ex-muslim woman here ✋ the only ex-boyfriends who treated me right were atheists. I'm engaged to one right now but we're lying to my parents and pretend he will be converting soon. (also, it wasn't my fiance that convinced me to be an atheist. it was the Muslims themselves)
Yes muslims are making me dislike islam too im born muslim, ive started preferring sects like ismali, bohra, memon even though mainstream muslims consider them unislamic
so you wanna follow your desires? That’s a test from Allah if the athiest treats you “well”. It’s temporary. Will you choose suffering for ETERNITY 🥵🥵😰😰?
I can’t comprehend the fact that full grown adult Men use their free time to hold a whole gathering to discuss the private live of others and to brainstorm a solution for a so called ,crisis’ that just exist in their own heads.
*@Cool Kidz typed* The parents move to secular and liberal country to have a better life.. but expecting their daughter to follow sharia law?? *end of quote* To solve this mystery I'd like to point out, that Allah in the Koran declares to Muslims that the whole earth is his. He can give it to whom he wants. One of the passages also says that Allah will decrease the lands of the unbelievers. So to these Parents, they did not come to Canada to live a life like we Non-Muslims do. Here are the 3 Passages 7:128 Moses reassured his people, “Seek Allah’s help and be patient. Indeed, the earth belongs to Allah ˹alone˺. He grants it to whoever He chooses of His servants. The ultimate outcome belongs ˹only˺ to the righteous.” 13:41 Do they not see that We gradually reduce their land from its borders? Allah decides-none can reverse His decision. And He is swift in reckoning. 21:105 And We have already written in the book [of Psalms] after the [previous] mention that the land [of Paradise] is inherited by My righteous servants. *end of quotes*
@@isallah1kafir196 Muslims need to go through reducation camps similar to the Chinese Uighur Camps if they ever want to migrate, this is coming from a Ex Muslim
I'm a Swede. I personally have seen three muslim-born women marry Swedes, and the three men all took the shahada to play nice with their brides' extended families. And now these three families live normal, atheist lives afaik.
This is the perfect example of circumventing the laws and rules. Yet, Muslims are oblivious to it. They still insist on the groom saying the shahadat and "embracing" İslam just because it makes them feels better.
So one day, there’ll be more Muslims fake or real than there are none. And for the same reason, you’ll accept sharia laws implemented in towns and communities there.
Därför ska man inte bo bland otrogna. It's a shame that we live in that cold and dark place, speaking their weird languages. It's our fault for not having dealt with our internal problems correctly until we settled among a born outside marriage atheist creatures like svensson.
Agreed! My parents forced me into a nikkah. I and my fiancé are atheists. It’s no ones business. My parents are dogmatic and indoctrinated and i wish to live freely. Why did they move to America if they wanted me in chains?
@El M. Try to make peace, be kind, be gentle with others & YOURSELF. You can respect the religion but don't depend on any deity. After all it is how you conduct yourself in life that makes the difference.🙏🙏🙏
My brother said to me that he was gonna chain me to the bed. I was in shock! What a nut! Then the abuse started so l called the police. Now he leaves me alone most of the time. He doesn't harass or abuse me anymore...for now.... Who knows how long it will last? Probably not for long! But he knows now that if l call the police on him again he will be arrested. But l still plan on moving out and get my own place. No way l want to stay living with this mad man!
@@carerforever2118 you should protect yourself. Whenever you can you should move out of the house. Unfortunately, I saw a lot of people who preferred to spend in jail so the honor of their families will not be damaged. They are blinded by this religion.
@@amentia1986 The whole world is out of control; we can only do the right thing by responding in a skillful manner without harm to others & ourselves especially in her situation. I would refer you to Harris Sultan (The myth of Christianity) on the subject with a handy packet of popcorn for the duration, information & entertainment.
I’m from an Indian Hindu family. My sister married a white American (nominally Christian, but effectively secular humanist). Our parents didn’t go to her wedding, not specifically on religious grounds but because they didn’t approve for a variety of reasons. They regretted that decision almost immediately afterwards. Almost a decade later, everyone is on good terms but they can’t unring that bell. For your own sakes, don’t be as relenting as Qadhi would have you be. Edit: I meant unrelenting. How embarrassing!
Actually if you watch the video you'll see that qadi isn't relenting at all. I'm of a very neutral opinion but yq is actually talking about liberalising norms in the islamic community regarding marriage.
@@samiamaan8023 our friend at this channel isn’t prone to clipping out of context, but on the off chance I misunderstood what Mr. Qadi said my advice stands on its own.
When I was young I knew this really amazing Brahman chick who was clearly into me, but made it clear there was just no chance due to the caste thing IMO she would have been marrying up🤷♂️. Her kids may even have had blonde hair and blue eyes like a proper Brahman 🤣
Of course it's considered a problem when an ingroup woman marries an outgroup man, but not the other way around, in a patriarchal system, because the woman is considered the property of the man and assumed to join the man's group.
Their world view also assume the woman will now be owned by that man. According to these types, a Muslim husband who beats her is better than an atheist who treats her as an equal. This mentality of not tolerating being "one-upped" by non-Muslims is at the heart of Muslim psychology. They don't give an F about suffering of other Muslims UNTIL and unless a nonMuslim is viewed as the cause.
I sverige finns det knappt giftermål. Ni har bytt ut giftermål med sambo. Enligt SCB så är mer än hälften av barnen som avlas oäktingar, därför inklineras svensson till ateism, hbtq och könsändring än vad era fäder som trodde på Gud och gifte sig gjorde. Det är pga att ni är avlade från ett orent umgänge och därför intoleranta till rättfärdighet.
@@Ibn_Abdulaziz I don't know if we are more inclined towards hbtq, but we're certainly more accepting of it. And that's a *good* thing. "Intolerant to righteousness"? Bah! What is "righteousness"? It's certainly not defined by what one guy said 1400 years ago.
@@reformCopyright Would you be ok with your father changing his gender or your mother participating in pornography? Would you be against Muslims legislating laws in sweden that forbid such things?
@@Ibn_Abdulaziz They are over 70, so the question is moot, but in principle that's up to them. I'm against basing legislation on religious beliefs in general. Legislation should be rational, and religion is irrational.
My aunt married an atheist Norwegian man but he had to pretend to convert so my dad wouldn't disown her like he disowned his cousin who married a Christian man. Also I cant tell him I'm no longer a good Muslim hijabi and that I'm now agnostic🙃
Not a real solution, they are living a lie. Perhaps necessary if he would kill her? Otherwise, time for him to accept that he does not own the females in his family and respect them as human beings.
This is the same as me too, where I'm a closeted ex-Muslim and my atheist husband had to pretend converting to Islam just so he could be with me legally and me not losing my connection to my family.
I think according to Islam, she'd now qualify as a Hypocrite - someone who identifies as a Muslim, but doesn't truly follow Islam's rules. Actually I guarantee that over 95% of Muslims are not following the teachings of Islam in its entirety. And ironically, most of those are actually very decent human beings.
.. Islam is indeed unbelievably unbelievable .. unless you've been brainwashed since you are an egg in your mother's ovum or that you are naturally irrational.
@@srfrg9707 Islam is simply not a religion that belongs in the 21st Century. It worked well in the 7th Century & some centuries after that, but not now.
just this week we had a 14 year old girl killed by her own family, mother, brother and her cousin in swedarabia. Yea no bearing at all........ for example go out a friade night in stockholm lets say around 22 PM in central stockholm, you will see ALL kind of people except NOT ONE muslim girl or a women!!! NOT ONE!!!! So where are they?? locked up at home!
As someone who was brought up to believe in multiculturalism and the melting pot, it saddens me to see some communities closing themselves off from others.
These religious leaders love to separate their community to live in parallel society that way it's easier to control them cause of the fear from the "Others"
@@scarfhs1 I should certainly hope not. But I have heard - and this may be just a rumor - but I have heard that in some places, they are now reading books. And still others………….operating motor vehicles. It will not be long now until men have no rights left.
My wife had a mental breakdown when she found out I'm an atheist. Starting hyperventilating and literally collapsed. She's Catholic from West Africa. Africans take religion too seriously. That's why I still pretend to pray when I'm with family.
As long as they follow sharia values like men and women can't be in the same room - they won't be able to change this "problem". Which actually means that it's a *good* fact. ❤️ *Amor vinci omnia!* ❤️
Yo! You're right. It's rather difficult to change someone's mindset after a few years of indoctrination. But at least you can put both the cases in front children. Theism and atheism. And after due thoughts , they usually pick atheism. That's the natural position. We were born without a God or a religion. People pick up theism and religion in their childhood, because there was no choice Both the parents and all the relative offered them the same basket of nonsense. In my case, my mother was a devout woman and father didn't pray at all. He never went to a temple, never prayed. He wasn't atheist exactly, but he said that prayers don't help, never. Even if there's a God, he doesn't help. You gotta help yourself. That's it! I left the religion in very early age. Children also make choices , but there should be presentation of both sides. They choose atheism. So fine! Go ahead and marry a religious type!😊👍👍
11:08 is bang on. Islam has failed Muslims by not letting them modernise or live authentically by their own choices, it has nothing to do with anything else.
