I’m tired of people excusing bad pastor behavior by saying “no church is perfect”....which means, don’t try to hold the pastor accountable and just accept it.
You'll have to expect it. The bible says man will let you down. They don't change, infact they get more prideful and have the church plot you as a blacksider and or Jezebel to protect the organisation. There is a very power dark principality working within churches... Witchcraft. They protect those who thithe "well" and have been in church for many years. New members are usually very discerned to spot this... Some pastors try hide their operand modus, but it's evident and they always slip up during their sermons especially with thithe and faith and also while pushing self development. They even state they want people of influence who can get into schools hospitals etc etc ...and people who can thithe well .... That's why you don't find homeless in the church... We should be inviting groups to church every Sunday, the homeless... But we don't see that .. because they dont thithe and others look down on them .. This is an act of desperation and lack of their own faith God doesn't need us. We need him. They don't stay long. Of course it's not all in church ... But most. Christian churches are not much different to other cults.... And in essence most are organisations. I know a women who had cancer... Her church cell group actually blocked her and rejected her during her illness....covering up things that were done to her. She served at church an everything. But they treated her very poorly.. ALSO, they have actually targets to reach relating to new members and thithe... Very sad indeed
"There is no perfect church" is the statement of an enabler. People use this to excuse the congregants behavior, too. Not every church is like the Corinthian church, and not every church is like the cretian church, as mentioned in Titus 1:12-13 but it seems to be the majority of them that is this way.
Pretty much! I have never shared with our pastor that my narcissistic husband who is a deacon in our church has these issues. So afraid that he wouldn’t believe me or tell me to pray more etc. Since the COVID hit I have pulled away from attending our church that I have gone to for almost 40 yrs because I cannot handle how my husband will treat me at home so awful many times and then in church he is Mr Holly Jolly as I call it. And our pastor has never asked me where am I or how am I? God only knows what my husband tells him!
@@deborahcollins1100 glad you don't need to know. You already can guess. You can keep your own sense of goodness and identity and do what you are going to do. I hear you and I'm still ok with my own sense of what is right and good and I know what I am going to do.
@@KJ-lb4tj LoL, exactly...only for prayer. It's funny how the pastor and their associates "enjoy" spreading gossip about the faults of others OR use it as a "teaching point" during a sermon BUT when the pastor is caught in a fault...all church members are expected to be quiet, remain loyal and respect the privacy of him & his family. Any church member who even mentions the faults of a pastor (for any reason) gets shunned by the congregation automatically
Ezekiel 34 gives a summary of the relationship between the false shepherds and the sheep. People are hungry for the green pastures, the Word of God. People wander for hunger and thirst. So many churches are in bad shape considering the watchman on the wall is asleep or nowhere to be found.
If one visits a church and the parking spaces that are closest to the front doors are not reserved for the handicap, elderly or expecting mothers, but instead are reserved for the "senior pastor" and "first lady", then that's probably a bad sign.
I am Canadian and I wasn't familiar with the term "first lady" until now. I have never gone to a church with a "first lady" as if the pastor is the President. My buddy Steve is a pastor and I have observed him over time. I am considering joining his church. The problem is the good guys like him have to deal with the other guys because they are often in the same denominational / association circles. My ex-pastor happened to be very amillenial and didn't believe in the Tribulation or that anything was really "end times". I am not pre-trib - I happen to be post-trib - whatever - but he would go on and on making fun of pre-trib people. The problem is that if we are near the Tribulation he is in deep trouble and I think he knows it deep down.
Another bad sign is when the female leaders (like you see on TV) are dolled up like dogs dinners wearing a ton of make up, elaborate styled hair and even signs of cosmetic surgery. Someone with a true love of God is not vain and don't parade themselves in silver and gold.
Grew up having everyone gush to me about how wonderful of a person and a pastor my father was. They didn't see what I saw - a narcissist who doesn't see or feel anything for anyone but himself.
My mom too. Everyone saw 'beautiful, selfless saint" but huge unpredictable temper, no patience mixed with uncontrollable, inconsostance violence and temper for no apparent reason. My mom had mental illness...perhaps some narcissism. We'll never know. As an adult, I feel bad for her but she did damage to a lot of people. I don't think she could help it and I think she did the best she could but WOW! To the receiver of her wrath, it was so cruel!
Oh really... what about the people that realised this and left the church to find somewhere else to worship, not led by a narcissistic sheep in wolves clothing 🤔
You are spot on. My Dad's a pastor. I can't even go to his church because I know how he really is. You did a brave thing by making this video. Thank you
Amen Wendy, thanks so much for sharing this. My wife and I are just healing from trying a brick and mortar church after a decade. Prayers for you that you’re healing and have found some fellowship. Blessings
Yes. You are correct. I am an organist/ pianist for 40 years. At least now i can spot them. I have walked away from several churches. Imagine that....a demon leading the flock.
A Demon leading the flock. Yes indeed. I had two dreams the pastor at my last church was a shark swimming around trying to eat people. Yuck. Im no longer a member anywhere and my relationship with God is on fire. I teach in the local jail and seek out drug addicts and broken people on the street. They have nothing left to prove or loose. Its actually refreshing.Jesus is our cover not man
*DON'T SAY THAT ABOUT DEMONS!* A secret and scientific study by a secret division of the university of the Holy Catholic Church at Vatican-city, secretely revealed that only three to four point two percent of demons are possibly full blown narcissist. That's significantly less than amongst earthly mortals!
@Light House wow sorry to hear this happened to you I know a couple that just left their churchy three years ago and they were totally shunned I had some exposure as a child and a little more as an adult and I seen some demonic stuff in there myself it's not a physical building anyway but rather a spiritual one we who are born of God spirit shalom
My narcissistic ex-husband was the clergyman of our congregation when I left him because he was verbally and emotionally abusive. It was so disheartening to realize that the shepherd of the flock was the wolf in sheep’s clothing; and was a modern-day Pharisee.
I'm not a believer anymore, I left the church over ten years ago. Corruption among leadership is one of the main reasons I left. But I noticed a lot of pastors are highly charismatic and great entertainers but they're ignorant of the scriptures and don't play a much of a teaching role. I think a big problem is the congregation consists of people who are easily manipulated and also ignorant of the scriptures themselves. Unless they're taking a verse out of context to push a political agenda. The young adult's discipleship program (Masters Commission) at the church I was raised in was led by a narcissist who was sleeping with the young women in the program who didn't have father figures in their lives. Seeing that firsthand and other abuse is why I just don't even believe God exists.
@@littlelegs4563Hi Little Legs, Please do not leave Christ Jesus for what others do wrong. We are all sinners needing grace. That doesn’t excuse what we see in many churches today or people in general. I believe most pastors are not even saved. Most are hirelings that never even preached against sin ONCE in a while. Because they weren’t living right other. There are some good ones out there. Jesus said it would get bad int he last days and many would apostatize from the faith, that can mean leaving the faith (as it sounds like you did because of others) in getting hurt, or not living the faith as many pastors are not committed and got into ministry as a career or nepotism because their Dad was a preacher or pastor. Please do not take this out on the Lord who has no fault. I don’t go to church but love my Saviour for what He did for me. God’s word is still God’s word and it is true. I love you in Jesus. I left a few churches over the years and my heart bleeds for people that get dismayed because of this great falling away but please do not become that statistic on the other end of the spectrum. God Bless!
My late father pastored for many years. Pastors, in general, are in love with their own voice. They are very accustomed to people listening to them "holding forth." When my sister attended a church college, it was known across campus that ministerial students were the most aggressive dates and the girls had to keep an eye the hands of these guys because they were like an octopus. Since my father was a pastor, I was acquainted with more ministers than most I can't tell you how many of them had scandals regarding money, sex, or both. My father never had a scandal that got out but that was because he wasn't caught. I know of at least two children he molested. One was me.
That sounds about right! Most abusers never get caught because there are so many narcissists in law enforcement, courts, other authorities or anywhere higher up, and they always, ALWAYS, support each other. Birds of a feather flock together. How are you doing now? Are you okay?
Oh lord…. So sorry for what you went through. My Narc father was also a pastor, A demon in sheep’s clothing. He abused me so much physically, I used to almost pass out. He truly was demon possessed
@@stephm5877 ,, Exactly. When I went to therapy at age 40, spirituality and the sexual abused was all mixed up. Intellectually, I knew it wasn't the same thing, but emotionally, it had a huge. It was years before I could say the word, God.
The specific verse is: 2 Tim 3:1-9 right in the middle of those verses, it says: "having a form of godliness but denying it's power" ! If we know the WORD it will set us free!
DON'T Feel Alone...Many Was Dogged Out...It Will Either Make U Strong n Be Delivered Forever or Mentally n Physically Kill U! I Founded Myself n Very Self Satisfied. What Devil Intended To Destroy ONLY Cause U From Following LIES!
A church used to be the place where we were granted protection against the devil, but this days it is like the devils residence. Those pastors will pay big time, the day will come when they will have to answer to the Son of Man Himself!
The bible use to say the Lion will lie down with the Lamb, it now says the wolf will lie down with the lamb.This is whats up the wolf's are now the shepards.You better know.
I agree, most pastors are bullies and then cry about getting hate mail. "When a man's ways please the Lord, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him."
This gentleman is spot on. If Pastors have no humility, then they shouldn't be Pastors at all. He's right, there are 90% of pastors are often narcisstic. When the pastor is narcisstic then their congregation is narcisstic. This is why I stay out of churches just like I stay away from bars.
My X-husband is a pastor and he was so abusive . He has everyone fooled and when I left him all the other churches slandered me (flying monkeys) and believed his lies, I don't need a mediator between me and Jesus.
Thanks so much for explaining this. My boss is a pastor. He owns a community mental health company. All these negative things go in there. Gossip, playing people against each other, verbal abuse, using us by overworking us. I've only been there 2 months and I'm quitting tomorrow. He can yell and scream but I'll walk out! I refuse to be abused.
I've only met one humble pastor in my life. Narcissist pastor's seem to get all the Codependents or weak people. I was one, and I did not know anything about narcissism or none of that until I did my own research.
Seen the codependents following the pastor around out of fear and anxiety. My pastor once told a suicidal man to stop whining like her grandkids. She also told a meth addict he was a dog. I work with drug addicts,, suicidal people and am passionate about it. She once told me she could crush a couple of people if she wanted to. I learned to follow God elsewhere. Incredible issue here. Its best to leave and follow God anywhere he Leeds
I feel your pain, my husband and I were treated abysmally by our church. It's a very long story that I don't want to get into online but we're very wary about attending any kind of church now, it's not worth the heartache.
Im afraid to attest that you are in the correct! Thappens to baby or lazy Christians that don't bother to investigate for the truth about things, for the most part....but when you grow spiritually you begin to see the truth for what it is...& no one can tell you otherwise cause the Spirit of Truth will bear witness with you & you just know....
@@CrumbsDM Part of the control comes from; Romans 13 NIRV - Obey Those in Authority - All of you - Bible ... www.biblegateway.com › passage Obey Those in Authority - All of you must obey those who rule over you. There are no authorities except the ones God has chosen. Those who now rule.
11:20 "It is a sickness." It breaks my heart. I cannot stomach most churches. Even, the so-called good ones. I am not perfect, therefore I do not look for perfection, but I must have honesty and we can go from there. It's so phony, judgemental and cliquish. If you don't play the game in the church they will run you out--on behalf of the pastor.
You mentioned the problem of "pastor worship". The Lord said "Take heed that no man deceive you. For many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and shall deceive many." In my opinion, a person doesn't have to flat out claim to be the Lord, but when they start to take on a role of mediator between God and people, they are starting to fulfill Matthew 24:4 & 5.
We just left a church where the pastor was a toxic authoritarian. No accountability he and one of the trustees handled the church finances as a personal checking account. When asked about it, the pastor would get defensive and say everything is above board, creates silos, and would run anyone who would hold him accountable. Then preach a two series on why the other person is wrong and walking away from God by leaving his church.
Jesus told us that He is the True Shepherd and that there would be many false shepherds but that His sheep would not follow them. Pastor means shepherd and Jesus is the only Pastor I follow. "My sheep hear My voice and I know them and they follow Me."
