"Karma can happen in 3hrs, 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months, 3 years, 3 decades or 3 lifetimes"..... Let that resonate with your spirit, because there's no use waiting on karma when you might not even witness it.
True, but best believe hurting people comes right back to the person. That's why I don't hold grudges when people hurt me. I've seen karma happen time and time again.
Tanesha Burley me too sorry 😐 but not sorry I send this man use women after woman, cheat , lie etc you name it . I don’t talk my ex put i payer to god let me see and get my closure.
Its 1st type of karm that u saying Everyone action equal and opposite reaction..its bad but not enough compare to 2nd type of karm.that is Every action comes and stays.. every move .. make a karma body around spirit. Good move will raise consciousness and make angelic body😊 bad move 👿 will drop down consciousness, And when u die,, u will have to go through evolution. *8.4 million* species, *33 million* years of total lifespan. Than u will become human again.. its worst too worst.. And its a loop, u can't get out of this.. Unless u dont do 3rd type karm.
Momlifewithdaisy Me either. Trying to cover it up leads to bitterness. I am in a city where the women are cliquish. I have not been able to bond with people who expect you to do what they do, go where they go, not like the people they don’t like. I have met users and abusers here. I choose not to associate with people like this. I am generally to myself. I enjoy my alone time because I have a busy life (wife, mom, entrepreneur). It’s crazy that I haven’t been able to get past what people have done or said to me that was hurtful. I know most people can bounce back but I am a cutthroat person. Once you have betrayed me, it’s over. Being an empath doesn’t allow me to let it go though. It’s like taking poison and expecting someone else to die. How do we get past this?
The best revenge is leveling up and being stupidly happy. The people who do that stuff to you expecting you to have your head low after that. Your job is to make sure their eyes bug out six months down the line when they see you flourishing. Especially these men. They know when they hurt us, and they expect us to be holding the head low. Show them you ain’t holding nothing low.
I've just learned not to expect apologies from anybody. I just feel like most people don't care truly. I move on and learn to keep my distance from people.
As someone who apologizes and has no problem apologizing when I’m wrong- it’s really difficult For me to not expect the same from ppl. I always end up hurt cause I don’t get those well deserved apologies and I internalize it- when in reality I gotta just let it tf go. Not everyone will apologize when they should, and I won’t allow my emotional maturity and ability to apologize be affected by those. It’s hard tho!
That's true and alot of people feel guilty but they don't have the character that it takes to humble themselves and apologize. I agree that moving on is key and creating distance is a good way to heal. Out of sight, out of mind.
Sadly this is true. I do have expectations and I always will. However what I do now compared to the past is when those expectations aren't met I do exactly what you said...walk away!
@ Humble Vege Thank You it use to frighten me now I embrace this gift. I am learning to protect my energy and surround myself with more gifted and talented people. I am finally in my comfort zone I had to learn everyone is not capable of Love. One of our sisters helped me to tip into new me setting boundaries.
This is why healing your inner child and taming your outer child is very important for your mental health. You can’t force people to understand your perspective. You give your power away when you place blame and refuse to take responsibility for your response / behavior to others.
Dorky BlackGirl I have realized even if they understand they don’t know how to comfort you or even apologize. Acknowledging another person’s feeling and making amends is a skill that is not taught to everyone. Sending you positive energy on your journey *huge hug*
Beyoncé said it best “Your best revenge is your paper.” I don’t take that statement as literal as some because I honestly think she just means going on to live the most successful life you can. I had someone (a dude) I was dealing with do me so dirty a few years ago. I was so angry because I was nothing but kind to him and I just couldn’t process how someone could be so foul to someone who was nothing but good to them. But I had to let that go. He’s a dusty and I couldn’t let him have another iota of my energy and peace by waiting for an apology. He’s still struggling to this day making pennies, meanwhile I’m thriving with a six-figure salary AND a successful and growing TH-cam channel and brand. Letting go and moving on is the BEST thing you can do for yourself and it’s your best revenge.
just watched your video & subscribed! I can tell you’ll deliver quality, organized content like Chloe. I am curious, what do you do for a living that earns 6 figures? I am unhappy with my current situation & am thinking of going back to school to learn a new trade.
Yes I had the same situation I had a man who hurt me when I was very nice to him. I let him go and then I went back to school got my masters degree and have a good job and I just moved into a really nice apartment, and him he is working a bunch of odd jobs and is living hand to mouth.
This may apply to me with my child’s father. I just came to the conclusion that I’m done with him and his family. I tried to be cordial over the years for the sake of our daughter but I’ve been lied on, disrespected. I’m cool. He don’t speak to me, I don’t speak to him. I don’t even want an apology. My daughter has her own phone, she can talk to them if she chooses. Me, I’ll never be friends with them. I value my peace
Wow, this resonates so much with me as well..I used to be so emotional over the lack of connection a whole family could have just bc just one of their sons marriage ended and divorce...like life goes on 🤷🏾♀️. The best "revenge" (not really revenge but am being colorful) was raising my son w/o their influence...healing, bettering myself, (just graduated from Nursing School), and...and receiving notice from my sons school that they think he should be in gifted program/skipping a grade! That let me know that I did ....THAT
Read the book “The Four Agreements” and when your done read it again... lol... it’s been a little while but one of the agreements are along the lines of “don’t take anything personal” what ppl do to you has more to wit them and little to do wit u... it’s the way they are, how they were raised etc... don’t internalize it. Just keep that in ur mind and also figure out why it’s happening and what u can learn from the situation and then let it go.
Exactly. One cannot flourish being angry or resentful, waiting for an apology that will never happen. People who hurt others rarely apologize, because they feel a sense of power knowing that they can control your life mentally. The minute they apologize that power is taken away. Taking your power back is letting go of that hurt, or at least not letting it manifest into something that changes you negatively.
sweet pea J you’re absolutely right. I held on to some hurt and bitterness over the way my supervisor treated me while pregnant. She endangered the life of my unborn child and myself. Later I saw evidence that she was copying every aspect of my life. I felt like my husband didn't believe me but instead took her side. I was angry every day. Waiting and waiting for an apology. You're comment, and this video is tearfully freeing. I can now learn to let go and not wait around for an apology.
Monique has the money and influence to create her own production company, she can create her own content. Pitch a deal to TH-cam or Hulu. When people say no, say yes to yourself. Create your own lane!
I was listening to Monique being interviewed and she even places monetary value on what O and crew did. But she has a comedy special coming up even though O hasn't done anything!!!! It's that Sydney y'all!!!!!!!!
My parents damaged me emotionally. For years and years I have been waiting for the apology. I have confronted both of them and always manipulate the situation. I learned just recently that they both suffered rejection from their fathers and in African culture you DON'T EVER confront your parents. My grandfathers NEVER apologized to them! My father is narcissistic and my mom is an emotional vampire! I have been sitting hoping they would realize their faults but they never will! My Scorpio moon NEEDS TO LET THIS SHIT GO! My parents don't think they can do wrong and if I don't let it go, I am continuing this generational curse! Thank you for this Chloe.
Once I let the “expectation” go from others my life got better. I stopped expecting others to be like me. Expecting them to be genuine in their actions. Now I almost expect them to fold sooner than later.
Yesss Expectation will have you upset, disappointed and angry most the times.And half the time the person you have these high expectations are not even aware of it.
I definitely struggle with this. I saw a dusty ex the other day and I was so enraged, but then I had to center myself put on my shades and "unsee" him. I had to thank God for the good man I have at home, and be grateful that I will never be subjected to his ashy ass ever again. Live in the now, and don't let anybody pull you back to the past. Life is good.
