I feel like Fluttershy in this episode is mirroring what she sees in other ponies to fit in, just like how alot of us tend to mirror so others like us. This is an amazing lesson on being yourself and not changing yourself for others😊
I find it really interesting that they had Fluttershy mirror others personalities, and surprisingly enough, it actually fits her personality. To make it brief, Fluttershy is a Type 9 personality type on the Enneagram (Type 9 wing 1 to be specific), and while they can be shy around others, they also have an ability to relate to others and impersonate other personality types. Thanks for watching, and for the comment 😉
@@TheEternalSamurai not only that, but alot of people with autism or other types of neuro divergent individuals who struggle with social queues or expressing themselves (or we simply wish to fit in and please others) we tend to mirror those we wish to please or get along with. I admit to doing this with ny best friends to a degree. And you're welcome dude, i admit im mostly here for the pony content but i do look forward to seeing more from this channel.
@@TheEternalSamurai Oh my gosh I'm a type type (9w8) and I get this and have actually tried out this advice and tried to look more confident than I was with discord friends, but some of the downsides were I felt like I was lying to them and I had a breakdown whenever I felt like I wasn't being super confident and cried at getting yelled at (I'm glad a friend snapped me out of thinking I had to center being confident as some big personality trait by saying people get confident and un-confident about all sorts of things all the time, I used being confident as a mask for the pretty bare void of my identity and now that I know about mbti and stuff I definitely see that 9 in me and I'm also a enfp just as a side thing)
Fake it til you make it has been good advice for me when it comes to confidence. If you pretend to be proud of yourself and talk positively about yourself, eventually you might start believing it. This episode shows Fluttershy taking it way too far and I really appreciate how it's laid out
You know, that’s a fair point you make. I know I did present it as bad advice in the video, though there does come a time and place for it. Perhaps it’s not a bad idea if you’re giving yourself daily affirmations for example, because as you keep telling your affirmations (I.e. i deserve friends), you’ll build natural confidence in yourself.
@@TheEternalSamurai it’s how i nail job interviews tbh lmao and in this economy gods know that’s helpful xD false confidence makes you roll high on charisma if you act the part until you get the job you just gotta not lose yourself in it
I used to do that all the time, telling myself that I was attractive, that I was loved, respected and that my insecurities were unfounded. Until i saw a character from five nights at freddy's do exactly that and now i feel like i was pointed at
I wish that worked out for me, but it kind of conflicted with what my mom said growing up, "Be yourself and people will like you" and I didn't know how to do anything but be quiet and introverted growing up. It's not something I had the confidence at the time to just switch automatically.
I once thought I was autistic and I had to mask just to get by. I got tested and it turns out I don’t have it, but I still feel like I have to mask sometimes. But I’m glad to have a platform like YT here where I can take that mask off and express my true self to all of y’all. Thanks for watching and for the comment.
@@TheEternalSamurai It can be very hard to get a professional to diagnose you if you are an adult or woman. Everyone seems to think it only affects male children.
@@misspinkpunkykat as an adult woman, yes, that's true. We often are misdiagnosed with a personality disorder (I won't say the name but you could guess) even if most of the symptoms are obviously autistic and are related to social interactions. Things like special interests, sensitivity to stimuli/pain, selective mutism, pacing/stimming, a flat tone of voice/flat face (RBF) and literacy/need of excessive logic in life can be invalidated by therapists very often as a girl, specially if you have a high IQ and are kinda functional/masking. The masking is kinda horrible, you feel detached from yourself and super fake/imposter syndrome.
yep, same. I'm autistic, but for me like... sometimes masking is the only way to get by doing things in the world... I feel like some people don't understand I have to mask just to like. be able to do things. to not, say, have a meltdown in public and have it at home instead... as I've heard some others say, masking can be a good tool if you are able to use it, but it should be for yourself, to help you get by. you shouldn't have to mask just because other people want you to.
I find this to be one of Fluttershy's more interesting episodes. Sure the title is bad advice and the lesson of the episode is a bit cliche, But it was still entertaining to find out how Fluttershy would do in a scenario where she's put in charge of managing a store. Hell the fact that she could change into those outfits so fast amazes me, I mean it's like she's a quick change artist or something and she absolutely nailed the personalities of her shop pony characters in fact Andrea Libman herself said that she had fun voicing Fluttershy for this episode!
Didn't know that the VA really enjoyed it so much, but I can see why she did. And yeah, it's still impressive how Fluttershy was able to pull of many characters considering her shy nature.
I also think that this is very interesting and alludes to the hidden potential that fluttershy has as an actress. She can fit into someone else's shoes so quickly and we saw her make an amazing performance when she played celestia in that one play.
The phrase "fake it til you make it" is a double edge sword and I feel like you talked about it very well here. Let's hope copyright doesn't effect this video
I believe the writers were conscious that "Fake it til you make it" is a bad advice and just play it for laughs, and Rarity precisely said at the end of the episode that Fluttershy should find the balance between her kind self and the assertive self she make up for herself, an advice I took into my job. "Be Yourself" is neither a great advice because unfortunately society in general have low tolerance for that as much as they say otherwise.
Something that I just noticed is Fluttershy has a tendency to not really know who she’s supposed to be, and oftentimes in a state of panic when feeling like the way she is isn’t “right” by other ponies’ standards she has to completely change herself to be the way those other ponies want her to be and oftentimes takes it too far in order to try to impress people but ultimately they end up hating her instead. Like in the episode with Iron Will, she heard she had to be more assertive but in her attempts at becoming more assertive she took Iron Will’s advice too far and became someone she wasn’t and she recognized the way she was acting was wrong but felt like she couldn’t change due to how she was “too far gone”, but her friends convinced her that she was fine before and her being “nice Fluttershy” was enough. While this one and the Iron Will episode are the most obvious examples of Fluttershy feeling like she has to be somepony else in order to be “right”, there’s other examples too. Hurricane Fluttershy is another good one. She felt like she was a horrible flyer due to how much pressure was being put onto her to be able to make the powerful hurricane that she ended up shutting herself out due to fear of being mocked. When she was being mocked she felt it was even worse than it actually was, hearing slight giggles made her feel like the whole world was making fun of her. So she tried to force herself to be a great flyer in order to impress everyone, it took a lot of work but she ended up becoming an excellent flyer and managed to single-hoofedly (wingedly?) make the hurricane strong enough to make it bring up enough water to Cloudsdale. Fluttershy seems to be so insecure about who she is that when she is in certain situations she feels like she HAS to change herself completely to “fit in” or else she won’t be accepted and will be mocked for the way she is, but ultimately that just makes things worse and the moral in the end is she was fine the way she is but she slowly learns to accept herself for who she is and become a better pony. Fluttershy is incredibly relatable with this fear of hers, it’s something that I and definitely many others have and maybe still do struggle with, the fear of being “wrong” and having to be someone you really aren’t. Fortunately after many years of people reassuring Fluttershy of who she is, she has become much more accepting of herself and she has her animal friends to help her feel safe where she is. In fact, in most episodes it’s the animal friends who end up helping her just as much as her pony friends do. Now that I think about it Fluttershy really IS incredibly autistic coded, I somehow didn’t realize that until now. Her and Maud Pie are both autism icons 👌
I honestly identified with fluttershy SO much this episode. There was a time in my life where I put on a lot of different personas for different people. I never had many friends so I thought that if I tried acting like the people I wanted to befriend, they'd want to hang out with me. There were so many different personalities that I just started getting tired and being contradicting. At that point I didn't even know who I was anymore, I was just a shell for other people's needs. Fluttershy is truly my role model, I want to be as strong as her someday.
