Signs you've outgrown your life: Routine boredom. Fear of change. Outgrown relationships. Stagnant learning. Misaligned values. Becoming someone you dislike.
YES. I watch so many people who talk a mile a minute--and constantly interrupt the flow with silliness they think is cute or something. This video had a nice pace for sure.
All my life has been spent within one geographical area... I am happy to join the club and migrate SOON to a totally different place where I can grow. It's at the point where I look at the area I walk in daily and realize it's DEAD... abandoned stores, restaurants, etc. Each Chicago suburb feels the same.
I definitely needed this video. I’m in my mid 20s, I am constantly evolving, I have a husband and a baby on the way.. I’ve realized that the childish things I used to focus on plagued my mind and made me unable to grow as a person. Cutting off the dramatic people from my life was so hard because I was left with very few friends. I don’t have time to associate with people who bash my morals and values when I do nothing to show the same disrespect to others. Going from a teen to somebody in their mid 20s is the strangest change because you no longer have taste for what you once liked, you don’t like the same petty garbage, you don’t waste your money trying to appease everyone, you start to notice things that really matter in life.. some people aren’t ready to move up from that stage and they may dislike you at one point but understand you once they distance from it too. Change is good.. like you said, some people are there for a reason and others for a season. 🙌🏼 Thank you.
I’ll be turning 30 in a couple of weeks and I must say that my 20s taught me ALOT! I happy to see that you’re navigating this growth well and with positivity! Keep it up! I’m rooting for you AND congratulations on the new baby. Being a parent is awesome!!
You will find that as you grow older that you want people who align with your values. There is a saying that people come into your life for a a reason,a season or lifetime.
Timely video. Feeling frustrated. Going through the motions. Fearing change but not Feeling like myself if I don't. My job, my living situation. The signs are all there. Thanks for the pep talk. Got to move on it now 😂.
Amen! I am recently retired... Not completely by my choice, in October. I am here. Thank you ❤️ I will watch his every morning until my next season kicks in. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This video was right on time. I’ve definitely given up. I’ve been stagnant and although I’m frustrated with my life, I’ve yet to do something about it. I need to level up.
This video honestly came at the perfect time for me because I've been feeling this way with my own life in nearly every point you mentioned. The only thing I would add to this is that depression as a disorder isn't the same as giving up. Using it as an excuse to stay down and stagnant, however, is not healthy. My mental and emotional health is something that I struggle with more often than not, so this is one thing that I know I need to work on more consistently. ❤️
Thanks for this insight. I think I've started to accept forgiveness into my life - letting go of past injustices done to me and by me, turning failures into lessons learned and moving on, savouring what I have at the moment, whether by luck, gift or hard work. Definitely seizing every opportunity to learn something new, even if I don't have a particular need for the knowledge or skill. Education has become less transactional now that I'm retired. I learn for the joy of it, and for the pleasure of passing it along. And I'm not seeking missed opportunities - death to FOMO! 🙂
Thank you for your videos. Good insight for a young man. Hang on to it. We’ll all need it when we get older and our bodies grow out of our environments, or life situations. Have a blessed day!❤
Definitely leveled much slower because of fear ✋ This makes me person I don't like, lazy, preferring comfort over growth. Hopefully, now aware, I can overcome it small step at a time 🙂
I’m not as old as everyone think I am. I just turned 16 and I’m just trying to find a way to do better with my life and have more room to think, and keep going at least through high school. I found your channel and I immediately new I was in the right to stay because of the wisdom I gathered from the first video I watched form your channel. This is one of the best. I hope the best for you! I took some notes on this video, and I am planning on going with the notes and never taking a step back.
Honestly, this video really helped confirm that I'm finally past the most recent feeling stuck part of my life that lasted 2-3 years, because I've been learning so much and doing so much work on myself recently.
Keep it up! Keep working on yourself! There’s always light at the end of the tunnel and it sounds like you’re making a ton of progress. I’m rooting for you!
Thank you, Ron! We moved 6 months ago and it's been really hard. This video reinforces my belief we did the "right" thing. Our whole family is leveling up!
Wow -- developing a "relationship with this new version of me in this new chapter of my life..." -- this is super helpful, and something I have never thought about before! Thank you!
Thanks for making this video at the perfect time. I've been contented with the routine I developed in response to the isolation of the pandemic paired with my vision loss around the same time. But I know a lot of that routine was just me protecting myself while adapting. Also, setting limits and sticking to them is hard for me, but I finally found the guts to part ways with a toxic friend who just bossed me around with unwanted advice and made me feel lousy about myself. Now I realize that I'm really boring (and bored) so I guess it's time!!! Thanks for the advice and encouragement.
