Fun fact: arousal can take many different forms including anger, excitement, sexual, fear, and even happiness. All these activate different parts of the brain and it gets weird, all of them have the same physical symptoms increased heart rate, dilated pupils, sweating and sometimes shivering. And why this happens is rather simple, we have different braid regions for different functions but you have only one sympathetic nervous system. It can turn on and off and kind of has a dial that determines your state of arousal.
Thank you for posting this. I’m a woman and I can confirm that sex is indeed mental. That’s why I went on my deconstruction journey when it came to unraveling the damages purity culture did to me. Being in the right mindset is important. If my mind is not in it, my body won’t respond. It’s taken a decade to deconstruct and now reconstruct, but it’s one of the best things I’ve done!
"...unraveling the damages purity culture did to me..." Translation: I chose to sleep around and now I'm going to gaslight and twist the narrative as if I'm somehow a victim in order to avoid accountability for my decisions. You've been ran through. Understood. Stop beating around the bush. Pun intended.
@@TheIdentifiedPatient actually no. I didn’t hook up with random people. It mostly came from a lot of reading done by sexologists and many others who were affected by this as well.
As someone with hypersexuality, I go through many stages. One of them as guilt due to the fact I cannot control my actions going through that mental state. But I may as well tell myself that it's a normal part of life.
I used to think like that too, and I'm like the most unlikable person ever, just take your time and when it's time it'll just happen, if I did it you can do it too trust me
Thanks for including asexuality too! As an ace, its always been weird navigating societal rules about sex. Theres simultaneously pressure to pursuit and enjoy sex (otherwise theres something "wrong" with you) yet theres also stigma against people (esp women) who are sexually active. I'm really curious how cultural taboos play into our opinions, feelings, and behaviors about and during sex.
If you're not on camera, I'd say it shouldn't matter. If it floats you and your s.o.'s boat, do it - it's not the business of anyone outside the bedroom, so they have no say. Between that and the double standards women (and men) face even in other areas of life, it's all the more reason to be a little under-cultured.
@@brandonhowe5017 Yeah. Its a double edged sword though, as people who do not have sex at all, funnily enough, are stigmatized as much if not more as those who participate in ways not accepted widely.
@@eiserneskreuz8408To be honest unless you bring it up nobody is that interested in your sex life 🤷♀️the thing more so with women is that it’s seen as a lot of baggage because they have a harder time brushing off sexual activities and also the stds and other issues etc men also have these Ofc but it’s easier for them to “hit it and quit it” so to speak
@@Raphaeltheslayer I wouldnt say so. At least I have experienced a lot of stigma and people being petty and nosy about my private life, as for example being single at certain age is seen as wrong and such. It is not solely about sex but goes around all that lack of romantic and sexual relations defining you. For the second part, I suppose overall afab anatomy makes things worse for people having it to be honest. Periods, pregnancy and maybe even other things don't seem like a good thing to face and it all comes around the role of theirs in reproduction. I cannot say anything else on this as I do not really understand why would one choose to have any short time sexual relations and stay away from the culture of these, but yeah, these risks can make any sexual interaction worse probably.
I'm ace and les , and I never really understood the enjoyment in it?- any sexual interaction to me feels.. weird? Idk. I just don't understand it , I do want a relationship, I can feel romantic attraction, but will never agree to do "it"
This is fascinating, but it always makes me wonder... How hard it is for scientific studies to be done on this topic without the researchers feeling the excitement for themselves?
For me, learning about my sexual preferences and what gets me aroused most often was the final piece of the puzzle I was missing in order to finally accomplish the healthy self-esteem I have today. While of course there are those out there who don't need sexual activity to achieve happiness, I realized that I at least needed some of it in order to achieve the self-fulfillment I had been longing for for so many years. TL;DR, understanding my sexuality was one of the keys to becoming the happy, fulfilled human being I am today, and it baffles me that so many schools and people try to shun and hide this topic because it just makes EVERYTHING worse.
@@PinkWytchBytch If you feel that what you're experiencing is making you have difficulties with functioning through daily life or with your significant other, it's not at all a bad idea to ask for help or guidance from a professional. That's what they're there for.
I do not think that this is happiness. You can do without that act if you do not need it, because it is only an illusion of happiness \...\ That feeling will disappear after the end of this practice
I don’t normally comment on videos but I think a very large part especially nowadays is guilt. I know it’s not apart of the sexual cycle itself but there’s definitely been a large part of guilt filled in peoples minds and this could be simple because of how they are raised, confusion. But it could also be from medical issues like people who have hyper-sexuality, or PTSD and I think mental estate is definitely such a large part to the cycle 100% and I am glad people have touched on it over the years
For me, learning about my sexual preferences and what gets me aroused is that I still don't know that, I haven't explored myself in that department much, not I have ever had sexual intercourse so far, so I couldn't really tell which stimuli is closer to mine, but maybe one day I'll let go of my anxieties and worries to explore myself and learn more about myself but for now I must get on with life and keep working on my hobbies and work
Yeah all asexual is, is not feeling sexual attraction, but it does not affect you libido, so you can be a sex positive asexual or sex repulsed asexual or a bit in the middle :)
@@deezzzzzznuts might be fictional character, or something like idk how to explain its not always about intercourses for asexual. They might be doing something they love and feel the ecstasy as some ppl when they have sex.
@@deezzzzzznuts I have an asexual friend who does not like the idea of someone touching her body in a sensual way. She says she enjoys kisses, hugs, and more wholesome displays of affection, but feel uncomfortable even thinking of having sex with a person. She does however please herself bc it's a natural way of relieving tension. Plus it has a lot to do with brain chemicals (I'm not a doctor, so I don't know what exactly happens there) but she only likes that because it's private. She doesn't feel like showing her naked self to someone else and do things that gross her out mentally. Physically, she still gets horny and is ok with occasionally satisfying that need on her own. I hope this helps! As they said in the video, there are physical and psychological parts of sex and masturbation. This is an example of how an asexual would feel. This isn't the same for every asexual person, but there are a lot that still please themselves.
