5:47-58, showed me that The Parable of the Talents, Matthew 25:14-30, is not about the talents but the work I do on myself for Christ. If I come here and do not grow then there are consequences on earth and in heaven. I can't fix myself? Wow I'm not broken? Woohoo!!😃
“Loving yourself is a decision, not a destination”. Wow, I have to admit that loving myself was a goal of mine. This video put things way more into perspective, though.
@@juliakristinamah thanks so much. I have watched your video on self trust several times. I always thought it was wrong to trust yourself, but I'm learning otherwise. Your videos have really help me through a very difficult season.
Hi, im from Holland. I feel so much connection when i hear that this kind of struggle is from all over the world. It feels like support and comfort. For me i just want to live my best life with all the struggle there is, i always find a lifht and if not im just going to sit for a while and cry or shout or whatever, and than go on with my life. Thank you Julia for the effort you do to support us. Be blessed all of you
The first one for me for the past 31 years. My mom died when I was 9 and I blamed myself (and still do) for her dying. It got worse when my dad, brother, uncle, and grandad died before I left elementary school. And my mind won't let me forget my failure. Since the night my mom died, I've relived her and my family dying every night in my dreams. I've watched her die over 11,000 times.
This is a video that addresses one of my biggest problems, I’ve been feeling somewhat stagnant for a little while now and it’s almost certainly because I often set very high/unrealistic expectations! I hope you’re having a terrific week! ❤️
@@juliakristinamah I really appreciated hearing you discuss that failure is integral to learning and growth, which is something my job has helped me learn! I used to be a huge perfectionist (still am but to a lesser extent), and always believed I needed to breeze through things or would get upset when things don’t go the way I wanted. It just wasn’t realistic
Hello Julia, That one where you said "you will never fix yourself because you´re not broken" wow...that one really hit deep. It´s not easy embracing that concept because I feel like I struggle a lot with my mind, but as you said, there are only things and situations that I have to deal with, that doesn´t mean that I´m broken. Thanks for this, truly. Looking forward to watch more videos
Thank You Julia , you are truly a woman of great wisdom. You can’t be fixed because you are not broken is my favorite. You and your videos are a great way to start my day.🙏❤️👍
"Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn"💚 I would rather to learn from MY mistakes and losing what is not meant to me rather than winning in something is not belong to me.
Wow Julia. So much insight in such a small amount of time. I think all of these goals i work on but i don't consider them as goals but little successes. Every day is a new day. I try and learn from my mistakes. I get confused easy. Being autistic and taking things too literal is one of my weaknesses. I cant distinguish sometimes whether someone is joking or being serious. But with emotional roadblocks growing up i just believe everything i hear. Its a vicious cycle. Thanks for putting yourself out there. Ryan.
The easy, free of pain goal... dang that hit. Increasing comfort and decreasing pain has been something I had been seeking for awhile. I am realizing more and more that I am putting myself in a little, boring, safe, cage where true excitement can't exist.
I've caught myself the past few days/weeks getting stuck in the 'I'll be able to relax, rest, be peaceful when... is reached/fixed', and I know rationally it doesn't work that way, that I need to be able to take care of myself and rest in the here and now, however uncertain my life feels now... But it's hard. I had my first week at a new job, after being at home for 2 years, AND at the same time getting through a breakup, mourning that loss, looking for a new place, moving and cleaning out my stuff... And I should be happy. The job is great, and i move next week, but my thoughts keep veering towards working, and working, and thinking I can only relax after the move...
This video was amazing!! The one that described me the most is the goal of having certainity....particularly for me as a single mom....I worry myself sick about my kids health and if I am.not worrying about that I am worrying about ending up alone (never finding a life partner). Both of those areas I have been so fearful of and so desperately anxious on a daily basis. I really don't want my fear of the future wreck my present anymore.
Perfectionism and afraid of failure is a big struggle I want to get through. If I set myself to never make a mistake I am putting more stress on myself than I need to and it doesn't make life feel worthwhile. Basically, changing our views about things will help us feel and do better.
Hi, thank you for sharing this! I resonate a lot with the fear of failure, and also with trying to control the outcome of things that haven't happened yet. I am not yet at the point of feeling "good enough" or accepting myself totally, however I am moving forward by releasing my grip on unhelpful thoughts. I also feel like the shadow side of "self-love" is using it as another goal to reach.
