Depending on if he were doing the same. Some MEN expect her to be loyal while he cheats and neglects the relationship. If both did the same thing and mature up to be honest about it and want to re-define the relationship, then think about it. Honestly. Especially if children are involved. The problem is men do not want to admit bc he thinks his cheating is less meaningful than hers. Well no. Cheating is cheating. And there is no double standard in it.
@miguel santiago-davis just by listening to her talk I can tell that there had to be several signs that should have told him that she wasn't the one to put a ring on.
The Baby-Daddy saved her ex-husband from that trash. He knew she belong for the streets that's why he didn't wife her up but saved that blue-pill buddy.
Same. My ex did me dirty and cost me everything, and I was financially well off. Boom! Homeless overnight. Sleeping in the dirt. Teamed up with a young girl out there to try to keep her safe and we hit it off. Clawed my wait out of homeless and took her with me. Racked up 50k and was ballin. Wouldn’t you know she sabotaged everything. Some saps never learn. My own damn fault. All they gotta do is change their mind. Women do not know what the words honor or loyalty mean.
It’s true, I once counseled a young 23 year old woman who said she finally had sex with the guy friend who is super nice and and truly cared about her and her son, I told her she needs to be careful how she deals with the guy and be honest with him and herself because eventually she will abuse and leave him. She asked me why would I do that? I said you like him now but you’ll grow to resent him and try to hurt him because he’s a good man and the guy doesn’t deserve that. SHE ACTUALLY AGREED AND ADMITTED I WAS 100% RIGHT!!!
The opposite of cheating is fidelity - loyalty. As a married man of over 22 years and the relationship actually working, I have been asked by others why mine works (so far). I'll share a few key points here, as failure most often happens due to lack of knowledge; sometimes people just need to know what to orient against in order to succeed: 1) Physical attraction should NOT be the only criteria for choosing a mate. It's like checking if a car has 4 wheels before buying it - it should be a given, not a selection criteria or the sole criteria. 2) You need to have agreement on goals in life. Not just what, but how. Examples: 2a) Do you want kids? How many? If she wants six and you want none, red flag. 2b) How will you raise them? A devout Christian and an Atheist will probably have some major differences in approaching this topic. 2c) Kids or no kids: Are you ok with an apartment? Condo? Townhouse? Family home? How are you going to pay for that - she might be all for you bringing in the money as a network engineer, not so much if you're a jewelry thief. Or maybe the latter turns her on... 3) Life is not a sprint, it's a marathon. There will be ups and downs. Got a $12k bonus this year? Pay back bills, or sock it into savings - don't blow all of it on a trip to Cancun. The economic downturn that might happen 4 months later causing you to lose that job will make you wish you used that money more wisely. Also, the downs are seasons in your life - not permanent. In particular to the ladies: just because your man lost his job doesn't mean he's now a loser. I lost mine in 2002, went bankrupt 2003, found work in 2004, promoted in 2010 and 2014, hit six figures of income and maintained it since 2014. My wife stayed the course, so of course she now reaps the benefits. 4) It's a TEAM effort. BOTH partners have to want it and work towards it. Some duties are shared, some are taken up more by one partner than another. Set up what works best for you both, with a realistic assessment of your own strengths and weaknesses. I work, my wife takes care of the kids. My wife also takes care of health insurance claims for the family because she used to work in that profession and knows how to handle the challenges that come up. She also is willing to expand her duties, such as take over mowing the lawn when my back is hurt or I'm putting in 12-16 hour shifts at work. Likewise I'm not above doing dishes and laundry when she's down for a week due to a gall bladder attack. Kids get drafted as needed on most fronts. 5) News flash to the ladies: take care of your husbands at home, in the bedroom. No, it's not supposed to be a reward when he gets you a Luis Vuitton purse, it's what you're supposed to do as part of your bond with him - just like he protects and provides for you, and both your kids where kids are involved. Most men don't marry to end up celibate - they can do that without you. 6) Avoid situations that even have the appearance of infidelity. Your girl’s nights out ended when you got into a serious relationship, never mind engagement/marriage. Why? Because the goal of those nights out wasn’t just to have a good time, if you’re smart - it was to find a partner. Better if you find him through more positive venues, like class at college. It’s a different mindset. You’re moving into the next stage of the game, you and your partner against the world (reference point 4 above). Which leads me to: 7) Ensure you have goals you mutually agree on, and smaller targets that, when achieved, build towards those goals. You’re in the game of life together now. Celebrate the wins when such are achieved. Too often we put our attention on what’s broken; we must not forget to acknowledge each other when we win together. Marriage is rewarding when the couple has each other's back and are on the same page in terms of boundaries and expectations. It requires discipline to work. When you stop working on it, that's when it begins to fall apart. There is no "automatic" setting - it's an ongoing endeavor. This is why men are walking away - because the women don't want to do the work, they only want to collect the benefits. Show me a business contract that anyone is willing to sign where they have to do most or all the work and the other guy gets most or all the profit - no one in their right mind would sign such a contract. Yet the state wants to enforce that on men - and you wonder why you can’t find a man anymore?
I see what you mean but even all this will not save you if she wants to cheat. Women are emotional being nothing can change that. Some are more stable than the others but in the end it all comes down to her feelings of the moment.
Great points. My question is this. You as a married man of x years. How do you deal with the urge of not stepping outside your marriage? What I mean is, how do you deal with having the save vagina night after night or whenever?
@@Introverted_Extrovert99 Never really thought about it from the viewpoint of "it's the same V". Yes, I have had attraction, sparks, with other women - even had a few hit on me over the years. It's what you DO about them (or not) that counts. You keep your mind on the long game. A thrill tonight, discovered 6 months later leads to a messy divorce - is it worth that? Strangely enough, other that the occasional "what if?" sentiment, it's never bothered me. I would guess it's partly because I'm just like that, partly because my wife takes care of me on the regular. Remember, it's not just a personal relationship, it's a business arrangement - one that includes taking care of each other, supporting each other, and working through the disagreements towards achieving common goals mutually beneficial**. That's not just the secret to successful relationships with a significant other, it's the secret to all relationships being successful. **Achieving individual goals are usually mutually beneficial as well, as the happiness resulting from that in the achiever tends to spill over to the significant other, as long as that achievement doesn't betray the other. Individual goals don't go away just because you get married. Life is a game that requires balancing your goals and purposes on multiple levels. Vet them to ensure what they're going for is compatible with what you're going for, or at least relatively neutral.
Nah! That ain't the reason. Are you crazy? Single mothers belongs to her child's father (PERIOD). You don't even date people who have a ring or a child.
Intro🎵: 0:00 Show Starts: 15:05 Fragrance of the Night/Monologue: 19:55 & 21:01 The Godfather asks "are modern women cheaters?" Money World🌎💃🏿: 55:29 First Caller: 58:48 32y/o woman says she cheated on her ex-husband multiple times because of trauma? The Godfather investigates 🧐. Second Caller: 1:26:20 says she cheated on her ex-husband and then got cheated on? 🤔 The Godfather speaks summarizes the show & speaks to men, women 1:35:32 End of Show/Preview of Future shows: 1:41:39
Or who will cheat first. Always on edge and ready to pull the trigger until false accusations become the accusers own detriment and proof that it's true. Not realizing they were speaking things into existence. Universal law never works for one's self (unless only for our personal benefit) only for everyone else and then we wanna "act" surprised. THATS the real issue.
Especially when they have trauma, but having trauma never comes up until they get caught. Trauma should be understood before anyone commits to anyone. Isn't easier to admit you had trauma and let someone walk away right then and there rather than hiding it all the time fighting it until something breaks? Ppl can say trauma for anything nowadays and it's like, naaaah you just a weak person because apparently the only remedy to any trauma is a boner. Shit ima change professions to trauma therapist now ima fuxkin up and down fixing all the world's problems one stroke at a time.
Dude i know several women from A list families. Zero trauma. Zero struggle. Chetaed on their husbands and destroyed their own families and children. Women cheat beacause they are bored or want a big Orgasm from Chad. Lust and fun is why they cheat. There is always a femnist girl friend or an aunt misadvicing them "You go girl".
Snap. Your granny was wise. So was mine. Them old grannies held shit down, were funny as hell, picked up the slack when momma dropped it, and did it all without fuss. They had a CODE. It's lost now. Most of our men don't have code anymore. But hey enough of my rambling bullshit. Pouring one out for the grannies.
I’m pretty sure most guys in majority agree, cheating is a deal breaker. My ex wife and I had a deal during our marriage. We said to each other that if we found someone else that will compliment us, that we should break it off. Well, that deal was broken by her. We tried counseling. But ultimately I decided to leave. I left because there’s no way in hell I would carry that burden of disrespect. I value loyalty and respect, 2nd to loving God first. On top of it all, I married a broken individual. That there, is the only fault I will accept in my marriage. I will say this, once the cheating has occured, the marriage is over. Regardless of which gender did it.