As a man i find that desire and arousal for me is not that simple. I need intimacy and feel a connection with my partner. So ok the testosterone part, but i think that it's not so simple for men either, there is a big psychological part that is not taken into account. Maybe because people in general take men' sexuality for granted at a point where men themselves think that it have to be so. (I'm generalizing ok, i do not pretend that my experience is all men experiences, I'm just saying that maybe women' sexuality is not more complex but only different and that also men' sexuality can be complex as well and must not be taken for granted)
Yup, there is almost zero awareness about this. Women experience extremely horny teenage boys early in their live and this sets some sort of expectation that men are always horny and can climax easy and fast and need no emotional attachements. I had to explain this many times now. Sometimes the sex is good but I got too exhausted and then would rather take a break instead of forcing a climax. Sometimes you're too drunk or maybe just emotionally loaded or stressed, or exactly as you put it - don't feel enough connection to have a proper errection. Somehow some women interpret this as their fault for not being beautiful enough. Last but not least not having an orgasm isn't that big of a deal when you're not a mindlessly horny teenager anymore and this is always an issue when I said it's fine to try another time. So much pressure to fill that expectation to always climax.
@@brohvakiindova4452 "Last but not least not having an orgasm isn't that big of a deal when you're not a mindlessly horny teenager anymore and this is always an issue when I said it's fine to try another time. So much pressure to fill that expectation to always climax." Sometimes I wonder if even the "horny male teenager" stereotype only actually persists because nobody actually helps teenaged boys understand when they're feeling aroused and give them non-sexual ways to resolve it. Orgasms can always be the go-to most of the time, sure, but it's not like a guy can't take a walk to calm down or something. Or if there's a way to channel that desire for sexual relief from looking for sex or sexual activity to non-sexual activity (intimate talking, exercise, etc.)
@@JonathanScarlet Well speaking from personal experience from my teenage years there is very little you can do when you're hormonally instantly aroused by the slightest thought AND you're then laying in bed next to your girlfriend, in her bedroom, presumably in her parents house. All that after the fact that you didn't get to finish. But also yes a lot of that frustration comes from wrong expectations from porn. Double but there's also the fact we're biologically primed to reproduce asap so the urge to climax for a man is possibly different than it is to a woman. Seriously as an adult now I would say just slip out to the bathroom and finish yourself, if you're that frustrated in such a situation. Infinitely better than getting lowkey disappointed or even mad at your girlfriend.
Closest I ever got are hugs & compliments about my personality. The compliments happen once every couple of years & really help boost my self esteem - but they happen far & few between.
You, like me, are not part of the elite class who reproduce. We do not own the means of production. Sexuality was stripped from us like flesh from an animal eaten alive. Know your suffering and understand it was always meant to be this way. There is no hope for change. No way to change your fate. It was set before we were even born.
"If I have seen further than others, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants." I love watching scientific concepts build and adapt to their predecessors as our technology and culture advances
I get the feeling that even with all this research, we're only just scratching the surface. We'll eventually find out that sexual psychology is either infinitely more complex that previously thought, or else that it's something so simple that we've been overthinking it this whole time... or maybe both.
I thought they're supposed to teach this in school :/ either way this version of it is better than how a teacher would explain it :D Great educational video! 👍👍
Hi psyco2go! Your videos are really helpful to not only help me further understand me or psychological topics I'm curious about, but also helps me explain it to others, or better yet, direct them to your videos! I've been thinking for a while if you could make a video on social battery (or at least the idea of it) because a few months back, I had a conversation with a friend about it. They didn't know what it was and I couldn't find a good way to explain it. I'm also worried I might be missing some important parts about social battery that will be great for my understanding of it. Thank you so much for reading this comment and I hope that anyone reading this can relate or even give me feedback!
Well done! We need a brain. Intimacy involves feelings of emotional closeness and connectedness with another person. Intimate relationships are characterized by attitudes of mutual trust, caring, and acceptance.
@@vaughnhaney7020 Probably because reading is different from experience? Fiction often makes things much tolerable than they are. For example, someone scared of blood would be ok reading about blood (or even gore smut). But if they see it or actually experience it in real life.... Yikes. That's how I see it, at least. Consuming media/content may arouse you but the real thing might be disgusting or intimidating
Just remember that you don't need a sexual relationship to have a meaningful romantic one. There are people who are on the spectrum of romantic asexuals. It's perfectly fine to have just close emotionally
I was hoping someone had said this! Sex isn't a necessity for everyone, nor is romance for others, but the two are not interchangeable, as many might think.
Doesn't matter if your partner isn't asexual, it's not fair to them if their needs aren't met. So yeah good luck putting this into practice if both parties aren't asexual.
@@MrTony Nobody said anything about trapping an allosexual in a sexless relationship. It would be unfair, but it would be just as wrong to expect a sexual relationship with someone who doesn't want one.
@@MrTony I'm not talking from experience at all. I mean I'm not asexual, I just heard from other people. And you're probably right, it would be hard. But you know, every relationship works differently. Maybe an open relationship works there? Who knows?
I'm a trans woman, on HRT, and I relate most to the Basson model. With testosterone out of my system, my sexual response has completely changed. Before HRT, my sexual response usually started with a mental desire, either spontaneously, or triggered by "visual stimuli"; Which is what my desire primarily revolved around. After HRT, my sexual response usually starts with physical arousal (which also happens differently now), and my desire is much more emotional & contextual; visual stimuli has nowhere near the same effect on me.
@Camellia Well, I've experienced life with both sets of sex hormones. And I've had the experience of being presumed & pretending to be male for most of my life so far. But I've only ever been one gender.
As an Ace I am very happy to see you talk about it Yes Aces get aroused, not all are sex repulsed! And some might even find it enjoyable if they do have sex For me I just don't want sex with another person
Hey Psych2Go! Can you possibly do a video based on cognitive dissonance and how it can make someone toxic in the form of being controlling, manipulative, etc. This would greatly be appreciated as I'm recovering something like this with another person.
Me: just trying to research how to be less horny. This video: narrated by one of the most attractive voices I’ve heard. Me: this world is too sexy for me.
I feel like the bassan model fits me more, and with arousal, I personly never had sex but when ever I think of it or even have feelings for someone (no matter how rare it is) my heart starts pounding and I get so nerves and this video helped me relize I'm problebly not alone when it comes to feeling nervise or scared.
I've found that I responded to the feeling of being connected.. mentally.. and thus far, I've only experienced it with one person. What is that form of arousal referred to.. And thank you... this has been incredibly insightful.
Masters and Johnson's description is good, but Whipple & Brash-McGreer's is better. Theirs is actually descriptive enough to explain certain problems that I'm facing now: the lack of a "seduction" phase in any aspect of my life (little or nothing is sexy to me anymore), and the importance of "reflection," which may explain why an arousing thought or fantasy stops working after a while. Now THAT'S helpful!