To be fair, I wouldn't exactly be thrilled if my daughter married a muslim man either. I'd be concerned if my son married a muslim woman too, but in both cases I'd be worried about the life and health of the woman, and how the muslim side of the family treats her. That's a legitimate concern. When was the last time you heard of an atheist honor killing?
If they all move to places like Pakistan or Afghanistan, they are surely safe from this horror. But as long as they live in free countries, this will keep happening.
I've heard muslim apologists saying islam isn't forced on others it's a way of life between the individual and God. Well, I'm hoping they'll come out and condemn such a behavior, call him out for wanting to enforce islamic rule of his daughter.
@@sadeeqsalisu1809 most likely she became a Muslim because of her parents and her community, not by choice. For those who left Islam especially women face the worse obstacles especially from their family
Those muslim apologists are not truthful. Their messenger of Allah told his followers to kill those who leave Islam and force non muslims ( jews and christians) to pay jizya
@@sadeeqsalisu1809 Show us where it says a Muslim woman must marry a Muslim man, since you’re saying it’s “Allah’s rule.” You’re so brainwashed that you can’t see that position is essentially politically motivated insofar as the number game is maintained. You’re calling rules created by men “Allah’s rule.” Your god must be a false god to have men’s rule supersede his.
I’m satisfied with the notion that it’s more and more common that people are marrying outside their religion. Some people will leave their faiths and some join for different reasons. And as stated, in a multicultural world this is a natural progress and so is interfaith marriages as well.
I had the same issue. Grew up in the west to devout Muslim parents. I saw the hypocrisy as I was growing up in treatment compared to my brother. I hated it, and there was no convincing answer as to why I’m treated like I’m stupid and have no rights to my own life as opposed to my brother. Despite being older and the medical one in the family, I was given no respectful standing. “Don’t ask questions” “that’s Allah’s way”… not good enough. I saw how Muslim women around me suffered in their marriages. I knew I would never marry a Muslim man. I still wanted to have a family of my own but I knew it would be different. I met a wonderful man. He is Christian. My family were ready to kill me to stop me from marrying him. On account of shame and honour. Thankfully the police helped… I’m so aware that so very many girls have not been so fortunate…. Where is their voice? 12 years later we are still married and happy with 3 daughters and a son. I do not regret my choice. And somehow my parents got over it, and what do you know? Life moved on!
ahhhh, my wife is also a muslim... and she knows im an atheist when we were dating.... i respect her belief and she respect my disbelief.. but both my and her family doesnt know about my disbelief coz its easier that way...
@@ahamedumusaafir9856 she definitly a muslim .. a real one.. like all the muslims in the world they are all real.. A muslim is someone who believes in Allah and Muhammad is His messenger.. that should be enough.. U practice or not is another matter.. if muslims commit sins or does not follow sharia, they are still muslims… Riddah doesnt happen just by committing sin… And yeah lucky for me she is more decent human being than islam would allow her to be even she doesnt realize it..
@@ahamedumusaafir9856 .There are so many muslim women who respect non muslim men. I had the opportunity to marry 3 of them at three different stages of my life but I chickened out because of the difficulties that would have arose later on.
What exactly is the point of a "reform" tho ? If someone wants to change the rules in his religion .. why not just leave the religion ? It's like Capitalism saying there should be reforms in Communism . ( Reformed communism isn't communism anymore is it )
What are your thoughts about people who respond with 'you can't chose your race but you can chose your religion'? I don't usually know where I stand because at face value, they are right. But when you think about it some more, you'd be hard pressed to find anyone who would change their belief system just because someone demanded that you should. I guess it shows in how there's a rule about how captured non muslims have 3 days to convert or die (not sure if i'm right about the specifics) and frame it as a totally not coerced 'choice.' Maybe that's them projecting how fickle their own beliefs are.
@@Mich6961 That's a tricky question. I think it's worth mentioning that you can't shose to be convinced by something. Believing is not a choice, neither is the culture you'reborn into your choice. That part is (sort of) analogous to race. However, one can chose to question their beliefs and allow for them to be discussed, which could lead to your convictions changing. Although nobody can chose to be convinced by an argument. They may deny it for various reasons, such as sunk cost fallacy, but deep down agree or claim to agree for various reasons, like trying to fit in, but can't bring themselves to genuinely believe it. Not sure about that. People neither chose their race nor their convictions, but there is no process you can consciously initiate which might lead to your ethnicity changing on it's own regardless of whether you want to admit the change or not. (Although with genetic engineering and whatever Neuralink is gonna become, all these arguments might be obsolote sooner than any of us thinks.)
I know a Malaysian female Muslim, who isn't really a Muslim but she's just too afraid to leave (in her own words: she knows her safety would be at risk); she loves the message of Christ in the Bible, reads it regularly in secret, but dares not tell other Muslims, for safety reasons. She liked me a lot back then, and the feeling was mutual. But the crazy thing was that her solution to being together was that I convert to Islam, the very madness that she hates deep down and wishes she could escape 🤔😒 But for me, this was never ever ever ever going to happen. There is NO WAY I would convert to something as appalling as Islam for love. I wouldn't convert to Islam even for a billion dollars.
Did you guys at least plan to move out from Malaysia? I mean that’s the only safe option if the Muslim woman wants to marry non Muslim without you converting to Islam. Or maybe she was just manipulating you. If you’re a Christian most probably she wanted you to convert to Islam. That is their tactic. But as for me I will not marry or date any Muslims because I have high standards lol. During my school years I have noticed many Muslim woman wanting to date me and there was even a Muslim woman who always stare at me which made me uncomfortable towards her. No matter how educated the Muslim woman is I will not marry or date her unless she admits that her religion is evil and wants to leave her religion. There are also people giving money to those who convert to islam and I’m not falling for that bs.
@@Mannyxz I understand you. She admitting hating Islam and saw it as an evil religion. She always posted in debate group against Islam, and she would give me her facebook password to read the horrible threats Muslims were levelling at her through her inbox, for exposing Islam's falsehood. The reason she didn't want to leave Malaysia was because of her mum and dad\family etwork; she said it would break her mum and dad's hearts and she just couldn't do it to them. Personally I would prefer my parents to be heart-broken than to force myself to continue being in a religion I hated. Some people will do all for the truth, but there are those that do not love the truth enough to stand for it, no matter what. Eventually, her Muslim parents overpowered her, and at 27 she had no more excuses as to why she wasn't getting married despite having options. Now, she has a kid with a Muslim husband, so she is in way way deeper than before, and getting away would be even harder. You can imagine her inner torment.
There is problem with Yasir Qadir and islam. If he is quoting Sharia Law with holes in it, then what is wrong with HER decision to marry a person likes or loves.
Whenever these Muslim leaders talk about the sadness,the trauma that Muslim parents face in such a situation, I always find it interesting they don’t give a damn about the other side. By hook or crook make someone Muslim. If the parents on the other side undergo trauma it’s always oh well ‘let allah give them hidaya too’. Deep inside they know not everyone converting this way for marriage sincerely believes. A whole lot of hypocrisy and no integrity.
Hello uncle friendly ex Muslim - not every single Muslim thinks like that. I have a young daughter, I’m a new father. I would never impose on her, I’ve told myself this. When parents are too strict on kids, later on the children rebel. I come from a mix race and religion background and mixed with pretty much everyone. As a Muslim, I think when a child reaches adulthood, they ought to be able to decide for themselves. I would prefer my daughter marries a good Muslim, but if not, not going to cry over it. It’s through my good character and love I can only win. Children will forever be children in a parents eye :) no ifs no buts.
@@IndependentIslamicRepublic What you said is your thoughts or in other words your own religion and not Islam. However, when we see that a billion and a half Muslims are convinced of the same idea that a girl has the right to decide who is her life partner regardless of his religion, then there will be no need to criticize Islam at this point.
I am atheist(culturally Sikh) married to a practising Muslim(pakistani) woman. Everyone from both sides came to the wedding without any religious issues. She actually makes me go to Gurdwara. Now our son is marrying hindu girl and we just had a engagement party. We had Muslim(pakistani) Sikh hindu(tamil) and Christian(White) dancing to punjabi music.
Great video Abdullah, thank you. This reminds me of growing up in New Zealand with a Roman Catholic girlfriend who was forbidden to marry outside her faith, and of Irish Catholic mothers who had to give up their babies for adoption when they found themselves pregnant in circumstances that their strict religion couldn't tolerate. Those times are pretty much gone, and Islam is finally catching up...🙏
At this point I'm still wishing my ex would have been as opened minded as the woman being discussed in this piece. And yes, the belief system causes this stress/trauma in all believers in that system. The solution is very simple and so complex as social pressure, guilt, shame, and ostracization can be leveraged against the woman and her children or family. I appreciate your view point and that you grew into this viewpoint from another. Thanks.
If she truly decided for herself that her faith is more important to her than you, you should accept that and move on inasmuch as you accept this woman who decided her own choice to marry as she pleases.
You could have fake converted. That’s what I did for Christianity and pretty open about the fact that I’m only doing this for the marriage and to keep the old farts off our back. When you truly love someone, it’s not worth being genuine when you’re dealing with idiots
At 13:25 Yassir Q says we must instill "Islamic values " I though he was gong to say "love your neighbor" or something altruistic. But his "values" were just to "love Allah and his messenger". That's not a value. That's a cultish behavior.
