I actually thought it was going to be about straight dudes who were a little into dudes and open about it. I was like 2019 fuck yeah But this comment section not bad
5:20 a group of gay men who are married to women, talking constantly about their temptations as they sweat around spotting one another in basketball games. What could go wrong?
@@boribbora sarcasm and shaming (to talk a woman out of her intuition/feelings) helps the gaslighting processfor a little while and keeps everybody in the relationship miserable until it all falls to shoyt, but thanks for the hilarious little funny.
“Your husband is sitting next to you talking about his attraction to men, how does that make you feel?” “ I’m attracted to men too” SCREAMING SCREAMING SCREAMING
Andrea Daniels Ok but what about when straight people have anal sex and do ass licking to each other? (which is really hot) is that just as bad? They’re doing the exact same things gays are doing that your disgusted by, “fecal matter play” as you said in one of your other comments I saw on here.
He's hiding behind the faith. Behind closed doors are probably much different. The sarcasm that nothing can go wrong is exactly correct. His friends struggling with the same issue, are the ones they are tempted with, secretly.
I don't think I could be married to a man who is attracted to men. For one, I don't want to get in the middle of his happiness and I will always wonder if he only stays in the marriage out of obligation or true love. Also.. I want to be desired and feel the heat and passion between us.
I have a gay friend and youd be surprised how many men are in his DMs. Your opinion just now is precisely why youd never find out. Being close minded like that will just cause your man to sneak around and do it behind your back.
@@naysaynetwork5271 She's entitled to how she feels and what she wants.. and as open as she is he should be too. So she's not closed minded..as most men a closeted..dl not owning up..no reason for that in today's world you can date and marry freely...so that OPINION THAT IS CLOSED MINDED.....NOT BEING YOURSELVES IS WHAT'S KEEPING YOU IN PRISON...PERIOD
@@naysaynetwork5271 I've seen so many women never trusting men again because they WON'T ACCEPT THEIR OWN SEXUALITY FOR WHAT IT IS...THE MEN THEMSELVES...
Kelly Applegath this first guy said 90 percent of the time he's interested in men, but he's attracted to his wife. A lot of these men seem bisexual but just more gay leaning
no cause these are gay men who are being affected by their religions horrific homophobia and feel forced to be in a marriage with a woman. not everything is about bisexuals. stop.
The first gentleman admitted he 'suppress' same-sex feelings - he thinks they're unhealthy and that he rarely notice attractive women. Hello - comparing women to broccoli and men to donuts? Doesn't sound like bisexuality.
@Luxitos you don't understand the implication of your argument. If marriage is based on sexual attractiveness then equally two men married can leave each other if they find someone more sexual attractive or a more frequent occurrence a man can leave his wife if his attraction after witnessing child birth becomes less. marriage, as it should be, is based on love and commitment then you cannot dismiss the man's love and commitment to God and his wife.
@Luxitos there were multiple people in that report the first couple they spoke to have not broken up. Tanya and Jeff Bennion. www.google.com/amp/s/www.deseret.com/platform/amp/2018/2/7/20639656/the-weeds-story-is-one-of-many-stories-of-lgbt-latter-day-saints-that-continue-to-be-written
@@heathersoares186 I am a lesbian and I could find a man emotionally gravitating but nothing would make me want to jump into bed with him. So I am assuming he enjoys her company but I can't see how he could enjoy it sexually.... that part makes no sense. He is comparing a diet to being gay as if being gay is a diet if it was people wouldn't have a problem being hetero.... lol
@@candirockstar135 but He said He's attracted to men more, He'll be attracted to 9 men per one woman, the bi spectrum is really huge, that's why we have bi curious guys, they're more into women but sometimes they go for men in the dl, I'm fully gay and let me tell you I will not marry a woman no matter what 😅 ( I'm also raised in a relgious household but not that into it)
I stopped watching immediately once I heard "Mormon". I was curious what the situation would be like but Mormonism explains it perfectly. So sad that he has to shape his life to fit the religion he was indoctrinated with.
There’s a lot of them here in Arizona. They are also not allowed to have caffeine which I keep forgetting since I always offer to our Mormon neighbor. They are hands down the most interesting people I’ve ever met in my life 😳
Kawthar Abukhdair That's actually not true. Coffee and non herbal tea are not consumed at all. Caffeinated sodas, chocolate, etc. are definitely "allowed," but as with everything else, it should be consumed in moderation. Addiction to any substance is not healthy, caffeine included. I prefer to not be addicted to coffee and tea. Some members of the church choose to not have any caffeine at all, but it's definitely not a rule.
They aren’t homophobic. Just because you don’t want to live that lifestyle doesn’t mean you are homophobic. That word is so overused. Not everything is homophobic.
@@chandlerrose4545 they are gay but hate and fear gay people so much they are willing to live like this. If they weren't homophobic they would be dating who they are admittedly attracted to, men, but they aren't because they are too scared and phobic. And what is "that lifestyle"?? 🤔
Extraordinary Machine You are purposely taking that the wrong way and being overly sensitive. I do not care if they decide to live as gay men or if decide to live as straight men, why do you? It’s completely their personal choice. They aren’t saying they hate gay people. If someone has the right to live their life gay they have the right to live straight.
"I desire to live a healthy lifestyle so I don't eat a lot of donuts" So is he basically saying that he is cheating behind his wife's back with a man?? This relationship makes me so uncomfortable
The Glittery Warlock I agree that being bi is a spectrum but I'm pretty sure in this context it's men trying to convince themselves they have any sort of sexual attraction to their wives
I would say that too if not for the context "my attraction is really 90% men" saying that he notices a sexual attraction to men 80% more than women. Although his preference is men, he does notice a sexual attraction to women but not nearly as much. In this context I believe this man is bisexual, it doesn't matter the percentage of the attraction nor the dominance of that attraction. The context of his words describing that he notices a preference of sexual attraction to men and these words further describe someone who is bisexual but with a preference for men.
I definitely think the target audience is for gay men without any sexual attraction to women. But in a reply to Iartistautravial you can see why I believe that this specific man is bisexual taking consideration of the context and specific words he stated before going on to say the "90%". Hopefully, that can articulate why I believe he is bisexual. The timestamp of the quote is 1:14 if you would like to examine the statement again after reading my explanation. I think the show is trying to convince gay people that they can change sexuality while giving the example of a bisexual man with a preference for men which is quite a different situation.
@@thedojodjsx9605 "debauched desires"...... No, no, no, you're mistaken.... the words you're looking for would be: NATURAL/SCIENTIFICALLY REASONABLE/ HUMAN..... Because as you clearly don't understand, Believing in mythological fables and your imaginary friend called god, IS NOT and NEVER will be NORMAL. Imaginary friends called god and Jesus and their buddy Satan AREN'T scientific. AREN'T grounded with evidence & last but certainly not least AREN'T REAL!!!!!!!
I have a good friend who's gay and married to a woman. EVERY, and I mean EVERY conversation is 20 minutes of him telling me how happy he is and how long they have been married. Just wondering...WHO'S HE TRYING TO CONVINCE?
I'm not sure what you are asking when you say, "...so you don't believe him?" So I'll answer in the way I think you want me to. I don't believe he is being honest to himself about the power of his attraction to men...and how it impedes his ability to love a woman as a LOVER. (not excluding that you can love someone without being IN LOVE with them) I certainly disagree with his declaration, "...the only acceptable expression of sexuality and romantic feelings is within a marriage between a man and a woman. Many gay men are totally in love with their male partners and husbands. And they are able to FULLY express that love and romance with a same sex relationship. That statement makes all other relationships illegitimate. His religious views virtuously excludes any other loving relationship...and that is bias and judgmental. If he battles with his same sex feelings, I have to ask what kind of marriage can exist in that environment battling the very sexual core of a relationship. In other words, He is in constant doubt. Do I believe their sex life is as terrific as they espouse it is? No, I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT. I was married to a woman for 34 years....and NO I never cheated on her with a man or a woman. However, I did love her, but we were not lovers. No matter how hard we tried, our physical relationship was at best just a physiological response to stimulation...because a man's body will physically respond to any stimulation by anyone or anything. But there was no emotional/physical connection. I have two friends who are in man/woman relationships. And they also will regale how wonderful their physical relationships are...endlessly proclaiming how GREAT it is. But each endless proclamation of how wonderful and great it is, causes me to wonder, who are they trying to convince, me or themselves. Far to often, these men latter get caught having extra-marital affairs...because it is natural for them to seek out what they are attracted to. I hope i've covered your quandaries.