Poimen Greek word translated as shepherd and pastor in the New Testament. Jesus said, “there shall be one fold and ONE shepherd.” John 10 Someone will say, but what about Ephesians 4:11? Paul said, “he gave some as pastors (plural)” Who said? Jesus said “one pastor.” Same Greek word. PASTOR JESUS: Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock. And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.
Society is set up this way for these types of people to thrive and step on everyone else. Those that have a heart and are empathetic are literally not acknowledged.
Galatians 5:13 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh ; rather, serve one another humbly in love.
What's interesting is that it's also the opposite. In these nondenominational churches the pastor can become the one who creates and enforces their own doctrines and legalism.
Thank you for this. We were just abused by a pastor here in San Diego who we confronted for abusing numerous families in the church. We have been isolated and slandered by the pastor, and the other church goers who were our "friends" shunned us. Everyone will reap what they have sown from the greatest to the least. We served a 48 page paper to the congregation outlining the abuses. Within months it was revealed that two of the pastors were having affairs and the church congregants are leaving in droves for various reasons. God is removing their lampstand in judgement but it's been a horrible horrible experience going through this.
You nailed it on so many points. My journey to learning about narcissism started when my pastor raged and threw us out of the church, not for sin, but for disagreeing with him, and then tried to convince everybody we were fakes. As a person who has suffered emotional and psychological abuse at the hand of a narcissist and his flying monkeys, I understand your tears. This indeed has to stop. Check out Pastor Stacey Shiflett's book, Wolves Among Lambs. He's awake to this epidemic.
They are good at curriculums and church "memberships" aka their "loyalty membemships", but lack tremendously soul growth and true character that ACTUALLY takes REAL ACCOUNTABILITY! Something narcissists don't know how to....aka clean the mess in "The house of God"....
I always ask myself, do I see humility in whoever is preaching. Also, are the approachable? I don't elevate any person who is at the pulpit. I have the same Bible as them and God promises to guide me to all truth.
God doesn't live in temples made by men. It's in the bible. But you are His temple. You are the temple of The Holy Spirit. Nowadays it's difficult to find sound people in their minds & their sound doctrines. But just read your Bible & yes the Spirit of Truth will guide you personally into ALL truth (you need to know....) blessings! ✌🏻
Thanks so much for posting this well informative video of Narcissistic ministers who never want to confess but rather give excuses and cover up their wrongs.
Yep! They are full of pride & refused to apologize. Only when found out "maybe"...but even so....they have what is called the narcissistic injury and seek to threat or blackmail I mean the ones that have extreme but extreme pride & basically have no hope maybe of true repentance in their hearts at all! Evil in the pulpits indeed! 🤔
I worked at my former church briefly, and you're right - these narcissists don't confess. Instead, they blame it on Satan. I learned that there was a cover-up over not only adultery but sexual abuse as well. Rather than taking even a hint of ownership, they maintained that it was the fault of the victims. (The church was being sued only a few weeks into my employment.) The "poor victimized" church leaders were "so good at spreading the Word of God that Satan used those weak and immature Christians to attack them." I ended up quitting and leaving the church. There was just so much evil that these people perpetrated it was heartbreaking.
I can spot a narrsacist almost immediately. So when i walk into a church, and the pastor is preaching nonsense, I point it out to him in front of the congregation. Then i leave. I have no respect for men who twist the scriptures. My loyalty is to Jesus not the pastor he is just a man with sinful tendencies like myself. His title does not make him superior to the congregation.
Oh my heavenly father this is so wrong but so true. I broke down in tears after watching this video. Here are hurting people in these churches who need love, fellowship and guidance and they are being abused by the last person they thought would abuse them. It's such a spiritual warfare going on in churches and theses so called pastors don't even see that they are the reasons that people aren't coming to Christ. What an oxymoron!
Yes, unfortunately they alienate & scare away God's own real white sheep 🐑 With their "scare tactics" pathetic scare tactics & very demonic in nature. All about control & manipulation.
@@valerieriggins3184I don't think it's about money, only, it's about power, there's no one who can be more powerful to the mind and soul of a bunch of people than a pastor, some people feel pleasure by using power.
There's only one Pastor believers need to follow, our good shepherd and Lord Jesus Christ. He will never fail you. He will never disappoint you. Trust in him alone. Christian leaders can make mistake, they can be wolves in sheep's clothing or not even really Christians. Do not judge God or his church by the evil deeds of fallen, sinful men. Fix your eyes on Jesus, the starter and finisher of your faith if you are truly in him. Don't let the devil steal your hope of salvation through men who did you wrong. Try house church.
It is possible you backslid right into Jesus. Perhaps losing your mind was a blessing to change your direction. Perhaps it was temporary. Don't be too hard on yourself, and see the reply below: hold fast, keep the course, stay close to Jesus.
I always get scolded when I tell Christians that American church isn’t biblical. Everything from the big buildings, the tax free status, the paid clergy, the hierarchy of the senior pastor, guilting people into tithing, and the business practices they use to market and grow congregations. Sickening.
You’re absolutely correct!! I’ve seen Pastors use God’s name to place fear in people so that they neglect the ability to think for themselves. It’s sad
If only you knew the full extent of what you are saying. I served as Medical Missionary. When I returned to the U.S. I traveled as a Locum Tenens Anesthesia Provider, traveling around the U.S. filling in for a month here and there temporarily filling in at hospitals until they could hire a permanent Provider. We always attended Evangelical Churches while traveling. Almost without exception, because the Pastors knew I was bound by confidentiality they would ask me to stay after the service, take me into their private office and confess to me their sins, almost always adultery. This served to relieve their conscious, knowing that I would shortly be gone, carrying their secrets with me. As you say they were all Narcissists, I sensed no repentance, only an opportunity to off load their sins. I listened without comment. These men were not seeking counsel, they only wanted to get it off their chests to make them feel better, notice I said to make themselves feel better. A true sign of a narcissist. They did not ask for prayer or guidance. They had not sought forgiveness from the women or their husbands, Nor had they contacted their District Superintendent as is mandated by Church Policy. Growing up, my local Pastors were attempting to force me to join their ministry and took me into their confidences, and told me (gossiped) about all of the sins of the Congregants. Things I did not need to know as a young college age man. They also revealed to me the illegal finances they practiced in the Church (people did not know it, but they privately owned the Church Property and solicited donations to build it. I finally searched the public records and found out that if something happened to them, the ownership of the Church went to their minor son (who later, went on to work in the hierarchy of Benny Hinn), and that the Church Board they set up was a shame, the real Regulating Church Board that they put on the State Documents, consisted of their family members scattered around the U.S. and they conducted a phone Board Meeting of their family once a year to meet State Regulations. The Bible says, in Roman 3:10: "As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one." referring to what is written in the Psalms. They do not seek repentance, because that would call for them to resign. What would they do for a job. They have no other skills than manipulation (maybe they could sell used cars or real estate).
As the son of a pastor, I must disagree with you. At least 98% of pastors are narcissistic, and abusive. I would also include, obnoxious, pretentious, stubborn, scientifically illiterate, and woefully unqualified to be a counselor of any kind, a position which is bestowed upon them no matter their lack of qualifications.
My mother, a single mother in the 1960's, had her pastor come to our house and make moves on her. He was in that church for decades and we weren't regular church goers. I now understand why.
I can tell that your heart is in your effort to expose this, and I'm very grateful for your effort. I'll be praying for you. My ex-husband was a "Christian" narcissist who wreaked havoc in my life for 20+ years before I finally left. He was quite fond of the pastor of our church who tended to be abrupt and no-nonsense to the detriment of whoever he was dealing with, including my interaction with him. It is only recently that my eyes are coming open to the fact that narcissism does indeed extend into the pulpit. We live in such a discouraging age. Come soon, Lord Jesus.
Amen Sister. My wife and I totally identify with your comments. Thanks so much for sharing. We just left another Narcissist church after not going to brick and mortar church for almost a decade, would love to hear what your doing for fellowship now if you don’t mind sharing. Anyway, yes come quickly Lord Jesus!
@@RobTheTruth ; as someone who was raised in the charismatic church for 33 years (till I got out); I GET IT! The charismatic churches get too carried away with their version of demonology, and are very creepy and weird about it...... However; look at the American feminist movement today, our family court system, fathers being separated from their children just because mom is holding an orchestrated grudge and wanting to live a LAVISH lifestyle with child $upport monies over it! Look at Killary Clinton and all her elitist behavior..... And entire globe of people was made to suffer in 2020 just because ONE drunken old HAG didn't get her turn at being President. And you tell me the Jezebel spirit doesn't exist! When someone gets demon possessed; it's because they are doing things willfully in agreement with those demons.
I've seen this happen all the time and have had my own experiences with this. The classic is being told you have a demon which happened to me once and would be brushed aside and told I'm dividing the body like you say. I've left 3 churches in 7 years and in between have gone years without going to church even though I do want to fellowship genuinely. It reminds me of what's written in the bible how in the last days people will run to and fro for the truth but will not find it because it's hard to find truth in a church where the pastor is more concerned about his control than the gospel. Thankyou for your video, you're good at them and should do more if you think it's what God would have you do? 😊
Simone, good post. Stick to the Word of God on your own, especially the New Testament and the Lord Himself will reveal all of His truth to you. God bless you.
I got this told too, that there must be demons around to make people abuse me. Left me terrified for years and resulted in me asking other churches for help (the church elder who told me that said they don't do exorcisms at that church) only to get told I was a nutcase and should see a shrink! Took me until recently to realize it's not me that has a demonic problem but them! The church elder by the way claimed only certain churches can do exorcisms. This is in contradiction to the Bible. Jesus said anyone who is a Christian can drive out demons. He also drove out many demons and admitted that evil forces/demons exist. I suppose none of the ministers I spoke to has ever read the Bible...
So many problems with pastors and the way church is run. You are right on with so many of your points. I don’t know if its really 90% but its high. Even the ones with good hearts and good intentions can still have major issues within the church now that its run as a business. We have gotten SO FAR from what church is supposed to be, its really super sad. I’ve had to say no to joining churches simply on the basis of all the things they want you to promise and sign to be a “member”. These leaders claim to have authority to impose their rules and their ways but it doesn’t come from God. All our manmade institutions and inventions only serve to undermine what God intended for the church to be. Theres so many problems, and turning pastoring into a profession is definitely one of the root problems. A pastoral degree doesn’t make a person qualified, its more likely to puff up and create an entitlement attitude, as if their position was somehow earned or deserved and commands respect. Jesus chose uneducated fishermen for a reason. How do people, congregations, and leaders run churches in ways so contrary to the Bible and yet they don’t see it?? It baffles me and makes me sick. I’ve seen pastors just like you talk about cause all sorts of harm and problems and outright lie. People like that give Christians a bad name and will be judged severely for harming God’s flock. I do wonder how many of these narcissists are actually saved and how many realize or don’t realize the harm they are doing...
From my experience it's 100%. Never met a church minister of any kind (pastor, vicar, priest etc) or Jewish Rabbi or even Jewish Dayan (religious judge) that wasn't extremely narcissistic and demonic. I even had an experience where it was as obvious as watching a horror movie - vicar screamed the place down, got red in the face, started foaming at the mouth while spewing hatred towards me and threatening me... yikes, even now eight years later I shudder. He is best buddies with my stalker of 20 years who has committed a number of violent crimes including murder and r@pe... no surprise there.
Many of them know, but don't give a darn! They are there only for the applause, clout, money and the using of their selfish desires. Hired demon possessed individuals casting spells on the attendees bewitching them & gaslighting them & their realities....
Be encouraged you are a voice in the wilderness. My personal opinion is that there are a massive amount of so called Christians who may have a rude awakening on judgement day. Again that's just my opinion. If we are fueled by hatered and fear the root cause is a form of evil. Thank you for your courage. Many are called but few are chosen.
I'm in the process of leaving an abusive church.I went into a deep depression contemplating suicide.The Apostle is my MOTHER.I know she will cut me off but at least I'll be Free...
I Know A Lot Of People Was Ran Crazy n Didn't Know..It Was Come from Mind Control Teaching. I Knew A Person Been Out Of Church Over 20 years And Happy. And Just Do What RIGHT...By Following Her Own Mind. That's The PROBLEM They Don't Want People To Think for Themselves.
