I read a quote that put an end to my cycle of comparing. It went like this: 'Their success is not your loss and their loss is not your success'. Everybody's paths are different and timings are different :))
“Please don’t ever skip on the self-care because once you get comfortable with neglecting yourself, you also get comfortable with putting people on a pedestal above you-because you have low self-esteem. You get comfortable with living every day in a low vibrational state.” PREACH GIRL PREACH
One quote I heard that helped me IMMENSELY with comparison and jealousy is that: “Once you compare yourself to them, you already put them above you”. Once I hear that sentence I’m immediately back to my senses
I am a guy, but I love these videos. I've been in denial for so long and I honestly just want to heal, love myself and enjoy this journey. I find Tam and other confident women on yt more inspiring than men who claim themselves "high value" and then only care about repressing their feelings and making money as a way to escape from their own emotional needs
"I know I'm gonna get my cake, just vaise you're eating it first doesn't mean I'm not gonna get mine. Enjoy it!! Enjoy it!! Cause my time gonna come that's fine."
It’s shocking how Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest isn’t being discussed. The book is full of life-changing insights, yet no one seems to notice. Time to break the trance and read it yourself!
their win isn’t my loss. I am happy for them. I will not waste my precious energy being jealous, instead I will work harder to strive for my happiness ❤
I’ve always been insecure since my teenage years, so this group of “mean girls” were always bullying me, I spent years of my life wanting to be like them, trying to make them like me. So now as I’m 23, I recently graduated on university of london (outside my country, im originally from Brazil), and is quite a big achievement. And one of those mean girls sent me a message, I was about to be ready to fell that anxiety of getting bully all over again, but this time, the message was different. She said “congratulations!! You did better than all of us did!” I will never forget this day, and I will NEVER compare myself anymore.
What I do instead of a grateful journal is that every day I take a picture of something I'm grateful about. This can be a sunset, a meal with friends, something cute I saw... I find it more interactive and it is always fun to watch back on the pictures 🥰
I love this!! I don't always feel like writing, i think that's the biggest hurdle for journaling for me, so maybe I'll try this. I also started vlogging instead of writing (it takes too much storage though, so I uploaded it all to TH-cam private and deleted them from my phone 😭)
"just because she has things that i don't have doesn't make her better than me and just because i have things that she doesn't have doesn't make me better than her" love this sm
Social media thing is so true. I worked a job where I traveled my country and saw a lot of places and on social media my life looked perfect, and so did all my coworkers lives but behind the scenes we were working ourselves into the ground for a company that didn't care about us and a lot of us cried ourselves to sleep. That's not what people on the outside saw tho they just saw this perfect job with us traveling and making good money
1. Use them as source of inspiration - if it triggers envy, then it’s clue of what you want. Think that envy isnt really envy but guide for your future by refining goals and thinking how to improve yourself 2. Invest on yourself 3. Drop scarcity mindset 4. Manifest - affirm that what you want is on the way and visualize 5. Create an alter ego and let them step up when you feel inferior 6. Get to the root of your triggers 7. Self care 8. Gratitude journal
I unfollowed a lot of celebrities and people who just felt fake to me. I agree with you when you said that you leave social media feeling refreshed and inspired. People think social media is evil but we are in charge of what we see. Now I see people who inspire me, who support my content and make me feel good.
i started meditation, journaling, yoga, gym, jogging and calisthenics. i also started new hobbies such as cooking and playing chess! i decided to learn new things such as dancing and learn new languages. i will be the DREAM GIRL. i promise that to myself
Girl, you literally SAVED MY LIFE! You're legit my fav influencer! I've had a MAJOR shift in my overthinking mindset and my life's been sm easier than ever!!! Goddd you don't know how much my day brightens when you upload a new video and my brain gets clicked how 1more new video = 1 more step in achieving better life! Ik life's all about ups and downs but genuinely speaking, ilysm keep uploading such great videos no matter what!
