How to Heal From Childhood Trauma
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ต.ค. 2024
- Today, we’re talking to a young mom whose traumatic childhood has led her to return to self-harm as an adult, a new husband wondering how much of his own traumatic story he should share with his wife, and a woman who’s upset with her dad for remarrying when she’s still grieving her mom who died five months ago.
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Your husband is your other half. You are the most important to him. He wants to help. Tell him. His instincts are telling him something is off...but he doesn't have the words. It will be a relief for both of you and your kids.
I dealt with mental and verbal abuse from my mother, and my siblings at times can be toxic- I have been working to set boundaries. I have learned you can love your family members- but not like them as a person, and that the best thing to do is set boundaries to protect yourself. Tyler and Jacob continue to go in the right direction through counseling to get the guidance, and support you need as well as support from those people you trust.
Explain how you can love your family but not like them as a person?
@@noahdeets9965- To answer your question- You can love someone or your family, but not like their actions or behavior in how they treat people or talk to people. Only person you can change is yourself, so that is why it is important to set boundaries to protect yourself and your peace of mind.
What a powerful broadcast! Wow! Thank you for the work that you do.
Tyler and Jacob you are both in my prayers today. I'm so sorry for your trauma. I'm so sorry you were let down by those who were meant to protect and respect you. You deserved none of what you got. Thank you for sharing with us. That was heroic of you.
When you grew up in the place that “is supposed to be the safest and most loving place fir you” but it has done the opposite, it scars you for life. Good news is you can break the cycle. But you need to give yourself dedication and determination to heal. THE WILL TO HEAL must outpower the will to hurt.
Dang. I felt it all through my body when you talked about why we are helpers. That makes a lot of sense. Oh, and thank you, Doc, for distinguishing the difference between the stories we tell ourselves and the truth. When I stop and ask myself if a worry is true or just a story I’m telling myself, it keeps coming up a story. Ha!
If you are looking for a therapist. Call three and ask for a free half hour by phone. Sum up the problem in five minutes and give them 25 minutes to talk and ask questions. You will see who knows their stuff
That doesn’t help at all. THERAPY is about HEALING. How can you LIMIT your whole childhood trauma to 5 minutes?
@@jomontanee the 30 minute session is to assess a few different therapists to see which one is right for you.
I had a very complex situation with a long history that was in active litigation. I was able to give them a short synopsis in a few minutes and then I asked them what their treatment plan would be.
From there I knew who's advice I trusted the most and who I felt the most comfortable opening up to.
Amen. There is a lot of useless/expensive garbage out there. It also depends on what your goals are. Some individuals need lifelong therapy for the sake of having someone that just listens, and have no intention of actually taking advice or bettering themselves. There are levels to people and levels to therapists. If you are highly functioning but also highly manipulative, it's important to find someone that can weed through your BS and get to the core of what work needs to be done so you can gain the self awareness to be better.
I will also add that through my own personal experience, someone dealing with issues as significant as the first caller, she would benefit from a highly trained psychologist utilizing a weekly outpatient program for DBT or similar. The aspects of this program that work so well is the group therapy and daily journaling (awareness) of your experiences and mental state. Couple that with the awareness that accountability comes through the group portion of the program keeps us highly manipulative folks better in check. Just my two cents. My childhood was definitely a pile of crap. So I understand.
I can totally relate with Tyler & Jacobs’ story. I’m sending healing prayers up for you, Tyler & Jacob. 🌷🙏🏻
I just want to point out that while lesser known, it's still unhealthy self-harm. I never intentionally cut myself, though I was likely tempted in moments dealing with blades. I'd hit myself and the older I got and the less injuries from playing, the more I enjoyed them. I never understood why until I learned about self harm. so now I know I have to guard against that, and make sure I don't seek pain.
My older brother tormented me. I am a broken person to this day.
I'm sorry :(
have you got any kind of help for this?
@@melissam7067 been thinking of calling Dr. John…
Older sister repeatedly ignored boundaries and mistreated me. She still is doing it but I'm fighting back. We're in our 60s. This seems crazy.
@@kita3256 do it. My older brother would tell you he was verbally and emotionally abusive towards me when we were teenagers. Much to his credit, he got help, and allowed Holy Spirit to work on him, and he is a very different person today. I’m thankful to call him my friend.
My brother actually told me “You should go to counseling because of all the crap I pulled” 🤣🤣 I have. I highly recommend therapy.
Do it. Sending hugs.
I feel bad for the 72 year old man who lost his wife; he must be so lonely!
I need this.
Please talk about Postpartum depression
Is it live on TH-cam
I'm worried about that first women's kids, she is currently not mentally fit to handle those kids without some kind of help. I hope her husband is reliant.
That was my reaction too. I was imagining being in the husbands shoes. I would 100% be there for my wife but she 100% better not self harm like that in front of our kids. That would be my boundary and swift actions will need to enforced if thats broken.
I don’t self harm but I do have some serious anxiety issues. And I can say it’s very hard and very brave of someone to be able to express what is going on and asking for help. The type of comments you are giving is not helpful. Makes us feel like bad moms. We are trying to heal. We don’t need people to make us feel worse or panic more.
@@19chamoky well I grew up in a house with a mother like this and let's just say it's very chaotic and scary , my brothers in prison , I haven't seen my sister in years and I'm just now learning how to heal from my childhood after being an alcoholic for 13 years I'm 32 with a wife and two kids . My mom used to say things like i just can't take it any more and I was always worried about her. Or she was just mentally checked out or passed out of the couch. She actuslly died of an overdose when i was 22. I'm not saying things to be mean just out of experience. I wish someone would have helped me or my siblings or parents when we where growing up .
@@Thesussysuscat That sounds like a terrible experience with your mom. I'm really sorry. But let's not confuse her with the lady that called in. She was asking for help and that's a good first start. Hopefully she keeps the promise she made to Dr. John.
@@melissam7067 I hope she does too but she didn't sound like she would by her voice tone