Your story reminds me of how I tried to be someone I wasn’t in my early days of TH-cam. I felt like an empty shell of a person too looking back at that, but I’m glad I’ve decided to express my true self nowadays. Thanks for watching and for your comment
@@TheEternalSamurai thank you for taking time to respond. It really warms my heart to see a creator actively interacting with their audience, it's really admireable. have a good day!
I 100% agree. The phrase "Fake it till you make it" has always bothered me. It's much better to just be yourself. Anything that's gained from "faking it" is probably going to cause more problems, in the long run, and at the very least is a very disingenuous way to get there.
Yes, but what 'if' you don't like yourself right now? What 'if' you want to improve? It is, as opposed to what a of people misunderstand, a really good advice for those who lack confidence and somewhat helps boosting their self-esteem by believing they have that confidence, until the point they just stop pretending. In my opinion by doing this you're not trying to be "someone else", you're trying to be a better version of yourself.
@@sylvyboi I feel bad for someone who doesn’t like themselves, but I admit, I’m a bit confused about how someone gets to that point. There is certainly nothing wrong with wanting to improve, but I’m very skeptical of the idea that just pretending a problem isn’t there will make it go away. I guess it might make you feel better in the short term, but usually you have to acknowledge the problem before you can fix it. And even then, it still take time and effort to fix it properly. Just trying to pave over it will leave you with a pretty rocky foundation, and that will hurt later on.
@@chaoking3119 Well, not everyone is perfectly satisfied with who they are. Sometimes they just need that little boost to help themselves, at least to some degree. And like I said, the whole point of it is to convince yourself you're self-assured, just 'till the point you'll find yourself not needing to "pretend" anymore. It's just a simple tactic that has proven helpful for a lot of people. But of course, it may not work for every person. So the most advised thing would be to seek professional aid if you feel like your self-esteem is troubling you too much.
Seeing fluttershy change herself almost exactly mirrors me in my retail job. I wear clothes that aren't me and often make me uncomfortable, and my personality is both forced and incredibly different to what I'm really like. You'd think it wouldn't affect me, yknow its just with customers, I can go home and be fine. But it exhausted me, as you said with your own experience with streaming. It also gives others a false perception of me, I have a coworker who oversteps my boundaries and thinks we're closer than we are and has led to me having a full blown breakdown over things hes said to me thinking I was cool with it because I couldn't break this act to show my discomfort. (Makes it worse i was quite literally triggered in the true mental health sense of the word and was reliving something i didn't want to relive) Retail really is hell for the sensitive and shy. Customers can be extremely cruel, and always push the blame onto you specifically even if they'll lie and say they mean the company, in the moment all they care about is getting what they want out of you as an individual and most customers will trample you to get it lol
When it comes to TH-cam we tend to get a few egotistical and yet arrogant folks trying to be overconfident and overboard. For my advice, just be happy with what you’re doing and stay true to yourself.
Couldn't have said it better my guy. I used to buy into what the TH-cam gurus would say, but it took me long enough to figure out that it doesn't work for me. I'm honestly much more satisfied with what I'm making now, and that's what matters more to me.
I have always HATED, and I use that term to its full effect, I exaggerate none with my usage of that term, any ‘advice’ which recommends you fake something. I’ve always been rather introverted and to myself, I’m not a super outgoing person. I can hold a conversation just fine, but you won’t see my faking that huge smile and optimistic energy, I’ll be professional and respectful, just not super high-energy and smiley. All my life I’ve been ordered to smile, I’ve been ordered to ‘Just be happy.’ as if telling someone to be happy actually works. I realized that I was hiding misery, I was hiding my true self behind that fake smile. But then I learned that I don’t always have to smile, and if anything, it lets me truly be myself, which seems to be a more pleasant persona to others than me trying to fake high energy and smiles.
I've been in those situations too where I felt like I had to pretend to be happy. I recall one time being at a wedding, and I was really tired and had a headache, and my sister got onto me for not looking happy. I got through it, but it I didn't have a fun time. It's a good thing I went to the wedding, just wasn't the best of circumstances on my end was all. Thanks for watching and for the comment.
Let's be honest, Fluttershy would make a great changeling. I'm glad you said 'sometimes' because I guess the bad part comes from when you linger in the fake after you already made it.
Haha! I guess Fluttershy would make a good changeling. I didn't think of that. Kinda reminds me of the season 6 finale when Discord was surrounded by all the Fluttershy changelings lol.
Lmao I've only ever heard "fake it till you make it" in orchestra; essentially, if by the concert you couldn't play a part, PRETEND to play it to trick the audience LOL
I actually a lot of issues with depersonalisation Than I saw this episode and it kind of became clear to me that I often tried to play a role As it made it easier to deal with social anxiety. Because it felt like it wasn’t my true self that would be judged so I was able to manage it better. This episode really helped me to stop that behaviour and I eventually got out of that bad feeling. Really one of my favourite episodes as I feel it has a lot of impact!
I love how you use MLP FIM to even reflect on your own experiences. I'm very glad you're focusing on what speaks to you, rather than trying to make it big as a content creator. Because, quite frankly, I'm really enjoying these videos. Being your authentic self is more important than being what the rest of the world expects you to be
Thank you so much! That really means a lot. I got tired of trying to chase for fame and instead decided to just express myself. Thanks for watching and for the wholesome comment 😊
My therapist always told me that I had to accept that I'm a normal person and like everyone else, I have my bad and my good moments. I told her that I have an obsession for being funny because, in my mind, that's the only way people will like me. She asked me why not be content with being just pretty and nice? I don't have to be a clown all the time to make people like me, and what they actually don't like is uneducated people. And she hasn't said it directly to me like she was just agreeing with me is that I have to be comfortable in my own skin and be able to like my own company. My personality is my own and biggest insecurity due to past experiences in my life. I've come to care too much about the external pov instead of my own. I thought I didn't have any good traits because I was too scared if people would agree with me and I used to think that I didn't deserve things, I was constantly sabotaging myself. So, everyday I make little affirmations to myself whenever I get anxious about these insecurities. I'm pretty, I'm polite and I'm a smart person.
I feel like “Fake it til you make it” is a very neutral term. On one hand, it’s extremely helpful for getting out situations where you may not have the confidence to be in. I feel like the good application if when you need to put up a front of reliability. As discussed in previous episodes, Fluttershy does have decent knowledge on things like thread counts, stitching types, and needles threads but she needed that boost to make her feel reliable. After all, a customer who thinks you’re a doormat will be 80% more likely to turn Karen mode than those who see a experienced worker. But “Fake it til you make it” has a extreme and like all things, its very easy to get out of hand. She was trying to fully embody the personality when in reality, it should only be her front for a few moments or events at most and then taken off when she doesnt need it anymore. Its a fake persona, not her real one and the danger of pushing it as a real one is what drove the episodes’s main conflict. It was also a laugh riot all things considered when she was clearly making words up to “sound” like the ponies and somehow they ate it up.
Aside from Fluttershy being this different characters for a while…I think it’s better for her to be herself. Fake it til you make it is honestly a good episode in my opinion.
the only time faking it till i made it worked well for me was in 7th grade i joined orchestra for the first time and knew nothing about violin, but just by having to pretend i know at least the basics i slowly began to actually learn the basics, and in 2y im now fairly good. but everything else it doesnt really work. its like those sketchy mobile game ads. sometimes they actually go as advertised, but mostly its just scam.
