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When you haven't experienced success, it's hard to know what's out there for you. That's why it's super important to reward yourself whenever you reach a milestone!
I agree, she is actually one of the creators who inspired me to start a TH-cam channel...and force my boyfriend to do it with me haha 😂 jokes, he wanted to as well but yeah she really is inspiring
my notes: 1. 0:54 Thinking you can't change- you become what you belive. mindset is powerful-use it! 2. 2:37 Blaming others, not taking responsibility 3. 4:14 Fear 4. 6:02 limiting belifs 5. 7:54 negative mindset 6. 9:13 lack of self love & confidence- self hate is *TOXIC!* 7. 11:23 comparison game
Being aware of what holds you back it’s powerful. Awareness is how you can change your life around COMPLETELY. Something I hear often is “that’s just how I am”. You CAN change who you are! Don’t stand in your own way. From a self love content creator to another- awesome video Aileen!! 💗
Yes, I saw another one of her videos and it has me working some things out in a journal. Issues followed by action plans. Don't have to wait until the new year to make changes
*Fear is what hold me back* watever i do, however i improve, there is just this little unknown fear of uncertainty! But it also makes me feel soo good after i overcome it.
Mindset is so SO important!!! I used to be that person who thought that I couldn't change. My issue is I have a lot of trouble ADAPTING to change. Changes throws me off and I feel frazzled!
I hope this helps💕: 0:26 checklist 0:56 thinking that you can't change 2:34 blaming others 4:12 fear 6:02 limiting believes 7:56 negative mindset 9:09 lack of self love and confidence 11:22 comparison 14:29 giveaway ❤️love you
"Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it." -- Henry David Thoreau. "Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don't wish it were easier; wish you were better." -- Jim Rohn. Hi guys! Let me just share to you a short story. We own a cookie shop business in our college town. When we first started it, we just graduated college and were living in our car with very little direction, just a huge passion to be successful. I started it out of a local bagel shop in their off hours at night with my boyfriend, Bran. It was a crazy experience but it worked! We became a success! And how we have our first storefront location (a second one currently under construction but launching soon!) We started it to fund a year long backpacking trip around the world and to be successful while living the life of our dreams.
Changing our mindset is challenging sometimes. Especially when the environment around us don't support our best. We need to believe in ourselves first. That way we can stand tall and keep going to grow the mindset of success.
Most people just focus on the things that make them successful, but simply ignore the factors that stop them from being successful. Seeking approval, putting myself or others down, self doubt were some of the things that held me back from being successful and now I have overcame them.
The Comparison Game. I love when you talked about the quote that says: make sure you're better than who you were yesterday. I never thought about it the way you addressed it. I usually thought that I should make exactly the day I'm in better than the day before. I also have this quote: Let each morn be better than its eve and each morrow richer than its yesterday. But, now I'm thinking that the morn, eve, day, and yesterday could mean a season in life and a larger view of it. Thank you for sharing such amazing content! :)
I’ve recently been trying to tell myself to be my own best friend because at the end of the day, the one person who is absolutely guaranteed to be in your life is yourself. If any of my friends talk about themselves the negative way I view myself, I’d be heartbroken and refute that! So I wanna be able to do that for myself as well.
I recently started my online business which I really wanted to start way way back but I was so shy and don't have the confidence to do so 🙁 and now that i officially started it, I feel like I've boost confidence and build trust within myself. ❤ Mind over matter ❤
A thing I really like saying is "make sure your future self is grateful for what your present self enacted." this isn't to say that you have to do better everyday it's more of, if you can do it now why make your future self do it. and this can go for short and long term goals. My biggest challenge right now is overcoming my fears but I have made the connection between self love and that being the jump off for overcoming fear!
~Note~ ~ 7 things which hold you back from success~ 1. Thinking that you can't change 2.Blaming others 3.FEAR 4.Limiting your beliefs 5.Negative mindset 6.Lack of self love and confidence 7.comparison game. ( A message from me : you CAN do it!
Fear of failure because sometimes if I succeed something, theres a thought in my mind that if ever I will make mistake there will be judgement for sure. But I always keep praying that maybe someday I can become more mature and aware of who I am, what can I do and show what Ive got. 💖 Loveyou Lavendaire! Im your ilongga fan from mindanao. ☺😍
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Being able to admit that you're human and some things will hinder you, is powerful. I think a lot of things do begin here--the acknowledgement. Heya, fellow early birds
My biggest belief holding me back is comparison. Most of the times I compare myself with others, but I don't really want to do so maybe it's something involuntarily happening. I do compare myself with my friends and keep thinking of the same. That literally just stress me out and I loss my mind. Even shout loud to everyone surrounds me...
this is something ive struggled a lot with as well! when you notice it happening stop yourself say something empowering about the person you were judging & something empowering about yourself & put a smile on your face & thank yourself for breaking the pattern ! i have some videos that you may relate to if youd like to check them out
yessss, we actually made a spoken word poetry video on our channel about comparison and it's all about that quote!! 🙌 Would love for you to check it out if you have time, it's called "The one habit to stop if you want to be happy (Comparison Spoken Word) 😄
I let fear hold me back so much in the past, I'm sick of it. Now I'm doing whatever I want, who cares what others think? I just have to make one person happy - me. Of course, I'm still afraid but I do things despite being afraid. And so far the things I was afraid of never happened, it's just in our minds.
One thing I want to add in the list is Patience 🍃. Today's world is all about Instent Gratification, no one wants to wait or preserve till they achieve their goals, even I feel that sometimes! Idk if you have made a video on this but I would love a one on How to preserve.. By the way you're looking soo cute!❤ and the video was awesome💌
The biggest thing holding me back from success: “when i forget how far i’ve come.” //// miles to go and all that; at a pace where i’m enjoying the journey and process. it’s taken me good and long to get to this place in my head, and in my life. (grateful, no more regretful.) i feel a softness and sweetness in my heart, in the little steps and tasks. i don’t see success anymore as one big thing or two or three or four big things if that makes sense. my goals are sacred, and i honour them with intention (and action, i forgot to add before hehe). //// i love the question. your exercises are such fun! thank you for your insights and videos, Aileen. i too wish you love and success and sweet things. ♥♥♥♥
Woahhh i aim to have this mindset! You seem so intelligent ☺️ the idea of honouring your goals is so powerful xx thank you for writing this, I’ve realised a lot
@@abiampon3324 Thanks for your encouraging words! It took me a while to get to this space of understanding and things always change anyway so, ah... I wish you love on your journey too. :D
I am just 11 and you’ve helped me get better at studies and overall, my family members have complimented and l tell them about you. THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!!🥺✨💝
Honestly, the one holding me back the most is fear. I have a fear of what others will think of my life decisions. But I am slowly breaking out of that fear!