1. Read 2. Unfollow + mute, follow 3. Gratitude journal 4. Time you wished for what you currently have 5.list of goals+ vb 6. Commit 1hour to your goal
I think also being jealous/envious is us automatically thinking we should have the blessings that others have - when it's kind of bold of us to assume that. I love the idea that each path is beautiful for a reason - I have especially struggled with comparing myself to girls that have boyfriends or got a lot of attention from guys. I always wondered, why them and not me? Now looking back I see that this was always meant to happen - finding love for myself before finding love from a guy - which is in so many ways a much better gift that the universe has given me. I think often the universe gives us what we need and not what we want - In my case, what I wanted was a boyfriend, but what I really needed was love in my life, from myself, so that I could feel that everyday, relationship or not. There's this quote from business owner Alex Hormozi that goes something like this - he says "If you were to create a human - what would you put them through in order to make them a humble, strong, resilient person? Every good trait - humor, confidence, warmth - has a price and a journey to acquire that trait." So look at your life - what are you being put through that is going to give you a trait you are proud of? Looking at it that way has definitely helped me. I now look at that period of loneliness as me acquiring the trait of patience and motivation to create a life I'm proud of regardless of attention from men. Self love is something that is lifelong once you begin it, and I couldn't be more grateful for that. P.S. Now I'm noticing that because I'm grateful, I'm attracting guys of a higher caliber into my life. This stuff really works! Thank you so much Tam for spreading this advice. ❤
Thank-you tam sis for addressing this topic as I'm a teenager and i thought it's bad of me to b jealous w some one else n blah blah😶 but finally i accepted it all n tryna working on myself for myself🥺🌷
Watching this video and reading these comments is really therapeutic. I'm a senior in college and almost EVERYONE I know is studying abroad, having success, etc. It's been really difficult for me to control my envy and I really needed to hear this.
i’ve noticed that when i stop focusing on my health care self care is start to easily become jealous of other girls now i know i need to fully focus on myself make myself better
The only thing that made me stop being jealous and comparing myself to others was the realization that these two things will give you wrinkles. Comparing/ jealously = stress = wrinkles = depressed
Looking at the wealth and successful success in social networks, do not become envious, despite the fact that they often show only positive moments, skipping to show the work that needs to be done
I have a story I always wanted to become a singer In my country there is a moderately successful band, I envied their singer so much, you can’t imagine! But now I’ve changed my mindset and in the next two weeks she will be tutoring me! This is what happens, when you allow other people be successful, in one moment they might share it with you, but you have to be ready to accept it!
24:09 i agree! and also its not the screen time we should be reducing, but th content we are consuming. There is a difference between scrolling mindlessly for 5 hours and watching educational videos and courses for 5 hours!
20:00 OMG GURL. U put this thing I used to feel insecure about jshshjs (ive overcomed this as well!!) and honestly I REALLYREALLY LOVE my body as it is and really love how i am (Since i i live with family, they always say bad stuff about my body and how im too slim and not big enough and stuff. I never had this insecurity theyre the ones who built it up inside of me) and now im finally put of it I dont let them get through my head and i always tell them i love the way i am and i look beautiful
18:42 i really relate to this as someone who also doesn’t have their dad in their life, i still hurt when i see dad’s who have such a beautiful relationship with their daughters which is what i once had. it’s definitely the hardest thing I’ve had to heal i think.
I never thought I'll come back here to listen to Tam speaking on jealousy. I'm a woman of positive aura and that's the reason I know my bf loves me but recently idk idk I just dk why I became so damn f jealous when I know that guy loves for who I'm. Now that I'm quite cool down, listen to Tam I can't stop laughing on how immature I can be sometimes. Anyway thanks a lot Tam ❤
Dude, this video was one of the only ones that REALLY helped me! I was having a terrible day, comparing myself and being jealous of everything, now I'm much better!! Thank you!
my grandma passed away recently and my mom along with all my aunties had to fly to another country to attend her funeral and go on with inheritance practice. which leaves me having to become the new mom of the house and taking care of everything + balancing university exams. the jealousy i felt towards those girls who are constantly on vacation multiplied and i felt so bad that i had to delete instagram. working on myself rn.
"Affirm that what you want is on its way to you and you are capable of achieving it." This is such great advice! The truth is that envy is a normal emotion. We all experience it and it does not make us bad people. It is what you do with that envy that matters. Channel that envy into a positive direction by working hard for the things you want. Even if you don't have what you want, I understand. Be patient and compassionate with yourself when you feel behind in your dreams but continue to remind yourself that you can have what you want.
As someone who finally ending her freshman year.Thank you so much for posting this.Each video make me motivated to improve myself.This summer I'm definitely going to make summer my summer thank to your guidance!!
You are literally princess Jasmine! I know you've heard this a lot, but the color of your outfit in this video really reminds me of her! You are PRINCESS TAM!
i am a man and finding your videos has been the most helpful thing in my healing journey from my first break up thank you so much for your wisdom best wishes!
i think the best way to overcome comparison is focusing and working on yourself so hard that you won't even have time or energy left to think about whether someone else is doing better. focus on your own journey!
i dont rlly make comments but i js wanna say thank u sm for this video. i js had a breakdown abt how i felt like i wasnt good enough and unconsciously kept comparing myself. thank you so much genuinely. i hope anyone who is going through these types of situations heal. we can do it you guys, put 1000% in and boom we have it 😁❤️
I personally compare myself with my best friends a lot and that leaves me feeling guilty and unhappy when I see their accomplishments that i too envision to myself. I really want to let this go and build my self esteem soon. Watching this video helped me make a step❤️
I watch your videos every single morning while I get ready to help me become my better version at the very start of the day. You've helped me understand a lot of phases in my life and even why my 10 y/o friendship finished, which I didn't understand and couldn't get over it!