Ray Christian yeah I definitely was thinking the show should be renamed “my husbands not straight.” And it’s so common. I have a ex friend who had sexual relations with men but recently married a woman. Repeatedly he would say he wasn’t gay, but he was fucking men. His wife doesn’t know about it. I don’t understand.... gay isn’t a dirty word. But he adamantly didn’t want to be called that.
The donut thing made me cringe. He's literally saying that he doesn't "choose" to eat donuts b/c he wants to be healthy. In other words, "I'm having sex with my wife b/c I'm being told that's the only way for me to be healthy."
Because they explicitly say he is attracted to men, not men AND women. He is not bisexual. He is a gay man shackled to a woman because his stifling religion says homosexuality is a sin.
This is one of my biggest curiosities. "how do we differentiate a closeted gay man who is with a woman(for convenience's sake) from a bisexual man with a woman?" so as to help combat bi erasure.
Marthajsfilms; How well represented is bisexual in the mainstream world?!? Hardly not recognized, or as: they live out heterolifestyles and what they do in the privacy of the bedroom they care less for! Most Mormons I know, know little to nothing about sexuality. Sex is just as taboo like in other Christian religions. Bisexuals have been told they just have not jet made a choice, and with monogamous lifestyles being aspired. "Healthy normal lifestyle" as mainstream would put it. they would have to make a choice when starting a relationship many times over. With a woman or with a man... How often can they live with both? TLC would have a better programming with these types of sister wives/hubbies. But that is a no-go; in the FLDS take as many women you like..... considered a healthy male vitality, even biologically speaking.
He's probably biromantic homosexual. He's capable of forming ROMANTIC relationship with a woman but isn't really sexually attracted to them. Sexuality is complicated like that.
Sometimes. Most cases it's literally just bi guys tho so it's nbd. Find someone u love. Some gay guys r destroyed inside by this. I could never even get it up for a girl so I couldn't do it
I mean, it's insane for sure. This kind of life is totally inconceivable and insufferable for me as a gay male (or as most of any other people...). But at least they are honest about themselves and each other. He's not in denial or spreading hate either. These marriages at least don't carry deception or secrets as other fake marriages do. If both sides want go on like this then, it is the decision they make. Whether they're content, we don't know; whether it'll work out perfectly as planned, only time will tell. It is not our place to judge.
I agree .I'd rather live like these men than live a gay lifestyle .I have same sex attractions but because I've acted on them and realized that's not what I want for my life ,I choose not to follow .Everyone has a choice .I am going to marry a straight woman and have a family .My identity isn't defined by sexual preferences .period .
I agree. Her comparison being attracted to men doesn’t make sense. She didn’t think before talking. For example, she gets to be with a man intimately, therefore her cheating on him is highly decreased. He on the other hand is not with a man intimately, so they’re not necessarily compatible, meaning there’s no correlation. Even though I don’t agree with being gay.
...this is sooo stupid. He's stupid. She's stupid to the point where she's decided to blind herself...this is insanity in its highest form. He's trying so hard to be something he's not.
He's not happy...he's just pretending for religious purposes. Was I only one watching the video? In the man in the video's case, their treating it like a mental issue that can be cured with religion, marrying a woman and having children. This couple is lying to themselves and their children. Everyday must be a struggle, keep it real. Happy...no, just dealing with it, following his religion, following societies rules, shoving his true feelings deep down inside, hoping it doesn't eat at him. No offence to anyone else, that's my take on the men in the video.
Maybe they're bisexual.... Why do people treat sexuality so harshly when it comes to men? Women are often assumed to be bisexual, but men are either gay or straight?
Hillary Campbell He is gay the only reason he doesn't marry a guy is because he think is a sin. Man can be bisexual but this guy says he us attracted to man 90% of the time so yeah he is gay.
He literally states his attraction to men and then denies his sexuality by saying he’s not gay! What kind of mental gymnastics do you have to do to believe in that?!
Forced hetrosexuality by society & religion. The straight people wont get it how hard it is for you to come out, and be condemned for your very existence. So lets pretend we fit in.
it's not that hard to understand. he is not gay cause he is BISEXUAL hun. He can't say that he is not gay because he likes women too. he even stated that he thinks about his wife during their sex (not thinking of other men) ya fucking goose.
"My husband's not gay"--and he's sitting next to his wife telling the world that he's sexually attracted to men just 90% of the time...if this doesn't set the record straight that he isn't gay, nothing will...
Lmao! I'M SAYING! They're literally describing bisexuality and these idiots are sitting there all 'I'm big time gay but also I can get it up for this woman and have kids'. YOU'RE BISEXUAL, YOU BOOB.
just because he hasn't persued a relationship with a man does not mean he is not gay. you can be a virgin and still be gay. you can live a heterosexual married life and still be gay.
Laura Laín right??? it’s like me saying because rn im not in a relationship or looking for one that im aromantic and/or asexual???? he’s always gonna be attracted to men whether thats being bi or gay or pansexual????
I don't think that he is gay. I think that he is bisexual, who has a leaning towards men. If he was gay, he wouldn't have any sexual attraction to women. It wouldn't be 9 times out of 10z
Your Grandma i think he's gay & trys to make it sound "better" by including a small percentage of women. He doesn't call himself bi because he knows deep down he isnt.
@Flick I also have a gaydar and you're so right about the physical features. And I know a lot of gays from all shades, race,weight and they share those characteristics. Lol, But I don't need all that ,its in my dna,I just know..
These men are bisexual, with a preference for men, but choosing to be married to women...I think this is a lot more common then you think, but men keep it hidden. At least, they are honest and upfront about their feelings
Tara Tedesco this isn't bisexuality, the way they're talking about men sounds very repressive and dark. they're just scared of the concept of hell and god, that is a sad way to live.
Um, me. I'm a bisexual who went through periods of depression for having to sleep with a man. Just because I'm attracted to women, doesn't mean I'm tempted to cheat on my male spouse with them. That's the part I find alarming. The issue of having a mixed-sexuality marriage (btw, aren't most marriages mixed-sexuality? I feel like there are more multisexual people in the world than identify queer and just take a "straight" label because it's societally easier) is not acknowledging your queer partner's identity--and also to adjust your sexual expectations to what your partner might be looking for. I'm not religious, and this was my experience. When I came out, and my spouse and I addressed and welcomed and discussed my sexuality and how it affected our marriage, we figured out that it DIDN'T affect our marriage. Choosing to be dedicated to one person is the practise of monogamy, and love and attraction are two different things and are not mutually exclusive. I love my spouse and I'm attracted to him; I'm also attracted to plenty of women around me. The toxicity here is in how these people choose to talk about their abstinence from homosexuality. If you're likening it to a "diet," implying that you're "healthier" for choosing an opposite-sex partner, that seems problematic to me. But if you're deciding that the partner you have is the partner you want forever and you're genuinely happy in that relationship, that shouldn't be a diet. That should be, in some respects, everything. Disclaimer: there are many types of marriages and they all have different expectations and it is not for us to judge them so my analysis does not necessarily apply to someone else's relationship and I recognise that.
So he's comparing his marriage to being on a diet and homosexuality is the donuts. That right there tells you that his preference is homosexuality. We'd all prefer donuts to a diet but we FORCE ourselves to stick to diets. I feel bad for both of them actually. She is in denial as much as him.
I don't see how, really. Being a woman, we are wired differently. I need to see that look in his eye that says, I want to posses every part of you. I want to be thrown on the bed with abandon...that was what got me and kept me, that passion. My ex was really good looking and all, but there just wasn't that passion because he sexually preferred men. There was love there, but barring the abuse, it still just didn't work! What's odd though, is he told our daughter that losing me was the biggest mistake of his life. Love is Definitely confusing, huh!?! Given those two senerios, I love the one I have now. I feel like a real woman! What the hell fun would life be if I couldn't tease my husband mercilessly all day, then be his dream all night?
