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To the author of the story, I want to tell you what i did 15 yrs ago when I was in your situation. I joined a cooking club since I love international cooking, a gym, take vacation to many different places, I visit the Galapagos in Ecuador 3 times and this have really blow my mind and gave me a fresh new meaning to life rather than thinking and trying to fix a cynical miserable relationship which ilI was in. At that times I used to believe I was in some sort of a "Stockholm Syndrome." When I was in Argentina, Ecuador and Venezuela, I have met some relatively wonderful and very honest out going family oriented Hispanic women. All these things have truly help me to move on without any regrets of my deceitful girlfriend then and it even help to boost my self esteem once again. Do not sit by yourself in your home country thinking about her, you will spiraling in a mental breakdown and you will want to do something even more stupid than whatever you are going through. Tell yourself, "She isnt the only fish in the ocean" you can do it, you can move on, you are old enough to get pqsss this unless you are some immature person who simply love punishment.
Dude, was watching this on my tv and logged in on my phone just to say this post was amazing. I’m not into cooking at all but that’s not a bad idea. I’ve been single now about 2 years and has nothing to do with Thailand or a Thai woman. But same shit, my ex was and is and will always be a messed up woman. She put that voodoo love spell on me or something cause it’s been empty since that last call I made telling her we are done. I work from my home so not a lot of options to meet women other than online and I’m over that one night stand phase. Thanks for taking your time to write this all out. Never know who may read it and need it
Open your eyes. its not love its a toxic relation. You are not even a customer you are a victim. The more you invest the more difficult to make the cut. Throw her away and get a new one. Its easy to get over a disappointed (onesided) "love" (addiction) when another girl distracts you. you are suffering. Love should not make you suffer.
The funny part of this story is that he keeps referring to her as "his lady." The not so funny part of this story is that this guy has no clue, and most likely never will. There are hundreds of videos on YT about the same situation and likely outcome, and I'm sure this guy has seen a few of them, but I guess guys can't help but to think that "my girl is different."
I have sad news for many of these guys. Real love that results in a permanent relationship is very rare in today's times. It's rare in the west. It's rare everywherre. It becomes even more rare as men get older. If you're not in your early early 20s and in your first relationship with a girl in her first relationship, you can pretty much kiss true love goodbye. If a woman has been around the block a few times, she will have lost her ability to pair bond. Once you accept that, you can proceed with life with a different strategy and be happy. If you're in the older demographic, play but don't fall in love.
@@ubiquitousdiabolus 9 years ago I fall in love with my flatmate ( roommate ), even if I used to see her almost everyday in a common way. Things started to develop because of the way she does things. Sadly, my love dd not correspond
From my personal experience I totally agree with you. I think it is easier to find sothing "real" in the "west contries" as here women can be more independed. This is totally differen in contires like Thailand. I think the "real" feeling will not be created without being together and relying on each other.
I've been telling people that for a long long long time, "if you don't know by now that true love doesn't exist" then you will be paying for infatuated love thinking it is true love. Big men should stop acting like little children and start strengthening your emotions to deal with situations like these
@@neoduch4569I live in a big city in the west coast of the United States. And let me tell you man, the most disgusting and disgraceful, as well as disrespectful women live here. I’m a good looking dude, in great shape with abs, have a $115,000 USD car, run my own business and have no kids. And somehow that still isn’t enough for a 5/10 average girl here. Plus the marriage system is rigged and women have incentive to get divorced and take the children away cause the government makes the men pay for all that even after the divorce.
Man you are right and the thing is I definitely understand the bargirls and the situation they are in! Yes they have to feed their family and so on but does this mean you have to be pathetic and pay every girl asks for ladydrinks and braggs about another farang who payed her iPhone 14 come on!!! Watch out and let the girl come to you. Invite her to your room and tell her you don’t want to spend every day in the bars then it’s up to her. I came 3 times to the never took her home and then I took another one from the same bar who was her friend! When I was back home she asked me why I didn’t took her home. I was honoust and said I had very bad experiences with Thai girls and I watch out before I become kind of a friend because indeed their brother or cousin who picks them up are just their husbands😂
To the author: You've made the biggest and most important step, which is to recognize that you are in the throes of addiction. There are various ways to deal with a harmful addiction, but the best one in this particular instance is Cold Turkey. It's going to take a huge amount of strength, but cancel your upcoming trip. Stay at home or at a holiday destination that isn't Thailand and get your head together. Forget about the money you've already spent; if you come back and try to make it work you'll only lose more. The reason she's going in for the kill lately is that she knows she's got you hooked. Like coming off anything Cold Turkey, it's going to be tough and painful, but you'll be back in control of your life on the other side of it, and you'll be a better man for it.
Why was she not connected to me dispite taking care of the bills? Well she does not like you, and when a woman does not like you money is the compensation. I Bet her hubby is as poor as the ground but she loves him. Money can't buy me love as the beatles say! But it can buy illusions! Get out of the illiusion my man and find you real love. Best of luck bro. I feel for ya.