@@valerieriggins3184 , you can think for yourself.. but remember God is going to hold everyone accountable for what they knew and chose to do. He has an open book test for everyone. He makes away of escape. His word to those that have repented and believe bring life.. and life more ABUNDANTLY. You will receive discernment, wisdom, conviction and be lead into all truth. That is the job of the holy spirit. But you will not obtain it if you are not his. You come to him on his terms and not MORTAL men. DONT BE DECEIVED LIL CHILDREN.. READ YOUR OWN BIBLE AND OBEY IT TIL THE END.
SHINE YOUR LIGHT. Speak the Truth. Hold the Torch of Yahweh high my brother. Much Power to the TRUTH you are Speaking. Peace and Love to you and yours :-)
I didn't find out about a Jezebel or what a Narcissist was until I wanted started to follow Christ , and its been a eye opener to know what you are up against... .all praise to The Most High for revealing this !
not only narcissistic and abusive, but wealthy. Our pastor and wife earn £130,000 a year but he stands up there in his jeans and cheap shirt and comes across as a humble person, but we know he isnt, and I AGREE with you 100% that they like attention and throwing their weight around, when things dont go their way. Its like a profession, a career. Ive decided to leave this church and just rely on Christ for everything. Im sick and tired of the power of pastors and how they rob the flock
You are so right about them wanting praises. I’ve seen this in several churches, It would be so painful sitting in church while at least 15-20 mins of the service was dedicated to giving praise to how awesome some leader was. Also there was a practice of letting a pastor leave one church in one area, usually in another state, and go to another church after having been involved in some sin. I’ve seen this across denominations. Another thing I’ve seen in churches is cliques and creating a heirarchy of believers based on how much money and time a person puts into the church, often this also has to do with socioeconomic status. Somehow this was translated to being a more faithful believer.
it's exactly the same at synagogues. I got treated abysmally because I was poor at the time. Got told I'm not good enough, don't deserve a Jewish husband, got membership of the synagogue denied, gossip got spread about me allegedly being a loose woman, got told I'm so stupid, uneducated, deprived, lazy. All of this started after it came out that I was poor. Prior to that, when everyone at the synagogue thought I was rich (I'm actually from a wealthy background so dressed well, only got poor after having had everything stolen), they spread rumors that I was so intelligent, clever, well educated, smart etc and the men fell over themselves for wanting to marry me. It's pathetic!
99% of so-called pastors' do not preach a biblical Gospel. Many of them have a very low opinion of women and encourage abuse toward women. They also believe the only people that can be saved are those on their pre-approved list, which means those in the cult. And they also decree people lost that haven't met their qualified spiritual weekly check list. The only way out is the exit door. And never look back. This is why most churches are failing and closing. God's judgment is on these greedy narcissistic self-appointed kings.
I wholeheartedly agree with this message. I generally do not get along with most pastors for this reason. In fact, I left a church back in 2009 because of a pastor with NPD. I didn't know it at the time, but he was the straw that broke the camel's back and the one who inspired me to do extensive research on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. This was after years of experiencing narcissists for most of my childhood and a good portion of my adulthood. Excellent post. We have to be soooooo careful with pastors nowadays. A good question to ask is "Do I want to do life with this person/with this ministry?" I believe this is a crucial question. The biggest narcissists I have ever known have been within the confines of church. No exaggeration.
Exactly I agree 100%. I was raised by a narcissist and found about almost a dozen different churches in 20 years most of them are. I have also done extensive research. My wife and are thinking about doing a similar video. Pray for us and God bless!
@@discernmentformypeople6598 over the past twenty years I've been involved with 4 different churches and 4 ministries. There was only one that doesn't try to control people and that church is a little worldly. I could go on with all the nonsense I witnessed and endured. This is a real issue and it is difficult to find solid churches especially when one regularly reads their Bible and has a relationship with Jesus. Once someone has that for themselves then the truth is always revealed.
Thank you for your sincerity & insight into this truth. I have cried a river of tears over personal hurt from my pastor. I have remained silent & prayed. But I know, my body is keeping score because I continue to suffer in silence.
i will agree on this my husband an American Pastor named Kevin Harris and i am the Filipina wife here in the Philippines..We don't have good relationship but indeed we have 4 children, he stayed with us 4 months in a year the rest he is back in the u.s.a. We fight so bad and him he abuse physically, even mentally to the point that i myself learn how to defend myself..our 4th baby was still in the incubator and i am having cesarean operation as he came back from u.s.a he let me sign the divorce paper, i signed it too..but to think he is a pastor and suppose servant of God ..where is his God, while he is here in the Philippines he has live-in partner..i have to chase him so bad for our financial support..I just can't believe he is a pastor...Forgiveness? Pastor or not but the description he is worse than the non-christian.
“Career Christians”, love it. You have no idea how close your thoughts are to my own to the extent of pastors’ sermons being the centre of attention to the extreme detriment of true fellowship. I’ve been contemplating a total revision of the entire Sunday church service format away from having the sermon and live band performance as the mainstay. Really appreciated everything you said here. And yes I’ve experienced narcissistic abuse from a “pillar of the church”, he was one of my best friends. In fact I’m almost certain that I’ve ID’d him not just as a covert malignant narcissist, but an actual psychopath, which is a first for me, because on two occasions he physically endangered my life while we were skiing and seemed to have no remorse. Kind regards.
Yes. My pastor verbally abused me in front of a very young pastor. I am nearly 80 years old. I’m not sure how to go about dealing with this? Except to go to his senior. 😭😭😭😭
Thank you for sharing this, I've been through a few, one who even preached about me one Sunday service. It's painful that many churches are no longer safe places to run to..... 🤦🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️😭😭
Yes they are good at "acting" as if they care...just to get info of the attendees & then use it in their pulpits against the attendees when they feel are getting out of their control.....and the mind games with the flying monkeys begins.....
Same thing happened to me from the pulpit numerous times. They are called personal Prophecies and they feel like darts in the hart. Standard operating procedure. I pray for your healing in Jesus name.
I came across your video and I will have to agree with you. I'd also like to share my story. I grew up in the Conservative Holiness movement. It's probably one of the more strict groups of denominations out there. It generally consists of Bible Methodists, Pilgrim Holiness, Bible Missionary, Allegany Wesleyan, etc. They usually all share strict regulations mainly pertaining to outward appearance. When I was a child, we attended a "Wesleyan Holiness" church. A new pastor came in and all was well until he greeted myself, my siblings and my mother at the door on Sunday morning and wondered where our father was? My mother informed him that my father had to work at the hospital on that Sunday (which wasn't really the norm because he was able to be off on most Sundays). This did not sit well with the new pastor and things deteriorated quickly. First, he told my father that he could no longer play his trombone on the platform, but that he would have to sit on the first pew instead with his back to the congregation. Next, he slowly removed my father and mother from the song schedule and then he withheld their Sunday school booklet material. I guess thinking this did not get the job done at forcing them out, he resorted to public verbal abuse from the pulpit. He mentioned that food we had donated to them, had been thrown in the trash, he made fun of my mothers piano playing even going as far as to bash on the piano keys during a sermon. The straw that broke the camels back finally occurred one Sunday morning after my uncle had died a very tragic death. I was very close to my uncle and had witnessed some of the aftermath of his death and I still have emotional scars from that to this day. Another family had also suffered a death in the church at the same time. Our family, as well as the other family, sent thank you cards to the church because people from the church came to support us at the viewing of our uncle. As was the custom, the pastor would read the cards publicly that were sent to the church. He read the thank you card from the other family and once again expressed his sympathy to them. When he came to our card (and I will use another last name for privacy), he said the following from the pulpit, "And as for the Thomas family, I don't know what happened to their card, I think I threw it in the trash" and then he laughed. I will never forget that feeling as a kid. I was crushed and just destroyed. He chose instead of attempting to help heal us, to simply twist the verbal knife all because my father worked on Sunday at a hospital. It has been 26 years, but I tracked him down finally and I'm going to mail a letter to him mainly asking why he did what he did and explaining how I felt, and also saying that I forgive him. Its emotional baggage I have held for a while and at least for me, I won't be responsible for anything when I stand before Christ. I have received advice though that this mans reply may not be very kind and if it isn't, I am sending both my letter and his to their conference president.
Very disturbing story told to me at Newfound Baptist Church in Leicester NC! I had heard about a man who drove into a church parking lot not far from where I use to live. This man had attempted to get help from someone in that church rather they told him to get out of their parking lot. Must have been another day than Sunday. Anyway I was told the guy stayed in his car for several hours and not leave; eventually someone went into the parking lot to see why the man was still there and found that he had shot himself to death. The pastor who told me this story is currently the pastor at that same church but was not the pastor at that time but he had heard the story and told me. I thought how could anyone allow that disturbed man not to be shown love and concern where he probably assumed someone there might care. Need less to say that poor man's hopes had to have hit rock bottom as he met with heartlessness! Also the pastor who told me the story acted as though the man was at fault for causing a disturbance which later on I ended up being the target of the very pastor that told me the story. He had, at one point, told me over the phone "it's my time and there is nothing you can do to take that from me" along with throwing scriptures from Peter (can't remember 1 or 2). He got angry with me because I asked questions in front of the congregation and he could not answer them so he retaliated by telling me not to come in there to cause trouble. Eventually he got me to the side before a morning service and said the deacons came to him and asked him to tell me not to ask questions in front of the kids during service. I looked at him and said "I do not answer to you nor anyone else in this church especially you, I done what God has told me to do and I will not keep silent at your command". The questions I asked were about Biblical matters so why was he so offended at them, other than he felt ashamed not able to give answer. Hum very certain he is a narcissistic pastor. Actually I was sent there to test this situation and in so doing I also learned how severely dangerous people sitting under such person can be in a whole mess of trouble! We are told in "1 John 4:1 Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world." (KJV). Notice the subtile ways they do things because once you become aware of it how can it be subtile?! Cunning, deceptiveness, trickiness, etc. preys on those who are not aware! Please I implore people, seeking to find truth, ask The Holy Spirit for guidance! May God strengthen those who are warning people to be careful to what they listen to and know that you are not alone. :~~~0~~~:
Timewilltell I want to first thank you for sharing your story. You have touched my heart. I have been a victim of the righteous congregation. It destroyed my happiness within that church because I was about to become a new member. The problem was that I was a teen mom and all the children in the church wanted to be around me. I have a gift from God that draws people especially children around me. I genuinely love people and enjoy them so much. I love learning from them and would never judge or disrespect others. I never said or did anything wrong but just being a young mom was an abomination to them. No one even talked to me about my life or what happened. I was treated as if I was going to corrupt the kids and caused problems in the church. One young lady (around 14) told me that she could never sit with me again because I had a child and I could only tell her how to get pregnant. I was devastated. I wanted to speak with her mom to let her know how much I loved and respected her daughter and would never do something like that. I was convicted of this when all I wanted was to find a caring church that me and my daughter could be a part of. I stopped going feeling as if I was totally worthless. My family was full of narcissism and treated me like fresh poop. I know God loves me and that he has a plan for me and my family. We're not the undesirables that my family and so many righteous people claim. Now I am so grateful and I all love people even more than before. I show love with actions and encouragement. I moved to another state away from the narcissistic family. I live my life and kids thank me for not allowing my family and righteous people to hurt them. I'm not a member of a church but I do fellowship with different ones. Blessings to you and your family. 🤗🤗🤗
By you giving the exact name of the church and location of that church, you are gossiping about that church on this forum. In doing so, you are no different than the narcissist and the many games the Narc likes to play with their smear campaigns. Slanderers will not inherit the kingdom of heaven - 1 Corinthians 6:10. You should repent & let go of what ever hard feelings you have for that church.
The more popular pastors are charismatic and charisma is one of the specialties of the overt Narcissist. A humble believe never "lights up the room", so the people actually demand a Narcissist.
I was abused by a pastor when I was 6. I never really recovered from it; it messed with me, especially when I was in college. He's still in his position at that very same church - I just found out last week. I wish I could hate him, but I'm pretty much just numb
It's not so simple just to turn someone in.. your whole life will be turned around and the court system does not always find someone guilty. Sometimes there is no justice
Thank you for sharing. I left a cultish church about two years ago, and I'm still picking up the pieces. The guy is on TBN and Daystar. The congregation worships him. When I left horrible things were said about me. They said I was demonized and warned the congregation not to associate with me. I sold my house and moved away from my family to be part of this ministry. I lost my entire support structure, and I nearly lost my faith. Two years later and I'm thinking on joining an Eastern Orthodox church, because Protestant churches are all Pastor centered and Orthodox churches are Sacrament centered.
