FINDING HAPPINESS AFTER MY HUSBAND DIED: Moving forward after the loss of a spouse | One Happy Widow
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- Finding happiness after my husband died: moving forward after the loss of a spouse. How I can call myself One Happy Widow. In this video I explain the grieving process and how I transformed my life after the death of my husband. Grieving the loss of your spouse can make it difficult to even think about finding happiness after your loss. If you husband or wife has passed away, you need to give yourself permission to grieve in whatever way helps you, and then give yourself permission to be happy, and perhaps even find love again. Being widowed and dating can feel daunting, but it can also be a part of the grieving and healing process.
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Hi, I enjoy your videos. Not a widow but a single woman. I was just curious if you still here from your late husbands mom and also how did you meet your husband?
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Thank you. 3 months, 99 days. I don’t wish to move forward. I don’t wish to think of a life without my husband. It’s still so surreal. My life was so beautiful with my beloved. I have no desire to be an unspouse. Wish I had gone with him. I guess I am stuck.
I’m really hurting right now. My husband passed away last month. We were married a long time. Going places we always went together is the hardest. Hearing his favorite songs is hard. I wish I could hug him.Thank you for making this video. I hope one day to be happy again. Right now, I just wish he was still here with me.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is so tough to even imagine that happiness can be possible when we are fresh into our grief journey. Nothing ever actually gets easier, and we can never go back to that same life, but we do get stronger and more able to handle the loss as time goes by, and we begin to create a different phase of life for ourselves. You are not alone in this journey, and you won't always feel like you do right now. Be kind to yourself, and allow yourself the time you need to process the feelings. Thanks for reaching out! #WIDFAM
@Silent tuber2 Please know my dear, that you are NOT alone! I lost my husband recently also after being married
for many years..if you need to talk, send me friend request on FB..God bless...
@@marykarle9592 Mary I tried to find you on fb. I couldn’t because there are many Mary Karle’s. Do you have a pic on there?
@@silenttuber2988 I’m the one with the long hair and the guitar who’s a nurse! Lol..lol😆😆🥰
@@marykarle9592 Ok I will look again
I lost my beautiful husband 21 days ago and I am in a dark place. I feel for all the others in this position as it hurts 😢
I’m so sorry for your fresh grief. Feel free to join our Fb group for more support! #widfam
I'm so sorry for your loss, Angel. God bless you!
I feel for you from the bottom of my heart. I’m 2 1/2 months into the loss of my husband.. I’m finding that each day that goes by, the severity seems to lessen ever so slightly. I know I’ll never feel the same but I truly believe I’ll learn to adjust. Be proud of every baby step you take. It’s truly heroic.
@@lindavernon8051 ❤❤
I lost my husband of 22 years on Easter Sunday, just 4 weeks ago.
I’m a widow of 10 years now. I cried everyday for 2 years and wouldn’t move on unto about 4 years. I have now learned to live with it and try to make the best out of it. At times my sad feelings still flare up as if it just happened. There’s so many stages of grieving and everyone is different. I try to stay busy as possible and enjoy my family and friends. It’s a long process to be happy again. Thanks for sharing all your feelings.
Thank you, and for sharing your feelings too! #WIDFAM
I lost my wife of 55 years in January last year. Her loss nearly destroyed me. Fourteen months later I still experience intense sadness and tears flow. But those moments are far less frequent now. I will grieve for the rest of my life. However, now I’m finding happiness in life. Reality is that love never dies.
Thank you for your feedback, it helps to know that none of us are alone in this journey!
So true
I lost my Wife 6 days ago and now im in a dark dark place. Me and my 3month daugther are alone now. I just realized that without her my life stops. She was the oil in my gastank. I miss her every single moment. This 30minutes were good to hear. I love the way you talk about it without all the god wanted me to carry on and...thank you for sharing and showing that i could possibly be happy again without dishonor the memory of my one true love.
Max from Hungary
Max, I am so sorry for your loss! You are in the beginning stages of grief, so be kind to yourself, rest when you can, and let people help you while they are still offering. Feel free to reach out or join our FB group for more support. Thanks for sharing. #widfam
God bless you!
Sending love and light to you lost my husband in an workplace accident 2019 he was a beautiful soul 47 years old miss him every day ,it will get better slowly 🐌 give yourself time .
Call upon Jesus Bible says when u don’t have a husband he (Jesus) becomes your husband!
Hugs be strong lost my husband sep 26 ! Me my son being strong 💪
I very suddenly and unexpectedly lost my husband 6 weeks ago to a pulmonary embolism. I'm only 40 years old and he had just turned 52 only 3 weeks before he passed. We had been together for 22 years. In fact, we had just celebrated our 22nd anniversary 9 days before his passing. I had been with my husband since I was only 18 years old. We actually met the same week that I graduated from high school. The very last thing on my mind as an 18-year-old kid fresh out of high school and still living at home with my parents was finding my soulmate and settling down, but there he was. It was undeniable. Our bond and connection were almost instantaneous and it didn't take long at all for us to fall in love. The rest is history. We have rarely been apart in these last 22 years. My husband was my soulmate, my rock, and my best friend. We always supported each other and we always knew that no matter what challenges or difficult times we faced that it would all work out and be okay because we had each other. We did almost EVERYTHING together. We were a team. We were one. We could finish each other's sentences and read each other's minds. We had just gone under contract to buy our dream home only 4-5 days before he passed. That's how sudden and unexpected his passing was. We were so excited to start our next chapter in our new home (which I am still going through with in his honor). I feel so lost. I feel like I've been robbed. We should have easily had another 25-30+ years together. He was much too young to go and I'm much too young to be a widow. I didn't just lose my husband, but I lost my best friend. Just his presence alone brought me so much comfort. My parents try to be as supportive as they can, but even they don't know what to say to me and sometimes say things that piss me off. I felt horrible for going off on my 75-year-old mother several nights ago because she hadn't even mentioned my husband since he passed and was just talking and treating me as if nothing had happened, but she just doesn't get it. She told me that she wasn't sure if she was supposed to talk about him. My parents still have each other (they just celebrated their 50th anniversary in May), which I am SUPER grateful for, but NOBODY truly understands what I'm going through. I don't want to feel like my grief is a burden to people and I sure as hell don't want people to think they need to avoid me because I'm "that new widow" who is depressing and miserable to be around. The loss of a spouse (especially a soulmate) is a loss like none other. My birthday is next month and I'm dreading it, because it will be my first one in 22 years without him. I miss him so much it physically hurts.
I’m so sorry for your sudden loss! It sounds like you are going through many typical issues of a new widow (not that it makes it ANY easier to deal with, but at least you know it’s not unusual). If you haven’t already joined our FB group, feel free! And my other videos cover several of your comments you mentioned here today. Reach out if you ever need to! #widfam
I lost my husband of 40 years 3 weeks ago and he was only 62. Our marriage
was similar to yours. He was my soulmate, my best friend and the love of my life.
I miss him so very much it physically hurts. I don't know how to go on. I understand what you are going through.
All the best to you.
