I loved watching the table manners! Things are so different than when I was a kid. Manners were not an option growing up in our house. You never took a bite of food until everyone was seated. Elbows NEVER touched the table. No reaching across in front of someone. You asked for food to be passed. When you were done, would have to wait until everyone was done eating. Then you asked for permission to leave the table! May I please be excused? Chewed with mouth shut. And quietly! Now that I am in my 60’s, I am happy for this memory. This was a very important lesson for your family today! ❤️
Same here and our meals were always eaten at the table not in front of a TV. My family had conversation about our day at the table. When I was living in England with my family I had to learn a completely different way to hold a knife and fork. Your fork was held in your left hand with the back of the fork facing up and you would hold the knife in the right hand and only cut one bite at a time. Also for things like peas you would use your knife to squish them against the back of the fork.
In Australia, 56years old and brought up by my grandparents. We had table manners taught at every meal. We were taught the European style. No elbows on the table. Wrists on table when resting. Never put cutlery down while eating. Fork remains facing down even for mashed potatoes and peas (with peas you pierced the peas and pushed them onto the prongs). Fork remains in the same hand (never swapped). Soup spoon scooped away from you. Cutlery from outside in. Wait till everyone has been served before you begin eating. Never reach across the table for salt etc. , ask someone to pass it to you.
In Sweden, we hold our silverwears like they do in Italy. And we NEVER eat with only the fork. No no no. When we make a toast, we never rase the glas above chesthight, take a small sip and look at the one who made the toast and then on everyone else, then we put our glass down. Never reach over someone, to grab the salt or anything. No one leave the table until anyone has finnished. Then when we are done, we say thank you for the food. So great that you teach your lovely children the right manners❤️❤️❤️
In the U.K. you never switch hands. You can place your knife down but even that’s unusual between mouthfuls. Additionally the fork prongs should always remain facing down. It’s a fork not a shovel.
as a British person it was shocking to see how little they knew!! a lot of this is second nature to me, even not in a fancy restaurant, but its super cool you taught them this and they were so eager to learn! you are amazing parents
Tbh it depends on where you’re raised in the south I can attest we learn manners and etiquette at a very young age and it is drilled into us. Yes ma’am no ma’am yes sir no sir. Calling the host or other members of the table by Mr./Mrs./Miss and their last name until told it’s ok to use first name. Please and thank you. Opening doors and pulling chairs. Asking for things to be passed to you. No elbows on the table etc etc it’s very common in the south to teach young children manners and proper etiquette (very very big on manners in Texas where I’m from. You’ll have 2 year olds saying yes sir and no sir etc)
In our neck of the woods,New Zealand,the fork always stays in the left hand,the knife in the right. The knife is never sat down on the plate until you are finished. Knife and fork are put together when finished unless you want more,then they are kept apart. With peas you either spike them with the prongs or turn your fork over so you can scoup the peas onto the fork with the help of your knife. The napkin goes on the table after eating.
Same at my house in Australia. I've been told by one of my daughter's ( I have 5) teachers that my girls have to much manners. I'm like they can never use too much lol
I love that you did this with your children! When I was in 4th grade my mom made me read every book that Emily Post wrote on manners and etiquette and at the time I thought it was silly, but I have used it ever since. More parents need to bring this back! Thank You for taking the time out to do this for them.
In the U.K., we don't swap over the fork after cutting and use the opposite hand. Prongs are down when you eat, Knife and fork remain in your hands until your food is finished on your plate. If you are left handed prominent your knife and fork can be swapped. This is the way we eat at all times, not only at fancy restaurants. If eating peas, beans, etc, fork is not to be used as a shovel. Saying please and thank you. Mobile phones switched off or on mute. Lovely that you are teaching the children etiquette.
I loved this!! In my family, 5 kiddos, we learned table manners as soon as we learned to eat with utensils. Every night at dinner, my dad insisted we use ptoper table manners. He was often entertaining clients, we often had friends for dinner and we joined our parents at really nice restaurants. Good manners were engrained in us at an early age! So many young people have no table manners or even just basic social manners. This is great.
Love the video! I lowkey needed a table manners refresher lol but one thing I learned when giving a handshake at least in the west coast (not sure if it is done elsewhere), is that if you are seated and going to greet and shake hands with anyone, you have to get out of you seat and give the handshake standing up. Love yall!
We learned table etiquette in food class in grade 9. Always a great thing for kids to know and practice. Good job Shelly and Jared in raising these wonderful kids.
Love that you're teaching this! Napkins go on the left side of your plate when finished eating. Not talking over people or being loud is included in manners 😂 Please & thank yous, waiting until everyone is served before eating.
According to some etiquette rules, you should place your napkin on your lap while eating, on your chair if you need to leave the table during the meal, and on the table beside your plate when you're finished. You should not wad up your napkin, leave it on the chair, or put it in a plate with remnants of your meal.
With your napkin, I was taught to keep it on your lap (obvs.) but have the opening of the fold facing you. Then, when you wipe your mouth you just use the top flap this way you don’t end up with food all over yourself. I took a class in college and this was probably one of the only thing I remember from it 😂
Can I just give a shout out to Landon at 7:21. Without being asked he did a very chivalrous thing of getting up and standing so Addison could sit down and that is prime example of etiquette and chivalry and he didn’t even have to be told. That just made me so happy to see and I felt so proud of him. Bravo Landon 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
My parents sent me to a class called White Gloves and Party Manners in 1971 when I was 6 years old. The lessons have stuck with me my entire life. This is a wonderful lesson to teach the kids! Much love from Wilsonville Oregon
In New Zealand we don’t switch hands when cutting meat. The knife is in the right hand and the fork in the left hand facing down (unless you are left-handed in which case it is the other way around), and stays down regardless of what you are eating whether it be potato, peas, or anything else. When finished knife and fork are put together about the middle of the plate.