I hear a lot of people expressing what you did about Eastern Orthodox. They do have a more mature idea concerning leadership where they are firm that people can not discern their own calling into leadership (self-elect themselves). There are also body centered churches - read "Pagan Christianity" by Frank Viola as a third option you might find more inline with scripture.
Good for you get away from demon possessed folks that tried to target you as the "black sheep" at the end of the day you don't belong amongst wolves in sheep's clothing. No you're not part of that clan brother. Blessings! ✌🏻
Sir, don’t cry! I know this hurts...I grew up in a narcissistic family of church pastors, elders, leaders, ministers and they wear a mask! I saw it today. I have a sister who pretends to be a Minister but she is one of the biggest liars! She has the fake tongues and everything. She wants people to stick to her because it covers up her hurt and I look at the preachers who claim she’s holy. I’m like “Now, I know God is not in you because He would’ve told you everything in darkness that she does, and not lied and told you she’s holy because she’s far from it.” I have a brother who is a narccist and is controlling. My older brother is a Bishop and molested his own daughter and step daughter and lied about it. That personality disorder is horrible! Almost makes you want to leave the church! I’m fortunate that that sickness skipped me (I went to see a psychiatrist to make sure I wasn’t imagining what I was seeing because I don’t act like them).
My narcissistic ex-husband is a pastor. He destroyed our family by having several affairs. He divorced me and re-married one of his girlfriends. My children are all scattered and have left the faith. Why has God allowed this? These evil pastors are ruining the church. I thought God loves the family?? But He has allowed my family and my life to be destroyed. This is all very difficult to accept.
This was a very thought provoking video Aaron. Thank you for sharing. It is very imperative that us Christians start addressing the sin that is happening in our churches. God gave us the word for a reason and I very much believe that the Bible holds the framework on how to address and correct these issues. I hope you are doing well and that you have found a congregation that you can call home. God bless.
I find that abusive pastors are hiding major sin in their private lives and they will know who is a threat to them because it's a spirit driving them that doesn't want to be exposed . Our job is to intercede for them and their families in an attempt to have them restored and healing take place for everyone involved .
Awesome! Thank you for saying out loud what I felt in my heart, but didn't know how to explain! I would have returned to church if I this wasn't such an epidemic! You expressed the truth 100%.
Finally, some one standing up and telling the truth. I have been an organist for 25 years and believe me, there are many pastors that are so full of themselves and organists have to deal with these people!!!!!! They scream that the scriptures (Acts 20:28). I once had a Lutheran Pastor tell me that even if it was minus 60 degrees outside, he could turn off the church furnace because the Bible gave him full authority. And he was a gay pastor!!!!
Thanks, Aaron Walker. I will share this on my Facebook. I believe you. You & I are in the same mind. My entire family are Christian Narcs & borderline personality. I just discovered this 2 years ago. I need you on my team.
I really appreciate how you present a problem and offer a solution instead of just talking about the sad problem. A lot of people seem to do that and any topic here on TH-cam. But I also wanted to add something to what you said you talked about how narcissistic, pastors, manipulate and abuse and families. This is far more prevalent than anyone realizes towards individuals. Individuals who have family. Individuals who try to come to the church and to be involved very easily people who just disappear from the church after being very harmed and no one notices they weren’t family. They were just the quiet weird one who was made out to be more awkward than they even were to be ostracized and then just disappear like you never existed From the church is a very painful experience in addition to what they do to you. These type of pastors create a very toxic culture within their churches so thank you for bringing up this topic. I learned a little bit about to go to church relatively new Christian I haven’t been able to figure out why churches weren’t well with mewith me no matter what I did. it’s very painful to be accused and gossip about and no one notices and everyone just agrees and then you disappear and no one notices and to be treated like you’re crazy like something wrong with you. you’re being accused of things that you’re not doing you can’t ever get to the root of what you actually have going on because no one’s perfect but if you’re being accused of a whole bunch of things that aren’t even true, you can’t figure out what’s even wrong really. And then something wrong with you and they ostracize you and you get worse. I don’t even know how to put, but it’s so insidious and sad.
May God use this video to bless the poor sheep feeling isolated and confused at this moment. I pray to my beloved brethren that you may receive comfort today. May God bless you with His peace. 🙏 “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” John 14:27
I've seen it too where gossip is facilitated in order to get people to leave. Then they are painted as sinful or having problems with authority after they parted from the congregation. People who are not informed of the original disagreement are manipulated into shunning and scapegoating the targeted family.
Imagine a system where a hierarchy is established where the person at the top is making unbelievable claims and expecting no questioning, no pushback, no analysis, just blind acceptance of unbelievable ideas. The people unquestionably accept those ideas because they desire answers to questions, community belonging, support, reinforcement of belief, etc. Doesn’t that perfectly set up a situation for a self-obsessed leader likely to abuse that power?
You are So spot on. I personally knew one, almost destroyed a whole community. And he is still manipulating and spinning a web of deceit and lies. He is pure filth.
At 66, knew this at 5 when I discovered poverty. I noticed the opulent church, leaders and all the poor putting into collection plates all they had! We were in church serving, as a family. Mom, wouldn’t listen. She drank the kool-aid.
Thank you for posting this! I just came out of an abusive church I was a part of for 15 years. The pastor was a covert narcissist. He became a pastor at 25 and that set him off as arrogant to begin with. He always said 25 was to young but God was desperate to get correct doctrine into the community. Red flag right there 🚩 but I was only 15 when I started going so I didn’t see the signs.
I've had a lot of pastors through the years. Every single one of them was a narcissist. A lot of it has to do with the hierarchical system. The senior pastor out ranks everyone else. They are above everyone else. The hierarchical system is rooted in paganism.
Many many of them are sociopaths & psychopaths in robes & suits with double lives with deprived minds only God knows how they plan to abuse their "victims"....may The Lord Rebuke them All!
Outside your church sundays, the social events within the faith easily become taken over by narcissists who seek praise and attention for their hosting, prepared foods,,and guard their role viciously to ensure no one else can serve in this way....
Thank you very much for this. I’ve been dealing with Jonathan Kleck. I’ve spend my time trying to warn others over his abuse and lies. He’s tried to destroy my family because of his own “doctrine”. He’s on TH-cam under Cory Barbee channel and on Kleck files. TH-cam has done nothing to help with his abuse toward my family. We have had to file police reports to protect ourselves from his followers that he has whipped into a frenzy to attack us. It’s a long story. Please anyone who reads this warn others!
I wouldn't vent to your pastor/church staff about your personal life/problems. If they're a narc they may blackmail you or gossip to manipulate you or how you feel and/or are viewed by others. Cringy.
19:00 OMG! I almost died earlier this year because I've been stuck in a similar, though different, experience. And no one cared except my youngest son, who is still too young to deal with this. The fact that YOU are dealing with this touches me, and it's somewhat healing. Thanks for expressing this. It's impossible to live well without community support, and you're providing that here so thanks again!
Was sent this video as I'm wrestling with whether to stay with my church, or whether to confront my arrogant pastor and try to find out if he is for God and his people or for himself. As you say, he makes a great show of his doctorate, his self authored books, his clinical psychologist wife, his healing. There's no fellowship but a quick coffee at the end of a boring lengthy sermon by the pastor. He talks about himself EVERY week and collects money. Where is God here? I'm sick of it.
@@LittleKitty22 he banned me so I've not been there since Sept 2021. He started telling everyone to get the Pfizer jab. Plus always demands money. So I said "Pastor Reg, who do you serve?" Banned me from the building.
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I’m tired of people excusing bad pastor behavior by saying “no church is perfect”....which means, don’t try to hold the pastor accountable and just accept it.
Yep! Accountability is needed & truthfulness, but rarely found nowadays.
You'll have to expect it. The bible says man will let you down. They don't change, infact they get more prideful and have the church plot you as a blacksider and or Jezebel to protect the organisation. There is a very power dark principality working within churches... Witchcraft. They protect those who thithe "well" and have been in church for many years. New members are usually very discerned to spot this...
Some pastors try hide their operand modus, but it's evident and they always slip up during their sermons especially with thithe and faith and also while pushing self development. They even state they want people of influence who can get into schools hospitals etc etc ...and people who can thithe well .... That's why you don't find homeless in the church... We should be inviting groups to church every Sunday, the homeless... But we don't see that .. because they dont thithe and others look down on them .. This is an act of desperation and lack of their own faith God doesn't need us. We need him. They don't stay long. Of course it's not all in church ... But most. Christian churches are not much different to other cults.... And in essence most are organisations. I know a women who had cancer... Her church cell group actually blocked her and rejected her during her illness....covering up things that were done to her. She served at church an everything. But they treated her very poorly.. ALSO, they have actually targets to reach relating to new members and thithe... Very sad indeed
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"There is no perfect church" is the statement of an enabler. People use this to excuse the congregants behavior, too. Not every church is like the Corinthian church, and not every church is like the cretian church, as mentioned in Titus 1:12-13 but it seems to be the majority of them that is this way.
Yes! Heard this so many times. Also, the "pastor" saying "I'm just a man" when his sin is exposed.
One thing I learned is that you never, ever tell a pastor about a challenge you are having in your life because they will use this "sin" against you.
Exactly! That or they tell their wives about it who circulate it to all the other wives. It's ridiculous
Pretty much! I have never shared with our pastor that my narcissistic husband who is a deacon in our church has these issues. So afraid that he wouldn’t believe me or tell me to pray more etc. Since the COVID hit I have pulled away from attending our church that I have gone to for almost 40 yrs because I cannot handle how my husband will treat me at home so awful many times and then in church he is Mr Holly Jolly as I call it. And our pastor has never asked me where am I or how am I? God only knows what my husband tells him!
@@crystalbush5273 or their kids and others in the congregation... For prayer of course
@@deborahcollins1100 glad you don't need to know. You already can guess. You can keep your own sense of goodness and identity and do what you are going to do. I hear you and I'm still ok with my own sense of what is right and good and I know what I am going to do.
@@KJ-lb4tj LoL, exactly...only for prayer. It's funny how the pastor and their associates "enjoy" spreading gossip about the faults of others OR use it as a "teaching point" during a sermon BUT when the pastor is caught in a fault...all church members are expected to be quiet, remain loyal and respect the privacy of him & his family. Any church member who even mentions the faults of a pastor (for any reason) gets shunned by the congregation automatically
No wonder the world is repulsed. No wonder genuine Believers are fleeing the church in droves...
Yes
@lion Heart the sway of the Kenites.
Ezekiel 34 gives a summary of the relationship between the false shepherds and the sheep. People are hungry for the green pastures, the Word of God. People wander for hunger and thirst. So many churches are in bad shape considering the watchman on the wall is asleep or nowhere to be found.
So sad
This is sad 😞! Lord have mercy on us!
If one visits a church and the parking spaces that are closest to the front doors are not reserved for the handicap, elderly or expecting mothers, but instead are reserved for the "senior pastor" and "first lady", then that's probably a bad sign.
No, that's definitely a bad sign.
I am Canadian and I wasn't familiar with the term "first lady" until now. I have never gone to a church with a "first lady" as if the pastor is the President. My buddy Steve is a pastor and I have observed him over time. I am considering joining his church. The problem is the good guys like him have to deal with the other guys because they are often in the same denominational / association circles. My ex-pastor happened to be very amillenial and didn't believe in the Tribulation or that anything was really "end times". I am not pre-trib - I happen to be post-trib - whatever - but he would go on and on making fun of pre-trib people. The problem is that if we are near the Tribulation he is in deep trouble and I think he knows it deep down.
Another bad sign is when the female leaders (like you see on TV) are dolled up like dogs dinners wearing a ton of make up, elaborate styled hair and even signs of cosmetic surgery. Someone with a true love of God is not vain and don't parade themselves in silver and gold.
Lloyd Tucker omg!!!
Ha that was the case with the church group I recently left. He even had a sign up to make sure no one took his park.
