Narcissists Will Lose their Minds if You Do These 10 Things
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- Narcissists Will Lose their Minds if You Do These 10 Things. In this video, we cover things that make a narcissist lose their mind. You'll learn about ways to make a narcissistic person just lose it just before leaving them.
Can you make narcissists lose it?
Let’s face it - it's not difficult for a narcissist to lose their mind. The reason for this is that their threshold for frustration tolerance and ability to regulate stress, failure, rejection or disappointment is very low. And let's not forget that narcissists are deeply insecure people whose grandiose self-presentation doesn't match the reality of their qualities, abilities and achievements, so even a little reminder of that can cause them to experience something known as “narcissistic injury“ that causes them to spiral out of control, often onto a person who reminded them of their deficits or tried to hold them accountable for their actions. We would never advocate for you to provoke narcissists or intentionally hurt them, but you should be aware of all the things that make them show their true colors.
If you're in an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist and you want to outsmart the narcissist and leave them then here are 10 things you can do to take back control from a narcissist.
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“You can't force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected.” “You will never really see how toxic someone is until you breathe fresher air.” “Stay away from people who can't take responsibility for their actions and who make you feel bad for being angry at them when they do you wrong.”
Good advice. I will take it.
@@spmoran4703 God bless you
Hope & pray life's treating you extremely good in these times ✨☘️🙏
Wise woman.
@@killingsley Thank You ✨☘️🙏
Exactly 💯
I'm the scapegoat the truth teller and I'm the bad person for it
I went to war with my narcissist. Just ignore them like they never existed. That’s how you win.
That will drive them insane!
Get Out, and Stay Out. That is the only way you win.
Yep. I had to learn that over time. Stop battling with them because they like that mess. I walked away from one 3 days ago
Amen.
I was ready to expose a Narc and energy vampire in front of everyone. Decided against it cos they would get supply and project blame on to me. I went NO CONTANT no explanation, no reason and no closure. Blocked their phone no. Socially ignored them, it asked me a question to hoover me back in, I said no comment. It got 2 flying monkeys to attack me. I ignored it all. The rage and anger in the Narc was unreal, I blocked their Narc supply and cut off their energy supply. It's lost power over me. Yes it's dangerous but so is contact. Now it's complaining about me and looking totally stupid. It can't argue with silence.
NO CONTACT.
Move on, they are not worth your time.
They only get worse.
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I learned this the hard way. I finally realized it HAS TO BE no contact. No way around it.
Yes it sure did get worse I kept allowing him back in and it did get worse.. Never again.
Yes, as they age, they become worse and worse. Like a timebomb.
GOT ONE LiVEN RiGHT NEXT DOOR TO ME🚪!
@@farangisehsani592 really? I thought I was with someone I truly connected with. I am confused. He's 49 handsome, kind but everything ends up about him....even sex which we only did once after 6 months together.. I broke it off after being ignored in that encounter because he made even that all about him. It made me so mad I felt like I was a call girl or something just to please him. After weeks apart now I am missing him. I wish I didn't I figure it'll be a dead end street. But to be fair he's been very protective, helpful got a lot of projects done for me was always there for me. i don't get it because he led up for weeks with statements like "if sex isn't mindblowing then there is no possible relationship between two people" then it was basically him getting himself off.
Or like he said "I've told everyone that we are together that you're my gf " then right after that he said 'well i have lots of gfriends". Since we'd not discussed any commitment I didn't feel I had the right to say anything at this point about who sees who.. but I don't think he'd of had time to be anyplace else so I wasn't concerned.
I think now maybe it was because I didn't respond by saying I did the same and I was silent. I guess it felt like we were a little mature to be using those terms to me is why I didn't respond. I felt in someways he never grew up like a yong boy who thinks the world revolves around him and everything should be for him. I don't know why I keep thinking about him and can't seem to move forward. I felt we'd grown so close and shared so much.
It's so freaking easy to piss them off..they get triggered by anything and everything...its so draining...they have an ugly heart/soul to treat others the way they do..
They pick their victims, I guess this video is for those who need some advices so that the narcissists will leave them alone
@@sdla690 they dont bother other narcissists...they feed off empathy. Basically people that care
What sucks though is most of them are hot, and successful. It’s true I fell in love with a narcissist, and it is hard to break free.
Yes agree that’s what happened to me it mentally drained me so bad and he had me turned rt negative and turned from ppl. He had all my friends and family out of my life for the most part and I just had enough.
@@randenrichards5461 realize that you are being used. You will be destroyed financially, emotionally, socially. I'm not exaggerating. They're dangerous to allow even one foot into your life because they will abuse you in so many ways
Lived all ten. My advice...eliminate them out of your life before they destroy you. They don't change.
Amen!
Amen too!
So true.
I agree completely & I wish I could that too 100% but unfortunately my daughters father is a narcissist and I have no idea how to deal or tolerate him every single day.
They are rotten toxic and foul what human beings want with a narc they aren't 💩
They NEVER EVER take responsibility. Even if it’s filmed or recorded.
Sorry 😂 funny but true
I’m still going to have a recording of everything she says. That’s why I have a camera in storage. So if my narcissist comes a knocking, I will have it recorded when I get an apartment👍🏻👍🏻
As in the words of Shaggy ‘It wasn’t me’ I call this the narcissist song 🎵
Best way to deal with a narcissist is “walk away” without showing any emotions
Unfortunately thats essentially impossible for a human to do.
i had walked away and no-contact for years now. years of peace and serenity.
15 narcissists have disliked this video, they obviously hate it when people can see how they tick!
@@fauxnews136 My condolences to you. You are spot on.
@@fauxnews136 arrest all narcissistic people and seperate them from society as they are dangerous and civilisation disruptive instigators. Why I am saying that? That’s the sentiment I developed from having suffer at the hands of a super narcissistic father.
@@fauxnews136 gosh you are such an idiot! You definitely don’t understand what you are talking about. You come with all this word salad for nothing! Narcissistic behaviour is a condition for which there’s no cure. Narcissistic people hurt others indiscriminately and they lack empathy.
I suspect you are a narcissistic person and you felt compelled in defending yourself. Yeah that’s an assumption but then again, that’s exactly what you done with me, you assume you know anything about me which you don’t! And no worries I am not going to reply once again to you coz your intention is to get fueled by arguing with others! Attention seekers are the worst and I say it again: narcissistic people are as dangerous as sociopaths and should be locked away
@@SuperTamaga So the oppressed becomes the oppressors... happens so much... hurt people hurt people.
@@fauxnews136 I know this is days old but I just wanted to add you are the one who kept going with the argument they said what they needed to and left your “best friend” had it no I think it’s you and you aren’t mature enough to admit it. Holy crap dude look at you sending entire scriptures to a random person in the comment sections on TH-cam and I read everything you said. You are PROVING what the video said is correct. Literally proving it but you probably don’t care huh and will still keep going just to prove your points and try to be on top.
