The Extreme Attraction in Affairs

Why do affairs feel so incredibly intense and obsessive?
Why are we longing for the affair partner like crazy? Is it because the affair partner is perfect? Or can there be another explanation??
In this video, we will take a deep dive in why affairs feel so intense.
And no, it's probably not because you met your soulmate.
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Hello there!
My name is Fenna van den Berg, I am a certified coach and counselor. I have worked in the mental health field for over 25 years.
Having been through episodes of Limerence, I have "earned my stripes" to help others with their recovery. I understand the obsession and suffering of Limerence. My passion is being able to share with you, and all limerents, a guided-way forward on your journey of healing. We do this through discovering and practicing self-love and compassion. As someone who has suffered through limerence, I have developed effective coaching for people with limerence. My Coaching has helped countless have a more purposeful life, and I want to help you. We will work together, so that you may have a life more in line with your values and integrity.
Together, we are blossoming a community of friendly people with the same debilitating feelings and experiences of Limerence. Here, we share with, support, and nurture each other in giving love to ourselves, perhaps for the first time.
When you’re ready to end your pain and suffering from seeking the "Other," I’m here to guide you in recognizing your true lovable self, with compassionate teaching, counseling and also private coaching.
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[@GerardGordon-bu9gf]

Thank you for this. I have never cheated in a relationship and never would. I'd rather just end an unhappy relationship than use an affair to escape it.

[@benjaminquist]

My affair destroyed my life, at the time I thought I had to be with her, it did not end well.

[@cheeks300zx]

How long did your affair last?

[@sepparo3977]

This type of comments bring the reality in check. I hope that you recovered your peace and your life

[@Michael-en3yl]

My wife has been having an affair for 3yrs. Neen together for 16. We have 6 and 10 year old. Listening to u. I believe its limerance.

[@followingfenna]

I really hope you all will sort things out because that's tough.
Good luck Michael

[@ericbackderf5584]

Fenna, your deconstruction of limerence is spot on! You continue to give excellent analogies, advice, and grounded-interventions, which are practical and therapeutic. Thank You 😊

[@followingfenna]

Thank you Eric ! That's such A big compliment!

[@Ciagar]

Thank you, Fenna, for this video. I hope it warns people before destroying their family. My husband left to live with his affair partner. 😢

[@followingfenna]

I hope you are doing ok :(

[@Ciagar]

It is hard.....

[@andrewmass1414]

Great content, super lighting, hair and make up are fabulous. Nice fun look. Nice voice. Helpful. 😂.

[@followingfenna]

Thank you, as always mr A.

[@cv4314]

>>>>then why don't you marry her.?..lol

[@dutchwoman1655]

Thank you for this wake up call, and to realise again that i can loose my hole family.
The fact that most of the time a limerence affair can not be a long term relation, it's painfull to know, but it's so true.

[@bishnupadaray8782]

This is like holding the mirror up to our nature

[@DominicOkinawa]

Thank you. This is helpful for me in LAA.

[@deez2751]

Thank you for all your help for the past months

[@followingfenna]

You are very welcome. Hope you are doing a bit better.

[@DavinRaincloud]

Such a sobering talk for many people. 👏

[@followingfenna]

Thank you Davin, I hope so

[@theoneandonlyhailie]

Yes.. So true

[@elizabethleechuy6826]

Forgotten in detail explanation is spirit aspect of limerence.
When a spirit enter you, it will create limerence, no amount of prayers or fasting work, except intentional power will. Lots of long-suffering during resistance or nonfulfillment of the relation. Unless that spirit entirely leave your body, you will feel strong pull of love emotion, cloud 9 elation, automatic happy delight.
Deeper love is long-suffering, hard to survive. Dont love too deep, but love GOD anyway you want to any degrees. This type of love is non traumatic.