Grew up having everyone gush to me about how wonderful of a person and a pastor my father was. They didn't see what I saw - a narcissist who doesn't see or feel anything for anyone but himself.
My mom too. Everyone saw 'beautiful, selfless saint" but huge unpredictable temper, no patience mixed with uncontrollable, inconsostance violence and temper for no apparent reason. My mom had mental illness...perhaps some narcissism. We'll never know.
As an adult, I feel bad for her but she did damage to a lot of people. I don't think she could help it and I think she did the best she could but WOW! To the receiver of her wrath, it was so cruel!
@@embee5375 And everyone saw you as the ungrateful, rebellious child, right? ME TOO.
unfortunately, the people who need to hear this are under the spell of the narcissist
Aaaammmeeennnn
Let’s not forget the beta narcissists who are in the church family.
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Oh really... what about the people that realised this and left the church to find somewhere else to worship, not led by a narcissistic sheep in wolves clothing 🤔
They are flying monkeys. They enjoy it.
You are spot on. My Dad's a pastor. I can't even go to his church because I know how he really is. You did a brave thing by making this video. Thank you
Amen Wendy, thanks so much for sharing this. My wife and I are just healing from trying a brick and mortar church after a decade. Prayers for you that you’re healing and have found some fellowship. Blessings
Yes. You are correct. I am an organist/ pianist for 40 years. At least now i can spot them. I have walked away from several churches. Imagine that....a demon leading the flock.
jesus is a demon
A Demon leading the flock. Yes indeed. I had two dreams the pastor at my last church was a shark swimming around trying to eat people. Yuck. Im no longer a member anywhere and my relationship with God is on fire. I teach in the local jail and seek out drug addicts and broken people on the street. They have nothing left to prove or loose. Its actually refreshing.Jesus is our cover not man
*DON'T SAY THAT ABOUT DEMONS!*
A secret and scientific study by a secret division of the university of the Holy Catholic Church at Vatican-city, secretely revealed that only three to four point two percent of demons are possibly full blown narcissist. That's significantly less than amongst earthly mortals!
@Light House wow sorry to hear this happened to you I know a couple that just left their churchy three years ago and they were totally shunned I had some exposure as a child and a little more as an adult and I seen some demonic stuff in there myself it's not a physical building anyway but rather a spiritual one we who are born of God spirit shalom
@@thehurricane218 aww, get a grip. You did not read the post correctly.
Many pastors don't come to serve, they come to be served. They usually want at least 10% of your gross pay too.
My narcissistic ex-husband was the clergyman of our congregation when I left him because he was verbally and emotionally abusive. It was so disheartening to realize that the shepherd of the flock was the wolf in sheep’s clothing; and was a modern-day Pharisee.
I'm not a believer anymore, I left the church over ten years ago. Corruption among leadership is one of the main reasons I left. But I noticed a lot of pastors are highly charismatic and great entertainers but they're ignorant of the scriptures and don't play a much of a teaching role. I think a big problem is the congregation consists of people who are easily manipulated and also ignorant of the scriptures themselves. Unless they're taking a verse out of context to push a political agenda. The young adult's discipleship program (Masters Commission) at the church I was raised in was led by a narcissist who was sleeping with the young women in the program who didn't have father figures in their lives. Seeing that firsthand and other abuse is why I just don't even believe God exists.
Amen the Bible said it would be this way!
hi lorraine im very interested about your story, for personal spiritual guidance.
@@littlelegs4563Hi Little Legs, Please do not leave Christ Jesus for what others do wrong. We are all sinners needing grace. That doesn’t excuse what we see in many churches today or people in general. I believe most pastors are not even saved. Most are hirelings that never even preached against sin ONCE in a while. Because they weren’t living right other. There are some good ones out there. Jesus said it would get bad int he last days and many would apostatize from the faith, that can mean leaving the faith (as it sounds like you did because of others) in getting hurt, or not living the faith as many pastors are not committed and got into ministry as a career or nepotism because their Dad was a preacher or pastor. Please do not take this out on the Lord who has no fault. I don’t go to church but love my Saviour for what He did for me. God’s word is still God’s word and it is true. I love you in Jesus. I left a few churches over the years and my heart bleeds for people that get dismayed because of this great falling away but please do not become that statistic on the other end of the spectrum. God Bless!
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Have you ever been to a Calvary Chapel Church?
My late father pastored for many years. Pastors, in general, are in love with their own voice. They are very accustomed to people listening to them "holding forth." When my sister attended a church college, it was known across campus that ministerial students were the most aggressive dates and the girls had to keep an eye the hands of these guys because they were like an octopus. Since my father was a pastor, I was acquainted with more ministers than most I can't tell you how many of them had scandals regarding money, sex, or both. My father never had a scandal that got out but that was because he wasn't caught. I know of at least two children he molested. One was me.
That sounds about right! Most abusers never get caught because there are so many narcissists in law enforcement, courts, other authorities or anywhere higher up, and they always, ALWAYS, support each other. Birds of a feather flock together.
How are you doing now? Are you okay?
Omg.honey I feel your agony to my soul.have you gone therapy?
Oh lord…. So sorry for what you went through. My Narc father was also a pastor, A demon in sheep’s clothing. He abused me so much physically, I used to almost pass out. He truly was demon possessed
I'm so sorry for what you went through. Cant imagine the trauma and the spiritual abuse on top of that. I pray hope and healing for you. 💛
@@stephm5877 ,, Exactly. When I went to therapy at age 40, spirituality and the sexual abused was all mixed up. Intellectually, I knew it wasn't the same thing, but emotionally, it had a huge. It was years before I could say the word, God.
Narcissism is prophetic : People will be lovers of themselves. God said "They run, but I did not send them. "
Wow I never connected that verse with narcisism before, good point!
The specific verse is:
2 Tim 3:1-9
right in the middle of those verses, it says: "having a form of godliness but denying it's power" !
If we know the WORD it will set us free!
You make more sense than all the comments made here
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Discernment is needed to know them .
I was almost homeless and my pastor of 15 years did nothing to help me. He recommended I call another church close to me. Broke my heart.
DON'T Feel Alone...Many Was Dogged Out...It Will Either Make U Strong n Be Delivered Forever or Mentally n Physically Kill U! I Founded Myself n Very Self Satisfied. What Devil Intended To Destroy ONLY Cause U From Following LIES!
@@valerieriggins3184 Preach
Sorry to hear that!
@life_asweknowit888 Ty ❤️ He wasn't really my pastor.
@@tiffanyjohnson1676 oh good!
A church used to be the place where we were granted protection against the devil, but this days it is like the devils residence. Those pastors will pay big time, the day will come when they will have to answer to the Son of Man Himself!
Granted protection against the devil, that's why y'all are attracted to these narcissistic preachers. You have the wrong idea of what church is 🤦🏾♂️
Very well said & soooo true.
The bible use to say the Lion will lie down with the Lamb, it now says the wolf will lie down with the lamb.This is whats up the wolf's are now the shepards.You better know.
I am in tears that God is exposing this..for years I endured church trauma untill I just refuse to go and they blame us...
Totally agree. They will have A LOT to answer & the lost souls that came out from the church.....quite sad!
I agree, most pastors are bullies and then cry about getting hate mail.
"When a man's ways please the Lord, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him."
Bahaha 😂 so true...specially in "social medias"...they are the "victims" 😅
This gentleman is spot on. If Pastors have no humility, then they shouldn't be Pastors at all. He's right, there are 90% of pastors are often narcisstic. When the pastor is narcisstic then their congregation is narcisstic. This is why I stay out of churches just like I stay away from bars.
House church - or organic church (I hate the phrase but it is what people are calling it)
My X-husband is a pastor and he was so abusive . He has everyone fooled and when I left him all the other churches slandered me (flying monkeys) and believed his lies, I don't need a mediator between me and Jesus.
No wonder so many good people don't believe in Christianity.
Victoria Anne
And many Christians avoid churches and other Christians
Cause they are sane, normal and not stupid.
You believe in Christianity because of the Bible not a church
Thanks so much for explaining this. My boss is a pastor. He owns a community mental health company. All these negative things go in there. Gossip, playing people against each other, verbal abuse, using us by overworking us. I've only been there 2 months and I'm quitting tomorrow. He can yell and scream but I'll walk out! I refuse to be abused.
U Smart n Strong Minded...Many Don't Have That.
@@valerieriggins3184 i left in December
@@BB-xx3dv so they can play with peoples minds. I’m at another job and my current boss is abusive and stalks me.
I've only met one humble pastor in my life. Narcissist pastor's seem to get all the Codependents or weak people. I was one, and I did not know anything about narcissism or none of that until I did my own research.
I met one and sadly his wife will cause him to fail!
Seen the codependents following the pastor around out of fear and anxiety. My pastor once told a suicidal man to stop whining like her grandkids. She also told a meth addict he was a dog. I work with drug addicts,, suicidal people and am passionate about it. She once told me she could crush a couple of people if she wanted to. I learned to follow God elsewhere. Incredible issue here. Its best to leave and follow God anywhere he Leeds
Knowledge is power.The money you the further you.God's people parish for lack of knowledge.
I feel your pain, my husband and I were treated abysmally by our church. It's a very long story that I don't want to get into online but we're very wary about attending any kind of church now, it's not worth the heartache.
Im afraid to attest that you are in the correct! Thappens to baby or lazy Christians that don't bother to investigate for the truth about things, for the most part....but when you grow spiritually you begin to see the truth for what it is...& no one can tell you otherwise cause the Spirit of Truth will bear witness with you & you just know....
How does this video not have a million likes ????
No one as Brave as Aron
Most people are narcs now
Christians worship "Pastor" and they become like the Gods they worship.
Dastardly XK120 because only a few of us have woken up and had our eyes opened
@@CrumbsDM Part of the control comes from;
Romans 13 NIRV - Obey Those in Authority - All of you - Bible ...
www.biblegateway.com › passage
Obey Those in Authority - All of you must obey those who rule over you. There are no authorities except the ones God has chosen. Those who now rule.
11:20 "It is a sickness." It breaks my heart. I cannot stomach most churches. Even, the so-called good ones. I am not perfect, therefore I do not look for perfection, but I must have honesty and we can go from there. It's so phony, judgemental and cliquish. If you don't play the game in the church they will run you out--on behalf of the pastor.
It is actually high level demons...
You mentioned the problem of "pastor worship". The Lord said "Take heed that no man deceive you. For many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and shall deceive many." In my opinion, a person doesn't have to flat out claim to be the Lord, but when they start to take on a role of mediator between God and people, they are starting to fulfill Matthew 24:4 & 5.
Lloyd Tucker
Yesss!! Teach..not preach.
We just left a church where the pastor was a toxic authoritarian. No accountability he and one of the trustees handled the church finances as a personal checking account. When asked about it, the pastor would get defensive and say everything is above board, creates silos, and would run anyone who would hold him accountable. Then preach a two series on why the other person is wrong and walking away from God by leaving his church.
Jesus alone is the good Shepherd, not any person!
So true!
Jesus told us that He is the True Shepherd and that there would be many false shepherds but that His sheep would not follow them. Pastor means shepherd and Jesus is the only Pastor I follow. "My sheep hear My voice and I know them and they follow Me."
Amen🕊️
@@grantdavis5992 amen......................😊💜
Poimen Greek word translated as shepherd and pastor in the New Testament.
Jesus said, “there shall be one fold and ONE shepherd.” John 10
Someone will say, but what about Ephesians 4:11? Paul said, “he gave some as pastors (plural)”
Who said?
Jesus said “one pastor.” Same Greek word.
PASTOR JESUS: Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock.
And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand:
And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.
Society is set up this way for these types of people to thrive and step on everyone else. Those that have a heart and are empathetic are literally not acknowledged.
exactly, its society and not just church
Sooooo true!! The more legalistic their doctrines, the more narcissism there is! Control is a huge issue.
Totally totally indeed. The modern pharissees of society!
@@life_asweknowit888 what do you mean by “legalism”?
Absolutely…all about control. Jesus Christ is all about freedom and Heaven for all eternity. Come quickly Lord Jesus.
Galatians 5:13
You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh ; rather, serve one another humbly in love.
What's interesting is that it's also the opposite.
In these nondenominational churches the pastor can become the one who creates and enforces their own doctrines and legalism.