Because the numbers are so low that it will work out, men have to ask themselves, is it worth even trying..? Sorry that happened to you man. Peace be with you 🙏🏽
Yeah I wish I did It Your way I’m still in my marriage yeah man I carry that pain every day I don’t know why I stay for kids together and I know if they ever knew they would be devastated I probably shouldn’t be trying to do it for them but I’m just stuck
@@phillyrich3249 Bro, she gave me 3 beautiful kids. I will always have love for my ex. She is the mother of my children. But I am not in love with her at all anymore. Thankfully, my kids are doing good and we did counseling as a family. Explained to them what was happening with a third party professional. I value my sanity. I was angry at her. That was not healthy. Not good for kids so I had to end it for their sake. As men, we do what we can to fix things. That’s what we do. It’s our nature. But we can’t fix broken people, that’s the sad reality. I’m doing a lot better. I dedicate my time to my children only. I don’t date nor seeing anyone. My kids are my priority first and foremost. Yes, I get attention from women. But I am focused on me right now and my kids. It will suck in the beginning, it will hurt. But with pain, you have to learn to heal again from it. It’s a work in progress, but for my kids to have sanity and peace, it was worth it. Forgive yourself first. Follow your instincts and decide with a sane mind. Have a plan, regardless if you stay or leave. I am no one to judge you on your decision. You stay or leave, then you’re a brave soul. God bless bro.
She lucky this man didn’t do something crazy . That type of pain can throw some men off the edge . It’s hard to deal with that type of embarrassment and betrayal.
I can confirm your statement I almost committed murder because of this situation thank God I did not throw my life away it would’ve altered the destiny of my children I did stay married but it will never be the same
All women have extremely hard time taking responsibility for their actions. Don't think they don't come up with all sorts of deflection tactics when such issues come up.
@@goon009 If someone uses this on you, that means they are trying to shame you and blame shift. Typical tactic of people that don't want to take personal responsibility.
Oh my God! That woman who cheated on her husband, she is immoral. Trauma does not cause immorality. You are no better than your abuser(s). You abused your husband. I hope that man got what he deserves-a faithful, loving wife. Your baby daddy didn't want to marry you.
@Saint Scanderbeg Don't give then cheaters one more second of power over your life. Tear down the wall and find someone who's honest and faithful. Someone who deserves you. ⚒
That first caller really thinks that the solution to trauma is to traumatize someone else... Such lack of accountability is scarily commonplace these days.
Excellent show God Father, you approached the first caller with care and class. She was able to show her scars without exposing the wound. I hope her husband finds the healing and resources he needs. Good work!
And this is why I don't blame childless men for avoiding single mothers. For the same reasons I avoid single fathers. They will always be connected emotionally in some way because of those kids. Having to deal with the idea that you may get cheated on or broken up with because they still have feelings and want to put their family back together. And you can forget about ever being first in their lives, the kids fill that spot. They get to be first in YOURS, but you won't be first in THEIRS. And before you say, "well, not all single mothers/fathers are like that", I'm not talking about exceptions to the rule. If it don't apply, let it fly. But this happens to childless men and women often enough to be hugely problematic.
I Calle BS. A man who is a successfull parent, wealthy and a good provider is even more attractive because he is a guarranty. A 40 year old childless man is a man whose seed has never been wanted.
1st.. Kevin you dropped another 🔥🔥🔥 show tonight. I’m glad that you mentioned “Men need to be humanized” because of what you said to the first caller. She allowed her child father to come in and ruin her marriage and the moment you mentioned how would she feel if someone did that to her son.. she froze 🥶 because she never once had that thought in her mind... Great show
@@iAMtheYELLOWrose Are you the caller? if you are.. you took it with class and he made you look at it from a different perspective . At the end of the day, he is trying to give y’all the game plan when it comes to relationships...
She acts happy that she cheated on her husband. An old woman told me years ago. Never marry a single mother! Her baby daddy will always have access to the kitty. Period!
Seems true. My ex "wife" had a child with someone else before we got married and had children. She let him back in the house. Then I thought about her giving me the kitty during our separation
Bruhhh, me and my ex wife had separated in our marriage and agreed that we would do our own thing, one day she dropped the kids off and was looking good and at the moment I wanted to hit that again, long story short kids got dropped off at daycare and it went down, right after im in the bed chilling she in the shower and some dude FaceTime her phone and I thought it would be funny to answer it, the dude saw me and it looked like he was heart broken like a mf he couldn't even get a word out, I thought to myself I can't trust nobody ever again unless God himself tell me she is the one
It's sad but true. Reddit surviving infidelity is an eye opener. Unfortunately women in their prime (18 to 26) do this the most. Their justification is that they don't want to miss out on other opportunities. When I met my husband and we decided to be serious, I stopped all contact with other guys even if we were only platonic. He did the same with his female friends. It's out of respect, honesty, and transparency. I don't even entertain male coworkers attention when they claim they're just being friendly. I don't want them to get the wrong idea and also I don't want anyone accusing me of being inappropriate. My marriage and my husband's trust is too valuable for me to lose it for something stupid.
On one of Kevin's older videos about 9 red flags when dating, one of them was to not be involved with single mothers. There was a comment by a woman that I responded to and true to form she turned to shame, insults and guilt. It truly is miraculous the inner workings of the female mind.
@@veevii8747 we don’t define statistics by anomalies we define them through majorities, just saying. What you said doesn’t “defeat the argument” some ego you got there..
Nothing wrong with being alone. Biggest problem with people is that they think they will fine wholeness and balance outside themselves. The problem is that people dont know how to be alone.
@@Heisenherb tough for you, people like me prefer to be alone so we wont actually have to deal with other bullshit that we already had enough in our lives.
@@Heisenherb the problem is the subconscious program/belief prevents you from being able to be alone. The fact that you believe you can't be alone, is the very reason that you can't be alone. The mind and your beliefs create your reality.
Im going through a tough time my dad passed away a couple of years ago thank god Kevin left so much quality advice for people like me. I never met him in person but he feels like a father.
I read the article. Scary. Roughly men cheat for sexual gratification yet still love their partner. Women emotionally un-bond from their partner and form emotional relationships. Social media attention, text messaging, phone conversations, and shared breaks eventually leads to sexual cheating. Reasons: Low Self-Esteem, Revenge, Loneliness, Lack of Excitement, Intimacy, Unrealistic Expectations, Sex/Love Addict, and looking for an Exit.
If u cheat you don't love your partner. And people cheat because they want to. Male or female. There is no psychology behind it. It's all out of lust. If u truly care then u would just break it off before u cheat. Male or female.
@@yayaf923 by you saying it's not true, is accusing me of lying. Obviously you are not understanding the angle that I am coming from. When I said MOST MEN, I'm talking about UPRIGHT MEN, who are more serious minded about relationships and maintaining their household. Those type of guys for the most part, aren't going to waste their time with another woman: too busy handling business. As far as good women/men getting cheated on... WTF does that mean? That doesn't mean that they always make good decisions; and on top of that, you don't know about their karma, or what they do in the dark. So stop it.
It's interesting you brought up emotional un-bonding, since the most common reason women file for divorce is "emotional incompatibility". Really makes you think.
He is right. I was dating someone who I find out was responding to several dudes who were texting her good morning. She said it was harmless because they were texting her and I told her dudes aren't texting you to be nice. I was dumb enough to continue on with the relationship after she said she would stop. I ended up breaking up with her because she had no problem keeping doors open, i.e. suggestive social media and tik tok posts, lying about little shit, having male "friends" because she said I wasn't paying her enough attention. If only I would have nipped it in the bud and cut things off when I found out about the texting. It would have saved me a whole lot of time. Low value women will play these games and it doesn't get better as they get older...they will still play games well into their late 30s and 40s
Often you need to know that it’s just your turn and that there was an expiration on the situation. The question is, do you have the abundance mentality and value to replace her at that point? There is absolutely zero guarantee in modern relationships especially with the way the worlds has been shrunk with the internet. You have dudes out there mate guarding, fighting, losing sleep over some mediocre p sleeve when they could be on their own purpose. Not worth it. Get your life right build for yourself and the abundance will never end. “I don’t chase em, I replace em” - Chinese proverb
Women will say if a man is dating multiple people other than her. Then "He's a dog." But if a woman does it. Then "She's finding her POWER. " Like some bullshit. I've known and dated women that will literally tell me. "If a man wants to date other people aside from me before we make it serious. Then he needs to get my consent first." As they themselves are seeing a few "FRIENDS" on the side while she's trying to make up her mind. Women be full of shit. And then backhandedly say "Men have been doing it forever." I'm like - "WOMEN have been doing it forever. Especially for the fact you have more options and always forever seeking attention."
