I like this method , i will try it. A lot of methods is so barbarian for me , they let their child cry for like an hour and thinks they do a good job. So you do have better ways
Sad part is my 5 year old has his own bed 2 feet away from mine in the same room. His mother never listened to the doctor or me and it has pushed us so far away. It seems like she doesn’t even care that he sleeps right between us. I miss holding her at night. Now it’s me facing the outside of the bed and her facing the outside of her side. It really bothers me that she is ok with it. It actually hurts.
@@theweirdsistah7568 the marriage is the priority. Without a healthy, thriving marriage there can be no healthy, thriving home for the child to feel safe in. This idea that the marriage should completely take a back seat to the whims of a child is not only silly, but detrimental to a healthy and functioning home. Nevermind the fact that teaching your child to learn to sleep is a really important skill that so many kids never master which leads to sleep disorders when they are older.
@@theweirdsistah7568 ok, but most therapists will disagree. Sure, temporary adjustment must be made. If a child is sick, hurt, going through anxiety... But it's the parents job to help the child heal during that time and then move back to equilibrium. Deciding that one coparent should be forced to have their child co sleep for years regardless of their opinion and saying just get over it isn't healthy for anyone. It has nothing to do with insecurity.
I have Pandas Syndrome and Carry a lot of the symptoms... I am 18 and I feel the urge to sleep in My Parents room cuz of My anxiety disorder-When I feel like I’m about to faint from a panic attack, I scream My moms name and feel safer if I’m in the room. Thing is I’m 18!!!! I feel so humiliated that I can’t sleep in My own room.
Please don’t feel bad, everyone is unique, we humans do not have to act or do what is said by outsiders rules. Only you know yourself and what is best for you. Once you relax and accept who you are. even this habit might disappear. Make peace with your “imperfections to become perfect “.
I used to have severe anxiety and night terrors. The single most helpful thing I did to combat it was to change my diet. Not only did It cure my night terrors (3 years without a night terror while chronically having them almost every night previously.) it’s not always as simple as that but sleeping in your parents room will only make it worse.
Honestly is was amazing, maybe it’s funny that I had to put my 6 years old to sleep, stay in bed with her, rub her back. In one week with this training she falls asleep by herself, just amazing!
It's been a year since you wrote this comment, and if you'd want to share, I'm just curious, did you continue until it worked, and is it your kid now sleeping consistently in their bed?
but.. What do you do with a child who has always slept in his own bed, sleep trained and then suddenly becomes afraid of being alone in his room. With my 3 year old, I zip him up in his tog, pray, kisses, put him down, say goodnight and walk out. Boom!!! suddenly one night, he heard a neighbors house alarm going off and started crying. Ever since, he wants me to lie with him. Some nights he falls asleep super fast and I get up and carry on with life. But some nights it takes him ages to fall asleep. I'm leaving his room at 9:30pm. Sure, now I have created a habit.. but, even when he wakes during the night, he cries for me and is super mad that I left his room. I have tried to reassure him that mommy and daddy are close by, he has nothing to fear.. but he wont have any of it. Just wants me to sleep next to him. I really dont mind 10min.. but 1 hour 30 is driving me nuts. I dont get a chance to get anything done in the evenings.. I dont even get time to chat to my husband
I like this method , i will try it. A lot of methods is so barbarian for me , they let their child cry for like an hour and thinks they do a good job. So you do have better ways
I will soon have 5 children three of whom cosleep still and I’m currently suffering from round ligament pain I’m so going to try this
Sad part is my 5 year old has his own bed 2 feet away from mine in the same room. His mother never listened to the doctor or me and it has pushed us so far away. It seems like she doesn’t even care that he sleeps right between us. I miss holding her at night. Now it’s me facing the outside of the bed and her facing the outside of her side. It really bothers me that she is ok with it. It actually hurts.
Aww…I’m sorry. I hope things gradually can get better.
