Classic Divorce Court: New Year, New Man

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    Rick and Tileda Dunn met on New Year’s Eve, in 2006, at IHOP and both got hit by the love bug hard. So much so, she moved from Texas to Louisiana to be with Rick and they dated for 8 years and have been married for 3 years. They are both contemplating divorce because those IHOP days are long gone. Tileda says she feels crazy most of the time since she has three children under the age of five and she never goes out or has intimacy or even gets a conversation with her husband anymore.
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  • @edenseifu4986
    @edenseifu4986 4 ปีที่แล้ว +658

    She need to send the kids daycare, relax, go out make friends and work. Being at home with kids or without kids drive crazy

    • @gailsmith836
      @gailsmith836 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Daycare costs quite a bit for two parent homes. It might not be financially feasible for that to work for their family.

    • @annblack3146
      @annblack3146 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      No she just needs to get hold on her kids and set a schedule and stick to it.her husband is older he might not very well make it until the kids r grown so she has got to figure out how to handle her situation.

    • @monawilliams286
      @monawilliams286 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I agree with all 3 of you.......It's a matter of what's most important at what point in your life. If you don't have the money, is there a way to earn it? If you do have the money is it worth it to spend it for peace of mind and to have a healthy mind, body, marriage, it's all about balance.
      Being structured is always the best way to go, the trouble is, you don't know what kind of kids you'll get, how their personalities and behaviors are, will be.

    • @ybarekghirmay7622
      @ybarekghirmay7622 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Betri is the way haftey

    • @dotsieblackwood5878
      @dotsieblackwood5878 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      y

  • @V.Hansen.
    @V.Hansen. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +160

    Judge is a marriage counselor. She's so encouraging.

  • @juliethomas-begay1742
    @juliethomas-begay1742 3 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    "Your not divorcing your children, I know sometimes that's a desire I've had it.." Lol. I get that completely...

    • @babajibagte
      @babajibagte 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @JuanitaMichelle
    @JuanitaMichelle 4 ปีที่แล้ว +384

    Those children and this relationship have aged her. I could not believe when the judge said she is 35.

    • @amybynum8962
      @amybynum8962 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      45

    • @teelovebooks2786
      @teelovebooks2786 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Maybe dog years

    • @dr.jalisabarnes
      @dr.jalisabarnes 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      It's that wig! If you look at her face, you can see 35. It's this Laura Bush energy she on right now

    • @msdecemberloveangel8236
      @msdecemberloveangel8236 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      No its not the children its him he's 25 years older than she. And I think he's too old to have 3 kids under 5.

    • @rastapanol
      @rastapanol 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      She just haven’t slept in 3 years with them young kids with no support. That will age any human

  • @TheRAH1
    @TheRAH1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +423

    If she’s stressed out now she’s gonna lose it when she had to start caretaking for him too in her 40s

    • @sanwalker5408
      @sanwalker5408 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      @J Peavy That was ignorant. He's 60, not 90. Average life expectancy in this country is mid 70s, so why would he not be?

    • @pat22nasty
      @pat22nasty 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ro Ashley Lol welp

    • @melodyholt500
      @melodyholt500 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@sanwalker5408 by 40 a man health is start to decline

    • @wheels886
      @wheels886 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@melodyholt500 some human

    • @beverlysw1866
      @beverlysw1866 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      she will still be changing diapers....his diapers

  • @sullivancountydays
    @sullivancountydays 4 ปีที่แล้ว +440

    I don't understand this type of relationships. She finds someone old enough to be her father. They both have kids. Instead of enjoying each other you make more kids?

    • @jadahobbsJada
      @jadahobbsJada 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      sullivancountydays You’re exactly right

    • @lareicemonaie
      @lareicemonaie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      sullivancountydays Same thing I said

    • @asabifatosin1150
      @asabifatosin1150 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      She only had one. I can see having another one_maybe two_but spaced out! Not stairsteps!

    • @nhiocazafar7870
      @nhiocazafar7870 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      sullivancountydays RIGHT DEAR, YOUR SO RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @nhiocazafar7870
      @nhiocazafar7870 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      jada hobbs Jada2001 THEY ARE BOTH STUPID !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @tmhisthelight2943
    @tmhisthelight2943 4 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    Postpartum depression is real!! I've been exactly where's she's at with three under the age of 5 and my husband suffered because of it . She's not crazy I hope that she gets help for it because it's no joke

    • @babajibagte
      @babajibagte 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @aaroncarson1770
    @aaroncarson1770 4 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    She's got an amazing speaking voice.