The major thing that's holding me back is F-E-A-R. I'm aware that this stems back to my childhood because I was raised strictly so there were things that I never got to enjoy as child because of the instilled mindset of "Don't do this because blah blah blah..." and yes it created a self-limiting belief of "playing safe and not taking the risk". I carried this heavily when I was a teenager and looking back at my 12 to 15 year old self, I was such a major nega person. My close friends in high school are the reason why that fear started to dissolve gradually and the moment I felt that I took a risk was to follow my passion in pursuing Interior Design major. Relatives were very quick to judge my decision in my future and criticized me a lot. My journey was very rough (because there were ups and downs) but I managed to get to the finish line. It was so worth the experience~! Now I'm still trying to conquer my fears but I feel much much better than I was 10 years ago. Much love and thank you for this video! This made me reflect my struggles and achievements in the past and reminded me never to forget what I've accomplished. mwah~!
The one thing that keeps holding me from success is FEAR. And the irony to this is it takes me so long to admit it. Coming across your videos and podcasts have been helping me to feel a great amount of positive energy. Will be looking forward to more videos and new resources from you.
That "self limiting belief" and "negative thought" slap me so hard. But, I'm still in ky journey to grow my self love. Yes, it's a baby step, one by one. Thanks for making this video, Aileen ❤️ Love from Indonesia 🇮🇩
What holding me back is fear- fear of judgement and deficiency of self- love. There's so much of self doubt that most of the times I can't reciprocate what I feel and my thoughts.
Procrastination, anxiety, and emotions. I often get so overwhelmed by the amount of stuff I have to face or deal with. I can't help but worry every second about what tomorrow will bring and the possibility of failing. Lack of self esteem, trust, and discipline. I tend to give in to my emotions. When I don't feel good, I won't do anything. Instead of being a mature adult, I hide in my room and cry, and I try to escape from all the things that's bothering me.
Hey Rose, just read your comment and I totally relate with feeling overwhelmed about the future and the possibility of failing! One thing that really helped me was reading about Stoic philosophy, it sounds boring but it was actually really helpful and practical to live a more content life! We actually made a video about it on our youtube channel, it's called "5 stoic hacks to reduce stress and be happier", we really hope that it can help you as much as it has helped us 💛
In all these 3 years. I always feel like aileen makes Videos for me bcz it always comes when i need it moreee. I'm 17 now. In 3 yrs she made me have my dream life. Sooo many things have come true . I am recommending her to my friends who r stumbling in this pandamic. And she is just helping everyone. Love you aileen. My first life coach! 💖💖💖U r like a elder sister to me💕💕💕.
Hi! I am 17, too. I always procrastinate. I.didn't get golden A+ in my SSC exam. Because of my habit. But now I know. I know I can change. I hope you will live your dream life, too.
You are just amazing. This video of yours has brought so much of positivity in me today. I was stressed and kind of starting to get fed up with life but after watching this video my mind is totally changed. Thank you for being such a great inspiration. The world needs more people like you. ❤❤
I would say FEAR (depending the situation of course )is one factor that has hold me back and others for reaching success. Watching your videos for years, had helped to deal with them in a objective manner and without judgment. Facing your fears can lead to awesome results!
Comparison game 😢 I hate falling into it, but it sucks knowing that you could’ve done or be “X, Y, Z,” when you have things out of your control (in my case, my autoimmune disease limiting my physical functions, career choices, and ability to go back/ complete my degree). It’s both a trigger for falling into a comparison trap, but also a great reminder that I walk a different path and have different struggles than whoever I’m comparing myself to... and that’s ok. 🥺
I've found it hard to find some great self-improvement, self-empowering videos out there. I just left teaching after 14 years and had a rough summer after experiencing my second miscarriage. I feel like I am starting all over with myself. I always struggled with being my best self and am ready for CHANGE. These videos are simple but so motivating and moving. I've literally just spent every morning watching you and feel like I am able to get up and make this journey. Thank you❤️ PS.- your voice is very soothing! LOL
The thing which is actually holding me back is self confidence. I just lack confidence in myself. Even when I talk to people I speak very softly that no one could even hear me and they ignores me. They'll just get frustrated at me and then I fell more down, more un confident. Well that's my story. I can say that I'll learn to be confident in myself by watching your channel. Your videos heal my soul. Thank you for making such awesome videos. Love you Aileen 💜💜
I am the same, like I put myself down and dig myself more into the hole by thinking of what others feel about me. Now what Aileen said of like instead of saying "I can't get up early" Vs I do not prefer waking up early can be a good way for us to say "I prefer to speak softly" can be a great takeaway from the video :)
You are in charge of your life and how you feel. Don’t let anybody’s opinion about you be your truth. Always be positive and stay true to yourself... I love your videos Aileen From a mindset And self love content creator
Until very recently, I didn't believe I was worthy of even the laws of healing. Videos like yours have helped me. I am eternally grateful to you and the others who showed me differently. Many blessings to you!
The thing I struggle with most is the comparison game, feeling like I should be farther ahead. It's something I'm definitely working on. I'm happy I took this past year to let go of limiting beliefs and I feel like I'm making progress. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
The thing that holds me back from success the most is limiting beliefs (thinking that I can't, that it's not for me,etc.) I am working towards overcoming it by journaling, meditating and repeating positive affirmations. Your videos bring clarity and wisdom to my life!
almost all of those 7 things you've discussed really hits hard and I'm so so guilty with that. But I think the "negative mindset"was the one that holds me back the most from doing such great things in life, I always look down on myself, I always think that I can't do things so I don't really grow. As a student it was really hard to believe in myself, but I know I can do anything if I just have the courage to do so, I am not privileged as other kids out there, so I was really having a hard time to cope up. How I wish I was rich as other people 😭 Anyways,super thankyouuu for making videos like this, I wish I can thank you in person someday, when I am successful! Loveyouuu
how we identify ourselves is so important look for the good things in life count your blessings & truly appreciate who you are as a person ! & know there are always people suffering much worse i know it can feel like the world is out to get us sometimes but life is happening for us not to us!
Im thinking of doing a marathon of your videos because I truly need this.I feel really stuck in life even though Im doing much.I finished psychology university and I will start my master degree in clinic psychology and psychotherapy.I feel this is not my path.Im doing this because my parents want this.I have to live my life with their version of success and happiness.I know they love me and want the best for me but they are just doing things worse for me. I remember discovering you last year in september and it really helped me dealing with my life.You always tell me what I need to hear but I dont know I have to. Im glad to have at least you in life with such a good mindset that its close to mine.Honestly I was thinking Im crazy for thinking different than the other people. Thank you for everything you're doing Lavendaire.You are a blessing for everyone. 💜
Aww this message is so beautiful and we agree Lavendaire is such an inspiration for us too! I hope she sees your message but if she doesn't we hope you find the courage to prioritise your happiness! I was actually in a really similar situation, I was working at a good paying job that my parents wanted me to stay at but after a lot of reflection I decided it wasn't for me and I built up the courage to quit and do what's best for me! It was hard but if I can do it, you can too!! We actually made a video about it on our TH-cam, where i share more about my story dealing with my parents, I hope it can help you: th-cam.com/video/Ffox-oTPgVU/w-d-xo.html
Fear is what's holding me back the most..fear of judgement , of failure, of not being good enough..i struggle with other points you talked about too, so i'm gonna try and work on them & hopefully i'll make a progress with time ! this was so inspiring and motivating thank you Aileen ❤
In my life I am struggling to be as productive as I can because I don't know why I let myself to think that i can do my work later and just enjoy but what really happens is that time goes on and on and my work remains still untouched . I always think the every morning I wake up that today I will do my best and be productive as much as I can but the same thing happens . I am not able to change myself and think in perspective that I am a person who is able to do anything to make his life better . And I strongly believe that change is what necessary that to be focused on . This is how I have went back in past and pointed out my negatives so that I can change myself in present to be a better person in future . Thankyou lavendaire!!!
