I've watched my mother running barefoot after my father's car, like a freaking dog. And when my sister got dumped by her boyfriend (my sister got a good beating for having a boyfriend and was told she was only a bet) my mother convinced her to stalk on him.
Think things through. Do NOT rush⚠️anything! (Fgs - Don't jump in a private jet with him the 1st day!) Have male friends! Learn from them & any brothers you have - men are not v different deep down, they mostly want the same things from females in a serious relationship; & are prone to stereotyping them even if they're decent types that you might want. Your father left a few things out there. (Avoid Narcissists & love bombing (& ALL very flashy types) like the plague, etc!) That's extremely important 🙏🇬🇧
When I met my husband there was no doubt he was serious. He made it very clear. And for the first time a relationship was easy. I realised how much time I wasted before that.
I recently found out a guy I was dating who kept saying he didnt want a relationship had gotten in a relationship with someone else after me. THEY ARE WASTING YOUR TIME if they are giving you red flags don't stay around.
Can you guess why he sayed you thath??. I can tell you because if you act like this hoast teach you you always will be left behind !!. Nobody cares people which limit theyr things or always try to whatch what he is doing this kind of teachings only make you left behind!!.
I went to Milano with a guy and had to look at his scalp the entire dinner cause his head was down looking at the phone. He asked the waiter for the wifi code, the waiter said "Forget the Wifi...talk to This Lovely lady". Lol.
@@clarak94 the post is "are you ignoring the signs". If a man isn't paying attention to you at dinner and would rather check his phone...perhaps it is a sign. Not the right guy. (You don't need to be rude).
100% agreed. I always say that if you even find yourself wondering whether he's truly interested in you or not, you kind of just gave yourself the answer. A man who is truly into you will always show it - actually there is nothing more obvious in this world than a man who's in love. He will not come up with shady excuses why he ignored you for a week or why everything else is always more important than you. He will make you his priority. When I met my partner he was preparing for an important conference and it was so stressful he barely slept. He still took the time to see me, if only for an hour in the evening, and even took me out to a nice breakfast in the morning before the conference. Go find yourself a man like that, ladies!
all the time I am doing this as and it does not work. Maybe all the women I meet are crazy. Dates, a lot of planing, discusing, offering time, gifts,this is bulshit.
Same for men with woman. It s just a big difference. If it s right, the wondering about her is disappearing and it feels right. Both working on each other's positive feelings.
I'm 47 and I keep turning down men I think aren't the right ones. Hopefully he comes into my life before I'm old enough to join AARP. 🤣🤣🤣 And no, I'm not joining it.
When a woman is trying too hard, a man will usually test to see how hard she's willing to work for it. He'll start throwing relationship Frisbees, just to see how hard she'll run and how high she'll jump. Men are used to this. So they try to bait you into this behaviour.
As an older person and someone who has been through many life experiences I can say unequivocally all of these points are true. So many YOUNG women go through this where they do not understand their value and they accept this behaviour! I have also seen women in their 30's, 40's, 50's and 60's behave this way. Don't chase him women, he's just not that into you.❤
Absolutely correct. There was even a book (and movie) that came out about 15 years ago called "He's Just Not Into You." I only read the book and many of the things that Anna says here mirror the book.
So important! When you stop giving your time to uninterested men, you free yourself up to meet the right person. Playing games just means it won't work out. Cut your losses and move onto to someone who will RESPECT you and cherish you.
I so agree with you Cheyenne! I always tell my single friends that of course there's no way to make your perfect partner magically appear but (!) you can drastically improve your chances of finding the right partner by simply not wasting time on the wrong guys. And once you know what to look for, it's very easy to spot the ones that are simply not worth your time.
Texting other girls is so normalized in today’s time. A lot of women are uncomfortable with it but keep quiet because they want to be the “cool girlfriend” and society has made them think that having boundaries is “insecurity”. If you’re texting other girls- they can have you! I want to be with someone who treats me like a priority, not an option he can get around to when he pleases.
Girl exactly and men will manipulate that woman into thinking she doesn't need to be jealous about it. Well let me tell you ladies my ex ended up with one of his so called "friends" so don't believe he's not looking for other options. Girls who are friends with men in relationships don't respect the women he's with either.
Milou Divyne yep and they’ve literally done psychological studies on this too. It’s very rare cases where a straight man and woman can have a friendship without thoughts of romance.
I dated a guy before I met my husband. I really thought he was the one. He started to ghost me a lot and I think he thought I would always be there when he wanted to see me. Eventually I met my husband and was spending lots of time with him. I told this guy and he thought I was joking. It was only when my husband proposed to me, now this guy is interested. I told him I was done as I had moved on. Now I have been married for 3 years and the guy is still single. Karma.
I hope young ladies are watching this video. I think many women has settle for less on regards of men since ''feminism''. Many are like: "I don't need a provider, I can provide for myself" That's not the point! Men need to provide for their women, family. So many men now are lazy, like to flirt (because, again many women has settle for less accepting this behavior, because "they are free to enjoy"), sleep around, not taking responsibility for their actions, leaving huge burdens to women. So, ladies of all ages, know your value, don't settle for less, we are precious!
Well men used to provide because in exchange women used to take care of the house, kids, cook, clean, etc... It was a fair exchange. Now they want the benefits of being provided for without doing anything.
@@212aeh I think you just go to hookers, stay single whatever, just dont bother anyone, i think that is the best for you........say this in advance.........stay this way. You dont need anything in life......
Another one: If you’ve been in a relationship for more than 4-5 years and he hasn’t proposed (If you want to get married). He’s wasting you’re time and waiting for someone "better" to come around. (He’ll probably marry her in less than a year) 🤭
lavidavi Well I clearly wrote in my comment that this applies to the people who wants to get married & Personnaly I feel like even 2 years is too much but if I had said that these girls would be crying in here. 🤗
Girl this is facts! I know a girl whose been waiting for 7 years and already has the man's child. I tried to tell her he doesn't want to marry her, he's using her. She doesn't want to listen. They think having a baby before marriage is more solidified smh. When will women learn.
@@riehafsah4469 if it's too hard to resist Change his contact name to "I deserve better" or something that reminds you why you left, and why you shouldn't go back to him
Also, may i add how easily most men start talking about sex to a woman they barely even know? I've been on many dates and if it comes to second date that's when they usually start talking about their preferences in sex. It was so common i actually thought this is normal and went along with it. Now i've been on a three dates with one man and he hasn't even touched me. No questions about my previous relationships etc.. And it feels so refreshing! It's like i never knew that this is actually an option!
I wish when I was 25 that I would’ve heard this advice because I probably would’ve left that relationship a lot sooner. Great job Anna you’re doing a favor by teaching women this!
Sadly I had been with a man for 6 years and each Christmas and birthday he never spent on me. He could afford but chose not to. This last Christmas he knew I wanted a Smart Watch. At the end of the day he didn't want to put forth the effort nor did he want me to have it. I finally left him and bought the watch with my own money. The memories still hurt and make me feel very angry at myself and him. I am no longer dating and just working on my career, my Masters degree, and time with people of value and those who value me. I've realized I'd rather be alone and happy than miserable with somebody. Thank you Ana for insisting that we keep our standards high! 💜💅💍
My husband does the same thing for my birthdays we got into a big fight because he never bought me a gift or acknowledged it. His friends had to tell him to take me out for dinner at least. At the end of it he did but I was very mad at the fact that he had to be told to do it. For every holiday is a constant fight. This xmas he didnt get me or my son a Xmas gift. What makes my blood boil is that he makes very good amount of money but he can't spend not even a dollar on us. I told him its the thought that counts not the value. He believes that its a waste of money but he doesn't complain when he receives gifts.