I understand what you are going thru, you are not alone. Your description of your husband is what I would write about my husband. He was my everything, my sun. I miss him so much it hurts and it has been 3 years for me. I still cry everyday, but the out of control ugly crying has lessened. I just look forward to being him someday, of course I am older than you and we were married 39 years. Best of luck
I was with my husband for 22 years as well. He passed 3 days after our anniversary.
There are many that truly understand, unfortinately. It's almost 20 months for me now.
I just passed the second anniversary of my husband’s passing. We were married for 27 years. The first year, I rarely left the house. The second year, I decided I needed to move away to a new city, away from the people and other couples we were friends with, as a couple. I’m just now starting to make new friends, and to learn how to live by myself and be comfortable with it. The tough, sad days are still there and will always be there.
Thank you for your optimism and insight. This is a journey we had never planned to take.....
I didn't move too far away, but I did change my surroundings a bit and it helped a lot. Not as many uncontrollable triggers now. #widfam
A dear friend of mine sent me your video. I lost my husband unexpectedly on 4/25/2022. We had so much fun that weekend like we always do. We even drove to his hometown to visit his family.
My husband and I were together for 15 years. He was not sick. He was a very healthy 54 year old that took care of himself. He exercised regularly and watched what he ate. He didn’t smoke or drink, but yet one morning as he was about to shower for work, he literally dropped. He passed away within 5 minutes. The autopsy revealed he had blood clots in both lungs which he got after getting the Covid vaccine.
It’s so much I could say about him. I love and miss him so much. It’s been 8 months; however, it seems like yesterday. I’m going to continue watching your videos. Hopefully, I can get pass 4/25/2022.
I’m so sorry you are going through this journey! Feel free to join our FB group for more support: www.Facebook.com/groups/onehappywidow
@@OneHappyWidow Thank you
Lost my husband a month ago to COVID. I feel guilty when I laughed during a phone call with a friend. It seems life will be meaningless and empty forever. I miss my husband so much. He & I did everything together. I had the best. There will never be another.
Hugs to you! #widfam
Just lost my husband due to covid. This is hard
Phyllis ,you don't know what life has in store for you. Don't close your mind and heart yet ,your husband wouldn't want you to do that. I went through the same 18 years ago & trust me there are beautiful things all around you. I am still alone but I am not l got 2 little doggies who keep me grounded .l have done so many things l never knew l was capable of & it's all good of course being healthy & financially secure is one of the biggest means to keep you going . Look forward for the best things ever .wish you luck .
Lost my husband of 29 years unexpectedly 1 month ago today. I miss him so much and it's so hard. My kids are all at home and have been amazing, but the loneliness is unbearable. Thank you for this video. I look forward to the time I can be happy again.
Hang in there, sis! Join our FB group if you haven’t already: www.Facebook.com/groups/onehappywidow
I understand. It has been 5 yrs since my husband of 50 yrs died. You are a God send to many people. You are helping many grieving widows. I, like you, moved to a different town and it has really helped. God bless you.
For some, they get comfort from familiar surroundings, and for others we need a change of scenery to help move forward. We each need our own things...as long as we support each other on this journey, that's all that matters! #widfam
My husband had a long talk with me before he died. He told me he didn't want me to be sad for a long time. He also told me to move forward and find new love. It was a difficult talk, but when I start to feel sad I can still hear his words and it helps a lot! It's been 25 yrs since he died and I still miss him but I have more happy days than sad ones....
So glad that he gave his blessing for you to be happy! #widfam
This warmed my heart......when i tell people i am a happy widow they struggle because society has shown us that being a widow comes with shame, pain and pity. I was widowed at 27 i lost my husband to suicide, as a young woman i didnt know or experience this process or seen someone being widowed at this age BUT like you say i never wanted the term to define me and decided to do the work. Its 7 years later and what a unique journey, the journey of adjusting my own mindset first and realising that i am still here, i still have this 1 life that matters, i still have 2 amazing kids that i am raising. In summary i realise i am still WORTHY, LOVED and DESERVING of my best life. Thank you for sharing this, so much of what you say i can relate to.
I love all of this, and your mindset! I want to encourage others to gain this confidence as well...just reading your message here inspires me...I hope it does for others as well. I hope you are sharing this message to others- you could truly motivate people, do you speak or write in public forums about this? You should! I’d love to have you write something encouraging like this as a guest post on my blog- please message me if you’d be interested! My email address is listed in the description of all videos, feel free to reach out if you’d like to work together on a post, or even an interview through zoom or something- we can figure out details! #widfam
It might sound crazy and im sorry for your loss, but it is good to know that someone went through the same at such a young age. Your present is my future. Im 32 years old widower for 1.5 months but my 4 month daughter heals my soul every single day. Kuch Love from Hungary.
Thank you for the replies 😭 I became a life coach because I'm so committed to making those around us realise that life is worth living even after the obstacles. I will reach out to you by email definitely. I've been blessed to speak about this journey at a number of public forums and the goal is always just to inspire that 1 life a day.
Hi noleen williams. I just came across your message on this video. I am a young widow my husband died on june 28th and he was 30 and i am 28, we also have 3 kids together. They are 9,6,5. Just wanted to get some information from you for some advice.
I lost Don 2 1/2 months ago, and am very lost and sad without him, I am 72, so the thought of going forward is very difficult right now. But some day I do hope to be happy again. Your videos do help, so thank you.
Thanks for watching! #WIDFAM
Hoping you are near loved ones to be with you.
I lost my husband 6 weeks ago. It was a matter of weeks from being diagnosed with cancer until he was gone. It was so fast. I enjoyed this video and know it is possible to move on despite the immense grief I am now going through. I am all alone right now, no one to support me, alot of bills to pay, and not knowing what direction my future holds for me. I'm glad that I have my faith and know the Lord is watching out for me. He knows what is going on, and I know He is there for me. I'm trusting in Him to make me one happy widow that can have a bright future despite all the grief losing a future with the man I truly loved and called best friend.
I’m so sorry you didn’t have much time once he was diagnosed. Thanks for sharing with us. #widfam
I lost my husband unexpectedly 3months ago. We were married for 18months and then he was just gone. I've been trying to be strong but these couple of days has really been a struggle. I'm going to 29years old tomorrow. A new chapter is starting in my life and it hurts alot to think about it. Thank you for sharing your story, its encouraging.
Thanks for sharing your story with us. You are not alone in this journey. Happy early birthday! Do you have anyone to celebrate with you tomorrow? If not, just know that the #WIDFAM is celebrating with you in spirit!
Be kind to yourself, and take baby steps, one day at a time. It might not seem like it now, but things will get easier to handle with time.
It took months after my husband died for me to find any happiness. The first time I smiled and laughed about something when I realized I had a moment of joy, I felt so guilty. It took a while before I realized I had the right to be happy again. I had to learn how to be happy again. He was young. I had not pictured a future without him and I had to learn to find a new kind of future too.
Sounds like a common situation in the grief process
In 2009 I was widowed at 42. I had all the bills falling on me, so I had to go back to work quickly also. Then 2 weeks after burying my husband, my dad told us that he had stage 4 cancer and I jumped into taking care of him and didn't really have time to grieve. I truly grieved both after my dad passed away 8 months to the day of losing my husband. People thought I was crazy because I didn't allow myself to curl up in a ball and not exist anymore. I just needed to pack up and start my life over in a new place and away from every reminder I had of both of them. It was the best thing I did for myself. I am now married again and I still have moments that I think about my past husband and I am so glad I have a man in my life that supports my bad days as well as my good days.