My best advise to anyone who is sponsoring a Thai lady is to accept that in vast majority of situations the lady has multiple sponsors and is still seeing short term customers and may also be in a relationship with a Thai man. So if you want to continue this relationship you should accept you are paying for the privilege of her being your holiday girlfriend. Sunshine is the best disinfectant so you can tell her you know the truth and negotiate a fee for her services while vacationing. Financially it would be cheaper to just hire a holiday GF every time you come or have different one every day or two but if you are so attached to her you could make an arrangement which is satisfactory to both and there is no need to lie or pretend. She will provide services you require on vacation and you will pay for them. After all when you work for an employer you provide service hot him and he pays you for it. Peace 😊
Well, this seems to happen fairly often, so you need to either accept that she's a liar and insincere and just sees you as a means to get money and be okay with that, OR tell her goodbye and move on quickly and cut all contact. I suggest the later! I hate to say this, but the longer you continue on with her the more she will expect of you and the more she will play you for a fool.
Simple response for this video. Single mother have a lot of luggage from previous relationships. I urge extreme caution dating single mothers. Its fun to play for awhile but reality will come to knock on the door in the near future.
Haha, happens in the Philippines too lol,. I had experience with a Filipina on my 1st trip in 2013 who told me she’s single. Turns out she’s married to a huge Army veteran living in the states.
This is truly disappointing that men have such low self esteem, no self respect and keep falling for the banana in the tailpipe with these women in order to have xeS.
And you know what's the most eye opening and astonishing thing about these guys. They will travel thousands of miles away to pick up these women who are semi prostitutes and will do absolutely anything for money, who has little or no education but lots of street sense. Those are the same guys who will go around saying, "Oh these women do not have high demands like western women." Sadly enough, if you bring those women to live in the big cities in an industrial first world country like the US, their demand bars will shoot up from 0 to 100... So if they think that western women are too demanding. Let them try to school a girl who was raised in the boondocks and work in a go-go bars filled with men who carry the blue pills in their wallets looking for some action.
there is absolutely no dought that this women is screwing over this guy .My advice to him is to add up all the money he has spent on her so far and work out how much fun and how many other women he could have had if he has used his common sense with that amount of money .
When you know something is wrong and you still compromise yourself over it, you create your own misery .there are so many people in this world why stick to stick to something, which is obviously wrong . I think this has also to do with self-worth and self respect which you have to find within yourself. It might be difficult to seperate because of what you feel but you need to be realistic about the situation and stop ignoring facts and lying to yourself .
If he continues to try and push into her life the husband might push a knife into him. Thai husbands are notorius for taking the money and looking the other way, but if confronted by their wife's sponsers, they lose face and get violent.
Look, she’s not your girlfriend! She’s was never your girlfriend! She will NEVER EVER be your girlfriend. It’s only your turn, IF you wait in line and pay. And as far as the "cousin” is concerned, he may very well be her cousin remember you are dealing with hillbillies. 😂😂😂
Dan just come across your channel and I watched your vlog on stay single in Thailand and you are spot on There are some exceptions though there are some good women out there you don't after meet them in a baths would take too long for me to put down but like to talk about this,tell you my story Its not like you portrayed but I know loads that have gone down this path and another even worst scam thats happening
Unfortunately that happens a lot. Met a bloke who lived in a village for 5 years till he found out who his TGF neighbour really was. Could tell you many stories about brother moving in when foreign boyfriend went away to work. They all believed this.
Fire and forget. If you are not able to do that, you shouldn’t engage with such women. It requires some mental training, but is is worth the effort, to stay healthy and happy.
When dating a girl much younger than you, likely with a shady past, you are foolish not to investigate such things. In decades in Thai I have seen so many farang in love that go bankrupt later.
Having the desire for exclusive possession of a woman leads to these complications. I think 3 days per lady during your holidays would be more exciting for most guys. You might try Latin America if you want a relationship with a girl who has traditional family values and doesn't sleep around.
If I were you I would stop all money sending 100%. You can stay in contact with her and when you visit you can still see her but only pay for her service. She doesn't love you and you are being played like a fiddle. Good luck mate 😮
Great Video Dan 😊. It's funny, even my daughter listened and said, That is Not a cousin. Pretty evident when my daughter could even tell the Deception. Keep the video's comin 👌 👏 👍. Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏
Honestly, some guys would be better investing their money in themselves and improving their self esteem rather than trying to buy a beautiful Thai chick. Go to the gym, work on your appearance, build a business, make yourself a high grade catch, then look at these farm girls and see what value they bring to your life. To the OP, work on yourself and make your own dreams come true not hers!
6 months........ says it all man it will take any bar girl well over a year before she even begins to believe you are sincere, the longer they have worked the bars the more they have been lied to and let down, every time you get hurt emotionally you close off your emotions and ability to trust, its just human nature and its why it is so difficult to make a real relationship work with a bar girl. They have spent years pretending to love customers so you get the girlfriend experience, but really cutting themselves off emotionally. It takes a long time to open themselves up emotionally to a customer which is basically what you are, just harsh reality of working in a bar guys.
host a family get together for your arrival.. early birthday party for one of the children... try and meet the "cousin" on the sly, if you know what i mean. play it cool and always be friendly. do something for the kids and get your own photos with the family and see what happens.. just my opinion. good luck mate
Sad really some people it seems like they just can’t help being a Simp and a fool for Thai women and playing their game .. My advice is work on yourself a confident man that’s in a masculine frame of mind wouldn’t have this issue and allow this sort of thing to happen to them. Been going to Thailand for 20 yrs plus had fun but never got used by anyone and I never send money to Thailand after I go home for any reason. I haven’t had any problems.
