It's usually the women who advise eachother on how to relate with men and in most cases we could be getting it wrong,that is why we decided to have this conversation in this episode with men.
I tend to think this narrows down to the love language issues: that's what various/different people respond to when it comes to actually feel loved.. [Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Quality time, Receiving gifts, and lastly Words of Affirmation as they're summarised ] moreso the world offers a vast range of personalities that we are all privileged to try and understand through unlocking via our daily social interactions. So we blessed to explore these dynamics that life offers ..let's not analyze individuals..we all subjects to our upbringings and environments that we come from!!
You see Lucky the problem is, he doesn't tell you the wife that he loves you but in just one hour, he tells like five girls he's flirting with that he loves them.
I don't think I will ever understand the expression way rather than the vocal way. The vocal way means a lot to me.I wanna hear my man kumpana all the way coz i do it oftenly.
It's very important to understand that it is not what men WANT but what we VALUE.. Nearly ALL women can give us what we want but we only value a FEW! To be calling or texting several times a day just to say "I love you" is not a reality for us men. Rather it's something from some fiction romance novel. Men value a woman ... - that can cook not necessarily as good as our mom. - who can take care of the home and the house, not as his servant nor maid. - who can speak gently instead of quarrelsome. Yet expressive. - who shows good manners and respect. - who is not necessarily an angel but not a demon. - who knows her boundary relating to his friends and family and yet not a stranger to them. - who does not force us to like things or accept others just because she does or to prove our love for her. It only drives us away. Sometimes men avoid saying "I love you" because we know that women would want us to say so all the time. We prefer to say these words sparingly so that they don't lose their meaning. To us, these words are not greetings or salutations. Yes, we know that women generally speak a whole lot more than men. However, we expect women to be mindful that sometimes they overload us with things or details that we can't keep up with. As a result, our system shuts down or hibernates and makes us appear like we aren't interested in them. But being interested in someone does not mean that you should be interested in every word that comes from their mouth nor having the same interest! Sometimes we'd prefer your quietness with your presence. It means so much more! The fact that most males a raised without hearing "I love you" directed to them from their parents has shaped our behaviour. In fact, "I love you" sometimes means "I want".
There's something called "The 5 Love languages"...Gary Chapman explains that in great detail. I had to pause the video at 10:39, so i can write this comment. I beg to disagree. We all have things that make us feel loved. Your idea of loving me may not be my idea of feeling loved...period!
This topic is great! Plus with ideas from #Tim & Hilder Sabitti# on this particular topic. Firstly, they talked about *COMPROMISE* between two people asn both partners should be willing to compromise for oneanother always. Also that the two people should try their level best to *KNOW, ACCEPT and UNDERSTAND* each others love languages because what works for me may not work for you. Hope it helps😊
Lucky, if your mum falls sick, the man you actually love is the one you tell your mum about. Blood is blood not colored water. True, men value Respect and Space.
The problem also is we ladies we get senga to teach us how to hold our men but men ain't taught anything before marriage some men know nothing like how to handle a woman how to treat women
The human is complex indeed, male or female. There are a few ancient keys that hold a true and timeless understanding of men or women. These keys were used for thousands of years with great success. Our generation has tossed away these keys while they seek to find their own way. There is nothing more laughable than watching a new generation behave as though they invented sex, beauty or ambition.
My Syster and brothers. What changes our sisters to wanting those words of :"I love you " it's télévision (media). All those of télévision days are "twisted" that way. ( please notice : twisted is not used to insult anyone, but to say , they look only that way.)
Where did you learn I love you Words if it's not from television? That's how people are getting far from the root, thinkink that what we see on movies can be totaly replicated. Don't get lost on those illusions. We African men show our love on actions, not on words. Words lie but actions make it clear
Most of people are confused bcoz they are trying to replicate what they see in entertainment media - they forget to differentiate between ACTING n real thing. Men have always shown love by action, not necessary verbal. You have to learn how to understand your man by his actions e.g taking care of his family scores pride n expression of love to his family. Men usually expects respect n space from women more than anything else.