i live in uk and i always remember mom and dad saying when i was younger , keep your elbows off the table and no slouching at the table d if we went to friends homes we was told to always take our shoes off at the door and address the adults by mr or mrs and there last names until they said it was ok to use there first names
It was fun watching you teach table manners to the kids. It seems that many people have forgot basic manners. The only one I am not sure about is eating off the back of a fork. That seems difficult and easier to drop food and make a mess. Love watching your family and your openness about every day life, ❤
Love this video…how fun! Trey was more correct because he pushed the chair as she sat. The person sits as the chair is being pushed in. If not close enough the person in the chair slightly rises and the gentleman pushes the chair again and the lady sits again. Not so much of the weight on the chair. Either would work but it the lady doesn’t help a bit it would be hard the push the chair in. So fun….
This is so important in a child’s life ‼️ I really think each home should teach their children these manners ‼️💛♥️ Great parenting and great listening ‼️
What a cool thing to teach them and I bet in years to come, whether at a meeting or wedding or whatever they will remember these fun lessons-I remember my Mother teaching me all this and I am.......OLD lol :)
For me, it is the use the knives and forks in North America. In North America what I have noticed is the fact that they cut up the food and put the knife down on the plate and then use the fork. In the Uk and in South Africa we use both Utensils and do not put one utensil down.
Not all of North America in Canada we use continental etiquette also. So as the UK and South Africa we would not place our knife down as well. Seems to be just more of a U.S thing.
This was a good video. My parents taught me good manners growing up and I knew quite a few of what you were showing the kids but even I learned a few new things. ❤
Thank you for sharing this is great. So many people don’t learn basic and proper etiquette and it really does matter. Also when shaking someone’s hand look them in the eye while shaking their hand
A cruise (like a Disney Cruise) has rotational dining and is "fancy" meals for each night... this might be a way to bond with kids and practice the etiquette at the same time.. (maybe like 2-3 kids with a parent)
this to me back to my middle school days in home economics class we did the fancy dining also in class, lord my 40th high school reunion is this year, lol glad someone is still teaching the kids proper manners ty
Thank you for showing this. Just like you said, manners never go out of style. I am constantly telling my great nieces and nephews about talking with food in their mouths, shoveling too much food in their mouths, chewing with their mouths open and not cutting up their food. I guess their parents don't teach what they were taught growing up 🤔
Cutlery in the uk starts from the outside in, so soup/salad to start, then fish course, then main, then the inside is dessert/cheese course. Never put bags on the floor as that is germy. My great grandma always said if putting milk on the table it should be in a jug. Sauces like ketchup or mustard should be in little bowls with a spoon, as should sugar. Also if drinking tea, coffee or any hot beverage never stick your pinky finger in the air as that is vulgar.
I'm German and I know that in the U.S. it is considered rude to put your second hand on the table while you eat. Here it is the opposite, it's considered rude not to put it on the table. However I totally get why it is done the way it's done in the U.S.
I am from the US and I know I shouldn't put my non dominant hand on the table but I use both hands due to having an injury to my dominant hand when I was young so I got used to using my utensils with my left hand more then my right. So my brain gets confused
In the UK we mostly do as Jarred did including cutlery working from the outside in and when finished knife and fork at the 5, the only time you put your cutlery down would be to take a drink, use a condiment like salt or pepper and when you need to leave the table
My mom, "Forks and spoons are not shovels!" Also, after many reminders, you may get a little poke with her fork if your elbows were on the table, and if you talked with your mouth full she would pretend like she couldn't hear you. I was reminded when I was younger that some in the older generations may judge on your hand shake. And last, it was my brothers that learned in home ec that very old etiquette says, when you set the table, if the knife blade is facing out it could be a declaration of war or battle...It has been a running joke in our house for years.
71 and just learned the right way to hold a purse. Didn't know about the napkin. Thought you unfolded the whole thing. I could go on and on. I learned so much.
Hello guys love watching you, im from SE london uk, near tower bridge area and when i eat pie n mash with liquir which is a parsley sauce or sausage and mash with gravy we use a spoon along with the knife and fork at the end to get the sauce or gravy...
Hello crazy Middle's thank you so so much for sharing another amazing video this was a great video I appreciate your family and the time and effort you put in your videos thank you so so much ❤❤❤❤❤❤
People usually don't handshake in my country, they usually do a kiss on the cheek (between 1-3 depending on the region) when is female/female or female/male, and between guys they do whatever.
I love the hand shaking you taught them. So important in business. Unfortunately I don’t know if everyone likes to shake hands anymore because of virus’s. Like The Cov
Great skills to learn! They will need these for more than dates. I use all these for work, interviews, dinner with friends, etc. Suggestion: follow up these teaching with practice in the coming weeks. Maybe have a dinner a week (at home) where you all practice. We have passed on good work candidates if they have poor manners.
that's great for learning, have you thought about a practice run or two and then take them all out to a fancy dinner ? that would be a learning experience for sure .
I remember when I was in Sixth Grade we had what they called Manner's Month. For entire month we were assigned a person and they guys escorted the girls to lunch. When we got to the table they had to pull our chairs out for us and before we left they had pull out our chairs for us to stand and then we had to take their trays to the washer with our trays and then they esorted us back to class. The last day which was before Thanksgiving/Christmas Break we had a Special Dinner. Like a feast. And we had to dress our best. Like Wedding attire best. And the guys esorted us in pulled out our chairs and everything on last time. I will NEVER forget it for as long as I live!