As someone who grew up and was raised with a narcissist that I deal with on a daily basis. I believe they are one of the most dangerous types of people as well.
You are so right!!!!!
Yeah I had an ex who “amber hearded” me still tries to make me look like the crazy one even though everyone I went to school with knew she was literally bat shit crazy. We dated 8th grade to after I graduated and the only question ever asked was “why” I dated her. She had many blow ups at school but yet still tries to paint me as the abuser. Lol
Yes
@Gordon Vos lmfao 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 facts!!! When they come across someone who's hip to their games and ain't scared to fuck they ass up yup
@@j-l8404 that is funny bc I live with a narcissist in a apt building in a narcissist neighborhood
Yea when you tell a Narcissist "That sounds like a Personal problem keep it to your self" they flip out it works every time
Oh la la.
Not looking for him, but I'm keeping what you wrote in my pocket.
Already nuts when ignored...😉
@@prunelle9051 Say it like Lumpy Princess from the Cartoon Adventure Time with a Valley Girl "Gag me with a spoon" response and the 2nd best is " What on Gods Green Earth makes you think Anyone would ever want to "TALK ABOUT" or "ASK" or Hang out with You? LOL watch them go Super Nova
@@prunelle9051 and I DON"T CARE works
@@michaeltotman1411 Michael, I need courses. I'm avoiding him at any cost to... protect him ? It is as if I was holding him in my hand. Did a triple whammy of empath grenades without a word in his face a couple of months ago. His life is already in shambles. It is his year.
I just hope for him not to cross my path.
@@michaeltotman1411 and...my son and I have practiced so many scenarios (ending up laughing hysterically) I just can't face him 😆.
I can't believe I fell for the village idiot. 🤦🏻♀ Met at a coffee shop, 2 years of grooming, 2 months texts. Very abusive, extremely dysregulated. I disappeared without notice and unexpectedly. Got the everything else, stalking, spam calls, friendship requests and all.
The echo's are not good.
Apparently it's been going on for 27 years in town. He always lived here. Population : 23 000.
Oh well.
I was married to a Narcissist for 19 years of pure hell , been divorced now for 10 peaceful years , never going back into that situation
You did the right thing. You are freed from slavery.
Damn dude why stay 19 years ? I rolled out after a year.
@@rickscott6127 she slowly progressed into a Narcissist it was like quick sand , hind sight is 20/20 . I wish I would have left sooner for sure
@@gregthompson9434 Well, at least you eventually rolled out. Now moving forward you know what to look for, the signs and traits in perspective female partners. I have to give you credit for not hurting her esp after 19 years bc they love to push buttons that piss you off. They're the kind of ppl that wind up getting hurt if hooked up w the wrong dude.
How do they become a Narcissist to begin with?
I've got an idea but can someone give me their thoughts
1-Make them accountable /responsible
2- Deny imediate gratification /pleasure
3 -Shame then , call them innadequate about something
4- Ping theirs insecurities
5- Not explain , not argue about anything
6- Imply that they need professional help
7-Setting boundaries
8- Implicate that they are losing power or influence in the relationship
9-Leaving then
10- Having they deficits publically exposed
Facts.
This ^
If you are dealing with a female narcissist, doing any if these things will get you fired from your job and/or thrown into jail! Just saying... be careful!
@@crownedunhol thanks
That is fucking hilarious LMAO but it also seems kind of mean to do this doesn’t it?
I have been in a 23 year relationship with a narcissist. I am an empath and it took years for me to FINALLY realize it is hopeless.
Leave. Please .teach them a lesson
Julia, same here!
I’m in the same boat
Me Too
My narcissist ex husband actually had a post on Facebook that said,"The only red flag about me is that I'm to good to be true." If that's not a narcissist I don't know what is.
ironically, that was indeed a red flag
Right😂 Felt like I musta missed something the 15 years we were together. Lol. 15 years of hell.
@@susanluffy well im sorry that you went through that. Im glad you were able to get out of it, though.
@@sillyking1991 Well thank you kind sir! My life definitely has happiness now.
@@susanluffy of course :)
Narcissists never admit when they are wrong! I was married to one for almost 8 yrs and he never changed, apologized or acknowledged his wrongdoings.
Mine would pick fights with me near a holiday or my birthday so spouse would not have to buy me gifts or even acknowledge that day!
I'm in the same boat. 7yrs now. Can't wait to see an exit route. I'm so depressed and unhappy. Only God knows how I get through each day.
He told me “ I’m the only one that can hurt you”... I knew then.. it’s time to discard this loser!!
What makes these people believe that We actually need them and that they aren't readily replaceable by much better quality morals and values people? A poisonous snake would make a better truer friend
No, anyone can hurt him
Sounds like he was bailing you.
Do not talk to them. They don’t hear you. Do not listen to them. They will always blame you or others. Do not compromise. They will expect you to, but they will not. Walk away. Do not look back. Stay away. Stay strong in yourself and with those who truly care. Do not ever think they have changed. They cannot and will not and don’t want to.
I married a women that was a narcissist. You definitely have to leave them, no matter what they try to tell you. She definitely told everyone that she divorced me though I divorced her. Remember as I sent her the papers, she had to constantly tell me that no one will ever want to be with me…yeah. She’s been divorced 4 times.
Her being divorced 3 times should have been a red flag for you my brother; hopefully now your single and happy!
I think you and my hubby must have been married to the same person.
She divorced you. She had to take the papers to you. You added an extra divorce for her cuz you were actually the one now divorced four times… lmao
Ohhh hellllll Nawwwww 4 Time's she's definitely the problem
@@mrruffles7849 I agree, anybody who has been married that many times obviously has issues. One she's very insecure and can't be alone. Most people if they're smart learn after the first bad marriage, and are careful so they don't keep making bad relationship choices. Definitely should've been a huge red flag. Somebody is NOT better than nobody. It only makes you look insecure.
Love it when narcissists lose. Narcissists lose their minds when they lose control of you or anything else. They have small minds that cannot adjust to a world that is much bigger than them that they cannot control.
How do they become a Narcissist to begin with?
I've got an idea but can someone give me your thoughts?
AGREE. Been married to one for 41 years
Get to know their parents and that'll explain it. They always either have 1 narcissistic single parent, with the victim parent discarded as a "Deadbeat" "Scumbag" " egg donor" sperm donor" etc or 2 parents together...one narcissist and the other being the doormat. The very rare 2 narc parent household can only be handled if both parents have considerable financial means.
Often kids are well taken care of at a superficial level by narc parent. Money based parenting, yet with complete alienation of actual affection. So, their nervous system just develops accordingly.
