The first men in a woman’s life will shape her future perception of men. Our black women really need their fathers and strong male figures to guide and help them.
Bro plenty of fathers in these girls lives even the women who call Kevin podcast say they have zero interest in getting their father's advice. They move independently of their parents not seeking their approval. As a black American Muslim I have 2 daughters they can't find their own husband. I will find them a husband if they found someone I will determine if he is a good option. Since my daughters are 17 and 18 years old I have been observing who are the productive black men in the local mosque. There is a young brother 20 years old he goes to North Carolina AT &T STEM HBCU he wants to be a engineer. The father is a ADOS man the young man's mother is Moroccan. He speaks Arabic fluently he has memorized the entire quran, very good looking young man. He has good morals. The father came to me he said he thinks my oldest daughter would be a good match for him. It will be a arranged marriage. It is men job to put their daughters in the best possible position. Women choosing their own husbands has been disastrous for women. If a woman isn't consulting with men before settling down with a man that's a derelict in her duty. Men only can vet men.
@Charles Irby Your post was very fantastic, sir. 💯 North Carolina A&T is a good school with an excellent reputation in producing black male engineers. It’s amazing that arranged marriage still works today, and women are usually happier with that. I hope the best for you and your family. 👍
Yeah almost always agree with him. Just his fits about his likes being low. Like you failed to get people engaged and want people to pay for it? Eh...just put out good content and we will hit the like button.
@@jonm57 To make our response sound more intelligent. My husband tells me all the time, you using $400 words for a $2 conversation. Since watching KS, I can hear 👂 me going there and correct it. Keep It Simple Stupid is all I tell mySelf. 😂
Women rather smoke, drink, use medications, get likes on social media, and get messages on dating apps, than receive constructive feedback, develop relationship/marriage skills, and go to professional therapy so they can find and keep a high value man.
"I feel" is the correct way to start a conversation or to address the 'essence' of oneself to another. If someone ignores your 'feelings' you can be shore that they will harm you.
One of the main skills us modern women lack is recirpocity. We are groomed to be catered to, and it's not right. If you love and care for someone, show them and do your part.
Thank you for saying that....You are correct, from my experience with the modern woman, she wants everything but risk nothing...I just don't know what to do for my personal future to marry when the deal seems as if I will lose everything but gain nothing....smh....(and I want to share everything/my life has to offer )....
1. Being a girlfriend is different from being a wife. 2. Being a wife is different from being a mother. 3. Modern women know neither. 4. Type "What is a wife" on TH-cam. 5. TH-cam has fewer than 10 videos that clearly states it.
All these are valid points. Kindly, have empathy on modern women and bw , because many didn’t have examples of mothers or wives to model after. So they know no better. If they do want to change it’s takes resources like therapy and time. Access to Resources can vary upon people.
@@aviancag8716 if we can’t tell you what’s wrong and all the examples they had were bad then how are we to ever fix this issue? Wouldnt being TOLD the right way be a solution and the ultimate form of empathy?
@@TheDCGuitar13 Hi , thanks for your response. Your point of view is valid. In my response my intentions were never said telling a female what an problem is , was an issue that is fine. However, the message needs to be worded in the proper way and the tone must be appropriate. These are sensitive topics and the individuals that are being talked to are hurt. If message isn’t delivered in a way to convey your good intentions and suggest “ have you looked into xyz” this approach allow for the message to be heard. And then a response. It’s also shows you are being empathetic by suggesting a solution. Also offering a solution is one thing , following through with a solution is another process.
This is absolutely accurate. I am very successful and I’m 49 so I’m looking at young 30 somethings. I met one that was amazing and would have married her in a second . Smart beautiful, driven, childless, and we were perfect together but she had ZERO relationship skills and eventually I got tired of playing her games.
Believe me Marcus. A lot of swirlers just had a heart attack reading your post. Not one lie was told. They think if they ride the United Nations cc that other men will take it.
A relationship is something you have to be worthy of period. Whatever decisions you make as a woman will condition your habits and will determine if you are seen as a wife or just a girlfriend/short term fling. Ultimately, women go for men with a good future, Men go for women with a good past.
Modern women are definitely lacking in relationship skills. All it takes is listening to the countless female callers from past podcasts. There are many similarities: lack of father or male guidance, lack of consistent relationships, (mostly either very short-term or very long-term with nothing show for the invested time other than out of wedlock children), and no understanding of what men want, which in turn leads to a lack of femininity, submission, or basic knowledge of the social graces. While I commend the 39 year old for acknowledging her situation, it's still tragic that a woman at that age can be so blasé about the turn her life has taken because of her head being in the clouds. Before settling into a relationship where she can be fully appreciated and taken seriously enough to be considered by a decent man, the Peter Pan train of thought needs to die asap.
1:02:00. The reason why she is not committing to a relationship is because men buy her stuff without commitment. So she feels like she can get by without a relationship and is spoiled with no strings attached
What the last sister said about society today becoming individualistic is the truth. Now more than ever people are lonely and suffer from anxiety because we lack the skill to cultivate and endure relationships, we gotta learn somehow.
Building Relationship skills usually starts young in middle and high school. The modern men and women lack relationship skills because they were not socialized to have one on one relationships especially generation Z and the younger Millennial. Many are virgins, don't have their drivers license at 17 and don't date one on one. They do have a hookup culture that's heavier than exclusive dating to build the skills for a longer term relationship. Black Culture - raise their sons to sew their wild oats from 18-30 and raise their daughter to be independent and look for marriage. Who's going to propose to her? Young BM are NOT proposing. Raise your sons to look for marriage earlier. Son's date for marriage and the young daughters like in other cultures
whoever says other cultures are raising wives are full of shit. go to any asian/middle eastern culture and they're running off to white/black guys to get pounded out while not allowing men of their own race to kiss them until the 6th date (taking this verbatim) - the black family structure today will be EVERYONE's in the US in 30-40 years.
@@huskerfly9390 of course they go dumpster diving, but what does that have to do with the culture training young boys to date seriously like they tell the young women?
A S I’ll hand that to you - mostly true, but the 85/15 rule exists there as well - the guys who “get it” or look the part don’t but the others get left in the cold
= discipline mind as well I didn’t get that before totally understand how used to make excuse about the weight ..... I will be married And it thanks to The Godfather they hate so much ...... but if u listen maybe you change and get you life partner but hey if u wanna die alone cool it’s just not for me
I liked the point made about the hair salon and the way women build each other up. I can’t help but notice that that skill of building others up used to be seen as an essential tool for a wife. It used to be that women weren’t utterly afraid of marrying a lower or middle class man, because if they saw potential in him they knew they (as wives) could keep them focused and confident through the tough times. So when their husband comes home from work, dejected at the way his shitty boss demeaned him, the wife was there to give him a back massage and reassure him that soon enough he’d be the boss and to keep his head held high the next morning when he clocked in. Nowadays, women are actively advised against doing, because (somehow) that’s demeaning to the woman. It’s a double standard. They understand that their female friends at the hair salon need encouragement and reassurance. But what about their men? Why don’t their men deserve to be pumped up and believed in when they hit a low point? I don’t feel sorry for women who sit at the end of the race, waiting to grab one of the guys with a medal around his neck. You didn’t help that man win and you don’t deserve him.