When I was in middle school I had a wonderful homeroom teacher! She had the same students 7-9 grade. She told us during our first year that she was going to teach us how to attend a dinner and use the proper utensils and proper behavior. We had practice table settings which included which forks are used and when, glassware placement, how to use your knives properly and where to place your used utensils. We had special breakfast and snacks throughout our three years! At Christmas we each received a beautiful invitation to attend a formal dinner at a beautiful hotel a few weeks after Christmas break! We had to write a note that we would attend with a signed consent from our parents! She actually contacted the parents to explain what we have been learning and how her husband and her would love to treat every student to a formal dinner! She asked our parents if we had suitable attire and she would take anyone shopping for what they needed! We found out after the dinner that her husband picked up the boys that needed clothing and she took the girls too in separate limos! The boys got suits, shirts, ties, belts and shoes! The girls got to pick a beautiful suit or dress and shoes and even beautiful shawls since it was still very cold! They were taken to a nice restaurant after shopping! We found out during the formal dinner that her husband was from Greece and his family built yachts. They showed us a slide presentation of their 2 trips around the world which took them 2 years each time! Our teacher said that she wanted to use her teaching degree for several years while they lived in her country! She said they were going back to Greece eventually and would continue to travel! It was a beautiful night and we were all amazed by their generosity! When it was time to leave we were escorted to a limo! They had 4 big limos waiting! Our parents were in on the surprise! It was many years ago but I'll never forget what she taught us! They were the nicest couple that loved each other and were so kind to everyone! The world should be filled with people like them!
In Canada where I am from, we don't switch hands, the fork is both down and up depending on what you are eating, we don't eat our food if the other person hasn't been served, we eat at the same time. It is changing and people eat without a thought, which is sad.
Thank goodness the switching hands to eat the meat with the right hand is only done in the US. Some Britons are starting to do it but majority of countries dont. I was taught to eat the continental way which is also how they do it in Australia you leave the fork in the cutting position and pop the mouthful in your mouth and you can keep hold of your knife in your right hand. The mashed potatoes can be put on fork as you guys showed and then you can push a few peas on and they dont fall off. :))) Awesome video xox
Knowledge of (table)manners and etiquette is always an advantage in life. Indeed they differ per culture, region and the kind of food is served. In various professions, but also in social situations, it is crucial to attend to formal meals. It's never too early to learn the how and the why of these cultural "rules". Great you are willing to learn and practice.
When you get to the last bit of soup tip your bowl away from you to be able to get the last of soup from bowl. There is also what side to stand on when serving someone. A small plate at your setting at top is probably a bread plate.
I will be turning 57 this October n let me just say that wen we were younger, we always had to mind our manners whether it’s at home or out. We were NEVER allowed to talk with food in our mouths, put our elbows on the table while eating, nor cuss in any way, shape or form. I had raised my daughter that way n she is 32 years old now n have 4 children all of whom are raised the way I raised my daughter about having manners at home or away. I understand children will be children but if they don’t have manners now, then they probably won’t have good manners as adults. Blessings to all… Aloha from Hawaii 🤙🏽
To train posture while eating, have a book under each arm in your armpit and balance one book on your head. You can't drop any of the books. Also in Denmark if you have to put your fork and knife down but you are not done eating, or waiting for more of the same food, you place your fork at 10 and your knife at 2. If you are done eating we place fork and knife at 3.
This is a good thing you are teaching your kids . I wasn't taught this If I did something wrong my mother would slap me . I asked an older woman in the neighborhood how to eat properly so I wouldn't get slapped . Once I knew if my sister didn't eat correctly I got slapped not her . My mother was mean . Prayers and Love 💞 From Oklahoma
Here in ireland you always have your knife and fork in your hand while your eating until you are finished then they go on the plate at 6.00 we also never leave the table until everyone has finshed eating and drinking and everyone is ready to leave the table, and the men would pull out the chairs for the women to help them get up, we never stretch across the table for anything salt/pepper/condements we ask the person closest to it to pass it so that might mean it passes several people til it gets to you. My dad was alwas very big on us learning this from a very early age so we always did this at home aswell as any restaurant also we do scoop our peas onto our fork and depending on the level of fancy restaurant (not black tie but shirt and slacks, you would call them pants and shoes not sandles flip flops or runners i think you call them trainers) you can also scoop your mashed potatoes but not for black tie restaurants. Your serviette goes on the table beside your plate never on it when your finished.
Great idea to do with your kids. Maybe another time do one on being a guest at someone’s home. Also, how to interact with your elders, such as standing up when an older person enters the room, greeting him, shaking hands. Allowing your host to tell you where to sit and not beginning to eat until your hostess takes her first bite or tells you to begin.
For us in UK there is always simple table etiquette for eating dinner round the table as a family at home. We also did these round friends and family houses. It's engraved in us to always hold knife and fork properly with holding fork down, obly turning fork over to scoop veg onto fork with knife. If we were serving ourselves we had to eat everything on the plate teaching us your eyes are bigger than your belly, meaning never take more food unless YOU KNOW your gonna eat it all. So we were taught to serve small portions and was always OK to go back for more. Its only OK to leave food if its served for you. We always chewed/ate with our mouths closed as no one likes to see or hear what you're eating. Laying the table were taught to always put fork left hand side, knife right and the spoon at top with handle facing fork and head facing knife. Being left handed I'd get it back to front and had to relay the table. It's only when eating we could swap hands. Also the glass always goes top right in between spoon head and knife head. Your not to reach over the table to get the food or condiment you ask the person nearest to pass you it. We eat with elbows off the table and not sticking out like chicken wings. It's always please and thank you. We were never allowed to get up and leave the table when finished. We had to wait for everyone to finish eating and then asked May we leave the table or told beforehand you may leave the table now. As I said this was just at home.