Your intermittent silence speaks volumes.
Career pastors , try Celebrity pastors. It's sad.
No one in the Bible head the title of Pastor.
I've been saying this for years, based upon personal experiences. All people need to do is open their eyes.
Cindy Varner yea, notice how no one listens?
@@Rain9Quinn It has to take a pandemic and lockdowns to really reflect and people all at once coming together to fight for truth and justice.
Thank you for this. We were just abused by a pastor here in San Diego who we confronted for abusing numerous families in the church. We have been isolated and slandered by the pastor, and the other church goers who were our "friends" shunned us. Everyone will reap what they have sown from the greatest to the least. We served a 48 page paper to the congregation outlining the abuses. Within months it was revealed that two of the pastors were having affairs and the church congregants are leaving in droves for various reasons. God is removing their lampstand in judgement but it's been a horrible horrible experience going through this.
You nailed it on so many points. My journey to learning about narcissism started when my pastor raged and threw us out of the church, not for sin, but for disagreeing with him, and then tried to convince everybody we were fakes. As a person who has suffered emotional and psychological abuse at the hand of a narcissist and his flying monkeys, I understand your tears. This indeed has to stop.
Check out Pastor Stacey Shiflett's book, Wolves Among Lambs. He's awake to this epidemic.
One of my daughters is an covert evil, demonic dangerous narcissist. And she protects herself by being religious.
sylvestina 53, poet/writer. So typical
sylvestina 53, poet/writer. Thanks for mentioning DEMONIC - so true!
My narc boss hides behind acting Christian
@@dillonnj45l.18 mine too!!! so annoying
Mine too.
“Career Christians” wow that is so true and very sad.
They are good at curriculums and church "memberships" aka their "loyalty membemships", but lack tremendously soul growth and true character that ACTUALLY takes REAL ACCOUNTABILITY! Something narcissists don't know how to....aka clean the mess in "The house of God"....
I always ask myself, do I see humility in whoever is preaching. Also, are the approachable? I don't elevate any person who is at the pulpit. I have the same Bible as them and God promises to guide me to all truth.
they are great at faking....
God doesn't live in temples made by men. It's in the bible. But you are His temple. You are the temple of The Holy Spirit. Nowadays it's difficult to find sound people in their minds & their sound doctrines. But just read your Bible & yes the Spirit of Truth will guide you personally into ALL truth (you need to know....) blessings! ✌🏻
Thanks so much for posting this well informative video of Narcissistic ministers who never want to confess but rather give excuses and cover up their wrongs.
Yep! They are full of pride & refused to apologize. Only when found out "maybe"...but even so....they have what is called the narcissistic injury and seek to threat or blackmail I mean the ones that have extreme but extreme pride & basically have no hope maybe of true repentance in their hearts at all! Evil in the pulpits indeed! 🤔
I worked at my former church briefly, and you're right - these narcissists don't confess. Instead, they blame it on Satan. I learned that there was a cover-up over not only adultery but sexual abuse as well. Rather than taking even a hint of ownership, they maintained that it was the fault of the victims. (The church was being sued only a few weeks into my employment.) The "poor victimized" church leaders were "so good at spreading the Word of God that Satan used those weak and immature Christians to attack them." I ended up quitting and leaving the church. There was just so much evil that these people perpetrated it was heartbreaking.
I can spot a narrsacist almost immediately. So when i walk into a church, and the pastor is preaching nonsense, I point it out to him in front of the congregation. Then i leave. I have no respect for men who twist the scriptures. My loyalty is to Jesus not the pastor he is just a man with sinful tendencies like myself. His title does not make him superior to the congregation.
Amen. I reminded my pastor he was just a fallible human like the rest of us. Just to shake his belief in his mini-pope status.
I used to be under a narcissistic pastor. Everything you’re saying is 💯 true. Thank you for your boldness!
we need this boldness in the world
Oh my heavenly father this is so wrong but so true. I broke down in tears after watching this video. Here are hurting people in these churches who need love, fellowship and guidance and they are being abused by the last person they thought would abuse them. It's such a spiritual warfare going on in churches and theses so called pastors don't even see that they are the reasons that people aren't coming to Christ. What an oxymoron!
OH They Know...They Don't Care! It's A Money Business.
Yes, unfortunately they alienate & scare away God's own real white sheep 🐑
With their "scare tactics" pathetic scare tactics & very demonic in nature. All about control & manipulation.
@@valerieriggins3184I don't think it's about money, only, it's about power, there's no one who can be more powerful to the mind and soul of a bunch of people than a pastor, some people feel pleasure by using power.
There's only one Pastor believers need to follow, our good shepherd and Lord Jesus Christ.
He will never fail you. He will never disappoint you.
Trust in him alone.
Christian leaders can make mistake, they can be wolves in sheep's clothing or not even really Christians.
Do not judge God or his church by the evil deeds of fallen, sinful men.
Fix your eyes on Jesus, the starter and finisher of your faith if you are truly in him.
Don't let the devil steal your hope of salvation through men who did you wrong.
Try house church.
I backslided in 2014 and lost my mind. God has given me my prayer life back because he is good. He made you make this video for me
Thank God. Hold Fast; keep the course; stay close to Jesus.
It is possible you backslid right into Jesus. Perhaps losing your mind was a blessing to change your direction. Perhaps it was temporary. Don't be too hard on yourself, and see the reply below: hold fast, keep the course, stay close to Jesus.
I always get scolded when I tell Christians that American church isn’t biblical. Everything from the big buildings, the tax free status, the paid clergy, the hierarchy of the senior pastor, guilting people into tithing, and the business practices they use to market and grow congregations.
Sickening.
You’re absolutely correct!! I’ve seen Pastors use God’s name to place fear in people so that they neglect the ability to think for themselves. It’s sad
Forget that, thats why you better know God for yourself.
It's called "mind control" or "MK Ultra" for cecular terms. Which is plain ABUSE!
Very sad indeed!
What is equally evil are the people who defend, make excuses, and cover up for the Wolf in sheep's clothing! They are complicit.
Codependent enablers
I worked for one. He fired me for an unknown reason. I think i scared him
It was the light!
Pfsif yeah and his kids LOVED me for my personality and warmth...i spoke to them like the small human beings they are. ❤
sorry for what happened to u
They can sniff out people who won't give them long term narcissistic supply. @@matrixdropout3077
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If only you knew the full extent of what you are saying. I served as Medical Missionary. When I returned to the U.S. I traveled as a Locum Tenens Anesthesia Provider, traveling around the U.S. filling in for a month here and there temporarily filling in at hospitals until they could hire a permanent Provider. We always attended Evangelical Churches while traveling. Almost without exception, because the Pastors knew I was bound by confidentiality they would ask me to stay after the service, take me into their private office and confess to me their sins, almost always adultery. This served to relieve their conscious, knowing that I would shortly be gone, carrying their secrets with me. As you say they were all Narcissists, I sensed no repentance, only an opportunity to off load their sins. I listened without comment. These men were not seeking counsel, they only wanted to get it off their chests to make them feel better, notice I said to make themselves feel better. A true sign of a narcissist. They did not ask for prayer or guidance. They had not sought forgiveness from the women or their husbands, Nor had they contacted their District Superintendent as is mandated by Church Policy.
Growing up, my local Pastors were attempting to force me to join their ministry and took me into their confidences, and told me (gossiped) about all of the sins of the Congregants. Things I did not need to know as a young college age man. They also revealed to me the illegal finances they practiced in the Church (people did not know it, but they privately owned the Church Property and solicited donations to build it. I finally searched the public records and found out that if something happened to them, the ownership of the Church went to their minor son (who later, went on to work in the hierarchy of Benny Hinn), and that the Church Board they set up was a shame, the real Regulating Church Board that they put on the State Documents, consisted of their family members scattered around the U.S. and they conducted a phone Board Meeting of their family once a year to meet State Regulations.
The Bible says, in Roman 3:10: "As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one." referring to what is written in the Psalms. They do not seek repentance, because that would call for them to resign. What would they do for a job. They have no other skills than manipulation (maybe they could sell used cars or real estate).
That is an amazing but dark testimony. Not surprised to hear it at all.
Confidentiality because you are a missionary or a medical professional?
I️ just came out of a church like that! Found out the hard way I️m married to a covert narc. Unbelievable pain.
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As the son of a pastor, I must disagree with you. At least 98% of pastors are narcissistic, and abusive. I would also include, obnoxious, pretentious, stubborn, scientifically illiterate, and woefully unqualified to be a counselor of any kind, a position which is bestowed upon them no matter their lack of qualifications.
Preach
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Its not called adultery if the girl is 14. Its called statutory rape.🤬
My mother, a single mother in the 1960's, had her pastor come to our house and make moves on her. He was in that church for decades and we weren't regular church goers. I now understand why.
My priest treated me like absolute trash. I felt horrible. I overstayed. Time to leave.
I can tell that your heart is in your effort to expose this, and I'm very grateful for your effort. I'll be praying for you. My ex-husband was a "Christian" narcissist who wreaked havoc in my life for 20+ years before I finally left. He was quite fond of the pastor of our church who tended to be abrupt and no-nonsense to the detriment of whoever he was dealing with, including my interaction with him. It is only recently that my eyes are coming open to the fact that narcissism does indeed extend into the pulpit. We live in such a discouraging age. Come soon, Lord Jesus.
Amen Sister. My wife and I totally identify with your comments. Thanks so much for sharing. We just left another Narcissist church after not going to brick and mortar church for almost a decade, would love to hear what your doing for fellowship now if you don’t mind sharing. Anyway, yes come quickly Lord Jesus!
In the church I was at it was always 'the devil got in him' or she has a 'Jezebel spirit' or ' he's in rebellion'
Lol. Black churches be like why you disobeying the leader.....but in reality it's them
Projection. Pastor (or priest or whatever it is) accusing his victims of what's really true of him (the pastor).
Just no such thing as a Jezebel spirit totally made up
@@RobTheTruth ; as someone who was raised in the charismatic church for 33 years (till I got out); I GET IT! The charismatic churches get too carried away with their version of demonology, and are very creepy and weird about it...... However; look at the American feminist movement today, our family court system, fathers being separated from their children just because mom is holding an orchestrated grudge and wanting to live a LAVISH lifestyle with child $upport monies over it! Look at Killary Clinton and all her elitist behavior..... And entire globe of people was made to suffer in 2020 just because ONE drunken old HAG didn't get her turn at being President. And you tell me the Jezebel spirit doesn't exist!
When someone gets demon possessed; it's because they are doing things willfully in agreement with those demons.
Lol and all that is made up nonsense
I've seen this happen all the time and have had my own experiences with this. The classic is being told you have a demon which happened to me once and would be brushed aside and told I'm dividing the body like you say. I've left 3 churches in 7 years and in between have gone years without going to church even though I do want to fellowship genuinely. It reminds me of what's written in the bible how in the last days people will run to and fro for the truth but will not find it because it's hard to find truth in a church where the pastor is more concerned about his control than the gospel. Thankyou for your video, you're good at them and should do more if you think it's what God would have you do? 😊
Simone, good post. Stick to the Word of God on your own, especially the New Testament and the Lord Himself will reveal all of His truth to you. God bless you.
I got this told too, that there must be demons around to make people abuse me. Left me terrified for years and resulted in me asking other churches for help (the church elder who told me that said they don't do exorcisms at that church) only to get told I was a nutcase and should see a shrink! Took me until recently to realize it's not me that has a demonic problem but them! The church elder by the way claimed only certain churches can do exorcisms. This is in contradiction to the Bible. Jesus said anyone who is a Christian can drive out demons. He also drove out many demons and admitted that evil forces/demons exist. I suppose none of the ministers I spoke to has ever read the Bible...
Have you considered house church?