Exactly! Don’t demonstrate or act out or on those toxic behaviors that can surface when dealing with envy/jealousy. If you’re comparing yourself, don’t go to the dark side --use it as a basis to step up your game or leveling up! Just as she stated, use these feelings to catapult you to becoming the best version of yourself. Don’t be a hater! Be about positivity. That makes a huge difference 👌💯 To the facilitator- excellent video-message well spoken & good insight Thank you!
Thanks a lot, today thru this video I've just discovered my passion and purpose💃. I'm so excited and I'm crying right now. 12/06/23 will always be one of the best days of my life😢😢. I didn't know that the most thing I've been afraid of, is my purpose and I'm working it out from this day.
OMG this video totally change something in me .... I've been in a very toxic relationship for the past four years..i lower down my standard for somebody who never really appreciate me ....he always made me feel insecure about his ex...and today he demand something from me and i declined it...then he broke up with me and I finally let him go...and i didn't let my tears drop not even one drop... after watching your videos i realised that I've been trying to change someone who never really want to change... also i realised that "he never love me...he only manipulate me whenever I tried to leave" thankyou so much for this videos ❤❤
This is such a great topic. Since childhood it has been inculcated by our society to become jealous seeing other’s success rather being motivated.. I love how genuinely you share your experiences and try to teach us become better humans 🤍🤍always look forward for your videos 😊
i legitimately scrolled down to like and subscribe not even 10 mins into the video. you're absolutely amazing, and you've helped me in so many ways thank you so much
Normalising getting jealous from sb else is litteraly the first thing to do in order to get over it, bcs simply feeling bad for having that thoughts is killing us deeply especially when u're comparing urself to ur peers (close friends...) . But that's very normal and always know that the same person u're comparing urself too is comparing herself to u in an onther way. Then, I think that self confidence and self esteem is the biggest objectif we all need to achieve, then the tips given by her are really suffisant , shift y'all guys ur focus to urself,ur own qualities, ur own confidence, not other's life.Just know that u're only able to control ur own thoughts, not other's ones . So stop being afraid from other ppl's comparisons, judgements...
Tam i cannot stress enough on how much you've helped me. There's something so positive about you. You're truly a light to this world. You make people feel so safe and you're always cheering people. Keep up the good work ❤
i’m barely 14 and i already fed all of these things, you’re videos have really changed my way of viewing my life and others. Thank you so so much for sharing these videos you have no idea how much you help young girls❤️
This video and all your videos are so amazing and have helped me start to gain confidence I never thought I would, thank you so much, forever grateful ❤
Tam you just literally influenced such an enormous part of my life... The kind of content you come up with is really authentic and needs to be addressed which is top-tier!! Couldn't be more grateful❤ Wayy to go✨
Thank you so much for this video! I've been struggling with jealousy recently since I felt like I wasn't doing good enough, but now I'm gonna focus on showing gratitude to the blessings I have 💚
I started watching your videos 2 weeks from now and trust me my mindset has changed so much. I was in a situationship for 2 effing years constantly wanting to end it but couldn't. Even though my friends and family constantly said he isn't going to date you. Like ever. Everything has changed now. I have let go of that person because I have finally accepted he was not for me and never will be. I can already see everything is happening in my favour. All thanks to you
One of the people who really knows how to boost my self-esteem. I learn a lot just watching this vlog and now I am also enlightened that being jealous over someone can be a positive thing. I also started my vlog recently and I only have 26 followers as of now (which I find funny) but someday I know that I succeed in this field. Anyone else watching in 2024?
i just know u r going to get me out of my loop of negative feelings everytime i have them , so grateful to have your existence and you on this platform
Thank you, I was searching on this topic for a while. Being a content creator makes impossible to not look at others achivements. My favorite tip from this video is "being your own it girl". If I think about it, I really love my mind and all the skills that I gained.