The only advice that I can give him is to only invest in both your love for her and money you give her (in whatever form) that you are prepared to walk away from. People from Western cultures find it very hard to believe that a husband will pimp out his wife, so it is understandable that they self-deny it. I have lived in Philippines for 12-15 years (Covid break) and I will give you two examples of this type of activity but for Filipina (I am sure Thai girls are the same) 1. Father drops his 18-19-year-old daughter off to a flat in my block where she spends 2-3 hours with a 70+ year old American and then her father comes and picks her up again - supporting her family = good daughter 2. Husband drops his wife off to the same American and he picks her up again 2-3 hours later - she now has his Red Horse beer money so he can be the big man and buy the beers for him and his mates = good wife Edit - The only time the husband ever got annoyed with his wife is when she once stayed longer at the American house as it was Valentines Day and the husband wanted to spend some time with his wife as he loved her.
At 4:27 your correspondent says he saw’very normal chats where she is replying to her cousins or friends’. Surely the chats are in Thai, so how does he understand them? How does he even see the chats? Can someone explain?
Hmm it seems the only problem here is your feelings, lad. You can have her stay with you when you are in Thailand, just by paying her for that service. You do not have to sponsor her for that, just make a deal for what it costs you when you are actually in Thailand and with her, with no real contact and no payments besides that. No monthly sponsorship, just payment for what happens when it happens. It does not seem that you can have her 'for yourself' while you are not in Thailand, nor does it seem that you can have her exclusively even if you lived in Thailand, as she is clearly still married. So, just tell her from now on you will pay her to be with you when you are in Thailand, and that's that. She will bark and cry and howl, perhaps, but she will likely accept it over not having that periodic income at all. Alternatively, just stop all contact, come to Thailand and be with a few other girls, and you will soon be cured of your amourous feelings for her. The best cure for a lovesick heart is other girls, you know ;)
What I don’t understand is how these stupid farangs expect a bargirl to be faithful 😂😂😂after all , she met the farang in a bar where the girls sell their bodies for a living. therefore, is it unreasonable for her to think the guy has in the past had several hook ups with other girls and will continue to do so in the future? this is a classic case of the pot calling the kettle black. 😂😂😂
My friend told me all these examples , i didnt believe him. Hes married with thai woman and do not live in there. 2 more of my friends have thai wives with kids, still married live in europe. All as happy as you can be in marriage... One of my co workers are one of the guys who are constantly "milked" . Best story was that the girl was striked by lightning and needed 500 e for hospital. We laughed at him , but he still send the money.....By the way, You may change to Locals with your channel, no sensorship shit. You soud like Colin Mc Rae to me,. R.I.P. Are you from Scotland?
I truly think you should go to Thailand there is millions of these beautiful women there and break the attachment you have before to even more. I don't wanna see you get hurt. Taking advantage of are costs. Stupid amounts of money. Think about it. There's lots of them there. They will all be happy to be with you
The fact is she can't be trusted and you for what ever reason are ignoring all the red flags. To continue with the relationship, if thats what it is, wake up man it's a stitch up.
Hi Dan,have a personell question for you.I don’t believe your wife and her familly would agree with your content unless they were piggy backing off your content in your U tube bloggs and enjoying the U tube money?be honest!you may be the biggest victim on your own channel?your a good man Dan,love your Chanel.
Hi team and I do feel sorry for this guy but as per most of Dan's stories this would not be uncommon and if the author doesn't accept the situation then he must move on for his own sake. Some good ideas of how to get get rid or distract from his addiction are mentioned below. My recommendation would be to simply find another as there are heaps out there... doesn't guarantee that he will not fall for the same thing again but he will be a lot wiser.
Sadly, all standard lies from a Bar girl. You can openly see daily their husbands ( cousins 😅 ) delivering them on motorbike to the entertainment zones or bar for them to ply their trade and see how much money they can extract from the customers and even launch into a slow burn money extraction, sometimes over many year's and the husband of course is happy with thus, as his lifestyle is also enhanced through the scheme. Come on guys!!! Use the system for 1 night of fun and never do the 2nd date thing, or you could be the next one sending a story to Dan🙏🙏
What is the purpose of sending her £500 if he is not going to meet her again? It would be much better to treat himself a good dinner in a nice restaurant😉
@@itsbrilliant-bt8sv Sorry man, with all them simps showering Thai girls with money I never know whether a man is sarcastic 😂 Every time I hear these stories about an older guy getting fleeced big time by an uneducated Thai girl barely speaking English I am shocked: what do they smoke to get THAT stupid 😵💫?