So many problems with pastors and the way church is run. You are right on with so many of your points. I don’t know if its really 90% but its high. Even the ones with good hearts and good intentions can still have major issues within the church now that its run as a business. We have gotten SO FAR from what church is supposed to be, its really super sad. I’ve had to say no to joining churches simply on the basis of all the things they want you to promise and sign to be a “member”. These leaders claim to have authority to impose their rules and their ways but it doesn’t come from God. All our manmade institutions and inventions only serve to undermine what God intended for the church to be. Theres so many problems, and turning pastoring into a profession is definitely one of the root problems. A pastoral degree doesn’t make a person qualified, its more likely to puff up and create an entitlement attitude, as if their position was somehow earned or deserved and commands respect. Jesus chose uneducated fishermen for a reason. How do people, congregations, and leaders run churches in ways so contrary to the Bible and yet they don’t see it?? It baffles me and makes me sick. I’ve seen pastors just like you talk about cause all sorts of harm and problems and outright lie. People like that give Christians a bad name and will be judged severely for harming God’s flock. I do wonder how many of these narcissists are actually saved and how many realize or don’t realize the harm they are doing...
Pagan Christianity - by Frank Viola - also available on audible :0)
I would say atleast 90% of pastors are narcissists if not more
The Word of God calls them enemys of the cross.Also wolves in sheeps clothing false teachers truce breakers and Babylon.
From my experience it's 100%. Never met a church minister of any kind (pastor, vicar, priest etc) or Jewish Rabbi or even Jewish Dayan (religious judge) that wasn't extremely narcissistic and demonic. I even had an experience where it was as obvious as watching a horror movie - vicar screamed the place down, got red in the face, started foaming at the mouth while spewing hatred towards me and threatening me... yikes, even now eight years later I shudder. He is best buddies with my stalker of 20 years who has committed a number of violent crimes including murder and r@pe... no surprise there.
Many of them know, but don't give a darn! They are there only for the applause, clout, money and the using of their selfish desires. Hired demon possessed individuals casting spells on the attendees bewitching them & gaslighting them & their realities....
Be encouraged you are a voice in the wilderness. My personal opinion is that there are a massive amount of so called Christians who may have a rude awakening on judgement day. Again that's just my opinion. If we are fueled by hatered and fear the root cause is a form of evil. Thank you for your courage. Many are called but few are chosen.
There has been a great rude awakening happening since the year 2020 I would say...if not a little earlier than that!
I believe so also sadly.
I'm in the process of leaving an abusive church.I went into a deep depression contemplating suicide.The Apostle is my MOTHER.I know she will cut me off but at least I'll be Free...
Come out from AMONGST them and be SEPARATED. Choose God above man. Hell is hot for those that deliberately disobey.
I Know A Lot Of People Was Ran Crazy n Didn't Know..It Was Come from Mind Control Teaching. I Knew A Person Been Out Of Church Over 20 years And Happy. And Just Do What RIGHT...By Following Her Own Mind. That's The PROBLEM They Don't Want People To Think for Themselves.
@@valerieriggins3184 , you can think for yourself.. but remember God is going to hold everyone accountable for what they knew and chose to do. He has an open book test for everyone. He makes away of escape. His word to those that have repented and believe bring life.. and life more ABUNDANTLY. You will receive discernment, wisdom, conviction and be lead into all truth. That is the job of the holy spirit. But you will not obtain it if you are not his. You come to him on his terms and not MORTAL men. DONT BE DECEIVED LIL CHILDREN.. READ YOUR OWN BIBLE AND OBEY IT TIL THE END.
I hope you're doing okay. Reading this a year later.
@@valerieriggins3184 Absolutely that's what I'm doing❤❤❤I wish u peace and love
SHINE YOUR LIGHT. Speak the Truth. Hold the Torch of Yahweh high my brother. Much Power to the TRUTH you are Speaking. Peace and Love to you and yours :-)
I didn't find out about a Jezebel or what a Narcissist was until I wanted started to follow Christ , and its been a eye opener to know what you are up against... .all praise to The Most High for revealing this !
not only narcissistic and abusive, but wealthy. Our pastor and wife earn £130,000 a year but he stands up there in his jeans and cheap shirt and comes across as a humble person, but we know he isnt, and I AGREE with you 100% that they like attention and throwing their weight around, when things dont go their way. Its like a profession, a career. Ive decided to leave this church and just rely on Christ for everything. Im sick and tired of the power of pastors and how they rob the flock
Not to mention the generational wealth generated by pastors handing down their churches to their unqualified children.
Lost 5 years of my life to this. Spread the news bro. Im with you till my last breath
Me too
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I’m sorry about your sister. Narcissists can do a lot of damage to a good person. 😔. I hope she’s healing from her ordeal.
You are so right about them wanting praises. I’ve seen this in several churches, It would be so painful sitting in church while at least 15-20 mins of the service was dedicated to giving praise to how awesome some leader was. Also there was a practice of letting a pastor leave one church in one area, usually in another state, and go to another church after having been involved in some sin. I’ve seen this across denominations. Another thing I’ve seen in churches is cliques and creating a heirarchy of believers based on how much money and time a person puts into the church, often this also has to do with socioeconomic status. Somehow this was translated to being a more faithful believer.
it's exactly the same at synagogues. I got treated abysmally because I was poor at the time. Got told I'm not good enough, don't deserve a Jewish husband, got membership of the synagogue denied, gossip got spread about me allegedly being a loose woman, got told I'm so stupid, uneducated, deprived, lazy. All of this started after it came out that I was poor. Prior to that, when everyone at the synagogue thought I was rich (I'm actually from a wealthy background so dressed well, only got poor after having had everything stolen), they spread rumors that I was so intelligent, clever, well educated, smart etc and the men fell over themselves for wanting to marry me.
It's pathetic!
99% of so-called pastors' do not preach a biblical Gospel. Many of them have a very low opinion of women and encourage abuse toward women. They also believe the only people that can be saved are those on their pre-approved list, which means those in the cult. And they also decree people lost that haven't met their qualified spiritual weekly check list. The only way out is the exit door. And never look back. This is why most churches are failing and closing. God's judgment is on these greedy narcissistic self-appointed kings.
I wholeheartedly agree with this message. I generally do not get along with most pastors for this reason. In fact, I left a church back in 2009 because of a pastor with NPD. I didn't know it at the time, but he was the straw that broke the camel's back and the one who inspired me to do extensive research on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. This was after years of experiencing narcissists for most of my childhood and a good portion of my adulthood. Excellent post. We have to be soooooo careful with pastors nowadays. A good question to ask is "Do I want to do life with this person/with this ministry?" I believe this is a crucial question. The biggest narcissists I have ever known have been within the confines of church. No exaggeration.
Exactly I agree 100%. I was raised by a narcissist and found about almost a dozen different churches in 20 years most of them are. I have also done extensive research. My wife and are thinking about doing a similar video. Pray for us and God bless!
@@discernmentformypeople6598 over the past twenty years I've been involved with 4 different churches and 4 ministries. There was only one that doesn't try to control people and that church is a little worldly. I could go on with all the nonsense I witnessed and endured. This is a real issue and it is difficult to find solid churches especially when one regularly reads their Bible and has a relationship with Jesus. Once someone has that for themselves then the truth is always revealed.
Thank you for your sincerity & insight into this truth. I have cried a river of tears over personal hurt from my pastor. I have remained silent & prayed. But I know, my body is keeping score because I continue to suffer in silence.
Thanks for posting this video and sharing the facts.
i will agree on this my husband an American Pastor named Kevin Harris and i am the Filipina wife here in the Philippines..We don't have good relationship but indeed we have 4 children, he stayed with us 4 months in a year the rest he is back in the u.s.a. We fight so bad and him he abuse physically, even mentally to the point that i myself learn how to defend myself..our 4th baby was still in the incubator and i am having cesarean operation as he came back from u.s.a he let me sign the divorce paper, i signed it too..but to think he is a pastor and suppose servant of God ..where is his God, while he is here in the Philippines he has live-in partner..i have to chase him so bad for our financial support..I just can't believe he is a pastor...Forgiveness? Pastor or not but the description he is worse than the non-christian.
joan harris I believe you💜 someone just told me a day of reckoning is coming. May God bless, heal, comfort and richly provide for you and your family
He A Narcissistic Person Pretending To Be Good...That's ALL! A Imposter
I'm a preacher's kid...Yup! Dad was a total narcissist. But then again so was mom and oldest sister. Tons of fun as an autistic kid.
It's scary how spot-on the content of this entire video is!
“Career Christians”, love it. You have no idea how close your thoughts are to my own to the extent of pastors’ sermons being the centre of attention to the extreme detriment of true fellowship. I’ve been contemplating a total revision of the entire Sunday church service format away from having the sermon and live band performance as the mainstay. Really appreciated everything you said here. And yes I’ve experienced narcissistic abuse from a “pillar of the church”, he was one of my best friends. In fact I’m almost certain that I’ve ID’d him not just as a covert malignant narcissist, but an actual psychopath, which is a first for me, because on two occasions he physically endangered my life while we were skiing and seemed to have no remorse. Kind regards.
Yes. My pastor verbally abused me in front of a very young pastor. I am nearly 80 years old. I’m not sure how to go about dealing with this? Except to go to his senior. 😭😭😭😭
Amen. Predators un Ministry have to be denounce. If his boss does not do justice, go to the police.
Thank you for sharing this, I've been through a few, one who even preached about me one Sunday service. It's painful that many churches are no longer safe places to run to..... 🤦🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️😭😭
Yes they are good at "acting" as if they care...just to get info of the attendees & then use it in their pulpits against the attendees when they feel are getting out of their control.....and the mind games with the flying monkeys begins.....
Same thing happened to me from the pulpit numerous times. They are called personal Prophecies and they feel like darts in the hart. Standard operating procedure. I pray for your healing in Jesus name.
I came across your video and I will have to agree with you. I'd also like to share my story. I grew up in the Conservative Holiness movement. It's probably one of the more strict groups of denominations out there. It generally consists of Bible Methodists, Pilgrim Holiness, Bible Missionary, Allegany Wesleyan, etc. They usually all share strict regulations mainly pertaining to outward appearance. When I was a child, we attended a "Wesleyan Holiness" church. A new pastor came in and all was well until he greeted myself, my siblings and my mother at the door on Sunday morning and wondered where our father was? My mother informed him that my father had to work at the hospital on that Sunday (which wasn't really the norm because he was able to be off on most Sundays). This did not sit well with the new pastor and things deteriorated quickly. First, he told my father that he could no longer play his trombone on the platform, but that he would have to sit on the first pew instead with his back to the congregation. Next, he slowly removed my father and mother from the song schedule and then he withheld their Sunday school booklet material. I guess thinking this did not get the job done at forcing them out, he resorted to public verbal abuse from the pulpit. He mentioned that food we had donated to them, had been thrown in the trash, he made fun of my mothers piano playing even going as far as to bash on the piano keys during a sermon. The straw that broke the camels back finally occurred one Sunday morning after my uncle had died a very tragic death. I was very close to my uncle and had witnessed some of the aftermath of his death and I still have emotional scars from that to this day. Another family had also suffered a death in the church at the same time. Our family, as well as the other family, sent thank you cards to the church because people from the church came to support us at the viewing of our uncle. As was the custom, the pastor would read the cards publicly that were sent to the church. He read the thank you card from the other family and once again expressed his sympathy to them. When he came to our card (and I will use another last name for privacy), he said the following from the pulpit, "And as for the Thomas family, I don't know what happened to their card, I think I threw it in the trash" and then he laughed. I will never forget that feeling as a kid. I was crushed and just destroyed. He chose instead of attempting to help heal us, to simply twist the verbal knife all because my father worked on Sunday at a hospital. It has been 26 years, but I tracked him down finally and I'm going to mail a letter to him mainly asking why he did what he did and explaining how I felt, and also saying that I forgive him. Its emotional baggage I have held for a while and at least for me, I won't be responsible for anything when I stand before Christ. I have received advice though that this mans reply may not be very kind and if it isn't, I am sending both my letter and his to their conference president.
