to work because my hands were “embarrassing” 😂😂🙄
the dust was flying that day
😍😍😍🤷🏾♀️Shera looks prettier everyday
SHERA IS NOT PRETTY..😂
Femininity is your super power. Keep it up ladies.
I always like when Shera makes these videos. Years and years ago parents used to send their little girls to etiquette school for things like this. How to carry yourself with elegance and class. How to dress and present yourself as a lady. Manners and acceptable behavior. Now we just run around acting all loud and ratchet in public. At the mall wearing a bonnet and house shoes. At work trying to out do the men. He doesn't want to compete with you. How can you expect to attract a man when you're acting like you've got bigger balls than him? Some of y'all are doing too much...
Holy Shit Toni Smith you might be the smartest one on here you will find a great man if you havnt already. I am very sure of that yes no man wants to compete with you period just remember what you just said cus if hes competing with you it doesn't matter how beautiful you are and you are very beautiful. He will only see you as another guy. If aman wanted a man he would just get one but no he wants a reall woman to the core now that doesn't mean you cant do some things that guys do ofcourse but just dot compete with him ever
Ain't told not one lie...
Men will literally use that "I been used and abused" bs as nothing more than an excuse to try to give and do the bare minimum...
I don't want to sacrifice anymore. Lol Truth
Lovely Libra off topic but Libra Nation ♎️💕
@Whitney Marie 🙌🏿♎🔥
When men tell me they've been used they become a target lol. I'm gonna use you for the same thing. Shouldn't have told me lol
Starr Johnson 🤣👏🏾 yesss sis
Today was my first time visiting your channel .... it randomly popped up in my recommendation and I’m happy it did because I learnt plenty of lessons and starting now I’m focusing on being less masculine and more feminine I owe it to myself so thank you for delivering this message to me I felt it was heaven sent
By the sprinkles
I’m Kapri you will love it here.
I’m Kapri welcome ❤️🙏🏽
Awww so sweet. Now you’re about to be addicted lol
This video was needed so many black women in California providing for dusty black men it’s SICK be more feminine as possible and get the bag from the right man
Shea butter, cocoa butter, vaseline for hands.
You always look so beautiful ❤❤ Thanks for helping us ladies become more feminine so we can attract a masculine man. Where I live (San Francisco, Ca.) I always see a lot of plain and masculine women. I dress up everyday and look feminine and I can see how men look at me and notice me more.
@@Yahshija That's so true. Women in these major cities are independent, want to work and want to build their men. But like you said we can be an example for masculine women.
Same on Seattle, I get stared at for wearing heels and colorful sweaters and flawless makeup lol
You have to be super feminine. Color, fragrance, demeanor.
She cracks me up I swear 😂
Lol, I wrote the same comment somewhere in her videos, my name is also like you. I thought: when did I change my username? I’m also spiritual and into enlightenment path, scary lol. Greetings from another Claudia from Eastern Europe.
I am following you since a year and a half,I will never ever believe that the lady in your old videos is you! You're a whole new person.and you get younger and prettier in every single video.
That is so true what you said about how women will rush to help feminine women. I've witnessed first hand. It kind of catches me off guard, but it's nice. You have your haters of course, as well, but I guess that comes with the territory
The 3 unseen forces💞
SheRa!! You are so right about literally everything you’ve been saying. I’m 1000% intentional about me femininity. I say about 467 “thank you’s” but that’s a small price to pay because I hardly ever lift a finger. Men rush to ask what I need without me even realizing what I need. All I do is be feminine and let a man be a man! 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 you are amazing for sharing these truths.
You look better and better in every video it’s like how is this possible but you’re magical so ya know ;)
My masculine trait that I will work on to decrease is to stop making all the jokes and laughing at all the jokes cause I’m uncomfortable.
Also roasting. My family gatherings are all about roasting and heavy drinking. I used to feel like the odd lady out but I am only growing for the BETTER!💜👑💖💖💖
Lmao! Dude i stay roasting the guys i like I'm so ratchet
Girl!!! I need to tamp down on that myself! 😩
Shera’s “boring women” video has talks more about this. Good luck ladies 💖😊✌🏽☀️🎀
I keep roasting moustaches and I need to STOP😂
If they ask you why do you wear so much makeup tell them and it's a fact that makeup protects your skin from the elements such as dirt and all all of those unhealthy things in the environment. I'm a Mary Kay beauty and Image consultant and we teach this in our business.
gigishair4u yess sis, i learned that in my 20's from a rep at the Clinique counter in a dept. store and it's so true !!!!👍
@@kenyabutts3592 I wear it to scare you off
I’ve NEVER heard that, I was told it clogs your pores 🤷🏽♀️
NOT a YT Guru ! Bad makeup can do that. If you get makeup made with good ingredients, and remove it properly, you shouldn’t break out from it. Also, pores don’t open or close so the “clogged” pores thing is hardly ever from things that are topically applied - like makeup.