My ex-boyfriend did 6 out of the 7 signs. This video reaffirmed that I made the right decision in leaving that Average Joe! Thank you for always empowering me Anna ✨
3:02. This is emotional manipulation. Avoid at all costs. Some women have told me that when they were with men like this, some even turned abusive. The more you're willing to take, the more terrible he may become. Run and don't look back. You deserve better.
This is the scariest comment. I just got into a fight with my boyfriend of 1 1/2 about not being supportive of my outlandish dreams. Sure they may seem too big for him, but I'm a dreamer. He call's himself a "realist" , but I think this is a major sign, unfortunately. :(
@@naomigates30 I understand you and I' m so sorry to read that. You could suggest him to help you turn your dreams into plans. He'll feel important/considered (because sometimes it's just about his fears). A big hug sister 💓
Him being a "realist" is him being unsupportive of your dreams, threatened by your potential success + you possibly earning more money than him. If they have nothing positive to say about your small victories. Then they will definitely demonstrate no support for your larger victories. Turn + run!
@@naomigates30 I'd call myself a realist too. Theres a difference between calling someone out when theyre unaware of the harsh realities of accomplishing their dreams and dismissing it as impossible. If hes not supportive of your dreams, its a sign you have different values. Definately time to cut them off.
Some of those signs are also signs of a narcissist or someone with a personality disorder, like Narcissistic Personality Disorder which is a real problem. Anyone like that you need to run away from ASAP, not walk.
@@pinapardoki9708 Pina Pardoki All narcissists are text book. There are various types. But to keep it simple. Narcissists will love bomb you first. Covert narcissists put on a philanthropic mask. Cerebral narcissists are people in power. Somatic narcissists are terrible with money. There are more types and someone may have a mix of a couple of types. But they all love bomb at first. Most cant love bomb for too long. Others will wear their masks for a long time if they think you'll be useful to them.
I mean, in my experience they're easy to manipulate because they think they have the power so if you want someone to manipulate who deserves it go for it
@@pinapardoki9708 Narcissist man lies a lot, lacks of empathy and depth, selfishness, just wants sex (with multiple women), hot and cold behaviour, ghosts you and then appears like nothing has happened, those men usually dont fully commit, and if they ever do, they will cheat, manipulet, gaslight, triangulate his partner, even verbally and physicslly abuse them, but in the begining of the "relationship" everything seems like a dream, so you can idealize him, and get attached to an idea of a man that does not even exist, so thats why is hard to tell if a man is a Narc. At first. i hope to clarify some doubts, is a complex topic.
One day I was with my new boyfriend and all of a sudden his ex almost girlfriend called him (they had had some weird on and off so-called relationship, a bit messy stuff) and he said to her "I am with an acquaintance of mine". When he finished his conversation I looked at him and said "Well, if you consider me an acquaintance, I am leaving." and I collected my bag and stood up to leave. His reaction was priceless :) And I knew his intentions were not ill, he was just super shy and had self-esteem problems but it was not an excuse for me. I recommend all of you this feeling of showing a self-respect and establish healthy boundaries - it is truly wonderful :)
I had to laugh at number 4, because when i started dating my now partner of three years, he would invite me to all these outings with his guy friends. I was the only woman there and he always wanted to bring along even though he didnt quite get the memo that it was a boys night out. Have to say it was a bit uncomfortable feeling like i was intruding on time with his friends, but now i realize he just really enjoyed spending time with me and didnt want to go out without me :D
I find alot of these traits come from men who do online dating. They are used to talking to other women. My ex did most of this but he also spent money on me too, just not enough of it for me to consider him a provider. I know many guys now that act this way with their suppose "love of their life." Also I think after 6 months a woman must know where she is going with her relationship. If she wants marriage with this man or not. Because as women, we truly waste our own time. I used to do allow all of this. Now if a guy flakes on me, once is all it takes. I block, delete, and keep it moving. Great video Anna.
“Setting boundaries with men is probably one of the greatest skill you can learn. Cuz you’re going to understand the more boundaries you set with men the higher quality man you will start attracting and the better treatment you are going to get from your significant other. So do not cheat on this department ladies. I really want you to think about how you set boundaries with men and think about that now is the time to step up that game and start setting strong boundaries and stop lowering your worth.” ~Anna Bey Best advice ever. As someone who is recovering from a narcissistic abusive relationships, setting boundaries is one of the major things I’ve come to learn through therapy and coaching. Setting boundaries will protect you from toxic relationships and will eliminate all the toxic people in your life. I had no self-love and low self-worth, which opened the door for toxic individuals and relationships to enter my life. Thank you, Anna. Your videos provide get lessons and wisdom. Ladies, let’s do better because we deserve it. Never lower your standards for any man because you will meet someone who will not only meet them but exceed them as well.
Please I need your help, I have just knew someone online just for 4 days but he strat having this kind of sexual talks like are u yummy? I know that u want to kiss me when u See me, you are hot and sexy ,I want to touch you ,of course i refuse this and put limits and i told him of course that i refuse that he cross m'y boundries and he have to respect me, so he agree, is this a red flag? Or should i wait give him one chance to correct him self ?as we are planning to meet in one month I would like to know if i should give a chance or not ?
I don’t think a Quality men or woman would like being friends he/she either wants dating you or dropping you on the spot and moving to another woman/men
@@cikchocolate635 most men when they meet the one they get serious on the first day actually you see the seriousness while still pursuing you. He will be the one pushing for dates, calling texting even before deciding to give him a chance
Yes I guess that's why I never liked the eligible bachelor on TV .who wants a guy that has kissed every girl on the set and wants a marriage proposal from that person at the very end. it's kind of strange.
Honestly half the women that go those shows do it for their own personal gain because they get so many sponsorships afterwards. Most don't go on for love haha
That’s ridiculous programming. Can those programs actually be real or are they orchestrated? Attractive women competing for some loser? I’m flabbergasted by the concept.
Movies have taught us ladies the wrong message: just be patient and suffer enough and the bad boy will finally change and recognize you as love of his life. Why? Maybe because a true consistent relationship might not be adventurous movie material...However the best movie on this matter I find is "He is just not that into you" watch and learn, ladies ;)
The book was very good too. I encourage anyone who is in a dead-end relationship to read it; it will give you the encouragement you need to get out of such a relationship and move on to a better relationship and a better life. :)
but .. i told u so .. actually have one couple will survive instead 100 couple .. but its trully havr in this world .. an i see it in my family mmber .. yeah maybe not 100% change .. but its different rite know better that 5years ago ..
Everything you pointed out is true...I always tell my ladies(friends or sisters) never settle for less,if he is showing you anything that is not making you comfortable please leave the relationship in peace before you are left in pieces.
You might find all of this signs so logical and obvious, but in reality, when you're involve in a relationship with a man like this, you can not see the truth, you deny yourself this reality, he's NOT interested in you, he is NOT appreciating you, and by letting him do it, you're not appreciating yourself either, and when you realize it, that's the most hard thing to forgive, the fact that YOU allow this to happen to yourself. There will always be someone worth of you, who's willing to give you what you want and deserve.
This past weekend, I found out my boyfriend of a year and a half was messaging another girl in his home town in another country for over a year almost every day. I am definitely smarter now. I blocked him on EVERYTHING.
Dear Anna, you are so right when you say have self-respect, because in absence of it we make lots of mistakes that ultimately lead to waste of time and unnecessary suffering. Thank you.
Honestly, your videos give me so much motivation whenever I feel like settling. Sometimes the loneliness can cause me to lower my standards but when I watch your video, I always end up thinking 'Why am I doing this? I am worth much more than this'. So thank you so much.
You might want to look further into why you feel lonely and then make the necessary corrections. I can tell you that no man will fill emptiness. YOU ARE WORTH IT! Best of luck!