Sounds like you are grieving in a healthy way, and have moved forward and found happiness in this new phase of your life. I'm glad to hear of this! #widfam
Just subscribed - thank you so much for sharing these videos. One day I had a wonderful marriage, loved my husband deeply and was so happy and the next day he was gone after he was hit by a drunk driver. I was devastated and broken into tiny pieces. Left to raise a baby and toddler on my own. Many years later I also remarried and my new husband is also widowed. We help each other with our grief because as you say it doesn't go away we just learn to live with it.
It is nice to be married to a man who understands our grief and love for our spouses that will always be a part of our heart. I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm happy that you moved forward and found love again! #WIDFAM
Same ,accident took my husband ,he left on a Sunday to go away for work ,Thursday he was killed at work ,trauma pain court case.Did not know I wouldn't see him again .Getting better slowly.✨💜🌷🌷
I lost my husband 2 months ago. It was devastating to lose the love of my life and I struggle every single day. I'm so thankful to have found you. You echo all the things I've felt. Thank you for making me feel a little less out of control and to know that the things I'm feeling are normal... that it's okay to smile again.
Yes, it is ok! Grief is not linear, we swing back and forth in and out of it. Feel free to join our FB group: www.Facebook.com/groups/onehappywidow
I just want to say thank you. I lost my husband on 4-4-22 on our 24th anniversary he passed away after a 5 year battle of suffering you have made me understand how and what I’m going through and thank you for opening my eyes to understand that I’m a 45 year old that I still needs to live. Thank you thank you
Thanks for watching! Feel free to join our free FB group for lots of peer support: www.Facebook.com/groups/onehappywidow
I just discovered your videos today. Thank you for giving us all some comfort. I unexpectedly lost my husband of 45 years about 18 months ago, and I struggle each day. Again, thanks for reminding us that we are not alone.
Thanks for watching! #WIDFAM
Thank you so much this one conversation open myself to get up out of grieving and sadness. It’s been 3 years you where my lightbulb moment❤️ it’s time to live!!!
I'm so glad that you have decided to live for YOU! Healing must come from within us. Feel free to watch the other videos in hopes of knowing that you are not alone in this journey. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for posting this video. My husband died on Christmas Day in an automobile accident. I find myself depressed some days then other days as long as I’m busy I am ok. I still talk to him I still blow a kiss at his urn each morning before I leave the house because we kissed each time we greeted or departed each other. This video really help me in so many ways! Much love to all of us going through this. It’s a pain no one understands until they become that person who lost the love of their life. ❤
I'm so sorry for your fresh loss- feel free to join our FB group for more support, and thanks for watching #widfam. facebook.com/groups/onehappywidow
I lost my husband to liver cancer, day before his 59th birthday last year. We are together for 28 1/2 years, I'm glad I saw your video. Only people who experience it will understand what we are going thru.
I agree, it is hard to relate to someone who hasn't experienced our type of loss. I am married now, and my husband is also widowed, so he gets it too...that has really helped a lot!
You might not have all the professional qualifications, but you know from your experience how to speak to people on this topic and you express yourself beautifully. I find this very helpful. Thank you very much, Leo!
God bless you!
What a nice thing to say, that means so much! Thank you!!! #widfam
Loosing a husband is one of the hardest things to go through. In 2012 I lost my father, then a few months later my husband died. I felt such a loss and tremendous grief. I took one day at a time, put myself through nursing school then eventually found love again. Let yourself heal and allow yourself to find happiness.
What a beautiful story to know that you found happiness and purpose in your life again! You are an inspiration to so many other widowed people...we all deserve happiness and joy, especially since we have had so much heartache already! Thanks for sharing! #WIDFAM
This is my story now
Hal, my common law husband, died on June 6, 2021 at 6 pm. We were together for 17 yrs. He had tongue cancer for 2 yrs. and suffered a lot, then he was diagnosed w lung cancer in March and passed away 3 months later. Everything in this house and yard reminds me of him and my memories of him made me feel a pit in my stomach. Grief and crying hits you when you least expect it. I did a lot of praying and reading scriptures an I now feel closer to God. It’s been 9 mo. now and I think I’m beginning to accept it more now even though it’s still hard to get out of bed most days. I made up my mind that I need to move on w my life and not dwell on my grief and thoughts about death and my own mortality so much by holding my thoughts captive and redirecting them . So I started going to the gym again 3 X a week and I’m beginning to paint again. I’m a retired school teacher. I want to move now and I’m glad you said that helped you. New beginnings! Everyone loved him a lot. I’ll cherish the time we had together, but I just can’t stop living bc of his death.
He’s I the arms of God now and we’ll meet again. I have to let go and let God be God.
Estelle, it sounds like your head is in the right place to help you start processing through this grief journey. Join our FB group or even sign up for my course, you’d be a great candidate! Www.onehappywidow.com/courses
I lost my husband of 17 years two weeks ago. It was completly unexpected. We met at 18 got married at 19. Thank you so much for sharing
I'm so sorry for your sudden and unexpected loss. It is a different type of grief than the anticipatory grief that I experienced (and neither one is good, just a different cycle of grief to process through for each of us). I sometimes wonder how my grief would be different if he had died suddenly, then I realize that in the end, it doesn't matter, we are learning to live without our love, and we can find ways to support each other, even though our grief might be different in some ways, it is common in other ways. I was also married 17 years, and it seems like it went by in the blink of an eye!
Thanks for sharing with us.
Thank you for making this video. I lost my husband a year ago. We were married for 22 years. Together for over thirty. I have watched a few of your videos. Alot of things that you have said hits home. I do feel lost many times I am hoping to be happy again. Thank you.
Thanks for watching and for sharing your feedback #widfam
hi thanks for this video . I came across it just scanning. I lost my husband june 2017 we were married 49years. I am now ready to move forward and this video helped. Thanks for taking the time to share.
Thanks for watching #widfam
Lost my beloved June 30 2020 and miss him terribly but I count my blessings every day.... I choose happiness even after 55 years of a wonderful marriage ❤️
God Bless you! #WIDFAM
I lost my husband 6 weeks ago. I am a widow at age 32, we were together for 13 years. It was a tragic and unexpected death and I unfortunately found him. I am suffering in my grief alone. I have no idea how to live without him, the pain is unbearable. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
I’m so sorry…feel free to join our FB group: www.Facebook.com/groups/onehappywidow
Hey How are you and your family doing I hope everyone around you is very healthy.
Hi mam 😘💖💖💖
I sold everything we owned and started fresh new everything house car furniture etc nothing reminds me of my marriage or husband . My memories are in my heart . It’s easier . I couldn’t live in the same town or shop the same stores or go anywhere we went .
I can understand that type of triggering! #widfam
Thank you. ❤️ I lost my love only three weeks ago and you’ve made me feel hopeful for my future.
My condolences, I'm sure you are still in the beginning stages of your grieving process. Reach out if you ever need to vent!