And stage 1 is basically why I don’t feel a lot of sexual arousal anymore. I’ve been abused a few times and now connect sex with fear, being overridden and my boundaries broken. So now I don’t feel excited about it rlly
Maybe once you find someone you feel you can trust and respects you you'll be able to safely discuss your emotions and try to rebuild your relationship with sexual acts and thoughts? Ik it's easier said that done, I hope you've doing been alright
I definitely am more with the basson model. I need that intimacy hard and I struggle to get it from my husband these days. Until now I couldn’t really explain it very well. I think I’ll have to show him this section of the video. Thank you!!!
I am a sexual person. I have been doing research for 35 years. Passion for life can definitely amp up sexuality. Your mindset will definitely affect how you respond to sexual pleasures.
Ah, you must own the means of production then. Of course you are sexual. You were always guaranteed it in your class. You were destined for it, maybe before you were born.
My reason for watching this video is the observation in that women seem to be attracted to different things and respond completely different than I do as a man. It seems a lot more action based for women, like the man has to do specific actions for woman to be aroused and satisficed. A man just has to see a moving shape to whatever he finds preferable, touch it, or less commonly get touched by it, and he's aroused and satisfied.
Men are more visual. As you stated all it takes is seeing an attractive mate. For women that doesn't happen. It get frustrating when men who are ready and want sex are angry that women don't operate that way, you just existing isnt enough. That like getting mad at a cheeseburger for not cooking itself because your hungry now but dont wanna put in effort to cook. You just want to jump to the eating
Huh, that's really interesting. I'm really curious on how this sort of stuff is affected by being Trans and such. Both my partner and I are Trans, so I am curious on how it could change how things work as we know it pre and post treatment. Might even help us understand ourselves more.
wait were you originally a guy into a girl? or a girl into a guy?. because depending on what gender you were originally before changeing it your arousal system may lean more towards your original one. still though im guessing there may be some sort of treatment that alters your bodys stimuli in to mimic your new gender. theres still alot i dont know about how those procedures work and how it changes the body. but an interesting topic to learn about
@@slimgrim3607 personally i think that maybe your arousal system might be more like your assigned gender at birth, but things like hrt might change it, however it's probably not the same for everyone and im guessing as well, I'm trans too
Depends on your sex, and why you transitioned. Because some people transition because they find it sexually satisfying to have people perceive them as the opposite sex.
There is also the part where kids my age decide to fool around without any means of preventing a pregnancy. Then your reaction is either to run away if you're a menace to society, or you have to just accept that your life is ruined (No I'm not speaking from experience, thank god)
I have a friend who is asexual and while they enjoy talking about fetish stuff, it never goes into the subject of sex as it just isn’t for them. They experience what they refer to as “horny thoughts”, but that excludes sex and even the idea of masturbation. It can be a bit difficult to remember this when we discuss the fetish stuff, seeing as I am not asexual and share some of the same fetishes, but I am also autistic so it could just be me struggling to read the social cues. It’s interesting to discuss a shared preference with someone who has a different response to it than I do. My fellow humans are quite interesting and varied. It’s fun to learn how different we are and yet how similar we are.
This last part may partially explain why a man's financial wealth, which does not have anything to do with passion (looks) or intimacy (personality), can also play a role. I've seen this more in developing countries where financial needs are most important.
You’re completely right! Although what you’re saying has more grounds in sexual selection than the theories in this video. It’s more a part of choosing a partner in the first place, through sexual selection (Darwin) and the psychobiology of relationships and sex, just wrote a paper on sexual selection and relationship biopsychology it was pretty interesting to study. I recommend reading up on it if you’re into this sort of thing.
There's a lot lot of crieteria that can go into that sort of thing. The term 'evolutionary psychology' sometimes gets treated like a dirty word, but there's something to that. Women have a lot more invested in sex than us guys do, biologically speaking. They can get pregnant, and as such it makes sense to value stability and the like. We dudes can just go wherever, practically speaking (nothing keeping us around other than our own decency if she gets pregnant), and as such we tend to favor 'ease of access' a bit more on average.
I heard from my health class that woman are emotionally stimulated while men are physically stimulated. And as a woman I completely agree with This statement, the woman part anyway. Although there isn’t TOO much I can say considering I haven’t don’t that but I know enough and the science behind it.
For some reason I see people at my school all shy when they tell people they like each other. But when I told my crush I liked her I wasn’t even wussed out.
Imagine quickly mental health could grow, if we a non intrusive, portable way to observe the inner workings of the brain. And shout out to my fellow schizoids, always screwing with social data, and so usually left blissfully alone
For my age I can sadly say due to my Libido being ruined by an ADHD/Sleeping medications, it has ruined my Libedo, and as a female I don't think I've ever had an orgasm from my husband due to lack of Libedo, I love my husband's looks and personality a lot, and I hate it when we get into the mood and I can't finish for myself and with sex toys that can help to have an orgasm, I end up bleeding a bit whenever I do have one (if it truly is one at that point) and even with a ton of lube I still bleed.. it's confusing
@@gingerisvegan maybe she is telling that sho cant get any kind of orgasm from though stimulative way . Yes for many women it's easier to get a clitoral orgasm but the pills she is taking makes her feel less satisfaction when getting stimulies .
the first of these cycles looks like a story structure with the beginning that starts with the inciting incident, then building up the excitement until the story reach the climax, then after that is the resolution&ending where the main problem finally resolved
Huh, didn't know there where so many different schools of thought on this sort of thing. Don't think any of them really apply very well to me though, as I'm an unusual case. Most folks who have sex drives don't train themselves to turn it completely off on command. That last one listed is the closest, but would have an off/off switch for the whole loop. Provided I've actually allowed the cycle to start in the first place, there's another branch off to the side labeled 'Abort!' or something. Followed by 'Yep, enjoy your migraine' because that's what happens when I decide to pull the mental handbrake like that. It's a useful ability, particularly for a male, but it's not without it's problems. Having it switched off most of the time means I never had to learn to actually *deal with it*. The few times it's caught me unaware usually see me walk (or ride, if on a bike) headlong into the nearest inanimate object and that's pretty embarrassing lol.
Let's not assume Masters and Johnson didn't know what they were doing when they decided to collaborate on this study. They knew EXACTLY what they were doing.