  • @lareicemonaie
    @lareicemonaie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +300

    She needs a nanny, sister or something

    • @tellnolies8530
      @tellnolies8530 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      La Reice Monaie a condom

    • @mzluvsexy9846
      @mzluvsexy9846 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      She needs to get a grip and get them children under control she knew she had bad nerves when she had just one little one why add two more to the mess

    • @stormij
      @stormij 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      She needs order... and some occasional me time. Both are absolutely necessary. I'm speaking from experience. I have four children all younger and close in age( by choice). I felt like I was going crazy because of the chaos while my husband was working. I had to get a routine going, some structure and things got better. If she doesn't, the older they get, the harder it will get for her to get her children to obey her and behave

    • @harshit1153
      @harshit1153 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      exactly

    • @harshit1153
      @harshit1153 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tellnolies8530 I agree

  • @daffodil4500
    @daffodil4500 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    What I love most about Judge Toler, is that she humanizes herself and admits her past flaws and which in return allows us to know that we can and will grow if we work on ourselves.

  • @QuinshunCarswell
    @QuinshunCarswell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +610

    3 children under the age of 5! AIN'T NO WAY!! I'm getting a job too because I'm not about to be in the house all day with these crumb snatchers! 😂😂😂😂

    • @jadahobbsJada
      @jadahobbsJada 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Quinshun Carswell Exactly 🤣🤣

    • @Babygirl-k2670
      @Babygirl-k2670 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      🤣🤣🤣💀

    • @PrincessZaire100
      @PrincessZaire100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      Not gonna lie, I lowkey want to have kids back to back, but that’s only so they can all leave at the same time 😂😂😂

    • @jennanickerson9481
      @jennanickerson9481 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      😂😂facts

    • @aysjah1
      @aysjah1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Exactly😂😂😂😂

  • @foxyroxy1010
    @foxyroxy1010 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    What a refreshing episode where no one is cheating, or checking up on the other ones phone, no baby mamma or baby daddy drama. This is a beautiful couple smart and mature. They need a babysitter to help her out and they need date night once a week. I believe if they follow Judge Toler's advise they will be fine.

  • @tarickhjoseph2534
    @tarickhjoseph2534 4 ปีที่แล้ว +195

    I saw postpartum depression.... I feel for both of them.

    • @babajibagte
      @babajibagte 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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    • @kattiethomas4687
      @kattiethomas4687 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Old dog new tricks?no way!!!

  • @VintageAfro91
    @VintageAfro91 4 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    To me it sounds like what this woman needs is some time to herself whether it be an hour or two to just focus on her. If a person doesn't take care of themselves first, then they are of no use to anybody.

    • @babajibagte
      @babajibagte 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @katreciashort6284
    @katreciashort6284 4 ปีที่แล้ว +460

    It seems like maybe she has postpartum depression or is just struggling incredibly. She should seek therapy. It might help. Those kids aren't going anywhere and it might get even harder.

    • @CM-gd2cc
      @CM-gd2cc 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      It most definetly will! Wait until they hit teenage years! Hell I wish my 11 year old was still 5 lol

    • @TriaMaxwell
      @TriaMaxwell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      She should seek a spaying

    • @seychelleceline
      @seychelleceline 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I wish therapy worked for me.

    • @sneakypete139
      @sneakypete139 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Nothing a little tap on that ass would hurt. Stop letting politicians, judges and the police tell how to raise your children. It need some laws to protect parents. It's a lot of people in prison listening to that timeout shit!!

    • @ashadesuza4237
      @ashadesuza4237 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Was about to say that! Man my heart goes out to her!

  • @lousunny5682
    @lousunny5682 4 ปีที่แล้ว +389

    Great advice judge. You could have been a therapist if you weren’t a judge.

    • @DarkestKnyght
      @DarkestKnyght 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Judge's make more. Lol.

    • @lousunny5682
      @lousunny5682 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@DarkestKnyght lol that’s the damn truth hahah

    • @letisiatrevino3296
      @letisiatrevino3296 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Maybe she has a background in counseling too.

    • @Mfitz90
      @Mfitz90 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It really was great advice. I hope they made it work!

    • @babajibagte
      @babajibagte 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @bowlegsK
    @bowlegsK 4 ปีที่แล้ว +143

    Judge neck pieces always on point ❤️

    • @zoewhite2958
      @zoewhite2958 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Just noticed that you’re right !

    • @mochamilksubs
      @mochamilksubs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      👌😄

    • @harshit1153
      @harshit1153 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ikr!

    • @brooker.9305
      @brooker.9305 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Factss

    • @babajibagte
      @babajibagte 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @Mzpretty17
    @Mzpretty17 4 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    Once again she comes through with the advice every woman and man should hear... I just love ❤️ her

    • @babajibagte
      @babajibagte 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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    • @Skinnychelle48
      @Skinnychelle48 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Me to and I miss her!

    • @kattiethomas4687
      @kattiethomas4687 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Parenting skills anyone??

  • @taoroahgah
    @taoroahgah 4 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    I saw the exhaustion in her eyes . It reminded me of myself when I had my one and only daughter . I had her and just was a loose cannon doing it all on my own . I love this episode.

    • @leelew.1462
      @leelew.1462 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I hope things have gotten better for you

    • @troy028
      @troy028 ปีที่แล้ว

      She exhausted from doing nothing but taking care of kids. That's not hard to do. Don't have kids if you can't handle it. She's weak. Like she home all day while he fights the world to pay both thier bills. That's easy life.