They have a placement of ur plates setting and how to use, Michigan had Home economics class where they teach all that, try finding a place that does tea time
Hahaha as a French person that kinda made me laugh a bit, we have to learn that so young over there i don’t even remember learning it, its just natural at this point 🫣 good job guys i love seeing those kinds of things not being lost ☺️
I grew up in Canada but my Dad was the cook and his side of the family was Italian! Watching this video I realised so many of my ingrained table manners are Italian!
You nailed it! The only thing is that the spoons do not go according to size. The soup spoon is outside, and the coffee or tea spoon is on the inside next to your plate. I have only seen other spoons at dinner parties, where the guests are evenly split to man/woman ratio, and the hostess takes time to sort out guests; as to who is sitting with whom.
In ireland for utensils. The knife remains in the right hand, and the fork remains in the left. When the meal is finished, the knife and fork are laid parallel to each other across the right side of the plate . The fork is often held tines down, so that food is scooped up onto its back side. For the place setting. The knife above the plate is used for butter. Always start from the outside and work your way in, course by course. For eating potatoes. Bread is usually not served at the dinner party, and the little plate next to the big plate is the place to put the peelings from your boiled potatoes. The proper technique involves holding the potato down with your fork in one hand, and peel the skin with your knife in the other. For your hands. Hands are expected to be in one's lap when not holding utensils at the dinner table ( it's the reverse of the custom on the continent which is to keep hands above the table. For passing the food.. Pass all dishes to your left. For seating... The most honored position is at the head of the table, with the most important guest seated first to the left and then the right of the head of the table. If their is a hosting couple, one will be at each end of the table. For paying the bill... Usually the one who does the inviting pays the bill. Sometimes in other circumstances determine the payee such as rank. Tipping... Restaurants usually include a service charge in the bill, so you will not be expected to leave an additional tip. Eat at home The main meal is dinner, which is in the evening. When possible, a family will sit down together to share their dinner. Table manner are informal and relaxed. However, there are a couple of etiquette customs to follow. Avoid putting your elbows on the dinner table. Loud noises while eating, such as slurping, are generally not acceptable at the dinner table. Its considered polite to finish all the food on your plate. To say cheers, some will say sláinte pronounced slan-cha Also, there are no phones. And always say please and thank you.
I know you did it for going out but we had table etiquette at home growing up in England. From a reasonable age (7+) we are taught that you have to hold your fork down for everything and not use it as a shovel. We were taught if you serve yourself YOU ALWAYS had to finish our meal to learn are your eyes bigger than your belly. Meaning only serve what you know you can eat and you can always go back for more. If someone serves you dinner then it's ONLY then that it's OK to leave food. We were always taught don't have your elbows on the table. To always use manners and to NEVER eat with your mouthful. After finishing your dinner you couldn't just get up from the table. We either had to wait until everyone had finished or ask politely may I leave the table. Like every family you may do somethings differently but some things always have to stay the same eg how go hold knife and fork.
I think you should make this a contest to encourage the kids to learn these skills. Whoever has the best manners gets to go on a fancy date with mom or dad and uses the skills they’ve mastered. You can do this with every kid as they learn and improve, the competition being who gets to go first, then second and so on. Then that way, they’ll learn why they actually need these skills and how to use them in a real life setting with you m, before they need them for a date or fancy work occasion or whatever.
Aubrey, as a fellow lefty, You do not need to switch to your right hand. Life is built for righties and us lefties are made to stand out. I am one of 4 lefties in my immediate family.
I live in Michigan. In my family, if we ate with the fork upside down, we were told that wasn't proper and would get a glare from our parents/grandparents. It always was to be used as a pensil. (That was the way my grandparents were taught in the 30s.) The rule was always no elbows on the table but forearms were okay if you were actively eating. When you're done the way to signal the waiter is to place your napkin over your plate so that others cannot see any mess left on the plate. You never reached across and food was always passed around the table. We always had to ask if we could leave if we were having a proper meal.
I loved watching the table manners! Things are so different than when I was a kid. Manners were not an option growing up in our house. You never took a bite of food until everyone was seated. Elbows NEVER touched the table. No reaching across in front of someone. You asked for food to be passed. When you were done, would have to wait until everyone was done eating. Then you asked for permission to leave the table! May I please be excused? Chewed with mouth shut. And quietly! Now that I am in my 60’s, I am happy for this memory. This was a very important lesson for your family today! ❤️
I can still hear- Mable, Mable strong and able, keep your elbows off the table!
Those are normal table rules.
Same here and our meals were always eaten at the table not in front of a TV. My family had conversation about our day at the table. When I was living in England with my family I had to learn a completely different way to hold a knife and fork. Your fork was held in your left hand with the back of the fork facing up and you would hold the knife in the right hand and only cut one bite at a time. Also for things like peas you would use your knife to squish them against the back of the fork.
I love how they take the time out to teach all the kids a skill or lesson
In Australia, 56years old and brought up by my grandparents. We had table manners taught at every meal. We were taught the European style. No elbows on the table. Wrists on table when resting. Never put cutlery down while eating. Fork remains facing down even for mashed potatoes and peas (with peas you pierced the peas and pushed them onto the prongs). Fork remains in the same hand (never swapped). Soup spoon scooped away from you. Cutlery from outside in. Wait till everyone has been served before you begin eating. Never reach across the table for salt etc. , ask someone to pass it to you.
In Sweden, we hold our silverwears like they do in Italy. And we NEVER eat with only the fork. No no no. When we make a toast, we never rase the glas above chesthight, take a small sip and look at the one who made the toast and then on everyone else, then we put our glass down.
Never reach over someone, to grab the salt or anything.
No one leave the table until anyone has finnished. Then when we are done, we say thank you for the food.