The Lord desires us to keep His commandments and be change in character. We are also glad that HE came down to our level and still Labour's to answer our prayers But many couples don't understand that in a relationship we are supposed to learn how to help each other toward change. (Becoming one) The average tough man does not naturally say "I love you" but he is supposed to be softened by his woman's words and actions (affection) and she is also to learn from his strengths
but these guys speaking for men oh please they may be right about the relationship not being about sex and beautiful but the key for a good relationship is communication plus God that is it
Sometimes some women if you express your feelings to them they take you for granted , for whatever reason they start acting like they r all mighty ...And men we have fear of being vulnerible because we get taken advantage of, u shed a tear for woman , the day u have a small argument she uses that to bruise yo ego and call you a whimp..
Not all women may be beautiful but nearly all can be attractive! Attraction draws men to women. But what holds us is your personality, that formidable person that you may be. When we see you as a partner, we can see us as a team and can work together. Without being selfish, when we see our best interest is important to you. The reason why some men are unfaithful, violent, crude, etc does not invalidate the above statements. People, men and women, tend to be unfaithful for various reasons which seem to be based on their selfishness.
This is a list of what most men out there want from a woman. 1. A hot/good looking woman. This is want attracts a man to a woman 90% of the time. 2. Good sex. The following is what keeps a man. 3. Submissiveness. (Very important) 4. Respect. (Super important) 5. A woman who supports his dreams. 6. Low promiscuity.(very important) 7. A woman with a career. (Not so important) 8. Less dramatic. Not a drama queen. That's what 90% of men expect from a woman to have a long term relationship with her. (Besides just having sex because any man who is worth having can get sex anywhere)
@@MistryXII Then I am a man... Man hates when you behave as they do. Then they get on your case as they say women do. They must always seem to be in charge, silently.
Thats why white people are open they never joke with word I LOVE YOU You can meet a guy for one year 2years but he wont use that word . He will be telling you how he likes you he Will do everything you need untill he decide to have you in his life is that day he Will tell you I LOVE You. But africa bakwabuzi bazanyisa ekigambo ilove you.
Please women STOP waiting for men its 2020. You have to tell men what you want... if he cant commit in your time you want to settle down. Keep moving.... they are doing the same. Why waste your time with slow men. Ask his intentions you have that right. Stop putting your lives on hold ....🙄🙄 ..
Men want very basic simple things to love her more; 1. Trust him 2. Respect him 3. Appreciate and affirm his ego 4. Serve him not your househelp 5. Give him good food(sex&mouth food)
Hi Lucky your programs are super nice and I enjoy them from Harare with my wife but I think you need to improve on your microphone they are so so deafening loud especially when you're laughing
Men will have sex the same way they eat when they are hungry.When you are hungry you will probably eat anything thats available for eating.Men get attracted to women through a sexual appeal ie he initially gets attracted to you when he is attracted to you sexually. When it comes to wife material a lot of stuff is involved, your beliefs, culture, what you have done for yourself in terms of education, materially, Are a person who can love my parents ALL boys love their mothers like hell etc
So impactive , ladies grab your selves ,think like a man and act like a lady ,its a book by Steve Harvey,it summarizes all about men ,as Brian is saying men are expressive not vocal
Lucky I am a lady who is in courtship but I don't like him to be telling me i love you all the time or kissing me every other Time especially in public so I don't know am I not romantic or I don't have love but inside me I really love him and he is the only hubby so tell me am I ok
Most men do not say I love . Traditionally,our fathers didn't most say that to our mothers,and in African, therr are a lot of limitations to relationship.andbmen say I love u some women take it as ,I will marry u.
Thanks for the topic Lucky and the discussion was on point though the time is little. anyway will be waiting for part two.
She's right
This has rily bin one v the most outstanding conversation.
I've learned a lot kip t up lucky
Men want few and very basic things; 1. Respect....2. Peace of mind.....3. Submission and good food(Sex&food). Nothing more
The qn @ the end of the day is wat is he bringing on the table........those things you have said will flow naturally coz it's all women
@@rajupanchal1443 wrong
Thanks dear mukyala district
I love the Ankara design extremely beautiful Lucky you are too smart
Yes. Upbringing plays a big part. Many men come from loveless homes.
There is love in the home! What may be absent are the words "I love you"! So for us, "I love you" can be said without words!
Thank you lucky and your colleagues
I tend to think this narrows down to the love language issues: that's what various/different people respond to when it comes to actually feel loved.. [Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Quality time, Receiving gifts, and lastly Words of Affirmation as they're summarised ] moreso the world offers a vast range of personalities that we are all privileged to try and understand through unlocking via our daily social interactions. So we blessed to explore these dynamics that life offers ..let's not analyze individuals..we all subjects to our upbringings and environments that we come from!!