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This got me emotional. I feel like I've been too hard on myself. I've always feel ashamed for the things that I want to do because I am afraid of what others may say. But the truth is, other people also deals with their own problems. I am happy that I am slowly accepting my shortcomings for myself and learning from it. It just feels so nice to really know yourself again and build piece by piece the things that I've lost within myself.
Lavendaire is my favourite channel in the world ❤️ I love you Aileen ❤️❤️ You're like my sister You teach many things and those happens in my life Thank you Aileen very much 😍😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘 ❤️❤️
Fear is the thing that hold me back i remember once you said in one of your videos the fear and anxiety might not of the actual thing but it might be of changing the situation after success may be like fear of comming out of your comfort zone or safe environment.And That's exactly what happens with me but i am still working on.
It's so true and we really believe that the most beautiful and rewarding things are on the other side of fear, we just have to have the courage to go after them!! You got this!! 💛
I think comparison holds me back.I was just gonna quit my workout and not meditate because I was feeling blah. This video was so positive ✨ Gonna go back and finish my workout and do my thing. I am gonna focus on myself 🧿♥️ THANK YOU SO MUCH! Ps. Always am a silent watcher but this video made me wanna comment ;)
I used to blame my mom for being the reason why I took the degree that I have now. But I realized that even if she was the one who wanted it for me, in the end, it was my responsibility. It was my own action. I worked towards that degree. She was just an influence. Now I’m making a u-turn and gonna start working towards a life that I love. It’s not gonna be easy and it’s scary but I’m ready to punch fear in the face!!
One thing that holds me back is my ANXIETY! I try really hard to combat it though. When all of the anxious thoughts come rushing in and I’m thinking about the worse case scenarios I say, “get comfortable with the uncomfortable” and I just do it. Saying that phrase eliminates all the worse case scenarios in my head and pushes me to JUST DO IT. It helps me a lot!
For me, it's the fear of unknown and also self doubt at times. "Should I do this? What if it doesn't work out? What if it harms me more? What if I'm not good enough to accomplish those tasks?" But after reading the book about the fixed vs. growth mindset and also following Aileen's content for a while, I'm trying to change my self limiting beliefs and seeing my "obstacles" as new challenges to overcome.
I've been preparing a small business for one week now and was actually watching inspirational videos when the notification popped up. Aileen has my back for sure.
For me its lack of self love and confidence... I have been doing what everyone wants me to do so I feel like if I cant change my mind now and do what I want to do because I don't deserve it and that I'm selfish for putting what I want above what my family wants for me... I don't believe I can truly do what I want to do and I'm not good enough for the success it may bring..
NO!!! you are so worthy of all the self love and confidence you can totally do what ever you want and what ever feels good to you! Self love is the HIGHESt form of service!!!
I would definitely say comparison and sometimes it not even that I think about it but I get told it. Once someone starts to talk about it, my mind just plays it like a broken record. I love all of your videos because you are so open and honest. You are not afraid to show the world your true colours. ❤️
For me personally is not letting external influences affect the way I feel. Also a goal for me this year is to consciously be aware of who I am giving my time to because I want to surround myself with positive people and positive vibes. I honestly don't tolerate bs anymore and I'm really proud of that.
Limiting beliefs or negative toxic mindset is holding me back. Sometimes I think im so used to being hurt and depressed that I out myself into that thought pattern and then tell myself I'm stuck there. I am changing that!
I never used to click on her videos but now I probably should more often. She points out some things about the mindset is really where its at. I've been seeing the downside to alot of things recently and being aware of it and wanting to do something about it is hopefully going to perpetuate positive mental results. Always a pleasure to learn something new.
My parents are the ones holding me back... They say to be a doctor or someone like that, while they don’t support my dream... who I wanna be... So yea, my biggest is fear... and today, I’ve learned to overcome that! I’ll try my best! Thank you so much Aileen! Love you 💕
you asked a question about what is holding me back, and I have to say negative mindset and lack of self love and confidence, and I am my own worst enemy. I have tried to figure why I am harder on myself than anyone else, and I still have not come up with a solution, however I am going to work on the 7 things that you talked about, and I think with a little work I will not be my own worse enemy. and Thank you, your video offered a lot of insight to me, but to be honest, I already knew all of that, you just reconfirmed it, and it was almost as if you were talking about me to me. Thank you
You're looking so beautiful in this outfit😍😍😍! So, a few days back I actually did dream life series and the fear setting exercise and I actually came with a lot of ways to overcome my fears. Now, after one month of doing that exercise I have made a lot more progress in creating my dream life✨. And I'm making small progress each day to achieve my big goals💖. A big thanks to you to share this with us☺ .Love you as always😘😘! .
My fear of failure is definitely holding me back and I need to work on my self sabotage. But since I had a nasty break up at the end of last year, I have been practicing self love, especially during quarantine and it really helps; I feel better and more motivated than ever!
I always stress self-love and self-awareness, I think it helps so much when it comes to feeling secure and stable. To answer Aileens question, the thing that holds me back from success the most is self-love. To cultivate more self-love I plan on being kind to myself even when I don’t want to, I plan to take care of myself and my surroundings even when I don’t want too. This will allow me to feel loved and appreciated by myself as time goes on. I just wanna say thanks to Aileen, I love everything you promote, and I appreciate how kind you are for wanting to help others the way you do 🤍
comparing myself with others, despite the fact I know very much that comparison is a thief of Joy. I often find myself doing it. All other factors mention here still applies to me. Thanks to Lavendaire since knowing her community of love last month, It has been an absolute game-changer for creating my own dream life.
I think a quote that fits what you were talking about (with being better than you were yesterday and also it not being a competition with anyone etc) is “life isn’t a competition against others, its about beating your own high score”
I thinks its only been a month since I subscribed into your channel and I eventually found myself immersed in your videos. Well clearly, the biggest things that's holding me down is my mindset, I don't know one second i'll be optimistic and then I will oppose myself, apart from that I also have health problems that is why I can't do the activities I needed to do for myself, or I don't know if its just me not prioritizing myself and choose to prioritize the needs of my family over the things I needed to do such as my studies since I'm in college and my "plan" of opening a small business. anyway, i love how your videos make me realize some things. Thank you!
