We could do with a few tips on how to help ourselves with this, on a daily basis. Not all of us can afford the time\money\energy for a therapist. All help gratefully received. Thank you.
While others operate from a “cup full” we operate from a an empty cup and this undernourishment of experiences that mattered left one unfocused, dazed, surviving on crumbs and a habit as you say if procrastination and also a low drive or rather a lack of enthusiasm and a lack of energy to start or initiate anything 🙏
Adults who suffered from childhood emotional neglect find it difficult to ask for help even when the tasks are difficult and suffer as a result if the job was not done properly 🙏
Adults who as children suffered childhood emotional neglect suffer from a general lack of enthusiasm to learn new things, find it difficult to ask for help and are reluctant to volunteer for s as by activity, and depending on the intensity and duration of neglect might suffer from a lack of focus in class and find it difficult to pay attention and easily distracted from the task at hand whether at class or at work, May as lido suffer from anxiety 🙏
I greatly appreciate coming across this video. This has helped me uncover a new layer of myself. And perhaps I'll be able to take the next step and continue to heal. You are definitely right about the sense of hyper self sufficiency. 😅
they need to be made aware of all experiences that were absent in their repertoire of emotional experiences and need more attention and approval and need to be rewarded for works done satisfactorily 🙏
As a child who suffered from parental emotional neglect, I found it difficult to assert myself, suffered from low esteem and I plan to do many things but find it difficult to act on my plans and deconstruct my goals to be able to work toward tasks that align towards the direction of my goals.
Try and focus on your ,,inner child,, usually located in the stomach\ish area. Place your hands on your tummy, and just send love down there. No need for any fancy words. Just try and keep your awareness on that ,child, throughout the day. You are ,,Holding them in your attention,,. Giving them now what they didn't have when growing up. Do this when you are busy doing nothing, when you have a few minutes of freedom from other tasks, . ,,Holding Them in Your Thoughts,, . I'm sure this is why monks and nuns are so well balanced. They have spent a lifetime ,Holding, themselves in meditation. The child has healed automatically over the years of practise. Just because being ,,Held in the attention,,.
Mirelladlima. Please see my comment just above. We have to start giving ourselves\our inner child what it didn't receive. Time, and Attention. We can't do that if we are glued to our phones\tablets\computers. We have to learn to ,Be present, for ourselves. Practise makes perfect !
in my honest opinion an adult who has suffered in childhood from any form of abuse including sexual molestation and bad touch might become hyper vigilant as a means of protecting oneself from any sense of threat to self whether physical or emotional 🙏
there is more nothingness when childhood emotional neglect is coupled with any form of child abuse then the adult was the victim of a double barrelled gun 🙏
I too really enjoy this conversation too! Thank you! So so much. I have suffered a lot of “nothingness” and it’s making a lot of sense. I too agree that my husband has been my greatest teacher. :) xoxo
Just as a normal child is raised with a positive mindset and positive conditioning to good touch and natural expressions of affection and love, a child who suffered sexual abuse in any form associates sex with fear and apprehension and a general feeling of disgust as early experiences of being violated come back like emotional flashbacks🙏
Very interesting to catch up with your work, Ruth. I have now done some podcasts as well. Several about Kundalini awakening. Also about my deck of Oracle Cards, Sacred Journey Medicine Cards. I have been fortunate to have some wonderful interactions with Deck Reviewers. Still working with Don. Jayne and I celebrate 26 years together 5/25. Good to see you and hear your voice.
I'm not sure myself. I think it implicitly trains the brain. Have you read The Body Keeps the Score? I remember VanderKolk has a chapter about it. I looked into it a couple years ago, but it was really expensive. And, or course, my issues with self-worth won't let me spend so much money on myself
We could do with a few tips on how to help ourselves with this, on a daily basis. Not all of us can afford the time\money\energy for a therapist. All help gratefully received. Thank you.