You are such an incredible person. Thank you so much for your advice. You have no idea just how much your video has helped me. Bless you so much. I wish you get everything you desire in life.❤❤❤❤
I definitely needed this, I always envied people throughout my life based on their appearance but because I’ve been taking this year for my own self improvement I’ve sublimated my envy into my path pursuing my glow up. I haven’t even allowed myself not to dislike my appearance in months because I see it as temporary and something I can sharpen because I’ve recognized that while genetics can be unfair beauty takes work, skill and knowledge. You have to know what looks good on you, you basically have to learn chemistry to address your skin and your hair and you need, you have to look into hacks and shortcuts to certain things you can’t get rid of otherwise or at least without surgery but most importantly you have to like yourself before doing all of this so it doesn’t become a toxic part of your life. But besides that, I was getting worried that eventually I would get to a point where I was done, where I had my perfect skincare, my perfect hair care and I had all the clothes that I wanted where I was going to go back to envying people (albeit less) because I never actually killed that urge as opposed to redirecting it into something constructive. This video came at a great time for me personally
Thank you sooo much currently dealing with feeling envious of my cousins. They both started driving recently and are both younger than me. My fear of driving makes me feel like I’m behind in life. It’s something I’m super embarrassed about. Anyway my cousin gave me the news that she got her license and I couldn’t feel 100% happy for her. I was happy but there was a tinge of envy. My other cousin got a car and same thing I felt a wave of envy. It makes me feel super icky because I’ve NEVER felt like this. Yes I’ve compared myself to girls on social media but that was easier for me to overcome. But ugh I just felt like such an ugly person for feeling that. I am glad that they reached this milestone and I know that I’ll drive & have a car when it’s my time. Thank you again for the wonderful advice ❤
This video couldn’t have popped up at a better time! I had a jealous moment yesterday and I felt very icky about it thank you so much i really needed this ❤️ you are so beautiful btw!
11:44 Yassssss queen! ❤I love the part about the not caring about couples thing and to also add on to that if you're jealous of someone who's in a relationship just because they're in one doesn't mean that their life is perfect and they struggle with things too.
I really have to tell you that the way your videos and literally just the way you talk feels so wholesome and warm and gives off such a positive vibe is beautiful. The way you tell us everything you know shows HOW MUCH you actually want other people to do better in their lives as well. I'm sure you're a very warm and kind hearted person and I really wish that all your beautiful dreams come true. 💗✨✨💗
Yeah i wanna unlearn this mindset. I developed it because i got constantly compared to my cousins while growing up and because of that I felt like our relatives are quietly making us compete. It was also evident that my grandpa has a clear favorite
I can't explain how listening to your videos brightens up my day. We are of the same age but I get inspired by you every single time I hear you. Loads of love to you and wish you more and more success ahead ❤
This was a big shift for me ❤ 18:25
Thanks for your advice queen 😘
How do you always post exactly what I need to hear at the perfect! ❤ ily!! Thank you for all the gems!!
I wish you were Hamza’s girl 😂
I realate to that so much
dpes this work on boys,
I read a quote that put an end to my cycle of comparing. It went like this: 'Their success is not your loss and their loss is not your success'. Everybody's paths are different and timings are different :))
That’s perfection honestly
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That is beautiful.
true❤
Yes true
"think of it as a walking Pinterest board, everyone is an inspiration so that you can level up" the best advice I have ever gotten
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“Please don’t ever skip on the self-care because once you get comfortable with neglecting yourself, you also get comfortable with putting people on a pedestal above you-because you have low self-esteem. You get comfortable with living every day in a low vibrational state.” PREACH GIRL PREACH
felt this one too🥲i do it sometimes and it feels yick
This is why I love this channel
THISSSS
THIS
yep, this part made me cry!🥲
One quote I heard that helped me IMMENSELY with comparison and jealousy is that: “Once you compare yourself to them, you already put them above you”.
Once I hear that sentence I’m immediately back to my senses
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Really it's a great quote thank you for sharing it here ❤
Şuan ağlıyorum yorumun beklenmedik bir şekilde bana çok dokundu teşekkürler❤
Ty girl ♡
Thanks
I ss ur affirmations, something i always needed 🥺❤️
LOVE THIS
I love you thank you
I am a guy, but I love these videos. I've been in denial for so long and I honestly just want to heal, love myself and enjoy this journey. I find Tam and other confident women on yt more inspiring than men who claim themselves "high value" and then only care about repressing their feelings and making money as a way to escape from their own emotional needs
im so happy and excited for your journey
W man. keep doing you fr.
men like u deserve the world
You get it bruh. I'm so happy for you.
So happy for you, hope that it will help you for your life and hopefully you’ll heal
"I know I'm gonna get my cake, just vaise you're eating it first doesn't mean I'm not gonna get mine. Enjoy it!! Enjoy it!! Cause my time gonna come that's fine."
It’s shocking how Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest isn’t being discussed. The book is full of life-changing insights, yet no one seems to notice. Time to break the trance and read it yourself!
their win isn’t my loss. I am happy for them. I will not waste my precious energy being jealous, instead I will work harder to strive for my happiness ❤
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The quote that changed my mindset was "Don't compare your beginings to someone's else's middle"
I’ve always been insecure since my teenage years, so this group of “mean girls” were always bullying me, I spent years of my life wanting to be like them, trying to make them like me.