Shifter here, I can’t be fixed because I am not broken, full certainty is not gettable, good enough is not a destination, it’s an inside job, good reminders because it’s hard to live fully when the our goals are not reachable.
This video is amazing. Your words really make so much sense to me. After a bad relationship I fell into fear and withdrawal. I was scared of giving anyone else a chance because I was scared it wouldn't work. I pushed away a lot of men because of this. Same with pain. This is a great video! As was your last one. Thank you for sharing this
I really wish I knew this much more early on with my life and that more people around me say these things to me.... Especially the "you can make your life easy/convenient if you do this/that" Because the disappointment and self-blame from these (very) deeply rooted thoughts just destroys me so much.... I am trying to unwind these beliefs/thoughts but it's so hard.... Thank you for constantly reminding me and making these vids...
My biggest fear is not being “ good enough” that’s why I struggle with relationships or my career . After listening to this video , It’s helped me relearn my thoughts . Thanks for the Great video!
Hey Julia, I’m a new subscriber and making my way through your playlist, you really nail a lot of topics, articulate stuff that’s hard to find, and I find it all very helpful.
Hi JK I struggle with all 5 goals! It's different how much they are dominant, but over time I learn more and more to tackle these issues. Thanks for this valuable video!
Glad to watch your videos again... I love your words, "I will catch myself instead kick myself if I fall." I am going to make a poster with these words and place it on my wall.
At least some of these points are embedded in the religious teachings of Islam, one of them being the idea of 'Tawakkul', i.e. having trust in God, which doesn't negate your taking the necessary material steps to make things happen, but you leave the rest in the hands of the Creator. That way, you don't feel any kind of frustration, but you also don't fall into the trap of 'not doing the work'. It's summarized in a famous Prophetic Narration that says, "Tie your Camel and then Trust in Allah" - al-Tirmidhī
This made me think of two different sayings I've heard before. "With God all things are possible" and "Failure is not an option." My perspective has shifted a little.
Hello Julia I'd like to take the time to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your videos. I was in a romantic relationship with an extremely difficult person back in 2019 and as a result, I almost terminated my life. Your generosity, kindness, support and wisdom held me in one of most challenging moments in my life thus far. Bless you and your heart, Julia :) By the way, what colour are your eyes? I am curious 🙂 Kind regards, Adrian, 37, from London U.K
just get me the fing things that I want. I'll keep working on feeling worthy, but i'd sure like to see some progress on my goals...feeling worthy and having NONE OF my goals is not the answer...
Hello Julia, thank you for your brilliant videos - they really help me. I wanted to ask if you would care to do a video about the effects of corona on our mental health. I feel like a lot has changed in me and no for the better.. This is the state for a lot of people right now and I would love to have your views on it. Have a great week
The trick is to have no specific goals because having a goal is something that creates stubbornness and we all know since the kindergarten that we can't always get what we want. That's why it's immature to harbour specific goals with a specific roadmap from a mind's vantage point because It's not the mind that creates what pops up in our realities. The mind's outliook is useless and as the proverb goes : Man makes plans and God laughs. To be meditated.... The ego would like to claim that It is powerful but It's an illusion. The ego itself is an illusion as well as the body. We live a life that is already done and It's not an easy thing to grasp for the mind that thinks that It can control everything. It's because It is afraid to die, to age. Let's the life itself within us unfold what It is supposed to according to its own experience from an eternal life's vantage point which is in another dimension than the ego's one.
Hello,The first one is my biggest fear.always wanted to look perfect on what im doing expecially when it comes to my career.I notice this behavior earlier but I don't know how to overcome this. It really disturbing my work so I have to look every minute of my work seeing the mistakes that only I able to see it😥.My friend told me only me can see it.he can't see it not just him but everyone tell me that Im good enough and what Im doing is already great but it help only awhile but then it going back again.there's lot of method that I've been tried out but it's not really working.I need to overcome this😥.
Per the definition in the dictonary i disagree with the "You are not Broken" Def b: not working properly. I certianly am not working the way i should or were able to in the past. How about instead. 'You can be fixed/repaired'.