The karma that the silly girl that filed for divorce, laughing at cheating on her husband will face for at least the next decade is treacherous. Very sad.
@@ninasamone87 Ma'am I'm not saying you personally but I know from personal experience, friends, co-workers, family and countless others. Men and women that work together text, chat, flirt and screw each other. You must have a strong minded, level headed, easy going husband to be ok with it.
@@byronmartin1840 , I agree that a lot of that happens at work, and like you, I have been a witness to it myself. Whether my husband is ok with it is neither here nor there, because it’s my job. Just like he has business dinners with some of his female colleagues. I don’t have time for insecurities in a relationship. What y’all need to realize is, if a woman wants to cheat, she doesn’t need to go to work or business lunches to do it. If people want to cheat they’re going to cheat and it’s nothing you can do to stop it. So trying to put the shackles on a woman is only going to make the situation worse. If you don’t trust her then don’t get married or if you are married then get a divorce.
I agree when he told that woman that she need to be alone for cheating, I haven't been in a serious relationship but I do understand that if a woman cheat on a man who's good to her then she not worth our time! In my opinion.
I've had 4 that were married. Being their dark secret taught me how to be more deceptive. I felt guilty about one in particular...I wanted to tell one brother about one lady in particular. Fear of a deadly outcome stopped me. Those experiences prevent me from marrying any woman especially Black.
But you were the “man” messing with married women. Not once but at least 4X. What does that say about you? Nothing good. It doesn’t sound like you are marriage material. Don’t marry anyone because you reap what you sow. Law of attraction is real.
Disagree on this one. If she cheats, I want to know. By hiding the cheating, it continues the deception and deprives the man of the choice of what to do with a relationship that is not what he thought it was, with a woman who is not who he thought she was.
@@LIFE4RBG123 shiiid... she need to tell me who she cheated with cause if they have continuous access to this person I need to know if I need to leave or she needs to make sure she no longer has access cause like the story went ... she kept cheating. Also... I ain’t walking around with my shorty thinking she a golden peice when everybody had it.. streetwalkers belongs on the street💯
@@kingkingitinstyle635 That would be your *intuition.* If you thinks she's cheating...you get that *vibe* ...if she gives off that *energy* ...if your *ancestors* are speaking to you...
Yeah. It hurts. When we open our hearts and someone puts a damn knife in it. But you gotta keep on keeping on and maybe the next generation will get it sorted.
Couple of callers in these vids made me really think. There is zero remorse, she actually laughs. I can't not watch these vids because this is reality & better face it. No way am I going through that. Older now so I don't need to deal with this. Dad said don't love who you love, love who loves you. Makes sense.
@Mark James When a wmn really wants you for you...90%+ of ur problems are gone!! Your happiness is her priority & u naturally wanna do all kinds of things for her!!!
@Mark James Many of the things he said i really didnt understand till MANY years later. We were at Auto Show in NYC, bro & i (& every other young man) were all over exotic sports cars. Dad looked at a Corvette we were all drooling over & asked why we liked it, no room for groceries, no good in rain, expensive to own/ repair. But daaad, its a Corvette....he chuckles & says y'all love Corvettes but you need Camrys. He was really talking about women. Many years later i was at dinner with him, complaining about issues i was having with a girlfriend. He chuckled & asked if i still love Corvettes.
This was dope. Appreciative of the caller she hung in there. Mr Kevin laid it out especially correlating it to the son and how he sees how mom operates with men. Also the support system aspect that's huge. I learned 🖐️
We know women don’t leave something unless they feel they have something to replace it🤷🏾. But like we all know if they had something better they would have left but women like to stay in relationships for the comfort and status. You tell me you have cheated (sexuallly) I’m gone that day! Because How I look at it, he gets to rep the benefits without doing the work (putting up with her BS, or taking care of her). So he will need to have it all not just the good parts🤷🏾. I was talking to my mom years ago before she passed and we was talking about cheating in marriage and leaving. And she said “ Son a lot of these men keep families together.” I didn’t know what she meant then but I do now first hand🤦♂️.
@@GirlychocobeautyPink that’s not seen as a traditionally male characteristic to begin with. But if you wanna go there what’s more caring than protecting someone and providing for them🧐
@@DomItDown Men do not Have to Provide for Women...A Woman can provide for herself. Thats a Very dangerous Philosophy to Teach Women. Money is a Synonym for Survival and also Power ..When a Man Holds all the Money..he holds all the Power. Thats a Very Important message that needs to Be taught to Housewives and Gold diggers...everything a Man gives you He can take it away from you at anytime . Its Very important for Women to Have their Own Money
There's women out there that think just because we have weewee that us men are devoid of feelings & trauma smh. When the man us treating the woman overall right & yet she still cheats than I ask who is thinking with their private parts in that situation huh! There's women that get love mixed up with infatuation. Man i love these videos man i truly appreciate you Kevin.
Men and women are not the same. Honesty, loyalty, courage, these are all masculine traits and are exercised by the male half of the species. Female hypergamy is devoid of all these traits and many more. When it comes to treachery and betrayal there really is no upper limit to a woman’s actions.
There are no mixed signals. The signal always is the thing you suspect it of being. Yes, fellas, she is doing whatever you think she's doing. Yes, fellas, she is pushing you away etc
I’m 55, married twice, and a couple of long term relationships…I’ve found the disloyalty of women to be shocking. My last LT relationship ended after 9 years because she “couldn’t handle” my cancer diagnosis. That’s after being a stepfather to her 3 kids, going WAY above & beyond for them; that’s after 8 months of 24/7 palliative care for her mom as she was dying from the same cancer as me. I’d be getting chemo & radiation Mon-Thurs (while still working), get in the car EVERY Friday, drive 6 hours to her mom, spend the weekend caring for her, drive 6 hours back on Sunday evening, begin treatments again on Monday…. repeat the week. Week after week after week. After her moms funeral… she dropped the “I can’t handle it” speech on me! Truly some disgusting behavior, even her kids were disgusted in her. We tend to never hear about, and no one talks about, how bad some women can be. They are not all “sugar & spice”, you’re better off knowing that as soon as you can, finding out later in life can be a killer! 👍🏼☮️
yep I have found out more than once after fucking a chick that she had a boyfriend or husband. 1 of them broke up with her boyfriend and wanted to go out with me. I laughed and told her no. then she wanted to call me a pig lol. then messaged her ex and told him about everything. she tried to go back with him and he turned her down too lol. it was great
Yo this dude is the truth!! I was a lil skeptical on how he was handling the lady that cheated on her husband with her BD...but the way he gathered her at the end was perfect 👌
I tell my coworkers that subconscious when you get with a baby mama she will lose a little respect for you because she knows you are, though a good man for taking on the responsibility, a little bit foolish and dont deserve true respect. And no true respect wont make him sexually attractive.
I disagree with Kevin. If she cheats, I want to know. If she doesn't, it takes the power of choice away from me and could cause other issues with std's and etc...
He said if she did it once and realizes that she won't do it again. Keep it to yourself. U may still be walking around with a street walker. Most women are "good" at cheating. So u probably wouldn't know unless a disease or a baby came out of it. But if it's a one time thing and he/she is remorseful. I get what u all are saying. I just agree with both.
@@JustBree716 if you're truly connected you will know. The energy will shift her body language will change and it will nag at you until you get the truth. Then you must make a choice.
This is honestly one of the most important message females and males needed to hear. To assist with both the standards of what is acceptable and hand downs what's is not💯... Excellent job Kevin Samuel..
Kev’s reaction @1:10:40 is a tell-tale sign of how much he cared for the modern man, he could’ve easily made this whole conversation personal but found a way to keep focusing on the root issue and help the caller with the error of her ways. God rest his soul and I pray whoever this woman is found her way and learned from her past situations.
Thank you Kevin. You are the only person I see online telling a message that must be told. What you say has impact because you are an example of what it looks like to carry yourself to a higher esteem. Bringing men and women together is fundamental. Thanks again. God bless you and your your listeners.
that first caller... my heart is broken... i feel for that man... where ever he is, i send full love to him.... hope he is well and not rebuilding but building himself up... lets keep growing King and to the lady.. work on your self, leave the dating stage and build yourself too... its not over
There isn’t anything on this world that could EVER be a blk woman’s fault is there? No amount of bad choices could EVER be their fault...I’m surprised one hasn’t said that it’s the yt mans fault they have to “find myself”....
59:07 When a woman starts her sentences off with an exhalation and then a slow, "Ahhh meeeen..." you know they've been caught in a lie or an indefensible position. And they know it too.
Yes modern women are serial cheaters. I have a friend who won’t stop friendship with her ex because she’s open minded. Even though she’s in a relationship.