So great that you teach your lovely children the right manners❤️❤️❤️
oh another one from sweden watching crazy middles
@@Renado009 Are you from Sweden too? Hi :)
In the U.K. you never switch hands. You can place your knife down but even that’s unusual between mouthfuls. Additionally the fork prongs should always remain facing down. It’s a fork not a shovel.
as a British person it was shocking to see how little they knew!! a lot of this is second nature to me, even not in a fancy restaurant, but its super cool you taught them this and they were so eager to learn! you are amazing parents
Tbh it depends on where you’re raised in the south I can attest we learn manners and etiquette at a very young age and it is drilled into us. Yes ma’am no ma’am yes sir no sir. Calling the host or other members of the table by Mr./Mrs./Miss and their last name until told it’s ok to use first name. Please and thank you. Opening doors and pulling chairs. Asking for things to be passed to you. No elbows on the table etc etc it’s very common in the south to teach young children manners and proper etiquette (very very big on manners in Texas where I’m from. You’ll have 2 year olds saying yes sir and no sir etc)
When you eat internationally, after cutting your meat you keep your knife in your right hand and eat with the fork in your left hand
In my country some people either change the fork to the hand they used to cut it, or eat with the other hand.
What if your right handed
Why
@@LeahPothastthen you do it with the opposite hands but you still don’t put the knife down
In our neck of the woods,New Zealand,the fork always stays in the left hand,the knife in the right. The knife is never sat down on the plate until you are finished.
Knife and fork are put together when finished unless you want more,then they are kept apart.
With peas you either spike them with the prongs or turn your fork over so you can scoup the peas onto the fork with the help of your knife.
The napkin goes on the table after eating.
Same at my house in Australia. I've been told by one of my daughter's ( I have 5) teachers that my girls have to much manners. I'm like they can never use too much lol
I am so impressed. I love the fact that you are teaching your children manners.
I feel manners have been lost, which is sad.
Wonderful!
I hope crazy in live is going to be on youtube for years. Love both channels.
Yes manners today don't existe 90% of the time
I love that you did this with your children! When I was in 4th grade my mom made me read every book that Emily Post wrote on manners and etiquette and at the time I thought it was silly, but I have used it ever since. More parents need to bring this back! Thank You for taking the time out to do this for them.
In the U.K., we don't swap over the fork after cutting and use the opposite hand. Prongs are down when you eat, Knife and fork remain in your hands until your food is finished on your plate. If you are left handed prominent your knife and fork can be swapped. This is the way we eat at all times, not only at fancy restaurants. If eating peas, beans, etc, fork is not to be used as a shovel. Saying please and thank you. Mobile phones switched off or on mute. Lovely that you are teaching the children etiquette.
I loved this!! In my family, 5 kiddos, we learned table manners as soon as we learned to eat with utensils. Every night at dinner, my dad insisted we use ptoper table manners. He was often entertaining clients, we often had friends for dinner and we joined our parents at really nice restaurants. Good manners were engrained in us at an early age! So many young people have no table manners or even just basic social manners. This is great.
Love the video! I lowkey needed a table manners refresher lol but one thing I learned when giving a handshake at least in the west coast (not sure if it is done elsewhere), is that if you are seated and going to greet and shake hands with anyone, you have to get out of you seat and give the handshake standing up. Love yall!
Absolutely correct
Yes! Stand up to shake hands ❤
You should also always go round the desk/table before you shake hands so you're not doing it with something inbetween
We learned table etiquette in food class in grade 9. Always a great thing for kids to know and practice. Good job Shelly and Jared in raising these wonderful kids.
Love that you're teaching this!
Napkins go on the left side of your plate when finished eating.
Not talking over people or being loud is included in manners 😂
Please & thank yous, waiting until everyone is served before eating.
So Glad you're showing the children table manners..
Its a Lost art..
Much love and Be Blessed Wallace Family.
According to some etiquette rules, you should place your napkin on your lap while eating, on your chair if you need to leave the table during the meal, and on the table beside your plate when you're finished. You should not wad up your napkin, leave it on the chair, or put it in a plate with remnants of your meal.
Without them knowing I would love to see a fantasy meal served. Soup, salad and so forth. Thank you for sharing.
With your napkin, I was taught to keep it on your lap (obvs.) but have the opening of the fold facing you. Then, when you wipe your mouth you just use the top flap this way you don’t end up with food all over yourself. I took a class in college and this was probably one of the only thing I remember from it 😂
Can I just give a shout out to Landon at 7:21. Without being asked he did a very chivalrous thing of getting up and standing so Addison could sit down and that is prime example of etiquette and chivalry and he didn’t even have to be told. That just made me so happy to see and I felt so proud of him. Bravo Landon 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
My parents sent me to a class called White Gloves and Party Manners in 1971 when I was 6 years old. The lessons have stuck with me my entire life. This is a wonderful lesson to teach the kids! Much love from Wilsonville Oregon
In New Zealand we don’t switch hands when cutting meat. The knife is in the right hand and the fork in the left hand facing down (unless you are left-handed in which case it is the other way around), and stays down regardless of what you are eating whether it be potato, peas, or anything else. When finished knife and fork are put together about the middle of the plate.
i live in uk and i always remember mom and dad saying when i was younger , keep your elbows off the table and no slouching at the table
d if we went to friends homes we was told to always take our shoes off at the door and address the adults by mr or mrs and there last names until they said it was ok to use there first names
Some of their comments were so funny!!
This was a really good teaching opportunity for all.
It was fun watching you teach table manners to the kids. It seems that many people have forgot basic manners. The only one I am not sure about is eating off the back of a fork. That seems difficult and easier to drop food and make a mess. Love watching your family and your openness about every day life, ❤
Love this video…how fun!
Trey was more correct because he pushed the chair as she sat. The person sits as the chair is being pushed in. If not close enough the person in the chair slightly rises and the gentleman pushes the chair again and the lady sits again. Not so much of the weight on the chair. Either would work but it the lady doesn’t help a bit it would be hard the push the chair in. So fun….