I speak from experience. Once you realize you will never get that apology from whoever wronged you, it’s very important to let it go for your own sanity and emotional healing because it will only hurt your spirit and your energy in the end 💜
only you can speak to my soul like this and make me let go of the hurt i have been holding onto for years, I felt so wronged and held onto it, but here you are opening my eyes. somewhere in my head Queen Chole is my blood Big sister from same mom and dad. the rate at which she is saving young ladies has me beyond proud to identify with her. Dear Queen Chloe, if you ever read this comment I hope you see through my comment that I am holding my heart on my sleeves to say I love you soooooooo much ❤❤🤗🤗😥😥. sending blessings from Africa to you mama. thank you Queen, thank you. RESPECT!!!! ❤❤❤
Honestly take it as a blessing. I know it sounds cliche, but someone who ghosts people says a lot about their personality. They're not considerate of your feelings. Also, from my experience, men who ghost usually are not looking for committment, just fun and ghost you when you're not about that life. That's not who you want in your life anyways.
Mégane MINKO please do what ever it takes to heal - u deserve some one who value you enough to tell u the truth As for me -I was doing well until he messaged me , I did not respond but I have a lot of thoughts
The healing process begins as soon as you move on from being hurt. 10 years after being hurt, when the apology finally came it didn't even mean anything because by then I have had closure for 10 years and have been busy living a wonderful life. Sometimes karma happen behind closed doors, you may never see it happening. Karma is not meant for the person who got hurt to get revenge but instead it exist for the person who have done wrong to experience and learn.
Yes mam .. u have to take matters into your own hands and dismantle all those negative feelings and channel it into uplifting yourself and moving on. The only person that owes you something is YOURSELF. Happiness comes from within and we go wrong looking for resources outside of ourselves to make us feel complete.. release childhood trauma ..release your negative views on yourself ..and create better thinking patterns to manifest the life you deserve.. theres no greater love than self love.
The idea of karma is comedic to me. You want the universe and mystic forces to seek vengeance on the people who were mean to you. You sound like you’re five. Whilst you’re harboring that resentment that person has moved on and most of the time, they don’t even remember what they did to you.
My ex friend called me back last year and I thought she was going to apologize. I didnt expect the convo to go left so quickly. I was just speechless as she spoke as if she was the innocent one. I knew she hurt me and I felt it strongly in my soul but you know what... I agreed with her. Later she did apologize but it I knew it wasn't genuine. I knew what she did to me was wrong but I just.. I dont know... after the phone call I blocked her and any1 who associated with her. I felt relieved but I was still hurt. I forgave her but I was just done with this abusive demon of a friend. She tried to call/text me multiples times but I refuse to contact her. I realized that I shouldn't have agreed with her and really never answered the phone in the first place. People like that are narcissistic and will never admit that they were in the wrong. If they do, it's a fake apology. I'm getting better now but it takes time. I'm on my guard all the time when I'm making friends. I have a gift to read ppl/ feel the energy in the roomand I need to use it more because I'm tired of ending up in the same toxic situations. Everyone please watch out who you let in your circle. If its only you and God so be it. Peace of mind is more important than a fake ppl any day. O one more tip, use the spirit of discernment for help. It can save you time and your life. Literally. Please take it from me.
Did I type this in my sleep or something? I SWEAR You sound just like me ..your story...the way you handled it ..everything ..I could tell u some stories and I'm sure u could tell me some....
Energy or not, we are humans. As long as we are alive, people are always going to cross the line. The vetting process is one thing but the coping/ recovering is another. All the best
I don't think enough emphasis is put on emotional intelligence in modern society. Took me a LONG, bitter while to get there but i thank God I got here.
This is why therapy/counselling is important. Everyone has a right to be heard, and to be seen. It is feminine to get help. Reach out to get the tools and the medicine needed to heal. We deserve it. This is resilience. This is self-empowerment. Pretending like an issue doesnt exist does not make them go away! People don't have to agree with you for you to know you are right. A lot of people need people to agree with them for them to feel "right" or accepted. Accept yourself and flow with those who are in your corner. Thanks Chloe- this vid is one of your top 5s.
Alot of times, I am more disappointed in my own feelings, thoughts and actions. Being desperate for a husband in the wrong man. I have decided to focus on the Lord and what he wants for my life. I've given so much of my time and energy to under developing men; whom I see some kind of potential in. I am not upset with men but, my own short comings. This insight shows me how wrong I have been throughout my life. We must not give up our time and love so easily; without even considering the value we possess. Improving self is first!
I completely understand & is currently living the truth of acceptance that certain people who have done me a great wrong in my life will never apologize. When I continued to demand explanations & apologies it stressed me out bad. Then someone said something that snapped me out of: your pain is their joy. You will never get an apology or explanation because they want you to be confused stressed & heartbroken. That's their POWER OVER YOU!
I used to deal with hurt and anger. I would lose sleep, cry my eyes out, and just be angry/miserable. Then I realized a lot of people are hurt and angry, that shit spreads like a virus. I had to learn to let things go and move on. I'm not trying to get premature wrinkles, frown lines, and crow's feet. Now that I'm good mentally and emotionally those some m'fers are calling me "cold" and "selfish" because I pay them NO MIND. Some people are just so damn sick in the head...
"Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. " - Buddha Sometimes the hardest thing to do is forgive someone who's not sorry. I'm still learning how to truly forgive those that have hurt me n it's the best decision I've decided to make.
Always come back to yourself, the little girl or for men the little boy insids of you. You are responsible for your healing...love yourself, know yourself, take care of yourself, and know that you are valuable and loved in the sight of God!
I’m so happy you touched on this subject Chloe! I’ve witnessed family members and friends hold on to childhood pain like it was their best friend. Because emotions and feelings connect us back to a memory, people relive and create those feelings over and over. It’s so important to teach you children how to get over and let go of disappointments, because they’re going to come. But as the older folks would say, ‘it can’t storm forever’.
Let me you tell you something lovies. You have to understand you are the keeper of your peace and well being. You are NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU!!!!!! IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT AND YOU DID NOT DESERVE IT!!!!! BUT MY DEAR BEAUTIFUL SISTER AND BROTHER. You have to gurd up all your inner strength, you have to believe you are who you choose to be, not what they caused. Love yourself enough to protect the princess / prince inside of you and be the best you can be. Set yourself free LEVEL UP, BECOME BETTER, AND DO ALL YOUR HEART DESIRES TOO. YOUR LIFETIME DESERVE YOUR BEST MEMORIES TO BE MADE AND REMEMBERED IN YOUR OLD AGE. LET IT GO AWAY
This is a timely reminder. I caught myself arguing on social media about some social justice issue and noticed it didn’t feel good. It can be hard to not get sucked into those things. But you’re right, we can’t be angry and feminine at the same time. And I want to be feminine.
Oh I needed this! I've been so angry and full of resentment lately. It's draining on my spirit, I hate feeling that way. It's so freeing to hear that you don't need their apology to move onnnnnnn!
Me: Note to self: 1) Stop using rage and outrage as a hiding place to avoid looking in the mirror. 2) Stop drinking the poison of anger and expecting the person who hurt you to die. 3) Stop waiting for the person who caused the pain to fix it. Just stop! Thank you Chloe_!
