Fighting your parents over your career choices | Us & Them | DW Documentary
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 พ.ย. 2023
- When it comes to careers and dream jobs, the ideals of parents and their children are often very different. Whether in the case of a young crypto investor in India or a boxer in the US - when choosing a profession, family stress is pretty much guaranteed. A generational conflict?
Alyssa, a young Asian-American woman from California, quit her secure office job to realize her dream: to become a boxer. She’s prioritizing her personal happiness over financial security - to her parents’ chagrin. As Alyssa’s first fight finally approaches, initially she decides not to tell her family. When she eventually “confesses” to her plans, this triggers an emotional disagreement and the tears flow.
In India, the young crypto investor Manuel is anything but risk-averse with his digital start-ups. Although he’s already earned a million dollars, he’s also lost quite a bit too. For his mother, this is a source of constant worry. She’d rather he followed a more stable and less risky career - after all, one day he’ll be looking after her.
Why are parents so worried about money and security? Will Alyssa and Manuel be able to persuade their families to accept their choice of career? It might seem unconventional to the older generation, but for young people it’s not a big deal to try out new professions. And above all, they’re not about to sacrifice their own dreams on the altar of financial stability. In view of such change, conflicts are unavoidable. Can they be resolved?
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Thank you DW documentary for capturing my story! Starting out, I always searched for stories similar to the one I was about to create but could never find one. I hope this helps someone out there. An update for the viewers: I am now 3 fights in, my career as a boxing trainer has blossomed, I’m at a new gym and have been continuing to train hard. More updates on small_yet_fearlyss
This is the director's answer:
"In the name of our entire team, I'd like to thank you, Alyssa, for being part of this documentary, thank you for opening up about your struggles and hopes! You are an inspiration to many. We're really happy to hear you are following your path 💙 Wishing you and your family the very best for all challenges to come!"
Continue pursuing your dreams girl. One day you're parents will see how it was all worth it. May God bless you.
Your family coming together at the end to support you in pursuing your dream brought tears to my eyes.
I strongly believe that when parents believe in their kids and support them, kids learn to believe in themselves - not just in pursuing a passion but also in their ability to make adequate decisions for themselves. It’s that spirit - the self confidence and resilience to get up after failures and keep trying (whether in the same pursuit or in deciding-of their own accord-to change to other pursuits when and if that’s right for them ) that ultimately serves people best in seeking success and fulfillment.
Wow, what a girl. I understand what your parents were trying to say. I think they just want to make sure you’re safe and they didn’t want to start sounding like their own parents trying to be to explicitly involved in you finding your path. I’d rather you did something else coz I think you’re beautiful and sweet and you’d stand a great chance of losing that on this chosen path. But that’s just my uninformed opinion.
Whatever you do decide, don’t feel sad anymore about wanting to prove that you were stronger or bigger than you physically looked. It’s you, and on the other end of that spectrum also lies similar issues. I’ve never felt the need to reply this detailed to someone but I was also surprised and lucky that one of the subjects of the video is available to be communicated with directly. You’re raised well, and you’re loved. Never forget or undervalue that. Much love. Tc
Came for an update, so glad your family came around. I'm sure you've already inspired so many.
The reason why the parents want financial stability is because they've experienced it first hand.
The kids haven't, so they're comfortable taking risks.
When you are younger than 30, then you can always start again, learn from your mistakes, and do better in the future.
When you are 60, then it is very hard to start again after a failure. Sometimes it is impossible.
In my view, that is the difference.
Follow your DREAMS!
No one on their deathbed said, I wish I had worked more.
'Follow the majority if you want to be wrong' Socrates
You have to work, hard and consistently, if you are to succeed in your dreams.
Plenty of folks wish they had made more of their lives. MOST people live a life fighting poverty every day, so if you have a chance of escaping that prison, take it.
And life is a race, if you mess about in your teens, you are already throwing it all away.
The concept of COMPOUNDING is central to life itself, it is not just about finances.
@@jonr6680 Expanding ones mind about the world, it's people, will help you live a decent life. Don't chase money. Leave your comfort zone. 'The start stops most people' NFL coach Don Shula
Regret are easier to live with when you caused them yourself. However if later in life you regret not doing x thing because you followed your parents those kinds of regrets are very hard to forget. You will always feel like it was the other person’s fault you didn’t pursue something you wanted.
So true
If you go with passion over your parent's recommendation of security, it's your choice. But if it doesn't work out, it would be hypocritical to ask your parents to bail you out.
