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- #TheLoveHour | Triggered Part#2
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In today's episode Melissa and Kev continue to discuss how they identify and work through their triggers.
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That age confusion was hilarious. I always forget my age and I’m only 28 but life be lifin lol
Ur breathtakingly beautiful
Life be lifing!
Same lol I feel like my age is stuck at 25 🤣 but then I do the math and be like oh dang I'm 28 🤣
FACTS! 🤣 I was good on age til about 34... It's all been downhill from there. My husband and I are always asking each other how old we are. But the way Melissa had to actually do the calculations was HILARIOUS!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 wait, how old are we 🤔
Man!!! those guests canceling have been a hidden blessing. This video was absolutely phenomenal. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability
"I can't figure out just what to do; When the cause and cure is you" - SWV (That was actually a pretty deep verse)
My therapist says you can't have expectations without communication.
This episode was great, Kev & Liss!
That is a word! I need to put saying in a frame!
Good one
Ooh Ms. Makeba...that's one to grow on!
I never thought about it that way but it's so true. Thanks for sharing!
“Who do you need me to be right now?” Any couples in business OR lead together, this question is NECESSARY. 💯
SERIOUSLY! This has blessed my life!
@@MrzGriff Same Chelle!
We appreciate your transparency! Yes we are truly Lucky! Thank you Fredricks! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
P.S Melissa always serving with the looks! Yass!! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
THIS is the exact predicament Pastors and Pastors wives are in!
Constant decision making, little time to process feelings before you’re back in front of the public and finding the role each person should be playing when.
I am SO glad my husband (Pastor) and I are in therapy. God moves when slow down enough and do the work to open up. ❤️ #Prayforyourpastors
Y’all outchea being marriage champions.
38:44 the fact that y’all both sat there for a WHOLE minute or two trying to figure out if you were turning 37 or 38 was the FUNNIEST thing. I had to pause the video and go back because I laughed over key points. 😂😂😂
Kev and Melissa's relationship is a oneness relationship. They are closer to eachothers hearts than anyone else. Therefore eachothers opinions and words hold exponentialy more weight than anyone elsees.
Kevin and Melissa give a healthy view and pragmatic realistic approach to marriage. Watching them makes me believe that being married can be fulfilling. Oftentimes, people either overly romanticize it or project marriage as a painful journey that one has no choice but to go through. This type of transparency is not exhausting at all maybe for those who have an unrealistic view of what they think marriage is about. Marriage is two different personalities, viewpoints, personal preferences, different agitation etc come together to navigate life together. Disagreement, tiredness and compromise is inevitable.
This a WHOLE emotional literacy lesson...that I needed! Much appreciation for THIS + LAST WEEK's episode. Both SO timely. YOU ♥ ARE ♥ APPRECIATED ♥ and ♥ VALUED
With the spilling blood analogy, it even causes other people to believe that they are wounded. They begin to check themselves for wounds when you were the one who was bleeding
This podcast doesn't just inspire me to work on myself it's also extremely educational. This feels like an amazing college psychology class. I always learn new concepts listening to you both. Thank you for sharing part of the relationship work you do with yourself and with each other.💜
Yall had me dyin' about how old ya'll are. I had the same conversation with myself the day before my birthday. My mom had to correct me on my age. 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
Y'all trying to figure out how old you are, literally me almost every time it comes up now 😂😂😂
My husband and i are just the same and i had to learn to maneuver around this... AND without therapy. Sheesh. He started saying i was Negative about his ideas. But i didn't know he felt that way. I was just offering critiques. Thank God he finally said that. Or I would have never known that. So I decided to try to show up different. TRY!
I totally applaud you! That's a growth mindset ! You got this !!!
“What do you need me to be?” Thank you for sharing this 💎!!
It's unproductive to take seriously the criticism or compliments of those who are uninvested in your best interest. Haters gon' hate; just keep bein' great! #TeamYall 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I love the conversation about the wife/business partner dynamic. This is literally GOLD. Kev gave several examples of how Liss can approach the issue but I especially prefer the wearing of the ‘supportive wife’ hat at the initial presentation of the idea and then revisiting the idea the next day wearing the ‘business partner’ hat.
Y'all just don't know how important these last 2 episodes were. I've had several revelations. Sheesh! Love you both 💙💙💙
I. have. laughed! And rewinded and laughed again. 24:25
Wow my 94 about to be 95 year old Grandmother is older than sliced bread👀👀👀. Nice fun fun fact😁
It’s a Beautiful thing when Married couples can be vulnerable with one another
Agreed!