Sex is something I have desired but will never have. I have never had a relationship as I am working all the time. As I was told, what matters is work and money. I was also told that if you didn't have sex before you reached age 30, there isn't any hope. I turn 35 next month. Considered having my genitals removed because, after all, they aren't doing anything for me. I have very dark thoughts sometimes.
You probably need to get out of your current mental state before things can change for you. First: Don't listen to those "You have to had Sex before Age X" bullshit. I thought for a long time like that, just to figure out that I'm Ace and therefore have no sex drive at all. (Its hard to figure out something's missing if you don't have a reference) Second: If you feel lonley and therefore devistated, sucidial, depressed -> Seek professional mental health staff and maybe get a pet. If you can increase your feeling of selfworth, than you see more oppertunities, and it will be easier to deal with people in a positive way. Third: You only life once. If you are like a workaholic, think about if its worth to put that much lifetime into work. You won't turn younger. Do some hobbies. Find some friends. Relationship might or might not occure through accident. If you work in a field that does not give you enough money, maybe think about a change.
That's right. You won't. Just like me. I have dark thoughts too, but I channel that through my writings. I often wish I could destroy the breeding class. Watch as their children are born in a roiling pool of blood. Smiting those animals upon the hills and watch them squirm like ants too powerless to fight back. But that death and destruction is meant for another...my fictional offspring who is defined as the god of my novels who died and escaped the inner realm of my broken mind.....
I think you need to get into a good church . Work on some healing Then pray about meeting the right person. I say try God because most people don't know what it is and they have really bad relationships because of it.
Hey psy! I know you probably won't read this, but if you do, could you do another video with tips on how to get your crush to like you? Im having trouble with that
Yet again another damn amazing video. TBH im suprised yall didn't talk about how a "dumb thing" someone does can be considered hot. I know yall have other videos soley for that convo, this one though i think it wouldve fit right in. For me, hell if a lady gives me them crooked eyes with a smile i melt. I do admit, i have a perfect lady for me though, when she does that, holy damn its like im transported past having a convo with her to wanting to take the clothes off
As male, sometimes I have huge sexual desire, sometimes I`m arousal. Sometimes I`m disguasted by my sexual urges and just see sex and sexual urges as weakness
Fun fact: arousal can take many different forms including anger, excitement, sexual, fear, and even happiness. All these activate different parts of the brain and it gets weird, all of them have the same physical symptoms increased heart rate, dilated pupils, sweating and sometimes shivering. And why this happens is rather simple, we have different braid regions for different functions but you have only one sympathetic nervous system. It can turn on and off and kind of has a dial that determines your state of arousal.
Is that why people are sexually attracted to serial killers in fictional stories? (e.g. Yoshikage Kira, Tohru Adachi, Alucard Hellsing, etc)
I dunno bout you but seeing an angry person suddenly all bricked up and their only explanation is "I get hard when I'm angry." would be hilarious.
@@askinnyshademan The funniest argument in favor of getting angry over the phone instead of in person
"I get a boner. It's super awkward."
@@askinnyshademan This is me... sometimes.
From what you said most of these sound hardly fun Lol
Thank you for posting this. I’m a woman and I can confirm that sex is indeed mental. That’s why I went on my deconstruction journey when it came to unraveling the damages purity culture did to me. Being in the right mindset is important. If my mind is not in it, my body won’t respond.
It’s taken a decade to deconstruct and now reconstruct, but it’s one of the best things I’ve done!
Glad that you're recovering, stay strong!
I agree 100 percent. Purity culture was terrible!
"...unraveling the damages purity culture did to me..."
Translation: I chose to sleep around and now I'm going to gaslight and twist the narrative as if I'm somehow a victim in order to avoid accountability for my decisions.
You've been ran through.
Understood.
Stop beating around the bush. Pun intended.
@@TheIdentifiedPatient what a horrible thing to say
@@TheIdentifiedPatient actually no. I didn’t hook up with random people. It mostly came from a lot of reading done by sexologists and many others who were affected by this as well.
As someone with hypersexuality, I go through many stages. One of them as guilt due to the fact I cannot control my actions going through that mental state. But I may as well tell myself that it's a normal part of life.
Most people get post nut clarity. Also i feel you, I also have hypersexuality
Does psycho go already posted about this topic ? Cuz if not , would be very interesting
(third hypersexual here btw)
Timestamps
1). What is a sexual response cycle 0:41
2). Masters and Johnson 1:25
2.1). Excitement 2:10
2.2). Plateau 2:23
2.3). Orgasm 2:36
2.4). Resolution 2:45
3). Kaplan 2:51
3.1). Desire 3:29
4). Whipple and Brash-McGreer 3:50
4.1). Seduction 4:21
4.2). Sensations 4:26
4.3). Surrender 4:35
4.4). Reflection 4:39
5). Basson 5:12
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I appreciate you contributing to those who will watch later than 8 minutes after it was initially uploaded.
slayed 🥰
I’m just going to add
4.4) Reflection 4:43
@@katieb9428 okay and thanks for this
Thank you i will go to ur house tonight
Ah yes, nice to know how I may act for something I'm more than likely never gonna have in my life
I used to think like that too, and I'm like the most unlikable person ever, just take your time and when it's time it'll just happen, if I did it you can do it too trust me
Same
@@Travis_20098 We’ve all been there lol
Dang
@@TheBestLoser1 hey there I have a crush 😻 on someone should I tell my crush how I feel about her
Thanks for including asexuality too! As an ace, its always been weird navigating societal rules about sex. Theres simultaneously pressure to pursuit and enjoy sex (otherwise theres something "wrong" with you) yet theres also stigma against people (esp women) who are sexually active. I'm really curious how cultural taboos play into our opinions, feelings, and behaviors about and during sex.
If you're not on camera, I'd say it shouldn't matter. If it floats you and your s.o.'s boat, do it - it's not the business of anyone outside the bedroom, so they have no say. Between that and the double standards women (and men) face even in other areas of life, it's all the more reason to be a little under-cultured.
@@brandonhowe5017 Yeah. Its a double edged sword though, as people who do not have sex at all, funnily enough, are stigmatized as much if not more as those who participate in ways not accepted widely.