I know I presented the advice "Fake it til you make it" as bad advice in this video, but there can be a time and place for it. If it works in certain situations for you, then that's okay. Sometimes "faking" it is part of the process to find what we truly like. Why I say that is because at first we may not like something, but it can grow on us with time and hard work. Hope that made sense. Thanks for the comment and for watching my vid 😉
Always be yourself you’ll always find an audience. They may be niche, but you’ll find one no matter who you are or what you like. Same goes with friends. if you be true at yourself, you’ll find friends who actually like you for who you are and you like your friends who are, because you guys like similar things.
"Fake it 'til you make it" being good or bad depends on what you're faking. I'm a virtue ethicist. One of the core tenants of the philosophy is that one isn't told what is and isn't virtuous. You learn it through experience, reflection, practicing until you make it habit. Virtue isn't bestowed, it's forged through habit. So how do you get there if it's not something you already do? Well, not the phrase any philosopher would use but "fake it 'til you make it" is a pretty good description. It's not that the advice is necessarily bad. It's about how you use it.
The title reminds me of this one Lego Monkie Kid scene : Sun Wukong : "The only way to get self confidence is~?" MK : "Fake it 'till I make it?" Sun Wukong : "NO! Practice!! You think I took shortcuts? No. It took me centuries of training and fighting and just beating up demon, just- soo many demons. A- anyway, nothing worth anything comes for free. Akhem."
Another episode that has a be true to yourself message is Simple Ways. That episode shows that some people may not like you for who you are, but that's OK. Because changing yourself for someone else is futile. I really appreciate the content you're making. MLP has been somewhat of a guide to me in multiple senses. It has words to live by and character arcs that are relatable to me and the world around me. I've always seen MLP this way and it's nice that you've taken the time to slow down and analyze these episodes. I struggle a lot in a fandom setting because of the fan-created content that in general doesn't even have the same themes as the original material. And these videos are a great way for me to engage with MLP besides just watching it and viewing and making fanart. TL;DR I like these videos and you've earned a new subscriber.
You have no idea how much this comment means to me. I've often struggled with relating to people who can talk at a deep level that the show provides to us, but seeing you come by to watch, comment, and engage with my videos means so much. Consider yourself not just another subscriber, but also an honored Gakusei. 😉
I believe that this episode may also be a take on how actors try to see situations from their characters personalities and perspectives. It also makes good use of the old troop of one character dressing up to convince another to get them to do something that the dressed-up character wants. Plus it also points-out how an actor can get lost in the role and lastly it’s while adults can enjoy the show, don’t forget. It’s aimed at kids between ages three to ten. And kids love role playing-playing pretend as it allows them to explore future roles that they might have and to act-out what they know and see about the world.
i've just watched all your mlp videos, its very interesting! I stopped watching it bc of my family saying i was too old for that. Hoping to see more of mlp videos! I really loved it all!
I'm glad you made this video. I'm a teenager in 10th grade and I lovee performing. I couldnt live without it. However, it's very hard to get a performing arts career so i'd basically given up on that and am trying to choose between Doctor or Phycologist. all the college on the stuff would kill me though, as the only thing I've stayed interested in my whole life is performing arts. but you've inspired me to keep trying. thx.
Wow! I'm really glad to hear that I inspired you to keep doing what you love. I understand that people like our parents and school officials will tell us to choose a safe career, and while that may be true, we also need to pursue something we're passionate about to. It's definitely a lesson I wish I had learned when I was your age. Thanks for the meaningful comment, and best of luck on your future endeavors. 😉 Eternal For Life! ✌
I always found the notion of "being something you're not" an interesting psychological construct. In order to understand who you're not, you need to understand who you are. As a person. But that's complicated in itself as we change as people over the course of our lives. I'm 30 years old now but 10 years ago, my 20 year old self was a very different person and probably wouldn't think I'd be the person I am now back then. So could it be that discovering who we are is a result of changing as time goes on? What really is someone we aren't? Also I found this episode hilarious in that cartoonish way where disguises are vague enough to still be recognised as the same person to the audience yet the in show characters are utterly clueless. Like imagine if someone you knew just came up to you wearing different clothing claiming to be someone else
With the amount of quality and entertainment in this video I thought you were a huge TH-camr, but then I looked at your subscriber count, you deserve so much more! Good job, very good analysis and commentary! ❤
Thanks so much! That really means a lot! It’s only recently that I’ve been feeling more confident in the content I make, and I believe it’s showing with the recent growth on this channel. That day will come when my channel’s big, but for now, I’m just enjoying the ride. Thanks for your support and compliments 😉
@@TheEternalSamurai Yes, the most important part is to have fun and enjoy what you’re doing. I’m glad you’re feeling more confident with your content ^^ 💖
Ok tbh fake it til you make it advice is a natural occurrence for me because i have BPD 💀 i put on personas to make sure i can survive a situation and it's true it's a negative; lots of trust issues, identity problems and dissociation so I can't really be myself cause I got no idea who I am no more 😍✋ for people like me, it's just not easy to be yourself when it's a defensive response your brain automated to supposedly 'protect yourself'
My sincerest apologies for your diagnosis. I myself have a personality disorder too, so I can relate in a sense. I've had trust issues in people due to embarrassment and thinking that I'll get taken advantage of. As I opened up with people I knew I had some slight trust in, I found out that they understood me, and I felt better for letting out my thoughts and feelings to them. Go at your own pace ofc, not trying to force anything on you. I just wanted to at least share my experience to help shed a light. You got this 👊
As someone who's autistic and working retail this episode is really relatable! I always seen myself as a lil cameleon mimicking other people's behaviors to appease them but like you said it's ok if it stays genuine and true to you! Sometimes "faking it" made me realize I could be more assertive than I thought and that can be a wonderful thing :D just can't let it get to your head!
I think...if you don't have that cheeky confidence, just don't do it. I do it because I don't care what other people think of me, I'm a narcissist. Plus, if you don't know what you're doing, when you fake it, you don't realize your ego takes over and you screw yourself up. Pls make sure u know what u doing before u faking it.
I find this Episode pretty Interesting but would make so much more sense if Coco Pommel would Work with FlutterShy within the Conflict which could have made her character so much Cooler after her Cameo from season 6 to see how much she has grown in Manehatten.
I don't fully disagree with you're analysis except for ONE distinction: You're failing to separate "fake it till you make it" from "fake it till you ARE it". Fluttershy went into the "are it" territory, which is why Rarity had to fire her four times. The difference between the two is that "fake it till you make it" requires you to be anchored in who you originally or truly are, whereas "fake it till you are it" causes you to lose who you really are. In the episode, they just sped it up for time reasons, and because it's a kid's show and kids wouldn't know about the difference. Either way, you are not entirely wrong about people needing to be themselves and not try to be someone else.
Fake it till you make it is good advice for confidence, or building up a specific trait you actually WANT to embody, not for putting up a fake persona to satisfy others (algorithm, customers, etc). Fake it till you make it has helped me improve my self-image
I felt like this episode was... fine? But it's another "Fluttershy is shy" episode. In Season 8. I get it, some lessons are hard to learn, but this is almost the ONLY lesson she learns. It's either "Be more assertive" or stage fright. Sweetie Belle had stage fright, supposedly, why didn't she get an episode dedicated to it? That would've been a million times more interesting considering she has a gift for performing, and seems to be kinda interested in it. But no... they all go to Fluttershy. Oh, and of course, her friends have to be super patient and supportive despite the fact that Fluttershy basically chased all of her customers and staff out because she had to learn the lesson they ALL learned when Rarity for You first opened! Without all of that context? It's fine, I guess. Not great or anything. With the context? I don't like it. It's another situation where if it were anyone else, they'd be berated, but since it's Fluttershy, she doesn't even get a slap on the wrist because she conveniently knows when to apologize.
