How I fixed my anxious morning routine
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Psych stundent here: the ball of anxiety in your chest aka prob the feeling of shame could be a sign that you're not living according to your own values. Basically, it is the part inside of you that wants you to be the kind of person who you wanna be. So it actually comes from a place of self-love. A little perspective shift can go a long way 😊
another psych student here: that can be true, or it can be that this anxiety is coming from a overly demanding/sadist part of us that only interprets productivity in suffering. We need a lot of introspection to know the difference, and then act accordingly.
@@MsInescruz @melisarose3922 it's really interesting to read both of your perspectives in this!!! I will have to do some soul searching about both things to see what sticks. Thanks for sharing!
Thats true: reading you both gave some interesting thoughts. Some years ago, in pandemics, just felt lile both of you descirbed at the same time. I was in a career transition and every day i woke up feeling like "everyone is better than me right now, i gotta do more", but i was already doing aaaa looooot. And together there was: "oh my..., i still cant transition fully so i nee to do a lot of stuff i dont want to because that is something i no longer wish for my future". Soon realized i needed to get up and simply do stuff without questioning (at this point i already have had all the refections needed to decide to transition so it was time to action)
obs. Yes, i was and still am with all the support and help and critical analysis of a great therapist, which trully helped a lot
I love how she is not too romantizing everything just like the Internet says, but she tried to figure out what's suitable and "in the middle" for herself. She is so real
I've been trying for a long time to get my morning routine (and my night routine) sorted out and it almost seems like I'll never get it down. Hearing you say "I'll be grumpy no matter what time I wake up so might as well do it at 6:30am" is probably the most motivational thing I've heard. Maybe it isn't about my routine being perfect or the same every day, maybe it's about just actually starting it.
the "but actually, I'm getting 3 birds stoned at once" got me cracked up hahaha
it's a good trailer park boys line haha
I introduced a very simple rule that helps me a lot in the morning: no smartphone before I see the sun. So I have to get up and open the curtains and only after I can use my smartphone.
Good one! Thanks for sharing!
YES! That's the golden rule, because when you start your day with a phone, social media, you prioritise others and not yourself first thing in the morning
You must live somewhere where you have long enough days in the winter. I envy you
That's such a good one, I'll definitely be borrowing that one from you!
The sun is up at 4:30 where I live 😭 I have to find other ways hahah
I had a brilliant therapist tell me once that anxiety and excitement actually come from the same place in your brain. So if you can say to yourself “I’m excited about this” it flips anxiety into excitement. Also it’s impossible for your brain to feel anxiety and gratitude at the same time. I swear it works. If you are feeling worried just say “I’m so grateful for…”
I could see _nervousness_ and excitement being related. But anxiety is a whole different thing.
For me anxiety feels like a burning gnawing in my chest that I'm in the wrong place, doing the wrong thing; that what has happened, what is happening, and what is about to happen is terrible; and that both action and inaction will produce more suffering. I find it hard to frame that feeling as "excitement".
“Am I…better than everyone?” Took me out 😂
We love a good morning routine, though. As someone who always wakes up at 7:00, it’s addicting, and I truly hate the days I sleep in until 8:30 or 9:00 now.
😆 thanks Ethan! So cool knowing an actor in New York likes my stuff?!
And I can't wait to get to that point of "early morning addiction"!
I’m so with you! I found it hard to get up early (depression) so I would make a coffee straight away, and now I try to have a coffee an hour after I wake up - and now I’m also addicted to early mornings ☀️ never looking back
I hate the days that I wake up at 6:30 and can't get back to sleep, but don't want to get up because it feels too early, but then I also get annoyed if I wake up at 7:30 because then it's too late :D 7am is that perfect time.
"Im grumpy no matter what"
Real shit.
"When you're in it, it can suck sometimes. But big picture. if we're working towards something, it doesn't matter, it's all worth it and all we have to do is wake up and go" -Makari Espe
Saved this in my notes, might put this one on the wall too
Really cool to see that some things I say resonate with people. Thank you for this
Yep, that was the line that did it for me too!