I struggle with this☹️ I went through bullying from kindergarten to 6th grade and it's been extremely hard for me to make friends in college. The school teachers and administration did absolutely nothing to protect me when I got bullied. They saw it happen with their own eyes, but did absolutely nothing. I also didn't tell my parents or try to water down how bad it was because I was afraid the bullying would get even worse if they got punished for it. I didn't realize how much childhood bullying affected me until I was in college away from my friends. We all still hang out because we all go to college in the same area, but it's still hard not knowing anyone in all of your classes. I don't trust anyone besides my family and current friends. It takes an extremely long time for me to warm up to people and i always assume the worst in a new situation. Academically I'm succeeding but socially I'm not. I want to get to know people but I'm very reserved and cautious so people assume I'm a bitch and don't approach me☹️
Most folks will never apologize that have wronged you because they don’t even feel that they are wrong or are too prideful to own up to their wrongdoing. Take your life back! Forgiveness is key to your best quality life. You just have to move on. Fire 🔥 message!
You have to keep your head up & keep moving on with your life. Don't deal with the person who hurt you anymore & try to avoid people who are like them. Learn the lesson & keep living. Be cautious about who you let into your life going forward.
Waiting for closure/apologies is like giving the person who hurt you the keys to your car and being kept parked in a garage to gather dust. We can’t give others our power to move forward with our lives or we will never be fulfilled.
I definitely struggle with this. I'm still mad at all my bullies from elementary and middle school. I'm still mad at my first grade teacher for hitting my hand with a yardstick ruler because I answered a question wrong, my 2nd ex for playing me, and my classmates for treating me like I'm invisible until they needed something in high school. Forgiving is hard.
Thank you i am doing allllllll these things you spoke on. I desperately need to set myself free. I am waiting on karma. I am wasting away. Until now. You are a blessing. Thank you thank you thank you❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺
I struggle with this. I'm disappointed (among many other thoughts, feelings and descriptive words) with both my parents. The LACK of: ~parenting, ~love/teamwork between the 2 of them as a couple, ~love for us the children, ~teaching how to love/view/conduct ourselves properly as growing indiviuals ~financial awareness/education ~Etc. I appreciate people like you Chloe because I am learning things that my whole family, both sides and many generations has not known or taught each other. Sad. (Been listening to you almost a year now) You Tube has been a big Eye-Opener👀 for me. I know I want to change and get better... Honestly, there's very slow moving progress on my part (not your fault nor your problem...I know) to apply what you've been sharing because it is very difficult to start from scratch (or wherever you are) and grow/move on, etc. I realize I'm immature in many ways. In my 30s but still feel and function like a Teen🤦🏿♀️ Most days I walk around in circles not knowing how to live, think, focus or enjoy life...but my slow progress & learning is better than NONE AT ALL🤷🏿♀️ Sometimes I wish I could strip my identity from my parents; I wish didn't look like them, walk, talk or act anything like them. I want nothing from them, and I don't want to have kids--avoid damaging someone else... I'm a loner because I feel I don't have the basic human tools to connect with people, let alone a man in an intimate relationship/ companionship etc..... With Mo'nique, I can understand her pain and disappointment. I've never heard or thought of ""accepting the apology that you're never going to get"" before this video, so that's something she and i will both have to do. The positive words here & the opposite of pain expressed sounds refreshing. It still sounds too good to be true for me sometimes. But I won't give up. I just finally realize that the damage is severe and deep. Lots of exhausting, daily self-work but I gotta believe there's something better in the end. Guess I've held myself back by wanting an apology. Time to let go. I look forward to a time when I'll have enough money to never have to be around my family (pay off Debts, save$ and move away for good). I also want to have enough money for SELF-CARE, a new wardrobe, all the fun yet necessary things you mention that I've neglected 😬😳. Anyway, change is in progress here. Thank you for what you do🤗💗
OMGGGGGGG!!!!! I LOVE YOUUUUUUUU FOR THISSS! This made me realize that why I’ve been so stuck!!! I am never going to get apologies! I am never going to get the justice I want!!! I have to accept this and move forward! I have to start feeling better TODAY! I have to be optimistic about my life now!!!
I had to let go of the fact that my sons dad no longer wanted me. Even though I lost weight and found my purpose, I still struggled with this. When I saw that he was dating and posting pictures of them when he didnt like doing those things with me. I realized that I had to let go, so I wouldn't become a bitter baby mother. I didnt want that title. I'm so happy now and dating high caliber men. Now he wants to talk when exchanging my son. I keep moving like my next engagement is starting soon.
This is so true always accept the apology you will never get and live your best life!! I live by that but they always comes back and apologize when they realize I’m living my life and I don’t care
I've been able to move on from anger and pain after watching a countless amount of videos from many coaches on the internet. And I must admit that getting peace at last is priceless. Thanks to all of you! The job that you are doing is actually saving lives.
You are absolutely undeniably right. Her pain and expectation of an apology is adding a dangerous mass of weight to her future happiness and soul. That psychologically hinders our full capability to be happy. This is an eye-opener for me. All the time you convince yourself that you have fully let go of someone or situation but if you are still waiting for your # to be called in the "Waiting Room for Apologies" that pain still has a slight if not full hold on you. Priceless lesson learned today.
You are dropping knowledge!!! Anger, resentment, & bitterness can be taking you over without being aware because you have not healed!!! We have to do the work ladies!!! It takes work to heal.
I appreciate this sooooo much... literally ever since I started watching chloe it has opened my eyes so much.. and I’ve been looking at the man I was attempting to deal with ..with the side eye... honestly if it wasn’t for the videos I know I would still be chasing him. But I know for a fact I deserve better now. Single mom or not.
Dear Chloe, I am thankful with you for sharing all your knowdge and helping us to become more femenine, in order to be the better version ourselves and live a better life.
100%! I too had to learn to stop waiting on apologies from those who hurt me. I am better off for it. They didn't know, didn't care and in some cases moved on. I have since done the same.
Saying let go is easy when that person isn't in your life or treats you better now as an adult. But if that person is your parent and still doesn't respect you and still trys to handle the same as they did when you were a child that's an issue. It is far harder to forgive -
If this person was capable of doing you how they did you, an apology would be nothing short of a miracle. Why hold your breath and allow someone who did you wrong dictate how you move and operate? Free yourself❤︎
My best friend suggested that I watch this video. Although I’ve been a huge fan of your videos and watch them religiously. Lately I’ve been struggling to forgive my mother and father for things that they have in my childhood which affect me currently. As of lately I’ve been using alcohol to suppress my emotions and hold onto bitterness and resentment I have towards my parents for not feeling remorseful at all and I’m trying to let it go but it’s just hard right now but I am trying the best way I know how. I know that me holding on will stagnate my level up journey. I dream of the day that I will finally let go of the hurt and pain of the past and be confident in/ love myself which WILL happen (speaking it into existence). This video helped a lot thank you so much, your timing is so well. You always seem to drop videos right when I need them.You are appreciated❤️
A beautiful message. I had to begin with forgiving myself. The honest truth is that sometimes we play out the roles we witnessed in our households growing up. Unfortunate but "un learning" patterns that do not serve us can be hard lessons. After some failed relationships i had to look at myself and ask.. why am I participating in these situations. What am I doing, what am I not doing, how can i learn a different relationship language if I am committed to making a change. I have ALWAYS been an extremely feminine woman so that was not the issue, but found myself constantly being taken advantage of by men. I was just exhausted and tired and realized i did not have the strength nor energy to do it in that way ever again. I cried a lot over the loss of my marriage and the dysfunction of being with a narcissistic dusty who initially appeared to be Mr. Wonderful. I had to free my mind and forgive and let go ( as I still have some interaction with my ex in raising our daughter). I divorced him but was not going to let him live in my head and I knew that it was a lesson that I would never again repeat so rehashing the past and feeling the same emotions did nothing to help me. He is who he is and is never going to change. I am the one that changed, and ALL FOR THE BETTER!