Thank God for His Spirit and will ! Bishop TD Jake's ministered on triggers this week. God wants us to be healed!
As a single woman, I looove watching The Love Hour. It helps me to work through past relationship mistakes and gives me tools to add to my tool belt for future relationships. I appreciate y’all being vulnerable for the greater good. ❤️ I AM in therapy, but this gives me real life examples of what “the work” looks like.
The stages and shifts in marriage can be difficult, and if both parties don't feel a requisite amount of effort being exerted, resentment will settle in. Being honest is hard and being honest while processing is really hard. Salute to yall.
could we possible do a triggered series? something of the love hour that tunnels in on our shadow selves through these painful epiphanies!
I am so thankful for you both. You talking about how Kevin got defensive when you supported him with constructive criticism, i totally felt that. I just did that the other day. I was telling my dad about something I felt really excited about and it came off to me that he was not honoring my accomplishment when he was giving suggestions and I got the same way, defensive.
Luckily, this was right after I watch last week’s video so I went upstairs and took a step back. I went back down to hear his points again and I was in a much better place after that.
Melissa is glowing okay!!
Yall fed my soul with this!!! The craziness of last year caused my husband and I to start therapy. Kev, when you talked about the "fan in the stands" you really just helped me bring to words help I feel about my spouse (we also are high school sweetheart) and I'm definitely bring it up in our next session, so thank you!
Realizing that we are constantly everchanging is important and I believe it is not talked about enough. Thank you Kev & Melissa!
I've been repeating this all day
Much love everyone!!
Melissa is me. When you said others see stuff about you that sometimes you don't see, I was like..sounds about right.
I'm single and very low on romantic experience. But I have learned that nothing good in life will come easy. EVERYTHING takes hard work, commitment, mental discipline and selflessness. I write books and it is my calling, but there are days, even weeks, when I don't feel like writing. I don't feel like breaking down a scene and infusing it with the right atmosphere and emotion. I just wanna watch TV! But if I don't will myself back to the story and sort it out, I don't have a book. My overall sense of well-being takes a dive because I haven't fulfilled my purpose.
Fact is, even the cheesiest books take hard work. The most basic relationships take effort. No matter how excited you are about an idea, no matter how happy the dream makes you, the parade ends and there's a ton of confetti to clean up. The sooner we embrace the hard, boring work needed to accomplish our goal, the sooner we reach that place of bliss, that feeling of 'this is why I'm alive'. I look forward to meeting someone I can work on a project with.
Lisa, I am you, and you are me, just well spoken. Here's some I hear a wise woman say about her marriage... she and her husband dont bring work home, they dont talk about work related things in their home. Listening to you both made me realize why not discussing work at home is beneficial.🙏🏽🤗 (I should be a patreon, but I really dont need ANOTHA subscription to ANTYTHING) But I ROCKS with yall.
I identify with Melissa sooo much! This episode was awesome.
Absolutely. I really see the TRANSPARENCY the more I watch the two❤️ This is for real 🙏🏾BTW loving the soft glam Sis💥Brown and Golden vibe. Part 1 glam was amazing as well 🔥🔥
C'mon Kev with the Everlane transition🙌🏾I'm proud of you!!
It’s the “how old are we??”for me!! 😂 And y’all commenced to really talk through it lol #RealLove
Imagine spending your own energy and time (that you won't get back btw) hating on another individual.....I just don't understand it. People are just different.
And I know this lol. But every day im reminded again.
I love every time Kev gets something off of Liss.
The age discussion is old couple vibes! How old are we? LOL
I definately appreciate both of you sharing your personal marriage journey because it helps me in my marriage with some of the same things you guys go through and it makes me feel like it's normal to have these issues and we can handle them in a healthy way. Thank you for the supplemental therapy! 😉
Noooo. The point is to be understood and even if it's exhausting when you are heard and seen.... its worth it. Aaaand this isn't an everyday all day battle... but things come up. And you work on them.
Who do you need me to be in this moment just changed my whole viewpoint. Thank you
I've never agreed with the sentiment that "I think I'm always right" because I really don't feel like I carry myself that way
But something about "you're either with me or against me" just hit me in my jaw 🙃
"With me or against me" feels more accurate feels more appropriate, feels more specific to the root issue. Thank you Lissa & kev for helping me expand my emotional vocabulary.
Thats Growth!