While others operate from a “cup full” we operate from a an empty cup and this undernourishment of experiences that mattered left one unfocused, dazed, surviving on crumbs and a habit as you say if procrastination and also a low drive or rather a lack of enthusiasm and a lack of energy to start or initiate anything 🙏
Procrastination, passivity and paralysis in action, the 3 P’s of childhood emotional neglect 🙏
Adults who suffered from childhood emotional neglect find it difficult to ask for help even when the tasks are difficult and suffer as a result if the job was not done properly 🙏
Adults who as children suffered childhood emotional neglect suffer from a general lack of enthusiasm to learn new things, find it difficult to ask for help and are reluctant to volunteer for s as by activity, and depending on the intensity and duration of neglect might suffer from a lack of focus in class and find it difficult to pay attention and easily distracted from the task at hand whether at class or at work, May as lido suffer from anxiety 🙏
This is so true.
Awesome❤ Thank you❤
I greatly appreciate coming across this video. This has helped me uncover a new layer of myself. And perhaps I'll be able to take the next step and continue to heal. You are definitely right about the sense of hyper self sufficiency. 😅
Fawn trauma response common in such cases 🙏
they need to be made aware of all experiences that were absent in their repertoire of emotional experiences and need more attention and approval and need to be rewarded for works done satisfactorily 🙏
And they need to do this FOR themselves. We all do.
As a child who suffered from parental emotional neglect, I found it difficult to assert myself, suffered from low esteem and I plan to do many things but find it difficult to act on my plans and deconstruct my goals to be able to work toward tasks that align towards the direction of my goals.
Yes, that describes my experience exactly. 😞
Try and focus on your ,,inner child,, usually located in the stomach\ish area. Place your hands on your tummy, and just send love down there. No need for any fancy words. Just try and keep your awareness on that ,child, throughout the day. You are ,,Holding them in your attention,,. Giving them now what they didn't have when growing up. Do this when you are busy doing nothing, when you have a few minutes of freedom from other tasks, . ,,Holding Them in Your Thoughts,, . I'm sure this is why monks and nuns are so well balanced. They have spent a lifetime ,Holding, themselves in meditation. The child has healed automatically over the years of practise. Just because being ,,Held in the attention,,.
Mirelladlima. Please see my comment just above. We have to start giving ourselves\our inner child what it didn't receive. Time, and Attention. We can't do that if we are glued to our phones\tablets\computers. We have to learn to ,Be present, for ourselves. Practise makes perfect !
Brilliant conversation - thank you for sharing this 👏🏽
in my honest opinion an adult who has suffered in childhood from any form of abuse including sexual molestation and bad touch might become hyper vigilant as a means of protecting oneself from any sense of threat to self whether physical or emotional 🙏
there is more nothingness when childhood emotional neglect is coupled with any form of child abuse then the adult was the victim of a double barrelled gun 🙏
I too really enjoy this conversation too! Thank you! So so much. I have suffered a lot of “nothingness” and it’s making a lot of sense. I too agree that my husband has been my greatest teacher. :) xoxo
"Disavow interpersonal need"...those words ring so true. Also, Ruth is so right about therapists' utter lack of effectiveness in addressing sex.
Just as a normal child is raised with a positive mindset and positive conditioning to good touch and natural expressions of affection and love, a child who suffered sexual abuse in any form associates sex with fear and apprehension and a general feeling of disgust as early experiences of being violated come back like emotional flashbacks🙏
Very interesting to catch up with your work, Ruth. I have now done some podcasts as well. Several about Kundalini awakening. Also about my deck of Oracle Cards, Sacred Journey Medicine Cards. I have been fortunate to have some wonderful interactions with Deck Reviewers.
Still working with Don. Jayne and I celebrate 26 years together 5/25.
Good to see you and hear your voice.
@12:33!
What exactly is neuro-feedback? How is it used in therapy for neglect trauma. I had bio-feedback therapy years ago for treating migraine headaches.
I'm not sure myself. I think it implicitly trains the brain. Have you read The Body Keeps the Score? I remember VanderKolk has a chapter about it. I looked into it a couple years ago, but it was really expensive. And, or course, my issues with self-worth won't let me spend so much money on myself
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Umm and ummmm…Great insights and podcast in desperate need of an ummmm editor.
Lack of emotional literacy