Do both, pursue our Dreams and career, for our Career will finance our passions, while keeping Bread and butter on our table, as well as, a Roof over our heads…
I understand how these people in the documentary feel because I am also in this situation. My father has a construction business where he wants both me and my brother to work in it but the problem is I want to pursue my dreams which is tech. Talking about the subject is not always easy with him but always keep it real with him. I already have my diploma in computer networking and a certification (CompTIA A+). Now I'm going for the CCNA ( another certification). I am doing whatever it takes to finally get my career going because at the end of the day I don't see myself working as secretary for the construction business. Things can get very tough.😑😑
Thank you for coming and talking about people who deal with this stuff around the world including me. Well done Dw documentary! Gold star 🌟
This is so inspiring. I love how Manual balances his passion and family, doesn’t look easy but he has done it right ❤ Very well documented by DW as always.
No wonder more and more families are broken, when you present it as us Vs "them"
Another winner from DW Documentary. It is not so much a generational issue; some people want to follow their passion, some don't have that kind of feeling. When you are young, it is so hard to make the right choice, no matter what it is.
Just remember you are not "worth" what you are "worth financially".
Thank you for all your efforts. 😊
I’ve heard more regret stories from Americans who didn’t have the parents to give them pressure to educate themselves and strive for financial excellence than Americans who had the pressure. Never have I heard someone say, “I regret reaching the top.” Life allows one to reach the top and then relax and do what one wants. It’s always better to challenge yourself even if part of your life you don’t feel it’s you. That’s what exploring who you really are requires
I disagree, i studied hard while growing up (indian parents) and i gave up everything , my body started giving up by the time i reached 25 , i started going bald, had various problems in body which even with modern lifestyle people gets in 40s . i donot look 30 year old by any means i look more like 50 year old , small stature , my parents were not rich so i didnot got nutrition properly in accordance to effort i was giving to study , i rebeled against my parent at 26 after i realised the price is too high, i moved to usa and got mba from one of top tier school. i had no communication skills , no looks .only thing i had was the knowledge which only matters 20% in your success. i didnot even knew how to drive on road. after mba i got my first car and got in bad accident i was lucky to survive. if i had normal life growing up i wonot have lost my youth and body and would have been able to lead normal life
Very good document. Incredible people, amazing stories. Great job!
Dont let your parents or anyone tell you how you should live your life! My mother thinks i should go to college, and i know it's a waste of my time, not to mention that im not going to waste my knowledge because of how smart i and shes pround of me for that but she needs to know she cant get me to do its my choice.
If you want to to earn 1 million dollars less in your life doing the same job without a degree, the choice to be foolish is up to you.
Aaah the classic "I should've listened to them back then" type
Believe in yourself man. These naysayers mean nothing
@@christinesbetterknitting4533 My dude, you don't need a degree in college to get into most jobs I'm not stupid and I'm aware you don't need to make a million dollars I don't need it dude seriously as a socialist that's utter bs also I can send u a link why you don't need to go to college trust me it's actually really interesting.
@@christinesbetterknitting4533 also you don't need to earn a lot and plus a lot of money doesn't make you a better or happier person besides I plan to move to Denmark to possibly maybe do college their for learning their language and learning stuff that I personally wanna learn not for a job.
Very good documentary! Well done DW !!
It amazes me people purse a career with head contact sports where you put yourself at higher risk of dementia than ever.
It amazes me that people want to pursue careers that make them sedentary, constantly under stress, anxiety, over time increasingly becoming susceptible to all types of disease. But I guess that’s called “normal”.
@@IceRockPolar lol neither is healthy
I must say that wanting to do something that you like and your parents getting in the way is very demotivating. It shows that they’re not interested in you being passionate about your interests in life
Very emotional video 😢
Parents have ego, they want to live through their kids rather than letting them grow
Parents want their children to make hood money and have a stable life.
Kids have egos, they have no respect for the sacrifices made by those who raised them.
You are both right
Facts🙄
@@TomNook. Never thought I'd ever in my life say that Tom Nook is right, but here we are.
My children know that they will have their own path.. my job as a parent is to educate them as best I can to help them navigate a world they were never meant to exist in. My family line was nearly extinct thanks to colonialism. But WE ARE STILL HERE!!!!!💪💪💪
I may....or may not have cried at the end of this 😭
This was inspiring and very heart warming, thank you!
As a boxer, I never wanted to go undefeated. My goal was to make my opponents never want to get in the ring with me ever again. I've lost plenty of fights but the victors never wanted a rematch. That was my personal victory..
that sounds like a terrible way to live. what makes you need to punch people so badly that you're willing to get beat up yourself. this seems like a mental health issue, and not a sport.
@@perfectallycromulent of course it would sound terrible to someone who didn't live through it. 😂🤣😂🤣😂
@@friedrice2912 no, medically speaking, it's terrible. you're voluteering for brain damage.
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Personally I find boxing to be a dangerous ''sport'' I have seen so many people with head problems. However having said that , to each his own. Now my kids including adopted ones. Over the years I would observe them in the living room, where we kept books and toys of all kind. The same kid would reach for the medicine set , chalk, or animals books all the time. They became doctors, chefs, vets, computer programmers, all dictated by their DNA. I did trick one of my adoptions that he should become a doctor, I knew he had the ability but was just scared, he was not good enough
Thank you for showing the futility of human endeavors. Tolles video!!