I need it to be easier, gentle, and healthy I am not able to mot coast, I think at least for, now hhhmmmmm this isn't a new pain...today equip..yes, I feel..a need to be equipped urgency to fix....but, I'm not broken , I'm just Unhealthy..in past learning unhealthy present choices yes, ok...so far...lol I am healing UnHealth... Rebuilding, ReLearning to Trust... and create intend mydesires, to stop needy..etc diversion..behaviors..etc new heart energy, Less anger...new meditations, new energy, new heart A new created day.. safe. and equipped..FEEL....less " pain" I've only control..over me... able to live, show up so...I'm ready to heal I can catch Me...I like that Going to..inner Mature Wisdom..guide and, action steps..to..create in Material World.. responsible/ mature/ regulated connected strength in Life
Odd stuff. People respond like what is being said is real and important. People make goals. People are silly and weak. All people are silly and weak. All people, all of them. This person talking in this video is doing so to recieve money from people clicking the video and clicking subscribe and such. This video and all such videos related are not of importance to any usless person watching them. Move along and dismiss these things. Keep making goals because that is the kind of person you are. Of course you wont reach the goal. Just stop watching other folks tell you what they think life is.
It is real and important. Its not about setting goals. Trying to do something and failing is better than being paralyzed by the fear to not start because of the chance of failure. I don’t see why your going to disrespect her for sharing. Your life sounds like bummer if you think people are silly and weak. Its sounds like thats what you think of yourself and your ultimately responsible for that. Its up to you wether or not you want to change.
I like that you addressed there is no smooth sailing forever. Only periods of it. Having ups and downs and hardships is the majority of everyday life. Focusing on the good and positive is where it’s at.
Why don't you stop being SO NEGATIVE, start being grateful and appreciate people who are trying to help. And if you haven't got something nice and positive to say. Shut your mouth. BLESSINGS
Hey - really glad you're here. Which one of these connected with you most?
THEM ALL!
5:47-58, showed me that
The Parable of the Talents, Matthew 25:14-30, is not about the talents but the work I do on myself for Christ. If I come here and do not grow then there are consequences on earth and in heaven.
I can't fix myself? Wow I'm not broken? Woohoo!!😃
“Loving yourself is a decision, not a destination”. Wow, I have to admit that loving myself was a goal of mine. This video put things way more into perspective, though.
It's a powerful one - isn't it? I tried for a long time to "get to it" instead of realizing I always had it.
I really love this video especially the part about self-trust☺️Thank you
"You can't be fixed, because you are not broken"...thank you...thank you so much....😊
The goal of absolute certainty really hit me. I never realized that most of my anxiety is about this goal. It's hard to let go of though.
You're not wrong. Much of anxiety is based on this premise - the antidote is to then start working on leaning into trust.
@@juliakristinamah thanks so much. I have watched your video on self trust several times. I always thought it was wrong to trust yourself, but I'm learning otherwise. Your videos have really help me through a very difficult season.
Failure should be a learning experience. Fotunatly I have no goals so I never fail! Thanks for the quality video.
that's one strategy.
😀
Hi, im from Holland. I feel so much connection when i hear that this kind of struggle is from all over the world. It feels like support and comfort. For me i just want to live my best life with all the struggle there is, i always find a lifht and if not im just going to sit for a while and cry or shout or whatever, and than go on with my life. Thank you Julia for the effort you do to support us. Be blessed all of you
The first one for me for the past 31 years. My mom died when I was 9 and I blamed myself (and still do) for her dying. It got worse when my dad, brother, uncle, and grandad died before I left elementary school.
And my mind won't let me forget my failure. Since the night my mom died, I've relived her and my family dying every night in my dreams. I've watched her die over 11,000 times.
This is a video that addresses one of my biggest problems, I’ve been feeling somewhat stagnant for a little while now and it’s almost certainly because I often set very high/unrealistic expectations! I hope you’re having a terrific week! ❤️
What did you find helpful in it?