You are always so well-spoken Ronald! You have a Godly gift to share what you know with others in a way that sounds so simple, yet also profound! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and helping us see the deeper importance and meaning in life so that the extraneous can be discarded and for the true nectar (the sweetness of life) to remain and shine!
Thank you Crystal! Also I must say that I love the way you worded this… I may have to borrow your word choices here, but truly thank you for this comment AND thank you for giving me the opportunity to share all of this with you!
Dude I'm so glad I found your channel. Simple amazing concepts and excellent delivery. My 37 yo brain is stuck af and Ive been feeling this insane urge to learn
Great content. Love your presentations delivered at a natural pace. Great video editing. No abrupt edits like you’d normally see in other influencer videos.
I like leveling up and outgrowing the seasons. Love it! Seasons change and so do people. Sometimes you feel it and sometimes it just pops up. Happens many times throughout our lives.
Excellent content! All you said was inspired. My one clue is when I start to feel that the frustration start to change who I am. Last year many things start to change and make me anxious and constantly sick. The minute I notice those signs that were affecting my health. I made the quick move to look for another role. The new year I feel less anxious and improvement in my health and sleep.
This video is right on time for me. I am in season of massive change in my life. One thing that stands out as note worthy to me is that I no longer connect to those around me realitives & professional persons. I am walking a path now that no one can understand (even me at times) This new path I'm on makes me feel like I am whole different person. I having been embarking on my new path of massive growth & change for about a year now. It's scary but necessary for me to handle new challenges that will/are presenting themselves to me currently. Thanks for your much appreciated insights.
Wow, this really resonated with me Ron! My biggest struggle is change. I have a hard time with change and I think it keep me stuck. Thanks for sharing!🙏🏻🤍
Men are subject to habit and get cranky when new things are presented. Part of leveling up is retaining the curiosity and seeing life with amazement. That also tells life that we refuse to get cranky. haha. 😂 Keep moving and keep discovering!
I don't like change, but really, it is inevitable. The point about not liking your life anymore is the point that hit me. Well, "not enjoying" might be a better description than "not Liking." So I have to find out where more enjoyment could come from. Certainly, changes can be made. Sometimes we just need to have it pointed out. So thanks.
Excellent video, very relatable! Thank you for sharing these signs/tips. I recognize that I have definitely and increasingly become bored with my life, and I've realized I need to level up and challenge myself more. I had put in so much effort early on that life became almost too easy lately which is a strange problem to have, but I have realized there is a negative side to it.
Absolutely! Easy isn’t always better nor is it the best path for us to take. You should always strive to challenge yourself and it sounds like you’re starting to make that pivot in your life. I’m happy this was helpful to you my friend!! Keep growing! I’m rooting for you!
I have to ask "why going minimal" means going no color? Before my husband's death, everything was beige, gray & blah. The first thing I did was bring color in to my home. Color makes me happier! Your red sofa made me happier! I realize, to each their own & color brings me happiness! Love to all who are experiencing change. 😊
I really didn't know it was time to level up. I see myself going through the motions but bored out of my freaking mind. This video was so helpful. I found myself falling off and being ok with it. That's not what I need or want for 2024. So thanks again 😊
Thanks Ron for another fantastic video. I understand about some people are meant to stay with you through the years and other are not. I have dropped a few people through the years. I've changed my beliefs through the years. No longer on the same page. ❤
Thank you Ronald this came right on time . This is the exact thing I have been thinking about the past few days . As usual your videos come right on time and with food for thought . Thank you
Great job, Ron..as always! Always very inspiring! I decided 2023 is the time to let go of toxic and negative people....there were a few old friendships for literally years who were always so much fun to be around and always positive but then in 2022, I saw a drastic change in them becoming, negative and controlling which equals toxic. I have basically cut them out or have gray rocked them and it's been WONDERFUL. I feel so much better already and I have way too many happy, loving and positive best friends in my life to put up with anything other than that. 🥰
I'm having this same issue and am struggling with how to gently detach myself from people who have no interest in growing and trying to be positive. It's really hard because once upon a time, I was very close with a couple of people and now it's a struggle to be around them. 😔