Since you just changed your channel’s content, I really want to say to keep up the good work making these types of informative analysis videos! It will help to spread MLP’s positive themes and messages to people of this low-attention-span generation, or those who would dismiss the series as “just a little girls show.”
Thank you for supporting me on this endeavor. MLP is a series that really spoke to me and got me out of some rough times in life. And I want to share what I've learned with the public.
excuse my rambling but this is one of those episodes i can personally relate to a little as an autistic guy, like i see so much in Fluttershy here with her "masking" to function in society, literally being someone else just blend in with everyone else. but just like with autistic people in real life, that façade's gonna have to break one day. Fluttershy's a character i HC as being autistic herself because of how whenever she's shown a bit of advice like this, she tends to go overboard and doesn't realise it until she accidentally goes too far, and to me it shows that Fluttershy just can't handle being someone else because she's Fluttershy and i can relate to that. Flutters is probably the most relatable out of the mane six gonna be honest
When you are putting mask on yourself and turning yourself into someone else, you are slowly losing real yourself. Also when you are doing something that you will not do as yourself, you are lying to yourself and this may cause depression...
That's what I felt like I did in my early days of YT. I was trying to impress others by making stuff I didn't care about. And in the process, I lost sense of myself. But I turned that around, and I'm much happier with what I make on YT now. Thanks for watching, and for the comment
I don't tend to act like this in real life. But there have been times where I've taken on different personas on the internet. I've tried to be laidback, immature, flamboyant (when talking to folks who are a little more energetic in their manner of speech) and even blunt. A lot of the time, those personalities seemed to work, but a lot of those personalities have also backfired and caused me to face issues from people who've called me a creep for going too far with my immaturity, or I've been called a jerk for being too blunt, or disingenuous when I'm being too laidback. My issue is that I worry about whether other people will like me or not, and that can sometimes lead to me having mental breakdowns or even getting cross with others, very aggressively, in fact. I've lost relationships over my anger and friendships have collapsed and relapsed because of it too. I struggle socially, even if I am slowly becoming better at asking for things and trying to connect with people, even when I don't know them personally, like when I'm shopping or buying a drink at a café, for example. It's all about confidence, communication and consideration. The three C's of Successful Conversation.
Putting a mask on my face has been my identity since I was young. I have lots of brain issues and mental illness. That’s been me. And I’m not afraid to say I’m inot my own person.. im a ton of different things. I forget and relive stories and movies and shows. I forget movies I used to love and either like it or hate it. At party’s I’m either dancing a fool or in a corner crying because I’m so scared of everyone thinking of how I look awful. I don’t know how to be normal so I try and copy the closest human by me. I try because I’m not always so self aware and realize that. And need to work on that when my mind forgets I’m not self aware I’m obnoxious and unfiltered and inappropriate. Shielding others of my desire to end myself and faking it can be helpful to others even if it’s not benefiting me in a good way.. I’m never trying to hurt anyone but people make mistakes and I especially forget and make tons of annoying mistakes that I hate when I remember them later in the day. It’s one reason I truly hate myself. I’m trying to improve all aspects of who I am because I hate it.. but the next day it’s forgotten.. so I’m really not who I am right now. It’s like a dementia I feel sometimes. You don’t forget to eat or brush your teeth right people? Masking also really helps with self esteem and confidence and doing things normally I’d cry about. I’m a big cry baby and cry about everything. Like thinking about taxes and I don’t even work..
I actually find that the fake it till you make it actually DOES work for me when it comes to confidence. I'm not a confident person. I get so scared I CAN'T do things. but PRETENDING I'm a confident person actually helps !! becuase then I actually do the things I was scared of and then get to realize it wasn't that bad. so, that advice actually IS good, but you shouldn't go too far with it- like with Fluttershy. and it can sometimes be hard to take off the mask once it's on so it's important to not get lost in it. though personally, I don't think I'd mind becoming a more confident person yknow? it might be the fact I've already had to mask a lot due to autism, idk. I think this is a great episode though.
The advice "Fake it 'till you make it" isn't "Become a fake person that's not you until you become successful." The advice means more to behave as though you are already successful, so be yourself, but a version of your true real self that happens to be successful in what you are trying to do. Like, say you are starting a new job. Instead of being that nervous version of yourself that's second guessing everything, you accept what you do know and address what you don't know, making your work more efficient and your questions more helpful. If what you want is to make new friends, instead of hiding yourself and laughing awkwardly at everything someone says, you give you walk up to people, give a genuine smile, actually listen, and actively participate in conversations, not worrying about "what if I say something stupid". What this accomplishes is that all those obstacles we put in our own way when we act based on our doubts aren't there anymore. After all, since you are acting as though you are a successful version of yourself, you aren't taking the time to set obstacles for yourself. After being this successful version of yourself for long enough, you'll get used to not getting in your own way, and you'll have the experience and results to (hopefully) full admit that you are in fact successful and good at what you do. I say "hopefully" because some people refuse to accept any good about themselves despite any mountain of evidence that you might present them, sadly.
As a salesman myself I have to admit, that ya partwise need to play a role as ya serve very different kinds of characters even in a small shop. For sure ya should not fake ya whole persona, at least just as much as ya feel comfortable with, but there are characters out there, who needs to be handled lil different than others to feel comfortable shoppin at yar store. We're open for every type of customer and wants them all to have a nice time here. So, as we can't select our guests just as we do our friends, we need a stretchy appearence. That's deftly not easy all the time as I can say so myself, but that's part of the job after all. Allthough really challengin customers aren't the main amount here - but as long as they act in a respectable way, I serve with passion 😊
"Fake It Til You Make It" is bad advice in general. I can't stand that saying along with "everything happens for a reason." Because both are not always good.
Great video! This encapsulates exactly what I feel about those "patrick bateman alpha male" communities and the like- as well as a lot of new age communities, self help communities... well, a lot more that i wont take time to list. I totally agree, hustle culture is starting to turn sour and it can absolutely make you lose yourself. Definitely something people need to learn as that mindset (or "grindset" as they call it) is becoming more popular. Earned a sub!
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I feel like Fluttershy in this episode is mirroring what she sees in other ponies to fit in, just like how alot of us tend to mirror so others like us. This is an amazing lesson on being yourself and not changing yourself for others😊
I find it really interesting that they had Fluttershy mirror others personalities, and surprisingly enough, it actually fits her personality.
To make it brief, Fluttershy is a Type 9 personality type on the Enneagram (Type 9 wing 1 to be specific), and while they can be shy around others, they also have an ability to relate to others and impersonate other personality types.
Thanks for watching, and for the comment 😉
@@TheEternalSamurai not only that, but alot of people with autism or other types of neuro divergent individuals who struggle with social queues or expressing themselves (or we simply wish to fit in and please others) we tend to mirror those we wish to please or get along with. I admit to doing this with ny best friends to a degree. And you're welcome dude, i admit im mostly here for the pony content but i do look forward to seeing more from this channel.