Well, when I was just 16 and had low self esteem my boyfriend told me that he prefer uglier girls than the beautiful ones because you have to chase for these beautiful ones and they are not hard-working :/, and well - that was such a sad thing and a red flag.. we are not together
Thank you so much, Anna. I wish I could know you much sooner. I’m 31 now. I was so stupid to waste 13 years of time and lots of money on those cheap, selfish assholes . You are opening my eyes, Anna.
When a man does not keep his words is a red flag for me. When he says he will do something but does not and has a long list of reasons; it's a red flag.
i left my ex a month ago, and now I see so many red flags and i wish i hadn't spent those 9 months with him, i could've done so much better and so much more
Better later than never @Clary Olivia. It took me 2 years and a broken heart to leave. But the lesson is learned and I know that I'm never gonna tolerate the bs again.
Same here, girl!!!!! That's ok, we are now prepared to not deal with any bullshit in the future. We will learn to walk away.... We both deserve good men in our lives. ❤️
in my case ! my friend treats me like a queen but still says he doesn’t want a relationship! He is very consistent! takes me out ! he’s always there for me! hes a great friend but my heart cant take no more! i will step up my game and leave him be! because i deserve more!
😂😂 This literally made laugh soo much because everything you said is true. Men will test you and they will definitely test your boundaries. It is up to women to have high expectations and walk away if men are not able to meet them. I remember my mother asking me, “Why is it that you have never gotten stuck dating “low quality” man? My answer was easy. I simply saw the red flags and walked away. It was easy. I knew the things I wouldn’t put up with and knew how I wanted to be treated. Now I’m happily engage to a wonderful man. ☺️
My husband used to be like this, it was hard to him to open up about his feelings but we got through it❤ I told him I felt hurt that he didn't share with me his feelings, it was definitely a process... but worth it.
One of my male friends told me that they do this because, once the relationship with their girlfriends starts to get rocky, with chances of a break up. They then regret opening up to you...
Selene Van Der Nix this is the scariest types of relationships. You think you know someone, they show your the best versions of themselves, you don’t suspect a thing because of how much love he shows you. And then, a slap in the face when you realize he’s living a double life.
My dad says somebody's behaviour is like a pregnant woman each stage they reveal different sides of them and if that doesn't scare you, I don't know what will
I find it interesting when the guy would rather be texting with me than actually be spending that time with me in person. He can show me the pictures of what he is supposedly doing, etc. because he wants to share that with me but not enough to actually do that with me.
My sister noticed a few of these behaviours (like being flaky and having weird excuses) and it was just so odd because he was otherwise very thoughtful and generous. It turned out that he had a criminal past and was serving time on weekends. It isn't always so simple, like "he's just not that into you" but I agree, these behaviours usually indicate that something is going on and/or he is hiding something.
The best way to break up with a man who fits into any of these categories is to.... Tell him you can't stop thinking about him, you have never felt like this before. That you want to spend more time together, and that you think youve fallen in love with him. Tell him you love him, but make it look like a slip. Or be more aggressive... you can go all out and tell him you have fallen in love and really can't live without him. Tell him you can see yourself married and ask how many kids he thinks you'll have together. Carry on and watch him squirm. It's the sweetest payback for being a jerk. He'll never call again.
@Mistake Maker I personally think quality time is a true test for love. A man van buy you gifts and give you money just to get you off his back Only a man that loves you will give you uninterrupted time together. That is the true test ladies. Also quality time doesn't mean sex, if a man gives you time without expecting or pressuring you into sex marry him
This is so true. You don't know what a good relationship is until you have one. When you're both committed, have complete trust, and show appreciation towards each other. Appearance has nothing on security.
I am presently into such relationship and all of these 7 warning signs are happening to me!!! THANK YOU FOR OPENING MY EYES AND EXPANDING MY VISION TOWARDS MY OWN LIFE!!!
Well my husband never paid for dates when we met in the beginning because of income problems. But now, he have better career and we have a baby he let me be at home, pays for my college and buy everything I need. I think is not always the case that RED FLAG because he doesn’t want to spend money on you. Maybe is because some other problems. Communication is the key of every relationship. ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Thank you Anna! I really needed this. I was talking to a man who as I discovered was ‘flirting’ to other women. He denied it anyway, saying that they are just his friend and thats the type of relationship he has with them. I found it so disrespectful, and very calmly I broke up with him. Now I am sure that I’ve done the right thing.
Such an important video! Alot of us saw these signs also in men that weren't "bad boys". Level up and don't put in time in a man that show any of these.
I used to fall for some of these. I learned the hard way. Can't believe I used to allow this behavior, now I just laugh at it. Growth is a real thing ladies. Focus on your mindset and value yourself
"lets stop with the stupidity of accepting this type of behavior " So true!!!! Omg how many girls/ ladys knows and see what's happening but they still let the guy to fool them!!!!!
Such valid points expressed so well. Sometimes its glaringly obvious that "he's just not that into you" but too many women have such low confidence and low self esteem that they tolerate this behaviour and are happy to "settle". I have high standards because when i am with someone i am committed to them & invest my energy into the relationship, and ive got better over the years at recognising quicker when they are not invested to kick them to the kerb quickly! Only be with someone who truly cares about you otherwise it is a waste of your time. One last point- i LOVE the pink lipstick! I have similar skin tone & eye colour to Anna & i have a similar shade which i love 🙂!!
Thank you Anna for this. One of the most important tips you mentioned that resonated with me, is to never lower your standards'for a man in this life, that's equivalent to robbing yourself of the life and the kind of man you deserve. The way you view your self-worth is the way a man will view you too.
Thank you so much for doing this video!! These are really helpful for single women like me even. Your channel is extremely helpful for every women out there. I remember my father telling me that a strong sign a man is into you is to see if he pays for you or he expects you to pay.
Dear Anna, strongly agree with your advices and red flags, we should not invest time and feelings into someone that doesn't treat us on a top level. Hugs :*
Ladies, listen to her. I’m actually dating a man and I’m really unhappy with him now. I gave him too much of my time, my energy, and I ignored all the red flags. It’s never too late to change right, but I’m still struggling to make the « right » decision.. Ladies, if a man truly loves you, you will feel it, believe me ; he will find so many ways to show you how much he values and respects you as a woman first and as his woman then. You deserve it. Anna, again, thank you 🙏🏼
12 years in a relationship that never moves forward, never plans for the future, never propose or even share picture of us on his profile. It was embarras to introduce him as my boyfriend the last years. I eventually got bored and not interested it was frustrating not to have any future plans it was like watching the same movie over and over never seen part 2
I agree with almost everything, except for “time with the boys.” I myself actually encourage my husband to spend time with his friends. We may be married, but we are different people. I want him to enjoy life, value friendships, and also grow as an individual. When going through difficult times, a guy talking to his best bud can significantly help their mental health. So, IMO, let them hang out with their friends. It will help not only your relationship, but it will make you feel better too. ☺️
Definitely agree. Bcz when some emergency occurs, just your significant other is not enough and your SO shouldn't face the stress all alone. It's important to create s safety blanket where you'll be supported by friends and families
Annah, I've watched lots of your videos since I discovered you, actually I've been watching only you because I am all about self development and transformation. Thanks a lot sis. I'm writing this with tears on my eyes this specific video hits deep, you made me cry alone. Just from point number 1. Yeah, thanks a lot. I am going to have a long meeting with myself tonight, I need to confront lots of issues. I've been with this guy for 6 years, I don't know if I should talk to him or I should just close the chapter. You've just made me realise he's a low quality man.