  • @lahairextensionsatlanta7324
    @lahairextensionsatlanta7324 4 ปีที่แล้ว +156

    I feel her pain..I ended up a single parent of three. I had twins late in life. They twins are now 40, and I am 75. Take it from me.... This chick needs to get herself a J.O.B. and rejoin the world of adults. That's what I did. I hired someone else to stay with the twins. Working will allow her to recover yourself. I LOVE JUDGE TOLAR!!! Smart Lady

    • @lenaely6146
      @lenaely6146 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thank you for sharing 😊🙂

    • @ezfreak0159
      @ezfreak0159 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      the past doesn't determine who we are now and future, so keep walking to the highest mountain. When u reach the top, u'll see the most stunning and wonderful view worth all of your struggles and after that u can die peacefully

    • @Roni-Ron
      @Roni-Ron 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I worked and went to school 2 days a week

    • @babajibagte
      @babajibagte 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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    • @paulinebarnett9276
      @paulinebarnett9276 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      God bless that judge.

  • @chowchow2theleft567
    @chowchow2theleft567 4 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    So it took her to have 3 kids to find out that he could have them too?

  • @brandancharles3292
    @brandancharles3292 4 ปีที่แล้ว +372

    Ain't no way in hell I'll start all over in my late 50s raising kids

    • @pat22nasty
      @pat22nasty 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Brandan Charles I’m saying

    • @AuthorJanaeMarie
      @AuthorJanaeMarie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Heck, I'm 32. If I don't get another child by 35. I'm done period!

    • @4bfam
      @4bfam 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Heck, that's just it. He isn't raising any kids. He made them, he provided but he's not raising.

    • @brandancharles3292
      @brandancharles3292 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Reading with Janae Marie Lol exactly

    • @brandancharles3292
      @brandancharles3292 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      love_dionne 🤦🏾‍♂️ they had that agreement you acting like he just goes to work and comes straight home and doesn't interact with the kids. You're not in that home with them. She's raising but can't buy the kids a cheeseburger but nobody is saying anything about that though huh smh

  • @PrincessZaire100
    @PrincessZaire100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    When he says he wants a little more appreciation, I was thinking that she would like that too. You have three kids under the age of five, and she’s with them 24/7 and her harping on her about everything isn’t going to make her appreciate her. Why don’t you help her out a little bit and maybe you’ll get the things you ask for

    • @babajibagte
      @babajibagte 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @landinashley
    @landinashley 4 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    Man, the way she broke down talking about worrying about what her husband says... I know how that feels! Luckily my husband stopped making me feel like i wasnt enough. We were just trying to adjust to married life.

    • @ericdove39
      @ericdove39 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      He feels the same way

  • @swenett1308
    @swenett1308 4 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    He is tired. However he should show the kids who is boss when he gets home so that she could rest and calm down, then later would be greater.

    • @PrincessZaire100
      @PrincessZaire100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      SoniYah Yisreal thank you. Help out a little. A little goes a long way

    • @kelliemartin36
      @kelliemartin36 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      After working 60 hrs/week?! He's much older and working those hrs. She's just not wired to handle her responsibilities & is placing all of the blame on him. If she had been in my shoes, she would be dead by now..2 kids with special needs that I raised alone while working full time and attending college. It either makes you or breaks you. She's broken .She needs counseling

    • @vincygurl69
      @vincygurl69 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      She should show them who is boss
      Train up the kids to listen to her she is the one at home with them

    • @lorebay2593
      @lorebay2593 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      If he has her back, them brats will fall in line, if he does not, they will understand that and take advantage of it.

    • @kinndah2519
      @kinndah2519 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It's not always about "calming them down" it's about actually needing to take care of them. They need fed, baths, hair and nails groomed, teeth cleaned, toddlers and infants can't do that on their own yet! Telling babies to shut up won't solve the task they need done.

  • @CRYPTICB3AUTY
    @CRYPTICB3AUTY 4 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    I’d date an older man but I’m not having anymore children. When the time is right and I start dating again, the man I get with has to be cool with that.

    • @shototodoroki4816
      @shototodoroki4816 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Call me

    • @hellobot67
      @hellobot67 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@shototodoroki4816 Lol DESPERATE 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @miltonmoore1690
      @miltonmoore1690 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I not taking care of some mans little children either.👎

    • @CRYPTICB3AUTY
      @CRYPTICB3AUTY 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Milton Moore I’m not dealing with nobody else’s kids either. His kids gotta be grown and on their own.

    • @miltonmoore1690
      @miltonmoore1690 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      The Bees Knees My baby is 25 engaged.5 Grandchildren.I have over every now & again.Take them out spoil them & send them home.Luv it .Go home by myself & walk around naked.😊

  • @Aveah
    @Aveah 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I’m not even married and I’m taking notes. Amazing advice!