@@LizardCrypto not sure I agree. I absolutely adored my mother and father in law. They both said I was not their daughter in law, I was their daughter, and treated me as such. He Academy grad for Navy and was flight deck officer running BILLIONS of bucks of air craft. #ASSHOLENARCEGO
I hate how people talk about them like animals but no-one has cures
I enjoy playing with narcs' ego and insecurities, and they are so predictable. My favorite action is not giving them any attention and also giving someone else (whom the narc dislikes) all the attention in that narc's presence. Works wonders!
Ha ha.... love it!
:)))))
Interesting to post that. Sounds like you enjoy hurting someone for sport. Kind of unhealthy and vaguely narcissistic in and of itself.
@@VeVeJT23 So my comment pricked you because it reminded you of one of your sources overpowering your narcissistic behavior. 🤣
If he or she is ur spouse, they take revenge 😱
Just like has already been said in this comment section: ignore them. Don't talk them back when they talk to you, not even if it's just a hello; act as if they've never existed, never refer to them when they are present, don't look at them, nothing; and avoid them completely, don't go near them, don't cross paths with them on the streets, never sit near them, and, if they sit near you, get up and leave. It does work and you'll feel a lot better (and, in turn, they'll feel a lot worse, but that's just secondary).
I'm a professional at deflecting narcissist now. I realize I always attract them . People love to try to control me, but I'm very strong willed and despise it. Especially my friend. He's so use to his tactics but plays dumb. The more I resist and ignore his games the more he tries , it's to the point that he'll eventually give in. I love it, but hate it because it's such a waste of time being so petty, childish and stubborn for a grown man older than me. He fits every level of a narcissist. I'm glad I have validation to point out my natural intuition and wisdom.
I don’t deal with people like that!!! Cause I would be locked up lol 😂 my reflexes works funny
Wowww o
@@victorious1929 Hahahahhahaa
With great power comes great responsibility
@@isawallamaat711 lucky i don't have any power :)
Damn.. this is sooooooo on point... I’ve been dealing with this for years... it’s a nightmare... 🥺
❤️
I wish you love and happiness in your life. You’re worth it to be a independent and strong person. Be your own friend, and give yourself a whole lot of love. It helped me to heal from narcissistic abuse all my life.
I will pray for you Kim. Please, do your best to find a way out without telling him or anyone else except for those included in your plan. He will set out to destroy you by going to your closest friends first with made up evidence and will work from there. I've been paying for over 40+ years because they do NOT forget!! I'm serious here. God Bless you. I should add that you are only property in his eyes - nothing more.
@@micheldiab5553 Great advice. Like my Doctor said self compassion goes a long way. It helped me so much also. I wish everybody a happy and peaceful life.💕🙂
Me 20 years
Just left the narc that was in my life for 4 years. Took a major toll on me.. Emotionally and Health wise. It is something I will never put myself through again. I remember one time on FB a guy had called him an idiot under a post my narc commented on. He went to that guys profile and this guy turned out to live in the same town we live in. And he also had his work place posted (big mistake). Well he went to the guys work to confront him. I could not believe it. But it was because this guy called him an idiot on a public forum. His Ego was Bruised. If I ever said anything to him about how he was treating me.. Well I got called a b*tch, crazy, I needed therapy etc. Got talked about badly to his friends behind my back. Over heard him on the phone 4 times embellishing what happened between us when we had a fight. He talked badly about everyone behind their backs then mr charming to their face. Everyone needs to be aware of who you get involved with. If you see red flags in the beginning which I did.. And chose to ignore. Do not do that.. Run and run as far away from the person as possible. They will emotionally destroy you.
I'm slowly coming back from the dark place mine left me in ... Without explanation no less .. I still to this day do NOT know why he just got ghost.... Kuz I know 4 a FACT I don't do anything wrong 2 him... I'll love him from a distance... But can't continue 2 put up with the shenanigans anymore
Same here. Mine would get on the phone the minute I left for work and tell all my family and friends how awful I was. People started asking me to tell him to stop. And of course so much more. Don't get me started on the gas lighting.
@@annabelleskreation2760 I understand. I heard a quote- "If they ghosted you, its better to leave the dead alone"
THANK GOD you got out, they are pathetic cowards and dangerous bullies was married for 28yrs to one and THANK God am FREE, was extremely difficult but grateful to have a life bk, please stay out n mind yourself.
@@brightsky5586 Yep! Consider Yourself LUCKY 😉 SERIOUSLY!!! They Do Leave If You Not As Easy To Fool or If EASY!
Ignore them completely.
I know someone who's a bit of a narcissist. He tried to make a joke at my expense so I called him short. He brought this up to everyone including his girlfriend on the phone for about two months over the fact that I called him short. Fun times.
I called a narcissist who said I liked him a dwarf and he is still stalking me. A girlfriend told me he has short man syndrome. He needs to learn that not everyone will like him. He needs to grow up. It is hell being a narcissist when the world does not think you are that great. He will always be angry therefore. He is already getting his pay back therefore.
@@ganymeade5151 'It's hell being a narcissist when the world does not think you are that great.'
Never said better!
Yep. They will come after you, but the second you say something back, assertively - they will make you out to be the bad guy.
Problem is, the good ones will convince other people that YOU were the NPD insulting THEM (while only telling a half truth - not explaining they were the a**hole to begin with over and over, and you just eventually gave them a tase of their own behavior)
Good ones will convince others, you were the bad guy. And they know how to do it. Or bare minimum, convince people “you’re both at fault”, that feels like a win for them if nothing else. And then when you won’t admit to “half the blame” (if you aren’t half to blame)... YOU WILL REALLY LOOK LIKE THE BAD ONE.
When in reality, admitting to things that aren’t your responsibility, only provoke the Narcs behavior even more.
You will not win.
Remember, they do NOT forget those who have 'wronged' them and will eventually devise a plan to get back at you. I know. I've been fighting for 40+ years! It's ridiculous! I was not a spouse - I was property and had no right to leave! Good grief. It's a dangerous world anymore.
@@BB-fo5mr Well, then if there's no winning...who cares? Better to lose everyone and get some peace of mind than to stick around a narcissist and let them destroy you while everyone watches
It doesn´t take much to make narcissists lose their minds, getting angry about them is enough, because obey is what they want from others.
It's a spiritual battle they lack consciousness......big time......boundaries.....protect your energy
Eventually,they DO distroy themselves!!!!!!
"Don't provoke them"... What about all that they've done to provoke me?
Exactly.
Provoke them they deserve to be called out and shamed
Its a trap.
@@CH-sl1ug only if you allow it to be.
One Love It's horrendous what they do to people and I'm generally an empathetic person, yet I'm getting to the stage where I absolutely despise them! It's best to say that I hate the behaviour, not the person though.