Coming from a substance abuse counselor. You are on to something regarding these professional single BW women turning to drugs and alcohol to cope with their life. I literally know several professionally and personally🤦♂️.
One thing I want to ask is how do you discuss this with people? Because drinking “just one glass” and smoking everyday “it’s just weed” is becoming socially acceptable, so how do we address this in a way that people can begin to see that it’s actually not normal and creating a codepency on substances for deeper issues. I mentor a lot of college aged women and men, but I do not drink or smoke at all and have maybe had 5 drinks in my lifetime, but would like to help young people understand that the patterns you start in undergrad can bleed into your adulthood in regards to drinking and smoking.
@@vanesajackson4913 Well we have to first acknowledge that addition is a brain disease. For me I look at the affects it is having on ones personal and social life. Because one person will say “ everyone uses it.” Which Is a deflection. I state well everyone is not sitting in front of me facing 20 years for killing someone while drinking and driving. I use to work in jails/prisons. What my approach is to make it as real and relatable to younger people in speak with because it’s easy to say especially as a young person that that would never be me. It’s definitely a difficult task but one that must be done. I would encourage you to either seek out some substance abuse professionals in your area to come speak or being I someone people that are in active recovery to share their story.
I vaguely remember reading recently that alcohol consumption and abuse was down across the board in the US except one category: millennial women. Hell, I know some women are still buying the propaganda that drinking like they think men do is another sign of strength.
It's true. Dating someone who has been in multiple failed relationships means you're not going to get 100% of their commitment. You're going to get between 50%-80% at most depending on how many failed relationships they've been in.
I was the first person who called in. I will continue to listen to your shows because you have and continue to open my eyes. I'll hopefully become a black belt soon 😉
Damn this is depressing. Feminism is up there as one of the greatest scams ever pulled on any group of ppl. I drove through Boulder CO last weekend and I saw so many hot chicks. All were in college accumulating debt for bs degrees. All will work for the rest of their lives to pay it back. They could be getting married with a quality man while in their prime and hot. It hurts my soul to see. Parents have also failed their daughters. Sometimes I wished that I never took the red pill.
When I was 16 yrs old my mother gave me some of the best advice I was ever given. After talking about my girlfriends hardships to reel me in. She said "Every woman has a story." Remember that ,gentlemen.
Kevin please broadcast a show about Women who want relationships for all the wrong reasons !!!! I have encountered beautiful women but they don’t want to sacrifice anything for the relationship they say they want. Many women purpose and intent for a relationship is a personal ATM or he’s an emergency contingency plan .
Whooo wee KEVIN!!!! U hit the nail on the head with this one. I thought u was talking to me!! I was so use to the chase. Didn't know how to be in a relationship/marriage. When I got married, I thought it was so boring. I did not have the relationship skills. In my religion we get married pretty fast, the community pushing us to get married. But they don't teach us any relationship skills AT ALL
Mr. Samuel my last relationship was described by you in your whole intro. I'm 54 she's 53, gone again, sleeping with someone else, and constantly lies, about everything after 17 years of knowing her, that's it I'm done and gone.
Yep. Around 01:50:00 a lot of females don't seek the wisdom of their folks. Granted their folks might not be wise🤔, but it's at least important to try to gauge what happened for your own knowledge. Talk to several older people and or FIND mentors and confidantes, but don't fly blind.
Usually when a women go and "do themselves" that usually means they're finished partying and now want to settle down with a high value man. But at 35yrs or older with kids, many high value men prefer young women who doesn't have these baggage.
Starting from 52:36 the girl who rang in from London immediately came in & the first thing she did was try to be deceitful & misleading. When asked how old she was when she had her last relationship. She showed a refusal to answer the question by repeatedly saying it was college/University age. Once her age was attained for some crazy reason, she then tried to imply that in the UK you cannot go to college/University after the age of 21 which is a complete fabrication. Why is that you can't just have a straight forward conversation with some women, without the refusal on their part to answer basic questions? A good few minutes were wasted here on just by her being needlessly uncooperative. Here is just a small part of the wider issue.
Yes they do. However while he's exposing them i don't think they're hearing from the men these women qualify for. If they're mostly average where's the average dude's perspective? In all honesty most of these females are below average claiming incomes they can't verify. If 3 to 4 percent of all females make over 6 figures how are all of them here calling in?
@@jfelton3583 I thought I was the only o e questioning that. Like where all these 100k+ people coming from and they don't know any men in that range, don't know what those men want and wear to find them.
17:16 Pegasus is my next buy. I got Althaïr a few weeks ago. Man I miss hearing the candle and fragrance of the show. Not only binge old episodes but I’m still building my smell good collection 🙏
@@Nappystorm Just used you to test what Kevin been saying. Cant tell an over weight black woman she's needs to lose weight w out Shame Insults Guilt Need to be right (Sign). 🤣
Had a friend who had a GF for 11 months. He broke up with her because she became distant and lacked relationships skills in the “boring” phase. Plus she was “working on her” funny 4 years later, the stuff she was “working on” didn’t even pay off. Disclaimer every BF she’s had has also cheated on her..what’s the common denominator lolol
Really important topic - relationships skills are so important to develop. It takes years and a lot of experience to understanding the dynamic of dating.
The death song that KS plays is actually very fitting in today’s modern marriage culture. Especially since weddings are now nothing more than a funeral with a cake for most men.
Women talk about this stuff ALL the time but its not in a solution oriented way. This show is the first time i've heard someone suggest a course of action for change based on what men actually want..ie when Kevin says go to the gym, go to therapy, a matchmaker etc.
...because she knows what a man is supposed to be more than he does lol. Too many times women think that they have a blueprint on what "correct" is and if the man doesn't fit that blueprint then it's his fault. Their blueprint is "perfect " to them so therefore it must be percent to him as well. Basically she's the lead in the relationship by defaulting to her self made blueprint. Thus only 1/4 BW are married in which only 1/4 of those make it past 8 years. So basically a BWs blueprint gives them a 6.25 percent chance of being married past 8 years. Marinate on that a moment ladies....
The Muslim sista dropped a bomb. Eliminate BW's option to BM to get them to shape up. How many brothas would cosign to that notion? And Kevin, I believe an excellent guest to have on your show would Rebecca Lynn Pope.
@@lovelybliss3778 more women should date in their league. Kevin ask women often, why do you need a high value man. Whats wrong with a average man that is working?
I met this women in her 36 come to America from Singapore to look for a “man”. She’s currently in graduate school, requiring family support, and the most aggressive and opinionated women I have seen. She’s literally the most interesting case study I have seen.
Making alot of money doesn't have a darn thing to do with relationship skills. Thats alot of whats wrong with black women these days they're always looking for the bag and most black men don't have the bag. We are living in a time were we better learn how to put two checks together to survive especially in California!😏 Have you been to California lately my brother! Just drive around and it'll blow your mind!
@Kelly Sunday No we don't shame BW for wanting a man that can provide. The problem is, You want the man to provide the LifeStyle that you want but want to give little to nothing to obtain it. That's where shaming BW comes from.