I am an Ex Muslim Atheist and I am not shocked Yasir Qadhi claimed the marriage between this Muslim girl and her Atheist boyfriend is not a marriage. Fiqh can be reformed as Hadith is man-made Tradition. Even Yasir Qadhi is really an Atheist as his infamous interview with Mohamed Hijab on the holes in the Quran, which both Dr David Wood and Hatun Tash popularised. Now, why can't Muslims accept Islamophobia is ultimately derived from Kafirphobia, which is all about Muslims hatred for ex Muslims or murtads. Now, this Yasir Qadhi is an anti-murtad bigot and racist.
Honor Killing would've been the best option if they were in any Third World Country, often choose there to prevent getting humiliated by society but living in Western World and constantly playing "Progressive Progressive" all the time really is cornering them. My Sister should live her life to the fullest. 😊
"Honor killings" which are murders in the name of Islam have happened even in a country such as Great Britain .So this is not the preserve of third world countries, but is almost guaranteed in countries with Islamic majority populations.
Translation: All of the scholars and all of the madhabs unanimously agree that women are our objects Alghamdulillah. Brothers and sisters the fact that she's marrying an atheist is Islamophobic and we should be deeply offended and angered by two people loving each other and wanting to spend their lives together jamaat al muslimeen. We should actively work towards destroying our relationship with our daughters if they go down this path and not accept our grand kids, our own flesh and blood because they are born of xina, even though they are innocent and blameless
How dare Muslims tell their daughters when they can and cannot eat and drink during Ramadan!!?? It’s ridiculous. A strong, independent Muslim woman should be able to eat and drink freely with impunity wherever and whenever she wants!
@@FriendlyExmuslim Often overshadowed by all the fuss about hijab, marriage rights etc. Pay more attention to the things right under your nose that you let Muslims get away with scot-free, e.g., fasting in Ramadan. It affects women too.
I can tell you people are leaving Islam, just last week one brother from one African country left Islam and they mistakenly interviewed him and from that alone now people starting coming out loud saying exactly like the first guy.
People are leaving Christianity and Islam and are now embracing nontheism or become spiritual. You can still believe in God without following religious dogma.
@@travelleryu Deism is coming to the realization that there is a God based on the logic he granted us. I could never get down with atheism as it is a denial that a higher power exists. The fact that we exist tells me that there has to be a higher power out there.
@Merhawi. The truth is greater than any religion.There are more evidence of UFO's, extraterrestrial life, paranormal & yes, the supernatural than there is of a creator God. I have experienced the paranormal & the supernatural world. "Respect all religions but don't depend on any deity but avoid evil, do good & most importantly purify your mind just as a goldsmith purifies gold". Said the sage 500 BCE.🙏
So much hatred. I can't get married as well. 😔😔 I refused my partner to convert to Islam.. It doesn't make any sense that he needs to attend Islam course and then sit for exam.. change his name/identification card.. his parent got so upset. 😢 Mullah always blame women for EVERYTHING. Very depressing. 😢😢
But if you want to commit to him would that not be the best option, for both of you? I know you don't want him too but if he converts then you can be together and raise a family of you both want children.
It's indeed sexist. No one is really bothered by these fake conversions of men. Nor are they bothered when a boy marries a non-muslim woman. Maybe some will object if she's hardcore atheist, but most will be very happy if she's just nominally christian. Why does Qadhi assume this lady has just an emotional reasons? Yes, I hope love comes into it. But what of meeting of minds, ideals, temperaments, friendship, support, etc? She could have met any number of muslim men, and not have found any of that in them. Yet those are the things that make a marriage work. Sharing a religion is not enough. Trust me. Been there, done that. Didn't work. Tribalist. He frames it as a community issue. Yet, what harm is done to the community if two people just want to be happy together? Where's the community spirit if you ostracise people for choosing happiness?
He who controls sex, controls the army, controls everything! What they say, is all pretend. It needs to be explained in detail to us - because our instinct is like other creatures i.e. to pair and nest. * If these women couldn't have children with other races/religions then they wouldn't even be sexual interest there. * I find women attractive in all races. Funny, how I don't find a Chimpanzee female attractive, or a gibbon. 1% difference DNA. So, you see we're born with the instinct, we know what we should breed with. That instinct is God given, it doesn't need to be explained to you why you can't breed with an adult female who consents to such a pairing. * If God really wanted everyone to be Muslims - the sex instinct would switch off, as my sex instinct is switched off for chimps. I think this is the problem with their theology when it comes to marriage. * There's not a big line of men from anyone's culture lining up to marry chimps... Well why is that? Because we know the truth. Man's culture often overrides instinct. I bet if we trusted our instincts, we'd take just one wife and stay married to them. * I think you made some great points.
If this grown muslim woman was in living in Islamic countries, she and the man whom she loves would have been killed, and family of the man would have been assaulted as well. But thankfully she lives in the West where she has the freedom to make her own choices and not marry who her parents want. I also want to say, there is absolutely no quranic vereses which states that muslim women cannot marry a none muslim man. All the objections comes from the religious school of thoughts, and from the lying scholars Imams, and sheiks using Quran Surah 2:221 to justify their objections.
Maybe this woman truly understands al-islam and made a calculated decision to avoid the "light" beatings, the eventual 3 other wives and the 3 talaks and halala reconciliation marriage?????
The basic understanding that parents need to have before they have kids is that their kids will grow up to be an individual human beings with their own thoughts and actions, and they have no rights to impose their beliefs to the kids
Human civilizations .. societies .. cultures .. don't work like that . Every community raise thier kids with thier own value system . Just like you yourself will raise your kids with that values of yours . A human .. can be considered as a basic animal just like a dog or monkey . ( Only instincts ) . The things that separate us from them .. is the "value systems" that different civilizations have .
Islam seems to be going through the same crisis as Catholicism went through many decades ago -Catholics used to be discouraged to the maximum from marrying non -Catholics and in cases where a Catholic person did marry a non Catholic the ceremony couldn't take place in front of the altar but in the sacristy of the church and the non Catholic partner had to sign an agreement that the children had to be brought up as Catholics.
It's amusing that Islam is so culturally impoverished that Yasir Qadhi has to use the word "boycott". He doesn't know that the Koran has a version of this, the veil cast over the hearts of the Muhammad's tribe, placed there by their leader, not by imaginary Allah.
This is 1000% bigotry…couldn’t agree more. I wish the Muslim community (not just this one, but worldwide) would be more honest with themselves and do a better job at holding up the mirror of truth. They conveniently point out the flaws of many other ideas and communities, yet fail at looking inwardly.
Look how disappointed he is at a girl meeting an atheist imagine if this was the other way around they would be screaming hate preacher.they are hypocrites of the biggest order.
It's all the same really mate. Scientific polls conducted by aliens showed that when European, Arabs, Africans, Orientals and Indians had the rope around their neck, all 5 races responded with abject terror.
@@esbenm6544 Of course I believe its the one true religion but I shall not give up on it. I will not apologise for that nor can I lie about that. It does claim to be the one true religion.
You know, these are the reasons why forced and arranged marriages happen so much. Many parents have tricked and lied to their children esp their daughters to take them to their countries of origin and marry them off to their cousins or people of the parents choice. That’s also why many restrictions are placed on teenage and adolescent women. Parents don’t want them to go to university outside their town, find a career outside their town or even find a spouse of their own choosing. I absolutely HATE this concept of honor. It’s so oppressive and cruel.
Alot of those forced marriages don't last. I believe many Muslim women go to university now and have degrees Forced marriages are wrong and I cannot understand the mentality of parents who would do that to their daughters. These marriages mainly end in divorce and don't last long. Such a waste of time and money Also its not fair on Muslim women that they can't marry outside their faith. So strange but the men can and also have multiple wives.
If a Muslim man marries a non-Muslim woman and they have children, the children will be counted as Muslims. And according to the Islamic point of view, that is a good thing. And also historically according to a woman from Iran. she was referring to what has been told about what happened in Persia
Well, according to Islamic "law" the children belong to the father. Frequently, stupid Western women marry Muslim men and a few years later he takes the children back "home" never to be seen again. Perhaps inform yourself before marrying someone from a different cultural background/religion.
The parents of this adult woman gave this guy "permission" to talk about their, again, ADULT daughter. Even in adulthood women get no rest nor voice in their lives huh?
It’s not about the Quran. It’s not about the hadeeth. It’s about the Ij’ma (consensus) of the scholiars. Thank you YQ, the MasterBlaster blasting holes into Islam from the inside and fueling the avalanche.
Living it man... A Bangladeshi here. If it might interest you, heres my foolish story. an ex muslim here, for about 3-4years now, once a devout religious boy. being raised in a very pious family and being a practicing muslim i was always intrigued by the history of islam and liked to study things about it. long story short, found out about whats hidden under the rug that everyone turns a blind eye to saying "it means something else" or "its needed to be understood properly" and a whole lot other excuses except for seeing the obvious staring right at their faces. their conditioning is too deep rooted to think in a clear mind or even entertain a thought without accepting it. my family doesnt yet know about me. altho coming out with this to my "pious to heart" fiance backfired. i wanted to make her eyes open to the bs of it all. so so many memories and experiences together, so many ups and downs and adventures and goosebumps.. over the 4years. despite our two family were already engaged in conversation about our marriage, she broke up with me. i really dreamt, planned and literally depnded my life around her. i loved her despite everything, with every cell in my body.. anyway, tried to point out to the dark and fishy spots of the religion. it backfired, no surprise. still, the truth MUST'VE been told.. within 1 single month of our break, up she got engaged and got married quite in a hurry with some pious bloke. it was last year, 10th sep(2021). surprisingly, 9 days before my birthday, probably just to add salt on my wounds.