I spotted a highly narcissistic so-called friend in the city where I live on Saturday night, then literally RAN away, due to the fact that he criticises everything I say and do, which I've experienced throughout my life. It's definitely a case of...with friends like that, who needs enemies?
I still know quite a few people who put me down etc, including family members and "friends" on Facebook, so I'm planning to gradually stop contact with every single one of them. ❤
In the case of social media (if you're on it), don't engage, just mute and block. Let them scream into the void.
And block, unfriend mutual friends
A narcissist is BORN defective. I was raised under similar circumstances.
I became empathetic as a result.
If anything those with narcissistic tendencies manipulate from EARLY on to have everyone feel SORRY for them...do so at your peril !
I do NOT believe they can be helped. They learn new ways to manipulate quickly & with ease. They'll find new targets. Learn to Spot one & avoid.
I think im a narcissist. I haven’t been diagnosed with it yet, but i show clear signs. So im planning to see a therapist about it. If I’m one I truly hope I can change. I dont wanna give up hope. I really really dont want to be this selfish entitled guy who thinks he’s smarter than everybody else anymore.
@@zaziorambero1179 The first and hardest step is recognition, and that's amazing you want to find out for yourself! A lot of people condemn others immediately with this mental illness, and it is very destructive if not treated, but I feel for those who simply do not know any better. We are all quick to punish, but not help.
I had one in my life I had to cut all ties with, so this isn't said without painful personal experience with someone who refused to change. I hope you continue working with professionals and find greater peace! You're already doing amazing!
I remember seeing a therapist upon my breakdown after I left that terrible relationship and the therapist told me that all of the ocean could not fill the pit of the spouse's great insecurities.
My love and appreciation doesnt go to my abuser. It all goes to Dr Ramini. U r my friend. U r my comfort. I am no longer barking at the wrong tree. I sleep soundly under dr ramini umbrella of honesty and support. Thank god universe i have not spent my whole life blinded by psychotic mother. Lets heal with my new friends. Dr. Ramani and all of you advocates against the narcissistic human nature.
Madison, i pray for you in the name of god/creator/and jesus christ that you will heal, stand on your own two feet, Be loved by all who surround you in this new chapter, and in general will get to know what love is through god. I love you sister on earth ♡ amen
Dr Ramani have saved so many people from the Nacs 🙏🏻
U r? Still using that BlackBerry? Idiot
I looked in my local shop for a doctor ramini umbrella but they didn't sell it 🙁
I'm so sorry however!
Insightful video. If you feel you're involved with this, keep quiet, get them out your life asap and go no contact. Stay strong.
Anything to make a narc self-implode. I loved seeing bun man pound the wall.
I keep bumping into these types but I’m eradicating them faster and faster as soon as I see the first red flag they’re out of my circle.
Yes, it's for the best. Difficult if you've never met one before but once you have the experience of being around a narc, then you can see them a mile off. Run....
This video made me realize I recently caused a ton of inadvertent narcissistic injury to the narc in my life without doing much other than enforce basic boundaries. He's furious with me and keeps saying "we're going to work things out once I calm down" even though I repeatedly tell him I have no interest in working things out. It's kind of pathetic.
Also sounds like a stalker too.
Hate these types of people, they're the school bully that never caught called out on they're behaviour...
Exactly.
I'm a narcissist I was first diagnosed at 21 , and my family does not put up that excuse at all.. you need strong minded people around you to call you out on your Bs..
Dont forget just straight up ignoring their existence. I did this and it worked. Which is why our supervisor threatened me with disciplinary action. It's hard to do these things if they are popular because then you seem like the bad guy.
Hive mind enablers who are almost always just exactly like them.
well, narcissists are also charismatic which makes them more believable than the others aside from being manipulative, I've been there
God I understand this one it’s like I wish others could see this person isn’t what you think they are.
I love that someone can hurt you, mentally or they don't put their all in the relationship like you would like them to like you do for them and when you've finally had enough and you remind them it's not ok and they still do not get it and will argue with you because they feel they did nothing wrong so an argument breaks out and you begin to raise your voice and then they start to have an attitude and begin to start saying all kinds of mean things to you instead of realizing they're wrong or they continue to fight you trying to justify the things they do when all you're doing is trying to make them understand it hurts you. You get called a narcissist for being angry and pretty much going crazy at that point all for defending yourself or you cry trying to get thru to them. It's not fair because you try n try n try to over look a bunch but hurt is hurt and when you finally have enough you gotta make sure they know it's wrong to put u thru that. Im not perfect I know I can be stubborn most times but I can admit when my mistakes are too much and say sorry for it but it's never like that with the person I'm with. It's always. It's you, you have issues. I did this because I didn't wanna hurt u so I didn't tell u. That or your attention is constantly on your phone and you never give me eye contact when speaking about important things especially about our relationship. They don't wanna try some understanding with you even..but you're the narcissist. Makes no sense. It's not easy to walk away like everyone will try to tell you when you're in love with that person. You feel they will change and do better because they have their good moments too. It's not easy to walk away.
Sorry to unload here like this, guess I needed to get this off my chest. Sometimes it's good TH-cam is around because comments from others is always so helpful. It feels good to get others opinions on things you're facing.
You’re not crazy!!! From my experience … Their main talent is manipulation!!! They turn stuff back on you instead of taking responsibility for their actions… you end up apologizing just to have peace… they do wrong to you and you end up apologizing.. smh… they will go from hot to cold real quick… one minute they say they love you and the next minute they say they hate you… BELIEVE EVERYTHING THEY SAY WHILE ANGRY!!! Being nice for a few days keep you in the relationship because “they have potential” when they really don’t!! If someone is not making you feel valued LEAVE THEM! It’s not going to get better only worse! They will literally be mad at you because you love them.. seriously!
"you begin to raise your voice" because "to make them understand it hurts you" and you then are creating negativity instead of accepting people will never meet your expectations and idea of how they should think about U love and ultimately how they feel inside... Just Show them Love and Hope, if they love you they will realize they are having a negative impact on you and try there best not too next time..
Its hard to accept they might never feel love, and feel the same, because its there experience and there ability to be loving, joyful and just so happy at the core. We can never no, so be positive and the one who is a example /proof or that is Real Love.
Spot on!!!!
EXACTLY!!! oh my fucking god
This is the right place to unload because we know where you're coming from.☺️
Setting boundaries doesn't work with them. Neither does calling them out. They can talk their way out of it everytime with their charm
Yes, they have the charm of the serpent in Eden.
I feel this might be me and I’m hoping it’s not but just in case what steps should I make to avoid fully becoming like this? I’m seeing comments saying they never change ect what should I do?