I think the most basic feeling! that's holding me 4rm starting to believe or experiment with my life! Is Disbelief! In confidence! & Lack of fire within me that's not ignited! Bcoz of Silly thoughts that's control me ..When I'm supposed 2 control them! I'm so relieved! By listening 2 yr life lessons! It doesn't matter 4 giveaways or prizes I'm sharing my💖💖💖💖 4 yr hardeffort! & honest! Gracefull!💖 life saving advice💖! that we all need in 2days hectic!, Stressful! And ever changing... Dramatic life! I hope 4 the best! Lots of love 2 u Sister!💖💖💖💖💖
All of them have been holding me back! My eyes have been opening up to my self limiting and negative patterns over the past year, and I've been working hard at breaking these habits! Thank you for sharing such insightful and inspiring content :).
I know all the information...but i don't watch your video for info ...but literally for positive vibes and refreshing vibes.i love the way you shoot your videos.
It's great to see these kinds of videos where the content creator encourages others to better themselves and improve their circumstances. It also helps even further when the content creator is clear, calm and captivating. Keep up the good things that you do!
The biggest thing that is holding me back is the comparison game. I know it's toxic but sometimes I just can't help but feeling jealous when I see other people have accomplished the things that I've been working on and that I'm kinda stuck in. I've tried different ways to deal with this kind of mindset and there's a one that I find really useful. Whenever you feal envious, just close your eyes, take some deep breaths and try to focus on your body, not your mind. And when you do that, you will notice that your body is safe and there is no pain and that you are in peace. Once you know that you are safe, you won't feel uncomfy anymore.
What's holding me back would be: Comparing myself to my friends and others who are at same age of mine but are at much better places. My parents compare me too so i feel like they are ashamed of me. Also because of all of this i have Low self confidence, i can hardly talk to anyone now. I think what if they ask me what do i do, what if they think i am boring, what if they gets annoyed by me bcz they might be busy or smthng. I wish everyone find the peace and love within themselves and live the life happily.
Same ! I use to be so insecure and having people judge me in my mind. But my sister will always say, “but who told you that?”, “who said youre not pretty?” And it really helped me, i hope this helps you too, whenever you think others are judging you, chances are they probably aren’t.
Once again, you bring clarity to what one might hope would be simple and clear after 64 years on my journey. Fear of the lack of certainty is a huge factor that is 'coloring' my perspective, as it is for many in the US. All the linear trajectories of what we expected have now been trashed and we are left without supposed tried and true directions on how to engage in the world we live in. That said, I always have hope that at some point I will get back into my journey the way I want and be successful. Your vlog has really, once again, given me a refreshing way to look at the processes I am trying to manage in order to take my journey where I want it to go. Thank you. Your 'food for thought' is so helpful.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Aileen! 💕 Taking ownership over the thoughts and feelings I experience has truly changed my life for the better. Everything starts with a thought and can either become concreted limiting beliefs or empowered beliefs depending on what thought trail we choose to follow. With enough awareness, we can consciously decide which beliefs we want to adopt and release the beliefs that no longer serve us 😊
I get relieved by knowing that we are not always better than yesterday actually i knew that but wasn't accepting this fact that the process of self improvement is not always linear ... it is ok to not be better than yesterday..if we look at the wider picture like then we will know that we are better than last year if not that..then we know we are better than from what we were in last five years... Thankyou @Lavendaire for letting us know this 🥰
For number 7, I just want to add that the ideal self is always what is projected in the surface and if you dwell on them, you'll be living a life full of uncontentment. Thank you, Aileen! 😍❤
Hi! The biggest thing that keeps holding me back is comparing myself to others. I would always compare my work ethic, my body shape, my intelligence and etc to some of my friends. I know that it’s a really toxic trait and little by little I’m teaching myself to not feel that way anymore. Your videos are one of the reasons why I’m slowly becoming a better person and I would like to thank you, for that.
I can totally relate to this! I struggled with comparison for so long, until I realised that there is nothing useful about it, it just drained my energy and slowed down my path. I'm still not perfect but actively trying to let go of the thoughts definitely a big improvement! We actually made a TH-cam video about this on our channel, hope it can give some helpful insights: th-cam.com/video/PkOgzeZ3rrA/w-d-xo.html
I had a depression & anxiety for the past 2 years and now i am more happy positive cheerful person than i am when am not in my right mind..i learn from your video A LOT actually so it really helping me be a kind grateful person..i learn that to love yourself accept for everything happen to me for the past 2 years ago first and i will be able to love someone else to be kind be more positive also more productive..i used to be a 'lazy girl' but now i just want to keep movin' my body so i have chores to keep up with..before i used to compare myself to everyone that seem more high standard then me & i used to think i can't do this& that but now i feel more MORE positive and just want to be productive than i am 2 years ago 😊 SO THANK U SO MUCH for your inspiring video lavendaire💜🌻love u sm❤
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When you haven't experienced success, it's hard to know what's out there for you. That's why it's super important to reward yourself whenever you reach a milestone!
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Lavendaire is literally the most inspiring youtuber out there
Yes. No argues. Inspiration level infinity 💖💖
i appreciate you guys sm 🥺🥺
OMG she REPLIED ILYY
Anamika she inspires me to be the best version of myself
I agree, she is actually one of the creators who inspired me to start a TH-cam channel...and force my boyfriend to do it with me haha 😂 jokes, he wanted to as well but yeah she really is inspiring
my notes:
1. 0:54 Thinking you can't change- you become what you belive. mindset is powerful-use it!
2. 2:37 Blaming others, not taking responsibility
3. 4:14 Fear
4. 6:02 limiting belifs
5. 7:54 negative mindset
6. 9:13 lack of self love & confidence- self hate is *TOXIC!*
7. 11:23 comparison game
Thank you⭐️
Elena Cenkova We are limitless. Let us grow that successful mindset together♥️
Thank you i dont have enough time to see the video right know but with your help I can come back later to take my notes
Thx ❤️
𝚢𝚘𝚞'𝚛𝚎 𝚠𝚎𝚕𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚎 (☞ ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)☞
Being aware of what holds you back it’s powerful. Awareness is how you can change your life around COMPLETELY. Something I hear often is “that’s just how I am”. You CAN change who you are! Don’t stand in your own way.
From a self love content creator to another- awesome video Aileen!! 💗
exactly!! hope you're doing well love 😊
Yes, I saw another one of her videos and it has me working some things out in a journal. Issues followed by action plans. Don't have to wait until the new year to make changes
Nikki M Absolutely!! 🤗💕
yes beautiful!!!!
@@LizBrousseau 🤗❤️
*Fear is what hold me back* watever i do, however i improve, there is just this little unknown fear of uncertainty! But it also makes me feel soo good after i overcome it.
Mindset is so SO important!!! I used to be that person who thought that I couldn't change. My issue is I have a lot of trouble ADAPTING to change. Changes throws me off and I feel frazzled!
I hope this helps💕:
0:26 checklist
0:56 thinking that you can't change
2:34 blaming others
4:12 fear
6:02 limiting believes
7:56 negative mindset
9:09 lack of self love and confidence
11:22 comparison
14:29 giveaway
❤️love you
Ofcourse.💖
Thank you!!!⭐️
Thx👍
Just what I want!!!thanksss
Welcome y'all❤️❤️
"Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it."