It must really hurt that she broke up with you in this way for that reason, her loss. It's not a foolish story, it's a story of first love. You won't really believe it now, as you are young, but you have a lifetime ahead of you. There will be someone else that will share your views and values. As an old man you will look back and see what you learned from your current pain. All the best.
He didn't even offer any real 'solutions.' He said in the beginning that she was a PRACTICING Muslim. So how is just making sure your kid is a practicing Muslim going to prevent it from happening!? I also love how he threw the mum under the bus by effectively saying it's her fault that her daughter got 'led astray.' Jesus, it's like watching a car crash you just can't look away from.
If this wasn’t so harmful it would be pretty funny. You just can’t take this guy seriously when he’s calling a woman allowed to marry who she wants a huge crisis. What world is he living in
Notice that this preacher coveniently did not mention the kind of punishment this daughter must be given. Even a hardcore muslim preacher finds it adhorrent to say, "kill this woman for her sins". How this man wants others to follow his religion!
Great point. You can argue it either way. Normally it would be a few dozen lashes for fornication. However, if her husband was spreading atheism, and she was helping with his TH-cam channel, they're might be an argument for crucifixion. .. How sad and insane is that?
Sheik Yasir Qadhi is not a muslim because he does not in the quran. He said he cannot believe in the story of Yājūj and Mājūj. He also said that THERE ARE HOLES IN THE STANDARD NARRATIVE about the perservation of the quran. Come on Yasir Qadhi tell us what these holes are !
I could give you holes. Humans can't be trusted, they either falsify documents or they don't. If humans have a predisposition to falsify documents - it may have happened to everyone's holy scriptures. Because once people start murdering each other as they have done in Christianity and Islam, we aren't engaging in honest behaviour... So how can you trust it? * It's a cynical reply. I do believe in God but I'm not big on any scripture, though, I'm happy to cherry-pick verses I like from them all. Humanity would be a lot more healthier if they replaced reading scripture for prayer. God's everywhere, so can be experienced empirically by everyone. No need for scripture. We intuitively know what is kind. Perhaps, that kindness which is always with us is the Guide we should be following?
And he is so bold to call them not good enough Muslims, so that all people in their look at them as bad people when they make peace with their daughters desision!
I see the problem with the word marriage used in context with gay people -partnership sounds less forced in English. But amongst humans the level of homosexuality is 7% - roughly, the same level for other warm blooded mammals. You might say homosexuality is not ''normal'' because it's relatively uncommon, but it's certainly natural. From instance, we could splice an embryo and put in a gene that we could predict would make a person homosexual 20 years later in the future. Therefore, knowledge like this weakens the Koranic perspective that homosexuality is a great sin, when Allah himself designed the gene. Probably as a buffer form of contraception - so that species don't over populate and knock other species out of balance. Too many deer in a forest will destroy the forest, and they and the other species will starve.
I'm assuming that by claiming the marriage isn't legitimate, they can then accuse her and him of fornication and demand the required punishment of 100 lashes each, presumably on each occasion.
Why are things always always phrased in terms of the concern for women? Why is there no concern for Muslim men who may be in loveless marriages? Wouldn't they equally be victims? Why is there so much misandry in the ex-Muslim community?
The problem is, that people wanna tell people what they have to believe, instead of having those people find their own way to God. Everyone has to make their own experiences and connections, cause otherwise you will have an unhappy/unsure relationship between you, God and the ones that brought you into this. Faith isnt a membership, its a personal connection! ☝️🕊 God bless
It is actually a good idea to take away the phones from all these teenage boys and girlzzz of the modern world considering how dumb tiktokers are getting day by day .
ex-muslim woman here ✋ the only ex-boyfriends who treated me right were atheists. I'm engaged to one right now but we're lying to my parents and pretend he will be converting soon. (also, it wasn't my fiance that convinced me to be an atheist. it was the Muslims themselves)
Yes muslims are making me dislike islam too im born muslim, ive started preferring sects like ismali, bohra, memon even though mainstream muslims consider them unislamic
@@shireenbegum9166so you wanna follow your desires?
so you wanna follow your desires? That’s a test from Allah if the athiest treats you “well”. It’s temporary. Will you choose suffering for ETERNITY 🥵🥵😰😰?
I can’t comprehend the fact that full grown adult Men use their free time to hold a whole gathering to discuss the private live of others and to brainstorm a solution for a so called ,crisis’ that just exist in their own heads.
It sounds like we haven’t evolved much in these thousands of years we’ve had religion. No wonder so many religious people don’t believe in evolution!
Well said. That's religion.
Muslim men are very good at telling others what and what not to do, specially women. 😟
@Hannah. In sahih al bukhari 5125, Mo got Allah's approval to marry Aisha through a dream.😉😉😉
IF GOD IS ALL POWERFULL WHY DONT HE STOP IT
The parents move to secular and liberal country to have a better life.. but expecting their daughter to follow sharia law??
Exactly! I ask my parents why they moved here and had me here if they wanted that.
Bizarre
*@Cool Kidz typed*
The parents move to secular and liberal country to have a better life.. but expecting their daughter to follow sharia law?? *end of quote*
To solve this mystery I'd like to point out, that Allah in the Koran declares to Muslims that the whole earth is his. He can give it to whom he wants. One of the passages also says that Allah will decrease the lands of the unbelievers. So to these Parents, they did not come to Canada to live a life like we Non-Muslims do.
Here are the 3 Passages
7:128 Moses reassured his people, “Seek Allah’s help and be patient. Indeed, the earth belongs to Allah ˹alone˺. He grants it to whoever He chooses of His servants. The ultimate outcome belongs ˹only˺ to the righteous.”
13:41 Do they not see that We gradually reduce their land from its borders? Allah decides-none can reverse His decision. And He is swift in reckoning.
21:105
And We have already written in the book [of Psalms] after the [previous] mention that the land [of Paradise] is inherited by My righteous servants.
*end of quotes*
This shows how dangerous islam is for the human mind.
@@isallah1kafir196 Muslims need to go through reducation camps similar to the Chinese Uighur Camps if they ever want to migrate, this is coming from a Ex Muslim
I'm a Swede. I personally have seen three muslim-born women marry Swedes, and the three men all took the shahada to play nice with their brides' extended families. And now these three families live normal, atheist lives afaik.
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This is the perfect example of circumventing the laws and rules. Yet, Muslims are oblivious to it. They still insist on the groom saying the shahadat and "embracing" İslam just because it makes them feels better.
So one day, there’ll be more Muslims fake or real than there are none.
And for the same reason, you’ll accept sharia laws implemented in towns and communities there.
@@I9s7lam5is-S3tu1pid they won't state that they are muslims in surveys and their kids won't be muslims.
Därför ska man inte bo bland otrogna.
It's a shame that we live in that cold and dark place, speaking their weird languages. It's our fault for not having dealt with our internal problems correctly until we settled among a born outside marriage atheist creatures like svensson.
Agreed! My parents forced me into a nikkah. I and my fiancé are atheists. It’s no ones business. My parents are dogmatic and indoctrinated and i wish to live freely. Why did they move to America if they wanted me in chains?
@El M. Try to make peace, be kind, be gentle with others & YOURSELF. You can respect the religion but don't depend on any deity. After all it is how you conduct yourself in life that makes the difference.🙏🙏🙏
My brother said to me that he was gonna chain me to the bed. I was in shock! What a nut! Then the abuse started so l called the police. Now he leaves me alone most of the time. He doesn't harass or abuse me anymore...for now.... Who knows how long it will last? Probably not for long! But he knows now that if l call the police on him again he will be arrested. But l still plan on moving out and get my own place. No way l want to stay living with this mad man!
@@MustAfaalik if they want their religion to be respected, they should get better some beliefs worth to be respected.
@@carerforever2118 you should protect yourself. Whenever you can you should move out of the house. Unfortunately, I saw a lot of people who preferred to spend in jail so the honor of their families will not be damaged. They are blinded by this religion.
@@amentia1986 The whole world is out of control; we can only do the right thing by responding in a skillful manner without harm to others & ourselves especially in her situation. I would refer you to Harris Sultan (The myth of Christianity) on the subject with a handy packet of popcorn for the duration, information & entertainment.
I’m from an Indian Hindu family. My sister married a white American (nominally Christian, but effectively secular humanist). Our parents didn’t go to her wedding, not specifically on religious grounds but because they didn’t approve for a variety of reasons.
They regretted that decision almost immediately afterwards. Almost a decade later, everyone is on good terms but they can’t unring that bell. For your own sakes, don’t be as relenting as Qadhi would have you be.
Edit: I meant unrelenting. How embarrassing!
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Such good advice. This is true,parents fall under society’s pressure to try and emotionally manipulate the couple. In the end only they end up losing.