@@elistia Yes Dayna, exactly. I had to start by decreasing my physical time with them and then my phone time and texting time with them bit by bit and it actually was much easier than I thought because it got to a point where I couldn't stand them. We know when it's time to let go and it's very easy when we just ask ourselves...do these people bring me happiness? We know what the next step is....just as the song goes....Seasons change.....people change and when the purpose is served, we must say goodbye. I love that poem, a reason, a season or a lifetime. It's soooo true! I'm so close to kids that I went to Kindergarten with to this day we all are BFFs. That's an unbroken chain and lifetime bond but not every relationship will be like that. You will know. 💖
This conversation aligns perfectly with my latest efforts toward personal growth. There are three signs that resonate with me, and I think each one has influenced the other two in some way to ultimately push me to the point of frustration. In the order you've shared them, the first is that I'm Bored With My Routine. The second is I'm Outgrowing Old Relationships, [ESPECIALLY] With Myself. And the third is I Don't Feel In Tune With My Values Or Myself. To me, it makes the most sense to break this down in reverse order. I don't feel in tune with my values or myself because I'm noticing that I'm not either doing the things that feel right or that I think I want to do, whether on a routine basis or at a greater level. Part of this is because I'm holding on to the idea of this person I want to be, or rather that I used to be whom I admire because I was, well, happier. The other reason is that I'm forcing myself to become someone that people expect me to be, despite not having any guidance for becoming that person while still staying authentically me. In the past two and a half years, I've become a homeowner, a husband, a father, and the primary provider for my family. There's a lot of pressure that comes with all of those duties, and while I know most of these things are what I've always dreamed of being in my life, I'm finding it difficult to be those things while still staying true and taking care of myself. This brings me to the last sign of being bored with my routine. The day-to-day of waking up for others, sitting down at my job to do as I'm told, and being present for people at the end of the day or on the weekends is exhausting. When you expend so much energy for others, it's easy to give in to a routine that is lackluster or even unhealthy. That's why I've made a conscious effort to take back my routine. I'm still making myself available to those who rely on me, like my wife and daughter, but I've also blocked out time in my day to recharge, exercise, eat balanced meals, and ultimately check in with myself. I've taken the time to reach out to friends, family, and colleagues who share the same growth mindset to collaborate about how we can continue to work on ourselves or simply be an encouraging voice for one another. These relationships validate my efforts to embrace my next level, reminding me that it's okay to move on from the person I used to be. And because I'm doing all of these things for myself and the people in my immediate circle, whether just for this season or for greater reasons, I feel more in tune with myself, and I can continue to guide myself in the right direction Thank you for encouraging this moment of reflection.
I just feel unhappy most of the time. The things I use to enjoy do not make me happy anymore. I am not motivated. I can't seem to please anyone. Nothing is good enough and my family expects too much from me. I'm always apologizing. I'm on antianxiety and antidepressants. But I feel helpless sometimes and like nothing will ever be right again. I went through breast cancer and the death of my husband, but that was 6 years ago. Sometimes it feels like it just happened.
I’m so sorry to hear about what you went through, and are going through. Therapy has been helping me so much to get through the hardships I faced years ago that still affect me. It is not fixing it, but giving me tools to help myself. I haven’t found anything else (yet) that helps, but I am learning good coping mechanisms. Maybe it could help you too. Take care.
Ronald thank you, thank you, thank you for making this video. I needed to open my eyes on every single topic you talked about. Your video will eventually help me get to the next level asap. Thank you again!
Powerful Ron!! I have been think a-lot about leveling-up and this video hit home. Thank you so much for all you do! I can relate to most of the 6 key topics you discussed. Especially my routine. I like my routine but it has become stagnant. I am going to explore how I can change that!! Thank you again😊
When I’m not truly following my inner compass I am letting life’s events just happen to me. There’s no intent, no meaning, no anything and it’s super depressing. I’m just reacting to everything around me instead of deciding what I need and want. I think doing nothing is almost a form of escapism because you’re not living. You’re holding onto something that is actually really bad for you and causing you to completely zone out of your own life. That’s pretty scary to understand and yet I can attest that I fully understand it. Escapism is a habit that shows up in us in many different ways and the consequence is always frozen personal growth. The key to defrosting is community and surrounding yourself with humans and animals that love you. Once you’re defrosted… then I think you can truly move forward towards finding your true self.
Take a step back and assess your life. Figure out where you want to be, and make attainable goals to get there. The most important thing to do is act and don't get stagnant. Fear is real and natural, but don't let that stop you, but let it fuel you.
