Yep - but always do the hardest task first ' this will give you a HUGE sense of accomplishment and control, and makes the other tasks seem like something piddly.
It's not the failure you're afraid of - it's what you're going to make it mean about you. So, what are you going to make failure mean about you? Clean that up and you will clean up your fear.
For years now I have been procrastinating about even the small things. It has lead me to wasting so much time and missing out on opportunities. Thank you Julia.
Dear Julia Kristina thank you for this great video. I am in constant self-critic mode, and exhausted. I procrastinate about throwing out clutter because I dread the decisions, when I'm already so tired. I love your thought about just taking only one step on a routine basis as opposed to no steps at all. You have given me the motivition I needed. Thank you.
Procrastinating so that I don't need to find out that I can't follow through is a huge one for me. I am afraid of having evidence that I am not good enough so I choose not to try in the first place. This is something I have been working on and getting better at but it's definitely still something I struggle with. Thank you Julia!!
I think what is on my mind from this video is something about not trying to resolve everything all at once. You have said this before and I think I'm guilty of this. When I decide to do something(or resolve a problem) I want it over and done immediately.
I swear your videos always know just what I need!! I don’t procrastinate that much anymore, but sometimes I get the feeling I work better under pressure. Hope you’re having a great week so far 💙
I am just recently retired and I didn’t think I would be this way but there’s plenty to do I just don’t I’m procrastinating and not getting it done! Love listening to you!
HI Julia, as someone with schizophrenia I don't procrastinate at all instead I prioritise (as you've mentioned else where, the importance of priorities), so growing up my Mother and Father would see how messy my room is and they would label me as a lazy procrastinator when in fact I like my room cluttered and have other more important things to do than create order for other peoples benefit.
Hello, I just started watching your videos recently and so far I feel like you are talking directly to me. Procrastinating weighs so heavily on a persons mind and I think that causes further procrastination. I have even thought of becoming a minimalist lately because I can’t clean out my closet or the corner of stuff in my bedroom because everything is full. To fix this I would have to have a garage sale or pack things up to give away. All this is more to think about. It just seems to go on and on. I will finish watching to see what your answer is. Thanks for your videos. ❤️
Omg I hear you ,I am going through the same situation right now mountain of Clutter in my home I so badly want to deal with it all, so much of it has alot of Emotional Memories to it ,but it's all still Clutter that now needs to go 😢
Hello Julia, You have been my morning sunshine ☀️, here is snowy & freezing ocean-front Quebec, since I discovered your channel! Thank you for being there! Julie
I’ve been struggling with this the whole year. I knew I’ve always had struggles with procrastination because of my perfectionism and add. But since the lockdown I’ve been having trouble get anything done to the point where i put so much pressure on myself that now I can’t enjoy anything anymore. The only thing that I am able to do everyday is going for a walk. I’m trying to build it slowly but I feel like it’s going to take so long to build my life again. I want my writer’s block to go away so badly. I am going to try to keep your words in mind and take rest. My therapist tells me as well to do so. I know I’ve been through a lot but my mind keeps telling me to do this or that or else I am bad so it’s hard to accept. I’m learning to accept it and that those thoughts are not fair to myself.
Thanks! One video suggestion you could do is on self-care actions. For example my wife insisted we replace our mattress and I was amazed at how much better I could sleep and feel good. Also for over 25 years I was in doom-loop with anxiety/depression and debt where I would feel anxious and/or depressed and then overspend and then feel worse afterwards. After getting my finances fixed, I had this great sense of relief and calm when I saw we had $5000 in our emergency fund
Thank you so much for your help.This few days had made me feel horrible about who I am and the fact that I am not able to study for my June exams.I am so stressed about the fact that I am not able to study the way I would like it to(It feels like nothing is 'perfect').That somehow makes me feel really bad myself and I blame myself for it.I deeply hope that I will have good grades in order to enter into the Psychology College.Have a beautiful day and thank you so much for your video!😁
You got me I think with the rabbit hole thing . I've tried so many different things with no benefit, usually making things worse, I'm definitely not in any hurry to try again.
I discovered this video yesterday and watched it today. I didn't want to take too long because I figured if I did I would need to watch it more. It helps to be mindful.
Great video Julia! I tend to procrastinate because I want to avoid that feeling of failure. Another thing is sometimes other people put high expectations on me (like my family, bosses, teachers, friends, etc), and I tend to procrastinate because I want to avoid that feeling of being a failure in front of those people, and avoid them criticizing me because of my failure. So there's this fear of disappointing others.