Actually if you watch the video you'll see that qadi isn't relenting at all. I'm of a very neutral opinion but yq is actually talking about liberalising norms in the islamic community regarding marriage.
@@samiamaan8023 our friend at this channel isn’t prone to clipping out of context, but on the off chance I misunderstood what Mr. Qadi said my advice stands on its own.
When I was young I knew this really amazing Brahman chick who was clearly into me, but made it clear there was just no chance due to the caste thing
IMO she would have been marrying up🤷♂️. Her kids may even have had blonde hair and blue eyes like a proper Brahman 🤣
Of course it's considered a problem when an ingroup woman marries an outgroup man, but not the other way around, in a patriarchal system, because the woman is considered the property of the man and assumed to join the man's group.
Their world view also assume the woman will now be owned by that man.
According to these types, a Muslim husband who beats her is better than an atheist who treats her as an equal.
This mentality of not tolerating being "one-upped" by non-Muslims is at the heart of Muslim psychology. They don't give an F about suffering of other Muslims UNTIL and unless a nonMuslim is viewed as the cause.
I sverige finns det knappt giftermål. Ni har bytt ut giftermål med sambo. Enligt SCB så är mer än hälften av barnen som avlas oäktingar, därför inklineras svensson till ateism, hbtq och könsändring än vad era fäder som trodde på Gud och gifte sig gjorde. Det är pga att ni är avlade från ett orent umgänge och därför intoleranta till rättfärdighet.
@@Ibn_Abdulaziz I don't know if we are more inclined towards hbtq, but we're certainly more accepting of it. And that's a *good* thing. "Intolerant to righteousness"? Bah! What is "righteousness"? It's certainly not defined by what one guy said 1400 years ago.
@@reformCopyright Would you be ok with your father changing his gender or your mother participating in pornography? Would you be against Muslims legislating laws in sweden that forbid such things?
@@Ibn_Abdulaziz They are over 70, so the question is moot, but in principle that's up to them. I'm against basing legislation on religious beliefs in general. Legislation should be rational, and religion is irrational.
My aunt married an atheist Norwegian man but he had to pretend to convert so my dad wouldn't disown her like he disowned his cousin who married a Christian man. Also I cant tell him I'm no longer a good Muslim hijabi and that I'm now agnostic🙃
Thank you for telling us nonetheless. Solidarity in freethought.
Not a real solution, they are living a lie. Perhaps necessary if he would kill her? Otherwise, time for him to accept that he does not own the females in his family and respect them as human beings.
in the end, the old will die off and the young will live freely. .....after we get rid of White Christian Nationalism in America
I taught my children to always be truthful to us. We have grown into better parents because of their honesty.
This is the same as me too, where I'm a closeted ex-Muslim and my atheist husband had to pretend converting to Islam just so he could be with me legally and me not losing my connection to my family.
She's probably not a Muslim herself any longer. Leave her alone.
I think according to Islam, she'd now qualify as a Hypocrite - someone who identifies as a Muslim, but doesn't truly follow Islam's rules.
Actually I guarantee that over 95% of Muslims are not following the teachings of Islam in its entirety. And ironically, most of those are actually very decent human beings.
It’s a joy to watch Islam go through yet another crisis of dealing with unbelievers.
I hope he is not suggesting an honor killing. She should be careful around these nuts.
@@sheikhboyardee556 We do not know the private Halal advice Yasir Qadhi gave to the parents💀
.. Islam is indeed unbelievably unbelievable .. unless you've been brainwashed since you are an egg in your mother's ovum or that you are naturally irrational.
lsIam is going through a crisis of dealing with romance and love. Popcorn time!
@@srfrg9707 Islam is simply not a religion that belongs in the 21st Century. It worked well in the 7th Century & some centuries after that, but not now.
It goes to show that religious laws has no bearing... and one can easily walk away. Especially if one live in the West.
just this week we had a 14 year old girl killed by her own family, mother, brother and her cousin in swedarabia. Yea no bearing at all........ for example go out a friade night in stockholm lets say around 22 PM in central stockholm, you will see ALL kind of people except NOT ONE muslim girl or a women!!! NOT ONE!!!! So where are they?? locked up at home!
As someone who was brought up to believe in multiculturalism and the melting pot, it saddens me to see some communities closing themselves off from others.
And spreading it by making babies, raising jihadhies, and migrating to western shores.
These religious leaders love to separate their community to live in parallel society that way it's easier to control them cause of the fear from the "Others"
Multiculturism will fail eventually .
That's atheismophobia!
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"Kuffarphobia"? Lol.
It is
a more elegant version of the word would be "atheophobia"
Yasir Qadhi knows very well that the number of apostates is growing faster and faster .
That is why he is preaching like this .
How dare a womans not allow parents/religion/society to choose who she shares extremely personal things of her’s with!! O u t r a g e
Women will be wanting the vote next!
@@scarfhs1 I should certainly hope not. But I have heard - and this may be just a rumor - but I have heard that in some places, they are now reading books. And still others………….operating motor vehicles. It will not be long now until men have no rights left.
@@thestarseeker8196 NO!!! th-cam.com/video/BDtVJiK8Lws/w-d-xo.html
Tribal thinking is on the decline in the 21st century. But Yasir Qadhi has not yet grasped it.
For people like him, individualism is their kryptonite. Collectivism is significantly less prevalent in developed, egalitarian parts of the world.
My wife had a mental breakdown when she found out I'm an atheist. Starting hyperventilating and literally collapsed. She's Catholic from West Africa. Africans take religion too seriously. That's why I still pretend to pray when I'm with family.
Sorry to hear that
As long as they follow sharia values like men and women can't be in the same room - they won't be able to change this "problem". Which actually means that it's a *good* fact. ❤️ *Amor vinci omnia!* ❤️
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Humanity is more important & Islam is never the cure. Get it right, brother!!!☪
I knew a man once, I think he was called Bungdi din, who always had a liking for Western women
of course islam is never the cure
islam is the illness
As an atheist I would not choose a partner with a religious conviction or affiliation , basically it's more trouble than it's worth .
True
Dead right
Really? A hindu is an atheist to everyone else. The religion has nothing to do with other peoples beliefs.
Yo! You're right. It's rather difficult to change someone's mindset after a few years of indoctrination.
But at least you can put both the cases in front children. Theism and atheism. And after due thoughts , they usually pick atheism. That's the natural position. We were born without a God or a religion.
People pick up theism and religion in their childhood, because there was no choice Both the parents and all the relative offered them the same basket of nonsense.
In my case, my mother was a devout woman and father didn't pray at all. He never went to a temple, never prayed. He wasn't atheist exactly, but he said that prayers don't help, never.
Even if there's a God, he doesn't help. You gotta help yourself.
That's it! I left the religion in very early age.
Children also make choices , but there should be presentation of both sides.
They choose atheism.
So fine! Go ahead and marry a religious type!😊👍👍
Yup agree..i dont mind non practicing religious ppl but the orthodox dogmatic types..never
11:08 is bang on.
Islam has failed Muslims by not letting them modernise or live authentically by their own choices, it has nothing to do with anything else.
Yes!
Letting Muslims be modern and make choices freely means *enabling them to let go* of their religion. So, it's a big no-no.
I would imagine the Priest of the Aztec saying in translation: "Human sacrifice to the Gods is a Must and it cannot be changed.'
That explains all those skulls at the base of those pyramids in Central America
This is so stupid and no reason to stress about it
They did say that .. then the spanish colonizers screwed them .
LOL Abdullah's smile as he starts cracking up listening to Yasir and can't help himself but start smiling is so great to watch.
There’s a hole in the narrative.
To be fair, I wouldn't exactly be thrilled if my daughter married a muslim man either. I'd be concerned if my son married a muslim woman too, but in both cases I'd be worried about the life and health of the woman, and how the muslim side of the family treats her. That's a legitimate concern. When was the last time you heard of an atheist honor killing?
If they all move to places like Pakistan or Afghanistan, they are surely safe from this horror. But as long as they live in free countries, this will keep happening.
Apostasy rates are going up in even Pakistan or Afghanistan, I pray daily for Islam's ultimate collapse
That will mean giving up the freedoms and life they live now to the harsh life under the Taliban or Pakistan.
@@ogana_M Afghanistan is a jannah on Earth!
@@svensvenforkedbeard170 you’re welcome to move there.
@@stoneruler Afganistan? I was being sarcastic
I've heard muslim apologists saying islam isn't forced on others it's a way of life between the individual and God. Well, I'm hoping they'll come out and condemn such a behavior, call him out for wanting to enforce islamic rule of his daughter.
this is ALLAH'S rules not yours please .. if she's muslimah she have to respect such boundaries thanks!
@@sadeeqsalisu1809 most likely she became a Muslim because of her parents and her community, not by choice. For those who left Islam especially women face the worse obstacles especially from their family
Those muslim apologists are not truthful. Their messenger of Allah told his followers to kill those who leave Islam and force non muslims ( jews and christians) to pay jizya
@@sadeeqsalisu1809 Show us where it says a Muslim woman must marry a Muslim man, since you’re saying it’s “Allah’s rule.” You’re so brainwashed that you can’t see that position is essentially politically motivated insofar as the number game is maintained. You’re calling rules created by men “Allah’s rule.” Your god must be a false god to have men’s rule supersede his.