I love your videos man, I started my first year of university and I’m living on my own in Italy for the first time and your tips have definitely helped me out
On time. In prayer I know all of this you're saying a year ago yet i don't know how to get out of this. God has removed everything (old friends of 10+ years who were leeches, church of 8 years, old job of 10yrs) and I still don't know where to go from here. Old me was a go getter super ambition now after a series of unexpected battles I feel worn out and can't find that old me anymore.
Don’t look for the old you. Allow yourself to evolve. God removed these things from your life for a reason. So you can grow and thrive. Step into this next season you’re in with confidence. If you feel worn out, rest. You’ve probably allowed everything around you to pull you in multiple directions at once. Now you can finally step in the direction you feel led to walk in. Rooting for you my friend!
This is a stage I’m going through right now money or saving is one but I’ve had enough of staying in an environment in which I was still a little kid I’m outgrowing this stage and bored not of my job but of what I actually want after work tried gym routine helped for a bit but got to the point where I need a serious change can’t stay in this mindset where I can predict everyday always thought I’m different don’t need to move out rather support my moms but now I have no interest in what I do out of work and don’t want to get in a normality of doing things I know this is not my style and don’t want to stay imprisoned with the people that think this level is a ok. I do worry about not helping mom but have things in line which last year she could only dream of me doing so I know deep don’t I need to change my settings
I've outgrown the game not the level. I can level up in my sleep. I just don't want to wake up and have to pick up the controller and play again day after day after day after day after day.... the next season can come, but it still involve Having to play the game day after day after day after day😢
What you value should evolve as you grow and learn more in life. Sometimes all of your values will shift as you grow and other times only a few of them will. It’s important to reevaluate them every so often to make sure what you say your core values are align with your life. You can use my core values worksheet to help you: www.ronaldlbanks.com/values
People have become recyclable. Their personalities to me have been counted to me to only 4. Here comes Sally again, her comes John. There is too much emulation to much copying, too many molds. People aren't just unique anymore. Everybody wants to be someone else in their behaviors, their dress, and how they talk. Just a loop. Maybe this is a phenomenon I'm picking up?
Finally someone is talking about "leveling up" in a responsible way. Not leveling up with material things and elaborate vacations.
When you work on yourself the rest follows. Great channel I listen to every day Jim Rohn and this channel.
Exactly!!!!
You’re right. I did give up.
I sat down.
I am taking a deep breath, and getting back up.
“Each day I am born anew.”
Signs you've outgrown your life: Routine boredom. Fear of change. Outgrown relationships. Stagnant learning. Misaligned values. Becoming someone you dislike.
I love how slow and calm you talk. With pauses. Actually allows me to fully internalise what you’ve just said to truly get the message
YES. I watch so many people who talk a mile a minute--and constantly interrupt the flow with silliness they think is cute or something. This video had a nice pace for sure.
Isn't it amazing when someone is able to put the discontent you are feeling but can't name into words. Absolutely profound video, keep them coming!
All my life has been spent within one geographical area... I am happy to join the club and migrate SOON to a totally different place where I can grow. It's at the point where I look at the area I walk in daily and realize it's DEAD... abandoned stores, restaurants, etc. Each Chicago suburb feels the same.
I definitely needed this video. I’m in my mid 20s, I am constantly evolving, I have a husband and a baby on the way.. I’ve realized that the childish things I used to focus on plagued my mind and made me unable to grow as a person. Cutting off the dramatic people from my life was so hard because I was left with very few friends. I don’t have time to associate with people who bash my morals and values when I do nothing to show the same disrespect to others. Going from a teen to somebody in their mid 20s is the strangest change because you no longer have taste for what you once liked, you don’t like the same petty garbage, you don’t waste your money trying to appease everyone, you start to notice things that really matter in life.. some people aren’t ready to move up from that stage and they may dislike you at one point but understand you once they distance from it too. Change is good.. like you said, some people are there for a reason and others for a season. 🙌🏼 Thank you.
I’ll be turning 30 in a couple of weeks and I must say that my 20s taught me ALOT! I happy to see that you’re navigating this growth well and with positivity! Keep it up! I’m rooting for you AND congratulations on the new baby. Being a parent is awesome!!
You will find that as you grow older that you want people who align with your values. There is a saying that people come into your life for a a reason,a season or lifetime.
Glad u saw this in 20s
Took me til 30 to realize so much
You are talking to ME!!! THANK YOU 🙂 🙏
You have such a Rich and Deep voice that is so smooth - easy to listen to
Reaching a point of giving up.. and coping with molding with my environment.