-- Henry David Thoreau. "Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don't wish it were easier; wish you were better."
-- Jim Rohn. Hi guys! Let me just share to you a short story. We own a cookie shop business in our college town. When we first started it, we just graduated college and were living in our car with very little direction, just a huge passion to be successful. I started it out of a local bagel shop in their off hours at night with my boyfriend, Bran. It was a crazy experience but it worked! We became a success! And how we have our first storefront location (a second one currently under construction but launching soon!) We started it to fund a year long backpacking trip around the world and to be successful while living the life of our dreams.
Really needed a true story 💖
Changing our mindset is challenging sometimes. Especially when the environment around us don't support our best. We need to believe in ourselves first. That way we can stand tall and keep going to grow the mindset of success.
Most people just focus on the things that make them successful, but simply ignore the factors that stop them from being successful.
Seeking approval, putting myself or others down, self doubt were some of the things that held me back from being successful and now I have overcame them.
yassssss so happy to hear that!
The Comparison Game.
I love when you talked about the quote that says: make sure you're better than who you were yesterday. I never thought about it the way you addressed it. I usually thought that I should make exactly the day I'm in better than the day before. I also have this quote: Let each morn be better than its eve and each morrow richer than its yesterday. But, now I'm thinking that the morn, eve, day, and yesterday could mean a season in life and a larger view of it. Thank you for sharing such amazing content! :)
I’ve recently been trying to tell myself to be my own best friend because at the end of the day, the one person who is absolutely guaranteed to be in your life is yourself. If any of my friends talk about themselves the negative way I view myself, I’d be heartbroken and refute that! So I wanna be able to do that for myself as well.
I recently started my online business which I really wanted to start way way back but I was so shy and don't have the confidence to do so 🙁 and now that i officially started it, I feel like I've boost confidence and build trust within myself. ❤ Mind over matter ❤
A thing I really like saying is "make sure your future self is grateful for what your present self enacted." this isn't to say that you have to do better everyday it's more of, if you can do it now why make your future self do it. and this can go for short and long term goals. My biggest challenge right now is overcoming my fears but I have made the connection between self love and that being the jump off for overcoming fear!
~Note~
~ 7 things which hold you back from success~
1. Thinking that you can't change
2.Blaming others
3.FEAR
4.Limiting your beliefs
5.Negative mindset
6.Lack of self love and confidence
7.comparison game.
( A message from me : you CAN do it!
I love your take on privilege! It's important but we don't have to be bound to it forever! We create the life we want by using what we have.
Fear of failure because sometimes if I succeed something, theres a thought in my mind that if ever I will make mistake there will be judgement for sure. But I always keep praying that maybe someday I can become more mature and aware of who I am, what can I do and show what Ive got. 💖 Loveyou Lavendaire! Im your ilongga fan from mindanao. ☺😍
Who else is obsessed with Aileen’s inspirational content 🤍✨
Me!
Me too
Me here!!
@@sanchi7410 same!
@@twilight3304 me too!
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Thanku soooooo much for making my life much more productive and bright💕💕💕💕💕 ..... ❤️❤️❤️ from India
Obrigada. Amo assistir seus vídeos. Obgd pelas legendas em português💕
Being able to admit that you're human and some things will hinder you, is powerful. I think a lot of things do begin here--the acknowledgement.
Heya, fellow early birds
My biggest belief holding me back is comparison. Most of the times I compare myself with others, but I don't really want to do so maybe it's something involuntarily happening. I do compare myself with my friends and keep thinking of the same. That literally just stress me out and I loss my mind. Even shout loud to everyone surrounds me...
this is something ive struggled a lot with as well! when you notice it happening stop yourself say something empowering about the person you were judging & something empowering about yourself & put a smile on your face & thank yourself for breaking the pattern ! i have some videos that you may relate to if youd like to check them out
"Comparison is the thief of joy"
Unkwown Graham totally agree with you. Compare no, because we are all unique☀️♥️🌟
yessss, we actually made a spoken word poetry video on our channel about comparison and it's all about that quote!! 🙌 Would love for you to check it out if you have time, it's called "The one habit to stop if you want to be happy (Comparison Spoken Word) 😄
What holds me back is: i compare myself with others!! I know it's toxic, so i am growing, and i'm more happy than before
Thaks Aileen!!!!
I let fear hold me back so much in the past, I'm sick of it. Now I'm doing whatever I want, who cares what others think? I just have to make one person happy - me. Of course, I'm still afraid but I do things despite being afraid. And so far the things I was afraid of never happened, it's just in our minds.
💜 you are the main character in your story & you get to write the story
One thing I want to add in the list is Patience 🍃. Today's world is all about Instent Gratification, no one wants to wait or preserve till they achieve their goals, even I feel that sometimes! Idk if you have made a video on this but I would love a one on How to preserve..
By the way you're looking soo cute!❤ and the video was awesome💌
I was really in this situation (Exam fear) .... thanks for helping me......... you are my role model..... need a heart ☺️🤗😇❤️ from India
The biggest thing holding me back from success: “when i forget how far i’ve come.” //// miles to go and all that; at a pace where i’m enjoying the journey and process. it’s taken me good and long to get to this place in my head, and in my life. (grateful, no more regretful.) i feel a softness and sweetness in my heart, in the little steps and tasks. i don’t see success anymore as one big thing or two or three or four big things if that makes sense. my goals are sacred, and i honour them with intention (and action, i forgot to add before hehe). //// i love the question. your exercises are such fun! thank you for your insights and videos, Aileen. i too wish you love and success and sweet things. ♥♥♥♥
Woahhh i aim to have this mindset! You seem so intelligent ☺️ the idea of honouring your goals is so powerful xx thank you for writing this, I’ve realised a lot
@@abiampon3324 🌸 🌸 🌸 🌸
@@abiampon3324 Thanks for your encouraging words! It took me a while to get to this space of understanding and things always change anyway so, ah... I wish you love on your journey too. :D
I am just 11 and you’ve helped me get better at studies and overall, my family members have complimented and l tell them about you. THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!!🥺✨💝
Honestly, the one holding me back the most is fear. I have a fear of what others will think of my life decisions. But I am slowly breaking out of that fear!
The major thing that's holding me back is F-E-A-R. I'm aware that this stems back to my childhood because I was raised strictly so there were things that I never got to enjoy as child because of the instilled mindset of "Don't do this because blah blah blah..." and yes it created a self-limiting belief of "playing safe and not taking the risk". I carried this heavily when I was a teenager and looking back at my 12 to 15 year old self, I was such a major nega person. My close friends in high school are the reason why that fear started to dissolve gradually and the moment I felt that I took a risk was to follow my passion in pursuing Interior Design major. Relatives were very quick to judge my decision in my future and criticized me a lot. My journey was very rough (because there were ups and downs) but I managed to get to the finish line. It was so worth the experience~! Now I'm still trying to conquer my fears but I feel much much better than I was 10 years ago.