@Kelly Sunday Why not ?! If we give you what you say you want, wouldn't it be fair to give the men what they want? (in most cases it's cooperation, fitness, and natural beauty).
"When I was a child, I thought and did as a child; I played with childish toys and played childish games. When I became a MAN, I put away childish things." What is the female equivalent to that? = there isn't one.
Usually what a person focuses on, they become good at. When they decide they want to get in a serious relationship, they need to study and understand what men need from a woman. Some women grow up in a healthy home with a modeled relationship. Most people don’t have that and have to seek out how to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
I find it kind of weird that some of the women were quoting exactly how much men made. Not a husband but what seemed like random guys they were dating 🤔
Yeah, it noticed it too and think it's strange. Either they are REALLY interested in money as a dating requirement or they don't know and making the shit up.
Its crazy how on point he be that’s why women hate him cuz he’s so on point and they don’t like to change who they are my sons mom flat out swore she knew I wasn’t the one in the beginning so if u knew that why u stay with me for 6 years I never cheated nothing was amazing to her but when I started to realize she had no relationship skills and like he said she has multiple degrees but shows no love and affection doesn’t uplift doesn’t communicate well nothing a relationship consists of does she have skills in so I put her in her place and like he said they won’t change they wether run so she wanted to be done swearing she knows her value and they love to use god swearing god is going to give them what they she is still single and now trying to act better towards me but swearing she don’t want me one think I learned is women don’t admit when they are wrong so I don’t play I’m doing my thing living life
Black boys are reading at the 4th grade level due to baby mama's. This is mortifying considering black men are the most desired, genuine, beautiful and nurturing. Dear lord. The modern gynocentric social order is terrifying in it's current trajectory. As a 33 year old easter European, first generation Polish man... my heart goes out to the entire community. This is the root of the book I am writing. Much love & peace to all.
my sister had a baby boy when she was 15 yrs old. my nephew was reading on a 12th grade level in the 4th grade. why? because we taught him, what had learned and what we were learning. my mother and father took him over, cause she was only a teen. back in the day, that is what mom and dad did. my nephew became their son and he grew up with us.
Hi Kevin. Been listening for a while now, only wished I'd had this insight in my life earlier on as it would have helped tremendously. However, as it is this will be something I pass on to my own son who is 11 presently. I want to say this. There is a three letter word which ruins BW, they should get rid of if. That word is.....BUT.
When they can’t beat your points with logical counters, they will come with ad hominem attacks. This is the script for the unintelligent and legions of internet zombies. Keep doing your thing, Mr. Samuels.
This episode was really eye-opening, especially listening to the 40 year old. I get that marriage and kids aren't for everybody, but she just came off as immature and unbothered.
I am a Black married stay at home mom with 2 children. I have always wanted a relationship. I always got beat down for looking for a man... I didn't focus on school because of that. I have been proposed to multiple times. I am the opposite. No college degree, not self successful... I feel bad about that. I look at the other successful women and wish I was like them... Idk maybe that's stupid cuz my husband loves me and gives me everything. But outside of this, I wouldn't be considered a success.
Nothing to feel bad about. Deep down on the inside, many women crave what you have. Too many women have been indoctrinated for decades to compete with men instead of complimenting men. This is the aftermath. Yeah you could go to school part time and create a business on the side. But you chose the right path.
Its about balance & especially in these times, you can self educate & start a business. Its not just about the money, but self fulfillment, its not too late sis !!!!
Neecee a lot of 6 figures woman wish they had your life but they can’t, not because men are not interested in them but because they can’t handle being a stay at home wife
Don’t listen to these modern women in these comments. Success is family. Why would you want to go get into a bunch of debt and complicate your life when it doesn’t need to be complicated? Those women are lying to you. They want what you have and some are even so jealous that they’ll give bad advice to get you to mess up what you have. Enjoy your family.
What do you guys think of a woman's defensive giggle? A defensive giggle is when a woman doesn't have anything to say when told something that they don't know how to respond to. Kevin is gr8 at tripping these females up with things that they never heard before.
Real truth about these modern 'WOMEN' today...it's their time to play like the 'MEN' but one day this behavior will get old. Relationships between a 'Man & Woman' can be beautiful if both will learn to commit to each other on a daily basis!
59:00-I have always depended on the kindness of strangers. - Blanche Dubois, A Streetcar Named Desire, Tennessee Williams What is that sound? The window closing
@@Ruckerpark98 its sad because if men genuinely want a marriage that requires the lady to be cooperative, submissive etc, "the skills and characteristics that apparently most of us modern woman don't have" then doesn't your search become more difficult (Im just stating in a nutshell what KS is teaching/preaching to you gentleman)
I guess I should really be embarrassed because I'm 34 and have no idea what my dress size is because I don't wear dresses. And I don't really know how to walk in heels either 🤦♀️ certain kind of heels I can wear but after wearing them for more than 40 minutes my feet start to kill me and I have to take them off. I give so much credit to these women who wear heels consistently, especially the higher ones!
Kevin makes valid points without even thinking about it that goes over the heads of the Millenials and Gen Z demographic on here: in the beginning, at 24:54 he said "...giving you the best that I got..." which is him quoting an Anita Baker song by the same name. The majority of R&B music of the 70s/80s were geared toward meeting/dating/marriage in that order. Not so much as we entered the 90s into the 2000s. And this is something many and I noticed when we were in the music business as the iPod shuffle was introduced. When I had my label deal freshly inked with UMG I was hard pressed to find artists and even writers who were open to bringing that all back. I was sad I was told signing Leela James would be a bad move...and they were right. Those songs and style were just about over. To me it was more about that way of life for relationships.
30:31 29old girl I was messing wit a state over . She was very nonchalant and distant. I call her out on it and she flipped out. I knew there and then I was on another level than she was. I'm gonna just keep her as a "friend".
I think its done for these modern women that hit the wall, the only solution is to educate the younger generation so that they may be better at relationships.
The lady that said BW will change when there are no more BM available, was speaking big facts. Hopefully Gen Z will be the changing point, they're already saying that young BW are mean to young BM.
That was me love. and I honestly am in shock of what’s been happening in the dating market.. I’ve been married too long so I haven’t focused on this in the past but what I do see is that there are a lot of false narratives being thrown around. Women are lying to each other and themselves and it’s only to their detriment..all that it has done is keep em single and depressed
I salute the women that recommends this to their friend. I’m only 22 but I have a couple friends that I know need to hear this message. But I’m scared to say because I KNOW there will be backlash 😔
Kevin is right on the money but the dress size thing is interesting. I’m 5’8 and a size 8 but I weight 177 so that might sound like I’m lying but it’s because I do muscle weight training and I have a bigger lower body than top, but most black women don’t train and lie so I can see why he’s hard on them for that. But based on the BMI I’m considered obese
But we look at the fact that how much weight are you going to put on if you have our kid at 177 lb?... So if you gained 20 lb during your pregnancy that's 197 lb. At least you're already going to the gym.