Also, what works for them/how healthy their relationship is really doesn't matter in the end. Bottom line, all that matters is that their religion is respected and followed so God will love them. As long as marrying a woman guarantees that, their relationship will be made to "work"
I was born and raised in the mormon church and I'm also bisexual. Being both a Mormon and a member of the LGBT community is an extremely difficult position to be in. The church tries to avoid judgement and appear accepting, but the way they go about it is far more damaging (I think) than just flat out condemning any non heteronomative sexual preference. We are taught that it's ok that you feel a certain way and that it only becomes a sin if you act upon it. Its kind of like saying that it's ok to want to punch someone in the face, but doing so is wrong. The problem with this line of thinking is that it is overly simplistic. Wanting to punch someone is not a defining characteristic that makes an individual who they are, but sexual identity/preference is.
@@pet.me102 You won't be able to stop liking men. You like what you like. What's so hard about owning and living your truth? You like men and women so you are bisexual and that's ok. No one can judge you because none of us are perfect so you should tell your girlfriend, I'm sure she'll be hurt at first but she'd respect you and won't feel betrayed later on.
The thing is, there's a difference between being bi and being gay. But like... does it work? Because there are SO many cases of suicides or depression for kids trying to change their sexualities... some guys may be Bi and make it work, but for ppl who are gay... I can't imagine them being happy.
cierrablue he’s not living a lie, he’s acting on his bisexual attractions, although it seems as if he’s gay hes not. And if he is then chose his words wrongly, he said he would spot 9 men for every 1 women; making him attracted to women and men, yes more attracted to men but he’s still bi.
ShitGotReal are we going to ban anal sex now? It is extremely common among straight couples. I also hope you realize that although it is extremely rare, you can get pregnant from anal sex.
Why does everyone keep saying they are bisexual? They are gay but are because of their faith trying be straight. This is so sad. The woman are the saddest part. There was zero passion in that kiss they had.
whirligig please learn how to construct one single sentence before you ever respond to another human being again. Attempting to read what you just typed just gave me a headache and it's abuse. I would love nothing more than to print out that "paragraph" and correct everything like an English teacher that you clearly never had. I can't believe that I forgot how uneducated you guys are, too!!! Thanks for the reminder!
***** their strategy appears to be in confusing the issue by pretending that admitting you're gay and living like it is a choice while the preference itself is just one more "challenge" that comes with being a traditional family man. To their way of thinking some men like alcohol and go to AA meetings and other men have hot, sweaty dudes as their vice.
If he were bisexual he wouldnt have the issue of depression in his life, or the need for support groups to help him not feel miserable. They’re married to women as a coping mechanism to resist having “donuts” too often. This is sad plain and simple.
i mean i guess he still could, because he clearly isn't attracted to his wife, and staying with someone who doesn't make you happy makes you depressed. he could still be attracted to other women. i don't think he is, though, no one who is attracted to women talks about them like that.
I loved the subconscious analogy of not having donuts (LOL!!!) so he could fit into his pants!!!! It could be interpreted as him wanting to be the man in the relationship with his wife, him wearing the pants...Dog bless Freud...
Yaya if we're made in God's Image then we were made to have carnal desires.. so how is that immoral to feel something that we were made to do/have naturally??..
Helena, that is a lazy supposition. You could say the same about a serial killer giving in to their desires to kill people. Or, to keep it about sexuality, a nymphomaniac behaving promiscuously despite promising to commit to a monogamous relationship. Everyone has a choice to behave based on their base desires and instincts. Whether they do or don't is not because God made them do it.
As an openly gay single man, i "very often", tell the married men who hit on me on grindr that i will tell their wives if i ever see them together in public (i would do it). Cheating is for cowards!
Except they are, idiot. You missed the part where they clearly described wanting to be married and committed to their spouses. There's more to life than fucking, believe it or not.
Of course there is, but sex is a major part of all intimate relationships and one of the top reasons divorced or separated couples give for them falling apart. The man isn't really into it, the woman is trying to convince herself that she's satisfied and wondering what it would be like with a man who *really* desired her. Marriage is hard enough as it is without one partner not even being sexually attracted to the other.
valar how did you know that their not getting what they actually want. Simply because they have their own family and for them family is more important to them than their attraction. Maybe your priorities is your own desires ,.😔 I'm so sad your desires are not the same.
Maybe for awhile. But sexual attraction just keeps coming back. It's not some freak thing that is just "my priority" it is a priority of most of the world's population. Wait until the kids are a few years older and not occupying as much of their time. The arguments or even infidelity will probably start. Happens to countless couples.
valar i know what you mean sexual appetite is always there, temptations is always there, but for me i believed we have a capacity and capability to resist that temptations, one thing that maybe you don't have is faith in god....
モンスターフライドポテト if i was asked that, while on camera, i’d say the same thing. Not cause it’s mediocre. But because saying “OH my sex life is AMAZING” can feel personal. i’d feel awkward and not know how to respond
Him: “I’m attracted to 90% of men.” Her: “I’m attracted to men too.” 🤓 She know damn well she’s not okay with that. She know DAMN WELL he is, in fact… GAY. This man said “I’m just mad she got to kiss more boys than me” LOL WHAT??? He’s part of a “stuck in the closet” support group for crying out loud!!!
God's sun/son JBP777/sodomite slayer Nope. He only married a woman because of religious beliefs. He is picking his beliefs over being true to himself because he is brainwashed.
This is not going to last. Hes definitely meeting men in hotel rooms on the low...comparing his wife to a diet ? Please ...lady open your eyes and leave him ...he will eventually leave , hes living a lie
So many marriages become less and less based on the attraction between them and about the family, the children, shared values, being there for each other, etc. Those relationships aren't a lie and they don't have to split up.
yeah just because you are not christian doesnt mean you dont believe in god just incase you dont know basically religion believes in god but maybe slightly different
Victor Chen yes he is. I know a guy who says the opposite. he is attracted to girls 90 percent of the time and 10 percent to men. sexuality is a spectrum
They should have called the show 'My husband's not gay but his boyfriend is'.
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As soon as i saw the title i knew the comment section is going to be lit and i wasn't dissapointed
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I actually thought it was going to be about straight dudes who were a little into dudes and open about it. I was like 2019 fuck yeah
But this comment section not bad
Same
@@bradbradlylife9918 they aren't straight then..they are bicurious
@@tiablasian2118 "well maybe God's a little bi curious too"- Butters
Husband to wife: men are like delicious donuts, but you my dear are like a dry salad
LMAO, I can't stop laughing. You've made my day
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“My husband isn’t gay, he’s just gay”
"How would you describe your sex life?"
"Normal. Funtional."'
SOUNDS HOT. He seems to be really into it.
When he said his sex life was normal and functional I was like
I know you fuckin lying
Lol to his defense, dead bedroom is a common problem in heterosexual couples too
@@percycat213 I think a dead bedroom is more common when one of them is gay, lol
Percy Cat trust me not every relationship😁
he is being topped by his wife. so its totally fine
“a group of men who are all attracted to men. they help each other.” oh hunny
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so he's married to a woman because of his religion.
And that's sad
@@daryl2665 so is staying married for the sake of your children or because she is older and no longer attractive to you also sad?
@@heathersoares186 What are you talking about? It's totally different
@@daryl2665 there are a lot of reasons to marry someone, who are you to say that his love of God is less important than sexualality
@@karimmerniz221 he is not. He is openly saying he is attracted to men. He is not being pressured by anyone apart from his beliefs
5:20 a group of gay men who are married to women, talking constantly about their temptations as they sweat around spotting one another in basketball games. What could go wrong?
Everything !!!🤣🤣
Bet they don't wear socks. I heard it's not gay if they do that without wearing socks.
@@boribbora sarcasm and shaming (to talk a woman out of her intuition/feelings) helps the gaslighting processfor a little while and keeps everybody in the relationship miserable until it all falls to shoyt, but thanks for the hilarious little funny.
@@boribbora I thought it wasn't gay if they were wearing socks? 🤦🏾♂️
As long as their balls dont touch tho
@@mathibanembombela7941 tru2
He's definitely eating some donuts when no one is looking.
insomthegreat lol
insomthegreat lmaooo😂😂😂
insomthegreat omg
insomthegreat my thoughts exactly... agreed!
insomthegreat yeah I bet he is all over grindr. the only way this madness could work is if he is eating a few doghnuts every now and again 😊
“Your husband is sitting next to you talking about his attraction to men, how does that make you feel?” “ I’m attracted to men too”
SCREAMING SCREAMING SCREAMING
Hau Ly i dont know why but this is my favorite comment lol
But, at least she gets to be with a man!