Be careful; talk to him & keep it v focused, don't be upset/emotional just spk to him about what you want & what you would hv expected things to be like - & then if he really isn't that bothered, then leave; IF that's what you want! - you may be better explaining what you want. Some men can be like children, they push boundaries & some are lazy & don't see reason to change the status quo (& obvs like children after pushing said boundaries - they thrive when they know what's not acceptable🤭- sorry to explain it that way, but yes.) If he's been not consistent or not showing how much you mean to him by wanting to be with you, or not turning up, missing events etc -tell him it's not ok & if necessary end it. (Tbh, more than 4 or 5 years, I mean, shouldn't he hv proposed Marriage by now, bc if he knows you want that it's not v good - if that's what you want obvs)🙏🇬🇧
I been with a guy who discarded me 2 weeks before my birthday TWICE. He left me for someone else. He abused me to death and manipulated me, controlled me and now I am left sad all the time. I am just glad I left.
I’m 19 and so very grateful that I found you channel! I will try to adopt your advice throughout my life and be the best version of myself. God bless you♥️
Fantastic talk. Thank you so much Anna! I need to write this down, it’s all soooo true & I have probably pursued each and everyone of them. Sadly enough. 1. He’s Flakey, cancels at last minute. 2. The Bad boys , inconsistent. He’s a waste of Waste of time and energy energy. 3. Warning if he’s involved with other women on social media. It’s disrespectful. Get out and get out fast! 4. He needs Too much time away from you. A lot of time , I.e., must be with the boys. Don’t accept this, it’s not healthy & it’s a warning sign. 5. He’s too into his phone. U should be the priority!!! 6. Hesitant to spend on you, holding onto money to tightly. Possibly Not showing that he values you enough. Generosity is very important to me! (I love spending on other people and I would want the same from the man I love. ). Lastly, 7. He ghosts u. Takes too long to get back to u...He’s just not into u & doesn’t value u!!! (I know people who are dealing with these issues within their marriage, and it makes it extremely difficult to be happy when this stuff is going on consistently.)
If he’s into you’ll know it. And if he’s not you’ll be confused.
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100% true
true
Preach sis 🙌
Haha I’m confused I feel like my best friend likes me but sometimes I feel like he doesn’t
One of my grandmothers taught us a lesson NEVER TO FORGET: NO woman in this family will ever go after a man! We have pride and dignity!!!
sounds so cool 🙌
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Takes two......
I've watched my mother running barefoot after my father's car, like a freaking dog. And when my sister got dumped by her boyfriend (my sister got a good beating for having a boyfriend and was told she was only a bet) my mother convinced her to stalk on him.
@@Sarablueunicorn thanks for sharing. I agree some family members can give terrible advice
I was 15 when my father told me these two things: 1. Always respect yourself 2. Be brave to make difficult decisions. This is all you need.
Such a good message. Saving it in my book of quotes
so true)
@Hélia Alves That is what I learned much later in life.
wow so profound
Think things through. Do NOT rush⚠️anything! (Fgs - Don't jump in a private jet with him the 1st day!) Have male friends! Learn from them & any brothers you have - men are not v different deep down, they mostly want the same things from females in a serious relationship; & are prone to stereotyping them even if they're decent types that you might want. Your father left a few things out there. (Avoid Narcissists & love bombing (& ALL very flashy types) like the plague, etc!) That's extremely important 🙏🇬🇧
When I met my husband there was no doubt he was serious. He made it very clear. And for the first time a relationship was easy. I realised how much time I wasted before that.
Annette, Congratulations! ☺️
That's what I always thought, when you meet the right person it should just flow, it should be easy.
Amen
How he treats you is how he feels about you
Absolutely!!
Or about himself!! People have big issues...
Love that
@@denaight87 yes indeed how he treats you is how he thinks about himself: Low self esteem and fear = toxic behaviour
@@denaight87 "Some" ppl
Don't be in a relationship where you don't feel worthy just because you want to be in one.
100% true
This!!!
if he’s giving you any red flags YOU CAN DO BETTER THAN HIM. never settle for any man who doesn’t treat you like the real woman you are! 💓
No one will settle whit someone he or she doesent like ??🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪
ok pk heaps of women settle with men they don’t really like.
Love this!
@@CS-yn2wg Women only truly love money, so it's not surprising they "settle". Everyone knows it's only about money.
Not true... lots of women think they are better than they really are. Most women nowadays can't even cook.
I recently found out a guy I was dating who kept saying he didnt want a relationship had gotten in a relationship with someone else after me. THEY ARE WASTING YOUR TIME if they are giving you red flags don't stay around.
Ananda D'Aquino Exactly!
Date more than one
Yes. Beware. Sometimes not ready for a relationship means not ready for a relationship with you. Move on!
Can you guess why he sayed you thath??. I can tell you because if you act like this hoast teach you you always will be left behind !!.
Nobody cares people which limit theyr things or always try to whatch what he is doing this kind of teachings only make you left behind!!.
And i have whatched this hoast many series and im 100%sure she is single and she has male friends which are soija pussyboys which real mens laugh
I went to Milano with a guy and had to look at his scalp the entire dinner cause his head was down looking at the phone. He asked the waiter for the wifi code, the waiter said "Forget the Wifi...talk to This Lovely lady". Lol.
Why is this relatable
@@clarak94 the post is "are you ignoring the signs". If a man isn't paying attention to you at dinner and would rather check his phone...perhaps it is a sign. Not the right guy. (You don't need to be rude).
Date the waiter and you will make a perfect scene
@@honghas 😂😂😂
@@honghas might be the owner
Women motto should be - I am hard to get and easy to lose. Your man should always keep your standarts, not just at the beginning in the relationship
Bravo🤗
Yes. Fear. He. Must always be afraid to lose you. Even if you've been together for 10 years!
Yes!!!!
I love this!!! ❤️❤️❤️
YES!!!!
100% agreed. I always say that if you even find yourself wondering whether he's truly interested in you or not, you kind of just gave yourself the answer. A man who is truly into you will always show it - actually there is nothing more obvious in this world than a man who's in love. He will not come up with shady excuses why he ignored you for a week or why everything else is always more important than you. He will make you his priority. When I met my partner he was preparing for an important conference and it was so stressful he barely slept. He still took the time to see me, if only for an hour in the evening, and even took me out to a nice breakfast in the morning before the conference. Go find yourself a man like that, ladies!
Very motivating thank you I really think the same 👌
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all the time I am doing this as and it does not work. Maybe all the women I meet are crazy. Dates, a lot of planing, discusing, offering time, gifts,this is bulshit.
Same for men with woman. It s just a big difference. If it s right, the wondering about her is disappearing and it feels right. Both working on each other's positive feelings.
I'm 47 and I keep turning down men I think aren't the right ones. Hopefully he comes into my life before I'm old enough to join AARP. 🤣🤣🤣 And no, I'm not joining it.
When a woman is trying too hard, a man will usually test to see how hard she's willing to work for it. He'll start throwing relationship Frisbees, just to see how hard she'll run and how high she'll jump. Men are used to this. So they try to bait you into this behaviour.
So true nowdays I tell them that I just want to get to know them and later I will decide.
Ho Tactics!
@musima41 people don't have a sense of value anymore.
If you dont do this then women think you are "boring". It is very irritating to me as a man.
Well said
If a man is inconsistent, its a huge turn off for me
I agree
Same here
This is so true if they like u there's no excuses.
Right I'm turned off right now with his inconsistency lol.
It turns some women on
I am a man. Take it from me - she's right!
Why do so many men play with women's feelings and use their bodies and their emotions without giving it a second thought?
My man gives me break up saying all the bad things and the next day he comes... Does he even love me?
@@shweta4309 If you have to ask you should already know the answer🤦🏿♀️
Milou Divyne she needs reassurance an safe to say her man ain’t loving her enough
@@naomislife398 because women ALLOW them to !!!!!
As an older person and someone who has been through many life experiences I can say unequivocally all of these points are true. So many YOUNG women go through this where they do not understand their value and they accept this behaviour! I have also seen women in their 30's, 40's, 50's and 60's behave this way. Don't chase him women, he's just not that into you.❤
Absolutely correct. There was even a book (and movie) that came out about 15 years ago called "He's Just Not Into You." I only read the book and many of the things that Anna says here mirror the book.