Yep! Narcs always get triggered by me for some reason. Even more so when you throw out what they do to you back in their faces. I stood up to another one once and decided to give them the silent treatment back, instead of trying to get back on their side. They ended up deleting and blocking me because they couldn't handle getting a taste of their own medicine.
You are great. Thanks.
I had this job and the boss picked this new women to be the boss when he was not around. well she did not like me, I think she picked me because she was as heavy as I am and every one else was lighter. well one day she started in with me just because she was the big-shot in her mind. she said some stupid stuff to me and I told her that "she was crazy", she shut right up. she was steaming and she was so mad she didn't know what to say. she came back with the only thing she could think of, LOL she said the something I said "you are crazy". I came back with> "a real good come back you have there copying what I said" she was so ballistic she couldn't think, couldn't talk. she just watched me walk away. the next day I quit. I told the real boss I would not work with her.
I had another job where the new boss fired me for making a $0.12 mistake (12 pennies). 2 weeks later she was fired for steeling money,,,, go figure.
She was projecting 🤔
How do they become a Narcissist to begin with?
I've got an idea but can someone give me their thoughts
@@andyz3925 for the most part I would say from being mistreated from a young age.
My father is a bad narc. He raised me to be his narc supply. I became an adult with no skills. Everything I wanted to learn, he would make me give up. I don't even have a driver's license. For a long time I tough I was a failure as a person like he said. That I was better off dead somewhere. But eventually, I decided to leave him and live or die by my own. It was hard, he screamed and got violent and made everything he could to not allow me to leave. But I did... and although it's hard, I don't regret at all. Leave them. They only destroy.
Good for you. Your comment gave me inspiration. Thank you and I wish you all the blessings this life has to offer. Suffering will make us stronger. Pain has a purpose. You will seek your true potential and find peace. You deserve it......stranger. Love life and love yourself always!
Send my love to you. I've been through the same. They are everywhere
You got out of a bad situation, they try to keep you under their thumb. That’s why he didn’t want you to have a license. They use the disguise of caring about you to keep you down. Much luck to you in your future.
My father is also like this smfh
D.K.Y. Good on u for being so brave. I hope ur life is wonderful now.no one deserves to suffer that way from someone who is supposed to love u unconditionaly. Take care and good luck with the future ❤
i always look at myself and think im a narcissist and it worries me and causes me anxiety but im not one. the fact i care so much supposedly means im not one 9 times out of 10 please pray for me folks as i continue to decrease my narcissistic traits and try to improve myself. i struggle with thinking im a horrible person and i openly admit it. and i think i try my best to be a good person i could be wrong though, maybe im not trying my best. but to those reading this and struggling God is with you and you will make it through this bro. bro is referring to anyone and anyone btw.
Do you have Actual empathy? That’s how I knew I wasn’t One even though I have some narc traits (we all do) .. I think my best friend is one.. she treats me like complete shit even though I try constantly to just be a good friend to her.. it’s awful... I mean I’m not a saint but I don’t treat anyone as horrible as she treats me...
Anyway, Be kind & don’t take people for granted or treat them like shit. It’s good that you recognize your faults.. just fix them & do better. It’ll be okay
You have to go easier on yourself. I believe we are always doing our best at all times, it's just that we might have some subconscious programming that negatively affects our actions. Narcs typically wont ever wonder if they are narcs, because they often believe they are perfect and everyone else is wrong.
You're not a narcissist
I think the fact that you actually CARE if you’re a narc and want to IMPROVE yourself is proof that you’re not high on the spectrum. Because all the narcs I know, are well aware of the behaviors and they do NOT care at all and often justify themselves and enjoy tormenting and destroying others.
I guess sometimes it is because of 'Narc. Training' - which can be unconcious - from a Caregiver in our early childhood. I am presently re-parenting my Husband because of his parents abuses and manipulations which spilled over onto me. Someone once said, 'It can take a lifetime of concentration - to not turn out like one's parents.' !?!? ;)))
Sending one insane is easy . Dealing with them is something else !
When the individual exhibiting narcissistic behaviors also has the power to terminate your employment...and shut down your workplace with a single phone call...
I recall an employer who decided to can me because when he brought up a subject about the Renaissance, he completely destroyed why it happened. So, being a truthful type and not wanting people to misunderstand, I corrected him. BAD move! Within two weeks I gave my notice because I knew what was coming. Beat him at that too!
In a horrible argument with my narcissistic sibling, I told her everything she didn’t want to hear about her negative characteristics. One of the things she didn’t like hearing is that she’s unpleasant to live with, arrogant and entitled. I’ve since blocked her from contacting me.
Dr. Ramani. Sometimes the house and everything in it belongs to the victim, and the narcissist moves in on them, and then takes over, and won't leave. I got mine to leave , but the amount of resistance, and outright, barefaced hatred of him, and amazing "gaslighting " of him was unbelievable, bit he did leave of his own free will. I even got a lock and bolt on my bedroom door against him for 2 years. No cooking for him, no washing for him (it was always wrong anyway). No way was I ever going to leave MY HOUSE.
I'm narcissistic, and when I was younger people used to ignore me all the time. Eventually I learned that talking all the time wasn't a good thing and associated when I should talk with my identity. It's still hard sitting and hearing other people receive compliments around you, it's just this little annoying voice in your head perpetually telling me 'that should be you' and 'how come they never acknowledge my efforts'.
Good for you, self aware is a super power , it will bring more good to you other in the long run. I am in a relationship with a narcissistic who I love but is hell I feel break in pieces.
My best wishes for you
Chase ..it must be so hellish to be so self involved. I was a drinking alcoholic for most of my life and most of my attitude and behaviour was self centred and selfish ...I hurt so so many people and felt so disconnected from any real lovingness. I felt useless too. Now I been sober and in a 12 step program I have been able to get free of being a selfish fearful bugger and life n relationships are so beautiful 💞 find a therapy or something that works for you, my experience is that life's so pointless when you're an untreated asshole 🎁
Chase ...you CAN change. Everyone has suffering In life it's part of the human condition. Rise up and start by owning the pain and taking action! ✨
I ain’t bowing for anyone I dealt with a major narcissist and a lesson learned from now on it will never get past me again. And 100 percent not my kind of ppl and I can pick one out not a prob
I thought that too but some are covert and can trick even the most wary. I have been a magnet for them (in relationships and with female friends) and one of the biggest flags is someone who is very friendly, who says something negative about someone else and then says you're different - whether it's fun, interesting, intelligent, caring, trustworthy...etc. It's a way to begin reeling you in to believe that you have a special bond with them.
I don’t think it’s always like that dude..
Bravo. You are freed from emotional slavery.
either you call someone a narcissist or you are one, or any negative label you put on someone or on yourself, understand that the source of this is a childhood trauma, and that behavior comes from a suffering. That person is not mean cause is harmony inside of him. Because deep down the inner child is hurt. Understanding the avatar, the Ego is just a mental construct and who you truly are can be felt in silence, deep silence. Go deeper the thinking. There is your true nature. Be patient, be conscious of body, breath, feelings. Be blessed !