You see Lucky the problem is, he doesn't tell you the wife that he loves you but in just one hour, he tells like five girls he's flirting with that he loves them.
Lucky you are fantastic!! A modern woman and confident is easy to listen to
Lucky,,you interrupt too much before they finish what they are saying,,give them time to explain
I don't think I will ever understand the expression way rather than the vocal way.
The vocal way means a lot to me.I wanna hear my man kumpana all the way coz i do it oftenly.
You guys are very right. You said it all .👍👍👍👍👍👍
The guys at the studio are 100% correct.... I agree with them...
lucky thnx for being organised lady a love u dia
Lucky today you are spot on. We need assurance,our men should go out of their way to assure us of their love
Thanks kachai for this topic. I look forward to more of these
Why do men n women play these games???? Men n women are so much alike!!!! In relationships women n men need to listen
Lucky we need part 2,3&4 PLEASE 🙈🙈😝
It's very important to understand that it is not what men WANT but what we VALUE..
Nearly ALL women can give us what we want but we only value a FEW!
To be calling or texting several times a day just to say "I love you" is not a reality for us men. Rather it's something from some fiction romance novel.
Men value a woman ...
- that can cook not necessarily as good as our mom.
- who can take care of the home and the house, not as his servant nor maid.
- who can speak gently instead of quarrelsome. Yet expressive.
- who shows good manners and respect.
- who is not necessarily an angel but not a demon.
- who knows her boundary relating to his friends and family and yet not a stranger to them.
- who does not force us to like things or accept others just because she does or to prove our love for her. It only drives us away.
Sometimes men avoid saying "I love you" because we know that women would want us to say so all the time.
We prefer to say these words sparingly so that they don't lose their meaning. To us, these words are not greetings or salutations.
Yes, we know that women generally speak a whole lot more than men.
However, we expect women to be mindful that sometimes they overload us with things or details that we can't keep up with.
As a result, our system shuts down or hibernates and makes us appear like we aren't interested in them.
But being interested in someone does not mean that you should be interested in every word that comes from their mouth nor having the same interest!
Sometimes we'd prefer your quietness with your presence. It means so much more!
The fact that most males a raised without hearing "I love you" directed to them from their parents has shaped our behaviour.
In fact, "I love you" sometimes means "I want".
There's something called "The 5 Love languages"...Gary Chapman explains that in great detail. I had to pause the video at 10:39, so i can write this comment. I beg to disagree. We all have things that make us feel loved. Your idea of loving me may not be my idea of feeling loved...period!
Very good opinion.
1. Men want to be honoured and respected. 2. Show him you really care about him.
This topic is great! Plus with ideas from #Tim & Hilder Sabitti# on this particular topic.
Firstly, they talked about *COMPROMISE* between two people asn both partners should be willing to compromise for oneanother always. Also that the two people should try their level best to *KNOW, ACCEPT and UNDERSTAND* each others love languages because what works for me may not work for you. Hope it helps😊
Wow this topic was amazing at least we can know wea we ladies stand in terms of wat men wat
Lucky, if your mum falls sick, the man you actually love is the one you tell your mum about. Blood is blood not colored water. True, men value Respect and Space.
Correct
I have really liked this one
Lucky we need more time of ur program.
It's too educative
I fuljoy your channel keep up the great work jah bless!!!
Something wrong with sound, has some stereo in background with lucky mic, it is so loud as well.
It's the poor quality microphone actually
Same of us we are just so complicated
Yes lucky u r ryt, I need to be told I lv u, I miss u, those words really do help us esp us in LD RSHIP
The problem also is we ladies we get senga to teach us how to hold our men but men ain't taught anything before marriage some men know nothing like how to handle a woman how to treat women
The boy child has been left out in parenting, so parents wake up and do your roles
Relationships are complicated
Women complicate things
A creature "man" is so complex....very complex like a chemistry mechanics
Exactly
The human is complex indeed, male or female. There are a few ancient keys that hold a true and timeless understanding of men or women. These keys were used for thousands of years with great success. Our generation has tossed away these keys while they seek to find their own way. There is nothing more laughable than watching a new generation behave as though they invented sex, beauty or ambition.