"We accept the love we think we deserve" -Perks of Being a Wallflower ❤️
Great quote!
Well, no wonder my dating life has been on the rocks from the very start:
I've never felt like deserving love. :D
One of the best quotes ever!
💔💔💔Sad but true
I adore that movie
So important! When you stop giving your time to uninterested men, you free yourself up to meet the right person. Playing games just means it won't work out. Cut your losses and move onto to someone who will RESPECT you and cherish you.
I so agree with you Cheyenne! I always tell my single friends that of course there's no way to make your perfect partner magically appear but (!) you can drastically improve your chances of finding the right partner by simply not wasting time on the wrong guys. And once you know what to look for, it's very easy to spot the ones that are simply not worth your time.
I agree with you
So true
I stoped chasing love. Nobody is giving value to it. The most important thing we can do is pay attention on us and your dreams.
Hello dr tuda helpe dme get myex back, try him for help , and text him okay?
Whtspp him
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Texting other girls is so normalized in today’s time. A lot of women are uncomfortable with it but keep quiet because they want to be the “cool girlfriend” and society has made them think that having boundaries is “insecurity”. If you’re texting other girls- they can have you! I want to be with someone who treats me like a priority, not an option he can get around to when he pleases.
What about girls who text a swarm of dudes, ive seen its pretty common
True... this is why my girl is not allowed to have guy friends
This goes other way as well
Girl exactly and men will manipulate that woman into thinking she doesn't need to be jealous about it. Well let me tell you ladies my ex ended up with one of his so called "friends" so don't believe he's not looking for other options. Girls who are friends with men in relationships don't respect the women he's with either.
Milou Divyne yep and they’ve literally done psychological studies on this too. It’s very rare cases where a straight man and woman can have a friendship without thoughts of romance.
I dated a guy before I met my husband. I really thought he was the one. He started to ghost me a lot and I think he thought I would always be there when he wanted to see me.
Eventually I met my husband and was spending lots of time with him. I told this guy and he thought I was joking. It was only when my husband proposed to me, now this guy is interested. I told him I was done as I had moved on.
Now I have been married for 3 years and the guy is still single. Karma.
Good girl
Everyone gets what they deserve in the end! Good in you! ❤️❤️
Yes queen
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He never knew what he had till it was gone. I'm happy for you Mbali. Things turned out well in your favour.
Ladies, if you're watching this video, then he's not a keeper lol
Damn, you roasted me like that
Im watching this vid and i dont even have a man .. Or even a candidate 😂
@@SK-oz8yx same 😂
You are wrong. I watch from curiosity. And I am so pleased to find out he is a keeper! 🥰
Meh, I’m just binge watching Anna’s videos 😂 luckily a guy I like doesn’t do any of that:)
I hope young ladies are watching this video. I think many women has settle for less on regards of men since ''feminism''. Many are like: "I don't need a provider, I can provide for myself" That's not the point! Men need to provide for their women, family. So many men now are lazy, like to flirt (because, again many women has settle for less accepting this behavior, because "they are free to enjoy"), sleep around, not taking responsibility for their actions, leaving huge burdens to women. So, ladies of all ages, know your value, don't settle for less, we are precious!
Well men used to provide because in exchange women used to take care of the house, kids, cook, clean, etc... It was a fair exchange. Now they want the benefits of being provided for without doing anything.
@@212aeh exactly ugh.
@@212aeh I think you just go to hookers, stay single whatever, just dont bother anyone, i think that is the best for you........say this in advance.........stay this way. You dont need anything in life......
young lady here- gladly enjoying Anna’s content!
My favorite comment here!!
Another one: If you’ve been in a relationship for more than 4-5 years and he hasn’t proposed (If you want to get married). He’s wasting you’re time and waiting for someone "better" to come around. (He’ll probably marry her in less than a year) 🤭
lavidavi Well I clearly wrote in my comment that this applies to the people who wants to get married & Personnaly I feel like even 2 years is too much but if I had said that these girls would be crying in here. 🤗
Empress Qi That’s right if he truly want you he won’t wait a million years to propose.
But it’s also expensive to get married and to be married
Girl this is facts! I know a girl whose been waiting for 7 years and already has the man's child. I tried to tell her he doesn't want to marry her, he's using her. She doesn't want to listen. They think having a baby before marriage is more solidified smh. When will women learn.
@@saralisa7390 yes to a broke man, but Anna doesn't encourage us to talk to them either.
It hurts how accurate this video is; my ex boyfriend had every single one of these red flags. Glad I got away and good riddance. 🚮
Same!
Mine too. And now I'm still in recovery mode. Tempted many times to text him eventhough I know that he won't even respond :(
@@riehafsah4469 if it's too hard to resist
Change his contact name to "I deserve better" or something that reminds you why you left, and why you shouldn't go back to him
Same 😂
But you wanted him because he was a bad for right?
Also, may i add how easily most men start talking about sex to a woman they barely even know? I've been on many dates and if it comes to second date that's when they usually start talking about their preferences in sex. It was so common i actually thought this is normal and went along with it. Now i've been on a three dates with one man and he hasn't even touched me. No questions about my previous relationships etc.. And it feels so refreshing! It's like i never knew that this is actually an option!
It is NOT ok OR normal🙈🙈
(My gosh!🙄😌
These men are taking the proverbial; Just No!🙏🇬🇧)
I wish when I was 25 that I would’ve heard this advice because I probably would’ve left that relationship a lot sooner. Great job Anna you’re doing a favor by teaching women this!
Women should never EVER settle for less. You deserve better, you deserve to be treated well 💕
Correct. One is always better off single than with the wrong person.
Sadly I had been with a man for 6 years and each Christmas and birthday he never spent on me. He could afford but chose not to. This last Christmas he knew I wanted a Smart Watch. At the end of the day he didn't want to put forth the effort nor did he want me to have it. I finally left him and bought the watch with my own money. The memories still hurt and make me feel very angry at myself and him. I am no longer dating and just working on my career, my Masters degree, and time with people of value and those who value me. I've realized I'd rather be alone and happy than miserable with somebody. Thank you Ana for insisting that we keep our standards high! 💜💅💍
My ex gave me an electric toothbrush for xmas which was actually a free gift that came with the toothpaste bought in our weekly shop!
@@gillyanne0185 Gift are important. If they don't give you something romantic. Bad sign!
My husband does the same thing for my birthdays we got into a big fight because he never bought me a gift or acknowledged it. His friends had to tell him to take me out for dinner at least. At the end of it he did but I was very mad at the fact that he had to be told to do it. For every holiday is a constant fight. This xmas he didnt get me or my son a Xmas gift. What makes my blood boil is that he makes very good amount of money but he can't spend not even a dollar on us. I told him its the thought that counts not the value. He believes that its a waste of money but he doesn't complain when he receives gifts.
@@loveshopping8497 What is the reason for you to even be with this guy? He's not only cheap, he's ignorant.
@@gillyanne0185 Hahahaha noooooooo such a pig!!!!!
My ex-boyfriend did 6 out of the 7 signs. This video reaffirmed that I made the right decision in leaving that Average Joe! Thank you for always empowering me Anna ✨
😂😂😂 sure
3:02. This is emotional manipulation. Avoid at all costs. Some women have told me that when they were with men like this, some even turned abusive. The more you're willing to take, the more terrible he may become. Run and don't look back. You deserve better.
This 💯
God bless you
That's because they lose respect for a woman that lets herself being used as a door mat, punching bag and orifice he can use after being abusive.
@@maram6211 Or is it because they are assholes. They should never be manipulative or abusive in the first place, no excuses for that.