This!!! Especially if you are dealing with a narcissistic person and/or emotionally unavailable they simply don’t care that you are angry or bitter. They are off living their lives carefree and/or playing somebody else.
Trust me.. not letting it go has led to me experiencing severe depression and becoming bitter and resentful towards people I know didn't deserve it. But I'm trying my best to let shit go because if not you'll sink so deep itll be really hard to come back from it...keep going sis lots of us are in it knee deep but we must find a way xxx
I needed to hear this! I shook my head when I heard Monique released an open letter. Now I realize I am her and she is me. I just let the whole world see that side of me like she did
I was hurt deeply. I never received the apology that I deserve. For several months i was broken and tortured. Then today A great friend of mine shared one of your videos. I'm so grateful to be introduced to you virtually.
Closure is man made! What you really want is validation for your feelings because YOU don't truly believe in yourself or your feelings. You want someone else to make you feel better about your feelings. If you truly believed and validated yourself then letting go should not be a problem. Why give some else that much power over you. Honestly the person you really should be at is YOU. Some people don't want to admit that they gladly walked into nonsense out lack of self-love. It's ok we have all been there, now what?! In life you aren't competing or outgrowing anyone but yourself. The people in your life is simply a reflection of yourself as you grow the people around grow or you grow in another direction looking for a physical representation of you. It's 2020 it's about time we stop acting like it's not our fault! If Monique would simply get out of her masculine energy this whole issue would be solved, she wouldn't even have to say anything other people would be fighting for her. She's so hell-bent on being a strong black woman and look what that got her! Not a dam thing! Ladies you can either be a STRONG WOMAN or a FEMININE WOMAN you can't be both. Or you will end up being like Monique. Looking the part but operating in strong masculine energy! As much as men are visual they really don't care how good you look if you act masculine! You will not keep him acting like that sis! There are WAY too many women already doing this. Be different, as hard as it can be hard sometimes, feminine women are so rare that when people see one it's like they seen a unicorn!
Elizabeth Noir that's an ego perception that you have that's not what I said at all. A feminine woman knows her strength is her femininity she does not have to lead with anything else that that! Being ”a strong woman” in society's eyes is the use of masculine energy to prove your competence. What feminine women wants to been seen as being strong in that way? A feminine woman knows she can charm her way into getting what she wants while strong women will try to provide for herself to prove a point of how strong she is!
Amen however a learning lesson. Apology dont mean anything its words. Words dont change things however move on, enjoy the process, heal thy self, love your best life..... it's apart of life struggles and pitfalls
But how do you let go of anger and rage? It keeps coming back to me every time when I think I moved on and healed. They hurt me so much without any hurt being made to them. I am so mad and I can't stop being angry. It makes me cry because of how angry I am and I know they won't feel any hurt!
ma'am you jumped up in the air and came down on my big toe😭😭 I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS!! Thank you Chloë!! 😭😭 I needed this so much. Im listening on REPEAT!!!
Thanks Chloe, I really needed this. I’m finally at peace and am working to remove the residual anger from my last relationship. It’s not good to hold onto any of that.
Understanding has replaced forgiveness in my life. We are all children, we came in as blank slates and are only the product of our programming. Not one of us has the view (the Divines ability to see from all sides) to fully understand a circumstance so why not see the person as innocent and move on...It’s like being upset at a small child for knocking over a cake at a party, “they know not what the do.” We have all been in a situation where we don’t fully understand the weight of our actions. So let’s see the same innocence in our fellow humans. This is not an easy path but it’s peaceful beyond measure...Thank you Chloe for your work!
Monique is undoubtedly justified in her anger towards Oprah. However, Oprah has always been a biased individual. Surely Monique should know this by now
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I’m convinced people don’t care as much as we think they do. I’m accepting that.
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It's true. Even parents.
They don't........😮😂😂
Yep we shouldn’t either
"Karma can happen in 3hrs, 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months, 3 years, 3 decades or 3 lifetimes"..... Let that resonate with your spirit, because there's no use waiting on karma when you might not even witness it.
True, but best believe hurting people comes right back to the person. That's why I don't hold grudges when people hurt me. I've seen karma happen time and time again.
@@sweetpeaj1952 Yes 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💯👸🏽
Tanesha Burley me too sorry 😐 but not sorry I send this man use women after woman, cheat , lie etc you name it . I don’t talk my ex put i payer to god let me see and get my closure.
Its 1st type of karm that u saying
Everyone action equal and opposite reaction..its bad but not enough compare to
2nd type of karm.that is
Every action comes and stays..
every move .. make a karma body around spirit.
Good move will raise consciousness and make angelic body😊
bad move 👿 will drop down consciousness,
And when u die,, u will have to go through evolution. *8.4 million* species, *33 million* years of total lifespan. Than u will become human again.. its worst too worst..
And its a loop, u can't get out of this..
Unless u dont do 3rd type karm.
The best revenge is being unbothered. Count your blessings and keep it moving 💕
As an empath i cant do this.i try tto cover it up and be unbothered. Tryinng to do more of unbothered for 2020
@@TellyTingz2000 Sis you can do it 🙏🏾 I'm an empath too. I worked hard on myself. Try Meditation and study the law of attraction.
@@TheRealMsBlu yes Inner peace and work on myself. AMEN! let me go meditate seriously. Good idea.
momlifewithtelly same! I can fake being unbothered but I’m hot internally! No point faking it
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Me either. Trying to cover it up leads to bitterness. I am in a city where the women are cliquish. I have not been able to bond with people who expect you to do what they do, go where they go, not like the people they don’t like. I have met users and abusers here. I choose not to associate with people like this. I am generally to myself. I enjoy my alone time because I have a busy life (wife, mom, entrepreneur). It’s crazy that I haven’t been able to get past what people have done or said to me that was hurtful. I know most people can bounce back but I am a cutthroat person. Once you have betrayed me, it’s over. Being an empath doesn’t allow me to let it go though. It’s like taking poison and expecting someone else to die.
How do we get past this?
The best revenge is leveling up and being stupidly happy. The people who do that stuff to you expecting you to have your head low after that. Your job is to make sure their eyes bug out six months down the line when they see you flourishing. Especially these men. They know when they hurt us, and they expect us to be holding the head low. Show them you ain’t holding nothing low.
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That part
*Yes ma'am* 👌🏽
Smh 😢that’s my goal six months to a year. I isolated my self cut off a lot fake ppl and his family. Working on me
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I've just learned not to expect apologies from anybody. I just feel like most people don't care truly. I move on and learn to keep my distance from people.
Yes exactly. When I removed the expectation from people, I stopped getting my feelings hurt.
And even when they do apologize, they don’t truly mean it, so ur better off just moving forward. You know where you & that person stand
As someone who apologizes and has no problem apologizing when I’m wrong- it’s really difficult For me to not expect the same from ppl. I always end up hurt cause I don’t get those well deserved apologies and I internalize it- when in reality I gotta just let it tf go. Not everyone will apologize when they should, and I won’t allow my emotional maturity and ability to apologize be affected by those. It’s hard tho!
That's true and alot of people feel guilty but they don't have the character that it takes to humble themselves and apologize. I agree that moving on is key and creating distance is a good way to heal. Out of sight, out of mind.
Sadly this is true. I do have expectations and I always will. However what I do now compared to the past is when those expectations aren't met I do exactly what you said...walk away!
Empaths also feel pain on a deeper level.
@@humblevege how is not using our spirituality making blacks catch up. Dont understand your comment?