Much love and thank you for this video! This made me reflect my struggles and achievements in the past and reminded me never to forget what I've accomplished. mwah~!
Lavendaire looks amazing with any hair color, make up, outfit, just always ❤
The one thing that keeps holding me from success is FEAR. And the irony to this is it takes me so long to admit it. Coming across your videos and podcasts have been helping me to feel a great amount of positive energy. Will be looking forward to more videos and new resources from you.
The biggest one is fear, especipically about other's opinions but I am working on that and I am getting better.
That "self limiting belief" and "negative thought" slap me so hard. But, I'm still in ky journey to grow my self love. Yes, it's a baby step, one by one. Thanks for making this video, Aileen ❤️ Love from Indonesia 🇮🇩
What holding me back is fear- fear of judgement and deficiency of self- love. There's so much of self doubt that most of the times I can't reciprocate what I feel and my thoughts.
Procrastination, anxiety, and emotions.
I often get so overwhelmed by the amount of stuff I have to face or deal with. I can't help but worry every second about what tomorrow will bring and the possibility of failing. Lack of self esteem, trust, and discipline. I tend to give in to my emotions. When I don't feel good, I won't do anything. Instead of being a mature adult, I hide in my room and cry, and I try to escape from all the things that's bothering me.
Hey Rose, just read your comment and I totally relate with feeling overwhelmed about the future and the possibility of failing! One thing that really helped me was reading about Stoic philosophy, it sounds boring but it was actually really helpful and practical to live a more content life! We actually made a video about it on our youtube channel, it's called "5 stoic hacks to reduce stress and be happier", we really hope that it can help you as much as it has helped us 💛
In all these 3 years. I always feel like aileen makes Videos for me bcz it always comes when i need it moreee. I'm 17 now. In 3 yrs she made me have my dream life. Sooo many things have come true . I am recommending her to my friends who r stumbling in this pandamic. And she is just helping everyone. Love you aileen. My first life coach! 💖💖💖U r like a elder sister to me💕💕💕.
Same for me!!!⭐️
Hi! I am 17, too. I always procrastinate. I.didn't get golden A+ in my SSC exam. Because of my habit. But now I know. I know I can change. I hope you will live your dream life, too.
Wat a beautiful, unexpected teen community, so cute. So blessed to be with aileen❤️
aww thank u & love u
#6- I need deliverance !!!
You are just amazing. This video of yours has brought so much of positivity in me today. I was stressed and kind of starting to get fed up with life but after watching this video my mind is totally changed. Thank you for being such a great inspiration. The world needs more people like you. ❤❤
I would say FEAR (depending the situation of course )is one factor that has hold me back and others for reaching success. Watching your videos for years, had helped to deal with them in a objective manner and without judgment. Facing your fears can lead to awesome results!
Comparison game 😢 I hate falling into it, but it sucks knowing that you could’ve done or be “X, Y, Z,” when you have things out of your control (in my case, my autoimmune disease limiting my physical functions, career choices, and ability to go back/ complete my degree). It’s both a trigger for falling into a comparison trap, but also a great reminder that I walk a different path and have different struggles than whoever I’m comparing myself to... and that’s ok. 🥺
I've found it hard to find some great self-improvement, self-empowering videos out there. I just left teaching after 14 years and had a rough summer after experiencing my second miscarriage. I feel like I am starting all over with myself. I always struggled with being my best self and am ready for CHANGE. These videos are simple but so motivating and moving. I've literally just spent every morning watching you and feel like I am able to get up and make this journey. Thank you❤️ PS.- your voice is very soothing! LOL
The thing which is actually holding me back is self confidence. I just lack confidence in myself. Even when I talk to people I speak very softly that no one could even hear me and they ignores me. They'll just get frustrated at me and then I fell more down, more un confident. Well that's my story. I can say that I'll learn to be confident in myself by watching your channel. Your videos heal my soul.
Thank you for making such awesome videos.
Love you Aileen
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I am the same, like I put myself down and dig myself more into the hole by thinking of what others feel about me. Now what Aileen said of like instead of saying "I can't get up early" Vs I do not prefer waking up early can be a good way for us to say "I prefer to speak softly" can be a great takeaway from the video :)
You are in charge of your life and how you feel. Don’t let anybody’s opinion about you be your truth. Always be positive and stay true to yourself... I love your videos Aileen
From a mindset And self love content creator
Until very recently, I didn't believe I was worthy of even the laws of healing. Videos like yours have helped me. I am eternally grateful to you and the others who showed me differently. Many blessings to you!
The thing I struggle with most is the comparison game, feeling like I should be farther ahead. It's something I'm definitely working on. I'm happy I took this past year to let go of limiting beliefs and I feel like I'm making progress. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
The thing that holds me back from success the most is limiting beliefs (thinking that I can't, that it's not for me,etc.) I am working towards overcoming it by journaling, meditating and repeating positive affirmations. Your videos bring clarity and wisdom to my life!
almost all of those 7 things you've discussed really hits hard and I'm so so guilty with that. But I think the "negative mindset"was the one that holds me back the most from doing such great things in life, I always look down on myself, I always think that I can't do things so I don't really grow. As a student it was really hard to believe in myself, but I know I can do anything if I just have the courage to do so, I am not privileged as other kids out there, so I was really having a hard time to cope up. How I wish I was rich as other people 😭 Anyways,super thankyouuu for making videos like this, I wish I can thank you in person someday, when I am successful! Loveyouuu
how we identify ourselves is so important look for the good things in life count your blessings & truly appreciate who you are as a person ! & know there are always people suffering much worse i know it can feel like the world is out to get us sometimes but life is happening for us not to us!
@@daniellenormand7200 it's been 6 months already and thankyouuu for these reply appreciate it a pot
I seriously Love Aileen She motivated me to become happier, And Be Confident and strong Thank you Aileen!
No cap
Im thinking of doing a marathon of your videos because I truly need this.I feel really stuck in life even though Im doing much.I finished psychology university and I will start my master degree in clinic psychology and psychotherapy.I feel this is not my path.Im doing this because my parents want this.I have to live my life with their version of success and happiness.I know they love me and want the best for me but they are just doing things worse for me. I remember discovering you last year in september and it really helped me dealing with my life.You always tell me what I need to hear but I dont know I have to. Im glad to have at least you in life with such a good mindset that its close to mine.Honestly I was thinking Im crazy for thinking different than the other people.