@@lafemmesanspseudo7840 Takes an asshole that abuses and a weak person with low self-esteem and no self-respect who allows an asshole to abuse them.
Ladies, If you're looking for a sign this is probably it!
Wow.. damn straight
Honestly tho
Don't be a beggar for a man ...noted👍
Another Red flag is when he isn't supportive
This is the scariest comment. I just got into a fight with my boyfriend of 1 1/2 about not being supportive of my outlandish dreams. Sure they may seem too big for him, but I'm a dreamer. He call's himself a "realist" , but I think this is a major sign, unfortunately. :(
@@naomigates30 I understand you and I' m so sorry to read that. You could suggest him to help you turn your dreams into plans. He'll feel important/considered (because sometimes it's just about his fears). A big hug sister 💓
Naomi g how do you want him to support you?
Him being a "realist" is him being unsupportive of your dreams, threatened by your potential success + you possibly earning more money than him. If they have nothing positive to say about your small victories. Then they will definitely demonstrate no support for your larger victories. Turn + run!
@@naomigates30 I'd call myself a realist too. Theres a difference between calling someone out when theyre unaware of the harsh realities of accomplishing their dreams and dismissing it as impossible. If hes not supportive of your dreams, its a sign you have different values. Definately time to cut them off.
Some of those signs are also signs of a narcissist or someone with a personality disorder, like Narcissistic Personality Disorder which is a real problem. Anyone like that you need to run away from ASAP, not walk.
How to recognise that? It’s difficult to say someone is narcissistic
ladies, we don't wanna waste time with a narcissist
@@pinapardoki9708 Pina Pardoki All narcissists are text book. There are various types. But to keep it simple. Narcissists will love bomb you first. Covert narcissists put on a philanthropic mask. Cerebral narcissists are people in power. Somatic narcissists are terrible with money. There are more types and someone may have a mix of a couple of types. But they all love bomb at first. Most cant love bomb for too long. Others will wear their masks for a long time if they think you'll be useful to them.
I mean, in my experience they're easy to manipulate because they think they have the power so if you want someone to manipulate who deserves it go for it
@@pinapardoki9708 Narcissist man lies a lot, lacks of empathy and depth, selfishness, just wants sex (with multiple women), hot and cold behaviour, ghosts you and then appears like nothing has happened, those men usually dont fully commit, and if they ever do, they will cheat, manipulet, gaslight, triangulate his partner, even verbally and physicslly abuse them, but in the begining of the "relationship" everything seems like a dream, so you can idealize him, and get attached to an idea of a man that does not even exist, so thats why is hard to tell if a man is a Narc. At first. i hope to clarify some doubts, is a complex topic.
One day I was with my new boyfriend and all of a sudden his ex almost girlfriend called him (they had had some weird on and off so-called relationship, a bit messy stuff) and he said to her "I am with an acquaintance of mine". When he finished his conversation I looked at him and said "Well, if you consider me an acquaintance, I am leaving." and I collected my bag and stood up to leave. His reaction was priceless :) And I knew his intentions were not ill, he was just super shy and had self-esteem problems but it was not an excuse for me. I recommend all of you this feeling of showing a self-respect and establish healthy boundaries - it is truly wonderful :)
I had to laugh at number 4, because when i started dating my now partner of three years, he would invite me to all these outings with his guy friends. I was the only woman there and he always wanted to bring along even though he didnt quite get the memo that it was a boys night out. Have to say it was a bit uncomfortable feeling like i was intruding on time with his friends, but now i realize he just really enjoyed spending time with me and didnt want to go out without me :D
aww
Yes!!! 1000 times yes
aww, that's actually quite cute!
He was showing you off.
Aw 🥺 I wish someone loved me this much
I find alot of these traits come from men who do online dating. They are used to talking to other women. My ex did most of this but he also spent money on me too, just not enough of it for me to consider him a provider. I know many guys now that act this way with their suppose "love of their life." Also I think after 6 months a woman must know where she is going with her relationship. If she wants marriage with this man or not. Because as women, we truly waste our own time. I used to do allow all of this. Now if a guy flakes on me, once is all it takes. I block, delete, and keep it moving. Great video Anna.
Not really my dia i have experienced it
“Setting boundaries with men is probably one of the greatest skill you can learn. Cuz you’re going to understand the more boundaries you set with men the higher quality man you will start attracting and the better treatment you are going to get from your significant other. So do not cheat on this department ladies. I really want you to think about how you set boundaries with men and think about that now is the time to step up that game and start setting strong boundaries and stop lowering your worth.” ~Anna Bey
Best advice ever. As someone who is recovering from a narcissistic abusive relationships, setting boundaries is one of the major things I’ve come to learn through therapy and coaching. Setting boundaries will protect you from toxic relationships and will eliminate all the toxic people in your life. I had no self-love and low self-worth, which opened the door for toxic individuals and relationships to enter my life. Thank you, Anna. Your videos provide get lessons and wisdom. Ladies, let’s do better because we deserve it. Never lower your standards for any man because you will meet someone who will not only meet them but exceed them as well.
Please I need your help, I have just knew someone online just for 4 days but he strat having this kind of sexual talks like are u yummy? I know that u want to kiss me when u See me, you are hot and sexy ,I want to touch you ,of course i refuse this and put limits and i told him of course that i refuse that he cross m'y boundries and he have to respect me, so he agree, is this a red flag? Or should i wait give him one chance to correct him self ?as we are planning to meet in one month I would like to know if i should give a chance or not ?
It’s so helpful to have quality men as friends!
I had a male boss who thought i didn't like him b/c i keep my boundries up at work. Sometines men can't be friends?
@@femininewomanhood9167 I heard steve harvey said in one of his interviews that man and woman can't be friends 🤔
I don’t think a Quality men or woman would like being friends he/she either wants dating you or dropping you on the spot and moving to another woman/men
This is something I had to learn the hard way a year ago. Ladies, take notes - Anna's advice will save you a ton of heartbreakes
True. My husband told his dad that I was the one and that 'he just knew" 2 weeks after meeting me. Proposed after 8 months.
Was he serious on the first day?
@@cikchocolate635 most men when they meet the one they get serious on the first day
actually you see the seriousness while still pursuing you. He will be the one pushing for dates, calling texting even before deciding to give him a chance
I am so happy for you ❤️
If he does all these he will never be a trustworthy man even with a woman he likes.
It's not love it's just crush
Yes I guess that's why I never liked the eligible bachelor on TV .who wants a guy that has kissed every girl on the set and wants a marriage proposal from that person at the very end. it's kind of strange.
I've always thought the same! I'd never compete for a man.
Well said ! It also reminds me of the girls who wanna find a true lover on a TV show like the love Island !!! So stupid
All of these programs are disgusting and making women less value 😷
Honestly half the women that go those shows do it for their own personal gain because they get so many sponsorships afterwards. Most don't go on for love haha
That’s ridiculous programming. Can those programs actually be real or are they orchestrated? Attractive women competing for some loser? I’m flabbergasted by the concept.
Movies have taught us ladies the wrong message: just be patient and suffer enough and the bad boy will finally change and recognize you as love of his life. Why? Maybe because a true consistent relationship might not be adventurous movie material...However the best movie on this matter I find is "He is just not that into you" watch and learn, ladies ;)
Such a lovely movie I watched it twice and so amusing
@@rawadsheikh476 How do i get to watch it????? Where do I find it? Please tell me.
The book was very good too. I encourage anyone who is in a dead-end relationship to read it; it will give you the encouragement you need to get out of such a relationship and move on to a better relationship and a better life. :)
but .. i told u so .. actually have one couple will survive instead 100 couple .. but its trully havr in this world .. an i see it in my family mmber .. yeah maybe not 100% change .. but its different rite know better that 5years ago ..