NOT a YT Guru ! Get makeup that has 100% natural and organic ingredients, i started using the bert's bees make up brand and I haven't had clogged pores ever since.
Some Russian and east Europe women in general are a good example of women using their feminine voice. They have that little girl voice so even tough their accent is thick they sound extremely feminine.
I had that russian skinny girl who was working as a hotel maid, whenever she was talking she sounded more fragile than me and i was her boss. Mind you she was strong and was actually among the best maids in the hotel but she was hiding her strength cause she was skinny.
I personally have a sensual voice but i am yet to achieve that childlike intonation. Shera is right, i can’t even imagine what that voice can do to a man’s mind... That russian maid got married shortly afterwards. I never saw her again.
Plus American men marry immigrants quickly. Lol
Nisha Mack they know what’s up
Wow. I'll bet she's vacationing in Maldives laughing at the days she used to work for a living.
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Lol
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Delphi 0101 girl the husband probably doesn’t know she had such a job.. 😆
I always wear bright coloured socks and under garments, gym clothes too.
My mum is so feminine but my Dad is a dusty, she is the bread winner. It ruined my perception of how relationships should be. I've cut them out of my life
My mother masculine she wakes up at 05am to hustle,my dad stays home to read...I've cut them off & I hate them
@@Cute_Stuffs you cut them off and hate them bc of their personalities?
Smh
agree they will influence how you think
Starting at 11:20 is a TOTAL WORD!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾✨✨✨ Use these unseen forces to your advantage at all times!! #369 ✨✨💕💕
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Voice, smell, thought! Mental energy has so much power and creates your frequency.
I learned to embrace my femininity by simply studying and copying Asian women. Asian women are considered the most feminine women on the planet. Asian women know how to play with femininity.
Asian women taught me to:
1. Stay slim. Maintain a nice figure.
2. Speak softly.
3. Don't be afraid to play around with the innocent look.
4. Dress cute.
5. Don't be afraid to use stereotypes to your advantage.
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I read a book by an Asian lady. One of the best books I’ve ever read
@@MelaninMagdalene which one please?
Angelica A.
“Thick Face Black Heart”by Chin-Ning Chu
Also watch feminity secrets of the geisha by Nicole Michelle..it has some awesome points.
And she reference the book the secret of the Geisha
@@bossanovalvr9069 thank you !!
YOUR SPEAKING SOME COLD GAME ON HERE SIS!!!!!
I HAD TO PULL OVER💄📿💍👑
You are such a goofball lol cracking me up in the first whole minute of the video 😂😜💕
This was a great live as always, had tons of fun! Thanks babe💋❤️😍 side note: the more masculine a man is the more it brings out a woman’s feminine side ( she can be comfortable in it with him) which is why masculine women repel masculine men (bc she is the man) and vice versa a feminine woman brings out the masculine in men even more and feminine men just become your friends or will bring out masculine energy in you, that’s why a lot of women are masculine these days bc a lot of men they’ve been dealing with are in their feminine energy! Being feminine is a luxury and a must for us to get what we desire and deserve easily! Let no one rob you of your god given power💋
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@Infinite Goddess Amen!
So that’s no fault of ours if they are feminine or become feminine over the course of a relationship. If a woman his constantly left to her own devices what’s the expectation?
What do you do if alllll the women in your family are devastatingly masculine 😫😫 I have separated myself but it is just so upsetting.
Send them one of sheras videos
Stop the generational curse girl!
Same. It stops with you. I wear skirts and dresses around them. I speak soft around them too. My mom had the nerve to ask me to open something she couldn’t open herself when I visited her one day, when my little BIG brother still lives at home...I was like is Darnell here? Looking really confused...🙄
Venecia B I keep Shera to myself cause I know they too masculine to even listen smh.