Just generally wanted to say that you are a really awesome creator and I love the way that you are so happy and joyful in your videos and u just try to make the most of life and especially in love how adorable you are. I hope you become a huge creator in the future and I hope you don’t forget this comment, I’m rooting for you
Hey thank you so much for the kind words - I really really appreciate it ❤❤
Something that really helps me with the morning anxiety spirals -- I keep a notebook and pen by my bed, and if I am just laying there and can't get myself up, I grab the notebook and just write a full page of everything that's in my brain: things I need to do, things I meant to do yesterday, stuff I'm avoiding, what is stressful, what I do and don't like, what I dreamed about, what I hope to get out of the day, what I'm grateful for... and I found that usually by the end of that brain-dump I've drained a lot of negativity and it's easier to focus on the positive things. Plus it gives me a list to reference throughout the day so I don't worry about forgetting anything :)
I don't necessarily agree with your approach of doing so much that you don't have time to think and feel anxious, I feel like it's a bit misguided. I don't know the answer too, of course. what I like to do that works for me is waking up and taking my time to do things that bring me joy: I wake up at 7, feed the cats, 15 mins of stretch (which I incorporated from your previous video!!), ablutions, then I take like 30 minutes preparing and eating my breakfast - just eggs and a cup of coffee with milk, but I don't do it in a hurry, I enjoy every minute of the preparation. then I go to the couch and just hang out watching something on my phone/tablet for 40 minutes before starting to work. that way I don't feel like the purpose of my life is to work, which is a source of anxiety and depression for me. I also like to take an hour before lunch to workout, which also breaks my "work time" into a self care time. my goal is to have life and enjoy things outside of work. I'm privileged enough to work from home so that's why this works for me. I just wanted to share my perspective on this, sorry for the long text.
Yeah, "just doing things" is a fine line to walk. It's suoer helpful to run on autopilot to get out of a rut or minimize overthinking/worrying but it can also destroy mindfulness and get you out of touch with your emotions. As always, balance is key :)
Thank you for being vulnerable. It's easy to think others have this perfect life from what you see on social media and it's nice to see that we are all just humans trying to get through life one day at a time.
This Caroline and Makari collision made me happier than any other good thing that has happened to me this week.
I need to get out more.
One of the differences that stuck out to me is having a morning routine and doings by yourself and doing them with others. The comparison with having a volleyball team, studying with friends, etc. Adult life seems way more individualistic and solitary, so I assume it's also why we tend to feel more unmotivated and anxious overall.
Insightful! Agree!
I was looking to see if someone already said this, I agree. The commonality was friends /team!
This is the kind of content that makes me not quit social media!! This is the best channel I’ve subscribed to in a long time
This was really relatable and motivational for me, Makari! Just wanted to add that when you said you'd accomplished nothing until noon, I felt that, but you had also already been to the gym and showered and I think that should count 🥹
as a person who always tries to make my mornings as productive as I can, I felt this in my soul! It’s the best starting the day at 8 knowing you have already done so much and can end the day and crash into bed after! :)
My trick for cold showers is to start the water warm and every 40 seconds or so make the water colder so I start warm but end cold... necessary for hot US South summers lol, but I actually really like it. Also the pomodoro technique is a life-saver for me as a free-lancer!!! Thank you Makari, you have inspired me to go to the gym and get up early again. Everything I accomplish before noon feels like a bonus to me.
"I feel the water everywhere" - had to pause the video to stop laughing.
I shut down my phone a week ago after watching your smartphone vid. Knew I needed to do it for years, and been struggling to for weeks, but your cheery content struck just the right balance to give that final push (with some more draconian parental controls in the hands of a trusted individual, because - as said - I know myself). It's made a significant difference (she types on youtube). But jokes aside, it has. Thanks for the content.
Loved this, it’s so relatable in all the little things “eggs and plums” - all I have, “don’t mind the mismatched pillows” - haven’t done laundry
thanks for noticing the small details - I appreciate you
I think TH-cam recommended your videos to me because I just discovered Caroline Winkler and have been binging her content 😂 This is just further proof!
I love your videos! I would love a video about your usual workout routine, I love when people who are not fitness trainers or strictly fitness influencers show their workouts, it's super motivational :)
I love when my favorite TH-camrs love my other favorite TH-camrs!! You and Caroline both are so genuine and it makes everything more engaging and seem much more achievable :)
You’re my new new fav, but Caroline Winkler has been in my subscriptions for a bit. You both are my kind of funny. Appreciate you girl!