Hau Ly We need Oprah to iron this things.
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I am attracted to men too
"Why not just live your life as a gay man?"
10 seconds later:
"John and his wife are devout mormons"
Aaaaaand you found your answer!
김미나 Because it should not be, "normal" to have the smell and extraction of excrement in ANYONE'S bed. Just being honest.
Andrea Daniels Ok but what about when straight people have anal sex and do ass licking to each other? (which is really hot) is that just as bad? They’re doing the exact same things gays are doing that your disgusted by, “fecal matter play” as you said in one of your other comments I saw on here.
I know. 🙈
Lol
You take it in the pooper scooper?
I feel like hanging out with you other same sex attracted “friends” isn’t a good plan.
Supressing your true sexuality for a cult isnt a good plan
“My husband’s not gay”.
Yes. Yes he is
angi scoville like literally LMFAOOOOO
I was like that too
No, his boyfriend is. 😆
@Dennis Yen Just like a virgin guy who feels attracted to women and not men isn't actually straight, right ?
He’s more attracted to men than women...🙀 but he’s not gay
This gay man who is living straight Finds support through his friends who are also attracted to men. Lol don't see how that could go wrong.
A Ha!
I'm sure they are a great support for each other 😂😂😂
He's hiding behind the faith. Behind closed doors are probably much different. The sarcasm that nothing can go wrong is exactly correct. His friends struggling with the same issue, are the ones they are tempted with, secretly.
hahaha, maybe they themselves eating each other hahahaha...i bet what i am saying is so true, so true that no one knows...
Lmao. Sounds like the plot for an HBO series.
I get why he's married to her. I dont get why she's married to him.
Ashley Smith poor lady
@@sparkleprizm199 why do you say that
Desperate
@@winterangel5048 Because she's literally married to a guy who's obviously attracted to guys, meaning his gay
Mormon leaders preach this lifestyle. She thinks she is doing it for God. It's brainwashing and it's so sad
I don't think I could be married to a man who is attracted to men. For one, I don't want to get in the middle of his happiness and I will always wonder if he only stays in the marriage out of obligation or true love. Also.. I want to be desired and feel the heat and passion between us.
I have a gay friend and youd be surprised how many men are in his DMs. Your opinion just now is precisely why youd never find out. Being close minded like that will just cause your man to sneak around and do it behind your back.
@@naysaynetwork5271 She's entitled to how she feels and what she wants.. and as open as she is he should be too. So she's not closed minded..as most men a closeted..dl not owning up..no reason for that in today's world you can date and marry freely...so that OPINION THAT IS CLOSED MINDED.....NOT BEING YOURSELVES IS WHAT'S KEEPING YOU IN PRISON...PERIOD
@@naysaynetwork5271 I've seen so many women never trusting men again because they WON'T ACCEPT THEIR OWN SEXUALITY FOR WHAT IT IS...THE MEN THEMSELVES...
@@saihijappreetkhan3347 shes a homophobe. Her man is prolly the most DL too 😂😂
You talk like straight couples have passion lol , they literally watch gay and lesbian people lmao .
Yall are not attracted to each other
So...basically, he's bisexual.
How FASCINATING.
except that these men are not sexually attracted to women. so that would make them gay.
Kelly Applegath this first guy said 90 percent of the time he's interested in men, but he's attracted to his wife. A lot of these men seem bisexual but just more gay leaning
SOMEONE SHOULD'VE TOLD HIM YOU'RE BISEXUAL, CONGRATS. NO NEED FOR DRAMA.
no cause these are gay men who are being affected by their religions horrific homophobia and feel forced to be in a marriage with a woman. not everything is about bisexuals. stop.
The first gentleman admitted he 'suppress' same-sex feelings - he thinks they're unhealthy and that he rarely notice attractive women. Hello - comparing women to broccoli and men to donuts? Doesn't sound like bisexuality.
so he is not even attracted to his wife
MYBESTSOUNDS gay men aren’t attracted to women
@@LynRuiz anyone can see if someone is attractive of any sex. The guy stated he sees his wife as attractive
@Luxitos you don't understand the implication of your argument. If marriage is based on sexual attractiveness then equally two men married can leave each other if they find someone more sexual attractive or a more frequent occurrence a man can leave his wife if his attraction after witnessing child birth becomes less.
marriage, as it should be, is based on love and commitment then you cannot dismiss the man's love and commitment to God and his wife.
@Luxitos there were multiple people in that report the first couple they spoke to have not broken up. Tanya and Jeff Bennion.
www.google.com/amp/s/www.deseret.com/platform/amp/2018/2/7/20639656/the-weeds-story-is-one-of-many-stories-of-lgbt-latter-day-saints-that-continue-to-be-written
@@heathersoares186 I am a lesbian and I could find a man emotionally gravitating but nothing would make me want to jump into bed with him. So I am assuming he enjoys her company but I can't see how he could enjoy it sexually.... that part makes no sense. He is comparing a diet to being gay as if being gay is a diet if it was people wouldn't have a problem being hetero.... lol
I feel like this is from a parallel universe where bisexuality doesn't exist.
Mandela Effect
Jessica Skudder THATS WHAT I WAS THINKING
Ferencs Salvoski I’m Bi too and honestly this story is irritating like he can be Bi I don’t get it
He probably is a bisexual but he’s definitely repressed.
Mackenzie B He literally said he’s interested in men and women
so... hes bi? i think i just solved his sexuality crisis
they made a TLC show about someone being Bisexual. I-
No. They are gay. Having sex with women doesn't make them bi especially when they think the only acceptable sex is between a man and women.
@@candirockstar135 but He said He's attracted to men more, He'll be attracted to 9 men per one woman, the bi spectrum is really huge, that's why we have bi curious guys, they're more into women but sometimes they go for men in the dl, I'm fully gay and let me tell you I will not marry a woman no matter what 😅 ( I'm also raised in a relgious household but not that into it)
that's what i thought
@@a.a.6203 It’s hard to tell if he’s actually bi or if he’s just a sad repressed gay. (but yes 90% attraction to men is bi and valid)
“You have a bunch of men. Attracted to other men. Hanging out together...THIS THING IS A PRESSURE COOKER!” 🗣
I bet 100 dollars they've done each other
Your right about that
No, it's an Instapot
💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
Ready to blow definitely lol
Of course they're Mormons from Utah, this all makes sense now...
I stopped watching immediately once I heard "Mormon". I was curious what the situation would be like but Mormonism explains it perfectly. So sad that he has to shape his life to fit the religion he was indoctrinated with.
I read it as "they're morons"😂
@@pedrofredo Lmao that works too
There’s a lot of them here in Arizona. They are also not allowed to have caffeine which I keep forgetting since I always offer to our Mormon neighbor. They are hands down the most interesting people I’ve ever met in my life 😳
Kawthar Abukhdair That's actually not true. Coffee and non herbal tea are not consumed at all. Caffeinated sodas, chocolate, etc. are definitely "allowed," but as with everything else, it should be consumed in moderation. Addiction to any substance is not healthy, caffeine included. I prefer to not be addicted to coffee and tea. Some members of the church choose to not have any caffeine at all, but it's definitely not a rule.
The homophobic gay men all hanging out together talking about the danger zone is just too much y'all
They aren’t homophobic. Just because you don’t want to live that lifestyle doesn’t mean you are homophobic. That word is so overused. Not everything is homophobic.
@@chandlerrose4545 they are gay but hate and fear gay people so much they are willing to live like this. If they weren't homophobic they would be dating who they are admittedly attracted to, men, but they aren't because they are too scared and phobic. And what is "that lifestyle"?? 🤔
Extraordinary Machine You are purposely taking that the wrong way and being overly sensitive. I do not care if they decide to live as gay men or if decide to live as straight men, why do you? It’s completely their personal choice. They aren’t saying they hate gay people. If someone has the right to live their life gay they have the right to live straight.
Extraordinary Machine People like you enjoy being offended.
@@chandlerrose4545 they aren't straight though
"I desire to live a healthy lifestyle so I don't eat a lot of donuts"
So is he basically saying that he is cheating behind his wife's back with a man?? This relationship makes me so uncomfortable
These women are going to exsperience pain in about 5-10 years .