My mom will always say to most ladies the reason they're not married or have a wonderful relationship is because they have backups it made no sense to me until now. wow!!!!
Maybe I should write a book. A lot of men in my age range and younger don’t seem to get it, marriage and LTR are dead. Make your money, go to the gym, and date casually but that’s it.
@@Ruckerpark98 I don’t think anyone can go without attention. Both males and females need attention. Maslow hierarchy of basic human needs. I understand that you may not want to date “seriously” at this time, but casual relationships get old too. But I don’t blame you. (Sigh... this world is progressing in the wrong direction.. smh)
If she cheats on you don't take her back. If you take her back, you end up cheating on yourself.
Sister you on 🔥🔥🔥
Depending on if he were doing the same. Some MEN expect her to be loyal while he cheats and neglects the relationship. If both did the same thing and mature up to be honest about it and want to re-define the relationship, then think about it. Honestly. Especially if children are involved. The problem is men do not want to admit bc he thinks his cheating is less meaningful than hers. Well no. Cheating is cheating. And there is no double standard in it.
People hung up on fidelity; like folks is virgins. Lol, people come and people go.
FACTS!!!!!!😘
And she will never respect you for being that weak and taking her back, in fact she will resent you
The way that woman giggled and laughed as she told her story was disturbing. Men, stay away from her.
@miguel santiago-davis just by listening to her talk I can tell that there had to be several signs that should have told him that she wasn't the one to put a ring on.
Nothing was funny that call was all bad!!!
A lot women giggle when they are nervous....
Yeah that's scary when they do that..women like that will never be able to settle down
The Baby-Daddy saved her ex-husband from that trash. He knew she belong for the streets that's why he didn't wife her up but saved that blue-pill buddy.
Men can't use past trauma as an excuse for anything.
Facts!!! Yet the "oppressed" are fefails. It's a war out there, no man is safe.-Prodigy '98
Nope!!!!
Yes, they can if they are honest and if the woman cares.
But yet women r sooooooo strong ! Smh
@@iAMtheYELLOWrose speak English please
I asked a homeless man how did he end up in his situation he told me a Woman. That stuck with me from 16 to present.
Spoke to alot of homeless men and most say it was cuz a female
SAME. Ex knocked her up raw... He couldn't take it. SMH
Same. My ex did me dirty and cost me everything, and I was financially well off. Boom! Homeless overnight. Sleeping in the dirt. Teamed up with a young girl out there to try to keep her safe and we hit it off. Clawed my wait out of homeless and took her with me. Racked up 50k and was ballin. Wouldn’t you know she sabotaged everything. Some saps never learn. My own damn fault.
All they gotta do is change their mind.
Women do not know what the words honor or loyalty mean.
If the dead could speak.
Yes it is true. Luckily I had some family support to keep my afloat but yes a woman can keep you down, for as long as you let it.
You know she's gonna lie to the next guy she meets about how the marriage ended .
Yup
They may also try to lie to themselves about it.
Got to. Or else other guy will run.
Every single time.
Show a woman heaven she'll complain about the view, show her hell... she'll offer to pay half the rent. Sad, but true..
Ghetto Gospel
Damn never heard that before
Where u get this lol
Funny and some truth
This is so true
When your lady cheats on you she’s actively declared war against you. Treat her accordingly.
I had been going through a phase where I wanted to just smash and dash , a lot of these women are not worthy of real relationship
FACTS!
BIG FACTS‼️
War
That is an excellent statement 👏!
I like it
Un-respectable women will punish you for treating them well.
It’s true, I once counseled a young 23 year old woman who said she finally had sex with the guy friend who is super nice and and truly cared about her and her son, I told her she needs to be careful how she deals with the guy and be honest with him and herself because eventually she will abuse and leave him. She asked me why would I do that? I said you like him now but you’ll grow to resent him and try to hurt him because he’s a good man and the guy doesn’t deserve that. SHE ACTUALLY AGREED AND ADMITTED I WAS 100% RIGHT!!!
Literally
Learnt that the hard way
@@STEVENCINEMATICMUSIC ...Facts!!!
Glad I’m single.. I have 0 Tolerance for cheaters..
“U trashie bisnatch “😂😂😂😂😂Kevin is a national treasure !! Protect him at all cost!😂😂😂
Too late, they offed him
She told her husband that she cheated not to clear her conscience but to end the relationship.
Facts
That's a cold as woman!
That's shallow asf
Yup that’s exactly what happened. She wanted him to end so she could say he divorced me. So I got back with my ex
The opposite of cheating is fidelity - loyalty. As a married man of over 22 years and the relationship actually working, I have been asked by others why mine works (so far). I'll share a few key points here, as failure most often happens due to lack of knowledge; sometimes people just need to know what to orient against in order to succeed:
1) Physical attraction should NOT be the only criteria for choosing a mate. It's like checking if a car has 4 wheels before buying it - it should be a given, not a selection criteria or the sole criteria.
2) You need to have agreement on goals in life. Not just what, but how. Examples:
2a) Do you want kids? How many? If she wants six and you want none, red flag.
2b) How will you raise them? A devout Christian and an Atheist will probably have some major differences in approaching this topic.
2c) Kids or no kids: Are you ok with an apartment? Condo? Townhouse? Family home? How are you going to pay for that - she might be all for you bringing in the money as a network engineer, not so much if you're a jewelry thief. Or maybe the latter turns her on...
3) Life is not a sprint, it's a marathon. There will be ups and downs. Got a $12k bonus this year? Pay back bills, or sock it into savings - don't blow all of it on a trip to Cancun. The economic downturn that might happen 4 months later causing you to lose that job will make you wish you used that money more wisely. Also, the downs are seasons in your life - not permanent. In particular to the ladies: just because your man lost his job doesn't mean he's now a loser. I lost mine in 2002, went bankrupt 2003, found work in 2004, promoted in 2010 and 2014, hit six figures of income and maintained it since 2014. My wife stayed the course, so of course she now reaps the benefits.
4) It's a TEAM effort. BOTH partners have to want it and work towards it. Some duties are shared, some are taken up more by one partner than another. Set up what works best for you both, with a realistic assessment of your own strengths and weaknesses. I work, my wife takes care of the kids. My wife also takes care of health insurance claims for the family because she used to work in that profession and knows how to handle the challenges that come up. She also is willing to expand her duties, such as take over mowing the lawn when my back is hurt or I'm putting in 12-16 hour shifts at work. Likewise I'm not above doing dishes and laundry when she's down for a week due to a gall bladder attack. Kids get drafted as needed on most fronts.
5) News flash to the ladies: take care of your husbands at home, in the bedroom. No, it's not supposed to be a reward when he gets you a Luis Vuitton purse, it's what you're supposed to do as part of your bond with him - just like he protects and provides for you, and both your kids where kids are involved. Most men don't marry to end up celibate - they can do that without you.
6) Avoid situations that even have the appearance of infidelity. Your girl’s nights out ended when you got into a serious relationship, never mind engagement/marriage. Why? Because the goal of those nights out wasn’t just to have a good time, if you’re smart - it was to find a partner. Better if you find him through more positive venues, like class at college. It’s a different mindset. You’re moving into the next stage of the game, you and your partner against the world (reference point 4 above). Which leads me to:
7) Ensure you have goals you mutually agree on, and smaller targets that, when achieved, build towards those goals. You’re in the game of life together now. Celebrate the wins when such are achieved. Too often we put our attention on what’s broken; we must not forget to acknowledge each other when we win together.
Marriage is rewarding when the couple has each other's back and are on the same page in terms of boundaries and expectations. It requires discipline to work. When you stop working on it, that's when it begins to fall apart. There is no "automatic" setting - it's an ongoing endeavor. This is why men are walking away - because the women don't want to do the work, they only want to collect the benefits. Show me a business contract that anyone is willing to sign where they have to do most or all the work and the other guy gets most or all the profit - no one in their right mind would sign such a contract. Yet the state wants to enforce that on men - and you wonder why you can’t find a man anymore?
Beautifully said.
I see what you mean but even all this will not save you if she wants to cheat. Women are emotional being nothing can change that. Some are more stable than the others but in the end it all comes down to her feelings of the moment.
Great points. My question is this. You as a married man of x years. How do you deal with the urge of not stepping outside your marriage? What I mean is, how do you deal with having the save vagina night after night or whenever?
Whew...
@@Introverted_Extrovert99 Never really thought about it from the viewpoint of "it's the same V". Yes, I have had attraction, sparks, with other women - even had a few hit on me over the years. It's what you DO about them (or not) that counts.
You keep your mind on the long game. A thrill tonight, discovered 6 months later leads to a messy divorce - is it worth that?
Strangely enough, other that the occasional "what if?" sentiment, it's never bothered me. I would guess it's partly because I'm just like that, partly because my wife takes care of me on the regular.