Timely video. Feeling frustrated. Going through the motions. Fearing change but not Feeling like myself if I don't. My job, my living situation. The signs are all there. Thanks for the pep talk. Got to move on it now 😂.
Amen! I am recently retired... Not completely by my choice, in October. I am here. Thank you ❤️ I will watch his every morning until my next season kicks in. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This video was right on time. I’ve definitely given up. I’ve been stagnant and although I’m frustrated with my life, I’ve yet to do something about it. I need to level up.
Stuck in a rut ,out growing. That hit home for me xx
I didn't have too much stuff, I just had the wrong stuff. Greetings from Australia
This video honestly came at the perfect time for me because I've been feeling this way with my own life in nearly every point you mentioned. The only thing I would add to this is that depression as a disorder isn't the same as giving up. Using it as an excuse to stay down and stagnant, however, is not healthy. My mental and emotional health is something that I struggle with more often than not, so this is one thing that I know I need to work on more consistently. ❤️
Great point added Amy! Also I’m happy this reached you at the perfect time. I’m rooting for you as well. Let’s get to the next level! 🙌🏾
Thanks for this insight. I think I've started to accept forgiveness into my life - letting go of past injustices done to me and by me, turning failures into lessons learned and moving on, savouring what I have at the moment, whether by luck, gift or hard work. Definitely seizing every opportunity to learn something new, even if I don't have a particular need for the knowledge or skill. Education has become less transactional now that I'm retired. I learn for the joy of it, and for the pleasure of passing it along. And I'm not seeking missed opportunities - death to FOMO! 🙂
I’ve so outgrown my life! Good identifiers!
Thank you for your videos. Good insight for a young man. Hang on to it. We’ll all need it when we get older and our bodies grow out of our environments, or life situations. Have a blessed day!❤
Definitely leveled much slower because of fear ✋ This makes me person I don't like, lazy, preferring comfort over growth. Hopefully, now aware, I can overcome it small step at a time 🙂
I’m not as old as everyone think I am. I just turned 16 and I’m just trying to find a way to do better with my life and have more room to think, and keep going at least through high school. I found your channel and I immediately new I was in the right to stay because of the wisdom I gathered from the first video I watched form your channel. This is one of the best. I hope the best for you! I took some notes on this video, and I am planning on going with the notes and never taking a step back.
Honestly, this video really helped confirm that I'm finally past the most recent feeling stuck part of my life that lasted 2-3 years, because I've been learning so much and doing so much work on myself recently.
Keep it up! Keep working on yourself! There’s always light at the end of the tunnel and it sounds like you’re making a ton of progress. I’m rooting for you!
Thank you, Ron! We moved 6 months ago and it's been really hard. This video reinforces my belief we did the "right" thing. Our whole family is leveling up!
Your words go so deep! It's sort of profounding💯💪🏾
Each area youve mentioned, Im like: WHOA!!
Thank you!
Wow -- developing a "relationship with this new version of me in this new chapter of my life..." -- this is super helpful, and something I have never thought about before! Thank you!
#1, I've been getting bored, even though I've had huge changes in the last year. I'll be able to focus on myself now!
Thanks for making this video at the perfect time. I've been contented with the routine I developed in response to the isolation of the pandemic paired with my vision loss around the same time. But I know a lot of that routine was just me protecting myself while adapting. Also, setting limits and sticking to them is hard for me, but I finally found the guts to part ways with a toxic friend who just bossed me around with unwanted advice and made me feel lousy about myself. Now I realize that I'm really boring (and bored) so I guess it's time!!! Thanks for the advice and encouragement.
You are always so well-spoken Ronald! You have a Godly gift to share what you know with others in a way that sounds so simple, yet also profound! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and helping us see the deeper importance and meaning in life so that the extraneous can be discarded and for the true nectar (the sweetness of life) to remain and shine!
Thank you Crystal! Also I must say that I love the way you worded this… I may have to borrow your word choices here, but truly thank you for this comment AND thank you for giving me the opportunity to share all of this with you!
Dude I'm so glad I found your channel. Simple amazing concepts and excellent delivery.
My 37 yo brain is stuck af and Ive been feeling this insane urge to learn
I’m happy my content reached you my friend! Hey let’s grow and learn on this journey together. If you ever have any questions don’t hesitate to ask!