I really like your style of the videos it is easy and helpful. Thanks to the TH-cam algorithm you get suggested to me like every 2 weeks :D
I am suprised that you really handeled that cold shower so good. That is something really hard and it is way easier for me to wake up early and instantly do something.
Nevertheless great effort and really authentic and likeable and alle beste from Germany ✌😎
I've started something similar that you do in this video.
I get up at 5am, chug a glass of water, go to the gym at 6am and after that a cold shower (that I've been doing for 2 years now and I feel awesome since).After all of those I'm there at 7.30-8am starting to work, doing laundry and stuff you have to :D
Anyway, I love your energy. Found you by the 30k steps a day video and since then I can't wait for you to upload another video.
Keep up the work XO
And YOU are my new fav person on the Internet. I love how you challenge yourself this way. I love your appartment as well. And I love it because it is a simple appartment. Nothing too fancy. And it looks like you actually live in it, with your boyfriend. 😂 It's so much more relatable. Love your relationship with your dad, it is so precious ❤
You've really quickly become one of my favorite channels, please keep it up!
Thanks Matt! I appreciate it :)
Ah yes. A morning routine. That thing I had before I had kids.
Really enjoyed your video. Your happy energy and self-deprecation is fun. Thank you for making videos!
😂It will come back. Keep at it!😊
Ive been binge-watching you and Caroline Winkler lately - love to see these two worlds collide!
If you haven't already done a nighttime routine vid, I'd love to see that too. Awesome as usual!! 🥰
2:03 No lie I got a cold shiver when the cold water hit your head. And I am sitting in a south facing living room on a sunny Irish evening (a rarity)
I wake up every day between 5am-6am and I have tried SO HARD to workout in the mornings. I reallly really wanted to be a morning workout person. But I just absolutely could not get used to it. I always felt so much worse. So, I changed my workout to 1pm-2pm, afternoons, and OMG so much better for me personally!! Writing this to say you don’t always have to listen to “everyone”. Do what works for you. We all have different needs and lifestyles.
You're just so real and not like so many of the other youtubers! Thanks for trying these methods and showing us, and finding a happy medium! This was actually motivating!
My heart is so happy right now 😍 I’ve really cut back on social media and trying to consume content only that leaves me in a better mood than I was in before. There are two people on TH-cam who can do that. My long time favorite, Caroline and you, Makari. Thanks to both of you. You make my days better 🥰
I have watched every single one of your videos and get so excited when I see a new one. I love your honesty and it’s honestly great to see that even people who look perfectly put together struggle too. Its easy to feel like one is struggling because of not working out enough or not drinking enough water or not doing one thing or another, but even when doing all those things, life isn’t going to suddenly be perfect. Thank you for your great content ❤️
Ma'am you are a god send. Among the influx of influencers preaching high productivity- thank you- just thank you- for being normal, and silly and goofy
just no way! i was literally searching up morning routines yesterday, trying to reduce my anxiety.
and today was the first day in many when i woke up and felt fine. something worked :)
looking forward to watching!
I hope you enjoyed!!
@@makariespe I def did! :) thank you for this mix of positivity and vulnerability!
I'm a warm/hot water drinker!!! Everyone in my life hates watching me drink hot water bit it's excellent
my people!!!!
Ya I don't know why people hate us so much 😂
I have to say I have really enjoyed you exploring making a system that works for you. Everyone needs a bit of structure, even when you don't have a traditional 9-5 or school driving you, but it doesn't always look the same for every person and it is neat to see you leading by example. Looking forward to the next!
I can relate to that morning anxiety feel!! I think I might need to incorporate “text breaks” throughout the day. I love that you used others’ routines as inspo to make a morning routine work for YOU- it is YOUR day! Keep shining :)
Yay, Makari is back with a video. I so agree that the pomodoro technique is super powerful to get things done, it's like magic lol
I like how entertaining you made trying out different morning routines. Lovely video!
Bedtime routine next please! 💖 I’m much worse at having a good nighttime routine
thank you for being so authentic, your videos really are comforting 🫶🏻
Great video as always Makari! Thank you for being so open and honest with us about your struggles. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who struggles with anxiety, especially in the morning when it comes to facing the day.
