As someone who did not realise until I was married with a child that I was bisexual I found this really helpful and validating. I realised quickly that denying that part of me wasn't an option, but I didn't want my relationship to change. My husband is very supportive. I connect with my bisexual identity through online LGBTQIA+ groups and reading literature about bisexuality and podcasts etc. I also have a few friends who are LGBT and they are very supportive. I'm slowly coming out to people I feel safe around but my realisation was largely delayed by traumatic events that happened when I was younger and I'm not willing to have to explain or justify that to people. I'm hoping to look into therapy one day to help process that, but I'm dealing with this on my own terms.
Hi there, thanks so much for your comments, both from the point of view of what you say about the video and also what you say about what’s been happening for you around this. It’s really helpful for me to hear and I’m sure anyone else who reads it too. Sounds to me like the choices you’re making are very wise and I’m pleased for you that you have supportive people and spaces around you, I think that’s one of the most important things. By the way, do you have a particular online community group that you’d recommend? If you ever want to talk about therapy specifically and how it might help, I’d be happy to do that by the way. In any event, thanks again and I wish you all the best for the future, John-Paul
As someone who identifies with the B part of LGBT, I can understand where a person who is this way is coming from. I lost my high school sweetheart because I didn't know how to deal with this matter. So I figured it's better to just let her go rather than break her heart. This was over 40 years ago and I still agonize over this lost love. I'm in a gay relationship now but would love to have a bisexual relationship. I'm tired of hiding, but for my safety it's best to do so but it hurts. Maybe one day ill finally be in this type of relationship, until then I just dream. 😢💔
Wow, that’s quite a story Paul, thank you for telling some of it, I appreciate it. I feel for you and really wish you peace with it at some point. By the way, it has crossed my mind that if anyone wanted to write to me with something of their story, I’d happily read it out on this channel. They might feel like it would help them and I’m would sure help others. If you ever wanted that to happen, just let me know, John-Paul
I don’t label my sexuality. According to society, I be classified as bisexual. I Though I am equally attracted to both, I perfer to be with a woman. For the note, I have been in serious heterosexual relationships. Reason being, I find that woman are more supportive, and make better lovers and friends with benefits. I believe that a true relationship lies between a man and a woman u have mostly dated woman. A good woman would stand by a man. I tried dating a guy before, and it didn’t work. He treated me far more worse than my ex girlfriend. I wouldn’t date a dude again. I find men to be emotionally distant, unsupportive, nasty, and always in competition with each other. Being physical with a woman is awesome. Gay relationships are far more dramatic than heterosexual relationships and hook ups. I believe that is why most bisexuals end up in heterosexual relationships.
Thanks for your message. As far as I know, there aren’t any communities specifically for people in ‘straight’ marriages, but, as many bi people are in this situation, I’m sure any bi community or meet up group is likely to have people who share this experience. You can find bi communities on meetup.com for example. If anyone reading this has any other suggestions, please do add them, that would be great. I did think myself of starting some sort of online community for people who share this experience, but haven’t yet done so. If anyone else is interested in the idea, do feel free to contact me, thanks.
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Thank you for offering such compassionate insight on a meaningful topic☀
You’re very welcome and thanks so much for saying, I really appreciate it 😊
As someone who did not realise until I was married with a child that I was bisexual I found this really helpful and validating. I realised quickly that denying that part of me wasn't an option, but I didn't want my relationship to change. My husband is very supportive. I connect with my bisexual identity through online LGBTQIA+ groups and reading literature about bisexuality and podcasts etc. I also have a few friends who are LGBT and they are very supportive. I'm slowly coming out to people I feel safe around but my realisation was largely delayed by traumatic events that happened when I was younger and I'm not willing to have to explain or justify that to people. I'm hoping to look into therapy one day to help process that, but I'm dealing with this on my own terms.
Hi there, thanks so much for your comments, both from the point of view of what you say about the video and also what you say about what’s been happening for you around this. It’s really helpful for me to hear and I’m sure anyone else who reads it too. Sounds to me like the choices you’re making are very wise and I’m pleased for you that you have supportive people and spaces around you, I think that’s one of the most important things. By the way, do you have a particular online community group that you’d recommend?
If you ever want to talk about therapy specifically and how it might help, I’d be happy to do that by the way. In any event, thanks again and I wish you all the best for the future, John-Paul
Yes I am same! You are not alone!
As someone who identifies with the B part of LGBT, I can understand where a person who is this way is coming from. I lost my high school sweetheart because I didn't know how to deal with this matter. So I figured it's better to just let her go rather than break her heart. This was over 40 years ago and I still agonize over this lost love. I'm in a gay relationship now but would love to have a bisexual relationship. I'm tired of hiding, but for my safety it's best to do so but it hurts. Maybe one day ill finally be in this type of relationship, until then I just dream. 😢💔
Wow, that’s quite a story Paul, thank you for telling some of it, I appreciate it. I feel for you and really wish you peace with it at some point.
By the way, it has crossed my mind that if anyone wanted to write to me with something of their story, I’d happily read it out on this channel. They might feel like it would help them and I’m would sure help others. If you ever wanted that to happen, just let me know, John-Paul
I don’t label my sexuality. According to society, I be classified as bisexual. I Though I am equally attracted to both, I perfer to be with a woman. For the note, I have been in serious heterosexual relationships. Reason being, I find that woman are more supportive, and make better lovers and friends with benefits. I believe that a true relationship lies between a man and a woman u have mostly dated woman. A good woman would stand by a man. I tried dating a guy before, and it didn’t work. He treated me far more worse than my ex girlfriend. I wouldn’t date a dude again. I find men to be emotionally distant, unsupportive, nasty, and always in competition with each other. Being physical with a woman is awesome.
Gay relationships are far more dramatic than heterosexual relationships and hook ups.
I believe that is why most bisexuals end up in heterosexual relationships.
It’s interesting to hear some your story and experience, thank you
Hi, thanks for the video. Can you include the sources to the studies on bisexual people that you mentioned in the beginning of the video?
Of course, yes, the figures come from a Pew Research Center survey on LGBTI Americans that was carried out in 2013.
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Thank you for posting this. Are there any resources or communities to meet other bi/pan people just for friends that are already married?
Thanks for your message. As far as I know, there aren’t any communities specifically for people in ‘straight’ marriages, but, as many bi people are in this situation, I’m sure any bi community or meet up group is likely to have people who share this experience. You can find bi communities on meetup.com for example. If anyone reading this has any other suggestions, please do add them, that would be great.
I did think myself of starting some sort of online community for people who share this experience, but haven’t yet done so. If anyone else is interested in the idea, do feel free to contact me, thanks.
I’m that 1 in 10 bisexual man that has exclusively lived in gay relationships since adulthood! Interesting.
Hi there, thanks for commenting, yes, really interesting, would be interesting to hear your experience of it all 😊