I was very angry recently because a coworker kept dogging on me about me being, “Soft”. In front of everyone, and he isnt just a coworker, hes a supervisor. I told my friend who sits next to me, “i almost lost it on him” and he said, “Its not a good idea to call him out in front of everyone, its going to make him look bad sure, but its also going to make you look like you are wild and difficult to work with. Go tell him to be quiet privately “. This was simple but also, very insightful to me.
9:46 The decision-making questions are fantastic! Thank you! 😃 Some additional things that have helped me be more even keeled are 1) Asking "Will this matter in X days/weeks/years?" 2) Keeping a running list of achievements, compliments, and challenges overcome to remind me of my strengths when needed. 3) Realizing that I was subconsciously programmed growing up to believe I'm not ALLOWED/qualified to validate my own feelings, worth, or reality and resolving to validate the heck out of myself! It IS possible to heal from a difficult childhood, and I am WAY more even keeled than I ever thought possible after giving myself permission to like and validate myself. ❤❤
Life is about "balance", living in moderation. Taking the ups with the downs.....keep your vibration HIGH and life is easier to navigate. Thanks Ron, appreciate your work!
Loved this Ronald! I Especially liked your idea that exercise helps keep you mentally and physically balanced (helps you take things in stride). One day I had an argument with my husband although we rarely argue. I was so mad inside and instead of continuing the argument I decided to go for a walk. The day was sunny and warm, birds were singing. I walked for about an hour. For the first 20 minutes I was rehashing the argument I had with my husband and thinking of what I should have said (so I could win the argument) and what I might say when I got back home from my walk. After about 30 minutes of walking I started thinking "Well, maybe he has a good point or two!" After 40 minutes of walking I started noticing the environment more and enjoying the sun and the birds in the trees. When I turned around from my walk and started heading home, I wasn't even thinking about the argument anymore. By this time I had been on my walk for about an hour. As I got closer to home I realized I wasn't upset anymore about the argument and couldn't remember how the argument had started between us. I kept thinking "how did we end up arguing?" I couldn't remember why the issue had seemed important to me just an hour before. By the time I got home I didn't even care about the topic we had argued about and felt completely fine that my husband had a very different opinion that stepped on my toes a bit. ........Lesson learned! Walking = Peace and Happiness Love your videos.
Such a lovely description! And for those who currently can't walk for health reasons, it may be reassuring to know that simply pausing an argument and doing something distracting (separately) also helps with this. : - ) That's one of many great relationship tips I've gotten from the Gottmans. 💖❤
I really love and appreciate your content. You're articulate, intelligent, well thought out, compassionate, and just a joy to watch. Thank you so much for the gifts you impart to the world. I hope your kindness and compassion returns to you threefold.
I have always been called even-keeled by both managers/employers and friends. I never tried to go out of my way to do this, I guess my personality has always been that way, but it has always benefited me for sure.
Oh I needed this. I just started a new job at a popular gov agency. I was so nervous about making mistakes and how the people would like me. Slowly I’m starting not to care. I am going to stay positive do MY work and go home. My last job used me so bad because I allowed my feelings to get in the way. I’m no longer emotional about jobs because they come and they go. Honestly we will never be rich working for someone else. They are lucky to have me😂 is that narcissistic? I hope not cause that how I feel🤸🏾♀️
I would love to see the video on the well-managed mindset! Thank you for your videos and the ideas you put out into the world. They always make me pause and reflect. 🙏
Ronald you are a very inspiring individual, with great ability to reach someones needs, wants and aspirations in there life. Respectful of your wisdom, kind hearted words for hope.
How convenient to stumble across this video when this has been on my mind lately! After a decade of corporate work, I've found myself struggling with the same issues but having an increasingly negative reaction, seemingly out of nowhere. But I did some thinking and realized that because of some childhood experiences, I developed the habit of freezing or shutting down in the moment, and then dealing with feelings later on in my own time when everyone else had moved on (or straight up forgetting what happened because my ADHD likes to suppress my working memory). Which turns out to not be the best way to manage things long term even if everyone else thought I was very even-keeled or logical! And after working from home for so long now, I started to lose that habit but haven't quite replaced it with this intentional action. So I guess I've figured out what my personal Q2 goal is going to be!
Being even keeled can be confused with balance. The problem with balance is just that. You're trying to weigh everything and that becomes burdening. Being even keeled means you're living your values and holding them true to yourself. Love these little reminders. Thanks Ron! Looking forward to when you decide to do a road trip. haha. Just have to put that bug in your ear!