Great content. Love your presentations delivered at a natural pace. Great video editing. No abrupt edits like you’d normally see in other influencer videos.
I like leveling up and outgrowing the seasons. Love it! Seasons change and so do people. Sometimes you feel it and sometimes it just pops up. Happens many times throughout our lives.
Excellent content! All you said was inspired. My one clue is when I start to feel that the frustration start to change who I am. Last year many things start to change and make me anxious and constantly sick. The minute I notice those signs that were affecting my health. I made the quick move to look for another role. The new year I feel less anxious and improvement in my health and sleep.
Omgosh thank you for this video! I so needed to hear this in this very moment . ❤
I am so glad I watched your video. I was giving up. Now I am not going to.
Great eye opening advice. Thank you. ❤
I really like your videos Ronald.🎉👍👏👏
You seem to be the best version of yourself.. so inspiring ❤
This video is right on time for me. I am in season of massive change in my life. One thing that stands out as note worthy to me is that I no longer connect to those around me realitives & professional persons. I am walking a path now that no one can understand (even me at times) This new path I'm on makes me feel like I am whole different person. I having been embarking on my new path of massive growth & change for about a year now. It's scary but necessary for me to handle new challenges that will/are presenting themselves to me currently. Thanks for your much appreciated insights.
Wow, this really resonated with me Ron! My biggest struggle is change. I have a hard time with change and I think it keep me stuck. Thanks for sharing!🙏🏻🤍
I have to keep reminding myself that change is the process of life. You got this! Let’s keep growing on this journey together!
Men are subject to habit and get cranky when new things are presented. Part of leveling up is retaining the curiosity and seeing life with amazement. That also tells life that we refuse to get cranky. haha. 😂 Keep moving and keep discovering!
I don't like change, but really, it is inevitable. The point about not liking your life anymore is the point that hit me. Well, "not enjoying" might be a better description than "not Liking." So I have to find out where more enjoyment could come from. Certainly, changes can be made. Sometimes we just need to have it pointed out. So thanks.
love love love your videos…thank you
Me too 🎉
Thank you I needed this
Excellent video, very relatable! Thank you for sharing these signs/tips. I recognize that I have definitely and increasingly become bored with my life, and I've realized I need to level up and challenge myself more. I had put in so much effort early on that life became almost too easy lately which is a strange problem to have, but I have realized there is a negative side to it.
Absolutely! Easy isn’t always better nor is it the best path for us to take. You should always strive to challenge yourself and it sounds like you’re starting to make that pivot in your life. I’m happy this was helpful to you my friend!! Keep growing! I’m rooting for you!
I have to ask "why going minimal" means going no color? Before my husband's death, everything was beige, gray & blah. The first thing I did was bring color in to my home. Color makes me happier! Your red sofa made me happier! I realize, to each their own & color brings me happiness! Love to all who are experiencing change. 😊
i needed to hear this! i resonate with every single sign. thank you and have a blessed day!
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Decluttering has definitely spruced things up 🤙
I really didn't know it was time to level up. I see myself going through the motions but bored out of my freaking mind. This video was so helpful. I found myself falling off and being ok with it. That's not what I need or want for 2024. So thanks again 😊
You got this! I’m glad I was able to help you. 🙌🏾
I enjoy your manner of speaking. It’s as though you’re sharing a spoken word piece in every video.
This is the best Chanel I’ve subscribed since I’m on TH-cam. I’m exactly in this process. Thank you for this amazing words.
Welcome aboard Luis! Happy you’re part of the community! If you even have any questions don’t hesitate to reach out!
Amazing man, that hit deep
I’m happy this resonated with you my friend.
Thanks so much Ronald, I needed that. I identify with all of them and I've known it for years . Time for a change.
Thanks Ron for another fantastic video. I understand about some people are meant to stay with you through the years and other are not. I have dropped a few people through the years. I've changed my beliefs through the years. No longer on the same page. ❤
Thank you Ronald this came right on time . This is the exact thing I have been thinking about the past few days . As usual your videos come right on time and with food for thought . Thank you
So much wisdom. Thank you.
I’m glad you enjoyed this!! Keep growing on your journey!!
Your beautiful....smart words....
I feel stuck. Literally.
What’s you biggest hurdle? Let’s see if we can help you overcome it!