    • @babajibagte
      @babajibagte 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @mobutter2879
    @mobutter2879 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    “If they can get in there with a cane” hahahahaha I love Judge Toller

  • @Reahkb2
    @Reahkb2 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Even though he works, he still get time off from work. Being a stay at home mom doesn't have guaranteed time off. Its constantly going and going. People only see that she is "home whole day" so they expect XYZ to be done

  • @DamnDemi
    @DamnDemi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    They're a sweet couple. They shouldn't divorce because there's love there and lots of it.

    • @collinscarlett559
      @collinscarlett559 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I see that too....it can be fixed

    • @Mfitz90
      @Mfitz90 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      The judge saw it too that's why she encouraged them to make it work

  • @marou55ia_
    @marou55ia_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    she called the kids "crum crushers" 😂

  • @melanieross0073
    @melanieross0073 4 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    That age diff is a big factor. I’m 46 & I wouldn’t date a 60 yr old let alone someone 25 yrs younger.

    • @nikkired4925
      @nikkired4925 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Trust me don't do it. It's a Dam headache.

    • @mobutter2879
      @mobutter2879 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Plus, it ages you.. that’s why he saddled her with all those kids, back to back. Trust and believe those kids were his idea. She’s still young..and very beautiful! Best believe he thinks about that daily..looking like tales of the crypt.

    • @fortunate1forever670
      @fortunate1forever670 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I did and now am engaged to him...this man treats me the way that I was taught by my parents that I should be treated - with respect and love which he consistently demonstrates. He is genuine and about love and family. I had no preconceived notions about how an older man would be. He is athletic and loves enjoying life. I could not imagine anyone but him being my husband. When I met him it was on a professional level. I found him to be very attractive and his personality is wonderful. I never even thought about the age difference being a concern.

  • @Lee-up2cy
    @Lee-up2cy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    I swear they pay someone each episode to just sit in the back to make some crazy facial expressions and be dramatic🤣🤣🤣 but I love it 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂#whitewoman

    • @mundaneamazing
      @mundaneamazing 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I agree.

    • @tashnaw
      @tashnaw 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I saw her face just as I read this comment

    • @Lee-up2cy
      @Lee-up2cy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@tashnaw lol

    • @randomperson7721
      @randomperson7721 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The hashtag wtf lmao😭

    • @Lee-up2cy
      @Lee-up2cy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@randomperson7721 I was just pointing out who it was 🤣🤣

  • @ashadesuza4237
    @ashadesuza4237 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Mannn! That kiss n embrace at the end! U could tell they both just needed somebody to stare them back in the right direction! Happy for them!

    • @babajibagte
      @babajibagte 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @Lilyrose23
    @Lilyrose23 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    Dating an older man is good at the beginning, he’s working and seems to have life figured out. But at 60 years old he starts to have the retired person mentality, he no longer wants to be part of the life you created so you’re stuck in a lonely boring lifestyle. 10 years is the maximum age difference married people should have, after that you’re literally living in two different world. I experienced it in my life with my parents and it taught me that age difference matters and it’s the woman who loses. The kids will also suffer because they won’t experience life with an active strong dad. He’ll seclude himself because the age difference is too big.

    • @cadillacdeville5828
      @cadillacdeville5828 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Mine is 16 years older than me, but I have a full career and so does he. It's really a hit or miss. I met plenty that wanted to mold or control me, I wouldn't have it. Wouldn't do it again though 😂

    • @nikkired4925
      @nikkired4925 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@cadillacdeville5828 I hear you. I told mines if anything happens I'm never doing it again. I straight up told him I'm going to get a young buck. 😂

    • @tamiajackson
      @tamiajackson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      My great grandfather raised me and he was no where near living a sedentary lifestyle.. that man was the life of the party in every party.. on top of that he had many young women coming to court him because he was very active up until late.. I have many older Male friends who also aren't boring.. idn where y'all live or which older folks y'all referring to.. but I rather marry an older man any day.. than these young haughty hot tempered blood suckers

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    • @foreverblessed6443
      @foreverblessed6443 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I agree. My mom married a man 12 years older and I see all the troubles that gap cause

  • @AURICVU
    @AURICVU 4 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    She’s giving me Whitney Houston vibes when she was with Bobby

    • @Jameshasblueprint
      @Jameshasblueprint 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I see toni Braxton in a bad wig 🤦🏽

    • @ferenza35
      @ferenza35 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yess!!! Im just waiting for her to yell "BOBBY!!!"

    • @starhurd824
      @starhurd824 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      daysha gabrielle I was thinking Ike and Tina🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @stacyb6461
      @stacyb6461 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😂😂 I was thinking the same thing! Bobbbbby!

    • @virgatronbooks
      @virgatronbooks 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      daysha gabrielle SCREAMINGGGGGGG 🤣

  • @Pwong620
    @Pwong620 4 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    You could see he was a looker back in his days wow

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  • @robertahubert9155
    @robertahubert9155 4 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Having babies at their ages is what's killing their relationship. Babies take a lot of energy. Energy you dont have at 60 and
    30.