@@juliakristinamah I really appreciated hearing you discuss that failure is integral to learning and growth, which is something my job has helped me learn! I used to be a huge perfectionist (still am but to a lesser extent), and always believed I needed to breeze through things or would get upset when things don’t go the way I wanted. It just wasn’t realistic
“Being good enough is not a destination, it’s a decision.” That spoke to my soul. Thank you Julia Kristina 💛
Hi I’m from Trinidad & Tobago. This video spoke to my soul. I keep beating up myself and expecting a perfect life. Thank you for this great video. 🤗
Hello Julia,
That one where you said "you will never fix yourself because you´re not broken" wow...that one really hit deep. It´s not easy embracing that concept because I feel like I struggle a lot with my mind, but as you said, there are only things and situations that I have to deal with, that doesn´t mean that I´m broken.
Thanks for this, truly. Looking forward to watch more videos
Thank You Julia , you are truly a woman of great wisdom. You can’t be fixed because you are not broken is my favorite. You and your videos are a great way to start my day.🙏❤️👍
"Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn"💚 I would rather to learn from MY mistakes and losing what is not meant to me rather than winning in something is not belong to me.
Wow Julia. So much insight in such a small amount of time. I think all of these goals i work on but i don't consider them as goals but little successes. Every day is a new day. I try and learn from my mistakes. I get confused easy. Being autistic and taking things too literal is one of my weaknesses. I cant distinguish sometimes whether someone is joking or being serious. But with emotional roadblocks growing up i just believe everything i hear. Its a vicious cycle. Thanks for putting yourself out there. Ryan.
thank you for saying that it isn't my fault that life isn't always pain-free. I've never heard it put this way!
The easy, free of pain goal... dang that hit. Increasing comfort and decreasing pain has been something I had been seeking for awhile. I am realizing more and more that I am putting myself in a little, boring, safe, cage where true excitement can't exist.
Accepting and trusting that I will catch myself if I fall instead of kick! I had to listen to this three times for it to sink in!
THANK you again for explaining in such a way that this brain can allow it to be heard. Thanks
I've caught myself the past few days/weeks getting stuck in the 'I'll be able to relax, rest, be peaceful when... is reached/fixed', and I know rationally it doesn't work that way, that I need to be able to take care of myself and rest in the here and now, however uncertain my life feels now... But it's hard. I had my first week at a new job, after being at home for 2 years, AND at the same time getting through a breakup, mourning that loss, looking for a new place, moving and cleaning out my stuff... And I should be happy. The job is great, and i move next week, but my thoughts keep veering towards working, and working, and thinking I can only relax after the move...
This video was amazing!! The one that described me the most is the goal of having certainity....particularly for me as a single mom....I worry myself sick about my kids health and if I am.not worrying about that I am worrying about ending up alone (never finding a life partner). Both of those areas I have been so fearful of and so desperately anxious on a daily basis. I really don't want my fear of the future wreck my present anymore.
Worry is an insidious one, but learning to lean into trust will make a big difference. Rooting for you Meaghan.
@@juliakristinamah thank you!
Perfectionism and afraid of failure is a big struggle I want to get through. If I set myself to never make a mistake I am putting more stress on myself than I need to and it doesn't make life feel worthwhile. Basically, changing our views about things will help us feel and do better.
Hi, thank you for sharing this! I resonate a lot with the fear of failure, and also with trying to control the outcome of things that haven't happened yet. I am not yet at the point of feeling "good enough" or accepting myself totally, however I am moving forward by releasing my grip on unhelpful thoughts. I also feel like the shadow side of "self-love" is using it as another goal to reach.
Thanks for sharing this. And yes, it's pretty counter productive to try and push yourself into accepting yourself.
Shifter here, I can’t be fixed because I am not broken, full certainty is not gettable, good enough is not a destination, it’s an inside job, good reminders because it’s hard to live fully when the our goals are not reachable.
Ooooh....Good enough is not a destination. Very nice.
This video is amazing. Your words really make so much sense to me. After a bad relationship I fell into fear and withdrawal. I was scared of giving anyone else a chance because I was scared it wouldn't work. I pushed away a lot of men because of this. Same with pain. This is a great video! As was your last one. Thank you for sharing this
I really wish I knew this much more early on with my life and that more people around me say these things to me....
Especially the "you can make your life easy/convenient if you do this/that"
Because the disappointment and self-blame from these (very) deeply rooted thoughts just destroys me so much....