As long as you are emotionally attached to this girl, your misery will continue. :( The fact that you recognize there is a problem with her is the first step in the right direction to resolve it. However, listening to your story, it appears your willing to make more mistakes to a girl that will never love you is troubling. Instead of giving that girl anymore money, I would seek professional psychiatric help. You and you alone have to make the conscious decision to break free from her, or she will ruin your life even more! Good luck! :)
he is in a situation that only he can remove himself from ! first get in a stable relationship in your home country. second do not waste your money on travel to other countries . third stop the money flow no matter the reason she may offer.[ do not be her rescuer this is one of your weak spots, she is raised up in a culture that obviously from the day of her birth looks and raises her in the mind set that she is a finical resource. starting with family and being added to with a boyfriend / husband that is willing to share her for monetary gain for themselves. stop the money and you will then start getting pleas for finical help with all sorts of reasons, when these do not work the anger and threats will begin. the situation you are in is one that you help create. you like with any other addiction are the only one that can win over this addiction. yes it will not be easy and will be a emotional / mental challenge for a long time,the first few months will be the worse- getting less as you stay your course to a healthy self and relationships. best of wishes for you in this journey through life.
“Relationship” - not sure if he understands the meaning of the word. The woman doesn’t message him, video call him or even Facebook friend him, talks about her ‘traps’ and ‘tricks’ yet he loves and trusts her as well as gives her ££££££🤔🫣😵💫
These women are absolutely heartless it's bred into them .stay well away from them if you get stung tough there's enough videos and guys like Dan here on TH-cam who are warning of the potential dangers of these bar/freelance snakes .
Guys, if you want to meet a nice Thai woman, stay away from the bars. Money here is king. Don’t flash your money around, don’t be stupid. However, there’s nothing wrong with you showing off with girls of the night and having a good time. I’ve done it !
My Filipina wife cheated on me. I'm getting an annulment from her. I found out that she been dating a man for 4 years. And we where only married 5 years. It's foolish to trust anyone.
i hate to say it but your relationship is a scam and she is just using you for money. you are best cutting her off and to help just go to pattaya and meet other girls just for fun
The writer of this email says that he checks all his girlfriend’s interactions with her relatives and ‘cousin’ online, but surely they are all in Thai so he doesn’t know what they are saying or even who she is talking to. It is highly unlikely that your correspondent can read Thai, so this story seems very suspicious to me. Did I miss something?
Well, as for Facebook, if she didn’t make her friends and comments, private, you just go in to posts and start reading, and translate with Google translate
@@malin5468 believe me I did that with my Thai girlfriend found out lots of stuff. And if they catch on and block you well then you know something is going on.
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To the author of the story, I want to tell you what i did 15 yrs ago when I was in your situation. I joined a cooking club since I love international cooking, a gym, take vacation to many different places, I visit the Galapagos in Ecuador 3 times and this have really blow my mind and gave me a fresh new meaning to life rather than thinking and trying to fix a cynical miserable relationship which ilI was in. At that times I used to believe I was in some sort of a "Stockholm Syndrome." When I was in Argentina, Ecuador and Venezuela, I have met some relatively wonderful and very honest out going family oriented Hispanic women. All these things have truly help me to move on without any regrets of my deceitful girlfriend then and it even help to boost my self esteem once again. Do not sit by yourself in your home country thinking about her, you will spiraling in a mental breakdown and you will want to do something even more stupid than whatever you are going through. Tell yourself, "She isnt the only fish in the ocean" you can do it, you can move on, you are old enough to get pqsss this unless you are some immature person who simply love punishment.
Dude, was watching this on my tv and logged in on my phone just to say this post was amazing. I’m not into cooking at all but that’s not a bad idea. I’ve been single now about 2 years and has nothing to do with Thailand or a Thai woman. But same shit, my ex was and is and will always be a messed up woman. She put that voodoo love spell on me or something cause it’s been empty since that last call I made telling her we are done. I work from my home so not a lot of options to meet women other than online and I’m over that one night stand phase. Thanks for taking your time to write this all out. Never know who may read it and need it
Open your eyes. its not love its a toxic relation. You are not even a customer you are a victim. The more you invest the more difficult to make the cut. Throw her away and get a new one. Its easy to get over a disappointed (onesided) "love" (addiction) when another girl distracts you.
you are suffering. Love should not make you suffer.
Well said my friend
"Love", lol
The funny part of this story is that he keeps referring to her as "his lady." The not so funny part of this story is that this guy has no clue, and most likely never will. There are hundreds of videos on YT about the same situation and likely outcome, and I'm sure this guy has seen a few of them, but I guess guys can't help but to think that "my girl is different."
I have sad news for many of these guys. Real love that results in a permanent relationship is very rare in today's times. It's rare in the west. It's rare everywherre. It becomes even more rare as men get older. If you're not in your early early 20s and in your first relationship with a girl in her first relationship, you can pretty much kiss true love goodbye. If a woman has been around the block a few times, she will have lost her ability to pair bond. Once you accept that, you can proceed with life with a different strategy and be happy. If you're in the older demographic, play but don't fall in love.
That’s why they say Fall in love. You don’t choose, it happens
@@ubiquitousdiabolus 9 years ago I fall in love with my flatmate ( roommate ), even if I used to see her almost everyday in a common way. Things started to develop because of the way she does things.
Sadly, my love dd not correspond
From my personal experience I totally agree with you. I think it is easier to find sothing "real" in the "west contries" as here women can be more independed. This is totally differen in contires like Thailand. I think the "real" feeling will not be created without being together and relying on each other.