Oh please. Let them destroy your life then tell me how much love you feel towards them.
One of the best summaries of this I've seen -- thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it Jeff!
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I had a hard time cutting off my narcissistic family member because I'm a Christian. I struggled for years because I just wanted to be accepting and loving. Things got so bad that my mental health was greatly affected. I just couldn't do it any longer. Then tge blow-up happened and I was able to stand up and say all tge hurt I've been carrying. We both decided to end tge relationship. It's funny because the next Sundsy at Church the Pastor spoke on this saying ties need to be cut with relationships that are dragging you down and destroying your life. I felt free. Even though I will always love this person I know they are not my friend and I will never want her in my life again. That is unless she changes and respects my boundaries. I have no illusions about that
Just cut of my narcissist guy I started to see he was a narcissist, he doesn’t take responsibility for he’s actions that caused me to get upset he called me crazy, he will go ghost after leave me in the dark without explanation. Manipulative asf.
Ruunnnnn girl
It’s so so heartbreaking when they do this without a care in the world
@@markhook9449 oh yes it is emotionally draining but he will definitely regret it later, also we will Reap what we sow, what goes around comes around.
@@libraempress2069 totally agree. Stay strong
@@markhook9449 bless
That's really rude to anyone. Demeaning. It's rude.
Currently dealing with this in my dads girlfriend. Learning about this stuff not only helps me deal with her effectively and in a way that defends my dignity but also helps me to stop gaslighting myself or let her gaslight me successfully. Thanks for posting!
Easy to say.
It is not always ego. Most times it is having to stand up against very cruel and break-them-down cruelty to simply have to stand up for themselves. Very sad and terrible situations arise.
Originally starts with a parent's abuse.
The other parent ends up trying forever to help the victim rebuild self-esteem.
my son is 39 years old he has a lot of anger against his dad. we divorced when he was 9 years old but spent time with his dad through out the years in a different state as he got older I started seeing his anger then he started drinking and just putting me through hell as time went on he couldn't keep a job long he was always coming back home he be blaming me for everything very disrespectful to me and others he tries to control my house hold and tries to make changes that I don't want done then gets really made at me when I tell him no I don't want him to do anything cause then he thinks I owe him although he be living off of me and he is so paranoid it drives me crazy he won't leave when I tell him too so I do believe he is one.
This gives me the explanation that I desperately needed, so thank you for this x
Yes! Started really realizing the man I've been married to has all these characteristics. He had said and done horrible things to me some by actions most by words of humiliation in public and gaslighting me to make people think he's the good guy and make me look foolish and cra cra! I've learned how to or not respond there's a book in these years of abuse to really make him insecure once published and best seller- to not intentionally hurt him but tell the truth if you see these flags in a relationship run!!!!!!!!! I ignored them, didn't have a father daughter talk to teach me ,now that I think my dad had narcissistic behavior too he didn't take care of the children he made he left us! Not his problem he was a pretty boy moved on to the next victim! Smh
I pray nobody has to run into a narcissistic person because it's the worse thing I've ever went through in my life.
I cannot believe I put myself through this and I AM MORE HAPPY I WOKE UP AND WALKED AWAY HE WAS JUST GROTESQUE AND NASTY THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR CONFIRMATION 🙌🏽
Dangerous advice. I would not advise acting upon this video considering a narcissist is like to be abusive.
Yep
Narcissists will stalk people. They are delusional, demented and dangerous. Sick people.
@@ganymeade5151 yes. All of that
What do you mean by advice? He did say this video was for avoiding the things he discussed, rather than doing them.
@@CeilinggangAditya
??? As a professional working within mental health my comments are from both experience , research and training. By knowingly diverting my comment is that an act where self reflection is needed ? Advice , comments , directions, etc these we all know are much of the same thing ....maybe your comment needs to be avoided
You're telling me narcissists can feel shame? I never even thought that was possible
This summarizes what i have had to watch in numerous videos to understand what narcissism is. Really good.
Right off the bat, number 10 reminds me of my ex. He was in prison for sexually abusing my daughter and still didn’t admit fault. He said it was her fault for “coming on to him”. Starting at 5 years old! So sick
Why did u still talk to him after he did that?
@@ricorodriguez3078 I did end up going no contact after that. But at first I was in the freeze stage of fight or flight.
@@eph2vv89only1way atleast u did get away . sorry your daughter had to deal with that people who abuse children need to be executed
@@ricorodriguez3078 yeah.
@@ricorodriguez3078 yes why
My ex was a classic test book narcissist. He had the shitty childhood you name it. I didn’t realize I was being gaslighted but at the end of our relationship I could see it and I also started to see the mental health issues I developed. When we broke up he bashed my name in the ground to everyone. He’s dating a new girl and he recently started contacting me behind her back which kind of validates a lot of the fights he and I had cause I didn’t trust him. Well now look at him. I will admit I too have traits of narcissism which didn’t help. We were two alphas and we butted heads. I claim the lack of knowledge on how to recognize and react correctly to him in our narc fight … it wasn’t all bad we had amazing intimacy and sexual chemistry which I miss and he knows it. So now he’s dangling it like a carrot in my face.
Be strong Heather. You dont need him that bad. Cut him off!!! And live your life that you deserve!!! Praying for you
Its very hard living with a loved one who is a narcissists , the best advice is to ignore their antics and love them from a distance so to speak and try and be the mature one .
and appreciation doesnt go to my abuser. It all goes to Dr Ramini. U r my friend. U r my comfort. I am no longer barking at the wrong tree. I sleep soundly under dr ramini umbrella of honesty and support. Thank god universe i have not spent my whole life
If you call out the truth to them that's when they lose their minds 🤯🙃😱
Great video 👍ty. I'm very recently free from a toxic friendship with my neighbor. I was only attempting to help him, he's so negative and suffers some sort of mental health issues. As a empath/intuitive we are built to help others, at our own expense, unfortunately. It was my kids who made me understand that I must look after myself 1st. The constant negativity and stress he put upon me was wearing me out. I did this very gently, as I don't want to hurt him. He's now flocking to other neighbours (women only) and his process is beginning again. I feel free now. I have subscribed to ur channel as it's been really helpful for me, thanks again. ✌🇨🇦
@Mary Carroll Ugh yes. I live in a apartment building. Our doors are literally 6 strides apart, so close. He is behaving like a pathetic manchild! I had to get police assistance 3 weeks ago, as he brought violent behaviour to my door. He has a strange paranoia about the police, so at least he's been cautioned, not allowed to speak to us. No contact!!! This unfortunate experience has burned me out. At the age of 50 now, I feel so put off of others.