Thank you for everything you're doing Lavendaire.You are a blessing for everyone. 💜
Aww this message is so beautiful and we agree Lavendaire is such an inspiration for us too! I hope she sees your message but if she doesn't we hope you find the courage to prioritise your happiness! I was actually in a really similar situation, I was working at a good paying job that my parents wanted me to stay at but after a lot of reflection I decided it wasn't for me and I built up the courage to quit and do what's best for me! It was hard but if I can do it, you can too!! We actually made a video about it on our TH-cam, where i share more about my story dealing with my parents, I hope it can help you: th-cam.com/video/Ffox-oTPgVU/w-d-xo.html
Fear is what's holding me back the most..fear of judgement , of failure, of not being good enough..i struggle with other points you talked about too, so i'm gonna try and work on them & hopefully i'll make a progress with time ! this was so inspiring and motivating thank you Aileen ❤
The word “I can’t “ holds me back from achieving my dream. Thanks Aileen for all your awesome video! 💕
our i am's are powerful you're fearless & courageous all about understanding ourselves & limiting beliefs
In my life I am struggling to be as productive as I can because I don't know why I let myself to think that i can do my work later and just enjoy but what really happens is that time goes on and on and my work remains still untouched . I always think the every morning I wake up that today I will do my best and be productive as much as I can but the same thing happens . I am not able to change myself and think in perspective that I am a person who is able to do anything to make his life better . And I strongly believe that change is what necessary that to be focused on . This is how I have went back in past and pointed out my negatives so that I can change myself in present to be a better person in future . Thankyou lavendaire!!!
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This got me emotional. I feel like I've been too hard on myself. I've always feel ashamed for the things that I want to do because I am afraid of what others may say. But the truth is, other people also deals with their own problems. I am happy that I am slowly accepting my shortcomings for myself and learning from it. It just feels so nice to really know yourself again and build piece by piece the things that I've lost within myself.
You are looking so cute like Princess 😍.
Lavendaire is my favourite channel in the world ❤️
I love you Aileen ❤️❤️
You're like my sister
You teach many things and those happens in my life
Thank you Aileen very much 😍😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
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Thank you for this inspiring video and the checklist 💕
I have fear to lose people I love. so it is my biggest wekneses and bcz of this all time my heart broken and it hur a lot 😭
Fear is the thing that hold me back i remember once you said in one of your videos the fear and anxiety might not of the actual thing but it might be of changing the situation after success may be like fear of comming out of your comfort zone or safe environment.And That's exactly what happens with me but i am still working on.
It's so true and we really believe that the most beautiful and rewarding things are on the other side of fear, we just have to have the courage to go after them!! You got this!! 💛
I think comparison holds me back.I was just gonna quit my workout and not meditate because I was feeling blah. This video was so positive ✨
Gonna go back and finish my workout and do my thing. I am gonna focus on myself 🧿♥️ THANK YOU SO MUCH!
Ps. Always am a silent watcher but this video made me wanna comment ;)
I used to blame my mom for being the reason why I took the degree that I have now. But I realized that even if she was the one who wanted it for me, in the end, it was my responsibility. It was my own action. I worked towards that degree. She was just an influence. Now I’m making a u-turn and gonna start working towards a life that I love. It’s not gonna be easy and it’s scary but I’m ready to punch fear in the face!!
proud of you for realizing that! 💖
Lavendaire thank you!! you’ve been an inspiration!! ❤️
One thing that holds me back is my ANXIETY! I try really hard to combat it though. When all of the anxious thoughts come rushing in and I’m thinking about the worse case scenarios I say, “get comfortable with the uncomfortable” and I just do it. Saying that phrase eliminates all the worse case scenarios in my head and pushes me to JUST DO IT. It helps me a lot!
For me, it's the fear of unknown and also self doubt at times. "Should I do this? What if it doesn't work out? What if it harms me more? What if I'm not good enough to accomplish those tasks?" But after reading the book about the fixed vs. growth mindset and also following Aileen's content for a while, I'm trying to change my self limiting beliefs and seeing my "obstacles" as new challenges to overcome.
aileen, let me just say that you look gorgeous withthat hairstyle and red lippy!! beautiful inside and out!!
I've been preparing a small business for one week now and was actually watching inspirational videos when the notification popped up. Aileen has my back for sure.
For me its lack of self love and confidence... I have been doing what everyone wants me to do so I feel like if I cant change my mind now and do what I want to do because I don't deserve it and that I'm selfish for putting what I want above what my family wants for me... I don't believe I can truly do what I want to do and I'm not good enough for the success it may bring..
NO!!! you are so worthy of all the self love and confidence you can totally do what ever you want and what ever feels good to you! Self love is the HIGHESt form of service!!!
I would definitely say comparison and sometimes it not even that I think about it but I get told it. Once someone starts to talk about it, my mind just plays it like a broken record. I love all of your videos because you are so open and honest. You are not afraid to show the world your true colours. ❤️
For me personally is not letting external influences affect the way I feel. Also a goal for me this year is to consciously be aware of who I am giving my time to because I want to surround myself with positive people and positive vibes. I honestly don't tolerate bs anymore and I'm really proud of that.
Limiting beliefs or negative toxic mindset is holding me back. Sometimes I think im so used to being hurt and depressed that I out myself into that thought pattern and then tell myself I'm stuck there. I am changing that!
People like you are real influencers and whom we should follow and support. You are such an inspiration to everyone of us. Love you.😘🥰😍😇
true love & positive energy we all need more love in our lives
She has learnt so much in her life, I'm so touched that she's sharing her experiences and learnt lessons with us TT
I never used to click on her videos but now I probably should more often. She points out some things about the mindset is really where its at. I've been seeing the downside to alot of things recently and being aware of it and wanting to do something about it is hopefully going to perpetuate positive mental results. Always a pleasure to learn something new.
Lack of self love & self confidence. I love you! You inspires and motivates me so much. I really love everything about you. 💗
love you 💖
Lavendaire 🥺💗💗💗💗
My parents are the ones holding me back...
They say to be a doctor or someone like that, while they don’t support my dream... who I wanna be...
So yea, my biggest is fear...
and today, I’ve learned to overcome that! I’ll try my best!
Thank you so much Aileen! Love you 💕
you asked a question about what is holding me back, and I have to say negative mindset and lack of self love and confidence, and I am my own worst enemy. I have tried to figure why I am harder on myself than anyone else, and I still have not come up with a solution, however I am going to work on the 7 things that you talked about, and I think with a little work I will not be my own worse enemy. and Thank you, your video offered a lot of insight to me, but to be honest, I already knew all of that, you just reconfirmed it, and it was almost as if you were talking about me to me. Thank you
You never fail to make me more motivated! I am so grateful to have come across your channel over quarantine!
You're looking so beautiful in this outfit😍😍😍! So, a few days back I actually did dream life series and the fear setting exercise and I actually came with a lot of ways to overcome my fears. Now, after one month of doing that exercise I have made a lot more progress in creating my dream life✨. And I'm making small progress each day to achieve my big goals💖. A big thanks to you to share this with us☺ .Love you as always😘😘! .
I love this " I have power over myself and my life" as my affirmation
This is the wisest thing I’ve seen in a long time. Thanks for helping me start my first day of classes💕
hope youre dominating your classes ! i have some similar videos on my page if youd like to check those out
My fear of failure is definitely holding me back and I need to work on my self sabotage. But since I had a nasty break up at the end of last year, I have been practicing self love, especially during quarantine and it really helps; I feel better and more motivated than ever!
Fear and comparing myself to others. Learning to work on these two stumbling blocks that have blocked my success life for years
I always stress self-love and self-awareness, I think it helps so much when it comes to feeling secure and stable.