    • @lenaely6146
      @lenaely6146 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      30? 😳🤪😬😒

    • @robertahubert9155
      @robertahubert9155 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@lenaely6146 you got to be there to appreciate it. I had 3 boys in my teen and early 20 years then 10 years later I had another 3 boys all in my late 30s. They zapped the life right out of me what was left anyway.. babies are for the very young. Now I have 15 grandchildren 4 great grandchildren and they are all girls except 1 very special boy. Here I am nearly 80 years old and still dealing with babies. Your emojis captured my feelings perfectly. Have a blessed day ♥️

  • @serbiandelight7192
    @serbiandelight7192 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    A little bit of affection goes a loooooooong way

  • @oceandabney3498
    @oceandabney3498 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    He should Be a BIT Ashamed of NOT helping w/ the children for They are NOT just Her children.

    • @nicky1682
      @nicky1682 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      A job would give her an outlet and pay check ☒

    • @kelliemartin36
      @kelliemartin36 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @... EXACTLY

    • @tedra6455
      @tedra6455 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      True, but most of the rearing children falls on the mother if you ever noticed that, unfortunately.

    • @jamiex6072
      @jamiex6072 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Judge hit it on the nose when she said they have turned into a worker and a house keeper and forgot to the human part of their. relationship. They've divided duties I'm sure he feels his contribution is met by working long hours to support the family. But there should be a blending of the two for the benefit of both. She can find a hobbies that brings in money as well.

  • @INDIGO.GODDESS_573
    @INDIGO.GODDESS_573 4 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    She's sounds like Trina Braxton...

    • @bambidaydreamer3
      @bambidaydreamer3 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      heard it instantly when I read this.😂

    • @ShannonSoSweeet
      @ShannonSoSweeet 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I legit just wrote that but Tony

    • @INDIGO.GODDESS_573
      @INDIGO.GODDESS_573 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ShannonSoSweeet Nah.. That's Trina.lol
      It's the pronunciation.

    • @karlgabriel2861
      @karlgabriel2861 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very insulting to anybody.

  • @asabifatosin1150
    @asabifatosin1150 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Awww. They’re sweet. She’s beautiful and he’s still good-looking. Would that they were closer in age...but that can’t be changed.
    She does/they do need day care because she’s overwhelmed. And she needs a career/interest besides the children . One day they’ll be grown and gone_and realistically...she needs an interest to fall back on. Wishing them success and happiness.

  • @rtg722
    @rtg722 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Yo,I haven’t heard anyone say #Rap2Her in over 20+ Years. I’m officially an Old Man 😂🤣😂🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️!!!

  • @angelafunkygemini
    @angelafunkygemini 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Judge Toler….if they get in there on a cane, they can make’em…so funny!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @clarenceedwards2866
    @clarenceedwards2866 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Solid advice from Judge Lynn; there isn't anything else you can add to that.

  • @susannecarolinehoff7847
    @susannecarolinehoff7847 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    It's like a wall betwean them.. She is depressed and he confused. And both really tired!

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  • @soniarena5250
    @soniarena5250 4 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    Big age difference here.

  • @jevasamy
    @jevasamy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I like this judge ....so is cool ...i kinda like her ...

  • @celeste8389
    @celeste8389 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    That kiss and hug at the end tells me they were alright. Don't know about now since the case was long ago. This marriage can work, just listen to aunt Lynn. She's an amazing judge!

  • @linaelh6268
    @linaelh6268 4 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    It looks more like a therapy thing than like a Divorce Process

    • @MarkerMurker
      @MarkerMurker 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      That's how Judge Lynn does things. It's more helpful that way.

    • @jillmorrow7422
      @jillmorrow7422 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Helpful for what? Be grateful and forget your feelings?

    • @MarkerMurker
      @MarkerMurker 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      What are you talking about? She's the opposite of "forget your feelings". But be grateful, yes. It varies wildly depending on the couple, but Judge Lynn always gives sound advice. She does still rule on divorce proceedings, but she generally keeps couples together if that's what they want. Or tells them to split if things are that bad...

    • @Jojo_Ojo_14
      @Jojo_Ojo_14 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If she believes they are better together, she will give advice instead of divorcing them.

    • @linaelh6268
      @linaelh6268 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Melani Marston ok but why is the show’s name DIVORCE Court then?!?

  • @vanessah4545
    @vanessah4545 4 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    I still don't understand these women who get with men who are old enough to be your father 🤔🤔🤔🤨 my father's friends are not attractive to me.

    • @syndib1177
      @syndib1177 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Vanessa H some women like older men you don’t have to understand it.

    • @kayhaley118
      @kayhaley118 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      That's not your bizness to each its own as long as grown folk dont mess with kids that's all that should matter!!

    • @cmbsr4851
      @cmbsr4851 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@kayhaley118 right?

    • @boryontotheleader2328
      @boryontotheleader2328 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Aside from these clear nasty old man chasers, the right answers are:
      Didn't really have a father or male figure in their life, so they find someone else to fill that void.
      2. Gold digger/wants a provider.
      There, easy truth.