I've been telling people that for a long long long time, "if you don't know by now that true love doesn't exist" then you will be paying for infatuated love thinking it is true love. Big men should stop acting like little children and start strengthening your emotions to deal with situations like these
@@neoduch4569I live in a big city in the west coast of the United States. And let me tell you man, the most disgusting and disgraceful, as well as disrespectful women live here. I’m a good looking dude, in great shape with abs, have a $115,000 USD car, run my own business and have no kids. And somehow that still isn’t enough for a 5/10 average girl here. Plus the marriage system is rigged and women have incentive to get divorced and take the children away cause the government makes the men pay for all that even after the divorce.
If you stop the money ,there will be no honey good luck
Man you are right and the thing is I definitely understand the bargirls and the situation they are in!
Yes they have to feed their family and so on but does this mean you have to be pathetic and pay every girl asks for ladydrinks and braggs about another farang who payed her iPhone 14 come on!!!
Watch out and let the girl come to you.
Invite her to your room and tell her you don’t want to spend every day in the bars then it’s up to her.
I came 3 times to the never took her home and then I took another one from the same bar who was her friend!
When I was back home she asked me why I didn’t took her home.
I was honoust and said I had very bad experiences with Thai girls and I watch out before I become kind of a friend because indeed their brother or cousin who picks them up are just their husbands😂
1 million percent
That's right, she sees him as an ATM machine and nothing else.
If you stop the money, you TEST the honey 😂😂😂
Who wants honey from these ladies..scummy
Good show Dan! Great content! As alway's stay cool,kind and generous!
To the author: You've made the biggest and most important step, which is to recognize that you are in the throes of addiction. There are various ways to deal with a harmful addiction, but the best one in this particular instance is Cold Turkey. It's going to take a huge amount of strength, but cancel your upcoming trip. Stay at home or at a holiday destination that isn't Thailand and get your head together. Forget about the money you've already spent; if you come back and try to make it work you'll only lose more. The reason she's going in for the kill lately is that she knows she's got you hooked. Like coming off anything Cold Turkey, it's going to be tough and painful, but you'll be back in control of your life on the other side of it, and you'll be a better man for it.
I loved how you said skool for school. I’m from Manchester and your accent is making me homesick. Best wishes and keep up the great videos.
Geez Dans the man ! Fastest growing channel on utube
addictive right ? )))
Why was she not connected to me dispite taking care of the bills? Well she does not like you, and when a woman does not like you money is the compensation. I Bet her hubby is as poor as the ground but she loves him. Money can't buy me love as the beatles say! But it can buy illusions! Get out of the illiusion my man and find you real love. Best of luck bro. I feel for ya.
My best advise to anyone who is sponsoring a Thai lady is to accept that in vast majority of situations the lady has multiple sponsors and is still seeing short term customers and may also be in a relationship with a Thai man. So if you want to continue this relationship you should accept you are paying for the privilege of her being your holiday girlfriend. Sunshine is the best disinfectant so you can tell her you know the truth and negotiate a fee for her services while vacationing. Financially it would be cheaper to just hire a holiday GF every time you come or have different one every day or two but if you are so attached to her you could make an arrangement which is satisfactory to both and there is no need to lie or pretend. She will provide services you require on vacation and you will pay for them. After all when you work for an employer you provide service hot him and he pays you for it.
Peace 😊
Well, this seems to happen fairly often, so you need to either accept that she's a liar and insincere and just sees you as a means to get money and be okay with that, OR tell her goodbye and move on quickly and cut all contact. I suggest the later! I hate to say this, but the longer you continue on with her the more she will expect of you and the more she will play you for a fool.
Simple response for this video. Single mother have a lot of luggage from previous relationships. I urge extreme caution dating single mothers. Its fun to play for awhile but reality will come to knock on the door in the near future.
Haha, happens in the Philippines too lol,. I had experience with a Filipina on my 1st trip in 2013 who told me she’s single. Turns out she’s married to a huge Army veteran living in the states.
Can be a big problem in the Philippines. You can end up in jail if a woman is still married to her husband. Infidelity is a criminal offence there
And no divorce
@lesbianalien3435 and how often is the law actually enforced and people put in jail?
@@nostringsguy185 almost never 😉
@nostringsguy185 why don't you Allah Google it. Then you will know. I'm just stating the law of the country. Not statistics
Great show Dan, love the content! As alway's stay cool,kind and generous!
People need to watch Thai movie: 'The Murderer' You'll see how it all happens , brilliant and a good laugh too!
Where is this film of available? I would find it fascinating to see it from their perspective
@@RickTheBoss98 it’s on Netflix, but only if you live in Thailand or have a VPN
Ditto
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This is truly disappointing that men have such low self esteem, no self respect and keep falling for the banana in the tailpipe with these women in order to have xeS.
And you know what's the most eye opening and astonishing thing about these guys. They will travel thousands of miles away to pick up these women who are semi prostitutes and will do absolutely anything for money, who has little or no education but lots of street sense. Those are the same guys who will go around saying, "Oh these women do not have high demands like western women." Sadly enough, if you bring those women to live in the big cities in an industrial first world country like the US, their demand bars will shoot up from 0 to 100... So if they think that western women are too demanding. Let them try to school a girl who was raised in the boondocks and work in a go-go bars filled with men who carry the blue pills in their wallets looking for some action.