I am trying to unwind these beliefs/thoughts but it's so hard....
Thank you for constantly reminding me and making these vids...
No one a free ride in life. I enjoy your videos. Great encouragement thank you ☺️
THIS!! Has been the most helpful video so far! Thanks so much 😊
Huge thanks for all the insights. Those are so true. 🌼
Thank you for telling me that i'm not broken
“Some times we win and some times we learn”
Time stamp 8:00 - yes!!
Always a pleasure to listen to your wisdom.
Always a pleasure to have you here.
True that.. We tend to give too much importance to failures😬
Thank you so much for this video Julia! The paradigm shift around never feeling good enough is a game changer.
Really glad that part connected with you.
Good enough one was highly relatable
I really like your videos and speech, too realistic and helpful, you hit the point smoothly. Thank you
My biggest fear is not being “ good enough” that’s why I struggle with relationships or my career . After listening to this video , It’s helped me relearn my thoughts . Thanks for the Great video!
Hey Julia, I’m a new subscriber and making my way through your playlist, you really nail a lot of topics, articulate stuff that’s hard to find, and I find it all very helpful.
yes Realizations
yay
what, will work..yes!!!!
thank you , blessings
That was like a wake up slap on my face thank you so much❤️
Thank you again! Wonderful as always!💞🙏
You’re a great woman thank you!
Thanks for being here Lewis - I appreciate you.
Hi JK
I struggle with all 5 goals!
It's different how much they are dominant,
but over time I learn more and more to tackle these issues.
Thanks for this valuable video!
Your videos helps me so much, thank you Julia💕
Glad to watch your videos again... I love your words, "I will catch myself instead kick myself if I fall." I am going to make a poster with these words and place it on my wall.
I love that! Will you send me a photo to hello@juliakristina.com when you do? I'd love to see it.
@@juliakristinamah I sure will! :)
Thank u Julia
very helpful..info..thank you
The first one was perfect for my hubby! He also thanks you!💞
Thank you Julia .
Thank you 🙏 am on the way right now from unlearning ....,.what a process👍👍
At least some of these points are embedded in the religious teachings of Islam, one of them being the idea of 'Tawakkul', i.e. having trust in God, which doesn't negate your taking the necessary material steps to make things happen, but you leave the rest in the hands of the Creator. That way, you don't feel any kind of frustration, but you also don't fall into the trap of 'not doing the work'. It's summarized in a famous Prophetic Narration that says, "Tie your Camel and then Trust in Allah" - al-Tirmidhī
Thx!
I always watch your videos very helpful, thank you!
Nice way of explaining something son hard to do. I am really hard on my self for not being able to get my canadian residence and being back to Mexico.
Great points, thank you!🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you.
May God bless you all.
@El Chupacabra Abraham, Isaac and Jacobs/Israels GOD
♥️
Thanks, I always try for clarity ,but it is what it is !! Also I'm not broken I'm under construction!! Thanks s o much for ur videos!!
When it comes to a Known statistic, what is not included in that Known statistic is all the variables that raise or lower that statistic.
a goal..of healing
how Do I......
lol
thanks, so much..🥰
This made me think of two different sayings I've heard before. "With God all things are possible" and "Failure is not an option." My perspective has shifted a little.
Hello Julia I'd like to take the time to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your videos. I was in a romantic relationship with an extremely difficult person back in 2019 and as a result, I almost terminated my life. Your generosity, kindness, support and wisdom held me in one of most challenging moments in my life thus far. Bless you and your heart, Julia :)
By the way, what colour are your eyes? I am curious 🙂
Kind regards, Adrian, 37, from London U.K
as a musician and poet ....I have destroyed myself in these ways
Love you
just get me the fing things that I want. I'll keep working on feeling worthy, but i'd sure like to see some progress on my goals...feeling worthy and having NONE OF my goals is not the answer...
I have a goal but no money to make it happen...so I'll never achieve it...ill just have to get over it
You’re so good 😊 thank you 🙏 My answer? All of the above 😂 ❤️
My fear of failure has paralyzed me and I'm stuck.