    • @alexvensel5730
      @alexvensel5730 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      There's a saying, it's not the age that falls in love, it's the souls.
      I think her husband just hasn't learned not to sweat the small stuff. Being a mother and a wife is *hard* give her some slack!

  • @honeyrolling8912
    @honeyrolling8912 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    The judge said....you've got to rap"to your 👧

  • @pattyfisher8839
    @pattyfisher8839 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This is some of the soundest advice I've ever heard on divorce court

  • @sandriatyson6517
    @sandriatyson6517 4 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    Wow I thought she was way older than that

  • @yeahandthensome
    @yeahandthensome 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Lol my mum describes it like that too she said I’m the “cool” baby the peace maker 😂

  • @nanakadija1557
    @nanakadija1557 4 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    I like her.She's beautiful

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  • @tobitaonafowora8999
    @tobitaonafowora8999 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I am 41 and AIN’T NO WAY AM I HAVING ANY MORE CHILDREN 👶🏾! I AM SO DONE ✅!

  • @islandgirl9479
    @islandgirl9479 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I'm so glad I burned my tubes, and duck taped and laminated it.
    1son and I was done.🤗

  • @cowboylemonheadmedia
    @cowboylemonheadmedia 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I hope they make it.

  • @TheMssingle93
    @TheMssingle93 4 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    She needs to get organized! 24 hrs. In a day plenty of women have multiple children and still manage to take care of their children and husband. And some women even work part time. And she's old enough to know how to handle her fertility!

    • @joshandabradford3144
      @joshandabradford3144 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thank you. My mama had "5" by 20years old. Young but made it. I wouldn't trade her for shit in the world. Ik everybody is dff..Idc if it was just 1 kid. Ik its hard but You are a mother,you have to remain strong,grow stronger. You can do it!!

    • @vyxenthemua
      @vyxenthemua 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Not everyone moves in the same capacity. Shes obviosuly overwelmed and stressed and tired. And it doesnt help that she had them back to back all under 5. At least she admitted it was half her fault for having them back to back when she could have taken birth control but if they balance work and home life a lil better and try to get them kids in daycare or at least preschool itd be easier. But idk

    • @vyxenthemua
      @vyxenthemua 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      This also reminds when ppl say i worked up to my 9th month when i was pregnant. Not everyone is able. When i was pregnant i had every intention of doing that but my body said nope. At 6 1/2 months i had to sit down somewhere had nothung to do with me being lazy or not wanting to do much.

    • @abigailsimpson5904
      @abigailsimpson5904 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@vyxenthemua girl... for both pregnancy I was bed ridden. I felt so much dammm pain. Mind you.. i got pregnant on birth controle with my second baby. But I still stayed in school. I still did my college courses while battling sevare morning sickness. Every woman is different. However it can be done. I'm happy you could work up until 6 1/2 months. My husband took on all the financial burden. He is older than me too. Plenty years older but he is a dam good father.

    • @abigailsimpson5904
      @abigailsimpson5904 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@vyxenthemua using birth control doesn't always prevent pregnancy but I hope she use some form of preventative method now. She need to work part time and send them to school. When that older child turns 5 she can send her to public school. She will then be left with 2 children to take care of. She also needs to instill discipline as well. They can do it. She is overwhelmed no need to dig her deeper. The children are already here.

  • @freewithnature
    @freewithnature 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    What did she mean “still tryin to figure out how babies are made?” 🤣
    And she kind of seems detached from her children.

  • @tiffanybeckom7348
    @tiffanybeckom7348 4 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    I think that hairstyle makes her look a little older than 35. She's still young, if I was her....I would run with a gas can in both hands. There is absolutely, no chemistry here.

    • @superaniya8895
      @superaniya8895 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      If she know better she better get her shit together and stay right where she is and take care of her husband because the grass is not always greener on the other side!!! He works and pays all the bills and she complaining about about taking care of some kids we mothers do the shit everyday and go to work everyday come home and hold the house down. Shes a spoiled fucking brat

    • @PrincessZaire100
      @PrincessZaire100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Super Aniya are maybe he can help her out with the kids a little bit. They have three kids under the age of fives. That’s a lot to deal with. He has the luxury of having his day end and she does not.

    • @superaniya8895
      @superaniya8895 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@PrincessZaire100 He works 60 hrs a week to take care of the family hes doing his part she needs to get off her lazy ass cook clean and take care of the kids thats doing her part

    • @PrincessZaire100
      @PrincessZaire100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Super Aniya you seem angry for no reason. It’s a reasonable thing to ask him to help with his children. Phillip DeFranco owns several businesses and works hard all day, and his wife stays at home with the kids, but he still comes home and gives them baths and does all the bed time stuff with them so that his wife can have a break. She shouldn’t have to worked so bad that she can’t even take a break. This woman his literally so overwhelmed she’s crying. He just said he comes home and sits on the couch and does nothing, when he could be using that time to give her a break

    • @superaniya8895
      @superaniya8895 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@PrincessZaire100 No, I'm not angry at all I just feel it takes 2 and she is lazy the lazy part annoys me

  • @venettacockerm9407
    @venettacockerm9407 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    My sister married a very sweet much older man and I noticed her appearance changed much like this lady's. Since then I've seen it in other May-December couples.