Makari! O was positively surprised when I saw this video was sponsored - first time I bumped into your channel you had around 10k subscribers - then I looked at it and you’re already with 50k???? That’s amazing! I love your content and I’m so glad your TH-camr career is taking off. Congrats!!!!
I love everything about this Video! Thank you for beeing vulnerable, goofy, funny and so real.
Your last words helped me a lot! I have a big uni exam in two days and feel just exhausted. But at some point i will look back and appreciate that time. So thanks! Greetings from Germany:))
Such a departure from what I normally watched and I love it.
A few times over the past few weeks I've had to get up early to travel and despite the initial suck I always feel better than usual in the end. Instead of my usual 9.30-11 window. Might actually set a non-negotiable alarm for 6.30 now.
Thanks.
I just resently stumbled across your channel and ... I LOVE IT! You make me laugh so hard and its really great listening to your positive and joyful voice! Keep the work :)!! You are inspiring and motivating thousands of people out there!!
Great Video, as always. So glad i found your Channel a few months ago. You dont just entertain, you also motivate me in a way that not many people can. Thank you Makari for this channel and the work you put in😊
Try the cold/hot shower the other way around; that worked well for me. Warm shower and then finish off with a cool/cold rinse before getting out. Not as terrible as a full cold shower, but still got that alertness of the cold shower.
I legitimately laughed out loud multiple times during this video! First off, you are an inspiration and have honestly become my go to TH-camr when I'm feeling anxious/overwhelmed, something about your videos just calms me right down and makes it so much more achievable to go do the things I actually want to do. Second of all, the shots of morning you in the blue hoodie are absolute comedy gold and the ONLY true representation of what it actually feels like to have to wake up! The bit at 10:05 with the "eh" and the slow shuffling?! What a legend!! 😂
Vulnerability to that level takes bravery and the reward is so fruitful! A genuine thank you for sharing 💖 I'm sure you can already see from the comments, but you are not alone girly. Way to tackle a complicated part of life in both a genuine and lighthearted way, that is a unique skill elusive to many!
Also - our cortisol levels spike as part of the natural process of waking up. So maybe we are just in-tune with our bodies and are feeling those stress hormones! I still lay there panicking sometimes but its taken down a half notch knowing it's at least *natural* panic :D so ultimately, go you for being so in tune!...(?)...!
Somehow, it's yet another video that I didn't know I needed, but needed so badly. Thank you (again)!
I found your channel through your stretching video and have now watched all your videos! I love your personality, it’s what makes your videos so enjoyable ❤
Loving these wellness focused videos!!
Starting off the shower cold and switching to a normal temperature is such a great idea (definitely going to steal that for my routine!). It's really the best of both worlds without hating life with a whole cold shower! 😄
I agree, don’t give yourself time to think!
I wanna be your friend, you are so relatable, funny and your videos truly light up the day!
Not sure why, but channel is by far my favourite. You are so normal it's amazing. Thats a compliment btw 😁
haha thank you 😆
Totally feel you on therapy and trying to work through it on your own. Journaling has been so helpful for me processing things :)
the first video I watched from your channel. surprised that you don't have MUCH more followers yet! just wanna say you're very very talented youtuber. i enjoyed a lot watching the way you talk, film, edit! got inspired
I love that you found a routine that works for you! I think that I need to incorporate what you have done as mine, because I found we have similar styles of thinking and working! Hope you had a wonderful week and your weekend is full of laughter ❤xx
Thanks Danielle! :) I hope you have a great weekend tooo :) ❤
It's comforting knowing other people feel unproductive when they sleep in
Oh, how I loved it!!!!! The reflection in the end was truly made for me right now, def following you for more.
I used to be able to do this, and I did it for years; it was my favorite schedule ever. Then I get pregnant, and it has been very hard for me to have the energy to get this sort of routine back up and running. My husband is not a morning person, so it was super convenient to have myself be the morning person and get so much stuff done before most people even woke up.