@@sadeeqsalisu1809 your allah doesn't exist
Love is stronger than religion ^^
Religion destroys love
@@kitaro2902 As opposed to Atheism of course...
@Twenty faces *yes they are*
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Love is just an illusion.
I’m satisfied with the notion that it’s more and more common that people are marrying outside their religion.
Some people will leave their faiths and some join for different reasons.
And as stated, in a multicultural world this is a natural progress and so is interfaith marriages as well.
I had the same issue. Grew up in the west to devout Muslim parents. I saw the hypocrisy as I was growing up in treatment compared to my brother. I hated it, and there was no convincing answer as to why I’m treated like I’m stupid and have no rights to my own life as opposed to my brother. Despite being older and the medical one in the family, I was given no respectful standing. “Don’t ask questions” “that’s Allah’s way”… not good enough. I saw how Muslim women around me suffered in their marriages. I knew I would never marry a Muslim man. I still wanted to have a family of my own but I knew it would be different.
I met a wonderful man. He is Christian. My family were ready to kill me to stop me from marrying him. On account of shame and honour. Thankfully the police helped… I’m so aware that so very many girls have not been so fortunate…. Where is their voice?
12 years later we are still married and happy with 3 daughters and a son. I do not regret my choice. And somehow my parents got over it, and what do you know? Life moved on!
It's so sad but I am happy that atleast you got a man of your dreams
ahhhh, my wife is also a muslim... and she knows im an atheist when we were dating.... i respect her belief and she respect my disbelief.. but both my and her family doesnt know about my disbelief coz its easier that way...
She can't be a real Muslim if she respects a non Muslim (you). But fortunately for you, she is a a real humsn being.
@@ahamedumusaafir9856 she definitly a muslim .. a real one.. like all the muslims in the world they are all real.. A muslim is someone who believes in Allah and Muhammad is His messenger.. that should be enough.. U practice or not is another matter.. if muslims commit sins or does not follow sharia, they are still muslims… Riddah doesnt happen just by committing sin…
And yeah lucky for me she is more decent human being than islam would allow her to be even she doesnt realize it..
@@ahamedumusaafir9856 .There are so many muslim women who respect non muslim men. I had the opportunity to marry 3 of them at three different stages of my life but I chickened out because of the difficulties that would have arose later on.
@@ogana_M i felt the same way but we did a leap of faith and married for 3 years already.. hopefully last a lifetime
@@friendlymurtad im curious how r u raising your children?
Islam needs a lot of reforms if its to stay alive in the modern world. It's just so much easier to abandon all together 😆
Yup!
What exactly is the point of a "reform" tho ?
If someone wants to change the rules in his religion .. why not just leave the religion ?
It's like Capitalism saying there should be reforms in Communism . ( Reformed communism isn't communism anymore is it )
3:59 The comparison with White Supremacists is equally hilarious and fitting! These people are not as different as they think they are.
It’s always been the secret goal of white supremacists to follow the Bible verse of beheading the infidels, right?
Well Islam is a supremacist religion
What are your thoughts about people who respond with 'you can't chose your race but you can chose your religion'? I don't usually know where I stand because at face value, they are right. But when you think about it some more, you'd be hard pressed to find anyone who would change their belief system just because someone demanded that you should. I guess it shows in how there's a rule about how captured non muslims have 3 days to convert or die (not sure if i'm right about the specifics) and frame it as a totally not coerced 'choice.' Maybe that's them projecting how fickle their own beliefs are.
@@Mich6961 That's a tricky question. I think it's worth mentioning that you can't shose to be convinced by something. Believing is not a choice, neither is the culture you'reborn into your choice. That part is (sort of) analogous to race.
However, one can chose to question their beliefs and allow for them to be discussed, which could lead to your convictions changing. Although nobody can chose to be convinced by an argument. They may deny it for various reasons, such as sunk cost fallacy, but deep down agree or claim to agree for various reasons, like trying to fit in, but can't bring themselves to genuinely believe it.
Not sure about that. People neither chose their race nor their convictions, but there is no process you can consciously initiate which might lead to your ethnicity changing on it's own regardless of whether you want to admit the change or not.
(Although with genetic engineering and whatever Neuralink is gonna become, all these arguments might be obsolote sooner than any of us thinks.)
the comparison of this to some kkk member worried about their daughters marrying black dudes was spot on lmao
I know a Malaysian female Muslim, who isn't really a Muslim but she's just too afraid to leave (in her own words: she knows her safety would be at risk); she loves the message of Christ in the Bible, reads it regularly in secret, but dares not tell other Muslims, for safety reasons. She liked me a lot back then, and the feeling was mutual. But the crazy thing was that her solution to being together was that I convert to Islam, the very madness that she hates deep down and wishes she could escape 🤔😒 But for me, this was never ever ever ever going to happen. There is NO WAY I would convert to something as appalling as Islam for love. I wouldn't convert to Islam even for a billion dollars.
Did you guys at least plan to move out from Malaysia? I mean that’s the only safe option if the Muslim woman wants to marry non Muslim without you converting to Islam. Or maybe she was just manipulating you. If you’re a Christian most probably she wanted you to convert to Islam. That is their tactic. But as for me I will not marry or date any Muslims because I have high standards lol. During my school years I have noticed many Muslim woman wanting to date me and there was even a Muslim woman who always stare at me which made me uncomfortable towards her. No matter how educated the Muslim woman is I will not marry or date her unless she admits that her religion is evil and wants to leave her religion. There are also people giving money to those who convert to islam and I’m not falling for that bs.
How about 10 billion dollars?
Just joking 🙃!
Migration is an option …
How about 'convert' and then go back to your own religion with your billion dollars?
I wud convert for a thousand dollars, then just apostasize after.
@@Mannyxz I understand you. She admitting hating Islam and saw it as an evil religion. She always posted in debate group against Islam, and she would give me her facebook password to read the horrible threats Muslims were levelling at her through her inbox, for exposing Islam's falsehood. The reason she didn't want to leave Malaysia was because of her mum and dad\family
etwork; she said it would break her mum and dad's hearts and she just couldn't do it to them. Personally I would prefer my parents to be heart-broken than to force myself to continue being in a religion I hated. Some people will do all for the truth, but there are those that do not love the truth enough to stand for it, no matter what. Eventually, her Muslim parents overpowered her, and at 27 she had no more excuses as to why she wasn't getting married despite having options. Now, she has a kid with a Muslim husband, so she is in way way deeper than before, and getting away would be even harder. You can imagine her inner torment.
There is problem with Yasir Qadir and islam. If he is quoting Sharia Law with holes in it, then what is wrong with HER decision to marry a person likes or loves.
Whenever these Muslim leaders talk about the sadness,the trauma that Muslim parents face in such a situation, I always find it interesting they don’t give a damn about the other side. By hook or crook make someone Muslim. If the parents on the other side undergo trauma it’s always oh well ‘let allah give them hidaya too’. Deep inside they know not everyone converting this way for marriage sincerely believes. A whole lot of hypocrisy and no integrity.
Hello uncle friendly ex Muslim - not every single Muslim thinks like that. I have a young daughter, I’m a new father. I would never impose on her, I’ve told myself this. When parents are too strict on kids, later on the children rebel. I come from a mix race and religion background and mixed with pretty much everyone. As a Muslim, I think when a child reaches adulthood, they ought to be able to decide for themselves. I would prefer my daughter marries a good Muslim, but if not, not going to cry over it. It’s through my good character and love I can only win. Children will forever be children in a parents eye :) no ifs no buts.
Thats a mature take if I heard one!
@@FriendlyExmuslim May Allah bless you 🌹
You'd like your daughter to marry a good Muslim.... How do you identify a good Muslim?
@@IndependentIslamicRepublic
What you said is your thoughts or in other words your own religion and not Islam. However, when we see that a billion and a half Muslims are convinced of the same idea that a girl has the right to decide who is her life partner regardless of his religion, then there will be no need to criticize Islam at this point.
@@ahmedsam9355 true
The "problem" of interfaith marriage IS "Faith" itself!!
I am atheist(culturally Sikh) married to a practising Muslim(pakistani) woman. Everyone from both sides came to the wedding without any religious issues. She actually makes me go to Gurdwara. Now our son is marrying hindu girl and we just had a engagement party. We had Muslim(pakistani) Sikh hindu(tamil) and Christian(White) dancing to punjabi music.
Great video Abdullah, thank you. This reminds me of growing up in New Zealand with a Roman Catholic girlfriend who was forbidden to marry outside her faith, and of Irish Catholic mothers who had to give up their babies for adoption when they found themselves pregnant in circumstances that their strict religion couldn't tolerate. Those times are pretty much gone, and Islam is finally catching up...🙏
At this point I'm still wishing my ex would have been as opened minded as the woman being discussed in this piece. And yes, the belief system causes this stress/trauma in all believers in that system. The solution is very simple and so complex as social pressure, guilt, shame, and ostracization can be leveraged against the woman and her children or family.
I appreciate your view point and that you grew into this viewpoint from another. Thanks.
Your ex was Muslim?
@@suadpattonbey7239 She is.