@@mrvisionaryseekinoftruth3862 I was 197 in the past and I had no belly everything was still proportional. My boyfriend told me all this before and gaining or 30 lbs won't make me look huge. I was 165 and gained 12 lbs of muscle to be 177 even if I gained weight from pregnancy, I'll be able to go back faster than a woman who has never gone to the gym
@@markcurry3083 lol no it’s not. Only people you have never studied the body, muscle weight training can talk like this. My own doctor told me that the BMI don’t apply to those who have high muscle density. And women have the genetics to grow muscle on the bottom half of their body more than men do because they have to carry children. Based on the BMI body even builders are considered obese and overweight as well. I have no excuses. My doctor says I’m healthy and tells me not to loose weight and my man loves me just the way I am. But Thankyou for your concern
@@itsyaaveragegirl girl you need to stop the cap. Could you imagine what Kevin would say to you if you told him what you just told me? You’re definitely overweight if you’re not obese. 5’8 177? You should be about 140 max
Nope. Its always someone else's fault. Even dealing with kids, which women have ultimate say over life being brought into the world, many still point the fingers at others. As if others have more say on the matter than them.
I agree. However black men throw me through a loop everytime they walk pass me and start chatting up a fat white woman. The bm that do talk to me, treat me like their sister and I usually have to speak first.
This is part of the reason why things are so screwed..... High Value and money are N O T the same thing. ❌ There are wealthy tacky people....& bums can hit big on an instant scratch off ✨
The first men in a woman’s life will shape her future perception of men. Our black women really need their fathers and strong male figures to guide and help them.
It suppose to be her dad instead of some person on the streets
Bro plenty of fathers in these girls lives even the women who call Kevin podcast say they have zero interest in getting their father's advice. They move independently of their parents not seeking their approval. As a black American Muslim I have 2 daughters they can't find their own husband. I will find them a husband if they found someone I will determine if he is a good option. Since my daughters are 17 and 18 years old I have been observing who are the productive black men in the local mosque. There is a young brother 20 years old he goes to North Carolina AT &T STEM HBCU he wants to be a engineer. The father is a ADOS man the young man's mother is Moroccan. He speaks Arabic fluently he has memorized the entire quran, very good looking young man. He has good morals. The father came to me he said he thinks my oldest daughter would be a good match for him. It will be a arranged marriage. It is men job to put their daughters in the best possible position. Women choosing their own husbands has been disastrous for women. If a woman isn't consulting with men before settling down with a man that's a derelict in her duty. Men only can vet men.
@@charlesirby1643Couldn't of said it any better 💯 ✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿
@Charles Irby
Your post was very fantastic, sir. 💯 North Carolina A&T is a good school with an excellent reputation in producing black male engineers. It’s amazing that arranged marriage still works today, and women are usually happier with that. I hope the best for you and your family. 👍
😪 my father was killed when I was 7! Definitely was a product from that! Renewed now tho!
Love how Kevin makes the women get straight to the point. These women talk too much about nothing and this is coming from a woman 😂😂🤦🏾♀️💁🏽♀️💁🏽♀️
Yeah almost always agree with him. Just his fits about his likes being low. Like you failed to get people engaged and want people to pay for it? Eh...just put out good content and we will hit the like button.
Your right
As a woman why do you think women talk so much about nothing?
@@jonm57 To make our response sound more intelligent. My husband tells me all the time, you using $400 words for a $2 conversation. Since watching KS, I can hear 👂 me going there and correct it. Keep It Simple Stupid is all I tell mySelf. 😂
Yep !
Kevin is so well mannered in this interview. How do people not notice he only matches energy
It doesn't fit their narrative to do so. it's easier to say he is mean than to say he was correct and I am acting a fool.
Even Kevin knows that's not always true.
Bad faith
Women rather smoke, drink, use medications, get likes on social media, and get messages on dating apps, than receive constructive feedback, develop relationship/marriage skills, and go to professional therapy so they can find and keep a high value man.
I don't do none of that
Expand your circle.
@@vchild the exception doesn’t negate the rule, it proves it
We r talking black relationships! U cant relate!
@@t.g.3073 my mom is Korean and my dad was black so stop with the ad hominem attacks and start acknowledging the truth for once.
@@essentialoilsme I wish i could give u my skin and hair just for 1 day! I would lmao+ just truth, no feelings.
As soon as anyone starts a statement with "I feel like...", I stop listening!
Then you must never finishing listening to alot of callers on this show lol
Or “what about”. The both sides default deflections will gave me screaming “ughhhhh” in public.
D claytonius·😂😂😂👍
"I feel" is the correct way to start a conversation or to address the 'essence' of oneself to another.
If someone ignores your 'feelings' you can be shore that they will harm you.
And another thing, "the correct to start a conversation"? Who taught you that? Its a verbal disarming technique.
One of the main skills us modern women lack is recirpocity. We are groomed to be catered to, and it's not right. If you love and care for someone, show them and do your part.
You are rare VCR -Variety Considerations Reciprocation teach on
Reading this made me shed a tear only if this message could be a college subject
Thank you for saying that....You are correct, from my experience with the modern woman, she wants everything but risk nothing...I just don't know what to do for my personal future to marry when the deal seems as if I will lose everything but gain nothing....smh....(and I want to share everything/my life has to offer )....
@Ronald Hitson So true!!!!!
Yep
1. Being a girlfriend is different from being a wife.
2. Being a wife is different from being a mother.
3. Modern women know neither.
4. Type "What is a wife" on TH-cam.
5. TH-cam has fewer than 10 videos that clearly states it.
Wow!....smh....sad
All these are valid points. Kindly, have empathy on modern women and bw , because many didn’t have examples of mothers or wives to model after. So they know no better. If they do want to change it’s takes resources like therapy and time. Access to Resources can vary upon people.
@@aviancag8716 if we can’t tell you what’s wrong and all the examples they had were bad then how are we to ever fix this issue? Wouldnt being TOLD the right way be a solution and the ultimate form of empathy?
@@TheDCGuitar13 Hi , thanks for your response. Your point of view is valid. In my response my intentions were never said telling a female what an problem is , was an issue that is fine. However, the message needs to be worded in the proper way and the tone must be appropriate. These are sensitive topics and the individuals that are being talked to are hurt. If message isn’t delivered in a way to convey your good intentions and suggest “ have you looked into xyz” this approach allow for the message to be heard. And then a response. It’s also shows you are being empathetic by suggesting a solution. Also offering a solution is one thing , following through with a solution is another process.
@@aviancag8716 what is the proper way to word a message that someone who feels beyond reproach is going to refuse no matter what?
She thought she would be young forever! This is the mind frame a lot of women are stuck in.
It also leads to many women getting smacked in the face by reality in the danger zone.
Time sneaks up on them & WHAM!
Kevin Lee don’t u hate to see women north of 55 even 50 in bikinis!!! I don’t care what shape they in it’s embarrassing!!!
I need a young gal line from color purple
I love it!They run right into the wall.
Kevin "ma'am you're not gonna talk over me" Samuels.
Kevin "Get them likes up or I will shut this shit down" Samuels.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Kevin “the net net of it is I love them collar bones” Samuels
"What the french toast?"😂😂
My father is the same way and at 39, I wouldn't even imagine disrespecting my father. He is a man.