Humble Vege Are you sure the channel is called “silently loud”? Because when I searched it up, a channel pertaining to a different topic popped up.
@ Humble Vege Thank You it use to frighten me now I embrace this gift. I am learning to protect my energy and surround myself with more gifted and talented people. I am finally in my comfort zone I had to learn everyone is not capable of Love. One of our sisters helped me to tip into new me setting boundaries.
This is why healing your inner child and taming your outer child is very important for your mental health. You can’t force people to understand your perspective. You give your power away when you place blame and refuse to take responsibility for your response / behavior to others.
Dorky BlackGirl I have realized even if they understand they don’t know how to comfort you or even apologize. Acknowledging another person’s feeling and making amends is a skill that is not taught to everyone. Sending you positive energy on your journey *huge hug*
Dorky BlackGirl this comment brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for this perspective. I wish you nothing but the best on your journey. Namaste 🙏🏾
May God continously bless you and keep you always.
bitterness and anger is like drinking poison and waiting on the person that hurt you to die.
That part hit me hard
Yes.
I said this very same a few post up. Great minds ......
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Forgiving someone who is not sorry takes a large amount of courage and strength. I strongly believe it’s a process as oppose to a one time thing.
You forgive because you are wrong for judging them aka being angry or resentful. Judgement belongs to God only.
Yep!
LO so I love this take on it. I never looked at this way. Thanks for this insight 🙏🏾
Bold&Black MuvA you’re absolutely correct. People voided of empathy and remorse have no place in our lives.
A friend told me everytime you remember a different aspect of hurt for a situation...forgive again. It is a process.
Beyoncé said it best “Your best revenge is your paper.” I don’t take that statement as literal as some because I honestly think she just means going on to live the most successful life you can. I had someone (a dude) I was dealing with do me so dirty a few years ago. I was so angry because I was nothing but kind to him and I just couldn’t process how someone could be so foul to someone who was nothing but good to them. But I had to let that go. He’s a dusty and I couldn’t let him have another iota of my energy and peace by waiting for an apology. He’s still struggling to this day making pennies, meanwhile I’m thriving with a six-figure salary AND a successful and growing TH-cam channel and brand.
Letting go and moving on is the BEST thing you can do for yourself and it’s your best revenge.
Yess sis!! 👏
Beyonce means it literally. "Best revenge is your paper". Building wealth does a lot to soothe the hurt of past missteps.
Damn it hard but I’m doing it. I’ve been threw a lot shit with my ex .
just watched your video & subscribed! I can tell you’ll deliver quality, organized content like Chloe. I am curious, what do you do for a living that earns 6 figures? I am unhappy with my current situation & am thinking of going back to school to learn a new trade.
Yes I had the same situation I had a man who hurt me when I was very nice to him. I let him go and then I went back to school got my masters degree and have a good job and I just moved into a really nice apartment, and him he is working a bunch of odd jobs and is living hand to mouth.
This may apply to me with my child’s father. I just came to the conclusion that I’m done with him and his family. I tried to be cordial over the years for the sake of our daughter but I’ve been lied on, disrespected. I’m cool. He don’t speak to me, I don’t speak to him. I don’t even want an apology. My daughter has her own phone, she can talk to them if she chooses. Me, I’ll never be friends with them. I value my peace
Tauruschic 201 same situation. Him and his whole family are toxic
April Nicole girl his mother reached out last year on some narcissist ish.
Tauruschic 201 same here! I don’t care for her because she play both sides!!
Wow, this resonates so much with me as well..I used to be so emotional over the lack of connection a whole family could have just bc just one of their sons marriage ended and divorce...like life goes on 🤷🏾♀️. The best "revenge" (not really revenge but am being colorful) was raising my son w/o their influence...healing, bettering myself, (just graduated from Nursing School), and...and receiving notice from my sons school that they think he should be in gifted program/skipping a grade! That let me know that I did ....THAT
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CONGRATULATIONS to you and your son. Continue in growth and success
When you learn to forgive yourself for letting it happen to you that’s how you stop waiting.
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*Yes*
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Read the book “The Four Agreements” and when your done read it again... lol... it’s been a little while but one of the agreements are along the lines of “don’t take anything personal” what ppl do to you has more to wit them and little to do wit u... it’s the way they are, how they were raised etc... don’t internalize it. Just keep that in ur mind and also figure out why it’s happening and what u can learn from the situation and then let it go.
M M yup I’m reading that now
Thank you. I will def read it
🙌🏾🙌🏾 I’m about to reread it
Exactly. One cannot flourish being angry or resentful, waiting for an apology that will never happen. People who hurt others rarely apologize, because they feel a sense of power knowing that they can control your life mentally. The minute they apologize that power is taken away. Taking your power back is letting go of that hurt, or at least not letting it manifest into something that changes you negatively.
sweet pea J you’re absolutely right. I held on to some hurt and bitterness over the way my supervisor treated me while pregnant. She endangered the life of my unborn child and myself. Later I saw evidence that she was copying every aspect of my life. I felt like my husband didn't believe me but instead took her side. I was angry every day. Waiting and waiting for an apology. You're comment, and this video is tearfully freeing. I can now learn to let go and not wait around for an apology.
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LOL INVISIBLE FEUD you aint never lied because OPRAH not paying any attention
ABSOLUTELY
She been punching at the wind for 5 years
Monique has the money and influence to create her own production company, she can create her own content. Pitch a deal to TH-cam or Hulu. When people say no, say yes to yourself. Create your own lane!
So true! She is expending all her energy on a feud and has none left to pour into her creativity and business. I hope someone sends her this video.
I was listening to Monique being interviewed and she even places monetary value on what O and crew did. But she has a comedy special coming up even though O hasn't done anything!!!! It's that Sydney y'all!!!!!!!!
My parents damaged me emotionally. For years and years I have been waiting for the apology. I have confronted both of them and always manipulate the situation. I learned just recently that they both suffered rejection from their fathers and in African culture you DON'T EVER confront your parents. My grandfathers NEVER apologized to them! My father is narcissistic and my mom is an emotional vampire! I have been sitting hoping they would realize their faults but they never will! My Scorpio moon NEEDS TO LET THIS SHIT GO! My parents don't think they can do wrong and if I don't let it go, I am continuing this generational curse! Thank you for this Chloe.
Apology is not needed, you may never get it....just move on and build yourself up to the best person you can be. Great insight Chloe.
Once I let the “expectation” go from others my life got better. I stopped expecting others to be like me. Expecting them to be genuine in their actions. Now I almost expect them to fold sooner than later.
Yesss Expectation will have you upset, disappointed and angry most the times.And half the time the person you have these
high expectations are not even aware of it.
I definitely struggle with this. I saw a dusty ex the other day and I was so enraged, but then I had to center myself put on my shades and "unsee" him. I had to thank God for the good man I have at home, and be grateful that I will never be subjected to his ashy ass ever again. Live in the now, and don't let anybody pull you back to the past. Life is good.
"unsee him"😂😂 I understand🙌 that
Nu Woman listen lol, sometimes you’ve gotta do what you’ve got to do!
Sasa D. “ put on my shades and unsee him”
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I speak from experience. Once you realize you will never get that apology from whoever wronged you, it’s very important to let it go for your own sanity and emotional healing because it will only hurt your spirit and your energy in the end 💜
only you can speak to my soul like this and make me let go of the hurt i have been holding onto for years, I felt so wronged and held onto it, but here you are opening my eyes. somewhere in my head Queen Chole is my blood Big sister from same mom and dad. the rate at which she is saving young ladies has me beyond proud to identify with her. Dear Queen Chloe, if you ever read this comment I hope you see through my comment that I am holding my heart on my sleeves to say I love you soooooooo much ❤❤🤗🤗😥😥. sending blessings from Africa to you mama. thank you Queen, thank you. RESPECT!!!! ❤❤❤
Watch her princess and the queen video!!