@@TheEternalSamurai Oh my gosh I'm a type type (9w8) and I get this and have actually tried out this advice and tried to look more confident than I was with discord friends, but some of the downsides were I felt like I was lying to them and I had a breakdown whenever I felt like I wasn't being super confident and cried at getting yelled at (I'm glad a friend snapped me out of thinking I had to center being confident as some big personality trait by saying people get confident and un-confident about all sorts of things all the time, I used being confident as a mask for the pretty bare void of my identity and now that I know about mbti and stuff I definitely see that 9 in me and I'm also a enfp just as a side thing)
Fake it til you make it has been good advice for me when it comes to confidence. If you pretend to be proud of yourself and talk positively about yourself, eventually you might start believing it. This episode shows Fluttershy taking it way too far and I really appreciate how it's laid out
You know, that’s a fair point you make. I know I did present it as bad advice in the video, though there does come a time and place for it.
Perhaps it’s not a bad idea if you’re giving yourself daily affirmations for example, because as you keep telling your affirmations (I.e. i deserve friends), you’ll build natural confidence in yourself.
@@TheEternalSamurai it’s how i nail job interviews tbh lmao and in this economy gods know that’s helpful xD false confidence makes you roll high on charisma if you act the part until you get the job
you just gotta not lose yourself in it
I used to do that all the time, telling myself that I was attractive, that I was loved, respected and that my insecurities were unfounded. Until i saw a character from five nights at freddy's do exactly that and now i feel like i was pointed at
@@TheEternalSamurai like someone I know says "too much of anything is bad"
I wish that worked out for me, but it kind of conflicted with what my mom said growing up, "Be yourself and people will like you" and I didn't know how to do anything but be quiet and introverted growing up. It's not something I had the confidence at the time to just switch automatically.
This reminds me of what us autistic people call "masking" where we pretend to be someone we are not just to fit in and not be abused.
I once thought I was autistic and I had to mask just to get by. I got tested and it turns out I don’t have it, but I still feel like I have to mask sometimes.
But I’m glad to have a platform like YT here where I can take that mask off and express my true self to all of y’all.
Thanks for watching and for the comment.
@@TheEternalSamurai It can be very hard to get a professional to diagnose you if you are an adult or woman. Everyone seems to think it only affects male children.
@@misspinkpunkykat as an adult woman, yes, that's true. We often are misdiagnosed with a personality disorder (I won't say the name but you could guess) even if most of the symptoms are obviously autistic and are related to social interactions.
Things like special interests, sensitivity to stimuli/pain, selective mutism, pacing/stimming, a flat tone of voice/flat face (RBF) and literacy/need of excessive logic in life can be invalidated by therapists very often as a girl, specially if you have a high IQ and are kinda functional/masking.
The masking is kinda horrible, you feel detached from yourself and super fake/imposter syndrome.
yep, same. I'm autistic, but for me like... sometimes masking is the only way to get by doing things in the world... I feel like some people don't understand I have to mask just to like. be able to do things. to not, say, have a meltdown in public and have it at home instead... as I've heard some others say, masking can be a good tool if you are able to use it, but it should be for yourself, to help you get by. you shouldn't have to mask just because other people want you to.
@@warriorcatkitty I knew other autistic people who had to mask to LITTERALY survive.
I find this to be one of Fluttershy's more interesting episodes. Sure the title is bad advice and the lesson of the episode is a bit cliche, But it was still entertaining to find out how Fluttershy would do in a scenario where she's put in charge of managing a store.
Hell the fact that she could change into those outfits so fast amazes me, I mean it's like she's a quick change artist or something and she absolutely nailed the personalities of her shop pony characters in fact Andrea Libman herself said that she had fun voicing Fluttershy for this episode!
Didn't know that the VA really enjoyed it so much, but I can see why she did.
And yeah, it's still impressive how Fluttershy was able to pull of many characters considering her shy nature.
I also think that this is very interesting and alludes to the hidden potential that fluttershy has as an actress. She can fit into someone else's shoes so quickly and we saw her make an amazing performance when she played celestia in that one play.
The phrase "fake it til you make it" is a double edge sword and I feel like you talked about it very well here. Let's hope copyright doesn't effect this video
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I believe the writers were conscious that "Fake it til you make it" is a bad advice and just play it for laughs, and Rarity precisely said at the end of the episode that Fluttershy should find the balance between her kind self and the assertive self she make up for herself, an advice I took into my job.
"Be Yourself" is neither a great advice because unfortunately society in general have low tolerance for that as much as they say otherwise.
I would say “Be Better Than Your Old Self” Don’t make the same mistakes.
@@TheManWhoErasedHisNaneWell, that's even better.
You’re absolutely right about society having a low tolerance for being yourself, especially if you’re neurodivergent
Something that I just noticed is Fluttershy has a tendency to not really know who she’s supposed to be, and oftentimes in a state of panic when feeling like the way she is isn’t “right” by other ponies’ standards she has to completely change herself to be the way those other ponies want her to be and oftentimes takes it too far in order to try to impress people but ultimately they end up hating her instead.
Like in the episode with Iron Will, she heard she had to be more assertive but in her attempts at becoming more assertive she took Iron Will’s advice too far and became someone she wasn’t and she recognized the way she was acting was wrong but felt like she couldn’t change due to how she was “too far gone”, but her friends convinced her that she was fine before and her being “nice Fluttershy” was enough.
While this one and the Iron Will episode are the most obvious examples of Fluttershy feeling like she has to be somepony else in order to be “right”, there’s other examples too. Hurricane Fluttershy is another good one. She felt like she was a horrible flyer due to how much pressure was being put onto her to be able to make the powerful hurricane that she ended up shutting herself out due to fear of being mocked. When she was being mocked she felt it was even worse than it actually was, hearing slight giggles made her feel like the whole world was making fun of her. So she tried to force herself to be a great flyer in order to impress everyone, it took a lot of work but she ended up becoming an excellent flyer and managed to single-hoofedly (wingedly?) make the hurricane strong enough to make it bring up enough water to Cloudsdale.
Fluttershy seems to be so insecure about who she is that when she is in certain situations she feels like she HAS to change herself completely to “fit in” or else she won’t be accepted and will be mocked for the way she is, but ultimately that just makes things worse and the moral in the end is she was fine the way she is but she slowly learns to accept herself for who she is and become a better pony.
Fluttershy is incredibly relatable with this fear of hers, it’s something that I and definitely many others have and maybe still do struggle with, the fear of being “wrong” and having to be someone you really aren’t. Fortunately after many years of people reassuring Fluttershy of who she is, she has become much more accepting of herself and she has her animal friends to help her feel safe where she is. In fact, in most episodes it’s the animal friends who end up helping her just as much as her pony friends do.
Now that I think about it Fluttershy really IS incredibly autistic coded, I somehow didn’t realize that until now. Her and Maud Pie are both autism icons 👌
Is that why I kin her? I always related to her masking
As an anxious autistic girl whose fav childhood show is MLP, how'd I not realize this sooner?? 😅
I honestly identified with fluttershy SO much this episode. There was a time in my life where I put on a lot of different personas for different people. I never had many friends so I thought that if I tried acting like the people I wanted to befriend, they'd want to hang out with me. There were so many different personalities that I just started getting tired and being contradicting. At that point I didn't even know who I was anymore, I was just a shell for other people's needs. Fluttershy is truly my role model, I want to be as strong as her someday.
Your story reminds me of how I tried to be someone I wasn’t in my early days of TH-cam. I felt like an empty shell of a person too looking back at that, but I’m glad I’ve decided to express my true self nowadays.
Thanks for watching and for your comment
@@TheEternalSamurai thank you for taking time to respond. It really warms my heart to see a creator actively interacting with their audience, it's really admireable. have a good day!
I 100% agree. The phrase "Fake it till you make it" has always bothered me. It's much better to just be yourself. Anything that's gained from "faking it" is probably going to cause more problems, in the long run, and at the very least is a very disingenuous way to get there.