Remember, it's not just a personal relationship, it's a business arrangement - one that includes taking care of each other, supporting each other, and working through the disagreements towards achieving common goals mutually beneficial**. That's not just the secret to successful relationships with a significant other, it's the secret to all relationships being successful.
**Achieving individual goals are usually mutually beneficial as well, as the happiness resulting from that in the achiever tends to spill over to the significant other, as long as that achievement doesn't betray the other. Individual goals don't go away just because you get married. Life is a game that requires balancing your goals and purposes on multiple levels. Vet them to ensure what they're going for is compatible with what you're going for, or at least relatively neutral.
The first caller is the reason dudes don't wanna wife up a single mother
In that order
Leave them Sheung Nu's out of your life.
@@crimsonblack4786 I thought it was spelt Shen Yu's
Nah! That ain't the reason. Are you crazy? Single mothers belongs to her child's father (PERIOD). You don't even date people who have a ring or a child.
The BD is imprinted on her... she won't shake him for decades if then...
Intro🎵: 0:00
Show Starts: 15:05
Fragrance of the Night/Monologue: 19:55 & 21:01 The Godfather asks "are modern women cheaters?"
Money World🌎💃🏿: 55:29
First Caller: 58:48 32y/o woman says she cheated on her ex-husband multiple times because of trauma? The Godfather investigates 🧐.
Second Caller: 1:26:20 says she cheated on her ex-husband and then got cheated on? 🤔
The Godfather speaks summarizes the show & speaks to men, women 1:35:32
End of Show/Preview of Future shows: 1:41:39
Man, you must have hired assistants this was so quick. 😂👍🏽 You're appreciated.
Thank you bro 🙏🏿
@@AllFather-TheStoicGod You would think that lol. But he's just that good
@@kevinlee9929 😂👍🏽
Thanks
Relationships now a days are just two people trying not to get cheated on
I feel personally attacked lol this hit too hard
This rap too deep to handle. Reduce the truth you drop. We ain't ready for that.
@@TheSockbottommodern sex and relationships are nothing but clout
Or who will cheat first. Always on edge and ready to pull the trigger until false accusations become the accusers own detriment and proof that it's true. Not realizing they were speaking things into existence. Universal law never works for one's self (unless only for our personal benefit) only for everyone else and then we wanna "act" surprised. THATS the real issue.
Hurts when you think about how correct your statement is
Guys note this , a lot of women will say they had trauma and shit , but the cheating don't come from that , women just can't take the blame ..
I’ve had childhood trauma still to this day....you’ll NEVER catch me accidentally cheating on my girl. They NEVER take accountability
Yup that's no excuse!
Especially when they have trauma, but having trauma never comes up until they get caught. Trauma should be understood before anyone commits to anyone. Isn't easier to admit you had trauma and let someone walk away right then and there rather than hiding it all the time fighting it until something breaks? Ppl can say trauma for anything nowadays and it's like, naaaah you just a weak person because apparently the only remedy to any trauma is a boner. Shit ima change professions to trauma therapist now ima fuxkin up and down fixing all the world's problems one stroke at a time.
Dude i know several women from A list families. Zero trauma. Zero struggle. Chetaed on their husbands and destroyed their own families and children. Women cheat beacause they are bored or want a big Orgasm from Chad. Lust and fun is why they cheat. There is always a femnist girl friend or an aunt misadvicing them "You go girl".
Emotional cheating is the worst type of cheating and that's what they do 6 times a week. Lol
Every waking moment they are not in your presence and in the presence of another male...
Bull! No one ever caught and felt the burn of, gonorrhea from "emotional" cheating.
@ factssss
LMAO 😂
Man got a coworker who is married yea they don't care
Well my grandmother already told me women been cheating it’s just that the focus was never on them .
Wow.
Don't eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeever date a Babies mama
I mean.... most of these men are cheating with somebody. I don’t think they are all cheating on their women with other men
True
Snap. Your granny was wise. So was mine. Them old grannies held shit down, were funny as hell, picked up the slack when momma dropped it, and did it all without fuss. They had a CODE. It's lost now. Most of our men don't have code anymore. But hey enough of my rambling bullshit. Pouring one out for the grannies.
I’m pretty sure most guys in majority agree, cheating is a deal breaker. My ex wife and I had a deal during our marriage. We said to each other that if we found someone else that will compliment us, that we should break it off. Well, that deal was broken by her. We tried counseling. But ultimately I decided to leave. I left because there’s no way in hell I would carry that burden of disrespect. I value loyalty and respect, 2nd to loving God first. On top of it all, I married a broken individual. That there, is the only fault I will accept in my marriage. I will say this, once the cheating has occured, the marriage is over. Regardless of which gender did it.
Because the numbers are so low that it will work out, men have to ask themselves, is it worth even trying..? Sorry that happened to you man. Peace be with you 🙏🏽
Must likely she will regret it. Be aware of that "Hey" message.
She was already cheating, beforehand. How else, could she know if they would compliment each other, other than getting involved to begin with?
Yeah I wish I did It Your way I’m still in my marriage yeah man I carry that pain every day I don’t know why I stay for kids together and I know if they ever knew they would be devastated I probably shouldn’t be trying to do it for them but I’m just stuck
@@phillyrich3249 Bro, she gave me 3 beautiful kids. I will always have love for my ex. She is the mother of my children. But I am not in love with her at all anymore. Thankfully, my kids are doing good and we did counseling as a family. Explained to them what was happening with a third party professional. I value my sanity. I was angry at her. That was not healthy. Not good for kids so I had to end it for their sake. As men, we do what we can to fix things. That’s what we do. It’s our nature. But we can’t fix broken people, that’s the sad reality. I’m doing a lot better. I dedicate my time to my children only. I don’t date nor seeing anyone. My kids are my priority first and foremost. Yes, I get attention from women. But I am focused on me right now and my kids. It will suck in the beginning, it will hurt. But with pain, you have to learn to heal again from it. It’s a work in progress, but for my kids to have sanity and peace, it was worth it. Forgive yourself first. Follow your instincts and decide with a sane mind. Have a plan, regardless if you stay or leave. I am no one to judge you on your decision. You stay or leave, then you’re a brave soul. God bless bro.
“When you met her she was sleeping with somebody” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🗣AND DONT FORGET IT!!!!
That’s a fine ass point sir
That’s not always true though.
@@qbrown8753 believe women if you want I know better
@@qbrown8753 you alone on that one respectfully bro 😎
@@imagerycreated203 I bet
She lucky this man didn’t do something crazy . That type of pain can throw some men off the edge . It’s hard to deal with that type of embarrassment and betrayal.
I can confirm your statement I almost committed murder because of this situation thank God I did not throw my life away it would’ve altered the destiny of my children I did stay married but it will never be the same
Especially when you've done everything right.
And she now has a mentally unstable son who fits the stereotypical mold. Well done ma'am.
All women have extremely hard time taking responsibility for their actions. Don't think they don't come up with all sorts of deflection tactics when such issues come up.
True and I confirm this with a certain someone.
Accountability is misogyny
@@goon009 If someone uses this on you, that means they are trying to shame you and blame shift. Typical tactic of people that don't want to take personal responsibility.
@@DB-gf5gu r/Whoosh
@@DB-gf5gu that's the joke it 's satire
"Is cheating only sexual?" No, we've been told that for women emotional cheating is more hurtful than sexual cheating.
@J King - sharing something very personal about yourself with another woman and not with your wife.
@@SamuelBarrPhotography you right
bc it almost always leads to physical cheating
Exactly. Men cheat emotionally too. It always leads to physical cheating
Oh my God! That woman who cheated on her husband, she is immoral. Trauma does not cause immorality. You are no better than your abuser(s). You abused your husband. I hope that man got what he deserves-a faithful, loving wife.
Your baby daddy didn't want to marry you.
Right. why don’t she just get a divorce and leave than to cheat. Like just leave ladies.
@Saint Scanderbeg Don't give then cheaters one more second of power over your life.
Tear down the wall and find someone who's honest and faithful. Someone who deserves you. ⚒
If he is like me he will never remarry.
What woman does not do this now a days?
@@debramason7237 You spoke all facts here 💯👏🏾
this man has a GOD like abitilty to cut and slice down every lie with his laser cut questions
He knows the lies and rationalizations
Kevin is single-handedly destroying my lifelong desire to get married one video at a time.
😂 sorry I should not laugh at your pain. The one for you is out there.
@@keylacmckemp1309 Reality isn't pain. You married?
No, Kevin is telling you the truth. Why do you think they killed him? too bad Kevin wasn't awake enough to know this would happen.
@@playlists8831 Good point.
@@playlists8831 killed him? How? And many speak the truth, its not like he was exposing Israel or the zionist jesuit cabal
Yes, most women have backups, and backups for their backups.