Guys need to get over it, the child is the priority , guys are grown up
@@theweirdsistah7568 the marriage is the priority. Without a healthy, thriving marriage there can be no healthy, thriving home for the child to feel safe in.
This idea that the marriage should completely take a back seat to the whims of a child is not only silly, but detrimental to a healthy and functioning home. Nevermind the fact that teaching your child to learn to sleep is a really important skill that so many kids never master which leads to sleep disorders when they are older.
@@kcnole the idea that the marriage is the priority is from what I’ve seen always the opinion of the men and insecure women
@@theweirdsistah7568 ok, but most therapists will disagree. Sure, temporary adjustment must be made. If a child is sick, hurt, going through anxiety... But it's the parents job to help the child heal during that time and then move back to equilibrium.
Deciding that one coparent should be forced to have their child co sleep for years regardless of their opinion and saying just get over it isn't healthy for anyone. It has nothing to do with insecurity.
Glad I came across this. Will try it out
I have Pandas Syndrome and Carry a lot of the symptoms... I am 18 and I feel the urge to sleep in My Parents room cuz of My anxiety disorder-When I feel like I’m about to faint from a panic attack, I scream My moms name and feel safer if I’m in the room. Thing is I’m 18!!!! I feel so humiliated that I can’t sleep in My own room.
Please don’t feel bad, everyone is unique, we humans do not have to act or do what is said by outsiders rules. Only you know yourself and what is best for you. Once you relax and accept who you are. even this habit might disappear. Make peace with your “imperfections to become perfect “.
I used to have severe anxiety and night terrors. The single most helpful thing I did to combat it was to change my diet. Not only did It cure my night terrors (3 years without a night terror while chronically having them almost every night previously.) it’s not always as simple as that but sleeping in your parents room will only make it worse.
@@shurtugal81 B”H I’m better now. I don’t sleep in my parents room. I am more aware of what I have. Managing my panic disorder ocd.
Does this work? Willing to try anything at this point.
is there an age range this would be appropriate for?
Honestly is was amazing, maybe it’s funny that I had to put my 6 years old to sleep, stay in bed with her, rub her back. In one week with this training she falls asleep by herself, just amazing!
We have a 4 year old that has been getting more and more attached to our bed at night. We will start this tonight. Let you know in 1 month.
Did it work?
how bout 3 years?
Divorced
The challenge for us is our boy coming back in our room at 1 o’clock in the morning. Any ideas for dealing with that?
Any tips? I have the same problem
Tell them no electronics for a month!!!
I can't get out of bed without his coffee
Same here
Put them back in their bed. Be consistent.
We’ve been trying this for weeks, and we still get a giant fight every time.
It's been a year since you wrote this comment, and if you'd want to share, I'm just curious, did you continue until it worked, and is it your kid now sleeping consistently in their bed?
Brothers 13 and sleeps with my parents, been trying to get him to sleep alone
So we let them come sleep back in our bed with us?
but.. What do you do with a child who has always slept in his own bed, sleep trained and then suddenly becomes afraid of being alone in his room. With my 3 year old, I zip him up in his tog, pray, kisses, put him down, say goodnight and walk out. Boom!!! suddenly one night, he heard a neighbors house alarm going off and started crying. Ever since, he wants me to lie with him. Some nights he falls asleep super fast and I get up and carry on with life. But some nights it takes him ages to fall asleep. I'm leaving his room at 9:30pm. Sure, now I have created a habit.. but, even when he wakes during the night, he cries for me and is super mad that I left his room. I have tried to reassure him that mommy and daddy are close by, he has nothing to fear.. but he wont have any of it. Just wants me to sleep next to him. I really dont mind 10min.. but 1 hour 30 is driving me nuts. I dont get a chance to get anything done in the evenings.. I dont even get time to chat to my husband
Play the game. They need to learn to feel safe again. If you come running every moment that teaches them that safety can only be with you.
Don’t let them in your bed to begin with