So now as I’m 23, I recently graduated on university of london (outside my country, im originally from Brazil), and is quite a big achievement. And one of those mean girls sent me a message, I was about to be ready to fell that anxiety of getting bully all over again, but this time, the message was different. She said “congratulations!! You did better than all of us did!”
I will never forget this day, and I will NEVER compare myself anymore.
You go girl!❤️
Slay queen 🩵
congrats
@arisantosz You're so cute. You look like Michelle Rodriguez from fast and furious. 😊
It's so sad that comparison literally starts from childhood by others and it gets developed within us as we grow older.
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1. The defining decade
2. How to fail by Elizabeth day
I need this because im so confident but then that one girl is around me and I suddenly feel insecure and so envious im tired of that.
real i only feel confident at home but when I'm around my friends everything's gone
❤❤❤you can do this, you can overcome this, be patient with yourself ❤
What I do instead of a grateful journal is that every day I take a picture of something I'm grateful about. This can be a sunset, a meal with friends, something cute I saw... I find it more interactive and it is always fun to watch back on the pictures 🥰
Omg love!
I love this!! I don't always feel like writing, i think that's the biggest hurdle for journaling for me, so maybe I'll try this. I also started vlogging instead of writing (it takes too much storage though, so I uploaded it all to TH-cam private and deleted them from my phone 😭)
"just because she has things that i don't have doesn't make her better than me and just because i have things that she doesn't have doesn't make me better than her" love this sm
Social media thing is so true. I worked a job where I traveled my country and saw a lot of places and on social media my life looked perfect, and so did all my coworkers lives but behind the scenes we were working ourselves into the ground for a company that didn't care about us and a lot of us cried ourselves to sleep. That's not what people on the outside saw tho they just saw this perfect job with us traveling and making good money
1. Use them as source of inspiration - if it triggers envy, then it’s clue of what you want. Think that envy isnt really envy but guide for your future by refining goals and thinking how to improve yourself
2. Invest on yourself
3. Drop scarcity mindset
4. Manifest - affirm that what you want is on the way and visualize
5. Create an alter ego and let them step up when you feel inferior
6. Get to the root of your triggers
7. Self care
8. Gratitude journal
Love !!❤
I unfollowed a lot of celebrities and people who just felt fake to me. I agree with you when you said that you leave social media feeling refreshed and inspired.
People think social media is evil but we are in charge of what we see. Now I see people who inspire me, who support my content and make me feel good.
i started meditation, journaling, yoga, gym, jogging and calisthenics. i also started new hobbies such as cooking and playing chess! i decided to learn new things such as dancing and learn new languages. i will be the DREAM GIRL. i promise that to myself
You are becuz I cannot play chess 😂
Love this
envy can be best described as _ "you have something I don't have, now not only do I want to have that, I don't want YOU to have that.
Girl, you literally SAVED MY LIFE! You're legit my fav influencer! I've had a MAJOR shift in my overthinking mindset and my life's been sm easier than ever!!! Goddd you don't know how much my day brightens when you upload a new video and my brain gets clicked how 1more new video = 1 more step in achieving better life! Ik life's all about ups and downs but genuinely speaking, ilysm keep uploading such great videos no matter what!
this makes me so happy 🥹
1. Read
2. Unfollow + mute, follow
3. Gratitude journal
4. Time you wished for what you currently have
5.list of goals+ vb
6. Commit 1hour to your goal
Thank you prettyy pretttttyyy
What's vb tho?? ❤
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I think also being jealous/envious is us automatically thinking we should have the blessings that others have - when it's kind of bold of us to assume that. I love the idea that each path is beautiful for a reason - I have especially struggled with comparing myself to girls that have boyfriends or got a lot of attention from guys. I always wondered, why them and not me? Now looking back I see that this was always meant to happen - finding love for myself before finding love from a guy - which is in so many ways a much better gift that the universe has given me. I think often the universe gives us what we need and not what we want - In my case, what I wanted was a boyfriend, but what I really needed was love in my life, from myself, so that I could feel that everyday, relationship or not. There's this quote from business owner Alex Hormozi that goes something like this - he says "If you were to create a human - what would you put them through in order to make them a humble, strong, resilient person? Every good trait - humor, confidence, warmth - has a price and a journey to acquire that trait." So look at your life - what are you being put through that is going to give you a trait you are proud of? Looking at it that way has definitely helped me. I now look at that period of loneliness as me acquiring the trait of patience and motivation to create a life I'm proud of regardless of attention from men. Self love is something that is lifelong once you begin it, and I couldn't be more grateful for that. P.S. Now I'm noticing that because I'm grateful, I'm attracting guys of a higher caliber into my life. This stuff really works! Thank you so much Tam for spreading this advice. ❤
Why is it bold to assume I deserve good things? Would it be virtuous if I assumed I deserve bad things?