Very disturbing story told to me at Newfound Baptist Church in Leicester NC! I had heard about a man who drove into a church parking lot not far from where I use to live. This man had attempted to get help from someone in that church rather they told him to get out of their parking lot. Must have been another day than Sunday. Anyway I was told the guy stayed in his car for several hours and not leave; eventually someone went into the parking lot to see why the man was still there and found that he had shot himself to death. The pastor who told me this story is currently the pastor at that same church but was not the pastor at that time but he had heard the story and told me. I thought how could anyone allow that disturbed man not to be shown love and concern where he probably assumed someone there might care. Need less to say that poor man's hopes had to have hit rock bottom as he met with heartlessness! Also the pastor who told me the story acted as though the man was at fault for causing a disturbance which later on I ended up being the target of the very pastor that told me the story. He had, at one point, told me over the phone "it's my time and there is nothing you can do to take that from me" along with throwing scriptures from Peter (can't remember 1 or 2). He got angry with me because I asked questions in front of the congregation and he could not answer them so he retaliated by telling me not to come in there to cause trouble. Eventually he got me to the side before a morning service and said the deacons came to him and asked him to tell me not to ask questions in front of the kids during service. I looked at him and said "I do not answer to you nor anyone else in this church especially you, I done what God has told me to do and I will not keep silent at your command". The questions I asked were about Biblical matters so why was he so offended at them, other than he felt ashamed not able to give answer. Hum very certain he is a narcissistic pastor. Actually I was sent there to test this situation and in so doing I also learned how severely dangerous people sitting under such person can be in a whole mess of trouble! We are told in "1 John 4:1 Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world." (KJV). Notice the subtile ways they do things because once you become aware of it how can it be subtile?! Cunning, deceptiveness, trickiness, etc. preys on those who are not aware! Please I implore people, seeking to find truth, ask The Holy Spirit for guidance! May God strengthen those who are warning people to be careful to what they listen to and know that you are not alone. :~~~0~~~:
Timewilltell I want to first thank you for sharing your story. You have touched my heart. I have been a victim of the righteous congregation. It destroyed my happiness within that church because I was about to become a new member. The problem was that I was a teen mom and all the children in the church wanted to be around me. I have a gift from God that draws people especially children around me. I genuinely love people and enjoy them so much. I love learning from them and would never judge or disrespect others. I never said or did anything wrong but just being a young mom was an abomination to them. No one even talked to me about my life or what happened. I was treated as if I was going to corrupt the kids and caused problems in the church. One young lady (around 14) told me that she could never sit with me again because I had a child and I could only tell her how to get pregnant. I was devastated. I wanted to speak with her mom to let her know how much I loved and respected her daughter and would never do something like that. I was convicted of this when all I wanted was to find a caring church that me and my daughter could be a part of. I stopped going feeling as if I was totally worthless. My family was full of narcissism and treated me like fresh poop. I know God loves me and that he has a plan for me and my family. We're not the undesirables that my family and so many righteous people claim. Now I am so grateful and I all love people even more than before. I show love with actions and encouragement. I moved to another state away from the narcissistic family. I live my life and kids thank me for not allowing my family and righteous people to hurt them. I'm not a member of a church but I do fellowship with different ones. Blessings to you and your family. 🤗🤗🤗
Amen... Calvin was a classic narcissist --- killing all who disagreed with him.
God bless you, Nora... you're alright.
+5winder Thanks so much sweetheart, you're totally awesome too.🤗
By you giving the exact name of the church and location of that church, you are gossiping about that church on this forum.
In doing so, you are no different than the narcissist and the many games the Narc likes to play with their smear campaigns.
Slanderers will not inherit the kingdom of heaven - 1 Corinthians 6:10.
You should repent & let go of what ever hard feelings you have for that church.
The more popular pastors are charismatic and charisma is one of the specialties of the overt Narcissist. A humble believe never "lights up the room", so the people actually demand a Narcissist.
Now that i understand narcissism and empath the first thing I thought was OMG Pastors are narcissist too and found this video to confirm.
I was abused by a pastor when I was 6. I never really recovered from it; it messed with me, especially when I was in college.
He's still in his position at that very same church - I just found out last week. I wish I could hate him, but I'm pretty much just numb
Turn him in. Bet he still does it with others. Read the book might help you "Forgiveness and justice - the right cheek Hits back"
It's not so simple just to turn someone in.. your whole life will be turned around and the court system does not always find someone guilty. Sometimes there is no justice
Thank you for sharing. I left a cultish church about two years ago, and I'm still picking up the pieces. The guy is on TBN and Daystar. The congregation worships him.
When I left horrible things were said about me. They said I was demonized and warned the congregation not to associate with me.
I sold my house and moved away from my family to be part of this ministry.
I lost my entire support structure, and I nearly lost my faith.
Two years later and I'm thinking on joining an Eastern Orthodox church, because Protestant churches are all Pastor centered and Orthodox churches are Sacrament centered.
I hear a lot of people expressing what you did about Eastern Orthodox. They do have a more mature idea concerning leadership where they are firm that people can not discern their own calling into leadership (self-elect themselves). There are also body centered churches - read "Pagan Christianity" by Frank Viola as a third option you might find more inline with scripture.
Good for you get away from demon possessed folks that tried to target you as the "black sheep" at the end of the day you don't belong amongst wolves in sheep's clothing. No you're not part of that clan brother. Blessings! ✌🏻
Sir, don’t cry! I know this hurts...I grew up in a narcissistic family of church pastors, elders, leaders, ministers and they wear a mask! I saw it today. I have a sister who pretends to be a Minister but she is one of the biggest liars! She has the fake tongues and everything. She wants people to stick to her because it covers up her hurt and I look at the preachers who claim she’s holy. I’m like “Now, I know God is not in you because He would’ve told you everything in darkness that she does, and not lied and told you she’s holy because she’s far from it.” I have a brother who is a narccist and is controlling. My older brother is a Bishop and molested his own daughter and step daughter and lied about it. That personality disorder is horrible! Almost makes you want to leave the church! I’m fortunate that that sickness skipped me (I went to see a psychiatrist to make sure I wasn’t imagining what I was seeing because I don’t act like them).
My narcissistic ex-husband is a pastor. He destroyed our family by having several affairs. He divorced me and re-married one of his girlfriends. My children are all scattered and have left the faith. Why has God allowed this? These evil pastors are ruining the church. I thought God loves the family?? But He has allowed my family and my life to be destroyed. This is all very difficult to accept.
This was a very thought provoking video Aaron. Thank you for sharing. It is very imperative that us Christians start addressing the sin that is happening in our churches. God gave us the word for a reason and I very much believe that the Bible holds the framework on how to address and correct these issues. I hope you are doing well and that you have found a congregation that you can call home. God bless.
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I find that abusive pastors are hiding major sin in their private lives and they will know who is a threat to them because it's a spirit driving them that doesn't want to be exposed . Our job is to intercede for them and their families in an attempt to have them restored and healing take place for everyone involved .
Awesome! Thank you for saying out loud what I felt in my heart, but didn't know how to explain! I would have returned to church if I this wasn't such an epidemic! You expressed the truth 100%.
Finally, some one standing up and telling the truth. I have been an organist for 25 years and believe me, there are many pastors that are so full of themselves and organists have to deal with these people!!!!!! They scream that the scriptures (Acts 20:28). I once had a Lutheran Pastor tell me that even if it was minus 60 degrees outside, he could turn off the church furnace because the Bible gave him full authority. And he was a gay pastor!!!!
Thanks, Aaron Walker. I will share this on my Facebook. I believe you. You & I are in the same mind. My entire family are Christian Narcs & borderline personality. I just discovered this 2 years ago. I need you on my team.
Just do like I did, I have created my own little group of five people, we pray together and learn the Bible little by little.
I really appreciate how you present a problem and offer a solution instead of just talking about the sad problem. A lot of people seem to do that and any topic here on TH-cam. But I also wanted to add something to what you said you talked about how narcissistic, pastors, manipulate and abuse and families. This is far more prevalent than anyone realizes towards individuals. Individuals who have family. Individuals who try to come to the church and to be involved very easily people who just disappear from the church after being very harmed and no one notices they weren’t family. They were just the quiet weird one who was made out to be more awkward than they even were to be ostracized and then just disappear like you never existed From the church is a very painful experience in addition to what they do to you. These type of pastors create a very toxic culture within their churches so thank you for bringing up this topic. I learned a little bit about to go to church relatively new Christian I haven’t been able to figure out why churches weren’t well with mewith me no matter what I did. it’s very painful to be accused and gossip about and no one notices and everyone just agrees and then you disappear and no one notices and to be treated like you’re crazy like something wrong with you. you’re being accused of things that you’re not doing you can’t ever get to the root of what you actually have going on because no one’s perfect but if you’re being accused of a whole bunch of things that aren’t even true, you can’t figure out what’s even wrong really. And then something wrong with you and they ostracize you and you get worse. I don’t even know how to put, but it’s so insidious and sad.
Please pray for my healing
May God use this video to bless the poor sheep feeling isolated and confused at this moment. I pray to my beloved brethren that you may receive comfort today. May God bless you with His peace. 🙏
“Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”
John 14:27
I've seen it too where gossip is facilitated in order to get people to leave. Then they are painted as sinful or having problems with authority after they parted from the congregation. People who are not informed of the original disagreement are manipulated into shunning and scapegoating the targeted family.
Imagine a system where a hierarchy is established where the person at the top is making unbelievable claims and expecting no questioning, no pushback, no analysis, just blind acceptance of unbelievable ideas. The people unquestionably accept those ideas because they desire answers to questions, community belonging, support, reinforcement of belief, etc. Doesn’t that perfectly set up a situation for a self-obsessed leader likely to abuse that power?
You are So spot on. I personally knew one, almost destroyed a whole community. And he is still manipulating and spinning a web of deceit and lies. He is pure filth.
Yep! Those kinds exist. I pray for no more innocent victims to be preyed upon....
At 66, knew this at 5 when I discovered poverty. I noticed the opulent church, leaders and all the poor putting into collection plates all they had! We were in church serving, as a family. Mom, wouldn’t listen. She drank the kool-aid.
Thank you for posting this! I just came out of an abusive church I was a part of for 15 years. The pastor was a covert narcissist. He became a pastor at 25 and that set him off as arrogant to begin with. He always said 25 was to young but God was desperate to get correct doctrine into the community. Red flag right there 🚩 but I was only 15 when I started going so I didn’t see the signs.
Any time a church tells you God needs us, it will always be a red flag. I’ve,too, learned this the hard way.
I've had a lot of pastors through the years. Every single one of them was a narcissist. A lot of it has to do with the hierarchical system. The senior pastor out ranks everyone else. They are above everyone else. The hierarchical system is rooted in paganism.
Many many of them are sociopaths & psychopaths in robes & suits with double lives with deprived minds only God knows how they plan to abuse their "victims"....may The Lord Rebuke them All!
Outside your church sundays, the social events within the faith easily become taken over by narcissists who seek praise and attention for their hosting, prepared foods,,and guard their role viciously to ensure no one else can serve in this way....
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Thank you very much for this. I’ve been dealing with Jonathan Kleck. I’ve spend my time trying to warn others over his abuse and lies. He’s tried to destroy my family because of his own “doctrine”. He’s on TH-cam under Cory Barbee channel and on Kleck files. TH-cam has done nothing to help with his abuse toward my family. We have had to file police reports to protect ourselves from his followers that he has whipped into a frenzy to attack us. It’s a long story. Please anyone who reads this warn others!
Didn’t get a good feeling from that guy the 1 or 2 times that I listened to him.
I wouldn't vent to your pastor/church staff about your personal life/problems. If they're a narc they may blackmail you or gossip to manipulate you or how you feel and/or are viewed by others. Cringy.
19:00 OMG! I almost died earlier this year because I've been stuck in a similar, though different, experience. And no one cared except my youngest son, who is still too young to deal with this. The fact that YOU are dealing with this touches me, and it's somewhat healing. Thanks for expressing this. It's impossible to live well without community support, and you're providing that here so thanks again!
Was sent this video as I'm wrestling with whether to stay with my church, or whether to confront my arrogant pastor and try to find out if he is for God and his people or for himself. As you say, he makes a great show of his doctorate, his self authored books, his clinical psychologist wife, his healing. There's no fellowship but a quick coffee at the end of a boring lengthy sermon by the pastor. He talks about himself EVERY week and collects money. Where is God here? I'm sick of it.
My pastor has since banned me. I asked who he served. Banned from church building. He pushed the Pfizer jab to his congregation. I disputed that.
Why do you waste your time with that? You'll never get that time back you know.
@@LittleKitty22 he banned me so I've not been there since Sept 2021. He started telling everyone to get the Pfizer jab. Plus always demands money. So I said "Pastor Reg, who do you serve?" Banned me from the building.
Just bc they go to school, earn a diploma… doesn’t mean these people are worthy of leading people, or spiritually connected.