@@eiserneskreuz8408To be honest unless you bring it up nobody is that interested in your sex life 🤷♀️the thing more so with women is that it’s seen as a lot of baggage because they have a harder time brushing off sexual activities and also the stds and other issues etc men also have these Ofc but it’s easier for them to “hit it and quit it” so to speak
@@Raphaeltheslayer I wouldnt say so. At least I have experienced a lot of stigma and people being petty and nosy about my private life, as for example being single at certain age is seen as wrong and such. It is not solely about sex but goes around all that lack of romantic and sexual relations defining you. For the second part, I suppose overall afab anatomy makes things worse for people having it to be honest. Periods, pregnancy and maybe even other things don't seem like a good thing to face and it all comes around the role of theirs in reproduction. I cannot say anything else on this as I do not really understand why would one choose to have any short time sexual relations and stay away from the culture of these, but yeah, these risks can make any sexual interaction worse probably.
I'm ace and les , and I never really understood the enjoyment in it?- any sexual interaction to me feels.. weird? Idk. I just don't understand it , I do want a relationship, I can feel romantic attraction, but will never agree to do "it"
This is fascinating, but it always makes me wonder...
How hard it is for scientific studies to be done on this topic without the researchers feeling the excitement for themselves?
Lmao, what a question
They have to whack it before experimenting
@@Jords250 whilst
1:43 they did
More data!
I think this is one of the most educational videos you've posted, congrats on the whole team for making it this simple to explain and so inclusive
For me, learning about my sexual preferences and what gets me aroused most often was the final piece of the puzzle I was missing in order to finally accomplish the healthy self-esteem I have today. While of course there are those out there who don't need sexual activity to achieve happiness, I realized that I at least needed some of it in order to achieve the self-fulfillment I had been longing for for so many years. TL;DR, understanding my sexuality was one of the keys to becoming the happy, fulfilled human being I am today, and it baffles me that so many schools and people try to shun and hide this topic because it just makes EVERYTHING worse.
Amen
@@PinkWytchBytch If you feel that what you're experiencing is making you have difficulties with functioning through daily life or with your significant other, it's not at all a bad idea to ask for help or guidance from a professional. That's what they're there for.
there is alot of important shit that schools dont teach you for some reason. its pretty stupid how little they prepare you for.
@@slimgrim3607 I would sum it up as schools try to teach you how to learn, but they oftentimes don't teach you how to survive.
I do not think that this is happiness. You can do without that act if you do not need it, because it is only an illusion of happiness \...\ That feeling will disappear after the end of this practice
If you're raised catholic, the last stage is guilt. 😂
Most men do :l
@@redtapex4091 Most men do what?
@@JB-mh5xy when they beat their meat, the guilt is unbearable 😐
@@JB-mh5xy feel guilt
If you're raised catholic, the last stage is to beg god for forgiveness and pray that he'll cleanse your soul from your earthly sins.
I don’t normally comment on videos but I think a very large part especially nowadays is guilt. I know it’s not apart of the sexual cycle itself but there’s definitely been a large part of guilt filled in peoples minds and this could be simple because of how they are raised, confusion. But it could also be from medical issues like people who have hyper-sexuality, or PTSD and I think mental estate is definitely such a large part to the cycle 100% and I am glad people have touched on it over the years
For me, learning about my sexual preferences and what gets me aroused is that I still don't know that, I haven't explored myself in that department much, not I have ever had sexual intercourse so far, so I couldn't really tell which stimuli is closer to mine, but maybe one day I'll let go of my anxieties and worries to explore myself and learn more about myself but for now I must get on with life and keep working on my hobbies and work
A very interesting comment
Just do it
You’ll start to learn as you begin having sexual experiences. I wouldn’t worry about it now.
Gosh, I am so happy to learn that asexual can experience arousal. I've been heavily second-guessing myself for a pretty long time
Yeah all asexual is, is not feeling sexual attraction, but it does not affect you libido, so you can be a sex positive asexual or sex repulsed asexual or a bit in the middle :)
Would you say your experience as an asexual person is feeling sexual urges, but they're not directed towards people?
@@LucarioBoricua lmao if not directed towards people then what else 💀
@@deezzzzzznuts might be fictional character, or something like idk how to explain its not always about intercourses for asexual. They might be doing something they love and feel the ecstasy as some ppl when they have sex.
@@deezzzzzznuts I have an asexual friend who does not like the idea of someone touching her body in a sensual way. She says she enjoys kisses, hugs, and more wholesome displays of affection, but feel uncomfortable even thinking of having sex with a person. She does however please herself bc it's a natural way of relieving tension. Plus it has a lot to do with brain chemicals (I'm not a doctor, so I don't know what exactly happens there) but she only likes that because it's private. She doesn't feel like showing her naked self to someone else and do things that gross her out mentally. Physically, she still gets horny and is ok with occasionally satisfying that need on her own. I hope this helps! As they said in the video, there are physical and psychological parts of sex and masturbation. This is an example of how an asexual would feel. This isn't the same for every asexual person, but there are a lot that still please themselves.
My arousal is definetly mental. I'm not interested in sex at all unless I have a good emotional connection with the person.
As a man i find that desire and arousal for me is not that simple. I need intimacy and feel a connection with my partner. So ok the testosterone part, but i think that it's not so simple for men either, there is a big psychological part that is not taken into account. Maybe because people in general take men' sexuality for granted at a point where men themselves think that it have to be so. (I'm generalizing ok, i do not pretend that my experience is all men experiences, I'm just saying that maybe women' sexuality is not more complex but only different and that also men' sexuality can be complex as well and must not be taken for granted)
Yup, there is almost zero awareness about this. Women experience extremely horny teenage boys early in their live and this sets some sort of expectation that men are always horny and can climax easy and fast and need no emotional attachements.
I had to explain this many times now. Sometimes the sex is good but I got too exhausted and then would rather take a break instead of forcing a climax. Sometimes you're too drunk or maybe just emotionally loaded or stressed, or exactly as you put it - don't feel enough connection to have a proper errection. Somehow some women interpret this as their fault for not being beautiful enough.
Last but not least not having an orgasm isn't that big of a deal when you're not a mindlessly horny teenager anymore and this is always an issue when I said it's fine to try another time.
So much pressure to fill that expectation to always climax.
To be honest, I think it depends much more on the personality than gender how we get aroused. I think this isn't considered enough.
@@brohvakiindova4452 "Last but not least not having an orgasm isn't that big of a deal when you're not a mindlessly horny teenager anymore and this is always an issue when I said it's fine to try another time.
So much pressure to fill that expectation to always climax."