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  • @catherenethomas8003
    @catherenethomas8003 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I think Mr. Dunn sees his wife as one of his older children.

    • @iwillsurvive1335
      @iwillsurvive1335 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂😂😂😂😂🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @eluvshesaid8469
    @eluvshesaid8469 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    its crazy because they're two hard working people who are overwhelmed in their own work and have to gain back Coupling with each other...I pray them the best!

  • @majestically2008
    @majestically2008 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    that person who is laughing soooo loud....please hush!!!! Getting on my nerves!!

  • @chowchow2theleft567
    @chowchow2theleft567 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Damn granpappy getting it in!

    • @greenytaddict
      @greenytaddict 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂

    • @ULuvJanae
      @ULuvJanae 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Dead 😆🤣

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  • @oceandabney3498
    @oceandabney3498 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    That WIG is the EXPRESSION of how She Really FEELS.
    . Tired, Worn Out. .
    OLD!!

    • @joshandabradford3144
      @joshandabradford3144 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Im sorry but😂😂Now..yes..she is beautiful,but its a NO for the wig. Shes still young. She looks so sad. Im praying for them.

    • @modiehitshehle5080
      @modiehitshehle5080 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣🤣🤣She is Cute..!

  • @trishcharles
    @trishcharles 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love listening to Judge Toler, old school style. No fancy negotiating with your kids, or spouse..just do this! Becuz it will get you what you want right? Good stuff.

  • @rpcrealpeopleconsulting6324
    @rpcrealpeopleconsulting6324 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    5, 4, 3 two out of 3 should be in school/daycare all day until 6pm the 3 yr old should take a 3hr nap daily and she gotta know how to cook 2 to 3 meals a day and store them for meals throughout the week..
    this wife does not want compliments she wants a house free of kids...at 35 she could go back to work pay day care cost and a bi-monthly maids service and live happily ever after

    • @spanishblood9899
      @spanishblood9899 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      No child that young should be in daycare or school till 6pm. That’s ridiculous. The oldest should be in kindergarten the 4 year old could go to pre K and the 3 year old could go to headstart but no way in hell should they be at school away from their parents till 6 at night. That’s very lazy parenting. Pawing you’re children off because you don’t want to deal with them. Shouldn’t have had them if you don’t want to take care of them. That’s sad and that’s what’s wrong with these kids some of y’all are lazy and trifling and don’t want to be real parents. Keep ya legs closed 🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @rpcrealpeopleconsulting6324
      @rpcrealpeopleconsulting6324 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@spanishblood9899 i will not take your comment personal....working prodessional parents need and use daycare...working parents pay bills and do not get food stamps and subsidized rents.....working parents know how to balance work home life....i am a working parent and have one adult daughter...
      i knew better than to procreate with dead beat men who cannot afford to support a family....i am a working mother and professional.

    • @spanishblood9899
      @spanishblood9899 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      RPC Real Peoplef Consulting People need to stop having children they aren’t ready for. It’s that simple. Life happens yes, some people get a divorce or their partner passes away and they need daycare because they are the only provider. I’m not talking about those parents. If a mother can balance work life and being a parent her children wouldn’t be in daycare literally all day. My household doesn’t qualify for govt assistance. We make too much. Working mothers do get govt assistance. Women need to start being more responsible. A mother should be nurturing her children for the first 4 to 5 years not a stranger and people wonder why so many kids are being abused that’s because these kids aren’t being raised by their parents but strangers all day. It’s sad. Too many people have kids that aren’t ready for them.

  • @venettacockerm9407
    @venettacockerm9407 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    She has no Me-Time. No balance in the routine of her day to nurture herself. More structure with the children and household duties will help her find personal outlets. He may need to schedule out some of his work time to give her relief at home. I guarantee there are weeks when she never sees outside.

  • @livingonpurpose23
    @livingonpurpose23 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    He's older and doesn't have as much energy to be chasing after kids which sucks becausehe did sign up for this. In this case age does make a huge difference. I'm sure his grown kids exprienced a totally different dad that was more attentive than the current young children have now.