Adrianna M. I live in a whole different state!😂
We have to be feminine but not a doormat because some men who are operating from a place of toxic masculinity take advantage and I think that’s why some women act so masculine because they don’t want to take advantage of and then again sometimes we were raised that to always be rough, circumstances also affect us when you been through a lot it’s hard to always be feminine but I agree it’s just easier to get along with a feminine woman
Doreece definitely I try to balance it also because I’ve seen a lot of men take advantage of feminine women who don’t have a voice for themselves definitely feminine but not gonna tolerate any foolishness
This topic is right on time.🤗💖🤣
Love my little lavendar money bag. I've gotten so many compliments and inquiries about where I got it. Thanks Shera! Sprinkle Sprinkle dahling!
I love your natural hair like this more it’s just so classic when like straight and wavy great video ☺️🙏🏾💖
I have to say I am just now discovering your channel and while I completely agree with your content I can’t help but notice a pretty strong feeling of resistance to this philosophy.
Maybe it goes back to my childhood and my relationship with my own Mother lacking femininity so not having anyone around to model this very important behavior.
Any drop of femininity I do have now as an adult in my 30s was either self taught or picked up from other strong women role models over the years.
Some of the behavior I am painfully aware of now is:
I cuss like a sailor, have control issues, can be quite loud/funny/boisterous at times, don’t commit to always looking and feeling sexy or feminine, etc.
It’s no wonder that although I am happily single and raising a daughter myself, I have always struggled attracting a good quality man.
Looking forward to brushing up on your content and implementing these philosophies myself.
Thank you 🙏🏻
😂 “That’s how I talk.”
Omg this video💞🙌 2020 many women are going to level up💞💋
This woman is a GREEK SIREN! (She knows too much)
Omg yes! Can you please address the issue w/women and the usage of the word B**** to be exact? For example, they’ll say hi b****, bye b****, or “b****, did you see what she had on?!”, when talking amongst their girlfriends, coworkers and/or colleagues in reference to the word “girl”.
It’s not cute. I thought we are leveling up AND acquiring femininity along the way. Yet some don’t see anything wrong.
Sprinkle✨sprinkle✨!
U are a very beautiful woman Shera😍✨👌🏼
You’re beyond gorgeous 😍😍😍
THAT INTRODUCTION WAS PHENOMENAL! LOVE YOU SHERA!
I love, Love, Love, the 'SuperMan' 'Super Power' Reference, This Truth enhances my Life! Thanks SHERA !
I'm not a masculine woman, but I'm heeerrrrrrreeeeeeeeeee
That was a very smart move to edit it to shorter key points...but also keep the longer versions.. sometimes I like the Q&A. Sometimes I just want to hear the game/key points only. Good concept! I am amazed but not surprised by all u are doing! U have inspired me & many others! U have no idea how you have positively changed my 🌏.. u deserve all the greatness you have & have to come 😘
I sweat a lot. I looked so nice for a party this past weekend and my hair was straightened but my sweating was making my hair curl :/
Yes, also the make up starts to melt. I live in a very hot state so this is a huge problema
Same. Eye make up and oil remover sheets are best friends.
Water proof products. And as far as the hair, you can bring a small set of flat irons along with you, plug them up in a bathroom and do a touch up
Omg the debate thing was a real eye opener 🙀
What brow pencil do you like to use? The eyebrow shape on your left eye is so flattering on you 😍 I like how curved/slanted it looks in the front! This is a good look
Lmaoooo the intro takes me out every time Shera, that eye roll 😂😂
Yay. A lot of black men (and white guys) are into natural hair based on my experience. Happy to hear you say that because I just adore you he he.
"the toilet has been used.. do you stop going to the toilet?" hahaha
What do I do when his friends are over ten years older than me and very smart and outspoken, even his friend's wives. I am very feminine, girly and soft spoken, I wear pinks, smell amazing and know how to play it up when necessary. But it can come off as shy in comparison to them, they speak politics and can be quite loud. They all have multiple degrees and I only have a college diploma. HELP.
S get acquainted with current affairs so you can chip in from time to time, read books so you can sound smart too or just read articles. Do not ever be loud with them though
Does he like it tho?🤔
@@MelaninMagdalene What do you mean
OMG - she's killing it.
(Damn) the realization that so many women don't know ANY OF THIS...
Well... that explains black men's complaints
The whole community is WAY off balance. Smh
Sometimes its curse to be feminine then all men like you and look at you even if you are genuinely trying to be friendly then they harass you it's weird and scary
Wow, lol. " If your hands are rougher than his..." funny but true.