This week I’m angry. I don’t want to be a widow. I hate it I absolutely hate being a widow. Three years six months and 29 days , f@#$ it!!!!! And I hate having panic attacks. Haven’t had one in a very long time but I had one this week and it was a very very bad one.
The grieving process is not linear, it looks more like a stock market chart! We progress, and we have setbacks, moments, or even days where we have to slow down and take some time to focus on ourselves. Sometimes those memories overwhelm us or the reality of our situation comes crashing down. Be kind to yourself during these times, and take some extra time to do something to relax. Thank you for sharing your struggles, so that others can know we are not alone!
@@OneHappyWidow Check out Encounter Ministries (Mark Hemans) TH-cam page. You will find the help that you need there. All the best to you.
@Has Goodles Such a great message of hope, thanks so much for sharing this!
I tried to listen to you back when it first happened. I just was too grieved, too shocked, too broken. But I hear you now. I am moving toward happiness and freeing myself from the dark night of my soul. It will be 1 year in July 2022. Your right, the grief will never resolve itself, but it gets less heavy.
I’m glad you came back and are in a better place now. Thanks for watching! #widfam
“To give yourself a permission to be happy” I think that is the key word and the hardest thing to do after a spouse loss.
I agree!
Thnk you for the video, I lost my wife of 31 years 2 days ago, she died in my arms of a massive heart attack. Right now I hurt so bad I can even describe it. I feel dread, sadness, guilt and every other emotion right now. I feel like I’m not even part of the world, feelings I have never had. Is comforting to know I will get better, I have a chance for happiness. I have had a few moments where I laughed or smiled around friends then I feel guilty for doing that. I have never been one to cry, now I cry about everything. I look forward to viewing your other videos. Again thank you.
Bill, thanks for watching, and for reaching out. You are in the earliest stages of grief, and it is raw and painful…and can also leave you feeling numb and disconnected while your brain tries to make sense of these changes and feelings… #widfam
I accidentally found this video this morning and I'm wishing that I had found this earlier. My husband has been gone for 16 months tomorrow. I am still navigating life without him since we did almost everything together for 34 years. I have two wonderful sons and daughters-in-law and 2 grandchildren who are just a call away even though none of us live in the same town. I had a stepdaughter whose constant drama has forced me to brake ties with for my own well-being. At 71, learning to be independent again while missing my other half is a giant step forward that I sometimes feel like I am making a little progress. Thank you for your words.
Thanks for watching and feel free to join our FB group at www.Facebook.com/groups/onehappywidow
I haven't lost anyone yet, but I appreciate you sharing your experience, and learning to live with your loss. Your positive nature is contagious.
Thanks for watching! #WIDFAM
It’s been 5 1/2 months since my husband of 35 years passed. He had a rare, incurable cancer.
Even though I have participated in two grief groups, I am very happy I found your channel. I can identify with many of your experiences and look forward to watching more of your videos.
Thanks for watching, and for sharing! #WIDFAM
Thank you so much for doing this video. I have grieved for a little over 2 years. First of all my husband of 16 years walkes out and left me for a family friend that called us mom and dad. She was even married to a woman and now they are married (She went after his money) once I got over that shock I was feeling lead to contact my first high-school love. We were engaged in high school from 1979 till 1983. But things didn't work out. Greg was my first LOVE and my first everything. Well I knew he had beaten lung cancer 10 years before this time. Covid was here and he was still on a few pain meds since he had lots of chest pain from scar tissue from his cancer surgeries. Anyway we were getting back together after all these years, we were both so happy to have found each other again. He was living with his dad taking care of him. Well Greg's doctor talked him into getting that Covid shot. He got it and within 2 days he was so sick with Covid. He beat that and when the second shot came due I begged him not to get it but again his Dr begged him. So he did and in 3 days my love was dead! I couldn't believe it. We are still not gonna be together. I am 59 and ready for love again but I don't even leave the house except for groceries. I don't want to be married again just with a good man that can love me and I him. Thanks for allowing me to pour my heart out. I don't even know how to meet someone new. I am disabled but am still fighting for my disability. I believed my ex when he promised to give me money to continue living the way I was use to with him but after one year he took off with her and stopped paying me. Now she does get his money. He will soon know he made a mistake but I will never take him back. Any advice please send it my way. Otherwise please pray for me. I live In SC. Hugs to you!
Praying for you, that’s a tough battle you are fighting, along with the grief! Feel free to join our FB group for more support: facebook.com/groups/onehappywidow
I’m a widow of about 10 months. My husband had some significant health issues that he never addressed, so I sort of lived with the knowledge that he’s predecease me. In a weird way I did a lot of my grieving when I made this realization, so I was part way through the stages of grief by the time he passed. Because he died in the middle of the pandemic, I still haven’t been able to spread his ashes as he wished. I feel like once I do that I’ll be able to expand my horizons.
I hope you are able to spread his ashes soon, and in a place that you want. #WIDFAM
My husband has health issues too. I'm scared because I know he will die before me and probably sooner than later. It literally makes me I'll thinking about it.
I lost my husband one month tomorrow and I feel 💔 lost broken alone..😭😭
Blanca, I'm so sorry that you are going through this pain! At this stage, you do whatever you need to in order to function. And when you are ready to put one foot in front of the other, we will be here to help you and remind you that you are not alone in this journey. Thank you for being here.
Dear Blanca , I'm so sorry for your pain I'm grieving and mourning the loss of my partner David who passed away from acute myeloid aggressive leukaemia I last year July 5th at 4pm I am inviting you to chat with me as I feel like you lost if you want to chat I'm here hugs praying for you
Bianca, broken is exactly the word I used to describe how I felt, and still do a lot of the time. My husband died eight months ago. I'm sorry you had to join this awful club. An analogy I've heard and believe is that grief is like a horrible open wound. It will slowly heal and form a scar, one that you will always carry. None of us will ever be exactly the person we were before.
I’m sure you do. It’s the most empty feeling one can have. Go easy right now.
Same.. I lost my husband almost three weeks ago and I just feel angry at this point. 😢
Beautiful, I needed this so much. Relating to this is really helpful/ supportive, I'm not alone in this.x
You are definitely not alone! When I first started this channel, I wondered if I would get much interest because I don't know hardly any widow(er)s in person, so I'm thinking there aren't may of us out there. Then I thought about the fact that so many people die every day, and if they happen to be married, they are leaving behind that many widows and widowers...so unfortunately our numbers continue to grow every day. I hope they can find us here and feel a connection so they all know they are not in this alone! Thanks for watching! #WIDFAM
Ty Leo I needed to hear this it’s 3 months for me today I can’t keep crying & in this depression any more I want to move forward
You might be a good candidate for my Grief Pivot Course: www.griefpivotcourse.com
@19:30 "Oh my gosh, that's the woman whose husband died." Exactly 💯. This was the reality I faced. I turned this negative energy to a positive influence on myself to become determined in redefining myself. Thankfully, God made/opened a way that had me move house and job and schools for my children and church and location in it's entirety.
I'm so glad you were able to change your surroundings to make things better for your family. We are always told not to make changes or big decisions in the first year, but I don't think that works for everyone.