This is absolutely accurate. I am very successful and I’m 49 so I’m looking at young 30 somethings. I met one that was amazing and would have married her in a second . Smart beautiful, driven, childless, and we were perfect together but she had ZERO relationship skills and eventually I got tired of playing her games.
Uh then you weren't perfect together bruh🙄....
Believe me Marcus. A lot of swirlers just had a heart attack reading your post. Not one lie was told. They think if they ride the United Nations cc that other men will take it.
Now I’m dating a very traditional beautiful 23 year old Hispanic girl who just wants to be a house wife. She’s cooperative, supportive, and happy.
@@CashKingMarcus Good for you Marcus👌🏾
@@TURBOBEATZZZ nah Marcus has a point. a lot of women are perfect but literally lack the skills.
"You don't want a partnership, you want a sponsor." And there it is. 🔥💯
spot on
Sad how perfect we think we are ..... 😭😭😭
"You don't want a husband; you want a dad."
These 304s must be NASCAR fans with all the sponsorship they seek.
A relationship is something you have to be worthy of period. Whatever decisions you make as a woman will condition your habits and will determine if you are seen as a wife or just a girlfriend/short term fling. Ultimately, women go for men with a good future, Men go for women with a good past.
True.
Damn thats 💯 FACTZ
Wow!!!!! So true!!!
@@bdjonx oopopo if the
Well said
They’re approaching relationships from a position of power and dominance and that’s wtf we’re not finna do
And all these ladies are alone.
Flames🔥
Is that even proper English? Lol
@@LisaS483 it is now mind your business
@@Cdrop63 How can a man command respect when they write at a fifth grade level? Hilarious.
Modern women are definitely lacking in relationship skills. All it takes is listening to the countless female callers from past podcasts. There are many similarities: lack of father or male guidance, lack of consistent relationships, (mostly either very short-term or very long-term with nothing show for the invested time other than out of wedlock children), and no understanding of what men want, which in turn leads to a lack of femininity, submission, or basic knowledge of the social graces.
While I commend the 39 year old for acknowledging her situation, it's still tragic that a woman at that age can be so blasé about the turn her life has taken because of her head being in the clouds. Before settling into a relationship where she can be fully appreciated and taken seriously enough to be considered by a decent man, the Peter Pan train of thought needs to die asap.
Very well said.
1:02:00. The reason why she is not committing to a relationship is because men buy her stuff without commitment. So she feels like she can get by without a relationship and is spoiled with no strings attached
Bingo! Same thing i thought.
Things = Dinner and an Uber.
Thats that raw. Thats like getting 3pt ers at the free throw line. Stop cheating.
What the last sister said about society today becoming individualistic is the truth. Now more than ever people are lonely and suffer from anxiety because we lack the skill to cultivate and endure relationships, we gotta learn somehow.
Building Relationship skills usually starts young in middle and high school. The modern men and women lack relationship skills because they were not socialized to have one on one relationships especially generation Z and the younger Millennial. Many are virgins, don't have their drivers license at 17 and don't date one on one. They do have a hookup culture that's heavier than exclusive dating to build the skills for a longer term relationship.
Black Culture - raise their sons to sew their wild oats from 18-30 and raise their daughter to be independent and look for marriage. Who's going to propose to her? Young BM are NOT proposing. Raise your sons to look for marriage earlier. Son's date for marriage and the young daughters like in other cultures
@As Your statement is exactly on point. THANKYOU.
I Agree.
whoever says other cultures are raising wives are full of shit. go to any asian/middle eastern culture and they're running off to white/black guys to get pounded out while not allowing men of their own race to kiss them until the 6th date (taking this verbatim) - the black family structure today will be EVERYONE's in the US in 30-40 years.
@@huskerfly9390 of course they go dumpster diving, but what does that have to do with the culture training young boys to date seriously like they tell the young women?
A S I’ll hand that to you - mostly true, but the 85/15 rule exists there as well - the guys who “get it” or look the part don’t but the others get left in the cold
A fit body is a fit mind. Great platform.
= discipline mind as well I didn’t get that before totally understand how used to make excuse about the weight ..... I will be married And it thanks to The Godfather they hate so much ...... but if u listen maybe you change and get you life partner but hey if u wanna die alone cool it’s just not for me
I liked the point made about the hair salon and the way women build each other up. I can’t help but notice that that skill of building others up used to be seen as an essential tool for a wife. It used to be that women weren’t utterly afraid of marrying a lower or middle class man, because if they saw potential in him they knew they (as wives) could keep them focused and confident through the tough times. So when their husband comes home from work, dejected at the way his shitty boss demeaned him, the wife was there to give him a back massage and reassure him that soon enough he’d be the boss and to keep his head held high the next morning when he clocked in.
Nowadays, women are actively advised against doing, because (somehow) that’s demeaning to the woman. It’s a double standard. They understand that their female friends at the hair salon need encouragement and reassurance. But what about their men? Why don’t their men deserve to be pumped up and believed in when they hit a low point? I don’t feel sorry for women who sit at the end of the race, waiting to grab one of the guys with a medal around his neck. You didn’t help that man win and you don’t deserve him.
Human lampreys
Coming from a substance abuse counselor. You are on to something regarding these professional single BW women turning to drugs and alcohol to cope with their life. I literally know several professionally and personally🤦♂️.
One thing I want to ask is how do you discuss this with people? Because drinking “just one glass” and smoking everyday “it’s just weed” is becoming socially acceptable, so how do we address this in a way that people can begin to see that it’s actually not normal and creating a codepency on substances for deeper issues. I mentor a lot of college aged women and men, but I do not drink or smoke at all and have maybe had 5 drinks in my lifetime, but would like to help young people understand that the patterns you start in undergrad can bleed into your adulthood in regards to drinking and smoking.
@@vanesajackson4913 Well we have to first acknowledge that addition is a brain disease. For me I look at the affects it is having on ones personal and social life. Because one person will say “ everyone uses it.” Which Is a deflection. I state well everyone is not sitting in front of me facing 20 years for killing someone while drinking and driving. I use to work in jails/prisons. What my approach is to make it as real and relatable to younger people in speak with because it’s easy to say especially as a young person that that would never be me. It’s definitely a difficult task but one that must be done. I would encourage you to either seek out some substance abuse professionals in your area to come speak or being I someone people that are in active recovery to share their story.
@@vanesajackson4913 invisible ,visible, foundation made
I vaguely remember reading recently that alcohol consumption and abuse was down across the board in the US except one category: millennial women. Hell, I know some women are still buying the propaganda that drinking like they think men do is another sign of strength.
It's true. Dating someone who has been in multiple failed relationships means you're not going to get 100% of their commitment. You're going to get between 50%-80% at most depending on how many failed relationships they've been in.
I was the first person who called in. I will continue to listen to your shows because you have and continue to open my eyes. I'll hopefully become a black belt soon 😉
"cooperation, in shape, and their own hair" 🙏🏾✊🏾
What a weak man who called in and said what he said. Weak weak weak. Smh calling another mans show talking like that. Weak
Right? Im really trying figure out why a man is mad at Kevin!?
@@CJ-hz7hn facts
Thanks lllll
He is a true defination of a losser
That’s what you call beta males.