@@idoyes1400 thank you hun, will get on it right away
@@PhilldellaYve 😍😍😍
Philldella Yve take care of your self dear. Namaste
@@warriorhippie Thank you dear🤗, Namaste 🙏
So true - being ghosted and wanting closure 💔🇿🇦
African sprit Child same, i plan to see a psychologist, because I don’t get over it
Honestly take it as a blessing. I know it sounds cliche, but someone who ghosts people says a lot about their personality. They're not considerate of your feelings. Also, from my experience, men who ghost usually are not looking for committment, just fun and ghost you when you're not about that life. That's not who you want in your life anyways.
Mégane MINKO please do what ever it takes to heal - u deserve some one who value you enough to tell u the truth
As for me -I was doing well until he messaged me , I did not respond but I have a lot of thoughts
African sprit Child thank you, I wish you to flourish too, as a butterfly
Mégane MINKO you too my love wishing you lot of peace and overflowing love ❤️
Chloe, who told you my business?! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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The healing process begins as soon as you move on from being hurt. 10 years after being hurt, when the apology finally came it didn't even mean anything because by then I have had closure for 10 years and have been busy living a wonderful life. Sometimes karma happen behind closed doors, you may never see it happening. Karma is not meant for the person who got hurt to get revenge but instead it exist for the person who have done wrong to experience and learn.
Yes mam .. u have to take matters into your own hands and dismantle all those negative feelings and channel it into uplifting yourself and moving on. The only person that owes you something is YOURSELF. Happiness comes from within and we go wrong looking for resources outside of ourselves to make us feel complete.. release childhood trauma ..release your negative views on yourself ..and create better thinking patterns to manifest the life you deserve.. theres no greater love than self love.
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The idea of karma is comedic to me. You want the universe and mystic forces to seek vengeance on the people who were mean to you. You sound like you’re five. Whilst you’re harboring that resentment that person has moved on and most of the time, they don’t even remember what they did to you.
My ex friend called me back last year and I thought she was going to apologize. I didnt expect the convo to go left so quickly. I was just speechless as she spoke as if she was the innocent one. I knew she hurt me and I felt it strongly in my soul but you know what... I agreed with her. Later she did apologize but it I knew it wasn't genuine. I knew what she did to me was wrong but I just.. I dont know... after the phone call I blocked her and any1 who associated with her. I felt relieved but I was still hurt. I forgave her but I was just done with this abusive demon of a friend. She tried to call/text me multiples times but I refuse to contact her. I realized that I shouldn't have agreed with her and really never answered the phone in the first place. People like that are narcissistic and will never admit that they were in the wrong. If they do, it's a fake apology. I'm getting better now but it takes time. I'm on my guard all the time when I'm making friends. I have a gift to read ppl/ feel the energy in the roomand I need to use it more because I'm tired of ending up in the same toxic situations. Everyone please watch out who you let in your circle. If its only you and God so be it. Peace of mind is more important than a fake ppl any day. O one more tip, use the spirit of discernment for help. It can save you time and your life. Literally. Please take it from me.
@Star n' Stripes /////// sis please, for your sake, BLOCK THEM.
Did I type this in my sleep or something? I SWEAR You sound just like me ..your story...the way you handled it ..everything ..I could tell u some stories and I'm sure u could tell me some....
Energy or not, we are humans. As long as we are alive, people are always going to cross the line. The vetting process is one thing but the coping/ recovering is another. All the best
I don't think enough emphasis is put on emotional intelligence in modern society. Took me a LONG, bitter while to get there but i thank God I got here.
Life is short, heal yourself from past and present pain. Seek your happiness/success and keep it moving.
This is why therapy/counselling is important. Everyone has a right to be heard, and to be seen. It is feminine to get help. Reach out to get the tools and the medicine needed to heal. We deserve it. This is resilience. This is self-empowerment. Pretending like an issue doesnt exist does not make them go away! People don't have to agree with you for you to know you are right. A lot of people need people to agree with them for them to feel "right" or accepted. Accept yourself and flow with those who are in your corner.
Thanks Chloe- this vid is one of your top 5s.
Alot of times, I am more disappointed in my own feelings, thoughts and actions. Being desperate for a husband in the wrong man. I have decided to focus on the Lord and what he wants for my life. I've given so much of my time and energy to under developing men; whom I see some kind of potential in. I am not upset with men but, my own short comings. This insight shows me how wrong I have been throughout my life. We must not give up our time and love so easily; without even considering the value we possess. Improving self is first!
I completely understand & is currently living the truth of acceptance that certain people who have done me a great wrong in my life will never apologize. When I continued to demand explanations & apologies it stressed me out bad. Then someone said something that snapped me out of: your pain is their joy. You will never get an apology or explanation because they want you to be confused stressed & heartbroken. That's their POWER OVER YOU!
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Great video.
A tool a therapist gave me once.
"Allow yourself your negative feelings. However give them a TIME LIMIT!"
I used to deal with hurt and anger. I would lose sleep, cry my eyes out, and just be angry/miserable. Then I realized a lot of people are hurt and angry, that shit spreads like a virus. I had to learn to let things go and move on. I'm not trying to get premature wrinkles, frown lines, and crow's feet. Now that I'm good mentally and emotionally those some m'fers are calling me "cold" and "selfish" because I pay them NO MIND. Some people are just so damn sick in the head...
Same.
"Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. " - Buddha
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is forgive someone who's not sorry. I'm still learning how to truly forgive those that have hurt me n it's the best decision I've decided to make.
Sending healing and blessings your way sis
@@mochamommyATX thank you! Blessings to you! 💚
Always come back to yourself, the little girl or for men the little boy insids of you. You are responsible for your healing...love yourself, know yourself, take care of yourself, and know that you are valuable and loved in the sight of God!
Chole you are 1000% correct! The truth hurts all the time but we must move on.
I’m so happy you touched on this subject Chloe! I’ve witnessed family members and friends hold on to childhood pain like it was their best friend. Because emotions and feelings connect us back to a memory, people relive and create those feelings over and over. It’s so important to teach you children how to get over and let go of disappointments, because they’re going to come. But as the older folks would say, ‘it can’t storm forever’.
This was so helpful. Thank you!
Let me you tell you something lovies. You have to understand you are the keeper of your peace and well being. You are NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU!!!!!! IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT AND YOU DID NOT DESERVE IT!!!!! BUT MY DEAR BEAUTIFUL SISTER AND BROTHER. You have to gurd up all your inner strength, you have to believe you are who you choose to be, not what they caused. Love yourself enough to protect the princess / prince inside of you and be the best you can be. Set yourself free LEVEL UP, BECOME BETTER, AND DO ALL YOUR HEART DESIRES TOO. YOUR LIFETIME DESERVE YOUR BEST MEMORIES TO BE MADE AND REMEMBERED IN YOUR OLD AGE. LET IT GO AWAY
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This is a timely reminder. I caught myself arguing on social media about some social justice issue and noticed it didn’t feel good. It can be hard to not get sucked into those things. But you’re right, we can’t be angry and feminine at the same time. And I want to be feminine.
Oh I needed this! I've been so angry and full of resentment lately. It's draining on my spirit, I hate feeling that way. It's so freeing to hear that you don't need their apology to move onnnnnnn!
Sending healing and love your way
@@mochamommyATX thank you so much. I feel the love.