It's a queue
It's that many men in the world?? I need to get out more
@@amandaslay6045 No. A lot of women have no problem sharing the same men knowingly
@@Sp1n1985 like KS zoom calls! Already lined up! 🤣
@@ericpaul4209 I've heard it explained that women would rather share a alpha than settle for one loyal beta
That first caller really thinks that the solution to trauma is to traumatize someone else... Such lack of accountability is scarily commonplace these days.
When she get older, she gone find out cats make good companions.
I had a lovely addiction for my son's dad. I didn't want to hurt anyone. But I was so young and dumb.
@@iAMtheYELLOWrose I think you know what needs to be said about this comment so there’s no point in me beating the dead horse.
"High and dryyyyyyyyy out of the raaaaain, it's so easyyyyyy, to hurt others when you can't feel pain!" Rich Girl - Hall & Oates
Good comment.
Excellent show God Father, you approached the first caller with care and class. She was able to show her scars without exposing the wound. I hope her husband finds the healing and resources he needs. Good work!
You're a great person. Thanks for not being a douche.
I really appreciate you being a voice for men Kevin.
We all do
Yeah but he believes it's ok for high value men to cheat on their wives
@@professionaltrollgirl2682 yeah that’s facts. What’s the problem?
@@JayJay1988 😂
Cheating is doing anything that you know your Man wouldn't be ok with .
And this is why I don't blame childless men for avoiding single mothers. For the same reasons I avoid single fathers. They will always be connected emotionally in some way because of those kids. Having to deal with the idea that you may get cheated on or broken up with because they still have feelings and want to put their family back together. And you can forget about ever being first in their lives, the kids fill that spot. They get to be first in YOURS, but you won't be first in THEIRS. And before you say, "well, not all single mothers/fathers are like that", I'm not talking about exceptions to the rule. If it don't apply, let it fly. But this happens to childless men and women often enough to be hugely problematic.
Well Said
💯
Women, children and pets are loved unconditionally, a man is only loved for what he can provide.
I Calle BS. A man who is a successfull parent, wealthy and a good provider is even more attractive because he is a guarranty. A 40 year old childless man is a man whose seed has never been wanted.
@@leonelorozco2514 a 40 year old childless man is living the high life with savings and nice stuff. Did I mention he has savings?
1st.. Kevin you dropped another 🔥🔥🔥 show tonight. I’m glad that you mentioned “Men need to be humanized” because of what you said to the first caller. She allowed her child father to come in and ruin her marriage and the moment you mentioned how would she feel if someone did that to her son.. she froze 🥶 because she never once had that thought in her mind... Great show
Yes, when Kevin pointed that out, that lingered in my mind and heart. I was taken aback. That hit me so hard.
@@iAMtheYELLOWrose Are you the caller? if you are.. you took it with class and he made you look at it from a different perspective . At the end of the day, he is trying to give y’all the game plan when it comes to relationships...
This Show Went Deep.
🎯
I haven't watch it yet but I already know the delly
On 📌
Man this was cold........
Bruhhh. I’m hurting. lol
She acts happy that she cheated on her husband. An old woman told me years ago. Never marry a single mother! Her baby daddy will always have access to the kitty. Period!
Seems true. My ex "wife" had a child with someone else before we got married and had children. She let him back in the house. Then I thought about her giving me the kitty during our separation
Not true for many
Bruhhh, me and my ex wife had separated in our marriage and agreed that we would do our own thing, one day she dropped the kids off and was looking good and at the moment I wanted to hit that again, long story short kids got dropped off at daycare and it went down, right after im in the bed chilling she in the shower and some dude FaceTime her phone and I thought it would be funny to answer it, the dude saw me and it looked like he was heart broken like a mf he couldn't even get a word out, I thought to myself I can't trust nobody ever again unless God himself tell me she is the one
Not always true
It's sad but true. Reddit surviving infidelity is an eye opener. Unfortunately women in their prime (18 to 26) do this the most. Their justification is that they don't want to miss out on other opportunities. When I met my husband and we decided to be serious, I stopped all contact with other guys even if we were only platonic. He did the same with his female friends. It's out of respect, honesty, and transparency. I don't even entertain male coworkers attention when they claim they're just being friendly. I don't want them to get the wrong idea and also I don't want anyone accusing me of being inappropriate. My marriage and my husband's trust is too valuable for me to lose it for something stupid.
I love your comment!!
that’s crazy. as men we are taught to value what you have or work to prefect it. it seems women are taught to “jump to the greener grass”
One lesson for the men if you don't have any children don't marry or date a women with children.
@Blake Danforth yea he better of waiting until her kids grow up or stay single.
Too late i done gave her 2 mo kids and now im her wrecker and idc either
@@antoniooliver7152 😂😂🤣
On one of Kevin's older videos about 9 red flags when dating, one of them was to not be involved with single mothers. There was a comment by a woman that I responded to and true to form she turned to shame, insults and guilt. It truly is miraculous the inner workings of the female mind.
It's boring.
Also remember fellas, She may not cheat on you either, but she knows who got next.
The queue
Nope not true either. I'm not a cheater, nor do I have any other man lined up. So that defeats that argument...
@@veevii8747 be proud you don’t fall in this category
@@veevii8747 we don’t define statistics by anomalies we define them through majorities, just saying. What you said doesn’t “defeat the argument” some ego you got there..
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Nothing wrong with being alone. Biggest problem with people is that they think they will fine wholeness and balance outside themselves. The problem is that people dont know how to be alone.
Happiness is an inside job.
Nice!!
Being alone is tough. We arent cats. We're humans. No one wants to be alone
@@Heisenherb tough for you, people like me prefer to be alone so we wont actually have to deal with other bullshit that we already had enough in our lives.
@@Heisenherb the problem is the subconscious program/belief prevents you from being able to be alone. The fact that you believe you can't be alone, is the very reason that you can't be alone. The mind and your beliefs create your reality.
Im going through a tough time my dad passed away a couple of years ago thank god Kevin left so much quality advice for people like me. I never met him in person but he feels like a father.
1st caller: "You slappin' me!?"
Kevin: "I'm slappin' the sh1t out of you!"
The Rock looking at his hand PIMP SLAP onto the people's elbow
I read the article. Scary. Roughly men cheat for sexual gratification yet still love their partner. Women emotionally un-bond from their partner and form emotional relationships. Social media attention, text messaging, phone conversations, and shared breaks eventually leads to sexual cheating. Reasons: Low Self-Esteem, Revenge, Loneliness, Lack of Excitement, Intimacy, Unrealistic Expectations, Sex/Love Addict, and looking for an Exit.
If u cheat you don't love your partner. And people cheat because they want to. Male or female. There is no psychology behind it. It's all out of lust. If u truly care then u would just break it off before u cheat. Male or female.
True. Most guys wouldn't cheat if their woman is taking care of them.
@@yayaf923 by you saying it's not true, is accusing me of lying. Obviously you are not understanding the angle that I am coming from. When I said MOST MEN, I'm talking about UPRIGHT MEN, who are more serious minded about relationships and maintaining their household. Those type of guys for the most part, aren't going to waste their time with another woman: too busy handling business.
As far as good women/men getting cheated on... WTF does that mean? That doesn't mean that they always make good decisions; and on top of that, you don't know about their karma, or what they do in the dark. So stop it.
Oh well. No one said life is fair. When you cheat on your woman, even though you "still love her" how does that make her FEEL, sir?
It's interesting you brought up emotional un-bonding, since the most common reason women file for divorce is "emotional incompatibility". Really makes you think.
1:30:15 : Don’t save her, she don’t want to be saved.
- Project Pat
J Cole homie
@@fc775 Project Pat was the first one to say it young man. but yes, J Cole too...
This is too real for me!!! Married Women that seek attention from other men is a dead end.
He is right. I was dating someone who I find out was responding to several dudes who were texting her good morning. She said it was harmless because they were texting her and I told her dudes aren't texting you to be nice. I was dumb enough to continue on with the relationship after she said she would stop. I ended up breaking up with her because she had no problem keeping doors open, i.e. suggestive social media and tik tok posts, lying about little shit, having male "friends" because she said I wasn't paying her enough attention. If only I would have nipped it in the bud and cut things off when I found out about the texting. It would have saved me a whole lot of time. Low value women will play these games and it doesn't get better as they get older...they will still play games well into their late 30s and 40s
Ain’t nothing more disrespectful then another man eating off your plate
Often you need to know that it’s just your turn and that there was an expiration on the situation.
The question is, do you have the abundance mentality and value to replace her at that point? There is absolutely zero guarantee in modern relationships especially with the way the worlds has been shrunk with the internet.
You have dudes out there mate guarding, fighting, losing sleep over some mediocre p sleeve when they could be on their own purpose. Not worth it. Get your life right build for yourself and the abundance will never end.