I really like your videos and philosophy. I agree with almost all of the themes you presented in this piece but on one point I disagree and have a personal difference. Being even keeled is great and striving for it is wonderful. However I believe accepting the highs or unexpected positive outcomes or responses as a gift is important. Letting those things excite and elevate your day/week/month etc.. when something positive happens and letting the negatives or set backs fall by the wayside and not impact your mood is a better way to ride the wave of positives and not sink into the depths of the negatives. It is a constant effort but when it comes together it provides such a positive outlook on life.
That’s a very fair perspective and you’re absolutely right, it will take constant effort. It definitely requires awareness to not allow the negatives or set backs to put you in the valley. The sooner we learn to separate the two the better… and as you’ve said that opens up the opportunity to enjoy the unexpected positive outcomes. Thanks for adding this to the conversation.
As a super calm and even-keeled person, my calm during chaos and lack of jumping to group think during stressful times, is very unnerving for people who are not…that was something that surprised me. It didn’t change me, I observed their reactions with curiosity. It has led me to communicate differently without being reactive, jumping to group think, or assuming something is personal or about me.
I needed to hear this. Just got into a huge fight with my girlfriend’s sister fiancé (who we were suppose to rent a house off) He’s an alcoholic and was being super passive aggressive and then just rude. I lost it on him….as justified as I feel it wasn’t the right way to handle it
This is a really great topic. I'd compare being even-keeled to not being caught off balance. Being emotionally prepared for what is going to come next. It doesn't mean being optimistic or pessimistic, it just means going in eyes open. And as you mention, it's not easy to do. But if you get it right? You're not just being good to yourself, you're setting an example for the people around you. I think you could do a whole series of segments on this. One thing I've found is that the types of things can through you off are usually either people, or events. If it's people, then consider - who are these people, do I care what their opinions are, and do they have any value to me? Sometimes it's friends telling you the truth that might be hard to hear. But sometimes it's just negativity or compliments without value. You don't need either. Weigh the opinions, don't exist for them. The events? Well, were they expected, or not? Things just go sideways sometimes. If you don't push forward, nothing good or bad may happen. Adjust your expectations to understand that failures happen, change the plan, more on. Babe Ruth wasn't just the home run leader, he was also a strike out leader. If you go into situations understanding that either good or bad can happen, and that you can deal with both, you will be less likely to be caught off balance. Love the content!
In the bustling tapestry of human existence, adorned with its myriad of experiences, challenges, and triumphs, lies the perennial quest for self-improvement. Among the plethora of skills one can acquire, there exists a paramount question: What is the most valuable skill a person can possess, one that transcends time and circumstance, enriching every facet of their daily life? The answer to this question is multifaceted, as life itself is a diverse and ever-evolving journey. However, amidst the complexities, one skill stands out as quintessential: Adaptability. Adaptability, the ability to adjust and thrive in response to changing circumstances, is not merely a skill; it is a mindset, a way of navigating the unpredictable currents of life with resilience and grace. In today's rapidly evolving world, where technological advancements, socio-economic shifts,(more) 
Are you naturally even-keeled or is this a skill you’re committed to developing?
working on developing this skill in my life.
Instead of being wedded to the result, express gratitude to God for providing you with the chance, and trust that you will succeed no matter what.
This is so good. Great lessons.
"Recognizing triggers." This is healthy! I appreciate this.
You are so right. Certain people I forced to interact with trigger me so I rehearse situations ahead of time so I don’t loose perspective.
I was very angry recently because a coworker kept dogging on me about me being, “Soft”. In front of everyone, and he isnt just a coworker, hes a supervisor. I told my friend who sits next to me, “i almost lost it on him” and he said, “Its not a good idea to call him out in front of everyone, its going to make him look bad sure, but its also going to make you look like you are wild and difficult to work with. Go tell him to be quiet privately “. This was simple but also, very insightful to me.
9:46 The decision-making questions are fantastic! Thank you! 😃 Some additional things that have helped me be more even keeled are 1) Asking "Will this matter in X days/weeks/years?" 2) Keeping a running list of achievements, compliments, and challenges overcome to remind me of my strengths when needed. 3) Realizing that I was subconsciously programmed growing up to believe I'm not ALLOWED/qualified to validate my own feelings, worth, or reality and resolving to validate the heck out of myself! It IS possible to heal from a difficult childhood, and I am WAY more even keeled than I ever thought possible after giving myself permission to like and validate myself. ❤❤
Life is about "balance", living in moderation. Taking the ups with the downs.....keep your vibration HIGH and life is easier to navigate. Thanks Ron, appreciate your work!