I learned it's easier just to do it, and mission accomplished,and try to stay focused on what your doing, it's better to say yeah I done it, don't talk about it, be about it.
Can you make a video about mindset shifts that help you to stay disciplined? how to push yourself to do hard things? I would love that. My brain wants me to be lazy during exercising. 😊
thank you thank you thank you. the points about feeling overwhelmed with sustaining a goal for a long time, as well as the brain's message to take a break really resonated with me. will be thinking about this and reminding myself to engage in less self-blame because of how my brain naturally works - thanks!
Bernie here .The solution always seem to relate to what I learnt in treatment. Like the book I read Don’t Feed The Monkey Mind and closed loop thinking . Getting a positive attitude and taking action and relax like you said don’t push so hard it’s hard in our society to do that because we rush rush rush to try and achieve something beyond ourselves that was a Buddha Quote . Just get it done and do the best you can it will all work out in the end if we just take action .
Hi Julia I love these helpful videos help me recognise burnout that I struggle with now and can’t seem to shake off I can’t figure out signs wether I’m lazy or burnt out lost so stuck and confused !
Hello! You asked me so assertively to say hello, so here I am saying hello! That's me putting off a big project for work that I have to do to keep my job. Yes I know break it down step by step. But take a break!! A real restful break and take care of yourself!! Then lower expectations and start on the first little baby step...ok, deep breath ...here we go....gonna start right now, no ifs ands or buts!! Ok ready to take that real break now? Thanks for the permission 😊 G'nite
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and expertise in the mental health arena. I am on the brink of getting my master’s licensure for social work... schools out of the way but the licensure part seems like it is looming over head. Between some previously ongoing hardships/ huge stressors and grad school in general I have felt some pretty severe burn out. I am trying to create boundaries and get myself on back on track, but it is hard. My question is how do you see burn out and procrastination converge and how do you address this within a timely manner? Ie I take my test in a month, and I want to be more efficient but some days I am having a VERY hard time sticking to a study plan.
I've been procrastinating for about 2 weeks now. And from what you said, it's ego and I don't want to fail. I want to start a vtuber channel and I haven't even picked out my channel name yet. Don't get me started on banner art or channel description. I've tried watching and copying other videos about how to start a youtube channel, but perfectionism stops me dead in my tracks. Then I look at all the people in the vtuber community and start comparing my b-roll to their highlight reel and think that I'll never be that good, so why even start.
I completely agree with the rest and it’s hard. Single mom, working from home taking accelerated graduate accounting program. My brain is fried and doesn’t want to do any more. But I’ll be finished in 3 months so I have to fight myself to get anything done because I’m stressed and tired and overwhelmed. And I’m the typical perfectionist Virgo 🤦🏽♀️
I wish you had talked more about the solutions for getting out of procrastination, than why we procrastinate. I personally know very well why I am procrastinating something... because it’s going to take a long time and a lot of effort from me, and I don’t have either the time or the effort anymore to embark in big projects that will take long.
@@juliakristinamah I think I've got them all beat. Procrastination #1, I put off STARTING to watch the video. Procrastination #2, I got distracted WHILE watching the video. Procrastination #3, I was watching the video IN ORDER TO AVOID doing something else. I would write more but I have to get back to work! (Yes Julia, I know I'm hopeless)
To paraphrase a movie i love, there are 2 things stopping us from doing something we want: fear or laziness. I'm a serial procrastinator, and when there's a task i keep putting off, i ask myself, am i too intimidated by the task that I don't want to start? or do i just not want to do the leg work? It doesn't always push me to get started but it tells me that maybe i should ask for help and reassurance if its too scary, or just carve a time out if its too tedious.
👋 I'm here because I feel stuck. 63 yrs old with a 12 yr. Daughter. Retired now and in a relationship that is failing. I want to feel good about my day again.
I really like your videos, however I don't always get the time to watch the videos, do you plan to open up a podcast for Spotify? Like you can just upload the audio from your TH-cam videos there ? It would be really helpful then. Thanks for everything in advance☘️
for decades I've been alone..and sell destructive .I need all the support I can get.but I'm scared telling my story might make things worse.some stuff is just way complicated and awkward ..
When overwhelmed with just all the STUFF you have to do it can help to break down what you're doing and make a plan/prioritize a task.
Compartment success.
absolutely! Start small and focused on one thing at a time.
Yep - but always do the hardest task first ' this will give you a HUGE sense of accomplishment and control, and makes the other tasks seem like something piddly.
@@JohnM... Yes, this is good advice.
thank you so much!
I am here 1min after the upload.
Because I‘m procrastinating.