Caller at 1:00:00. After years of Sausage Festivals and Carousels, She no longer has an ability to pair bond.
Exactly 💯
The conversation with the 40 year old women from cali was cringey af.
She like being for the streets 🤷🏿♂️
She was an empty soul
Damn this is depressing. Feminism is up there as one of the greatest scams ever pulled on any group of ppl. I drove through Boulder CO last weekend and I saw so many hot chicks. All were in college accumulating debt for bs degrees. All will work for the rest of their lives to pay it back. They could be getting married with a quality man while in their prime and hot. It hurts my soul to see. Parents have also failed their daughters. Sometimes I wished that I never took the red pill.
Boulder is a cool place
@@TruthSeeker30_ That’s beside his point. The Babylonian Jezebel spirit is still there, no escaping.
ýow biggest , i saw this from early 90's and took the black pill and my kids are grown and the family now work on our farm eating farm fresh produce
@@TruthSeeker30_ It is.
When I was 16 yrs old my mother gave me some of the best advice I was ever given. After talking about my girlfriends hardships to reel me in. She said "Every woman has a story." Remember that ,gentlemen.
Kevin please broadcast a show about Women who want relationships for all the wrong reasons !!!! I have encountered beautiful women but they don’t want to sacrifice anything for the relationship they say they want. Many women purpose and intent for a relationship is a personal ATM or he’s an emergency contingency plan .
That would be a crazy show! I would like to here that too.
Whooo wee KEVIN!!!! U hit the nail on the head with this one. I thought u was talking to me!! I was so use to the chase. Didn't know how to be in a relationship/marriage. When I got married, I thought it was so boring. I did not have the relationship skills. In my religion we get married pretty fast, the community pushing us to get married. But they don't teach us any relationship skills AT ALL
Mr. Samuel my last relationship was described by you in your whole intro. I'm 54 she's 53, gone again, sleeping with someone else, and constantly lies, about everything after 17 years of knowing her, that's it I'm done and gone.
Yep. Around 01:50:00 a lot of females don't seek the wisdom of their folks. Granted their folks might not be wise🤔, but it's at least important to try to gauge what happened for your own knowledge. Talk to several older people and or FIND mentors and confidantes, but don't fly blind.
Usually when a women go and "do themselves" that usually means they're finished partying and now want to settle down with a high value man. But at 35yrs or older with kids, many high value men prefer young women who doesn't have these baggage.
Starting from 52:36 the girl who rang in from London immediately came in & the first thing she did was try to be deceitful & misleading.
When asked how old she was when she had her last relationship. She showed a refusal to answer the question by repeatedly saying it was college/University age. Once her age was attained for some crazy reason, she then tried to imply that in the UK you cannot go to college/University after the age of 21 which is a complete fabrication.
Why is that you can't just have a straight forward conversation with some women, without the refusal on their part to answer basic questions?
A good few minutes were wasted here on just by her being needlessly uncooperative.
Here is just a small part of the wider issue.
Cuzz ,deceit is ollie dare,dare ain't nuttin left, butt witchrath skullz
I noticed that too. Women we dont know you!! You dont gotta lie lol
Facts. That really annoyed me.
That was annoying
These young women with opinions sound like some of my coworkers.....you can't tell them anything
Facts
And when you say “you right” and walk away, they’ll follow you to continue their bs argument🤬🤬🤬
@@TheDCGuitar13 every time
I think the one thing Kevin doesn’t tell these women is that they talk entirely too much!
No he lets them yap on so we can listen to the dumb stuff that comes out their mouths
He has a magic button. I want one irl.
Yes they do. However while he's exposing them i don't think they're hearing from the men these women qualify for. If they're mostly average where's the average dude's perspective? In all honesty most of these females are below average claiming incomes they can't verify. If 3 to 4 percent of all females make over 6 figures how are all of them here calling in?
@@jfelton3583 I thought I was the only o e questioning that. Like where all these 100k+ people coming from and they don't know any men in that range, don't know what those men want and wear to find them.
agreed
17:16 Pegasus is my next buy. I got Althaïr a few weeks ago. Man I miss hearing the candle and fragrance of the show. Not only binge old episodes but I’m still building my smell good collection 🙏
5'7, 200lbs is NOT a size 8!!! I'm 5'5, 156 and a size 10
Drop 60lbs sis ASAP. Peace and love
@@lsimmons24 For an incel on TH-cam? Lol. I'm good bruh 🤣
@@Nappystorm Just used you to test what Kevin been saying. Cant tell an over weight black woman she's needs to lose weight w out Shame Insults Guilt Need to be right (Sign). 🤣
@@lsimmons24One sentence conjured up all that for you? 😂 Bless your heart 💗
@Ez G Just one in particular 😊 The rest of you can do what you want. I have no dog in this fight. I'm watching from the porch 🍿
Had a friend who had a GF for 11 months. He broke up with her because she became distant and lacked relationships skills in the “boring” phase. Plus she was “working on her” funny 4 years later, the stuff she was “working on” didn’t even pay off. Disclaimer every BF she’s had has also cheated on her..what’s the common denominator lolol
What would you say are lacking relationship skills in the boring phase please?
What’s the ‘boring’ phase??
U
None of them want to submit m, yet looking for a leader. How someone gonna lead you when you don’t follow ( submit) ?
1:24:55 If I said it once, ive said it a thousand times.
Women don't want to lead, they want a LEADER.
Mans girl found out he wasn’t a high value man so she dropped him that’s why he called 😂😂😂😂😂
Facts😂😂
Bruhhhhhh!!! I ain’t even think of that. That’s EXACTLY what happened☠️😂
🤣🤣🤣
Really important topic - relationships skills are so important to develop. It takes years and a lot of experience to understanding the dynamic of dating.
That male caller displayed that super ultra beta male energy. Paid and waited to threaten him? Can’t make this up
Lol pathetic
@Bachata Heat bruh if you speak spanish i got an online store on my bio with anthony santos and raulin rodriguez hoddie they are fire no cap bruh
The death song that KS plays is actually very fitting in today’s modern marriage culture. Especially since weddings are now nothing more than a funeral with a cake for most men.
It’s No mans lands… or the other one is Taps used in military
"Women are medicating with food, wine, or 4-20"...please do that show Kevin!
Don't forget the "weed."
@@nikkicrowder7279
He didnt, that's what 4/20 meant
Men too
Much needed show for sure.
@@nikkicas260 This isn't about men and contrary to popular belief in general men check each other on over indulging and self medication.
I agree with being feminine In a relationship 💕
Women talk about this stuff ALL the time but its not in a solution oriented way. This show is the first time i've heard someone suggest a course of action for change based on what men actually want..ie when Kevin says go to the gym, go to therapy, a matchmaker etc.
"If he leads you properly", means she is leaving room for an excuse later.
I heard that as well lol
They always use that tired old line. If they knew proper guidance, they wouldn’t need to be led lol
@@TheDCGuitar13 Facts.
...because she knows what a man is supposed to be more than he does lol.