My husband passed in April of 2017, one week after celebrating our 27th anniversary. Our family dog had to be put to sleep, the week before, on our anniversary! Turns out, he knew he was dieing, but never confiding in me. He died suddenly at home, on the couch, right in front of me and our two adult daughters. Our son is a Marine and was able to come home, from San Diego, to be with us for his memorial service. My mother in law's aunt actually said in front of everyone there, "We're here today, for you, Maryann!" As if, she (his mother) was more important than me and his children! I was deeply hurt and don't know, to this day, what I did to deserve that.
The service was beautiful, but the ceremony at the cemetery was beautifully done by the VA. My husband was a Navy Veteran, and an Admiral presented the flag to me, while our son stood beside me in his dress blues, holding my arm. Then, Taps was played on the bugle, and then the 21 gun salute. He would have been so proud of that tribute, and even more proud of his son!
It was a very rough road for me, for awhile. I fell into a deep depression, had to sell my home, and eventually moved into a senior apartment building. Had two stints put into my heart, recently. Still trying to adjust to living as a single woman, again.
God bless all who are grieving ❤
I know your husband would have been proud of his service.
Thanks for making this honest video's for all of us. I lost mij husband three weeks ago and I am struggeling. Lots of paperwork with a cloudy head is not easy. Tomorrow I return to my workplace, but now as a widow, scary. So I am glad that I find your video's for support. Greetings from the Netherlands, Ingrid (51)
Best of luck in returning to work, I remember how difficult that was emotionally for me when I first returned to work! One day at a time. #WIDFAM
I really appreciate you taking the time AND energy to make these videos! You are helping so many people. Hugs to you and your family. It's hard, isn't it? xoxo
It is hard...but knowing that sharing my experiences might help others feel not so alone, it does help give me purpose! #WIDFAM
Thankyou for taking the time in making this video. It was really helpful as I am going through grief right now and it really is the most painful thing ever .
Yes, I do understand the pain! Scientists state that the loss of a spouse is the single most stressful even we can live through. But the key phrase is "live through" and we must do that in honor of the spouse who didn't get to. Thanks for sharing, and please reach out for questions or support!
Thank you for sharing. I lost my husband in 2012 from FTD a form of dementia, It was 6 years of slow decline. Our children were young adults when he died. Hearing your story shows me a picture Of myself and my children I did not recognize. But you have shown me that what I went through was not uncommon. You helped me understand my situation so much better. God bless you.
Thanks for watching! #WIDFAM
Grieving videos are helping me so much!
I am not alone.
I joined 2 grieving groups and a church that sponsors grieving.
Thanks!❤
I’m so proud that you are taking control of this journey. Thanks for sharing!
You are such a good speaker, I lost my husband in 2017 as well and I have not been able to put my feelings into words like you have, even with 3 years of biweekly therapy. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for saying that! I figure if I can hold my own in front of a classroom full of teenagers, I can speak in front of a camera, lol. I'm proud of you for seeking out therapy, if you think it can help. My children have been to countless sessions since they lost their dad, and are still struggling too! Hang in there, and keep on keeping on!
I’m 2.5 years out, a Covid widow and cancer survivor… I’ve tried to move on… still working..
thank you for this, I need your wisdom to move forward.
Thanks for watching! #widfam
I had posted similar thoughts with many of the same phrasings earlier in the FB group. Being happy by nature was one of the first things that drew my husband and me to each other. Weeks after Bill died, my sister-in-law gave me a wall hanging with a quote about not knowing how strong you are until you have no other choice. I liked it and hung it next to a mirror in my bedroom. When another person gave me the same wall hanging, I thanked her and altered it with inspirational quotes, the largest one is “I choose to be happy” and hung it on the opposite side of the mirror. I have mostly good days now, but when I struggle, I not only talk to Bill in my head, I look at the various quotes and family photos. This helps me. I hope everyone finds what helps them. ❤️
Thanks for sharing! #WIDFAM
My sister lost her dear husband three days ago. It was very sudden and unexpected. He was much loved by his family and me.
I just found this video and I will send it to my sister when I think she’s ready to watch it. At the present time, it’s just so raw and deep for her.
Thank you.
Yes, it takes time to process the fresh grief!
I lost my wife 3 months ago, after 44 years of a wonderful marriage & life together. I agree with your statements about being a "happy person who has sad days", "not being bothered by the small stuff", and strange as it might seem to some who have not yet been on this journey that "losing a spouse has made me a better person".
I also enjoyed reading many of the comments of others, many that i can relate to.
Thanks for watching, and for sharing your feedback. #widfam
My husband died last October I have started to go to grief share meetings. It really helped me.
I never tried grief share, but I have heard good things about it and I know it has helped MANY people with their losses!
I tried Grief Share too and it really helped me as well.
Thank you for telling your story. I’m 70 days widowed & concur on several points you made.
Thanks for watching! #widfam
I lost my wife on 20.Dec/2020 lived tagather for 42yrs how to live alone knows nothing feels like wondering in dark.
What a long marriage you had! My husband was 42 when he passed, and we were together for only 17 years. I'm sure in the beginning it does feel so different because you probably don't remember much of your life before your wife was in it! This transition takes time, and it's not something that any of us want to do, but rather its something we are forced to do...so if we fight it, the process can take even longer. Let the process happen, and allow yourself the time to grieve and feel those emotions. And know that every day you will start to move towards a healing heart, so that you can look back on the memories of your wife and smile at the memories. Thanks for sharing your story with us!
@@OneHappyWidow but i feel that my 42year with her passed in flash her last six months were terrible she died of lungs cancer these six months really terrible for me during this period l never left her slone for second even never gave her the impression that she is leaving soon though she was not hopeful
I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my darling beloved husband 6 months ago from chronic illness Crohns which resulted in a heart attack. After 10 days recovery in hospital he suddenly passed away. We were married for 32 years and we were soulmates and still so deeply in love. We had no kids. He was a kind and wonderful man. I miss him so much and this journey is painful and lonely but he's in peace. No more suffering. I talk about him a lot...this helps in the healing process. I have a lot of photos and videos. Everybody knew us as the loving couple. He was my once in a lifetime kinda love...it is the beautiful memories that I will treasure. God bless you all in your grief journey. Grief counselling also helped and my faith in God. He is close to the broken hearted...and will heal your heart in due season. Be strong🙏
@Shah Sher My husband also died of cancer and was sick for 4 months. It is very hard to watch your loved one wither away before your eyes and all you can do is love them and try to help them ease their pain. My heart goes out to you.
@@cathysuleman1926 thank u very much am still upset but now its my routine to visit grave yard daily after fajar prayer
I lost my husband 2 weeks ago...I went from being married to a single mother...everything is so crazy for me...alot of changes and I'm feeling like it's being forced on me
Yes, in the beginning, we are overwhelmed with so much, it can be very hard to even catch your breath. I'm praying for you and your family during this time. Take the time you need to process everything that is happening right now. And know that you will get stronger in time and be able to handle things better. Please feel free to reach out if you need to, and thanks for being here with us. #WIDFAM
Hi, I just found your videos. I'm a widow, my husband died Oct. 2019. I struggle with his loss every day. We were married for over 54 yrs. He was my everything "happy". Tomorrow is his birthday, it's going to be a difficult day, I know. Your videos are helping raise my spirits so much, thank you for this---I notice in your videos all the beautiful fabrics behind you and wonder if you are a quilter? or seamstress. Could you share more about that. I'm a quilter. Struggling to get back to my craft. I seem to have lost interest in all the hobbies I once enjoyed. Have a wonderful Easter Sunday. (hugs)
So glad the videos are helping you! My husband's late wife passed away on April 17th, so this month is really tough on him, so I can relate to the milestones affecting you- as we have a double set in our house!