If she truly decided for herself that her faith is more important to her than you, you should accept that and move on inasmuch as you accept this woman who decided her own choice to marry as she pleases.
You could have fake converted. That’s what I did for Christianity and pretty open about the fact that I’m only doing this for the marriage and to keep the old farts off our back. When you truly love someone, it’s not worth being genuine when you’re dealing with idiots
@@hydr012 You don't understand Islam's apostasy laws.
At 13:25 Yassir Q says we must instill "Islamic values " I though he was gong to say "love your neighbor" or something altruistic. But his "values" were just to "love Allah and his messenger". That's not a value. That's a cultish behavior.
"Talk to your daughter" absolutely - we all need to communicate properly with each other, whatever our beliefs.
I am an Ex Muslim Atheist and I am not shocked Yasir Qadhi claimed the marriage between this Muslim girl and her Atheist boyfriend is not a marriage. Fiqh can be reformed as Hadith is man-made Tradition. Even Yasir Qadhi is really an Atheist as his infamous interview with Mohamed Hijab on the holes in the Quran, which both Dr David Wood and Hatun Tash popularised. Now, why can't Muslims accept Islamophobia is ultimately derived from Kafirphobia, which is all about Muslims hatred for ex Muslims or murtads. Now, this Yasir Qadhi is an anti-murtad bigot and racist.
Mr Naik - great point there. All the best from the UK
Honor Killing would've been the best option if they were in any Third World Country, often choose there to prevent getting humiliated by society but living in Western World and constantly playing "Progressive Progressive" all the time really is cornering them. My Sister should live her life to the fullest. 😊
He's not causing more trauma to her mother but Gaslighting her for steps she should not take.
😔 Yeah
"Honor killings" which are murders in the name of Islam have happened even in a country such as Great Britain .So this is not the preserve of third world countries, but is almost guaranteed in countries with Islamic majority populations.
It's kinda weird that muslim women have limited choice of husband while men could choose from whichever religion 😅
Translation:
All of the scholars and all of the madhabs unanimously agree that women are our objects Alghamdulillah. Brothers and sisters the fact that she's marrying an atheist is Islamophobic and we should be deeply offended and angered by two people loving each other and wanting to spend their lives together jamaat al muslimeen. We should actively work towards destroying our relationship with our daughters if they go down this path and not accept our grand kids, our own flesh and blood because they are born of xina, even though they are innocent and blameless
Crazy, isn't it?
How dare Muslims tell their daughters when they can and cannot eat and drink during Ramadan!!?? It’s ridiculous. A strong, independent Muslim woman should be able to eat and drink freely with impunity wherever and whenever she wants!
Dumb analogy
@@FriendlyExmuslim Often overshadowed by all the fuss about hijab, marriage rights etc. Pay more attention to the things right under your nose that you let Muslims get away with scot-free, e.g., fasting in Ramadan. It affects women too.
They are all always happy when people convert to Islam but once they leave Islam it's seems like they don't see nu seen
For them, it's a shame.
I can tell you people are leaving Islam, just last week one brother from one African country left Islam and they mistakenly interviewed him and from that alone now people starting coming out loud saying exactly like the first guy.
Who mistakenly interviewed him? Is it on TH-cam? Id love to see that. Can you supply the link pkease? Thanks.
@@claires9100 Kabefo TV they speaks their native languages but the title is in English
People are leaving Christianity and Islam and are now embracing nontheism or become spiritual. You can still believe in God without following religious dogma.
Deism
@@Ccccccgggggggjj That is what I am. I still believe that God intervenes in our lives as well as in miracles but that he is bigger than religion.
Why even believe in a god. It's not much different from believing in a spiderman.
All religions are manmade god is also a made up concept.
@@travelleryu Deism is coming to the realization that there is a God based on the logic he granted us. I could never get down with atheism as it is a denial that a higher power exists. The fact that we exist tells me that there has to be a higher power out there.
@Merhawi. The truth is greater than any religion.There are more evidence of UFO's, extraterrestrial life, paranormal & yes, the supernatural than there is of a creator God. I have experienced the paranormal & the supernatural world. "Respect all religions but don't depend on any deity but avoid evil, do good & most importantly purify your mind just as a goldsmith purifies gold". Said the sage 500 BCE.🙏
So much hatred.
I can't get married as well. 😔😔
I refused my partner to convert to Islam.. It doesn't make any sense that he needs to attend Islam course and then sit for exam.. change his name/identification card.. his parent got so upset. 😢
Mullah always blame women for EVERYTHING.
Very depressing. 😢😢
dont fall for this else you will end up ruining your life .
But if you want to commit to him would that not be the best option, for both of you?
I know you don't want him too but if he converts then you can be together and raise a family of you both want children.
Marrying a Hindu would be even worse for these guys
Maybe yeah
lol , Dont talk nonsense if you dont know anything
I am planning to marry muslim woman… nice to see their anger😂😂😂 she will become atheist as per our belief…
Best wishes to the happy couple, may they have a harmonious marriage 💕
Yeah the fact that she loves him despite him being an atheist :) stuff like this makes me smile
It's indeed sexist. No one is really bothered by these fake conversions of men. Nor are they bothered when a boy marries a non-muslim woman. Maybe some will object if she's hardcore atheist, but most will be very happy if she's just nominally christian.
Why does Qadhi assume this lady has just an emotional reasons? Yes, I hope love comes into it. But what of meeting of minds, ideals, temperaments, friendship, support, etc? She could have met any number of muslim men, and not have found any of that in them. Yet those are the things that make a marriage work. Sharing a religion is not enough. Trust me. Been there, done that. Didn't work.
Tribalist. He frames it as a community issue. Yet, what harm is done to the community if two people just want to be happy together? Where's the community spirit if you ostracise people for choosing happiness?
Exactly
He who controls sex, controls the army, controls everything! What they say, is all pretend. It needs to be explained in detail to us - because our instinct is like other creatures i.e. to pair and nest.
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If these women couldn't have children with other races/religions then they wouldn't even be sexual interest there.
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I find women attractive in all races. Funny, how I don't find a Chimpanzee female attractive, or a gibbon. 1% difference DNA. So, you see we're born with the instinct, we know what we should breed with. That instinct is God given, it doesn't need to be explained to you why you can't breed with an adult female who consents to such a pairing.
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If God really wanted everyone to be Muslims - the sex instinct would switch off, as my sex instinct is switched off for chimps. I think this is the problem with their theology when it comes to marriage.
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There's not a big line of men from anyone's culture lining up to marry chimps... Well why is that? Because we know the truth. Man's culture often overrides instinct. I bet if we trusted our instincts, we'd take just one wife and stay married to them.
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I think you made some great points.
If this grown muslim woman was in living in Islamic countries, she and the man whom she loves would have been killed, and family of the man would have been assaulted as well. But thankfully she lives in the West where she has the freedom to make her own choices and not marry who her parents want. I also want to say, there is absolutely no quranic vereses which states that muslim women cannot marry a none muslim man. All the objections comes from the religious school of thoughts, and from the lying scholars Imams, and sheiks using Quran Surah 2:221 to justify their objections.
Maybe this woman truly understands al-islam and made a calculated decision to avoid the "light" beatings, the eventual 3 other wives and the 3 talaks and halala reconciliation marriage?????
Lol. She dodged several bullets.
I thought we were living in the 21st century?
You mean you’re living in the 21st century in a western country
The rulings of Islam do not change
The basic understanding that parents need to have before they have kids is that their kids will grow up to be an individual human beings with their own thoughts and actions, and they have no rights to impose their beliefs to the kids
Human civilizations .. societies .. cultures .. don't work like that .
Every community raise thier kids with thier own value system .
Just like you yourself will raise your kids with that values of yours .
A human .. can be considered as a basic animal just like a dog or monkey . ( Only instincts ) .
The things that separate us from them .. is the "value systems" that different civilizations have .
the solution is so obvious...zombies!
Yasir Qadhi is always angry. What do you expect.
He is trying to make up for the "Holes in the Narrative" confession.
Although he's pretty calm and self controlled compared to Muhammad Hijab!
Year 2013 a muslim girl (my acquaintance) married a sc hindu. Still in 2023 they r boycotted
Islam seems to be going through the same crisis as Catholicism went through many decades ago -Catholics used to be discouraged to the maximum from marrying non -Catholics and in cases where a Catholic person did marry a non Catholic the ceremony couldn't take place in front of the altar but in the sacristy of the church and the non Catholic partner had to sign an agreement that the children had to be brought up as Catholics.
Facts! same thing.
Yasir Qhadi causing unnecessary trauma for the family.
It's amusing that Islam is so culturally impoverished that Yasir Qadhi has to use the word "boycott". He doesn't know that the Koran has a version of this, the veil cast over the hearts of the Muhammad's tribe, placed there by their leader, not by imaginary Allah.
This is 1000% bigotry…couldn’t agree more.
I wish the Muslim community (not just this one, but worldwide) would be more honest with themselves and do a better job at holding up the mirror of truth. They conveniently point out the flaws of many other ideas and communities, yet fail at looking inwardly.
The Quran says it’s not allowed
They need to step into the modern world. Their lives would be so much easier. Good for the New bride. Her life, her choice.
Look how disappointed he is at a girl meeting an atheist imagine if this was the other way around they would be screaming hate preacher.they are hypocrites of the biggest order.