If only I had this type of drive for my other tasks haha
lol same
lol. What are you getting from this video that you're not getting from whatever it is that you're avoiding?
@@juliakristinamah You're kind of new to me. But this was a huge help. Thanks You
I’ve spent all morning on TikTok not just because it’s addictive but because I’m avoiding (probably on a subconscious level) the fear of failing
yesss totally agree
It's not the failure you're afraid of - it's what you're going to make it mean about you. So, what are you going to make failure mean about you? Clean that up and you will clean up your fear.
So relatable
I am deleting somethings right after this.
I just added this video to my 'Watch later' playlist...
I really needed this video. I struggle a lot with procrastination. Mainly because I want everything to be perfect.
For years now I have been procrastinating about even the small things. It has lead me to wasting so much time and missing out on opportunities. Thank you Julia.
do you know what you're afraid of?
@@juliakristinamah It is of making the wrong decision.
Dear Julia Kristina thank you for this great video. I am in constant self-critic mode, and exhausted. I procrastinate about throwing out clutter because I dread the decisions, when I'm already so tired. I love your thought about just taking only one step on a routine basis as opposed to no steps at all. You have given me the motivition I needed. Thank you.
My fave solutions
1. Do less / break down the larger task into smaller tasks
2. Take a break / your brain needs it
Thanks Julia!
My main form of procrastinating is starting something new.
Procrastinating so that I don't need to find out that I can't follow through is a huge one for me. I am afraid of having evidence that I am not good enough so I choose not to try in the first place. This is something I have been working on and getting better at but it's definitely still something I struggle with. Thank you Julia!!
I will listen to this one many many times. Thank you for making these available.
I think what is on my mind from this video is something about not trying to resolve everything all at once. You have said this before and I think I'm guilty of this. When I decide to do something(or resolve a problem) I want it over and done immediately.
I swear your videos always know just what I need!! I don’t procrastinate that much anymore, but sometimes I get the feeling I work better under pressure. Hope you’re having a great week so far 💙
15:01 the solutions
Thanks for saving me 15 minutes. I procrastinated on watching this video for five days because I don't have patience for her long-winded style. XD
I am just recently retired and I didn’t think I would be this way but there’s plenty to do I just don’t I’m procrastinating and not getting it done! Love listening to you!
Perfect timing! I am procrastinating leaving to a spot where I can grow. So insane. I just need to take that leap of faith.
Do you trust yourself?
@@juliakristinamah yes
LOL! Me seeing this video notification pop up, "Hm. ... I'll watch it later."
HI Julia, as someone with schizophrenia I don't procrastinate at all instead I prioritise (as you've mentioned else where, the importance of priorities), so growing up my Mother and Father would see how messy my room is and they would label me as a lazy procrastinator when in fact I like my room cluttered and have other more important things to do than create order for other peoples benefit.
Hello, I just started watching your videos recently and so far I feel like you are talking directly to me. Procrastinating weighs so heavily on a persons mind and I think that causes further procrastination. I have even thought of becoming a minimalist lately because I can’t clean out my closet or the corner of stuff in my bedroom because everything is full. To fix this I would have to have a garage sale or pack things up to give away. All this is more to think about. It just seems to go on and on. I will finish watching to see what your answer is. Thanks for your videos. ❤️
Omg I hear you ,I am going through the same situation right now mountain of Clutter in my home I so badly want to deal with it all, so much of it has alot of Emotional Memories to it ,but it's all still Clutter that now needs to go 😢
Hello Julia,
You have been my morning sunshine ☀️, here is snowy & freezing ocean-front Quebec, since I discovered your channel!
Thank you for being there!
Julie
I’ve been struggling with this the whole year. I knew I’ve always had struggles with procrastination because of my perfectionism and add. But since the lockdown I’ve been having trouble get anything done to the point where i put so much pressure on myself that now I can’t enjoy anything anymore. The only thing that I am able to do everyday is going for a walk. I’m trying to build it slowly but I feel like it’s going to take so long to build my life again. I want my writer’s block to go away so badly. I am going to try to keep your words in mind and take rest. My therapist tells me as well to do so. I know I’ve been through a lot but my mind keeps telling me to do this or that or else I am bad so it’s hard to accept. I’m learning to accept it and that those thoughts are not fair to myself.
Have you tried exhausting yourself physically (run 10km or sthg) and they write down whatever?