Everything you pointed out is true...I always tell my ladies(friends or sisters) never settle for less,if he is showing you anything that is not making you comfortable please leave the relationship in peace before you are left in pieces.
You might find all of this signs so logical and obvious, but in reality, when you're involve in a relationship with a man like this, you can not see the truth, you deny yourself this reality, he's NOT interested in you, he is NOT appreciating you, and by letting him do it, you're not appreciating yourself either, and when you realize it, that's the most hard thing to forgive, the fact that YOU allow this to happen to yourself. There will always be someone worth of you, who's willing to give you what you want and deserve.
This past weekend, I found out my boyfriend of a year and a half was messaging another girl in his home town in another country for over a year almost every day. I am definitely smarter now. I blocked him on EVERYTHING.
Im so sorry!!! U are gorgeous btw
Dear Anna, you are so right when you say have self-respect, because in absence of it we make lots of mistakes that ultimately lead to waste of time and unnecessary suffering. Thank you.
Honestly, your videos give me so much motivation whenever I feel like settling. Sometimes the loneliness can cause me to lower my standards but when I watch your video, I always end up thinking 'Why am I doing this? I am worth much more than this'. So thank you so much.
Yeah it's true
You might want to look further into why you feel lonely and then make the necessary corrections. I can tell you that no man will fill emptiness. YOU ARE WORTH IT! Best of luck!
I'm a man--- and my current girl friend has 4 of these red flags --- this video can go both ways
Well, when I was just 16 and had low self esteem my boyfriend told me that he prefer uglier girls than the beautiful ones because you have to chase for these beautiful ones and they are not hard-working :/, and well - that was such a sad thing and a red flag.. we are not together
Well, Anna said that REAL men LIKE to chase... So, just don't worry about that. :)
He basically insulted himself. He said he's not man enough to pursue and provide
Im sure you are pretty and beautiful girl just dont let a loser like him to weakens your self esteem ☺
Well, thank you girls for support, you are so kind
And this is why you should date and only marry someone with money , not waste time on young silly DUSTY boys
5:35 ....I've been in denial, and this is giving me strength and motivation to finally end a 7 month old non-relationship. Thank you 😊 💓
Me too 😊
I simply go by "Do yourself a favor and take mixed signals as a No."
Been doing well with it so far 😊💗
@Bianca Cortez thanks but I'll pass. I believe in freedom of the soul, not enslavement. Good luck with your karma payment in the next life tho.
Thank you so much, Anna. I wish I could know you much sooner. I’m 31 now. I was so stupid to waste 13 years of time and lots of money on those cheap, selfish assholes . You are opening my eyes, Anna.
Anna is here to save us all. Our dear elegant ladies xoxo
When a man does not keep his words is a red flag for me. When he says he will do something but does not and has a long list of reasons; it's a red flag.
Exactly
i left my ex a month ago, and now I see so many red flags and i wish i hadn't spent those 9 months with him, i could've done so much better and so much more
Better later than never @Clary Olivia. It took me 2 years and a broken heart to leave. But the lesson is learned and I know that I'm never gonna tolerate the bs again.
Same here, girl!!!!! That's ok, we are now prepared to not deal with any bullshit in the future. We will learn to walk away.... We both deserve good men in our lives. ❤️
Same ugh, glad we are out now gal
I know someone whose husband had many of these traits. Some men will marry and live with a woman, but not want to really be IN the relationship.
True just because he marries u does not mean they love u or want to treat u like a princess. Some expect u to make them to feel like a king
@@evka24 true and make u his slave. In sex, in emotional and etc.
Tell me about this
Yupp my “husband “
in my case ! my friend treats me like a queen but still says he doesn’t want a relationship!
He is very consistent! takes me out ! he’s always there for me! hes a great friend but my heart cant take no more! i will step up my game and leave him be! because i deserve more!
I have a saying, when there's doubt, it's out - RUN...
I like that...makes total sense!
And keep running till end of your life 😂😂.
😂😂 This literally made laugh soo much because everything you said is true. Men will test you and they will definitely test your boundaries. It is up to women to have high expectations and walk away if men are not able to meet them. I remember my mother asking me, “Why is it that you have never gotten stuck dating “low quality” man? My answer was easy. I simply saw the red flags and walked away. It was easy. I knew the things I wouldn’t put up with and knew how I wanted to be treated. Now I’m happily engage to a wonderful man. ☺️
Preach sister. If he’s not making time for you he’s not interested. Don’t take it personal just cut this one loose and move on.
I am so angry with this hypothetical man you are describing lol
lol!!
me too...hahaha
🤣😂🤣😂🤣 it's like in our DNA or something to know this hypothetical man and just hate him
You're not the only one, haha!
Same. How do some of these men have the audacity to treat women like that?
Man who can't spend for me can't even have my time, I flew right away.
Point taken
Preach!
!!!!!!!
I like you. Good one
hesy immaculata: You charge by the hour? hehe, give me a break....
Also if a man is not capable of platonic friendships with woman. He’s suspect.
Red flag 🚩.
Continue to fool yourselves while you can.
Anna you forgot the kind of man who doesnt open up when asked if there is any issue , and instead says "nothing "
my ex, i hated it, because if they dont you in, you cant help them
My husband used to be like this, it was hard to him to open up about his feelings but we got through it❤
I told him I felt hurt that he didn't share with me his feelings, it was definitely a process... but worth it.
This happens to me everyday 😣😣
One of my male friends told me that they do this because, once the relationship with their girlfriends starts to get rocky, with chances of a break up. They then regret opening up to you...
How do you ladies get a guy to open up? I'm in a situation like this right now, any advice? 😣
Some guys are very good actors, they play the perfect role but then have a secret life on the side.
Usually learn at early age, mom's little angel but it's all lies and deception to get what he wants
Selene Van Der Nix this is the scariest types of relationships. You think you know someone, they show your the best versions of themselves, you don’t suspect a thing because of how much love he shows you. And then, a slap in the face when you realize he’s living a double life.
My dad says somebody's behaviour is like a pregnant woman each stage they reveal different sides of them and if that doesn't scare you, I don't know what will
@@iheartbeingalive2274 Wow, sad...
I find it interesting when the guy would rather be texting with me than actually be spending that time with me in person. He can show me the pictures of what he is supposedly doing, etc. because he wants to share that with me but not enough to actually do that with me.
I hope, I will be someone's top priority one day)
Me too. But for now I'm learning to make myself a priority. Spoil yourself too ❤
@@chantelles3641 amen it shall be by God's grace
MAKE YOUSELF YOUR TOP PRIORITY!
I hope that also.Stay strong my fellow ladies,live your best life.
U will
I wish I knew it 10 yrs ago, it would have saved me from 2 heart-breaking breakups
My sister noticed a few of these behaviours (like being flaky and having weird excuses) and it was just so odd because he was otherwise very thoughtful and generous. It turned out that he had a criminal past and was serving time on weekends. It isn't always so simple, like "he's just not that into you" but I agree, these behaviours usually indicate that something is going on and/or he is hiding something.
The best way to break up with a man who fits into any of these categories is to....
Tell him you can't stop thinking about him, you have never felt like this before. That you want to spend more time together, and that you think youve fallen in love with him. Tell him you love him, but make it look like a slip.
Or be more aggressive... you can go all out and tell him you have fallen in love and really can't live without him. Tell him you can see yourself married and ask how many kids he thinks you'll have together. Carry on and watch him squirm. It's the sweetest payback for being a jerk. He'll never call again.
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LOOOOL this is funny AF and true
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Exactly. Works everytime. 😁
That didnt work mine said ok
“Money is a love language”. Say it again!!!!!!! Lmao. You are adorable.