Thank-you tam sis for addressing this topic as I'm a teenager and i thought it's bad of me to b jealous w some one else n blah blah😶 but finally i accepted it all n tryna working on myself for myself🥺🌷
Watching this video and reading these comments is really therapeutic. I'm a senior in college and almost EVERYONE I know is studying abroad, having success, etc. It's been really difficult for me to control my envy and I really needed to hear this.
i’ve noticed that when i stop focusing on my health care self care is start to easily become jealous of other girls now i know i need to fully focus on myself make myself better
Someone once told me its all in our heads just because we see the perfecions online doesn't mean they have fails
The only thing that made me stop being jealous and comparing myself to others was the realization that these two things will give you wrinkles.
Comparing/ jealously = stress = wrinkles = depressed
I don't see how you could ever be jealous of anyone. You look way too pretty.☺️
i need more friends with this mindset! i’m gonna share the hell out of your videos cause i just want us all to heal / win 🙏🏽 doing God’s work fr
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Tam is like a big sister we all need 💜
Looking at the wealth and successful success in social networks, do not become envious, despite the fact that they often show only positive moments, skipping to show the work that needs to be done
I have a story
I always wanted to become a singer
In my country there is a moderately successful band, I envied their singer so much, you can’t imagine! But now I’ve changed my mindset and in the next two weeks she will be tutoring me!
This is what happens, when you allow other people be successful, in one moment they might share it with you, but you have to be ready to accept it!
24:09 i agree! and also its not the screen time we should be reducing, but th content we are consuming. There is a difference between scrolling mindlessly for 5 hours and watching educational videos and courses for 5 hours!
woah so just at 1:18 i’ve learnt i am in fact not a jealous person at all, just an envious one
I love the quote you said:
"The only person tou should be comparing yourself to is who you were yesterday"
Thank you 💙
20:00 OMG GURL. U put this thing I used to feel insecure about jshshjs (ive overcomed this as well!!) and honestly I REALLYREALLY LOVE my body as it is and really love how i am
(Since i i live with family, they always say bad stuff about my body and how im too slim and not big enough and stuff. I never had this insecurity theyre the ones who built it up inside of me) and now im finally put of it I dont let them get through my head and i always tell them i love the way i am and i look beautiful
I love that you explained the difference between envy and jealousy .. they are not the same
You are wise beyond your years . Abundance mindset and learning to be your own “it” girl is amazing advice
18:42 i really relate to this as someone who also doesn’t have their dad in their life, i still hurt when i see dad’s who have such a beautiful relationship with their daughters which is what i once had. it’s definitely the hardest thing I’ve had to heal i think.
1:02 the causes
3:12 envying success
11:28 jealousy of others
21:36 no more fomo
25:09 affirms
25:54 homework
Thanks mate!
I could actually listen to her for 1739273 hours straight! Purely positive energy
I never thought I'll come back here to listen to Tam speaking on jealousy. I'm a woman of positive aura and that's the reason I know my bf loves me but recently idk idk I just dk why I became so damn f jealous when I know that guy loves for who I'm.
Now that I'm quite cool down, listen to Tam I can't stop laughing on how immature I can be sometimes.
Anyway thanks a lot Tam ❤
Dude, this video was one of the only ones that REALLY helped me! I was having a terrible day, comparing myself and being jealous of everything, now I'm much better!! Thank you!
She's a person who can literally change you in a week or somethin tysmm for this Tam 💗
Almost cried ur saying everything I need to hear thank you
my grandma passed away recently and my mom along with all my aunties had to fly to another country to attend her funeral and go on with inheritance practice. which leaves me having to become the new mom of the house and taking care of everything + balancing university exams. the jealousy i felt towards those girls who are constantly on vacation multiplied and i felt so bad that i had to delete instagram. working on myself rn.
"Affirm that what you want is on its way to you and you are capable of achieving it." This is such great advice! The truth is that envy is a normal emotion. We all experience it and it does not make us bad people. It is what you do with that envy that matters. Channel that envy into a positive direction by working hard for the things you want. Even if you don't have what you want, I understand. Be patient and compassionate with yourself when you feel behind in your dreams but continue to remind yourself that you can have what you want.
How do I have what I want
As someone who finally ending her freshman year.Thank you so much for posting this.Each video make me motivated to improve myself.This summer I'm definitely going to make summer my summer thank to your guidance!!
ughh you’re such a beautiful person, and that’s putting even your physical qualities aside.
@Rh-bk8puthank you ❤
You are literally princess Jasmine! I know you've heard this a lot, but the color of your outfit in this video really reminds me of her! You are PRINCESS TAM!