Too many times women think that they have a blueprint on what "correct" is and if the man doesn't fit that blueprint then it's his fault. Their blueprint is "perfect " to them so therefore it must be percent to him as well. Basically she's the lead in the relationship by defaulting to her self made blueprint. Thus only 1/4 BW are married in which only 1/4 of those make it past 8 years. So basically a BWs blueprint gives them a 6.25 percent chance of being married past 8 years.
Marinate on that a moment ladies....
The Muslim sista dropped a bomb. Eliminate BW's option to BM to get them to shape up. How many brothas would cosign to that notion? And Kevin, I believe an excellent guest to have on your show would Rebecca Lynn Pope.
Both live in Atlanta too
@@lovelybliss3778 I thought she was already married before TH-cam?
I love Rebecca, I listen to her and her husband every week. Amazing couple!!
@@lovelybliss3778 more women should date in their league. Kevin ask women often, why do you need a high value man. Whats wrong with a average man that is working?
@@lovelybliss3778 yes Ive noticed that too. I would love more advice on men period not only hvm. I do agree that the black community needs help.
Kevin Please bring back the time stamps as 2 previous videos. It is very helpful!
I met this women in her 36 come to America from Singapore to look for a “man”. She’s currently in graduate school, requiring family support, and the most aggressive and opinionated women I have seen. She’s literally the most interesting case study I have seen.
So did she accept your wedding proposal?
Ha ha, just kidding 🎃.
Making alot of money doesn't have a darn thing to do with relationship skills. Thats alot of whats wrong with black women these days they're always looking for the bag and most black men don't have the bag. We are living in a time were we better learn how to put two checks together to survive especially in California!😏 Have you been to California lately my brother! Just drive around and it'll blow your mind!
Thank u
@Kelly Sunday No we don't shame BW for wanting a man that can provide. The problem is, You want the man to provide the LifeStyle that you want but want to give little to nothing to obtain it. That's where shaming BW comes from.
@Kelly Sunday only blk men are shamed for wanting women that actually care about them...
@Kelly Sunday Single forever
@Kelly Sunday Why not ?! If we give you what you say you want, wouldn't it be fair to give the men what they want? (in most cases it's cooperation, fitness, and natural beauty).
"When I was a child, I thought and did as a child; I played with childish toys and played childish games. When I became a MAN, I put away childish things."
What is the female equivalent to that? = there isn't one.
Usually what a person focuses on, they become good at. When they decide they want to get in a serious relationship, they need to study and understand what men need from a woman. Some women grow up in a healthy home with a modeled relationship. Most people don’t have that and have to seek out how to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
He reminds me of Uncle!!....intelligent, handsome, high valued black man!!!
I find it kind of weird that some of the women were quoting exactly how much men made. Not a husband but what seemed like random guys they were dating 🤔
Yeah, it noticed it too and think it's strange. Either they are REALLY interested in money as a dating requirement or they don't know and making the shit up.
"I get tired of black women lying"
K.Samuels
😂😂😂😂😂@"not all" always seems to find its way into the equation.
The girl at 1:35 said she weigh 200lbs. She recently lost 30 lbs. Her max weight was 226. Why does the math not add up.
Cuz she's lying lol
The skills you learn at work dont help you in a relationship.....that was deep
A lot of ppl don't know the difference between good advice & bad council..... this is good advice.
Its crazy how on point he be that’s why women hate him cuz he’s so on point and they don’t like to change who they are my sons mom flat out swore she knew I wasn’t the one in the beginning so if u knew that why u stay with me for 6 years I never cheated nothing was amazing to her but when I started to realize she had no relationship skills and like he said she has multiple degrees but shows no love and affection doesn’t uplift doesn’t communicate well nothing a relationship consists of does she have skills in so I put her in her place and like he said they won’t change they wether run so she wanted to be done swearing she knows her value and they love to use god swearing god is going to give them what they she is still single and now trying to act better towards me but swearing she don’t want me one think I learned is women don’t admit when they are wrong so I don’t play I’m doing my thing living life
Black boys are reading at the 4th grade level due to baby mama's. This is mortifying considering black men are the most desired, genuine, beautiful and nurturing. Dear lord. The modern gynocentric social order is terrifying in it's current trajectory. As a 33 year old easter European, first generation Polish man... my heart goes out to the entire community. This is the root of the book I am writing. Much love & peace to all.
my sister had a baby boy when she was 15 yrs old. my nephew was reading on a 12th grade level in the 4th grade. why? because we taught him, what had learned and what we were learning. my mother and father took him over, cause she was only a teen. back in the day, that is what mom and dad did. my nephew became their son and he grew up with us.
Hi Kevin. Been listening for a while now, only wished I'd had this insight in my life earlier on as it would have helped tremendously. However, as it is this will be something I pass on to my own son who is 11 presently. I want to say this. There is a three letter word which ruins BW, they should get rid of if. That word is.....BUT.
Focusing on me / doing me is climbing cooperate ladder and riding the carousel
I respect how Mr. Samuels keeps it 100
I love this guy. He is brutal and honest.
When they can’t beat your points with logical counters, they will come with ad hominem attacks. This is the script for the unintelligent and legions of internet zombies.
Keep doing your thing, Mr. Samuels.
This episode was really eye-opening, especially listening to the 40 year old. I get that marriage and kids aren't for everybody, but she just came off as immature and unbothered.
I am a Black married stay at home mom with 2 children. I have always wanted a relationship. I always got beat down for looking for a man... I didn't focus on school because of that. I have been proposed to multiple times.
I am the opposite. No college degree, not self successful... I feel bad about that. I look at the other successful women and wish I was like them... Idk maybe that's stupid cuz my husband loves me and gives me everything.
But outside of this, I wouldn't be considered a success.
Nothing to feel bad about. Deep down on the inside, many women crave what you have. Too many women have been indoctrinated for decades to compete with men instead of complimenting men. This is the aftermath. Yeah you could go to school part time and create a business on the side. But you chose the right path.
Its about balance & especially in these times, you can self educate & start a business. Its not just about the money, but self fulfillment, its not too late sis !!!!
Neecee a lot of 6 figures woman wish they had your life but they can’t, not because men are not interested in them but because they can’t handle being a stay at home wife
@@joimumu being a stay at home wife isn't peachy and easy. People seem to see it that way though.
Don’t listen to these modern women in these comments. Success is family. Why would you want to go get into a bunch of debt and complicate your life when it doesn’t need to be complicated? Those women are lying to you. They want what you have and some are even so jealous that they’ll give bad advice to get you to mess up what you have. Enjoy your family.
Women on dating apps send negative messages then immediately block you before getting a chance to respond.
They don’t want anybody to challenge their delusional thinking and taking words from a man is beneath them
What do you guys think of a woman's defensive giggle? A defensive giggle is when a woman doesn't have anything to say when told something that they don't know how to respond to. Kevin is gr8 at tripping these females up with things that they never heard before.
Real truth about these modern 'WOMEN' today...it's their time to play like the 'MEN' but one day this behavior will get old. Relationships between a 'Man & Woman' can be beautiful if both will learn to commit to each other on a daily basis!
I used to notice my most thuggd out friends was always driving a car with a sorority tag on it🤷🏿♂️
59:00-I have always depended on the kindness of strangers. - Blanche Dubois, A Streetcar Named Desire, Tennessee Williams
What is that sound?