So true 100% agree
@Mistake Maker I personally think quality time is a true test for love. A man van buy you gifts and give you money just to get you off his back
Only a man that loves you will give you uninterrupted time together. That is the true test ladies. Also quality time doesn't mean sex, if a man gives you time without expecting or pressuring you into sex
marry him
@Mistake Maker I agree, I'm just saying its way more important than money
Anna, I agree with every word you said. No woman should settle for less, it'll end in tears.
If he's not sure about me. Then I don't want him. Because I am sure about myself and I deserve someone that wants me just as much as I want him.
This is so true. You don't know what a good relationship is until you have one. When you're both committed, have complete trust, and show appreciation towards each other. Appearance has nothing on security.
I am presently into such relationship and all of these 7 warning signs are happening to me!!!
THANK YOU FOR OPENING MY EYES AND EXPANDING MY VISION TOWARDS MY OWN LIFE!!!
I always give a "like" before I even watch!😊Lol.
Saaammee 😂😂😂👏🏼
Me too 😅
Me too 😂❣️
Right 😇
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Well my husband never paid for dates when we met in the beginning because of income problems. But now, he have better career and we have a baby he let me be at home, pays for my college and buy everything I need. I think is not always the case that RED FLAG because he doesn’t want to spend money on you. Maybe is because some other problems. Communication is the key of every relationship. ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Thank you Anna! I really needed this. I was talking to a man who as I discovered was ‘flirting’ to other women. He denied it anyway, saying that they are just his friend and thats the type of relationship he has with them. I found it so disrespectful, and very calmly I broke up with him. Now I am sure that I’ve done the right thing.
Such an important video! Alot of us saw these signs also in men that weren't "bad boys". Level up and don't put in time in a man that show any of these.
It's just sad that I have met so many wrong men, everyday I pray and hope to meet the right person finally, amen
I used to fall for some of these. I learned the hard way. Can't believe I used to allow this behavior, now I just laugh at it. Growth is a real thing ladies. Focus on your mindset and value yourself
all the points describe my current relationship..I'm moving out
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Run!!!
Run. You deserve so much better. I hope you find a true gentleman
@@roy.shrestha and how do you know that she is perfect and she deserve a gentlemen 🙃🙃
"lets stop with the stupidity of accepting this type of behavior " So true!!!! Omg how many girls/ ladys knows and see what's happening but they still let the guy to fool them!!!!!
Such valid points expressed so well. Sometimes its glaringly obvious that "he's just not that into you" but too many women have such low confidence and low self esteem that they tolerate this behaviour and are happy to "settle". I have high standards because when i am with someone i am committed to them & invest my energy into the relationship, and ive got better over the years at recognising quicker when they are not invested to kick them to the kerb quickly! Only be with someone who truly cares about you otherwise it is a waste of your time. One last point- i LOVE the pink lipstick! I have similar skin tone & eye colour to Anna & i have a similar shade which i love 🙂!!
Thank you Anna for this. One of the most important tips you mentioned that resonated with me, is to never lower your standards'for a man in this life, that's equivalent to robbing yourself of the life and the kind of man you deserve. The way you view your self-worth is the way a man will view you too.
"Get out. Get out NOW" lolll. I loved this expression. Thank you Ana. You're my inspiration
Thank you so much for doing this video!! These are really helpful for single women like me even. Your channel is extremely helpful for every women out there. I remember my father telling me that a strong sign a man is into you is to see if he pays for you or he expects you to pay.
Dear Anna, strongly agree with your advices and red flags, we should not invest time and feelings into someone that doesn't treat us on a top level.
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Ladies, listen to her. I’m actually dating a man and I’m really unhappy with him now. I gave him too much of my time, my energy, and I ignored all the red flags. It’s never too late to change right, but I’m still struggling to make the « right » decision.. Ladies, if a man truly loves you, you will feel it, believe me ; he will find so many ways to show you how much he values and respects you as a woman first and as his woman then. You deserve it. Anna, again, thank you 🙏🏼
12 years in a relationship that never moves forward, never plans for the future, never propose or even share picture of us on his profile. It was embarras to introduce him as my boyfriend the last years. I eventually got bored and not interested it was frustrating not to have any future plans it was like watching the same movie over and over never seen part 2
I agree with almost everything, except for “time with the boys.” I myself actually encourage my husband to spend time with his friends. We may be married, but we are different people. I want him to enjoy life, value friendships, and also grow as an individual. When going through difficult times, a guy talking to his best bud can significantly help their mental health. So, IMO, let them hang out with their friends. It will help not only your relationship, but it will make you feel better too. ☺️
Not if he prioritize his boy friends than you! That’s the point Anna is making
She didn't say a guy shouldn't have friends, she's saying he shouldn't make you the second option. He should prioritize you over his friends.
@@marvellousahaotu774 she said to spend the time not all the time, women have their time with their gfs it's would be healthy for them too.
@@刘婷-f3z there is such a thing as healthy time spent with friends, women do it too
Definitely agree. Bcz when some emergency occurs, just your significant other is not enough and your SO shouldn't face the stress all alone. It's important to create s safety blanket where you'll be supported by friends and families
Annah, I've watched lots of your videos since I discovered you, actually I've been watching only you because I am all about self development and transformation. Thanks a lot sis. I'm writing this with tears on my eyes this specific video hits deep, you made me cry alone. Just from point number 1. Yeah, thanks a lot. I am going to have a long meeting with myself tonight, I need to confront lots of issues. I've been with this guy for 6 years, I don't know if I should talk to him or I should just close the chapter. You've just made me realise he's a low quality man.
Be careful; talk to him & keep it v focused, don't be upset/emotional just spk to him about what you want & what you would hv expected things to be like - & then if he really isn't that bothered, then leave; IF that's what you want! - you may be better explaining what you want. Some men can be like children, they push boundaries & some are lazy & don't see reason to change the status quo (& obvs like children after pushing said boundaries - they thrive when they know what's not acceptable🤭- sorry to explain it that way, but yes.) If he's been not consistent or not showing how much you mean to him by wanting to be with you, or not turning up, missing events etc -tell him it's not ok & if necessary end it. (Tbh, more than 4 or 5 years, I mean, shouldn't he hv proposed Marriage by now, bc if he knows you want that it's not v good - if that's what you want obvs)🙏🇬🇧
I been with a guy who discarded me 2 weeks before my birthday TWICE. He left me for someone else. He abused me to death and manipulated me, controlled me and now I am left sad all the time. I am just glad I left.
I’m 19 and so very grateful that I found you channel! I will try to adopt your advice throughout my life and be the best version of myself. God bless you♥️
One of the reasons I started watching your videos is because u called us "dear elegant ladies". It's graceful and polite. Thank u. ♥️
You are redpilling women. Thank you. You cleared lots of confusion in my life. Very grateful for your channel.
This video is in perfect timing. Exactly what I need right now
Fantastic talk. Thank you so much Anna! I need to write this down, it’s all soooo true & I have probably pursued each and everyone of them. Sadly enough. 1. He’s Flakey, cancels at last minute. 2. The Bad boys , inconsistent. He’s a waste of Waste of time and energy energy. 3. Warning if he’s involved with other women on social media. It’s disrespectful. Get out and get out fast! 4. He needs Too much time away from you. A lot of time , I.e., must be with the boys. Don’t accept this, it’s not healthy & it’s a warning sign. 5. He’s too into his phone. U should be the priority!!! 6. Hesitant to spend on you, holding onto money to tightly. Possibly Not showing that he values you enough. Generosity is very important to me! (I love spending on other people and I would want the same from the man I love. ). Lastly, 7. He ghosts u. Takes too long to get back to u...He’s just not into u & doesn’t value u!!! (I know people who are dealing with these issues within their marriage, and it makes it extremely difficult to be happy when this stuff is going on consistently.)
Thanks Dear for putting these together, that is very kind of you. You seem to be a keeper for a nice man❤️👌🏼🥰