As for the fabric, stay tuned to the next video (releasing in 1-2 more days) as I will give a little mini-tour of the fabric behind me! #WIDFAM
Lost my hubby Oct 2019 ,accident at work ,miss him so much💜💜✨love and light to you.
@@carolynanderson9737 so sorry for the loss of your dear husband.
I too lost my husband of 39 years in October of 2019. I am still struggling because he was my "happy". At 67 it is hard to look forward to the future. No children, it is hard.
I am a quilter too. I lost my husband two weeks ago. We were married for 24 years. His Mom told me we were like Naomi and Ruth in the Bible. Now she won’t even call me. I will get through this and so will you. Go and buy you the most beautiful fabric you can afford and just start!!!!! You will get your Mojo back.
Wow! My experience is so similar to yours. I recently met a widower with two kids. We’ve been helping each other move forward. Thanks for sharing! Your nails are gorgeous by the way.😊
Awww thank you! #WIDFAM
I miss him so much. It has been 1 yr and 7 months. For the first year, I only could think not to get myself depressed and survive the first year and then it hit me after the 1st year. It is a sheer realization that I am alone.Sad,alone depressed, alone,
Felling guilt, alone frustration alone,
fearful alone, uncertain alone.. no will to continue, alone everything, Alone.
I learned a lot in order to continue, to make it right for me and for him. for my life I still have and also his life he had.
It is like building the life still together started with whatever left with,not alone because we shared a lot and still shares a lot specially, thru our children and grandchildren. That makes me feel right and gives me a purpose.
Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback. I made another video about your topic, called Year 1 vs Year 2 that speaks about this.
Thank you for your video. I lost my boyfriend & his daughter in 2017, the year I turned 40. They passed months apart from each other, his was after a short period of illness and hers was after a few years of suffering from breast cancer. It was traumatic, a spiritual awakening & life changing all wrapped into one. I also had to find myself being more understanding than I was receiving understanding from others. Sometimes people were just rude & disrespectful, but they honestly thought that they were giving me good advice. I had to figure out that my grief made them uncomfortable and sometimes even angry & that was because of their own unresolved grief journey. I am just now finding myself wanting to date, but, I still in that thinking about it stage, maybe after my country gets vaccinated, I can actually move into actually meeting someone. But it still makes me super uncomfortable.
I try to remember that people who say weird things are just trying to say something to fill the void, and they have no idea how to relate if they haven't lost a spouse too. As for the dating, I have been wondering how the pandemic has affected the dating scene, as I was just married for a few months when the country basically shut down. I plan to release at least 1 video sharing my dating experiences (I met some doozies!), and hopefully it will help others see they are not alone in that journey either!
Thanks for sharing your story with us.
That’s so sad. I’m so sorry. Take it one day at a time. I know God holds people like us in His heart.
Thank you for such a heartfelt and hopeful message.
Thank you for your feedback! I hope that the messages of my videos will reach others who are grieving and let them know that no one is alone in this journey.
You did a good job of enumerating all the emotions and other things you went thru' . So much is not understood about what grieving does to us. Until we go thru' this....we absolutely do not know all the feelings. Thank you for your video.
My husband died a few months ago.....quite suddenly. We were both retired.....and did everything together. It creates such a void....the description of marriage... "The two shall become one!" It is neither quick nor easy....to become one again. 💔😥🙏
Yes, your description is accurate, learning to become one by yourself again. It’s a tough transition!
Your comment resonates with me as I go through my grief process. I don't know how to grieve as I've not done it before (for a spouse). My husband died a few months ago unexpectedly. He has just retired. We planned on traveling and doing adventures together. We did everything together. Two become one for marriage and to become 1 again is harder than I expected. That half is still sad and in pain. I have better days and bad days. My faith in God has helped much. Just not having my spouse here with me to talk to and do life with is hard. I'm still in our home and everything reminds me of him constantly. I've wondered if moving somewhere else would help, but I don't want to lose the memories either. Still praying what I should do. Thank you for sharing. I'm thinking about doing things for him that he would have liked. 💔🙏 Broken but hopeful.
I really like what you say about "living for them", and going to the places they wanted to go but never did. I lost my lovely fella in June, we knew each other for 13 years and were together for just over 10 of those years. Just last week, I attended a music event that he would have thoroughly enjoyed if he'd been there. For the first time since he passed, I had FUN! So I now know it can be done.
Way to live for him #widfam!
My condolences. I lost my wife in august ‘23 (together for 21 years) I agree with liking what she said about living for them. I am trying to do that. I applaud you with being able to attend the music event 😊. I have to say for me that has been one of the hardest things to do - listen to music. She loved all music, didnt matter the genre. I have tried to listen to some but… I ended up turning it off cuz it’s still too hard. I will get there eventually.
I just found you today. I've been a widow since 9/30/08, so the fifteenth anniversary of his death is at the end of this month. I related so much to what you had to say. Thank you and i will be watching your videos. Take good care.
Thanks for watching #widfam
Great video. Thanks so much.
I guess I’ve been fortunate, but I’ve encountered few people who were reluctant to talk about my late husband, and I don’t know about anyone else, but I got, and still get, a lot of comfort from people telling me something they remember about my late husband, something he said, or how he influenced them.
That's so good! I don't think that is the norm, so you are lucky to have some support! #WIDFAM
Thank you, lots of great information! It's been almost 9 years since I lost my husband to cancer. You are right there is need to be able to communicate with people who have gone through this same situation! Thanks again, I subscribed! GOD Bless you!!!
Thanks for subscribing, and I hope you find value in my channel!
So glad there’s a veteran here with me. I’m 8 years in this August and I still long to be with people who get this. .. so glad you’re here !!!!
@@ladyluck5248 Thank you! Hi, we were married 36 years. I felt I lost everything. Yes you adjust, but for me it was slow and still ongoing.
Strange enough after loosing my first husband after twenty years of marriage and remarried and now twenty years of being together he passed from illness now it will be just me and my grandchildren..thank God I have them....🐞🦬🙏🏽
Prayers to you, and I'm glad you can find joy in your grandchildren. I only have 1 myself and he's 2 and I adore him! My husband has 12!!! He loves them all too, he's an awesome PawPaw. #WIDFAM
You are so real and better than any therapist. Thank you for doing this. God bless!
Thanks for watching! #widfam
Thank you, I lost my husband August 1st, 2020 with cancer.
Hugs and prayers to you! #WIDFAM
My beautiful bride of 16 years and 4 days passed away on the 19th of January from cancer. I never knew that pain could feel this way.
I’m so sorry. It is a type of pain you could never expect, nor can you describe to anyone who hasn’t been through it. Prayers for you #widfam
So so sorry @ Brian Martin.
I lost my husband 3years after our wedding.
Its now 9 years after.
I think it's time to move on.