Yes, but what 'if' you don't like yourself right now?
What 'if' you want to improve?
It is, as opposed to what a of people misunderstand, a really good advice for those who lack confidence and somewhat helps boosting their self-esteem by believing they have that confidence, until the point they just stop pretending. In my opinion by doing this you're not trying to be "someone else", you're trying to be a better version of yourself.
@@sylvyboi I feel bad for someone who doesn’t like themselves, but I admit, I’m a bit confused about how someone gets to that point. There is certainly nothing wrong with wanting to improve, but I’m very skeptical of the idea that just pretending a problem isn’t there will make it go away. I guess it might make you feel better in the short term, but usually you have to acknowledge the problem before you can fix it. And even then, it still take time and effort to fix it properly. Just trying to pave over it will leave you with a pretty rocky foundation, and that will hurt later on.
@@chaoking3119 Well, not everyone is perfectly satisfied with who they are. Sometimes they just need that little boost to help themselves, at least to some degree.
And like I said, the whole point of it is to convince yourself you're self-assured, just 'till the point you'll find yourself not needing to "pretend" anymore. It's just a simple tactic that has proven helpful for a lot of people. But of course, it may not work for every person. So the most advised thing would be to seek professional aid if you feel like your self-esteem is troubling you too much.
Seeing fluttershy change herself almost exactly mirrors me in my retail job. I wear clothes that aren't me and often make me uncomfortable, and my personality is both forced and incredibly different to what I'm really like.
You'd think it wouldn't affect me, yknow its just with customers, I can go home and be fine. But it exhausted me, as you said with your own experience with streaming.
It also gives others a false perception of me, I have a coworker who oversteps my boundaries and thinks we're closer than we are and has led to me having a full blown breakdown over things hes said to me thinking I was cool with it because I couldn't break this act to show my discomfort. (Makes it worse i was quite literally triggered in the true mental health sense of the word and was reliving something i didn't want to relive)
Retail really is hell for the sensitive and shy. Customers can be extremely cruel, and always push the blame onto you specifically even if they'll lie and say they mean the company, in the moment all they care about is getting what they want out of you as an individual and most customers will trample you to get it lol
customer service jobs are generally hell for sensitive people. i work in fast food and its honestly pretty mentally exhausting
When it comes to TH-cam we tend to get a few egotistical and yet arrogant folks trying to be overconfident and overboard. For my advice, just be happy with what you’re doing and stay true to yourself.
Couldn't have said it better my guy. I used to buy into what the TH-cam gurus would say, but it took me long enough to figure out that it doesn't work for me. I'm honestly much more satisfied with what I'm making now, and that's what matters more to me.
I have always HATED, and I use that term to its full effect, I exaggerate none with my usage of that term, any ‘advice’ which recommends you fake something. I’ve always been rather introverted and to myself, I’m not a super outgoing person. I can hold a conversation just fine, but you won’t see my faking that huge smile and optimistic energy, I’ll be professional and respectful, just not super high-energy and smiley. All my life I’ve been ordered to smile, I’ve been ordered to ‘Just be happy.’ as if telling someone to be happy actually works. I realized that I was hiding misery, I was hiding my true self behind that fake smile. But then I learned that I don’t always have to smile, and if anything, it lets me truly be myself, which seems to be a more pleasant persona to others than me trying to fake high energy and smiles.
I've been in those situations too where I felt like I had to pretend to be happy. I recall one time being at a wedding, and I was really tired and had a headache, and my sister got onto me for not looking happy.
I got through it, but it I didn't have a fun time.
It's a good thing I went to the wedding, just wasn't the best of circumstances on my end was all.
Thanks for watching and for the comment.
Let's be honest, Fluttershy would make a great changeling. I'm glad you said 'sometimes' because I guess the bad part comes from when you linger in the fake after you already made it.
Haha! I guess Fluttershy would make a good changeling. I didn't think of that. Kinda reminds me of the season 6 finale when Discord was surrounded by all the Fluttershy changelings lol.
Lmao I've only ever heard "fake it till you make it" in orchestra; essentially, if by the concert you couldn't play a part, PRETEND to play it to trick the audience LOL
I actually a lot of issues with depersonalisation
Than I saw this episode and it kind of became clear to me that I often tried to play a role
As it made it easier to deal with social anxiety. Because it felt like it wasn’t my true self that would be judged so I was able to manage it better.
This episode really helped me to stop that behaviour and I eventually got out of that bad feeling.
Really one of my favourite episodes as I feel it has a lot of impact!
I love how you use MLP FIM to even reflect on your own experiences. I'm very glad you're focusing on what speaks to you, rather than trying to make it big as a content creator. Because, quite frankly, I'm really enjoying these videos.
Being your authentic self is more important than being what the rest of the world expects you to be
Thank you so much! That really means a lot. I got tired of trying to chase for fame and instead decided to just express myself.
Thanks for watching and for the wholesome comment 😊
Tell that to my freaking THERAPIST. That's what she told me to do. I don't see her anymore.
My therapist always told me that I had to accept that I'm a normal person and like everyone else, I have my bad and my good moments.
I told her that I have an obsession for being funny because, in my mind, that's the only way people will like me. She asked me why not be content with being just pretty and nice? I don't have to be a clown all the time to make people like me, and what they actually don't like is uneducated people.
And she hasn't said it directly to me like she was just agreeing with me is that I have to be comfortable in my own skin and be able to like my own company.
My personality is my own and biggest insecurity due to past experiences in my life. I've come to care too much about the external pov instead of my own. I thought I didn't have any good traits because I was too scared if people would agree with me and I used to think that I didn't deserve things, I was constantly sabotaging myself.
So, everyday I make little affirmations to myself whenever I get anxious about these insecurities. I'm pretty, I'm polite and I'm a smart person.
I feel like “Fake it til you make it” is a very neutral term.
On one hand, it’s extremely helpful for getting out situations where you may not have the confidence to be in. I feel like the good application if when you need to put up a front of reliability. As discussed in previous episodes, Fluttershy does have decent knowledge on things like thread counts, stitching types, and needles threads but she needed that boost to make her feel reliable. After all, a customer who thinks you’re a doormat will be 80% more likely to turn Karen mode than those who see a experienced worker.
But “Fake it til you make it” has a extreme and like all things, its very easy to get out of hand. She was trying to fully embody the personality when in reality, it should only be her front for a few moments or events at most and then taken off when she doesnt need it anymore. Its a fake persona, not her real one and the danger of pushing it as a real one is what drove the episodes’s main conflict.
It was also a laugh riot all things considered when she was clearly making words up to “sound” like the ponies and somehow they ate it up.
Aside from Fluttershy being this different characters for a while…I think it’s better for her to be herself.
Fake it til you make it is honestly a good episode in my opinion.
the only time faking it till i made it worked well for me was in 7th grade i joined orchestra for the first time and knew nothing about violin, but just by having to pretend i know at least the basics i slowly began to actually learn the basics, and in 2y im now fairly good. but everything else it doesnt really work. its like those sketchy mobile game ads. sometimes they actually go as advertised, but mostly its just scam.
I know I presented the advice "Fake it til you make it" as bad advice in this video, but there can be a time and place for it. If it works in certain situations for you, then that's okay. Sometimes "faking" it is part of the process to find what we truly like. Why I say that is because at first we may not like something, but it can grow on us with time and hard work.