Well said my friend! Thanks for add this to the conversation.
Loved this Ronald!
I Especially liked your idea that exercise helps keep you mentally and physically balanced (helps you take things in stride).
One day I had an argument with my husband although we rarely argue. I was so mad inside and instead of continuing the argument I decided to go for a walk. The day was sunny and warm, birds were singing. I walked for about an hour.
For the first 20 minutes I was rehashing the argument I had with my husband and thinking of what I should have said (so I could win the argument) and what I might say when I got back home from my walk.
After about 30 minutes of walking I started thinking "Well, maybe he has a good point or two!"
After 40 minutes of walking I started noticing the environment more and enjoying the sun and the birds in the trees.
When I turned around from my walk and started heading home, I wasn't even thinking about the argument anymore. By this time I had been on my walk for about an hour. As I got closer to home I realized I wasn't upset anymore about the argument and couldn't remember how the argument had started between us.
I kept thinking "how did we end up arguing?" I couldn't remember why the issue had seemed important to me just an hour before. By the time I got home I didn't even care about the topic we had argued about and felt completely fine that my husband had a very different opinion that stepped on my toes a bit. ........Lesson learned!
Walking = Peace and Happiness
Love your videos.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. This is a testament to how well this works. Love it and again thanks for sharing!
Such a lovely description! And for those who currently can't walk for health reasons, it may be reassuring to know that simply pausing an argument and doing something distracting (separately) also helps with this. : - ) That's one of many great relationship tips I've gotten from the Gottmans. 💖❤
I really love and appreciate your content. You're articulate, intelligent, well thought out, compassionate, and just a joy to watch. Thank you so much for the gifts you impart to the world. I hope your kindness and compassion returns to you threefold.
I don’t know how this doesn’t have more views. Very well laid out perspective. Thank you for sharing!
I appreciate you watching my friend and I’m glad you enjoyed it!
I have always been called even-keeled by both managers/employers and friends. I never tried to go out of my way to do this, I guess my personality has always been that way, but it has always benefited me for sure.
Oh I needed this. I just started a new job at a popular gov agency. I was so nervous about making mistakes and how the people would like me. Slowly I’m starting not to care. I am going to stay positive do MY work and go home. My last job used me so bad because I allowed my feelings to get in the way. I’m no longer emotional about jobs because they come and they go. Honestly we will never be rich working for someone else. They are lucky to have me😂 is that narcissistic? I hope not cause that how I feel🤸🏾♀️
Your comment made me smile! I was also badly used in a previous job and I love your "they are luck to have me" sentiment! Huzzah! 💪🏋♂🤸♀😄
I would love to see the video on the well-managed mindset!
Thank you for your videos and the ideas you put out into the world. They always make me pause and reflect. 🙏
You got it and thank you!!
Ronald you are a very inspiring individual, with great ability to reach someones needs, wants and aspirations in there life. Respectful of your wisdom, kind hearted words for hope.
Thank you my friend! I’m glad you enjoyed this video and I hope to continue to be of inspiration for you on your journey. Keep growing!
Oh, my goodness is this talk right on time (for me). No, I am not even keeled, and yes, I want to develop, please! and thank you for your channel.
You are so welcome! I’m happy this video reached you!
How convenient to stumble across this video when this has been on my mind lately! After a decade of corporate work, I've found myself struggling with the same issues but having an increasingly negative reaction, seemingly out of nowhere.
But I did some thinking and realized that because of some childhood experiences, I developed the habit of freezing or shutting down in the moment, and then dealing with feelings later on in my own time when everyone else had moved on (or straight up forgetting what happened because my ADHD likes to suppress my working memory). Which turns out to not be the best way to manage things long term even if everyone else thought I was very even-keeled or logical! And after working from home for so long now, I started to lose that habit but haven't quite replaced it with this intentional action.
So I guess I've figured out what my personal Q2 goal is going to be!
This decision-making check-list is awesome! Thank you, thank you!
You're so welcome! Glad you found it useful!
Yes to more journaling effectiveness.
Absolutely! Thanks for watching this video and I’m glad you got value from it.
Thank you for sharing your decision making process. I appreciate being able to download it.
Man I really needed to hear this and need to put these points in to practice.
Being even keeled can be confused with balance. The problem with balance is just that. You're trying to weigh everything and that becomes burdening. Being even keeled means you're living your values and holding them true to yourself. Love these little reminders. Thanks Ron! Looking forward to when you decide to do a road trip. haha. Just have to put that bug in your ear!
Thanks!