Derek A. B. Learn to spell.
Well honey everybody experiences pain in love it's a part of life whether you're gay or straight get with it
Annie Gillespie some situations, such as marrying a man that doesn’t prefer you kinda guarantees that you will experience the pain sooner than later.
Hatchett Harley Marrying a man in general lol
That’s pucked up!...
"90% men 10% women" That's called being Bisexual.
The Glittery Warlock I agree that being bi is a spectrum but I'm pretty sure in this context it's men trying to convince themselves they have any sort of sexual attraction to their wives
The Glittery Warlock not if the 10% women is not the sexual parts
I would say that too if not for the context "my attraction is really 90% men" saying that he notices a sexual attraction to men 80% more than women. Although his preference is men, he does notice a sexual attraction to women but not nearly as much. In this context I believe this man is bisexual, it doesn't matter the percentage of the attraction nor the dominance of that attraction. The context of his words describing that he notices a preference of sexual attraction to men and these words further describe someone who is bisexual but with a preference for men.
I definitely think the target audience is for gay men without any sexual attraction to women. But in a reply to Iartistautravial you can see why I believe that this specific man is bisexual taking consideration of the context and specific words he stated before going on to say the "90%". Hopefully, that can articulate why I believe he is bisexual. The timestamp of the quote is 1:14 if you would like to examine the statement again after reading my explanation. I think the show is trying to convince gay people that they can change sexuality while giving the example of a bisexual man with a preference for men which is quite a different situation.
That means that he is 100% bisexual, not 100% gay
“Jeff is a Mormon...” okay this explains everything.
Yep. When people choose not to give in to their debauched desires and live moral lives it's often religion's fault
@@thedojodjsx9605 "debauched desires"...... No, no, no, you're mistaken.... the words you're looking for would be: NATURAL/SCIENTIFICALLY REASONABLE/ HUMAN.....
Because as you clearly don't understand, Believing in mythological fables and your imaginary friend called god, IS NOT and NEVER will be NORMAL. Imaginary friends called god and Jesus and their buddy Satan AREN'T scientific. AREN'T grounded with evidence & last but certainly not least AREN'T REAL!!!!!!!
Basically.
@Felipe Ussery LOL yep. I thought the exact same thing!
Lol exactly.
my heart breaks for these gay men who feel trapped.
what about the women who are being strung along and having their lives wasted by someone who doesnt even love them>
If he can have great sex with a woman, he's not gay, he's bisexual. So, they can continue having a happy marriage.
“How’s your sex life?”
“Functional.”
Yeah, that’s gonna last.
Raymond Legans Interesting choice of words, don't you think? He sounded a lot happier when talking about the doughnuts.
Don’t even get him started on donut holes!!
Eventually he’s gonna eat donuts. A lot of donuts. Watch and see. Or he’s doing it on the down low.
Raymond Legans __ Omygosh! I was thinking the same thing...
Functional- that’s more than in a lot, if not most of marriages
I think Jeff and Tanya do genuinely love each other, just in the best friend kind of way.
Ollie K there is love for sure between them. Men can be bisexual, pansexual, queer.
@@ld8178 he says himself that he's gay and attracted to men only
Yeah more like a partnership .. :/ sad cuz he can have all of that with a man
think he's bi-not gay.there are lots of married guys on gay hookup sites
Burn ♨️ 😆
I have a good friend who's gay and married to a woman. EVERY, and I mean EVERY conversation is 20 minutes of him telling me how happy he is and how long they have been married. Just wondering...WHO'S HE TRYING TO CONVINCE?
Be a good person and write his wife an anon letter.
KJOHNS 51 so you don't believe him?
I'm not sure what you are asking when you say, "...so you don't believe him?" So I'll answer in the way I think you want me to.
I don't believe he is being honest to himself about the power of his attraction to men...and how it impedes his ability to love a woman as a LOVER. (not excluding that you can love someone without being IN LOVE with them)
I certainly disagree with his declaration, "...the only acceptable expression of sexuality and romantic feelings is within a marriage between a man and a woman. Many gay men are totally in love with their male partners and husbands. And they are able to FULLY express that love and romance with a same sex relationship. That statement makes all other relationships illegitimate. His religious views virtuously excludes any other loving relationship...and that is bias and judgmental.
If he battles with his same sex feelings, I have to ask what kind of marriage can exist in that environment battling the very sexual core of a relationship. In other words, He is in constant doubt.
Do I believe their sex life is as terrific as they espouse it is? No, I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT.
I was married to a woman for 34 years....and NO I never cheated on her with a man or a woman. However, I did love her, but we were not lovers. No matter how hard we tried, our physical relationship was at best just a physiological response to stimulation...because a man's body will physically respond to any stimulation by anyone or anything. But there was no emotional/physical connection.
I have two friends who are in man/woman relationships. And they also will regale how wonderful their physical relationships are...endlessly proclaiming how GREAT it is. But each endless proclamation of how wonderful and great it is, causes me to wonder, who are they trying to convince, me or themselves.
Far to often, these men latter get caught having extra-marital affairs...because it is natural for them to seek out what they are attracted to.
I hope i've covered your quandaries.
KJOHNS 51 bitch just wrote a thesis statement....
AnimePandacorn Queen A thesis statement is a sentence...
Him saying being gay is selling yourself short is soooo disrespectful
"My husbands not gay" ya damn right he sure ain't straight either. BISEXUALITY IS A THING AND IT'S VERY REAL
Ray Christian yeah I definitely was thinking the show should be renamed “my husbands not straight.” And it’s so common. I have a ex friend who had sexual relations with men but recently married a woman. Repeatedly he would say he wasn’t gay, but he was fucking men. His wife doesn’t know about it. I don’t understand.... gay isn’t a dirty word. But he adamantly didn’t want to be called that.
Either denial or heteroromantic
definitely denial, and not bi...
Not eating a lot of donuts implies that you get that donut every now and then.
The donut thing made me cringe. He's literally saying that he doesn't "choose" to eat donuts b/c he wants to be healthy. In other words, "I'm having sex with my wife b/c I'm being told that's the only way for me to be healthy."
I lol'd at that comment because when I was growing up "donut hole puncher" was slang for gay.
Not nice I know, but it made me laugh :)
Also he said "I don't eat donuts all the time " which means some times. ..so he sleeps with guys sometimes ?! Poor guy. Sounds like an awful existence
I thought he ment he gets a little bit of "man" every now and then but mostly his wife smh
Alexander Ontiveros yeah that's what I meant...or he at least tries to haha
Is the term BISEXUAL even in their vocabulary?!
marthajsfilms i think they are gay not bi but with women cuz of religion
Because they explicitly say he is attracted to men, not men AND women. He is not bisexual. He is a gay man shackled to a woman because his stifling religion says homosexuality is a sin.
This is one of my biggest curiosities. "how do we differentiate a closeted gay man who is with a woman(for convenience's sake) from a bisexual man with a woman?" so as to help combat bi erasure.
Marthajsfilms; How well represented is bisexual in the mainstream world?!? Hardly not recognized, or as: they live out heterolifestyles and what they do in the privacy of the bedroom they care less for!
Most Mormons I know, know little to nothing about sexuality. Sex is just as taboo like in other Christian religions.
Bisexuals have been told they just have not jet made a choice, and with monogamous lifestyles being aspired. "Healthy normal lifestyle" as mainstream would put it. they would have to make a choice when starting a relationship many times over. With a woman or with a man... How often can they live with both?
TLC would have a better programming with these types of sister wives/hubbies.
But that is a no-go; in the FLDS take as many women you like..... considered a healthy male vitality, even biologically speaking.
Wisdom Time probably
He's probably biromantic homosexual. He's capable of forming ROMANTIC relationship with a woman but isn't really sexually attracted to them. Sexuality is complicated like that.
I feel like they are setting themselves up for failure
Sometimes. Most cases it's literally just bi guys tho so it's nbd. Find someone u love.
Some gay guys r destroyed inside by this. I could never even get it up for a girl so I couldn't do it
If your husband calls you the diet option you should probably look on getting out. Because most people can't stay on a deprivation diet for long.
sasayaki Thinking he has cheat days.
I'm thinking he does the Splenda/jacking off to gay porn route.