Hello Julia, thank you for your brilliant videos - they really help me. I wanted to ask if you would care to do a video about the effects of corona on our mental health. I feel like a lot has changed in me and no for the better.. This is the state for a lot of people right now and I would love to have your views on it.
Have a great week
The trick is to have no specific goals because having a goal is something that creates stubbornness and we all know since the kindergarten that we can't always get what we want. That's why it's immature to harbour specific goals with a specific roadmap from a mind's vantage point because It's not the mind that creates what pops up in our realities.
The mind's outliook is useless and as the proverb goes : Man makes plans and God laughs.
To be meditated....
The ego would like to claim that It is powerful but It's an illusion. The ego itself is an illusion as well as the body.
We live a life that is already done and It's not an easy thing to grasp for the mind that thinks that It can control everything. It's because It is afraid to die, to age.
Let's the life itself within us unfold what It is supposed to according to its own experience from an eternal life's vantage point which is in another dimension than the ego's one.
Hello,The first one is my biggest fear.always wanted to look perfect on what im doing expecially when it comes to my career.I notice this behavior earlier but I don't know how to overcome this. It really disturbing my work so I have to look every minute of my work seeing the mistakes that only I able to see it😥.My friend told me only me can see it.he can't see it not just him but everyone tell me that Im good enough and what Im doing is already great but it help only awhile but then it going back again.there's lot of method that I've been tried out but it's not really working.I need to overcome this😥.
I’m not broken?🤣🤣. Feels like I always have been.
Hi Julia, is it bad that I want to stop this video one minute in and try to guess what the 5 goals are that you are going to say? Xx
not at all! Go right ahead ;-)
Using the S.M.A.R.T. acronym makes it easier to know if you have achieved goals you have that ARE achievable.
Per the definition in the dictonary i disagree with the "You are not Broken" Def b: not working properly. I certianly am not working the way i should or were able to in the past. How about instead. 'You can be fixed/repaired'.
win. lose..learn..fail..attempt...experience
hhhmmm...I like, this today
So you are saying having a crush on you, and wanting to share time with you is not a good goal...shoot. you are gorgeous.
I need it to be easier, gentle, and healthy
I am not able to mot coast, I think
at least for, now
hhhmmmmm
this isn't a new pain...today
equip..yes, I feel..a need to be equipped
urgency to fix....but, I'm not broken , I'm just Unhealthy..in past learning
unhealthy present choices
yes, ok...so far...lol
I am healing UnHealth...
Rebuilding, ReLearning
to Trust... and create intend
mydesires, to stop needy..etc
diversion..behaviors..etc
new heart energy, Less anger...new meditations, new energy, new heart A new created day..
safe. and equipped..FEEL....less "
pain"
I've only control..over me... able to live, show up
so...I'm ready to heal
I can catch Me...I like that
Going to..inner Mature Wisdom..guide
and, action steps..to..create in Material World..
responsible/ mature/ regulated connected strength in Life
I want to be alive when TH-cam will be in color. :p
Keith (feeling like a mouseketeer lol)
Goal u will never reach: getting gf and having relationship more than a year. She might leave you
I’m beginning to think you have a thought spy in my head.
Odd stuff. People respond like what is being said is real and important. People make goals. People are silly and weak. All people are silly and weak. All people, all of them. This person talking in this video is doing so to recieve money from people clicking the video and clicking subscribe and such. This video and all such videos related are not of importance to any usless person watching them. Move along and dismiss these things. Keep making goals because that is the kind of person you are. Of course you wont reach the goal. Just stop watching other folks tell you what they think life is.
It is real and important. Its not about setting goals. Trying to do something and failing is better than being paralyzed by the fear to not start because of the chance of failure. I don’t see why your going to disrespect her for sharing. Your life sounds like bummer if you think people are silly and weak. Its sounds like thats what you think of yourself and your ultimately responsible for that. Its up to you wether or not you want to change.
I like that you addressed there is no smooth sailing forever. Only periods of it. Having ups and downs and hardships is the majority of everyday life. Focusing on the good and positive is where it’s at.
Why don't you stop being SO NEGATIVE, start being grateful and appreciate people who are trying to help. And if you haven't got something nice and positive to say. Shut your mouth. BLESSINGS