“I don’t chase em, I replace em” - Chinese proverb
She’s not yours, it’s just your turn.
Be selfish with your food got dammit
@King Killmonger. Its just your turn at the table. The chef serves everybody.
@Tim Jones goofy
All these women laughing but nothing is funny about these situations
You are right ain’t nothing funny about cheating
Bruh fr they all laughing n shit like bruh you just braking lil simps harts 💀😂
Never date baby mamas.
This isn't smart. There are a lot of women that are not like me or won't make the mistake I made. Just vet your woman accordingly. 🤷🏾♀️
YellowRose7 why should a man raise another man’s kid? What does it benefit a man? It is a terrible idea.
Bruh I had a chic have her baby daddy drop her off at my house before !
@@TyBankslive oh my god 😂😂😂
@@kmt8958 what is a village or a community? It's not about raising someone else's child. But, if that is how you see it, you have every right.
First call was sick to my stomach. I have seen it before no winder, thanks K
This is why I can't see myself getting married
Only a fool would get married in this climate we’re living in.
Don’t do it. Been there. Not worth it.
Women will say if a man is dating multiple people other than her. Then "He's a dog." But if a woman does it. Then "She's finding her POWER. " Like some bullshit. I've known and dated women that will literally tell me. "If a man wants to date other people aside from me before we make it serious. Then he needs to get my consent first." As they themselves are seeing a few "FRIENDS" on the side while she's trying to make up her mind. Women be full of shit. And then backhandedly say "Men have been doing it forever." I'm like - "WOMEN have been doing it forever. Especially for the fact you have more options and always forever seeking attention."
The karma that the silly girl that filed for divorce, laughing at cheating on her husband will face for at least the next decade is treacherous. Very sad.
See it all the time. You'll think that it'll stop already.
Karma is a mental coping mechanism or/and an excuse for inaction. The only karma that exists is the one applied with your own hands.
@@femimark5021 Vengeance burns and revenge is cold. But somehow, this thing just never gets old.
@@femimark5021 Her action will bring more action of the unpleasant kind, it's inevitable.
@@laj4186 and it's gonna stay with her for life because of her son as well.
Men cheat.
Women get "entangled".
That’s because we are always the victim apparently 😂😂😂
Lmao facts
Really some August shit
Men chest
Women cheat better
Is that you Jada?
Women today are going on lunch dates with other men and see no problem with it.
They want marriage and relationships but without the adjustments that come with that. It’s beyond me
Free meals ain't cheating! 😂
I use to go lunch with my male colleagues while at work. We always discussed cases during that time. That was something my husband understood.
@@ninasamone87 Ma'am I'm not saying you personally but I know from personal experience, friends, co-workers, family and countless others. Men and women that work together text, chat, flirt and screw each other. You must have a strong minded, level headed, easy going husband to be ok with it.
@@byronmartin1840 , I agree that a lot of that happens at work, and like you, I have been a witness to it myself. Whether my husband is ok with it is neither here nor there, because it’s my job. Just like he has business dinners with some of his female colleagues. I don’t have time for insecurities in a relationship. What y’all need to realize is, if a woman wants to cheat, she doesn’t need to go to work or business lunches to do it. If people want to cheat they’re going to cheat and it’s nothing you can do to stop it. So trying to put the shackles on a woman is only going to make the situation worse. If you don’t trust her then don’t get married or if you are married then get a divorce.
I agree when he told that woman that she need to be alone for cheating, I haven't been in a serious relationship but I do understand that if a woman cheat on a man who's good to her then she not worth our time! In my opinion.
thats not an opinon thats a fact brother
I've had 4 that were married. Being their dark secret taught me how to be more deceptive. I felt guilty about one in particular...I wanted to tell one brother about one lady in particular. Fear of a deadly outcome stopped me. Those experiences prevent me from marrying any woman especially Black.
wow, interesting, 4!
Did you tell any
@@kenyonhazley9581 No I never did.
What kinda shit they teach you.?
But you were the “man” messing with married women. Not once but at least 4X. What does that say about you? Nothing good. It doesn’t sound like you are marriage material. Don’t marry anyone because you reap what you sow. Law of attraction is real.
Disagree on this one. If she cheats, I want to know. By hiding the cheating, it continues the deception and deprives the man of the choice of what to do with a relationship that is not what he thought it was, with a woman who is not who he thought she was.
Telling men she cheated = ego for the men and being spiteful to men (and no REAL healing).
@@LIFE4RBG123 "ego for the men and being spiteful to men" Can you explain that?
@@LIFE4RBG123 so if she ends up pregnant, keeps the baby, it’s not his. How is that okay or fair to him?
@@LIFE4RBG123 shiiid... she need to tell me who she cheated with cause if they have continuous access to this person I need to know if I need to leave or she needs to make sure she no longer has access cause like the story went ... she kept cheating. Also... I ain’t walking around with my shorty thinking she a golden peice when everybody had it.. streetwalkers belongs on the street💯
In religion we call it *Spirits.* In science we call it *energy.* In the streets we call it *vibes.* All I'm saying, fellas, is trust it. 🔥🤘🏾
Trust what exactly?? Just curious
@@kingkingitinstyle635 That would be your *intuition.* If you thinks she's cheating...you get that *vibe* ...if she gives off that *energy* ...if your *ancestors* are speaking to you...
@@AllFather-TheStoicGod ohhh yea you’re dammmm right. I always trust my instincts when it comes to that
@@AllFather-TheStoicGod OR your subconscious is picking some body language that you don't see and therefor give you an hunch.
@@unlimited971 Many in psychological and neurological science circles would contend that is the basis for *intuition.*
Those women stories hurt.....brought up some past pain..... Almost had an anxiety/anger attack....geez...
Yeah. It hurts. When we open our hearts and someone puts a damn knife in it. But you gotta keep on keeping on and maybe the next generation will get it sorted.
That first call upset me so much I cant even eat my food. I couldn't even imagine the pain she put that guy through. That whole story was just evil
Couple of callers in these vids made me really think. There is zero remorse, she actually laughs. I can't not watch these vids because this is reality & better face it. No way am I going through that. Older now so I don't need to deal with this. Dad said don't love who you love, love who loves you. Makes sense.
The pain he feels is gonna last forever
Men rarely heal from being cheated on
And she’s laughing about it which makes it even worse.
@Mark James When a wmn really wants you for you...90%+ of ur problems are gone!! Your happiness is her priority & u naturally wanna do all kinds of things for her!!!
@Mark James Many of the things he said i really didnt understand till MANY years later. We were at Auto Show in NYC, bro & i (& every other young man) were all over exotic sports cars. Dad looked at a Corvette we were all drooling over & asked why we liked it, no room for groceries, no good in rain, expensive to own/ repair. But daaad, its a Corvette....he chuckles & says y'all love Corvettes but you need Camrys. He was really talking about women. Many years later i was at dinner with him, complaining about issues i was having with a girlfriend. He chuckled & asked if i still love Corvettes.
This was dope. Appreciative of the caller she hung in there. Mr Kevin laid it out especially correlating it to the son and how he sees how mom operates with men. Also the support system aspect that's huge. I learned 🖐️
They quiet in the comments. They not feeling this one Kevin
It’s the same silence they had when Jada cheated on Will. Deflection, shaming tactics and the need to be right just like KS says.
@@stayfocused1131 Will should leave. Poor guy.
@@stayfocused1131 you can’t take them serious
@@amandaslay6045 I’m sure he had his fun
It's not that they were quiet it's just that they relate too well looool
We know women don’t leave something unless they feel they have something to replace it🤷🏾. But like we all know if they had something better they would have left but women like to stay in relationships for the comfort and status. You tell me you have cheated (sexuallly) I’m gone that day! Because How I look at it, he gets to rep the benefits without doing the work (putting up with her BS, or taking care of her). So he will need to have it all not just the good parts🤷🏾.
I was talking to my mom years ago before she passed and we was talking about cheating in marriage and leaving. And she said “ Son a lot of these men keep families together.” I didn’t know what she meant then but I do now first hand🤦♂️.
@@bford1908 yep sure did.
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 💯💯💯 brotha. You doing all the work and this guy doesn’t do shit.
Bruh that’s the same thing I told my girl
Women dont love naturally, they learn it from the upbringing and life experience, this myth that women are naturally caring is beyond me😂😂😂
Facts. It’s Absolutely bull.