"I don't eat a lot of doughnuts"
But you eat SOME doughnuts...
Sky Quill legit LOL
I thought the same thing! LMAO
Sky Quill I was just thinking the same thing!!
Faith is achoice....sorry!
Lmao
I mean, it's insane for sure. This kind of life is totally inconceivable and insufferable for me as a gay male (or as most of any other people...). But at least they are honest about themselves and each other. He's not in denial or spreading hate either. These marriages at least don't carry deception or secrets as other fake marriages do. If both sides want go on like this then, it is the decision they make. Whether they're content, we don't know; whether it'll work out perfectly as planned, only time will tell. It is not our place to judge.
Yours is one of the few sensible comments here.
As a bi man I truly wish them the best. Straight-passing relationships are totally not out of this world.
I agree .I'd rather live like these men than live a gay lifestyle .I have same sex attractions but because I've acted on them and realized that's not what I want for my life ,I choose not to follow .Everyone has a choice .I am going to marry a straight woman and have a family .My identity isn't defined by sexual preferences .period .
"i'm attracted to men too" WHAT TH EFUCKCK I M SCREMAIGN
eli m. Thats why i thought the first guy was bisexual, i dont think she will be that ''comprehensive'' if she wasnt getting any from him:-X
At least they have plenty in common. ;)
I agree. Her comparison being attracted to men doesn’t make sense. She didn’t think before talking. For example, she gets to be with a man intimately, therefore her cheating on him is highly decreased. He on the other hand is not with a man intimately, so they’re not necessarily compatible, meaning there’s no correlation. Even though I don’t agree with being gay.
Mary Teryan you basically just said being gay isn’t a choice but you don’t agree with it lmao what
Charlotte Forrester that’s just saying “hey Ik you can’t control it but I hate you for the way you were born”
...this is sooo stupid. He's stupid. She's stupid to the point where she's decided to blind herself...this is insanity in its highest form. He's trying so hard to be something he's not.
Daniel Bray ... you're a good man. when your children is older I think you should live your life happily.
Daniel Bray
Awe Dear❤ Happy Holidays to you as well !
what makes you think you're gay and not bi
Chloe as long as he is happy that's what matters. Not what everyone else thinks. They seem fine.
He's not happy...he's just pretending for religious purposes. Was I only one watching the video? In the man in the video's case, their treating it like a mental issue that can be cured with religion, marrying a woman and having children. This couple is lying to themselves and their children. Everyday must be a struggle, keep it real. Happy...no, just dealing with it, following his religion, following societies rules, shoving his true feelings deep down inside, hoping it doesn't eat at him. No offence to anyone else, that's my take on the men in the video.
Maybe they're bisexual.... Why do people treat sexuality so harshly when it comes to men? Women are often assumed to be bisexual, but men are either gay or straight?
Thank You!!!
Hilary Campbell - EXACTLY!! I don't understand some people.
Hillary Campbell
He is gay the only reason he doesn't marry a guy is because he think is a sin.
Man can be bisexual but this guy
says he us attracted to man 90% of the time so yeah he is gay.
he said he's 90% attracted to men. so...probably gay
Hillary Campbell I think because these guys are Mormon. They'd be excommunicated if they lived as gay men. It's all they've known.
This is not fair to women... These ladies deserved to be loved for who they are.
That’s possibly the most disappointing and saddening thing I’ve ever seen, on multiple levels
Leon J just cause you don’t understand it bitch
Real Talk
You said it, Leon. I feel exactly the same way. Very sad and painful to watch for so many reasons.
@@jameswilliam9160 You seem bitter, creep. When did your homely wife find out that you are gay?
ErickMN today you stupid bitch!! Now it’s your turn
He literally states his attraction to men and then denies his sexuality by saying he’s not gay!
What kind of mental gymnastics do you have to do to believe in that?!
Juan Carlos GR he believes being gay is actually having sex and dating a man and if he doesn't act on it, he is straight. I don't understand.
Forced hetrosexuality by society & religion. The straight people wont get it how hard it is for you to come out, and be condemned for your very existence. So lets pretend we fit in.
lolololol @ mental gymnastics
it's not that hard to understand. he is not gay cause he is BISEXUAL hun. He can't say that he is not gay because he likes women too. he even stated that he thinks about his wife during their sex (not thinking of other men) ya fucking goose.
Oh, so you believed him when he said he didn't think of men in bed? Okay....lol
So he is basically a non practicing gay man
Practicing on the down low
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Basically and resisting his sinful sexual attractions. He'll need to work harder though because it's clear he still loves men
No, cannot. I don't see these men resisting temptation, if given the opportunity, they will give in.
Pretty much 😂😂😂
I just can’t help finding this so sad. He’s too afraid to be who he truly is. I’d be miserable if I were him.
Maybe if the world wasn't so judgemental about their lifestyle. Maybe they would be open about their sexual orientation.
@@edgar22452 please it’s 2021
@@xxxtrddy And?
Same
I agree, and for the wife, it must be worse. In my opinion, this is miserable in spite of all the joking they do. Why would either of them want this??
*clicks on video*
Me: "oh, I wonder why he's marrying a woman if hes attracted to men"
Announcer: "Jeff and Tanya are devout Mormons"
*exits window*
Ryan Keiper 😂😂😂
Ryan Keiper 😂😂😂 Same!
Ryan Keiper lel
Yep...I don't even wanna hear it.
Ryan Keiper lmao
"My husband's not gay"--and he's sitting next to his wife telling the world that he's sexually attracted to men just 90% of the time...if this doesn't set the record straight that he isn't gay, nothing will...
Mylittleisland paradise true
Mylittleisland paradise WHY DONT PEOPLE UNDERSTAND BISEXUALITY
Mylittleisland paradise he isn’t gay 90/10 is still bisexual lmaooo
Lmao! I'M SAYING! They're literally describing bisexuality and these idiots are sitting there all 'I'm big time gay but also I can get it up for this woman and have kids'. YOU'RE BISEXUAL, YOU BOOB.
just because he hasn't persued a relationship with a man does not mean he is not gay. you can be a virgin and still be gay. you can live a heterosexual married life and still be gay.
You think him and his “not gay” friends have meetings away from their wives just to “help” each other
Jeff Peng 😂😂😂😂😂
Lmao
I need video footage
My exact thoughts
Yep, my thoughts exactly. I guess those meetings do help. A lot. I bet there is a lot of donut eating there.
Since this is almost a decade old, I’d be interested to see a “where are they now” follow up of how they’ve been doing, if they are still married etc.
Id like to see a recent follow up of these couples to see if they're all still "happily married"....
Yoka Hulton pretty sure one of them is totally gay now can’t remember which one
Yoka Hulton I was just about to comment this
They are divorced and the husband is openly dating men.
The husband is a full time cock smoker now... HE SAID HES GAY AND WHEN A PERSON SHOWS YOU WHO THEY ARE, BELIEVE THEM.
Liz They are all totally gay.
Not seeking a same sex relationship does not mean youre not gay.
Laura Laín thank you!
Laura Laín right??? it’s like me saying because rn im not in a relationship or looking for one that im aromantic and/or asexual???? he’s always gonna be attracted to men whether thats being bi or gay or pansexual????
I don't think that he is gay. I think that he is bisexual, who has a leaning towards men. If he was gay, he wouldn't have any sexual attraction to women. It wouldn't be 9 times out of 10z
Your Grandma i think he's gay & trys to make it sound "better" by including a small percentage of women. He doesn't call himself bi because he knows deep down he isnt.
i think youre right^
Bisexuality comes in so many forms honestly
he is basically gay though
Not bi lol just mormon. The church says get married to women and have kids and you'll be ok
They should've called it, "My husband's not gay he's bisexual".
Her: And I told my best friend he is gay....
Her best friend: I TOLD YOU THAT TWICE
IM OUT OF BREATH
Yo the best friend always knows 😂
@Flick I also have a gaydar and you're so right about the physical features. And I know a lot of gays from all shades, race,weight and they share those characteristics. Lol, But I don't need all that ,its in my dna,I just know..
Plot twist: All the husbands featured here hook up every once in a while when they hit a 5 on their gay scale.
Salman Hussain W
Yes!!
They most likely do in secret.