Just wanted to add to the handshake 🤝.. it’s important to make eye contact and sometimes maybe a little smile or expression of hello/ welcoming
This is so important in a child’s life ‼️ I really think each home should teach their children these manners ‼️💛♥️ Great parenting and great listening ‼️
What a cool thing to teach them and I bet in years to come, whether at a meeting or wedding or whatever they will remember these fun lessons-I remember my Mother teaching me all this and I am.......OLD lol :)
For me, it is the use the knives and forks in North America. In North America what I have noticed is the fact that they cut up the food and put the knife down on the plate and then use the fork. In the Uk and in South Africa we use both Utensils and do not put one utensil down.
Not all of North America in Canada we use continental etiquette also. So as the UK and South Africa we would not place our knife down as well. Seems to be just more of a U.S thing.
We never put the knife down either in Australia.
Same for the rest of Europe
Love you teaching the proper way to have manners!
This was a good video. My parents taught me good manners growing up and I knew quite a few of what you were showing the kids but even I learned a few new things. ❤
Thank you for sharing this is great. So many people don’t learn basic and proper etiquette and it really does matter. Also when shaking someone’s hand look them in the eye while shaking their hand
Love y’all, y’all are amazing. Give everybody a hugs .
A cruise (like a Disney Cruise) has rotational dining and is "fancy" meals for each night... this might be a way to bond with kids and practice the etiquette at the same time.. (maybe like 2-3 kids with a parent)
this to me back to my middle school days in home economics class we did the fancy dining also in class, lord my 40th high school reunion is this year, lol glad someone is still teaching the kids proper manners ty
There is nothing better than being hands-on ,, Love this video, ty for bringing us along ❤️ 😊
These are excellent life lessons! You guys are wonderful parents!!
Thank you for showing this. Just like you said, manners never go out of style. I am constantly telling my great nieces and nephews about talking with food in their mouths, shoveling too much food in their mouths, chewing with their mouths open and not cutting up their food. I guess their parents don't teach what they were taught growing up 🤔
now to take them out to eat & let the restaurant know❤️🥰
Loved this. We had this in school years ago! Plus it was just a way of life. I have gotten so slack!
Cutlery in the uk starts from the outside in, so soup/salad to start, then fish course, then main, then the inside is dessert/cheese course. Never put bags on the floor as that is germy. My great grandma always said if putting milk on the table it should be in a jug. Sauces like ketchup or mustard should be in little bowls with a spoon, as should sugar. Also if drinking tea, coffee or any hot beverage never stick your pinky finger in the air as that is vulgar.
I'm German and I know that in the U.S. it is considered rude to put your second hand on the table while you eat. Here it is the opposite, it's considered rude not to put it on the table. However I totally get why it is done the way it's done in the U.S.
I am from the US and I know I shouldn't put my non dominant hand on the table but I use both hands due to having an injury to my dominant hand when I was young so I got used to using my utensils with my left hand more then my right. So my brain gets confused
Manners never go out of style and style varies across contexts, including personal style. 😉
Thank you Jared & Shelly. In my late 40’s & actually learned a table Etiquette that I didn’t know 🤦🏻♀️😂
In the UK we mostly do as Jarred did including cutlery working from the outside in and when finished knife and fork at the 5, the only time you put your cutlery down would be to take a drink, use a condiment like salt or pepper and when you need to leave the table
💖❤💘💝💓I love watching your videos, thank you for sharing and have a great day!!!!
In Canada hands above table, we do not switch hands with our fork, knife if put down goes on side of plate
My mom, "Forks and spoons are not shovels!" Also, after many reminders, you may get a little poke with her fork if your elbows were on the table, and if you talked with your mouth full she would pretend like she couldn't hear you. I was reminded when I was younger that some in the older generations may judge on your hand shake. And last, it was my brothers that learned in home ec that very old etiquette says, when you set the table, if the knife blade is facing out it could be a declaration of war or battle...It has been a running joke in our house for years.
71 and just learned the right way to hold a purse. Didn't know about the napkin. Thought you unfolded the whole thing. I could go on and on. I learned so much.
Hello guys love watching you, im from SE london uk, near tower bridge area and when i eat pie n mash with liquir which is a parsley sauce or sausage and mash with gravy we use a spoon along with the knife and fork at the end to get the sauce or gravy...
i learned something today. thank you
Hello crazy Middle's thank you so so much for sharing another amazing video this was a great video I appreciate your family and the time and effort you put in your videos thank you so so much ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Love seeing Cynthia there😊
People usually don't handshake in my country, they usually do a kiss on the cheek (between 1-3 depending on the region) when is female/female or female/male, and between guys they do whatever.
I love the hand shaking you taught them. So important in business. Unfortunately I don’t know if everyone likes to shake hands anymore because of virus’s. Like The Cov
Yea i dont like touchin no one as is lol i will just say hello but i am not a hand shaker or hugger lol. No physical contact pls
This is so cute, you're teaching, even the little ones.
I love watching these videos because I am an older woman and you helped me learn to
Parents don't teach this anymore, great job Jared and Shelly, your amazing parents! And all your kids are so great. Blessings 🙌
Great skills to learn!
They will need these for more than dates. I use all these for work, interviews, dinner with friends, etc.
Suggestion: follow up these teaching with practice in the coming weeks. Maybe have a dinner a week (at home) where you all practice. We have passed on good work candidates if they have poor manners.
that's great for learning, have you thought about a practice run or two and then take them all out to a fancy dinner ? that would be a learning experience for sure .