Yea, its like the bass that hits the same jig over and over. 😂😂😂
Mate walk away cut your losses nothing good will ever come of it apart from pain sorry to say good luck 😅
there is absolutely no dought that this women is screwing over this guy .My advice to him is to add up all the money he has spent on her so far and work out how much fun and how many other women he could have had if he has used his common sense with that amount of money .
Run for the hills Run for your life
When you know something is wrong and you still compromise yourself over it, you create your own misery .there are so many people in this world why stick to stick to something, which is obviously wrong . I think this has also to do with self-worth and self respect which you have to find within yourself. It might be difficult to seperate because of what you feel but you need to be realistic about the situation and stop ignoring facts and lying to yourself .
Top advice Dan ,
Your be 99% right
If he continues to try and push into her life the husband might push a knife into him. Thai husbands are notorius for taking the money and looking the other way, but if confronted by their wife's sponsers, they lose face and get violent.
When his bank account has emptied, he will find it easier to make a decision!
Great story and as normal Dan is spot on. Listen to him bro and find yourself a new girl.
Advice never let a stray dog or woman follow you home.
At least you get loyalty with the dog
@@andrewmoss1135and unconditional love
@@JohnArmstrong_ sounds a good deal
A cat will be better.
Love can't be changed to abuse and hatred. Real love transcend all boundaries.
The love of a woman is transactional.
Supper Video Dan 😊
Good morning from the sheltlands
Look, she’s not your girlfriend! She’s was never your girlfriend! She will NEVER EVER be your girlfriend. It’s only your turn, IF you wait in line and pay. And as far as the "cousin” is concerned, he may very well be her cousin remember you are dealing with hillbillies. 😂😂😂
You mean Thaibillies. 😂😂😂😂
Yes hillibilies..jungle folks
Dan just come across your channel and I watched your vlog on stay single in Thailand and you are spot on
There are some exceptions though there are some good women out there you don't after meet them in a baths would take too long for me to put down but like to talk about this,tell you my story
Its not like you portrayed but I know loads that have gone down this path and another even worst scam thats happening
Take the money you sending this 304, and invest it in an index ETF, and retire a millionaire. I vote this letter, the simp of the year (so far). Smh
Yeah this guy is pretty pathetic
Unfortunately that happens a lot. Met a bloke who lived in a village for 5 years till he found out who his TGF neighbour really was. Could tell you many stories about brother moving in when foreign boyfriend went away to work. They all believed this.
That just mind blowing 🤯
Fire and forget. If you are not able to do that, you shouldn’t engage with such women. It requires some mental training, but is is worth the effort, to stay healthy and happy.
quite shocking and unusual to hear this story because the brother is usually the husband
Good educational videos ..... maybe you need to put up a couple disclaimers about content warning etc ....
When dating a girl much younger than you, likely with a shady past, you are foolish not to investigate such things. In decades in Thai I have seen so many farang in love that go bankrupt later.
Fortunately, my Thai wife doesn’t have a brother
She's got a father though.
@@itsbrilliant-bt8sv Fortunately he’s dead
@@itsbrilliant-bt8svHer father is probably 6 or 7 years older than her😂😂😂
Having the desire for exclusive possession of a woman leads to these complications. I think 3 days per lady during your holidays would be more exciting for most guys. You might try Latin America if you want a relationship with a girl who has traditional family values and doesn't sleep around.
If I were you I would stop all money sending 100%. You can stay in contact with her and when you visit you can still see her but only pay for her service. She doesn't love you and you are being played like a fiddle. Good luck mate 😮
Great Video Dan 😊. It's funny, even my daughter listened and said, That is Not a cousin. Pretty evident when my daughter could even tell the Deception.
Keep the video's comin 👌 👏 👍.
Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏
Your daughter has far more sence than some of these Walking Doormats.
Honestly, some guys would be better investing their money in themselves and improving their self esteem rather than trying to buy a beautiful Thai chick. Go to the gym, work on your appearance, build a business, make yourself a high grade catch, then look at these farm girls and see what value they bring to your life. To the OP, work on yourself and make your own dreams come true not hers!
6 months........ says it all man it will take any bar girl well over a year before she even begins to believe you are sincere, the longer they have worked the bars the more they have been lied to and let down, every time you get hurt emotionally you close off your emotions and ability to trust, its just human nature and its why it is so difficult to make a real relationship work with a bar girl. They have spent years pretending to love customers so you get the girlfriend experience, but really cutting themselves off emotionally. It takes a long time to open themselves up emotionally to a customer which is basically what you are, just harsh reality of working in a bar guys.
Ups 😮 Thailand should create a sponsor visa for all foreigners who like to sponsor Thai citizens 😂
They should do a refund program for all them men that get ripped off by them.. 😅
host a family get together for your arrival.. early birthday party for one of the children... try and meet the "cousin" on the sly, if you know what i mean. play it cool and always be friendly. do something for the kids and get your own photos with the family and see what happens.. just my opinion. good luck mate
Never buy. Just rent in Thailand
Sound advice
Sad really some people it seems like they just can’t help being a Simp and a fool for Thai women and playing their game .. My advice is work on yourself a confident man that’s in a masculine frame of mind wouldn’t have this issue and allow this sort of thing to happen to them. Been going to Thailand for 20 yrs plus had fun but never got used by anyone and I never send money to Thailand after I go home for any reason. I haven’t had any problems.