No, thank you my friend! I’m glad this was helpful for you!
Very well organized information. Unburden your heart and clear working memory.
Yup, that’s it! Doing those two things will take you a long way. I’m glad you got value from this!
I am happy to not let outside forces determine my internal dialogue. I agree with you! Good points. Thank you, awesome material.
Love this content ❤ great context too
Thanks my friend! I’m glad this resonated with you!
I really like your videos and philosophy. I agree with almost all of the themes you presented in this piece but on one point I disagree and have a personal difference. Being even keeled is great and striving for it is wonderful. However I believe accepting the highs or unexpected positive outcomes or responses as a gift is important. Letting those things excite and elevate your day/week/month etc.. when something positive happens and letting the negatives or set backs fall by the wayside and not impact your mood is a better way to ride the wave of positives and not sink into the depths of the negatives. It is a constant effort but when it comes together it provides such a positive outlook on life.
That’s a very fair perspective and you’re absolutely right, it will take constant effort. It definitely requires awareness to not allow the negatives or set backs to put you in the valley. The sooner we learn to separate the two the better… and as you’ve said that opens up the opportunity to enjoy the unexpected positive outcomes. Thanks for adding this to the conversation.
Thank you, this is very helpful.
You're very welcome my friend! I’m happy you got value from this.
Easier said than done, for sure! I need to work on that!
You got my friend! It wasn’t an overnight thing for me to learn by a long shot, but when I got it… it stuck! I’m rooting for you!
As a super calm and even-keeled person, my calm during chaos and lack of jumping to group think during stressful times, is very unnerving for people who are not…that was something that surprised me. It didn’t change me, I observed their reactions with curiosity. It has led me to communicate differently without being reactive, jumping to group think, or assuming something is personal or about me.
Thank you so much for this!
You're so welcome! Glad it was helpful for you.
I needed to hear this. Just got into a huge fight with my girlfriend’s sister fiancé (who we were suppose to rent a house off) He’s an alcoholic and was being super passive aggressive and then just rude. I lost it on him….as justified as I feel it wasn’t the right way to handle it
Just found your channel, very inspiring. I am a year in and maintaining but want to move forward.
Welcome aboard! Happy you found me and I’m glad you left a comment. If you have questions about anything don’t hesitate to ask!
Thanks for your video. It was very useful and helped me to reflect...
You’re welcome my friend!
I am so far from even-keeled its not funny. I will work on getting there. Thanks for the destination advise.
This is a really great topic. I'd compare being even-keeled to not being caught off balance. Being emotionally prepared for what is going to come next. It doesn't mean being optimistic or pessimistic, it just means going in eyes open. And as you mention, it's not easy to do. But if you get it right? You're not just being good to yourself, you're setting an example for the people around you. I think you could do a whole series of segments on this.
One thing I've found is that the types of things can through you off are usually either people, or events. If it's people, then consider - who are these people, do I care what their opinions are, and do they have any value to me? Sometimes it's friends telling you the truth that might be hard to hear. But sometimes it's just negativity or compliments without value. You don't need either. Weigh the opinions, don't exist for them. The events? Well, were they expected, or not? Things just go sideways sometimes. If you don't push forward, nothing good or bad may happen. Adjust your expectations to understand that failures happen, change the plan, more on. Babe Ruth wasn't just the home run leader, he was also a strike out leader. If you go into situations understanding that either good or bad can happen, and that you can deal with both, you will be less likely to be caught off balance. Love the content!
Look into the practices of Stoicism and the United Independent Compensatory Code System Concept.
Sounds like classic stoicism. I recommend a book The Stoic Challenge by William B. Irvine. It's about similar topic.
I need this, I do this to myself and I ask myself why
algorithm brought me here. I'd say not the same but in the same scope, BE STOIC my BROTHAZZZZ
In the bustling tapestry of human existence, adorned with its myriad of experiences, challenges, and triumphs, lies the perennial quest for self-improvement. Among the plethora of skills one can acquire, there exists a paramount question: What is the most valuable skill a person can possess, one that transcends time and circumstance, enriching every facet of their daily life?
The answer to this question is multifaceted, as life itself is a diverse and ever-evolving journey. However, amidst the complexities, one skill stands out as quintessential: Adaptability.
Adaptability, the ability to adjust and thrive in response to changing circumstances, is not merely a skill; it is a mindset, a way of navigating the unpredictable currents of life with resilience and grace. In today's rapidly evolving world, where technological advancements, socio-economic shifts,(more)

And exactly **when** did you have a full head of hair?
#WorkingMemory