@Mary Carroll Knowing that God and Jesus are with my family ni is the key. During a particularly stressful moment, I began praying deeply. I heard a male voice in my head say "Don't worry, we'll walk you through this. " I know my God is stronger than his master! Stay strong and focus on your life, your happiness and these who love you.
Try to remember that the narc in your life is damaged by his/her upbringing, and deserves to be considered that way. By all means do what you must to protect yourself and live a happy life, but try not to demonize them too much. Remember that YOU have choices here.
Yes, be the better person and don't stoop down to a narcissistic level to feel superior. I thought victims don't want to feel superior, but normal? I don't understand why certain so-called "victims" have this grandiosity in them.
The world isn't so black and white and those who think it is, are the narcissists themselves projecting everyone else as narcissists.
That’s right I’m running like hell
GK2003 I'm so glad you mentioned this because genuinely empathetic people wouldn't want to intentionally play mind games, or to cause harm to others! Well, I don't like the thought of doing it anyway. I understand that people can be pushed to say or do hurtful things though, which has happened to me.
I know that I could EASILY upset narcissistic individuals if I wanted to and they have NO problem whatsoever doing it to me; however, I'd rather respond in a respectful way, or just stop contact, if possible.
I'm very aware that this is much easier said than done and saying things like "F**k off" can even be necessary at times, as it's the only thing that works with some people.
It's important to add that I've written on other videos that it's no wonder so many people end up highly narcissistic, due to the extreme trauma, including physical and sexual abuse, most experienced as children! I had a horrendous childhood and there are reasons why children develop different maladaptive coping mechanisms in order to SURVIVE their hellish existence. I've also noticed that a lot of people don't seem to realise that being at the other end of the spectrum isn't healthy either. ❤
Why is it they can shame us 24/7, but boy oh boy we better watch our words. Omg I dont miss that crap!! Good riddence you short angry man!!
It’s a pretty well known symptom called entitlement, thought you would’ve known as its basic
@@juicewrld7065 its abuse, which is not entitlement. I just dont understand a person who can abuse someone who is only loving and kind to them. I'm a normie I guess.
@@cynthiafortier2540 it’s because they are over sensitive to criticism and see things that maybe weren’t even meant to be criticism as criticism so they are constantly trying to get the person back, because in their eyes the person deserves it
@@juicewrld7065 Your so right, they are soooooo sensitive, buy my fact is I never criticized, always being sooooo careful not to offend, and still got raged at. He taught me the most valuable lesson of my life. DONT ENGAGE WITH THESE PEOPLE. Took me awhile to see he wanted to destroy me, and almost did. I am grateful for the lesson!!
@@cynthiafortier2540 even wording something wrong like saying they love something when they only like something can be a problem because loving something is seen as a girls thing so even if they do love it, like is the only appropriate word
Ngl it can be quite satisfying and rewarding to play with someone who has messed with your head for so long especially after seeing how they react to it. Just remember stay humble it’s definitely hard to do with all the pain and the trauma but two wrongs don’t make a right and we are no better than them by doing that. We can still stand for ourselves without having to patronize others regardless of what they have done. Be the light guys :)
Perfectly fits my ex partner....thankyou for confirming everything thing I went through....makes me feel so much better for ending my 11yr relationship!
Dang you really gotta have some low iq if it took you 11 years to figure out what can be figured out after the first date
@@youtubisashoe I feel you bc I would and have dumped toxic people, but you need to understand that it takes tremendous willpower to bring something that long to a close
Humans are more comfortable with going with the flow than risking the consequences of the unknown chaos of change.
Just ask a nazi camp guard or a communist soldier executing the “rich” bourgeoisie.
@@Plzcheese I guess a wolf like me can’t relate to sheep, so that behaviour is strange to me
Did it really take you 11 years?! Dude wake up
@@youtubisashoe relating to people that are not like you is how one navigates the world efficiently my friend
I’m in a narcissist relationship. I’m trying to end it and having problems. Thanks for your broadcast it’s helping
One of the most powerful messages you can send them is that they don't intimidate you anymore. Both my parents are narcissistic, my Dad overt & my Mum covert. We had a situation exactly a week ago today when my Dad made threats to expose me by showing my Aunt & cousin letters I've written him, if I didn't back down & let him just walk into my room whenever he pleases (I have no way of leaving due to my multiple chronic illnesses & a lack of affordable, safe accommodation for single people with disabilities where I live). He doesn't seem to see that I would be relieved for him to show them the letters & he would just be throwing himself under the bus. I gave him my blessing to show them the letters & his best shot to try to get me to back track was to accuse me of abusing him! I walked away. His silent treatment ended much sooner than usual & he's now trying to win me back by being pleasant to me. Little does he realise that I've had good advice to never let my guard down around him & not fall for his games.
Applies to both male and female narcissists. How to stop mental and physical abuse: leave. Make sure you live to tell and never return. There is no cure, counseling will only make them furious and gives them all the more reason to abuse you. Because you let the stranger into the relation. Because you talked to another human. Because maybe you would be better off with the counsellor...fellow victims understand these words. I'm still recovering.
I love this video 110% correct and love how the video explains the difference between normal and what is not normal behaviour. It clears the confusion.
I have never come across anyone like that until I connected with a sister-friend I hadn't seen in years. Spent three weeks with her at her home...I was scared and couldn't wait to leave! No more connection with her...very abusive, frightening. Thanks for the information!
I love playing with them. They are so shallow shaming them I.n the work place is so easy. Although I did get a warning for bullying once but it was worth it.
Absolutely beautiful!! ✨
They want feedback straight away or you see their mood Change quickly most probably because they have no friends surprise surprise, so you become their focus, and they never learn that they need to be more patient or nicer!
You have to be careful when getting into a relationship with a narcissist... I was in a serious relationship with one for 4 years. The night I broke up with them was the night they made me unsafe and tried to shift the blame onto me. It took a while to recover, but safe to say I now have 0 tolerance for anybody with this type of behavior, so much I even cut off my own narcissistic parent. It feels good to take control of your life ✨
I saved a close friend from a narcissistic woman. Was a long fight as she was very good at manipulation, but she's now gone and my friend is happier.
I’ve watched a grown man have a temper tantrum, stomping their feet in place and swinging their arms to each movement. And they deny things and when you copy their text and post it for them, I have heard “My phone changes words in talk to text and you know it.” I’m like this was a whole entire story not a few words. He said the phone did all that. 😅
Oh my god I witnessed my ex do the same tantrum stomping feet thing. He even did “nana nana poo poo” I was so taken back by that I had no words. I couldn’t believe I was watching a grown man act like a toddler. All I could do was say “WOW” with a shocked look on my face. To this day it creeps me the hell out. 🤷🏻♀️
@@Heather-ju7de it is definitely creepy to watch. He even made up he was in the Army. But no one knows. It was 10 months later when I called him out for trying to say he was given a Purple Heart. He was never in any Military Branch.