😂😂😂
You really can't call that a plot twist when it's glaringly obvious
These men are bisexual, with a preference for men, but choosing to be married to women...I think this is a lot more common then you think, but men keep it hidden. At least, they are honest and upfront about their feelings
Tara Tedesco that shit is weird and plain gay...
They're not bi.
Tara Tedesco this isn't bisexuality, the way they're talking about men sounds very repressive and dark. they're just scared of the concept of hell and god, that is a sad way to live.
S G exactly. bisexuals aren't confused, these men are confused and terrified.
Um, me. I'm a bisexual who went through periods of depression for having to sleep with a man.
Just because I'm attracted to women, doesn't mean I'm tempted to cheat on my male spouse with them. That's the part I find alarming. The issue of having a mixed-sexuality marriage (btw, aren't most marriages mixed-sexuality? I feel like there are more multisexual people in the world than identify queer and just take a "straight" label because it's societally easier) is not acknowledging your queer partner's identity--and also to adjust your sexual expectations to what your partner might be looking for.
I'm not religious, and this was my experience. When I came out, and my spouse and I addressed and welcomed and discussed my sexuality and how it affected our marriage, we figured out that it DIDN'T affect our marriage. Choosing to be dedicated to one person is the practise of monogamy, and love and attraction are two different things and are not mutually exclusive. I love my spouse and I'm attracted to him; I'm also attracted to plenty of women around me.
The toxicity here is in how these people choose to talk about their abstinence from homosexuality. If you're likening it to a "diet," implying that you're "healthier" for choosing an opposite-sex partner, that seems problematic to me. But if you're deciding that the partner you have is the partner you want forever and you're genuinely happy in that relationship, that shouldn't be a diet. That should be, in some respects, everything.
Disclaimer: there are many types of marriages and they all have different expectations and it is not for us to judge them so my analysis does not necessarily apply to someone else's relationship and I recognise that.
So he's comparing his marriage to being on a diet and homosexuality is the donuts. That right there tells you that his preference is homosexuality. We'd all prefer donuts to a diet but we FORCE ourselves to stick to diets. I feel bad for both of them actually. She is in denial as much as him.
Me: *confused*
Jeff: "I'm mormo--"
Me: "Ahhhh"
Jeff: "it's like a diet"
Me: "Oh, sweetie..."
Sounds patronizing 😅
What?
A GROUP OF "TOTALLY 100% NOT GAY MEN "
ALL HANGING OUT TOGETHER
OK
Staring at men at the park.
Notice he didn't say he doesn't eat donuts.. he just doesn't eat a lot of them. lol
Brittany Golden home boi is definitely sneaking some donuts
He hangs out with other gays living straight lives. I think it’s clear they bounce on each other’s balls after they ball.
Those basketball buddies are NOT basketball buddies lemme tell u.
No but I bet he eats a lot of hot dogs
“Utah Man Doesn’t Know What Bisexuality Is”
I mean I guess if it works for them, who really cares. But the real question is... does it _actually_ work for them?
toys LOTS AND LOTS OF TOYS
I don't see how, really. Being a woman, we are wired differently. I need to see that look in his eye that says, I want to posses every part of you. I want to be thrown on the bed with abandon...that was what got me and kept me, that passion. My ex was really good looking and all, but there just wasn't that passion because he sexually preferred men. There was love there, but barring the abuse, it still just didn't work! What's odd though, is he told our daughter that losing me was the biggest mistake of his life. Love is Definitely confusing, huh!?! Given those two senerios, I love the one I have now. I feel like a real woman! What the hell fun would life be if I couldn't tease my husband mercilessly all day, then be his dream all night?
Tristan Neal that’s true
Also, what works for them/how healthy their relationship is really doesn't matter in the end. Bottom line, all that matters is that their religion is respected and followed so God will love them. As long as marrying a woman guarantees that, their relationship will be made to "work"
Tristan Neal exactly
Im 64 years old and i find myself not understanding ANYTHING .. ANYMORE .... SMH
Bob Malboeuf I'm not even 30 yet and I'm fucking baffled
Right 😂😂😂
Ikr!😂😂
I can tell you're 64. My grandma uses "..." Between his text messages too.
@@astrainspace it's called an ellipse...
The delusional element in this makes it a bit sad
So he’s using his wife so he can kid himself that he’s a good Mormon. 🙄
Some people will do anything to spin the truth.
He is using his wife to try and convince himself that he is heterosexual. Quite sad, really.
Amby Cakes that’s an affirmative
Pretty much...not sure whom I feel sadder for, him or her.
I was born and raised in the mormon church and I'm also bisexual. Being both a Mormon and a member of the LGBT community is an extremely difficult position to be in. The church tries to avoid judgement and appear accepting, but the way they go about it is far more damaging (I think) than just flat out condemning any non heteronomative sexual preference. We are taught that it's ok that you feel a certain way and that it only becomes a sin if you act upon it. Its kind of like saying that it's ok to want to punch someone in the face, but doing so is wrong. The problem with this line of thinking is that it is overly simplistic. Wanting to punch someone is not a defining characteristic that makes an individual who they are, but sexual identity/preference is.
This should've been titled: "Gay Men Who Love Their Beards"
YAS! That’s so perfect.
THAT PART!!!!!!
Lol 😂😂😂
So he married a woman because he won’t accept the fact that he’s gay..? That’s disappointing
I agree!!! He is not actually denying liking men, but thinks because he doesn't act on it and is married to a woman, then he is not gay.
That's the life most gays had in history...
Susanne Stein which is stupid, He’s so in denial, he’s pretending to be something he’s not
Dude's bisexual. he said that he likes men and women but most of the people he likes are men
@@pet.me102 You won't be able to stop liking men. You like what you like. What's so hard about owning and living your truth? You like men and women so you are bisexual and that's ok. No one can judge you because none of us are perfect so you should tell your girlfriend, I'm sure she'll be hurt at first but she'd respect you and won't feel betrayed later on.
If it works for each of them, then I wish them a very happy life together. This happens far more frequently than people would believe.
@isitsafeforme where's the sing of Solomon heat
God, I hope so
The thing is, there's a difference between being bi and being gay. But like... does it work? Because there are SO many cases of suicides or depression for kids trying to change their sexualities... some guys may be Bi and make it work, but for ppl who are gay... I can't imagine them being happy.
“How can I be gay but also still get into heaven”
Being gay doesn’t mean you go to hell, don’t believe the religious poison
I think he’s talking about the dudes on this show. That’s what they think. Hence the quote marks.
i see
Gay or not, everyone has their “sin”. God accepts you, as long as you accept him. Gay people GO to heaven!!
Ricky Tjahyadi do you really not understand the concept of quotation marks???
"Fake it till' you make it" should be the real title of the show.
Except they are never gonna make it
The show popularising normal Bisexual people
@@AP-ex6qz not really bi tbh, they just seem like gay men who are held back by their faith
@@haya2459 "their faith" which is infact A CHOICE
Just because he's living a lie doesn't mean he's not gay.
cierrablue he’s not living a lie, he’s acting on his bisexual attractions, although it seems as if he’s gay hes not. And if he is then chose his words wrongly, he said he would spot 9 men for every 1 women; making him attracted to women and men, yes more attracted to men but he’s still bi.
I don't think he's denying being gay.
@ShitGotReal bro have you ever heard of oral sex? And fingering?? 😂
@ShitGotReal not everyone has sex, ever heard of asexual?
ShitGotReal are we going to ban anal sex now? It is extremely common among straight couples. I also hope you realize that although it is extremely rare, you can get pregnant from anal sex.
I've known a lot of guys, who are married to women and have a boyfriend, on the side. Sometimes, The wife knows about the boyfriend.
Why does everyone keep saying they are bisexual? They are gay but are because of their faith trying be straight. This is so sad. The woman are the saddest part. There was zero passion in that kiss they had.
Quan B THIS is actually a step up for Mormons; usually they have sex with their own family members!
whirligig
Gross... lmfao... You're trash; don't ever tag me again. #MormonsAreEvil #JosephSmithWasAPedophile #MormonIsNotARealReligion
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whirligig please learn how to construct one single sentence before you ever respond to another human being again. Attempting to read what you just typed just gave me a headache and it's abuse. I would love nothing more than to print out that "paragraph" and correct everything like an English teacher that you clearly never had. I can't believe that I forgot how uneducated you guys are, too!!! Thanks for the reminder!
whirligig For example...