I remember when I was in Sixth Grade we had what they called Manner's Month. For entire month we were assigned a person and they guys escorted the girls to lunch. When we got to the table they had to pull our chairs out for us and before we left they had pull out our chairs for us to stand and then we had to take their trays to the washer with our trays and then they esorted us back to class. The last day which was before Thanksgiving/Christmas Break we had a Special Dinner. Like a feast. And we had to dress our best. Like Wedding attire best. And the guys esorted us in pulled out our chairs and everything on last time. I will NEVER forget it for as long as I live!
When I was in middle school I had a wonderful homeroom teacher! She had the same students 7-9 grade. She told us during our first year that she was going to teach us how to attend a dinner and use the proper utensils and proper behavior. We had practice table settings which included which forks are used and when, glassware placement, how to use your knives properly and where to place your used utensils. We had special breakfast and snacks throughout our three years! At Christmas we each received a beautiful invitation to attend a formal dinner at a beautiful hotel a few weeks after Christmas break! We had to write a note that we would attend with a signed consent from our parents! She actually contacted the parents to explain what we have been learning and how her husband and her would love to treat every student to a formal dinner! She asked our parents if we had suitable attire and she would take anyone shopping for what they needed! We found out after the dinner that her husband picked up the boys that needed clothing and she took the girls too in separate limos! The boys got suits, shirts, ties, belts and shoes! The girls got to pick a beautiful suit or dress and shoes and even beautiful shawls since it was still very cold! They were taken to a nice restaurant after shopping! We found out during the formal dinner that her husband was from Greece and his family built yachts. They showed us a slide presentation of their 2 trips around the world which took them 2 years each time! Our teacher said that she wanted to use her teaching degree for several years while they lived in her country! She said they were going back to Greece eventually and would continue to travel! It was a beautiful night and we were all amazed by their generosity! When it was time to leave we were escorted to a limo! They had 4 big limos waiting! Our parents were in on the surprise! It was many years ago but I'll never forget what she taught us! They were the nicest couple that loved each other and were so kind to everyone! The world should be filled with people like them!
Good skills to learn. 🥰🎶❤️🎶🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
In Canada where I am from, we don't switch hands, the fork is both down and up depending on what you are eating, we don't eat our food if the other person hasn't been served, we eat at the same time. It is changing and people eat without a thought, which is sad.
True yes. Canadian from Ontario here
Thank goodness the switching hands to eat the meat with the right hand is only done in the US. Some Britons are starting to do it but majority of countries dont. I was taught to eat the continental way which is also how they do it in Australia you leave the fork in the cutting position and pop the mouthful in your mouth and you can keep hold of your knife in your right hand. The mashed potatoes can be put on fork as you guys showed and then you can push a few peas on and they dont fall off. :))) Awesome video xox
Knowledge of (table)manners and etiquette is always an advantage in life.
Indeed they differ per culture, region and the kind of food is served.
In various professions, but also in social situations, it is crucial to attend to formal meals.
It's never too early to learn the how and the why of these cultural "rules".
Great you are willing to learn and practice.
When you get to the last bit of soup tip your bowl away from you to be able to get the last of soup from bowl.
There is also what side to stand on when serving someone.
A small plate at your setting at top is probably a bread plate.
I will be turning 57 this October n let me just say that wen we were younger, we always had to mind our manners whether it’s at home or out. We were NEVER allowed to talk with food in our mouths, put our elbows on the table while eating, nor cuss in any way, shape or form.
I had raised my daughter that way n she is 32 years old now n have 4 children all of whom are raised the way I raised my daughter about having manners at home or away.
I understand children will be children but if they don’t have manners now, then they probably won’t have good manners as adults.
Blessings to all…
Aloha from Hawaii 🤙🏽
To train posture while eating, have a book under each arm in your armpit and balance one book on your head. You can't drop any of the books. Also in Denmark if you have to put your fork and knife down but you are not done eating, or waiting for more of the same food, you place your fork at 10 and your knife at 2. If you are done eating we place fork and knife at 3.
Now you gotta take them somewhere fancy and put their new skills to the test ❤
Here in Ohio we don't put our elbows on the table and we don't chew with our mouths open and say please and thank you
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When the fork or food falls on the ground, in Germany we have the unicorn-rule. You can use or eat the fallen stuff until you see a unicorn.
We frequently had *good manners Sunday" where we use all those manners with our kids.
Thank you for sharing
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This is a good thing you are teaching your kids . I wasn't taught this If I did something wrong my mother would slap me . I asked an older woman in the neighborhood how to eat properly so I wouldn't get slapped . Once I knew if my sister didn't eat correctly I got slapped not her . My mother was mean . Prayers and Love 💞 From Oklahoma
Here in ireland you always have your knife and fork in your hand while your eating until you are finished then they go on the plate at 6.00 we also never leave the table until everyone has finshed eating and drinking and everyone is ready to leave the table, and the men would pull out the chairs for the women to help them get up, we never stretch across the table for anything salt/pepper/condements we ask the person closest to it to pass it so that might mean it passes several people til it gets to you. My dad was alwas very big on us learning this from a very early age so we always did this at home aswell as any restaurant also we do scoop our peas onto our fork and depending on the level of fancy restaurant (not black tie but shirt and slacks, you would call them pants and shoes not sandles flip flops or runners i think you call them trainers) you can also scoop your mashed potatoes but not for black tie restaurants. Your serviette goes on the table beside your plate never on it when your finished.
You guys are awesome. ❤❤ I have always put the napkins on my plate. lol.
Shelly I love your hair like this ! You are a gorgeous lady hun 🙏🏻❤️
Yes good skills to teach them
Love how you guys teach your kids life skills and every video isn’t about shopping or a room makeover ! 😅
Please show more parenting tips like this!