Great and deep explanation . Thank you so much
Dealing with a Narc that also has a history of hard drug use is also more challenging, kills me that this intelligent Narc can't see how he comes off....
Yeah I was feeling all of them except number one. I think no one likes to be exposed in general so tht was definitely a reach.
i have such a intense hate towards narcissists.
My mother left me and my younger brother on our own twice to be with her ex who was a really bad narcissist who tried to push me and my younger brother (mainly me) away from our mother time and time again. Only to have her social circle reduced to just him. And with her being so much in his control she was overly devoted to him too.
After 7 years of that, I barely recognized my own mother, She's burned out, Depressed and has PTSD thanks to him and recently completely collapsed due to mental stress.
Next to that, I used to have a best friend. And i rarely bind enough to a person to even consider them regular friends, So that means something.
We talked almost daily and rarely ever got into any fights, Even if we did, Fights never lasted long.
But she had this boyfriend in the background who was a narcissist and he got jealous about her talking to me. So what he did to (solve his problem) was r4p3 her, Let her have his child with no other intentions than creating yet another line between him and her so she wouldn't go anywhere. Followed by him leaving her with the child, Never paying any attention to the child. And never even helping her financially. And for some reason, She blocked me without me doing anything as i knew i couldn't do anything anyway but it was his command to block me. At first she refused but a few months later she suddenly left me a heartbreaking message and blocked me.
Last time i heard from her she claimed to have broken away from him and was now heavily Christian spamming me with weird pictures of hell and weird videos of what happens to sinners and what not. I have nothing against any religion but i'm really not going to join anything for any reason and she knew that. So there she went again. I still miss her today but she's too brainwashed to think clear. Same as with my mother, I just don't even know who she is anymore.
And last but not least, After 13-14 years of being single, I had a girl who apparently wanted to get to know me. Which was a nice surprise.
But guess what? She has this (friend) in India who treats her like shit, Calls her names, Makes her cry, Makes her feel ugly, Got her addicted to anti depression medication. And literally spies on her phone while she's living in the Netherlands.
I found out about that after only 2 days of getting to know her, And at first she seemed really happy with me until that (friend) in India started telling her to block me. She didn't want to at first but yet again, She got more and more quiet and our contact slowly faded away, Even though i knew what was going on and even though i have my past with people like that i still wanted to giver her a chance. But nope. She randomly said to me that she wanted someone who is peaceful and quiet (i am just that, Really quiet and never looking for fights and such) And she wanted her own place and be able to relax there, I never mentioned anything about me wanting to take her place, And i really don't know why i would even want that.
And now she keeps giving me bad looks, Absolutely refusing to be anywhere near me. While i never even did anything. I even stopped messaging her because i knew her phone was being looked into and to avoid her from getting yelled at by her friend again i just didn't want to be the reason for that. And the funny thing is, Shortly after she broke contact with me before she even got to know me. I get at least 3 phone calls from India per day about them wanting my bank account, Home address. And what not. Which they'll only get over my dead body.
So safe to say, Even though i have never really been a victim towards people like that, I have seen what they can do to a person.
And that made me just hate them with such in intense passion, That i would honestly love to stomp the kneecaps of every single narcissist backwards even though i'm rather weak from chemo therapy i've been biting through, Along with 2 surgeries and 1 more coming. But there is just no way that i'll ever let a narcissist walk all over me like that. No matter how physically weak i am at the moment. i'm not an object and i'm never going to be.
damn..... sorry i guess. I had to vent for a bit. A got pretty pissed just thinking about it
P.S The edit was me fixing a typo i happened to notice. But there might be others
Also. To any people out there who have fallen under the control of a narcissist. PLEASE for everything that's worth anything to anyone.
You can NOT help those people, you can NOT change them. and it's NOT WORTH YOUR OWN SANITY!
Get out before it's too late for you to turn back to a normal life.
100% spot on.
After years of dealing with people like this I have just ceased in any social interaction with them. I do not waste time on people like that. Just shun them if you see they are like that.
I was married to one of these for 11 years and for 11 years the constant berating of me went on and on. I was none of those things of which I was accused and finally could not take it any longer. I ended it over 40 years ago, but it still exists in the x's mind, because no one does that to them and gets away with it, and still work to destroy any good relationship between me and my children who have now abandoned me. I've not been allowed to see my only two grandchildren for 10 years. In my mind, it is their loss. Having said that, I keep all of them, including the x in my daily prayers and have forgiven all. I pray that one day they see the truth for what it really is and will, one day, allow me back into their lives. To the X, I was property, not a spouse. God Bless you all.
This is a good summary! Spot on!
Wow...nice video...dead on and to the point. I've known a few...especially the no taking responsibility for their actions and thriving on chaos
yes!the opposite of people pleasers!
Now this is more like it...very insightful and helpful for dealing with Narcissists.
I confronted my ex-friend who was a narcissist about everything they did that was hurtful to others and me and they completely lost it. They started screaming and crying and throwing a tantrum pretty much, and then continued to keep the "I'm better than the rest of you" thoughts and actions throughout it. It was hard to watch, but also funny in a way.
Hopefully from this experience you learned to express your issues with someone when the wrong happens instead of saving up a bunch of sick burns to really put them in their place
narc brain stop maturing when they reached age 3.
I advocate for you intentionally harming Narcissists. I've had my life destroyed THREE times by these people. They deserve no mercy, since they have nothing in the way of sympathy, empathy, or Humanity.
Mankind's only hope is that the humans out-number the Narcissists.
The biggest misconception of anyone involved with a narcissistic person is thinking I can show them the problem and they will get it. They can be better. All along the narcissist is positive they aren't the problem . And even when they do admit faults, it is just a short matter of time before they blame you for manipulation and trying to make them something they aren't. Save yourself and get away.
I wonder how many people here are also narcissistic, but can only recognize it in others. I had a lot of those qualities when I was younger and though I've improved over time with self reflection and trying to build better habits, some of those impulses remain. And it's frustrating, but it's a reality. Maybe it's a cliche, but a lot of the things we hate in others are what he hate in ourselves. Anyway, it's good to step back and really look at yourself, as painful as that can be. P.S. these 10 are a good list, I enjoyed the video.
Based off how many people looking at post to recover from these Bean's it's has to be around 95% of people with the Narcissist Trait, of all Races because I've seen all Races complaining about the same exact experience, it's hard for for normal types to even be with someone 1 in million to find a non narcissist person, they start off young in age early as childhood a learned behavior some say it's natural 🤷🏼♂️