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Passion and Love don't pay the bills, Empowerment doesn't pay the bills. These are just psychological issues and that is where it ends. You NEED MONEY to survive.
That’s what I’m trying to get my teen to understand… her career choices do not provide financial stability and I’m paying for her schooling
I hope she finds the happy medium of passion and a sustainable income.
I definitely fought with my parents over career choices they were really insisting that I do medicine and become a doctor, but I did business instead.
Why has DW, the "public broadcast" channel, turned off public access to the documentary 'Israel: Birth of a State'?
Stop always listening to your parents. They aint always right period!
They may not be right but they KNOW more than you.
@@jonr6680not really
Parents want their kids not to be poor
NFTs were never worth it either way and I grew up in the internet age. Facebook has actual revenue so you cannot compare.
It's passion
An apology for studying abroad. ❤ happy family vibes🙏❤️🌹
if your parents think you should get a job that doesn't involve you getting punched in the head, you should probably listen to them.
As an elder, a parent and grandparent, your life choices are none of your parents business, unless you choose to make it theirs. They sometimes have good advice.
They should move out of their parents' houses and live by themselves to really show that their career choices are paying off. It's ridiculous to say you can do what you want and then depend on your folks for bread and butter.
NFT prices went down from $500k to $5. Why? Oh, why?!!! Not logical 😂Buy, buy, buy!
I live in Colombia. This people is worry about money and don't realize how rich they are
In India if anyone have govt job and monthly salary is 30,40k parents will be happy but even Any doing business or private job and earn money the govt job they will be not happy.
This is the sad new reality. All over the world capitalism has driven the cost of living so high that young people have to find a career that balances passion and financial self-sufficiency, if they don’t come from generational money. I always dreamed of being a zookeeper. But the largest zoos are in expensive metropolitan cities, with monthly rents that are higher than zookeeper salaries.
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Psalm 11:5 - The LORD examines the righteous, but the wicked, those who love violence, he hates with a passion.
Matthew 15:8 - These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.
How it went with me on my 18 birthday: "So are you going to pay for all my bills and support my future wife and kids? OK. Thank you for the answer. Discussion over. The recruiter is coming in 20 minutes to pick me up."
It is easy to blame the parents! But, try working to put three meals on the table. Then, you would understand why your parents are scared for your future. Get a job, save money, lead a life and then chase whatever your dream is. That's exactly what Elon Musk has done. He is the richest person in the world you know! 😲
Mom looks like Dr. Pimple Popper
It’s sad because of there upbringing and fear of the unknown its causing them to want to control, they can help and guide them but overall it’s there life and choice. The lie of the American dream it’s a lie it doesn’t exist
In my opinion. The young men is wrong, money is not the goal of life. The young girl is correct for men
They need to be honest with her. She started kind of old for boxing she should've started way younger by the time she gets everything down and start Amateur fighting she's a little old for boxing. Most girls at her age are champions already. And in life you get a job DON'T LIVE OUT OF YOUR MEANS AND TRY BE SOMETHING YOUR NOT. WORK SAVE YOUR MONEY DON'T BE GREEDY AND BE THANKFUL AND HELP OTHERS WITH RESPECT AND BE KIND AND ALWAYS PUT JESUS CHRIST FIRST IN YOUR LIFE AND HE WILL BLESS YOU ❤ HAVE FAITH TRUST IN HIM.
Most people only learn when they do their own mistakes. My parents taught me all the right things, I still did the wrong things anyway. Cost a lot of time and money.
No
You don’t know fighting
I dont know what to do with my life.
It’ll come when you least expect it
@@alyssasanagustin4158 I am not sure about it.But I hope you are right.
Many people don’t know either
The title shows the prejudice and perspective of the producer/team. And of course the demographic of the viewers, folks with time to burn watching TH-cam videos.
Meanwhile the parents just work(ed) their a$$es off to raise these ingrates, made sacrifices, did their best. They are only human, not superheroes.
And the parents are now older and can't keep up with the rate of change in the modern world, especially tech but also social norms.
So give your parents a freakin break!
Live your life on your terms - but treat them and their advices with respect - consider they love you and are concerned for you.
There's enough kids end up dead in a ditch (metaphorically if not literally).
Youth provides the courage but rarely the wisdom, so stop to think not just act out like a resentful child.
Life is tough, so if you think you have all the answers, you're seriously deluded.
Ok, boomer
That Indian guy living with his mum trading bitcoin. Future jailbird!
Poor parents want to use kids to get what they failed to get. When they were young. How pathetic.
Not true these parents have invested in supporting their children's education so they can climb higher. Often progress through the social classes takes a few generations each of which climbs higher than their parents.
He Sounds like the Scammer who call me every week 🙊 hmmmm
O yeah! You got it right 😆😆😆😆
That's Racist.
Lol
money