The girl whose boyfriend buys watches and never says you are beautiful, should read a book entitled love languages by Grey Chapman.
*_Men should also need to know is not all about them or what they feel_* about love you and you look good compliment matters to us women*_
I loved this. The men said it all. I laughed "Oh! My ribs!"
I know it's quite randomly asking but does anyone know a good website to stream newly released tv shows online?
@Brett Carson Try Flixzone. You can find it on google :)
Thanks lucky
Very interesting topic,keep it up
I need to hear it
Women are the sweetest food ever made. Imagine a man can buy car for a woman just because he enjoys her
Let me keep watching because .....................
My Syster and brothers. What changes our sisters to wanting those words of :"I love you " it's télévision (media).
All those of télévision days are "twisted" that way. ( please notice : twisted is not used to insult anyone, but to say , they look only that way.)
Where did you learn I love you Words if it's not from television? That's how people are getting far from the root, thinkink that what we see on movies can be totaly replicated. Don't get lost on those illusions. We African men show our love on actions, not on words. Words lie but actions make it clear
After seeing u asking uo husband bannange nziruse ku utube n subscribe. Thx Lucky onyumira nnyo u r ever smilling😍😍😍😍❤❤❤❤
Most of people are confused bcoz they are trying to replicate what they see in entertainment media - they forget to differentiate between ACTING n real thing. Men have always shown love by action, not necessary verbal. You have to learn how to understand your man by his actions e.g taking care of his family scores pride n expression of love to his family. Men usually expects respect n space from women more than anything else.
The Lord desires us to keep His commandments and be change in character.
We are also glad that HE came down to our level and still Labour's to answer our prayers
But many couples don't understand that in a relationship we are supposed to learn how to help each other toward change. (Becoming one)
The average tough man does not naturally say "I love you" but he is supposed to be softened by his woman's words and actions (affection) and she is also to learn from his strengths
but these guys speaking for men oh please they may be right about the relationship not being about sex and beautiful but the key for a good relationship is communication plus God that is it
Thts gay!
Sometimes some women if you express your feelings to them they take you for granted , for whatever reason they start acting like they r all mighty ...And men we have fear of being vulnerible because we get taken advantage of, u shed a tear for woman , the day u have a small argument she uses that to bruise yo ego and call you a whimp..
What an interesting topic!
Me I love you word isn't matter, I prefer expressions and giving me the way you handled me makes me feel loved
When you ask for nothing and he still doesn't have.... That hurts 😭😭😭
This one hit me more that my step mom... I feel you
when a man starts talking about the kind of life he wants to build he's ready for commitment
14:10 lucky u r right.. We all need to hear the "I love you " oftenly.. And it hurts wen they don't respond to it 😔
Not all women may be beautiful but nearly all can be attractive!
Attraction draws men to women.
But what holds us is your personality, that formidable person that you may be. When we see you as a partner, we can see us as a team and can work together.
Without being selfish, when we see our best interest is important to you.
The reason why some men are unfaithful, violent, crude, etc does not invalidate the above statements.
People, men and women, tend to be unfaithful for various reasons which seem to be based on their selfishness.
Men want the same things like women, OBEDIENCE, PEACE AND LOVE as well as RESPECT. Nothing more nothing less
But Sir my Man always stops me to care abt his family yet i love his people so much
Are you married?
Praise and recognition is important
love it!
I just landed on my self
Adam is right.. Women we attach emotions to sex yet men it's just physical
These guys are just fantastic 😋😍😍
This is a list of what most men out there want from a woman.
1. A hot/good looking woman. This is want attracts a man to a woman 90% of the time.
2. Good sex.
The following is what keeps a man.
3. Submissiveness. (Very important)
4. Respect. (Super important)
5. A woman who supports his dreams.
6. Low promiscuity.(very important)
7. A woman with a career. (Not so important)
8. Less dramatic. Not a drama queen.
That's what 90% of men expect from a woman to have a long term relationship with her. (Besides just having sex because any man who is worth having can get sex anywhere)
I agree with the mother part. That is the final sieve
No my dear your wrong
@@prossienansimbi3176 comes from a guy who had a single mother for the bigger part of his life...so the bias
Lucky today u were on point. But please ladies listen also we guys speak.