I am a widower going on 2 1/2 years after being married for 52 years. I was her care giver for 5 years before she died. I am still experiencing intense grief with lots of tears. I found your site when I was browsing TH-cam. I watched your intro video and could identify with much of what you experienced. I have subscribed and plan on following you.
Thanks for watching. I’m glad you found the channel!
I am so inspired. living in Kenya with my husband and children. My husband got diognized with prostate cancer in 2018. its been a long journey. Recently he got a tumor in his bladder. its bad when you see a loved one go through pain. SHALOM
I a so sorry for your loss #widfam
I've got nothing to prove to the world about how much I loved my partner, nor do I feel angry at people wanting me to move on. The physical and emotional loss is all consuming and no words can make that go away. It may go away one day but right now that does not seem likely.
None of us has to prove our love or devotion to the people we have lost. And it is natural for those who know us to want us to "move on" at some point. Our pain and grief makes them feel uncomfortable, and they don't know what to do to help us after a certain amount of time. And you are right that no words can make anything better...until our minds and hearts are ready to hear and apply them. With time, it does not get easier, but we do get stronger and more able to handle the feelings that come along with the grieving process.
Thanks for tuning in, and feel free to reach out when you need to! #WIDFAM
@@OneHappyWidow Thank you so much for your kind and sage words. At present every memory and every thing I see that brings them back is like a physical pain. If a hypnotist could somehow break the link between the memory and the pain of loss then I would pay him thousands. I feel so sad for people experiencing what I am and for those who in the past and my mother was one, that bore the pain with far more fortitude and courage than I can show. I don't know how they did it. Please give my love to all who reach out for help and God bless us all.
I remember not being able to think about any memories without feeling the huge loss in my heart, and it kept me from being able to think about him as much as I felt like I should. I had to make a few changes in order to shift my thinking and my heart. I was being triggered by things at my job and my home, and it was mostly the sad/sick memories, so I moved homes and jobs. This gave me control over which memories I could choose to think about (most of the time), and it helped me to think about happy memories. They do hurt at first to think about, but over time I found that they bring me comfort, because that's all I have of him are the memories, and we don't get any more than the ones we already made...so in order to not forget, I choose to think about them more often now. And most of the time I can think about it with a nostalgic smile or chuckle along with shedding a few tears. But it is a different shift than it was when the grief was still raw. I'm not sure what helped the most with that shift aside from moving, and the simple passage of time.
My current husband was bringing up so many sad/mad memories of his late wife when he spoke of her, as their marriage was rocky when she was alive, due to some poor lifestyle choices of hers. I have tried to encourage him to think back on the happy memories, (even if he has to dig a little farther back to an earlier happy time for them), and choose those memories, instead of the more recent ones that bright up animosity and anger. He struggled a lot at first with that, but over time he has purposely shifted his choice of memories to the happier ones, and he said it has helped him get more peace...but it didn't happen overnight and he had to train his brain to pick those happy moments instead of the angry ones. None of this might help you, but I am sharing what worked for us, in case anything can help you. Thanks for sharing! #WIDFAM
@@OneHappyWidow Thank you so much. I wish I was in control of which memories come forward and how and when they occur but at the moment they are for the most part coming unbidden. The truth is I'm scared that my mind isn't strong enough to fight the sadness. I wish you great success in bringing peace to all who reach out to you, and to you yourself in the journey ahead with your new family.
You are stronger than you know. If you think of the task as a whole, it can seem overwhelming, like looking at a mountain that you must climb. But just take things day by day, and over time, your brain will regain some control over your thoughts, and you'll start to develop new memories and new experiences in your life that will also make room in your brain for current thoughts. Hang in there, and take one day at a time!
Thankyou for your frank helpful video. I am 6weeks now on this journey. Very painful and deep void now after losing 25 year long friend turned husband of 21 years. Emotions still very much up and down. My faith in God has been helpful as I try to move ahead. Will look out for your videos.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and at 6 weeks, I know you are probably just trying to get into some type of daily routine. I will put you on my prayer list that God will embrace you with his loving arms and walk with you through this journey. Thanks for sharing.
@@OneHappyWidow thank you so much.
@@OneHappyWidow Hello Leo. How do I send you a private message. Pls guide. Thank you
@@yewyoshodi I saw the comments you were concerned with. I will take care of it, thanks! And you can contact me anytime at onehappywidow@gmail.com. Thanks for looking out for our community! #widfam
@@OneHappyWidow thanks so much. I'm glad you got the message. God bless you.
During one of the really low points that I experienced after my husband passed a widowed friend told me I'd feel like this for many years to come. I remembered that comment later on and had the thought/knowing that I couldn't continue to live this way. It was then that I heard the statement ' You can be as happy or as miserable as you choose to be'. I remember saying to my self that I couldn't live this way any more - i was too miserable - so I chose to live my life and find JOY. - or at least move up toward it out of my grief pit. It was mostly one baby step at a time and some days it was 3 steps forward, 2 steps backward - but I was still moving in the right direction. I decided that I could stay in grief or move forward. I chose to move forward!
This is such an uplifting comment- thanks so much for sharing!
So true. I agree with what you said. I am grateful that in moving on I have remarried and am happy again. I did not think that was possible!
I had no idea I could find happiness like this again either, but I have. It truly has helped me in this grieving journey, too! #widfam
Thank you. Very help- and hopeful. Lost my husband of 28 years in August 2020. I am struggeling... Love from the Netherlands 🙏💋
I'm so sorry that you had to join our club! Thank you for sharing.
So sorry I feel your pain. Also lost my beloved husband of 36 years on 16 Aug 2020. God will give you the strength to live each day. Be strong🙏
@@cathysuleman1926 thanks for sharing your experience with us. I love seeing the support we are giving each other!
Hoi Anneke, ook ik heb net mijn man verloren en ben nog maar net in het land van rouw en zoekende. Fijn dat er nog iemand uit Nederland is die hier is aangesloten. Groetjes, Ingrid
Hello Anneke, I've Just lost my huisband and new in this land of grief. I am searching. I am glad that there is another women from the Netherlands that join this group. Gr. Ingrid
Onthou die wonderlike lewen en sy liefede sal altyd in jou hart wees. Met liefde van South Africa❤🙏
Moving on is a long hurting process for me!
We all move forward at our own pace. Just be kind to yourself, and try to take one little step at a time! #widfam
I lost my husband of 41&1/2 years in Dec2022. Until now I’m still finding it very hard without him, we were so close to each other. We were like head and tail, where the head went the tail followed. I had a lot of deaths in my family before my husband died (my father, my mother, my 3 brothers, mother-in-law, brother-in-laws) but I have never felt the deep mixed painful emotions that I have for him. It’s not as bad anymore, but it still comes. I miss him so much. I surely want to move forward and I’m praying for God to give me the strength and enable me to do it. Thank you for sharing your experiences. I sure can empathize with you. ❤🤗
Thanks for watching #widfam
I just watched your video about the 12 things you discovered since the death of your spouse.
My best friend since high school (1970 graduation) lost her husband of 37 years over Christmas 2020 to a stroke. A month in the hospital and then she went home alone. She lives a state away. She wants me (or anyone) there all the time. Her time alone crushes her. We just spoke today, and now 3 months later, she is finally talking about her days. I'm trying to give her ideas to change her patterns so she won't feel so empty. I won't go on, because my thought after watching your video was another thought.