Thanks! One video suggestion you could do is on self-care actions. For example my wife insisted we replace our mattress and I was amazed at how much better I could sleep and feel good. Also for over 25 years I was in doom-loop with anxiety/depression and debt where I would feel anxious and/or depressed and then overspend and then feel worse afterwards. After getting my finances fixed, I had this great sense of relief and calm when I saw we had $5000 in our emergency fund
I am here because I am procrastinating.....that´s exactly what I needed to listen..really helpful informations, thank you Julia
Thank you Julia, I've watched about 10 videos in the past few days.
So insightful
Really glad you're here and really glad they're connecting.
@@juliakristinamah love your videos. One of my client's sent me a link as we have been working on being okay to honor herself and say no without guilt
Thank you so much for your help.This few days had made me feel horrible about who I am and the fact that I am not able to study for my June exams.I am so stressed about the fact that I am not able to study the way I would like it to(It feels like nothing is 'perfect').That somehow makes me feel really bad myself and I blame myself for it.I deeply hope that I will have good grades in order to enter into the Psychology College.Have a beautiful day and thank you so much for your video!😁
You got me I think with the rabbit hole thing . I've tried so many different things with no benefit, usually making things worse, I'm definitely not in any hurry to try again.
I discovered this video yesterday and watched it today. I didn't want to take too long because I figured if I did I would need to watch it more. It helps to be mindful.
Thank you Julia! Your videos are so helpful especially at those difficult times ❤️ Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us!
6:32. You hit the nail right on the head!
i just love this video Julia.
Really glad it connected - thanks for watching.
Hello Ricki here. You were recommended by someone that thinks I need you and they’re probably right
Ha! you have a smart friend ;-) Glad you're here.
I promise that I will take control of my procrastinating behavior. Thanks Julia for the helpful advices.
Great video Julia! I tend to procrastinate because I want to avoid that feeling of failure. Another thing is sometimes other people put high expectations on me (like my family, bosses, teachers, friends, etc), and I tend to procrastinate because I want to avoid that feeling of being a failure in front of those people, and avoid them criticizing me because of my failure. So there's this fear of disappointing others.
Julia, I adore you! And your videos have changed my entire life. I am addicted to your videos and wish I had found them sooner. 26/f/houston,Tx
Great stuff really helpful on procrastination thanks Julia
Thank You Julia for your wonderful work🌞🧑⚕️❤️
Letting something mean something 🙌
I learned it's easier just to do it, and mission accomplished,and try to stay focused on what your doing, it's better to say yeah I done it, don't talk about it, be about it.
Can you make a video about mindset shifts that help you to stay disciplined? how to push yourself to do hard things? I would love that. My brain wants me to be lazy during exercising. 😊
Brilliant,
Thank you so much, your work and presence is of great quality🌷🌷🌷
thank you thank you thank you. the points about feeling overwhelmed with sustaining a goal for a long time, as well as the brain's message to take a break really resonated with me. will be thinking about this and reminding myself to engage in less self-blame because of how my brain naturally works - thanks!
Thank you Julia Kristina “
Hi Julia, after procrastinating for years have recently qualified as a life purpose coach. Really appreciate and enjoy your videos 🤓🙏👍❤️
Thanks, Julia.
There is nothing your mind cannot help you achieve🙏
truth.
Bernie here .The solution always seem to relate to what I learnt in treatment. Like the book I read Don’t Feed The Monkey Mind and closed loop thinking . Getting a positive attitude and taking action and relax like you said don’t push so hard it’s hard in our society to do that because we rush rush rush to try and achieve something beyond ourselves that was a Buddha Quote . Just get it done and do the best you can it will all work out in the end if we just take action .
Thank you !
hello Michael Morrison here! I first saw a vid you did on self sabotage and it blew my mind how much I related to it.
Thank you!!
Hi, I am new to this channel. The content/ videos really helping me to face my fears, limitations and letting me to improve myself
Thank you”
Great presentation. Hello, Julia. Let's continue discussing Mental Health issues
Awesome message!!
Thank you ❤️
Istg your videos are really really helpful!
Hi Julia I love these helpful videos help me recognise burnout that I struggle with now and can’t seem to shake off I can’t figure out signs wether I’m lazy or burnt out lost so stuck and confused !
If you want to do more,start by doing less! 16:22. Brilliant!
Now this is a motivational video.