The opening of this video was everything 😂😂😫😫🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Shera please, please, please do a tutorial of this look! Girl i swear your aging backwards! You've always been a beautiful lady though ^_^
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"You could be right. It doesn't bother me" & go do something & be sad. 1:19:00-1:21:30
Instead of asking about their job like an interview, ask what industry are you in? Tell me about (the industry). How are you improving your industry? That’s so interesting! How do you relax after being so important at work? The influential talk about industry not specific jobs.
Shera, your voice is so soft and feminine. A great ASMR. I would like to hear you read a book, with your mouth close to the microphone.
Love you Ashera. My Guru!
I forget to ask for help lol
Ladies is it masculine to be single and want to become a homeowner? Afraid that if I'm taking care of everything around my home I'll lose sight of still wanting to be provided for (if this makes sense)
I would say yes. Also depends on your age, do you also bn have kids? If you're still young find a man who would want to buy you a house. Tell him you've always wanted to be a home owner
@@I_am_nina thank you for your reply 2 children, 34 y.o.
Good question, cuz u cant really play these games if ur doing that. Guess you can own rental property ($$$) and have an apt and maybe act like u need help with rent. Lol smh just sayin
@@trob9100 this is soooooo...
CHALLENGING!!LOL (thank you for your reply)
they don't need to know xD
Sprinkle sprinkle. 🤸🏽🤸🏽🤣
Looool at 29:15 "All I know is E=MC2"
If your hands are rougher than his! He’s gonna want you to pay 💰 some bills 😅😂🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣😂😂😂😂🤣giiiiiiirl’ you ain’t neva lied! I use sugar scrubs ‘ everyday! And keeps’ my nails. 💅🏿immaculate
Love the funny faces you make 😍😍😍😍😍
This look is elegant
I need to practice having a soft feminine voice
She's telling the TRUTH
You are looking fabulous 👏👏
Its interesting what you said about Jasmine Guy and her "HYPERFEMININE" voice. As I have discussed Dark skin men have been "HYPERMASCULINIZED" - what I find interesting is, that show and MOST SHOWS, have always had the LIGHT SKIN WOMAN playing that "HYPERFEMININE" role, while most dark skin women get to be PAM on Martin, and NOT the feminine woman.
This DOES play into how many dark skin men see light skin women, and how many black women, both light and dark, see dark skin black men as more masculine as light skin men due to media promotion or the lack their of for light skin men in the masculine light.
Very interesting point that you brought up.
Here for my daily dose of Shera 😂💓
If I do muay thai does that make me masculine for men? It's important for me to know how to defend myself.
Of course it's masculine but I'm not sure why you would feel the need to tell them about it. That falls under "talking too much" category. Be mysterious and NEVER let a man know you can kick his butt 😘
You took James to the national funeral museum?!😂😂🙄 never knew such s place existed! I bet he was scared! 😂😂👀
D.O.S. 23 🤣
Lol!
Love your blouse Shera, very feminine 💕
Shera! Someday we gotta see your closet! 😜 I know you don't have a fashion channel but WE WANT YOUR CLOTHES TOO!😜👍
I definitely screwed up throughout these years. The worse natured bf I had tried to bring it to my attention. Sometimes I come off as a dude because I was a tomboy for so long. Most of the time I was SUPER feminine. 😆 Went racing dirtbikes and then showered and got ready and put a dress on! Hahahaha
Purple is your colooorr 💜💜💜
Love you Shera
You’ve taught me a lot!
Yooh my hands are hard I need to soften them lol,I once dated a guy ,he once told me that he felt like he was chatting to a man when I texted him cause I called him dude
Shera, is showing a lot of love and joy around children considered feminine by men?
I feel like men generally see it as feminine but I'm not 100% sure
Who gives a f about what men want??
Y’all pickmesha
Georgina Vorm we give them what they want in exchange for what we want, it's a fair trade. How does that make us pickmeshas? A pickmesha would give men EVERYTHING they want and expect NOTHING in return.
I look the part lol thanks for giving me pointers on acting the part lol
38:07 "Y'all gonna cry together?" 😭
I think I messed up! My man wanted me to let my hair go natural and ease up on my makeup but I dyed it anyway and don't know how to do my makeup more natural. I like how I am...
"Your skin must look soft" Lol Omg lol.
BEYONCE STILL WORKS. I JUST SEEN HER RENAISSANCE CONCERT..
"Hi, my name is Lasha Golden and I have been behaving badly" ...likeca masculine bytch, lol....