Yes guys your right I agree with you, like for me the first time I saw my wife I told myself that I want to marry this person
Honestly, I've still not figured out what men want😂😂😂😂
Hahaha
Men don’t actually want much compared to women
@@MistryXII Then I am a man... Man hates when you behave as they do. Then they get on your case as they say women do. They must always seem to be in charge, silently.
Lwaki, muyima if u r not enjoying.🤔
I can't talk to my princess and I forget tel her that I love her because that makes her know that my love for her is real
I still don't get what men want 🙅♀️🤦♀️
As men don't understand us as well we will never understand them.
Am that person atayagala bilaabo njagala nyo ebigambo okusinga
Thats why white people are open they never joke with word I LOVE YOU
You can meet a guy for one year 2years but he wont use that word .
He will be telling you how he likes you he Will do everything you need untill he decide to have you in his life is that day he Will tell you I LOVE You.
But africa bakwabuzi bazanyisa ekigambo ilove you.
African their want every thing for free 😅😅😅😅
The interviewer is too talkative she doesn't give chance for the guys to talk.
Wrong topic for a wrong conversation.
Please women STOP waiting for men its 2020. You have to tell men what you want... if he cant commit in your time you want to settle down. Keep moving.... they are doing the same. Why waste your time with slow men. Ask his intentions you have that right. Stop putting your lives on hold ....🙄🙄
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😂😂😂 didn't hear the ladies greatest trap! Getting pregoz!
Men want very basic simple things to love her more;
1. Trust him
2. Respect him
3. Appreciate and affirm his ego
4. Serve him not your househelp
5. Give him good food(sex&mouth food)
Nice show bt today's sound output was low & abit wanting
LUCKY pliz add on tym,yo proggie is so nyc but tym is so little atleast add more 30 min.
Hi Lucky your programs are super nice and I enjoy them from Harare with my wife but I think you need to improve on your microphone they are so so deafening loud especially when you're laughing
I love the way u challenge the two men, just because of the rain, but do men respect us, men change like a chamilion.
Men will have sex the same way they eat when they are hungry.When you are hungry you will probably eat anything thats available for eating.Men get attracted to women through a sexual appeal ie he initially gets attracted to you when he is attracted to you sexually. When it comes to wife material a lot of stuff is involved, your beliefs, culture, what you have done for yourself in terms of education, materially, Are a person who can love my parents ALL boys love their mothers like hell etc
sincerely part II
So impactive , ladies grab your selves ,think like a man and act like a lady ,its a book by Steve Harvey,it summarizes all about men ,as Brian is saying men are expressive not vocal
Steve Harvey is a SIMP 😂
Black men seems to forget that womans romamce begins from the brain .
So true, my husband stimulated my brain first and that’s what attracted me to him
women are difficult creatures ,you bring those word like "HONEY I LOVE YOU" she goes like , " HOW ,WHY, WHO ARE YOU BUSY WITH NOWADAYS".
I disagree with the men sex is a time when women n men share there feelings n coming together as one.
Thank you for the the show,,,, ka chai with Lucky. Brain u said it industrus...
Lucky I am a lady who is in courtship but I don't like him to be telling me i love you all the time or kissing me every other Time especially in public so I don't know am I not romantic or I don't have love but inside me I really love him and he is the only hubby so tell me am I ok
Am from Malawi based in south Africa, but I like women who got respect, loving, caring,nothing more , sex I can get it any where
You people improve in audio production please!
Most men do not say I love . Traditionally,our fathers didn't most say that to our mothers,and in African, therr are a lot of limitations to relationship.andbmen say I love u some women take it as ,I will marry u.
Man need to Express themselves more woman needs to be loved,and that why most woman leave their man,because of luck of attention n communication 💁♀️
Am really overwhelmed with this topic...
With or without sex I can not marry u in case my heart has connected with my feelings
I meant for as long my heart fails to communicate with my feelings. .
Sex will not determine
naye lucky 😁
We miss Mariam 🤔
This is meant for me, I swear
yo beautiful en smart in mind thank you dia
Hehehe.so am not even close .cheiiiiii. Cheiii.lemme listen in to the end and see
Yes. True, men can have sex with anyone one. It's to them like going to the WC.
Saying l love with out action it's useless
Thats sad...in a way
No emotion
Its Spiritual....
Should be....