Hello! You asked me so assertively to say hello, so here I am saying hello! That's me putting off a big project for work that I have to do to keep my job. Yes I know break it down step by step. But take a break!! A real restful break and take care of yourself!! Then lower expectations and start on the first little baby step...ok, deep breath ...here we go....gonna start right now, no ifs ands or buts!! Ok ready to take that real break now? Thanks for the permission 😊 G'nite
OMG... All of the above. All 5 of these things! Sometimes all at the same time. That would be me.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and expertise in the mental health arena. I am on the brink of getting my master’s licensure for social work... schools out of the way but the licensure part seems like it is looming over head. Between some previously ongoing hardships/ huge stressors and grad school in general I have felt some pretty severe burn out. I am trying to create boundaries and get myself on back on track, but it is hard. My question is how do you see burn out and procrastination converge and how do you address this within a timely manner? Ie I take my test in a month, and I want to be more efficient but some days I am having a VERY hard time sticking to a study plan.
I can confirm that 7 is greater than both 1 and 0.
you can indeed.
I've been procrastinating for about 2 weeks now. And from what you said, it's ego and I don't want to fail. I want to start a vtuber channel and I haven't even picked out my channel name yet. Don't get me started on banner art or channel description. I've tried watching and copying other videos about how to start a youtube channel, but perfectionism stops me dead in my tracks. Then I look at all the people in the vtuber community and start comparing my b-roll to their highlight reel and think that I'll never be that good, so why even start.
Amazing intelligent speech
Thank you for a great video!
I completely agree with the rest and it’s hard. Single mom, working from home taking accelerated graduate accounting program. My brain is fried and doesn’t want to do any more. But I’ll be finished in 3 months so I have to fight myself to get anything done because I’m stressed and tired and overwhelmed. And I’m the typical perfectionist Virgo 🤦🏽♀️
Hello! 👋 and thank you!....... ❤️
Absolutely brilliant thank you again! ❤️
Hi yes im here and needed this video because I do procrastinate bad
I wish you had talked more about the solutions for getting out of procrastination, than why we procrastinate. I personally know very well why I am procrastinating something... because it’s going to take a long time and a lot of effort from me, and I don’t have either the time or the effort anymore to embark in big projects that will take long.
Thank you.
Thank you
Hello. Loving your content!🙌🏽💖🙏🏽
When I procrastinate, I feel guilty, then I procrastinate more, then I feel more guilty, ad infinitum.
Really interesting video
Anyone else here procrastinating while watching this video? 👀
lol. Touché.
😂
@@juliakristinamah I think I've got them all beat.
Procrastination #1, I put off STARTING to watch the video.
Procrastination #2, I got distracted WHILE watching the video.
Procrastination #3, I was watching the video IN ORDER TO AVOID doing something else.
I would write more but I have to get back to work! (Yes Julia, I know I'm hopeless)
@@stevemamooshka3425 hope there is even for you . Hope must you
To paraphrase a movie i love, there are 2 things stopping us from doing something we want: fear or laziness. I'm a serial procrastinator, and when there's a task i keep putting off, i ask myself, am i too intimidated by the task that I don't want to start? or do i just not want to do the leg work? It doesn't always push me to get started but it tells me that maybe i should ask for help and reassurance if its too scary, or just carve a time out if its too tedious.
I am feeling happy a lot knowing really about my self. I love to hear it. Thanks meanwhile. Break a leg.
👋
I'm here because I feel stuck. 63 yrs old with a 12 yr. Daughter. Retired now and in a relationship that is failing. I want to feel good about my day again.
BRILLIANT!!🙌🏻
Some extreme circumstances require extreme measures. What might seem to you as procrastination , is actually a security measure.
I am waiting for this video
I really like your videos, however I don't always get the time to watch the videos, do you plan to open up a podcast for Spotify? Like you can just upload the audio from your TH-cam videos there ? It would be really helpful then. Thanks for everything in advance☘️
Hi, I am new here. My name is Mellanie Joseph. I procrastinate a lot because of fear of failure and too much effort
Hahaha putting off doing the dishes until I watched this video; I was stoked to start and found out the water is off in my building😳
Yes...I struggle with this then I regret for wasting time.
I procrastinated a fair deal of time before finally watching this video.
Hi, been meaning to say hi, but never got around to it. (This video was irresistible for such a bad joke - hope it made you smile - or groan).
I'll watch this later...
lol I procrastinated something very important to watch a video called “stop procrastinating” 😂
I'll finish this video later
kicked in the ego .......thank you
Where can I find your guide about trusting self?
Hello Kristina
for decades I've been alone..and sell destructive .I need all the support I can get.but I'm scared telling my story might make things worse.some stuff is just way complicated and awkward ..
How to concentrate on studies? I am a girl and big fan of you
Julia stay eating me up 😂
😁 cognitive behavioral therapy saved my life
Hi I have a question so I'm really sensitive but I'm not sure if i am a HSP
Which button do press to get decription butte
Hi LOL I subscribed
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