  • @ekdaufin1485
    @ekdaufin1485 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love how right after the ruling he put his arm around her and kissed her! 💖💖💖🙌🏾

  • @marthawarrington7748
    @marthawarrington7748 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My brother in today's day , says it's parents obey your children, not children obey your parents. Tide has turned. Parents need to stand on their authority

  • @swee8181
    @swee8181 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    He don't hear her, broke her.
    He feels he don't have to participate in raising the children because he works

  • @marthawarrington7748
    @marthawarrington7748 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Children growing up in the islands can run and play outside to lesson the stress in the house, being a mother with little people can be hard, you're both beautiful. Please stay together. They will grow up and you will miss them when they are no longer home

  • @HTAnderson76
    @HTAnderson76 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    These 2 DON'T belong in Divorce Court. They have a 4 year old, 3 year old AND an 11 month old. Work it out! Get counseling and be a Family. Cause NO ONE else is going to want this 60 year old man paying CHILD SUPPORT until he's in his early 80's 😭😭😭

  • @cherryjanes5681
    @cherryjanes5681 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Judge , I love you. Thanks sooooooooo much for that lecture. I really learned a lot from that session.
    I'm devorced. But its a long story .My two sons were the ones that really got hurt , which I always felt guilty. They don't say much because they are hurting inside .

  • @ekanemekanem3435
    @ekanemekanem3435 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I haven't watched Judge Lynn Tola for some time since more one a half years age. Today I watched it, it just made my day. Thanks for bringing it back. My favourite programme on TH-cam ever.

  • @solo9352
    @solo9352 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I say, hang in there, and work together.

  • @Diana-fw1lq
    @Diana-fw1lq 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just love this woman ( your honor Lynn toller) she really listens to the problems n tries to glue them back together rather than just tear them apart....beautif n wise woman

  • @braeutchen41
    @braeutchen41 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was 28 married to a man who was 50....💝💝💝💝
    I had 4 children under 5😳.
    We put the children to BED at 830pm.....lights off at 930pm.....allowed to read in bed until 930.....so we had peace by 830pm....and they were asleep by 930pm😴😴
    That's how WE kept it together....💝💝💝💝💝💝

  • @PrincessZaire100
    @PrincessZaire100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    All these angry stay at home moms need to stop being so judgmental. I’m sure y’all weren’t perfect every step of the way

  • @prettydarkie8011
    @prettydarkie8011 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    JUDGE LYNN IS THE TRUTH I LOVE HER WITH HER BEAUTIFUL INTELLIGENT SELF MAKEUP ON POINT

  • @CapedCrusader007
    @CapedCrusader007 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Takes two people to make kids. If she didn't want three kids, she could have got on birth control after the first. They both are at fault.

  • @gladysbyrd7806
    @gladysbyrd7806 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yes the judge gave excellent advice..

  • @marciaduncan9040
    @marciaduncan9040 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Make it about each other. Scratch her back and she'll scratch yours. Without complaining about your itch or trying to scratch your own back, it will get scratched. That's how selflessness rewards you in a relationship.

  • @jenellaelias
    @jenellaelias 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    She is so beautiful but less the wig.

    • @oceandabney3498
      @oceandabney3498 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      TRUE

    • @oceandabney3498
      @oceandabney3498 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      That wig is the EXPRESSION of how She is Really FEELING. . . Tired, Worn Out. . . OLD

    • @jenellaelias
      @jenellaelias 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ocean Dabney 😀

    • @rutalaa
      @rutalaa 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I LOVE THE WIG !!!!! I think it goes well with her face and she is GORGEOUS IN IT!!! 😊

  • @dionnea4573
    @dionnea4573 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lord!!!! I wish she could make house calls. I don't have any kids but a husband of a 10yr difference medical issues and 2 dogs seems like a need for her to come into my house and give advice because I was was for a divorce after 1yr of marriage. Now we're going into our 5th yr and seems to be getting worse by the day. So when she says she shuts down I know the feeling. Good luck to them and this judge has always been on point with her advice to couples that has a significant amount of age difference.

  • @julietoneill1268
    @julietoneill1268 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    By working together as parents helping each other out and listening to one another😊👏👏

  • @Notyet69
    @Notyet69 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Every-time she ask the the lady a question, she always indirect. Like girl answer my question. 😂

  • @wanZ...
    @wanZ... 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love love love Judge Lynn Toler!!!!🥰🥰🥰😘😘😘

  • @mlm1916
    @mlm1916 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Get in there on a came, or anything ...!"
    Judge Lynn is mad hilarious ! 🤣😂😆

  • @v3ramirez1308
    @v3ramirez1308 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    2 minutes in and I can feel her anxiety...She is so overwhelmed.

  • @ChibiChick25
    @ChibiChick25 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Based on her logic about his ability to make babies because of his age, I get having the first baby. But baby number 2 and 3 are a result of their own stupidity. They are the authors of their own dysfunction smh

  • @anniewahlang428
    @anniewahlang428 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As a women.. I think we should think before we plan to have family because we need to spend time to each other as a patner and the kids need the parent's time too..when we help each other it mk our work easy ...

  • @clivegayle8046
    @clivegayle8046 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love this judge. She so sweet. Omg.that how a judge must talk to a couple..so sweet

  • @chellez29
    @chellez29 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I listen to married people. I'm not there yet, but it's kept me happy for the last 5+ years, sooo.... 🤷‍♀️

  • @queeie718
    @queeie718 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    One hardly sleep with one child I can only imagine 3 small kids.

  • @walterknowles8494
    @walterknowles8494 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Amen Judge. I went through that too...