I too am grieving his loss. You spoke of people saying stupid things, and so I have been spare in what I say to her, because I haven't had a relationship since 1999. I'm alone and love my life. I have to be careful. She never had a day alone. Neither of us can relate to each other on that level. But... I miss him too. I cry for him too. My life has changed by them not being a couple too. Grieving is so personal, even when you grieve for the same person.
I took some notes (she doesn't have the internet, which limits her access to ideas or information) to use at some point in our conversations.
Timing is everything. Your video just popped up on my TH-cam tv out of the blue.
Thank you. I appreciate hearing your words.
God Bless.
Charlotte
God's timing is always perfect! Feel free to share anything, and I hope the ideas here can help. You are a good friend to her to be there through this tough time, especially knowing that it is difficult to relate to each other. I get that you don't want to say the wrong thing, but just ask her questions to get her talking...talk about him, give her the chance to share her memories of him with you. Thanks for sharing! #WIDFAM
Perhaps you can bring your phone with data on a visit and show her a couple videos pertinent to where she is now I. The grieving process. Just a thought.
Excellent video it’s been two months and I miss him immensely!
I can relate to the intense feelings of missing your loved one! It is a total life-changing event, and the road ahead is so tough for us! But know that you are never alone, and feel free to reach out!
@@OneHappyWidow for 13 years I was always with him, so you can imagine how I feel! Changes from eating to driving to work are very apparent! It’s been 67 days of crying and I pray that nights get better! I know that the only thing one can do is accept! That word accept is really hard!
Acceptance is a late stage of grief, and it could take a while to get there...go at your own pace and be kind to yourself in the process. The changes in our lives take over every single aspect of our day, and those are many difficult adjustments. Sometimes thinking about the big picture can be overwhelming, so we focus one one area of healing at a time. Thank you for sharing with us!
Thank you for your brutal honesty!
I appreciate your feedback!
@@carlosholt1403 Hello Carlos..I am in USA..thanx for your comment..
@@carlosholt1403 Thé Sunshine State.
Thank you. I can completely relate to your feelings. I lost my husband of a year and a half in August 2013. He was such and answered prayer after a previous ugly divorced relationship so the shock of losing him was tough. I still stuggle some and I am still single but I am ok. Thanks for sharing your story.
Thanks for watching! #WIDFAM
Bless you
Darlene Simpson...... I also lost my husband of 41 years in August 2013 and like you I am still single and have bad days, but I have far more good days than bad. We never forget our lost loved ones but we can remember the happy times we had with them and smile. Wishing you all the best for the future.
Every story gives meaning and support to someone else. So I thought of sharing mine.
I lost my husband 3 years and a half after 18 years relationship, two years he struggled with lymphoma. Soon after that, I also lost my father, then my father in law and my nephew, it was shoking and devastating. I resulted with severe neuritis, living with horrible pain everyday while trying to go to work, provide a family and try to hide the darkness within me. There were so many days I wished I was not alive.
There were days I hated everyone and everything for having to go through so much. Though I was blessed with a new relarionship, I didn’t know what to do with it as I was a total mess.
Still some days feel beyond dark, but there are also days that I feel so strong and optimistic and grateful for my jouney, no matter how hard it felt to me.
There are two things in life I try to gain my faith back into. That I might be happy again and that I might deserve it.
We all deserve happiness!
Thank you. Very helpful. I lost my husband of 31 years suddenly just 3 weeks ago on Easter Sunday. I am a complete mess and know I need to push forward for our 4 children, but I truly am struggling. Thank you for sharing your story.
Tammy, I am so sorry for your fresh loss! I also have 4 grieving kiddos...that part of the struggle has been the hardest! #widfam
You are so accurate in where I’m at with grief.
Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback #widfam
I lost my husband in 2013 to kidney cancer. Almost 8 years now. My life with him was magnanimous. Now it is vanilla. It’s no fun. I struggle. To couple with his loss I was betrayed by 5 people. It’s hard now since it all falls on you. I think the worst part for me is the worry that it’s all on my back now. None of my friends “got it “. I was 46 and I knew no other 46 year old widows ...... life sucks for sure.
Yes, that was a huge source of anxiety for me, to realize that everything my kids needed would have to come from me, in addition to taking care of myself! Money, support, love, time, transportation, food, clothes, housing, comfort, therapy....no matter what it is, you are the sole provider of it! When I thought about the big picture like that, I would get overwhelmed. And so I try to think of it in smaller chunks so I don't feel so overwhelmed, but I know how you feel in that aspect! I am 47 now, but was 43 when I became a widow. I was definitely the only person I knew in real life anywhere near that age who was widowed, so I was my own population. It's a lonely place to be, but remember that you are not truly alone, there are folks out here who can relate to your struggles, and we are here for you! #WIDFAM
@@OneHappyWidow very true. My Facebook widows pages affirmed that what I was going through was their experiences as well. I keep reminding myself that I’ve come this far and I’m still standing. All I can ask of myself is to do my best and to be kinder to myself along the way. After all, people like us have survived something almost non human. I call it a non human experience in a human body. I was angry for years at the friends who betrayed me but all these years later it has only allowed me to realize how truly phoney they were anyway.
Yes it’s so hard. I struggle to move on, but having great family & some friends get’s me through but it’s tough. I feel exhausted doing nothing! I really do send love & good thoughts 💭 blessings x 🤍x
@Brian Pinard no it’s not easy. Do you have children ?
You are our inspiration. Thank you again, for making this video.
Thank you so much! #WIDFAM
Great video , I lost my husband 7 yrs ago to kidney cancer ,he was 56 , I still miss him so much
Hugs to you! #WIDFAM
Just lost my fiancé to covid-19 and this was really really was helpful.
Alexa, I'm so sorry for your loss! Thanks for sharing, and I'm glad the video helped. Feel free to watch some others, and reach out if you ever need us! #widfam
@@OneHappyWidow Alexa I feel your pain every day. Lost my better half 5 months ago due to covid related heart failure. He and I were together since we were teenagers. I'm starting to to have more happier days than sad.
I lost my husband to Covid-19 as well. Sending healing and positive energy your way.!🌻💫💫
I lost my lovely son suddenly two year ago i will never get over it my sister died in january my husband died a fortnight later a day before my birthday i will never get over this i miss him so.much we were.married 60yrs may this year you are with the angels know love you rip
I'm so sorry, you have suffered so much loss in a short time! #WIDFAM
I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart and thoughts are with you.
Thankyou so much for your sympathetic reply so thoughtful of you i appreciate it dose help a.lot x
I applaud your honesty on such a tough subject😊
Thank you!
Dear Leo. Thanks for sharing your experience. It makes our journey through grief less heavy if we know there are possible ways to survive in this desert of living a loss of a spouse. I really hope being a "one happy widow" soon.
It's a journey, not a destination! I struggle every day with grief, anxiety, depression, and being quarantined on top of that and having several people living with us right now...it is definitely not all peaches and roses, but I know that comes with the widow designation. We all have to help each other on this journey!