Hope that made sense. Thanks for the comment and for watching my vid 😉
Always be yourself you’ll always find an audience. They may be niche, but you’ll find one no matter who you are or what you like. Same goes with friends. if you be true at yourself, you’ll find friends who actually like you for who you are and you like your friends who are, because you guys like similar things.
Beautifully said 🙏
"Fake it 'til you make it" being good or bad depends on what you're faking.
I'm a virtue ethicist. One of the core tenants of the philosophy is that one isn't told what is and isn't virtuous. You learn it through experience, reflection, practicing until you make it habit. Virtue isn't bestowed, it's forged through habit. So how do you get there if it's not something you already do? Well, not the phrase any philosopher would use but "fake it 'til you make it" is a pretty good description.
It's not that the advice is necessarily bad. It's about how you use it.
The title reminds me of this one Lego Monkie Kid scene :
Sun Wukong : "The only way to get self confidence is~?"
MK : "Fake it 'till I make it?"
Sun Wukong : "NO! Practice!! You think I took shortcuts? No. It took me centuries of training and fighting and just beating up demon, just- soo many demons. A- anyway, nothing worth anything comes for free. Akhem."
Fake it till you make it means adapt and overcome.
Another episode that has a be true to yourself message is Simple Ways. That episode shows that some people may not like you for who you are, but that's OK. Because changing yourself for someone else is futile.
I really appreciate the content you're making. MLP has been somewhat of a guide to me in multiple senses. It has words to live by and character arcs that are relatable to me and the world around me. I've always seen MLP this way and it's nice that you've taken the time to slow down and analyze these episodes. I struggle a lot in a fandom setting because of the fan-created content that in general doesn't even have the same themes as the original material. And these videos are a great way for me to engage with MLP besides just watching it and viewing and making fanart.
TL;DR I like these videos and you've earned a new subscriber.
You have no idea how much this comment means to me. I've often struggled with relating to people who can talk at a deep level that the show provides to us, but seeing you come by to watch, comment, and engage with my videos means so much.
Consider yourself not just another subscriber, but also an honored Gakusei. 😉
I believe that this episode may also be a take on how actors try to see situations from their characters personalities and perspectives. It also makes good use of the old troop of one character dressing up to convince another to get them to do something that the dressed-up character wants. Plus it also points-out how an actor can get lost in the role and lastly it’s while adults can enjoy the show, don’t forget. It’s aimed at kids between ages three to ten. And kids love role playing-playing pretend as it allows them to explore future roles that they might have and to act-out what they know and see about the world.
i've just watched all your mlp videos, its very interesting! I stopped watching it bc of my family saying i was too old for that.
Hoping to see more of mlp videos! I really loved it all!
Thanks for watching them. And yeah, I understand what you mean. I just say, "do what makes you happy."
Season 8 is considered the worst season
And I agree
So do I.
It gave us a very cute Fluttershy with cute expressions
That was hilarious how Fluttershy just evolves from snooty to telling rarity the her clothes are too good to sell
I'm glad you made this video. I'm a teenager in 10th grade and I lovee performing. I couldnt live without it. However, it's very hard to get a performing arts career so i'd basically given up on that and am trying to choose between Doctor or Phycologist. all the college on the stuff would kill me though, as the only thing I've stayed interested in my whole life is performing arts. but you've inspired me to keep trying. thx.
Wow! I'm really glad to hear that I inspired you to keep doing what you love. I understand that people like our parents and school officials will tell us to choose a safe career, and while that may be true, we also need to pursue something we're passionate about to. It's definitely a lesson I wish I had learned when I was your age.
Thanks for the meaningful comment, and best of luck on your future endeavors. 😉
Eternal For Life! ✌
Without looking it up, I wonder which one came out first, Equestria girls rollercoaster of friendship or Friendship is magic fake it till you make it.
I always found the notion of "being something you're not" an interesting psychological construct.
In order to understand who you're not, you need to understand who you are. As a person.
But that's complicated in itself as we change as people over the course of our lives. I'm 30 years old now but 10 years ago, my 20 year old self was a very different person and probably wouldn't think I'd be the person I am now back then.
So could it be that discovering who we are is a result of changing as time goes on? What really is someone we aren't?
Also I found this episode hilarious in that cartoonish way where disguises are vague enough to still be recognised as the same person to the audience yet the in show characters are utterly clueless.
Like imagine if someone you knew just came up to you wearing different clothing claiming to be someone else
Oh I understand you the eternal samurai In being shy I’m an introvert as a 10 year old
With the amount of quality and entertainment in this video I thought you were a huge TH-camr, but then I looked at your subscriber count, you deserve so much more!
Good job, very good analysis and commentary! ❤
Thanks so much! That really means a lot!
It’s only recently that I’ve been feeling more confident in the content I make, and I believe it’s showing with the recent growth on this channel.
That day will come when my channel’s big, but for now, I’m just enjoying the ride.
Thanks for your support and compliments 😉
@@TheEternalSamurai Yes, the most important part is to have fun and enjoy what you’re doing. I’m glad you’re feeling more confident with your content ^^ 💖
Ok tbh fake it til you make it advice is a natural occurrence for me because i have BPD 💀 i put on personas to make sure i can survive a situation and it's true it's a negative; lots of trust issues, identity problems and dissociation so I can't really be myself cause I got no idea who I am no more 😍✋ for people like me, it's just not easy to be yourself when it's a defensive response your brain automated to supposedly 'protect yourself'
My sincerest apologies for your diagnosis. I myself have a personality disorder too, so I can relate in a sense. I've had trust issues in people due to embarrassment and thinking that I'll get taken advantage of.
As I opened up with people I knew I had some slight trust in, I found out that they understood me, and I felt better for letting out my thoughts and feelings to them.
Go at your own pace ofc, not trying to force anything on you. I just wanted to at least share my experience to help shed a light. You got this 👊
As someone who's autistic and working retail this episode is really relatable! I always seen myself as a lil cameleon mimicking other people's behaviors to appease them but like you said it's ok if it stays genuine and true to you! Sometimes "faking it" made me realize I could be more assertive than I thought and that can be a wonderful thing :D just can't let it get to your head!
I like what you say about faking it till you make it, It rsanated with me as an autistic girl who often has to mask her quirks
Heheh welcome to ponies! We're glad to have another among our numbers
Glad to be part of the fandom. Thanks for the welcome 😄
the lesson, to me, was not to pretend to be someone you're not, but you should meet people where they're at and use their language
I’ve done the same thing as you have in my recent videos (putting on a front) so you’re giving a good message to me that I don’t have to do that. 😊
As a trans person, I know how terrible it is to be someone I'm not... for 19 whole years!
I think...if you don't have that cheeky confidence, just don't do it. I do it because I don't care what other people think of me, I'm a narcissist. Plus, if you don't know what you're doing, when you fake it, you don't realize your ego takes over and you screw yourself up. Pls make sure u know what u doing before u faking it.
I find this Episode pretty Interesting but would make so much more sense if Coco Pommel would Work with FlutterShy within the Conflict which could have made her character so much Cooler after her Cameo from season 6 to see how much she has grown in Manehatten.
Huh, I didn’t think of that. Coco Pammel would have been a good addition to the episode now that you mention it.
I don't fully disagree with you're analysis except for ONE distinction: You're failing to separate "fake it till you make it" from "fake it till you ARE it". Fluttershy went into the "are it" territory, which is why Rarity had to fire her four times. The difference between the two is that "fake it till you make it" requires you to be anchored in who you originally or truly are, whereas "fake it till you are it" causes you to lose who you really are. In the episode, they just sped it up for time reasons, and because it's a kid's show and kids wouldn't know about the difference. Either way, you are not entirely wrong about people needing to be themselves and not try to be someone else.