Women are Not perfect...but What ?..You think Men are Caring ?🤨
@@GirlychocobeautyPink that’s not seen as a traditionally male characteristic to begin with. But if you wanna go there what’s more caring than protecting someone and providing for them🧐
@@DomItDown Men do not Have to Provide for Women...A Woman can provide for herself. Thats a Very dangerous Philosophy to Teach Women. Money is a Synonym for Survival and also Power ..When a Man Holds all the Money..he holds all the Power. Thats a Very Important message that needs to Be taught to Housewives and Gold diggers...everything a Man gives you He can take it away from you at anytime . Its Very important for Women to Have their Own Money
@@GirlychocobeautyPink you would be astonished if you knew how many girls want to have a rich husband and stay as a housewife
There's women out there that think just because we have weewee that us men are devoid of feelings & trauma smh. When the man us treating the woman overall right & yet she still cheats than I ask who is thinking with their private parts in that situation huh! There's women that get love mixed up with infatuation. Man i love these videos man i truly appreciate you Kevin.
Kevin is a BEAST, he cuts right thru the BS, and drops gems in the process
Men and women are not the same. Honesty, loyalty, courage, these are all masculine traits and are exercised by the male half of the species. Female hypergamy is devoid of all these traits and many more. When it comes to treachery and betrayal there really is no upper limit to a woman’s actions.
There are no mixed signals. The signal always is the thing you suspect it of being. Yes, fellas, she is doing whatever you think she's doing. Yes, fellas, she is pushing you away etc
Hands down, this is my favorite show thus far! Peace black man!✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿
I’m 55, married twice, and a couple of long term relationships…I’ve found the disloyalty of women to be shocking. My last LT relationship ended after 9 years because she “couldn’t handle” my cancer diagnosis. That’s after being a stepfather to her 3 kids, going WAY above & beyond for them; that’s after 8 months of 24/7 palliative care for her mom as she was dying from the same cancer as me. I’d be getting chemo & radiation Mon-Thurs (while still working), get in the car EVERY Friday, drive 6 hours to her mom, spend the weekend caring for her, drive 6 hours back on Sunday evening, begin treatments again on Monday…. repeat the week. Week after week after week. After her moms funeral… she dropped the “I can’t handle it” speech on me! Truly some disgusting behavior, even her kids were disgusted in her. We tend to never hear about, and no one talks about, how bad some women can be. They are not all “sugar & spice”, you’re better off knowing that as soon as you can, finding out later in life can be a killer! 👍🏼☮️
Any man who has had 3 one night stands in his life..just know you were the other man at least twice. Even if she told u she was single
Who cares?
@@Sam-ww4qp exactly
Lol...Men do the exact same thing.
yep I have found out more than once after fucking a chick that she had a boyfriend or husband. 1 of them broke up with her boyfriend and wanted to go out with me. I laughed and told her no. then she wanted to call me a pig lol. then messaged her ex and told him about everything. she tried to go back with him and he turned her down too lol. it was great
@@Cynnas Nope
Yo this dude is the truth!! I was a lil skeptical on how he was handling the lady that cheated on her husband with her BD...but the way he gathered her at the end was perfect 👌
I tell my coworkers that subconscious when you get with a baby mama she will lose a little respect for you because she knows you are, though a good man for taking on the responsibility, a little bit foolish and dont deserve true respect. And no true respect wont make him sexually attractive.
Even though they should respect you more, usually they won't.
I disagree with Kevin. If she cheats, I want to know. If she doesn't, it takes the power of choice away from me and could cause other issues with std's and etc...
Exactly
I was thinking the same thing... not walking around thinking I got the prize and I got a whole streetwalker on my arm
He said if she did it once and realizes that she won't do it again. Keep it to yourself. U may still be walking around with a street walker. Most women are "good" at cheating. So u probably wouldn't know unless a disease or a baby came out of it. But if it's a one time thing and he/she is remorseful. I get what u all are saying. I just agree with both.
@@JustBree716 if you're truly connected you will know. The energy will shift her body language will change and it will nag at you until you get the truth. Then you must make a choice.
@@Demsky83 there’s only one choice, if you choose to stay she’ll do it everyday
The worst are the ones that say they are an open book but have their phone on lock 24/7
It's best to create your own family because being a stepfather is a thankless job. And childless women must date childless men.
No doubt it's should laws on that it would help out everybody
That's the most logical, but most men are judged too harshly with or without children.
Facts i did step pops thing NEVER again i rather just take spit the face and keep pushing
Ain’t this the truth
Facts
For the first caller, don't be surprise if her 13 yrs old son grew up to date and married a white woman because of his mom's action.
Is there something wrong with marrying a non black women?
thesniper321 no there’s nothing wrong with marrying a none black woman. In fact its better because it would be less freaking headaches!!!!!!!👍🏽
@@Andre-iv7ys I know
@@ShaunHensley at least they're not over combative
@Santus Scanderbegus stop the cap it's black women that's known for that 🤦🤦
This is honestly one of the most important message females and males needed to hear. To assist with both the standards of what is acceptable and hand downs what's is not💯... Excellent job Kevin Samuel..
Boy you are a bad dude, you on point, you know what you are saying Samuel thanks bro for speaking out
Kev’s reaction @1:10:40 is a tell-tale sign of how much he cared for the modern man, he could’ve easily made this whole conversation personal but found a way to keep focusing on the root issue and help the caller with the error of her ways. God rest his soul and I pray whoever this woman is found her way and learned from her past situations.
Don’t forget about false transparency, a lot of them have a second phone that you don’t know about .
Thank you Kevin. You are the only person I see online telling a message that must be told. What you say has impact because you are an example of what it looks like to carry yourself to a higher esteem. Bringing men and women together is fundamental. Thanks again. God bless you and your your listeners.
that first caller... my heart is broken... i feel for that man... where ever he is, i send full love to him.... hope he is well and not rebuilding but building himself up... lets keep growing King
and to the lady.. work on your self, leave the dating stage and build yourself too... its not over
Long Live The GodFather We needed you!! You will greatly missed!!!
This man the truth. This one definitely resonated with me and my past experiences. Just wow.
There isn’t anything on this world that could EVER be a blk woman’s fault is there? No amount of bad choices could EVER be their fault...I’m surprised one hasn’t said that it’s the yt mans fault they have to “find myself”....
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Thats women in general 😭🤣
It's funny how the majority has the same talking points and yet they don't know each other.
It is not racially exclusive, it is female nature...
This is interesting. I don’t see a lot of women in the comments.
@Ras stylez big facts😂😂 But real dudes have known this for years😂
Because the gig is up. Those cheaters are reveal
@Ras stylez man don’t be fooled by that “fake real talk” those boards be the main ones.
Women get hounded all day every day to give up box... they are gona give in eventually.
@@ShayLikeButter S. Reid so now black women are shy and coy in the face of confrontation lol
Funny how that was the quietest show 🤣 they was scared to call in and admit it
Lmfao facts
"The world dont care about a broken man with a broken heart...I wish you would try and call in the next day with that ish!" ☆GOLD‼️☆ 💯💯💯💯💯
59:07 When a woman starts her sentences off with an exhalation and then a slow, "Ahhh meeeen..." you know they've been caught in a lie or an indefensible position. And they know it too.
This first caller set it off🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥.
Yes modern women are serial cheaters. I have a friend who won’t stop friendship with her ex because she’s open minded. Even though she’s in a relationship.
I briefly "dated" a young "beautiful" IG chick. She was "still friends" with ALL of her exes. Hahaha. Yeah. Ok. Seeeeeya
@@c4kmg hit dog.
Karma is Real! Trust that!
Cheating Never solves anything. But when you do someone wrong it will Come back!
My mom will always say to most ladies the reason they're not married or have a wonderful relationship is because they have backups it made no sense to me until now. wow!!!!
This was a great show. Men need channels and discussions like this.
Maybe I should write a book. A lot of men in my age range and younger don’t seem to get it, marriage and LTR are dead. Make your money, go to the gym, and date casually but that’s it.
@Gemini Writer88! Facts!
@Ronald Hitson big facts!!!
@It’sMicha Milennia yea sure😂 these women can’t go two days without some male attention physically or verbally😂
@@Ruckerpark98 I don’t think anyone can go without attention. Both males and females need attention. Maslow hierarchy of basic human needs.
I understand that you may not want to date “seriously” at this time, but casual relationships get old too. But I don’t blame you.
(Sigh... this world is progressing in the wrong direction.. smh)
@@briannabogans4608 men don’t need attention, they want womb! We just understand in most cases to get womb we have to give up attention to females🤷🏾
Your woman's mood is always up and down because her side dude isn't acting right.
FACTS LOOOOOOL
🗣🗣
Yup! One of her side dudes
I'm be mad when he won't act right lol . I be like lil Ray Ray at it again 🙄🤣
💯 Stay woke 😂
"You slapped meee?" 😂😂😂
That first chick on the phone is why i refuse to get married 😭😭😭💯
Just don't marry a woman with young children bruh and that greatly reduces the chances of running into that similar situation
Good Job KS.. you’re well informed. Thank you