To answer Aileens question, the thing that holds me back from success the most is self-love. To cultivate more self-love I plan on being kind to myself even when I don’t want to, I plan to take care of myself and my surroundings even when I don’t want too. This will allow me to feel loved and appreciated by myself as time goes on.
I just wanna say thanks to Aileen, I love everything you promote, and I appreciate how kind you are for wanting to help others the way you do 🤍
comparing myself with others, despite the fact I know very much that comparison is a thief of Joy. I often find myself doing it. All other factors mention here still applies to me. Thanks to Lavendaire since knowing her community of love last month, It has been an absolute game-changer for creating my own dream life.
Courage is not absence of fear but triumph over it - Nelson Mandela
beautiful quote
I love how you explained why “Make sure you were better today than yesterday.” is not really a good quote. Only now I realized it. ❤️
I think a quote that fits what you were talking about (with being better than you were yesterday and also it not being a competition with anyone etc) is “life isn’t a competition against others, its about beating your own high score”
I thinks its only been a month since I subscribed into your channel and I eventually found myself immersed in your videos. Well clearly, the biggest things that's holding me down is my mindset, I don't know one second i'll be optimistic and then I will oppose myself, apart from that I also have health problems that is why I can't do the activities I needed to do for myself, or I don't know if its just me not prioritizing myself and choose to prioritize the needs of my family over the things I needed to do such as my studies since I'm in college and my "plan" of opening a small business.
anyway, i love how your videos make me realize some things. Thank you!
I think the most basic feeling! that's holding me 4rm starting to believe or experiment with my life! Is Disbelief! In confidence! & Lack of fire within me that's not ignited! Bcoz of Silly thoughts that's control me ..When I'm supposed 2 control them! I'm so relieved! By listening 2 yr life lessons! It doesn't matter 4 giveaways or prizes I'm sharing my💖💖💖💖 4 yr hardeffort! & honest! Gracefull!💖 life saving advice💖! that we all need in 2days hectic!, Stressful! And ever changing... Dramatic life! I hope 4 the best! Lots of love 2 u Sister!💖💖💖💖💖
All of them have been holding me back! My eyes have been opening up to my self limiting and negative patterns over the past year, and I've been working hard at breaking these habits! Thank you for sharing such insightful and inspiring content :).
all about being aware & changing the thought process as it arises ! you got this keep putting the work in
Aileen i just wanna say I love your hairstyles, makeup and everything on how you look these days! It suits you so well 😍😍
I know all the information...but i don't watch your video for info ...but literally for positive vibes and refreshing vibes.i love the way you shoot your videos.
Thank you for creating this video. It is amazing. I loved how you made each item holding us back have a solution. Mindset is everything.
Thank you soo much for all the strength you have given me. Aileen! ❤️
YOU HAVE ALL THE POWER WITHIN! you got this
It's great to see these kinds of videos where the content creator encourages others to better themselves and improve their circumstances. It also helps even further when the content creator is clear, calm and captivating. Keep up the good things that you do!
The biggest thing that is holding me back is the comparison game. I know it's toxic but sometimes I just can't help but feeling jealous when I see other people have accomplished the things that I've been working on and that I'm kinda stuck in. I've tried different ways to deal with this kind of mindset and there's a one that I find really useful. Whenever you feal envious, just close your eyes, take some deep breaths and try to focus on your body, not your mind. And when you do that, you will notice that your body is safe and there is no pain and that you are in peace. Once you know that you are safe, you won't feel uncomfy anymore.
What's holding me back would be:
Comparing myself to my friends and others who are at same age of mine but are at much better places. My parents compare me too so i feel like they are ashamed of me.
Also because of all of this i have Low self confidence, i can hardly talk to anyone now. I think what if they ask me what do i do, what if they think i am boring, what if they gets annoyed by me bcz they might be busy or smthng.
I wish everyone find the peace and love within themselves and live the life happily.
Same ! I use to be so insecure and having people judge me in my mind. But my sister will always say, “but who told you that?”, “who said youre not pretty?” And it really helped me, i hope this helps you too, whenever you think others are judging you, chances are they probably aren’t.
@@z360jynng well that's true, you are right about that. I took the first step i replied to your comment 😃
Thank you ❤
kamalpreet kaur is that you in your profile picture? If so, you’re very beautiful!!!
@@beej7286 🤭🤭 thank you so much
Once again, you bring clarity to what one might hope would be simple and clear after 64 years on my journey. Fear of the lack of certainty is a huge factor that is 'coloring' my perspective, as it is for many in the US. All the linear trajectories of what we expected have now been trashed and we are left without supposed tried and true directions on how to engage in the world we live in. That said, I always have hope that at some point I will get back into my journey the way I want and be successful. Your vlog has really, once again, given me a refreshing way to look at the processes I am trying to manage in order to take my journey where I want it to go. Thank you. Your 'food for thought' is so helpful.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Aileen! 💕
Taking ownership over the thoughts and feelings I experience has truly changed my life for the better. Everything starts with a thought and can either become concreted limiting beliefs or empowered beliefs depending on what thought trail we choose to follow. With enough awareness, we can consciously decide which beliefs we want to adopt and release the beliefs that no longer serve us 😊
I get relieved by knowing that we are not always better than yesterday actually i knew that but wasn't accepting this fact that the process of self improvement is not always linear ... it is ok to not be better than yesterday..if we look at the wider picture like then we will know that we are better than last year if not that..then we know we are better than from what we were in last five years... Thankyou @Lavendaire for letting us know this 🥰
For number 7, I just want to add that the ideal self is always what is projected in the surface and if you dwell on them, you'll be living a life full of uncontentment.
Thank you, Aileen! 😍❤
LOVE YOUR VEDIOS SO MUCH . THEY ARE SO MOTIVATING AND HELPFUL
Hi! The biggest thing that keeps holding me back is comparing myself to others. I would always compare my work ethic, my body shape, my intelligence and etc to some of my friends. I know that it’s a really toxic trait and little by little I’m teaching myself to not feel that way anymore. Your videos are one of the reasons why I’m slowly becoming a better person and I would like to thank you, for that.
I can totally relate to this! I struggled with comparison for so long, until I realised that there is nothing useful about it, it just drained my energy and slowed down my path. I'm still not perfect but actively trying to let go of the thoughts definitely a big improvement! We actually made a TH-cam video about this on our channel, hope it can give some helpful insights: th-cam.com/video/PkOgzeZ3rrA/w-d-xo.html
I had a depression & anxiety for the past 2 years and now i am more happy positive cheerful person than i am when am not in my right mind..i learn from your video A LOT actually so it really helping me be a kind grateful person..i learn that to love yourself accept for everything happen to me for the past 2 years ago first and i will be able to love someone else to be kind be more positive also more productive..i used to be a 'lazy girl' but now i just want to keep movin' my body so i have chores to keep up with..before i used to compare myself to everyone that seem more high standard then me & i used to think i can't do this& that but now i feel more MORE positive and just want to be productive than i am 2 years ago 😊 SO THANK U SO MUCH for your inspiring video lavendaire💜🌻love u sm❤