Sometimes I wonder if even the "horny male teenager" stereotype only actually persists because nobody actually helps teenaged boys understand when they're feeling aroused and give them non-sexual ways to resolve it. Orgasms can always be the go-to most of the time, sure, but it's not like a guy can't take a walk to calm down or something. Or if there's a way to channel that desire for sexual relief from looking for sex or sexual activity to non-sexual activity (intimate talking, exercise, etc.)
@@JonathanScarlet Well speaking from personal experience from my teenage years there is very little you can do when you're hormonally instantly aroused by the slightest thought AND you're then laying in bed next to your girlfriend, in her bedroom, presumably in her parents house. All that after the fact that you didn't get to finish.
But also yes a lot of that frustration comes from wrong expectations from porn.
Double but there's also the fact we're biologically primed to reproduce asap so the urge to climax for a man is possibly different than it is to a woman.
Seriously as an adult now I would say just slip out to the bathroom and finish yourself, if you're that frustrated in such a situation. Infinitely better than getting lowkey disappointed or even mad at your girlfriend.
Closest I ever got are hugs & compliments about my personality. The compliments happen once every couple of years & really help boost my self esteem - but they happen far & few between.
I dont know you, but I‘m sure you‘re a great and kind person! I wish you could get what you need. Good luck, buddy!🥰
You, like me, are not part of the elite class who reproduce. We do not own the means of production. Sexuality was stripped from us like flesh from an animal eaten alive. Know your suffering and understand it was always meant to be this way. There is no hope for change. No way to change your fate. It was set before we were even born.
"If I have seen further than others, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants."
I love watching scientific concepts build and adapt to their predecessors as our technology and culture advances
Yooo
It's nice to see more "adult" oriented videos
I get the feeling that even with all this research, we're only just scratching the surface. We'll eventually find out that sexual psychology is either infinitely more complex that previously thought, or else that it's something so simple that we've been overthinking it this whole time... or maybe both.
Asexuality is an interesting one. Especially when it doesn't match any of these models cleanly. I'm glad it was mentioned at the end.
I thought they're supposed to teach this in school :/ either way this version of it is better than how a teacher would explain it :D Great educational video! 👍👍
Nope parents would be so mad. They want the honor of telling their children ( means they won't tell their children).
Hi psyco2go! Your videos are really helpful to not only help me further understand me or psychological topics I'm curious about, but also helps me explain it to others, or better yet, direct them to your videos! I've been thinking for a while if you could make a video on social battery (or at least the idea of it) because a few months back, I had a conversation with a friend about it. They didn't know what it was and I couldn't find a good way to explain it. I'm also worried I might be missing some important parts about social battery that will be great for my understanding of it. Thank you so much for reading this comment and I hope that anyone reading this can relate or even give me feedback!
Well done! We need a brain. Intimacy involves feelings of emotional closeness and connectedness with another person. Intimate relationships are characterized by attitudes of mutual trust, caring, and acceptance.
The last part about asexuality is true. I am asexual and completely s3x repulsed but still do get those sensations when reading light smut
Wait if you're completely repulsed, why would you read porn? Honestly curious
@@vaughnhaney7020 Probably because reading is different from experience? Fiction often makes things much tolerable than they are. For example, someone scared of blood would be ok reading about blood (or even gore smut). But if they see it or actually experience it in real life.... Yikes. That's how I see it, at least.
Consuming media/content may arouse you but the real thing might be disgusting or intimidating
@@vaughnhaney7020 Yeah Chamily is right. Fiction is different from real life to me. It's also partly because of trauma that I'm asexual so.
Just remember that you don't need a sexual relationship to have a meaningful romantic one. There are people who are on the spectrum of romantic asexuals. It's perfectly fine to have just close emotionally
I was hoping someone had said this! Sex isn't a necessity for everyone, nor is romance for others, but the two are not interchangeable, as many might think.
ok?
Doesn't matter if your partner isn't asexual, it's not fair to them if their needs aren't met. So yeah good luck putting this into practice if both parties aren't asexual.
@@MrTony Nobody said anything about trapping an allosexual in a sexless relationship. It would be unfair, but it would be just as wrong to expect a sexual relationship with someone who doesn't want one.
@@MrTony I'm not talking from experience at all. I mean I'm not asexual, I just heard from other people. And you're probably right, it would be hard. But you know, every relationship works differently. Maybe an open relationship works there? Who knows?
I'm glad you teach us important things school neglected to
I'm a trans woman, on HRT, and I relate most to the Basson model. With testosterone out of my system, my sexual response has completely changed.
Before HRT, my sexual response usually started with a mental desire, either spontaneously, or triggered by "visual stimuli"; Which is what my desire primarily revolved around.
After HRT, my sexual response usually starts with physical arousal (which also happens differently now), and my desire is much more emotional & contextual; visual stimuli has nowhere near the same effect on me.
You’re always going to be a male. You can’t change your gender no matter how hard you try. No offense.
Extremely interesting having experienced life as both genders
@Camellia Well, I've experienced life with both sets of sex hormones. And I've had the experience of being presumed & pretending to be male for most of my life so far. But I've only ever been one gender.
Thank you for sharing! My son is about to marry a soon to be trans female to male and I wanted to educate him on the possible changes.
You can't, dumba*s
For someone who is still a bit young, it’s interesting to learn more about it even before school teaches me properly
yeah it's pretty cool to know if I could use this in the future when I grow
School is most likely not where you will properly learn about this subject.
Take your Time and learn all the facts and helpful infos about sex, it’s always good to be educated.
School will probably not teach you this so it's a great thing to be clear about early in life.
As an Ace
I am very happy to see you talk about it
Yes Aces get aroused, not all are sex repulsed! And some might even find it enjoyable if they do have sex
For me I just don't want sex with another person
Hey Psych2Go! Can you possibly do a video based on cognitive dissonance and how it can make someone toxic in the form of being controlling, manipulative, etc. This would greatly be appreciated as I'm recovering something like this with another person.
Love this channel it really helps me understand
Me: just trying to research how to be less horny.
This video: narrated by one of the most attractive voices I’ve heard.
Me: this world is too sexy for me.
I feel like the bassan model fits me more, and with arousal, I personly never had sex but when ever I think of it or even have feelings for someone (no matter how rare it is) my heart starts pounding and I get so nerves and this video helped me relize I'm problebly not alone when it comes to feeling nervise or scared.
Thank you for this informative video. The voice is so calming and easy to listen to that I feel comfortable listening to this topic. Well done!
I've found that I responded to the feeling of being connected.. mentally.. and thus far, I've only experienced it with one person.