The only advice that I can give him is to only invest in both your love for her and money you give her (in whatever form) that you are prepared to walk away from.
People from Western cultures find it very hard to believe that a husband will pimp out his wife, so it is understandable that they self-deny it.
I have lived in Philippines for 12-15 years (Covid break) and I will give you two examples of this type of activity but for Filipina (I am sure Thai girls are the same)
1. Father drops his 18-19-year-old daughter off to a flat in my block where she spends 2-3 hours with a 70+ year old American and then her father comes and picks her up again - supporting her family = good daughter
2. Husband drops his wife off to the same American and he picks her up again 2-3 hours later - she now has his Red Horse beer money so he can be the big man and buy the beers for him and his mates = good wife
Edit - The only time the husband ever got annoyed with his wife is when she once stayed longer at the American house as it was Valentines Day and the husband wanted to spend some time with his wife as he loved her.
dont enter a battle you know you cant win.
Guys, it is all about the money. Just accept it.
At 4:27 your correspondent says he saw’very normal chats where she is replying to her cousins or friends’. Surely the chats are in Thai, so how does he understand them? How does he even see the chats? Can someone explain?
Google translate is excellent 👍👍
How's he accessing her messenger chats? 🤔
@@nostringsguy185 Yes that is what I wondered. Surely they are private, unlike FB posts.
Thankfully, there is a solution to this potential problem in the links within the description 😅
Look for another my friend.
Hmm it seems the only problem here is your feelings, lad. You can have her stay with you when you are in Thailand, just by paying her for that service. You do not have to sponsor her for that, just make a deal for what it costs you when you are actually in Thailand and with her, with no real contact and no payments besides that. No monthly sponsorship, just payment for what happens when it happens. It does not seem that you can have her 'for yourself' while you are not in Thailand, nor does it seem that you can have her exclusively even if you lived in Thailand, as she is clearly still married. So, just tell her from now on you will pay her to be with you when you are in Thailand, and that's that. She will bark and cry and howl, perhaps, but she will likely accept it over not having that periodic income at all. Alternatively, just stop all contact, come to Thailand and be with a few other girls, and you will soon be cured of your amourous feelings for her. The best cure for a lovesick heart is other girls, you know ;)
What I don’t understand is how these stupid farangs expect a bargirl to be faithful 😂😂😂after all , she met the farang in a bar where the girls sell their bodies for a living. therefore, is it unreasonable for her to think the guy has in the past had several hook ups with other girls and will continue to do so in the future? this is a classic case of the pot calling the kettle black. 😂😂😂
This situation is the same in Cuba, where the husband say to the wife to find a tourist for make money for the family. His name is chulo
Answer is spot on 🤪
My friend told me all these examples , i didnt believe him. Hes married with thai woman and do not live in there. 2 more of my friends have thai wives with kids, still married live in europe. All as happy as you can be in marriage... One of my co workers are one of the guys who are constantly "milked" . Best story was that the girl was striked by lightning and needed 500 e for hospital. We laughed at him , but he still send the money.....By the way, You may change to Locals with your channel, no sensorship shit. You soud like Colin Mc Rae to me,. R.I.P. Are you from Scotland?
He's from Greater Manchester.
I truly think you should go to Thailand there is millions of these beautiful women there and break the attachment you have before to even more.
I don't wanna see you get hurt. Taking advantage of are costs. Stupid amounts of money. Think about it. There's lots of them there. They will all be happy to be with you
Run for the Forrest
thanks
Do you know good happy thai stories? Can you review them if any to get people positive energy? Those bad all programing people for sad ending ((
Get Rid of her ...She will bleed you dry ...Plenty more fish in Soi 6 😂
The fact is she can't be trusted and you for what ever reason are ignoring all the red flags. To continue with the relationship, if thats what it is, wake up man it's a stitch up.
Yep, I’ve lived in Thailand and Cambodia for years and this stuff is normal day to day. Lying and cheating and using farangs/barangs as foolish ATMs.
Hi Dan,have a personell question for you.I don’t believe your wife and her familly would agree with your content unless they were piggy backing off your content in your U tube bloggs and enjoying the U tube money?be honest!you may be the biggest victim on your own channel?your a good man Dan,love your Chanel.
Hi team and I do feel sorry for this guy but as per most of Dan's stories this would not be uncommon and if the author doesn't accept the situation then he must move on for his own sake. Some good ideas of how to get get rid or distract from his addiction are mentioned below. My recommendation would be to simply find another as there are heaps out there... doesn't guarantee that he will not fall for the same thing again but he will be a lot wiser.