Me: Note to self: 1) Stop using rage and outrage as a hiding place to avoid looking in the mirror. 2) Stop drinking the poison of anger and expecting the person who hurt you to die. 3) Stop waiting for the person who caused the pain to fix it. Just stop! Thank you Chloe_!
I struggle with this☹️ I went through bullying from kindergarten to 6th grade and it's been extremely hard for me to make friends in college. The school teachers and administration did absolutely nothing to protect me when I got bullied. They saw it happen with their own eyes, but did absolutely nothing. I also didn't tell my parents or try to water down how bad it was because I was afraid the bullying would get even worse if they got punished for it. I didn't realize how much childhood bullying affected me until I was in college away from my friends. We all still hang out because we all go to college in the same area, but it's still hard not knowing anyone in all of your classes. I don't trust anyone besides my family and current friends. It takes an extremely long time for me to warm up to people and i always assume the worst in a new situation. Academically I'm succeeding but socially I'm not. I want to get to know people but I'm very reserved and cautious so people assume I'm a bitch and don't approach me☹️
This was right on time
Ikr , happy leveling up journey 😚😚
@WhitneyNicole I feel you sis...
Most folks will never apologize that have wronged you because they don’t even feel that they are wrong or are too prideful to own up to their wrongdoing. Take your life back! Forgiveness is key to your best quality life. You just have to move on.
Fire 🔥 message!
"Closer comes from within" It took me a while to learn this lesson, but I'm glad that I did!!!
You have to keep your head up & keep moving on with your life. Don't deal with the person who hurt you anymore & try to avoid people who are like them. Learn the lesson & keep living. Be cautious about who you let into your life going forward.
That's why you must be specific in what and why you give. Not to expect a return but to fulfill your God given humanity.
Most people don't think like this at all.💞
Waiting for closure/apologies is like giving the person who hurt you the keys to your car and being kept parked in a garage to gather dust. We can’t give others our power to move forward with our lives or we will never be fulfilled.
I definitely struggle with this. I'm still mad at all my bullies from elementary and middle school. I'm still mad at my first grade teacher for hitting my hand with a yardstick ruler because I answered a question wrong, my 2nd ex for playing me, and my classmates for treating me like I'm invisible until they needed something in high school. Forgiving is hard.
I am only laughing because I can 100000000% relate to you! I also get so mad at things when I look back!
Thank you i am doing allllllll these things you spoke on. I desperately need to set myself free. I am waiting on karma. I am wasting away. Until now. You are a blessing. Thank you thank you thank you❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺
My god Chloe you hit the nail in the head every time. It’s like that advice you wish someone taught you early in life.
May Jesus bless you my internet mom ❤️❤️
I struggle with this. I'm disappointed (among many other thoughts, feelings and descriptive words) with both my parents. The LACK of:
~parenting,
~love/teamwork between the 2 of them as a couple,
~love for us the children,
~teaching how to love/view/conduct ourselves properly as growing indiviuals
~financial awareness/education
~Etc.
I appreciate people like you Chloe because I am learning things that my whole family, both sides and many generations has not known or taught each other. Sad.
(Been listening to you almost a year now) You Tube has been a big Eye-Opener👀 for me. I know I want to change and get better... Honestly, there's very slow moving progress on my part (not your fault nor your problem...I know) to apply what you've been sharing because it is very difficult to start from scratch (or wherever you are) and grow/move on, etc.
I realize I'm immature in many ways. In my 30s but still feel and function like a Teen🤦🏿♀️
Most days I walk around in circles not knowing how to live, think, focus or enjoy life...but my slow progress & learning is better than NONE AT ALL🤷🏿♀️
Sometimes I wish I could strip my identity from my parents; I wish didn't look like them, walk, talk or act anything like them. I want nothing from them, and I don't want to have kids--avoid damaging someone else...
I'm a loner because I feel I don't have the basic human tools to connect with people, let alone a man in an intimate relationship/ companionship etc.....
With Mo'nique, I can understand her pain and disappointment.
I've never heard or thought of ""accepting the apology that you're never going to get"" before this video, so that's something she and i will both have to do.
The positive words here & the opposite of pain expressed sounds refreshing. It still sounds too good to be true for me sometimes. But I won't give up.
I just finally realize that the damage is severe and deep. Lots of exhausting, daily self-work but I gotta believe there's something better in the end.
Guess I've held myself back by wanting an apology.
Time to let go.
I look forward to a time when I'll have enough money to never have to be around my family (pay off Debts, save$ and move away for good). I also want to have enough money for SELF-CARE, a new wardrobe, all the fun yet necessary things you mention that I've neglected 😬😳.
Anyway, change is in progress here. Thank you for what you do🤗💗
OMGGGGGGG!!!!! I LOVE YOUUUUUUUU FOR THISSS! This made me realize that why I’ve been so stuck!!! I am never going to get apologies! I am never going to get the justice I want!!! I have to accept this and move forward! I have to start feeling better TODAY! I have to be optimistic about my life now!!!
I had to let go of the fact that my sons dad no longer wanted me. Even though I lost weight and found my purpose, I still struggled with this. When I saw that he was dating and posting pictures of them when he didnt like doing those things with me. I realized that I had to let go, so I wouldn't become a bitter baby mother. I didnt want that title. I'm so happy now and dating high caliber men. Now he wants to talk when exchanging my son. I keep moving like my next engagement is starting soon.
I feel you. When you are in love and it ends its hard to let go. But eventually you do. It just takes time.
This is so true always accept the apology you will never get and live your best life!! I live by that but they always comes back and apologize when they realize I’m living my life and I don’t care
I've been able to move on from anger and pain after watching a countless amount of videos from many coaches on the internet. And I must admit that getting peace at last is priceless. Thanks to all of you! The job that you are doing is actually saving lives.
You are absolutely undeniably right. Her pain and expectation of an apology is adding a dangerous mass of weight to her future happiness and soul. That psychologically hinders our full capability to be happy. This is an eye-opener for me. All the time you convince yourself that you have fully let go of someone or situation but if you are still waiting for your # to be called in the "Waiting Room for Apologies" that pain still has a slight if not full hold on you.
Priceless lesson learned today.
You are dropping knowledge!!! Anger, resentment, & bitterness can be taking you over without being aware because you have not healed!!! We have to do the work ladies!!! It takes work to heal.
seriously needed this. feels like being redeemed. thanks Chloe.
I LOVE this channel!!! The truth hurts but feels so good.
I appreciate this sooooo much... literally ever since I started watching chloe it has opened my eyes so much.. and I’ve been looking at the man I was attempting to deal with ..with the side eye... honestly if it wasn’t for the videos I know I would still be chasing him. But I know for a fact I deserve better now. Single mom or not.
I am dealing with past hurt it’s been 17 months since the relationship ended! But we still see each other on a civil level because we are co parenting
@soul sessions tv Bdhrh exactly.
Sending peace and and healing your way. I appreciate what you are doing for your child(ren) for remaining civil.
Christine Warren my son just turn 3 in December
Christine Warren yes but my son is very much attach to his father so he ask for him every day! He takes him every other weekend
Christine Warren just be strong for her always let him see his Daughter sometimes it can get difficult co parenting
Chloe 🤣🤣🤣🤣 invisible feud lol. Yes ... ruffle some feathers sis .
Dear Chloe, I am thankful with you for sharing all your knowdge and helping us to become more femenine, in order to be the better version ourselves and live a better life.
I definitely agree with closure coming from success.
100%! I too had to learn to stop waiting on apologies from those who hurt me. I am better off for it. They didn't know, didn't care and in some cases moved on. I have since done the same.