You are officially my fav youtuber from now
I'm so proud of Tamana
She manifested basically everything she said in chapter two and she got it
Go girl
The sky is your starting point🥰
i am a man and finding your videos has been the most helpful thing in my healing journey from my first break up thank you so much for your wisdom best wishes!
i think the best way to overcome comparison is focusing and working on yourself so hard that you won't even have time or energy left to think about whether someone else is doing better. focus on your own journey!
And who cares if they are doing better or look better. Doesn't make a difference. Life goes on 😊
I felt horrible today because of envy.your video help me ease my mind a lot.thank you tam for being on this platform ! Love you❤
You got this!❤️
i dont rlly make comments but i js wanna say thank u sm for this video. i js had a breakdown abt how i felt like i wasnt good enough and unconsciously kept comparing myself. thank you so much genuinely. i hope anyone who is going through these types of situations heal. we can do it you guys, put 1000% in and boom we have it 😁❤️
This is the perfect video I need right now. Thank you so much for this. You don't know how much it helped me.
Girl, you're gorgeous, your energy, actions, thoughts..!!🌸
I'm happy that I found your channel and I'm grateful for meeting you in my life! 🌸
All I can say is thankyou . thankyou for saving my day from ruining with jealousy
I personally compare myself with my best friends a lot and that leaves me feeling guilty and unhappy when I see their accomplishments that i too envision to myself. I really want to let this go and build my self esteem soon. Watching this video helped me make a step❤️
I watch your videos every single morning while I get ready to help me become my better version at the very start of the day. You've helped me understand a lot of phases in my life and even why my 10 y/o friendship finished, which I didn't understand and couldn't get over it!
u r a genious girlie, this is the first video of urs I've watched and I loved It. Exactly what I needed, thanks.
Exactly! Don’t demonstrate or act out or on those toxic behaviors that can surface when dealing with envy/jealousy. If you’re comparing yourself, don’t go to the dark side --use it as a basis to step up your game or leveling up! Just as she stated, use these feelings to catapult you to becoming the best version of yourself. Don’t be a hater! Be about positivity. That makes a huge difference 👌💯
To the facilitator- excellent video-message well spoken & good insight Thank you!
I was too hard on myself and saying negative shit to myself because i was getting envious. Thanks for making me feel normal ❤
I've been feeling like this for some time now and I'm glad this video popped up
Thanks a lot, today thru this video I've just discovered my passion and purpose💃. I'm so excited and I'm crying right now. 12/06/23 will always be one of the best days of my life😢😢. I didn't know that the most thing I've been afraid of, is my purpose and I'm working it out from this day.
OMG this video totally change something in me .... I've been in a very toxic relationship for the past four years..i lower down my standard for somebody who never really appreciate me ....he always made me feel insecure about his ex...and today he demand something from me and i declined it...then he broke up with me and I finally let him go...and i didn't let my tears drop not even one drop... after watching your videos i realised that I've been trying to change someone who never really want to change... also i realised that "he never love me...he only manipulate me whenever I tried to leave" thankyou so much for this videos ❤❤
This is such a great topic. Since childhood it has been inculcated by our society to become jealous seeing other’s success rather being motivated.. I love how genuinely you share your experiences and try to teach us become better humans 🤍🤍always look forward for your videos 😊
i legitimately scrolled down to like and subscribe not even 10 mins into the video. you're absolutely amazing, and you've helped me in so many ways thank you so much
Normalising getting jealous from sb else is litteraly the first thing to do in order to get over it, bcs simply feeling bad for having that thoughts is killing us deeply especially when u're comparing urself to ur peers (close friends...) . But that's very normal and always know that the same person u're comparing urself too is comparing herself to u in an onther way. Then, I think that self confidence and self esteem is the biggest objectif we all need to achieve, then the tips given by her are really suffisant , shift y'all guys ur focus to urself,ur own qualities, ur own confidence, not other's life.Just know that u're only able to control ur own thoughts, not other's ones . So stop being afraid from other ppl's comparisons, judgements...