What is that form of arousal referred to.. And thank you... this has been incredibly insightful.
Demisexuality is a form of asexuality where an individual will only feel attraction towards someone that they know very well.
Demisexuality?
Masters and Johnson's description is good, but Whipple & Brash-McGreer's is better. Theirs is actually descriptive enough to explain certain problems that I'm facing now: the lack of a "seduction" phase in any aspect of my life (little or nothing is sexy to me anymore), and the importance of "reflection," which may explain why an arousing thought or fantasy stops working after a while. Now THAT'S helpful!
And stage 1 is basically why I don’t feel a lot of sexual arousal anymore. I’ve been abused a few times and now connect sex with fear, being overridden and my boundaries broken. So now I don’t feel excited about it rlly
Maybe once you find someone you feel you can trust and respects you you'll be able to safely discuss your emotions and try to rebuild your relationship with sexual acts and thoughts? Ik it's easier said that done, I hope you've doing been alright
I definitely am more with the basson model. I need that intimacy hard and I struggle to get it from my husband these days. Until now I couldn’t really explain it very well. I think I’ll have to show him this section of the video. Thank you!!!
My body has been in the unexcited phase all my life
Your voice helps me calm down so much.
I am a sexual person. I have been doing research for 35 years. Passion for life can definitely amp up sexuality. Your mindset will definitely affect how you respond to sexual pleasures.
Ah, you must own the means of production then. Of course you are sexual. You were always guaranteed it in your class. You were destined for it, maybe before you were born.
This channel is so great. I definitely related to the circular model more than the others. Thanks for the vid!
Education is very important
and I've got nobody to give it to me.
My reason for watching this video is the observation in that women seem to be attracted to different things and respond completely different than I do as a man. It seems a lot more action based for women, like the man has to do specific actions for woman to be aroused and satisficed. A man just has to see a moving shape to whatever he finds preferable, touch it, or less commonly get touched by it, and he's aroused and satisfied.
Men are more visual. As you stated all it takes is seeing an attractive mate. For women that doesn't happen. It get frustrating when men who are ready and want sex are angry that women don't operate that way, you just existing isnt enough. That like getting mad at a cheeseburger for not cooking itself because your hungry now but dont wanna put in effort to cook. You just want to jump to the eating
@@evil1by1 good analogy
As an asexual.
Your soft voice somehow, made all these awards topics become just talking. You do this well.
FR tho, usually when anyone talks about sex i cringe so bad. But I didn’t cringe once watching this.
I love your voice it's so calming and relaxing 😊
Huh, that's really interesting. I'm really curious on how this sort of stuff is affected by being Trans and such. Both my partner and I are Trans, so I am curious on how it could change how things work as we know it pre and post treatment. Might even help us understand ourselves more.
wait were you originally a guy into a girl? or a girl into a guy?. because depending on what gender you were originally before changeing it your arousal system may lean more towards your original one. still though im guessing there may be some sort of treatment that alters your bodys stimuli in to mimic your new gender. theres still alot i dont know about how those procedures work and how it changes the body. but an interesting topic to learn about
@@slimgrim3607 personally i think that maybe your arousal system might be more like your assigned gender at birth, but things like hrt might change it, however it's probably not the same for everyone and im guessing as well, I'm trans too
Depends on your sex, and why you transitioned. Because some people transition because they find it sexually satisfying to have people perceive them as the opposite sex.
Thank you for including asexuals in this video as well! I feel heard 🥰
There is also the part where kids my age decide to fool around without any means of preventing a pregnancy. Then your reaction is either to run away if you're a menace to society, or you have to just accept that your life is ruined
(No I'm not speaking from experience, thank god)
as someone who is on the aroace spectrum, this was genuinely interesting as i struggle to understand how the majority of people feel attractions
Can you please do one on Avoidant Personality Disorder and how to get over it or identify it?
The brain is our biggest sex organ.
I have a friend who is asexual and while they enjoy talking about fetish stuff, it never goes into the subject of sex as it just isn’t for them. They experience what they refer to as “horny thoughts”, but that excludes sex and even the idea of masturbation.
It can be a bit difficult to remember this when we discuss the fetish stuff, seeing as I am not asexual and share some of the same fetishes, but I am also autistic so it could just be me struggling to read the social cues.
It’s interesting to discuss a shared preference with someone who has a different response to it than I do. My fellow humans are quite interesting and varied. It’s fun to learn how different we are and yet how similar we are.
I didn't think your voice could get any more sultry. That is a skill.
Thanks for the study material on allos
Cringe
made me so happy to hear asexuality being mentioned :,)
This was pretty cool to watch as an asexual person, I learned a lot!
Appreciate the mention of AceSpec peeps.
This last part may partially explain why a man's financial wealth, which does not have anything to do with passion (looks) or intimacy (personality), can also play a role. I've seen this more in developing countries where financial needs are most important.
You’re completely right! Although what you’re saying has more grounds in sexual selection than the theories in this video. It’s more a part of choosing a partner in the first place, through sexual selection (Darwin) and the psychobiology of relationships and sex, just wrote a paper on sexual selection and relationship biopsychology it was pretty interesting to study. I recommend reading up on it if you’re into this sort of thing.
There's a lot lot of crieteria that can go into that sort of thing. The term 'evolutionary psychology' sometimes gets treated like a dirty word, but there's something to that. Women have a lot more invested in sex than us guys do, biologically speaking. They can get pregnant, and as such it makes sense to value stability and the like. We dudes can just go wherever, practically speaking (nothing keeping us around other than our own decency if she gets pregnant), and as such we tend to favor 'ease of access' a bit more on average.
@@macieg4052 Sexual selection amongst the breeding class is due to ownership of the means of production.
I heard from my health class that woman are emotionally stimulated while men are physically stimulated. And as a woman I completely agree with This statement, the woman part anyway. Although there isn’t TOO much I can say considering I haven’t don’t that but I know enough and the science behind it.
I've got moderate anxiety i am trying to look for a video to fix my anxiety
There's actually a lot of videos! In this channel they talk about a little bit of everything :D
Thank you for mentioning the last bit with Aces and masturbation, I had genuinely worried that it was just something off about me
I had to chuckle when the first researchers were named "Masters and Johnson" 😊
Thanks for Sharing this Information.
Great video 💯
For some reason I see people at my school all shy when they tell people they like each other. But when I told my crush I liked her I wasn’t even wussed out.