Great idea to do with your kids. Maybe another time do one on being a guest at someone’s home. Also, how to interact with your elders, such as standing up when an older person enters the room, greeting him, shaking hands. Allowing your host to tell you where to sit and not beginning to eat until your hostess takes her first bite or tells you to begin.
For us in UK there is always simple table etiquette for eating dinner round the table as a family at home. We also did these round friends and family houses.
It's engraved in us to always hold knife and fork properly with holding fork down, obly turning fork over to scoop veg onto fork with knife. If we were serving ourselves we had to eat everything on the plate teaching us your eyes are bigger than your belly, meaning never take more food unless YOU KNOW your gonna eat it all. So we were taught to serve small portions and was always OK to go back for more. Its only OK to leave food if its served for you.
We always chewed/ate with our mouths closed as no one likes to see or hear what you're eating. Laying the table were taught to always put fork left hand side, knife right and the spoon at top with handle facing fork and head facing knife. Being left handed I'd get it back to front and had to relay the table. It's only when eating we could swap hands. Also the glass always goes top right in between spoon head and knife head.
Your not to reach over the table to get the food or condiment you ask the person nearest to pass you it. We eat with elbows off the table and not sticking out like chicken wings. It's always please and thank you. We were never allowed to get up and leave the table when finished. We had to wait for everyone to finish eating and then asked May we leave the table or told beforehand you may leave the table now. As I said this was just at home.
I'm 40 and learned a few things 😆 ty!! ❤️
Even I, myself learn something on this video and im grown. Love from Canada
Italian way, so agree with you Jarod
Great teaching moments
This is a good idea. I need to do this with my kids.
I love your channel, i have been watching you for 5 years now💕💕
Good manners should always be used at home. When you are out good manners come automatically.
They have a placement of ur plates setting and how to use, Michigan had Home economics class where they teach all that, try finding a place that does tea time
Hahaha as a French person that kinda made me laugh a bit, we have to learn that so young over there i don’t even remember learning it, its just natural at this point 🫣 good job guys i love seeing those kinds of things not being lost ☺️
I grew up in Canada but my Dad was the cook and his side of the family was Italian! Watching this video I realised so many of my ingrained table manners are Italian!
You nailed it! The only thing is that the spoons do not go according to size. The soup spoon is outside, and the coffee or tea spoon is on the inside next to your plate. I have only seen other spoons at dinner parties, where the guests are evenly split to man/woman ratio, and the hostess takes time to sort out guests; as to who is sitting with whom.
Coffee and dessert spoons and forks are on top in other cultures
In ireland for utensils.
The knife remains in the right hand, and the fork remains in the left. When the meal is finished, the knife and fork are laid parallel to each other across the right side of the plate . The fork is often held tines down, so that food is scooped up onto its back side.
For the place setting. The knife above the plate is used for butter. Always start from the outside and work your way in, course by course.
For eating potatoes.
Bread is usually not served at the dinner party, and the little plate next to the big plate is the place to put the peelings from your boiled potatoes. The proper technique involves holding the potato down with your fork in one hand, and peel the skin with your knife in the other.
For your hands.
Hands are expected to be in one's lap when not holding utensils at the dinner table ( it's the reverse of the custom on the continent which is to keep hands above the table.
For passing the food..
Pass all dishes to your left.
For seating...
The most honored position is at the head of the table, with the most important guest seated first to the left and then the right of the head of the table. If their is a hosting couple, one will be at each end of the table.
For paying the bill...
Usually the one who does the inviting pays the bill. Sometimes in other circumstances determine the payee such as rank.
Tipping...
Restaurants usually include a service charge in the bill, so you will not be expected to leave an additional tip.
Eat at home
The main meal is dinner, which is in the evening.
When possible, a family will sit down together to share their dinner.
Table manner are informal and relaxed. However, there are a couple of etiquette customs to follow.
Avoid putting your elbows on the dinner table.
Loud noises while eating, such as slurping, are generally not acceptable at the dinner table.
Its considered polite to finish all the food on your plate.
To say cheers, some will say sláinte pronounced slan-cha
Also, there are no phones. And always say please and thank you.
I know you did it for going out but we had table etiquette at home growing up in England. From a reasonable age (7+) we are taught that you have to hold your fork down for everything and not use it as a shovel. We were taught if you serve yourself YOU ALWAYS had to finish our meal to learn are your eyes bigger than your belly. Meaning only serve what you know you can eat and you can always go back for more. If someone serves you dinner then it's ONLY then that it's OK to leave food. We were always taught don't have your elbows on the table. To always use manners and to NEVER eat with your mouthful. After finishing your dinner you couldn't just get up from the table. We either had to wait until everyone had finished or ask politely may I leave the table.
Like every family you may do somethings differently but some things always have to stay the same eg how go hold knife and fork.
I think you should make this a contest to encourage the kids to learn these skills. Whoever has the best manners gets to go on a fancy date with mom or dad and uses the skills they’ve mastered. You can do this with every kid as they learn and improve, the competition being who gets to go first, then second and so on. Then that way, they’ll learn why they actually need these skills and how to use them in a real life setting with you m, before they need them for a date or fancy work occasion or whatever.
Aubrey, as a fellow lefty, You do not need to switch to your right hand. Life is built for righties and us lefties are made to stand out. I am one of 4 lefties in my immediate family.
Yes, after you are done eating, the napkins go on the left side on the table where the forks are
I live in Michigan. In my family, if we ate with the fork upside down, we were told that wasn't proper and would get a glare from our parents/grandparents. It always was to be used as a pensil. (That was the way my grandparents were taught in the 30s.) The rule was always no elbows on the table but forearms were okay if you were actively eating. When you're done the way to signal the waiter is to place your napkin over your plate so that others cannot see any mess left on the plate. You never reached across and food was always passed around the table. We always had to ask if we could leave if we were having a proper meal.