The window closing
59:00-----Intro scene to "Me So Horny" plays ▶️ "We getting kinda desperate right about now." 2 Live Crew
Wow it’s sad out here🤦♂️.
For both genders
@@missharris1880 how is it sad for men🤔? That’s a serious question✊🏾
@@Ruckerpark98 its sad because if men genuinely want a marriage that requires the lady to be cooperative, submissive etc, "the skills and characteristics that apparently most of us modern woman don't have" then doesn't your search become more difficult
(Im just stating in a nutshell what KS is teaching/preaching to you gentleman)
Yeah the smoking and the drinking is real big problem How you gonna be dating some body that's Probably Banging the weed man
You've watched CGA haven't you? The reference to the weed man
Weed is way too cheap to be screwing for it
Why would a woman have sex for a simple ass plant.
@@Darkserpentbabe444 Will they stay high all the time and you know there not paying
@@aboutbusiness1014 so if a women grew her own Marijuana would you date her? Because the cannabis plant is harmless.
Book smart but game goofy and relationship dumb..wow thanks bruh..I didn't have the words to say it but you put it perfectly. BIG fACTS
damn, he's so real. especially during the intro.
I guess I should really be embarrassed because I'm 34 and have no idea what my dress size is because I don't wear dresses. And I don't really know how to walk in heels either 🤦♀️ certain kind of heels I can wear but after wearing them for more than 40 minutes my feet start to kill me and I have to take them off. I give so much credit to these women who wear heels consistently, especially the higher ones!
You guess?😕😒
@@etfeddiecrosley92 👌
I love that Kevin can REFRAME 'fault' and "blame'. They are concepts that impede success.
It’s lack of accountability that impedes success. Ownership with the key I.E. Admit fault and take the blame.
Kevin makes valid points without even thinking about it that goes over the heads of the Millenials and Gen Z demographic on here: in the beginning, at 24:54 he said "...giving you the best that I got..." which is him quoting an Anita Baker song by the same name. The majority of R&B music of the 70s/80s were geared toward meeting/dating/marriage in that order. Not so much as we entered the 90s into the 2000s. And this is something many and I noticed when we were in the music business as the iPod shuffle was introduced. When I had my label deal freshly inked with UMG I was hard pressed to find artists and even writers who were open to bringing that all back. I was sad I was told signing Leela James would be a bad move...and they were right. Those songs and style were just about over. To me it was more about that way of life for relationships.
@Stoic God how did you get in the industry? And do you have any advice cause I wanna be a music producer one day.
@@Phantom73949 Let me know when you've read this. Thanks. 👍🏽💯
@@Phantom73949 it’s over, the authentic original pre IG era, now it’s Total digital takeover.
@@AllFather-TheStoicGod Jeez man, that's quite a story, thank you so much and I will forever remember this comment/advice
Kevin where did you come from and where have you been all our life's brother ✊🏾
You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge.
It's called self reflection 😔
30:31 29old girl I was messing wit a state over . She was very nonchalant and distant. I call her out on it and she flipped out. I knew there and then I was on another level than she was. I'm gonna just keep her as a "friend".
I think its done for these modern women that hit the wall, the only solution is to educate the younger generation so that they may be better at relationships.
Exactly.
Where’s the time stamp guy!? Ha
Seriously! 😂 Hope he’s all good though.
😂, I'm looking for him myself.
Lol fr though
That man is super clutch
THIS DUDE BE SPITTIN!!!!!!
The lady that said BW will change when there are no more BM available, was speaking big facts.
Hopefully Gen Z will be the changing point, they're already saying that young BW are mean to young BM.
Looking at the atmosphere, I doubt it. Social media is brain washing their heads.
Generation z were raise by gen xers so they probably not going to be shit.
@@assaa5069 I've seen so many gen z boys saying they don't want BW though, so there is hope that it will change BW.
That was me love. and I honestly am in shock of what’s been happening in the dating market.. I’ve been married too long so I haven’t focused on this in the past but what I do see is that there are a lot of false narratives being thrown around. Women are lying to each other and themselves and it’s only to their detriment..all that it has done is keep em single and depressed
@@Deengems big facts once again
I salute the women that recommends this to their friend. I’m only 22 but I have a couple friends that I know need to hear this message. But I’m scared to say because I KNOW there will be backlash 😔
You should it’s up to them to take the information in
Find new friends
You know you are doing a good job when other TH-cam content makers Slander you name. Keep up the good work. Haters stop hating!
40yr old woman still acting like she in her 20s smh
Did I hear a caller state her parents were together 30 years unmarried? Never ever asked about it?
Yup
Kevin is right on the money but the dress size thing is interesting. I’m 5’8 and a size 8 but I weight 177 so that might sound like I’m lying but it’s because I do muscle weight training and I have a bigger lower body than top, but most black women don’t train and lie so I can see why he’s hard on them for that. But based on the BMI I’m considered obese
But we look at the fact that how much weight are you going to put on if you have our kid at 177 lb?... So if you gained 20 lb during your pregnancy that's 197 lb.
At least you're already going to the gym.
@@mrvisionaryseekinoftruth3862 I was 197 in the past and I had no belly everything was still proportional. My boyfriend told me all this before and gaining or 30 lbs won't make me look huge. I was 165 and gained 12 lbs of muscle to be 177 even if I gained weight from pregnancy, I'll be able to go back faster than a woman who has never gone to the gym
The BMI is correct, you are obese. You’re using the same excuses the callers use.
@@markcurry3083 lol no it’s not. Only people you have never studied the body, muscle weight training can talk like this. My own doctor told me that the BMI don’t apply to those who have high muscle density. And women have the genetics to grow muscle on the bottom half of their body more than men do because they have to carry children. Based on the BMI body even builders are considered obese and overweight as well. I have no excuses. My doctor says I’m healthy and tells me not to loose weight and my man loves me just the way I am. But Thankyou for your concern
@@itsyaaveragegirl girl you need to stop the cap. Could you imagine what Kevin would say to you if you told him what you just told me? You’re definitely overweight if you’re not obese. 5’8 177? You should be about 140 max
A lot of black women don’t want to take accountability for their actions.
Nope. Its always someone else's fault. Even dealing with kids, which women have ultimate say over life being brought into the world, many still point the fingers at others. As if others have more say on the matter than them.
They always say it’s the man’s fault.🤦🏾♂️
That's because they're allergic to accountability
I agree. However black men throw me through a loop everytime they walk pass me and start chatting up a fat white woman. The bm that do talk to me, treat me like their sister and I usually have to speak first.
Facts.
When your girl has 300 bodies and tells you that you gotta wait 90 days to smash
This is part of the reason why things are so screwed.....
High Value and money are N O T the same thing. ❌
There are wealthy tacky people....& bums can hit big on an instant scratch off ✨
Had to come to a throwback from time to time who else do it? KS The Godfather has never missed
I even revisit the not so throwback throwbacks 💯
They don't want committed relationships or marriage, it's very simple.
They do want committed relationships! They just don’t know how to go about getting it. We were mislead as children.