Tam i cannot stress enough on how much you've helped me. There's something so positive about you. You're truly a light to this world. You make people feel so safe and you're always cheering people. Keep up the good work ❤
i’m barely 14 and i already fed all of these things, you’re videos have really changed my way of viewing my life and others. Thank you so so much for sharing these videos you have no idea how much you help young girls❤️
This video and all your videos are so amazing and have helped me start to gain confidence I never thought I would, thank you so much, forever grateful ❤
Tam you just literally influenced such an enormous part of my life... The kind of content you come up with is really authentic and needs to be addressed which is top-tier!! Couldn't be more grateful❤ Wayy to go✨
Thank you so much for this video! I've been struggling with jealousy recently since I felt like I wasn't doing good enough, but now I'm gonna focus on showing gratitude to the blessings I have 💚
i mean this as such a compliment, you remind me so much of tan from fab 5, not just the accent but how well you hype people up and explain things
I listen to tam kaur everyday ehile grtting ready in the morning and my days are looking so much better and im so happy with where i am
I started watching your videos 2 weeks from now and trust me my mindset has changed so much. I was in a situationship for 2 effing years constantly wanting to end it but couldn't. Even though my friends and family constantly said he isn't going to date you. Like ever. Everything has changed now. I have let go of that person because I have finally accepted he was not for me and never will be. I can already see everything is happening in my favour. All thanks to you
One of the people who really knows how to boost my self-esteem. I learn a lot just watching this vlog and now I am also enlightened that being jealous over someone can be a positive thing. I also started my vlog recently and I only have 26 followers as of now (which I find funny) but someday I know that I succeed in this field. Anyone else watching in 2024?
I love how you provided homework at the end! instead of just giving words of encouragement, you give real tips. I appreciate it!
THIS COMES AT THE RIGHT TIME OMG tysmmmmm
youtube algorithm is really helping me .... your videos are actually make it fun to work on ourselves
i’m so glad i discovered this channel
i just know u r going to get me out of my loop of negative feelings everytime i have them , so grateful to have your existence and you on this platform
Did you just read..my mind i was actually very disturbed and thinking of the solution about why i am feeling so jealous..like you are my saviour
Thank you, I was searching on this topic for a while. Being a content creator makes impossible to not look at others achivements. My favorite tip from this video is "being your own it girl". If I think about it, I really love my mind and all the skills that I gained.
You are such an incredible person. Thank you so much for your advice. You have no idea just how much your video has helped me. Bless you so much. I wish you get everything you desire in life.❤❤❤❤
You actually changed my thinking. Never have felt more free, you really helped me.
I definitely needed this, I always envied people throughout my life based on their appearance but because I’ve been taking this year for my own self improvement I’ve sublimated my envy into my path pursuing my glow up. I haven’t even allowed myself not to dislike my appearance in months because I see it as temporary and something I can sharpen because I’ve recognized that while genetics can be unfair beauty takes work, skill and knowledge. You have to know what looks good on you, you basically have to learn chemistry to address your skin and your hair and you need, you have to look into hacks and shortcuts to certain things you can’t get rid of otherwise or at least without surgery but most importantly you have to like yourself before doing all of this so it doesn’t become a toxic part of your life. But besides that, I was getting worried that eventually I would get to a point where I was done, where I had my perfect skincare, my perfect hair care and I had all the clothes that I wanted where I was going to go back to envying people (albeit less) because I never actually killed that urge as opposed to redirecting it into something constructive. This video came at a great time for me personally
Thank you sooo much currently dealing with feeling envious of my cousins. They both started driving recently and are both younger than me. My fear of driving makes me feel like I’m behind in life. It’s something I’m super embarrassed about. Anyway my cousin gave me the news that she got her license and I couldn’t feel 100% happy for her. I was happy but there was a tinge of envy. My other cousin got a car and same thing I felt a wave of envy. It makes me feel super icky because I’ve NEVER felt like this. Yes I’ve compared myself to girls on social media but that was easier for me to overcome. But ugh I just felt like such an ugly person for feeling that. I am glad that they reached this milestone and I know that I’ll drive & have a car when it’s my time. Thank you again for the wonderful advice ❤
This video couldn’t have popped up at a better time! I had a jealous moment yesterday and I felt very icky about it thank you so much i really needed this ❤️ you are so beautiful btw!
u literally are a breath of fresh air! thank you for making amazing informative videos
11:44 Yassssss queen! ❤I love the part about the not caring about couples thing and to also add on to that if you're jealous of someone who's in a relationship just because they're in one doesn't mean that their life is perfect and they struggle with things too.
U are incredible for all the young women/teens. This was amazing. Thank you xx
I really have to tell you that the way your videos and literally just the way you talk feels so wholesome and warm and gives off such a positive vibe is beautiful. The way you tell us everything you know shows HOW MUCH you actually want other people to do better in their lives as well. I'm sure you're a very warm and kind hearted person and I really wish that all your beautiful dreams come true. 💗✨✨💗
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Yeah i wanna unlearn this mindset. I developed it because i got constantly compared to my cousins while growing up and because of that I felt like our relatives are quietly making us compete. It was also evident that my grandpa has a clear favorite
Thank you, was feeling wildly jealous lately and needed to hear this
I can't explain how listening to your videos brightens up my day. We are of the same age but I get inspired by you every single time I hear you. Loads of love to you and wish you more and more success ahead ❤