🥰grey and snowy day I was about to avoid my life but you got me thinking about what I can do to make this day more meaningful 🙏
Great job, Ron..as always! Always very inspiring! I decided 2023 is the time to let go of toxic and negative people....there were a few old friendships for literally years who were always so much fun to be around and always positive but then in 2022, I saw a drastic change in them becoming, negative and controlling which equals toxic. I have basically cut them out or have gray rocked them and it's been WONDERFUL. I feel so much better already and I have way too many happy, loving and positive best friends in my life to put up with anything other than that. 🥰
I'm having this same issue and am struggling with how to gently detach myself from people who have no interest in growing and trying to be positive. It's really hard because once upon a time, I was very close with a couple of people and now it's a struggle to be around them. 😔
@@elistia Yes Dayna, exactly. I had to start by decreasing my physical time with them and then my phone time and texting time with them bit by bit and it actually was much easier than I thought because it got to a point where I couldn't stand them. We know when it's time to let go and it's very easy when we just ask ourselves...do these people bring me happiness? We know what the next step is....just as the song goes....Seasons change.....people change and when the purpose is served, we must say goodbye. I love that poem, a reason, a season or a lifetime. It's soooo true! I'm so close to kids that I went to Kindergarten with to this day we all are BFFs. That's an unbroken chain and lifetime bond but not every relationship will be like that. You will know. 💖
This conversation aligns perfectly with my latest efforts toward personal growth. There are three signs that resonate with me, and I think each one has influenced the other two in some way to ultimately push me to the point of frustration. In the order you've shared them, the first is that I'm Bored With My Routine. The second is I'm Outgrowing Old Relationships, [ESPECIALLY] With Myself. And the third is I Don't Feel In Tune With My Values Or Myself.
To me, it makes the most sense to break this down in reverse order. I don't feel in tune with my values or myself because I'm noticing that I'm not either doing the things that feel right or that I think I want to do, whether on a routine basis or at a greater level. Part of this is because I'm holding on to the idea of this person I want to be, or rather that I used to be whom I admire because I was, well, happier. The other reason is that I'm forcing myself to become someone that people expect me to be, despite not having any guidance for becoming that person while still staying authentically me. In the past two and a half years, I've become a homeowner, a husband, a father, and the primary provider for my family. There's a lot of pressure that comes with all of those duties, and while I know most of these things are what I've always dreamed of being in my life, I'm finding it difficult to be those things while still staying true and taking care of myself. This brings me to the last sign of being bored with my routine. The day-to-day of waking up for others, sitting down at my job to do as I'm told, and being present for people at the end of the day or on the weekends is exhausting. When you expend so much energy for others, it's easy to give in to a routine that is lackluster or even unhealthy.
That's why I've made a conscious effort to take back my routine. I'm still making myself available to those who rely on me, like my wife and daughter, but I've also blocked out time in my day to recharge, exercise, eat balanced meals, and ultimately check in with myself. I've taken the time to reach out to friends, family, and colleagues who share the same growth mindset to collaborate about how we can continue to work on ourselves or simply be an encouraging voice for one another. These relationships validate my efforts to embrace my next level, reminding me that it's okay to move on from the person I used to be. And because I'm doing all of these things for myself and the people in my immediate circle, whether just for this season or for greater reasons, I feel more in tune with myself, and I can continue to guide myself in the right direction
Thank you for encouraging this moment of reflection.
I just feel unhappy most of the time. The things I use to enjoy do not make me happy anymore. I am not motivated. I can't seem to please anyone. Nothing is good enough and my family expects too much from me. I'm always apologizing.
I'm on antianxiety and antidepressants. But I feel helpless sometimes and like nothing will ever be right again.
I went through breast cancer and the death of my husband, but that was 6 years ago. Sometimes it feels like it just happened.
I'm sorry to hear that. Continued counsel can help until you get through it with loss.
I’m so sorry to hear about what you went through, and are going through. Therapy has been helping me so much to get through the hardships I faced years ago that still affect me. It is not fixing it, but giving me tools to help myself. I haven’t found anything else (yet) that helps, but I am learning good coping mechanisms. Maybe it could help you too. Take care.
Ronald thank you, thank you, thank you for making this video. I needed to open my eyes on every single topic you talked about. Your video will eventually help me get to the next level asap. Thank you again!
Powerful Ron!! I have been think a-lot about leveling-up and this video hit home. Thank you so much for all you do! I can relate to most of the 6 key topics you discussed. Especially my routine. I like my routine but it has become stagnant. I am going to explore how I can change that!! Thank you again😊
You’re very welcome! I’m glad this was helpful to you on your journey. Keep growing and pushing forward!