Quan B it’s good that they realized being genetic screwups is not a positive but this situation is not healthy
Those wives have vacant eyes and those men have twitchy faces.
This is a trainwreck.
This is true the women want to be loved and do appear a bit desperate. It just seemed to me like this was a facade not real love.
Nigel Franklin I don't really see what you mean in the first part of your comment but you are definitely right about this being a train wreck.
***** their strategy appears to be in confusing the issue by pretending that admitting you're gay and living like it is a choice while the preference itself is just one more "challenge" that comes with being a traditional family man.
To their way of thinking some men like alcohol and go to AA meetings and other men have hot, sweaty dudes as their vice.
“So how would you describe your sex life?”
Husband: “It’s uh...functional?”
You know good and well he has a picture of Mel Gibson taped to the headboard!!
the basketball meet up....COME ON LOL
He doesn’t eat “a lot” of donuts? So... he just eats a few? 🤣
Hahah yeah just was gonma say haha
Nikki P donut holes don’t count. 😉😂
I was thinking the same thing😂
Takes a few dicks huh, not too much.. Might stretch out his butt hole right. Smh bro why tf is this on TV or "going to be"
I heard the same thing. 🤔 So does he or doesn’t he partake in being gay?
But he DOES eat donuts.. The question is when and how often?
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Mitch Contreras
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Prolly often.
That's why I don't agree with this lol. He will be eventually kind of cheating or do things behind her back when he's rating someone a 4 🤭
@@EOimages just a little donut hole on the side.. 🤣
Lol!
Exactly he ain’t fooling nobody but her.
If he were bisexual he wouldnt have the issue of depression in his life, or the need for support groups to help him not feel miserable. They’re married to women as a coping mechanism to resist having “donuts” too often. This is sad plain and simple.
i mean i guess he still could, because he clearly isn't attracted to his wife, and staying with someone who doesn't make you happy makes you depressed. he could still be attracted to other women. i don't think he is, though, no one who is attracted to women talks about them like that.
I loved the subconscious analogy of not having donuts (LOL!!!) so he could fit into his pants!!!! It could be interpreted as him wanting to be the man in the relationship with his wife, him wearing the pants...Dog bless Freud...
Taylor Wilkins they are making the moral choice to not be driven by the flesh
Yaya if we're made in God's Image then we were made to have carnal desires.. so how is that immoral to feel something that we were made to do/have naturally??..
Helena, that is a lazy supposition. You could say the same about a serial killer giving in to their desires to kill people. Or, to keep it about sexuality, a nymphomaniac behaving promiscuously despite promising to commit to a monogamous relationship.
Everyone has a choice to behave based on their base desires and instincts. Whether they do or don't is not because God made them do it.
As an openly gay single man, i "very often", tell the married men who hit on me on grindr that i will tell their wives if i ever see them together in public (i would do it). Cheating is for cowards!
Agreed
Exactly 💯
These poor men and their wives. None of them are getting what they want.
Except they are, idiot. You missed the part where they clearly described wanting to be married and committed to their spouses. There's more to life than fucking, believe it or not.
Of course there is, but sex is a major part of all intimate relationships and one of the top reasons divorced or separated couples give for them falling apart. The man isn't really into it, the woman is trying to convince herself that she's satisfied and wondering what it would be like with a man who *really* desired her. Marriage is hard enough as it is without one partner not even being sexually attracted to the other.
valar how did you know that their not getting what they actually want. Simply because they have their own family and for them family is more important to them than their attraction. Maybe your priorities is your own desires ,.😔 I'm so sad your desires are not the same.
Maybe for awhile. But sexual attraction just keeps coming back. It's not some freak thing that is just "my priority" it is a priority of most of the world's population.
Wait until the kids are a few years older and not occupying as much of their time. The arguments or even infidelity will probably start. Happens to countless couples.
valar i know what you mean sexual appetite is always there, temptations is always there, but for me i believed we have a capacity and capability to resist that temptations, one thing that maybe you don't have is faith in god....
One day this guy's wife is going to find him in the bedroom with a giant box of "donuts".
Victor Chen hahaha
he's probably sneaking in a donut or two here and there
LMFAOOOOO
Victor Chen 😂😂😂
Victor Chen lmao
He wants all the benefits of a woman, but genuinely is attracted to men.
Ye I noticed that
Selfish
ok, this is insane, but the "I'm attracted to man too" was so funny lol
Also the saddest way to describe your sex life is normal and fully functional
モンスターフライドポテト dead
Nothing lit behind his eyes when he said that...he wants dick
モンスターフライドポテト good point, but better than saying it's abnormal and non functioning, although that would be probably closer to the truth
lamingtongirl123 🤣🤣
モンスターフライドポテト if i was asked that, while on camera, i’d say the same thing. Not cause it’s mediocre. But because saying “OH my sex life is AMAZING” can feel personal. i’d feel awkward and not know how to respond
Not eating donuts??? He's sucking the creme filling out of dozens of them!! 💅🏼
Jonathon Patrick 😂😂😂👍👍👍
Gary H I like a Boston creme myself, once in awhile 💁🏻😉
Jonathon Patrick I do daily 😂😂😂
Gary H lol 😂
Jonathon Patrick Im crying 😂😂😭
Wife: “I’m attracted to men too!”
GURL YESSSS
Dalton Hurst hahahah love it🤣
I bet they do daisy chains all the time
@@prihaps daisy chains LMAOOOOOOOO I cant breathe 😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Mykee Wattz 🌼🌼🌼
I like ur pfp
Him: “I’m attracted to 90% of men.”
Her: “I’m attracted to men too.” 🤓
She know damn well she’s not okay with that. She know DAMN WELL he is, in fact… GAY.
This man said “I’m just mad she got to kiss more boys than me” LOL WHAT???
He’s part of a “stuck in the closet” support group for crying out loud!!!
lmfao they're sisterssss
welcome to the mental health crisis within mormonism
rainepanda has nothing to do with mormonism.this is a Caucasian thing period.
In a way it does have to do with Mormonism.
I was lds at 1 point
God's sun/son JBP777/sodomite slayer Nope. He only married a woman because of religious beliefs. He is picking his beliefs over being true to himself because he is brainwashed.
I read this as moronism lmao
Jessica Amanda lol same. maybe we are soulmates ;p
“I’m attracted to men.”
“Does this mean we’re over?”
Girl, yes!
Lmao
The truth is finally out!!
Adia Noeta I don’t k ow about her but I would deserve someone who totally loves women 💯. Why would anyone accept someone who doesn’t.
LMAO
It’s just so much face palmage. 🤦🏻♀️
This is not going to last. Hes definitely meeting men in hotel rooms on the low...comparing his wife to a diet ? Please ...lady open your eyes and leave him ...he will eventually leave , hes living a lie
A Gay lie
Living a big lie. The children are the true victims at the end of the day.
His donuts
Yeah they split up.
So many marriages become less and less based on the attraction between them and about the family, the children, shared values, being there for each other, etc. Those relationships aren't a lie and they don't have to split up.
So he’s bi? Is he truly attracted and in love with his wive?
Honestly I doubt he is. Just based on how pained the entire thing seems.
Those guys were SO flirting on the court there. The TENSION!
A life of unfulfilled desires. No thanks.
Mark-Leon Thorne so sad that people nowadays don't have enough knowledge about the commandments of god.
It's so sad that so many people follow these fairy tales like it's reality. Destroying so many lives.
Well, I guess that's another way to put it.
yeah just because you are not christian doesnt mean you dont believe in god
just incase you dont know basically religion believes in god but maybe slightly different
Justin Y's Enemy not all religions believe in a God either.
on Jan 10, 2015 ABC news discovers the first bisexual
He's not though, he's not even attracted to women.
Victor Chen yes he is. I know a guy who says the opposite. he is attracted to girls 90 percent of the time and 10 percent to men. sexuality is a spectrum
I really don't want to correct you, but you really need watch the video again. He said that he's attracted to men 90% of the time and women 10%.
Jonathan Carpenter Miller correct me on what?? I wasnt talking about the guy in the video dork
Yeah.... so was I and don't call me names!
Comparing his wife to being on a diet 😂😂😂
Sooner or later they're gonna eat the doughnuts.
dandy72 __ Exactly!!! Time to make the doughnuts....
If they haven't already