Beautifully spoken
This came right on time Miss Chloe. I've been acting like Mo'nique in the face of my most recent breakup. It has to stop now. Thank you. 💖
Sending healing and peace your way.
@@mochamommyATX Thank you. 🙂
Me too girl. Me too
Saying let go is easy when that person isn't in your life or treats you better now as an adult. But if that person is your parent and still doesn't respect you and still trys to handle the same as they did when you were a child that's an issue. It is far harder to forgive -
If this person was capable of doing you how they did you, an apology would be nothing short of a miracle. Why hold your breath and allow someone who did you wrong dictate how you move and operate? Free yourself❤︎
My best friend suggested that I watch this video. Although I’ve been a huge fan of your videos and watch them religiously. Lately I’ve been struggling to forgive my mother and father for things that they have in my childhood which affect me currently. As of lately I’ve been using alcohol to suppress my emotions and hold onto bitterness and resentment I have towards my parents for not feeling remorseful at all and I’m trying to let it go but it’s just hard right now but I am trying the best way I know how. I know that me holding on will stagnate my level up journey. I dream of the day that I will finally let go of the hurt and pain of the past and be confident in/ love myself which WILL happen (speaking it into existence). This video helped a lot thank you so much, your timing is so well. You always seem to drop videos right when I need them.You are appreciated❤️
A beautiful message. I had to begin with forgiving myself. The honest truth is that sometimes we play out the roles we witnessed in our households growing up. Unfortunate but "un learning" patterns that do not serve us can be hard lessons. After some failed relationships i had to look at myself and ask.. why am I participating in these situations. What am I doing, what am I not doing, how can i learn a different relationship language if I am committed to making a change. I have ALWAYS been an extremely feminine woman so that was not the issue, but found myself constantly being taken advantage of by men. I was just exhausted and tired and realized i did not have the strength nor energy to do it in that way ever again. I cried a lot over the loss of my marriage and the dysfunction of being with a narcissistic dusty who initially appeared to be Mr. Wonderful. I had to free my mind and forgive and let go ( as I still have some interaction with my ex in raising our daughter). I divorced him but was not going to let him live in my head and I knew that it was a lesson that I would never again repeat so rehashing the past and feeling the same emotions did nothing to help me. He is who he is and is never going to change. I am the one that changed, and ALL FOR THE BETTER!
This!!! Especially if you are dealing with a narcissistic person and/or emotionally unavailable they simply don’t care that you are angry or bitter. They are off living their lives carefree and/or playing somebody else.
In tears right now. Nobody said this to me. Let it go.
Hi fellow empath. Im here to let you know its okay to feel this. And that it's okay hun. Im here for you !🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Trust me.. not letting it go has led to me experiencing severe depression and becoming bitter and resentful towards people I know didn't deserve it. But I'm trying my best to let shit go because if not you'll sink so deep itll be really hard to come back from it...keep going sis lots of us are in it knee deep but we must find a way xxx
Sending healing energy your way sis
CD M thank you
momlifewithtelly thank you
Hi Chloe! Love your channel. Could you please speak about your spiritual practice - not necessarily religion but how you keep yourself grounded.
So true. I am dealing day by day to not let my hurt take over my life. Thanks for the video.
Did Chloe say....iota?!?! I haven't heard that since school!!! Keeps me on the tip of my toes baby!
Thank you for sharing this information, I needed to hear it.
I’m subscribing because of the title alone!!!! This info is so important!!! being stuck because you’re waiting! I love this
I needed to hear this! I shook my head when I heard Monique released an open letter. Now I realize I am her and she is me. I just let the whole world see that side of me like she did
I was hurt deeply. I never received the apology that I deserve. For several months i was broken and tortured. Then today A great friend of mine shared one of your videos. I'm so grateful to be introduced to you virtually.
Closure is man made! What you really want is validation for your feelings because YOU don't truly believe in yourself or your feelings.
You want someone else to make you feel better about your feelings.
If you truly believed and validated yourself then letting go should not be a problem. Why give some else that much power over you. Honestly the person you really should be at is YOU. Some people don't want to admit that they gladly walked into nonsense out lack of self-love. It's ok we have all been there, now what?!
In life you aren't competing or outgrowing anyone but yourself. The people in your life is simply a reflection of yourself as you grow the people around grow or you grow in another direction looking for a physical representation of you. It's 2020 it's about time we stop acting like it's not our fault! If Monique would simply get out of her masculine energy this whole issue would be solved, she wouldn't even have to say anything other people would be fighting for her. She's so hell-bent on being a strong black woman and look what that got her! Not a dam thing!
Ladies you can either be a STRONG WOMAN or a FEMININE WOMAN you can't be both. Or you will end up being like Monique. Looking the part but operating in strong masculine energy! As much as men are visual they really don't care how good you look if you act masculine! You will not keep him acting like that sis!
There are WAY too many women already doing this. Be different, as hard as it can be hard sometimes, feminine women are so rare that when people see one it's like they seen a unicorn!
So very very true and refreshing, this was such a very wise statement💞
Elizabeth Noir that's an ego perception that you have that's not what I said at all. A feminine woman knows her strength is her femininity she does not have to lead with anything else that that! Being ”a strong woman” in society's eyes is the use of masculine energy to prove your competence. What feminine women wants to been seen as being strong in that way?
A feminine woman knows she can charm her way into getting what she wants while strong women will try to provide for herself to prove a point of how strong she is!
wow this was made for me!! i've been waiting forever and really nothing will change. it has kept me from success
Truth. You deserve an award for this one.👑
Amen however a learning lesson. Apology dont mean anything its words. Words dont change things however move on, enjoy the process, heal thy self, love your best life..... it's apart of life struggles and pitfalls
Agreed!
Apologies need to be followed with actions because of growth of a lesson learned. That’s what makes it more than words and real.
Thank You For This Video✨😊👌🏾
I’m so glad that I stumbled upon this channel. This is one of my top 5 channels. Thanks for your profound perspectives.🌸
Its not easy to let go however you have to let go
But how do you let go of anger and rage? It keeps coming back to me every time when I think I moved on and healed. They hurt me so much without any hurt being made to them. I am so mad and I can't stop being angry. It makes me cry because of how angry I am and I know they won't feel any hurt!
Journaling, Therapy, and a desire to want to feel better. It isn’t easy but it’s necessary for healing.💄
Chloe This video is excellent perfection. Thank you for blessing Black Women once again.
ma'am you jumped up in the air and came down on my big toe😭😭
I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS!! Thank you Chloë!! 😭😭 I needed this so much.
Im listening on REPEAT!!!
Thank you so much, you are so calming and you give woman strength all over the world 🌹
Thanks Chloe, I really needed this. I’m finally at peace and am working to remove the residual anger from my last relationship. It’s not good to hold onto any of that.
This is Sooo True!! You have to be okay with Never getting an apology! Deal with your hurt have your moment and move on to living your BEST LIFE!!
Understanding has replaced forgiveness in my life. We are all children, we came in as blank slates and are only the product of our programming. Not one of us has the view (the Divines ability to see from all sides) to fully understand a circumstance so why not see the person as innocent and move on...It’s like being upset at a small child for knocking over a cake at a party, “they know not what the do.”
We have all been in a situation where we don’t fully understand the weight of our actions. So let’s see the same innocence in our fellow humans. This is not an easy path but it’s peaceful beyond measure...Thank you Chloe for your work!
Monique is undoubtedly justified in her anger towards Oprah. However, Oprah has always been a biased individual. Surely Monique should know this by now