Girl, saaaame. Your videos are so relatable and calming. 😃
I appreciate you sharing your anxiety and self-doubt. It's very relatable! Right now, I'm working East Coast hours, so my morning routine is rolling out of bed at 6:45 and working in my pajamas until I'm awake enough to get ready for the day! I actually prefer it to doing my morning routine first thing: I do mindless tasks first thing and then do some yoga and get ready mid-morning. I enjoy it more than trying to do yoga before I'm fully conscious. For the two years before this, I had to start working at 5:30am, so there was no way I was going to get up a minute earlier than I had to.
You. Are. Awesome. So happy my algorithm picked you! Enjoyed every minute, stay awesommmmeeeee!!
Your videos just make my day! Thank you for... being you, I guess. Please keep getting those birds stoned 😂. Oh, also: drinking hot water is objectively the correct way to do it.
Phew, how do you always just know what video I need right now? :,) I got taken out of my routine this past month and now I've been laying in bed on my phone till the last possible minute, struggling to eat breakfast and then rushing to class and feeling BAD. Going to try and use this as motivation to get back on track :) (we're having a good start, I was watching this while finally eating breakfast again sooo,, look at me go!)
This spoke to me. We are the same person! Thank you for sharing! 💛
You *and* @Caroline_Winkler are my favorite internet people, so I loved this so so much
Perfect timing here. Bets wishes to you Markari!
This was the best TH-cam video I've seen in a while. Loved it
you‘re my favorite person on the internet! can‘t wait for more videos 😍 You could also throw some vlogs into your video regime, I‘d watch them even if it‘s just 15minutes of you walking Willy
I feel inspired to try bettering my morning routine now! Thank you!
“Am I better than everyone?” 😂 You’re better than I. I couldn’t take a cold shower 🚿 🥶
Hot water makes perfect sense! I love tea and hot water is just unflavored tea so that checks.
100%! 😆 It's the best thing for an upset stomach too
@@makariespehot like tea, or just a bit warmer than natural temperature?
@@luisnabaisI do the same thing and I literally just boil water like I’m about to make tea and then add just enough cold water until its lightly steaming but not too hot to drink. It makes the stomach feel great and kind of relaxes your insides, not sure how to explain it.
Amazing Video. CONGRATS on 50K subs. Wooooo!. You deserve it
Loved this vid Makari. Keep it up!! 🥰 Thank you for sharing. ❤
Feasible routine tysm. Besides personally I recommend expanding the duration of your pomodoros. In my experience it's difficult to have the courage to rocus once more after the 5-min-break. Instead try working for 75-90 mins and 15-25 mins breaks. I guarantee that with longer pomodoros time flows smoothly and you'll be able to stay focused for more!
Hi Makari! this is my first time watching your video, and wow I LOVE and appreciate how authentic, honest and vulnerable you are and doing so in a positive, funny way! Comparing two different morning routines is such a cool idea
Hey thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it :)
Very helpful video thank you for making it!
Yeey two of my fav youtubers combined 🎉
Love love love! So insightful and funny and just fab! 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
Always a big fan for this pretty girl🌸🩷🌷
i loved this, thank you!
Great vid Makari. love it.
Needed this today :) thank you for such great and motivating content.
Ah, the relatable 20s experience of "can't afford therapy right now so I'm just figuring it out on my own"!
There was a 2 month period where I cracked the "Don't think, just do" method, but I've unfortunately since lost it. My dad and I joke that just a little lobotomy as a treat would solve a lot of my problems, so I could do the things without having to convince the constant internal dialogue first, lol.
I also look back on times I pushed myself with fondness! Just need to crack how to do that without a boss, or a degree, to push me. We got this :)
I've loved every single video you've put out so far, congrats on the rapid growth! And the now continued sponsorship :)
Just discovered your channel a couple days ago and am in the process of watching all of your videos. You seem like such a cool person and I love your editing style. Your dad is correct... you ARE a good editor. Keep it up - love from Kentucky.
Hey thanks Rebeka I really appreciate it! :)
You're my new favorite person on the internet
i cant afford therapy either! I really liked what you said, saying you knew you would feel rubbish when you woke up, no matter the time, so why not wake up early.
i'm having one of those anxiety ball days but trying my best. tomorrow i will wake up 90 mins earlier and see what sticks!
good luck
Okay i love this person. My new fav on thr internet
10:00 I love this shot so much