A Muslim girl married an athiest? Alhamdulilah for that
May she leave Islam soon.
Imagine if the atheist. was black
It's all the same really mate. Scientific polls conducted by aliens showed that when European, Arabs, Africans, Orientals and Indians had the rope around their neck, all 5 races responded with abject terror.
Such trauma, if prayer does not bring answers, how about seeking psychological help...
I've had prayers answered as a Christian, can't say I've heard of Muslims having prayers answered
@@svensvenforkedbeard170 Same here!
@@svensvenforkedbeard170 Maybe you should talk to more muslims - confirmation bias is just as strong amongst muslims as christians.
@@svensvenforkedbeard170 Ofc you haven't. Because you think your religion is the one true religion, just like they do, and you're both wrong.
@@esbenm6544 Of course I believe its the one true religion but I shall not give up on it. I will not apologise for that nor can I lie about that. It does claim to be the one true religion.
You know, these are the reasons why forced and arranged marriages happen so much. Many parents have tricked and lied to their children esp their daughters to take them to their countries of origin and marry them off to their cousins or people of the parents choice. That’s also why many restrictions are placed on teenage and adolescent women. Parents don’t want them to go to university outside their town, find a career outside their town or even find a spouse of their own choosing. I absolutely HATE this concept of honor. It’s so oppressive and cruel.
Me too, excellent point.
Alot of those forced marriages don't last. I believe many Muslim women go to university now and have degrees
Forced marriages are wrong and I cannot understand the mentality of parents who would do that to their daughters.
These marriages mainly end in divorce and don't last long. Such a waste of time and money
Also its not fair on Muslim women that they can't marry outside their faith. So strange but the men can and also have multiple wives.
If a Muslim man marries a non-Muslim woman and they have children, the children will be counted as Muslims. And according to the Islamic point of view, that is a good thing. And also historically according to a woman from Iran. she was referring to what has been told about what happened in Persia
Well, according to Islamic "law" the children belong to the father. Frequently, stupid Western women marry Muslim men and a few years later he takes the children back "home" never to be seen again. Perhaps inform yourself before marrying someone from a different cultural background/religion.
My SO is an ex-muslim atheist. A joy to discuss Islam with - always great questions and great insights and lots of laughs.
The parents of this adult woman gave this guy "permission" to talk about their, again, ADULT daughter.
Even in adulthood women get no rest nor voice in their lives huh?
They don't even get respite in heaven. They're still treated as inferior.
@@Arcadia61 yep. What a wonderful progressive religion, huh?
Poor daughter of Yassir Quadhy indoctrinated from the first day, not able to deside anything beneath the faith!
It’s not about the Quran. It’s not about the hadeeth. It’s about the Ij’ma (consensus) of the scholiars. Thank you YQ, the MasterBlaster blasting holes into Islam from the inside and fueling the avalanche.
It's about control.
Living it man... A Bangladeshi here. If it might interest you, heres my foolish story.
an ex muslim here, for about 3-4years now, once a devout religious boy. being raised in a very pious family and being a practicing muslim i was always intrigued by the history of islam and liked to study things about it. long story short, found out about whats hidden under the rug that everyone turns a blind eye to saying "it means something else" or "its needed to be understood properly" and a whole lot other excuses except for seeing the obvious staring right at their faces. their conditioning is too deep rooted to think in a clear mind or even entertain a thought without accepting it.
my family doesnt yet know about me. altho coming out with this to my "pious to heart" fiance backfired. i wanted to make her eyes open to the bs of it all.
so so many memories and experiences together, so many ups and downs and adventures and goosebumps.. over the 4years. despite our two family were already engaged in conversation about our marriage, she broke up with me.
i really dreamt, planned and literally depnded my life around her. i loved her despite everything, with every cell in my body..
anyway, tried to point out to the dark and fishy spots of the religion. it backfired, no surprise. still, the truth MUST'VE been told..
within 1 single month of our break, up she got engaged and got married quite in a hurry with some pious bloke. it was last year, 10th sep(2021). surprisingly, 9 days before my birthday, probably just to add salt on my wounds.
Bhai Muslim mohila biye korben na, tara dekben apanake falaiya isis join korbe giye, ak Bangladeshir hoyechilo, biye korar aage Jigaben namaz roja rakhe naki
It must really hurt that she broke up with you in this way for that reason, her loss. It's not a foolish story, it's a story of first love. You won't really believe it now, as you are young, but you have a lifetime ahead of you. There will be someone else that will share your views and values. As an old man you will look back and see what you learned from your current pain. All the best.
Better this, than live the rest of your life in a fake relationship, real love is acceptance
(well, I'm quite privileged, here in Europe)
Wish you well, and stay safe.
How dare she be happy.
He didn't even offer any real 'solutions.' He said in the beginning that she was a PRACTICING Muslim. So how is just making sure your kid is a practicing Muslim going to prevent it from happening!? I also love how he threw the mum under the bus by effectively saying it's her fault that her daughter got 'led astray.' Jesus, it's like watching a car crash you just can't look away from.
The parents are to blame.
Why didn't they marry her off to a 54 year old muslim in the age of nine?
Then this wouldn't have happened.
I'd have more respect for YQ if he were to berate Abu Bakr for failing his daughter in this matter.
If this wasn’t so harmful it would be pretty funny. You just can’t take this guy seriously when he’s calling a woman allowed to marry who she wants a huge crisis. What world is he living in
At least they are married. In Malaysia the government itself don't allow and approve Muslim to marry a non Muslim vise versa. How sick is that ???
its 2022 and its like we are living in the dark ages
Notice that this preacher coveniently did not mention the kind of punishment this daughter must be given. Even a hardcore muslim preacher finds it adhorrent to say, "kill this woman for her sins". How this man wants others to follow his religion!
Great point. You can argue it either way. Normally it would be a few dozen lashes for fornication. However, if her husband was spreading atheism, and she was helping with his TH-cam channel, they're might be an argument for crucifixion. .. How sad and insane is that?
Bc he is in the west, not a Muslim country. He is well aware of boundaries
I can't imagine the fear in the mind of the mother thinking that her own daughter wil burn in hell fire.
Sheik Yasir Qadhi is not a muslim because he does not in the quran. He said he cannot believe in the story of Yājūj and Mājūj.
He also said that THERE ARE HOLES IN THE STANDARD NARRATIVE about the perservation of the quran.
Come on Yasir Qadhi tell us what these holes are !
I could give you holes. Humans can't be trusted, they either falsify documents or they don't. If humans have a predisposition to falsify documents - it may have happened to everyone's holy scriptures. Because once people start murdering each other as they have done in Christianity and Islam, we aren't engaging in honest behaviour... So how can you trust it?
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It's a cynical reply. I do believe in God but I'm not big on any scripture, though, I'm happy to cherry-pick verses I like from them all. Humanity would be a lot more healthier if they replaced reading scripture for prayer. God's everywhere, so can be experienced empirically by everyone. No need for scripture. We intuitively know what is kind. Perhaps, that kindness which is always with us is the Guide we should be following?
And he is so bold to call them not good enough Muslims, so that all people in their look at them as bad people when they make peace with their daughters desision!
My daughter, if I ever get one, I can even marry a woman
I see the problem with the word marriage used in context with gay people -partnership sounds less forced in English. But amongst humans the level of homosexuality is 7% - roughly, the same level for other warm blooded mammals. You might say homosexuality is not ''normal'' because it's relatively uncommon, but it's certainly natural. From instance, we could splice an embryo and put in a gene that we could predict would make a person homosexual 20 years later in the future. Therefore, knowledge like this weakens the Koranic perspective that homosexuality is a great sin, when Allah himself designed the gene. Probably as a buffer form of contraception - so that species don't over populate and knock other species out of balance. Too many deer in a forest will destroy the forest, and they and the other species will starve.
I'm assuming that by claiming the marriage isn't legitimate, they can then accuse her and him of fornication and demand the required punishment of 100 lashes each, presumably on each occasion.
It could go that way, I'm afraid... Excellent point.
The lady has obviously fallen down one of 'ultracrepiderian' YQ's holes (in the narrative)!
What a load of waffle! 😄
In the 80s a Muslim father chased me out and prohibited his daughter from seeing me any more. No chance to continue this relationship.
Let's just hope the parents or any 'concerned' Muslim doesn't decide she isn't 'needed' in this world anymore
Actually according to fiqh a father may sell his daughter
I wonder how many muslim women are in loveless marriages.
Why are things always always phrased in terms of the concern for women? Why is there no concern for Muslim men who may be in loveless marriages? Wouldn't they equally be victims?
Why is there so much misandry in the ex-Muslim community?
You have no idea....
How comes Muhammad didn't reveal anything about atheism?
AIIah did not see it coming!
That is a pretty smart remark.
The problem is, that people wanna tell people what they have to believe, instead of having those people find their own way to God.
Everyone has to make their own experiences and connections, cause otherwise you will have an unhappy/unsure relationship between you, God and the ones that brought you into this.
Faith isnt a membership, its a personal connection! ☝️🕊 God bless
It is actually a good idea to take away the phones from all these teenage boys and girlzzz of the modern world considering how dumb tiktokers are getting day by day .