Great conversation!
The truth is, I was too terrified to admit, that I gave up almost a year ago..
When I’m not truly following my inner compass I am letting life’s events just happen to me. There’s no intent, no meaning, no anything and it’s super depressing. I’m just reacting to everything around me instead of deciding what I need and want. I think doing nothing is almost a form of escapism because you’re not living. You’re holding onto something that is actually really bad for you and causing you to completely zone out of your own life. That’s pretty scary to understand and yet I can attest that I fully understand it. Escapism is a habit that shows up in us in many different ways and the consequence is always frozen personal growth. The key to defrosting is community and surrounding yourself with humans and animals that love you. Once you’re defrosted… then I think you can truly move forward towards finding your true self.
Thank you, timely video!
Thanks for the video. It's the final nail in the coffin showing me that it's time to move on in life.
I felt this !!!!
We go the direction we face.
Take a step back and assess your life. Figure out where you want to be, and make attainable goals to get there. The most important thing to do is act and don't get stagnant. Fear is real and natural, but don't let that stop you, but let it fuel you.
Anyone have tips on the “figuring out where you want to be” part? 😅
Reinventing yourself... That resonated so much... Thank you 🙏
Any guidance on how to do that?
I love your videos man, I started my first year of university and I’m living on my own in Italy for the first time and your tips have definitely helped me out
Great video! Thank you much, just what I needed
Very helpful❤👍
#6. Great video.
All the signs resonated with me
Ronald, your insight amazes me, this video is so spot on! Thank you
So glad! I’m happy this resonated with you!!
Brilliant video❤
Thank you
This video was excactly what I needed!! Thank you ❤️
You're so welcome! Keep growing on your journey my friend!!
🤔me thinking how to grow/level up just as I’m about to retire, it’s time
On time. In prayer I know all of this you're saying a year ago yet i don't know how to get out of this. God has removed everything (old friends of 10+ years who were leeches, church of 8 years, old job of 10yrs) and I still don't know where to go from here. Old me was a go getter super ambition now after a series of unexpected battles I feel worn out and can't find that old me anymore.
Don’t look for the old you. Allow yourself to evolve. God removed these things from your life for a reason. So you can grow and thrive. Step into this next season you’re in with confidence. If you feel worn out, rest. You’ve probably allowed everything around you to pull you in multiple directions at once. Now you can finally step in the direction you feel led to walk in. Rooting for you my friend!
Thank you
Great content, Ronald! That was very useful and well presented.
Glad you enjoyed it! 🙌🏾
This is a stage I’m going through right now money or saving is one but I’ve had enough of staying in an environment in which I was still a little kid I’m outgrowing this stage and bored not of my job but of what I actually want after work tried gym routine helped for a bit but got to the point where I need a serious change can’t stay in this mindset where I can predict everyday always thought I’m different don’t need to move out rather support my moms but now I have no interest in what I do out of work and don’t want to get in a normality of doing things I know this is not my style and don’t want to stay imprisoned with the people that think this level is a ok. I do worry about not helping mom but have things in line which last year she could only dream of me doing so I know deep don’t I need to change my settings
Amen! ✊🏼
Glad you enjoyed this! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Powerful!!!
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video full of wisdom
love ur vibe and content! keep i t up
Good stuff! Do you plan on doing a collab with someone this year?
I've outgrown the game not the level. I can level up in my sleep. I just don't want to wake up and have to pick up the controller and play again day after day after day after day after day.... the next season can come, but it still involve Having to play the game day after day after day after day😢
Being an adult is a nightmare man. 😭😭😭
What if you're having a hard time figuring out what's your core values because you agree with both what you knew before and recently learned?
What you value should evolve as you grow and learn more in life. Sometimes all of your values will shift as you grow and other times only a few of them will. It’s important to reevaluate them every so often to make sure what you say your core values are align with your life. You can use my core values worksheet to help you: www.ronaldlbanks.com/values
People have become recyclable. Their personalities to me have been counted to me to only 4. Here comes Sally again, her comes John. There is too much emulation to much copying, too many molds. People aren't just unique anymore. Everybody wants to be someone else in their behaviors, their dress, and how they talk. Just a loop. Maybe this is a phenomenon I'm picking up?
Now i'm ready for retirement, it's truly different
the conversation I didnt know I needed tonight! many thanks!! 🎉 new subbie 🇳🇦
im waiting tell the dots match
Haven’t seen you in a long time, hope everything is okay with you
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