Fake it till you make it is good advice for confidence, or building up a specific trait you actually WANT to embody, not for putting up a fake persona to satisfy others (algorithm, customers, etc). Fake it till you make it has helped me improve my self-image
I felt like this episode was... fine? But it's another "Fluttershy is shy" episode. In Season 8. I get it, some lessons are hard to learn, but this is almost the ONLY lesson she learns. It's either "Be more assertive" or stage fright. Sweetie Belle had stage fright, supposedly, why didn't she get an episode dedicated to it? That would've been a million times more interesting considering she has a gift for performing, and seems to be kinda interested in it. But no... they all go to Fluttershy. Oh, and of course, her friends have to be super patient and supportive despite the fact that Fluttershy basically chased all of her customers and staff out because she had to learn the lesson they ALL learned when Rarity for You first opened!
Without all of that context? It's fine, I guess. Not great or anything. With the context? I don't like it. It's another situation where if it were anyone else, they'd be berated, but since it's Fluttershy, she doesn't even get a slap on the wrist because she conveniently knows when to apologize.
Good times.
Since you just changed your channel’s content, I really want to say to keep up the good work making these types of informative analysis videos! It will help to spread MLP’s positive themes and messages to people of this low-attention-span generation, or those who would dismiss the series as “just a little girls show.”
Thank you for supporting me on this endeavor. MLP is a series that really spoke to me and got me out of some rough times in life. And I want to share what I've learned with the public.
excuse my rambling but this is one of those episodes i can personally relate to a little as an autistic guy, like i see so much in Fluttershy here with her "masking" to function in society, literally being someone else just blend in with everyone else. but just like with autistic people in real life, that façade's gonna have to break one day. Fluttershy's a character i HC as being autistic herself because of how whenever she's shown a bit of advice like this, she tends to go overboard and doesn't realise it until she accidentally goes too far, and to me it shows that Fluttershy just can't handle being someone else because she's Fluttershy and i can relate to that. Flutters is probably the most relatable out of the mane six gonna be honest
When you are putting mask on yourself and turning yourself into someone else, you are slowly losing real yourself. Also when you are doing something that you will not do as yourself, you are lying to yourself and this may cause depression...
That's what I felt like I did in my early days of YT. I was trying to impress others by making stuff I didn't care about. And in the process, I lost sense of myself.
But I turned that around, and I'm much happier with what I make on YT now.
Thanks for watching, and for the comment
love your avatar! very creative!
Thank you! 😊
I don't tend to act like this in real life. But there have been times where I've taken on different personas on the internet. I've tried to be laidback, immature, flamboyant (when talking to folks who are a little more energetic in their manner of speech) and even blunt. A lot of the time, those personalities seemed to work, but a lot of those personalities have also backfired and caused me to face issues from people who've called me a creep for going too far with my immaturity, or I've been called a jerk for being too blunt, or disingenuous when I'm being too laidback. My issue is that I worry about whether other people will like me or not, and that can sometimes lead to me having mental breakdowns or even getting cross with others, very aggressively, in fact. I've lost relationships over my anger and friendships have collapsed and relapsed because of it too. I struggle socially, even if I am slowly becoming better at asking for things and trying to connect with people, even when I don't know them personally, like when I'm shopping or buying a drink at a café, for example. It's all about confidence, communication and consideration. The three C's of Successful Conversation.
Also, I think the episode title is meant to be taken as bad advice since the message of the episode is right there from the start.
Putting a mask on my face has been my identity since I was young. I have lots of brain issues and mental illness. That’s been me. And I’m not afraid to say I’m inot my own person.. im a ton of different things. I forget and relive stories and movies and shows. I forget movies I used to love and either like it or hate it.
At party’s I’m either dancing a fool or in a corner crying because I’m so scared of everyone thinking of how I look awful. I don’t know how to be normal so I try and copy the closest human by me. I try because I’m not always so self aware and realize that. And need to work on that when my mind forgets I’m not self aware I’m obnoxious and unfiltered and inappropriate.
Shielding others of my desire to end myself and faking it can be helpful to others even if it’s not benefiting me in a good way.. I’m never trying to hurt anyone but people make mistakes and I especially forget and make tons of annoying mistakes that I hate when I remember them later in the day. It’s one reason I truly hate myself. I’m trying to improve all aspects of who I am because I hate it.. but the next day it’s forgotten.. so I’m really not who I am right now.
It’s like a dementia I feel sometimes. You don’t forget to eat or brush your teeth right people? Masking also really helps with self esteem and confidence and doing things normally I’d cry about. I’m a big cry baby and cry about everything. Like thinking about taxes and I don’t even work..
I actually find that the fake it till you make it actually DOES work for me when it comes to confidence. I'm not a confident person. I get so scared I CAN'T do things. but PRETENDING I'm a confident person actually helps !! becuase then I actually do the things I was scared of and then get to realize it wasn't that bad.
so, that advice actually IS good, but you shouldn't go too far with it- like with Fluttershy. and it can sometimes be hard to take off the mask once it's on so it's important to not get lost in it. though personally, I don't think I'd mind becoming a more confident person yknow?
it might be the fact I've already had to mask a lot due to autism, idk. I think this is a great episode though.
Great advice !
Thanks
The advice "Fake it 'till you make it" isn't "Become a fake person that's not you until you become successful." The advice means more to behave as though you are already successful, so be yourself, but a version of your true real self that happens to be successful in what you are trying to do. Like, say you are starting a new job. Instead of being that nervous version of yourself that's second guessing everything, you accept what you do know and address what you don't know, making your work more efficient and your questions more helpful. If what you want is to make new friends, instead of hiding yourself and laughing awkwardly at everything someone says, you give you walk up to people, give a genuine smile, actually listen, and actively participate in conversations, not worrying about "what if I say something stupid".
What this accomplishes is that all those obstacles we put in our own way when we act based on our doubts aren't there anymore. After all, since you are acting as though you are a successful version of yourself, you aren't taking the time to set obstacles for yourself. After being this successful version of yourself for long enough, you'll get used to not getting in your own way, and you'll have the experience and results to (hopefully) full admit that you are in fact successful and good at what you do. I say "hopefully" because some people refuse to accept any good about themselves despite any mountain of evidence that you might present them, sadly.
As a salesman myself I have to admit, that ya partwise need to play a role as ya serve very different kinds of characters even in a small shop. For sure ya should not fake ya whole persona, at least just as much as ya feel comfortable with, but there are characters out there, who needs to be handled lil different than others to feel comfortable shoppin at yar store.
We're open for every type of customer and wants them all to have a nice time here. So, as we can't select our guests just as we do our friends, we need a stretchy appearence. That's deftly not easy all the time as I can say so myself, but that's part of the job after all. Allthough really challengin customers aren't the main amount here - but as long as they act in a respectable way, I serve with passion 😊
What is that background song again? The first one
"Fake It Til You Make It" is bad advice in general. I can't stand that saying along with "everything happens for a reason." Because both are not always good.
I'm so glad you are a brony
Nice Video :)
Great video! This encapsulates exactly what I feel about those "patrick bateman alpha male" communities and the like- as well as a lot of new age communities, self help communities... well, a lot more that i wont take time to list. I totally agree, hustle culture is starting to turn sour and it can absolutely make you lose yourself. Definitely something people need to learn as that mindset (or "grindset" as they call it) is becoming more popular. Earned a sub!
Good job
Thank you 😉
Interesting video 🤔
Indeed it is
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