Sadly, all standard lies from a Bar girl. You can openly see daily their husbands ( cousins 😅 ) delivering them on motorbike to the entertainment zones or bar for them to ply their trade and see how much money they can extract from the customers and even launch into a slow burn money extraction, sometimes over many year's and the husband of course is happy with thus, as his lifestyle is also enhanced through the scheme. Come on guys!!! Use the system for 1 night of fun and never do the 2nd date thing, or you could be the next one sending a story to Dan🙏🙏
I would send her £500 a month and then refuse to see her next time you go to Thailand. That will teach her a lesson. 🤔
What is the purpose of sending her £500 if he is not going to meet her again?
It would be much better to treat himself a good dinner in a nice restaurant😉
@@dmitriikurilov3662 Sorry Dimitri. It was sarcastic British humour. Sometimes it doesn't cross borders too well. 👍
Ha! I got it.
@@itsbrilliant-bt8sv Sorry man, with all them simps showering Thai girls with money I never know whether a man is sarcastic 😂
Every time I hear these stories about an older guy getting fleeced big time by an uneducated Thai girl barely speaking English I am shocked: what do they smoke to get THAT stupid 😵💫?
You need help? Tell us which bar she is working?
Best advise for the guy.
Block her number
and then
LOSE it.
However you can say that you are the lover of his wife. If he is happy, all are happy.
5:50 Lizard stops by to listen to the story.
Time to push the eject button
As long as you are emotionally attached to this girl, your misery will continue. :(
The fact that you recognize there is a problem with her is the first step in the right direction to resolve it. However, listening to your story, it appears your willing to make more mistakes to a girl that will never love you is troubling.
Instead of giving that girl anymore money, I would seek professional psychiatric help.
You and you alone have to make the conscious decision to break free from her, or she will ruin your life even more! Good luck! :)
I hear Filipinas do the husband is my cousin thing too!
“My lady”. Yeah ok mate 😂
This shit blows me a way. Thank you for your story .
Buddy its crazy you feeding the husband as well....? This is what you want in your life ..?
At the 5:50 time stamp, there's a lizard climbing the tree behind you Dan.
It's jing jot in thai
he is in a situation that only he can remove himself from ! first get in a stable relationship in your home country. second do not waste your money on travel to other countries . third stop the money flow no matter the reason she may offer.[ do not be her rescuer this is one of your weak spots, she is raised up in a culture that obviously from the day of her birth looks and raises her in the mind set that she is a finical resource. starting with family and being added to with a boyfriend / husband that is willing to share her for monetary gain for themselves. stop the money and you will then start getting pleas for finical help with all sorts of reasons, when these do not work the anger and threats will begin. the situation you are in is one that you help create. you like with any other addiction are the only one that can win over this addiction. yes it will not be easy and will be a emotional / mental challenge for a long time,the first few months will be the worse- getting less as you stay your course to a healthy self and relationships. best of wishes for you in this journey through life.
She has no self respect so why would you want to stay with her.
when is ur update?
“Relationship” - not sure if he understands the meaning of the word. The woman doesn’t message him, video call him or even Facebook friend him, talks about her ‘traps’ and ‘tricks’ yet he loves and trusts her as well as gives her ££££££🤔🫣😵💫
Psychiatry 5 cents ! Ha ha
These women are absolutely heartless it's bred into them .stay well away from them if you get stung tough there's enough videos and guys like Dan here on TH-cam who are warning of the potential dangers of these bar/freelance snakes .
Get rid, so many more to choose from
What a surprice!.
He is sponsor of the husband too. Because some money will spent from the husband. Maybe to buy some Chang beer
Guys, if you want to meet a nice Thai woman, stay away from the bars. Money here is king. Don’t flash your money around, don’t be stupid.
However, there’s nothing wrong with you showing off with girls of the night and having a good time. I’ve done it !
This makes me appreciate the Western values so much. There's no match to the values and ethics the West teaches.
My Filipina wife cheated on me. I'm getting an annulment from her. I found out that she been dating a man for 4 years. And we where only married 5 years. It's foolish to trust anyone.
no money back, lol
i hate to say it but your relationship is a scam and she is just using you for money. you are best cutting her off and to help just go to pattaya and meet other girls just for fun
For sure she has a thai husband in her village. My advice Cut😮 her off 100 %move on.
The writer of this email says that he checks all his girlfriend’s interactions with her relatives and ‘cousin’ online, but surely they are all in Thai so he doesn’t know what they are saying or even who she is talking to. It is highly unlikely that your correspondent can read Thai, so this story seems very suspicious to me. Did I miss something?
Can use an online translater which while not perfect should give him an idea what the conversation is about
@@fkscopes Thanks, but how did he access the messages?
Well, as for Facebook, if she didn’t make her friends and comments, private, you just go in to posts and start reading, and translate with Google translate
@@straightupnomad Okay, seems plausible.
@@malin5468 believe me I did that with my Thai girlfriend found out lots of stuff. And if they catch on and block you well then you know something is going on.
Dan tour son needs College fund pls charge for your consultations as life coach & give out your Patron link 👍🏻
Sponsoring a bar girl just like buying timeshare.
Financing the family !
Unbelievable that he's still pursuing this con artist and her Thai fella and the son
How can you love someone that lies and lies and lies. What sort of women is this. Give her the flick immediately
an expert?
Have womens that lost a lot of money for a Thai husband or gf?
Ditch the baggage and pay another a few thousand baht and it will pull its pants down fast !