Nice video 👍
Oh my God that last model resonated with my soul
Can you make a video about wanting intimacy from you ex even if they where toxic, adresing feeling like wanting to take them back ??
Imagine quickly mental health could grow, if we a non intrusive, portable way to observe the inner workings of the brain.
And shout out to my fellow schizoids, always screwing with social data, and so usually left blissfully alone
I like the bit about aseuxals at the end
Rip the only sexual response models happening with me in life is porn
Don't be doin that 🤙🏽
the most important part of any sexual response model is post-nut clarity
waouh ! Always a lot to learn with you.
Besides that, I really like the animation, can I know how you manage to do ?
For my age I can sadly say due to my Libido being ruined by an ADHD/Sleeping medications, it has ruined my Libedo, and as a female I don't think I've ever had an orgasm from my husband due to lack of Libedo, I love my husband's looks and personality a lot, and I hate it when we get into the mood and I can't finish for myself and with sex toys that can help to have an orgasm, I end up bleeding a bit whenever I do have one (if it truly is one at that point) and even with a ton of lube I still bleed.. it's confusing
Just say Blood for the blood god and do it . And make sure to have some hor coco chocolate beafore that unless it's painful.
For many women it’s easier to get clitoral orgasms instead of orgasms from the actual intercourse. I don’t know if that might work for you!
@@gingerisvegan maybe she is telling that sho cant get any kind of orgasm from though stimulative way . Yes for many women it's easier to get a clitoral orgasm but the pills she is taking makes her feel less satisfaction when getting stimulies .
I love your videos, that's all. Just watch em all. I love neurological studies!
i just watch your videos even though all of them may never happen XD
same
I want a request at least for, "Signs of person if they really didn't like you at all".
Why did i even click 💀💀💀
I'm so glad they included ace people in the video
I love that asexuality is included on this video!!
the first of these cycles looks like a story structure with the beginning that starts with the inciting incident, then building up the excitement until the story reach the climax, then after that is the resolution&ending where the main problem finally resolved
What is the name of the panio tone playing in the background ?
Kindly make a video on 'fear of worst happening in Future' problem
Huh, didn't know there where so many different schools of thought on this sort of thing. Don't think any of them really apply very well to me though, as I'm an unusual case. Most folks who have sex drives don't train themselves to turn it completely off on command. That last one listed is the closest, but would have an off/off switch for the whole loop. Provided I've actually allowed the cycle to start in the first place, there's another branch off to the side labeled 'Abort!' or something. Followed by 'Yep, enjoy your migraine' because that's what happens when I decide to pull the mental handbrake like that.
It's a useful ability, particularly for a male, but it's not without it's problems. Having it switched off most of the time means I never had to learn to actually *deal with it*. The few times it's caught me unaware usually see me walk (or ride, if on a bike) headlong into the nearest inanimate object and that's pretty embarrassing lol.
better than walking/riding into an animate object
@@vibaj16 yeah, that's fair, running into someone or a critter while staring would be even worse lol
That last one sounds the most accurate
Why youtube bully me?
I'm so happy that this video also speaks up about asexuals 👏❤
Yay ❤️
Let's not assume Masters and Johnson didn't know what they were doing when they decided to collaborate on this study. They knew EXACTLY what they were doing.
Sex is something I have desired but will never have. I have never had a relationship as I am working all the time. As I was told, what matters is work and money. I was also told that if you didn't have sex before you reached age 30, there isn't any hope. I turn 35 next month. Considered having my genitals removed because, after all, they aren't doing anything for me. I have very dark thoughts sometimes.
I lost mine at 34 this past Christmas w/ a stunning woman I met at work. With the way it all happened, I got kind of lucky. I still can’t believe it.
You probably need to get out of your current mental state before things can change for you.
First:
Don't listen to those "You have to had Sex before Age X" bullshit. I thought for a long time like that, just to figure out that I'm Ace and therefore have no sex drive at all. (Its hard to figure out something's missing if you don't have a reference)
Second:
If you feel lonley and therefore devistated, sucidial, depressed -> Seek professional mental health staff and maybe get a pet.
If you can increase your feeling of selfworth, than you see more oppertunities, and it will be easier to deal with people in a positive way.
Third:
You only life once. If you are like a workaholic, think about if its worth to put that much lifetime into work. You won't turn younger.
Do some hobbies. Find some friends. Relationship might or might not occure through accident.
If you work in a field that does not give you enough money, maybe think about a change.
That's right. You won't. Just like me. I have dark thoughts too, but I channel that through my writings. I often wish I could destroy the breeding class. Watch as their children are born in a roiling pool of blood. Smiting those animals upon the hills and watch them squirm like ants too powerless to fight back. But that death and destruction is meant for another...my fictional offspring who is defined as the god of my novels who died and escaped the inner realm of my broken mind.....
I think you need to get into a good church . Work on some healing Then pray about meeting the right person.
I say try God because most people don't know what it is and they have really bad relationships because of it.
@@meggrotte4760
My family taught me that sex is evil and to have sex is to mock God. They said sexual desire is to be resisted in all ways.
Personally I'd say I'm the last one. I don't need to have sex, I view it more as an emotional and intimate connection.
I sneeze when I get aroused. Have no clue what that means, other than something probably being wired wrong.
Cute as hell 😂
are you aroused by dusty rooms?
😂
And I turn sleepy when I'm aroused like shouldn't one's brain become more active?
Yoo!! This is gonna come in handy I think good to know tho
7:21 is that supposed to be a pumpkin? Wait a min how would that even wor-
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Hey psy! I know you probably won't read this, but if you do, could you do another video with tips on how to get your crush to like you? Im having trouble with that
Can you make a video on inferiority complex
Has anyone actually watched the video than just go to the comments and say first?
Me the asexual: what the dog doing?
It says at the end asexuals included
7:00
The dog is bursting deeznuts
Yet again another damn amazing video. TBH im suprised yall didn't talk about how a "dumb thing" someone does can be considered hot. I know yall have other videos soley for that convo, this one though i think it wouldve fit right in. For me, hell if a lady gives me them crooked eyes with a smile i melt. I do admit, i have a perfect lady for me though, when she does that, holy damn its like im transported past having a convo with her to wanting to take the clothes off
As male, sometimes I have huge sexual desire, sometimes I`m arousal.
Sometimes I`m disguasted by my sexual urges and just see sex and sexual urges as weakness
Literally true.
That’s normal
It annoys me sometimes but yeah, true man