Kev taking over Mark Moore’s “get this” 😂😂😂😂😂
His wife has a had a major glowup! And Kevin’s dresses like he’s ready for soccer game lol
Some fine suit and tie 6 pack abs hair line dude just pray for a lady like lizz lol
OMG Melissa you and I are the same and my husband and Kev is the same! I am so you with the analytical analysis which then goes into the no voice feeling.
We are truly lucky. Thank you both for always sharing and always being vulnerable. God bless you🤗
I think your rawness is what makes you guys so amazing.
The fact that you share both the good and bad. Gives the REALNESS of what a marriage entails and the work required to make fruitful
We thank you Mr & Mrs KevOnStage.
I’m with Liss, don’t buy no teen no new car. I went to high school with y’all and my first car was an 1980 station wagon. All the kids who got new cars in high school wrecked them, had to move back home, or on cocaine now
Dang 🤣
I love you guys..and I need my husband to try to show up as my friend more. Love these examples
This was so wholesome and rich. It is a great service and act of grace, that you freely share your individual and collective journey with us. All of the information discussed is pure gold. Thank you so much. God bless you both!! ....in other news, I can't wait for your MAFS episode 3 review!!! Chile!!!!! 😁😊
ME and my hubs just had this same conversation. We BOTH gotta do the self work
This look is EVERYTHING Melissa!! You look BEAUTIFUL!
Omg Liss you look BEAUTIFUL!
This is so good I watched it via Patreon and again. So good. Thank you for sharing and being transparent. It is helpful!!!
Please do more of these videos. Such authentic and helpful content
Kev gone get them kids a 2006 Lamborghini 😆
Great episode. True gems were dropped here. Thank you for your transparency.
I'm threw with Kev he said in the sponsor ad "In the middle of a Pani they makin Panties?" LOL That was hilarious just wanted to point that out
Peace Kev & Mrs Kevonstage
Peace and love y’all! Thank you Liss and Kevonstage for all the gems and sharing ur lives with us!
Omg my hubby is Like that when he has a great idea and I counter offer a better one he takes it as unsupportive wife and I’m negative oh wow. Then I say don’t ask me nothing if you don’t want the truth and there’s a fight ,!!!!! And then the insults 🤬
These triggered episodes were sooooooooo good! Thnx yall
25:20 -26:22...LISS!!!! You are me & I am you! JESUS!
I truly appreciate you both! Thanks for your vulnerability and honesty. ❤️
It’s not marriage or relationship that’s exhausting but people’s fear of being held accountable or the work that accountability requires. Which shouldn’t be exclusive to romantic relationships
Can we get this makeup look?! Melissa you are GLOWING!!
Ohh! I'm so glad there was a part 2!! Thank you all for creating room for this conversation for real!!
Wait.. yall don't remember yall's ages? LOL yall so cute.
Great episode and info!
Can you talk more about the relationship check in girl I need tips!
Oh snap part 1 was everything! I’ll be back for this! 🍿
How many times can hit the like button!!!!!!!!
I am taking therapy through y’all.
Idk if cars from 2009 will still be allowed on the road by the time my kid is old enough to drive since I’m sure fuel efficiency standards and green energy standards will make a lot of those cars obsolete/illegal to drive. Kiddo will just have to get whoever the oldest allowable car on the market is. I like the concept of the car and the kid being the same age though.
This was so good for the soul!
I can sooo relate to this. My husband and I work together and it's so hard to know if we are talking to the work versions of ourselves or the spouse version. LOL.
holy cow this was a good episode 🤯🤯🤯
Thank you!
I needed to hear this video thank you so much
You two are a blessing!
Good morning!
Thanks for sharing and keeping it real. ❤NC!!
Wait how I hear my name at the end but im not in patreon 🤔🤔🤔🤔
once again sooooo good!!!! love yall!
The age math got me!!!
Luv you guys!
I'm the same way about my age. I missed my whole 35th year. I always ask my cousin her age, because she is one-year older.😂🤣😫
When I speak to my mother about various thing, I have to tell her which version of her I want a response from. Mother, friend, pastor or girlfriend.
MRS. KEVONSTAGE, where did you get those hoops?
Grand rising everyone ✨
@MrsKevOnStage You are SO beautiful! No lie, my 9 year old walked into the room and said, “Is that Beyoncé??” 😍 Sis, where did you find that Cross choker?
So we not gonna talk about the fact that it looks like kev put here wearing short shorts🤣🤣. Amazing show tho
LMAO SWV... Yes Liss Trump said that
I am 44 and I forget My Age Too!!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
I'm here y'all....
Heyyy boos